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| 1 | Women only want me when I treat them like sh*tAlso - sexual tension. If you introduce that into your interactions and actively maintain it - you’ll never get the “no spark, you’re so sweet” friendzone speeches | /r/seduction | 19/07/26 03:08 PM |
| 16 | Women only want me when I treat them like sh*tStable relationships can also begin from hookups. You’re fucking up your own chances and being your own worst enemy by treating women you want to be in a relationship with differently from women who you want to hook up with. And that’s why you get the “you’re so sweet” speech. Neediness and putting them on pedestals. | /r/seduction | 19/07/26 05:35 AM |
| 2 | Actually having amazing results. This is what I changedBasically stop being your own worst enemy and just keep going through the process and try to enjoy it. | /r/seduction | 20/06/26 10:12 AM |
| 15 | I've been doing pickup for almost 15 years and now I feel convinced that its a scam and/or a waste of time?Learning pickup/game and improving your social skills will demonstrably help most men improve their outcomes with women. But here’s the thing - most doesn’t mean all. Some men simply can’t do this, no matter how much they try. “You can lead a horse to water” kind of thing. Some won’t feel comfortable or authentic doing it and also won’t get results. Or they have mental issues deeper than just learning social skills. Or have HORRIBLE self esteem, which precludes everything else in pickup/game. A … | /r/seduction | 15/06/26 05:56 PM |
| 1 | For those who've lost weight, especially naturally, at what point did you see a big increase in pulls?You don’t magically start to pull more because of your BMI and weight and abs. Being fit will have more women be OPEN and receptive to you and you’ll get more attention. But if you have zero game your pull rate won’t change all that much unless you meet girls who just want to fuck a hot piece of meat and don’t give a shit about who you are. I was super fit in my 20s and pulled okay, nothing to brag about since I had shit game and inner game. Then closer to my 30s I was pretty fat at around 100kg… | /r/seduction | 23/05/26 10:08 AM |
| 1 | My most vulnerable post here so farI don’t use ig or other similar social media. You can DM me here on Reddit if you want. | /r/seduction | 10/05/26 03:40 PM |
| 2 | My most vulnerable post here so farAnother dating coach here. This is called obsession. And frankly, it has to do with self-esteem because you still, even after all this success, feel the need to prove something. Either to yourself or others. It’s the classic case of “not enough” no matter how good you have it. And it’s why, for example, billionaires become even more obsessed with hoarding riches and getting more money once they’re filthy rich. You should read up on self esteem. It’s what helped me personally get over such issues… | /r/seduction | 10/05/26 08:12 AM |
| 1 | One Reason Why You Are Not Succeeding In LoveYeah that’s a great point. Put that as TL;DR at the bottom. I’m pretty sure I’m not the only one who thought the post was super vague. | /r/seduction | 07/05/26 05:24 PM |
| 2 | I'm watching my life slip away while everyone else wins - need to break this cycle before it's permanentThis is the life you chose for yourself. If you want to have relationships with women, YOU HAVE TO DEVOTE TIME TOWARDS IT. If you don’t put in the work and study into improving your social skills and talking to women (just like you’re devoting time towards med school) then you will remain alone and antisocial. It’s as simple as that. Being good with women is a social skills that you need to devote time to. No shortcuts. Oh and if you can’t affors a gym, go run in parks and do callisthenics. Most… | /r/seduction | 07/05/26 12:36 PM |
| 2 | Not GENUINELY getting butt hurt after a rejection is the most incredible paradigm shift for seduction.How did you exactly fuck up by being upfront and telling her what you want? YOU FILTERED HER OUT. You’re not compatible at this point. | /r/seduction | 07/05/26 12:30 PM |
| 1 | One Reason Why You Are Not Succeeding In LoveA lot of words to say WHAT exactly? Can you summarise your point into a sentence or two? The entire post was confusing and super vague. | /r/seduction | 07/05/26 09:22 AM |
| 2 | A girl ghosted me after I got std tested like she asked.(Vent)All you had to do was wait 10 or so days without doing anything and you couldn’t even manage that. You getting tested has nothing to do with her reaction. You were too desperate and she saw that. | /r/seduction | 01/05/26 06:41 AM |
| 11 | “You’ll have plenty of time for girls later” NO YOU DO NOTReally good point. The problem is that if you dedicate your early years solely to study/work then you’re gonna end up socially stunted and awkward and emotionally immature. Because those are your formative years socially. Can confirm that this is a real issue. Can’t count the number of clients I’ve had who complained exactly about this being the reason they can’t even talk to girls now. | /r/seduction | 20/04/26 05:08 AM |
| 1 | My new theory that's killing my desperation.Oh shit i meant with yourself when alone not by yourself alone :) big difference yeah. Humans are social creatures after all | /r/seduction | 14/04/26 06:35 PM |
| 1 | My new theory that's killing my desperation.If you aren’t happy by yourself, you don’t have high self esteem by definition. I suggest reading for example The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Branden to learn what self esteem is and how it works. Self assertiveness and living purposefully are parts of it. And being proactive is at the core of that. You can find the whole book for free as a pdf if you google it. I think it’s essential reading for anyone who wants to become successful with women. | /r/seduction | 14/04/26 03:18 PM |
| 1 | My new theory that's killing my desperation.I mean being proactive is pretty much the outcome of having high self esteem. And being okay with being alone is strongly implied in what I said that you don’t need anyone to “complete” you and can have a good life on your own. | /r/seduction | 14/04/26 09:20 AM |
| 4 | My new theory that's killing my desperation.Desperation is a self esteem thing. If you believe you’re enough and can have a good life on your own and that women don’t “complete” you, you’ll stop being desperate for women and their attention. Which will make women see you as much more attractive, even if you don’t have women in your life yet. | /r/seduction | 14/04/26 06:21 AM |
| 2 | I think that mysterious attitude guy persona is stupidDating coach here - there are a lot of different styles of seduction. The broody moody type is just one of them and works for SOME people but will not work for most. If it really resonates with who you are and you feel you’re being authentic while doing this then more power to you and you’ll go far. But if you try to IMITATE it - you will fail miserably. Same thing with being dominant, same thing with many other styles that “gurus” claim are the best way to seduce. They’re not for beginners who … | /r/seduction | 25/03/26 09:51 AM |
| 16 | How do you go out to bars/clubs alone and still meet women without looking awkward?I went out alone a TON of times to clubs. Here’s a what you do: If you’re afraid to look like a loser when you’re in the waiting line, you gotta strike up conversations with people in front of you and behind you. No matter who they are - strike up a convo about whatever you want. About the club, the city, other clubs, what’s good to do etc. Say you’re new in the city and don’t know much about it. You’re here to meet new people and make friends. There’s literally too much stuff to talk about. Not… | /r/seduction | 18/02/26 08:53 AM |
| 2 | How Phone Calls Completely Changed My Dating Life (And Why Texting Was Killing My Conversions)Yay some solid advice on this sub. You can also have the same success with very low stakes dates by the way. I used to live near a couple of big parks and I took like 80% of my dates for just a simple walk in the park. No money spent, nothing fancy at all, simply walking and talking in the park, which builds comfort MUCH FASTER than a phone call because you’re actually face to face and can touch each other. And we’d usually later go back to my place and hook up after a first date like that. I’d … | /r/seduction | 30/01/26 09:25 AM |
| -2 | Fix your Incel mindset before you go and seduce/harass womenThat’s a shit solution which mostly ends up in bad relationships built on lies and manipulation. Those never end well. | /r/seduction | 20/11/25 08:38 AM |
| 4 | Guys who find it easy to get sex on the first date -how?I’ve written a whole book about it called “How to consistently get laid on the first date.” There’s nothing complicated about it but it certainly isn’t easy until you get the hang of it. You can learn to do this like you’d practice any other skill since - surprise surprise - seduction is simply a skill. Basically, you meet the girl for the first date - I usually go for a simple coffee date or drinks at the bar or even a walk in the park/on the beach in summer. Then you simply talk to her like yo… | /r/seduction | 10/11/25 02:15 PM |
| 5 | I got approached by a girl just 20 minutes agoAnother confirmation why your “12% bf and look better than 90% of the population” bullshit is completely irrelevant if you don’t develop your personality. | /r/seduction | 26/10/25 08:37 AM |
| 1 | Which seduction method programs or systems have you followed and gotten laid with?Oh Randy, now you’re just being silly… | /r/seduction | 24/10/25 04:54 PM |
| 0 | How do you get women to feel "the spark"Light a fire under their ass. Figuratively, of course :) | /r/seduction | 21/08/25 08:05 AM |
| 6 | Approaching 2 500 women without ANY ResultsNo amount of dating coaches and courses are going to help you until you fix the most fundamental thing of all - your self esteem. If you always feel out of place, unsure of yourself and so on - it’s a massive self esteem issue. Go to therapy or work on that yourself. Then you’ll see results. | /r/seduction | 13/08/25 06:10 PM |
| 5 | Thanks to this sub i get to enjoy my fwb walking around my room naked .. Thanks seduction!It simply means don’t pretend to be someone you’re not. Like don’t pretend to be dominant if you’re not naturally dominant. There are plenty of other ways to seduce women than by being a dominant guy. Find your own style of seduction through lots of experimentation and trying out things when talking to girls. | /r/seduction | 07/08/25 08:08 AM |
| 2 | 5 years in this Sub, 99% of seduction is Flirting/TeasingTeasing is a part of flirting. So essentially you’re saying all of seduction is flirting. Very deep | /r/seduction | 27/06/25 03:51 PM |
| 1 | Reputation is everythingWell you didn’t recommend it. You said reputation is EVERYTHING. When it’s clearly not. | /r/seduction | 21/01/25 12:32 PM |
| 8 | Reputation is everythingReputation just made you more interesting. But it’s not necessary for seduction at all. There are lots of successful seducers traveling the world and hooking up with plenty of women. And these guys have 0 reputation to help them since they’re constantly in a new place where no one knows them. So a certain reputation definitely CAN help, but isn’t necessarily to be successful with women at all. | /r/seduction | 21/01/25 11:19 AM |
| -1 | Want a Relationship? Here’s How to Keep Her Interested Long-TermHard disagree. It destroys SOME relationships, but not all. Open relationships are simply an interest/lifestyle. There’s nothing wrong with having a certain lifestyle. But you can’t force it on people who are against it. So for it to be successful you have to find a partner who also wants to have a similar lifestyle. And there are plenty of happy people in open relationships though they definitely don’t work out for most. Simply due to jealousy/self-esteem issues, etc. | /r/seduction | 18/01/25 12:59 PM |
| 1 | Want a Relationship? Here’s How to Keep Her Interested Long-TermThere are plenty of happy people in open relationships. It certainly doesn’t work for many, but for those it does it’s wonderful. You just have to find the right partner for it. | /r/seduction | 18/01/25 12:57 PM |
| 1 | Seeing unattractive guys with beautiful girls.Because you don’t have the necessary social skills to have one. You don’t have the necessity self-esteem and self-assuredness to have one. You didn’t develop these things growing up so you’re not getting anywhere with women. You’re not born with these things - NO ONE IS. You need to work on yourself to develop them. Some people are lucky to enough to develop them naturally while growing up through their interactions with their environment and the people who surround them. We call them naturals. … | /r/seduction | 18/01/25 12:49 PM |
| 1 | Seeing unattractive guys with beautiful girls.It almost always has nothing to do with luck on their part or bad luck on yours. There are PLENTY of average-looking guys with beautiful women of quality - and the reason they can attract and keep quality women is because these guys have high self-esteem and are secure in themselves. Which means they can be genuine and authentic with the girl - which is all it takes for attraction to build and maintain it. Good looks simply provide more opportunities and help you make a better first impression. … | /r/seduction | 17/01/25 07:59 AM |
| 5 | Is this why men are giving up on their life and resorting to hookers or even worse taking their own lives?This is exactly what incels write and say when they don’t have any game and don’t have the willpower or the guts to start learning how to overcome all these things. I frequent a few incel communities to see what’s going on there and to help and the excuses are pretty much verbatim what you wrote here. And you have the power to change this outcome. But it takes work and commitment to getting better, which most people just don’t do. And then they cry about it. | /r/seduction | 23/12/24 08:15 AM |
| 2 | On Neediness: Trick yourself to like her lessBasically, stop putting women on pedestals and treat them like regular people. | /r/seduction | 20/12/24 03:15 PM |
| 1 | Step By Step On How To Do A Good ApproachOh I see you’re just a rage-bait troll. Glad I didn’t waste my time debating you. I’m off, have a good one. | /r/seduction | 06/12/24 08:12 PM |
| 1 | Step By Step On How To Do A Good ApproachOh right, my mistake, you didn’t say better than 99,9% of women in the world but of higher value than 99,9% of women in the world. Totally makes it better :D | /r/seduction | 06/12/24 07:17 PM |
| 1 | Step By Step On How To Do A Good ApproachLol the fact you think there’s some emotional outburst here shows me I’ll just waste my time debating you. And I’m not gonna waste my time. So you’re right - you’re better than 99,9% of all women in the world :D Keep believing what you’re believing and I wish you all the best of luck with that :) | /r/seduction | 06/12/24 06:11 PM |
| 1 | Step By Step On How To Do A Good ApproachLol thanks chatgpt. The value of a human being is not solely derived from their utilitarian value to society. If you think it is, you have a pretty sad and collectivist/utilitarian view of the world. But those are just certain philosophies and we’ve all seen how they’re bad for people when taken to the extreme, ie Hitler, Mao, Putin, etc. - all of them without a shred of healthy self-esteem (edit to add: and who think they’re better than everyone and who don’t value life at all). So you can fuck… | /r/seduction | 06/12/24 03:54 PM |
| 3 | Step By Step On How To Do A Good ApproachAs a dating coach I urge every newbie to read and re-read everything here and practice it, because it’s one of the best summaries I’ve come across in recent times. Listen to this guy because he knows what he’s talking about! | /r/seduction | 06/12/24 11:04 AM |
| 1 | Step By Step On How To Do A Good ApproachDude you have shit self esteem if you have to keep convincing yourself you “have more value than 99,9% of women in the world.” Go get therapy | /r/seduction | 06/12/24 11:02 AM |
| 2 | why everyone who claims to be slightly good in attracting women claims to be a coachOk so I teach seduction as a hobby - I have a great career, am semi-retired so I don’t need the money and have a family so I don’t go sarge anymore. And most of my advice is for free on my blog - along with a paid book on how to get laid on the first date for those who really want to get laid a LOT. And it just works because I wrote down what worked consistently for me after going on literally THOUSANDS of dates and getting laid with hundreds of women in my 20s. However - here’s the real truth -… | /r/seduction | 26/10/24 08:27 AM |
| 1 | I feel bad for these young girls, confession.You have to be really transparent with them about your intentions - but they still might be upset afterwards, as I’ve experienced. That’s just how sex is for women - it’s more emotional and builds attachment and connection and more women than men associate sex with love. I basically just friendzone women like this, especially younger women. Make it extremely clear you just see her as a friend who you happen to have sex with - and that you’re not interested in anything more. That worked great for… | /r/seduction | 15/10/24 07:46 AM |
| 6 | How do I stop being logical and start being fun around girls? (Didnt find any similar threads)Ok so the absolute most important thing to have fun with women is self-amusement. You have to focus ON YOUR OWN FUN first and create a fun vibe because you’re amusing yourself in some way - and then draw women in. This is of course easier said than done if you’re an extremely logical person. But look at it this way - do you have trouble amusing yourself with a really good and close buddy who you’re hanging out with? I’m sure you’re not just sitting quietly being all super logical when you’re wit… | /r/seduction | 01/10/24 07:29 AM |
| 1 | I need something that will click and "unlock" my brain.Self-esteem issue. How old are you? | /r/seduction | 21/09/24 07:03 AM |
| 2 | After 300+ Cold Approach Rejections. I think my Self-Confidence has gotten even WORSE (Self-Reflection and mini Vent)So your goal when approaching women should not be to get a date. It should be to talk to them and see if you’ll click and would like to hang out together. Frame it like that and things will eventually be much easier. | /r/seduction | 20/09/24 10:03 PM |
| 2 | After 300+ Cold Approach Rejections. I think my Self-Confidence has gotten even WORSE (Self-Reflection and mini Vent)Dude… After like a hundred approaches you should have realized you’re making a classic rookie mistake - you go and ask for the number right away, which is a huge no-no. She doesn’t know who you are - she only has your first impression to go on. And let’s face it, you’re not making a good one with that weak-ass ask for the number. Why would she give her number to a rando stranger who just asked for it right away? It’s like if a beggar asked you for money with zero context. You gotta TALK to the g… | /r/seduction | 20/09/24 08:10 PM |
| 1 | The biggest texting mistakes YOU makeYeah, tons, I have a whole article about it here since the examples are quite lengthy: Roleplaying on dates | /r/seduction | 19/09/24 08:11 PM |
| 13 | The biggest texting mistakes YOU makeThis right here. Roleplaying is, by far, one of the best things on the planet to build attraction and a connection with women, because it can literally go anywhere and just depends on your imagination. It’s a great way to showcase your personality and show that you’re not desperate or needy - and you can even build massive sexual tension with it. And it works not just while texting and on Tinder like in your example. I use it extensively on my dates, during cold approaches and so on. It’s one of… | /r/seduction | 18/09/24 07:37 AM |
| 0 | Stop Being a White Knight About SexHow do you know what is or isn’t a dating goal for every guy on the planet? There are literally guys out there competing with each other on who’s the best at seduction, who can pull more women in a week or a month, who can seduce and get a lay from a cold approach the quickest, who has a better approach to lay stats, and so on and so forth. I even was in a group like that in my city back when I was heavily into pickup. For exampe, my record is 4 different lays in a single day. And I didn’t even … | /r/seduction | 16/09/24 10:35 PM |
| 20 | Stop Being a White Knight About SexIt is not the same thing dating coaches know who they are up against (women). They have a history and stats. They can train their player to expose the weaknesses of their opponents (affect women emotionally) | /r/seduction | 15/09/24 07:20 PM |
| 45 | Stop Being a White Knight About SexEvery tennis match is different which is why tennis coaches are a waste of time. | /r/seduction | 15/09/24 04:56 PM |
| 1 | My therapist says I have to try talking to girlsYour therapist is right. You seem to have some severe childhood trauma and issues with rejection. You need to go out and get rejected so you actually see and understand that rejection won’t kill you and you won’t suddenly burst into flames and so on and so forth. And life will go on and people won’t care as you think they will. I’d strongly suggest doing more than 2 approaches though. But yeah, start with baby steps. | /r/seduction | 05/09/24 12:07 PM |
| 5 | Why self improvement won't solve your dating problemsSo then title the post accordingly, that “GENERIC” self improvement won’t solve your dating problems. Because right now your post is either purposely obtuse and clickbaity or your definitions of self improvement are entirely different. | /r/seduction | 03/09/24 02:59 PM |
| 7 | Tips on getting someone out of your leagueThe first tip is to stop thinking about leagues and work on your self esteem because clearly yours is poor. | /r/seduction | 29/08/24 06:37 AM |
| -1 | "Just be yourself"It’s one of the most misunderstood advice there is. Read my post about “just be yourself” in my profile that was popular here about a year ago. This advice is about authenticity. | /r/seduction | 26/08/24 11:09 AM |
| 1 | "You are only one approach away from getting laid" is mostly wrongWell there’s no way of only approaching the girls from the second group because you won’t know if they’re from the second group before you approach :D You approach a girl and talk to her and then it’s up to her to either accept you or reject you from what she saw about you from your approach. Improve yourself and your approach and more girls will accept you. | /r/seduction | 25/08/24 05:06 PM |
| 2 | Video games are holding you backSure that makes sense, I agree that some people sink too deeply into video games and it screws them up. Btw I added this as an edit that I don’t think you saw when you were replying. What do you think of the following? But I don’t agree that most women won’t find certain hobbies attractive. I talk a LOT about video games on my dates. It’s all about how you present things. Every hobby can be either attractive or unattractive, depending on how you present it. You’re actually being inauthentic if y… | /r/seduction | 25/08/24 03:58 PM |
| 11 | Video games are holding you backThere’s a difference between a destructive obsession and an enjoyable hobby. If you don’t turn video games into a destructive obsession, it won’t affect your life or success with women much. I’m a dating coach and I’m a hardcore gamer. I still play like 2-4 hours daily these days. When I was at the top of my game sleeping with literally hundreds of women (am settled down now) I used to play video games easily 5-8 hours a day lol. Got over 10k hours in Dota, over 20k in Counter strike and so on w… | /r/seduction | 25/08/24 03:41 PM |
| 7 | The one texting frameworks that consistently gets me laid with online dating.This is simply what good flirting looks like. Believe it or not, it will also work if you cold approach girls and use this framework and talk like that. Because I see a lot of similarities between how I talk to women after cold approaching and how you do it online. And I’ve gotten tons of instant dates. I’d say it works even better in person because you can actually convey emotions properly when playfully teasing women and bantering and eventually escalating. | /r/seduction | 25/08/24 07:49 AM |
| 1 | "You are only one approach away from getting laid" is mostly wrongYou’re not coming across with girls who are gonna accept you? I’m not sure what you mean by this. Try and rephrase or expand. Or give some example of the issue. | /r/seduction | 24/08/24 04:09 PM |
| 0 | "You are only one approach away from getting laid" is mostly wrongYou may think you’re not acting needy when you go out with the main goal to focus on getting laid, but you can’t hide your subconscious communications from most women, who are usually more socially intuitive than men. It’s not an opinion, I teach this stuff and wrote a whole book on how to get laid on the first date. | /r/seduction | 24/08/24 12:00 PM |
| 1 | "You are only one approach away from getting laid" is mostly wrongWhen you think that you’re “only one approach from getting laid” you put too much emphasis on getting laid, putting a ton of pressure on yourself which will show in all of your actions and will make you needy and desperate and your results much worse than if you didn’t have an explicit goal to get laid and were more chill and relaxed instead. | /r/seduction | 24/08/24 11:06 AM |
| 1 | I don’t know how to approach game nonchalantly.It’s not that you don’t CARE about the end goal. It’s that you are FINE either way. As in, not desperate for the outcome. That’s the trick. | /r/seduction | 21/08/24 10:10 AM |
| 1 | I'm having a hard time believing that looks aren't that important when wanting to hookup or something casualLooks are only great for first impressions and they’re not the only thing that makes you attractive. Nor the only thing women seek in a hookup or a fwb relationship. Looks are a BONUS because the goal is great sex. Ask woman around: would they want to hook up with a really hot guy if they knew the sex would be shitty, bland and passionless? Very few to none would. Then ask them if they’d hook up with a guy who’s not handsome, has a dad bod for example or whatever, if they knew the sex would be f… | /r/seduction | 19/08/24 06:16 PM |
| 4 | Why do you think girls hate dating broke men ?Girls don’t hate dating broke men. There are some girls who don’t give a shit about money and will sleep with you in a golden mansion and under a bridge if they have to. That said, MOST men who are broke show lack of ambition, understanding of the world, finances, skill, etc. and that is very unattractive. Some men are broke because of circumstances and will find ways to get back on their feet. These are the broke men who women will stay with. Because it’s the man that matters, not his specific … | /r/seduction | 19/08/24 11:41 AM |
| 1 | Hard to settle down once you know about game?It’s not about belief. I teach this stuff. When I saw your reply as the top comment I wanted to correct it since you’re misinforming people. | /r/seduction | 14/08/24 06:37 AM |
| 1 | Hard to settle down once you know about game?Once again, you don’t have to be manipulative to seduce women. There are plenty of authentic ways to do it. You have no idea what game is and what you’re talking about. Don’t assume your experience is like everyone else’s. | /r/seduction | 14/08/24 06:07 AM |
| 6 | Hard to settle down once you know about game?Doesn’t mean it’s the same case for him. | /r/seduction | 13/08/24 08:01 PM |
| 12 | Hard to settle down once you know about game?You’re right that he doesn’t know how to have a healthy relationship. But you’re wrong on everything else. Your definition of game is way off. Game does not mean you’re not being yourself. Game is simply having the specific social skills needed to make other people sexually and romantically interested in you. You can do that both in authentic and inauthentic ways. Why do you assume he wasn’t being authentic right from the start? You don’t know whether he was or wasn’t, you know literally nothing… | /r/seduction | 13/08/24 06:58 PM |
| 4 | Any guys here have a 10/10 girl in a 5+ relationship and recover when she is living the rich life?You being insecure about not being rich is what destroyed your relationship. Was she ever with you for the money? I seriously doubt it, especially when you said she was making bank herself. So she was with you for entirely different reasons. It’s obvious she didn’t care that you weren’t a millionaire but you became insecure about that and that when she became very successful and that insecurity poisoned your relationship. Which made you behave very differently than when you started out dating he… | /r/seduction | 22/07/24 10:31 PM |
| 1 | Did it old school and it workedDon’t know why it’s still such a big shocker, but if you actually have fun with women in a non-needy and playful and flirty way, they’ll be receptive to you. | /r/seduction | 21/07/24 11:32 AM |
| 1 | How do you guys cope?You treat that super attractive person as a human being. And if you like them or enjoy interacting with them, you BEFRIEND them. So you can hang out and have fun with them. Which will open up a ton of new possibilities, like them thinking you’re such a fun and great person so they’ll introduce you to their other super attractive friends, which they undoubtedly have. | /r/seduction | 28/06/24 02:19 PM |
| 7 | How to lose your virginity in 2024Seduction is just like any other skill. It’s a social skill. And yes, eventually it DOES become extremely easy, in fact, once you practice enough so you have unconscious competence. Then seduction becomes a natural part of you and you don’t even think about it and have great results consistently. But you’re right, takes years of legwork. | /r/seduction | 28/06/24 07:42 AM |
| 2 | How to lose your virginity in 2024Game works REGARDLESS OF LOOKS. Focus on learning and practicing game and your looks won’t matter. There are plenty of guys who look like ugly apes who have lots of success with women because they focus on game and they’re not insecure about their lack of looks like you are. That’s your main issue. | /r/seduction | 28/06/24 07:39 AM |
