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Not me... I agree
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/26 11:41 PM
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A couple deer. Animals were cute. Her asking about life affer death as we walked alone at dusk in the woods was not cute
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/26 06:56 PM
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I just need to find a woman with the last name, Crandall
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/26 05:14 PM
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That was about 25% of Nikkis story too The best part was she was telling me how she always wanted a mixed race baby... Mind you. We are both white. I was like "I dont think im the right guy for that" After i ended it. She had her friends stalker calling me and sending me threats about "how many women did you give your number to this weekend!!!"
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/26 05:12 PM
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Online dating is the pits... from my experience. Another example was Shelly We were texting then she sent me a pic of how she currently looks. Her profile pics. Super cute blonde woman. Reality. 100 pounds heavier and full on grey She then ranted about being on permanent disability. How she was sex trafficked as a kid. And how she cant stand guys like me who have the world at their feet (????). No idea where that even came from She then apologized a day later. And when I didnt message back right…
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/26 05:10 PM
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I paid for whatever the best subscription was. I waited to see who swiped right on me and then id swipe left or right on them. Many led to DMs... many did not.. I had about 400 swipe rights in my first week. I matched with 100 of them... and of those 100... 60 DMd with me (way too many). Then it evolved into texting and phone convos. I went on maybe 12 dates with diffetent women
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/26 05:02 PM
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I mean, I did go on some good dates as well. Many were not matches not due to being crazy but our lifestyles didnt match. Kids for instance. Young ones. On Tinder I paid for the better access package so I could see who swiped right. I had about 400 in the first week. Felt flattered and was a giant ego boost forsure. I am seeing someone now... and.. I met her by chance when out with ny friends. All those Tinder and Hinge matches led nowhere. But the woman i met in person by chance... was the one …
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/26 04:58 PM
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Tinder for most. I could go on for hours about some of the strange DMs I got after matching.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/26 04:52 PM
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Ya... she kinda was now that I look back. She was hott AF... but a bit crazy. I think all Nikkis are
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/26 04:51 PM
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Tinder for most. Janel was Hinge
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/26 04:49 PM
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You'll find something when you least expect it. Trust me. I paused the dating app and when I went out to dinner with some friends I started to talking to the host at this restaurant. Turns out she wasnt just the host but the director of operations for the operating group that runs like 5 restaurants in the area (higher end). She was filling in. She gave me her number when I left... and.. we are now "seeing" each other. A successful woman, my age, who has no kids and totally clicks with me. We bo…
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/26 04:48 PM
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I am seeing someone now. Shes pretty damn incredible and for the first time in a LONG time I feel happy and actually trust someone. We clicked so well from the first time we talked. We will see where it goes.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/26 04:43 PM
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I just couldnt do it. Having been cheated on myself... it felt weird. And I get it. Its something he allegedly wanted. She wanted the first time to be just her and me... and I just felt strange. I mean, what if she was lying and this was an affair? Id never become the person I hate. And even if it was consensual.. I wasnt having issues finding women to hook up with and I didnt want to get involved with someone like that.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/26 04:41 PM
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Ah the "you go girl" group Filled with women who think women can do know wrong and actively insist women going after men half their age is a power move... Is what it is... along with cat ladies
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/26 07:40 PM
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Awesome. Your dumb ex just decided to take 40% of what you both would have got and give it to lawyers.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/26 01:42 PM
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... shes a flight attendant You know exactly what is going on
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/26 01:39 PM
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Aka. Some guy at your job is giving you attention and youre looking for validation so you can leave your good husband... ir go have an affair... if you haven't already.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/26 01:37 PM
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Wait till she finds out I got a free trip to Disney and asked this new woman to go with me since it's a plus one.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/26 02:15 PM
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I can guarantee her friends have zero idea about her habitual cheating either She probably blamed it all on me and yup... using this as a "see!!! Look at him!!!!" Her reason for her last affair was amazing "I cant get over you acting depressed. You couldnt get over the people I F'd... so im done"
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/26 06:52 PM
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Oh totally. So she can go show her "friends"... and show that I am a giant D Bag. And when I say friends. Its coworkers. She has no real friends.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/26 05:17 PM
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My sister even said "i could tell from ber text she was jealous AF" I just think its hilarious.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/26 03:58 PM
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Alimony is a crock. Encouraging people to sabbotage marriages so they can get a payday every month.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/26 11:48 PM
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She cheated so... she is getting 0 alimony (per NC law and also per our seperation agreement). Our son was over 18 so zero in child support
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/26 05:59 PM
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Really appreciate it. I know i married the wrong woman. We got pregnant and I tried to do that right thing. She wanted to work part time. I worked two jobs. One was construction. Busted my butt. She was sleeping with another man during this time. Dragging out son along to his house or tossing him in his bedroom. I worked my butt off. Got another new job. She did it again with 2 others guys. All of which I found out over a decade later. Im sure there is more. I worked my butt off. Moved up the co…
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/26 05:38 PM
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Get this. I even said after all I went through. "We can still be friends".. It was more for my sanity and not wanting to deal with stupid drama Her response "Maybe... in time" Wait a minute!!! You! The woman who had sex with other men IN MY BED... and couldnt stop cheating throughout the marriage... thats your response!!!!????
