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This isn't even a tip only for getting laid but staying until the very end is when you get to see and do most of the fun stuff. Plus you get more practice per night
/r/seduction06/07/18 05:33 AM
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Just follow this four simple steps: Don't bring it up If they bring it up make it clear in a friendly and calm manner that if they want something more you are out Keep giving them value and a good time each time you meet Be amazing at oral
/r/seduction09/02/16 01:28 AM
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I love internet entitlement. He shares his experience and gives away free content and people tell him to go fuck himself. Maybe he wants to become a pick-up guru, so what? A lot of people post that shit here. And if people find it useful, they find it useful
/r/seduction17/09/15 07:27 PM
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wat
/r/seduction12/09/15 05:21 PM
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Seems like you are doing all the right things. You identified the problem and you are working on yourself. I think that the ironic solution is to not sweat it. It takes years to become a solid man, but don't try to force it. Let it be. As Tyler says, whatever you resist persists. Simply recognize if you do this, but embrace it. Keep reading shit, improving. Another, slightly different suggestion, focus on discovering your own values and the things that you like. Our personalties are always fluct…
/r/seduction31/01/15 08:04 PM
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Seems like you are doing all the right things. You identified the problem and you are working on yourself. I think that the ironic solution is to not sweat it. It takes years to become a solid man, but don't try to force it. Let it be. As Tyler says, whatever you resist persists. Simply recognize if you do this, but embrace it. Keep reading shit, improving. Another, slightly different suggestion, focus on discovering your own values and the things that you like. Our personalties are always fluct…
/r/seduction31/01/15 08:04 PM
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Oh hoy Get the D&D board ready :*)
/r/seduction24/01/15 06:34 PM
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Awesome dude. You can tell you've made much progress in just these few days.
/r/seduction22/01/15 11:37 PM
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Yes but you also have to be pushing things forward in a different direction. Not doing anything and being passive dissolves tension.
/r/seduction22/01/15 11:32 PM
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Day 11: ✓ I did the same opener as yesterday and got a horrible rejection and a nasty look on her face. Goes to show you that A) what you say does not matter as much as you say it, and B) you never really know how a set is going to go
/r/seduction22/01/15 11:31 PM
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Glad you are keeping up dude. Yeah, as soon as you realize that approaching is no big deal, we have to implement the rule "finish each interaction with a number, a pull or a rejection". Give yourself no chance of failure.
/r/seduction22/01/15 01:55 PM
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Why did you held back?
/r/seduction22/01/15 01:54 PM
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Loved reading this. If you are consistent with your rules you will make an insane amount of progress. And I absolutely agree with you on kino. Escalating physically is key to the game and sometimes generating a little discomfort is even better because when you acknowledge her emotional state and display emotional intelligence by taking a step back while maintaining a positive vibe will get her super comfortable with you. And since you established the frame (man to woman), it practically guarante…
/r/seduction21/01/15 11:22 PM
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"Pitch anything" is pretty much game theory applied to pitching ideas. I didn't know they were related until I bought the book because I wanted to learn how to do presentations. Quite surprising that the bulk of the book was about framing, being non-needy, push-pulling, and the logic behind social dynamics. When I was reading it all felt like "mmm, I've heard this before".
/r/seduction21/01/15 06:15 PM
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I hadn't thought of that, it's great. But the problem is that I wasn't even looking at her boobs in the first place, I was just sort of focused on dancing. Maybe I should have owned it regardless of the fact that I wasn't doing it
/r/seduction19/01/15 11:06 AM
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Push yourself so next time you do the sets that are required but also be proud that you've been doing this consistently. I suggest maybe looking at your night rythm. At least for me, the first 3-5 sets and early in the night is all about getting in state. Tyler has a lot of videos about this
/r/seduction17/01/15 01:59 PM
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I am astounded by your progress (day 4). It is crazy how we sometimes introverts can discover a whole new side to themselves just by keeping a right attitude. Keep it up
/r/seduction17/01/15 01:56 PM
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Damn, a number on day 2. Awesome
/r/seduction17/01/15 01:52 PM
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Congrats on three days so far. Sounds like you are doing great
/r/seduction17/01/15 01:49 PM
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Stop caring so much what other people think. If you have good intentions and give value and positivity, it will work out for you in the end.
/r/seduction16/01/15 01:07 AM
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Awesome. It seems like you have the ability to open and break AA pretty set. You should make sure you are pushing yourself. Maybe make a rule so that you have to force yourself to push every interaction further (like not leaving without asking for the number) or opening with randomness. Its a social experiment and a self-psychology experiment at the same time. Maybe see how it goes
/r/seduction16/01/15 01:04 AM
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I think you should focus on arranging a meet-up with the break dance girl asap
/r/seduction16/01/15 12:46 AM
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Can't wait to hear how the rest of the month goes
/r/seduction15/01/15 01:21 AM
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That was the weirdest FR I've ever read, so high five. Keep it up
/r/seduction15/01/15 01:20 AM
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One more brick for your palace.
/r/seduction14/01/15 09:34 AM
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Everyone will feel fear. Over time you will learn to reduce your reaction time and go anyways: You cannot give yourself much time to think. Like I said in the OP, taking action is key. Even if you need to do stupid things at first so your brain understands that noone will kill you if you are sociable in an environment. Begin by just saying hi to people in the street and walking off, or asking for directions or whatever, or maybe just try holding eye contact.
/r/seduction14/01/15 09:33 AM
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Do you go through any intersections that are densely transited on your way to the places? Can you get up 15 minutes earlier and open the girls on their way to work (lol) You have to be willing to do everything
/r/seduction13/01/15 11:15 PM
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You have been enlisted
/r/seduction13/01/15 11:14 PM
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What was the movie OP? We need to know
/r/seduction13/01/15 10:08 AM
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Start small. Pick one habit and make sure you go through with it for at least a month. Then it becomes second nature and you will get confidence ("Hey, I actually can make changes"), and you can focus on something else. If you try to change every aspect of your life at once you may get too much pressure and burn out. Personally I think that there are 4 habits that are super useful to begin with as they increase your motivation levels for everything else and instill in you different traits: Fitne…
/r/seduction13/01/15 10:03 AM
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Up to you, but as long as its an actual face to face interaction I would count it. Also, I assume you will not be able to land one every day so you will have to rely on the traditional methods.