| 1 | Does your action make difference?I mean, saying your course of action doesn’t matter is pretty absurd. Of course it matters. It’s just that “doing good things” and “behaving well” is not what sparks attraction in women. It’s just a part of being a decent person. You’re not doing good things or behaving well around women so women will sleep with you. That’s what disingenuous “nice guys” do. You should be doing all that because you’re a decent human being, regardless of trying to ingratiate yourself with women. You attract women … | /r/seduction | 13/06/24 03:30 PM |
| 0 | Does your action make difference?“No matter how much good things you do and how much you behave well” Define what those mean because it looks like you’re “trying to behave well” around women which makes you disingenuous and inauthentic. You behave how you would normally behave. If you adjust your behaviour to try to behave “the right way” or so someone likes you, you’ll just come off as weird or creepy. | /r/seduction | 13/06/24 12:06 PM |
| 1 | Are my results typical considering my stats?Your results are pretty shit from 300 matches to 20 first dates to 1 lay. From your post it looks like you’re focusing outwards and not inwards when it comes to yourself and women. You somehow got it into your head that stats like how much you curl or bench press or how much money you make has anything to do with how well your love life will go. It’s 100% irrelevant if you curl 30 or 55 or if you’re a monster who can do 100. Or if you make 100k or 1 million or more. That has fuck all to do with … | /r/seduction | 09/06/24 02:05 PM |
| 2 | 7 years of trying but achieved nothing, end of the roadI mean it's a really huge and complex subject, you first need to figure out what you're insecure about and then work to root out those insecurities. Why are you desperate and needy around women? What's preventing you from simply relaxing and having fun with them when approaching and when you're on a date? Why do you get thoughts like "something should happen, this is not going good, I gotta escalate things, etc." Why do you have a fear of missing out? Why can't you communicate in an authentic an… | /r/seduction | 05/06/24 04:54 PM |
| 2 | 7 years of trying but achieved nothing, end of the roadWell you just proved my point, you have really shitty inner game if you keep having thoughts like that. Your insecurities are fucking up your game. You need to focus on your inner game or you’ll continue having these results. | /r/seduction | 05/06/24 04:38 PM |
| 1 | 7 years of trying but achieved nothing, end of the roadOk so I’m gonna be real honest with you. If you’ve done 3000 cold approaches and got these abysmal results, then you really fucked up and focused on the wrong thing. You should have stopped at like 300-500 to reassess the situation and get to the bottom of what you’re doing wrong. If you can’t get any results after 3000, it means YOUR INNER GAME IS SHIT and you’re simply banging your head against a brick wall trying to get to the other side. Which will not work. It’s very clear to me that you ha… | /r/seduction | 05/06/24 04:23 PM |
| 5 | 7 years of trying but achieved nothing, end of the roadYou are not allowed in any clubs or bars as a single male? Roflmao | /r/seduction | 05/06/24 01:51 PM |
| 1 | Since when is cold approach not seduction?Oh right, shouldn’t generalize, my bad. So here’s a correction - that’s what SOME social people do. And my point still stands. | /r/seduction | 19/05/24 07:51 PM |
| 2 | Since when is cold approach not seduction?Sure I worked as a head bartender at some of the most popular clubs in Sweden for a few years, so literally surrounded by beautiful women every single day I worked. Never been to LA tho. Anyway, I still cold approach when I see someone who grabs my eye and start conversations with them. That’s what social people do - they have no issues talking to random people and don’t think it’s weird at all. And if you do it not from a place of neediness then it works well. And that’s my entire point - you d… | /r/seduction | 14/05/24 12:04 PM |
| 3 | Since when is cold approach not seduction?So if you see a really attractive woman somewhere while going about your daily life, someone who is 100% your type, who you’d LOVE to chat up and get to know better… you just don’t do anything and pretty much lose her forever? Since many people you meet you won’t ever see again if you live in a huge city. Also, what about guys who just moved somewhere new and have literally ZERO friends? Should they sit home and never approach? | /r/seduction | 14/05/24 09:45 AM |
| 1 | So if it’s standard practice to get rejected in 99+% of approaches you make. What can you do to make your approaches more meaningful?It’s definitely not standard practice to be rejected in 99+% of approaches unless you’re a total newbie who’s completely uncalibrated and you refuse to learn from your mistakes. | /r/seduction | 05/05/24 05:50 AM |
| 2 | SECRET info: How to get the ‘baddies’.Yeah I basically devoted my whole 20s to pickup and seduction lol. Yeah, being a bartender helped IMMENSELY. It’s one of the best things you can do to get over any fear or anxiety around women. Same as with going out and talking with hundreds of women to get over approach anxiety. Well, I’ve written hundreds of articles on seduction all you gotta do is google my username and they’re free and some are really in depth. Even some of my posts on this subreddit will teach you something useful so you … | /r/seduction | 30/04/24 01:09 PM |
| 9 | SECRET info: How to get the ‘baddies’.Hey I see you’ve expanded on your comment with an edit, some great points here for guys to understand. Yeah, I completely get what you mean, like I said in a comment to someone else here, we’re essentially doing the same thing but from different angles and getting the same result. You’re walking away and removing attention completely and I simply treat them like they’re nothing special, like I would for example a normal cleaning lady lol or like a buddy of yours, until they open up. Which basica… | /r/seduction | 30/04/24 07:58 AM |
| 5 | SECRET info: How to get the ‘baddies’.I talk about whatever’s on my mind. I start conversations with a simple hi. You don’t have to do anything special, that’s the point. Most guys are trying way too hard to impress which instantly kills the attraction and vibe. Like I said in my reply I simply treat beautiful women like I’d treat any other girl. I worked as a bartender for a few years so Ive spoken to literally hundreds of hot women every day so I don’t think looks are something special about a girl. I already teach this stuff, esp… | /r/seduction | 30/04/24 07:35 AM |
| 14 | SECRET info: How to get the ‘baddies’.Yeah I can see how that could work really well since walking away sends a powerful message. Never really thought about doing that during conversations though since my way works really well for me. But I’ll definitely want to try it out at the next opportunity and see how it goes since I like experimenting with this sort of thing :) Thanks for the advice. | /r/seduction | 30/04/24 12:05 AM |
| 18 | SECRET info: How to get the ‘baddies’.Oh hey I didn’t realize from your post you were talking about online dating and messaging on Instagram here. I was talking more about when you meet these girls in clubs, bars, at the gym, and so on. Then you might be right, I don’t do much online dating or even have instagram. So no idea how it works there. | /r/seduction | 29/04/24 11:55 PM |
| 178 | SECRET info: How to get the ‘baddies’.For the most part really good info and I’ve seen this first hand many times. But yeah this is about the girls who have a massive ego and think they’re the best of the best. Basically all the hottest women will shit test you. And if you pass that shit test they’ll open up to you. However, removing your attention is definitely not the only way to get results. And what’s with this “wait 5 months” thing? That’s way too much and one or two months works great as well. Personally, I don’t remove my att… | /r/seduction | 29/04/24 05:43 PM |
| 1 | What's the worst way you've ever fumbled a babe?I see, thanks for taking the time to explain. | /r/seduction | 16/04/24 07:59 AM |
| 1 | What's the worst way you've ever fumbled a babe?Sure, that makes sense, but can you give an example of the thoughts that were running through your mind why you said some of the things you did? I find this stuff fascinating so I’d like to understand the thought process better. Like a girl wanted you to teach her guitar and you said you’re not good enough even when you are - were you thinking you’d disappoint her or what? Or what was running through your head when you said you didn’t like hookups when you actually like them. Maybe afraid to sho… | /r/seduction | 15/04/24 06:22 PM |
| 2 | What's the worst way you've ever fumbled a babe?Ok so what was the logic behind your decisions? What were you actually afraid of? | /r/seduction | 15/04/24 09:08 AM |
| 1 | Need some real, ACTUAL pointers for getting more Second Dates.If she didn’t “feel a connection” then most of the time it means there was no sexual tension between you two. Sometimes this can mean no emotional connection. But after being on several thousand dates, I can safely say it’s mostly about sexual tension. | /r/seduction | 13/04/24 11:31 AM |
| 2 | How could I be more seductive as a “good guy”/“goofy” and be more confident.Start teasing her a lot more, about various sexual things, if you want her to be more in the mood when you initiate. Also, instead of just assuming your words could hurt her, ASK HER if she likes it and if she could get hurt by you saying those things during sex. Open communication is key in a relationship. | /r/seduction | 11/04/24 09:13 AM |
| 2 | 🚫 Stop Trying To Be Confident (try these instead)How is approaching women you don’t know weird loser behaviour? So let’s say someone moves to a new town and doesn’t know anyone and doesn’t have a job that lets them meet many women - should they just sit at home and never meet women? Not everyone has the luxury of meeting “huge numbers of women through work” and not everyone has a sprawling social life. Are these people to do nothing? | /r/seduction | 09/04/24 04:18 PM |
| 2 | I’m convinced you don’t need tight game to get laid, only confidence.Sure, you don’t need tight game to get laid. Even idiots stumble into getting laid from time to time. Even more with confidence. But to get laid consistently and with the girls you really want, you need tight game. Confidence alone doesn’t cut it for that. Also, it depends on your goals quite frankly. If your goal is to get a girlfriend/wife then you don’t need to spend years honing your game. If your yoal is to build a harem, for example, then you need game. | /r/seduction | 25/03/24 06:23 PM |
| 2 | how do i put myself out there after a rejection?Dude, you've only known her for a month, you didn't even get to know her that well - and you say you LOVE HER? That's your biggest issue, right there. That's why you're afraid of rejection and that's why you suck with women. You gotta stop falling in love with women who you DON'T EVEN KNOW WELL. That's creepy and needy as fuck, since you're falling in love with some FANTASY version of them that you have in your head, and not the real person - because you don't even know them well. Do you realize… | /r/seduction | 21/03/24 09:06 PM |
| 11 | Are women more attracted to good looking guys?If a woman sees two guys and one is good looking and the other one not - without knowing anything else about them and without interacting with them - she’ll be more attracted to the guy who looks more handsome. However, if she then has a chance to talk to them or interact with them in some way - then the more charismatic, fun and interesting guy will be more attractive to her - she will completely forget about the difference in looks. That’s assuming they both have the same level of self-esteem,… | /r/seduction | 18/03/24 12:25 AM |
| 0 | I started reading models and I'm not sure if to take it seriouslyIt’s not about the content of your words, it’s all about how you say what you say. | /r/seduction | 14/03/24 09:51 PM |
| 1 | 2 simple reasons why not having a clear outcome is killing your (seduction) gainsWell if I was someone with great aesthetics. Tall, Ripped and also had money. You could absolutely do fine with night and day game. Am I missing something here? You can do fine in night and day game without any of those things. People who think they need those things simply have low self esteem. Maybe I misread something since I read your post quickly. If you somehow made the exact opposite point then I must have missed it - if so I apologise for my reply if I missed the context. | /r/seduction | 12/03/24 05:53 PM |
| 1 | 2 simple reasons why not having a clear outcome is killing your (seduction) gainsI dunno, I just approch the women who make my balls tingle and my pee pee feel weird on sight, and then talk to them to find out who they are - and if we like each other I ask them out. Worked really well so far. Also the fact that you think day/nightgame requires you to be tall ripped and rich betrays that you have low self esteem and don’t have much success with women. That’s why you need to make these elaborate plans, strategies, do research on demographics, etc. to get anywhere. But you’re o… | /r/seduction | 12/03/24 03:41 PM |
| 3 | Today I'm 1 more rejection closer to becoming the person I want to be.Why would she be nervous next time you see her? You shot your shot, she said she’s married, you said ok cool have a nice day - and you both went on with your lives like two normal adults. The only reason for her to be nervous after this is if you give her one, by being stalkish, weird or annoying. | /r/seduction | 08/03/24 11:42 AM |
| 1 | How to properly deal with AMOGs who become physical first despite there being no justifiable reason?Question is, why are you so fixated on fixing an issue that only occurred TWICE in all the years you’ve been dating? Like the other commenter said, this is extremely rare, I’ve had it happen maybe 3-4 times in the decade plus I’ve been going out. So why even spend the mental energy to worry about something that happens 0,0001% of the time? If it’s her boyfriend, you say in a respectful way “Hey, didn’t know she had a boyfriend. We’re good here, have a nice day” with your hands up in that “hey ho… | /r/seduction | 27/02/24 11:34 AM |
| 7 | Did my first 100 approachesThis advice right here is golden, OP. Follow it. Outcome independence, playful and fun vibe while flirting, lots of experimenting and adjusting until you find your style of seduction. Then your results will skyrocket. Took me waaaay more than 100 approaches until I found what works for me and what doesn’t. You’re basically just starting out. | /r/seduction | 26/02/24 12:15 PM |
| 2 | Hitting on women feels exactly as if I was asking a random person for $1000Turn it around and approach women with the mindset of them getting an opportunity to get $1000 from you. If you like them. | /r/seduction | 19/02/24 01:21 PM |
| -4 | Non “game” fixes that created a huge jump in my daygame results as a beginnerAs someone who’s slept around with hundreds of women, here’s my style and fashion: Jeans and a t-shirt. That’s it. In summer: Shorts and a t-shirt. A shirt like once a month. When it’s cold: I put on a jacket or hoodie. I don’t even clean my shoes. Unless I’m wading through mud and they look look like shit. Zero accessories. Not even a watch. I get a haircut every 4-5 weeks and just say “make it short.” Haven’t you heard the expression “Clothes don’t make the man?” The reason you got rejected 20… | /r/seduction | 19/02/24 11:24 AM |
| 9 | Any men find it easier to talk to women, your not sexually attracted to?This, ironically, makes you the weirdo. | /r/seduction | 19/02/24 09:54 AM |
| 44 | Be careful who you pursue a long term relationship withYeah newbies fall into this trap often. Abundance with women solves this because if you have many options, you won’t stay with the first hot girl you get. Only with those you actually choose to, because they’re great for you and are compatible with you. | /r/seduction | 16/02/24 12:44 PM |
| 2 | Question for intermediate and advanced guys!Well at first the success rate was obviously horrible. A couple of girls out of a hundred. But it got better and better as I learned more and got tons more experience. And eventually I guess it was about 1 in 10 approaches or so where I’d get a date when at my best. Didn’t really keep track at that point but it’s still really difficult (impossible in some areas even) to get your success rate over 10% for pure cold approaches I’d say, even when you’re on point and have great game. Simply because … | /r/seduction | 16/02/24 12:42 AM |
| 10 | Question for intermediate and advanced guys!The following shift in mindset really made a massive difference for me: I started to approach women not to see if they’d like me. But to find out who they are as people and see if I’d like them, if they were good and interesting people. And if I’d have fun hanging out with them. Took me over a year to realize this and then a few weeks to internalize the mindset. But boy did it change the whole dynamic of my interactions and my results were much better. It kind of removed most off the pressure I … | /r/seduction | 15/02/24 05:29 PM |
| 2 | Looksmaxxing Community is just Black Pill in disguise.Eh i wrote a huge detailed example and I guess some people saw it as way too long and as bragging. So just shortened it by like 95% and left the main point :) | /r/seduction | 15/02/24 10:54 AM |
| 7 | Looksmaxxing Community is just Black Pill in disguise.Great post, I agree on pretty much everything. Also, being obsessed with looks and shaming other people for it isn’t just weird. It’s insecure as fuck and shows you have shitty self-esteem. And regarding success and looks, personally, I had much more success with women when fat but had good game after doing pickup for many years, as opposed to when I was extremely fit with six pack but just started to learn about pickup and seduction. edit: shortened example which was unnecessarily way too wordy | /r/seduction | 15/02/24 09:07 AM |
| 2 | How do I compete (and win) taller and better-looking guys without getting hopeless?I already explained this. Seduction is all about emotions, and being successful with women is all about how you can make them feel when they’re around you. That has very little to do with looks and being tall and handsome. Any average guy with a great personality and game and who knows how to have a great time with women will offer much more in terms of emotions over a guy who’s good looking but doesn’t know how to do that or has a shit personality. That said, all things being equal, the tall an… | /r/seduction | 14/02/24 12:15 PM |
| 7 | How to stop deriving your value from womenIt looks like you’re pretty lost in life and don’t know why you’re doing what you’re doing. You need to sit down and reassess everything. Really take a few hours, go for a walk someplace calm and think. Mostly, think about why you’re doing the things you’re doing. Do you want a woman in your life because it’s “what people are supposed to do” or because you want a relationship. What do yoy want from a relationship? Is it because you think it will complete you, give you something you’ve missing, e… | /r/seduction | 12/02/24 11:29 AM |
| 43 | How to make a girl more invested than you?It’s simple: Women begin obsessing over you and chasing you when they become very emotionally invested in you and love spending time with you. Nothing more complicated than that. But it's not easy to pull off, especially if you don't have good game. Basically, if you know how to talk to girls and engage with them emotionally, your mere presence will be intoxicating to them. However, there's a huge difference between investing in you and obsessing over you to the point of chasing you. And women d… | /r/seduction | 12/02/24 07:04 AM |
| 2 | Stop overthinkingWe're not talking about ideally here - we're encouraging new people to learn. Also, it's about spotting the opportunities, not spending all your time seeking them. You go to a pharmacy to get meds and there's a hot girl beside you? You talk to her. You don't have to seek her out. You go to a coffee shop to get coffee before work and while walking out spot an attractive girl sitting by the exit? You swing by her to see what's what. You go to the gym, start lifting something and a cutie just took … | /r/seduction | 12/02/24 06:43 AM |
| 10 | Stop overthinkingGuys who aren’t successful with women will always find plenty of excuses why they can’t or won’t go out and approach. That’s why they don’t have much success. The rest of us are going out whenever we can and finding tons of opportunities to meet and seduce women. That’s why we get results. | /r/seduction | 11/02/24 06:40 PM |
| 1 | Dancing with girls at clubThat’s a completely irrational fear. It only happens if you’re blatantly being overly aggressive. Read what I just replied to OP in reply to his reply to your comment. | /r/seduction | 11/02/24 12:41 AM |
| 10 | Dancing with girls at clubYou know how many times I’ve been slapped in the face when going to nightclubs 3-4 times every week for several years? Twice. One time I was too drunk and went straight for touching the boobies in the middle of the club wih a girl I just met. Instant smack lol. Another time I was way too aggressive, again, when drunk, and was just being an asshole. Because I was in a really bad mood. Shouldn’t have went out that night at all. That’s it. In other thousands of times, it all went without any shit h… | /r/seduction | 11/02/24 12:37 AM |
| 9 | Dancing with girls at clubI mean, you said it yourself - it's all in your head. Why not TRY ANYTHING? Why not experiment? Reach out your hand and touch them. Watch their reaction. Reach out and grab them and grind with them. See what happens. If they like it, you'll know. If they don't, you'll also know - but then you'll do it again at another time in a different way, and see if that works. Or even just ask them if you're completely terrified of doing anything yourself. Some will say yes, some won't. What I'm getting at … | /r/seduction | 10/02/24 09:00 PM |
| 2 | What to do when a girl calls you bro ?First, since it's a pretty common figure of speech now, why would it even bother you? It's not like it's demeaning? Unless she says it in a mean-spirited way meant to put you down, then sure. Second, if it bothers you, there's a thing called setting boundaries. Tell women who call you bro that you don't like being called bro. Set this soft boundary first. If they keep pushing it and still call you bro, set a hard boundary - by telling her not to call you bro or there will be consequences, like y… | /r/seduction | 10/02/24 08:40 PM |
| 1 | How do I compete (and win) taller and better-looking guys without getting hopeless?Tl;dr - git gud | /r/seduction | 10/02/24 10:12 AM |
| 0 | How do I compete (and win) taller and better-looking guys without getting hopeless?Those are rookie numbers and you obviously don’t know what the fuck you’re talking about if you think much better results aren’t possible :) I went to nightclubs for 3-4 days every single week for about 4 years and also worked as a bartender. Then got heavily into online dating sites (Tinder wasn’t even a big thing then, this was around 2009-2013). My dating life peaked between when I was between 25 and 28 years old. During that time I literally had multiple dates set for every day of the week f… | /r/seduction | 10/02/24 10:08 AM |
| -1 | How do I compete (and win) taller and better-looking guys without getting hopeless?I’m not selling lies, only skill. You believe what you want to believe, I’ve been in pickup since 2006 and actively coaching since 2016 and now got a family so don’t go sarging except for occasional threesomes with the wife. 500 body count in over a decade is actually not that big. Plus, I already went over this claim in another Reddit post a while ago. And got the personal porn collection to prove it :) Yes, women will choose you over “tall, dark and handsome guys” if you have much more to offe… | /r/seduction | 10/02/24 09:33 AM |
| 14 | Do you guys ever give women another shot?Sure, why not? People have busy lives, circumstances change all the time, and people also change their minds. It's all good. As long as you're having fun when you're together and enjoying each other's company and are both interested in each other, why wouldn't you want to give someone a chance? I don't see any downside. | /r/seduction | 09/02/24 10:29 PM |
| 3 | I hate talking but yearn for connectionWhy don’t you just be honest and TELL women that you hate texting and would rather talk on a call instead. Some will agree and some won’t. But there you go, you’ll avoid texting and get some dates out of it with women who are fine with it. | /r/seduction | 09/02/24 05:48 PM |
| 16 | How do I compete (and win) taller and better-looking guys without getting hopeless?Ok so let's break it all down: First of all, looks aren't the most important thing in seduction. All they do is help you get your foot in the door much easier. And create many more opportunities to meet women, as well as help you a lot with first impressions. However, it's ultimately all about how you can make women FEEL when they're around you. Which doesn't have much to do with your looks, unless the girl is specifically looking to hook up with a hot guy and doesn't give a shit about him at al… | /r/seduction | 09/02/24 02:53 PM |
| 2 | She seems distant after I kissed at the end of the second date, time to move on definitely?It's very obvious that she liked you a lot, but then realized there's no real sexual chemistry between you two, after the second date. So she lost interest in you. It looks like you didn't do anything to escalate. How was your physicality during the dates? Was eye-contact getting more intimate, were you getting closer to her, etc.? All these things and more build sexual tension, and it looks like there's none between you. So she thought you were either too boring, meek or timid. This is very obv… | /r/seduction | 09/02/24 11:51 AM |
| 2 | How to KEEP FWB?The relationship has run its course, accept that. You did reveal in your post that you started having feelings for her as more than just a FWB. This has changed all of your sub-conscious communications and you started vibing with her differently. She definitely noticed this and it's probably why she cut things off - because she was sensing that you want to make things deeper - which wasn't part of the FWB arrangement. You didn't leave it as casual as it was intended from the start, is my point. | /r/seduction | 09/02/24 11:48 AM |
| 1 | Saw this line somewhere, thought id share it.smooth as fuck :) | /r/seduction | 09/02/24 11:39 AM |
| 11 | Being shamelessI get your point, and yeah, barelling through emotions you feel is great. As long as you acknowledge those emotions, feel them, accept them and use them for positive action. Otherwise you’re not really learning as well as you can be, and actually slowing down the progress significantly. I’ve taught a ton of men how to approach the right way, so I’m not talking out of my ass here. There’s a right and wrong way to do it, so just trying to point you to the right path. Regarding other girls seeing y… | /r/seduction | 09/02/24 11:27 AM |
| 3 | How do I get better at reading dating intentions?So here's how it really works: The vast majority of women are open to both casual and serious relationships - BUT ONLY WITH THE RIGHT GUY. I mean, sure, most women's goal is to find a great boyfriend. But who would say no to a wonderful night full of adventure, fun, pleasure, excitement, sexual chemistry, and all that other good shit? When I was getting a ton of dates from dating sites and apps, I'd mostly give off a chill and lighthearted vibe right from the start. And would meet with women who… | /r/seduction | 09/02/24 11:05 AM |
| 60 | Being shamelessI mean sure, on the one hand, it's great that you decided to say FUCK IT like that and brute-force through rejections to desensitize yourself to that stuff. On the other hand, you're not really going about it in a good or even healthy way. There's such a thing called self-respect. And going into a cafe full of people and blatantly going from one girl to the next like you did is a bit pathetic. Not to mention desperate, because girls see that you're basically approaching all the girls there, one … | /r/seduction | 09/02/24 10:47 AM |
| 2 | Need advice after being rejectedPeople are free to take offense at anything they want. It’s their problem, as long as you’re not being intentionally mean. If she has a religious background she’ll tell you and you’ll react accordingly. You need to stop it with all the “what ifs” or you’ll cripple yourself and won’t take any action at all. | /r/seduction | 08/02/24 10:24 AM |
| 6 | Need advice after being rejectedI mean "confessing" is a pretty heavy word. You're not living in a fairy tale. There's no huge secret that you'll reveal that will magically make her go "Oh my god take me now!" One of your problems (and not just you, a lot of men do this) is "falling in love with her" without even actually going on a date with her. Based on nothing about her other than just her looks, some little bits of her personality you might have seen, and your FANTASY ABOUT HER. You gotta stop fantasizing about women and … | /r/seduction | 07/02/24 09:33 PM |
| 16 | Need advice after being rejectedYour first and biggest mistake was APOLOGIZING to her for asking her if she was single. Generally, women lose respect for guys who are afraid to "inconvenience them" like that. Because it shows you're insecure, don't trust yourself, are timid and meek. It's not wrong to find someone attractive. And it's not wrong to let them know you find them attractive. Of course you didn't do that directly but you asked if she was seeing someone - so she assumed you were interested in her. This leads into the… | /r/seduction | 07/02/24 08:54 PM |
