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| 6 | I think I’m done boysBrother, your worth is not defined by someone else. Don’t play into her hands. The way you are giving up is probably what she hopes for. Your kids need you now more than ever. We understand how you feel. Most of us had our very darkest days. When you are going through hell, keep going because you will come out on the other side a lot better. You will be able to smile again. You can lose all material things but don’t lose your kids. God be with you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/06/26 12:41 PM |
| 5 | I Read Your Divorce Stories for a Year. Now I'm Living Mine.I will suggest separation prior to divorce. The divorce trend these days is pathetic. Marriage is hard work. There are seasons when you can’t stand each other but when you have kids, their welfare should be paramount. It is sad that we have a throwaway culture where if your computer is not working, you replace it, if your phone has a problem, you replace it and if you have a problem with your spouse, you replace her. Since replacement seems to be the easier option, very few work to keep relation… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/06/26 09:06 AM |
| -2 | Has anyone here ever successfully reduced or removed their spousal support? Trying to find positive experiences to give my dad hope. (Oregon)I’m sorry your dad is going through this. He needs mental support more than anything else just like you guys seem to be doing very well. Not many things can beat down a man as much as divorce. From what you said, his representation during the divorce must have been subpar. He definitely got a bad deal. He needs a bulldog/bare knuckle attorney this time around. Take no prisoners approach should be the mantra . He can’t live the rest of his life stressed out. Good luck! | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/06/26 06:20 AM |
| 12 | Wife having affair while we have 2 young kids. Trying to stay calm and protect 50/50 custody/assets. Advice from people who've been through this?If you own an LLC , and you pay quarterly tax , prepay your taxes. You can pay IRS $100,000.00 if you can afford it. The will refund your LLC next year as overpayment. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/05/26 10:44 PM |
| 5 | Wife’s Having An Affair.Most of us have been through our own personal experiences and the advice you get here will be geared towards acting immediately. However I am of the opinion that you take a step back, gather your emotions and be methodical. Firstly secure your finances. I cannot overemphasize this. It could take 3 months, 6 months or even a year. Make sure you stack the finances in your favor. Home equity line, giving your brother a ‘loan’. Repaying money you ‘owed’ to your momma. ‘Losing’ some money in Vegas or… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/05/26 05:24 AM |
| 6 | I just want to off myself. I can’t anymoreMay the Lord be with you. I will say a prayer for you. Psalm 23 is my favorite bible chapter. The Lord is your shepherd and there is nothing you shall want. Trust in Him. You will get through this. I kneel down every day and let God take control. He will pull you through. God bless you. Amen. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/04/26 03:19 PM |
| 6 | Finally……Goals in life,earning ability, interests, educational attainment, religious beliefs and political beliefs. Must not be identical but generally similar. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/03/25 01:40 AM |
| 11 | Finally……For most of us men, marriage is “till death do us part “. I was willing to endure all manner of disrespect just to keep the family together. For me , my four children were the best gift I ever received. I would be as cordial as possible for the sake of the kids. Infidelity destroys the foundation of marriage. I could have paid more attention to recognize that she was unhappy but I thought everything was just fine. Filing for divorce is the most selfish act someone can do when minor children are … | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/25 11:42 PM |
| 3 | Finally……For a marriage to be meaningful, both parties must be equally invested. If she has checked out, she is unlikely to be back. As tough as it may seem, you have to envision life without her. Unfortunately, women punish you for any sign of desperation or weakness. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/25 10:45 PM |
| 3 | I’m dating a man going through a messy divorce, he has three kids (tweens and young teen). I can’t figure out if I’m just convenient or if we have a future.Honest opinion: Most men in the thick of things are still not in the right emotional space to commit to anyone. The pain of divorce is still fresh and you don’t want to be a rebound or a place holder. Whenever men have their kids 50% of the time, they maximize the interaction and time with their children and commitment may not be high on their list. Divorce really causes an awakening in men regarding female nature and not many are looking at marriage or LTR in the same manner as they did decades… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/10/24 12:23 AM |
| 6 | Social media infection.👊 | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/10/24 07:31 PM |
