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| 1 | Do you think this Valentino Kohen is legit?I personally love this guy. I would definitely hit you up to go but I live in Tennessee lol. I used his 6 step method pretty much verbatim and got a day 2 with a 10 that turned into more dates and sex. Not only is his game methodology good but his philosophies are pretty awesome as well. He's very similar to what the guys at RSD are doing but he believes in indirect opens. I would highly recommend him. | /r/seduction | 11/12/16 12:00 PM |
| 1 | Need Help/Opinion on next move with foreign girlfair enough, but I'm not going to be able to physically see her for a month. You think if it's going to happen then it will happen and just not stress about trying to meet face to face? | /r/seduction | 11/12/16 11:52 AM |
| 35 | [FR] First approach ever. I never felt so proud of myself.Just try not to fall into oneitis over this girl. Obviously, if things work out that's awesome but since you're new to actually doing approaches and such it's very easy to fall into. If you notice yourself feeling anxious over texting her (she's taking too long to respond/she starts acting different/etc) or overly emotional within the first week or so, try to distance yourself a little. Otherwise, awesome story bro! Keep it up! | /r/seduction | 11/12/16 11:49 AM |
| 1 | How do I avoid oneitis??thanks brotha, much appreciated. I just need to break that threshold of being satisfied with getting one pretty girl. I'll keep working on it. | /r/seduction | 30/10/16 07:21 PM |
| 1 | Advice please! Description of in-field experience tonight.i would definitely agree with all of that, it's always best to just "feel the vibe" so to speak. | /r/seduction | 30/10/16 05:46 PM |
| 1 | Need help! Set up a date for the weekend but dont wanna talk to much over text in fear of running out of conversation during the meet up.bro I totally shot myself in the foot with a tinder date with this bullshit. Don't fall into the "she seems cool, i just really want to talk to her, she's different" trap. Basically just take a long time to text back, which (for me at least) is really fucking hard but it works because if you put in the leg work it creates the "i wonder what he's doing, why isn't he texting me" mentality. which is what you want. but if she texts you a lot (as in my situation) then just make sure you do what IronM… | /r/seduction | 30/10/16 10:24 AM |
| 1 | How do I create more opportunities for hooking up?Watch valentino kohen's 3 part video series of "invisible game" I've seen/read a lot of pick up stuff and this puts everything into a simple 6 steps that if done correctly creates massive amount of attraction. I tried out his method almost to a T and pulled my version of a 10 the other night. That's for you now, as far as creating more opportunities, I think the only way/best way to do that is to go out and do more, preferably in places with a high volume of people. A lot of daygame infield is d… | /r/seduction | 30/10/16 10:17 AM |
| 1 | Advice please! Description of in-field experience tonight.This is going to sound probably very counter-intuitive to what you've heard before but if you want to see what I mean watch season 2 of "the pick-up artist" on vimeo and there's a guy on there that will demonstrate exactly what I mean. It sounds like you have too much energy. Your confidence is compelling and that's an awesome thing you have but having too much energy or self-amusement makes you come off as not socially calibrated. I may be reading this the wrong way but that's the vibe I got fr… | /r/seduction | 30/10/16 10:10 AM |
| 1 | What to do while becoming your definition of attractive?Sounds to me like you should work on your "inner game". While being your definition of being attractive on the outside may indeed take at least a year, you should find out what your definition of an attractive personality is and work on that. The guys at RSD have gone from fit to fat to fit and say that their game is actually better when theyre out of shape so I don't really have much sympathy for you as far as restricting yourself and ultimately it comes down to your inner confidence levels. No… | /r/seduction | 30/10/16 10:02 AM |
