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| 5 | How to explain to women that their boyfriends having close female friends shouldn’t be blindly accepted?Thank you for your comment! I’ve had in the past issues with boyfriends that just don’t stick to the agreement I lay out that he should behave like I do with the opposite sex. The last guy kept his female friend a total secret and I knew nothing about her even though we lived together for 6 months (together 2 years). It was so shady and the texts were very suggestive. So much for her ‘being like a sister’. Anyway the backlash from that was the girl in question was a bit of a stuck up snob when i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 07:46 PM |
| 58 | We are staunchly Pro - Ghosting on this sub. Any comments guilt tripping women for dropping communication with men without explanation will be removed.They never care about what went wrong either. They knew what they were doing and didn’t care about the consequences. Can you think of many men giving a woman time for a discussion or having a single thing to say if he finds her cheating? No they just leave. They don’t even talk about it. We need to level up | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 05:57 PM |
| 13 | We are staunchly Pro - Ghosting on this sub. Any comments guilt tripping women for dropping communication with men without explanation will be removed.Preach it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 05:52 PM |
| 3 | How to explain to women that their boyfriends having close female friends shouldn’t be blindly accepted?Thanks for your reply! You’re right about male-male friendships they seem to be so strong with very little effort. The only reason I can see a man needing to be ‘friends’ with a woman that’s not his gf is to be a potential shag if things with gf went wrong. Or just general extra affection, adoration and ego boost. It’s so common these days and I’m sick to death of meeting guys that seem to be incapable of being faithful to one woman. I’m definitely suspicious of a man if he’s my bf but texting g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 05:44 PM |
| 2 | THIS. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.That girl knows what’s up 😌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 02:33 PM |
| 45 | Couple I’ve known since HS. Together 11 yrs and SHE had to propose, after yrs of bringing up marriage. She’s also in a PhD program at an Ivy League — she can do way betterI’d rather die than propose ngl | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 06:43 PM |
| 12 | THIS. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.Thank you for taking the time to reach out and leave such a positive and kind message. I’m so grateful for this group, I used to think I was the only one going through these things. I will never understand men that enjoy abusing or undermining women. Especially women who were just happy, content and wholesome when they met. Maybe they like to feel powerful breaking someone down. That experience really hurt me deep. Thanks again lovely lady, you have made my day 💛 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 02:20 PM |
| 16 | Has anyone else started to lose faith in men in general?I saw a recommended video related to this one about Haile Berry and what she learned from being cheated on. Can not believe a woman that beautiful and goddess-like got cheated on. I mean I know that doesn’t protect you from men treating you like crap but damn. What do men want!? Why can’t we just be happy with monogamous relationships ??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 02:03 PM |
| 6 | Your dignity comes first no matter how much you think you love him. Period.Please could someone give me some bullet points from the book? I’m not able to get a copy but I’d love to know what the main takeaways are .. heard so many good things about it!! 💛 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 01:44 PM |
| 34 | THIS. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.This is great timing, I was very sad these past few days. I kept thinking, if only I were prettier, smarter, with the looks and confidence of Megan Fox, I’d be ok. My ex made me feel like I’m ugly ( he said I only look pretty when I first wake up) and dumb (he expected me to never forget anything, always be perfect). Cried myself to sleep last night thinking about these things and how the hell did I mess up so bad to attract arseholes into my life. I feel less alone seeing other ladies commentin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 01:27 PM |
| 4 | I came across this “birthday card” my ex had written for me while I was deep cleaning my bedroom this morning. It was written with my lip liner. I still stayed with him for a year after this. You literally can’t make this shit up.I would be so upset if I received a birthday letter like yours also! I think I’d be more pissed that he used my lip liner .. makeup is expensive !! Honestly how little effort is it to go to the shop and buy a card ? If I ever have a son, I will give him lessons on how to give gifts and cards 😒😒 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 07:41 PM |