| 5 | Do you divorce if there's no attraction left because your spouse aged like milk?Personally, I’m a catholic christain. I married in the church. My sentiment above is my personal belief. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/10/24 02:52 AM |
| 14 | Do you divorce if there's no attraction left because your spouse aged like milk?For better for worse. For richer or poorer. In sickness and in health. Till death do us part. This should mean something. Men give up their happiness for their families. Marriage is a covenant between you, your wife and God. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/10/24 02:29 AM |
| 5 | Did you regret getting divorce?I regret the agony that we are putting the kids through. I regret the fact that she is so cavalier about the situation. I regret the fact that she destroyed our family. Could I have changed some things on my part? Absolutely. She found it easier to take the divorce route because she is getting cash and prizes. No real consequences for her other than not seeing her children half of the time. I put up with a lot of things over time just to ensure stability for the kids. No infidelity or violence w… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/10/24 08:20 PM |
| 3 | Peace vs loneliness.Thanks for your input. Unfortunately I see a contentious co parenting arrangements in future. She can be vindictive and never apologizes. I’m praying that she finds love with her boyfriend so I can move on in peace. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/10/24 12:45 AM |
| 2 | Peace vs loneliness.From my perspective, keeping the house is much more important than cash or 401k. The memories, stability for the kids and family tradition trumps money. We have been here from the very beginning. She has chosen her path. I wish her well. Thanks for your input. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/10/24 10:18 PM |
| 2 | Peace vs loneliness.I hear you. After so many years of dedicating your life to your family, being single can feel weird and overwhelming. Will hopefully take it one day at a time. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/10/24 09:56 PM |
| 4 | Peace vs loneliness.We agreed that I’ll keep the house. She gets monetary compensation. She doesn’t want the house. I’ll keep it for the kids. We are fortunate that there are enough assets to go around. My main concern is to have a soft/manageable emotional landing for me and my kids. The kids are getting a golden retriever for Christmas. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/10/24 09:42 PM |
| 5 | Peace vs loneliness.Thanks bro. Our circle of friends and family believe she is having “a midlife crises “. She had it so good that she took everything for granted. She was living life on easy mode. Despite the fact that she had an income which is significant, she never had to pay any bills. Her money was for her and mine was for everyone. I was okay with that arrangement because I’m old school and believed in my duty to provide for my family. I only wanted peace and respect. My deal breaker is infidelity. I really… | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/10/24 09:35 PM |
| 3 | Peace vs loneliness.You may be right. Cheaters whether male or female are utterly selfish. Sacrificing your family for some butterflies and tingles. Marriage should be about commitment and duty. It may be boring but again what do I know. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/10/24 08:02 PM |
| 10 | Peace vs loneliness.It’s crazy how as a dad, you work hard to provide for your family. You are just content to see your family thrive but your trusted wife blows up everything. Some of us don’t even know how to be selfish. We live vicariously through our children. I feel kind of lost without them. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/10/24 07:30 PM |
| 1 | Temporary settlement agreement vs final divorce decree.Thanks a lot for your perspective! | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/08/24 10:06 PM |
| 1 | Temporary settlement agreement vs final divorce decree.Thanks bro. I appreciate your perspective. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/08/24 02:11 PM |
| 2 | Temporary settlement agreement vs final divorce decree.Living in the same house has become difficult. She has not agreed to the my offer of spousal support. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/08/24 12:36 PM |
| 8 | Getting divorce over having a kidDo you want to be in a situation where you have a child and you will not be able to spend time with the child due to a divorce? At her age, she wants a child because of her biological clock and not because she wants you as a husband. If you split, the chances are that she will find your replacement quickly to get her pregnant. At this stage, you are likely just a sperm donor. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/08/24 05:54 AM |
| 5 | Due to a sense of duty, some husbands are the guards of their own prison.According to Trotto Law Firm, 34% of lesbian marriages end in divorce, which is higher than the 16% divorce rate for same-sex couples overall and the 19% divorce rate for heterosexual couples. For many same-sex couples, the divorce rate is less than that of heterosexual couples at just 16%, as compared to 19%. However, that low number is reflective of gay marriages. Unfortunately, lesbian marriages have a higher likelihood of ending in divorce, with 34% of these marriages ending. Do we blame men… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/08/24 09:25 PM |
