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Fundamentalstheosamabahama/r/seduction20/05/22 07:27 PM
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Conversationtheosamabahama/r/seduction11/05/20 06:57 PM
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Talk to them like you would with a male friend. If you don't know what that means, talk to a woman, then talk to your male friends and then notice the difference.
/r/seduction04/11/22 09:52 PM
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You are making mental gymnastics to try to fit a stranger's relationship into some kind of "seduction alpha male model" that you have. The truth is often the simplest explanation. He was spending too much time away from home, they fell out of love after years of marriage and that's it. No need to overthink this.
/r/seduction29/10/22 08:43 AM
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Your second point was about lack of leadership, not about being absent from the home.
/r/seduction29/10/22 08:40 AM
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You want a real hot take? Here it is. Guys who complain on this sub that looks are all that matter, are either butthurt because they are short, fat, bald or have a small penis, or they are just normal looking guys who can't understand why women don't like them. And in both of these instances, they just are just really boring in real life or acting like total creeps, and that's why women don't like them.
/r/seduction16/10/22 11:40 PM
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Agreed.
/r/seduction16/10/22 11:35 PM
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I agree in part. I've been with many girls from dating apps and got laid. But I was using 3 dating apps at the same time, checking them everyday and keeping convos with 3-4 girls at the same time. I did get 1-2 different girls a month for an entire year (before the pandemic hit). But god, it's so much work, time and mental effort to put into it.
/r/seduction16/10/22 11:23 PM
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True. The whole incest worldview is deterministic by definition.
/r/seduction10/10/22 09:23 AM
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I want to add on this. As someone who is attracted to girls and guys, I do find myself attractive. And I've been with guys who thought I was gorgeous, while other guys weren't interested in me because I wasn't their type. People have different tastes and you are never going to be attractive to 100% of people.
/r/seduction10/10/22 09:22 AM
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Incels insist on their looks because they are looking for an excuse for their failure that is out of their control. But even more than that, they want to believe they are doomed. If they were just accepting they are doomed and moving on to live a happy life despite of that, it wouldn't be so bad. But instead they obssess about their supposed doom. It's a mental self harm movement. I can tell from personal experience, for any incels that might be listening, that girls largely don't care about guy…
/r/seduction10/10/22 09:10 AM
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How do you get a girl interested in just 6-8 messages? I know if the girl liked your profile on tinder, that means she is at least a little bit interested. But she always need some conversation before agreeing to go on a date with you.
/r/seduction28/08/22 06:57 PM
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Yeah, I know. It's sad but true.
/r/seduction10/07/22 11:50 PM
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Then why don't girl text us? Why is it expected for the men to keep texting?
/r/seduction10/07/22 05:41 PM
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Just don't expect her to love you and don't cum inside her (or get a vasectomy). She is a hot fun hooters girl who wants to fuck you. It is exactly as it sounds.
/r/seduction04/07/22 01:44 PM
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It's not necessarily a red flag. I've met some girls who don't take birth control and they know the guy shouldn't cum inside, but at the moment of sex, all common sense goes out the window and they begged me to cum inside them. They weren't doing it because they were being malicious, they were just horny.
/r/seduction04/07/22 01:39 PM
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I understand, I hate condoms too. I can't wait until they make a male contraceptive pill. I'll take that everyday.
/r/seduction04/07/22 01:33 PM
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So if you steal something and no one finds out you didn't do anything wrong? If you kill someone painlessly and they and everyone else never finds out it was you, you didn't do anything wrong? No, because then you are causing pain. Cheating and the partner not finding out would be more like talking behind a person's back, with someone who has no connection to the other person (like a stranger online), and the person not finding out. The pain only happens if the person finds out. If you ask me. I…
/r/seduction23/06/22 08:42 PM
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Because you're helping her betray someone. 🤷‍♂️ You are contradicting yourself kinda. You said you should tell the boyfriend. Why? Because the fact she decided to cheat is what's bad. Do you think the boyfriend will be ok just because the cheat didn't happen? Of course not. Her decision to cheat is what matters. You deciding not to take her offer doesn't change the fact she offered. Case in point, the responsibility lies with her, not you. You might say the boyfriend would be even more miserable…
/r/seduction23/06/22 06:15 PM
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You seem to think that letting a girl cheat with you is an immoral act. Why? Explain why.
/r/seduction23/06/22 10:24 AM
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This is not some kind of moral obligation. She is the one in a relationship, not you. You don't own her boyfriend anything. Letting her cheat with you or not is a neutral decision. You are not preventing the cheating from happening by ratting her out. All you do is make her (and him) suffer. Maybe you think this is the right thing to do, because you believe cheaters deserve to suffer. But honestly, I don't think it's so black and white. Maybe her boyfriend is a piece of shit who abuses her. Mayb…
/r/seduction23/06/22 09:26 AM
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Did somebody cheat on you OP?
/r/seduction23/06/22 02:34 AM
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Buy clothes and items that look expensive but that are also discreet (so you don't look like a show off douchbag). Brand clothes with a very discreet logo (it's important that the clothes fit your body nicely though). A nice watch and an expensive looking phone are good choices. Don't worry about them being too discreet, women have an eye for that.
/r/seduction21/06/22 04:57 AM
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I mean. Not a bad thing if you are just looking for hook ups.
/r/seduction21/06/22 04:51 AM
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Success is the standard euphemism for status. And status is the euphemism for money. Whenever women talk about succesful men, it all comes down to money in the end. They just don't want to say it out loud, but we all know it.
/r/seduction21/06/22 04:50 AM
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3) Any guy on here who says he has sex with most of his first dates on the first night is full of shit. Well, then give me a long nose and call me Pinochio. Most of my first dates ended in sex and the rest of them I had sex on the second date. Maybe the culture where I live is different, maybe girls are more liberal here in South America. But hey, you do you pal.
/r/seduction21/06/22 01:05 AM
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Men rarely get compliments. So we like it even more than girls do.
/r/seduction21/06/22 12:36 AM
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How do you approach them? And in what places and situations?
/r/seduction20/06/22 11:22 PM
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You approach guys?
/r/seduction20/06/22 10:20 PM
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I should never had spend so much time listing to all the dating advice and bullshit on how to pick up a girl. Most of it is retarded. What advice would you then give to guys interested on daygame cold approach and other advice in general?
/r/seduction20/06/22 10:18 PM
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I mean, platinum works to what it promisses. I have infinite likes, can see who liked me, have 5 super likes a week and 1 boost a month. And I'm getting a decent amount of matches. But girls just aren't responding anymore. I'm still the same guy I was before the pandemic when I was getting tinder dates. I don't know what happened.
/r/seduction20/06/22 08:10 PM
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If you buy boosts it will. Boosts are made to make you skip the line and be shown to girls in your area for 30 minutes.
/r/seduction20/06/22 05:34 PM
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I used to have 1 date a month with Tinder gold before the pandemic. After the pandemic, things were slow on Tinder, so I bough Tinder platinum. Now I have dozens of matches with attractive girls. But they don't respond. I know it's not my fault because I used to get dates on Tinder. I don't know if girls have become way less interested in dating after the pandemic or if Tinder is screwing me over (even though I'm a platinum paying user).
/r/seduction20/06/22 05:30 PM
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Those feminists are fine. It's the man haters who are toxic. Man haters are not filtering out men, they will give shit to every man no matter how nice he is.
/r/seduction18/06/22 09:03 PM
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True, but be careful. Some of them are so deranged, they might falsely accuse of you rape. Especially if she is drunk (they usually become much more affectionate to men while drunk) and she looses her memory due to the alcohol. Do it at your own risk.
/r/seduction18/06/22 09:02 PM
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Agreed. I had a friend who was a feminist man hater, but whatever, she would still my friend. One day we went to the club, she got super wasted and grabbed me make out with super hard, which caught me by surprise. I enjoyed it. But later, she lost her memory due to the alcohol and she thought I was the one who grabbed her and took advantage of her. Even though she took the initiative every step of the way. But she doesn't remember it so she thinks I'm the bad guy. Imagine if we had sex, she woul…
/r/seduction18/06/22 08:47 PM
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Don't you think doing the opposite, discouraging people from doing that or shaming them for doing so, would be prudish and unfair? I don't think everyone needs to partake on those activities, but what's wrong if the girl wants to do it?
/r/seduction18/06/22 08:14 PM
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It depends. If she is a feminist, that will depend on on whether your views align with her. But if she just hates men then that shit is toxic and not worth it. Why would you date someone who hates your identity? Women who hate men will regularly criticize you and blame it on you being a man and if you criticize her, she will just call you sexist for criticizing her. They are masters of mental gymnastics. Some of these women, ironically, even date or hook up with sexist men. Freud would have some…
/r/seduction18/06/22 08:07 PM
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Maybe they reached out to her, not as merely friends, but with sexual interest and then gave up on it?
/r/seduction16/06/22 11:13 PM
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I think it's the other way around. If you have self-respect, they will respect you and find you attractive for it.
/r/seduction16/06/22 11:12 PM
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Obviously, anyone will prefer a person who is being authentic and not playing a game. Which is why the old-school advice of "just be yourself" exists. But "just be yourself" doesn't work for everyone. A guy who can just be himself and has success with women doesn't need advice. So a guy who can't just be himself will need to kind of pretend and play a game at the beginning while he is still learning. The good news is after some time, it becomes second nature and he doesn't have to pretend anymor…
/r/seduction15/06/22 08:04 AM
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See, that is not wrong advice. All of that is correct. But it's superficial. It doesn't mention confidence, how to hold a good conversation, how to flirt, how to handle shit-tests, how to escalate, how to show interest without being needy. 95% of advice from women are like this in my experience. Correct, but so lacking in depth, that it's not really useful. Lots of normal looking guys, and even attractive guys, try exactly what you are saying and it doesn't work for them. If it really was as eas…
/r/seduction15/06/22 07:42 AM
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It can help you with stoner girls. But that's true for any "hobby" or interest. If you watch anime, it will help you with anime fan girls. If you play a certain game, it can help you with girls who play the same game. People like to date other people with the same hobbies and interests as them.
/r/seduction14/06/22 08:08 PM
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What advice would you give to men to have success with women (sexual or romantic)?
/r/seduction14/06/22 07:54 PM
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So I hope some guys can see women as more than just a hole...or two. Most of us don't see women that way. We have mothers and sisters, we see women as human. We like women a lot and we are just looking for ways to have us like us back.
/r/seduction14/06/22 07:52 PM
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On one hand I agree they have higher standards. On the other hand, the hottest girls are usually not approached that much, actually. Because guys get intimidated by them, so they don't even try. So while she might have higher standards, you'll also have less competition by simply trying.
/r/seduction14/06/22 07:46 PM
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Looks can get you hook ups. Money can get you a wife.
/r/seduction14/06/22 06:36 AM
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I think it has more to do with my age. I'm 27, so that stuff weights more heavily for me. If I was 19, it probably wouldn't be an issue.
/r/seduction13/06/22 10:44 PM
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As someone who is a college dropout, currently unemployed, living with my dad, but has success with girls, I can attest to that. However, my situation does make it impossible for me to get an actual girlfriend. Girls don't mind hooking up with me, but they don't want to have a serious relationship with a guy who "doesn't has his shit together".
/r/seduction13/06/22 06:45 PM
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Women's perception of you (as a man) can change on a whim. It's very common for a girl to initially like a guy a lot, but once he shows insecurity or weakness, her perception changes and she realizes she has been dating or flirting with a loser all this time (from her perspective). She might feel betrayed or ashamed and thus distance herself. I don't think you need to lie, my friend. But it's important for you to at least understand this. What makes you attractive to women, is, more than anythin…
/r/seduction13/06/22 06:36 PM
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You are essentially saying "Your attitude doesn't matter. Your looks are all that matters". That is what you are implying. That if you are physically attractive, you don't need to do anything else. And if you are not, there is nothing you can do.
/r/seduction13/06/22 06:14 PM
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But are you on the pill?
/r/seduction12/06/22 11:02 PM
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I think the chance of that happening is lower than the condom breaking.
/r/seduction12/06/22 10:50 PM
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So you always use condoms even when you know, for a fact, the girl is taking the pill?
/r/seduction12/06/22 10:48 PM
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The politically correct answer is to always use a condom and redditors will always tell you that. Personally, I don't see why a girl would lie about being on the pill. I think the chance of her lying about that, for whatever reason, is less likely than the condom breaking in the first place. The chance of getting an STD from vaginal sex is also surprisingly low. Consider that the chance of getting pregnant while using condoms is 2%. All other STDs have chances lower than that. Society tries to t…
/r/seduction12/06/22 10:32 PM
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Girls like when you handle the problem. You don't need to get into a physical fight. I once had a female friend and we had a crush on each other. She was being constantly harassed by a creep at a party. I told him to stop, he did, she thanked me for it and she kissed me.
/r/seduction07/06/22 02:41 PM
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You need therapy, not prostitutes, buddy. 5-10 prostitutes (it’s kinda cheap here) That being said, if you can afford it like that, just do it all the time. Or get a sugar baby while you are at it, why not?
/r/seduction05/06/22 04:18 PM
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Most colleges are majority female. Just go hang out at the other departments where the girls are.
/r/seduction05/06/22 09:33 AM
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Me too! In 2019 I managed to get 1 or 2 dates a month (different girls). Now I've only had 1 date from Tinder this year. Even though I have Tinder Platinum. I have plenty of matches with hot girls, but they don't reply back.
/r/seduction04/06/22 05:56 AM
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I don't remember he shitting on 30+ dating 20 year olds. When did he say that?
/r/seduction02/06/22 03:32 AM
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Todd V on youtube is the only coach that worked for me. He doesn't waste time on self-help bullshit. He goes straight to the point in seduction and dating techniques. He is also very methodical. So if you have a very logical and methodical mind, like me, he is your guy. I've never spent a dime on it either, I just watched his free videos on youtube and learned a lot from it.
/r/seduction30/05/22 12:15 AM
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She is shit testing you. Just ignore it or make a joke about it.
/r/seduction28/05/22 09:15 AM
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Don't tell her. Even if she is going out with other guys too, people still don't like to hear that. She'll most likely loose interest on you if you tell her about the other date. You just met her, you don't own her commitment.
/r/seduction28/05/22 07:46 AM
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doesn’t let you get far enough to hurt them. That's a bit much. I don't think OP is planning on hurting anybody. Or even manupulating anyone emotionally, he can be honest and say he is just looking for something casual.
/r/seduction27/05/22 06:45 AM
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If you are scoring girls left and right, how are you a simp? Wtf.
/r/seduction27/05/22 06:42 AM
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Sure dude. Go with all the three girls. It does boost your confidence. It worked for me.
/r/seduction27/05/22 06:41 AM
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Good luck, man.
/r/seduction26/05/22 07:08 AM
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Alcohol losses our inhibitions but it doesn't create desires that weren't there. If she was asking to fuck while drunk, she already wanted to fuck you before. So maybe she is still interested. Next time you see her, make casual conversation. Don't be awkward, don't bring up what happened and just talk normal. Then ask her if she wants to share a drink at your place.
/r/seduction26/05/22 06:17 AM
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I can. If she is not attractive. If he has a girlfriend. If he is religious and saving up for marriage. The thing is, if he would say "no", then it doesn't matter how she approaches him. He won't sleep with her anyway. So it's better to just not waste time and ask him directly.
/r/seduction24/05/22 10:49 PM
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And what's the problem with that ? Really, think about it. What harm could come from that ?
/r/seduction24/05/22 09:44 PM
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I'm gonna be brutally honest. Your looks do matter a lot. For a relationship, other factors come into play. But for just a casual hook up, looks is basically all that matters for guys.
/r/seduction24/05/22 09:43 PM
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It depends on how chubby you are, but generally yes. The chances of him accepting is more than 50%.
/r/seduction24/05/22 09:41 PM
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Why would he say no ? Like, for real.
/r/seduction24/05/22 09:40 PM
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It's simple, you: go up to a guy and then you say I wanna fuck
/r/seduction24/05/22 09:38 PM
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Maybe your depression makes you not give a fuck about anything and that makes you attractive. You just tell a girl you like her and you don't care what the outcome is. That is the opposite of needy, which is attractive.
/r/seduction23/05/22 09:48 AM
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Read the room ? Are you suggesting men on this sub don't get women and will get jealous if he talks about his experience ?
/r/seduction23/05/22 09:45 AM
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🤣🤣🤣
/r/seduction22/05/22 06:43 AM
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Only during flirting. Inviting a girl to your house and building sexual tension is way past flirting. You don't need to build attraction at that point, dude ! She went to your house, she is DTF. If you pull away at that point you are just gonna frustrate the girl or she'll think you are weird as fuck. Don't do this, it will backfire.
/r/seduction22/05/22 06:40 AM
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This never happened to me. But if it did, I would just go up to her and make small talk. See how she reacts. Really treat it as any other approach. If she is flashing, maybe she wants to fuck and the interaction will be very easy. If it doesn't go anywhere, that's fine.
/r/seduction22/05/22 06:20 AM
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you chasing her will give her what she wants without anything happening. So guys should never approach girls ? Wtf
/r/seduction22/05/22 06:15 AM
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It's common for older women to throw compliments like this. I've had it happen to me some times. I imagine it's either because she doesn't think you'll assume she is hitting on you because of the age difference, or, she is hitting on you and she feels like she needs to be more direct if she wants to have a chance with you.
/r/seduction22/05/22 12:29 AM
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Women also like men who are emotionally strong. Someone they can rely on and support them emotionally. Ideally, both should support each other emotionally. And many couples do this in a healthy way. Unfortunately, many women lose respect for their husbands or boyfriends if he shows the same kind of emotional vulnerability and insecurity that they do.
/r/seduction21/05/22 06:17 PM
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Thank you for confirming what I've said. You know, everyone has some of their self-esteem based on their potential success with the opposite sex. Why do you think their own physical appearance is so important for a woman's self-esteem ? Way more than it is for men (generally).
/r/seduction21/05/22 05:29 PM
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Thank you. Nice to see a female perspective supporting my thesis hehe.
/r/seduction21/05/22 07:48 AM
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Fake it until you make it. Just be bold, chill and be respectful but don't give a fuck what other people think. Once you start getting success with women, you will naturally become more confident for real.
/r/seduction21/05/22 07:46 AM
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There is a difference between being shy and being insecure or needy. Being shy can be cute giving the right circumstances (being handsome helps).
/r/seduction20/05/22 10:12 PM
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I don't think it's a good idea. Maybe it's different where I live, since I'm not from the US, but if you invite the girl over and you don't fuck her, she might think you are not interested in her sexually and lose interest. Or she might see what you are doing and find it tryhard, manipulative or weird. I mean, it's one thing to go on a few dates before having sex. But inviting someone over to your place, with a sexual undertone, and then not having sex ? I mean, why ?
/r/seduction20/05/22 08:15 PM
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I'll also add confidence/neediness in dating is often one sided. While men find confidence/neediness in women sexy/unsexy too, they don't care nearly as much as women do. This is because men generally value other traits more, particularly physical attractiveness. Many men don't care about dating a needy girl if she hot. And most men don't care at all about their partners financial success, confidence or competence .
/r/seduction20/05/22 08:04 PM
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You are missing one key thing: Confidence If you are happy with your life and yourself, you don't feel like you need to improve, you will naturally be more confident and that will make you more attractive. And I know from personal experience, that confidence, charisma and charm are enough to get hook ups, many hook ups. If you wanna understand why, check my post. It gets more complicated for a relationship though. As that requires higher standards, like financial success, things in common, a sim…
/r/seduction20/05/22 07:50 PM
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Don't feel bad about anxiety. That's completely normal. I've had plenty of success from women, but all my hook ups have been through online dating and acquaintances. Because I just don't have the guts to approach strangers. So keep in mind you don't need to approach strangers to get sexual partners. If talking to women makes you super anxious, you should get used to talking to women in general. Try to talk to them in a platonic way. Don't try to seduce them, don't try to make them like you. If y…
/r/seduction20/05/22 07:43 PM
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Why do you care about it ?
/r/seduction20/05/22 07:07 PM
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Don't be afraid to disagree with her or challenge her. Don't be afraid to be crude or tease her, even if there is a risk of her being offended (if she doesn't have a sense of humor, that's her problem). That way, you can express interest while at the same time, showing you don't care if she doesn't like you back.
/r/seduction20/05/22 06:38 PM
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Aside from what others already said, I would like to add that you shouldn't spend more than 5 minutes thinking of what to say. I used to procrastinate texting the girl because I hadn't thought of the perfect message yet. And hours or days would pass, sometimes I would even forget about messaging her. When in fact I should have just said anything, better than saying nothing right ? Don't stress about it. Online dating is a numbers game more than anything. Try to think of something casual and funn…
/r/seduction18/05/22 03:04 AM
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I swear, height has become a shortcut for penis size insecurity for lots of men.
/r/seduction18/05/22 02:58 AM
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Improve yourself, date other girls for a few months and don't hit on her during this time. In other words, let her see how you improved and how much success you are having with other women. Do it in a way she won't realize you are doing this on purpose to impress her, otherwise it won't work. In other words, move on, try with other girls and hopefully, one day you two will be together. It's not a guarantee, but it's the plan with best chances.
/r/seduction12/05/22 07:47 AM
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That might just be up in your head. But anyway, the more you stress about it, the more insecure and therefore, the more unattractive, you will become. But if you feel like this around your friends, then maybe this is a deeper issue for you beyond just girls.
/r/seduction11/05/22 12:55 AM
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Two questions for you: What is boring ? Do you think you are boring when you are talking to your friends ?
/r/seduction10/05/22 11:20 PM
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Don't try to be charismatic. Try to be laid back. Do what you feel like doing and don't give a fuck what others think or even what the girl thinks. You can still talk to her like normal and show interest. You don't need to be extrovert and energetic. Just be chill.
/r/seduction10/05/22 12:58 PM
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And redditors say you can't housewife a hoe.
/r/seduction10/05/22 04:46 AM
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Chess and Checkers are good choices. Everyone knows how to play, they are simple to set up, don't take very long and are challenging and fun. They are perfect to play in a cafe. Liar's Dice is also super easy to set up and to learn. Unfortunately it's not very well known, but I personally love it. (It's that dice game from Pirates of the Caribbean 2). "Who Am I ?": This game is featured in Inglorious Basterds. All you need is a Post It Note and a pen. Fun, easy to learn and quick. Forbidden Word…
/r/seduction09/05/22 08:31 AM
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If you are easy, make the first move and is willing to do other stuff that other women won't (including in bed), he can take an interest on you. If a girl is willing to have sex, guys will take the offer as long as she is not hideous. Being average is good enough for sex even for super attractive guys. But that will mostly get you hook ups. If you want a relationship, you also need to vibe with him and have a great personality.
/r/seduction01/05/22 10:29 PM
4