| 4 | Look Like Your GameOh right, thanks for clearing that up. Yeah I didn’t get that from your post so I thought newbies can easily misunderstand what you’re saying and start spouting random stuff just to “shock” women. You’re absolutely right and I agree 100% with you - DON’T HIDE the quirky, zany, fun stuff that makes you unique because you’re afraid of revealing it. That’s what makes you you. Personally I don’t look like it but I’m a complete and total gamer nerd. And I talk to women a lot about gaming :) And if I … | /r/seduction | 06/02/24 09:13 PM |
| 9 | Look Like Your GameIf you're the scruffy cigarette guy, lean into that energy for the initial part of the interaction. Then, lets say she asks you what's your favorite TV show 30 minutes into the date. Tell her it's Vampire Diaries. Tell her it with a straight face. Ok, but the big question is: Will you tell her your favorite TV show is Vampire Diaries because it actually IS your favorite show and because you're quirky like that? Or because you just want to get a reaction out of her? Thing is, if you're just tryin… | /r/seduction | 06/02/24 08:32 PM |
| 3 | Traveling to Eastern Europelol definitely not gonna do that. Figure it out yourself :) | /r/seduction | 06/02/24 08:13 PM |
| 129 | “Do you do this often?”Yeah I used to get this a lot. It’s a shit test and they’re basically alluding to the fact that you’re a player and fuck around a lot. Hinting they might not want to be “just one of your lays.” I just ignore it and sometimes, if we’re in a very playful mood, over exaggerate like “yeah you’re the 11th girl today and I got 17 more to go so let’s get to it, chop chop!” or some similar shit like that. If you get defensive or try to rationalise you’ll fail. I learned that the hard way the first few t… | /r/seduction | 06/02/24 06:11 PM |
| 1 | Traveling to Eastern EuropeLol I wouldn’t even know how to describe it in text. Just imagine all the grunts and ahhs and meh’s and all the other sounds people make to express their mood and emotions. | /r/seduction | 06/02/24 05:08 PM |
| 200 | Stop Texting WomenDude, blanket statements like “Texting can not build attraction” are just blatantly false. Yes it can. And yes it does, if you know what the fuck you’re doing and are a great conversationalist. It’s true that it’s MUCH harder to build attraction through texting because you can’t see each other, your facial expressions, can’t hear the tone of voice, so you can’t convey emotions as well. Because it’s a limited medium. But saying you can’t build attraction using texting is just bullshit and a limit… | /r/seduction | 06/02/24 05:04 PM |
| 3 | Traveling to Eastern EuropeI've had a ton of success in Eastern Europe in bars and clubs. As a foreigner, you can also have lots of success there, even without speaking the language. Although a decent amount of people in Eastern Europe speak english nowadays. Especially in the Baltic countries, in Czechia, Poland, Slovakia. Not so much in Hungary though. That said, having a language barrier makes it somewhat difficult but definitely not impossible to seduce women. When I travel to countries where I don't speak the languag… | /r/seduction | 06/02/24 10:55 AM |
| 3 | You will never improve until you stop thinking of yourself in static, negative terms: “I have no game”, “I suck with women”, etc.Yeah I recommend it to all my clients, along with 6 Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Branden | /r/seduction | 05/02/24 06:47 PM |
| 10 | You will never improve until you stop thinking of yourself in static, negative terms: “I have no game”, “I suck with women”, etc.Great book. It's all about self-image. If you can't even imagine yourself being successful with women - you won't be. | /r/seduction | 05/02/24 05:51 PM |
| 3 | Dumb question : How not to waste too much money dating ?Dress to impress me is among the stupidest things you can say to the girl before the first date, if you mean it unironically. | /r/seduction | 05/02/24 12:26 PM |
| 8 | How long do you wait before inviting the girl home?One of the most useful skills I’ve ever learned in dating is to read the girl’s “buying temperature.” Basically, to assess how intense the sexual tension is between the two of you. You can learn this skill with practice and it will tell you everything you need to know WHEN to invite the girl home. Like you said, it all depends on the situation. And when you learn how to read that sexual tension, you’ll know exactly when to do what in each situation. Also, personally, I almost never kiss the girl… | /r/seduction | 05/02/24 12:02 PM |
| 2 | How long do you wait before inviting the girl home?Damn that “We don’t have to have sex by the way” line is golden. Wish I thought of that :) | /r/seduction | 05/02/24 11:54 AM |
| 2 | Advice for bringing girls back to your place the same day/nightWell, I’ll obviously recommend reading most of the articles on that site, as a resource to start with :) there’s also one there on how to beat approach anxiety in clubs. | /r/seduction | 04/02/24 06:10 PM |
| 7 | Advice for bringing girls back to your place the same day/nightPersonally I prefer going solo because then I don’t have to rely on others not to fuck up. It’s very difficult to find a good wing who knows what he’s doing, who will actually add to the interaction instead of being someone you have to watch constantly so they don’t fuck up. But if you find a really good wing it can be like easy mode, because they can really lift you up in front of women. For example, when you say great things about yourself that’s bragging and unattractive. When someone else sa… | /r/seduction | 04/02/24 05:28 PM |
| 2 | Weird annoying situation, i suck at game but have a few options, it is making me sad and here is whyI think you have some bigger issues than just bad game and you need to reassess your life in general. Especially if you rely on drugs to have fun and when they wear off you feel like shit but then try to force yourself to game girls. You might wanna try a therapist because I suspect you have some deep-rooted issues. Your whole text was barely coherent. | /r/seduction | 04/02/24 03:39 PM |
| 20 | Advice for bringing girls back to your place the same day/nightWhen you get girls all hot and bothered at the club and there’s enough sexual tension so you can make out - if you don’t capitalise on that sexual tension and pull them home - they will often lose interest in you the next day. Mostly because the sexual tension will dissipate by then, they will “sober up” and start thinking of you in a logical and not emotional way. Some will even think you’re a pussy for not making your move to hook up, or think you weren’t interested in them and regret their ac… | /r/seduction | 04/02/24 03:12 PM |
| 7 | What do you guys talk when you’re flirting?The content of your conversation when flirting is largely irrelevant. We can be talking about computer games, stamp collecting, raising children, the newest pop songs, shoes and shit, or even having a discussion about flying pink elephants for all I care. It’s all about engaging with women emotionally, it’s all about vibing. As long as you’re teasing women playfully, amusing yourself, being challenging, push/pulling, and having fun in general (among many, many other things) it will go well for y… | /r/seduction | 04/02/24 11:10 AM |
| 9 | Indirect game lovers, do you always act like “don’t know anything” tourists?I think you're confusing what Indirect game actually is. It's not about asking questions, being a bumbling clueless guy who "doesn't know anything" or asking for advice/directions/lines of busses, etc. Doing what you describe is just an OPENER. It doesn't have much to do with what indirect game is. Indirect game, at it's core, is about not revealing your intentions right from the start. As opposed to direct game, where you come up to the girl and tell her that you like her and would like to get … | /r/seduction | 29/01/24 01:19 PM |
| 31 | If a woman likes you, she will let you knowThis is mostly true, but as with anything it’s not absolute and there are many exceptions. For example, one really hot girl started replying less to me, avoiding going on a date, all the things you mentioned above, etc. I’m meeting with other women so that’s ok but I don’t give up too quickly. I send some fun text once a week or so and see if it catches a reply. So one day I just wrote while near her place running other errands “Hey I just passed your place, I’m in town on business. Come with me… | /r/seduction | 21/01/24 08:22 AM |
| 3 | I think I am going to die alone because I am uglyThis is probably one of the most common “problems” guys have in dating. They try to seduce women and fail because they don’t really have any game or good social skills and then MAKE THE WORST POSSIBLE CONCLUSION that they fail because they are ugly. When in fact you can look like a fucking caveman ape and still have tons of success if you know how to have a good time with women and have your shit together. You look like an average guy and there’s nothing wrong with that. What you have are SEVERE… | /r/seduction | 21/12/23 10:02 AM |
| 2 | "Be authentic" is terrible adviceYou seem to be missing the point of what it means to “be authentic” as well. It’s definitely not about trauma-dumping on people like that guy does. | /r/seduction | 09/10/23 03:03 PM |
| 3 | "Be authentic" is terrible adviceYou have extremely poor self esteem and you completely misunderstand what “being authentic” means. | /r/seduction | 09/10/23 08:42 AM |
| 44 | I'm proof that having success / money doesn't get you laid. (27/M)The kind of self-esteem you get from money is EXTERNAL. So it’s not really genuine self-esteem because it depends on something other than yourself. Real, genuine self esteem is not “I’m worthwhile because I have that this or the other.” It’s “I’m worthwhile WHETHER OR NOT I have that this or the other” You can also replace “have” with “can do” in that sentence. Basically if money is a source of self-esteem then you’re on very shaky ground as money can disappear within a moment’s notice. And then… | /r/seduction | 11/09/23 05:56 AM |
| 4 | I have been friendzoned by over 30 women. Here’s what I’ve learned:If the guy has no boundaries - yes they do. That’s the whole point. | /r/seduction | 07/09/23 07:27 PM |
| 60 | I have been friendzoned by over 30 women. Here’s what I’ve learned:You have come to the stupidest possible conclusion. THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOUR LOOKS. You are failing miserably with women BECAUSE YOU HAVE NO BOUNDARIES. So women friendzone you and some use you. And they’ll never find you attractive “in that way.” Learn to have boundaries and your success will change. Drastically and dramatically. There are other issues as well like being boring, predictable etc. that i see but it’s mainly boundaries. | /r/seduction | 07/09/23 10:43 AM |
| 1 | You'll never be too platonic if you just know how to ESCALATEI mean it’s not necessarily better or worse, it’s all about what you convey with it and your intention. I mean you can say whatever the fuck you want. It just naturally happens that I personally don’t even mention it to women because I don’t feel the need. Might work out well for someone else. | /r/seduction | 20/08/23 03:17 PM |
| 92 | You'll never be too platonic if you just know how to ESCALATEAll the other girls I slept with I did so without ever saying we're on a date or even making it look like I was asking them out and in the past 10 years, I have never verbalized how I felt about anyone before we've gotten intimate. Pretty much this. Same here, I don’t think I’ve ever even explicitly told women even the word “date,” before or during the date :D somehow they all understood perfectly well. Great post man, weird it’s getting so few upvotes, it’s pure gold and should be required read… | /r/seduction | 28/07/23 05:31 AM |
| 13 | To guys with a high number of bodies(50+) how has it affected your life?Well above that number. Never regretted it. In a committed relationship for 7 years now without cheating when I was a relentless cheater before. In the end, it made me appreciate women of substance more than anything else. | /r/seduction | 10/06/23 08:17 PM |
| 7 | I honestly believe this is why the majority of us feel shy around womenLol yeah you hit the nail right on the head there | /r/seduction | 10/06/23 03:42 PM |
| 97 | I honestly believe this is why the majority of us feel shy around womenYou just described what self-esteem or lack of it feels like. Lol I’m gonna sound like a broken record soon but like 90% of problems I read here can be solved by developing it. | /r/seduction | 10/06/23 06:57 AM |
| 1 | JUST BE YOURSELF is the most brilliant and simultaneously the STUPIDEST advice on the planet, if you don't have a clue what it means!That’s all addressed in the post | /r/seduction | 06/06/23 08:33 PM |
| 3 | JUST BE YOURSELF is the most brilliant and simultaneously the STUPIDEST advice on the planet, if you don't have a clue what it means!That’s over a decade of actively dating around. So it’s not that insane. Like 50 on average per year is certainly doable if you focus on dating a lot. I don’t have a salary, always worked for myself. In looks I’m painfully average. But i do stay fit as much as I can. Thought I’ve been through various stages of fitness and paradoxically had more success when fat but more skillful and sure of myself than when fit and just starting out with women :) | /r/seduction | 06/06/23 12:48 PM |
| 1 | JUST BE YOURSELF is the most brilliant and simultaneously the STUPIDEST advice on the planet, if you don't have a clue what it means!Not really upset just confused as to your motives. But thanks for the clarifications :) The TLDR part about me being a pua guru made me think you have something personal against me as I’m pretty against pua guys and their manipulative teachings and say this constantly. Also yeah I need to work on my writing style, that I agree on. | /r/seduction | 06/06/23 11:26 AM |
| 1 | JUST BE YOURSELF is the most brilliant and simultaneously the STUPIDEST advice on the planet, if you don't have a clue what it means!That's awesome. I misunderstood the joke :D Whooosh! | /r/seduction | 06/06/23 11:00 AM |
| -1 | JUST BE YOURSELF is the most brilliant and simultaneously the STUPIDEST advice on the planet, if you don't have a clue what it means!From your reddit profile I can see you just throw out a bunch of darts and see which one gets the most traffic and are now trying to capitalize on the most popular ideas. You delete your posts that don't do well or get called out. Lol dafuq you're even talking about? :D:D Did you actually check my profile? Let's see, a post called "Being Unapologetic About Your Sexuality Helps You Get Laid Significantly." got 456 upvotes. Then a post called "How to Approach Women and Get Numbers So They'll Want … | /r/seduction | 06/06/23 10:47 AM |
| 2 | JUST BE YOURSELF is the most brilliant and simultaneously the STUPIDEST advice on the planet, if you don't have a clue what it means!But why is that though? If you're talking to some girl and you thought of some joke you actually think is funny, why aren't you saying it? Are you afraid she won't understand? Do you think if she'll misunderstand it you'll "ruin your chances with her?" Why do you think you're filtering yourself. Sure some jokes are inappropriate and vulgar. But even they have their place. And if you really feel at the core that's the kind of joke that makes you laugh, you say it. Sure there will be consequences,… | /r/seduction | 06/06/23 10:36 AM |
| 1 | JUST BE YOURSELF is the most brilliant and simultaneously the STUPIDEST advice on the planet, if you don't have a clue what it means!Are you being yourself though? Are you doing the things you want in life? Living up to your values? Striving diligently for your goals? Feeling confidently appropriate to life? | /r/seduction | 06/06/23 10:02 AM |
| -4 | JUST BE YOURSELF is the most brilliant and simultaneously the STUPIDEST advice on the planet, if you don't have a clue what it means!Imagine how well your life's going when you feel compelled to say things like that :D | /r/seduction | 06/06/23 09:58 AM |
| 1 | JUST BE YOURSELF is the most brilliant and simultaneously the STUPIDEST advice on the planet, if you don't have a clue what it means!Not sure how you missed the underlying thing since you say there's no cohesive thought. But it's pretty clear - inner game is more important than outer game. I keep that in mind when writing each and every post. Yes, I cover all possible topics I can think of related to pickup and seduction. And focus more on inner game than outer game when talking about them. You seem to be getting the wrong idea of w2hat authenticity really means. Authenticity is NOT honesty. Authenticity is when your values, … | /r/seduction | 06/06/23 09:55 AM |
| 2 | JUST BE YOURSELF is the most brilliant and simultaneously the STUPIDEST advice on the planet, if you don't have a clue what it means!Hmm yeah I guess I’ll need to make a regular non-ranty post some day specifically about self esteem and separate from the “just be yourself” thing. I dont post here anymore but I got inspired to rant about this randomly after reading dozens of comments and a few posts over the weeks where people say “just be yourself” is the worst advice because it doesn’t help you. But the fact remains and evey person knowledgeable about self esteem knows - you can’t be yourself when you have low self esteem. I… | /r/seduction | 06/06/23 07:32 AM |
| -12 | JUST BE YOURSELF is the most brilliant and simultaneously the STUPIDEST advice on the planet, if you don't have a clue what it means!yeah that's what ranting does sometimes, it's called being emotional. Never took adderall in my life tho. | /r/seduction | 06/06/23 07:22 AM |
| -8 | JUST BE YOURSELF is the most brilliant and simultaneously the STUPIDEST advice on the planet, if you don't have a clue what it means!Thanks for the assessment, as misguided as it may be :) Reverse psychology works really well on certain types of people. But that’s not the intention here as I don't want any more work at this time so that's being truthful. I turn people down who contact me at this time. This is a hobby and passion project of mine, I don't make my living doing this :) Yeah I was pretty emotional when writing this rant, so I’m not surprised it sounds manipulative. Yes, technical advice is still unavoidable, but i… | /r/seduction | 06/06/23 07:20 AM |
| 1 | JUST BE YOURSELF is the most brilliant and simultaneously the STUPIDEST advice on the planet, if you don't have a clue what it means!Be the best version of yourself if kind of implied here. Also my post isn’t about self-respect specifically, it’s about self-esteem, which self-respect is only a part of. The other part is self-efficacy, which is what allows you to actually do things in life. Nothing you said works without self esteem. It’s the foundation everything’s built on. Yes, go train, go socialize, go do whatever you deem necessary, that’s great! Seduction is a skill, and just like any other skill it requires discipline … | /r/seduction | 06/06/23 06:43 AM |
| 1 | JUST BE YOURSELF is the most brilliant and simultaneously the STUPIDEST advice on the planet, if you don't have a clue what it means!Glad to do it. Thanks for the kind words | /r/seduction | 06/06/23 06:37 AM |
| 2 | JUST BE YOURSELF is the most brilliant and simultaneously the STUPIDEST advice on the planet, if you don't have a clue what it means!solid self esteem. Without it nothing works. | /r/seduction | 06/06/23 06:36 AM |
| 4 | JUST BE YOURSELF is the most brilliant and simultaneously the STUPIDEST advice on the planet, if you don't have a clue what it means!Yeah i tend to get carried away when I rant, true. | /r/seduction | 06/06/23 06:31 AM |
| 5 | JUST BE YOURSELF is the most brilliant and simultaneously the STUPIDEST advice on the planet, if you don't have a clue what it means!It’s very obvious you didn’t even read the post before commenting. Le sigh | /r/seduction | 05/06/23 10:26 PM |
| 5 | JUST BE YOURSELF is the most brilliant and simultaneously the STUPIDEST advice on the planet, if you don't have a clue what it means!Yeah I’m a huge proponent of that type of natural game. But you’re right it takes a lot of self development and peeling away all the bs. | /r/seduction | 05/06/23 10:09 PM |
| 0 | JUST BE YOURSELF is the most brilliant and simultaneously the STUPIDEST advice on the planet, if you don't have a clue what it means!Glad I could help out | /r/seduction | 05/06/23 10:04 PM |
| 5 | JUST BE YOURSELF is the most brilliant and simultaneously the STUPIDEST advice on the planet, if you don't have a clue what it means!Yes it does, by definition you can’t have high self esteem if you don’t take care of yourself. Self esteem comprises of self-respect and self-efficacy. Do you think badly groomed, unhygienic, overweight and socially awkward people respect themselves? Dude you’re supposed to be a coach and you don’t understand these things? Come on | /r/seduction | 05/06/23 09:05 PM |
| 4 | JUST BE YOURSELF is the most brilliant and simultaneously the STUPIDEST advice on the planet, if you don't have a clue what it means!You’re absolutely right about filtering out people who don’t mesh well with you. Cheers man | /r/seduction | 05/06/23 06:39 PM |
| 3 | JUST BE YOURSELF is the most brilliant and simultaneously the STUPIDEST advice on the planet, if you don't have a clue what it means!My post isn’t about knowing yourself. It’s about self-esteem | /r/seduction | 05/06/23 06:10 PM |
| 24 | JUST BE YOURSELF is the most brilliant and simultaneously the STUPIDEST advice on the planet, if you don't have a clue what it means!Short counter non-rant: It’s impossible to be what women want because women aren’t some huge homogeneous blob; every woman has different wants, needs, preferences, etc. Also when you’re trying to be who you think someone wants you to be, you’re gonna have a shitty life. Ask any therapist. Your personality is who you are, and any personality works. If you are struggling, it means you have shit self-esteem. That’s my whole point. | /r/seduction | 05/06/23 06:08 PM |
| 3 | Old school tip: the Knee testReally really solid tip. I’ve been using something very similar on dates since forever. I let our shoulders touch instead of knees. And if the girl is into it, I then lean into her as if I’m resting on her. Completely nonchalantly and while talking about random stuff, not putting any focus on the touching. Builds comfort really quickly as well and the girl’s reaction tells me everything I need to know on how “warm” she is to me. Some even lean their heads on my shoulders and then it’s pretty muc… | /r/seduction | 15/04/23 07:49 PM |
| 1 | If women don’t have sex with random people, need an emotional connection…how are these dating coaches sleeping with 100’s of women ?I get most dates from daygame and some through online dating (not Tinder) | /r/seduction | 20/08/22 04:32 PM |
| 1 | If women don’t have sex with random people, need an emotional connection…how are these dating coaches sleeping with 100’s of women ?Some women will sleep with you without the emotional connection if they’re just after a hookup and nothing else. You’re absolutely correct though; MOST women require an emotional connection to sleep with them. But that’s exactly it, you can learn how to quickly connect with women and build that emotional connection in a matter of hours and sometimes even (pretty rarely) minutes. That’s part of being real good at seduction. Source: been with hundreds of women and teach this stuff to men. My speci… | /r/seduction | 20/08/22 03:32 PM |
| 1 | Why do girls do this?Not all girls do this, SOME do. With the girls who tend to do this (because they’re afraid of commitment) just continue having fun with them and don’t act all lovey-dovey and wait until THEY broach the subject of being exclusive and in a relationship. Some might even never broach this subject but you will end up in a relationship with them sooner or later if you just continue with things as they are and if things are going great. Then it will naturally transition into a relationship as things pr… | /r/seduction | 11/08/22 05:48 AM |
| 12 | Does anyone know guys who insult women after they reject them?These are manchildren who do this to try and protect their own ego. You know when a child asks another child to borrow/take some coveted toy and gets denied and then lashes out at the other child saying “I don’t even need it, it’s a shit toy anyway!” ? Well that’s exactly the same thing these same children do when they grow up and get denied by women. I actually read a while ago a study behind the psychology of this phenomenon but I can’t recall the exact details right now. They haven’t develope… | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 07:51 AM |
| 90 | Don't be afraid to show a woman what you want!Stopped reading after “self-described alphas.” Also ever hear of paragraphs? | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 10:19 AM |
| 2 | My experience dating Instagram models: DO NOT BE FOOLEDWell you got me there. I admit, dating is probably too strong a word. More like hooking up on the regular for about 2,5 months while she was visiting Stockholm. | /r/seduction | 09/07/22 11:05 AM |
| 0 | My experience dating Instagram models: DO NOT BE FOOLEDI teach this stuff :) and I’m pretty average-looking. That doesn’t preclude you from dating models. It’s the whole point of getting good at seduction, so you can date beautiful women of quality | /r/seduction | 09/07/22 10:21 AM |
| -1 | My experience dating Instagram models: DO NOT BE FOOLEDThat’s a ridiculously small sample size to be confidently talking about what instagram models are like. After dating JUST TWO, and with very tiny followings at that, you’re talking like all instagram models are the same. If your two had a shit personality doesn’t mean all of them do :) you were just unlucky. I’ve dated plenty models, including with 1M+ followers. They can definitely be great people, and some can be super spoiled and rotten. Some are REALLY good in bed, some weren’t, etc. Point i… | /r/seduction | 09/07/22 05:30 AM |
| 2 | The worst dating advice I’ve ever received was to focus on having fun and not getting womenHaving fun is a must. You just neglected the important part that comes AFTER fun. Intent and sexual tension with escalation. Fun on its own makes you a cool friend to have but it doesn’t get you the women. Fun with sexual intent and tension gets you the women. | /r/seduction | 04/07/22 09:07 PM |
| 1 | I am probably going to permanently give up on dating. It just isn't in the cards for me. Maybe in the next life.Ok so first of all, if you’re getting so much attention from women but reject everything because you think they won’t want to be with you due to your many issues… THEN JUST BE COMPLETELY UPFRONT AND HONEST WITH THEM ABOUT IT. Tell them you think they are cute/nice/attractive/whatever and that you’d like to try and date them but you have these things going on with your health that you think may affect the relationship. Just don’t say ANYTHING about your job/living situation and all these external… | /r/seduction | 30/06/22 05:45 AM |
| 3 | 😎 My Standard Cold Approach Format (that I've used for 8000+ approaches)Superb guide for newbies, really good! Just want to add that to get significant results and progress really fast and rip through approach/rejection anxiety, you should set up a day or two a week just for approaching, doing 20-50+ approaches the same day (it’s not as much as it looks especially if it’s in a big city on busy streets) because the first dozen approaches will be brutal and full of fear but then you will quickly realise it’s all just a fun game and that’s when you’ll really relax, bec… | /r/seduction | 23/06/22 06:06 AM |
| 17 | Change Her Mood, Not Her MindDamn you just reminded me of how I keep doing this to women without even noticing. This stuff works really well, I can attest to that. | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 11:47 AM |
| 1 | PSA: The truth about dating apps from an insiderAnother great example how a good thing is ruined by chasing the almighty dollar. It makes total sense though since I’ve always had extremely good success with women offline but my results with tinder were always HORRIBLE, even as a dating coach. Thanks for the insights man. | /r/seduction | 18/06/22 04:55 PM |
| 1 | Best European city for a 30 year old single man to move to?Nah it was all fine in English for me | /r/seduction | 08/06/22 06:36 PM |
| 2 | Best European city for a 30 year old single man to move to?Prague would be my recommendation and what I’d do in this case. Really cheap in general (except housing), tons of beutiful women and amazing for both night and daygame. | /r/seduction | 08/06/22 03:13 PM |
| 1 | A lot of you guys have a toxic view of women, and it’s holding you backOk then I misunderstood what you said since ruthless means something else entirely. Yeah you must have strong boundaries I completely agree with that. However, part where you still believe most women are toxic is just plain wrong. And really harmful | /r/seduction | 02/06/22 09:02 AM |
| 1 | A lot of you guys have a toxic view of women, and it’s holding you backYeah I’ve seen tons of posts and articles like that targeted at women. There are entire communities and blogs dedicated to teaching this stuff to women, just as there are to men. This subreddit is almost entirely targeted towards men, that’s why you don’t see stuff targeted towards women here, but it doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist just because YOU haven’t come across it. No one is worshipping women in this post and “licking their shit” as you put it. I’ve written many articles over the years read… | /r/seduction | 02/06/22 08:58 AM |
| 2 | A lot of you guys have a toxic view of women, and it’s holding you backDamn it's so great to see a guy who actually gets it and understands these things. Truly a breath of fresh air. I just read through some of the comments you got from guys here.... Damn, so much bitterness and hate.... and your replies were spot on and very patient. You're the hero this sub needs and I'm becoming a fan :) If most guys understood what you're trying to share in this post and other lengthy comments, the whole dating scene would be so much better. The world would be so much better, i… | /r/seduction | 02/06/22 06:46 AM |