| 6 | Due to a sense of duty, some husbands are the guards of their own prison.The phrase “bare minimum “ exposes how some “modern “ people view relationships as purely transactional. By the way single men get more sex than married men. Unmarried men are adults and do their own cooking and household chores. You don’t need to be married to be a functional adult. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/08/24 05:38 PM |
| 14 | Who do you put as "emergency contact"?I’ll rather put my local Walmart greeter than put my stbxw. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/08/24 08:24 AM |
| 2 | Due to a sense of duty, some husbands are the guards of their own prison.In the Bible, God led the isrealites from Egypt to the promised land. Moses parted the Red Sea and also they were fed with manna and quails. On the way to the promised land, the isrealites kept grumbling and even wanted at some point to go back to Egypt. Despite the difficulties and ups and downs, the Lord through Moses took them to the promised land. Between Egypt and the promised land was wilderness and you don’t want to continue wandering in the wilderness. Freedom is not usually guaranteed a… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/08/24 04:15 AM |
| 1 | Due to a sense of duty, some husbands are the guards of their own prison.Thanks for your insight. Very well put. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/08/24 04:00 AM |
| 1 | Dating but not officially divorcedEmotions are still not settled during the divorce process. Getting involved with another woman is not my cup of tea. This is a period of introspection and personal development. Another woman usually brings chaos in the peri divorce period. Most women looking at divorced men are usually people that target you for what you can provide and looking for a soft landing in life. If you must get entangled with another woman, first secure your finances in a trust or some other financial vehicle. Make it … | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/08/24 09:18 PM |
| 7 | Need advice as I find it extremely difficult to ask my wife for divorceGo to counseling and work on your marriage. I think it’s still salvageable. You have kids. Divorce is rough. Vows are meant to be kept. When there is intractable infidelity and physical abuse then divorce can be an option. Good luck. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/08/24 01:48 PM |
| 5 | HelpSorry you are going through this. I feel that way sometimes. I am slowly beginning to understand that not everyone will be reasonable under this circumstances. Learn to not care about what people say about you. No one is perfect. You will soon get to know the people that truly care about you. Focus on yourself and the kids. Divorce is rough. Women get more sympathy generally regardless of the role they played in the marriage. This too shall pass. Good luck. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/08/24 01:43 PM |
| 4 | How do I deal with the guilt of leaving my wife who is vulnerable because of a single mistake.Sorry you are going through this. This forum has been extremely helpful. However most of us have gone through very difficult situations with our wives. Opinions may be skewed towards telling you to get rid of her. I think you should try everything possible to fix your marriage. Divorce is the very last and nuclear option. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/08/24 01:15 PM |
| 5 | Loneliness/ Dating appsHonest question: Do people actually meet organically these days or is everyone condemned to dating apps. I’m a bit old school and I sometimes don’t see the difference between hookup on dating apps and going for an escort service. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/08/24 03:17 AM |
| 3 | What are my options?Have you tried counseling or therapy? Divorce is the nuclear option. How will your kid be affected? Good luck in your decision. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/08/24 03:28 PM |
| 8 | My marriage is no longer viable, but divorce will ruin me financially. Am I trapped?Sorry you are going through this. Personally, I’m an advocate of trying everything possible to save your marriage except in cases of intractable infidelity and domestic violence. Divorce is not fun especially when children are involved. At the end of the day, it’s a very personal decision. Good luck! | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/08/24 01:37 AM |
| 7 | No Love or Feelings for herSorry you are going through this. For some reason I always hear about wives “kicking out “ their husbands. I never hear about husbands “kicking out “ their wives. Is it because we have been conditioned to accept abuse? SMH. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/08/24 03:53 AM |
| 3 | What’s the best place to spend a week worth of vacation during a divorce?If wildlife is your thing, I suggest visiting the Serengeti to witness the migration of the wildebeest to the Masai Mara in Tanzania East Africa. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/08/24 03:08 AM |