| 3 | What kinds of non-verbal IOIs can I give girls?Watch Valentino Kohen's 3 part "Invisible Game" series. It's rather long but incredible info. Not only as a whole but he talks about "The Look" and gives an example of how to do it but basically he looks into the girls eyes and thinks "I love you. I worship you. I'll take care of you forever." and occasionally gives a seductive smirk. Sounds kind of dumb but I did this to my version of a ten and she couldn't resist me. Obviously it was coupled with other things but I noticed that when I started … | /r/seduction | 30/10/16 09:39 AM |
| 1 | Infield report evaluation: can someone just give me some feedback?If the conversation was literally 2 minutes I would argue that you might have jumped the gun a little bit. I mean put yourself in her shoes, girls naturally feel vulnerable, especially attractive ones since there's so many weird dudes out there. You're a random guy approaching her and then ask her to come with you. It was most likely her just putting up her anti-slut shield in a way. She probably thought you were nice, obviously she acknowledged your confidence, but she still doesn't KNOW WHO YO… | /r/seduction | 21/10/16 08:16 PM |
| 1 | How To Be A Man (Movie) With Gavin McInnes is one of the best movies on being an Alpha I've ever seen.I think this movie has very accurate descriptions and interactions of proper Alpha behavior while also pointing out when being Alpha goes TOO FAR. | /r/seduction | 16/09/16 10:07 PM |
| 0 | Tinder game?What's worked for me is a simple "hi, i don't normally do this/im new to this but i thought I'd take a chance" sort of thing, although that can be fake so even a "hi, how are you?" has worked. After that you want to build rapport fast, i find making them laugh (so find out their humor) is the best way to get her to continue a conversation. then after that you want to get the number asap but definitely don't rush it. Tinder, for me, is extremely annoying to use and messages tend to take a long ti… | /r/seduction | 06/07/16 09:31 PM |
| 1 | Needs some books.Get Anyone to do Anything by David Lieberman. it has a collection of psychological tactics that I've seen individually in different places but it's all compiled in one place. | /r/seduction | 26/06/16 03:35 AM |
| 1 | How Having an Amazing Girlfriend Helped my GameThanks man. She's pretty hot....I mean great...lmao | /r/seduction | 25/06/16 07:04 PM |
| 1 | Seeding the dateThe main thing to focus on is creating a connection while face to face. If the girl is not fully into it when you meet she's going to flake. Another good practice is to not make the date too far into the future, it's extremely difficult to keep that connection you've already created if the next time you see her isn't soon after you get the date confirmed. If you can't help but put the date more than 3 days after meeting I would do some light flirting over text. Your way is perfect, the interacti… | /r/seduction | 31/05/16 10:13 AM |
| 1 | Struggling With A Specific Mental Frame"sometime those bad moods will not have a specific and measurable cause, and the only way to go about them is to accept them." Best advice for sure, that's exactly how I feel. It's like I'm improving myself in every area but then suddenly I'm hit with complacency and apathy out of nowhere. | /r/seduction | 15/03/16 03:50 AM |
| 1 | Struggling With A Specific Mental FrameIf that is the case than how do the best at game or the best athletes keep their motivation before they achieve their goals? It's not that I haven't succeeded, it's that I succeed in little bits and start feeling really confident then after awhile I feel mentally tired about pick-up, working out, life in general. I get what you're saying and I agree with you but I just don't think it applies to this specific situation. | /r/seduction | 15/03/16 03:45 AM |
| 2 | Is it possible to recondition your brain significantly?Read "What to say when you talk to yourself" by Shad Helmstetter. The trick is to ACTUALLY PUT THIS INTO PRACTICE. Shad has a great way of implementing his stuff, pointing out that a lot of motivational stuff requires a lot of time and his stuff does not require a large time investment at all. It's helped me a lot with confidence issues on a variety of different levels. | /r/seduction | 13/03/16 09:07 PM |
| 4 | Don't put so much pressure on yourselfThanks bro, needed this. I always stress myself out about not doing enough but you're right, the smallest thing is still improvement. | /r/seduction | 13/03/16 09:00 PM |
| 1 | How can I become more aggressive (slowly)?Start using 'Kino' more. Only do what's comfortable at first and then slowly do more and more as you get better. | /r/seduction | 13/03/16 08:59 PM |