| 2 | A lot of you guys have a toxic view of women, and it’s holding you backHoly shit dude you completely misunderstood what OP said and he's sincerely trying to help you. I'm a professional dating coach and I agree 100% with what he said and from your reply you do sound bitter as fuck about women and OP was spot on in his assessment. It looks like you're projecting since the niceguys subreddit is about people like you and nothing about people like OP. What OP said has nothing to do with bowing to women and putting them on pedestals, it's the exact opposite. Damn you ne… | /r/seduction | 02/06/22 06:31 AM |
| 2 | A lot of you guys have a toxic view of women, and it’s holding you backmost women are toxic Damn with a belief and mindset like that no wonder you have bad success with women. That's the exact toxic mindset OP is trying to help with and you are just proving his point right now. be ruthless Yeah you need serious help if you think being ruthless with help with becoming successful with women. | /r/seduction | 02/06/22 06:14 AM |
| 1 | A lot of you guys have a toxic view of women, and it’s holding you backThis should be required reading for every guy interested in seduction. | /r/seduction | 30/05/22 05:23 PM |
| 45 | A woman is never too busy to text you back. If she doesn't, take the sign.This is starting to sound like the r/niceguys subreddit. Go there and you’ll see tons of guys screw up their chances with women completely when they go off on a girl after she doesn’t reply in an hour or during the day or something, when the girl was actually very interested in the guy… Women have a life. Your comment to your own post where you said about men double texting hoping for a reply but she saw your message and chose to intentionally ignore you sounds bitter as fuck. And just goes to s… | /r/seduction | 30/05/22 06:35 AM |
| 1 | All you need is a social circle of average looking men.That’s the point, this is a horrible way to start and will do significantly more harm to newbies than if they didn’t take it to heart. The only good piece of advice here is that social circles are a good way to meet women. Everything else is objectively harmful and sets someone new on a really bad path. | /r/seduction | 30/05/22 06:04 AM |
| 1 | All you need is a social circle of average looking men.This will objectively be harmful to newbies because they will have to make an effort to unlearn a lot of bad stuff to get better if they start believing this crap. Basically all he could have said is “Social circles are good and help you with meeting women” and be done with it. That’s the entirety of the good advice he has. But he had to expand that with REALLY horrible advice. Advice that doesn’t help people at all and in fact makes it so much worse for newbies trying to learn. | /r/seduction | 30/05/22 05:58 AM |
| 93 | All you need is a social circle of average looking men.There’s so much shit advice here it would take a whole article to express how utterly stupid some of your points are. Don’t equate your own experience to how seduction works in general because you clearly have no clue. Social circles help but they are far from necessary to “slay” as you put it. There are plenty of guys who go out to cities where they have no social circle or know anyone and get laid a ton, if they know what they’re doing and have good seduction and social skills. I don’t have th… | /r/seduction | 29/05/22 10:20 AM |
| 21 | why am I successful in online dating but can't get dates when approaching girls in person?Can you give some examples of being direct in your messages during online dating? Because I fear a lot of guys here are going to misunderstand what you mean and make an ass of themselves. Cheers on the success though, I also had a ton of success with dating sites (but not apps) but my approach was not direct at all tbh. | /r/seduction | 19/05/22 01:32 PM |
| 1 | 🌏 My Personal Bible On How To Meet And Date Women From All Over The World 🌍Hey nah I’m a Lithuanian guy and my last name is Saulis. I used to coach a lot and write a ton of content but I’ve retired almost 2 years ago due to other stuff so not active in the scene anymore. I was mostly doing my stuff in Europe and seducing Russian and Scandinavian women (as well as eastern european) was my specialty. No hard feelings, I just like to poke holes in stuff. Apologies if I seemed too righteous myself. | /r/seduction | 10/05/22 12:04 PM |
| 1 | 🌏 My Personal Bible On How To Meet And Date Women From All Over The World 🌍Hmm yeah I guess I was thinking of something else when I said intellectually stimulating. When you put it like that, there are plenty of women who just want vapid and fun convos. You’re right there and I was wrong. But 80%+ of women would hate the idea of watching some documentary or discussing politics, philosophy, science etc? Now THAT is compele BS, demonstrably :) That’s a random and biased statistic if I ever saw one. No need to get so defensive and butthurt, dude. If you get so defensive w… | /r/seduction | 10/05/22 07:01 AM |
| 1 | 🌏 My Personal Bible On How To Meet And Date Women From All Over The World 🌍You’ve misread what I said it seems. I said every woman enjoys being intellectually stimulated. Even small talk can be intellectually stimulating if you do it right. Regarding openers, I’m fully aware they’re irrelevant as a canned opener. I teach this stuff professionally, I’ve written almost a thousand articles on this stuff and a couple of books. And as someone who’s been on thousands of dates myself and cold approached thousands of women, I still fall into several default and VERY RELIABLE o… | /r/seduction | 09/05/22 11:30 AM |
| 3 | 🌏 My Personal Bible On How To Meet And Date Women From All Over The World 🌍Meeting and Dating women from Estonia and Latvia: Proceeds to tell exactly 0 words about Latvia. Also, after dating tons of Russian girls throughout the years, the stuff about not wasting your words and not speaking when necessary is just plain wrong. I love to prattle on about random stuff during my dates and if you can keep an engaging conversation going, they’ll hang on your every word, so this is completely not Russia-specific. I’m also fluent in Russian btw tho I’m not Russian. And pretty m… | /r/seduction | 09/05/22 09:08 AM |
| 1 | People who got genuinely good at daygame, how many approaches did it take?Yeah at first I pushed harder to make it a habit and so I don’t give up after many failures, which are always gonna be more plentiful than successes. Then it solved itself after a while. Basically it’s like when you decide to hit the gym seriously. You decide to do this to better yourself, and then stick to it. The rest is history though it takes a lot of willpower. | /r/seduction | 04/05/22 07:44 AM |
| 99 | People who got genuinely good at daygame, how many approaches did it take?Don’t think of it as some number of approaches you have to reach to “become good.” Simply incorporate approaching women you find attractive into your lifestyle and always approach when you think you see a good opportunity to do so. Eventually you’ll become very good at it. It’s not like there’s some arbitrary number of approaches when you suddenly become “advanced enough to be good with women.” It’s a lifestyle. Source: done thousands upon thousands of approaches. | /r/seduction | 03/05/22 10:52 AM |
| 1 | Advice (simple and blatant as possible please)Work on yourself constantly, not just physically but mentally. Specifically to get rid of that belief/insecurity that girls dont like brown people (which is demonstrably false unless you find a racist girl) and it will become better with time. Or get a coach to help you. I can’t as I’m too busy | /r/seduction | 21/04/22 01:26 PM |
| 1 | Advice (simple and blatant as possible please)Not really. There’s no video or information that will help you with this. It’s not that easy of a fix. Requires a change in beliefs and attitude and that only comes with some good work on yourself and with experience. Watching a video wont instantly change how you behave. | /r/seduction | 21/04/22 12:35 PM |
| 1 | Advice (simple and blatant as possible please)Also, i suspect I’m pretty right in my assessment because you wrote “Ive always felt people arent attractes to brown people…” This is a CLASSIC sign of insecurity. This is your problem right there because you’ve subconsciously convinced yourself you’re not attractive because of your ethnicity. No matter how much you try to logically convince yourself how awesome you are because of your looks or achievements, if you don’t deal with that underlying insecurity, you won’t be very successful with wom… | /r/seduction | 21/04/22 12:14 PM |
| 2 | Advice (simple and blatant as possible please)Mostly it’s showing insecurities, being hesitant, coming up to women with a wrong/bad attitude, with expectations of sex without any regard for the girl as a person. Putting women on pedestals, being too accommodating and trying to please or “game” women with a false sense of bravado and stuff like that. There are too many examples. All of these things change how you subconsciously communicate with women and women pick up on that subconscious communication VERY easily. And if something’s wrong w… | /r/seduction | 21/04/22 12:08 PM |
| 5 | Advice (simple and blatant as possible please)You need to get a second opinion from an unbiased source (preferably a friend who you know will be BRUTALLY HONEST with you) about how you come off and what vibe you put out when you’re out there talking and flirting with girls. I suspect you’re doing something very wrong without realizing it. Also, sometimes it’s possible to do everything right and still fail. That’s life. | /r/seduction | 21/04/22 09:52 AM |
| 59 | How to get a girl out of my league?Dude it’s all about how you make women feel when they’re around you. Forget about leagues, money, status and treat her like an awesome buddy of yours and shoot the shit with her and make her laugh and enjoy your company, sprinkled with a bit of sexual tension. If you charm her with your personality, she’ll forget about all that other crap. Also, do not show ANY insecurity about all that other stuff around her or that will turn her off you instantly. Good luck! | /r/seduction | 15/04/22 03:29 PM |
| 1 | How can I truly work on my self-esteem?The short version is to lead a good life in alignment with your core values. This encompasses everything. The long version is… well, really too long for a Reddit comment. | /r/seduction | 17/03/22 12:57 PM |
| 1 | It's all the same now...Nah man, never burnt up because the whole adventure of meeting new people and fucking was just too interesting and something I enjoyed doing on my free time. I like talking to people even though I grew up really shy. How i settled down was when dating multiple women, i started gravitating naturally to a particular one, who I spent the best time with. Until it was so fun together I didn’t even think of going to meet other women. We basically became best friends and the sex is great too. You don’t… | /r/seduction | 12/03/22 08:36 PM |
| 2 | It's all the same now...You feel empty PRECISELY because you believe in leagues and play “in and around your league.” At some point it becomes dull. Start going for women who you think are “out of your league” (hint: they aren’t but you just think they are) and you’ll start feeling much more alive because of the new excitement and new “dangers.” As for the “it all ends in sex instead of relationships” part; that’s because you’re stuck in your routine and you know exactly what to do to get laid and just do it automatica… | /r/seduction | 12/03/22 10:03 AM |
| 1 | Dating coach offered me a deal?If you have a bad vibe and/or attitude and/or behave in a way that pushes women away, you won’t get anywhere even if you talk to 1000 women. You may not notice it (because it’s notoriously difficult to self-reflect without getting a second opinion) but something about your behaviour is definitely disqualifying you from women seeing you as a potential sexual partner. Thinking that statistically you should already have hit it off with at least one woman in your life is bad thinking if you keep doi… | /r/seduction | 02/02/22 04:32 PM |
| 1 | Dating coach offered me a deal?If you didn’t meet the standards of any girl you’ve met in your life, it sure wasn’t looks-related for most of them. I literally had a client who had facial reconstructive surgery and said he’d never find a girl in his life. I proved him wrong a few years ago and he’s now married. Yes, many women will have strict looks requirements. It’s their choice. But most women will throw those requirements out the window if you make them feel wonderful around you. Again you seem to fail to grasp this entir… | /r/seduction | 02/02/22 02:52 PM |
| 1 | Dating coach offered me a deal?Dude women will literally date gorilla-looking ugly ape guys as long as they have the right attitude, mindsets, and vibe. What the guy above said is absolutely true, you are fucking up your chances right from the start with that negative fixation on your looks. And yeah I’m a dating coach so I known what I’m talking about. It’s like learning how to drive a car but all the tires are slashed and you thinking that’s not the issue because the car still moves — you won’t get very far. | /r/seduction | 02/02/22 02:12 PM |
| 2 | What’s the worst piece of advice you’ve gotten on this sub?Yep, there are tons of articles on how to positively game the tinder algo. | /r/seduction | 28/01/22 09:49 PM |
| 9 | What’s the worst piece of advice you’ve gotten on this sub?It’s actually provably terrible because Tinder algorithm lumps you in with other desperate losers who swipe right on everything. And you get much less quality matches. | /r/seduction | 28/01/22 08:27 PM |
| 15 | For menHey man, thinking you deserve something (especially other people) is another bad mindset. No one deserves anything, you just work towards bettering yourself and you get as much as the work you put in, with some compounded interest. Thinking you DESERVE women in your life or similar things is a part of the toxic mentality that entitled Nice Guys have. It’s one of the reasons they get so pissed and angry at women and throw hissy fits when they get rejected. Like “How DARE that girl reject me! She’… | /r/seduction | 28/11/21 10:53 AM |
| 28 | I really fucked up fellas. I feel terrible.Who cares about the level of her “upsetness.” If she’s upset she’s upset. You showed total lack of empathy and complete disregard for her feelings. That pretty much sealed the deal for her. | /r/seduction | 26/11/21 09:31 AM |
| 1 | It's crazy how important social circle and status isOh it looks like i wrote wrong, i meant Daygame as one word, which just means i go and approach women during the day, in malls, parks, on the beach, in college campuses, and in the street in general. There are no “games” per say. | /r/seduction | 09/09/21 12:14 PM |
| 1 | It's crazy how important social circle and status isContrary to popular belief, your social circle is largely irrelevant for plain pickup and seduction. Plenty of guys travel around and go solo and pick up women successfully. I’ve been going solo in several different countries and cities where I know no one. And if you know what you’re doing things are going to go great, regardless if you have lots of friends and a huge social circle back at home or not. Lack of a social circle is just an excuse. It HELPS you and complements you, but you certainl… | /r/seduction | 08/09/21 08:16 PM |
| 5 | I just went on 10 dates in 10 consecutive days. Here's what I learned.That sounds awfully lot like a Yes-ladder which you might be doing unintentionally but it works wonders when done right. The first question is pretty general and most women would answer yes to. That’s a perfect start. The second question is a bit more difficult to answer yes to since it actually depends on the girl liking you. And she’s very likely to answer yes to the third one if she said yes to the previous two. But to really increase your chances of success I’d recommend making the 2nd quest… | /r/seduction | 28/08/21 08:02 AM |
| 3 | r/relationships says cold approaching in college doesn’t work out 99% of the time and is creepy… what y’all think?Most of advice in r/relationships consist of the blind leading the blind. Student campuses are one of the best places to cold approach, period. | /r/seduction | 25/08/21 08:54 PM |
| 19 | You need to know how to read non verbal communication to seduceYou should post this on r/niceguys — That guy exhibited typical Nice Guy TM behaviour. | /r/seduction | 08/08/21 11:32 AM |
| 1 | Girl completely ignored me during a party after flirting throughout the whole previous dayWhich one? I didnt delete any messages, i just edited and updated them to expand a bit. Now you’re fishing for some “gotcha” moment. Also you didn’t adress any of my points. | /r/seduction | 15/05/21 09:42 AM |
| 1 | Girl completely ignored me during a party after flirting throughout the whole previous dayGreat, would love to hear why you think I’m an idiot. I assumed you were here to learn how to be a great man and how to seduce women. Guess I was wrong. I suspect you’re not going to be very successful with women in the near future with the kind of thinking you’re displaying. | /r/seduction | 15/05/21 09:38 AM |
| 1 | Girl completely ignored me during a party after flirting throughout the whole previous dayWomen don’t make sense. Girls are just a distraction in this day and age. These sort of bullshit blanket statements implying women are some kind of different species from another planet are one of the reasons a lot of men suck with women. Take some responsibility for yourself and don’t unload your failures onto “women who don’t make sense.” Very unhealthy thinking. | /r/seduction | 15/05/21 09:28 AM |
| 0 | Girl completely ignored me during a party after flirting throughout the whole previous dayLol why are you even in this subreddit then if there’s absolutely no point in figuring out women’s logic and reasoning? Sounds like you’re trying to justify failures by not taking responsibility for yourself. Just like the above commenter. | /r/seduction | 15/05/21 09:13 AM |
| 29 | FINALLY got a girl’s number who I actually like!! (Field Report)Damn i dont say this often but you sound like a prick. And you bought into the whole beta/alpha male bullshit hook line and sinker. Talking about how ”beta males” would do that or this wrong or whatever like you’re superior. Sounds like you have a massive ego problem. And it definitely looks like you also enjoy manipulating people. Which is a massive no-no if you really wanna be successful with women. | /r/seduction | 08/05/21 08:10 AM |
| 3 | Escorts vs GirlfriendsDamn man, you’re pretty fucked in the head if you believe you need to be very attractive to date and be happy with a “normal” girl. Your entire mindset is bad and you have some issues you really need to learn how to deal with. That’s incredibly apprent from your post and the replies I read. Normal women DON’T CARE IF YOU DON’T LOOK LIKE A SEXY HUNK. The only thing quality women respond to is HOW YOU MAKE THEM FEEL. So you cannot be “too ugly” for normal women, by definition. If you talk to women… | /r/seduction | 31/01/21 11:10 AM |
| 3 | How do you actually “make a girl like you”The answer is pretty simple but definitely not easy -- by having such a great time with her that she enjoys it so much she wants to spend more and more time with you later. | /r/seduction | 20/01/21 11:12 AM |
| 1 | How do you not get jealous hearing about guys your age who are way more successful with women?How do you not get jealous when someone your age is more fit than you? How do you not get jealous when someone your age is driving a nicer car? How do you not get jealous when someone your age is way more successful at whatever sport than you? How do you not get jealous when someone your age is way more successful at <insert one of literally thousands of things>? You can live your life being jealous of every little thing you can think of. Or you can man up, own up and keep improving yourself and… | /r/seduction | 16/08/20 12:29 PM |
| 1 | BEING PRODUCTIVE IS BEING ATTRACTIVE. When I've been busy and had more important things than girls, I did a lot better with girls. When I had too much time and thinking too much about girls, I did worse. This may not apply to everyone, but I discovered for me my best results are when I'm productive.That's true only because you behave differently when you don't obsess over girls all the time. Productiveness isn't really the key here, you're mixing up cause and effect. You can achieve the same feeling while not being very productive and simply employing the abundance mentality. | /r/seduction | 21/07/20 10:27 AM |
| 8 | There is a "blind leading the blind" belief in this sub that's hiding in plain sightThe "don't try to be friends or you'll get friendzoned" is patently bullshit incel logic. I always say this and always encourage everyone to become best friends with the girls but also keep up the sexual tension. That's the key. Not only will this make seduction easier because of trust and comfort, it'll make keeping the relationship significantly easier if you happen to want something more serious than just a lay. | /r/seduction | 15/05/20 07:46 AM |
| 1 | How to get a gf 101 with MaxMoeFoeHow to combat this is pretty difficult to explain as it varies from person to person. I'd have to talk to you and get a good feel for who you are and how you communicate with people to then be able to help you. It's a whole process, not a simple fix in most cases. | /r/seduction | 09/01/20 03:27 PM |
| 1 | How to get a gf 101 with MaxMoeFoeIt's the same set of social skills, but the underlying mindset is much different. Most women are also open and friendly if you approach them the right way. It's simply that women are used to men approaching them and only wanting one thing, so many women put up a guard against that, to weed out losers. But if you approach and don't signal any desperation, neediness, etc. (which shows in your body language, attitude etc.) then most women will be receptive, even taken ones. | /r/seduction | 09/01/20 01:58 PM |
| 2 | How to get a gf 101 with MaxMoeFoeIf you can go out and make male friends easily but can't go out and make female friends easily and then turn them into lovers, then it shows a bad mindset/attitude /approach. Most of the time if someone can befriend men but not women, it shows they believe women are special, put them on pedestals, etc. | /r/seduction | 09/01/20 01:47 PM |
| 1 | How to get a gf 101 with MaxMoeFoeContrary to popular belief, merely being confident and believing you'd make a great lover isn't enough to interest women in talking to you. Confidence is just one cog in the machine, although a pretty big one. Your attitude, body language, mindset and conversational skills (among other things) are much more important. Improve those and more women will want to talk to you. | /r/seduction | 09/01/20 01:33 PM |
| 1 | Is taking acid with a girl considered a date?Yep it's definitely a date. But I'd actually save something like this for a later date and definitely not the first one. Because you'd be much more at ease doing this on a second or further date since you'd actually know if you like each other and are compatible with one another. That would help avoid tons of potential problems and bad trips. | /r/seduction | 09/01/20 11:04 AM |
| 11 | Doing cold approach just to get better at approaching was really bad for me mentality and lead to a low abundance mindset when I was approaching. Focusing on my purpose and approaching when I feel like it throughout my daily activities felt more realistic, natural, and lessened any nervousness.I think you missed half the point of his reply. You don't need to approach with context if you're being present and in the moment. Waiting and searching for context is the same as giving yourself an excuse not to approach, and most men take those excuses and end up not taking positive action. | /r/seduction | 09/01/20 10:50 AM |
| 7 | Lets have a discussion about something thats been bugging me: Unatractive GirlsYeah what he said is just plain wrong since women aren't a hivemind, and he does have some misguided views on things after briefly going through the comment history... But daaamn you sound so incredibly butthurt with that longass rant. Like you're desperately trying to prove something to him and deliberately put him down at the same time. That's pretty unattractive behavior, regardless of how you look. "I'm confident! I'm attractive! That's a fact!" OK sure. You may as well be both those things … | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 11:48 AM |
| 2 | Anyone else simultaneously want to make a deep connection with one girl but..also want to bang many hot girls?It depends tbh. You can have both at the same time if, for example, your girl is into swing parties or banging hot girls with you, etc. It's not that black and white. | /r/seduction | 11/11/19 09:40 PM |
| 3 | Everybody sucks before doing 100 approaches. Don't complain, approach.Yeah what you said is perfectly right. But that wasn't exactly my point so you misunderstood a little what I said. Yes, for total beginners, it's great to follow a set, proven and repeatable method. Doing that they'll get the most consistent good results. But that's if they're gonna do everything on their own, without help. With a teacher/coach/knowledgeable wing, it's much better to not follow a method and go approach with Improvisation. So that the teacher can quickly give you feedback and fix… | /r/seduction | 12/08/19 05:25 PM |
| 6 | Everybody sucks before doing 100 approaches. Don't complain, approach.Pretty much best advice on this sub, except for the PS part. Improvisation and saying what pops into your head is my whole shpiel and it works amazingly well the vast majority of the time... If you do it right. Approaching like in the mystery method is good for absolute beginners. But then it quickly falls off in how well it does VS improvised approaches. See when you teach guys how to rely on themselves and their wit/personality, instead of a certain approach "from the book"... sure, at first i… | /r/seduction | 12/08/19 05:54 AM |
| 1 | Everybody sucks before doing 100 approaches. Don't complain, approach.You won't get any better if you don't actively try to learn from your previous approaches. | /r/seduction | 12/08/19 05:51 AM |
| 1 | Easy & Complete Guide To Bringing Girls Home From Clubs, Bars, And Dates (+Infield Examples)Huh, I guess what's common for one person is anything but common to someone else. | /r/seduction | 02/08/19 07:13 PM |
| 1 | Easy & Complete Guide To Bringing Girls Home From Clubs, Bars, And Dates (+Infield Examples)Great post, but lol do women actually ask you "Are you going to murder me?" when you try to pull? You must seriously be giving off that murder vibe then :D Since I can't ever recall a girl me asking this question with a straight face in more than two thousand dates. | /r/seduction | 02/08/19 06:49 PM |
| 3 | What women expect you to do in the first date?I can answer this question since getting laid on the first date is pretty much my specialty. The "being able to lead" part some of the other posts alluded to is true. That's very important. But it's just the tip of the huge iceberg. Basically, from the very start of the date, you need to focus completely on HAVING FUN, without an ulterior motive. Just so she sees you're not some weirdo, sees that you're fun to hang around with and becomes comfortable with you, among other things. That part's imp… | /r/seduction | 21/01/19 05:54 AM |
| 3 | I just had a MINDBLOWING realization and I have to get it out.I must admit, it was a trick question to see what his rationale would be. The thing is that no one "deserves" anything in life. Especially not other people. Because if you ever thought that you DESERVE another person then HOLY SHIT there's something seriously wrong with you. (I'm not talking about you specifically here but more in general) It's pretty unsurprising that guys who think they deserve or don't deserve someone are terrible with women. | /r/seduction | 31/12/18 07:53 AM |
| 2 | I just had a MINDBLOWING realization and I have to get it out.It actually does. It's the difference between being delusional and being proud of yourself for your achievements. One is bad for you and the other's not. | /r/seduction | 31/12/18 06:38 AM |
| 2 | I just had a MINDBLOWING realization and I have to get it out.Well, ok, but you still didn't answer the why behind the thinking. I deserve this because....? | /r/seduction | 31/12/18 05:39 AM |
| 2 | I just had a MINDBLOWING realization and I have to get it out.The whole "deserve" thing is a very slippery slope. A lot of "Nice Guys" think they "deserve" to have women sleep with them just because of a couple of nice gestures. And then go batshit crazy once they get rejected. How do you actually know what you deserve? How is what you deserve in life determined? It's pretty much all in your head so it's not much different than an affirmation and I'd call this false confidence. But I think you're spot on about the emotions thing. I always say it's the main… | /r/seduction | 31/12/18 04:45 AM |
| 1 | 22m Kissless Virgin needs helpIf you can't go out in the evenings, then start practicing daygame. Clubs and bars aren't the only places to meet women, you know. | /r/seduction | 22/12/18 04:03 AM |
| 1 | So I'm a hardcore people pleaser, which seems like a bad thing for attracting people. My issues mainly come with attempting to make people laugh and not make them mad. How do I break this bad habit?Turn all of that inwards. Become a hardcore yourself-pleaser, in the sense that you should attempt to make yourself laugh instead. Self-amusement is immensely attractive. Just don't become too self-centered. Find a balance. | /r/seduction | 19/12/18 04:21 AM |
| 1 | (26, m) I've never been on a date and no woman has ever been interested in me, is it because of my looks? (pics included) Looking for honest feedbackIt's not because of your looks. You look pretty average. I don't know how to put it better than this: Get your inner game in order, then practice outer game and you'll have plenty of women in your life. This simple trick works for everyone!TM (no actual sarcasm) But yeah, if you have Aspergers or a similar diagnosis, it's super difficult to get your inner game in order, by definition. Just means you have to try extra hard. | /r/seduction | 04/11/18 11:53 AM |