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/26 03:52 PM
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Ive been treating myself since this happened. I make good money (250k a year in a medium COL state). Her new guy... maybe makes 50k Im living in a upscale luxury condo. Shes in a crappy apartment with street parking. My new job just got me a BMW for a sign on bonus. New jewelry. New watches. Brand new furniture. Been on a bunch of dates. Working out daily. Traveling for work. Even booked 2 new vacations for this year.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/26 03:26 PM
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I think a lot of Therapy loves to put equal blame on both parties. And its left leaving the victim worse off. But therapy is a business. Get them both thinking they messed up and that both need it. Its like selling a car. You dont just sell it to the husband. Make sure the wife knows she needs this vehicle too.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/26 03:21 PM
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Its always a matter of time You end up hating yourself for staying
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/26 03:19 PM
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And thats the thing with mine. Some days i was down (can you blame me) but I still put forth the effort. Date nights. Making dinner. Intimacy. Gifts. Her excuse for this last one was largely because I didnt seem "happy enough" when she got a promotion I was like "surprisingly you with flowers... a bottle of wine.. and lobster... wasnt me being happy for you!!!" She acted like it should have been a 2 week long celebration And I found out about this because she was constantly on her works Team mes…
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/26 02:52 PM
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I have no doubt my exs life will be similar. Its hard not to compare myself to this new guy... and the comparison baffles me. Its like they are too dumb to realize... the charming kind words and shoulder to cry on... is just to get in their pants. The majority of the time... the thrill disappears quickly and the entire thing ends. And now youre left with nothing but the ashes of your failed life.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/26 02:35 PM
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Some women yesterday on the divorce group said shed cheat too if her husband didnt use her vibrator on her. Flip that. If a guy cheated because his wife didnt go down on him... you think that woman would sympathize with him? No chance.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/26 02:30 PM
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Time. Its all about giving yourself time and grace. Thats it Youre going to be a mess for a bit. Angry. Sad. Desperate. In disbelief. All this. But remember... you dont want her back. Shes sitting there screwing some loser (they always have affairs with guys lower) and leaving you with a mess. Thats who she is and you are so much better off not being with her. Trust me. She'll cheat on her new chump of a BF one day too. Remember all she was, was a crappy life lesson you learned.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/26 05:43 PM
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So... I went through almost exactly what you are going through My wife was a habitual cheater and I found out 3 years ago what she had done throughout our marriage. She cried. Swore she changed. Begged me not to ruin our sons life by throwing her out. So I tried to reconcile Guess what. She did it again. With a coworker. I found out because she was using her work messenger to sext this loser. Months of saying that she loved him and when i found out. I said "so you never changed and your throwing…
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/26 05:35 PM
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Well. The other lawyer needs more money. Drag it out!!! Isnt it amazing how we have to get a lawyer because they got a lawyer and in the end... the majority of divorces end with the lawyers getting half... when in the end, if both parties could be mature.. they'd end up with more
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/26 07:40 PM
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Dont get me wrong. I still get my moments. But they are fewer and further apart. I remember how after I left that day. She got in my truck and went somewhere (we know where) right after I jumped on a plane. I would get angry... but I let it flow over me. I realized that its how awful of a person she is, and isnt a reflection of me. I then remember how she makes crap money. Now lives in a crappy apartment. And has been ghosted by her son. Maybe shes happy with all that... maybe shes not. I just s…
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/26 03:36 PM
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Its going to be based around how much you make. If you make 40k a year. Its going to be a lot less then if you made 150k. Is the divorce... based on infidelity? I ask because NC is one of the few states that gets it right. You cheat. You may not get any alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/26 07:57 PM