/r/seduction13/01/15 09:54 AM
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Awesome, I'm proud of you boy.
/r/seduction13/01/15 09:52 AM
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Knock yourself out, just try not to embarass the rest of us too much
/r/seduction13/01/15 09:48 AM
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Everyone has AA, everyone is shy, its a biological reality in our bodies. Your brain is going "Computing potentially hostile environment. Shut off, shut off! Flood cortisol" If you are serious about overcoming it you need to a) embrace it, b) force yourself to open. After you have opened like 10 sets in a row, while being congruent and saying what's on your mind, your brain will go "Comfortable environment detected" and the AA will go away. Doing this shit is not about feeling comfortable all th…
/r/seduction13/01/15 12:33 AM
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So I'm confused now, what's your problem again? was your first post sarcastic?
/r/seduction13/01/15 12:19 AM
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Nothing you say makes you look inherently like anything. Everything depends on how you say it. But if you say something like "I'm shy" or "I feel nervous" you are not saying it for the girl, but you are saying it for yourself so you let loose and become congruent. I get what you are saying about the easy opens, but I feel like pointing out things in the environment or that the girl is saying/wearing is almost like a schtick defense mechanism. You point at the environment because that way you don…
/r/seduction13/01/15 12:11 AM
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I don't think that running out of things to say means that you suck at conversation. Personally I think that I am a great conversationalist when I'm into the other person, but the problem points to something deeper. I think that in these situations we remain too outcome-dependent, we are afraid of a bad negative reaction and so our thinking mind shuts off. I try to view "Running out of things to say" as an impossibility. Because even if you can come up with nothing you just laugh it up and say "…
/r/seduction13/01/15 12:03 AM
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Open with "I don't know what to say"
/r/seduction13/01/15 12:00 AM
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Good ideas! I will edit the main post with everyone who commits. I will also open registration date from now to Jan 20.
/r/seduction12/01/15 11:59 PM
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Alright so I'll start EDIT: Well I'm up to day like 14 I think now (I have it all written down somewhere) and I haven't been updating lately but fret not, I'm still on this. It's just been some hazy days with me changing apartment and going HAM at work. I still find time for the challenge. Regretablly I have to inform that one day I failed. It was the day I had planned on going hiking with a german girl I have met some weeks earlier. She seemed really into it but as luck would have it, she had t…
/r/seduction12/01/15 11:19 PM
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If you want to get technical, the bare minimun is 1 approach to "participate". But if you want to be engaged and make full use of the 30 day challenge you should do something that simultaneously pushes your comfort zone but that is attainable. For me at least, I have a busy schedule but I can't use it as an excuse so my rule is that I have to do one approach minimun on 4 days, and at least 10 on weekends when I'm seriously going out. I know that I can go to clubs and do approaches, I'm beyond AA…
/r/seduction12/01/15 11:09 PM
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Just go where there is an affluence of people during the day. Maybe a mall or something
/r/seduction12/01/15 11:05 PM
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I posted the thread, feedback would be appreciated. Though I made it so that everyone has to decide for themselves how to measure the quality of the encounters (given different skill levels)
/r/seduction12/01/15 08:24 PM
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I work and go to the gym as well. I just do 15 minute as I am returning from work and go hard on the weekends. Do whatever you can
/r/seduction12/01/15 05:48 PM
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From Julien's PIMP actually
/r/seduction12/01/15 05:48 PM
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I'd say its not the same. Can't you find 15 minutes a day to just go to a mall or something? Or maybe on your commute?
/r/seduction12/01/15 05:47 PM
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You know, I've thought about this but here is the thing: I want it to make it as simple as possible so its useful to everyone no matter their skill level. If you are a beginner, approaching every day will be a challange, but if you are advanced, you could approach every day but focus on your sticking points specifically.
/r/seduction12/01/15 10:10 AM
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But for some guys it is easier as a place to start simply because it is an environment where hitting up women is acceptable. You know you won't be the odd one out if you do this. This became a sticking point for me, where I would get massive AA when approaching in the general club area or at day time but I had no problem approaching girls in the dance floor because I wasn't feeling judged.
/r/seduction12/01/15 01:05 AM
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Be fucking proud dude. If you have never done that before then its huge progress. It may be paradoxical but you need to embrace the pain at the same time. Use it as leverage to get better. Be smart. Figure out what you did wrong and what you did right. Maybe you came off too strong in some sets and too weak in others, you are learning to calibrate to the exact amount. Next time try something different than what you did and see what changes. Remember, social savvyness is ultimately a skill where …
/r/seduction12/01/15 12:53 AM
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Invite her to your place to have sex
/r/seduction11/01/15 03:14 PM
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This is true but it is also the reason why it's so fun to "switch the script" and make them chase you. Since every guy will be going up to beautiful girls with either a lame attempt to get to her level or a dumb aggresive move, if you approach in a strong but non-needy way then girls will be shocked in a positive way. The most ridiculous you can be in this situation, the better. Play around with it, go up to girls dancing and go "my mom will ground me if I fail at this" then see her WTF reaction…
/r/seduction20/11/14 12:10 AM
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Relevant Louis CK http://youtu.be/CDdl3gatNW0?t=2m57s
/r/seduction14/11/14 05:07 PM
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Here is the Jezebel article for those interested lol http://jezebel.com/5980600/prominent-pick-up-artist-drives-a-rape-van-and-harasses-women-on-okcupid
/r/seduction07/11/14 07:23 PM
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One of the most hilarious things I've seen in a while. Julien did it to create controversy and the shit blew out of his hand obviously. Now Alex (whose Australian) has had to retire from the digital world to avoid any problems within his country. Popcorn has been grabbed. I'm actually pretty surprised that people do not realize that the twitter shit is trolling
/r/seduction07/11/14 06:36 PM
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I would expect Hong Kong to be more westernized. Even in clubs is it like this? Still, I think it should be field tested and if that fails then fucking move (or just keep going for foreigners which is an option)
/r/seduction07/11/14 05:54 PM
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Some people learn by dipping their toes in the water and progressively working their way in (desinsitizing themselves), while others can learn by jumping in the pool. Do whatever it takes to get good, but just don't adopt it as a limiting belief and understand that once you are comfortable doing a single sets, doing a bigger set isn't that big of a deal. Girls will probably be friendly if you don't come out as too weird (and even then it's no big deal). The thing is, most girls will go out in gr…
/r/seduction07/11/14 04:24 PM
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I don't disagree with the fact that women feel more comfortable with their friends. This is an obvious statement. The thing is, you should open despite of this and you will come out stronger. My problem with this mindset is that it ends up being very excuse-making