| 1 | What to talk about when someone introduces you to a girl? Im awkward in that situationTalk about your interests and ask about hers. Then expand on the topics untill you find something you're BOTH into. Works great. Even something as corny as "So hey... Do you like to travel?" can open up a whole world of conversations. The point is to ease into a conversation. How you start that is largely irrelevant so long as you get the ball rolling. | /r/seduction | 21/10/18 01:41 PM |
| 15 | Is There A Cleanly Defined Process For Seduction?One that works great for me is: 1- Approach an attractive girl. 2- Have a fun, exciting or interesting conversation with her. 3- When you see that she enjoys your company, throw in some teasing, push-pull, etc. to spark some sexual attraction and interest. (if that fails go to step 1 and try again or continue the conversation until she does) 4- Get her numer (if that fails, go to step 1 and try again) 5- Set up a date 6- Go on said date (or get an instant date at step 4 and skip steps 5 & 6 alto… | /r/seduction | 21/10/18 09:25 AM |
| 6 | A great exercise that will make you more attractive to girlsGreat post, powerful stuff. Just one problem though. >> you’ll innately know that you’re a great person who’s completely deserving of her and her time. Stuff like that's pretty toxic in itself. No one "deserves" another person or his or her time. In fact, no one "deserves" anything. When guys start focusing on what they do and don't deserve they mostly end up depressed, which will exacerbate and then perpetuate the whole low self-esteem self-worth problem. I've seen so many guys go down this h… | /r/seduction | 12/10/18 09:21 AM |
| 1 | Remember that your emotions will try to fuck you upIt's not that these thoughts are irrational. It's just that your organism is designed to help keep you in comfort. To expend less energy. To avoid challenge. It's basic biology if you look at it closely. But it makes you really complacent if you let it. Those who want great things in life, like lots of hot women, financial success, a great body etc. have to STRUGGLE. And your thoughts will try to prevent you from entering a struggle. Because of self-preservation. So the trick is to decide that y… | /r/seduction | 11/10/18 09:15 AM |
| 4 | rsd is shadyRSD is a business and businesses are designed to make money. By any means. That said, I've met some RSD folk, including Papa and some coaches, and on an individual level most of them are really solid dudes and know what they're doing. It's just that sometimes their business side gets in the way of things. | /r/seduction | 02/10/18 10:33 AM |
| 14 | How To make a woman feel like a woman without putting her on a pedestal (Question)Simply by treating her as a feminine person and not as an object of adoration. When you put someone on a pedestal you're effectively objectifying them. | /r/seduction | 28/09/18 03:05 PM |
| 9 | When first meeting someone on a date, what's a good way to quickly break the ice?Best way to break the ice and set the stage for the whole date and your interaction from the very start is to go in for a hug right at the beginning of a date when meeting her, with a friendly, open and slightly higher energy greeting like "Heyyy, come here, gimme a hug." And genuinely give a great hug, showing you're not afraid to touch her and that you're a friendly and physical guy. And then just proceed to talk to her like she's your long lost buddy. With a bit of a sexual undertone (a knowi… | /r/seduction | 27/09/18 09:02 AM |
| 7 | Quality threesomes, can they be arranged?I have arranged threesomes quite often. Basically, it's about finding the right gf or fwb who's bi, and then going out with her to find new female friends that you'd BOTH like to sleep with. Then just seducing them as normal. And having your gf as a wing makes it significantly easier as well. Then just invite the third girl over, pre-screening of course that she's also into girls. And have a great time. Then have your gf and her kiss and you join in. Ez pz And then make a mutual fuckbuddy out of… | /r/seduction | 21/09/18 09:45 AM |
| 10 | (28/m) I’ll do anything to help me get over my approach anxiety. But I find it super difficult. Any advice?I doubt you'll do anything because your solution is pretty simple if not easy. Go walk around town and approach 30 women every single day and you'll quickly beat your approach anxiety. Within weeks. First it will be BRUTAL, but then you'll get over it. And it's easier if you have someone to do it with and hold you accountable. | /r/seduction | 09/09/18 02:55 PM |
| 2 | At what point do you stop seeing multiple women and become exclusive with one?I've been with hundreds and hundreds of girls in the decade between my 20s-30s and now I'm in a serious and committed relationship with just one girl for the past 3 years. You stop seeing multiple women when you find one who is the most compatible to you and who makes you not even think of other girls at all while with her... Plus we occasionally have threesomes so there's that :) which helps with the urge to fuck around. But even if we didn't I suspect I wouldn't fuck around like before. | /r/seduction | 07/08/18 10:39 AM |
| 1 | Sexual Jokes - Step 1 to start “Talking Sex” with a Woman (with Examples).Even in your examples the girl doesn't even laugh and at best you get a smirk and an intense look out of her.... So these are not jokes by definition. You're just inserting edgy sexual comments designed go shake her up and get a reaction from her. And she's not laughing. Also, trying to get a reaction out of someone isn't very attractive and a bit needy. Give an example where she actually laughs because what you said is genuinely clever or funny yet with a sexual twist. Your previous post was pu… | /r/seduction | 29/07/18 07:32 AM |
| 6 | College Pick Up --- Done For You (With Examples!!)This is a really good article. Especially the part where you don't ask the girl out on the first approach because you're constantly going to see the same people. A lot of guys don't realize that during cold approaches, there are ALWAYS going to be rejections. Because cold approaching is basically a number's game. You get better at it but you'll never be perfect. And if you do it on a college campus, you're eventually going to run into the girls who you cold approached and who rejected you. As ti… | /r/seduction | 10/05/18 09:57 AM |
| 3 | Do hot women get rejected ?This may be a shocker to some, but hot women get rejected all the time. Lets say you got a 10 gf and you're in a serious and awesome relationship. You'll naturally reject all the others if she completely satisfies you sexually and intellectually. Tons of guys who are successful with women reject 8s, 9s and 10s. We're not all sex-starved, you know. | /r/seduction | 09/04/18 09:26 PM |
| – | Do hot women get rejected ?This may be a shocker to some, but hot women get rejected all the time. Lets say you got a 10 gf and you're in a serious and awesome relationship. You'll naturally reject all the others if she completely satisfies you sexually and intellectually. Tons of guys who are successful with women reject 8s, 9s and 10s all the time. We're not all sex-starved, you know. | /r/seduction | 09/04/18 09:26 PM |
| 1 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear - Part Two - After the Hi!Hey, Buddhish :D Well that's a nice compliment, thanks. And it's funny that you mention it, but I haven't really read too many books on self-improvement. But one that I will definitely recommend and that has probably made me a bit "buddhish" like you say, is A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. I don't necessarily agree with all of what he says, but it's one of those books that transformed me massively in terms of helping with anxiety, worldview, etc. So if you haven't read it, I can suggest it easily.… | /r/seduction | 15/02/18 03:23 PM |
| 2 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.Hey, that would take a really long time to explain in depth. But the general gist of it is when you see that she likes you, you gradually start talking about increasingly sexual topics, ramp up intimate touching, get her thinking about sex with you, show her that you're a sexual person without any judgment, keep intense eye contact with her, and so on and so forth. Would take a whole separate article to explain how to do it properly. | /r/seduction | 21/01/18 10:59 AM |
| 4 | Why am I not getting girls?We all are around the same looks, body type and race All of that is irrelevant. I can talk to a girl and I see her getting more and more bored and she doesn't hit me back up after we finish the conversation. That's your biggest problem. Focus on learning how to have more engaging, fun, interesting or exciting conversations with women. Them getting bored is a sure sign that your verbal game is shit. That's as far as I can tell from the info you provide because just the words you say aren't that i… | /r/seduction | 22/12/17 01:33 AM |
| 1 | 28 years old female virginBasically, find a guy you find moderately attractive, and befriend him. Make sure he finds you attractive as well. Then, tell him about your situation - just make sure he understands where you're coming from and has no problem with it and wants to help. (Trust me, most guys will want to help if you say you're attractive). Then, after you find the right guy, offer to become "friends with benefits", or whatever with him, and have him slowly help you get used to sex. Start off slow, make yourself c… | /r/seduction | 30/11/17 12:23 AM |
| 1 | I'm pretty yet I still can't get a boyfriend.I hope you realize that being "pretty" is not enough for most guys to want to date you. Looks are only great for hooking up, for one night stands, etc - but if you want a boyfriend then you have to bring much more than just your appearance to the table, in most cases. Otherwise it gets boring. As cliché as it is, it's your personality that matters for serious relationships. If you're having trouble with this, then become more approachable, interesting, engaging, and fun. | /r/seduction | 26/11/17 09:28 AM |
| 1 | I’m a 21 year old guy who’s still just as afraid of hot girls as I was when I was 15.Ok so here's the thing with rejection... I hope you understand that not everyone is going to like you no matter who you are and what you do. So, you will NEVER avoid rejection in life. Now, knowing that, why are you afraid of getting rejected if you KNOW that there is always going to be a chance of rejection no matter who you talk to? Just go talk to the hot girls, and some will reject you while others won't. If you get rejected more often than not then just improve yourself further until you ge… | /r/seduction | 14/11/17 01:16 PM |
| 1 | What I learnt from 1,000+ approaches: you don't need gameI don't think one single thing is king. Confidence is just one part of a complex equation. I'm not a very confident guy and i get laid nearly every time i go out. If i had to pick one thing to say it's "king", I'd pick Inner Game. And confidence is a part of that. | /r/seduction | 12/11/17 01:19 PM |
| 1 | I find seduction immoral ?Seduction is only immoral if you use immoral ways to seduce someone. If you're being authentic, talk honestly, and take a genuine interest in the other person, then it's never immoral. So seduction in itself is neither moral or immoral - it's how you choose to go about it that makes the difference. | /r/seduction | 12/11/17 12:15 PM |
| 14 | What I learnt from 1,000+ approaches: you don't need gameI think your definition of Game is wrong. In basic terms, it's simply your social skills and acuity with women. Or, in other words, how well you socially interact with women in general. It's not just a collection of techniques like you seem to believe in your article. And as any skill that you can learn, you can choose to develop your social skills with women DELIBERATELY, or neglect this. But even if you neglect it, you'll still have SOME level of game all the time because you naturally develop… | /r/seduction | 12/11/17 08:15 AM |
| 9 | How would you go about seducing a more dominant woman?I found that showing very dominant women that their antics have no effect on you at all works great. After that, show her in private that you are actually more dominant than her, through your body language and physicality (pick her up when hugging her, spin her around, prevent her movement, or show in another way that you're physically stronger) and through your words (show her your strength of character) Basically, dominant women want to know if you can "handle them" | /r/seduction | 09/11/17 02:17 PM |
| 7 | First Date: How To Turn A Boring Conversation Into A Captivating OneYes. Yes it does. I've noticed that people who are good at improv often have a huge advantage in dating, provided they also have decent inner game and aren't afraid of talking to women. | /r/seduction | 03/11/17 10:12 AM |
| 1 | Confidence Comes From CompetenceNot sure if that would count as advertising, so I'll refrain from posting a link to it. PM me if you want me to send you the link. | /r/seduction | 02/11/17 01:14 PM |
| 8 | Confidence Comes From CompetenceI'd agree to a point that FOR SOME PEOPLE confidence comes from competence, but definitely not for all, and that it's definitely not the only reason for their confidence. Haven't you ever met someone who has no idea what he's doing but is still very confident in himself? I've met loads of these people. Some were even very ignorant. Haven't you ever met someone who's simply very confident in HIMSELF, even though he has no clue what he's doing, but is simply confident that he can handle anything t… | /r/seduction | 01/11/17 09:18 AM |
| 1 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.Yeah just got banned from Redpill for xposting this. | /r/seduction | 12/10/17 07:53 AM |
| 8 | My girlfriend and I want to have a threesomeI've been doing this for a while, getting threesomes with my girlfriend. Tinder and Bumble are horrible for this - I did have some success in online dating. But the easiest way to do it is to go out clubbing together, and game girls together. You'll be surprised by how much easier it is compared with when you do this alone or with a guy wing because you've already got preselection, and thus won't be needy, desperate, or creepy anymore by default. Although you may have to introduce your girl to p… | /r/seduction | 05/10/17 07:39 AM |
| 4 | [INFIELD VIDEO] Approaching HOT Russian Women In NovosibirskAll of that actually takes a lot of work and skills, and most men can't and won't do it. So what's your point? | /r/seduction | 25/09/17 07:36 AM |
| 3 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.Hey. The point of the article wasn't about the "Hi" at all. It was about treating women as people, talking to women like they're normal human beings, and not putting them on pedestals. Of course, it takes infinitely much more than hi to "fuck 1000 girls". For example, at some point there has to be sexual tension or she won't want to sleep with you no matter what you do. Say hi Talk to her like a normal person (show her you're not a weirdo, and that you're interested in her as a person as well) T… | /r/seduction | 22/09/17 07:58 AM |
| 4 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.Oh right. I didn't stay long in any venue, and walked through them. I'd make a route, which would take a long time to go through by foot and which would put me in the way of lots of women. For example, in one particular town, i'd start at the beach, then walk through it approaching every girl I found attractive, then the beach went into a park, then did the same there, then the park ended on a promenade street, and then i went through one mall, and then through another... then found a side road … | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 05:58 PM |
| 6 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.Depends on what you mean by trouble. I got rejected a ton, and got told to get lost and fuck off a few times, but no, never slapped or attacked, or anything worse than that. | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 01:58 PM |
| 1 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear - Part Two - After the Hi!Hey man, thanks for sharing your story. Sometimes, women bringing up their past boyfriends, or random male friends can simply be a shit-test. She may want to see how you react to it, whether you are going to get affected by it, or if you'll suddenly become jealous, weird, or even dejected. Mainly, when women start talking about other guys I tell them something like "Hey, listen, I'm not one of your girlfriends so I'm not really interested in talking about guys." and then simply change the subjec… | /r/seduction | 18/09/17 06:10 PM |
| 4 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear - Part Two - After the Hi!Thanks. Well, if you have any suggestions as to how i could condense it without gettig rid of crucial content, I'm all ears. I could find a few words here and there that I could nix, but not much. | /r/seduction | 18/09/17 08:17 AM |
| 2 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.Lol, good luck :) | /r/seduction | 17/09/17 04:26 PM |
| 1 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.That's because just talking to women normally is just that. Normal. It's simply the first step. Then you have to create sexual tension eventually, which, if properly utilized, is what gets you laid. So, normal talk to show her your not a creep or weordo, then transition into creating sexual tension. Also, treating women like people was the point, not that you always just talk normally to them, whatever that is. | /r/seduction | 17/09/17 07:05 AM |
| 2 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.I just thought the whole thing was pretty ridiculous, a grown man going from girl to girl, trying to chat her up, learning social skills this way because i didn't learn them before and society doesn't teach these thing to you in school, etc,. So i just decided to see the humor in it, but realized that it's something i gotta do to learn or I'll feel unfulfilled, and tried to enjoy the process as much as I could. Sure some days i didn't enjoy at all, but i slogged through them. I still enjoyed mos… | /r/seduction | 17/09/17 06:47 AM |
| 1 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.Look through some of my blog articles, there's even a collage in 2 of them i think, of the exact porn pictures i just described showing several girls naked with me, with faces and all the naugthy bits blurred out, except my face. Not home atm can't remember which articles exactly. Those are from the girls who actually agreed that i posted these pics on my website lol. I can link them to you later when i get home in like 6,5 hours, can't be arsed over the phone | /r/seduction | 16/09/17 11:25 PM |
| 1 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.Sure, I'll prove it to you, if you actually want to know and also willing to put your money where your mouth is. First, you'll have to send me 500$ over PayPal (or Bitcoin if you prefer. Etherium and NEM works fine too). Then I'll send you an NDA between you and my company, which you will have to sign and which will prevent you from later leaking the material you'll receive to any other parties, or to the web. Then you'll tell me an adress, and I'll send you a usb drive with about, 55Gb of my ho… | /r/seduction | 16/09/17 11:16 PM |
| 1 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.You can always change your situation. Read the blog post I recommend at the end, about happiness. | /r/seduction | 16/09/17 10:25 PM |
| 2 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.Cheers. Well, for you then, I'd suggest learning how to create and hold sexual tension. Then it'll all be much easier, since I think you have everything else down, and it may just be the only thing you're lacking for consistent results. Unfortunately, I currently don't have a blog article on how to create sexual tension and use it to your advantage. I did write all about it in my book tho. | /r/seduction | 16/09/17 07:00 PM |
| 1 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.I actually have a ton of great advice specifically for dates, since dates are my SPECIALTY. Unfortunately, it would take me a month to explain it all to you. I've written a whole book on the subject, called How to Consistently Get Laid on The First Date, so if you really want to get this handled and nearly always have dates where she'll end up loving you by the end, you may want to check it out. You can find a link to it somewhere in my blog, but it's not cheap lol. But here's the REALLY condens… | /r/seduction | 16/09/17 06:22 PM |
| 2 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.That's pretty much what you always notice about a hot girl at first - that she's hot. The point is to find out who she is as a person later, when you start talking to her. So just tell her that then, if it's GENUINELY the only thing on your mind "Wow you're so hot my brain's gonna melt, but are you actually a nice person? :)" with a playful grin. or something | /r/seduction | 16/09/17 06:16 PM |
| 3 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.Both. The point is to practice social skills. But if I see that a convo is going really well, and we're both enjoying each other, why not go for the number? A simple "Oh hey, It was fun talking to you. Let's exchange numbers and do this again sometime." She'll either give me her number or she won't - and since I didn't have an outcome to begin with, I don't really much care either way - but i'm not a fool and I don't want to miss a good opportunity when I see one. | /r/seduction | 16/09/17 06:16 PM |
| 2 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.It comes with experience. When you realize certain things, when you achieve a measure of abundance, when you genuinely start connecting with people for who they are instead of superficial things, you sooner or later tend to realize that you shouldn't even be trying so hard because, paradoxically, the less effort you put into trying to make a connection with someone, the more you'll actually connect. Lol this may sound confusing, hope it's not. | /r/seduction | 16/09/17 06:09 PM |
| 1 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.Hey man, thanks for writing to me. I'm very glad it helped you realize what you did, and it's always awesome when someone actually reads my ramblings in full without skimming, and finds something useful in them :) | /r/seduction | 16/09/17 06:06 PM |
| 2 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.Sure - stop thinking that your interests are irrelevant. I frequently talk to women about video games, my favorite sci-fi shows and books, etc. Also about my time studying electrical engineering and then quitting when I realized it wasn't fulfilling - all topics that most guys would never bring up. Fact is, I'm a total nerd, and like nerdy shit, and am also a hardcore gamer. Never stopped me from talking about all of that. As long as you talk PASSIONATELY about the things you're PASSIONATE about… | /r/seduction | 16/09/17 06:05 PM |
| 2 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.That's actually insanely hard to do, so I recommend you get someone to comment on your tonality and body language who isn't afraid to tell it to you like it is. So, not your mom, nor grandma, nor bestie :D | /r/seduction | 16/09/17 06:00 PM |
| 2 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.Hi. Nope, not very muscular, definitely painfully average-looking, and just 5'10 (178cm) You missed the point of my article if you think that all it takes is a normal chat with women. It takes infinitely much more than that. What my point was that you should talk to women as people, and not that you should always be having "normal conversations", whatever that is. To get laid, you need to evoke tons of emotions in women, and then create sexual tension - and HOLD it, and later use it to your adva… | /r/seduction | 16/09/17 05:59 PM |
| 1 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.Yeah... and then the 100 variations of it, like "Hey I saw you from across the street, and thought you looked cute. blah blah, blah blah" It's okay when it is genuine - but it rarely is because it's one of the most frequently learned "safe" openers these days. But in reality, it's so overused it's not even funny. | /r/seduction | 16/09/17 05:47 PM |
| 1 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.You miss the point. Talking "normally" doesn't mean talking like a meek, timid, insecure "nice guy" would. Certain things get you friendzoned, and talking to women as people is not one of them. | /r/seduction | 16/09/17 05:46 PM |
| 1 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.Yeah, I'm a white male, but I've dealt with many "brown" clients, and know otherwise. Their results speak for themselves. Once they learn the fundamentals and get their shit in order, they pull as much as the next guy. | /r/seduction | 16/09/17 05:44 PM |
| 2 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.Well, be yourself is not great if you're someone who's rude, shitty, malicious, etc. Be your best self, always keep improving, and focus on letting your personality shine, not on what you think will impress women. | /r/seduction | 16/09/17 07:34 AM |
| 14 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.Why is "did you see the latest Star Wars movie?" a bad line? I said that all thr time to women, when episode 7 and Rogue came out. I'm also a HARDCORE gamer. I frequently talk about video games with women. What you say don't matter, it's the passion behind the words and your tonality which makes or breaks it. Sub-communication is what's important. In fact, I'm eventually planning to start streaming and answering dating questions for gamers live while playing my favorite games. | /r/seduction | 16/09/17 07:31 AM |
| 1 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.That's great advice and a great outlook to have. | /r/seduction | 16/09/17 07:27 AM |
| 4 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.I'm currently in a very happy and serious relationship, which is already going 4 years strong. Chose a girl who's okay with pickup and threesomes. I don't cheat on her unless we're in a threesome. I'm actually working on a video product about how to easily get threesomes with your gf (provided she's down for that) | /r/seduction | 16/09/17 07:25 AM |
| 10 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.I've been rejected more times than you even approached. I get rejected every single day I go out. Stop deluding yourself. Hi is not all you need to do - getting your inner game in order is - which is the whole point of my rant. | /r/seduction | 16/09/17 07:05 AM |
| 3 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.The way you say your first words to any woman will determine if she'll lump you in with the "unsexy, nerd IT guy" or "awesome fun dude". Again, learn tonality, get your body language in order, and hold strong eye contact - those things will say more to her than your outer appearance or race. I have quite a few indian clients - and not just american indian, but indian indian, the ones with the truly horrid accent, who still live there. (These are the clients I get from Quora since a third of thei… | /r/seduction | 16/09/17 06:59 AM |
| 19 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.Yep, that's pretty much it - decent looking. I'm neither tall nor handsome, but I do groom myself well, am clean, and smell nice. Other than that, I've already mentioned this somewhere else - I'm painfully average. I went through varying stages of fitness the past 10 years, and while I did get more chances at talking to women while I was fit vs fat, the end result never mattered; pulled nearly as much when I let myself go for a period after an injury, as when I did when I was in top physical sha… | /r/seduction | 16/09/17 06:48 AM |
| 11 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.Not that I would advise anyone to take illicit drugs, but yeah, I also tried MDMA twice in my life, and it pretty much makes you "friends with the world" lol. Channel that state and you're golden. | /r/seduction | 16/09/17 06:21 AM |
| 3 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.Hey, thanks for the kind words. | /r/seduction | 16/09/17 06:20 AM |
| 6 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.See that's the main difference, you're trying to look for something you think SHE would react to positively. I don't. I look for something that catches MY eye, and comment on it, regardless of what I think her reaction will be. Because I can deal with her reactions, positive, or negative ones. | /r/seduction | 16/09/17 06:18 AM |
| 1 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.Clearly :) | /r/seduction | 16/09/17 06:16 AM |
| 2 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.Nope | /r/seduction | 16/09/17 06:16 AM |
| 2 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.There's never a go-to thing. I notice something about the girl in the time it takes me to approach - something interesting, weird, that I like, dislike, or whatever - and then make a GENUINE comment on it, preceded by an enthusiastic HI, or maybe a nod or wave before that even. | /r/seduction | 15/09/17 10:00 PM |
| 1 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.Just google my username and add "blog" to that :D | /r/seduction | 15/09/17 09:29 PM |
| 4 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.I'm painfully average-looking. Also 5'10, and go everywhere with a tshirt, jeans, and comfy shoes that i clean like once a month, if that frequent. Looks are the oldest excuse in the book. So is money. | /r/seduction | 15/09/17 09:25 PM |
| 3 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.I've only read a few books on this subject, the one i recommend fully is A New Earth by Echart Tolle. I also have an inner game course which you can get for free on my blog if you're interested - there's no marketing in the newsletter | /r/seduction | 15/09/17 08:48 PM |