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Our divorce is happening in NC and we both signed a sepersrion agreement drawn up by a lawyer. She waived alimony (she cheated and in NC youre not entitled to alimony if you cheat) and we split everythong else 50 50. If you guys are amicable. Maybe its a discussion to have where you can be adults and figure it out. Id stress that if you go the court route.... youre looking at tens of thousands in lawyer fees... and in the end... will probably have the same type of outcome if you both just sat do…
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/26 07:55 PM
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Not from me. She admitted to having affairs early in our marriage. I found out 10 years later. We did therapy. Went on dates. Tried to start over due to us having a son. She then had another affair. I got up and left. In the midst of a divorce. Reconciliation can happen but it depends on what happened. If its cheating.... it typically always ends with a divorce. The one couple I know where infidelity happened and they are together... he looks bad. Their marriage is bad. No one looks happy.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/26 01:14 PM
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Chirping birds
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/26 08:00 PM
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Those poor guys
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/26 12:51 AM
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Let me guess... you live alone with a cat and spend your days on reddit hating on men. Good luck
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/26 07:59 PM
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Im seeing this new woman and all those bad things that happened with my ex makes me really appreciate what I have now. My ex... she was a slob. She was gross. She dressed like a teenager from the 90s. She was awkward to talk to. Shed never take pictures with me and rarely would even show affection in public. The woman im with now, we went to a family event last night. Pretty formal. And... wow. When she got to my place. From her dress... tan... makeup... hair... my jaw nearly hit the floor. I co…
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/26 07:27 PM
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I got you beat My habitually cheating ex wife blames me for the broken marriage because... I WAS SELFISH. Ah yes. The husband who worked his butt off and put you in a 3000 square foot lake home... a brand new Lexus every couple years... expensive jewelry and multiple vacations a year... A guy who stayed with you after you cheated rhe first time... and didnt throw you to the curb. Who then you decided to cheat on again with another coworker 3 years later and blamed me this time because I was depr…
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/26 06:42 PM
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Had my last in person contact about 3 months ago Found out she had an affair. And I left. Hopped on a plane. We talked a few times. She moved out. I came back and sold the house. Havent seen her in 3 months. Havent talked to her on the phone in over 2 months. She will text me things. Business like things. Here and there. But I know I will never see her again in person. And... I'm very happy that way. Never want to see her. Regardless of the reason for us splitting... the best way to move on is w…
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/26 06:02 PM
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I think a lot has to do with women being envious of other women. The Instagram lifestyles they see. They also see their partners at their worst and they envy that begining relationship feel where the endorphins are flying. You also have the divorced women being little chirping birds in their ear. Telling them to leave their husband. They are the old woman from Great Expectations. Lastly. I think is as a society has empowered women to destroy marriages because the courts do favor them in almost e…
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/26 03:58 PM
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Spinster cat women
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/26 01:47 PM
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Then she told me that her mom wanted her to have mixed children. Im white. Shes white.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/26 03:59 PM
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She also brought up the subject of having my vasectomy reversed.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 07:05 PM
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Mike used my depression as the reason she cheated. Oh the depression i was in because I had learned about you cheating before and I hated my life being with you? Ya. She cried the first time saying she changed. They never do
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 05:22 PM
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3 days after I left. Texts saying "goodnight hun" And "say hi to mom and dad"... because i flew home to spend some time with them. Then last week shes telling me about her grades in college... She and many of these women are emotionally stunted. Especially in how they justify cheating as just them seeking emotional validation from other people because they apparently dont get enough at home.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 05:21 PM
