To put it simply

Kylemoa1 · 2019-09-24T18:27:47+00:00

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theosamabahama · 2019-09-25T02:40:26+00:00

As a podcaster once said "When you take the initiative in life, you skip ahead so many people".

trumpismegagay · 2019-09-24T20:31:36+00:00

The issue isn't fear of approach, it's the fear of looking like a creep.

LMskouta · 2019-09-25T03:36:04+00:00

I’ve being doing direct approaches for YEARS. I would honestly say the times you get “eww that’s creepy” is about 3% or less. Yes, for those of us not great at Math, that means 3 out of every 100 women would give you the look. Now, that’s is Not to be confused with “not interested” or “I’m married / have a boyfriend”, just like not every women is our type you’ll come across some women who don’t think you’re their type. However, and I say this with utmost certainty, most women ADMIRE and RESPECT a man who does a cold approach knowing damn well they’re stressed and feeling a ton of anxiety while doing it. I have absolutely no idea why men (not women) think that’s creepy these days, especially the crowd that’s being around pre the OLD days, I’m talking about guys in their mid 20s and up. Direct approaches is how it was done for years until the stupid fake OLD bullshit came along!! Repeat after me, fuck OLD!!!

EngineeredKing · 2019-09-24T21:44:41+00:00

Not so much forgotten as they’re ignored

Lon4reddit · 2019-09-24T23:58:29+00:00

This is something that must be stressed out far more, I needed it, I have one approach to do on Thursday and your post will help me stay on track

IntoxicatedOrange · 2019-09-25T00:06:58+00:00

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Mr_Slowflow · 2019-09-25T06:03:24+00:00

All these guys saying they are afraid of being a creep etc.

Pickup is something you should do for fun . Like a hobby . Coz for me just talking to new people makes me feel alive and excited. I don’t care about what happens . I just enjoy myself and say fun stuff. Obviously my heart is still beating fast and am nervous sometimes . BUT I STILL DO IT ANYWAY. Coz the truth is it doesn’t matter what happens whether you get the girl or she walks away. There are a million others out there and Life continues same as usual 😂😂

Stop caring what other people think. Coz this is your life and you need to live it to fullest mothafuckas. Do what you love . Coz when you are 90 and it’s over , all these people and things won’t matter . It’s the memories of the life you lived.

NordRedditor91 · 2019-09-25T07:27:33+00:00

I don't fear approaching women, they're just women after all, it's more about not knowing what to say and at what time

WFoster88 · 2019-09-24T18:42:13+00:00

I don't think they're forgotten as they don't even exist in the eyes of women. You can either approach or not. Unless you rely on social proof. Then perhaps you have a shot.

LaithBushnaq · 2019-09-24T23:09:36+00:00

Maybe it’s just me... but whenever I try to approach, girls don’t engage much or give out fake numbers

RuMyster · 2019-09-25T03:47:27+00:00

What's the point of approaching if I'll just get rejected like always

dirttaylor · 2019-09-25T04:28:41+00:00

Gotta embrace that Fear! Ride the Lightning and dwell in that moment no matter how brutal or pleasant. Afterwards, you’ll find that you actually lived through it to be able to Approach again. Think of yourself as a 99-year old man on his deathbed. Don’t make him look back with regret. Because at some point it really isn’t gonna be that big of a deal if you crashed and burned. The fact that you did it will empower you beyond belief.

Geoffreymarsh · 2019-09-25T04:58:13+00:00

The issue is not just fear of looking like a creep!! But thinking on the right words

SalvisK · 2019-09-25T05:47:05+00:00

For me it's different story. I'm in happy 6 year relationship. Last week went to home town. There was a party/ played local band.

I was alone. And wanted to try if I still Got "it". If I can approach a girl. And... I did it. It was a good night. We talked and danced. It was good. And that's all..

And next day I felt greate. I guess becouse my libido was high, because I cud approach a random girl and start talking. It was fun.

ISeydouDat · 2019-09-25T10:47:09+00:00

I really needed to see this. A really pretty woman came to my work to drop off some documents, she was really friendly and smiled heaps. Had a nice little exchange of words, when she was about to leave I really wanted to get her name and number and ask her to hang out some time but I froze and watched her leave for the elevator. I always do this and I hate myself for being afraid...

RonnieLibra · 2019-09-25T11:57:27+00:00

You guys teaching other guys that they are afraid of women are the problem 😔.

Fear of approach or Approach Anxiety is a myth created by Dorks who were never in competition. The entire concept causes more harm than good by creating in guys minds a concept of having a giant Fear Based problem that they need to OVERCOME that they probably didn't think they ever had until learning about it from pickup nerds.

Teach guys the right way from the get go and they won't have this problem - https://youtu.be/B8ZCBnxCHOg

InnerMonologist · 2019-09-25T06:12:50+00:00

"H-hello ma-"

"RAPE! RAPE!"

"H-hello ma-"

"I have a boyfriend."

"H-hello ma-"

"Haha in your dreams loser!"

"Hey guys! That creep thought he had a chance with me!"

Forever be known as that creepy loser.

Kylemoa1 · 2019-09-25T04:42:22+00:00

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artificiallysuper · 2019-09-25T01:33:49+00:00

Scared of being known as the guy who is a player at college.

2019-09-25T03:03:37+00:00

In this moment, I am euphoric...

Kylemoa1 · 2019-09-25T03:33:26+00:00

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HogaChacka · 2019-09-25T07:05:22+00:00

Why should we let the shy ones hold us back?

SamSicilius · 2019-09-25T16:00:51+00:00

Hey guys, Sam here.

I'd like to open this line of debate so we can get to know which are the most recurrent and common issues we going thru when it comes to game. Any sort of plateau you are stuck at and what do you think is stopping you from getting over this? I've been noticing people around me that are just getting started with this, and they usually can't go out alone. Any beginners here? Is it a real problem these days, for example, daygaming alone? Do you consider going out without a wingmen to be definitely a big deal for you guys?

Thanks in advance,

Sam

wolframe117 · 2019-09-25T01:46:50+00:00

Who came up with this rule that only men should approach?

Kylemoa1 · 2019-09-25T15:16:14+00:00

OP here, this small comment really gave way to a lot of valuable conversation.

I’d like to say that for the most part the questions, feedback and even with the difference of opinion that this post was very productive.

My hope is that everyone was able to find an answer not just leave a comment and return to the way things were after reading this.

If you’re still looking to build more confidence around women or just want to improve your dating life as a whole and you like the idea of accountability and mentorship, check us out

https://www.samimoa.com/training

Thanks for making this post interesting and I’ll see you in the sub.

hendrix248 · 2019-09-24T21:31:10+00:00

Let’s just be real woman of nowadays aren’t that big of a prize anymore ..the rate of coochie has dropped ,that economic value is deappreciating at an alarming rate I’m not going in and investing till I see a recovery ..and all I wanna hear from the replies is “preach on brother”

broomhead · 2019-09-25T06:56:02+00:00

Cringe af

Title	To put it simply
Author	Kylemoa1
Upvotes	686
Comments	74
Date	September 24, 2019 5:51 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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