| 23 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.Man, I couldn't agree with you more. Most guys don't realize that if they just take ONE DAY per week out of their busy schedule, and make it a point to go to some busy spot that day and talk to as many girls as they can, like 20-40-60 or whatever time permits - and do that for a couple of months - it will solve most of their problems with talking with women. That's how I started out. I went to a town where no one knows me - picked a busy spot - and TALK TALK TALK. Nothing transformed me more tha… | /r/seduction | 15/09/17 07:49 PM |
| 64 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.Oh I've only read a few books on self-improvement, like 4-5 or so. New Earth by Eckhart Tolle is the one that I recommend to everyone. I studied the standard pua material when I was 18, tried it, and it didn't sit well with me, so just decided to go off and experiment myself, approaching literally hundreds of girls per week on busy streets and parks and malls, and improvising. In the end, I found that being authentic and genuine is what works best for me, but I first had to get my inner game in … | /r/seduction | 15/09/17 07:02 PM |
| 10 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.I'd say talking to women as people is THE silver bullet, but not everyone can fire it since it highly depends on the person's inner game. | /r/seduction | 15/09/17 06:52 PM |
| 157 | The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.Hi. Pure confidence is a myth. I'm not always confident. I simply put myself in a confident state before and when I go out by doing certain things throughout the day, and employing certain mindsets. Every person's confidence levels fluctuate throughout the day, it's not an ON-OFF switch. Think of it more as percentiles, and certain things can happen during your day which will sap your confidence, while others will raise it - no matter how competent you are at something. So confidence is a combin… | /r/seduction | 15/09/17 06:04 PM |
| 2 | 40 millions of Americans are in sexless marriages. That's about a third.Because there are never sudden diseases in life, right? | /r/TheRedPill | 29/08/17 05:43 PM |
| 8 | 40 millions of Americans are in sexless marriages. That's about a third.Okay, let's say you marry an awesome woman, everything's great - the sex life, her personality, etc... and after 4-5 years of a perfect marriage, she suddenly becomes mentally ill after some strong trigger or trauma... You then dump her instantly and have zero regrets? Not all mental disorders and diseases manifest themselves BEFORE a marriage. It's easy to say something about others when you're not in that situation yourself and have no attachment to the person. Hence you have no empathy at all… | /r/TheRedPill | 27/08/17 02:24 PM |
| 3 | NEVER Do This On A DateBasically, don't talk about negative shit on dates, PERIOD. Dates are a place to have fun, get to know each other, and they're meant to be light-hearted. No one comes on a date to listen to your self-depricating shit, and no one wants to hear your problems, especially when getting to know you. Talk only about positive shit, and forget your problems for a while, or no one in their right mind is going to like you. | /r/seduction | 28/06/17 05:35 PM |
| 1 | How to Approach Women and Get Numbers So They'll Want to Meet You Later When You CallCheers, man. Appreciate it. | /r/seduction | 24/06/17 09:07 PM |
| 2 | Being Unapologetic About Your Sexuality Helps You Get Laid Significantly.Yeah - it takes a lot of time and effort - but nothing worth having in life comes easy :) | /r/seduction | 09/06/17 05:11 PM |
| 1 | Being Unapologetic About Your Sexuality Helps You Get Laid Significantly.That's the thing - unless you're objectively hideous, or morbidly obese - your looks don't matter. There are tons of guys who look like apes - who go around with gorgeous women, and they're not even rich or famous. It's all about how you make women feel - everything else is irrelevant. You need to learn how to be awesome with women - simple as that. | /r/seduction | 09/06/17 05:00 PM |
| 1 | Being Unapologetic About Your Sexuality Helps You Get Laid Significantly.Why not? Are you objectively hideous, or morbidly obese? | /r/seduction | 09/06/17 02:38 PM |
| 1 | Being Unapologetic About Your Sexuality Helps You Get Laid Significantly.This wasn't about trying to shoehorn anything, because if a person has a one-track mind, and is always looking for any opportunity to talk about sex and keeps pounding that topic like a dead horse - of course that's going to be unattractive, seem desperate, and maybe even creepy. This was about simply not shying away from such topics, and not feeling ashamed of showing your sexuality or even talking about sex when the subject comes up naturally - and not trying to insert the topic into everythin… | /r/seduction | 09/06/17 07:42 AM |
| 1 | Being Unapologetic About Your Sexuality Helps You Get Laid Significantly.This just shows that you have severely low self-esteem. Dude, there are NO LEAGUES. There are just people. She's just like you - a human being who eats, sleeps, shits, farts, burps, and does all the same things you do, to survive. You need to learn to respect yourself more. | /r/seduction | 08/06/17 11:08 PM |
| 1 | Being Unapologetic About Your Sexuality Helps You Get Laid Significantly.Well, you set yourself on a path of self-improvement. There are lots of resources which can help you deal with these problems. Even I have a free resource, an inner game course, which helps people deal with various insecurities and self-esteem issues like nervousness, shyness, anxiety, lack of boundaries, etc. You can find it on my site. But there's no resource in the world which will help you fix this "instantly". It takes time, effort, and willpower. | /r/seduction | 08/06/17 08:08 PM |
| 1 | Being Unapologetic About Your Sexuality Helps You Get Laid Significantly.Ahh sorry, it seems that my plugin for newsletter is screwed - I'll try and fix it as soon as possible. | /r/seduction | 08/06/17 05:53 PM |
| 4 | Being Unapologetic About Your Sexuality Helps You Get Laid Significantly.You wouldn't believe how many guys I run into with a similar problem. This all stems from your upbringing. From either your parents, peers, teachers, or your environment teaching you to believe that sex is sacred, that girls are angels, that sexual urges are dirty, and so on and so forth. In any case, this has nothing to do with having "the killer instinct" but about removing certain negative core beliefs and changing your worldview. You can do this through education, therapy, or purposeful prac… | /r/seduction | 08/06/17 01:42 PM |
| 2 | Being Unapologetic About Your Sexuality Helps You Get Laid Significantly.That's a great point. It's sort of a shit-test that some women will throw at you to whether you actually MEAN it and can stand your ground - or if you'll crumble under pressure. | /r/seduction | 08/06/17 01:22 PM |
| 3 | Being Unapologetic About Your Sexuality Helps You Get Laid Significantly.I thought this sub was to improve ourselves as men, and become successful with women - for some this might entail the goal of getting laid as much as possible, for others it's about simply being able to find a girlfriend of their choosing. People have different goals. One is not necessarily better than another. | /r/seduction | 08/06/17 01:20 PM |
| 4 | Being Unapologetic About Your Sexuality Helps You Get Laid Significantly.These things are incredibly skewed because people tend to remember the negative stuff more frequently. But i appreciate the sentiment. | /r/seduction | 08/06/17 08:33 AM |
| 1 | Being Unapologetic About Your Sexuality Helps You Get Laid Significantly.I've actually done that, written a whole book - and there are a few who wrote me an e-mail specifically just to argue something I didn't even mention :D:D Damn dude, you're spot on. | /r/seduction | 08/06/17 08:30 AM |
| 5 | Being Unapologetic About Your Sexuality Helps You Get Laid Significantly.I'd like to know where you get your number of 60%+. It sounds like a made up statistic. | /r/seduction | 08/06/17 08:13 AM |
| 3 | Being Unapologetic About Your Sexuality Helps You Get Laid Significantly.You should be a poet. | /r/seduction | 08/06/17 08:11 AM |
| 1 | Being Unapologetic About Your Sexuality Helps You Get Laid Significantly.What reasons do you find not to do it, when the opportunity arises? Seems like you have low self-esteem, if you consciously understand it, but don't do it, and hate it afterwards. | /r/seduction | 08/06/17 12:17 AM |
| 18 | Being Unapologetic About Your Sexuality Helps You Get Laid Significantly.I wouldn't call it naive, just overly optimistic because i'm fully aware that there are bad and malicious people in the world. I just consciously choose to see the good side in people until they show me a reason not to. Contrary to popular belief, respect is not earned but given freely - disrespect is earned. In any case, you seem to have your definitions mixed up on what values are and living up to them. I teach this stuff professionally (dealing with insecurities and helping people build up a … | /r/seduction | 07/06/17 11:55 PM |
| 36 | Being Unapologetic About Your Sexuality Helps You Get Laid Significantly.The thing is, I assume right from the start that most people are decent human beings. And as a decent human being, one of your core values should automatically be to not be malicious and to not harm or hurt others, to take care of yourself, be honest, authentic, etc. Also, my advice is NOT to focus on the sole objective of "fulfilling your basic needs and desires at any cost" - you are very wrong regarding that. My advice is for people to improve themselves, follow their path in life, set health… | /r/seduction | 07/06/17 09:42 PM |
| 8 | Being Unapologetic About Your Sexuality Helps You Get Laid Significantly.Sure, as with everything - calibration is key. | /r/seduction | 07/06/17 09:31 PM |
| 10 | Being Unapologetic About Your Sexuality Helps You Get Laid Significantly.Word. | /r/seduction | 07/06/17 08:37 PM |
| 12 | Be Unapologetic About Your Sexuality.That's not true. When it comes to looks, I'm painfully average, for example - and it has no negative effect on my success in the end. It's all about the attitude, the vibe you put out, and the don't give a shit indifference to the outcome, along with you being able to not crumble under pressure. Of course, if you're a nervous mess - it will obviously be super creepy - and that is why the goal before doing this is to improve yourself as a person in general, to get your shit together, to get over … | /r/TheRedPill | 06/06/17 11:01 AM |
| 3 | Be Unapologetic About Your Sexuality.That's a great point! Like I said, a lot of people are actually ashamed of their sexuality. | /r/TheRedPill | 06/06/17 06:37 AM |
| 1 | Be Unapologetic About Your Sexuality.Well - I guess I should add "hopefully", at the end of that sentence, too :) But no, by "you live to the best of your ability" i mean that you are actually trying to do your best to live and not die. | /r/TheRedPill | 06/06/17 06:36 AM |
| 2 | Be Unapologetic About Your Sexuality.Cheers. Always glad when it's helpful. | /r/TheRedPill | 05/06/17 08:22 PM |
| 46 | Be Unapologetic About Your Sexuality.It's pretty much the most powerful compliment a woman can receive regarding her appearance. | /r/TheRedPill | 05/06/17 06:07 PM |
| 3 | About how important is being into fashion?Fashion significantly improves first impressions, but if you know what you're doing, it is largely irrelevant, unless the girl is very hung up on it and it's one of her "musts". I literally went on too many dates to count with just jeans and t-shirt (or jacket if it was cold). It's what I'm comfortable with, and I don't give a shit about trying to be more fashionable. And then, out of curiosity, there was a about a 3 month period where a gay friend of mine suggested that I look bland and that he… | /r/seduction | 31/05/17 09:04 AM |
| 3 | What Sexual Intent Really Is, Why It's So Powerful, and How To Use It EffectivelyWell, voicing your feelings, as in "addressing the elephant in the room" does help to quell them and sometimes even deal with them in order to improve and help you be better with the next girl. So, if your point here was to help guys gradually deal with their emotions, feelings, and insecurities - then sure, it's pretty legit. Like you said, sometimes this will work. But, to be fair, sometimes nearly anything can work. I think finding something that will work a lot more than it won't is the ulti… | /r/seduction | 25/05/17 08:24 PM |
| 4 | What Sexual Intent Really Is, Why It's So Powerful, and How To Use It EffectivelyWhile your article does touch up on a very important point - I found a huge problem with it. I honestly think there are much better ways to show sexual intent and be vulnerable stating it than to say "Sorry I’m being kinda weird, honestly I’m just feeling nervous because you’re intimidatingly attractive." It's not a bad thing to say you're nervous - but come on... stating it in this way just shows you're a pussy - unless you seriously mean it to be very endearing, which I seriously doubt is the … | /r/seduction | 25/05/17 07:07 PM |
| 5 | I'm 22 years old, I'm a failure with woman and I am feeling suicidal. Help?It seems to me that you base your happiness on OTHER PEOPLE - as in, on having a girlfriend who you like. That is a fucked up way to achieve happiness because you think it does not depend on you, but on others. And, you can NEVER control other people, you can only control yourself and your own actions. So - to solve this problem, you need to learn how to be 100% happy on your own. You need to develop yourself and your personality until you actually start to LIKE yourself for who you are as a per… | /r/seduction | 20/05/17 10:17 AM |
| 2 | Here's what to do on a date with women to never be seen as a boring man!But I've found that women love to be silly if you give her tools to do so and show her that she won't be embarrassing herself if she lets her guard down a bit. This right here is pure gold. I wish more guys realized this crucial point. I might have to shamelessly steal this line :D Also - not many guys realize this - you can become anyone and anything on a date. She doesn't know who you are, she's meeting you for the first time so as far as she's concerned, you're the person you portray so she'l… | /r/seduction | 07/05/17 10:31 PM |
| 1 | Here's what to do on a date with women to never be seen as a boring man!Not to say there's anything wrong with taking charge, but too many times taking the lead turns into a man trying too hard to impress while the woman sits back, judges, while bringing absolutely nothing to the table. Leading shouldn't equal a one sided audition. That's the key distinction: A guy can do this out of complete self-amusement, just to have fun himself - and he will have a ton of success. (which is the right way to do this) Or, he can do it in a try-hard way, because he has an ulterior… | /r/seduction | 07/05/17 10:29 PM |
| 1 | Here's what to do on a date with women to never be seen as a boring man!I understand that. Storytelling is a skill where you transform your experience, knowledge, and personality to something emotionally compelling. Learn that skill then. Learn to find the emotions you get from playing that game and convey them to her. I mean, you do ENJOY playing MTG, don't you? You're getting some joy and emotions out of it, otherwise you wouldn't even be playing it, let's be honest. Read up on storytelling if you're too logical and want to learn how to transfer that into somethin… | /r/seduction | 07/05/17 05:39 PM |
| 7 | Here's what to do on a date with women to never be seen as a boring man!Hmm, I actually never thought of just going with the conversation, i just start with something like "Hey let's fly to Amsterdam tomorrow" and just go from there, or something. But I see what you mean about some women potentially feeling pressured to perform if you just spring it on them out of the blue... but I haven't really noticed this. Thanks for the feedback - the ETA part of your comment is an epic idea! | /r/seduction | 07/05/17 10:49 AM |
| 3 | Here's what to do on a date with women to never be seen as a boring man!Unfortunately for me, I look pretty dopey, and neither me nor most girls I met would call me good looking or even handsome. I'm painfully average in looks. So, you got it wrong. In any case, there's a short bio about me if you click the link to my blog and click on the "about" page, where you'll see what background i'm coming from. Cheers! | /r/seduction | 07/05/17 10:41 AM |
| 3 | Here's what to do on a date with women to never be seen as a boring man!Yep, that's a good point! | /r/seduction | 07/05/17 05:35 AM |
| 11 | Here's what to do on a date with women to never be seen as a boring man!Yeah, the thing is that this is from a blog post of mine, and blog posts have to be a certain number of words and contain certain keywords to rank properly. That's why it's a bit bloated - I'm fully aware of this. Unfortunately, SEO tends to warp content :/ | /r/seduction | 07/05/17 05:34 AM |
| 9 | Here's what to do on a date with women to never be seen as a boring man!Well, you obviously don't whip out topics about your passions right from the get-go, that would seem a bit weird. But when you get the conversation rolling, you can easily start talking about the stuff you like, but you talk about it passionately. And what your passions are rarely matter. It's being passionate that's attractive. It means you're not a lazy fuck and you have some fire under your ass. For example, I used to be a total nolifer gamer in my teens and would probably still be if I haven… | /r/seduction | 07/05/17 04:54 AM |
| 2 | Here's what to do on a date with women to never be seen as a boring man!Cheers, no problem! | /r/seduction | 06/05/17 09:08 PM |
| 1 | Here's what to do on a date with women to never be seen as a boring man!Thanks! | /r/seduction | 06/05/17 09:08 PM |
| 13 | Here's what to do on a date with women to never be seen as a boring man!Oh right, just a simple coffee date or a walk in the park - absolutely nothing special. Why invest in someone if you're not even sure you're going to like them. Save that stuff for further dates - the less effort you spend on the first one, the less needy it all seems, and she'll see that you don't give a shit about impressing her. | /r/seduction | 06/05/17 07:48 PM |
| 15 | Here's what to do on a date with women to never be seen as a boring man!I like to do a lot of different things, depending on the situation. The point is to be a versatile motherfucker who's able to adapt to situations - there's no best answer for any occasion. But usually my whole game is just walk up, be chill, and shoot the shit randomly about whatever comes into mind. Then just tease, touch a lot, have some laughs, maybe role-play some silly shit to get her super emotional - then ask her personal questions and share some stuff about myself once she's very emotion… | /r/seduction | 06/05/17 06:55 PM |
| 1 | Here's what to do on a date with a girl to never be seen as a boring man!I'd like to learn those better ways :) Yeah some people will associate a date with the boring wine and dine + a movie experience, which is one of the worst things you can do on a first date. | /r/TheRedPill | 30/04/17 08:59 PM |
| 1 | Here's what to do on a date with a girl to never be seen as a boring man!Thanks for the feedback. Why don't you like calling dates dates? :) Yeah I get a lot of flak for my writing style, but this one, compared to dry info gets more views and upvotes. | /r/TheRedPill | 30/04/17 08:35 PM |
| 1 | Here's what to do on a date with a girl to never be seen as a boring man!Not very young. I've tested out different styles and condensed articles with dry info get less views and upvotes. Go figure... | /r/TheRedPill | 30/04/17 08:34 PM |
| 1 | Here's what to do on a date with a girl to never be seen as a boring man!Mine are the same, except for the kinks :) | /r/TheRedPill | 29/04/17 12:33 PM |
| 1 | Here's what to do on a date with a girl to never be seen as a boring man!Thanks for the feedback, this is just a placeholder WordPress theme and I will get a good one soon which solves the text issue. | /r/TheRedPill | 29/04/17 12:32 PM |
| 2 | Here's what to do on a date with a girl to never be seen as a boring man!does that game affect your delicate sensibilities? :D | /r/TheRedPill | 28/04/17 11:01 PM |
| 1 | Here's what to do on a date with a girl to never be seen as a boring man!Well, I would genuinely appreciate any feedback on why I don't seem genuine. I'm trying to improve my writing - it's not my strong suit at this point. | /r/TheRedPill | 28/04/17 05:29 PM |
| 4 | Here's what to do on a date with a girl to never be seen as a boring man!Exactly, don't make your tales about raw dry facts - tell about the experiences of the whole thing and how they made you feel. Emotions - that's what it's all about. | /r/TheRedPill | 28/04/17 05:09 PM |
| 3 | Here's what to do on a date with a girl to never be seen as a boring man!That's a great game, i may have to steal it and find some people to test it out with :) Well, as I say, those boring questions have a time and a place - usually when the girl already likes you, because then she'll gladly share and invest more in your interaction. | /r/TheRedPill | 28/04/17 01:57 PM |
| 1 | Here's what to do on a date with a girl to never be seen as a boring man!The passion itself does not matter, so long as you're passionate about something. I've dated a lot of "socially acceptable girls" and since my passion is video games, I told nearly all of them about it, if the subject arose. It never caused any issues. | /r/TheRedPill | 28/04/17 01:56 PM |
| 1 | Here's what to do on a date with a girl to never be seen as a boring man!What's wrong with space and rocket engineering? Just find a way to make it fun, add a twist | /r/TheRedPill | 28/04/17 11:17 AM |
| 1 | Here's what to do on a date with a girl to never be seen as a boring man!Well, sexual tension is a very huge and separate topic that would take a whole article to adequately explain. I mainly steer the conversation towards more sexual topics, use innuendo, get the girl to imagine us in sexual situations, ramp up the touching, get closer, more intimate, hold strong eye contact (which is one of the most important things) and generally just think about fucking her brains out, and because of state transference, if i feel it genuinely enough and my words and actions are c… | /r/TheRedPill | 28/04/17 10:28 AM |
| 1 | Here's what to do on a date with a girl to never be seen as a boring man!You must have not read a lot of things then :) | /r/TheRedPill | 28/04/17 10:25 AM |
| 1 | Here's what to do on a date with a girl to never be seen as a boring man!Great song - and also appropriate for the situation - but most guys ask these questions too soon :) | /r/TheRedPill | 28/04/17 10:24 AM |
| 2 | Here's what to do on a date with a girl to never be seen as a boring man!You'd be surprised how many people don't even know Social Skills 101. Yes, this is for beginner guys who don't know how to talk to women. | /r/TheRedPill | 28/04/17 10:20 AM |
| 2 | Here's what to do on a date with a girl to never be seen as a boring man!I know, right? It makes perfect sense once you really think about it, but you can just be whoever you want to be on a date. | /r/TheRedPill | 28/04/17 02:14 AM |
| 3 | Here's what to do on a date with a girl to never be seen as a boring man!Yes, if you're not actually seriously passionate about it. | /r/TheRedPill | 27/04/17 08:50 PM |
| -1 | Here's what to do on a date with a girl to never be seen as a boring man!Oh right, well i never write articles to just show the points - i write them for the whole experience, and if you can't read it all, it won't be a full experience and won't have the same impact. Just Psychology. It works, because my more bland posts don't get same traffic. But thanks for pointing it out. ALSO - this article is basically copied with a small rewrite from my blog post that was written to contain many keywords like "what to do on a date", that's why there are some repetitive soundin… | /r/TheRedPill | 27/04/17 07:43 PM |
| 1 | Here's what to do on a date with a girl to never be seen as a boring man!It's not on purpose, it's an older article and just uses the mindset that it was written it in, at that time. Are you to say it's not better for marketing? I've no idea, but I just follow the trends. I'm open to suggestions if you're someone who writes successful articles, is good at it, and is willing to teach me :D | /r/TheRedPill | 27/04/17 07:30 PM |
| 9 | Here's what to do on a date with a girl to never be seen as a boring man!To be brutally honest, most men are okay with women being somewhat boring as long as she's goodlooking... which is pretty fucked up. But yeah, if you want a quality man, you definitely should try to develop yourself and your personality to also not be boring and bring some fun and excitement to the interaction. Umm, most of my stuff is geared towards men, obviously, but you could find some tips applicable to both genders on my blog. | /r/TheRedPill | 27/04/17 06:20 PM |
| 2 | Here's what to do on a date with a girl to never be seen as a boring man!Not exactly, but somewhat close. Not all girls are boring - some are. | /r/TheRedPill | 27/04/17 06:18 PM |
| 1 | Here's what to do on a date with a girl to never be seen as a boring man!Yes, I just assumed it as given that it's not a one way street. The point is to not be the center of attention, it's to showcase your personality, unabashedly, without hiding who you are and what you want as a man. And obviously, not with every girl, but those you genuinely find attractive and want to get to know better. Standards - they're important :) | /r/TheRedPill | 27/04/17 05:25 PM |
| 1 | Here's what to do on a date with a girl to never be seen as a boring man!Sure - that's legit as well, different people have different ways to going about this. That said, nothing prevents you from finding out who the girl is, what her qualities are, what she can bring to the table, and all that sort of thing, if it is genuinely important to you. When it comes to women, i have incredibly high standards, both in physical looks and in intellect. For a quick fuck, she has to look great. To start a relationship with me, be it casual fuckbuddy or serious - she has to bring… | /r/TheRedPill | 27/04/17 05:22 PM |
| 9 | Here's what to do on a date with a girl to never be seen as a boring man!Yeah - i tend to write these posts in the moment, so the writing style varies greatly, from article to article. Guess this time i was in the meth-teenage-girl-zone :) I fully understand that it will genuinely be difficult to read for some, and that some people will be turned off completely by this. | /r/TheRedPill | 27/04/17 05:18 PM |
| 3 | Here's what to do on a date with a girl to never be seen as a boring man!Spot on. Also, I don't mean that you should just start out with being wacky and crazy right from the getgo because that would be weird as well - just chill for a bit, and then show her who you are. I'll actually edit that in, thanks! | /r/TheRedPill | 27/04/17 05:03 PM |
| 13 | Here's what to do on a date with a girl to never be seen as a boring man!now that is exactly the way of thinking which will get you laid ;) | /r/TheRedPill | 27/04/17 04:46 PM |
| 4 | Here's what to do on a date with a girl to never be seen as a boring man!Don't you think many women are interested in war movies? In crime dramas? In military heroes? Just find a way to make the conversation about this topic fun and engaging - i'm sure you can if it's genuinely your passion. Here are my favorite topics and passions, for example - sports, good food, video games, sex, dating, psychology, computers, entrepreneurship, traveling, social dynamics, and that's at the top of my head. I talk about all of those extensively and frequently if the conversation hap… | /r/TheRedPill | 27/04/17 03:56 PM |
| 19 | Here's what to do on a date with a girl to never be seen as a boring man!Yep, thanks for pointing it out! | /r/TheRedPill | 27/04/17 02:49 PM |
| 5 | Horny but awkward helpIf you just want sex, there are droves of guys on Tinder who're more than happy to oblige. Just tell them "Listen, I'm not looking for a relationship, just want to hook up. Wanna invite me to your place?" Some guys may even think you're joking or testing them because most women aren't direct like that - but some will gladly accept. You're welcome. | /r/seduction | 21/04/17 12:04 PM |
| 8 | holy shit! Another LR! Half my ageThe fact that you think she's out of your league when you, in fact, banged her - is pretty fucking ludicrous and irrational. | /r/seduction | 17/04/17 12:44 PM |
| 1 | The Confidence Scam, and why you don't need to be supremely confident in yourself to be successful with women.You're not obligated to, obviously :) Feel free to read or not read it. But calling something bullshit without actually reading it is pretty interesting logic, I must say :) | /r/seduction | 31/03/17 04:36 PM |
| 1 | The Confidence Scam, and why you don't need to be supremely confident in yourself to be successful with women.I think the pop-up is set to be at 60-70% or something. And if it's irrelevant to you, there's an x in the corner when it appears that you can click, you know :) | /r/seduction | 31/03/17 04:28 PM |
| 1 | The Confidence Scam, and why you don't need to be supremely confident in yourself to be successful with women.Pretty obvious you didn't read it all. That's EXACTLY what it says lol. That it's all in the mind. So next time before calling something bullshit - actually read the thing in its entirety :) | /r/seduction | 31/03/17 04:19 PM |
| 35 | "The agony of being too beautiful to be faithful" - Yep. You read that right...The biggest irony in all of this is that she isn't even that hot... Like a 6 or 7 at best. | /r/TheRedPill | 21/03/17 02:26 PM |
| 2 | Here's how to Game Girls in your Gym and get laid consistently.Well, it all depends on your Inner Game to be honest. It obviously won't work for everyone, and the key is to show zero desperation and intent from the start. Intent is great at bars and clubs, just not at the gym, if you want to be consistent. | /r/seduction | 16/03/17 05:26 PM |