/r/seduction07/11/14 03:54 PM
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Ugh I just browsed through it and his advice was do not open groups because they have more power to be hostile to you and to approach at the supermarket where the girl is likely to be alone I know I'm not giving it a fair chance but that was a terrible first impression
/r/seduction07/11/14 02:52 PM
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But you see, you didn't approached her and felt inferior. If you would have approached (at least this is in my experience) you would have felt satisfied that you fucking tried. Secondly, do not be ashamed of the way you carry your life. If you don't like it, then change it. If you think videogames are lame, then stop playing videogames. If you love playing videogames, then embrace it, talk about it enthusiastically. Hell, open with it with cheesy lines "Hey girl, I saw you over here and I was wo…
/r/seduction07/11/14 02:48 PM
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Ditch your thinking pattern. Interactions (all of them) are not carried by what is said, but by how you say it. You could talk about abortion and religion and make it funny and lighthearted, and you could talk about your favorite cartoon and make it boring, hostile or awkward.
/r/seduction07/11/14 02:40 PM
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Which country is this? I can understand if you are talking like a muslim country that is very isolated. Like, I don't imagine much pimping going on in the rural Iran. But if it's something like India or South America, there is bound to be more progressive circle of people in the urban touristical areas. My first advice is to first see for yourself if this is a mental limiting belief or if its a true issue. There must be a club or a place of light social gathering, try doing game there for a mont…
/r/seduction07/11/14 02:38 PM
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First of all, there is nothing wrong with being nice. If you are nice there is nothing that holds you back and women do not find you less desirable. That is one false starting point. You also fail to mention how TRP demeanishes women
/r/seduction07/11/14 02:33 PM
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No, if you start from the frame that your relation with women is adversarial then that will lead to terrible results and crappy relationships. Women are people and most of the time they are smarter than most men. Just because they don't stiffle their emotions doesn't make them dumb. Also "Men are logical" is a catch phrase to show how dumb some guys approach game but it is ultimately true. Men, like people, are emotional deep down.
/r/seduction07/11/14 02:32 PM
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By the way, I was very inspired by RSDTyler. He has a lot of great talks about success, taking control of your own life and overcoming obstacles. This one about depression could be useful: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GGp25fn25Cs
/r/seduction05/11/14 02:55 AM
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Thanks. I don't need gold, just hope that it was helpful advice. It will be helpful as long as you take action, though.
/r/seduction05/11/14 01:56 AM
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Did you read the parenthesis you quoted yourself? If he can't get laid, then he should work on his game. Even if he gets 0.1% better every week that's enough. Even if it goes bad it will be reference experiences and leverage to change.
/r/seduction05/11/14 01:56 AM
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It's the other way around, buddy
/r/seduction04/11/14 10:15 PM
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Take action. Even if you don't feel like it. Your brain may be sexually deactivating because it just senses that you are unable to get anywhere. The thing is, the brain does not respond to logic. You have to give it proof. Maybe if you go out, you push through, you get a number, you get a make out, your brain will go "oh wow, maybe something can happen" and your little friend will rise again. Depression is a real thing that doesn't just go away by thinking positive, that's true. But depressive p…
/r/seduction04/11/14 10:08 PM
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When you are getting neutral responses (and assuming you are sexually attracted to this girl) you have to be polarizing. You have to escalate physically or verbally (saying outrageous shit, for example, if you like that, or it could be overtly romatnic stuff, it's up to you but it has to be not-safe). Basically this will get the girl reacting to you, it will spike the whole interaction emotionally and it will also save both of you a lot of time. Being polarizing also means that you are willing t…
/r/seduction04/11/14 09:58 PM
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haha i like you
/r/seduction29/06/14 04:57 AM
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I laughed out loud at "thanks Dalai Lama". keep it up breh
/r/seduction26/06/14 03:25 AM
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Then that would be 3 approaches
/r/seduction31/05/14 09:07 PM
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Well first of all, doing game, overanalyzing behaviors or just spending too much time on facebook is counterproductive. With that said, I think that there is a deeper principle that you are pointing at. That is the paradox of being non-needy and non-validation seeking while at the same time pursuing the girl. How do you get the girl to sleep with you without looking like you want to sleep with her? While first learning game I got the basics down, be self-amused, be challenging, lead, while not b…
/r/seduction23/03/14 04:57 AM
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The answer is quite counter-intuitive. Just be congruent to who you are, speak about the things you want to speak about, comment on the things that interest you, point out what you want to point out. If you want to say absolutely nothing, then don't say shit. If you over-think it, then people will tell, and it will come off creepy. Two super important things to keep in mind when talking to people though: 1) It is not relevant what you say, but that you are congruent with what you are saying (it …
/r/seduction29/10/13 11:39 PM
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Another reason why meditation helps with seduction. I think that one of the reasons that people in general are so attracted to guys (and girls) who are so in the moment and having fun is because subconsciously we also know that these same people will be amazing in bed by being in the moment and having fun.
/r/seduction30/07/13 09:42 PM
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You need to embarrass yourself in order to learn, dude. If you want to save face at all times because your ego is too fragile, then the game is not for you.
/r/seduction24/07/13 04:30 PM
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Even if it's fake it's a pretty story that we could enjoy. 8/10 would read again
/r/seduction10/07/13 06:58 PM
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It depends where you are coming from. You don't convey value because you need validation or acceptance, you just forget about conveying value and just amp your own state and focus on having good game. Then, that paradoxically conveys value. It depends where you are coming from
/r/seduction10/07/13 06:29 PM
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Its a combination of both, just never analyze yourself and get self-conscious when you are in the field. If you need to analyze yourself do it in your spare time.
/r/seduction10/07/13 06:28 PM
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You can ask these questions too actually, and it really depends on the emotion you are projecting with them. Bottom line is that you are never rapport seeking and you are leading the interaction towards positive emotions and sexual tension.
/r/seduction10/07/13 06:26 PM
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and that would be a perfectly reasonable place to start you are gonna get blown the fuck out, don't get me wrong, but you gotta break some eggs to make omelette son
/r/seduction08/07/13 12:39 AM