| 7 | How to lower your standarts?Honestly, I don't think you need to change that at all. If you're a dick about it though, you probably should. I remember a movie, I think it's called "beast" and it's like a beauty and the beast thing but the main dude is really good looking but a superficial prick. But having standards isn't a bad thing. Why would you want to go for something you don't find valuable? Why lower yourself? Maybe I'm just superficial too so I'm defending you but a lot of times I feel like it's not worth it to go f… | /r/seduction | 13/03/16 08:57 PM |
| 2 | [Help] College parties 101I go to college in TN and I'm originally from MI and I broke up with my long term gf to come here so I put in a lot of effort to get outside my comfort zone when I first got to college. I would sit in the lobby of my dorm and just talk to people walking in/out, the desk assistants, when a hot girl would walk by I would go with her onto the elevator and make small talk and as soon as she would get off, I'd go back down and do it again. Basically what I'm saying is I put in a lot of work to get ou… | /r/seduction | 13/03/16 08:50 PM |
| 2 | [Help] College parties 101This is my second year in college and I faced the same anxieties about parties when I first came here for similar reasons to your own. Since my first day on campus I have gone to a lot of parties and here are my answers to your questions: 1. Find people in the know about parties, it's not weird to ask where the party is on the weekend. Doesn't mean they have to be your bestfriends but definitely good to have at your disposal. 2. As far as clothes, the safe route is to go super generic. vans/sper… | /r/seduction | 13/03/16 07:23 AM |
| 1 | I'm not entirely sure I want to be an "alpha".Yeah I think "alpha" is often paired with the typical high school quarterback or James Bond. I've found I don't resonate with either of those personalities and when I do I'm incongruent and unhappy. I think the most important thing is to be "alpha" in the sense that you're not afraid to show your true colors and let the real you shine rather than masking it with superficial BS. And that's where the confidence comes in for sure, for example I LOVE Dragon Ball Z and if questioned I will tell you h… | /r/seduction | 13/03/16 06:52 AM |
| 2 | Is improving yourself, changing yourselfI've had this conversation numerous times and this is how i explain it as it relates to me: "In high school I was a pretty good wrestler. But I wanted to be the best. I realized I couldn't be the best if all I did was go to practice after school during season. So I joined a club that trained year round. I lifted weights year round. I even found competitions to enter in the off season. When the next season came back around I woke up early and lifted weights, went to practice after school, and som… | /r/seduction | 12/03/16 03:39 AM |
| 2 | How do you maintain a strong frame when another guy comes into the set?So true, when you act like everyone is your friend (not in a naive way) than people are attracted to that and want to be a part of it. Obviously, if this new person is actively trying to sabotage you then it is time to do something but if not just be happy another person is adding to the fun! | /r/seduction | 12/03/16 03:21 AM |
| 1 | A few exercises for having stronger charismaGlad you like it! The best time to do this (for me) is in the shower or while I'm getting ready in the morning. And it's always the 2 ME's where one is the insecure one that still has issues and the other is the optimistic, everything is great version of myself that I truly want to be. It's like I'm my own motivational speaker and coach! I actually stole this concept from a book called "What to Say When You Talk to Yourself" by Shad Helmstetter, he has other great tips and effective methods of i… | /r/seduction | 16/02/16 05:21 AM |
| 3 | Mental trick to talk to girls I find attractiveI literally do the same thing hahahaha | /r/seduction | 16/02/16 04:28 AM |
| 2 | How I went from being a boring pushover to becoming a confident guy dating fun women. I hope this helps someone!This was AWESOME!! Way to go bro! Feels so good to see somebody with the nothing to lose mentality! You overcame SO many obstacles physically and mentally and did it sounds like you're really LIVING and not just letting life pass you by. This was great to read, keep it up! | /r/seduction | 16/02/16 04:27 AM |