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So I went on a date with her. Went really well. She ended up coming over and we made out. She refused sex on the first date, which i respected. We slept in my bed, my old marital bed together, she was naked. Our 2nd date 2 days later, she came over and made dinner. We got drunk and we had sex. She got on top and was SCREAMING... like.. more than anything youd see in porn. She kept pogo sticking on me up and down.... screaming "F&CK!!!!. F#CK ME!!!!!!!!" it was such a turn off that I acted like I…
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 09:50 PM
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Well. If you want a hilarious story of the first time after marriage. Let me know. Its amazing in how awful... stalkerish...it was. I hid at my neighbors one night when she tried to come over
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 02:57 PM
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Ya. Shes absolutely nuts. Her inability to even see how she and she alone sabotaged the marriage and our family is almost hilaruous if it wasnt so sad. Her saying "its hard to trust you" was the chefs kiss of narcissistic behavior
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/26 07:49 PM
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TRT was a life changer
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/26 06:07 PM
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One thing I will say about the apps. It can be a bit of a meat market. Im lucky because I am a decent looking guy. Im 6 foot 3. In shape. And make good money. I got plenty of questions asking if my height was real. What I do for a living and even what type of car I drive. The biggest draw seemed to be my vacation pics. Europe. Caribbean. Beach. Im not an idiot. I know the vast majority saw me as some well off guy with no little kids and someone who makes money. I could tell who those women were …
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/26 02:07 PM
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So man, Ill give you what worked for me. My ex was a habitual cheater. Found out 3 years ago and tried to reconcile. 3 months ago, she did it again. 3 years ago I was down. Depressed. I couldnt move on from these feelings. And then when she did it again... that depression was what she used as her reasoning to cheat again. Rich stuff right? But heres the thing. She was right in that the last 3 years, I was wasting my life. It was a great slap to the face. I was wasting my life being depressed and…
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/26 12:46 PM
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Both were paid. I liked the increase visibility of being able to see who liked your profile
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/26 11:38 AM
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Fancy car. Nice clothes. In shape. Decided to be the Nic Cage from the beginning of Family Man as opposed to the other version
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/26 12:50 AM
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I got like 500 hits on tinder and 100 on hinge in like a week
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/26 12:48 AM
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My son cut her out
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/26 02:30 PM
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I think the most sad thing ive seen is men... years later... who cant get over their cheating ex I did not want to be them. I focused over the first few weeks of getting into mindset that she will not hurt my life anymore. And that means I need to fully disassociate myself from her. Surround myself with goals and also fun.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/26 02:25 PM
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Yup. It was a good night
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/26 04:20 AM
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2nd week of my new job. Got my new company car... a new BMW... to drive around And going to hang with my new GF a bit too.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/26 09:28 PM
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But is trying your best waiting to the 11th hour to surprise her on the final day of your marriage with the "i love you and ive changed... please dont do this"
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/26 09:26 PM
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100% Especially after 2 years. He hasnt moved on and therefore there is more work to be done. I wouldn't be shocked if she told him she had plans after they sign. Aka.. celebrating it finally being over with friends or someone she is seeing.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/26 09:17 PM
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Go one step further. What if she tells him shes with someone? Not only did he get rejected. But now he knows she is completely moved on and likely sleeping with someone else. That will destroy him. Stay friendly. But not friends. Wish her well and move on. 2 years and he has to move on with his life. There are so many great women out there and if he truly worked on himself... there will be a lucky person out there for him.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/26 09:07 PM
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And when she likely says "no" How are you going to feel after putting yourself out there like that? Honestly. When our papers are ready to be signed. Im going to be real "I still have love for you and always will. I wish things could have turned out different but going forward there is no need for us to ever see each other."