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To me, Dale Carnegie is a great book, but it is not a book about making friends, but rather how to be a positive and useful influence in a polite working environment. As others have said it is not a practical book applicable to seduction, but to me it is not even applicable to real long-lasting friendships. But that's okay. There is something you can gather from the book though, if you read a little bit beneath the lines: People are turned off by fakeness and appreciate genuinity. This is the mo…
/r/seduction06/07/13 10:25 AM
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be genuinely interested in what you have to say, ask good questions, be a good listener and ask better follow up questions i must stress it though, you must make your mind pay a genuine interest, if you fake it your mind will just wonder away
/r/seduction29/06/13 10:24 AM
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I just love how energetic and motivating Tyler is on this video. Very fitting for something about becoming a hard closer. Also to whoever labeled this as "inner game", I find it funny that anything that is not routines and lines is considered inner game.
/r/seduction28/06/13 01:22 PM
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With that said, I have the intuition that going ball to the wall is incredibly effective in general
/r/seduction28/06/13 11:01 AM
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Yeah I wasn't implying that you had these characteristics specifically. No, not every pick-up guy has to be the same, everyone has their own stories, their own up-bringing, their own sense of humor. Tyler even mentions in one video how his friend used to pull by being a depressive fuck and making the girl enter this frame of mind (not that this is recommended). However, there are certain characteristics, a basic framework, which is definitely needed. Those characteristics are in general terms be…
/r/seduction27/06/13 11:55 PM
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You didn't offend me at all. I am genuinely curious. I agree and disagree with you. You should always be congruent with who you are, you shouldn't say things that you don't mean to get a specific reaction or tell jokes you don't find funny, but also it's important to realize that who you are, your ego and identity are dynamic entities, illusions that change with time and effort. There may be values, traits or interests that we choose to retain over our lives, but everyone also has negative eleme…
/r/seduction27/06/13 11:42 PM
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Become the alpha, make it your natural state
/r/seduction27/06/13 11:30 PM
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lol funny how you blocked yourself but not the girls
/r/seduction27/06/13 11:29 PM
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What is your personality? Is it something that is set on stone? Is it a set of values? Is it something that is dynamic and ever-changing? Tell me, if you take yourself too seriously, is that part of your personality? If you are a negative fuck, is that part of your personality? If you do not let your sense of humor shine before others, is that part of your personality? What bothers you deep down about what you see? Is it that people may judge them for being try-hard, does it scare you what peopl…
/r/seduction27/06/13 11:26 PM
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We cannot tell you where to go. You have to decide for yourself Do you want to get better with women? Are you satisfied with the level you are at right now? Do you want to find an awesome girlfriend? You don't need to keep going on this forever, nor do you need to make it into your identity. If you are happy where you at, seek challenges in improving other areas of your life. Perhaps you can put going out in the background (keep going out sometimes though) and figure out how to work out your acc…
/r/seduction27/06/13 11:02 PM
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I've face this problem before, and I think that at some point or another all guys who are trying to get good at game deal with it. Let's try to go as deep as possible in order to learn as much as we can. The problem arises because you get to a level where you can cultivate good emotions and get plenty of validation, which in turn feeds you even more positive emotions. However, you are still being outcome-dependent and relying on reactions for your own state. Therefor, I think that you do not esc…
/r/seduction27/06/13 10:31 PM
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What are your tips for creating a really douchy-sounding OP?
/r/seduction25/06/13 09:01 PM
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Try to be cocky about asking for her number or a date. Make it funny and make it like it's her fault for missing out on a great thing. If she doesn't react well, next her. Not much more you can do, if she doesn't want to date you, she doesn't want to date you.
/r/seduction25/06/13 07:24 PM
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Try to be cocky about asking for her number or a date. Make it funny and make it like it's her fault for missing out on a great thing. If she doesn't react well, next her. Not much more you can do, if she doesn't want to go out with you, she doesn't want to go out with you.
/r/seduction25/06/13 07:24 PM
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Women have frustrations of their own. Sure, most women can get an easy laid even with cool attractive guys above their own "level". But can women really meet and hook up with the cool confident guy AND keep him for a long term relationship (which is what they mostly want) without failing? On the other hand, is it really that hard for men to move from a sexual relation to a formal relationship after hooking up? I'd say it's relatively easy.
/r/seduction25/06/13 07:22 PM
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The difference may seem subtle but it is a big one. A chump does "nice" things because he feels that that is the only way that people will like him or because he expects something in return. He is not congruent with what he does, he doesn't do the things he really wants to do. A value giver sincerely wants to give things to people, and genuinely does not care about what he gets back. He has an abundance paradigm and doesn't get mad if things don't go his way. How to strike a balance? Simple. Kno…
/r/seduction18/06/13 09:03 PM
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This may not be a pleasant thing to hear but have you considered that you deserve someone better, then? A great relationship is built by huge effort on two parts. If one refuses to cooperate, there is nothing one can do.
/r/seduction11/06/13 04:48 PM
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Ah, i've had this, it's very ironic to be less sociable when you are around friends. I guess the deeper issue here is that you are way too fixated on your identity or your ego and at some level you are not being congruent (either with your friends or with the randoms)
/r/seduction11/06/13 02:50 AM
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fuck no, take it as another challenge make every day of the relationship an amazing day of mutual happiness giving, surprise her every other day, use the opportunity to make the both of you better persons, learn something together, etc
/r/seduction11/06/13 02:49 AM
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I would just like to add a small disclaimer that too much hand movement can be overcompensating anxiety or fear. Use movement, but like everything else, use it firmly and comfortably at your own pace.
/r/seduction10/06/13 12:37 AM
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good job
/r/seduction08/06/13 07:17 PM
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Disagree. If you have a big sticking point such as low tonality, focusing on it for a while until it is fully interiorized can lead to faster progress. Of course it is not a replacement for going out and there is a risk that people will keep focusing too much on this, but if you don't take it too seriously and just focus on it for a while it can help.
/r/seduction07/06/13 12:34 PM
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Jeffy said it best. Go do fucking Karaoke. It will improve your vocal tonality, it will shatter your shyness and it is a shit ton of fun. Plus you can use the same venue to practice pick up sometimes.
/r/seduction07/06/13 09:56 AM
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Yeah, if you are having this problem make it a point to escalate every set you go to or try to go for a kiss no matter how awkward it may be. It is not good game but it will teach you the calibration required to get over your sticking point really fast.
/r/seduction04/06/13 08:29 AM
1