| 9 | A few exercises for having stronger charismaI don't get why people are commenting with such hate, this stuff is GOLD. A practice I've been using lately is "Self-Talk" which seems ridiculous but has had very awesome results. I start by asking myself (outloud) how I am feeling about the day or about X activity. Then I respond to myself (outloud) and begin a conversation and try to be as honest as possible. This process usually starts off by me#1 being pessimistic and I talk about all the bad, and if I am not being honest with myself outward… | /r/seduction | 16/02/16 04:20 AM |
| 1 | [FR] How I Fucked It Up, Literally and then Figuratively.Yeah, basically just the idea of "let her chase you". Rereading your post you honestly did everything right, even the M&Ms wasn't necessarily a bad move. I think the biggest part of where you messed up was texting her after she didn't reply the first time. I don't know what it is about women but I've come to learn that, at least with a new 'relationship' (I don't want to give it the finality of a real relationship so i'll leave quotes) that the double text is repulsive. It has to be one of the w… | /r/seduction | 16/02/16 04:00 AM |
| 3 | [FR] How I Fucked It Up, Literally and then Figuratively.Unfortunately I think she probably just didn't feel the same. I'm in college as well and had a similar situation with a tennis girl (ironically enough). We spent the whole night together and in the morning she offered to make me all this food but I had to go to work so I couldn't. When I tried to hit her up she was nice and flirty but I never got back to that same connection I had felt before. Honestly though, it seems like you did everything right. I have a theory that in order to turn a one ni… | /r/seduction | 09/02/16 02:09 AM |
| 1 | [FR]0 to 100... back to 0. Biggest learning experience I've had so far.Nice!! I had a similar situation myself, things were amazing and then I kind of stopped "gaming" and being more sentimental and the girl totally shut me down. Girls are fickle like that sometimes but that's AWESOME you got so much out of it! | /r/seduction | 02/02/16 02:51 PM |
| 1 | Why so the vast vajority think approaching girls is creepy?I had one friend who thought it was the weirdest thing that I was into this stuff. His mindset was "If I'm into a girl and I think she might be into me then I might make a move". I like the guy but didn't go out of his way to pick up girls and was frankly scared. Another friend thought it was the coolest thing and said if he didn't have a girlfriend he'd join me. It's all in perspective, if a girl says it's creepy that you came up to them than it's one of two things: 1. You are being creepy i.e.… | /r/seduction | 21/01/16 02:38 AM |
| 10 | Inexperienced guy going on a date - how to change mindset and just have fun?A long time ago an old piano teacher once told me when referring to playing at a gig, "if I suck, they hired me. I'm still getting paid, it's their fault they didn't do the research." Think about it like that. Don't be outcome dependent, think of it as "if I'm myself and she hates it, it's her fault she's on the date, she said yes." Be self amused. | /r/seduction | 11/01/16 06:15 PM |
| 1 | Dance this weekendThat's a good question. One that I've honestly spent a lot of time thinking about lately so forgive me if this reply is long. To start, in high school I was a pretty quiet kid. My best friend was this obnoxious loud mouth that most people didn't like because he would overstep the boundary of humor into just being mean. Because of that, most people asked me why I was friends with him because I seemed like a nice guy and this guy was an ass. Honestly I just thought he was funny as hell. Anyway bec… | /r/seduction | 09/01/16 05:28 AM |
| 1 | What to do when you're competing with another guy for the same girl?This reminds me of a video on the 21 convention by Nick Sparks. It's a little lengthy but there's a lot of great content and Nick is a very entertaining in his presentation. So here it is, Cheers: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b-a1jXgAsQI | /r/seduction | 05/01/16 12:40 AM |
| 2 | Dance this weekendI have been there my friend. After constantly being the guy that watched all those big booties grind on the undeserving crotches of my adversaries, I took it upon myself to study what was going on. I asked as many as my friend-girls that I could what the solution is to this. The answer is so simple it made my head spin. ASK THEM TO DANCE. Literally, that's all you have to do. I went to a club over spring break and there was this BANGING girl there that I later found out had a boyfriend (who wasn… | /r/seduction | 05/01/16 12:32 AM |