| 6 | I came across this “birthday card” my ex had written for me while I was deep cleaning my bedroom this morning. It was written with my lip liner. I still stayed with him for a year after this. You literally can’t make this shit up.Thank you, some men are just unbelievable | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 07:39 PM |
| 14 | .....Pickmeishas evolvingI would like to hope she made it as a joke but didn’t intend for him to wear it outside 🧐 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 07:28 PM |
| 30 | If he only wants to smoke, play video games, and eat fast food. He ain’t the one!It continues into their 30s 😔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 07:25 PM |
| 7 | I came across this “birthday card” my ex had written for me while I was deep cleaning my bedroom this morning. It was written with my lip liner. I still stayed with him for a year after this. You literally can’t make this shit up.My ex bought me an anniversary card once and left it on his table. He didn’t write in it or give it to me. He kept it for a year after that (I stayed with him like an arse). I even asked him to just write in it and give it to me. He wouldn’t do it. One day I found it on his desk (this is after moving house and he took it with him!!!) with a pen next to it. It stayed there for 3 days then I ripped it up and put it in the bin. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 07:17 PM |
| 8 | FDS approved!I had a guy do this to me subtly from the 1st date. So I’d busy myself with something and he’d be all put out because I’m busy. Weirdly he’d get all jealous of something as simple as me reading a book. He’d want to interrupt me and get my attention. Same if i worked on my laptop or even engrossed in writing a Reddit comment on here lol. He’d try to see what I was so busy with. But when I put everything down, want to talk or spend time together he’s not interested. Strange little man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 05:19 PM |
| 40 | You've heard about the forever girlfriend. Now read about the forever FWB.“It does not take that long to find something to love in someone” girl I felt that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 12:08 PM |
| 9 | If your man seeks space like this most of the time and gives the same attitude about it, give up and move on sis. It’s boring being with a moody, non-conversing, inconsiderate, stone-walling man child. He doesn’t want to spend time with you so leave itGirl, my guy could not stop talking with friends, neighbours, shop owners, anyone who looked at him he was desperate to chat. Once he started he wouldn’t shut up. Meanwhile we’ve just spent the whole day and night in silence because I’m not good enough to talk to. And let’s not forget the very polite and charming attention also given to female shop assistants, waitresses and girls from ‘around’. I could see how hyped up he would get just to talk with them, flirting, laughing and joking while I’m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 11:48 AM |
| 21 | If your man seeks space like this most of the time and gives the same attitude about it, give up and move on sis. It’s boring being with a moody, non-conversing, inconsiderate, stone-walling man child. He doesn’t want to spend time with you so leave itBut how happy are they when they’re with their friends though!? Did you ever notice how much effort they give friends but his true miserable self is reserved for the girlfriend | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 08:05 PM |
| 22 | If your man seeks space like this most of the time and gives the same attitude about it, give up and move on sis. It’s boring being with a moody, non-conversing, inconsiderate, stone-walling man child. He doesn’t want to spend time with you so leave itIt’s depressing. I still don’t understand why some men are like this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 01:33 PM |
| 4 | I need realistic advice - 34 year old forever GF about to be potentially single - how do I tackle this?I agree. If he’s proven himself to be a secretive, cheating, lying little rat, then it’s not selfish for you to now keep your cards close to your chest. Do what’s best for you. I agree with playing nice until lockdown restrictions aren’t as bad, then bust a move out of there. Stay calm, and start to plan your future without that muppet. My ex did the same thing behind my back with coworkers and he never changed. His apologies were empty. Cut your losses but plan carefully. Just shut down emotion… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 11:17 AM |
| 4 | Not just spending money but listeningYou’re a lucky woman <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 10:40 AM |
| 6 | Not just spending money but listeningI got through my entire twenties and sadly have yet to find this type of man. Very depressing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 10:39 AM |
| 13 | I hate that staring shit!“I think someones uglyness can also take a person off gaurd and cause someone to look like a deer in the headlight.” Lol that’s exactly what I think to myself when any guy stares at me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 10:33 AM |