This is true. I didn't mention it but you are totally right. When you have confidence, when you have good posture, when you have an easy-going relaxed stance, then you appear taller, and even if people know you are short, you stand out much more in a positive way (since in average short people tend to have less confidence)
/r/seduction03/06/13 08:55 AM
3

No problem man. Keep hustling.
/r/seduction02/06/13 07:42 PM
37

I'm slightly taller than you and all the women I've had a serious relationship with have been taller than me. I didn't plan it, it was just that the women I made a connection with just happened to be taller. It wasn't a problem for me and while they admitted at one point or another that they would prefer if I was taller or at least the same height as them, it was never a big deal in the relationship. I guess it's like the size of your gf's boobies. You want them to be as big as possible, but if …
/r/seduction02/06/13 07:35 PM
1

So then there is no excuse not to go out
/r/seduction29/05/13 05:44 PM
2

But if you don't go out, you don't know your extent of your confidence problem. Also, it is true that you need to adjust your expectation to your level but there is never a level in which it is bad to go out. If you can't hold eye contact with people, then go out, don't expect to get laid, don't expect even to have good conversations, focus on maintaining your cool and making solid eye contact with people.
/r/seduction29/05/13 01:35 PM
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World's best kept secret is that being confident is the default state when you don't care what people think of you. Stop caring about what people think of you and have strong convictions of what you want, what you are doing and why.
/r/seduction29/05/13 01:21 AM
1

You need to break something in order for it to grow stronger :)
/r/seduction29/05/13 01:20 AM
1

You need to cement the mind set, you need to drill it in your mind. Not only say it rationally. That's why you need to go out time and time again. Also EVERY single night you go out, even if you get rejected and crashed, you will help your confidence. At least you will learn how to deal with your emotions better and you will be telling your mind that at least you are alive, you didn't die. An exception may be if you go out and you are unable to approach because you are shy. Then you may get stuc…
/r/seduction29/05/13 01:19 AM
2

Ego is simply caring about your self-image and what people think of you. Trust me, a lot of people have an over-reliance on their ego. Just take a look at facebook. In psychology nothing is "proven" to exist, and you do not need proof of everything either.
/r/seduction29/05/13 01:15 AM
1

What would be a quick example of a contradiction?
/r/seduction29/05/13 12:31 AM
3

You are not supposed to take it too seriously as a manual. It's just a bunch of loose ideas that may help you or may not. It is not a "program" or a "guide". They are indeed contradictory at times, and they even acknowledge this. But ultimately you must try things out yourself and see which one works for you. Human beings have contradictory identities, so maybe both are true at different points. To me the most useful ideas I've picked from RSD are how ultimately our inner state is always being c…
/r/seduction29/05/13 12:30 AM
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Spontaneity isn't exactly a valued trait. I mean it is, but no one can personally observe whether someone's actually being spontaneous. I don't agree with this. Subcommunication is always there, I will refer to a wise Owen line here "the self is always coming through". An obvious example is a guy who always starts conversation by telling a joke versus a guy who always starts with something different but makes a lot of jokes of whatever topic the conversation went to. Trust me, it is quite easy t…
/r/seduction29/05/13 12:20 AM
1

Also, I know that for some of you guys who have always had a healthy degree of confidence and self-esteem RSD material may seem redundant and unnnecesary. But for people who had to work on this area, RSD material really can help with their game by a ton on a fundamental level. It all depends where you are at, I think.
/r/seduction28/05/13 11:53 PM
3

I have great admiration for Mystery for all the advancements he made to the community. But I simply do not like interacting with people with a plan ahead. I enjoy and value spontaneity and I think that the lack of it could potentially lead to a lowering of your self-value (but I don't think it's the case for everyone). I also know that RSD is not about philosophy or complex psychology, but as motivational material that convinces people on a deep emotional level that they can take control over th…
/r/seduction28/05/13 11:51 PM
2

I referenced to Tyler because he articulated this point better than I can, but I'm telling you this out of experience. To me, non-canned game is superior not because it is more effective but because of the state it puts you in. Using canned material if you have bad inner game ultimately can hurt you by subconsciously branding yourself as a lower value individual who has to make the difference up by having a show to put. This happened to me, I had low self esteem issues to the point where I felt …
/r/seduction28/05/13 11:36 PM
2

Getting laid or attracting women is easy, I agree. Doing it consistently and being your best self isn't, though.
/r/seduction28/05/13 11:24 PM
1

The Game is a great way to get you motivated and to understand the whole PUA thing. It is also incredibly fun to read. I hate canned game but I love that I read this little book.
/r/seduction28/05/13 10:40 PM
1

how much time did it take you to have the ability to get laid consistently (once a week) while going out 3 or 4 nights per week?
/r/seduction28/05/13 10:39 PM
3

It's not meant to teach you the basics of seduction. It's deep inner game stuff. MM is not good foundation. Check out Tyler's video about whether or not canned game helped him overall to have great natural game. And another thing, RSD methods and fundamental relies on entirely uncanned game. MM is the entire opposite.
/r/seduction28/05/13 10:38 PM
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how dare he let us know that he is an engineer too... the nerve some people have!
/r/seduction23/05/13 10:43 PM
3

Dear lord those "articles" are awful, I feel bad for anyone who took RSD so personal and seriously that they took the time to write that, and I feel bad for myself for taking the time to read that. If you don't like something, just ignore it, don't need to get all butthurt about it. Edit: I just checked and you are quoting articles from what seems to be a pretty sore internet troll who thinks his time is well spent writing mean blogs about "puas and seduction". And just as a disclaimer, I love R…
/r/seduction20/05/13 04:17 PM
1

"hi, do you speak english". And then you take the conversation anywhere. If she doesn't speak english, even better (if you are in a loud party environment). I swear, it is astonishingly easy.
/r/seduction20/05/13 04:12 PM
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Funny how he despises RSD yet he gives almost the same advice (health, meditation, handling your own emotions), and even Tyler is constantly reminding us to think for ourselves and never take whatever he says too seriously. Also, there is the misinterpretation that all RSD teaches is inner game. That's not true. Just because it is not canned game, natural game is not disqualified as outer game.
/r/seduction20/05/13 04:10 PM
4

Yeah, conversely any context is prone to failure if you don't escalate.
/r/seduction17/05/13 05:49 PM
2

I will be contributing because 1) you are awesome, 2) it's solid material, 3) I'm greedy and I want a hard copy for myself.
/r/seduction17/05/13 05:11 PM
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Both are important, its ludicrous to think that you can be successful just with one of them. You are saying that outer game is what mostly needs work, but maybe that's because it's the stage you are at right now. You are confident and cool so you just want the outer behaviors. But maybe for a guy who is a mess internally, doing a lot of outer game without caring for his inner game would be quite inefficient. Different things for different moments
/r/seduction17/05/13 12:34 PM
1