| 6 | “It’s better to die on your white horse than to fall ““Where have all the good men gone And where are all the gods? Where's the streetwise Hercules To fight the rising odds? Isn't there a white knight upon a fiery steed? Late at night, I toss and I turn And I dream of what I need I need a hero I'm holding out for a hero 'til the end of the night He's gotta be strong, and he's gotta be fast And he's gotta be fresh from the fight I need a hero I'm holding out for a hero 'til the morning light He's gotta be sure, and it's gotta be soon And he's gotta … | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/24 01:56 AM |
| 7 | “It’s better to die on your white horse than to fall “Sometimes the stability for the kids makes the need for sex less important. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/24 12:28 AM |
| 3 | “It’s better to die on your white horse than to fall “Very well said. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/24 11:47 PM |
| 19 | “It’s better to die on your white horse than to fall “My stbxw only needed to be less argumentative, kind and enjoy the ride. All bills were paid but I guess I was very predictable and boring. I’m far from perfect but I tried my best. I even put up with a dead bedroom for over a year. I was willing to bend over backwards just for the kids sake. Greed and lust must be the biggest sin. I’m trying to let go to get through this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/24 11:12 PM |
| 1 | Question? Older children making choices.I really appreciate your perspective. As the kids get older, I believe I’m in a better position to guide them regarding their education, college choices and maintaining stability especially for my sons. It is easier for a man to raise a son. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/08/24 07:30 PM |
| 2 | Question? Older children making choices.Thanks for your reply. I’ll not mind paying her support even if I have the kids most of the time. I’m the one that helps the kids with homework, teaching my 16 year old to drive etc. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/08/24 12:12 PM |
| 2 | Question? Older children making choices.Thanks. I’m hoping for the same. I will be the best dad I can ever be. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/08/24 12:05 PM |
| 1 | Question? Older children making choices.Thanks for your input. Is it possible for them to spend more time with one parent without a court order assuming both parents live close to each other? | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/08/24 11:48 AM |
| 13 | Do you regret getting divorced?Still in the thick of things. She filed. I regret the effect on my kids so far. I regret getting married to her. I was naive in my thinking. I ignored so many red flags. I hung around for too long. I made so many compromises that nearly broke me. I endured so much in the interest of peace. I hope for a brighter future. Wishing everyone that fate has brought to this sub the best. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/08/24 08:35 PM |
| 1 | Found the love of my lifeThere are many ways in my opinion that you can take care of someone that doesn’t involve money. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/08/24 05:34 AM |
| 4 | Cheating, infidelity, deceit.Thanks bro. I’ve been through a lot in life but nothing compares to this in terms of emotional pain. Fortunately, no storm lasts forever. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/07/24 10:51 PM |
| 12 | Cheating, infidelity, deceit.From now onwards, I will start doing things that I enjoy and not have to worry about her opinion. You only live once. I plan to visit as many countries as possible now that I’m able to. I will take each of my kids in rotation. No more spending on crap we don’t need. You will think that she will be happy since she filed but she is very resentful and grumpy. It’s like she was infected by a virus causing resentment and hatred. She is so pissed off that I don’t appear rattled by the divorce. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/07/24 05:29 AM |
| 3 | Cheating, infidelity, deceit.Thanks man. I strongly believe in the law of retributive justice. I was faithful to her throughout our marriage. I had the means, opportunity and ability to sleep with most women in my sphere of influence but I believe in the sanctity of marriage and I never gave in to temptations. She is still the mother of my children. I wish her well. I hope we are all healthy in future so she can experience the consequences of her actions. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/07/24 02:48 AM |
| 5 | Cheating, infidelity, deceit.In my jurisdiction, alimony is not a guarantee especially if she has an income and a decent amount of assets awarded to her. I’m leaving the technicalities for my attorney to figure out. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/07/24 02:38 AM |
| 15 | Cheating, infidelity, deceit.No need for STD test. We have not had sex for at least 12 months. I’m trying to finalize the asset division and get a divorce decree before going public. I don’t want to piss her off or complicate things. Playing the long game. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/07/24 02:03 AM |
| 5 | Cheating, infidelity, deceit.Thanks. I’m working with an attorney and my accountant. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/07/24 01:29 AM |
