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That explains it. And why are you in this group? It's for divorced men. By the way, over the past 3 years I've have multiple women under 30 show interest and try to pursue me that were not on OLD. I declined. So whose preceptor when a girl under 30 shows interest and pursues someone their 40's? Ridiculous.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 07:49 PM
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So are you a women? A 49 year old with a 29 year old is not predatory.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 07:29 PM
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I make $304k a year. Was married for 20 years.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 07:25 PM
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Are you a man or a women?
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 10:13 AM
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Both in college
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 08:56 AM
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Yeah, I have to pay my ex $6k a month in alimony and also helping two kids through college. I've had to lower my standard of living by a lot which means I am not a sugar daddy. I like to pay for everything in dating and buy nice things for them but I'm going to have to scale that way back.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 08:53 AM
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Awesome. Why do you think she is into you? What were the first few dates like? What did you do? My biggest fear of dating significantly younger is that they see me as a sugar daddy. I'm not in a position to be that for anyone anymore. My divorce financially destroyed me.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/26 11:47 PM
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Nice to have an honest answer from a women. If I had posted this on datingoverfortysub I would have been annihilated.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/26 11:45 PM
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I matched with a hot 29 year old. Been messaging back and forth and just blows me away she's interested in me since I'm 49m. Honestly my only interest in someone this age is a hook up and not a relationship so not sure how to approach it.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/26 10:05 PM
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So for the women you had sex with that you met on the apps how many dates until you had sex? How did you approach that fact your not looking for a relationship? I've recently when on dates with two women and I have a hard time escalating things to the bedroom.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/26 12:05 PM
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So how did you overcome your poor financial position in dating? Did you meet your current girlfriend when you were struggling financially? I was ruined financially but sounds like you may have been in worst shape than I am. I've been divorced for 2 years now and I've heald back on dating until recently because I am embarrassed that I have to rent an apartment now and have no retirement. Also had a pay cut at work. But I'm 49 and if I allow my current financial position to stop me from dating I'm…
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/26 12:02 PM
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Married for 20 years. She never worked. I make good money
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/26 02:59 AM
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The person you knew may now be dead but you still have to pay her alimony. My ex still has her claws in me financially.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/26 05:08 AM
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You are not all to blame. Dead bedroom for 5 years? That will drive a man to find other ways
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/26 05:15 AM
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Kids are not stupid. Kids need to see their parents working towards a better relationship. If things stay the same and get worse that's not good for the kids
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 03:23 PM
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For some women it will never be enough and they will never appreciate what you've done. After all I pay to support my ex still bitches.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 05:47 AM
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Oh and to add, I get left out of so many things for the kids. The old friend group includes her on bbqs, get together and trips. Sons graduation party will be at my ex in laws house and I won't be there. Daughter had a banquet last week at her college for her volleyball that parents usually go to, instead my ex and her mother went. She try's to plan all b day parties and celebrations at her parents house because she knows I won't go over there.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 05:45 AM
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I'm there too. I pay child support when my son is with her, and pay when he's with me. And when anything comes up extra, I pay. Spent $6k on his truck repair last month plus $3k on school stuff. My daughter is in college I pay for both their health care, cell phones, education fees, car insurance. Been seperated for 3 years and now divorced for two and ex won't get a job. All this and she bitches and complains when she has to pay for something for the kids. Between child support and alimony I pa…
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 05:42 AM
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I know the feeling. Sat alone while ny ex and her family sat together at my daughters graduation. I have my sons high school graduation in two weeks. They always plan the big event celebrations and birthday parties at ny ex in laws house and I refuse to go over there. Makes me feel terrible but I know what boundaries I can't cross.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 05:31 AM
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Do not leave your house. I made this mistake only because I could not handle being in the same house with here and I was afraid I'd do something that she would be able to use against me. I would never get physical but there was a lot of yelling and her screaming and I could not put up with it and didn't want the kids to witness us fighting. She even spit in my face one time. Then she claimed I pushed her which I didn't. I did out my fist through the bedroom door when she was gone out of anger. I…
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 05:26 AM
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California
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 05:18 AM
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Thanks for the offer. I'd just be complaining and although I vent on here I try not to complain. I'm in San Clemente
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 05:08 AM
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Thanks for the offer. I'd just be complaining and although I vent on here I try not to complain. I'm in San Clemente
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 05:08 AM