Thanks for the rant man, really appreciated. Quite crazy how this guy just seemed to illuminate you all of the sudden but it is like that for a lot of us (at least it was for me) Why would you say it helped you communicate with your family at first?
/r/seduction17/05/13 12:50 AM
2

haha in this case the language barrier can even work in your favor because you are forgetting about all your worries about the talking part and you put all your efforts in escalating and closing
/r/seduction17/05/13 12:48 AM
1

what makes you dislike college/clubs?
/r/seduction16/05/13 07:07 PM
2

How about you go to parties and not drink? I mean, it's hard to understand avoiding ALL kind of parties. After all, a party is just a gathering of people who tend to stay more-or-less in a light-hearted mood. If you cannot relate to people in that sense, then you are going to have problems relating to people everywhere. Other than that, I'm blank. Isn't there anything you like to do outside of your house? How about going to metal/rock bars/clubs?
/r/seduction16/05/13 06:48 PM
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I upvoted, and appreciate the input even though it is not my style. I think that people in this thread are mistakenly thinking the dichotomy between inner game and canned game. It isn't like that at all. Discussing natural game is also outer game (just like improving your inner game will help you have a better canned game). In my opinion, trying routines/lines can be great so you step up from your comfort zone, try something new and maybe learn a thing or two about how women tick. If you like th…
/r/seduction16/05/13 06:16 PM
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Women are emotional creatures, yes. What people tend to forget around these parts is that so are men. It's not a gender thing. Humans are emotional creatures.
/r/seduction15/05/13 05:21 PM
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Seems like the underlying problem is that you assumed she had more value than you. Don't worry, you will improve with time and the fact that you recognize this so early puts you really ahead. Cheers
/r/seduction14/05/13 05:48 PM
2

The more time you spend looking around and being shy the harder it will be to pull off of that state. Try to talk to as many people as possible and minimize time between interactions. As other people have said, speak to everyone (boys, girls, dogs) without expectations and just try to have fun. Tyler has spoken extensively on the subject. Basically the mood we get in is influenced by a complex variety of factors regarding our perception of the environment, and when we spend too much time being s…
/r/seduction14/05/13 05:46 PM
3

What do you mean by embarrass yourself? Because I tend to disagree. I've embarrassed myself constantly and caused a lot of people to think I'm weird or an asshole (depending on the kind of night). It wasn't a good thing but it taught me a lot. Also, sometimes being silly and not taking yourself too seriously is key.
/r/seduction13/05/13 01:28 PM
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Almost exactly what I was gonna say. I would just add 2 things. Be patient and have discipline. Results for you will come when the time is right. Don't compare yourself to others and always move forward. Don't skip gym days, go out frequently and work on yourself. Always keep moving forward. The difference between 'just okay' and 'outstanding' is that the first one will push through when it's convenient. The second will push through ALWAYS, even when it feels uncomfortable. Don't feel like going…
/r/seduction13/05/13 01:26 PM
1

Why would you let that scare you? My friend has a lot of fun doing it, he keeps his little notebook with hundrends of numbers as his badge of honor, and he has gotten some success. Also, he can go to a club and make more inmediate results. Also, perhaps it's something that you should do for a while, see how it works and then move on to something better. It's all part of the ride. But I'm with you and when I said that when this isn't my style/personality I kind of meant that. I don't want to get …
/r/seduction09/05/13 10:12 AM
2

By solid I don't mean getting make outs or anything, I'm talking about the likelyhood of generating real attraction. The kind that will make the girl much more willing to answer your phone calls and agree to meet you. Of course, you can generate this during the day (is it more likely than night? is it better when there is alcohol involved? I don't know honestly), I've done it and I'm sure college students know this since they are interacting deeply with females all the time during the day and th…
/r/seduction09/05/13 10:07 AM
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Look dude, I'm not completely disagreeing with you. I admit that this was as solid interaction as you could get from day game and that there are things to learn from this guy if that's what you are into. I'm saying that we shouldn't confuse things though. This guy is still at the hooking stage. As I said in my post, this could be a great scenario to create attraction LATER on, getting the girl to invest in you, generating masculine polarity. I kinda loled at the "25%" of f-close, both because of…
/r/seduction09/05/13 10:01 AM
2

Yeah, or in other words, to have the girl chase after you
/r/seduction09/05/13 03:37 AM
0

its called cloroform
/r/seduction09/05/13 03:35 AM
0

Well that sort of continues the problem. This kind of approach is always too straightforward instead of the more calm "hey let's see if we find one another cool but we still have plenty of options" night game. Calling too soon or too much makes you look even more overeager.
/r/seduction08/05/13 10:55 PM
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Well maybe you are right, I must admit I am not used to day game at all and I just go with my second-hand friend's experience. My point is though that one should not be baffled if the numbers you get during the day aren't solid. A solid day game interaction is a lot less solid and consistent for obvious reasons.
/r/seduction08/05/13 07:09 PM
0

Also, may I ask, is riding a Bike dangerous? I am not that good of a driver for cars but I am quite responsible enough to put effort into learning
/r/seduction08/05/13 06:11 PM
3

I don't want to be mean or anything but maybe your game sucks. A bike isn't gonna help that
/r/seduction08/05/13 06:10 PM
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I came here to post this. That said, I've always loved bikes and after reading "Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintance" which talks about a lot of good stuff but among them how being in a motorcycle is actually more intimate than just traveling by car because it gives you more freedom and it allows you to be "part of the environment as opposed to looking at it through a mirror", i convinced myself to save enough to get one and then travel around my country. However, there is a good lesson to le…
/r/seduction08/05/13 06:07 PM
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Well these kind of videos make me think two things. On the one hand, I think they can be quite deceiving to people with no game. To me it almost feels like it's the guy performing a comedy routine to the girl. Sure, she laughs, she is engaged and she is enjoying the attention. But is there real chemistry being created? Is there sexual attraction? Is this guy being the sex-worthy guy or just the entretainer? Getting responses and numbers this way is easy. Just be a non-threatening ridiculous funn…
/r/seduction08/05/13 05:59 PM
4

Beautiful
/r/seduction21/04/13 05:41 PM
1

That's not an excuse not to learn to be better at conversation, leading the frame, putting yourself on the spot, etc. Specially if you want to get good at game. Which I assume you are since you are on Seddit.
/r/seduction21/04/13 05:40 PM
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Great advice. Getting the girl is not an excuse to "finally take it easy". Good relationships take a lot of work. You cannot get needy or reverse back to your insecure self. Never take anything for granted, be impulsive and try new things, make sure you are always sharing the best emotions you can with your girl. Hell, use it as an opportunity to get good at other seduction skills such as sex. Seriously, try to be the best fuck she will ever have. All the meanwhile, continue giving value to peop…
/r/seduction19/04/13 07:21 PM
2

Open everything that moves, try to have fun in every interaction, if people act negatively take it as a game and enjoy it, don't take yourself seriously.
/r/seduction19/04/13 07:15 PM
2

Well there are two components to success, one is being comfortable with whatever happens and the other is taking action and getting the things you want. Seems to me like you have a great process going and you actually get a lot of pain when you fail to execute it. Well, I think that the right action in this case would be to manage time in order for you not to miss the process. It's good to be criticaf of oneself, It's okay to beat yourself up if you fail to do something, if not, we will be progr…
/r/seduction19/04/13 09:02 AM
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This about covers everything :)
/r/seduction05/04/13 03:47 PM
3

