Update from my last post

Ms_Tilly · 2020-02-06T13:27:00+00:00

High value men do not tell women they're dating how much more attractive they find other women. They don't tell you their preferences for how women look, especially if it's the opposite of how you look. They just don't do that. They don't tell you how their other dates went or why they ghosted other women. As soon as a man you are talking to starts speaking in that way, leave the conversation and/or leave the date. Block. Most of the men on OLD are low value. We have to weed them out to find the good men. It's not us, it's them. They don't have empathy and they don't love the way we do. They love only for what they can get out of it if you can even call that love.

A guy approached me in a bar while I was on vacation. I watched him work up the nerve to approach me. He was a tall, skinny red head who just looked okay. We ended up having a romantic fling. He was socially inept and at one point told me he preferred Asian women that speak French. Huh? I told him I wished him luck finding that perfect Asian/French lady and he got all "I didn't mean it like that". He proved himself low value other times as well and I got rid of him. He's still single over ten years later because no woman of value wants him and that is his own fault.

venomous_g · 2020-02-06T13:26:29+00:00

Wasn’t this the one that liked to go on sex trafficking trips to South Asia and called you fat? We’re still talking about him?

If you aren’t a troll, please find a hobby other than dating trash. I know there must be something you like or think is interesting... there’s a club or upcoming event for that thing that is local to you. Find it.

Radtron3000 · 2020-02-06T13:01:15+00:00

Eww, he's fetishising women as if they're a preferred dog breed. Bullet dodged. Disgusting. Fucking trash men, lol

Resident_Biscotti · 2020-02-06T19:47:22+00:00

I had a guy tell me he likes blondes with blue eyes. Well that’s me. As if I’m some type of bespoke doll, he told me I would look prettier with more blonde hair. And that I need to put on weight. “Where did your ass go?”. I need to go to the gym. Also that I needed thinner eyebrows. Also when we were in the middle of talking about something he stared right in my face and said “you have a black hair in your mole on your face”. Wtf how are you even looking at my face that closely..!? Also I am supposed to be more “elegant”. I don’t even know what he’s talking about when he goes around looking like shit. And I shouldn’t wear my hair behind my ears because it makes me “look like a clown.” Also if I wear dark red nail polish I look like Satan.

myousername · 2020-02-06T18:42:18+00:00

GIRL. If you have 0 friends then you gotta take up a hobby. That way you'll meet people and make friends, and build up your self confidence

yeorre · 2020-02-06T12:58:04+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear that and hope your situation can improve. Of course that’s not a long term solution but what used to help me was being active in communities (like this one) and communicate with people who has a similar mindset or hobbies like me. Sure it’s “just the internet” but those are also real people and can be just as supportive as friends in rl. I also believe it may help you to gain more self confidence which in return will also attract people in your circles to approach you.

Either way be proud for standing your ground and not let this guy ruin you.

Saitschik · 2020-02-06T13:43:18+00:00

I once said to a man who didn't want to commit "okay, lets stay friends" on purpose to hit his ego and knocking him of his high horse.

You don't know if he really doesn't care or not, so why bothering. Even if he doesn't, you dont want him, so it is even better. Don't be one of those people who are desperate for ego validation at every price, this is very unattractive...

jeerie · 2020-02-06T13:51:13+00:00

I am in a similar situation to yours!! I know how you feel and you are not alone! It can be really though especially at night (for me at least bc I feel loneliest then) but use the time and work on you! Block his number I know its hard but you don't need someone who doesn't need you.

Title	Update from my last post
Author	kiyankiriam
Upvotes	15
Comments	17
Date	February 6, 2020 12:52 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/ezrxac/update_from_my_last_post/
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