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She's not getting bent over by another man. I don't know who would date her. She doesn't like sex and is a far right Christian who does not believe in sex outside of marriage. I won't flee the country. I want to be where I can see my kids on summers and holidays and someday be around when they start families.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 01:51 AM
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Hard to find a hobby. I enjoy nothing. I force my self to still go surf and ski and the sadness and anger over shadow all of it. I've been hitting the gym 4 days a week for 3 years and I'm in good shape, down 35 lbs. it's something I do out of discipline but don't enjoy it. Went on a date two weeks ago with a single mom and yeah your right there. I've read no more Mr nice guy and many other divorce books and none of them help. As for church and the bible, yeah, I struggle with that. I was a pk a…
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/26 11:30 PM
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No prenup. No affair. Affair does not matter in CA. She actually had me sign a document about 10 years into marriage that if we got a divorce I would not get any of here inheritance she gets from her family. Her parents are very wealthy. Bought her a $1.6 million home on a gold course over looking the ocean when we divorced. No reason for her to ever get a job.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/26 11:25 PM
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Yeah right. I can't skip alimony. I'd never be able to come back.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/26 11:23 PM
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That falls under the Gavron warning in California. It's a very vague law particularly when you have been married for 20 years and she never worked. He told me to wait a few years before I even attempt to go to court to enforce this. I know guys who have tried and failed and they are 10 years post divorce. I also have another stressful element to this in that I have worked for her father for 15 years. 100% commission and I've earned every penny. Landed all my accounts and he gave me nothing. But …
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/26 11:23 PM
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I didn't feel like a financial slave when I was married. I treated as my duty and honor to provide as the head of the household. I feel this way after divorce. Men who provide for their wives to stay home get screwed.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/26 11:18 PM
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So, went out on a date with her yesterday. 30 minutes into the date her daughter calls her to come home to make dinner. Then calls her two more times during date. Then she proceeds to tell me I should date someone who is also an empty nester. She has her kids 100% of the time. Strange she agreed to the date in the first place. Lots of money questions. Needless to say, I'll be avoiding dating women with kids still at home.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/26 09:14 PM
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Single mothers are not the only ones available to me. There just way more of them. There are not may women 40+ with no kids.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 09:10 PM
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Any tips on vetting them?
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 09:08 PM
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I do not need or want money from a women. I make $350 k a year, have retirement and a good savings. I do rent though. Would it bother you if a guy at 48 is renting?
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 12:58 AM
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Problem with 30's is they either have younger kids or want kids. Very hard to find a women in 30's with no kids that does not want kids
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 12:54 AM
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Trying to.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 12:53 AM
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I was referring to someone who had kids still at home. My son leaves for college in 6 months. But yeah, I get it.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 12:32 AM
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Yeah. The financial toll this has taken on me sucks. Also embarrassed I have to rent now. Biggest thing holding me back is finances. Although it may not be the case I feel like every women is looking for a guy with money.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/26 11:45 PM
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I've been divorced for 2 years and I'm still angry.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/26 05:25 AM
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Same happened to me but I had to pay $580k in equity, half my retirement. And $6k a month in alimony for life.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/26 09:59 AM
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Won't leave my kids.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/25 03:19 PM
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I pay my wife $75 k a year and it's for life if she doesn't get a job or get married. I'm two year into divorce and it's not getting easier. I'm so angry. And her parents are rich and give her whatever she wants. They bought her another car and a. $1.7 million home on a golf course overlooking the ocean. Why would she ever get a job? And I live in a shitty apartment with no extra funds to rebuild my life. So wrong. Everyone says it gets easier but for me it just gets worse. I don't know how anyo…
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/25 07:20 PM
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I used to love Christmas and now I hate it. My kids are older 18 and 20. I have no family around. My ex has a huge family here. My kids will spend most of their time with my ex family and it's probably better that way since I have nothing to offer them. I don't decorate or get a tree anymore. My kids will probably come see me Christmas night. And I will feel bad about it because I feel like the feel obligated to fit me in. I don't know what to do with them. They know I am very depressed and I fe…
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/25 09:13 PM
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I pay $5 k a month on alimony. It's lifetime unless my pay changes, she gets a job or gets married.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/25 05:38 AM
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I hope something comes up. Seperated for 3 years now divorced for two and each year gets worse. The worst part is the financial ruin. Watching your self go down slowly over many years is depressing. When from my dream home, to apartment now I made need to find a roommate to afford rent. May lose my job. I don't have a nice home for my kids to come home to during the holidays. Feel like an absolute failure. Each day gets worse
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/25 02:14 AM
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Nothing. I sleep until 1pm in the weekends, hit the gym, watch football. I don't enjoy anything anymore. I want this life to be over
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/25 09:38 PM
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What an evil women.