It's incredible how many women are out there just dying for validation from men.
/r/seduction26/04/22 12:20 AM
2

My best friend is similar to what you are describing. He legitimately doesn't give a shit about what others think and has an aggressive metalhead vibe. At first people don't like him, especially girls. But once they start getting to know him better, they think "Oh, he is actually a cool guy". And they become attracted to him. He was more of asshole in highschool, nowadays he is much more chill.
/r/seduction22/04/22 11:00 PM
6

I know a girl who literally said that 2. Someone asked her on Twitter "What does a guy need to do to conquer you ?" and she replied "Ignore me. If he ignores me, I fall for him in an instant."
/r/seduction22/04/22 10:54 PM
3

These 20yo guys and 30yo women who complain about a 30yo guy getting a 20yo woman are the same as people who complain about multiracial couples. They are jealous of the competition.
/r/seduction16/04/22 09:39 PM
3

They are jealous. You have to focus on winning the girl, not the haters. Just ignore them.
/r/seduction16/04/22 09:35 PM
1

If you wanna do cold approach, it doesn't matter. Cold approach is all about learning and casting a wide net. Even if you don't get the hottest girls, you are still learning from the experience of approaching and talking to them. But if you wanna know what league you are in, well, girls generally like guys who are confident, have a good casual and fun conversation and have something interesting going in their lives. They also like status and financial stability, but they won't expect that from y…
/r/seduction13/04/22 11:45 PM
3

I was bullied A LOT in school, from 11 to 14 years old. During that time, I learned to not give a fuck about what other people thought about me or said about me. That's how I "survived" the bullying. I'm still like this to this day, but lots of people think I'm rude or an asshole because I don't care what others think and I don't go out of my way to please anyone.
/r/seduction13/04/22 08:23 PM
9

Isn't that a more convoluted way of saying that women want a secure man they can rely on so they don't have to be secure themselves ?
/r/seduction13/04/22 08:21 PM
6

As a man, I avoid showing any insecurity in front of a girl I'm interested at the beginning. Because confidence is the most attractive trait in a man. But if I get into a relationship, I can feel more comfortable with opening up to my partner. In fact women expect and even romanticize about having a man opening up to her (it's their version of "conquering" the opposite sex). But even then, I'm afraid of opening up so much that my partner stops seeing me as the confident man she fell for. This ha…
/r/seduction13/04/22 08:18 PM
3

Yes. Being short is a detriment, but you can still compensate with other positive trais. Like being physically attractive (aside from the height), having money and status, having lots of charisma and social skills, confidence, etc. Some women simply won't hook up or date shorter guys, but that's just part of life. No men will be desired by 100% of women, there will always be some women who won't be into you.
/r/seduction13/04/22 04:55 PM
2

Maybe that's the crux of the issue. If you could date a 9, then fucking lots of 5s and 6s would seem overrated. But fucking lots of 8s, 9s and even 10s ? That's a different story.
/r/seduction13/04/22 01:51 AM
7

The more you start to get lucky, the more confident you'll get. It's a process. If you are starting out, fake confidence. It really works.
/r/seduction06/04/22 01:59 PM
1

I get lucky often. But I never approach strangers. All my hook ups are either from online dating (tinder, instagram) or through social circles (friends of friends). So I don't get rejected in the traditional face to face way. But I do message a ton of girls online who never respond. Through social circles I always try to see if the girl might be interested and I try to flirt. If she doesn't flirt back, nothing happens. So it's not exactly a rejection (like she turning me down). It's just an inte…
/r/seduction06/04/22 01:55 PM
3

19 to 17 is an ok age gap.
/r/seduction06/04/22 01:50 PM
2

And marriage does not = happiness. I know. That's why I specified "happily married", not just married. Modern women stopped wanting marriage and are focusing on their careers, hobbies and friends. Speak for yourself, most people, both men and women desire a partner at some point. It's cool if you don't, but don't assume that your experience and desires are the same as everyone. In fact, you seem to be taking this rather personally. I wasn't talking about you.
/r/seduction02/04/22 08:51 AM
1

Well, I wouldn't be turned off by your age, be either 18 or 28. If you are gorgeous, you are gorgeous.
/r/seduction02/04/22 02:32 AM
1

You look much better now, but look like you are 18-19. Doesn't that prove my point ?
/r/seduction01/04/22 11:28 PM
2

Envy of male attention, yes. Women start their teenage and adult lives getting a lot of attention from men. They get used to having loads of attention. When they start to age and get less attention, it's something they are not prepared for. They feel like shit. And when they see younger women getting way more attention than them, they feel envy. It's not usually a problem for women who are happily married though. And as time passes, all women eventually get used to not getting as much attention …
/r/seduction01/04/22 11:23 PM
1

I wonder if single older women or insecure older women in a relationship have more of a tendency to behave like this than young women or older women who feel secure in their relationship. If an experiment could showcase this, it would really showcase their envy in action.
/r/seduction01/04/22 11:45 AM
3

Also known as collective envy. Nietzsche called it herd mentality.
/r/seduction01/04/22 11:43 AM
5

Anything over 18 is fine, as long as you are being respectful and consensual.
/r/seduction01/04/22 11:40 AM
3

Why is it a red flag ? I understand he could be a predador looking for someone naive. But can't he just be into her looks ?
/r/seduction01/04/22 11:39 AM
2

Might be envy of young women too.
/r/seduction01/04/22 11:37 AM
1

The reason why men always approach and all dating advice is made for them is simple. Females are naturally more selective of their sexual partners (not just humans, all mammals are like this). Because pregnancy presents a big risk for their survival and the quality of their potential offspring. So natural selection made them more, well, selective of whom they choose to mate. This isn't something cultural, it's a natural instinct that women have. While men don't have the same risk of pregnancy. I…
/r/seduction22/03/22 03:00 PM
154

Yeah, that's basically it. I do know a guy who is short and does very very well with girls. But he is like, the most charismatic and charming guy I've ever seen. And he is buff from the gym, has tattoos, a cool fashion style and is overall a very masculine guy.
/r/seduction15/03/22 11:20 AM
1

Do you approach the women that give you IOI ?
/r/seduction07/03/22 10:06 PM
1

If you are good at women in general, you improve your chances of getting a girlfriend. Unless you have some roadblock, like not having a decent paying job or living with your parents. Lot's of girls will hook up with you in those cases, but won't seriously date you.
/r/seduction28/02/22 11:48 PM
1

I'm 27. My value is good conversation skills and musician status. I still need financial status. Once I'm in my 30s and getting a good pay (god's will), I imagine I will be getting tons of pussy in their 20s every month.
/r/seduction28/02/22 11:46 PM
2

I disagree. When they guy is a noob and is just starting to learn game, he most likely won't know how to build a connection. It's not something intuitive for him. So following these step-by-steps methods can help him navigate human interaction. After some time doing it, it will become second nature to him and he will be able to do it naturally without doing it methodically.
/r/seduction25/02/22 03:44 PM
1

I felt pretty much the same when I was starting to learn game. Mostly because that's how advice on game goes. A methodical way of following a series of scripts and steps based on abstract concepts on how women feel and behave and how to react to that (called models). It's no wonder that dating simulators work in the same way you described of picking the right options step-by-step. I think it works tremendously for the most part. After some time it becomes second nature and you start doing intuit…
/r/seduction25/02/22 03:40 PM
5

I'm a 27 years old college drop out, currently unemployed and I live with my dad. I'm skinny, pale and have no muscle. The only thing positive about my looks, I guess, is that I have a handsome face, a nice voice and I'm not short. But I'm definitely not Chad looking or financially successful. However, I still manage to get a good amount of girls. From Tinder and Instagram, to social gatherings and social circles. In 2019 I went on dates with 15 different girls. The pandemic gave a dry spell, as…
/r/seduction22/02/22 01:43 AM
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Lol. I've been with 24 women in 3 years. How many have you been with ?
/r/seduction21/02/22 08:31 PM
11

I'm thinking on the context where the first date hasn't even happened yet or in casual dating. When you haven't yet gone out with her on date yet, she still doesn't know you. So it's understandable she is not infatuated with you. But if you've been into 3 or 4 dates and you are looking for a relationship, then it's a sign that this isn't going anywhere.
/r/seduction21/02/22 06:09 PM
4

I disagree. There is nothing wrong about asking her when she is free. If she is interested in you, she will tell you. But if you set a up a date and time without asking her if she is free, and she is already busy, she might just say "Oh, I'm busy at that time". Some girls will tell you when she is free right after saying that, but lots of girls don't know how to react or don't want to decide the date and time themselves. Maybe this has worked for you. But asking the girl when she is free has wor…
/r/seduction21/02/22 05:56 PM
-10

No man. You should not just drop a date and time like that. You don't know if she is free at that time. She might want to go on a date with you, but she already has a compromise at said time. You first have to ask her when she is free. Then set up a date.
/r/seduction21/02/22 05:28 PM
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Keep in mind though, that girl's mood change drastically from day to day or from hour to hour. She might be into you, but not in the mood to go out with you now. But she might be in the mood tomorrow. Or next week. So keep in touch with her, try out a few times, her mood might change. This happened to me countless times. But if she keeps turning you down every time, then move on.
/r/seduction21/02/22 05:13 PM
2

The analogy with the fat woman is good, but I want to point out that girls are a lot less visual than we are. Women do care about appearance, but they care a lot more about your confidence, your smooth talk and your status.
/r/seduction19/02/22 08:48 PM
1

For God's sake. We rate people from 1 to 10 based on looks all the time. OP is not talking about their value as human being. Just their level of physical attractiveness.
/r/seduction11/02/22 10:29 AM
0

I feel like others in this comment section are just jealous and calling you shallow because of it. Who wouldn't want to be with a 9/10 girl ? Man, I feel you. I've been with super hot girls in the past, and after you taste the best in life, the average doesn't do it anymore. Not just in regards to women, but everything. Anyway, it's just a matter of statistics. Super hot girls are just more rare than average cute girls. So not only you need to be good enough for a 9 or 10, you also need to look …
/r/seduction11/02/22 09:46 AM
1

your broke, still in college, living with your parents, don't have your shit together, have a low paying job, small or no social circle, not happy, sorta depressed, sorta sick of life I am all of those things, have been for years, and I've slept with a fair amount of girls. I just never managed to get a girlfriend, because then money starts to matter in a relationship. But for casual dating and hook ups, not so much.
/r/seduction11/02/22 08:02 AM
1

agree
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 08:47 PM
1

We want what is scarce. True. It's why shops advertise ONE TIME ONLY SALE, DON'T MISS THIS OPPORTUNITY !
/r/seduction30/11/21 08:41 PM
1

Oh my, I also love this type that you described. Petite gingers. This Samantha Cormier is stunning.
/r/seduction28/11/21 02:11 AM
1

Daddario is my type of 10/10
/r/seduction28/11/21 02:07 AM
1

Also thank you for making me the only one not citing porn stars as examples. I feel more normal now.
/r/seduction28/11/21 12:52 AM
1

Wow. What a library.
/r/seduction28/11/21 12:48 AM
5

That's why the title says "to you".
/r/seduction28/11/21 12:34 AM
22

Being disinterested, lay back or distant, make you look like a guy who already has a lot of women. You have options, so you are not desperate. That signals to the girl that you have what women look for in a guy, since other women are into you.
/r/seduction27/11/21 08:11 PM
4

Move your hands over his body from time to time. Like his arms, legs, chest, back and face.
/r/seduction27/11/21 08:08 PM
1

Just don't have that mindset yourself. Women will choose you over the guys who have that stupid mindset. Then let natural selection take care of it.
/r/seduction27/11/21 08:06 PM
1

Props to you, man. Some people might look at you the wrong way. But you are the one who will be getting pussy. Joke's on them.
/r/seduction27/11/21 07:27 PM
1

Yeah, I was curious. I'm pretty agressive myself too. That's good for you, lots of women are into that.
/r/seduction27/11/21 07:22 PM
1

If you are talking only about looks, then you are correct. But I don't see the point of rating if the rating is not rating. The rating should be based on attractiveness overall. But whatever, why did you ask me if I'm at least an 8 on looks ? Why are you focusing on that ?
/r/seduction27/11/21 07:11 PM
1

Hmm. I'm not sure about posting it on tinder. I think it might attract some girls (as long as you are not ugly) and it might turn away others.
/r/seduction27/11/21 07:09 PM
1

There you go again, shy to talk about your kinks. It's ok man, we all have kinks. You can talk about yours.
/r/seduction27/11/21 07:05 PM
2

Yes, work on that. Maybe try to talk about sex with some female friends (just friends) so you can get used to talking about sex openly with women.
/r/seduction27/11/21 07:04 PM
2

You don't need to talk to 5. Talk to 2 or 3. Give it a try. That not only will immediately give you other options if one of the girls is unavailable or loses interest. That will also give you a mindset of abundance, making you less needy which is attractive. It will also increase your self esteem, which feels good and is also attractive. Honestly, everyone, men and women, should see 2 or 3 people at the same time while they are single.
/r/seduction27/11/21 06:59 PM
1