| 13 | Does anyone feel jaded if a guy calls you attractive/hot?At this point in my life I would really appreciate being called hot. My last boyfriend had nothing NOTHING nice to say about me and I spent two years without any compliments. Now if a random man passing on the street calls me pretty or smiles at me, I feel great for the rest of the day. Not saying I need men to say things to make me feel good about myself but Right now I just appreciate it. Obviously genuine compliments are the best. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 10:25 AM |
| 15 | Some stuff I’ve changed since reading a lot of FDS. What are your standards?I met a girl that pretended to really really like football (soccer) just to seem cool to guys. She would go to the matches with her guy friends as a way to meet men and flirt. She would get invited to guys houses to watch matches with them on tv. God it was so cringe and desperate but some of these men were so dumb they really thought she loved football when it was so obvious she was looking for D | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 10:04 AM |
| 45 | Spotted on r/sexaddiction I don’t want to end up with another man like this. I’m afraid of missing the signs like their wives/gfs did...The replies to his post are brilliant, I was so worried to read other creeps egging him on. The first comment was perfect. “There’s nothing admirable about paying for a lot of sex. You are paying money to destroy your soul” well said and so true. I feel awful for the long term girlfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 03:03 PM |
| 4 | My most LVM ex texted meThank you for your thoughtful message ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/20 03:12 PM |
| 4 | My most LVM ex texted meThank you 💔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 07:30 PM |
| 37 | My most LVM ex texted meGirl you did the right thing. Make sure you erase him from your memory and pretend you never met the guy. I dated a guy just like Gru and I’m still in the process of healing. He wore my self esteem down so hard. I am trying really hard to love myself again but it’s very difficult. I feel ugly. I am petite 48kg but I don’t like my body because he said I’m not curvy enough. Dude this is how I’m built. I was like this when we met..? The sadness and anxiety about my body makes it hard for me to put … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 07:22 PM |
| 11 | I want everything, I offer absolutely nothing.Old fat man sperm hahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 04:05 PM |
| 20 | I want everything, I offer absolutely nothing.Welcome to Spain 😂😂 rip me Literally a lot of men I met here are like that. Very critical of women but themselves living with mama, bald and out of shape | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 04:03 PM |
| 1 | Ladies : take note !It just appeared out of nowhere to be honest. I was totally shocked and I guess for a while I just couldn’t even believe that those were his real feelings. And well it didn’t go too well after that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 02:54 PM |
| 1 | How do you distinguish the fine line between settling and making a mature decision to be with someone despite their flaws?It’s revolting 😷 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 02:51 PM |
| 22 | Has your ex LVM ever admitted to deceiving you?Some of these LVM have really shitty friends and brothers that know the real story unbeknown to the gf. They’re such creeps | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/20 09:57 AM |
| 12 | How do you distinguish the fine line between settling and making a mature decision to be with someone despite their flaws?The most revolting thing that happened to me which was utter disrespect, was taking a shit with the bathroom door open. It just so happened that the bathroom led on from the living room. It was disgusting. He just started doing it and I didn’t know why. He did it once when I was eating my dinner on the sofa so I had a view in my peripheral of him and the full sound and smell of him taking a dump. I thought I was going to vomit. What kind of animal acts like that and expects to still have a girlf… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/20 09:52 AM |
| 125 | Ladies : take note !My ex hated it. He was convinced men are mostly the victim of false rape and that women are malicious people that do this because ‘people believe them more than men’. He argues that there are so many men in prison because of false rape. He also had a bee in his bonnet about women taking custody of kids and not letting men see their kids just to be evil. A young couple we both knew got married and shortly after the girl got pregnant. My ex was absolutely livid and said the girl ‘fucking ruined he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/20 09:29 AM |
| 11 | Pavlov guys into continuously putting in effortThis is very well written and I agree with everything. I’m not sure the likelihood that I’ll meet a man like this. A man that is a gentleman and focused only on one woman. If I were to be cynical I would say 90% of men have safety net women. I hope I meet a special one that doesn’t. Also it terrifies me the number of men that don’t believe in the idea of love anymore (just my experience) .. it’s very saddening | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 12:26 PM |