| 17 | Cheating, infidelity, deceit.Thanks. Getting a new special someone is not at the top of my list. I believe I can get whoever I want if I put my mind to it but for now, I’m not mentally ready. I may have been too nice and predictable that my stbxw found me boring. My strategy is to be my best self and have the right person approach me. I believe I’m the prize. I’m not chasing any woman anymore. They have to pursue me and prove to me they are worthy of my time. I provided a lifestyle that she dreamed of. No real money worries… | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/07/24 01:27 AM |
| 3 | Cheating, infidelity, deceit.For me personally, the biggest setback would be the time I would lose with my kids. Knowing my stbxw, she would blow through her cash and prices sooner than later. She hates budgeting and has a love for Louis Vuitton purses. For me alimony is the wild card. We are in negotiations right now. Child support is not negotiable. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/07/24 12:32 AM |
| 5 | Cheating, infidelity, deceit.I prefer to keep the primary home because I’m confident that my kids will gravitate to me eventually. I put in blood, sweat and tears in it. This is where they grew up. It is supposed to be my forever home. She can have the 401k and rental. Fortunately for me there is enough money and material possessions to go around. I’m focusing on sentimental value and what gives me sense of accomplishment. Also she can’t afford the mortgage of the primary residence but the rental is free and clear. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/07/24 12:19 AM |
| 3 | Cheating, infidelity, deceit.Fortunately, she doesn’t want the primary home. She prefers 401k and rental property. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/07/24 12:00 AM |
| 7 | Found the love of my lifePersonally, for me to ever consider marriage again, she must: Be humble and God fearing. Must have a net worth much higher than mine. Must earn more than me. Must not have social media presence. Must not have or want kids. Willing to let me take care of her. Not prone to arguments. Not overweight. Be a naturally happy and content person. Again must allow me to take care of her. No tattoos or piercings in unusual places. Must be a unicorn 🤪. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/24 08:43 PM |
| 3 | What are the top things that you don’t missIt’s a control issue. How dare you be happy and relaxed when she is miserable. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/24 02:23 PM |
| 11 | Who's my emergency contact now?!?I’ll ask my local Walmart “greeter “ before I ask my stbxw. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/24 02:19 PM |
| 12 | What are the top things that you don’t missHaving to wait hours for her to pick out clothes and get ready for any outings. Never ending Amazon deliveries. DoorDash, Uber eat, grub hub. Her aversion to budgeting. Air of resentment whenever you are trying to relax. Her appearing pissed off whenever you are hanging out with friends or watching a game on 📺. Worrying about her ever changing mood. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/24 11:41 AM |
| 7 | Struggling with STBXW’s glow-upSorry you are going through this. Focus on yourself and what you can control. Ignore whatever she is doing. Be the best dad ever. Diet, exercise, weight loss, nice haircut and improve your wardrobe. This is a marathon and not a sprint. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/07/24 11:33 PM |
| 3 | Talk Me Out Of It BoysSorry you are going through this. First of all, focus on your mental and physical health. Be a great father to your children. Do not get back to your stbxw. Set your girlfriend free. It is too early to start dating. Take a significant amount of time to let your self heal. A lot of self reflection will be of benefit to you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/07/24 11:19 PM |
| 1 | Talk Me Out Of It BoysOUCH! | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/07/24 04:22 PM |
| 3 | Stay or divorceSorry you are going through this. The word narcissist is used so commonly these days that without context, it loses its meaning. Have you tried counseling? Will it be worth it for you to lose custody of your children as you suggest? Divorce is a very very difficult process. Only you knows what is best for you. Your kids need you in their lives. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/07/24 03:21 PM |
| 5 | Wife happiness above kids stability and happiness. Your thoughts….I make about 85-90% of the family income. She is not responsible for any bills in the house including mortgage, utilities, school fees groceries etc. Her money is for shopping on Amazon, ordering DoorDash and paying her cellphone and car insurance. I never really complained but my effort was never enough. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/24 02:15 AM |
| 2 | Adding new s/o to the will?Does your girlfriend have a will of her own? In the event she passes before you, what will she leave for you. Does she have a life insurance that you are the beneficiary? Nothing totally wrong in my opinion with leaving a little bit of something for your girlfriend but only you knows how much she means to you. Do you have a good relationship with your son/daughter? If so, your child deserves to be the primary beneficiary of your estate. Put yourself in your child’s position and imagine if your d… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/24 10:11 PM |