I think game can get you any girl for something casual. But for a relationship, women tend to demand more stuff than just game.
/r/seduction27/11/21 06:57 PM
0

But why would a girl who is a 7 date a guy who is a 5 ? If she is dating him, she probably see him as at least a 7. As another user pointed out, the rating is subjective. You can be 2 points above or below depending on who is looking at you.
/r/seduction27/11/21 06:55 PM
1

Of course, the rating is subjective. Maybe a good strategy is to go for someone you think is a 10, but most people think is a 6 or 7. That way, they will be amazing to you, but they won't be as picky as someone who is a 10.
/r/seduction27/11/21 06:53 PM
1

How were the results ?
/r/seduction27/11/21 06:49 PM
3

I also love women who enjoy sex and are not ashamed of it. In my experience, lots of girls I've been to dates with have been open about their sexual history and kinks. And I don't mean just after we've had sex, I mean on the first date they would talk about that stuff once I breached the subject. My guess on why they are comfortable to talk about that stuff with me is that I don't treat sex as a big deal and I don't kink shame or slut shame anyone. I talk about sex as something fun but mundane. …
/r/seduction27/11/21 06:46 PM
0

Bad boys can slut shame women too. They just don't care about fucking them either way. Some bad boys say they will fuck sluts, but will never date them. I think that's not exclusive to bad boys though, it's a pretty common hypocritical behavior among men in general.
/r/seduction27/11/21 06:41 PM
3

It's a waste to only talk to one girl at a time. Because if it doesn't work with her, all that time and effort has been for nothing. You can use the same time and effort that you use with a single girl and use it with 2 or 3 girls by keeping things short and simple. If you start to specially like a particular girl and she seems to feel the same, then you can invest more in her to lead to a relationship.
/r/seduction27/11/21 06:21 PM
4

That's eye opening. You put it very succinctly, I never thought about power exchange between the sexes like that. What a shame that humans need to be looked down upon to feel attracted to someone.
/r/seduction27/11/21 06:12 PM
3

Women are attracted to bad boys because they are confident, bold and don't give a shit about anyone's approval of him (non-needy). A bad boy is not necessarily a prick, in my opinion, but he can be. A prick bad boy is a jerk to others, he is rude and hurts people's feelings. Bad boys can be summarized as "irreverent": showing a lack of respect for people or things that are generally taken seriously. A non-prick bad boy is still polite, but he won't make an effort to please others and is not afra…
/r/seduction27/11/21 06:09 PM
1

The whole point of rating is to know what level of rating you can date from the opposite sex. If most of the girls I've been with were 7s, I imagine they see me as in the same level as them or higher. Anyway, in terms of looks alone, I think I might be a 6. I'm not muscular or masculine. I'm skinny with a delicate face. But I have a pretty face, a beautiful voice (women tell me they like my voice all the time), I'm 5'10'' and I have a rock musician style.
/r/seduction27/11/21 04:55 PM
1

What does it mean to be a man of substance ? Do you mean rich ?
/r/seduction27/11/21 04:51 PM
1

Olive skin is beautiful.
/r/seduction27/11/21 06:25 AM
0

Your own rating has nothing to do with who you’ve been with. Its gonna be difficult to get a 9-10 if you’re a 6-7 You just contradicted yourself. Btw, are you asking my rate in terms of looks ? Because I think men, contrary to women, are judged a lot more on other things rather than looks.
/r/seduction27/11/21 06:23 AM
2

I think you are having a biased experience in Vegas. There aren't enough millionaries for all the hot women and they still need a boyfriend. I understand they might go for someone wealthy because they can. But he doesn't need to be "extremely wealthy" as you put it.
/r/seduction27/11/21 06:21 AM
4

Superman by Eminem
/r/seduction27/11/21 05:04 AM
1

My friend has been to Ukraine, he said the same thing. Italians, french and nordic women are also stunning.
/r/seduction27/11/21 04:42 AM
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I don't know if I can rate myself. But most of the girls I've been with were 7s with a few that were higher or lower. So maybe I'm a 7 ?
/r/seduction27/11/21 04:34 AM
1

You want what you can't have Ooh girl, that's too damn bad Don't touch what you can't grab End up with two backhands
/r/seduction27/11/21 04:33 AM
1

I'm really looking for advice. Sorry if it sounded like I was showing off. I would just trying to give context. I've been with a 10, but that was pure luck. It's not something that happens normally to me.
/r/seduction27/11/21 02:53 AM
3

I think what you are asking is, "is her love for me real ?". She can love you because you provide for her or she might be pretending to love you so you provide for her, for example. In that case, you need to try to see how committed she is to you. If she would easily leave you or not.
/r/seduction24/11/21 05:44 PM
11

If she is falling too fast for you, that can be (although not necessarily) a sign that is interested in something. Either your money or attention. If she falls in love for you fast she can fall out of love fast. That's what my ex did at least. So watch out. Also, look at her past history. Does she usually go for one type of guy ? What do those guys have in common ? Does she jumps from guy to guy pretty fast or does she chooses her partners carefully for long term relationships ?
/r/seduction24/11/21 05:41 PM
3

I have the problem of saying "uuuuhh" a lot while I'm thinking. I do it involuntarily. I only realized how much I do it when I started editing my podcast. I said it all the time and it was a bitch to edit it out.
/r/seduction23/11/21 09:02 AM
2

"I am looking for something that could potentially become serious" girls often ask on the first date and I do want to commit but ofcourse not right away. If the girl asks you what you are looking for on the first date, just give a vague answer. The girl might just be asking you this to see if you are just there to fuck her and nothing more. If you say you are just looking for a hook up, she will turn you down so she doesn't feel slutty. If you say you are looking for something serious, that's to…
/r/seduction14/11/21 11:21 PM
1

He still needs to approach girls though. He seems to not be approaching anybody.
/r/seduction14/11/21 11:13 PM
1

Lots of women do the same thing. They will talk to guys, sometimes even join Tinder, but have no intention of dating or hooking up with anybody, they just like the attention.
/r/seduction14/11/21 11:07 PM
3

I have a friend who is short and a nerd. But he is buff and super charming, all the girls are into him and he is dating a hot redhead that is taller than me. So height is not a deal breaker. I've always been skinny with a delicate face, but I'm pretty good with girls because I know how to flirt and how to talk to them. I'm also a college drop out who still live with his dad. So having a money, a college degree or a very masculine body is also not necessary. These are just some examples from my l…
/r/seduction14/11/21 10:46 PM
2

Practice. When you are new to game, you get cough up in your head and you overthink stuff, going through all the scripts and techniques. It's normal. But after doing it for sometime, it becomes second nature and you don't have to think about it anymore, you just do it by instinct. Keep practicing.
/r/seduction14/11/21 10:35 PM
1

Look dude. The girl isn't stupid, she knows you are inviting her for sex. The drinks or whatever are just an excuse so she doesn't feel slutty and so she doesn't feel she has to commit to sex. It's more comfortable for her. The excuse doesn't matter, it can be anything. There's a reason why "netflix in chill" became synonymous with inviting someone over for sex. If the girl likes you and wants to fuck you, she will go to your place if you ask her. Simple as that.
/r/seduction14/11/21 06:44 PM
3

If you have already kissed, preferably made out, just ask her if she wants to come to your place for a drink. Or to watch a movie, something like that. If she declines, you can still ask her over to your place (later, in a different day, obviously).
/r/seduction13/11/21 07:33 AM
3

This kind of thing does happen a few times in life. I once matched with a 10/10 girl who lived in a near city and she invited me to spend the weekend at her place. It was incredible, she was gorgeous, super kinky and super fun to talk to. She got a boyfriend not long after. But it was worth it 100x.
/r/seduction13/11/21 07:26 AM
1

I'm confused. Do you mean women want a guy with a low N-count or men want a woman with a low N-count ?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 10:29 PM
1

Because people's brains think through associations. It's like talking to someone who has a different political leaning than you. If you avoid using the buzzwords that your side use (example: "white privilege" for the left or "CRT" for the right), you can have the other person listen to you and maybe agree with you. But if you use the buzzwords, they are just going to stereotype you and not listen to you. TRP has it's own buzzwords: hypergamy, 80/20, Chads, Stacies, Alpha, Beta.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 07:30 PM
1

Well, thanks. I find the last part unfortunate though. Because if the majority is like me but doesn't want a woman who is the same, they are just hypocrites and sexist.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 07:21 PM
1

It's not just incel/femcel. The vast majority of users are also pretty traditional in dating and slut shame both men and women. They despise casual dating and feel like sucker beta males for wifing a woman who decided to have fun during her youth. Envy and insecurity if you ask me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 07:17 PM
1

Yeah man. I'm actually leaving the sub after just 5 days here. I can't stand it anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 06:03 AM
1

She is as attractive or more than most of the girls I get. That is 7/10 for me. The sex feels satisfying with her. I enjoy talking and spending time with her and look forward too. She is not toxic or crazy. She has at least one of the following: She has common interests or hobbies with me. She has a unique personality that I'm infatuated with. She has a high libido and is very kinky. She is super hot (9 or 10). My ex had all of those. Except for the "not crazy" part. Didn't work out.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 06:00 AM
1

My female friends were the ones who initiated most of the break ups. It wasn't the guys who decided they didn't want them anymore. They did. So, your argument is invalid.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 12:21 AM
2

Thank you. That's the impression I have as well. That this rejection of people with high N-counts comes from insecurity or downright envy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 12:11 AM
1

Is there any reason left to not want to date them ?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 12:02 AM
1

What about women who have a high N-count but also have had some LTR in the past (that lasted more than a year, at least) ? I have many female friends like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 11:46 PM
1

I female friend of mine, was super drunk a few months ago, and she said to me "you are beautiful" out of nothing, in the middle of conversation 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 11:27 PM
1

Most women I hook up or date with are 7/10. So I guess I must be a 7. As for the specifics, I would score myself: Looks: 6-7 Success: 3 Status: 5 Social Skills: 7
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 11:22 PM
1

Yes I do. But that's the point of my post. I can't force people to date me. I would be in a relationship if I could.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 09:53 PM
1

It depends. It's short term, but I'm also finding new partners regularly. So it's a regular short term happiness. But, I still desire a relationship and I don't see why those two things (enjoying casual sex and getting a relationship) should be mutually exclusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 09:36 PM
1

I'm sorry. I thought you said you weren't into casual sex ?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 09:21 PM
1

Well, good for the rest of us. Means less competition 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 08:31 PM
2

