I think this is completely rational but some people still think this is a hot take. Basically if your standards are things that you yourself cannot achieve, they're too high, if they're things you've succeeded beyond, they're too low.

Like this:

-I don't live with my parents anymore, so I refuse to date people who still live with mom and dad

-I have a job so I'm not dating someone who doesn't have a job

-I have lots of hobbies, opinions, interests and philosophies, so I avoid people that can't hold a conversation

-I'm a healthy weight, I don't have to date people who are not also a healthy weight

-I'm generally considered a 7/10, though some would consider me a 10/10 or a 5/10 depending on how attracted they are to my specific aesthetic

-I shower, shave, brush my teeth and hair everyday, this is reasonably a minimum requirement

that also means:

-I don't make a ton of money, I shouldn't aim for a partner that is rich

-I can't drive, I shouldn't expect a partner to drive or own a car

-I'm not incredibly athletic, I can't expect a partner to be fit-I'm not exceptional at cooking, I can't expect a guy to be willing to cook for me

This should be considered completely fine but the number of people that have blown up my posts for not wanting to date guys who still live with their parents and don't have a job, are obese, or balding, is a shocking amount. In my opinion my standards are the BARE MINIMUM for someone of my quality and the same could be said for anyone else.

This also means different rules apply for a different person. Mr. L for this scenario:

-Is obese, so he shouldn't expect thin women to be interested

-Only plays video games and has no other hobbies so he shouldn't demand a girlfriend with a wide variety of talents or skills that he couldn't possess

-showers once a week so he can't expect his potential mate to smell like roses-has a long dirty unkempt beard and wild bush of pubes so he can't demand his potential mate be perfectly smooth and shaved everywhere

-relies on his parents so he shouldn't go after women that have a job and their lives together

-refuses to go down on women, so blow jobs are off the table

This also means OTHER rules ALSO apply for a person like Mr. H:

-owns a sports car so he can demand his partners can afford nice things

-is incredible shape, so he can expect his girlfriend to be thin and athletic

-is well groomed so he can hope his partner keeps herself clean and is also well groomed

As long as none of these people are being rude or petty all of their standards are valid and shitting a woman for expecting an equal partner is BS. I'm tired of being told I'm petty for refusing to date guys who still live with their moms and don't have a job. I'm not petty, you need to upgrade or accept your place.

This also meansFat person with sports car =/= thin person without sports car.Rich person without any hobbies =/= poor person with an enriched life of hobbies.

These things are NON transferrable. You can settle for someone not alike in every way, but you cannot say "I own a fancy car therefor I deserve a thin person as a partner." nope. If you're lucky you'd might find one but those things are not the same. You're still making demands you can't meet