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/26 08:57 PM
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Oh I did. I gave it back to her big time. Said all cheaters are trash and she needs to stop involving herself in people's business. She cuts hair for a living. Shes not a therapist. Then she started crying and pulling all this narcissistic crap.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 05:56 PM
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"Women cheat because they do not get what they NEED from men". I said "you just leave. You dont cheat. Cheaters are scum" "No. That is the way women are!" "So women are tramps?" That was an example of the back and forth
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 04:39 PM
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Best part. I had dinner plans with my mom, and my sister and her family refused to leave. So I couldnt take her. It was just him and I. So we had a good talk
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 04:14 PM
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I jumped in and thats when she flipped it at me
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 02:23 PM
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Exactly why every state needs to be like NC You cheat... you get NO alimony. Its ridiculous that someone can sabotage a marriage and then get paid.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 09:55 PM
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Relax
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 09:54 PM
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The way the system is set up for deadbeat spouses is ridiculous. They need to start looking at fault before just going "give her half your pay"
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/26 09:40 PM
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Gotta love it. Deadbeat spouse + government not wanting to assist = F your money
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/26 09:39 PM
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Delete them.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/26 09:29 PM
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Delete them. Its strange. Go watch porn if you need something to look at
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/26 09:23 PM
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She never really existed. Just remember that. She thought marriage was what you were supposed to do... but that wasnt her. She wanted to have sex with other men. Not you Tough talk man but move on. Youre better off and thank God you didnt get an std. Dont mourn someone who wouldnt mourn you
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/26 01:03 PM
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She cheated. Multiple time After I found out about the first stuff. I fell out of love but stayed for my son and hope. She did it again.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/26 11:50 PM
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Exactly the same thing here. Every friend, family member.... even my son.. said they couldnt beleive i settled for such a tramp. She was a 4 / 10 at best. Not to mention a terrible mom, uneducated and poor.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/26 10:52 AM
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Every. Time
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/26 05:50 PM
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I didnt know until later. She did this... in 2010 snd 2013. She came clean in 2023
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/26 07:12 PM
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Nope. Not a chance. Not a chance in hell
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/26 03:02 AM
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On my way to the airport I chucked it out the window
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/26 10:08 PM
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Becauae our first year she did communicate but it eas all fake. Shed do the same things with her affair partners. But as those affairs dwindled likely because she was crazy... I ended uo getting her pregnant and stuck around because of my son. I was also young. 22. And dumb
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 10:24 AM
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My ex never communicated. Ever. No feelings. No nothing. She kept things bottled in. To talk to her even before I knew of the cheating, was like pulling teeth After the cheating, anytime I wanted to talk, shed either do chores (the only time she cleaned) or shed turn any feelings i had around on me. She would only open up to men she cheated on me with and she admitted during counseling it was her way to start an affair with someone she liked. So disgusting. Because shed make stuff up to bind wit…
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 10:19 AM
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5+ years? I know everyone is different but that does seem like a long window. Obviously kids or your career may be the priority, which is great. My advice is to take it slow and worry more about communication. My biggest mistake with my ex is we had awful communication, which was hard for me since she was a habitual cheater and its hard to be open with someone who did that.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 10:12 AM
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Reminds me of this. Stewie Griffin: Well, you wanna know what I learned this week? Being a grown-up sucks. Women, Brian, what a royal pain in the ass. It's like, it's like why can't you just hang out with guys, you know, just live with someone of your own sex, just do what you do with women, but with your buddy. You know wha, why don't guys just do that? Brian Griffin: They do. It's called being gay. Stewie Griffin: Oh, is that what gay is? Oh, yeah. I could totally get into that.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 11:54 PM
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If you saw her apartment complex.... its already started
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 10:34 AM
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For me, im looking for someone who is juat a genuinely good person. As far as body or how hot they are, compared to my ex. Honestly. It wont be hard My ex, she was cute when we got together but marriage changed her. She got fat, with a large gut. She had no boobs. Snaggle tooth. Her fashion sense was awful. She did lose some weight due to glp1... but her skin was saggy and her face was showing it. Bad breathe. And she always picked dead skin off her really ugly feet She did have a nice smile tho
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 10:32 AM
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Sounds perfect
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/26 10:00 PM
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Have them make her a card.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/26 09:57 PM
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My mind aint all here today. Not really understanding
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/26 07:22 PM
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My ex cheated at least 3 times. Probably more Wasnt her fault tho. Hell, she wont even tell anyone what she did outside some real close friends. And even they say that it wasnt her fault. Its because I wasnt what she needed emotionally. Apparently. All my fault. My fault she did it in my bed when my son was in the next room. My fault. Always my fault. Ya. She had a tall, handsome, muscular husband who supported her through life. Good career. Educated. Handy. Cooked. Cleaned. Did everything inclu…