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/25 11:33 PM
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I get a ton of matches on bumble, tinder and hinge but barely any on FEELD. Not sure why.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/25 07:33 AM
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Refusing spousal support? Your lucky
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/25 12:36 AM
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What medications?
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/25 11:07 PM
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What type of support groups have you found?
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/25 10:17 AM
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I've tried St. John's and Saffron
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/25 10:14 AM
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I hear you. Hard to find the time for volunteering when I work 60 hours a week as a financial slave to my ex.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/25 10:14 AM
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I've tried so many. And I took them long enough to know I didn't like it. Sooo many of them have terrible side affects. Most make you fat and give you ED. I've tried Prozac, Wellbutrin, Lexipro, Zoloft, pristiq. I have not tried cymbalta but never will. Read through the fb page cymbaltahurtsworse and you will see why. People take that for a few month and deal with trying to get off with years of side affects. I've also tried ketamine therapy. Did the full program. Didn't help. Weed, helped numb …
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/25 07:20 AM
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Spot on. You nailed it.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/25 07:11 AM
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It's not just not being married. It's the financial devastation that I feel I will never recover from. Went from dream home to shitty apartment. No retirement, can't pay for my kids college. No money to travel. Pay ex $7k a month and alimony for life. Just feel like I'm going to financially struggle the rest of my life. And what women wants to be with a guy who is 48, rents and apartment, is depressed, and financially insecure. I always prided myself on being the provider and honestly want to be…
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/25 07:09 AM
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I lost all my friends, who I thought were friends through the divorce. The few close friends I have are out of state. I have no family here. Daughter is in college and son leaves for college next year. I need to make new friends. I'm not good at that. Spent a year hanging out at bars hooking up and meeting people but realized that's not really where I want to be or the friends I want. They all just want to get drunk and high and if your not into that, your not friend material for them. So hard t…
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/25 07:06 AM
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Yeah. The only thing that has brought any happiness was the 4 months I found a sex machine. Holy hell she was a sex pot. Have Cuban and have Irish. She took me to new heights. After that ended, even more depressed. I think about her more than I think about my ex wife if 20 years. Losing her almost felt worse than the divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/25 07:03 AM
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I enjoy nothing. I still force myself to surf, go to gym, golf, and ski. And the entire time I'm depressed. It's crazy. I used to absolutely love ski trips. Now I just force myself to go and then wonder why I spent all the money to go while still being depressed. Would love a dog but I rent and no dogs allowed. I search meetup groups and nothing sounds enjoyable. Divorce sucked all the joy and happiness out of me. I'm so angry about how my ex has fucked me over financially. Feel like I'm on my l…
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/25 07:00 AM
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Don't let her kick you out of the house. Go back. Tell her that she can leave if she doesn't want to be around you. I made the mistake of letting my ex kick me out until my friends convinced me to go back and I'm glad I did. She has no right to kick you out. And it may backfire on you in court.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/25 06:12 AM
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Haha. Yeah. I went through a weed phase for about a year. It had diminishing returns. It definitely helped me chill out but there's a lot of negative that comes with it. I was temporarily happier when I was smoking and drinking but overall not good for me. Been completely sober for 2 years.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/25 12:55 AM
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Does it cause ED? Did you gain weight? Those are the two reasons I don't want to try it. I'm on a deep depression I can't get out of.
