So the wife and I have talked a few times since splitting. And each convo has been great. Splitting everything 50 50 and Im not touching her 401k. She is agreeing to carry me on her health insurance until the divorce is finalized. Cars. Dogs. All accounts. Sale of house. And so much stuff was put into the agreement. I found a great lawyer and she and her team said they were absolutely disgusted with what I have been going through and they wanted to make this quick, safe and secure for me.

Yes. I gave up some things on the front end but the back end protection is key.

I wont get into details. But my wife. Ex wife i guess. She makes so little money and the debt she agreed to carry over (like her car payment. Her insurance after the policy expires)... she basically will be short each month by 1500 bucks. Minimum.

She right now is walking away with 14k in cash and whatever we get from our home sale. Could be as low as 30k for her side.

Me on the other hand. I will have zero debt and my parents are fine with me living with them until im on my feet. Not to mention im interviewing today for a new role that pays about 200k a year. I always made good money but she doesnt.

135k vs 39k for last year.

She has this lofty goal of going to med school (at 40) this fall and doesnt seem to understand the amount of loans she will need (all laid out in the paperwork as far as future debt). Nevermind the campus is 80 minutes away. And she has agreed in writing to cover me on health insurance until the divorce.

What hurts about this. Shes so giddy about starting her own life. Telling me how she has had fun going out and doing her own thing. While im sitting here talking to our son... who she hadn't spoken to since we left... and figuring out his future so its easy on him.

What what should ypu expect from a woman who cheats all the time, even when our son was in the next room.

He flew back to NC a few days ago. She hadn't even bothered reaching out. Hes crushed and mad. And has put in for a school transfer so he can come back and be with me.

Thos entire thing crushes me. Like so many of you. We work and sacrifice every ounce of who we are to build our lives. Buy homes. Cars. Vacations. Just life. But she kept trying to burn it down. What hurts is this. Its not about her as much as its how I feel about myself. I tried to be the best husband I could be, and it wasnt enough.

Today's going to be a hard day.

And for the record. My lawyer is a top family lawyer in Charlotte. She had things being included in this legal agreement I didnt even knew existed. She said I was being more than generous and she had things she wanted to add, but I denied it. Love is a strange thing.

Guys. Lawyer up.