| 3 | The silver lining of Coronavirus: I can reject gross men trying to greet me with cheek kissesMeanwhile in Spain 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 09:24 PM |
| 5 | Clear Sign Of A NarcissistAt least your narc actually cleaned his teeth on the reg ... god I scraped the barrel | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 09:23 PM |
| 9 | Clear Sign Of A NarcissistAlso good luck him Asking you questions or showing any interest in your life whatsoever. He would rather sit in complete silence and listen to his own farts than ask you a question about your life plus patiently hear the answer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 09:22 PM |
| 7 | This is actually quite sad. her husband has a fur kink addictionI felt sick after I read this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 12:04 PM |
| 10 | I dumped my LVM BF!It’s so weird I’ve had two guys do this to me as well. One guy tried to get me to cross the road when a bus was coming. We made it across fine but I was annoyed and said that he nearly killed me. His response was “nobody would care if you died”. The next one would cross the road without me ALL THE TIME. And pretend I’m not there. He wouldn’t look back to see where I was or wait on the other side of the road. He would always cross when it a car was coming and he was usually always slightly ahead … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 10:33 AM |
| 3 | Why men don't delete your contact after a few dates? Even when you told them you're not longer interested in seeing them again ?Or, texts to these girls on his college course that he’s doing because he failed uni in his early twenties now he’s trying again at 32 but thinks he’s hot shit and can seduce girls 10 years younger than him. Plus some gross girl that will sleep with anyone and that desperate pickmeisha that loves his attention for some unknown reason and is down to hang out even though she has a dude she’s sleeping with. Of course his momma and sharing porn pics with his bros. The whatsapp of an LVM is very inte… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 12:41 AM |
| 2 | Why men don't delete your contact after a few dates? Even when you told them you're not longer interested in seeing them again ?“Maybe not now because my phone broke and I got a new phone, but not long ago I had a LOT of girls in my contacts that I could have sex with if I wanted to.. different girls I had met at parties and bars or through friends ..” ex trying to make me think I was lucky to have him LOL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 12:37 AM |
| 7 | How he responds to praise is just as important as how he responds to "no."My ex went psycho when I innocently told him one day that he looks good in glasses. He wears contacts every day and I had no idea that he was sensitive about it. So one day he’s taking his glasses off and I told him he actually suits glasses. He yelled at me. I was absolutely shocked. “I DONT LIKE GLASSES, I HATE WEARING THEM AND YOU ARE NOT GOING TO STOP ME WEARING CONTACTS” I never said he shouldn’t wear contacts. I was just commenting he looked nice. I burst into tears and didn’t try to compl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 12:18 AM |
| 4 | Happy International Womens DayWhy do guys get upset about it ? What’s wrong with women’s day ?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 12:02 AM |
| 5 | Happy International Womens DayA guy just complained today, why isn’t there a men’s day? ............ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 09:21 PM |
| 120 | When males give you the creep stare in public, don’t look away. Deliberately give them a complete face and body scan and sneer at them like you’re contemptuously noticing their presence long enough to memorize details about them for a future police sketch.All my life I’ve never been able to keep eye contact with guys in public. I’m so shy I just don’t look at people in the face if I’m walking around/ at the gym etc. It sounds so stupid but I’ve got used to it. Even if I can sort of notice someone is looking at me I can’t even bring myself to look back. I find it so embarrassing, because I don’t know what to do when I lock eyes with someone ?? Smile? Grimace? I don’t know! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 10:18 AM |
| 1 | Nope. A man who’s interested will post you on social media, don’t try to justify their actions like thisThat stung a bit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 04:53 PM |
| 7 | Him: i love her as a friend! Yeh she has a nice body and she’s a flirt... but we’ve known each other for years!My God, what a creep. I’m so sorry that happened to you! The older I get now, the less optimistic I am about men in the dating field. It’s appalling. It upsets me that women like your ex’s lady friend, play along in this too. What’s wrong with these pickmes! I wish they would stick to single men instead of wrecking other people’s relationships. And it’s so obnoxious of these guys to placate. I mean, the sheer nerve to even justify themselves given their disgusting behaviour. My ex just wouldn’t … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 12:55 AM |