That's interesting. I've seen a few users make similar comments. Apparently some users aren't judging people who are into casual sex, they just can't fathom how someone can have sex with no emotion. Or they think the person is not going to find the sex between them as something special or unique. Well, let me explain to you. I still have some emotion with the people I have casual sex. I enjoy going to dates, getting to know them and building a chemistry before going to bed with them. And I do fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 08:27 PM
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Since you are liberal/leftist, which seems to be a minority on the sub, I would like to ask: Do you care if the guy has a history of casual sex ?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 08:16 PM
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I usually try out with women who had open relationships in the past and enjoy it. I know that open relationships aren't for everyone. Both need to actually want the relationship to be open for it to work. It requires more trust than a closed relationship and both need to establish and follow rules.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 08:09 PM
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How is a poor, stupid, emotionally unstable woman, who doesn't do casual sex, better than a smart, successful and emotionally stable woman who does enjoy it ? Honestly, dude. I think you would be more happy and have a better relationship, if you just switched number 2 for "emotionally stable". If you ever had an emotionally unstable girlfriend (like really unstable), you would know what hell that is.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 08:04 PM
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What the fuck ??
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 07:57 PM
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Of course you can. Just state your standards that your husband fits.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 07:53 PM
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That's fair. If I can ask, why wouldn't you date someone who enjoys casual sex ? Do you think that says something about the person ? Or do you think he would want things in the relationship that you wouldn't want ?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 07:51 PM
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It's refreshing reading a comment like this. I was going crazy feeling like the users in ppd reflect people in the general population. Also. What advice can you give me to find a relationship ? You know, since I remind you of your boyfriend, you must have a better understanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 07:49 PM
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I don't know if I'm actually monogamous. I prefer open relationships. Both of the relationships I had were open. I don't have the expectation of staying with the same person for the rest of my life. Most marriages end in divorce. My parents divorced. So I just wish for a relationship that would last as long as possible. But I don't expect it to last forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 07:43 PM
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Unfortunately people are judged by others either if they are prude or promiscuous. I just wish people stopped judging each other. I think prudeness and promiscuity will be more taboo depending on where you live. But even in places where promiscuity is more common, like big liberal cities, people will still be discreet about it. Especially women. Promiscuity is having multiple sex partners. A gang bang is literally that. In my experience, women with high libido tend to be more promiscuous, more k…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 07:41 PM
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Your boyfriend gives me hope for myself. I hope your relationship with him is good and healthy. 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 07:32 PM
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I've had the same thought. I made a comment about this in another post: Honestly, FDS and RP men just sound jealous of young women sexual freedom and power. They follow the same guidebook that Christianity follows, which Nietzsche warned about: Shame those you envy, if you can't have it, no one can. Promote mediocrity, modesty and celibacy, so no one rises up the masses.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 07:30 PM
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I don't create bonds from casual sex, at least not in the same way or intensity I do with someone I love. I do feel more affection for someone after having sex with them. But it's not comparable with love, not even close.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 07:27 PM
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But this is also a reason why she would not be desirable as a relationship partner But why ?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 07:24 PM
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Not necessarily. She might have just not be interested in having relationships with those men and were just hooking up for fun. Same is true for guys. But I see how others could arrive at that conclusion. 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 06:51 PM
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Thank you 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 06:48 PM
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Again, dude. None of this is claiming having multiple partners in one's life makes it harder to form new bonds. This article in particular talks about how natural selection made it possible for humans to form bonds. It doesn't say it's possible for someone to be incapable of forming bonds, much less that their bond formation could be damaged depending on their actions. You are extrapolating things and arriving at conclusions the article does not.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 06:47 PM
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What I could get from these articles is that parenting can influence a person's romantic bonding with other people later in life. Which is pretty well known by science already. But nowhere in these articles say that having too many partners makes it difficult for someone to bond with someone else. If you can point to a study that says exactly that, then I would like to see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 05:56 PM
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I guess "have sex" for you means the same thing as "make love" to her. Making love is basically sex with someone you love. It does feel different. There is a much deeper connection to the other person and it's kind of a transcendental experience. It's like being in love but with a sexual aspect. I guess that shows to you that someone can appreciate casual sex and still have something special and unique (in regards to sex) with someone they love. Your SO is an example of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 05:37 PM
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I would like that too. But I also have a hard time finding that. In my experience, women have simply moved on to the next guy or they pursued a relationship with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 05:03 PM
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Not at all. As long as they really enjoy the sex with me and love me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 05:00 PM
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I don't understand the question. What is the "it" in your sentence referring to ?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 04:54 PM
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Thanks for trying to help me, dude. Seriously. Most of the girls I've been with, I met either online or within social circles. The two girls I dated were from social circles. I would say I enjoy casual sex, but I also would like to be in a relationship. I like the love and the companionship. Also the sex is much more regular with no extra effort. Still I would like to date in an open relationship. Both relationships I had were open.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 04:52 PM
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Oh ok. I understand it now. But not everyone will be happy if they are perpetually sex-less.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 04:48 PM
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Have you ever waited months to have sex with someone you are dating ? Because the common knowledge that I see on the internet (including this sub) is that guys won't wait for months to have sex. They will get bored and move on to someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 04:38 PM
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That doesn't answer my question though... I'm not trying to change other people's habits. I just wish people would stop judging mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 04:28 PM
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Well, neither of them were emotionally or psychologically stable, to be honest. I'm pretty sure the second one has borderline personality disorder and she jumps from one relationship to the next. I think they were both emotionally needy when they dated me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 04:25 PM
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Being in love and being sexually aroused are just different feelings for me. I can be sexually aroused without being in love. Otherwise, I would never masturbate.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 04:22 PM
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What are your views on sex ? And why do you think they are incompatible ?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 04:20 PM
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it's pretty easy to conclude your pair bonding capability is damaged Can you be more specific ? That sounds like some vague TRP pseudoscience to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 04:16 PM
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I'm also not sure. I see 3 possibilities: I'm usually hooking up with women who are also into casual dating, so they are not looking for relationships. I'm not financially independent yet. Women stereotype me as a fuckboy, who is great for casual fun, but they wouldn't want to date me because of my high N-count.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 04:13 PM
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That is totally fine. I just don't understand why I should be seen as a degenerate for liking it. At least that's the impression I get from people who refuse to date people with high N-counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 04:09 PM
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You don't desire a relationship then ? If you do, what do you for in a man ?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 03:57 PM
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It shouldn't mean different things though. I remember the day I realized how stupid that double standard is. There was this girl in my high-school who hooked up with a lot of guys. And people called her a slut behind her back. And I judged her for being a slut too. Then one day I realized she was having loads of fun, while I had never even kissed a girl until then. So who was the sucker after all ? It was me. And I knew I would be picking up tons of girls too if I could. From that day forward, I…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 03:52 PM
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I can only speak for myself. It does make me happy. But I don't think everyone has to be like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 03:46 PM
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You are lucky you have that one friend who has sex with you, CimZim. Imagine for a moment he never existed. What would you do ?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 03:36 PM
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I never said I would lie to her. I usually have the opposite problem. People judge me because I'm such an open book.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 03:33 PM
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No. I don't think they do it intentionally. I don't think women's dating advice for men is necessarily wrong (at least not nowadays). But their advice is often superficial or vague. They don't get into the specifics or techniques on how to talk to a girl, how to flirt or how to be attractive. Probably cause they themselves are not aware of it. But men who have been with lots of women (like dating coaches who aren't just selling self help BS) can get into these specifics and offer techniques and …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 03:20 PM
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Personally, I think that romantic love is what separates a romantic partner from everyone else. Not sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 03:12 PM
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I should have put that on quotation marks. I'm not actually judging their behavior. I'm going to edit this.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 03:05 PM
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Amen, bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 03:02 PM
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I don't know. How are people who care about N-count find out about their partner's history ? Also, if you have to hide your past from your partner, that doesn't sound like a healthy relationship for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 02:42 PM
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It's not. But promiscuity is taboo and I find taboo exciting. Also, the most important thing in sex for me is enthusiasm. And promiscuous women give me the impression they really really love sex, which translates as enthusiasm in my mind. I imagine I'm not the only guy who likes it. After all, gang bang videos have millions of views.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 02:41 PM
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I thought you didn't care about body count, CimZim. Why ?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 01:38 PM
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Speak for yourself. I prefer the sluts. No joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 01:27 PM
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Imagine going through life thinking that no woman would ever want to stay with you It's says more about themselves than women, honestly. It's projection.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 07:12 AM
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It's not even unrealistic standards. It's just a complete ignorance of women. These guys don't know what they are talking about. An average high-schooler has a better understanding than them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 07:08 AM
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Not dating related. But I would give up 20 years of my life if I never had to sleep again and wouldn't feel tired. 1/3 of our lives are at sleep anyway, so 20 years isn't a high price. I also have insomnia, so not having to sleep would fix that. I would also have a ton of extra time during my day.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 04:26 AM
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Most obese people are older, but you are probably only paying attention to women your age or younger. Also, the predominance of a race (why are we discussing race ???) varies a lot from place to place. So if you live in mostly white college campus, for example, the vast majority of women will pass the thresholds.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 04:20 AM
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You are right, sir. But Japan has barely grown in the last 10 years. At least they stopped growing at the top.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 04:04 AM
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Zero. That's Spanish for zero.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 03:26 AM
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Thanks. But it's all based on Nietzsche. Check it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 02:27 AM
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I hate people who are overtly judgmental of others, like religious conservatives, RP men and FDS. I'm also sex positive, which FDS is the opposite of. They don't even allow porn or BDSM. So no. I would not date someone like that. I would never feel comfortable around her and she would probably be boring in bed for my standards. Honestly, FDS and RP men just sound jealous of young women sexual freedom and power. They follow the same guidebook that Christianity follows, which Nietzsche warned abou…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 10:14 PM
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Ok. I just finished reading all of those and I have some comments about it. All these studies are looking at divorce and infidelity rates. Not "pair bonding". You could have been more specific. Those figures only show divorce rate in the first 5 years of marriage. The national average of divorce in the first five years of marriage in the US is 20%. But the national average overall is 50%. That means half of married couples will file for divorce at some point. Other factors are much better predic…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 07:51 PM
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That's why RP men who aren't dumb will avoid using these terms. They will frame it in a way that sounds uncontroversial or common sense (like the example you just gave). The ironic thing is that people, including women, will generally agree with his assessment.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 03:42 AM
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How about this. What evidence do you have that women (or people) are less likely to form bonds, the more bonds they form ? Do you have any studies or paper ? What is your source ? Because I hope you are basing yourself of on something, right ?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 02:59 AM
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What about it ? Seriously though. I'm addressing your logic to debunk it. Whataboutism doesn't do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 02:54 AM
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You are wrong for thinking a woman who has had a lot of partners will be less able to form bonds and appreciate her current partner. Using your example, you don't stop appreciating hamburgers. Instead you develop an acquired taste for it. You raise your standards. The only reason to avoid women like that is if you know you won't pass her standards because you suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 08:52 PM
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It's not whataboutism. You a said women are monogamous. Following OPs definition of natural monogamy - only feeling attraction to one person at a time, your partner - women demonstrably are not like that, hence the examples I gave.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 08:44 PM
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But men look for relationships more than women, on average. And what about women who like open relationships, casual sex or women who cheat in their partners ?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 06:33 PM
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I'm not going to try to stop anyone from doing what they want, You are still caliing people who enjoy it problematic and potential murderers.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 06:20 PM
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There are now twice as many women as there are men. As men become more scarce in relation to women, they would become more valuable in the dating market. This would make gender power dynamics much more balanced.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 06:12 PM
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I don't mind the idea of spinning plates, as in meeting multiple people if you can before getting serious. I think that's a given with OLD (and why I don't do OLD). but I don't like the fact that they aren't honest about it. I feel like it's hard for anyone who to be honest about it. I've had many casual dates with girls who were also casually dating other guys at the same time or were close to becoming official with another guy and they were having some fun with while they were still officially…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 05:56 PM
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You have the right to only choose women like this. It's your choice. I just think it's a bad choice based on fear and insecurity. It's a bad choice because: . It significantly lowers your dating pool; . Women who do pass your filter will mostly be young and immature; . Because they are mostly young, the older you get, the harder it will be for you to attract them; . They will take a long time to agree to have sex with you and when it finally happens, the sex might not even be good; . While you w…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 05:42 PM
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There is a lot of topics on pair bonding. Can you provide me a source to what you are referring to specifically ?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 05:30 PM
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You just sound insecure in your own capacity to satisfy a woman. You need to find an inexperienced girl so she won't know there are better guys out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 01:09 PM
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That makes sense. So I guess this is just inevitable then ?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 08:19 AM
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I've always been skinny with no muscle, had a delicate face and only started growing facial hair when I was 21. It definitely made me insecure about my body for years. I was afraid of talking to girls and I lost my virginity at age 20. Fortunately since then, I learned game and went on a ton of tinder dates, almost all of them successful. And I realized something. There are a lot of women who like skinny delicate guys like me. I don't feel insecure about my body anymore. But I wish I had known t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 07:58 AM
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You are kink shaming people. Including women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 07:17 AM
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I said it's the dream of many guys. Not your dream.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 07:16 AM
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So if a woman is into it, it's ok. If a guy is into it, he is a potential murderer. Got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 04:49 AM
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Not trolling just wondering what you mean It's a lot to summarize in one comment. The other user probably learned about some female behaviors and how to deal with. A few examples: The supreme importance of confidence to attract women Women don't respect simps, "nice guys" or guys with no spine Shit tests Hypergamy Women peak at the dating market in their 20s and men in their 40s Women value money as much as men value looks in their partner Yeah, no all women are like that bla bla. But these beha…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 04:46 AM
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For me, guys who like choking are an instant disqualification. It's a predictor for future abuse and literal murder. What the fuck ? So women who like being choqued want to be abused and killed ? What logic is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 04:28 AM
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Are you misinterpreting me on purpose to troll me ? I'm not going to waste my time writing disclaimers that "not all women are like that" or "not all men are like that". I'm generalizing. Use your neurons.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 04:26 AM
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Unless you live in the 50's and think every relationship should last forever till death do you apart, then that's just common sense. You start dating someone because you like them for they are. If they grow old and lazy, perhaps even change their personality, they are not the same person you knew before. So why would you stay.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 04:24 AM
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What's the matter with a high body count ?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 04:02 AM
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Calm down. He doesn't strike me as a guy who hates women or treat them as objects. I think he is just saying he learned why women behave they way they do and how to adapt and respond to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 03:59 AM
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I'm not exactly redpill, but I think it raises some interest points and tells some truths. I only disclose some of my views to my best friend, because I know thinks like me and won't judge me. For most of the time, I will keep my mouth shut and sometimes discuss differences between men and women with other people at most.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 03:50 AM
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OP is 14 and think's he is deep. Companies pay people to work for them so they can have a profit. No shit. How do you think things are made ? Do you think you would be posting this if internet providers weren't profitable? And what is your solution ? Force people to date ? Help them find someone ? There is already a billion dollar industry of self-help and dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 03:47 AM
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Try to make friends with your friends friends. And keep going from there. Say you are friends with Jeff. Jeff is friends with Bob, but you don't know Bob quite well. So you become friends with Bob. Bob later presents you to his friends. And so on and so forth. That's how you increase your social circle, bit by bit. And women will eventually be part of these circles. You will meet the female friends of your friends. So you try to hit on them. That's how most couples are formed.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 03:24 AM
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That number 50k is probably household income, not individual income. The real number is 35k for individual income. The bottom 40% are making less than 35k. The top 45% of americans are making more than 50k.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 03:19 AM
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Oh I see. It was just insecurity. I thought you were judging her for having a high body count.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 03:14 AM
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Yes. That is true as well. The Red Pill community caters to men because it was created by men for men. But the truth is both men and women have their own red pill. Another aspect of this, while some women are raised to believe in prince charming and "happily ever after", other women are raised to believe all men are dangerous, liars, cheaters and deviants. I recently hooked up with a girl who told me she had that kind of upbringing. And realizing men are not all horrible was her red pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 03:08 AM
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I (26M) never understood that rule. I don't want to wait multiple dates to have sex. Because if the sex turns out to be bad, this whole thing will have been a waste of time. I don't pump and dump. If I like the sex, I will want more of it. And I won't refrain from dating the girl if I really like her, no matter if she had sex early on. I fucked both my exes on the second date. I also don't judge women who had lots of partners and who has sex early on, actually I prefer them. It shows they enjoy …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 03:02 AM
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I'm a dude too. So I can't.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 02:40 AM
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This is why it's called red pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 02:29 AM
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My pathetically skinny Reddit arms just mean "he won't/can't rape me" to some women I never thought about that. Maybe that's why women feel comfortable with me. I'm also a skinny nerd who never works out.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 02:24 AM
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That is actually the best advice. As long as the relationship is good enough to be better than staying single.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 02:20 AM
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I get flabbergasted how many guys on the internet think their looks are all that matters. Women don't value physical attractiveness nearly as much as guys do. They value the guy's personality, style, presentation and confidence. You don't need to be hot to get pretty girls. I did it myself and I'm a nerdy skinny guy with no muscle and a delicate face.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 02:04 AM
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26M - Red ish For men: Learn social skills and how to be a good conversationalist. Learn how to pass shit tests and how to be chill. Learn how to flirt and how to escalate (both verbally and physically). Dress well, wash, groom and hit the gym (this last part isn't essential, but it's a bonus). Increase your social circle, put yourself out there, make new friends, meet new people. That way you will meet lots of new women, but within a social context. Be bold, take chances and don't miss opportun…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 01:48 AM
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Thanks CimZim. It seems things still turned out somewhat good for you too. Even if you don't love your FWB romantically, you still have a partner and it has been lasting for a long time. That is already a good achievement for someone autistic and demisexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 01:22 AM
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How does that make you feel ?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 01:17 AM
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Do you think bonding with more people over time makes you less able to form new bonds ? What logic is that ? If anything, the person will be more mature and sure of what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 01:16 AM
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American Pie teaching the 2000's kids about the rule of 3: Divide the body count of a guy by 3 and you get the real number. Multiply the body count of a girl by 3 and you get the real number.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 01:13 AM
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Why do you care how much sex the woman has had in the past or with whom ?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 01:04 AM
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Now do the same question to guys and watch the answers be reversed.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 01:03 AM
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The way men and women choose their partners (for dating) is based on mating strategies developed by natural selection. You can't have dating without passing the mating selecting phase.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 12:54 AM
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I see. Yeah, it's only missing the romantic love. But honestly it's cute. I imagine you still have great affection and care for his person, even if you don't love him. Maybe you love him a little bit ?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 12:48 AM
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Congrats for the body count. (not an insult, enjoying sex isn't wrong). Actually, congrats for remembering all of them. Damn. I've lost count on how many guys from Grindr I've met, but it's in the dozens. Women have only been 16 so far for me. But I'm still just 26 years old. Almost all of my partners only lasted for a few weeks too. And those who I dated seriously only lasted for 4 months. So don't feel so alone. I'm also a failure lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 12:45 AM
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I wish more women were like you, honestly. You what's funny. I'm also bi, but I only ever dated women. But I talked to a few bi girls I know, who dated both men and women. And all of them said men are much easier to deal with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 12:32 AM
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I think it's the same as any loving relationship, like family and best friends, but with the inclusion of sex and romantic love. You care for them in the same level, perhaps more. And is willing to things for them and sacrifices that you would only do for family and best friends. And you talk and meet them very often. At least that's how I define it. How do you define it ?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 12:27 AM
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For what I understand, men who avoid dating women who make more than them do it out of fear or insecurity. I understand that sentiment. I'm also intimidated by women are more successful than me and sometimes I won't even try talking to them because I feel like they wouldn't be interested in me because of the money difference. But that is because I know that women value money. So I expect them not to like me or switch me for another wealthier guy. Which did happened to me by the way, my ex left m…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 12:18 AM
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Loyalty is not cheating on your partner. But you can still leave them if you don't want to be in the relationship anymore. You can both be loyal and break up if you feel like it. And your partner will leave you if they are not satisfied with the relationship. It's that simple. But yes, you need to keep trying to be the best person you can be for your partner. Otherwise they will feel like they are missing out on someone better.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 12:09 AM
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How is that RP? It's common knowledge. That's the thing. There are many things about men and women that used to be common knowledge, but became taboo to admit. So men are raised to believe a lot of bullshit about women and later realize it was a lie. That's why it's called red pill. I didn't have the grasp on how money was important for women until a former girlfriend of mine left me for another guy and straight told to my face that it was because he had a better financial future than me (he had…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 11:32 PM
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How makes you want to join in a serious relationship with someone instead of just dating casually with them ?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 11:21 PM
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When you are in love and your relationship is going well, it feels like there is no explanation or it was just "meant to be". But you are getting something from it and it is a trade off.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 11:17 PM
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Finding a partner for company and sex is a lot of work (I'm a guy). I have to spend hours on Tinder (and spending money on it) or Instagram talking to people. I have to go to parties or events to meet people. And when I do find a partner, the dates and the sex are sporadic, like once a week at max. But usually only twice a month. And it usually fizzles out after a handful of dates and I have to find another partner again. And because of this, I'm always keeping contact with multiple girls while …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 11:12 PM
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Instead of saying he'd like her to stay home sometimes, or making plans to do stuff together, he decided to just randomly leave and hang out at bars until 2am without answering her texts or calls. Ironically, this kind of behavior is supremely common among women. Every man has experienced this. The girl gets mad at something you did, but won't tell you what it is. She wants you to find out on your own, as if you had a crystal ball, and will start ignoring you or acting bitchy until then. I'm not…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 11:01 PM
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I don't think all women are necessarily hypergamous, but I feel like the vast majority wouldn't have a serious relationship with a guy who makes significantly less money than them and has no prospect of earning more in the future. While the vast majority of men don't care about how much his partner makes. Some even prefer women who don't make more than them, so they don't feel inferior. Women don't want to provide for another man, but men are still expected to provide for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 10:45 PM
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He lost the opportunity to date both of you in a throuple. That's the dream of many guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 10:31 PM
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I'm a bisexual guy and I dated a bisexual girl in an open relationship. And we both realized we only felt jealous when the other would hook up with someone of the same sex as ours (her hooking up with another guy, me hooking up with another girl). But when she hooked up with a girl or me with a guy, we both' couldn't care less. This type of thing is really common, because you are comparing yourself with another person. I didn't feel threated by another girl because she couldn't offer my girlfrie…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 10:27 PM
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I think that depends on the alternatives the guy has and and how long it's taking for sex to happen. If after 3 dates, sex still hasn't happened, I imagine only guys with few or no other options would still bother to meet again. Unless the guy really really likes the girl, either because she is super hot or has lots of stuff in common with him, and he doesn't want to waste the opportunity.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 10:18 PM
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Yes. I guess I've always had one favorite type too. In the past it was goth chicks with dark hair and dark clothes and pale skin. Today I think my favorite type are redheads with pale skin, freckles, light colored eyes, a beautiful face and a freaky side.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 06:33 PM
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I married a redhead nerd with no regrets My dream.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 06:38 PM
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Curiously enough, I also love girls who are very blunt and "abrasive bitch". But I also love cute delicate feminine (personality wise) girls. Again, I guess I'm into extremes.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 06:34 PM
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I have a friend who is a huge nerd. He loves DND, RPGs, Lord of the Rings, anime and literature. And he is short (less than 5'4''). But he is buff, extroverted and very very charming. All the girls are into him. And he dates a hot redhead who is taller than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 06:31 PM
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Thanks bro. I appreaciate.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 04:37 PM
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Yeah, those types of nerds exist. I have a few friends like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 02:40 PM
2