| 3 | Not making girls feel shittyWhat I'm about to say is going to sound incredibly shallow and slightly fucked up. Don't ever count out pick-up when it comes to a girl you actually like. I started getting into pick-up about a year ago and since then I've become a whole different socialite. I'm much more comfortable with new people and flirting is now a fun challenge that I'm not afraid of. With that being said, over this past summer I met this girl and I thought to myself "She is cool, I shouldn't have to game her because we c… | /r/seduction | 05/01/16 12:22 AM |
| 1 | Fr daygame day #16 Cold approach, rejection in an awkard wayFirst this was hard to read, not sure if you're first language is english but I had a hard time deciphering this but I want to help. It seems like you did everything right, especially considering that you talked to her for over an hour, she was definitely into it. I assume that you probably were too indirect with your game which caused her confusion when you asked for her number. You should have that man to women conversation and not be afraid to show her that you find her attractive and want to… | /r/seduction | 05/01/16 12:05 AM |
| 2 | Lets say you really have no super-passionate hobby but do have time/money. What hobby or social circle niche should we learn that has womenObviously this would be a risk but you said it yourself "yoga is something I'm interested in" that's your reasoning. Also like I said it has proven health benefits. As long as you're balsy enough to take the risk and then make conversation it shouldn't be that much of a problem if you reframe the situation in the girls head. Julien from RSD talks a lot about this idea of reframing. For example, if they say "you must be a hornbag, why are you in this class?" You could respond with "I may be a hor… | /r/seduction | 11/11/15 07:06 AM |
| 17 | How to game shy girls.Great post! I used to date this shy girl and she would do exactly that! I was cocky funny at first which got her intrigued and then asked her out and we ended up having a lot of in depth conversations and stuff. Gaming was almost too easy because she wasn't that typical club girl that needs you to "prove you're an alpha male". I could do things at a much lower energy. This is a very accurate post! | /r/seduction | 10/11/15 06:47 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Gym PickupWell currently I'm in TN but if I ever go there sure haha | /r/seduction | 10/11/15 06:40 AM |
| 1 | Epiphany: always remember that there is a world within each personLoved this, I came to the same realization not too long ago and not only did it help with anxiety but it also helped with conversation skills and being genuinely interested in seemingly mundane topics that others are passionate about. | /r/seduction | 09/11/15 06:44 AM |
| 2 | [FR] Gym PickupHell yeah I'm 20 and in college but don't have anyone to game with so I have to get motivated via reddit posts haha or I'll just get complacent. | /r/seduction | 09/11/15 06:40 AM |
| 2 | [FR] Gym PickupHELL YEAH! Great FR man, I love the cocky funny bit, it reminded me of some shit I would say. There's a lot of good stuff in here, love the description of the eye contact too. Way to go stud. | /r/seduction | 09/11/15 04:22 AM |
| 1 | "Approach random girl, don't give a fuck" works, guys!! It fucking does!!That's awesome! Way to go brother! | /r/seduction | 07/11/15 02:18 AM |
| 1 | Is silence ok?Ok so most of these comments give genuine advice, but may be a little advanced for where you are and some of them don't produce anything constructive at all. So in your case, since you are "completely alien to women and flirting" you should probably read up on the beginner posts so you have some knowledge of basic game. To answer your question, yes you probably are coming off as strange because you think you are. You have to perceive yourself as the most interesting guy ever which is called "inn… | /r/seduction | 07/11/15 02:15 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Fools Mate Swedish College GirlOh yeah I forgot to mention the fact I had been kind of out of practice for awhile and this was a good start to getting back into the swing of things. | /r/seduction | 06/11/15 05:52 AM |
| 1 | NEGS ARE EASY (Advice for Beginners)Haha that's a good one, I've used similar stuff. I love it it's total self amusement! | /r/seduction | 06/11/15 05:49 AM |