| 1 | Here's how to Game Girls in your Gym and get laid consistently.An advert for what? I'm not selling anything here, just relaying a proven way to get laid with girls from the gym that people go to, which works for me and many others. | /r/seduction | 16/03/17 02:29 PM |
| 0 | "Looks don't matter"I'm completely average when it comes to conventional looks. | /r/seduction | 16/03/17 12:17 PM |
| 2 | "Looks don't matter"Sorry to break this to you, but it's not really true. Looks matter in the sense that they will provide you with more CHANCES, and your whole seduction process will be somewhat easier since you'll make a better first impression and will be afforded a few occasional fuckups. But ultimately, they don't matter in the end for you to get the girl, unless she's specifically looking for a ONS, a fling, or a fuckbuddy, where your looks matter more than everything else. For normal relationships, however, … | /r/seduction | 16/03/17 11:00 AM |
| 3 | Fucked a girl, got into an relationship. Now i feel like I'm going towards a downwards spiral.You've become complacent once you've reached your goals. Set new goals - it's as simple as that. That's how life works - you either find meaning in it yourself and set the goals that you want - or just exist, without actually living. | /r/seduction | 15/03/17 11:14 AM |
| 51 | The ‘One’ Myth – Why There Is More Than Just One Girl Out There For YouIt means that you don't have any meaningful hobbies or other things that you immensely enjoy spending your time on. Think about it, if you had some awesome hobby, you'd want to spend as much time on it as possible, and you wouldn't even have the time left to latch onto the girl and spend all your time on her. Dude, this is all about personal development and self improvement - and finding your passions and something else that you enjoy spending time on is a crucial part of it. Personally, I'm nev… | /r/seduction | 09/03/17 04:15 PM |
| 27 | Ex texted me today telling me it is our 1 year.Yeah, there's no reason at all to act like a bitter prick. There's too much negativity in the world as it is. Be civil, but curt and strict. | /r/TheRedPill | 05/03/17 02:35 PM |
| 331 | Ex texted me today telling me it is our 1 year.You did great. And guess what? This happens more than you think, to lots of guys. But in the vast majority of cases, it's not that the girl "realized something profound" and contacted you again to reconnect and restart the relationship again. No, in most cases that I saw or experienced, it's simply because she's lonely and depressed at that moment and just wants to get some attention and affection from someone. So she pretty much starts fishing and seeing if someone will bite. And the funny part… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/03/17 11:22 AM |
| 1 | No love yetI understand that. That's why I said I hope he EXPLAINS how to reach those states. | /r/seduction | 01/03/17 05:51 PM |
| 1 | Neg backfired BADLY online! (please read experienced guys on seddit)Well, it's not "never use negs again", but use them only for certain moments and on certain girls. Definitely not on EVERY girl :) It just seems to me that you misunderstood the whole purpose of negs and why and how they work - and when to use them. | /r/seduction | 01/03/17 05:13 PM |
| 1 | Neg backfired BADLY online! (please read experienced guys on seddit)Pretty much. He probably misunderstood what negs are for. They're never meant to be used on every girl, just in certain circumstances and with certain girls. | /r/seduction | 01/03/17 02:34 PM |
| 0 | Neg backfired BADLY online! (please read experienced guys on seddit)From my experience, apologizing for making a joke is not the way to go. Just explain to her that you were trying to have fun and make a joke, but since it's hard to express jokes correctly over the internet, you fucked up :) or something like that. It's my favorite excuse online when i say something that's funny to me, but that often gets misconstrued. And in fact, it IS true, and not just an excuse, because it IS hard to express humor over online messaging, since you can't really see the person… | /r/seduction | 01/03/17 02:32 PM |
| 1 | Feeling down, despite trying to practice parts of seduction.Then you've been reading the wrong material. Seduction is not about changing who you are and using tricks and manipulation to get what you want. It's simply about improving yourself as a person, developing attractive character traits, and getting your inner game in order. I've tried working on inner game, but I doubt it'll ever get better. This shows me that your attitude is shit. as the embarrassment of not having sex is too much for me. What embarrassment? There's no embarrassment in not havin… | /r/seduction | 01/03/17 02:28 PM |
| 1 | Neg backfired BADLY online! (please read experienced guys on seddit)Can't really say, since I've no idea who she is. But it's pretty hard to get out of stuff like this since she's already made her mind up on you based on your impression. Personally, I'd just stop messaging her for a little bit and focus on other stuff. After a few days, like 5-10 or whatever, i'd just matter-of-factly write her something like "Hey, been busy lately. What have you been up to?", and stop with the negs for a bit. Or just say something funny and/or witty to give her a smile and bait… | /r/seduction | 01/03/17 02:21 PM |
| 1 | Feeling down, despite trying to practice parts of seduction.Dude, guess what - I heard some variation of the speech you just gave, THOUSANDS of times. "Oh, i'm too depressed, ugly, unattractive, and i'll never get a girlfriend or someone to like me - should I just give up?" Yep, with that attitude, you won't. And from that story of yours it's pretty obvious that you have some SEVERE self-esteem issues and insecurities that you definitely need to deal with, before you even start approaching girls. Success with women is something like 80% inner game, and t… | /r/seduction | 01/03/17 12:22 PM |
| 1 | No love yetFor someone who's entirely new to attraction and seduction, I doubt anyone could give you a full explanation on what you have to do to be more successful with women. There's just too much to explain. So, google is your friend - look up the things you want to know and read a whole bunch of stuff - then go out and practice, practice, practice. That's pretty much it. Being successful with women is all about experience and taking action. It's a skill - a SOCIAL skill - combined, of course, with gett… | /r/seduction | 01/03/17 12:16 PM |
| 1 | No love yetUmm. Be confident, and have a strong masculine core. Ok, how do you do that? You can't just snap your fingers and BE those things. I hope he explains EXACTLY how to reach those states, or that advice is worthless. | /r/seduction | 01/03/17 12:13 PM |
| 4 | Neg backfired BADLY online! (please read experienced guys on seddit)Umm, you fucked up because you doubled down on that negativity. You see, negs are meant to show OFFHANDEDLY that you don't really care about getting any sort of validation from the girl, and that you're not needy. But if you try to do that shit on purpose, especially double down on negs when the first one hits her - they're most likely going to fail since you're just barraging her neg after neg at this point. Don't over-do it, in other words. You miscalibrated. Negs are meant to be the spice of … | /r/seduction | 01/03/17 12:08 PM |
| 2 | Seriously ... Why?You're not required to get with as many girls as you can. You do it if you want to. But don't kid yourself, almost every guy would want to get laid pretty much with any girl he wants - and most guys who go throughout their day meet tons of hot chicks every day that they'd want to fuck. So why not be able to do that? In any case, the more girls you get with, the more you'll find out about yourself, what you like and dislike in people and relationships, and you'll be able to sift through the mess … | /r/seduction | 01/03/17 12:06 PM |
| 1 | Everyone seems against a lot of texting on here, but what if you can't meet up with a girl for like a week?I guess this highly depends on your own personal style of seduction, and what you prefer. It also depends on the COUNTRY that you're in. I know that in the US, for example, people don't usually text - they prefer to call. However, in many parts of Europe, texting is THE way to communicate over the phone, especially for young adults 16-25. Personally, when I'm meeting girls and getting their numbers, I text a LOT. But I just shoot the shit, make random funny or witty lines and jokes, and get them… | /r/seduction | 01/03/17 12:03 PM |
| 1 | I'm having my first ever Day 2 in 3 hours! Tips are welcome!Eh, just chill, don't try to impress her, and go in with a mindset that you're just going to find out who she is and not make any assumptions beforehand whether you wan to sleep with her or not. Go have a fun time, and stop worrying about getting laid, but don't forget to show her that you're a physical guy. It means touch her when there's a good opportunity, and so on. Without touch, girls won't become sexually attracted to you - so it's important. Just don't overdo it. By the end of the date, … | /r/seduction | 28/02/17 03:40 PM |
| 6 | Is it better to flow conversation during an approach to an eventual ask out, rather than straight off the bat?Don’t go up to girls and instantly ask for their number or ask them out. Most girls will say no - because it’s too random and you didn’t give them a reason to accept, unless you’re incredibly good-looking. And if you do get a number, more often than not it’s going to be fake, or they’re just going to ignore you because it was simple to get rid of you by giving you a number. So the most important thing you need to realize is that you need to TALK to girls and be engaging for at least a little whi… | /r/seduction | 28/02/17 03:35 PM |
| 3 | FIELD REPORT: Hottie From TinderYou've successfully used something I've been using on pretty much all of my dates, to get laid consistently. And I call this approach "I have never met a stranger". Basically, no matter how hot or gorgeous the girl is, just talk to her as if she's one of your long-time buddies. As if you've known her forever. Just imagine before you meet her that she's someone you know very well from your childhood or something, and that you're meeting up to reconnect. And that shit works wonders, if you complet… | /r/seduction | 27/02/17 11:37 AM |
| 1 | How would you pick up a girl at a University and seduce her without having to spend money on a date and without having a private apartment/place for yourself?I've gotten laid many times without spending a single cent. But most of them weren't college-related. It was more like picking up a girl on the beach in summer and then getting to know her on the long trek back to town, and then taking her home. But when I was a poor student in college I used to just go to nearby student bars - the entrance is free anyway, and you can just get some water and talk to the girls there. Then tell them the place is boring and take them out for a walk or to the park. … | /r/seduction | 25/02/17 12:29 AM |
| 1 | Here's How to Get Laid at a Party, and also Why Most Guys Fail!Thanks! What title were you thinking of? I'm not the best at writing titles, and I also target certain keywords so I can't always have the best-sounding one. | /r/seduction | 24/02/17 11:27 PM |
| 4 | I feel as if I'm social and funny in some situations, but at other times (when the girl is attractive) I get socially awkward or say dumb things. How do I change that?This is primarily a self-esteem issue. You're social and funny in some situations where you don't really care about sleeping with the people you're talking to. But as soon as you see a hot girl - you decide you want to sleep with her - and your whole subconscious communication changes, because suddenly you have a GOAL that you want to get to - SEX - and that goal involves her. And since you can't really control other people, but you still want to reach that goal - your whole behavior changes and… | /r/seduction | 24/02/17 02:19 PM |
| 2 | How do you define 'inner game'?Well, it's not very easy, even though it sounds simple. The first step is to take a long and hard look at yourself, and identify what you have problems with. When you go up to talk to women, what bothers you the most, what issues are you having? Are you afraid, nervous, shy, anxious, self-deprecating, supplicative, needy, too much in your head, feel unworthy? There's a way to deal with these psychological problems and other ones, but the most important step is to identify them. Once you did that… | /r/seduction | 23/02/17 11:20 AM |
| 1 | How do you define 'inner game'?Well, it's pretty much all up to you. If you're fine with it, then by all means. There's nothing wrong with just wanting a fuck. But it's not about deep knowledge. You can find out if a girl is pleasant or not within the first few minutes. That's the whole point, all it takes is several minutes of talking to her and you can decide if you like her or not. If you decide before you even approach and talk to her - solely based on her looks and nothing else - that's pretty counterproductive and despe… | /r/seduction | 22/02/17 06:04 PM |
| 1 | How do you define 'inner game'?I think you misunderstand what confidence is. It's not like you either have 0% confidence, or 100%. You can be confident in one thing, and not confident in another. Also, your confidence may strongly vary on your mood, on the day, on how well you feel, and so on and so forth. So I'm not saying that "guys with zero confidence also get laid". I'm saying that you don't have to be supremely confident to get laid a lot. I even know this from personal experience. I've been with 500+ women in the last … | /r/seduction | 22/02/17 05:29 PM |
| 12 | How do you define 'inner game'?Ok, here's what inner game is: It means that you have your shit together as a person. I say this a lot, but I'll now explain further... It's primarily these things: Getting your insecurities handled, dealing with your self-esteem issues, and developing your personality as well as attractive character traits. The first two are the most important ones - dealing with insecurities and self-esteem problems - because they are responsible for most of the issues that guys face with women and why they ha… | /r/seduction | 22/02/17 05:01 PM |
| 1 | How do you define 'inner game'?I strongly disagree. Inner game is not just "confidence with women". Confidence is just one little cog in the machine. There are lots of guys who aren't really that confident, who get laid a lot. | /r/seduction | 22/02/17 04:09 PM |
| 8 | You are your biggest cockblockJust a random percentage to demonstrate the point that inner game >>> outer game. I could have written 85/15, 90/10, or whatever. | /r/seduction | 22/02/17 04:04 PM |
| 17 | You are your biggest cockblockThat's pretty unsurprising given that success with women is something like 80% inner game (you have to have your shit together, deal with insecurities and self-esteem issues), and something like 20% outer game - where you have enough experience to know what to do and say at certain moments, know how flirting works, keep stuff like logistics in mind, take care of your looks and so on. But if you don't get your inner game handled - you'll never be successful. So yeah, you are your biggest cockbloc… | /r/seduction | 22/02/17 12:26 PM |
| 4 | CleavageHere's the correct way of dealing with it: Just look at her cleavage whenever you want to. Whether she notices or not doesn't really matter. If she mentions it, just smile and address it, that you like what you see. If she doesn't, it doesn't matter. Dude, you're supposed to just do whatever it is that you want to do - it's called being authentic and genuine. Stop worrying whether you should or shouldn't look at her cleavage, and for how long, and if she notices you or not - and start worrying a… | /r/seduction | 21/02/17 11:26 AM |
| 1 | Here's how to deal with any and all shit tests that women throw at you.No problemo! Always glad when it helps someone. | /r/seduction | 12/02/17 01:47 PM |
| 1 | Here's how to deal with any and all shit tests that women throw at you.Yeah, I get what you were trying to say, but making jokes like that on Tinder and dating sites, and other online stuff is incredibly hard, because you can't really convey all the emotions and tone of voice that's normally associated with humor. If you said something like that to her in person, it doesn't really matter how cringy it was, if she saw that it was amusing to you, you'd be okay. So take care with online humor - I also lost a couple of great chances on Tinder by telling random funny jo… | /r/seduction | 12/02/17 01:46 PM |
| 1 | Here's how to deal with any and all shit tests that women throw at you.My man! | /r/seduction | 12/02/17 01:42 PM |
| 1 | Here's how to deal with any and all shit tests that women throw at you.Sure that's one way of dealing with it. By indicating disappointment. I'm simply showing another way to deal with this, something I know works, and not just for me, but for others I've shown this. Not saying one is better than the other. I write this in the article, too. It's not about ignoring what she's saying, it's about recognizing shit tests for what they are - and dismissing them in one way or another as something irrelevant, almost childish. It's about not being emotionally affected. | /r/seduction | 12/02/17 01:41 PM |
| 1 | Here's how to deal with any and all shit tests that women throw at you.Not really what I'm saying. It's not about ignoring, it's about recognizing random shit tests as simple vetting mechanisms that attractive women use to stave off the onslaught of 100 horny guys, and simply not giving them much thought - not being emotionally affected by them. Lol that's almost poetic. | /r/seduction | 12/02/17 01:38 PM |
| 1 | Here's how to deal with any and all shit tests that women throw at you.Sure that's also a great option, for certain moments. I wouldn't use that too often though, since going back and forth insulting one another would look like a battle of egos. And I guess this only works for insults, and they're only a small part of the kind of shit tests you can get. Here I'm more interested in the broad issue and being in the moment during conversations, and less about counting "who's value is lower or higher" at some particular point in the interaction. It's great to be aware … | /r/seduction | 12/02/17 09:15 AM |
| 2 | Here's how to deal with any and all shit tests that women throw at you.if you're secure with being insecure [which is really the secret to life] That's pure gold right there. Some of them are insults, some are not - but they're all something that tests your character and how well you can handle pressure, hence shit test. But to be honest, this is simply PUA-lingo that stuck, i'd rather call them something else entirely. Regarding ignoring - the point is not to just ignore it because you want to avoid problems - it's to ignore because you honestly don't even care to… | /r/seduction | 12/02/17 09:05 AM |
| 9 | Here's how to deal with any and all shit tests that women throw at you.Ideally, there shouldn't even be shit tests. But I understand it from the girl's point of view as well. If she's in a club and gets approached by 100 guys, she needs a quick and easy way to deal with all the pussy ones. That's where a shit test comes in. It doesn't really mean the girl is insecure. It's a sort of vetting mechanism in this particular example. Also, insults are just a small part of the various shit tests people can throw at you. Even guys have shit tests between them - I have a co… | /r/seduction | 12/02/17 12:18 AM |
| 2 | After studying attraction for 7 years and spending over $20,000 to learn from "the best", here's what I've found that men can do to attract women naturally without approaching or trying hardI completely agree. Nice long write-up on the OP's part. But there's a bit of a problem with it. OP - I assume that what you describe in your "anti-method" is pretty much close to what being a natural is like, except without the drive part. A guy who is naturally good with women because he just doesn't give a shit and doesn't actively date women but is decent enough that random girls approach him from time to time and they go on a date. On that date, he's obliviously and unconsciously competent … | /r/seduction | 09/02/17 01:22 PM |
| 3 | How can I learn to get better with women, without having to become a "pick-up artist"?All you need to do to be successful with women is have the ability to simply walk up to the girls that you find attractive, strike up a conversation with them, talk to them as people, and genuinely have fun. Then exchange numbers, go on a date - do the same things (i.e. have fun), and you'll get laid and get a girlfriend. That's it, that's the whole fucking secret, and ANYONE can do it, and anyone can learn it given enough time and effort. That said, the majority of men have huge problems doing … | /r/seduction | 09/02/17 10:43 AM |
| 14 | They told me I had FIVE MINUTES to live. And that's when I knew what my priorities were.Moral of the story - healthcare in the US SUUUUUUUCKS | /r/TheRedPill | 04/02/17 02:44 PM |
| 7 | Open Relationship, AKA Voluntary CuckoldryThese two guys simply suck with women and let themselves be exploited. Simple as that. They have no boundaries, no clue, and no spine. Pretty damn sad. | /r/TheRedPill | 29/01/17 02:27 AM |
| 2 | After studying attraction for 7 years and spending over $20,000 to learn from "the best", here's what I've found that men can do to attract women naturally without approaching or trying hardNice long write-up. That said, I'd assume that what you describe in it, and your "anti-method" is pretty much close to what being a natural is like, except without the drive part. A guy who is naturally good with women because he just doesn't give a shit and doesn't actively date women but is decent enough that random girls approach him from time to time and they go on a date. On that date, he's obliviously and unconsciously competent enough to naturally attract and seduce the girl because he st… | /r/seduction | 24/01/17 12:29 AM |
| – | How to tell a girl my time is too valuable to deal with flakiness without coming across like a dick?I guess reading comprehension and context are completely alien things to you :) Reading the whole thing helps with that. Here's the full link for reference http://www.saulisdating.com/blog/techniques/5-direct-and-cute-ways-to-ask-a-girl-out-on-date-secret/ | /r/seduction | 17/01/17 01:48 PM |
| 1 | Anyone else find women kind of... unbearable?Sure, it was more of a rhetorical question anyway. Cheers! | /r/seduction | 17/01/17 03:25 AM |
| – | How to tell a girl my time is too valuable to deal with flakiness without coming across like a dick?Lol nice try pasting a random sentence completely out of context :) Grow up. I specifically write later that stuff like that is cringy and why you shouldn't rely on "lines". It's painfully obvious you didn't read the whole article. You might actually learn something and not paste a random sentence to make someone else look bad ;) | /r/seduction | 17/01/17 03:06 AM |
| – | How to tell a girl my time is too valuable to deal with flakiness without coming across like a dick?You'd also make yourself out to sound like a total dork. "My dearest, dost thine Schedule permits thee to see me?" Holy shit. How many girls have a strict busy schedule? That they actually carefully plan out and don't have time for anything else. | /r/seduction | 17/01/17 02:00 AM |
| 3 | How to have an EASY LTRBecause you have no good arguments to defend your type of relationship, and can't answer my arguments with anything worthwhile, except calling me an imbecile. Pretty legit. And you proved my point that your relationship logic is bullshit. | /r/TheRedPill | 04/01/17 09:20 AM |
| 5 | How to have an EASY LTRNot sure if you'll see my edit - but here are some really big flaws in your "perfect relationship" logic: You claim that she can't go anywhere without your permission, right? So, let's say she wants to go to the doctor for some routine checkup. Will you let her? Since you think she's a hoe who will instantly cheat on you, given the smallest opportunity - what's to stop her from going for a quick 20 minute fuck with a buddy once she leaves the doctors office and pops by where her friend lives? Ho… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/01/17 10:33 PM |
| 1 | How to have an EASY LTRI understand his concepts and I don't disagree with a lot of them. I mention some of the things I agree with in my first reply. I disagree with him that the second you give your partner free will, she'll run to some guy and fuck him. That shows a 0 trust outlook right from the start. I also disagree with him that under no circumstances can you let your significant other do ANYTHING without any sort of permission. That's 100% controlling, and will never amount to a good relationship. How do I kno… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/01/17 10:12 PM |
| 2 | How to have an EASY LTRYou think I'm someone who has no experience. I teach natural game in the PUA community, with thousands of students and millions of article views, and have dated more than the next 50 average guys combined, most likely a lot more than OP - so don't assume. It took me years and years of sifting through the mess, to find a girl I'm fully compatible with. Life hasn't fixed anything, since we've been together 4 years and still very happy. That's what compatibility does between two people who have the… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/01/17 09:19 PM |
| 9 | How to have an EASY LTRThat's the thing, you think I'm a troll. I'm not. The sad part is that you still believe that women are subhuman. Why don't you move to Iran, Iraq, Egypt, Saudi Arabia, Qatar, and other similar countries where men treat women like shit, control their actions 100%, stone them to death when they cheat, and enjoy it? Oh wait, because you want to live in a free country, because you want to enjoy your freedom, and do as you please? The fact that you think women don't deserve the same and need to be c… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/01/17 09:06 PM |
| 7 | How to have an EASY LTRDude, you nailed it! People in this sub are becoming increasingly insecure, and then blame women for it. It seems to me like everyone who's ever been cheated on comes to this sub and then whines about it, instead of learning how to remedy the situation at its core, and not lumping ALL women as cheating whores. I mean, why would people want to learn how to become successful with women on this sub then? In order to be successful with all the women who cheat? Zero logic. | /r/TheRedPill | 03/01/17 01:48 PM |
| 6 | How to have an EASY LTRLOL, way to use ad homs to strengthen your argument, man. I respected some of your opinions in your original post, and like i said, you made some very good points about red flags and about relationships having to be easy. But now you've proven my point and shown that you're insecure and can't even argue properly to defend your point. Pathetic. I don't have to make myself feel good - I feel great in my relationship, but nice of you to worry so much ;) I don't get angry over petty arguments on the… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/01/17 01:44 PM |
| 4 | How to have an EASY LTRAssuming what kind of person I am: check Using black/white lingo: check Making absurd statements without having any experience to back if my statements work, or any evidence to the contrary, and just basing shit on your own deluded opinion: check Believing that one little red flag will ruin a relationship: check Even op says that some red flags aren't that serious. And yet you bash without even comprehending some of the stuff what op says: check See? It's pretty easy to bitch and moan when you d… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/01/17 01:36 PM |
| 2 | How to have an EASY LTRWow you're pretty deluded :) Good luck living in paranoia | /r/TheRedPill | 03/01/17 01:33 PM |
| 5 | How to have an EASY LTRSure, I disagree with a red pill core opinion. Because it's just that - opinion. Doesn't mean that I don't agree with some of the other things being said here. I have massive respect for some of the writers here, because what they say is solid and life-changing. But even then, not with EVERYTHING they say. Respect has to be earned. Do you blindly follow the doctrine of any thing that you read? That would be pretty dumb. But I guess it shows why your views are extremely black and white. Your bi g… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/01/17 10:43 AM |
| 2 | How to have an EASY LTRIt's just an expression. I have plans to marry her once a few other things are settled in my life. And you, personally, never plan anything in life? You just spontaneously do shit with 0 planning whatsoever? :) That's pretty stupid. | /r/TheRedPill | 03/01/17 10:38 AM |
| 7 | How to have an EASY LTRand second I respect a man's right to do as he pleases Yet you don't respect a woman's right to do as she pleases. I guess women are subhuman, according to you. Pretty sad. And regarding whiteknighting. I don't give a shit about feminism and I also do as I please. But I follow one rule in life - we're all human beings and people with individual goals, values, ideals, and views on life. Both women and men. To limit someone's actions because of paranoid beliefs shows that you inherently don't trus… | /r/TheRedPill | 02/01/17 08:38 PM |
| 4 | How to have an EASY LTRAnd how would you know what type I am? Do you read minds across the internet? :D | /r/TheRedPill | 02/01/17 08:26 PM |
| 10 | How to have an EASY LTR"Inevitably she will ask for some additional cock to be added to the mix." The relationship already lasted for 4 years, and her being bi hasn't "haunted me" so far. She's completely free to choose to go and get some cock. But she knows that if she does, that it's one of my boundaries, and the relationship will be over. As a contrast, I also said that I won't sleep with other women, unless we both do it together, as a threesome. Trust for trust. That's exactly the reason I chose her and started a… | /r/TheRedPill | 02/01/17 04:00 PM |