Treating someone differently because of their sign is like racism.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 02:33 PM
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You don't have to be rude. Obviously I mentioned D&D as an awesome bonus. But it's not a requirement, neither it's my only standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 06:21 AM
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That's ok. You can talk about values and goals. That's interesting to the conversation too.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 05:41 AM
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Would you say you tend to pick one type for relationships and the other type for casual hook ups ? If so, which one ?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 05:40 AM
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I like you CimZim. You are funny. Also, that's a really good channel. I've watched all his Crap Guide To DND Series.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 05:29 AM
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My dad have always made good money, has good conversation, is funny and plays the guitar better than anyone I've seen. He is not tall, he is average, and was Ok looking when he met my mom. So I guess he would still have scored a wife at the age of 30, like my mom was. Honestly, I think he might have met more women and picked a better person than my mom (who is not a good mom or a reasonable person in general).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 04:23 AM
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I think you would like the guys in my band. Except me, I can't win a fist fight haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 04:17 AM
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Would you date a girl who had a different political position than you ? How far away from you could the girl be on the political spectrum ?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 04:14 AM
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the ones who I rejected wouldn’t have lost their damn minds I'm sorry. Those are insecure men child who can't handle being rejected. It’s not your job to approach. I approached every person I’ve ever dated. Well, thank you, in the name of men. I wish more women approached us. But for 99% of the time, women expect us to approach them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 04:09 AM
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Thanks, hehe. I'm sure you are cute too.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 04:06 AM
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I understand. But that's just too bad, because men can't know if you are on the mood or not. Some women like being approached. And it's our job to approach and get rejected over and over. So if you are not in the mood lady, just reject us right away and we will move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 03:57 AM
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I guess you would like me then.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 03:55 AM
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You need to frame it in a way that is good for the individual, not just the collective. Give men a selfish reason to do so. This has already been done to some extent with the mocking of simps. I think more men are becoming aware of the importance to not simp for women in general as it actually hurts them and is kind of pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 03:54 AM
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Why do you dislike if a man approaches you on the street, grocery store or gym, but you like on social settings ?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 03:34 AM
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You are cute. There, that's two.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 03:33 AM
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How do you usually meet women ? I've also banged lots of them, but not even close to 50. Most of the girls I meet are through Tinder and social media. But I wish I had more. I was scoring 1 girl a month before the pandemic.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 03:31 AM
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As long as you are being respectable and honest, it's not creepy. You are just a guy trying to strike up conversation with a woman you find attractive. There is nothing weird or creepy about that. And hey, some women like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 03:25 AM
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Exactly my thoughts. I couldn't have explained game theory better myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 03:23 AM
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You are describing a male strike. Very hard to do. It would be necessary to be a whole wide cultural movement for men to do it. And there will always be the strikebreaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 03:22 AM
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You give up raw sexual attraction for less anxiety and stress. What do you mean ? You find girls who earn less than you less attractive ? Or are you talking about dating women who aren't as physically attractive because they bring less drama ?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 02:25 AM
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I don't care about the PhD itself, I'm a college drop out. But I'm still a smart guy (just a terrible student), I like studying things on my own, that interest me. I like having intellectual conversations with people. And if a woman is capable of talking about these things with me in a equal way, I do feel attracted to her. I do find intelligence attractive. However, that is a bonus for me, not a requirement for a girlfriend. As any guy, looks matter to me more.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 02:20 AM
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I wonder what happens to society as women start to earn more, but still refusing to date down. What happens to the millions of men stuck in low paying jobs who can't get a girlfriend ? And what happens to the millions of women who can't find a man of her financial caliber who is single ? This is already starting to happen and I have a bad feeling about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 02:13 AM
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That's probably due to people dating people from their social circle, which tends to form around school or work. I mean, people still prefer people who are similar to them culturally. So maybe a college graduate would have more things in common and more interesting conversations with another college graduate than a blue collar worker, who had a very different life and upbringing. Still, women will still date up financially, while men will value looks first and foremost.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 02:07 AM
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Well, I guess I'm the exception, because that is exactly my plan. Learn programming, become a developer with a decent salary and then date a pretty girl from the low income part of town.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 01:59 AM
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I think it's important for people to understand that porn is fake, so they will stop comparing themselves and others to porn. The actors don't last that long, they take breaks and edit the breaks out later. The actors take viagra. The actress have plastic surgery, make up and other grooming. And they exaggerate their moans and orgasms. Even things like sweat and cum can be fake. It's a fantasy. However. I still think it's important to have a satisfying sexual life, especially in a relationship. …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 01:55 AM
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I know where you are coming from. This year I've dated a girl with amazing tits, the best I've ever seen. And she was also very attractive in general. Like at least an 8/10. After we broke up, it has been underwhelming to hook up with other girls. I still find them attractive and get hard. But I keep craving for a girl who is super hot for me to lock down. I guess that's just part of life. You raise your standards after you get used to the best things in life. Not just women, but everything. Thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 01:18 AM
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Men and women should just be more honest with each other. In an relationship, men care as much about looks and sex as women care about the "financial stability". But people won't admit to that because it's taboo (it's sounds like prostitution).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 11:43 PM
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I think it's more of a case of men and women looking for different things. Men value looks and sex more. They will lower their standards to have casual sex. But they will only settle down for an exclusive relationship if the girl is more attractive than most girls he could get while single. So it's a good deal. Women, on the other hand, value looks for a hookup and other things for a relationship. She is not necessarily lowering her standards on looks for relationships, she is raising her standa…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 11:40 PM
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They might be banging these women. But these women wouldn't date them. I know how it's like to be the side dick. It's fun, but heartbreaking sometimes. Money is important.
/r/seduction04/11/21 11:33 PM
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This one time I was in a tinder date with her friends (she was traveling and made friends at her hostel). I was by her side and then she started to dance with this other guy who clearly flirting with her. I immediately left her side and went to talk with some of her friends, not caring about what she was doing. A minute later, she came back and sit by my side. We did have sex that night later on.
/r/seduction04/11/21 08:04 PM
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I'm saving this. I'm definitely the type 1 for all girls I get.
/r/seduction04/11/21 07:59 PM
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You should look for conservative girls, like virgins who go to church. You will have no problem with anxiety regarding sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 01:21 PM
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If you put in the effort, you can definitely get more results. I'm average looking, but I managed to get 1 date a month (before the pandemic). I was using 3 different dating apps and Instagram to message at least a dozen women a week. And I always putted in the effort in the conversation to everybody that responded me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 01:08 PM
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Well, I'm an average looking guy and I used to get 1 date a month from dating apps. But I was using 3 different apps and texting a dozen different girls a week. 2 dates a month with little effort is good. But it's not huge.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 10:09 PM
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I would define success as an actual date irl that goes well. In that case, women might get tons of matches, but only a tiny fraction of those will turn to dates and a only a portion of those dates will go well. Because of the gender imbalance, women will still have a much greater chance of having success in the app. But in absolute numbers, the success each individual woman is getting isn't that high, I think. I would guess something like 0.5 to 2 dates a month, depending on how needy or horny t…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 08:43 PM
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Why low effort ?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 02:54 PM
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I agree. I would also like to see the data comparing sex among unmarried young men in previous generations. I bet there is a difference there as well. And if I had to guess, I would say the cause lies in people being more isolated and having smaller social circles (thanks to social media and other stuff). Also women having higher standards, thanks to social media and dating apps, and because of a decreasing gap in income and status between the genders (women still prefer men more successful than…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 02:37 PM
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Never. That is just human nature. Men value quantity over quality, women value quality over quantity. Men value looks and women value status. It's just biological, evolutionary psychology, and it will always be this way. Unless science manages to engineer our brains. Anti-depressants to cut libido and loneliness might work.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 05:26 AM
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It's more that men and women value different things. Men value looks (waaaay more than all the rest) and women value a multitude of things: social skills, money, status. That's why some ugly guys can get pretty girls. Because he is good at what women value most.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 05:23 AM
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How do you often meet girls like that ? And how do you approach them ? I'm trying to learn. Because I'm great at Tinder dates (but those are hard to come by in the first place) and I'm not so good at approaching strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 05:19 AM
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It's not a turn off for me. But I admit I feel intimidated, because I'm a college drop out. I would be afraid she wouldn't be interested in me or that she would leave me for a man with more money than me (this happened recently to me, btw).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 04:31 AM
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The only men who are gatekeepers of relationship are men with plenty of options, with plenty of women interested in having sex with them. A man who doesn't have many options will gladly join a relationship with a woman he finds attractive, as long as she doesn't have a serious problem (emotional/psychological problem, addiction, etc). So it might seem to women that men are the gatekeepers of relationships. But that's only because they are only looking at the men they are interested in: The men w…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 04:28 AM
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Yeah, it doesn't work for everyone. OP can try, be he must be ready in case it doesn't work for him.
/r/seduction06/08/20 06:12 PM
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I'm curious for your taste in music.
/r/seduction06/08/20 06:10 PM
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I didn't say they were the same thing, but they live in the same political spectrum neighborhood for a reason. Anybody can become a king That doesn't make sense. The whole point of monarchy is that only people born into royalty can be become king/queen. In feudalism, no one could ascend socially. If you have "go to the moon" money, you're too rich. Why tough ? What does being "too rich" mean ? Why is that a problem ?
/r/seduction04/08/20 01:35 PM
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The saudi royal family is worth more than 1 trillion dollars. 10x the wealth of Bezos. And they are an absolute monarchy.
/r/seduction03/08/20 01:17 PM
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Libertarianism and anarchism aren't the same thing. Most libertarians, including Rand, support a democratic state. Bezos couldn't become a king.
/r/seduction03/08/20 11:17 AM
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What culture ? India ?
/r/seduction18/07/20 04:39 PM
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Don't have that style, hahaha. Don't model yourself after anyone on that show. I absolutely love that show, but all the characters are broken in different ways. You can dress like Todd at home, but it's important to give a good first impression. Edit: Actually, judging by your username and comment, you sound like the stereotype of an american communist.
/r/seduction18/07/20 04:36 PM
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Not being pushy for a date or for sex.
/r/seduction18/07/20 04:32 PM
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Are you trolling ?
/r/seduction18/07/20 12:53 AM
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What the fuck are you talking about ? You can have an equal relationship with a woman younger than you.
/r/seduction18/07/20 12:25 AM
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I usually take them out for a drink in a bar or any public place. In the first date, I will always try to kiss. Keep in mind that I live in South America and people here are more liberal when it comes to dating. After me and girl have made out a little and talked about sex, if I feel like they are DTF, I will invite them to my place. Then we order an Uber. If they refuse, I don't insist. They'll usually politely decline, not wanting to upset me. I just say "that's alright" and I don't ask again.…
/r/seduction17/07/20 04:05 PM
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Bisexuality works different for each person. For me, I'm only interested in guys for friendship or sex. Not dating. I don't feel a romantic connection with guys, only girls. Some people call this hetero romantic. The idea of going on a date with a guy feels bizarre to me. Instead, what I do, is I look up Grindr (the gay dating app) and look for any close guys who are online at the moment. We exchange pics, a few words and, if we like each other, I go to his place to fuck. Guys are 1000 easier to…
/r/seduction16/07/20 11:44 PM
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I met almost all of them through dating apps. I never learned to do cold approach. And, I mean, it's also not super easy for me to get dates on apps. But I could get a date, like, once a month. And the girls usually varied between 5/10 to 8/10, so a big range. One of them was a 10/10, and two were 4/10. So not being very picky also helps. I've had sex with almost all of them, including the 8s and the 10. The thing is, it's not so easy for me to get a date. But once I'm in a date, I ace it. No ma…
/r/seduction16/07/20 10:00 PM
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I can only speak for myself here. I'm a bisexual guy and open about it. I'm also a very sex-positive person and I don't judge anyone. So in a date, I will talk about sex openly as if I was talking about any other mundane topic. I don't make a big deal out of it. Because of this, girls will usually feel comfortable talking about this with me and they offer their own opinions, tastes and experiences. So I'm making them feel confortable and turning them on with the topic at hand. Btw, I've had more…
/r/seduction16/07/20 07:55 PM
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Learning game in the beginning is hard. Because women are hard to understand and the whole flirting/seduction thing feels like non-sense. But once you get it and have some practice, it becomes second nature.
/r/seduction16/07/20 05:49 PM
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Women are passed their prime at 25. Men are not even in their prime at that age. Women prefer older men, dude.
/r/seduction16/07/20 07:02 AM
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What motivated me to go after girls was the fact I was getting old. I was 23 and I only have had sex with one girl in my life. I also haven't partied a lot or done many interesting things. I realized I was wasting my youth and that gave me a sense of urgency. 2 years later, now I've had sex with more than 10 girls. It's worth it guys, don't waste your life away.
/r/seduction16/07/20 06:58 AM
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I've been in a similar situation before. When I came back, the girl acknowledged me, but kept talking to the other guy. So what I did was to leave the scene, not giving a fuck. The girl came after me, a few minutes after. I think if you try to compete for the girls attention, you come off as needy. Also, you are giving her too many choices, which makes you less valuable in her eyes. By leaving, you not only make yourself look more valuable, but you make you seem like you have options. I mean, wh…
/r/seduction08/07/20 09:30 PM
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I have the same experience. I don't know how to approach girls. All my dates last year have been arranged through dating apps. But once I'm in the date, I ace it. I'm very good in person once I'm in the date. And all of them have been successes. Some of the girls were surprised by me as well. I still need to learn how to approach though. I hate having to rely on apps to get a date.
/r/seduction07/07/20 07:28 PM
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It's not that hard. Todd is teaching men how to flirt. She can just become aware of the tactics involved.
/r/seduction03/06/20 03:29 PM
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As a rule of thumb, always suspect when someone of the opposite sex is teasing you. Teasing is a big part of verbal flirting.
/r/seduction03/06/20 03:27 PM
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Thanks. I wish people in the first world knew how hard it is here. "Poor" people in the US just look like middle class to me.
/r/seduction11/05/20 08:43 PM
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You mean having an interesting life ? I'm not afraid of not having that. I'm in a band, I like traveling and I have other projects as well. It's the steady money part that worries me (and yes, money can make it more difficult to pursue these hobbies). Are activities like this enough to make women interested ?
/r/seduction11/05/20 07:26 PM
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It's not manipulative. It's basic flirting. Acting a little distant and making them chase you is something both men and women have done since the beginning of time. Stop giving him shit for it.
/r/seduction04/05/20 07:46 PM
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Last year I went on more than a dozen dates thanks to dating apps. I don't know how to do cold approach, so the apps helped me. Once I'm in the date, I ace it. And before that I was one of those guys that never hooked up with anyone. I'm kind of handsome and I am very knowledgeable. But I always had difficulty talking to people and making friends. What I did was to learn how to talk to people in a confident and interesting way and how to never run out of things to say. I also learned how to flir…
/r/seduction03/05/20 02:29 AM
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Dude, I understand how you feel. But women have to deal with a lot shit we don't, like rape and sexual assault. Let's not make this a competition of victim hood. Both men and women suffer in different ways. Also, it doesn't help your case with dating. If you want sympathy, I sympathize with you. I really do. I also feel like girls have it easier with dating. But how is that gonna help you ? Complaining that others have it easier ain't gonna change anything. Just focus on solving your problem.
/r/seduction21/04/20 03:14 PM
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I feel like you are afraid of asking them out and is trying to find ways around it to not feel bad about being rejected. You are gonna get rejected dude, a lot. It's just part of the game. You just need to not take it personally and deal with it. It hurts in the beginning, but after the 10th rejection, it doesn't hurt anymore. There is no way around this, man. Just embrace the game and be proud of yourself for keep trying. Go in head straight. If you have to enter a pool of cold water, you can't…
/r/seduction21/04/20 02:57 PM
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If you got rejected, you got rejected. There is no need to make a plan for what happens afterwards. You just say "ok" and leave. If you go in asking, expecting to be rejected, you are already screwed. The common advice is to do the opposite. Expect to be accepted. When you joke around, that's cringy.
/r/seduction21/04/20 04:27 AM
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Just make one or two new friends who are into hitting on girls. They won't get jealous.
/r/seduction15/04/20 05:37 PM
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Sure. I'm back to playing Minecraft too. Unfortunately, my computer broke, so now I'm bored.
/r/seduction12/04/20 06:43 PM
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So how productive are you guys being in this quarantine ?
/r/seduction12/04/20 02:46 PM
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Yes, it's just that men in this sub tend to think they aren't capable of seduction because of X,Y and Z. Like their height, or their baldness, or their weight, or their money. Those excuses get old pretty fast.
/r/seduction11/04/20 03:23 PM
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You don't need to do masculine activities like sports and gym. As far as seduction is concerned, you just need to have a masculine attitude: Confidence, sticking to your guns, being firm but chill.
/r/seduction08/04/20 11:53 AM
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As a bisexual man, the only experience I have with this is that some men (gay and bisexual) prefer masculine men, others prefer effeminate men and some don't have any preference. I have a delicate body and face, but I don't have an effeminate vibe. And I don't like effeminate men either.
/r/seduction08/04/20 11:47 AM
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Male loneliness is a real problem that is rarely talked about. If it serves to comfort you, at least you can know that you are not alone in your loneliness. Your problem can be solved.
/r/seduction23/03/20 06:02 PM
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I think it`s ok to only have indoor hobbies, as long as at least one of them is done with other people involved. I`m not a sportsy kind of guy. But I have a band, I play D&D, I play video games and like to learn about multiple subjects. All of them are done indoors. But 2 of them, the band and D&D, are done with other people.
/r/seduction23/03/20 06:01 PM
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That`s a very reasonable real life driven advice. Thank you OP.
/r/seduction23/03/20 05:58 PM
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I feel it too. Last year I went on a bunch of dates with girls from dating apps. It was a lot of fun. But none of those lead to a relationship or anything regular. After some months, I just got tired of it. I didn't have the mental energy anymore to browse the apps like a maniac and think of wit fun conversations to have. Right now I just want find one person to date regularly, be it in a relationship or just something casual. But I have to spend time and energy to find someone. I'm just so tire…
/r/seduction17/03/20 12:54 AM
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nice
/r/seduction19/02/20 03:32 PM
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A woman wants to feel your vibe before deciding if she wants to go out with you. She won't say yes just for your appearance. That's why you need to talk first so she "scan you", to see if you are confident, nice, abundant, non-needy, chill, interesting, fun and all that stuff. If you just say "wanna go out", she won't take the risk and she will say no.
/r/seduction02/02/20 09:16 PM
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And here we go again with the excuses...
/r/seduction02/02/20 09:13 PM
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You kind of have a point.
/r/seduction24/01/20 08:36 PM
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Todd was the only coach that ever worked for me. His methodical way of explaining the basics of game is what made me "get it". He never transitioned to self help coaching, he goes straight to the point of teaching game. And he doesn't bullshit you presenting his content as some sort of magical secret. If other coaches were like him, I don't think there would be a "need" for the industry to change.
/r/seduction24/01/20 08:29 PM
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A good way to stop thinking about her is to approach her. If everything goes well, then great. If she is not interested, you will go through a little grief but you will get over it and will stop thinking about her.
/r/seduction24/01/20 05:31 AM
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This is simplistic. Girls want to have sex too.
/r/seduction18/01/20 08:34 PM
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From what I've read, the side effects of mixing the two can be headaches and in rare cases, fainting. It's mostly safe to mix it, as long as you drink moderately.
/r/seduction15/01/20 09:11 PM
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I don't know where you live. But where I live (South America), nobody would shame me for wanting to learn how to talk to women and seduce them. Maybe some butthurt feminists or progressives who are in contact with American culture would, but they are a tiny minority where I live.
/r/seduction14/01/20 11:03 PM
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The use of the word "cuck" already tell me you are the kind of guy insecure about his own masculinity and who resents women.
/r/seduction14/01/20 09:38 PM
2