Do you have any preference in the race of the ladies?
/r/seduction05/04/13 01:37 AM
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also, would you convince Tyler to do an AMA? Not that yours isn't awesome ;)
/r/seduction05/04/13 01:24 AM
1

It's funny because I was just watching your Pick-up manifesto and I just happened to notice that you were on Reddit in the very minute. Great timing! I really can't be thankful enough for all the great content that you and the guys at RSD have put out. Not only has it made me see how I can become better with women, in a deeper level it has also helped me to face my deeper issues (instead of trying to run away from them or pretend they don't exist), take ownership of my life and its direction and…
/r/seduction05/04/13 01:17 AM
2

Oh yeah you just reminded me. It's really depressive that someone actually got paid to write this. Some people who write on this forum have a much better understanding of social dynamics just by going out and having some brains.
/r/seduction03/04/13 10:49 PM
1

Plenty of advice there is actually counter-productive, and the one that isn't is obvious. I expect people who come to the seduction reddit to know that eye contact and humor are important.
/r/seduction03/04/13 10:46 PM
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Well I just read all of this and hopefully I came save someone else's time and intelligence. Don't waste time with this crap. Don't flirt with people more attractive than you? What the fuck It also says that if people know that they like you, then they will like you back! It's almost the exact same opposite effect. If you like someone too much before they like you, then that will just show lower status and they will be repelled. Dear lord... Okay, I take it back, read this as a "what not do" gui…
/r/seduction03/04/13 09:33 PM
1

Until you get over such a limiting victim's mentality, you are never gong to achieve anything. Learn to embrace failure
/r/seduction16/03/13 06:36 PM
1

modern day jesus
/r/seduction16/03/13 06:34 PM
1

Fitness can help, but it is also vital to do meditation. Meditation is the key to knowing how to direct your focus and be in the present moment. It allows you to observe some of your brain patterns (where it goes), and afterwards how to steer them to where you want to go. It is also like going to the gym, it is hard at first but with time and dedication you get amazing at it. As an additional note, don't just work out, look into nutrition too, that is super important for maintaining a sharp ment…
/r/seduction16/03/13 10:24 AM
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How about fucking date her? if she has feelings for you and you have feelings for her. Jesus, I love learning game but sometimes I feel some guys throw common sense out of the window while doing so Edit: Oneitis refers to when you like a girl and she doesn't like you back. Not when you are hooking up and you develop feelings
/r/seduction12/03/13 09:52 AM
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Also, you got 2 girls interested on your first night? Man that's crazy, just imagine what you will do with a few months of going out. Don't factor in rejections, as others have said. Focus on what you did accomplish.
/r/seduction08/03/13 05:15 PM
2

“You've gotta dance like there's nobody watching, Love like you'll never be hurt, Sing like there's nobody listening, And live like it's heaven on earth.” ― William W. Purkey
/r/seduction08/03/13 05:12 PM
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Make sure you are offering value and dominating the conversation. People respond better when you are the one proposing topics of conversation, making questions or indagating on specific topics. Most people don't feel comfortable at first proposing conversation because they think it may not be good enough. But the truth is if that you care about it, then it is good enough. So just talk about what you want to talk about (self-amusement). A big part of being a good talker is being a good listener. …
/r/seduction21/02/13 11:55 PM
1

What will destroy you is that the social pressure of the identity that has been given to you starts determining who you are. Then you may start acting creepy just because of what happened to you and not because you are a creeper. Maintain a positive attitude, get better people skill by going out, and don't let other people frames enter into who you are. A strong reality is a lasting reality. Be confident about yourself with total belief and then people will have no choice but to accept that you …
/r/seduction19/02/13 04:23 PM
2

You just have to be more outcome-independent. You don't fear that your friends will reject you when you hang out. Emotionally realize that if strangers reject you, it is no big deal. In the process you will realize that our fears are mostly exaggerated: Very few people will actually reject someone trying to be nice and engage other people.
/r/seduction01/02/13 05:44 PM
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No, I'm trying to argue that people are thinking about this too much. It is actually kind of sad considering the point of the video is not whether or not you should hit on someone with a bf (that is up to you). The video had great points to share
/r/seduction01/02/13 10:29 AM
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Thanks for articulating the argument, but I still cannot agree. Your position comes down to 1) it would be better for the actors involved if the cheating didn't happen, 2) she cannot help it. I disagree on both accounts. 1) You are taking a moral high ground and assuming what is best or what isn't for people. We have NO WAY of knowing this because we don't know what's involved. As I said before, perhaps she is dating an asshole who mistreats her, perhaps she needs to realize that she is not gett…
/r/seduction31/01/13 06:42 PM
2

This guy posts thousands of videos, dude
/r/seduction31/01/13 06:14 PM
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This is obvious, but you are speculating about his reasoning and about what was left out.
/r/seduction31/01/13 06:14 PM
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Well he is just making a moral argument about a point that was being discussed in this thread. You are trying to say that the video was cutted/edited in certain way in order to hide something and speculating about things we don't know about.
/r/seduction31/01/13 05:59 PM
2

It would be your issue then because you have a responsibility to look for the best interest of your buddies. To me it means that instead of fucking her girlfriend, you tell him about that behavior. Perhaps there is a moral gray area to be made that you can fuck the girl and THEN tell your friend (lol), but I honestly don't know there. I wouldn't do it. I'm sure we can all see why fucking her girlfriend and then NOT telling your friend would be shitty, though.
/r/seduction31/01/13 05:49 PM
3

You are overanalyzing it
/r/seduction31/01/13 05:46 PM
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If the girl has a boyfriend that is NONE of your business. I do not see the moral problem of getting a girl who has a boyfriend, it is her choice and her issue. Perhaps she isn't happy in her relationship, perhaps she needs some help seeing that, perhaps she isn't sexually fulfilled, perhaps she isn't suited to be monogamist, or perhaps she is an awful person who doesn't care about hurting and lying. Whatever the case may be, that is none of your business.
/r/seduction31/01/13 04:23 PM
1

You are thinking about not thinking too much (lol). Yeah, it's perfectly fine to think once in a while. You want to be present in your laid-back social interactions, but texting is so irrelevant that it doesn't really hurt you. Plus, if you are sending great texts (though I doubt how effective texts can really be), then you are only helping your game. Have multiple approaches to your own game, mix contradictory tactics, and keep what works.
/r/seduction31/01/13 09:53 AM
1

Had heard of Tolle of course but never of Watts. Anything in particular to recommend? He has a lot of books
/r/seduction31/01/13 09:50 AM
2