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/25 07:05 AM
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I miss my old life. Had my dream home, country club membership for my golf hobby and social outlet. I work for my ex Dad which is hard. I used to have a sense of purpose that I was helping build the family business now I dread going into work. Although my ex and I were not getting along I do miss having someone around. Also miss not having my kids at home. One is off to college and the there is off to college next year so I was going to lose having to them at home anyway. Now I live in a shitty …
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/25 07:02 AM
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Well if they do than I have no chance to survive financially. I'll go bankrupt.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/25 08:22 AM
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I'm 1.5 years post divorce and still don't see the light.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/25 05:34 AM
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1.5 year post divorce. Not doing good. Depressed and do not see the light at the end of the tunnel. I'm in therapy once a week and may stop. Has not helped. Financially ruined.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/25 04:45 AM
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Did the Zoloft help? Any bad side effects?
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/25 04:43 AM
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My ex wife parents have more money than God too. I pay $7k a month on alimony and child support and she will never get a job. Her parents bought her a $1.6 million home and a car and she's living the dream while she drains me financially.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/25 05:44 AM
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I've been thinking about this. Where did you move? What do you do for work? Are you able to travel back to the US without and issues of unpaid alimony or CS?
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/25 05:38 AM
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She wrecked me financially so I cannot afford any hobby unless it's free. Totally screwed.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/25 01:05 AM
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Learning to forgive you ex is the hardest part when they are still screwing you financially. I don't know how anyone is able to do this when they make you a financial slave.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/25 12:44 AM
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Your advice is terrible.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/25 08:16 PM
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I think I have to wait until my income drops. I'm not there yet.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/25 08:04 AM
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Dude. It's not that easy. Coming from the same guy that said to state that I gave 0 income.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/25 08:03 AM
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Wow. Men are totally screwed. How did you deal with it? Were you angry about it? I'm so angry and resentful towards my ex. I cannot get past it. She divorces me and I be up her financial slave for life. While she's living the dream off her rich parents money while she wrecks be financially.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/25 03:23 AM
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Sorry for the bad spelling. Forgot to correct it before I posted.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/25 03:10 AM
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So I'm on sales. And the last 3 years I make $300k a year. This was because the company put me on salary and my commission on my accounts more than covered. 80 % of my commission was from one account which I just last. The company is now putting me on full commission with no base salary. My annual income could likely be $50k to $75k and will most likely take me 2 to 3 years to rebuild my business. Is to possible the court will adjust my slinky based on $50k to $75 k a year? My pay will be differ…
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/25 03:09 AM
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What the hell does that mean? I've been paying $7k a month in alimony and child support for almost two years. I help my daughter financially who is in college and take care of my son. I'm a good father.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/25 10:37 AM
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I'm not at the point where I can't pay yet. I'm just trying to figure out the worst case scenario. My income dropped significantly. I have to drain what's left of my savings to continue alimony payments. The system is so messed up. And the fact I know need to pay an attorney a bunch of money to try to get it reduced just makes it more difficult.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/25 10:32 AM
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Nobody on here can tell me how long the process will take. My incomes going to drop significantly. Then I'll have to drain my savings to pay her alimony. The entire process so so wrong
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/25 04:49 AM
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If my income drops significantly it is. Trying to learn the process
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/25 02:15 AM
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Thanks
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/25 05:38 AM
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Seriously. Don't care about finances but they what to be a stay at home mom, not work, and when they divorce you they ruin you financially.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/25 09:37 PM
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Were you intimidated by women that make more than you? It's hard to find women over 40 with no kids.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/25 06:45 AM
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I'm in CA. Was married for 20 years and she never worked. Unless she gets married or gets a job, I'll be paying lifetime. She won't get a job because she gets $75k a year from me and her parents are rich. They will step in to give her whatever she wants and needs.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/25 05:18 AM
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You kept your house so that's a win. It's very hard for me to accept that I don't have a home for my kids to come to for the holidays or summer. I don't have rooms for them. Had to rent a one bedroom. I still have to make a lot of money to support their and my exes lives while I have to live on close to nothing.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/25 05:15 AM
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Why do you have to pay for CS after 18?