Lol. I thought the same thing.
/r/seduction14/01/20 09:37 PM
8

Not trying to be a dick, but this is kind of advice I hear from women. They will say stuff like "be confident", "have a nice conversation", but they can't explain how to act confident and how to hold a good conversation. It's not that their advice is wrong, it's just that is so shallow that it's essentially useless. :(
/r/seduction14/01/20 09:36 PM
2

This is why I think there will always be societal differences between men and women, some of which can be unfair, but inevitable. "Toxic masculinity" is stoicism. That is, a man can not express his emotions. That is bad for men. But ultimately, women are programmed by natural selection to prefer men who are confident and emotionally stable. So there will always be an incentive for men to suppress their emotions to a certain degree. Doesn't mean we have to bully men who are emotional. Let anyone …
/r/seduction14/01/20 09:34 PM
3

Yeah. This "mainstream media" talk sounds like paranoia at best.
/r/seduction14/01/20 09:29 PM
3

Another big advantage of having female friends. They have female friends as well. Building on top of that: Making friends with a hot girl is good because hot girls usually have hot female friends. Also, you can learn the perspective of hot girls that might be different than the perspective and experience of average looking girls.
/r/seduction13/01/20 08:27 PM
2

From I see on the internet, people in America seem to have varying views on this. This is why "should I kiss on the first date ?" is a recurring question on the sub.
/r/seduction13/01/20 06:22 PM
2

Yes. After going on a bunch of dates, I just assume that sex is going to happen. Either on the first date or the next (I live in South America and people are more casual here). Assuming she already likes you, assuming a kiss is going to happen, assuming sex is going to happen does wonders for you. You stop trying, you stop being needy and it just happens naturally. Also, acting sexual, as you said, makes girls more comfortable of acting sexual as well. If you treat sex as no big deal, they will …
/r/seduction13/01/20 05:30 PM
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Thank you for your 2 cents. It is helpful. I guess it depends on where you live or who you are with on the date. I live in South America and people here are more casual to this. Kissing on the first date is expected. I guess in America people are more conservative, so this can be more ambiguous.
/r/seduction13/01/20 05:16 PM
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I learned 90% of this stuff with Todd V. on Youtube. Unfortunately his old videos have been deleted because of a copyright dispute with his former company. The world of coaches has a lot of terrible coaches with advice that is more self help than actual advice. So you have to choose coaches carefully and Todd was the only one that worked for me. Here are some things I've learned: How to never run out of things to say: Pick words in sentences that can lead to new sentences. For example, if I say …
/r/seduction13/01/20 03:32 PM
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Learn how to have a good conversation, how to flirt and how to appear confident. Practice by talking to people, not just girls. You can practice conversation and projecting confidence with anyone. Have some females friends (just friends) so you can get used to female presence and understand the female point of view. How they think and feel and the things they go through. Talk to the girls you are interested in. Don't be afraid of being rejected because that will happen and it's part of life. Eve…
/r/seduction13/01/20 12:45 PM
38

Exactly. Even though guys are more frowned upon by being virgins, our advantage is that no one can know we are virgins unless we say so.
/r/seduction13/01/20 12:40 PM
7

That is awesome dude ! It serves to show other guys here that anything is possible. You being short wasn't a problem. You being a virgin wasn't a problem. Even whiskey dick wasn't a problem in the end. Congratulations dude, I'm proud of you ! Just a tip: Carry some Cialis or Viagra with you in case you need it ( I recommend Cialis, buy the generic version, it's much cheaper). That medicine is not the ideal solution in the long run, but it's better to be safe than sorry.
/r/seduction13/01/20 12:38 PM
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I think the best course of action would be to do therapy. There is no shame in it. I have been doing it for 2 years now. Make sure to do it with a clinical psychologist. Loosing weight and improving your looks will also help. Don't feel guilty about the porn. You are able to carry on with your life (going to work, to school, doing your chores, hanging out with friends and family) then you are not addicted. There are no physical or psychological harm from porn or masturbation.
/r/seduction09/01/20 06:51 AM
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He does not have an issue. Doctors and psychologists are clear on this. Masturbation is only a problem when it hinders your life. When you can't do your work, go to school, do your chores, etc. If are able to carry on with your life, there isn't a problem.
/r/seduction09/01/20 06:42 AM
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You are not disagreeing with me. You are disagreeing with science. You are using anecdotal evidence (personal experience). Anecdotal evidence is the worst type of evidence. The change you perceived could be due to a multitude of factors. You could be doing other stuff besides quitting masturbation that made you feel better. You could just have changed your mindset. You could even just be placebo. That's why there are scientific studies to test this stuff. So you can isolate variables and use con…
/r/seduction08/01/20 11:46 PM
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This is exactly it. Guys need to get to know girls so they can see they are just people and to stop idolizing them. Making friends with women is a great way to do this as well.
/r/seduction08/01/20 07:13 PM
3

I think the key is just to get to know the girls. Inexperienced guys tend to look women from afar and idolize them. Once you start talking to them, you realize they are just people, like me and you. The best thing about this is that you don't even have to hook up with one to get to know them. Just making friends with women will give you a good perspective. So making female friends is a good way to stop idolizing them, understanding how women think and feel and getting used to their presence.
/r/seduction08/01/20 07:11 PM
1

Wow. That's awesome. If it's cheap, I would pay for it.
/r/seduction08/01/20 06:13 PM
1

What ? What countries ?
/r/seduction08/01/20 04:14 PM
2

Sometimes I wish there were public sex rooms around in the city, much like public bathrooms. I mean, c'mon. People have needs.
/r/seduction08/01/20 03:06 PM
7

Yes they do. I had over a dozen girls over and I live with my dad.
/r/seduction08/01/20 03:02 PM
2

Half of game is flirting. The other half is making you more attractive by things like acting confident and non-needy, knowing how to hold a good conversation and having a fun and interesting life. But yeah, you don't have to pay for anything and you shouldn't. There is nothing you can pay for that won't teach you something you can learn for free online. Lots of professional coaches have dozens of free videos on youtube that teach you all the concepts and go into detail with examples. Books might…
/r/seduction06/01/20 10:38 PM
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I disagree with the aspect of paying for coaching stuff. Anyone can learn from free things on the internet. I used to be the guy who hooked up once in a year. I learned everything from Todd V videos and I never payed a dime. And last year I fucked more than 10 girls (no kidding). There is nothing you can buy from coaches that will teach you stuff you can't learn for free online.
/r/seduction06/01/20 10:32 PM
1

Strike when the iron is hot.
/r/seduction01/01/20 08:26 PM
1

Why not ? I don't get it.
/r/seduction24/12/19 07:25 PM
2

Yeah. Apparently I have a different view of fun. I like to sing for the sake of singing and if the person can sing well, the better. I sing well, so....
/r/seduction24/12/19 07:21 PM
1

You mean "can't sing well", right ?
/r/seduction24/12/19 07:20 PM
5

Unless she sings well ? Wouldn't it be the opposite ?
/r/seduction24/12/19 07:18 PM
6

The idea of a date is to bond with the other person. For a first date, it's important to spend time in conversation so you can know the other person better and they can know you. So I like vanilla dates for first dates. I leave unconventional dates for further dates. That being said, here are some ideas: Laser tag, boardgame cafes, have fun with rollerskates or skateboards, 2 person sports like tennis or basketball, amusement parks, take random pictures of you two in a nice scenery, arcades, pai…
/r/seduction24/12/19 07:14 PM
2

For me it's a matter of emotion. When I fall for a girl, I want her and that's it. If I feel the need to look for someone better, then I'm just not that into the current girl anyway.
/r/seduction23/12/19 06:57 PM
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I've been through this multiple times this year. Each time hurts less than the previous one and I get less attached each time. I guess I have been building resistance to this. So, speaking from experience, don't stop trying. Keep dating and you will build resistance. And to prevent yourself from getting attached quickly, repeat this mantra to yourself: "She is probably hooking up with other guys as well". When you accept this possibility (which is very likely to be true), you will stop seeing he…
/r/seduction27/11/19 12:58 AM
1

Are most girls on Tinder really looking for a boyfriend ? In my experience, almost all of them are not looking for anything serious.
/r/seduction20/11/19 03:47 PM
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Comment best this is the
/r/seduction16/11/19 01:29 PM
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That's a good performance. Even if you are not getting their number or anything, at least you are training your speech and charisma.
/r/seduction13/11/19 08:03 PM
4

Next time blur her face and censor her name on audio. It's important to respect people's privacy.
/r/seduction13/11/19 08:01 PM
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I haven't thought about that, yeah. When coaches film themselves, they blur the girl's face and censor their name and personal information. OP should do the same.
/r/seduction13/11/19 08:00 PM
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I don't think this is the case. I know them. They are close friends of mine and they spend a lot of time together. They love each other. I think this compromise was a way to let her continue to experience something he can't provide: a woman's body. I'm a bisexual guy. If I got into a relationship with a girl (which I'm actually lusting for) I would like to have permission to have sex with men on the side, because otherwise I would be cut off of this side of my sexuality.
/r/seduction12/11/19 12:02 PM
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You got the rule wrong. She can date other girls. He can not. The idea is, they can date other people of the same gender. She can date other girls, he can date other guys. But he is straight, so only she dates other people (in this case, girls).
/r/seduction12/11/19 10:02 AM
1

I actually find the concept behind monogamy to be kinda weird... Like, most people don't get upset with their friends when they hang out with other people. Why such a big hangup when it comes to romantic relations? You said it yourself. People are afraid their partner will find someone better and leave them.
/r/seduction11/11/19 11:59 PM
1

The deal was, if we realized were catching feelings for someone else, we had to cut relations to the other person immediately. Besides, I think the propensity to developing feelings depends on your expectations. If you are in a open relationship, you are already predisposed to putting all your other partners in a box of "no romance, just sex".
/r/seduction11/11/19 11:50 PM
1

As someone who had an open relationship I can say that it works, but it isn't for everyone. You need to trust your partner that he/she won't leave you. And you need to let go of the natural feeling of possession of your partner's body. Each open relationship has it's own set of rules. The only rule of my relationship was that we couldn't develop feelings for someone else. I knew other couples who had their own rules. One couple had a rule of not hooking up with someone else in the same location.…
/r/seduction11/11/19 07:55 PM
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Yeah. The only relationship I had was an open relationship with a bisexual girl (I'm a bisexual guy). I liked it. We were jealous when the other hooked up to someone of the same gender as ours (like she hooking up with a guy, or me hooking up with a girl). So we simple did it without telling each other about it. We gave ourselves permission to do this. It worked.
/r/seduction11/11/19 07:46 PM
1

Have you been doing other stuff to have more energy than just reducing masturbation ? Like exercise ? Eating healthy ? Sleeping better ?
/r/seduction11/11/19 11:32 AM
1

How frequently do you have sex ?
/r/seduction10/11/19 11:10 PM
1

Source ?
/r/seduction10/11/19 11:10 PM
4

Why is it too much ? What negativity effects can it have ?
/r/seduction10/11/19 06:03 AM
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Dude. Masturbation is only "too much" if it's starts damaging your life. Once a day is not too much. It's average. I masturbate more than once a day and I bang a different a girl each month, and I'm good at sex. Masturbation helps relieve stress, makes you know you body better and makes you last long. Don't be afraid to masturbation. It's normal and heathy.
/r/seduction09/11/19 11:19 PM
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90 days without busting a nut is not too long ? I don't think any doctor would agree with that. That is unhealthy and unnatural. It won't bring you any benefits. There is no scientific evidence for any of that.
/r/seduction09/11/19 11:16 PM
3

Oh no ! The dude is trying to get laid ! What a looser ! S/
/r/seduction08/11/19 12:15 PM
0

lol excellent response
/r/seduction08/11/19 12:14 PM
1

Don't make an interview full of questions. Avoid making questions and make statements instead. Make a comment about something on their profile or their pictures. However don't spend too much time thinking about the "perfect opener". You will get caught up in your head and full of anxiety. If you think your taking to long to think of a message, just send something, anything. Keep the conversation light and funny. Be aware of shit tests. If she gives you a shit test, just pass the shit test and do…
/r/seduction08/11/19 12:08 PM
3

That's why I wanted to hire a photographer specialised in Tinder photos. I would pay him to direct me, takes photos of me and Photoshop them (just a little bit).
/r/seduction08/11/19 11:56 AM
2

"Omg, now he is triple texting me ! He is too needy, what a loser".
/r/seduction04/11/19 08:20 PM
3

If you are too shy to take the initiative, just dress up nicely, go to a club or bar and wait for some guy to hit on you. If you want to make things easier, dress in a more "slutty" way. I recommend you go with at least one female friend, instead of by yourself, so you feel safer.
/r/seduction04/11/19 08:15 PM
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There is no "bad enough" for therapy. You do therapy if you feel like doing it. I'm not depressed and I've been doing therapy for a year and half now. There is no shame in doing therapy. We all have problems, big or small. I've also have improved a lot this year in regards to girls. I've hooked up with more girls this year than I had my entire life previously, thanks to game. But now I'm feeling inferior to my friends because they are all in relationships and I've still been unable to get into o…
/r/seduction23/10/19 10:43 PM
2

And our worst critic.
/r/seduction23/10/19 10:38 PM
3

It's magazine that has it's own documentaries on Youtube.
/r/seduction23/10/19 10:37 PM
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I've seen Vice's video on incels. The guy was quite attractive. If only he believed in himself, he would get laid quite easily.
/r/seduction23/10/19 09:59 PM
1

Playing guitar ! A classic to attract girls. Any cool musical instrument really. Also singing.
/r/seduction16/10/19 11:06 AM
1

Great answer.
/r/seduction30/09/19 10:57 PM
0

Number 1 is hard for me. I can't lie to myself to pretend that something is positive. This just makes me more pissed off. But I can do numbers 2 and 3. I already do 2 because I usually don't give much of a shit what others think about me.
/r/seduction27/09/19 07:30 PM
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As a podcaster once said "When you take the initiative in life, you skip ahead so many people".
/r/seduction25/09/19 02:40 AM
2

You are being judgmental.
/r/seduction23/09/19 05:17 PM
11

Yeah man. Everytime I cite my successes with women, guys on this sub assume I'm hot. I'm a 6/10, skinny and pale. But I dress with style. I have a grunge fashion and casual relaxed funny vibe. Some women like me because of my style, some don't. Looks are subjective and they are only 10% of the process at best.
/r/seduction23/09/19 05:11 PM
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That's why it's important to be a man of culture. If the woman mentions something, it's important that you know what she is talking about. That way, it will be easier to get into the conversation and have things in common.
/r/seduction23/09/19 05:06 PM
2

As Todd V. said, good looks only gives you 30 seconds more of attention than an average guy. The girl won't hook up with you just because you are hot. This is what men do. We choose partners based on looks. For women, looks only have the effect of grabbing their attention, but they will only choose you if you have good game.
/r/seduction22/09/19 05:51 PM
1

Yes, yes, we don't disagree on this. I'm just skeptical that OP is actually ugly. Because most of the guys who are learning game, who are insecure about their looks, are not actually ugly.
/r/seduction17/09/19 03:08 PM
1

Problem is guys that are insecure about their looks are not ugly. They are just average. Sometimes they are above average but don't realize it.
/r/seduction16/09/19 11:21 PM
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I didn't say you were an incel, some other user did. Dude, you need to realize looks are not as important as confidence, smooth talk, social status and being fun. Hot girls will be more picky, but they will take these other qualities more in consideration than your looks. You just need to be more bold than the hot guys.
/r/seduction16/09/19 10:07 PM
1

I'm an average looking guy and I had sex with some girls that were 8/10 and a girl who was a 10/10. All of that in this year. If you don't believe me, ask me for my Instagram account so I can PM you.
/r/seduction16/09/19 10:04 PM
2

She wants to return contact with you. Nobody "checks in" on someone they don't like or don't care. If that means she is interested in hooking up again, then more context is necessary to determine it.
/r/seduction16/09/19 04:16 PM
2

Unless you really are ugly, looks don't matter. Average looking guys have the same chances as hot dudes.
/r/seduction16/09/19 04:14 PM
3

I love girls that take the initiative. Not only makes things easier, I also find more attractive. Just invite him to hangout sometime just the two of you. If you have been giving him signals that you like him, he will know what you mean.
/r/seduction16/09/19 04:10 PM
1

Cool. I still recommend taking Cialis though, as it will keep you going for hours. Better to get an A than a B on a test, right ?
/r/seduction12/09/19 07:00 PM
3

A kiss on the first date is not inappropriate. You should always try to kiss on the first date.
/r/seduction12/09/19 06:27 PM
6

If they want to see you again, it's not a lost cause. The clearest sign a girl is into you is she keeps talking to you and she remains around you.
/r/seduction12/09/19 06:27 PM
4

You want to know the proper moment to kiss her ? Here is what you do. When you are in a date with her, get close to her little by little while you two are talking. Then, stop talking and look straight into her eyes. When she stops talking and look into your eyes, kiss her. You need to break this barrier. After you break it, you will stop being nervous.
/r/seduction12/09/19 06:23 PM
2

Just keep the conversation dude. She is just laughing at what you said. I can't give you advice if I don't know the context of the interaction. If you want advice on texting, follow Todd's rule of 4 types of texts girls send.
/r/seduction12/09/19 06:21 PM
1