| 7 | Him: i love her as a friend! Yeh she has a nice body and she’s a flirt... but we’ve known each other for years!Exactly. I met all his other friends but not this girl. I’ve never heard of her before. She seems to go from one casual relationship to the next. It sickens me that he wanted to even spend time with her let alone flirt with her or maybe fuck her. He has no shame and it makes me sick.. Literally I was so upset by the stress of what has happened, his blatant lies and still not knowing if they fucked .. I’ve been throwing up | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 08:12 PM |
| 0 | Him: i love her as a friend! Yeh she has a nice body and she’s a flirt... but we’ve known each other for years!I know this sounds stupid, but he is Spanish and here I feel like there are some factors which muddy the water. I've noticed that people stay friends with those they have known since kids. Girls and boys. They stay in these groups all their lives. He has told me about at least one other girl in the group who he had sex with when they were teenagers but she is now in an 8 year relationship. People tend to flirt a bit with each other in the group. I still don't understand it and how it works. I ju… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 05:03 PM |
| 35 | Dumped the FWB LVM Last NightYou go girl!!! At first it will be hard but then you’ll feel so powerful telling him no! One thing I did, was I would reply to his late night text that I would go to his. After he’s been waiting an hour or two for me to arrive, I either ignored his “u coming?” Or say “changed my mind”. It felt so good 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 01:54 PM |
| 27 | Him: i love her as a friend! Yeh she has a nice body and she’s a flirt... but we’ve known each other for years!In my case his ex blocked him everywhere so he couldn’t reach out, and got a new boyfriend within two weeks of the breakup to seal the deal. Sister did right | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 01:50 PM |
| 24 | Him: i love her as a friend! Yeh she has a nice body and she’s a flirt... but we’ve known each other for years!I said: - it’s not fair to keep secrets - what is the point of the relationship if my valid concerns aren’t important to you - 1:1 activities with opposite sex are not appropriate, and reserved for your couple, regardless on how long you were friends - Girls like his friend only want attention and skating is just an excuse to spend time together - she should spend time with her own boyfriend - the texts were sexy so clearly the relationship isn’t platonic “brother/sister” as he claimed - he make… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 01:47 PM |
| 6 | Why won’t he give up his good looking, flirty female friends ??Well the weird thing was, he never asked me what I was doing and where I was. He never seemed to care at all. I never saw him jealous about me and or worried about if some other guys were after me. Or he just thought I had no game. But also he never gave me compliments or told me nice things about how I look or about how I am, i realised it was to put me down and make me feel less confident so I wouldn’t have the balls to flirt and just feel like I am trash. He told me he trusted me. i come acro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 08:06 AM |
| 17 | Nope. A man who’s interested will post you on social media, don’t try to justify their actions like thisMy guy of two years didn’t post a single thing about me after our first 3 months together. No couple photos, I was never in his profile pic on Facebook or WhatsApp, no photos of our holiday, no photos of us at dinners with friends. He even sent pics of OUR holiday to his female colleague he had a crush on, without photos of me!! Nobody would even know he had a girlfriend unless they saw us together in real life. Yet with his ex he had photos of them together way into their 4.5 year relationship.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 07:42 AM |
| 15 | Why won’t he give up his good looking, flirty female friends ??If we women try to do the same, the men we flirt with think that we want something romantically or just sexually. I just don’t even entertain guys when I am in a relationship but it’s surprising the number of guys I’ve been involved with that have this stupid harem system | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 09:35 PM |
| 9 | Why won’t he give up his good looking, flirty female friends ??Yeh I tried to sort of do what he did to me to see if I could use it as a coping mechanism but 1) I didn’t feel good about it... an eye for an eye wasn’t my style.. I just wanted a normal 2 people relationship 2) I actually got scared to admit to him I was (sort of) doing the same thing because I knew he’d get very angry with me Whenever I got upset about a female friend, he would apologise to appease me but Carry on if not worse behind my back. It was a stressful cycle | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 09:33 PM |
| 8 | If we are being generous...This is me!!! I’ve been unable to eat properly for two years!! And he still criticised me for being thin and that I have no ass! I’m still on the road to recovery but even this morning I threw up from stress .. looking forward to enjoying food again | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 08:10 PM |