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/25 05:11 AM
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I'm in the same boat. In CA and stuck with lifetime alimony. My quality of life sucks while she live off of me and her rich parents. When I was married I thought all I was is a paycheck. Divorce did not give me freedom. I'm still a paycheck. O my time I hear from my kids in college is when they need me to pay a bill or need money. I've been divorced for 2 years now and still mad as hell every day. I struggle with SI daily. I go to church, pray, therapy once a week and still mad as hell. I'm so d…
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/25 08:33 AM
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Well, it's a ruin for some of us. Lost half my assets, my house, half my 401k, and lifetime alimony. $6k a month. And have $0 to help my kids through college. I pay their medical insurance, phones and car insurance and still have to pull from my savings each month to do that. Eventually, I won't be able to help them at all. Feel like a totaly worthless loser. Going from a nice home to a shitty apartment while ny ex is living the dream by living off of me and her rich parents. She will never get …
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/25 08:23 AM
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Sorry to say but after divorce they still treat you like a pay check in the form of alimony and child support. I remember my attorney told me once the divorce is final, you just give her a set amount each month then that's it. Your done. I wish it was that easy. If you have kids there are so many expenses that come up even after the child upper is paid. I some needed a new phone and new tires this month. I asked her to use the money I give her to pay have and she refused. So frustrating. I wish …
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/25 05:03 AM
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My wife told me to leave. I spent a ton for hotels. It was a mistake. So I went back home and told her she can leave if she wants. I highly recommend you don't leave your home.
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/25 06:25 AM
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I think every women I in the world will say whatever they think will sting the most when they are mad
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/25 05:59 AM
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I did for 5 months. I ended up having feelings for here and when it ended it hurt more than the divorce from my wife after 20 years.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/25 02:43 AM
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I'm convinced that every women will try to figure out what comments will hurt you the most and say those things when they want to hurt you. My ex told me she used her head and not her heart. Told me she had chemistry with other men but never me. Told me I'm worse than my father. And on and on. I'd like to say the comments didn't affect me but they did.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/25 08:10 PM
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They won't get financial aid because they will look and what I make.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/25 06:15 AM
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It was sold and split.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/25 05:46 PM
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If your going to get out of it in a good financial position you are way ahead of most of us. In financially ruined.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/25 09:54 AM
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Whats wrong with trying ketamine? I tried it it didn't work but there is nothing wrong with it. It was with a therapist and legal. I'm fighting for my life and willing to try anything. I have suicidal ideation every day.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/25 09:51 AM
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I was seperated for 3 and divorced for one year now. She never worked. She just got a part time job as a tennis coach working 3 hours a day 5 days a week making minimum wage. She's not going to look for a full time good paying job because she does not have to. Her parents buy her whatever she wants. I'm in California. So unless she gets a job (the one she has doesn't really make a difference since she pays so little), or gets married I could be on the hook for life. They bought her a 1.5 million…
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/25 07:45 AM
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Sounds great. But I can't skip alimony. There are consequences for that. If I did, I could never go back to the USA again. That's not something I'm prepared to do. I want to be around my kids so I can spend time with them as the grow and start their families. My dad took off on me when I was young and has not been there for me in life. I won't run away and do the same thing to my kids. I say kids but their young adults. Still, I want to be close to experience life with them.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/25 07:32 AM
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What men's activity groups specifically?