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/26 06:48 PM
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Very similar.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/26 11:59 AM
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20 years. 16 married
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/26 11:35 AM
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Sure sounds like it. Gonna have to sell
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/26 07:38 PM
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I think its obvious. People want to explore. No longer tied down. Feel like they are making up for years of loyalty to the wrong person Unless youre a cheating pos.... then they were always doing this
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/26 12:29 PM
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Its all legally handled as far as alimony. We live in NC. It bars her from seeking alimony due to her cheating on me. I have the proof and also she did it at work... and sext on her works Team platofrm to him. She has a lot to lose here. We also have a lawyer drawn seperation agreement. Signed and notorized by both where we both give up any rights to alimony now or later (she apparently still wants to go to med school). All assets have been divided minus the house, which is up for sale
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 01:00 PM
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Oh my sweet summer child
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 04:22 AM
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Oh. Be their father. Then they treat you like you are. Rebelling. Hating you for being "controlling" Ya. You dont want that
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/26 04:38 PM
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Shes dead. End of story. Mourn and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 09:31 PM
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Sounds like proof to me
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/26 09:28 PM
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She cheated on me multiple times... Zero chance of reconciliation since she already has her BF
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/26 05:36 PM
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I get that. Unfortunately its apart of who we are and probsbly important for any partner to know... eventually. But when its fresh the relationship will be about the ex and not the now
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/26 05:30 PM
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Im a unique person when it comes to this. I found out about the affairs 3 years ago and tried to work on myself and this relationship. I lost a lot of weight and.. im in amazing shape now. Cleaned my diet up and finishing my MBA. I stayed because I wanted my son to graduate and for us not to have a split house. Once he went to college I knew it was going to end and I was waiting for the other shoe to drop with her. I knew shed do it again You marry a wh0re... you marry a wh0re. 2 weeks in and im…
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/26 12:38 PM
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2 weeks and 1 day here. Ugh
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/26 11:14 AM
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In NC due to a statute. Shes entitled to zero for alimony. She signed it away as well jn thr agreement. But I agreed to her getting more on the front end to keep her happy. In the end. She has affair fog and is also scared that I know she had an affair with a coworker and also I have proof that she used their teams messenger to sext each other.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/26 09:59 AM
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Saddest part. With her previous affairs. Karma found her You think getting cancer the year after would be a wakeup call. Or a near fatal wreck.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/26 10:21 AM
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He asked why she took his bedroom set I told him the truth. For her. Its her new bed. Put 2 and 2 together on what that does to a kid
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/26 10:00 AM
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Neighbors right now.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/26 09:59 AM
1

Im a dude. So check yourself
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/26 12:25 AM
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Yes. Subjecting them to a broken marriage is smart
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/26 09:16 PM
1

For men who care more about themselves then their children. Time tested? Just stop
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/26 06:47 PM
1

Because your advice to screw up the children even further. Its gross
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/26 06:47 PM
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People need to consult an attorney. Not you
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/26 06:37 PM
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Its bad advice. All around.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/26 06:36 PM
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Because its also not possible in many states. Look up laws in NC. You cant live together and divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/26 06:28 PM
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Some places you cant do this. NC is one. You have to be in seperste residents for the clock to start counting down.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/26 06:28 PM
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The tuesday night... our last night as a family when this all was unwinding He knew something was up. We were talking for hours in our bedroom and he had no idea about what. He was scared. When we came out.. He asked her. "Mom, are you cheating on dad again?" She said "no, I swear on YOUR life I am not" He replied "mom, if you are lying to me ill never forgive you" We sat there in our theater. Wife and I drinking a bottle of red wine as my son told me how, me, his dad had the most amazing persev…
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/26 11:15 AM
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Sounds like she talked to a lawyer or had what I call "a little birdie chirping in her ear" (female friend who is living vicariously through her) Someone got in her head that she DESERVES more. More time with the kids and namely.... more money from you. She birthed those kids. She raised them while you got your career. She sacrificed everything and held this marriage together!!! You know that is what she was told. Dude. If you can talk to her, maybe try one more time. When the wife and I split, …
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/26 09:13 AM
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The trick is... ride the waves. Somedays will be fine. Others will be rough. Dont fight it. Embrace it and really look at why youre feeling like that. Id recommend Journaling. I started to write down whst our marriage was and when the going go tough. Id go read my thoughts. It made me realize that I was missing attachment. Not her.
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/26 12:39 PM
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100%. Left my wife because she was a cheater and... as much as I could destroy her life. It would also destroy me and our son. Its better to work on yourself. Get through it. And be the best you can be.