| 28 | Why won’t he give up his good looking, flirty female friends ??Yep it’s shocking and unfortunately these men are able to gaslight some women into believing it’s ok.. me included. Just look at the main dating threads on reddit. Most ladies with a problem concerning a boyfriend having too many female friends is told she is jealous and childish... That how dare she feel hurt and betrayed by his behaviour! I don’t know what has happened but I feel this is attitude about guys having a harem of women admirers is becoming “the norm” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 08:02 PM |
| 8 | Y’all. The AUDACITY!!OP well done but sorry to hear about such a horrific date. What the hell is happening with these guys, just when you think some men couldn’t be more moronic! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 11:02 AM |
| 11 | Comedy hour: what is the most ridiculous thing a LVM has ever told you about the dating pool?Please elaborate, I would like to hear more about your lovely man! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 01:28 PM |
| 9 | Comedy hour: what is the most ridiculous thing a LVM has ever told you about the dating pool?Oh god one of those awful men that buys a wife from the internet. Ironically he still has to buy her .... He may as well upgrade himself and his disgusting attitude and find a good local wife | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 01:21 PM |
| 21 | Comedy hour: what is the most ridiculous thing a LVM has ever told you about the dating pool?Oh god one of those awful men that buys a wife from the internet. Ironically he still has to buy her .... He may as well upgrade himself and his disgusting attitude and find a good local wife | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 01:21 PM |
| 19 | Comedy hour: what is the most ridiculous thing a LVM has ever told you about the dating pool?Yeh and the men that behave like this are usually losing their looks, rapidly receding hairline and dad bod. Here I am looking like a freaking goddess, but choosing to love him. Learned the hard way how to detect an insecure man that needs multiple women for validation | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 01:17 PM |
| 1 | Update: he still wants to be with me even though after 2 years he doesn’t love meI am now thank you. It was a nervous response | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 01:35 AM |
| 1 | Update: he still wants to be with me even though after 2 years he doesn’t love meThank you so much. It’s tough even though I know his behaviour is shite, it’s like I’ve become accustomed to it. It’s a scary thought. Basically I’ve come to learn that his idea of saying I love you is the same as making a promise that you want to be with that person for life. I don’t understand this idea. I tried to explain before that love is a choice and an action, and it’s whether you accept someone completely - their heart, soul, personality, their good and bad qualities. He couldn’t grasp … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 01:34 AM |
| 33 | Even men knowDoesn’t every girl just love shreddies on a man | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 10:13 PM |
| 8 | Update: he still wants to be with me even though after 2 years he doesn’t love meYes I have now. Trouble is she is like a traditional grandma and very motherly (very sweet and generous so I have almost adopted her). She likes to be involved in my life and I’ve had to really be specific about this topic. I know she means well but it’s making things worse | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 08:22 PM |
| 3 | Update: he still wants to be with me even though after 2 years he doesn’t love meShe owns the flat and I pay her rent to stay there. She lives in the flat with me versus her living in another property | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 08:20 PM |
| 9 | Update: he still wants to be with me even though after 2 years he doesn’t love meHaha yes!!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 08:01 PM |
| 4 | Update from my last post“It’s not us, it's them. They don't have empathy and they don't love the way we do. They love only for what they can get out of it if you can even call that love” Yes sis, preach ! You hit the nail on the head. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 07:50 PM |
| 10 | Update from my last postI had a guy tell me he likes blondes with blue eyes. Well that’s me. As if I’m some type of bespoke doll, he told me I would look prettier with more blonde hair. And that I need to put on weight. “Where did your ass go?”. I need to go to the gym. Also that I needed thinner eyebrows. Also when we were in the middle of talking about something he stared right in my face and said “you have a black hair in your mole on your face”. Wtf how are you even looking at my face that closely..!? Also I am sup… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 07:47 PM |
| 6 | Update from my last postWhat a fuck tard, I’m so sorry he said such a horrible thing to you. You are beautiful and amazing!! God, these LVM are just disgusting and inept. Sending love to you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 07:37 PM |