| 3 | Financially, how difficult is/was it?Roger that. My stbx is offering to move out because she already knows she can’t afford the mortgage and taxes. She wants to move into our rental property that is fully paid off. I don’t mind because I believe the kids will ultimately gravitate to our primary residence which I’m happy to keep and pay for. In a community property state and she is requesting 50/50 custody and parenting time. Wishing you the best. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/24 02:29 AM |
| 3 | Red flags in possible future wives!Green flags: Must be God fearing. Must have similar net worth and earnings. Must be willing to discuss and execute prenuptial agreements. Must get along with my kids. Must be willing to stay away from social media. Must not be overweight. Must be intelligent and able to engage in different topics of conversation. Must love me more than I love her. Must not be a feminist Must be willing to let me lead and not be argumentative. Must believe in traditional gender roles. Must be a unicorn.😉 | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/07/24 12:15 AM |
| 26 | She has HIVSorry you are going through this. First of all, any patient with HIV for ten years and not on antiretroviral drugs will have the immune system weakened over time due to increased viral load and decreasing CD4 count. Is she taking medications that you are not aware of? Get to your PCP and check those tests. If she had it for ten years and not taking meds, and you are both sexually active, then you are at increased risk. Get tested again. Conclusion: Her story doesn’t add up. She got infected rece… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/07/24 11:31 PM |
| 3 | Someone enlighten meA vasectomy should be a serious consideration for anyone that already has kids going through a divorce. It helps eliminate future headaches. All my resources both current and future are for me and my kids and not any new woman and her kids. Guys protect yourself at all times. Baby entrapment is still a thing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/24 12:25 PM |
| 15 | What is one line or quote you can share to help fellow divorced men?"You cannot start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one" — Michael McMillan | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/07/24 12:55 AM |
| 8 | Just discovered long affair while on vacationSorry you are going through this. I will suggest you play the long game. Start with your finances. Put money away. Reduce your earning and stop any overtime work. Make sure your income is reduced to the minimum you need to pay basic bills. Contact a lawyer and discuss possible financial impacts. If you must file, wait for about 12 months. In the interim, interact with your wife as you will normally do. Surprise is your best friend. Do not make her think you are going to file. Again play the long… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/24 01:23 PM |
| 3 | Did you date during your divorce? How did it go?Dating during divorce is usually a coping strategy for a lot of people. Getting through the divorce process is handled differently by different individuals. Being transparent regarding your intentions is key. Getting a third person mixed up emotionally in the process can be messy. Many people benefit from a period of introspection and reflection before they start to date again. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/07/24 03:29 PM |
| 0 | True friends .Focus on the message and not the messenger. AI, google, Wikipedia and the World Wide Web are all great resources. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/07/24 04:13 AM |
| 0 | True friends .Friendships can provide emotional support, companionship, and shared experiences. A friend is typically someone who: Cares about your well-being: They are genuinely interested in your happiness and welfare. Supports you: They offer help, encouragement, and support during good times and bad. Spends time with you: They enjoy your company and make time to be with you. Respects you: They value your opinions, feelings, and boundaries. Communicates openly: They are honest and open in their communicati… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/24 10:44 PM |
| 1 | My Ex wants to adjust her income to $0 on CS calculatorWow, she already has three kids and found a guy to marry her and get her pregnant after 3 months. Some breed of guys out there. Friend, do all you can to spend the most time with your kids. They are always greedy. You seem to be on the right track. Listen to your attorney. Good luck. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/06/24 01:43 PM |
| 1 | Discovery vs trial vs settlement conference. Question?I have a meeting with my attorney tomorrow. I am going to gather as much documents as I can. They are asking for up to 5 years of statements, pay stubs, taxes, insurance, expenses, kids school expenses, bills, home appraisal, car payments, insurance on cars, everything. Most of which my wife can also provide. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/05/24 11:06 AM |