Fucking this. People buy the entire interpretation of the story just because they read it in one book and then they refuse to read RSD. It's completely nuts, and it makes them miss out in some of the most insightful material you can find.
/r/seduction30/01/13 09:53 PM
1

What I learned from RSD is that if they feel you care too much about the sex or take it too seriously, then that will block them out. It has to be something they choose. Maybe in the first scenario it's just her problem. I know, it's very paradoxical. In order to have consistent sex you have to be escalating but cannot be too serious or outcome-dependent about having sex. Yeah, it's just about the right balance. How is this for a tip: Perhaps next time try to be "seductive" mode while at the sam…
/r/seduction28/01/13 10:16 PM
2

Are you maintaining the fun vibe in the interaction? Or are you getting serious and uptight as it gets more sexual? Really think about this for a second. Are the girls still engaged and having fun (beyond the obvious arousal of physicality)? Are you escalating? The two-step-forward/one-step-backwards tends to work for me. Don't wait for them to initiate things. Did your state shift after you got rejected? Often a rejection means "not yet" instead of "no", but if you react to it too harshly, then…
/r/seduction28/01/13 04:18 PM
1

Just be wary that it doesn't become a limiting belief. For example, if you spend years of social isolation and then you start going out, of course it is going to be hard for you. Then you may start calling yourself "introverted", become boxed in that category and for that reason feel limited as to what you can do. As I said, I do consider myself introverted, but I can also remember situations where I was in social situations with close friends and felt absolutely no pressures. Most of the time i…
/r/seduction27/01/13 06:18 PM
1

If I'm hanging out with my buddies then I may occasionally like to get shit-faced drunk. If I'm in a new social environment and meeting new people, then yeah, at most I will have a couple of beers.
/r/seduction27/01/13 11:54 AM
1

I consider myself an introvert under your definition too but are we sure we are not using the terms to box us in? I mean, can't an introvert become an extrovert after spending time becoming comfortable socializing. The brain can adapt to almost everything.
/r/seduction27/01/13 11:53 AM
2

I disagree, I can definitely feel nights when I'm talkative and outcome-independent and I can just talk to everyone and just have fun and not care what anyone thinks. I used to associate this to being drunk before I found out about this stuff consciously. You are right though, that not being in state cannot be an excuse not to go out or approach. It is only when you can push yourself to be in state, drawing it from within yourself and not your environment, is when you can be consistent and reach…
/r/seduction27/01/13 12:08 AM
1

It seems to me that you are putting way too much emphasis on the reactions you get in order to determine your state. Try to develop the sense of having fun and enjoying the moment even if you are getting constantly blown out. In order to hit state consistently, work on being outcome-independent and make the nights you go out just for the sake of having fun. It can also help to get in state to change your physicality. Right when you enter a club or venue, or even before, start jumping around, hig…
/r/seduction27/01/13 12:04 AM
1

Yeah, I am in the group of people who used to get really in their head when facing a stressful social scenario. For me the solution was learning about state from RSD. Other source of inspiration (the one which inspired RSD) is Tony Robbins "Awaken the Giant Within". But if you want to get out of your head, what I recommend is meditating. What it does basically is that it trains you to be in the present moment, it's 20 minutes which you spend trying to be present (aka, not thinking), which at fir…
/r/seduction26/01/13 11:54 PM
8

I think they are hilarious and ironically that is the point of the video: Some people get along with people and others don't. Still, the underlying messages are great.
/r/seduction24/01/13 10:15 PM
1

Good video. I like how calm and honest Erik seems. But I don't agree, you should develop confidence over time.
/r/seduction24/01/13 09:51 PM
2

Canned game is ultimately bad for you. I am not totally against canned game but to me it's just a starting point, you want to develop the ability to just be a cool guy on your own without needing lines. Secondly, don't take the advice too seriously. Yes, if you are getting laid you are doing something wrong do don't be stressed about "improving your game" all the time. But at the same time, if you always do the same thing then you won't know if perhaps switching things up a little would make thi…
/r/seduction17/01/13 11:49 AM
1

We all begin at different levels at the game but nobody is so far behind that he cannot make progress. I can tell from your posts that you have a lot of limiting beliefs that prevent you from improving yourself. And let me be brutally honest to you, this may be in part your brain trying to come up with excuses not to learn this stuff. Begin slow! If you can't talk to girls yet, don't expect to get laid the first time you go to a club. Work in the things that need work and slowly begin to improve…
/r/seduction17/01/13 11:43 AM
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Do you like your friends? Do you have fun with them? If you do, then you should not have any problem with going out with them, just enjoy their company, they will up your state and help you even if they themselves do badly. It is not like they not picking up has anything to do with your own game, they are not going to be there when you approach a girl. If you don't like them, and don't have fun with them, why the hell do you go out with them in the first place? Finally, if that doesn't convince …
/r/seduction13/01/13 06:20 PM
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I used to have this problem too. The most important thing is that you practice and you go out and socialize. Just by doing that your stories will naturally get punchier and funnier. If you want to get into more specific things to work on, focus on keeping your stories short and sweet. Skip boring and unnecessary details that will just make people distracted. Remember, a story is more than a story: It makes the audience get transported into another place and it makes them feel something. Your rol…
/r/seduction11/01/13 10:45 AM
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I'm not saying it's the optimal move but if you are gonna ask something at least don't phrase it like you are asking permission. It communicates that she has higher value. Asking "do you want to kiss me" does not.
/r/seduction11/01/13 02:41 AM
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Genetics don't matter but looks do. Women do not care about your genetic composition, they care about attitudes. Everything else is irrelevant. Your clothing, your body language, your style is technically "looks", but it is all things that come from within you.
/r/seduction10/01/13 10:45 AM
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You must really pat yourself in the back for trying out so much new stuff and getting out there. I can tell that you have to work on some inner game issues. For that I recommend looking at RSD stuff, it really helped me and its amazing material (specially The Blueprint). Just keep in mind that fixing your inner game and being naturally confident and at ease takes time, but don't sweat the process. Keep approaching, keep reading, and keep improving. When you finally do get a solid inner game plus…
/r/seduction10/01/13 10:44 AM
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I agree. While the point of the video is a solid one, one has to realize that a lot of people who have been socially secluded for a long time growing up have NO IDEA who they really are or how they behave. How could you know who you are socially if all you have been doing for the past 4 years is forced to being anti-social? That person will just assume that "who he is" is a guy who does not like to talk, who likes to be silent and who feels pressured. What the community teaches you, even through…
/r/seduction10/01/13 10:28 AM
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