| 62 | Update: he still wants to be with me even though after 2 years he doesn’t love meHe told me to eat, to “do it for yourself, do it for your family”. Total moron. I said I wasn’t talking to him because he didn’t love me. All he said was “it’s sad. So sorry” Literally the shittiest response. It made me incredibly angry and I don’t want to feel anything. He has done more awful things that I only just discovered. He was messaging a girl that he thought was ‘sexy’. They recently met only a few weeks ago. He partied with her at Christmas whilst I was with family. Last week he was f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 07:28 PM |
| 21 | Update: he still wants to be with me even though after 2 years he doesn’t love meThank you, it’s 8pm and he never showed up, never texted me. It’s annoying because if someone tells you a person is coming you can’t help but expect them. So against my will I’ve been ‘waiting’ all evening to see if he shows up. Knew it was unlikely because he’s cheap and wouldn’t even consider paying the fuel. I told my landlady to not say anything to him. And yes you’re right I am not punishing myself by not eating I just feel sick to my stomach by his behaviour. Thank you for your support tho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 07:12 PM |
| 8 | I just cut things off permanently with a man who kept me on the line for over 2 years.Much love to you sis!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 12:18 AM |
| 15 | Doing what he should do is the bare minimum. It does not automatically indicate a HVM.“The bar for men is in hell” loolll | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 12:13 AM |
| 10 | Pornsick boyfriend uses IPad in the shower to masturbate daily, doesn’t take girlfriend on dates, doesn’t cook or clean after himself, plays video games 4 hours a day, has gone down on her twice in six months, and can only fuck for 15 minutes tops.Yeh my ex couldn’t get hard easily for a while I assumed because he still missed his ex of almost 5 years, and potentially he watched too much porn. Even later on he struggled and I felt unattractive. If the emotional connection isn’t there and he is actively keeping himself withdrawn from me because he doesn’t want to love, the sex always suffers. It’s just like being a sex doll. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 09:30 AM |
| 12 | Pornsick boyfriend uses IPad in the shower to masturbate daily, doesn’t take girlfriend on dates, doesn’t cook or clean after himself, plays video games 4 hours a day, has gone down on her twice in six months, and can only fuck for 15 minutes tops.My man could only fuck for 10 minutes if that. Mostly only 5. Only once in 2 years he helped me finish. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 08:02 AM |
| 1 | Pickmeisha that messed around with my boyfriend and knew about meHer insta bio reads: Nobody belongs to us. That's why you have to enjoy when you can, and let go when it is due. It is better to live with a “you remember" than with a " you imagine” She asked my ex to take her insta bikini photos .. ( and he did ) good luck to them both | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 02:41 AM |
| 3 | Boyfriend of 2 years said he doesn't love meFunny you mention that because he would do shitty things like always make me carry the heavy shopping basket in the supermarket. When we walk into the shop he’d just saunter past the baskets, and fuck off wiThout me. Then put shopping in my basket. Then wander off again trying to lose me, pretending I’m not even there, leaving me to drag the shopping around. When I told him about this he just said, “I like having a slave”. It didn’t even sound like a joke he was just being an arrogant prick And … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 01:42 AM |
| 2 | Boyfriend of 2 years said he doesn't love me“Love is when you know the differences you have with the other person and you accept them.” Exactly sis, well said | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 01:23 AM |
| 1 | Boyfriend of 2 years said he doesn't love meNo he was with his ex almost 5 years but i never understood why they broke up (shes very beautiful and I don’t believe he couldn’t fall in love with her). She left him but I can only imagine it’s because of his lack of effort and being selfish. I met him and our relationship half a year after his breakup and i could really feel he was heartbroken. Even until one year ago he was still talking about his ex with his friends in ear shot of me. So for him to say he’s never felt love is really weird. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 01:21 AM |
| 11 | Mi historia como "pick-me"//My pick-me tales (español)I’m so happy you have discovered the truth- that you are valuable as you are, and you don’t need male validation to see yourself as worthy. Your post is very interesting as I just dated a Spanish man for 2 years. I’m still here in Spain. My boyfriend demoralised me and would not stop chasing other women while we were together. Nothing i did was good enough for him and he emotionally and psychologically abused me. Even if I was in tears from his behaviour, he would leave me in the bedroom crying,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 12:06 AM |