Your rate is the same as the average rate of the girls you get. Watch this video to understand. If you are getting 7's and 8's, that means you are a 7 or 8 on girls eyes. Remember that girls care about other factors more than looks. So your "desirability rate" (determined by confidence, smooth talk, looks, fun, etc) is 7 or 8.
/r/seduction12/09/19 05:50 PM
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Believe it or not, this sort of thing happens. I'm also skinny, a 6 or 7 in terms of looks and I matched with a girl on Happn who was a 10/10. She lived in another town and invited me to stay in her apartment. She was also crazy kinky. I couldn't believe my luck. Never in my life I thought I would get a girl like that. It happens dude. It's rare, but it happens. Don't loose this opportunity. If she wants to go your place, you don't have any risk of falling for a scam either. Also the fact she to…
/r/seduction12/09/19 05:11 PM
1

Dude. You are getting a date with super hot chicks two to three times a month, and you think they are better looking than you ? Tinder is about appearance first and foremost.
/r/seduction12/09/19 05:00 PM
1

Talking about sex in a date helps a lot to have sex with the girl later on. If you intend to have with her, you absolutely should talk about sex. But the must important thing is not be judgmental.
/r/seduction12/09/19 03:41 PM
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After you've spent some time talking, flirting and escalating, look straight into her eyes for 3 seconds without talking. If she keeps eye contact and stops talking, that means she wants to kiss. So go for the kiss.
/r/seduction12/09/19 03:21 PM
6

The easiest and most common way to fall into the friendzone is staying friendly. In other words, you friendzone yourself. Take it from someone who did this before. Take the initiative now and prevent yourself from being stuck.
/r/seduction12/09/19 03:14 PM
7

Don't play the long game. You need to strike when the iron is hot. If both of you are already flirting and doing banter, chances are he is into you too. If you don't want to appear desperate, don't try to settle a date. Instead, make a suggestion that you should meet someday for coffee or something.
/r/seduction12/09/19 02:28 PM
3

Is tip #2 true for really small colleges ? My college is just a 10 storage building in downtown with no campus. The college does have hundreds of students though.
/r/seduction12/09/19 12:37 PM
0

Albert Einstein didn't say that.
/r/seduction12/09/19 12:30 PM
2

This is probably related to some event in her life. Maybe her boyfriend cheated on her and she wanted revenge. But on the next day, she just felt like crying. You have to understand that us men are ready to fuck all the time. While for women, it depends on their mood. And mood changes from time to time.
/r/seduction06/09/19 07:11 PM
1

I’ve been approached by so many foreigner men at the mall. They are just like that naturally. As a Brazilian guy, I have the impression that Americans are much more conservative when it comes to dating. At least that's the idea I get from this sub. I mean, there is even a debate if you should kiss on the first date. What ?? How are you not supposed to kiss on the first date ?
/r/seduction05/09/19 03:06 PM
1

I've had this problem for a long time. I fixed it by taking Cialis. I take it every time before I have sex. I realized that the daily 5mg pill is enough for me. I don't take it daily though. I take it a few hours before having sex. It's not the ideal solution, but I just wanted to not have to deal with this right now. Hopefully it will make me loose my performance anxiety over time to the point when I don't need to take the pills anymore. In my country, you don't need a prescription to buy these…
/r/seduction05/09/19 02:42 PM
1

You need to befriend her friends. Become part of the group and then you can approach her.
/r/seduction05/09/19 02:37 PM
3

Do you even know if she is into girls ? Is she isn't, then there is nothing you can do. If she is, then you might have been friend zoned. If you want to escape the friend zone, here is what you need to do: Stop talking about how you like her for now and just go back to being friends. Then, you start to hang around with her more often, especially if it's just the two of you. Try to become more intimate with her. Talk about your feelings, talk about sex and some intimate stuff. Get physical with h…
/r/seduction05/09/19 02:17 PM
2

You didn't do anything wrong. You just had some bad luck. Either she was having a terrible day or she is just crazy. Try not to get caught up about this.
/r/seduction05/09/19 02:07 PM
1

From personal experience, please take Viagra or Cialis before going to her place (I recommend Cialis). If you are nervous, there is a good chance you won't be able to get hard, especially if you drink a lot. So take the blue pill. Just be careful not to drink a lot, otherwise you can have some bad side effects, like headaches and dizziness.
/r/seduction05/09/19 02:02 PM
3

You can also, you know, try to have a life that is just a bit more interesting than the average boring life that most people have. You don't need to be a rock star or anything. But if you at least have a hobby or some unique interests, you will already be more interesting than the majority of guys.
/r/seduction05/09/19 01:53 PM
24

stroke and lick trick What is that ?
/r/seduction05/09/19 02:13 AM
2

How do I keep a woman interested for her to stick around and potentially become my girlfriend ? Also, how many dates does it usually takes for the thing to become a relationship ?
/r/seduction05/09/19 02:09 AM
1

How do you know that ? Did they tell you so ?
/r/seduction03/09/19 03:16 PM
1

How do you know they don't find you attractive ?
/r/seduction03/09/19 02:35 PM
1

How do you know women don't find you attractive if you are no talking to them ? I've always thought I wasn't attractive because I'm too skinny. But this year, I had women tell me I'm hot. We are our own worst critic. Also looks don't matter much for women. What you need to do is to put yourself out there and start talking to women. You don't need to approach random women if you don't want to. You can just try to make friends with a girl at first and then try to meet her female friends. People us…
/r/seduction03/09/19 11:39 AM
1

If you need to pay women stuff, they are not interested in you. They are interested in your money. You will be sabotaging yourself if you pay women stuff. Never pay women stuff, never do that.
/r/seduction02/09/19 10:44 PM
1

Do PUA buy women stuff to get their attention in clubs ? No, they don't need to do that.
/r/seduction02/09/19 10:18 PM
3

Hahaha. Thank you, but I'm not that.
/r/seduction02/09/19 05:35 PM
2

I don't think so. That's just a stereotype fed by resentment. Most 10s are nice people and are attracted to the same stuff other women are. You don't need money or fame.
/r/seduction02/09/19 03:31 PM
1

You can try to pick chicks at the party. But I will give another kind of tip: Get into a social circle that is not only made of men. Make female friends and be-friend their female friends. Then, just start flirting with some of them and see how they react. Just be careful not to hit on two girls who are part of the same circle. I did this once and it was a big mistake.
/r/seduction02/09/19 03:26 PM
2

Don't do anything to make yourself more appealing to women. Do things that make yourself more appealing to you. That's true. I don't lift, I'm actually very skinny. But I like to learn. I once picked up a chick by taking about the Roman civil war at time of Julius Caesar. Brains are hot.
/r/seduction02/09/19 03:20 PM
2

You are overthinking this. Just talk to her in person next time. Do some banter and flirting and go from there.
/r/seduction02/09/19 03:14 PM
0

Man, I'm a dude and I've been in her place. It sucks to think the other person likes you in a special way, to the point where you stop talking to other people and projecting things, only to be coldly dismissed a few weeks after.
/r/seduction02/09/19 03:11 PM
4

I don't think they were that into you guys in the first place. And them seeing you at the party might have indicated to them that you were to the party with the purpose of picking them. That being said, I think this situation was more the result of bad luck than you guys doing something wrong. From what I can tell, you guys seem to have done everything right. Perhaps you should have approached them at the party with a higher energy ? But that's just me guessing.
/r/seduction02/09/19 03:07 PM
1

By approaching 7 times in one night, you already did much more than most guys. You should be proud of yourself. Most guys won't even approach once.
/r/seduction02/09/19 02:17 PM
1

Isn't Julien that creepy guy that forced Japanese women into his crotch ?
/r/seduction02/09/19 01:53 PM
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Yeah, those are fine points.
/r/seduction02/09/19 01:42 PM
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I feel you man. Approaching random women is hard. But I will give you the advice to approach at least 3 women when they are checking you out. You don't need to approach a bunch of girls, just force yourself to approach 3 of them if they are checking you out. Just 3. If you realize that is not that bad and it's actually fun, then keep doing it.
/r/seduction02/09/19 01:40 PM
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Give him a pair of sunglasses.
/r/seduction02/09/19 01:37 PM
3

What's a 🐐 ?
/r/seduction02/09/19 01:35 PM
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Yes, I'm not saying men and women are the same. But for the sake of improving your conversation, just assume we are the same. Because chances are, you are seeing them way more different than men than they actually are.
/r/seduction02/09/19 01:28 PM
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Your example works. But it's because you are still assuming the burden of the conversation. And those were rethorical questions too.
/r/seduction02/09/19 01:26 PM
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Try to make statements. Like an opinion or telling a story. For example: You are sitting next to a girl in class. You tell her: "Man, this teacher is weird as fuck. Yesterday I saw him in the parking lot and he was yelling by himself, saying his car was going to kill him someday. I'm Joe by the way, nice meeting you." Another example: You are at the club. You see a girl with colored green hair and say to her: "I love you hair. Most girls here look boring and generic, but you look cool. You look …
/r/seduction02/09/19 01:23 PM
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Do you think you see girls differently in your mind ? Some guys have a hard time talking to girls because they see women as this gorgeous and mysterious being. But really, talking with them is the same thing as talking with men. They are human, just like we are. I mean, think about it. Why do you talk to guys normally but not with women ? Clearly you are seeing things through a wrong prism.
/r/seduction02/09/19 01:10 PM
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Are you asking a lot of questions when you talk to the girls ? If so, you shouldn't be doing that. You have to assume the burden of the conversation. Avoid making questions in the first minutes of conversation. Also, are the conversation you are having very mundane with boring cliche topics ? Like, "What do you do for a living ? Do you like your course ?". If so, avoid topics like that. Try talking about anything that is not classic smalltalk. And lastly, how is your energy when you are talking …
/r/seduction02/09/19 01:02 PM
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Once you start going on dates, sex with happen soon. So right now, you need to study seduction and evaluate what you are doing wrong. How big are your social circles ? Do you have female friends ? Do you approach girls ? How good are your photos on dating apps/websites ? How good are your conversations ? Do you come off as needy or insecure ? Do you know how to flirt ? Do you understand the concepts of value, comfort and escalation ?
/r/seduction02/09/19 12:54 PM
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Always bring a condom with you.
/r/seduction01/09/19 05:17 PM
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But I've never been in a situation where I could experience flirting or anything like that before. Dude. You make that situation happen. It's called hitting on girls. If you don't start doing that, you won't get laid.
/r/seduction01/09/19 04:49 PM
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This type of posts makes me happy. Congrats for you, man !
/r/seduction31/08/19 11:46 PM
1

But I want to fuck them. Wtf lol
/r/seduction31/08/19 02:28 AM
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Yeah man. Skip the match, go straight for her Instagram. Lots of girls go on weeks or months without opening Tinder, but they open Instagram everyday.
/r/seduction30/08/19 09:51 PM
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Most of them are girls I found on Instagram or other apps. I've hooked up with a wonderful girl when I saw her Tinder profile. She had her Instagram username written on her profile. So I entered Instagram and followed her. I sent her some messages over her Stories and she started talking to me. When I went on a date with her, I told her how I found her and she was surprised, saying she deleted Tinder. Apparently her Tinder profile kept running on the app system after she deleted the app. If I ha…
/r/seduction30/08/19 09:47 PM
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I don't use just Tinder. I also use 2 other dating apps, Happn and Adote Um Cara (this is a Brazilian app). Tinder is my weakest app by far. I also use Instagram to talk to some girls. It's great to use their Stories to send a message about it. You have a topic to talk about it that relates to her and it's a private conversation.
/r/seduction30/08/19 09:40 PM
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Yeah man. People in this post were putting too much faith in my looks. It's not about the looks, it's all about the game.
/r/seduction30/08/19 09:32 PM
1

175cm or 5'9''
/r/seduction30/08/19 09:29 PM
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Thanks for the last two tips haha. I play the guitar, but I'm not very good at it.
/r/seduction30/08/19 09:00 PM
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Yes. I'm good a getting laid with dating apps. The girls always go to my place either on the first date or second date. The majority went on the first date. And I'm not that good looking either. I'm skinny, pale and have a delicate face. What I do on the date is that I talk about sex in a very open and casual way. I don't treat sex as something taboo. I talk about the stuff I like in bed like I'm talking about my musical taste. I talk about my sex life, but without bragging. And I show that I'm …
/r/seduction30/08/19 04:34 PM
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Good for you man ! You should have approached the 10 though. You didn't have anything to loose. The chance that she would have liked you is almost the same as the chance of the previous girls liking you.
/r/seduction30/08/19 04:06 PM
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I don't see sexist stuff here on the sub. But I think there are some sexist assholes around. The other day some user sent me a PM asking for advice. When I mentioned I'm from South America, he started saying girls here are all sluts. And he insisted on that. Seriously, fuck these guys.
/r/seduction30/08/19 03:46 PM
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You guys in America must be so much more conservative than us Latin Americans. I'm baffled at the idea that someone would not kiss on the first date.
/r/seduction29/08/19 11:29 PM
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Do you know how to transition the game into a relationship ? I really need advice on this.
/r/seduction29/08/19 11:59 AM
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Your city must be kind of small then. If you drive for more than 10 minutes, are you already out of the city ?
/r/seduction28/08/19 04:29 PM
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I think you should consider dating someone at least 20 minutes away. Using geometry, I can tell you that it would multiply the number of women in the area by 4.
/r/seduction28/08/19 03:52 PM
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I don't even know you and I'm so proud of you ! lol I've picked a 10/10 this year, but I met her through a dating app. I still don't know why she chose me since I'm not that good looking. And so far I thought I would never be able to hookup with a 10. If I had the balls to do cold approach, I would have so much opportunities.
/r/seduction28/08/19 03:48 PM
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As I said. You are concerned that you if don't loose your virginity now, you won't be able to loose it after highschool because meeting women outside highschool is more difficult. So think about that. If you loose it while you are still in highschool, are you never gonna have sex again ? Is this how you are going to live your life ? Because that's the logic you are applying to yourself. You will want to keep having sex after highschool, so you are gonna have to learn to meet and talk to women ou…
/r/seduction28/08/19 10:51 AM
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I study in a very small college with some super hot girls. It's frustrating to not be able to approach them without being known as that creepy player.
/r/seduction28/08/19 10:45 AM
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Envy is a human feeling that everyone has it and it's one of the worst. It makes us sick inside. But hey, I'm having casual sex every month and I'm envious of people who are in relationships. We always want something more. We have to believe that we will get there someday.
/r/seduction27/08/19 11:27 PM
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If you haven't yet, watch Todd's video Text Game -- From Number To Date Step By Step
/r/seduction27/08/19 06:48 PM
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I feel bad for you man. Dating is too much pressure, sometimes exhausting. It's like you can never show one sign of weakness.
/r/seduction27/08/19 06:16 PM
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You are not being an asshole as long as you don't make the girl think you want something serious. She might as well just like you for sexual things. In fact, adult women are even used to having fuck buddies. If she starts to develop feelings for you and you don't develop for her, be upfront with her and say you are looking for anything serious. Do it even if it costs you the sex.
/r/seduction27/08/19 05:57 PM
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I think the internet has made people more isolated. There are studies saying millennials are having less sex than their parents and during their age. I wouldn't be surprised if people also had less friends and relationships. But hey, life isn't fair. We need to do the best with what we have. I just wish I knew what to do.
/r/seduction27/08/19 05:54 PM
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I have a similar problem, I even made a post the other day about it. I get laid fairly easy, but when I meet a girl that is my type, that I find special and the experience with her is special, I start to get attached to her and I don't know what to do. I'm not like you that looses interest on the second date. Instead I obsess about getting a second date (and then a third date, and so on) because I don't want to loose her. Anyway. Does anybody has a solution to this ?
/r/seduction27/08/19 05:06 PM
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I'm gonna tell you something as someone who has had sex with a different girl each month since the beginning of the year, thanks to dating apps. Hooking with a 10/10 is marvelous for your mind. It gives you so much ego boost. In bed it's also great to see that perfect body. But in the heat of the moment, there isn't much difference between a 6 and a 10. Sex can even be better with a 6 than with a 10, if the 6 is more wild and loud. That's why I love hooking up with 6's. The sex is just as good a…
/r/seduction27/08/19 04:39 PM
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How is your confidence and self esteem ? Do you know the concepts of value, comfort, escalation and flirting ? Do you talk to women at all ?
/r/seduction27/08/19 04:27 PM
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If you and her were sexting, then I think you should try to ask her out again. If she still continues to ignore your invitation, then ignore her too. That's how you maintain a balance between being available and hard to get. You show to her that you are available. If she doesn't respond to that, then you ignore her to show that you won't give attention for free.
/r/seduction27/08/19 04:23 PM
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I always open with a comment about the girl's profile. Most don't respond actually. If the girl responds, from then on I use Todd's rule of 4 types of text. Even then, lots of girls stop replying. When they do engage in the conversation however, I can set up a date pretty quickly.
/r/seduction27/08/19 12:35 AM
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Thanks, man. I'm not desperate for a relationship. I mean, even though I miss having that special someone, it's definitely not something that pops in my mind all the time. Actually I only start craving for a relationship when I meet a girl that is my type. But that's also where I screw myself, because I get lost and don't know what to do. And I get anxious trying not to loose her. But I think what you said has a lot of value and I will give a lot of thought to it. I do have emotional instability…
/r/seduction26/08/19 09:40 PM
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Actually, I don't think I'm that good looking. The girls tell me I'm hot. But I don't the fit the standard of beauty. I'm skinny, pale, have long hair, a grunge vibe and I look like I'm 19 years old, even though I'm 24. I don't get a lot of matches either. But there are always some girl who likes a guy like me, I guess.
/r/seduction26/08/19 09:20 PM
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For two reasons: 1) I'm kind of tired of hopping from girl to girl. It takes a lot of time and effort browsing those apps, thinking of cool things to say (I hate texting) just to have sex once or twice with the girl. If I try to meet them again, they loose interest. I know the issue is not me being bad in bed, because I'm very generous when it comes to sex and they tell me I'm good in bed without me even asking about it. 2) I've had a girlfriend in the past which I loved. We were previously frie…
/r/seduction26/08/19 09:18 PM
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Smile. Your teeth will shine under the black light.
/r/seduction26/08/19 06:10 PM
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Girls want you to approach them. It's not unattractive to approach them, in fact it is attractive, because it shows that you are confident enough to do it. And confidence it's the most attractive thing in a man. The thing is, if you behave in a needy way, you become unattractive. You have to show interest, but also show that you won't be bothered if she rejects you. I know it sounds weird and it might be hard to understand at first, but you will get it. At some point, that will click on your min…
/r/seduction26/08/19 03:59 AM
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So you want to loose your virginity now, because otherwise, you think you will never be able to loose it or that it will take a long ass time to ? That's not true at all, man. For starters. It's not easier to get laid when you are a teenager, not even close. Most teenage girls are inexperienced and won't have casual sex. It's much easier to find adult women willing to have sex, because they have already had some experience and don't have oversight from their parents or anything. And if you think…
/r/seduction26/08/19 03:36 AM
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I lost my virginity when I was 20 years old, bro. Yes, I was insecure about being a virgin until then. But I didn't get upset for loosing it at 20 instead of 16. Right now, school is your world. So everything that happens in it, seems to be of world importance. But after you leave high school, you will realize how insignificant your school world was. The world is incredibly huge and you still have decades ahead of you. Do you really think it matters if you loose your virginity now or later on ? …
/r/seduction25/08/19 11:43 PM
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Sometimes you just have to wait to get a little older. I don't know how attractive you are. But I'm 24 years old now. And I've seen people who were really hot at my high school become less attractive when they got to their 20's and I've seen people who were unattractive at high school become very attractive in their 20's. I'm one of those people (who became more attractive). Either way, you better start practicing your game now. You said in a comment you find game very complicated, but it really…
/r/seduction25/08/19 07:10 PM
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Tinder game is different than "in person" game. Tinder is heavily reliant on looks. While in person, your looks matter very little.
/r/seduction24/08/19 02:00 AM
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Which is pretty ironic, if you think about it.
/r/seduction24/08/19 01:57 AM
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Look. Maybe she meant that a threesome does nothing for her sexually (just like leaking my toes does nothing for me, for example), but that she is willing to do it for you. And that a threesome wouldn't make her feel bad or anything. If that's the case, then you don't need to feel bad. I think you should consider a threesome, it's a good solution to your situation. But you have to discuss it with her to make sure that neither of you will be hurt by the experience. Edit: Also, she might be going …
/r/seduction23/08/19 11:45 PM
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Before making a decision, imagine how your life would be without her. Truly imagine it, for days. It's important you value what you have before you loose it, so you don't make stupid decisions. Most guys here will tell you to go for it because they are on this playa vibe. But they have nothing to loose, they are already single. You do have something very special with this person. I think what you are going through is something everyone who has been in a very long relationship experiences, especi…
/r/seduction23/08/19 06:52 PM
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Do you cum quickly when you masturbate ? I've heard that lots of guys masturbate to cum quickly in 1 or 2 minutes. That can make you used to cumming fast. Try to last as long as possible when you jerk off. That will make it easier for you to last long in bed.
/r/seduction23/08/19 06:44 PM
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I second this. I've been having sex with a different girl each month this year. But until a month ago, the majority of the time I would get performance anxiety and my dick wouldn't go fully hard. Eventually I grew tired of this shit and started taking Cialis. Solved my problem. Obviously I don't intend on taking this forever. But right now I think it's a good way to rebuild my confidence until I don't need to take the pills anymore.
/r/seduction23/08/19 06:40 PM
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From my experience, if you treat sex as no big deal, girls will have a higher tendency to have sex early on. By that I mean, don't think of sex as this precious prize on top of a mountain that is gonna take a lot of effort (and a lot of dates) for her to allow you to have. Lots of guys have this mentality that is going to take X amount of dates for sex to happen. If you go on with that vibe, the girl will play along. And she will see sex a big deal because you are seeing it as a big deal. Instea…
/r/seduction23/08/19 04:07 PM
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I think you are greatly overestimating looks. Confidence, conversation skills and knowing how to flirt and escalate are more importantly than looks. An average looking guy who knows how to do these things will have much higher results than a handsome buff guy who isn't confident, doesn't know how to approach, doesn't know how to have a decent conversation.
/r/seduction23/08/19 03:36 PM
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Yeah. I didn't mean you should do cold approach on guys. That's just weird. What I meant was practice your conversation skills with men you already know. Friends, relatives, co-workers, class mates and so on. Sometimes you could do it with strangers, if you are in a bar or waiting line, as you said. But it's not like you are supposed to approach random men in the street.
/r/seduction23/08/19 12:26 PM
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I think I'm intermediate on online game. Since the beginning of the year, I've been using 3 different dating apps. I've been on 10 dates, had sex with a different girl each month. I can usually have sex on the first date or second date. If it's a second date, the girl just goes straight to my place. However, I have no idea how to do cold approaches. Be it during the date or in night clubs. But I'm decent on picking the friend of friend in a social circle.
/r/seduction22/08/19 02:23 PM
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6 girls in 2 months is pretty damn good. And you are dating a bad ass chick. You can be considered a playa.
/r/seduction22/08/19 01:58 PM
1