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/25 07:22 AM
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I have $240 k from my home sell. I don't think that will last long. Even after alimony and child support there are still other expenses for my kids that come up. My daughter is in college and my son is going to college next year. I'll most likely spend the rest of what I have to support them through college. I don't get people who say your kids are on there own when they turn 18. They still have cars that need insurance, they still need medical insurance and cell phones. And the tuition cost and…
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/25 06:20 AM
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Yeah they are. I've been going to therapy, gym and trying anything to try to get out of my depression and anger. Nothings worked so far. So sick of the constant anxiety and stress. I need relief.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/25 11:32 PM
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I've thought about that. Even though my son is 18 and daughter is 20 I couldn't bring myself to move over seas. I still want to be able to see them when I can. And wouldn't be wise to skip the country and not pay alimony. I wouldn't be able to come back the US.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/25 11:30 PM
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Get a lawyer asap. Like yesterday. Force the sell of the home and spilt the equity 50/50. If you don't have money for the lawyer you can find one that's willing to take you on if you tell them you will pay the attorney fees through escrow when you sell the home. This is what I had to do to retain an attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/25 06:23 PM
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Your lucky you did not divorce in CA.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/25 05:53 AM
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Spot on.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/25 05:51 AM
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My ex soonds like your ex. Your lucky it's only 9 years. I'm in CA and was married 20 years. That means I may end up paying her for the rest of my life. There's no end unless she gets married or gets a job. She will not do either. I'm in financial hell. Been divorced now for 1-1/2 years and I'm still bitter and angry as hell. I don't any to been be alive anymore. I have not been able to figure out how to move on. Meanwhile her parents are very wealthy, bought her a new 2 million home. She gets a…
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/25 05:49 AM
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I've been seperated for 3 years and now divorced for 1.5. I have not done well dealing with the lonliness. Work from home and completely isolated. I'm extremely lonely and feel like there is no point of living if I have to be alone the rest of my life. The first year of Seperation I went out to bars a lot just so I could be around people. That got old. Now I just sit at home in the evenings completely depressed and alone. I hate it. I have two friends but they only invite me out when they go to …
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 10:39 PM
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How often to you see escorts? Sounds like and expensive habit.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 10:32 PM
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3 years
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 10:24 PM
8

Schizophrenia
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/25 06:37 AM
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I'm 1.5 years post divorce with terrible depression and anxiety. Isolated and lonely. I can't see the light at the nd of the tunnel. It's terrible.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/25 12:17 AM
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Yeah. Las time I spoke with my attorney he said to wait at least 3 to 5 years before I try to push the Gavron warning.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/25 11:40 PM
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My ex comes from a wealthy family. She never worked and never will. She gets whatever she wants from her parents and drains me of what she can. And I may be paying alimony for life. I make $310 a year and have to pay here $7k a month. Your lucky your ex is remarried. That means your off the hook for alimony right? The system is fucked. I'm so angry every day that I have to pay her alimony. That's great you have a girlfriend. I'm so angry and depressed and don't think it's possible for me to have…
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/25 05:34 AM
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Meant did.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/25 06:45 AM
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I do have a 4 month situationship with a hit Cuban girl. I was a lot happier during that time. Blow jobs tend to lift my mood a bit
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/25 06:45 AM
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I've been there. I love Argentina. The women are beautiful. And Portuguese has to be the sexiest language to hear a women speak. I dig latinas
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/25 05:02 AM
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Wish yoga and a walk worked for me. I've been seperated 3 years and divorced for one and still have constant anxiety, depression, stress and anger. Even when I force myself to go for a walk or go to the gym my mind is spinning. Wish I could find peace in all this. It's groundhogs day from hell.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/25 04:43 AM
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She's not going to work for here dad. When I asked for her hand in marriage her parents #1 request was that they didn't want her to have to work. And they will make sure if that. She won't have to work for them to get money and some day a huge inheritance. I'm not sure how much cash they give her a month. They bought her a house but it's in their name so technically it's theirs. They bought her a second car but I'm sure that's most likely a company car. Her parents are pretty smart so my guess i…
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/25 12:21 PM
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310k is before tax. Not my take home. 7k comes out of my taxable income. So really have to make like 11k to cover the 7
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/25 12:14 PM
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Yeah. I know it's ridiculous. I work for my ex father in law so it's not an ideal job situation.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/25 08:59 AM
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I make $310k a year. That's sounds like a lot but after taxes and alimony it's not a lot. Particularly for where I live. I could not keep my job if I moved
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/25 08:21 AM
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I'm so angry about alimony payments. $7k a month. Her parents are very wealthy so they give her whatever she wants while she bleeds me dry. She will never get a job. That means I may be in this for life. Terrible. Modern day slavery
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/25 07:46 AM
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Don't leave the house. My ex convinced me to leave and it was a mistake. I eventually went home and told her that if she doesn't want to be around me than she could leave. And she did.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/25 01:54 AM
2

Yes. Killed my self confidence and self esteem. I'm to afraid to date .
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/25 12:00 AM
1

I don't like doing anything alone. And I'm always alone
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/25 06:27 AM
2

Seperated for 3 years divorced for one year. People say it gets better but for me, every day is a struggle. I'm isolated and alone and every day I wake up I don't want to be alive. Tried dating but it's hard since I come across as very depressed. I lay in bed until noon most days, work from bed and home, workout daily and repeat. Like the groundhogs day from hell.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/25 09:06 PM
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