| 4 | Marriage gogglesYes the first two years I feel you can see if he passes or fails. I was happy to see my boyfriend was very clean in the house, always cooked for us, excellent at saving (although a total cheap skate with me), and was totally uninterested in gaming or computers. I Thought i’d found a man. Sadly that’s where the pros ended. He told me two weeks before our 2 year anniversary (Valentines Day) that he didn’t love me. He wasn’t going to tell me but I had asked him. Oddly he also didn’t want to lose me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 11:50 PM |
| 9 | Woman engaged to “gamer” does all the household chores and works full time but her fiancé can’t be bothered to come down for dinner she prepared because he’s playing Fortnite. The worst advice subreddit on this entire website blames her.This is literally spot on with LVM. With my last LVM boyfriend I was clutching at straws trying to keep the relationship alive after HE made awful mistakes that weren’t my fault. During a conversation following ‘his apology’ to me about his behaviour with other women, (he wanted to have this conversation) I asked him, “where do you see this relationship going? What do you want to do to continue?” His reply was a list of things I needed to fix! LOL. Including: - Be more happy because it’s contagi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 11:29 PM |
| 22 | Feeling sad for LVM after breaking up with himThis is sadly how you get trapped with a crappy boyfriend with very high risk of you getting extremely hurt in the long run. Either intentionally or unintentionally by him. Guys can take care of themselves so don’t feel sorry for him. It’s very difficult but you need to do it for yourself. A man like This hardly changes and if anything becomes more of an arse as time goes on .... trust your instincts at the beginning sis, you did right | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 11:54 AM |
| 1 | Boyfriend of 2 years said he doesn't love mePlease tell me more about hoovering ?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 08:00 AM |
| 13 | Am I weird that I never get along with French men ?I’ve had a lot of trouble with Spanish men. They seem to be more open in relationships, flirting with women besides their girlfriend, extremely domineering over women (who they mostly view as inferior) and basically acting like a rat. It has severely destroyed my faith in dating a Mediterranean man. They do however have beautiful brown skin and look after their appearance. Such a shame. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 11:02 PM |
| 8 | Boyfriend of 2 years said he doesn't love meI can’t take it anymore. He won’t even answer the phone if I rarely call him. I asked him over and over to please start verbally and physically showing me affection, and he said ok but never followed through. There is nothing left that this man gives me. I gave him everything and he still criticised me to say I am not doing enough. “I should be happier because it will make him happy”. In what way was your ex abusive ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 10:30 PM |
| 3 | Boyfriend of 2 years said he doesn't love meI can’t believe you have perfectly described the man I have been dating. I have all the exact same problems, especially with him stonewalling the hell out of me. He will often ignore me when I speak, even if it’s not an argument. During arguments he will gaslight me (even if I have evidence) and start criticising my character. His meagre sorry at the beginning of the apology quickly turns into him telling me all my flaws which seem to be never ending. He focuses greatly on my failures rather tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 07:45 PM |
| 4 | Boyfriend of 2 years said he doesn't love meHe is emotionally abusive, entitled and unable to show empathy so that totally makes sense. The funny part is that now I’m ignoring him, after he completely demolished me in our last conversation, he keeps texting me bullshit. A video of him roller skating today. A picture of my favourite food at his house. Sweet child, you ripped me up and now you want my attention about literally nothing? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 07:43 PM |
| 15 | Boyfriend of 2 years said he doesn't love meThat’s what I told him. First time was like 1 month into the relationship and I didn’t say it back. I feel like when he realised I wasn’t perfect after 1 month he just stopped feeling lovey. He’s capable of telling other girl “friends” of his, that they are beautiful and they looked gorgeous after a night out... (WEIRD .. I think he loves to flirt and see what he can get) but he’s stubborn to say these things to me. He knows I would like it so he with holds it like a punishment/ goal for me that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 11:44 AM |
| 49 | Boyfriend of 2 years said he doesn't love mehe already flirts with women when I am not around. He can be quite charming and likes looking at/talking to women. He likes the validation. When I dumped his ass he was ‘very sorry’ and wanted to drive to me to talk to me about everything. he said he wants to be with me yet he isn’t changing his tune about his idea on love. I don’t understand this man. I’ve set boundaries before yet he crosses them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 11:37 AM |
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