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/26 11:37 AM
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Honestly. She grew up trash. Her parents were trash. Her sister was a serial cheater. You know the saying... you can take her out the trailer park but you cant take the trailer park out the girl.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/26 06:41 PM
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You say yours was trying to trade up. Whats your opinion on this? Im not Brad Pitt but im not ugly. Im tall. Muscular. I have my MBA. I make six figures. Id take her on vacations around the world. Buy luxury cars. We lived in a large house in a very very nice area. Id love spending time with her. We'd cook together. Go shopping. Watch movies. We had our dogs. These are things going through my head when I see the guys she hooks up with... arent any of that. Looks are subjective but all of them ha…
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/26 01:51 PM
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Honestly. The waves of emotions have been crazy. I felt bad for her when I realized her 2400 monthly salary wont cover her rent. Car payment. Expensive insurance. And everything else. But not anymore. I hope she fails. I hope she crashes and burns. SHE DESTROYED ME THEN BLAMED ME! I wish the worst. And once our house is sold. I dont want shit to do with her. She is fine not even talking to our son!
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/26 06:38 PM
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Trickle truth totally. "What are you talking about. Nothing happened" "Hes just a friend. Nothing more" "We talk. Thats it" "Ya. He gave me a hug" "OK. I care for him. But just as friends" "Ya, there might be feelings but I'll turn them off! I can do it" "OK. We kissed. Thats it" "It was a one time mistake. I'll cut off ties i swear" "Yes. We did it was more than once. I dont know how many times. But you werent there for me emotionally! This is your fault! We love each other but arent in love!"
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/26 02:12 PM
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Ya. I discovered my wife had emotional affairs. And then the trickle down part happened and it turned out she slept with them all I didnt want to beleive it. Thought it could in no way happen. Its just texts. Its nothing more! Ya. A coworker. Same with my wife, at least twice. I stuck with her for another 3 years after I found out and... I finally left when it happened. I hated myself for those entire 3 years. Dont do the same man.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/26 02:05 PM
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Too long. Embarrassingly long
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/26 05:47 PM
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Such as our dogs being split up. That in there she has to give me first dibs on the dog shes taking if she decides she cant keep her. I will also get the principal back for the payments I make starting next month. She will not seek alimony or any spousal support once the agreement is signed. Stated CC balances and how if either party uses rhem after the separation date the difference will be subtracted from their portion of the house equity.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/26 01:26 PM
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What do you mean
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/26 12:56 PM
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I am. And it is.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/26 07:18 PM
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Yup. I dont want that mess. My work doesnt have health insurance so im on hers still. So is my son. That would fuck us both over. She probably has in her mind that I always have this option. She doesn't realize the ramifications about all thst could happen and why I wouldnt likely do it.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/26 06:40 PM
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I am
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/26 05:49 PM
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We could make this hard and id end up with more. But I just want to move on. This was never about saving myself from losing money. Its about making this clean. Making myself less stressed. And moving on with my life
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/26 04:15 PM
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Ita not a shitty downgrade at all. This gives her the better deal. She gets whatever she wants in the house. Keeps her retirement (I have none). Cash is split 50 50 minus one saving account that she will fully get. She gets her car which I will do a few payments on until shes established in her apartment. She actually walks away with about 77k more than me.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/26 04:01 PM
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For me right now. Its hanging out with family and keeping myself busy
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/26 02:57 PM
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I get that and im tempted to. The problem js my work doesnt offer health insurance and I need to be on hers. She gets fired and im screwed. Same with my son
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/26 12:10 PM
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Yup agreed. I will say this about my wife. She couldnt mentally handle this going to court. She shuts down emotionally when the smallest thing happens. Im talking shes a zombie. I do think also there is more thats She not telling me. She used her Microsoft teams account at work to message him (he works there too) inappropriate items. She was even googled how long the retention period is for data. Ive seen some of the messages and it could cost her job working for a hospital corporation. The only…
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/26 12:02 PM
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She doesnt have a lawyer. She doesnt want one.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/26 11:24 AM
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So the lawyers i talked to said in NC there is a law about infidelity and alimony. That if a party cheats they cannot receive it. And also NC is 1 of 2 states where I could sue the guy.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/26 12:50 PM
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