| 2 | How to have an EASY LTR"What if what she wants someday is the same freedom to have intercourse with the opposite sex, just like you?" She's completely free to choose to do that. But she knows, that it's one of my boundaries, and that the relationship will be over. As a contrast, I also said that I won't sleep with other women, unless we both do it together, as a threesome. Like I said - trust for trust. That's exactly the reason I chose her and started a relationship with her, because we're both compatible in that are… | /r/TheRedPill | 02/01/17 03:52 PM |
| 4 | How to have an EASY LTRSo? That would only be impressive to some guy who can't get laid. But kudos on the royal girl, that's pretty unique. I've also been with lots of women, probably many more than you did - but that's not the point. The point is that a guy who's successful with women and can get lots of girls isn't necessarily going to be fulfilled with most of them. I can fuck and impregnate 100 women, it doesn't mean I'm going to be able to have a decent relationship with any of them. To find a decent LTR, you hav… | /r/TheRedPill | 02/01/17 02:40 PM |
| 5 | How to have an EASY LTROk, so if you believe that men are superior to women, that their lives are worth more, do you then also believe that what they're doing in China (ie, killing most female children the minute they're born) is a great thing to do? And also believe that the way they live in muslim arab countries, where women are completely limited in their way of life, considered below any person, given no free will, stoned to death for not being virgins - is the right way to live? I'm sure you'd fit right in in Pak… | /r/TheRedPill | 02/01/17 02:32 PM |
| 4 | How to have an EASY LTRMy relationship's going 4 years and we're planning on marrying next year. By any stretch of the imagination - that's not an STR. I don't give a fuck about SJWs - and i'm anything but politically correct. I'm also not a baby who thinks that all women want to do is suck another chode's cock as soon as you give them some wiggle room. | /r/TheRedPill | 02/01/17 02:28 PM |
| 9 | How to have an EASY LTRIf you constantly lead a paranoid life where you think that all your girl wants to do is go and suck another guy's dick - that's a pretty sad life to lead. She knows that if she fucks up and cheats on me - she'll be instantly out the door - there will be consequences. You set a firm boundary, and enforce it if she breaks it. You don't enforce boundaries by limiting a person's life. | /r/TheRedPill | 02/01/17 02:20 PM |
| 5 | How to have an EASY LTRShe's okay with me having sex with other women, because she's bisexual and likes having sex with other women as much as I do. That's exactly why I picked her, in terms of not getting bored. She even actively engages other women to bring into bed with us. What's to stop her from having sex with other guys? I'm the best sex she's ever had, and she'd be hard-pressed to find someone better. And I'm not an insecure baby who thinks that all she wants to do is cheat on me. Trust in a relationship goes … | /r/TheRedPill | 02/01/17 02:15 PM |
| 53 | How to have an EASY LTRHoly shit you seem like an insecure, abusive, and controlling person. Those 3 rules are ridiculous. I'll explain why you're abusive at the very bottom. Also, I agree that relationships are supposed to be easy - or you should find a new one - but relationships being easy goes both ways. I also agree with a few other points, especially the red flags. But everything else just makes you sound like someone who thinks that women are beneath him. If you go into a relationship from that point of view - … | /r/TheRedPill | 01/01/17 10:22 PM |
| 1 | I just had my first make-out session with a sober girl in a club. If it wasn't for you guys, I would still be a socially awkward nerd. Thank you guys so much.Dude, it's all great and good, grats on the makeout, but you thinking stuff like: "I fully expected her to be like "No, sorry. I already have a boyfriend"" when she's already ALL OVER YOU shows that you have some serious insecurities. You should work on those. Don't instantly assume the worst when something's happening to you - it's not a very attractive quality. Anyway, not to detract from your success, but in this instance, she picked you up more than you picked her up. Use this experience to … | /r/seduction | 29/12/16 10:02 AM |
| 3 | What I learned from Fucking My ONEitis.This often happens with most fantasies. They're the best thing ever when you're not there yet, but once you achieve them and look at them again with fresh eyes - they often seem pretty mediocre and you don't really understand what made you behave that way in the first place. The human condition, I guess. You want something you don't have, and then lose interest once you got it. So focus more on the journey, not the goal, I guess. | /r/TheRedPill | 28/12/16 11:18 PM |
| 2 | What I learned from an acid trip at a club partyBasically, it's all about self-amusement and having fun without an ulterior motive - just to have a good time. That way you stop being in your head and overthinking things. Because overthinking things usually begets a shitload of self-doubt. And self-doubt is one of the most unattractive qualities in any person, which also prevents you from having any fun whatsoever. If your goal is to have fun and nothing else - people around you are going to have fun as well, and begin to see you as an awesome… | /r/seduction | 26/12/16 05:53 PM |
| 1 | How to Ask a Girl Out and Get a Big Fat Yes!Thanks for the advice, man. I'll definitely look into this. Marketing is new to me, but I'm learning. | /r/seduction | 25/12/16 05:30 PM |
| 1 | How to Ask a Girl Out and Get a Big Fat Yes!Thanks for the feedback, i'll consider that. I'm just doing what a guy who runs a SEO company told me to do, in order to rank higher for certain keywords. In any case, not all articles are fluffed for SEO, just some. Others are much more concise and to the point. But what you said makes a lot of sense - I'll see what I can do to improve that. And no, I'll never have ads on my website - that's not my goal. My goal is to eventually build a community and educate people about seduction that works. | /r/seduction | 25/12/16 05:16 PM |
| 20 | How to Ask a Girl Out and Get a Big Fat Yes!TL;DR version: 1 - Don't start too overeager - begin simple, with a mindset that you're going to figure each other out. 2 - Tease the shit out of her :D and flirt a lot - it's a proven way to spike emotions and create chemistry, and relies completely on your personality. 3 - Don't be a nice guy who's afraid to disagree, afraid to stand up for himself, etc. 4 - Get to know each other's likes and dislikes, but don't try to connect on a deeper level yet - save that for the date when she actually li… | /r/seduction | 25/12/16 09:22 AM |
| 1 | How to Ask a Girl Out and Get a Big Fat Yes!Cheers, man. Always glad if it helps someone. | /r/seduction | 25/12/16 09:15 AM |
| 39 | How to Ask a Girl Out and Get a Big Fat Yes!You're not wrong. Unfortunately, I have to do it to rank on google for certain keywords and article length. I can say all I need in 1000 words - but I have to expand it to 3500. That's the sad truth. SEO sucks because it warps content. At least in the beginning. And I'm not that great a writer to make it all sound interesting. In any case, only a few pillar articles are fluffed for SEO, many others are much more concise and to the point. | /r/seduction | 24/12/16 10:35 PM |
| 1 | How to Tease Women and Why Teasing on Dates is Massively ImportantUmm, yeah, because my article clearly states that you should do absolutely nothing else other than tease 24/7 with racist comments. Way to completely misinterpret things. It was 1 random example out of probably 20 i wrote in the whole article. But I guess people will latch on to any chance to get outraged. | /r/seduction | 11/12/16 06:31 PM |
| 1 | How to Tease Women and Why Teasing on Dates is Massively ImportantIf you think that saying something obviously exaggerated and silly is racist - then you need to stop being a politically correct pussy who's afraid to offend everyone around you. Are you afraid to joke around? I'm guessing you suck with women and don't get laid enough. Relax bro, and learn. | /r/seduction | 10/12/16 04:53 PM |
| 2 | How to Tease Women and Why Teasing on Dates is Massively ImportantLOL sorry for messing you up for life :) I reworded the content a bit. | /r/seduction | 10/12/16 01:03 PM |
| 1 | How to Tease Women and Why Teasing on Dates is Massively ImportantPoking fun of silly stereotypes works because stereotypes are there for a reason, and even if most aren't true - people who embody those cultures still get psychologically and emotionally affected when those stereotypes are "poked fun of" since they still subconsciously identify with them. And that's the point, if you make fun of stuff like that, your date will realize that you don't care about being judged, and care mostly about having fun and amusing both yourself and her in the process. And t… | /r/seduction | 10/12/16 12:37 PM |
| 1 | How to Tease Women and Why Teasing on Dates is Massively ImportantI know what you mean. That's exactly why I said that teasing is closely tied to a person's personality. That random example is from my own way of teasing - so it won't necessarily work for other people since it's only congruent with what I'm saying. The point is to illustrate an example that even random retarded sentences like that can work wonders. It's hard to clarify in writing, I guess - I'm more used to infield and face to face. Thanks for the feedback. | /r/seduction | 10/12/16 12:33 PM |
| 1 | How to Tease Women and Why Teasing on Dates is Massively ImportantOk, first of all, this is just one cog in the machine - you don't have to nor should you rely solely on teasing for the entirety of your date. If you do it too much, it will get tedious, annoying and boring for both you and the girl - just like everything else - so you're right that no one should do this 24/7. These are like occasional sprinkles that you throw into a conversation from time to time - so you don't have to transition back to "not teasing" since the majority of your date you won't b… | /r/seduction | 10/12/16 12:29 PM |
| 0 | How to Tease Women and Why Teasing on Dates is Massively ImportantNope - dead wrong. | /r/seduction | 10/12/16 12:23 PM |
| -2 | How to Tease Women and Why Teasing on Dates is Massively ImportantSure, out of context it can sound cringy as shit to some - but it's not about the words, and this example is just a random one. The point is that you can tease about anything, even stereotypes, if you do it in a fun and endearing way - not like a creepy weirdo. | /r/seduction | 10/12/16 12:15 PM |
| -5 | How to Tease Women and Why Teasing on Dates is Massively ImportantI don't know, how about a shit load of experience from being in Japan, South Korea, and Thailand, and the occasional European country where you can meet some asian girls, and using stuff like that to consistently get laid. A lot. But why are you even focusing on one random asian stereotype example? Let's say you find a librarian nerdy-looking girl with glasses and joke around about her being all meek and timid but an absolute insatiable animal in bed and extremely sexual, since that's also a ste… | /r/seduction | 10/12/16 12:14 PM |
| -2 | How to Tease Women and Why Teasing on Dates is Massively ImportantIf someone jokingly said "hands off the merchandise" to you, with a smile and a laugh, when the situation was right - you'd instantly turn around and walk away? That would be pretty shallow of you :) Besides, saying "hands of the merchandise" with a deadpan and ridiculously serious expression would definitely not work. It's all about context and attitude, honey. Also, these are all for a normal date setting, not necessarily a club setting, so it's definitely not for drunk and overly excited wome… | /r/seduction | 10/12/16 12:05 PM |
| 2 | How to Tease Women and Why Teasing on Dates is Massively ImportantEverything in moderation, I'll actually edit that in. Thanks for feedback. | /r/seduction | 09/12/16 11:30 PM |
| -13 | How to Tease Women and Why Teasing on Dates is Massively ImportantI guess you misunderstood or misinterpreted what was said. It all depends on the context and whether you're congruent with what you're saying or not. It's easy to bash something without first understanding why stuff like this would work. In any case, I know what I'm doing, since everything I write is extensively field tested hundreds of times. | /r/seduction | 09/12/16 11:24 PM |
| 0 | 5 direct and cute ways to ask a girl out on a date - plus a game-changing secret!I'll keep that in mind, but yeah, it works. I'm not great at creating headlines. Thanks for feedback. | /r/seduction | 25/11/16 12:01 PM |
| 2 | 5 direct and cute ways to ask a girl out on a date - plus a game-changing secret!Yeah I edited the article so that it's more clear that the first part is satiric. Thanks for feedback! | /r/seduction | 24/11/16 11:18 PM |
| 7 | How do you be vulnerable <-> not reveal personal info, express sexual intent <-> be the prince charming/great catch, be fun-loving + always smiling <-> act uninterested/stoic all at once??Easy - you don't have to be this stuff all at ONCE. You have to be the kind of guy who can be vulnerable when needed, not reveal personal info nor express sexual intent when inappropriate - be the prince charming/great catch when the need calls for it, and fun-loving + always smiling when in the mood for it. And you guessed it - act uninterested and stoic when it suits you best. In short, you have to be versatile. You have to learn how to use your different attributes, mindsets and beliefs when … | /r/seduction | 13/11/16 01:52 AM |
| 3 | How to approach, talk to girls, and get a girlfriend!I did, and like I said, it's all about catching the right moment and the execution. Of course, it will fail a lot of the times, until you get better at it - just like with any other skill. And don't kid yourself, it's not about the girl replying something like "OH GOD TAKE ME NOW!". It gets a certain reaction, maybe even a WTF - then you have fun with the reaction, you DEAL with it, and move the conversation onto something else. But you already planted a seed - one where she knows that you want … | /r/seduction | 11/11/16 03:34 AM |
| 1 | Why do women like bad boys? ExplainedI get what you're saying. I edited and fleshed out my article to better drive the point across and make it less generic. Oh, and what may seem obvious and generic to you, may not be so obvious to people who are just starting out and learning about this. | /r/seduction | 11/11/16 12:52 AM |
| 1 | Why do women like bad boys? ExplainedBut then that would be false. Women don't just like bad boys because they often exemplify quiet confidence. That's just one cog in the machine. | /r/seduction | 10/11/16 03:17 AM |
| 1 | Why do women like bad boys? ExplainedAlright, let me try it like this. The reason why "bad boys" are attractive is because they elicit a strong emotional response in women. "Nice guys" don't. The point of the article was that emotions are what spark attraction, and bad boys provide that in spades, while nice guys bore girls to death. What's not to understand? But yeah, I get that some people don't like caps, I'll see if I can put emphasis on words in some other way. Thanks for feedback | /r/seduction | 08/11/16 11:47 AM |
| 1 | Why do women like bad boys? ExplainedYou obviously didn't read the whole thing, since I explained it afterwards. Cheers! | /r/seduction | 08/11/16 04:08 AM |
| 2 | [FR] from a newly single 21F who is getting back into the gameHmm, well then that changes a lot. Then it's more on him than on you - he was definitely too passive and should have been much more engaging - both with you and your friends. Seems to me like he just entirely focused on you, which I completely understand is a big turn off. He hasn't displayed any social skills with other people - and he had lots of opportunity to do so. I actually like going on dates when the girl brings friends. If you're confident that you can befriend most of her friends, she… | /r/seduction | 08/11/16 12:53 AM |
| 5 | [FR] from a newly single 21F who is getting back into the gameSounds too needlessly complicated. Why not just tell him clearly, in no uncertain terms that you'll be quite busy that night since you're with friends and they're gonna be crashing at your place afterwards. Some simple and quick honesty about that would have made everything better and it wouldn't have been an awful, confusing and awkward mess. But I guess you wanted to play some games. And regarding Dave. Yeah, he was too passive and should have been more engaging. But he probably genuinely thou… | /r/seduction | 07/11/16 11:53 PM |
| 3 | Why do women like bad boys? ExplainedAs bad as that sounds, logic and attraction don't mix. But my guess is you wrote sarcastically. | /r/seduction | 07/11/16 07:57 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone ever met a girls that agree to meet up with you for a drink but won't you her number?It's rare, but it happens. She probably had personal reasons to not give you her number, maybe because she gets annoyed if guys call/text too much, or she might even have a boyfriend or some fuckbuddy she doesn't want to get jealous. What's wrong with giving your number anyway? If she contacts you later - fine, if she won't - whatever. Only without your number she won't even have an option when she feels lonely. | /r/seduction | 22/02/16 09:33 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Accidental line that turned into the easiest kiss I've ever hadIt's not any particular line that gets the great outcome, it's how you utilize the moment. You realized this was an invitation for a make-out and you went for it. Very nice! | /r/seduction | 22/02/16 09:27 PM |
| 3 | field report: C-closed an HB today.You should write comedy :) | /r/seduction | 22/02/16 02:30 AM |
| 1 | First date adviceThanks! That's the point, you have to not project it during your date AT ALL, that you are planning to take her home, not until the very end, when you have built enough attraction and sexual tension so that she's ready to burst. On your date the goal is to HAVE FUN, but then when you see that she's ready and really into you, and things start getting a bit more intimate, find a reason to take her to your place, for example by "remembering that you want to show her something cool" or anything else… | /r/seduction | 22/02/16 02:26 AM |
| 2 | Is building sexual tension through text a better idea, or save it for in person?Tell her when you meet up! This might sound silly, but sexual tension has a timer! If you build a ton of sexual tension over text, it will fizzle out over time and when you meet up, you will have to do it all over again, so why even work against yourself? Also, if the girl realizes she was being too sexual with you in text, she will probably flake later on because she won't want to seem like a slut in person. So only build sexual tension when you can actually MAKE USE of it, like if you know you… | /r/seduction | 22/02/16 12:41 AM |
| 2 | Gym approach, lessons learned and 3 game-changers for newbies.Yeah, the only thing that's standing between you and amazing success is yourself. Imagine if your brain actually work for you, and not against you by over-analyzing everything all the time, making you freeze up... Well, that's the hardest part, isn't it? Meditation helps, but you need to rewire your brain and just learn to think about nothing when approaching or interacting with girls like that. I mean just being present and in the moment, going with the flow and saying what you're thinking. It'… | /r/seduction | 21/02/16 09:51 PM |
| 3 | I'm 23 - I have girls as close friends, but I struggle to take it further than that....Dude, just take a long hard look at yourself and re-evaluate yourself as a person. If you are overweight - JOIN THE FUCKING GYM. If you feel that you don't deserve girls - LEARN HOW TO CHANGE YOUR MINDSET. It all depends on you and only you - on how much effort you are willing to expend on fixing yourself. And by fixing yourself, i don't mean that there's something wrong with you as a person - i mean fixing things that can easily be learned and improved like mindset, weight, attitude, confidence… | /r/seduction | 21/02/16 09:29 PM |
| 1 | Did I miss a potential opportunity?Short version: YES Long version: YEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEES sorry couldn't resist | /r/seduction | 21/02/16 09:21 PM |
| 2 | Tips on Choosing Who to Take Advice From:Great advice! I agree that the most important point is that the PUA actually LIKES and RESPECTS women. There are so many guys out there who said to themselves "I'll get good with girls and i'll show them! I'll fuck them and never call them again!". Learning seduction out of revenge or to prove something to someone else is retarded - you should only learn it in order to improve yourself and your own quality of life. | /r/seduction | 21/02/16 09:16 PM |
| 2 | Good places to pick up teen chicks in public?Dude, just go to your local shopping mall, the biggest one you can find, tons of girls there, many of them just sitting and chilling on benches. Unless you live in a very small town... If you want your dates to end in sex, you have to have built enough attraction, sexual tension, as well as comfort, rapport and trust with a girl during your dates or interactions. Just google all that stuff and incorporate it into your game. | /r/seduction | 21/02/16 09:12 PM |
| 3 | First date adviceAt the beginning of your date talk about random lighthearted topics and don't barrage her with too many questions so that she won't feel that she's in an interview. Just talk about random fun stuff and spend some time climbing in that jungle gym and just make having fun in general your top priority. Tell her some funny stories or experiences from your life, ask her about fun stuff from hers and so on - it all has to be very lighthearted at the beginning. After a while, try to get some light touc… | /r/seduction | 21/02/16 07:12 PM |
| 2 | How to get energy up for nightgameI don't think he literally meant energy, as in being sleepy or not. I think he meant getting into the fun, happy and uplifted energetic mood. | /r/seduction | 21/02/16 06:01 PM |
| 1 | Hit Rock Bottom and am looking to get serious with gameRock bottom is where most success starts, because you realize you have nothing more to lose and decide to finally get this shit handled. It's been said that people who have felt the desperate lack of something have the greatest potential for its mastery, and i personally believe this to be true I was in a similar situation around 10 years ago, but there wasn't a lot of pickup material back then. Right now i'd suggest RSD, because some of their coaches have the right type of natural game, free fr… | /r/seduction | 21/02/16 02:18 PM |
| 1 | [need advice] How to attract someone away from her not-so-much exIt's a tough one, but it has nothing to do about value. From your story, A's boyfriend obviously has no intrinsic value to her, she's just into him because the whole situation with them is emotional, he takes her on an emotional rollercoster and i guess that's what she's into. In V's case, since she's obviously hot, she gets approached and asked on dates by tons of different guys, one more valuable than the next, and she obviously doesn't really care about that. In your case, they already talk t… | /r/seduction | 21/02/16 01:59 PM |
| 2 | My first "approach"It's all about taking the first step. You'd be surprised how many girls react favorably to a simple Hey! Especially in your situation, where there are tons of girls and no guys - all those girls crave attention! | /r/seduction | 21/02/16 12:53 PM |
| 1 | How to remove all neediness from your interactions with girls.The thing with teasing is that it closely ties in with your personality and your own sense of humor, that's why it's hard to draw up a specific example - most of them happen in the moment. A somewhat ok example might be that she does something uncool during your date or says something silly, you just hug her and say "Aaaaaw, I love it when you say such silly things, you're so adorable!" like you would do to your little sister. That's just one type of tease, there are literally hundreds. Very gen… | /r/seduction | 21/02/16 12:43 PM |
| 4 | [FR] Lost virginity from Tinder girl90% of erectile dysfunction is all in your head, only very rarely is it something physical and medical. So i dunno, just find out why you are nervous or otherwise stressed about it and try to relax more. If the girl is hot enough and turns you on, it shouldn't be a problem | /r/seduction | 21/02/16 11:28 AM |
| 1 | How to remove all neediness from your interactions with girls.Yeah, pretty much that too! I knew i forgot to write something in the main post... that it's also called being outcome-independent. | /r/seduction | 21/02/16 11:10 AM |
| 2 | How to remove all neediness from your interactions with girls.Hmm, might have not expressed myself clearly. English is my 4th language :P Yes, there has to be a goal, otherwise you will just be apathetic to everything around you and like you said, idle. But the goal has to be something similar to "lets go out and meet new people and see what happens, maybe sex happens, maybe new friends happen" and so on. It can't be "let's go out to get laid", because then you are constrained and every interaction coming from that goal will be needy. YOU might talk to a r… | /r/seduction | 21/02/16 10:59 AM |
| 1 | Take her roller skating.Yeah, traditional dates like going to a movie or theater are more detrimental to seduction, but they are in no way BAD. They just provide you with much less opportunities to show your personality and character. It just depends on your skill, if you are good, you are good anywhere. | /r/seduction | 21/02/16 10:40 AM |
| 4 | How to remove all neediness from your interactions with girls.That's the thing, it shouldn't matter if you're solo or with someone else. Just keep whatever goal you might have vaguely at the back of your head and refer back to it once in a while, but still go into any interaction thinking "whatever happens, happens", because your main priority and focus when going out should be just to have fun and amuse YOURSELF. Getting a girl should be considered as just a bonus to an otherwise great night. Like i said in the original post, the hardest part is actually … | /r/seduction | 21/02/16 02:29 AM |
| 3 | How to setup another hookup without slipping into "dating"?Personally, if i hook up with a girl and don't want anything out of her besides more hookups, i just tell her to come over to my place. That's it. If she says "wanna go grab a bite to eat" - reply with "nah not really, i recently ate, come to my place instead" or "lets get takeaway" If she persists or asks another day - "oh i hurt my leg a bit, i don't really wanna go anywhere, come over instead" etc. just keep inviting her over and eventually she'll start coming. After a few times like this she… | /r/seduction | 21/02/16 01:34 AM |
| 7 | How to remove all neediness from your interactions with girls.Dude, it's the age of the internet and google... so just google it :D Neediness means you don’t trust in yourself and your own worth. You value the opinions of others over your own. You seek external approval of who you are and what you do. Simply put, being needy is caring more about how people perceive you rather than how you perceive yourself. Because of it, your behaviors and actions will revolve around pleasing others rather than satisfying yourself. You NEED someone's attraction or approva… | /r/seduction | 21/02/16 01:18 AM |
| 1 | How do I start an online conversation with a girl I have never met personally?You just answered your own question. Just say to her something like "Damn, this is so much easier in real life, but i thought your pictures were cute and i love artistic girls who" and blah blah. Why over-complicate things? | /r/seduction | 21/02/16 01:08 AM |
| 3 | So I got my balls together and talked to this girl..Nice going with the approach, most guys don't engage smoking hot girls! The thing is that you acted a bit incongruent. You obviously walked up and talked to her because you thought she was hot and that you wanted to meet her and see where things go. Yet you approached and asked about something completely random and unrelated, like "do you know some good places blah blah". You obviously didn't walk up to her to find out about clubs and partying, you walked up to her because you thought she was ho… | /r/seduction | 21/02/16 01:02 AM |
| 4 | The 1 Tip for Massive Change and Success in Seduction and LifeBasically just break out of your comfort zone. | /r/seduction | 21/02/16 12:42 AM |
| 5 | Take her roller skating.There's no such thing as the perfect date. YOU make the dates perfect, not the setting. But i have to admit, rollerskating is fun ;) | /r/seduction | 21/02/16 12:38 AM |
| 1 | I rarely ever show interest in a girl until I know she is interested in me. This narrows down my options; any advice on showing interest/ initiating relationships?The problem with that. How will you KNOW that she is showing interest in you? A lot of the girls show it incredibly SUBTLY and many guys don't pick up on those queues. So you are wasting a ton of potential and missed opportunities being in that mindset. Why would you work against yourself? | /r/seduction | 21/02/16 12:36 AM |
| 2 | How to stop being so fucking needyVery nice and in-depth post! | /r/seduction | 20/02/16 11:56 PM |
| 3 | Bar/club game solo tipsI've done a lot of solo bar/club game when i moved to a university town and didn't know anyone there, and i can share some of the stuff I've learned. First of all, a lot of guys feel awkward because they are there alone and have no friends as backup to go hang around. The best way to fix this that i found was just saying to the girl or girls that you're talking to something similar to "Oh i'm just waiting for my friends, i came a bit early and don't have much to do, so i decided to come talk to … | /r/seduction | 20/02/16 11:46 PM |
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