You must be very introvert.
/r/seduction22/08/19 12:07 PM
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Yeah. Not to brag, but I can manage to have sex on the first or second date. And the reason why I do it is because I treat sex as no big deal. I don't expect sex from her, I don't keep trying to have sex. I talk about sex as it's just any other subject with her. And I don't think of sex as this very special prize on top of the hill that is gonna take me a long time and effort to get. They want sex just like us. It will happen naturally.
/r/seduction21/08/19 09:16 PM
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I don't understand your question. Just go and talk to people, man. It's so you can practice and be easy to do because it's with men. How hard is to understand that ?
/r/seduction21/08/19 05:49 PM
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Your interest is practicing your skills.
/r/seduction21/08/19 03:46 PM
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Oh, I'm sorry. "Now I hope I can have sex with them" would sound better to you ? Stop being offended by phrases that mean no harm.
/r/seduction21/08/19 03:33 PM
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Techniques, models and guides are just that: guides. They are amazing for you to learn game and to have some instruction on what to do next. But if you think you are fine following your instincts, by all means go for it. After all, the point of learning game is for it to become natural, to the point when you don't even think about it.
/r/seduction20/08/19 05:48 PM
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Seems like she is a bit interested in you. But you are slowly falling into the friendzone. You need to take action before it's too late. Go to the club and meet with her. She will probably be happy to see you. Spend some time with her (don't follow her the entire time like a creep, have some fun on your own). Befriend her friends and later try to isolate her (take her to some place away from her friends, like the bar, the smoking area, whatever). Try flirting with her and see how she responds. E…
/r/seduction20/08/19 05:39 PM
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The girl doesn't know you are a virgin. For her, you are just as attractive as a hot guy who's slept with 10 different women. That's not you being fake because the attraction she feels is the same. Money is still money, doesn't matter if it's made of gold or paper. The value comes from how we perceive it. The girl perceives your social value by your looks, your confidence, your smoothness. Not from your past.
/r/seduction20/08/19 05:31 PM
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You are basically telling us to give up if a woman throws a shit test. I don't think you know what a shit test is. A shit test is not a rejection or an insult. A shit test is a test. Passing the test is what makes us prove we are confident, that we are not needy, that we have abundance.
/r/seduction20/08/19 05:23 PM
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Playing along with the shit test will work sometimes and other times it will not. If it doesn't work, that means the girl wasn't into you in the first place. So why not try to play along with it ?
/r/seduction20/08/19 03:57 AM
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I'm 24. And yes, they are horny, but that doesn't mean the are necesssarily comfortable. Some teen girls have more experience than others.
/r/seduction31/07/19 05:22 PM
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Thanks, that was good advice. Focusing on the moment instead of the future and not creating expectations must be the ideal thing. Because even if doesn't improve my chances with the girl, at least I will stop worrying.
/r/seduction31/07/19 06:32 AM
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Women usually like older guys. OP just has to focus on girls younger than him. I'm just saying these girls might not be comfortable with sex because they are teens.
/r/seduction31/07/19 06:30 AM
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I haven't thought of that. Maybe women on dating apps will be more prone to seeing lots of guys, which gives me harder competition ? If that's the case, dating apps really are a double edge sword. Making it easier and more difficult at the same time to get girls. Guess I will have to meet girls through other means ?
/r/seduction31/07/19 06:00 AM
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Are you getting anxious and frustrated in front of them because that’s a great way to make them lose interest Definitely not in front of them. No. I always present myself as a confident guy with abundance, be it in person or through texting. But deep down I'm anxious and frustrated. When they say there’s another guy, you have to be like, okay, no worries That's what I do. But I don't know. Maybe female intuition can make them see through me. Also, you’re being a generous lover, right? Not just f…
/r/seduction31/07/19 05:56 AM
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On the very least, it will be great for your self esteem to get rid of the virgin/never kissed image of yourself. Do it.
/r/seduction31/07/19 05:04 AM
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Thanks for the tip. Since you are a woman, can I ask you to elaborate on this ? What's the deal, in the girl's perspective, of having sex on the first date or not ? If you have sex on the first date, you set your expectations for a one time thing ? Is that something most girls think ?
/r/seduction31/07/19 04:46 AM
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The only differences between teen girls and adult girls is: 1) How comfortable they are with casual sex or any kind of sex. 2) What they expect in a guy and in a relationship. Overall, just keep reading the dating tips for adults, but keep in mind that it can be difficult to have sex with a girl your age or younger, depending on the girl, and that having a career and financial stability is not really important for teen girls.
/r/seduction31/07/19 04:41 AM
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I wouldn't put much expectation with this girl if I were you. A woman who hasn't get over her ex is not a good promise for a date.
/r/seduction31/07/19 04:38 AM
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I think the key to having good conversation is to be able to relate to what the other person is speaking and the topic at hand. That's why having an interesting life and experiences is important for good conversation. If you and the girl are talking about traveling, it helps a lot if you have traveled a bit. The same goes for any topic. Having culture is always good. Also, have some hobbies and talk about it with passion. People love to hear a person speaking with passion about their interests.
/r/seduction31/07/19 04:37 AM
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You have to do the best with what you have. Some of us are just born with less. If you don't have the looks, then focus on improving your confidence, talk and charisma.
/r/seduction31/07/19 04:33 AM
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Watch Todd videos on how to never running out of things to say.
/r/seduction31/07/19 04:31 AM
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You need to create sexual tension. Talk to them about sex and see how comfortable they are with that topic of conversation. If a girl is comfortable, than that's a good sign. Reminder that these girls do flirt but it’s usually nothing TOO sexual. At some point you have to start flirting in a sexual way. Try to do it and see how they react. Just keep flirting in a sexual way and then invite them to a place where you two can be alone (make sure she knows this is the scenario). If she accepts, then…
/r/seduction31/07/19 04:26 AM
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Be sure to sit next to her. This will give you the opportunity to touch her discreetly and to have a one on one conversation with her. The fact that she sees you as someone above her can be an advantage to you, since she will be flattered to know a "superior" person likes her. It can also be an indicator of interest from her part. Don't forget to be friend with her friends. If her friends like you she will feel more comfortable with you. She is only 14, so take it easy with her. You are already …
/r/seduction19/11/17 05:04 PM
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Yes. It's a very bad idea. The best thing for you to do, if you want to date multiple women at the same time, is to friend multiple groups of girl friends (that don't know each other) and date one women in each group. After you stop dating one women you can date another from the same group (after some weeks, of course).
/r/seduction19/11/17 04:24 PM
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Which is pretty counter-intuitive, because this turns game into a power contest where both parts are slowly walking away from each other maintain their value.
/r/seduction27/10/17 06:30 PM
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Why can't people be happy with what they have ? God, humans are complicated.
/r/seduction27/10/17 05:12 PM
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Just be vague about it and change the subject to them. Also, you don't need to be attached to a single group of friends. The more activities you do, the more people you meet and the greater your potential to make new friends.
/r/seduction23/10/17 08:48 PM
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Do you mean for example I should not invite them out every weekend? Yes. Don't invite them every weekend if they are not always accepting your invitation. Skip a weekend or two without inviting them.
/r/seduction23/10/17 04:32 PM
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They don't need to know you don't have any friends. As long as you are not always talking to them (as if you have no one to talk to) they won't know.
/r/seduction23/10/17 12:57 AM
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You can stop oversharing with your buddies. But remember to have someone whom you can share. You can't keep everything inside you, you need to talk about your problems sometimes, even if it's with your mom.
/r/seduction23/10/17 12:54 AM
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Remember you don't always need to speak to be interesting. You can just be a good listener. People love to talk about themselves. So just be interested on them and they will like you.
/r/seduction23/10/17 12:49 AM
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I also hate text game. But the same logic that applies in person also applies through texting. Don't ask her out right away. You wouldn't do that in person, so don't do it through text. Instead, try to start a conversation and flirt with her a little bit. Pay attention to how she reacts to your texts. Does she laugh a lot ? Does she write a lot ? Is she engaged in the conversation ? If so, that's a positive sign that she is interested and then you should ask her out. Choose a good time when she …
/r/seduction22/09/17 07:59 PM
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She already asked for your number and texted you. That's more than most girls are willing to do. She expects you to take the initiative. If you continue passive like this, she will think you are not interested and give up. So don't be afraid and don't loose this opportunity !
/r/seduction22/09/17 07:33 PM
5

Life isn't fair. Stop complaining and start doing the best with what you have.
/r/seduction18/09/17 07:19 PM
5

I'm tall. I'm not successful on tinder. If only it was that easy.
/r/seduction18/09/17 03:45 PM
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Literally show that you are interested in her. Understand though the difference between showing interest and giving approval. Flirt with her, compliment her but also make fun of her, always in a playful manner. Remember, confidence is paramount. Be alert for shit tests. She might try to test your confidence or your intentions. If she test your confidence, keep your frame. If she test your intentions, keep the mood light. When she tests you, whatever you say, don't be apologetic. Remember that yo…
/r/seduction12/08/17 07:28 PM
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Just be confident while you talk to her and show interest without being needy. That will build attraction.
/r/seduction12/08/17 02:24 AM
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It comes down to confidence. There are various guides on this sub on how to build you confidence. Some days are better than others however and that's normal. Try to build your confidence in general and things will flow naturally.
/r/seduction06/08/17 02:23 AM
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It's sad that many men find themselves in this situation. We don't learn from our teachers and our parents on how to be an attractive man. We do by experience, trial and error. Anyway, you should focus on working on yourself. Do things that make you more confident of yourself: hit the gym, learn to play an instrument, study to get good grades or get a good job (learning IT will also be part of this confidence building !) Learn social skills from professionals. I recommend Todd Valentine from you…
/r/seduction01/05/17 07:19 AM
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You pull like that: https://youtu.be/6h4KjGpIEsM It's easier when the girl isn't in a rush or isn't going anywhere specific. Not everyone is always going somewhere. Sometimes people just kill their time wandering at the park or at the mall or at the beach or at the college campus or at the streets.
/r/seduction25/02/17 05:45 PM
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Realize that other people are full of flaws and insecurity as well. If you can talk to people on a deep emotional way, you will eventually discover this. I have friends who are really shy, others who are embarrassed of not being smart. I am embarrassed of being a lazy fuck who still lives with his parents. Also realize that people aren't noticing the mistakes you do and aren't thinking about you. Everyone is just too self absorved with their own goals, their own problems and insecurities. So you…
/r/seduction24/02/17 07:52 AM
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Maybe they are shy.
/r/seduction23/02/17 09:53 PM
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Yeah. Women here usually complain how they went to Europe or America and they were treated like easy sluts by foreign men. It's a bad and false stereotype.
/r/seduction23/02/17 09:19 PM
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If you're not hot though they're gonna think you're creepy. That is hard truth. It's like that old saying: If you are poor, you are crazy. If you are rich, you are eccentric.
/r/seduction23/02/17 08:21 PM
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You don't have to spark anything incredible. You just have to be good enough. And you are good enough. If you feel like leaving, try to stay just 30 seconds more. In those 30 seconds a lot can happen. You can think on something to say, she can bring up a topic, something weird and random can happen close to you two. It will also force you to think on something to say, instead of just leaving.
/r/seduction23/02/17 08:12 PM
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I live in Brazil. People don't have sex on the streets, but they do kiss random strangers in the carnival. Brazilian women (at least here in Rio) are more open to casual relationships and even casual sex. But they are not sluts who will sleep to anyone, in fact they can be quite difficult to pick. They require a higher pick up skill from you as the game here is high level.
/r/seduction23/02/17 07:59 PM
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Honestly, try to watch some 40's and 50's movies. Culture was also very conservative than, and the only possible route (when sober, at least) was serious relationship. I think if you talk to them as if you were just a friend, they would be more open. Then you could throw some very light flirting once in while. See how they react.
/r/seduction23/02/17 07:54 PM
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First of all. It's normal to not get texted back. It's more common than getting texted back. It happens to everyone. Texting is hard because you it's difficult to show your confidence and good mood through text. It's better to interact live. Use text only when necessary. Try to pick a girl on the first interaction. That's appropriate for parties, bars and clubs. If you are not in one of those enviroments, try to take her to a date right away. Like a coffee for just 10 minutes. After that, she wi…
/r/seduction23/02/17 07:47 PM
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"How to win friends and influence people" A best seller since 1936 !
/r/seduction21/02/17 11:49 PM
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I think they take for granted the attention they have from all the guys, so when one guy does not give them attention, it feels like a loss. It can be seen as a form of insecurity. You can use this need for attention for your advantage. Try to give her a little bit of attention, but not to much. Talk to her, but then reject her. And let her pursue you. Each time give a little bit more of attention, and then back away. Until you reach the point when she will try to kiss you to get your approval, …
/r/seduction21/02/17 11:47 PM
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