| 2 | Sounds crazy but I will do it again . Would you?She knows about it. My lawyer says I can’t make changes until divorce is final. I plan to split it into four equal parts for my kids. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/24 03:33 AM |
| 1 | I wish someone would tell me what to do. I’m going insane.Try and work it out especially if you have kids. Divorce is difficult. If you are absolutely hesitant about divorce then proceed with extreme caution. Get your ego out of the way and sit down with her and have an honest conversation about your future. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/05/24 08:37 PM |
| 2 | Dating a person with little to no net worth at age 40?Don’t just run but disappear. It still amazes me how after going through divorce, a guy will be dating a woman that has put a fellow man through what he just experienced. For me, absolutely no single mothers regardless of the circumstances. They are strong, independent and self sufficient. They can do well with child support and alimony. You have to know your worth and build some self confidence so that you can attract women with less baggage. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/04/24 03:46 AM |
| 1 | What is "normal" amount of time dads have their kidsMy kids are teenagers and don’t need much babysitting. My 14 year old son is my buddy and golf partner. My girls are teenagers. I just love their presence all the time. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/04/24 01:15 PM |
| 1 | What is "normal" amount of time dads have their kidsOP knows the answer to his question. No woman, and I mean no female in the world is worth giving up an extra second with your kids. Again stop having kids if you are not ready for them. I will do anything to have my kids 100% of the time but 50% is all I can get. Get a vasectomy. Never move in with a woman. Get yourself solid financially. Get your own place and focus on your kids. No more “my mom’s place “ or my “girlfriend’s place “. I’m on your side OP but stop appearing pathetic. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/04/24 12:23 PM |
| 1 | Wife is financially and emotionally abusive. How do I get out?Respectfully, I think marriage vows are no longer taken very seriously. Both of you make decent income and you should find a middle ground. Focus on your income and don’t worry about how much she earns. Your family can live comfortably on both your income. Talk to her directly and address your concerns. Divorce should be a last resort. Good luck. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/04/24 06:47 PM |
| 1 | ConfusedMy sincere take is for you to sit with her and directly express your concerns. Both of you should try every possible way to save your marriage for the sake of your family especially the children. If things cannot be resolved then at least you tried. Divorce sucks. Sometimes you second guess yourself. The process brings out a lot of resentment. I just completed the parenting class yesterday. Just the thought of seeing my kids only half the time eats me up. Good luck to you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/04/24 02:05 PM |
| 2 | Help me out here guysThanks for breaking it down. Very well articulated. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/03/24 09:09 PM |
| 1 | Trying to stay positive.Over the past couple of years I have always talked to her and pacified her whenever she threatened but last month I told her to go ahead and file. I don’t think she expected that response. For now I want to organize the finances and brace for impact. I have a lawyer appointment next week. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/02/24 01:46 AM |
| 1 | Trying to stay positive.I guess there is a playbook. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/02/24 12:52 AM |
| 1 | Trying to stay positive.She hates budgeting. I pay all the bills including mortgage, utilities, childcare care, insurance etc. Her money is for her to spend on whatever she wants. I don’t mind if only she appreciates that without complaining. She also expects me to help do housework etc when I get home very tired. As for the phone, we had a family plan which she cancelled and got her separate plan. I don’t have access to her phone or the people she calls. Any of her free time is spent on social media. She moved out of … | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/02/24 12:13 AM |
| 1 | Trying to stay positive.I’m in the process of getting the finances together. Very important for me. We have considerable assets that will be bone of contention. I live in a 50/50 state for assets and kids. I believe my peace is worth more than her getting half. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/24 11:56 PM |
| 1 | Trying to stay positive.Very sobering. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/24 11:18 PM |
| 1 | Trying to stay positive.I really appreciate this. Thanks for sharing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/24 11:16 PM |
| 1 | Trying to stay positive.I pray so. My kids sense that things are not as they used to be. I feel very bad being yelled at in their presence. The person I have now is very different from the person I fell in love with. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/24 10:05 PM |
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