| 1 | NEGS ARE EASY (Advice for Beginners)Ok obviously I have some tact. It's not like I do this to the point of being obnoxious. I posted this because some guys I talk to are completely beta and are like "oh that's SO cool" to everything a girl says. As a girl you should notice that when a guy gives you a playful challenge it becomes more of an "attraction dance" if you will and it makes the conversation more fun. At least personally when I talk about my life I am always more apt to pay attention to a girl that gives banter rather than… | /r/seduction | 06/11/15 05:49 AM |
| 1 | Need help in college situationThanks, I just didn't know whether it was a good idea or not to game on campus because my campus isn't huge so I might see these girls in future classes but you're right. | /r/seduction | 05/11/15 03:54 PM |
| 2 | Lets say you really have no super-passionate hobby but do have time/money. What hobby or social circle niche should we learn that has womenYoga, there are proven health benefits to stretching on a regular basis. | /r/seduction | 05/11/15 03:03 AM |
| 1 | Need help in college situationThanks man, I've been neglecting being active in game for awhile now because I'm just so damn busy but I went to some parties on Halloween and it kicked me back into the pick up mode. I have met people at the library, in class, the student union and such but there are a lot of times I see 10s chilling waiting for class in the hallways or walking across campus and i'm like damn I want to open but I don't want that reputation as the "pick-up" guy. But this advice helps, and you're right, that guy … | /r/seduction | 05/11/15 02:55 AM |
| 1 | Need help in college situationThanks CapnBen, I just know this guy that talked to a bunch of girls his first 2 years here and then changed schools because he got that "player" reputation. This dude was douchey anyway and also only talked to girls in one circle but I just didn't want to have a similar thing happen to me if I do take that leap. | /r/seduction | 05/11/15 02:43 AM |
| 7 | I keep getting out-talked by......everyoneI have been there and know EXACTLY what you mean. Growing up my bestfriend used to do this to me ALL OF THE TIME. What I have seen Mystery do is jokingly say "aaaaannnndddd back to me" and then continue with what he was saying. There is also a video by Nick Sparks where this kind of thing happens and he says to "Become their biggest fan" meaning, if your conversation gets interjected and this new person is now the focus of interest just follow along with their story and be as enthusiastic as the… | /r/seduction | 05/11/15 02:38 AM |
| 0 | This stupidly simple line got me two makeouts...Solid line, I'll have to use that! | /r/seduction | 05/11/15 02:24 AM |
| 1 | High school cold approachyou have to find a way to earn their respect. high school guys are more or less focused on masculine values as far as respect goes. so if you can charm them by learning topics they're interested in and talking about it with them you'll be straight. For instance "did you see the game last night?" then talk about the game. Or say "holy shit have you seen this video?" and show them a viral twitter video. again it's all about how you can add value to their group. You have to make yourself a person n… | /r/seduction | 05/11/15 01:15 AM |
| 1 | How to interact effectively early in the morning?Usually when I'm tired as shit I just let my self amusement run rampant and just spout random shit that I think is funny i.e. puns, sexual innuendoes, showing people vines/twitter videos I think are funny and then after a little bit I usually feel better because I was silly and got out of my own head and "into state" as some people call it. Another thing you could try is to go to bed sooner and wake up earlier. I know ugh waking up early, but I've done this and I follow a morning routine that ta… | /r/seduction | 04/11/15 07:37 AM |
| 1 | High school cold approachOk so to put things in perspective I am now 2 years out of high school and the majority of my relationships with girls at that time was based off of social circumstance i.e. i was an older/self proclaimed attractive guy on the track team and the cute younger girls would look at me and then from there it was all about having the balls to talk to them. This isn't really satisfying though when you look at the all the 10s that are your age and you are dating a 7 that is younger. Anyway, It wasn't un… | /r/seduction | 04/11/15 07:24 AM |
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