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Hey OZ, great to see you around here again! I haven't been around as much either, and I miss the old gang. We've got some good new ones as well. Very good post. Who can/should have long hair? Tarzan. You know why? Tarzan is jacked to the gills. True. I'm looking forward to seeing your substack content.
/r/RPChristians02/06/24 03:40 AM
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In person relationships should be by far the preferred means of dating. For many reasons, the greatest being you need to vet her actions in person and see how she responds to any number of things. That said, I'm not entirely against LDRs IF a few things are done. You meet much sooner rather than later. You meet often. Obviously, this won't be anywhere close to what you could/would have in person and lived within driving distance. But if you can't see each other for several months (and that's way…
/r/RPChristians04/05/24 08:21 PM
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It's all good, brother! There was considerable disagreement at times in the early church days, yet they achieved amazing things for God. Keep up your personal growth, and share God's word with others (online and off) and let's influence more people for Christ!
/r/RPChristians31/01/24 03:03 AM
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Twitter is not a platform designed for deep discussion or nuance. Ever heard of Twitter/X spaces? X/tweet threads? (some of which are extremely long and detailed). Plenty of opportunity for nuance and deeper discussion. It's a platform for debate Lol and what do you think a debate is? You don't think a debate goes into detail and substance and making arguments for and against various things? By your own words, you don't seem to know what you're talking about. and the Christ Pill sure as heck is …
/r/RPChristians28/01/24 08:12 AM
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Thoughts on this movement? Why does it seem so separate from RPChristians? Faith. Substance. Specificity. Unity. More. I don't know these men, except for a couple of them, so nothing for or against them. The aforementioned characteristics are my guesses for what's different or seems so. It may be that these others are "fitting God into" their worldview or talk about women and relationships, while we center everything on God and His Word. Our views come from what God directly says (or principles …
/r/RPChristians28/01/24 01:40 AM
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Thank you brother, it's good seeing you around more! I'll see if I can get my butt back in here more often as well.
/r/RPChristians20/01/24 09:26 PM
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She told me in a moment of anger she’s going to proceed to do worse if I don’t let this go as she didn’t do anything wrong. (bolding mine) She broke your boundary and then threatened to do even worse. This is a major red flag. Because if she's willing to do it in this regard, do you really think it's a stretch that she'd be willing to do it in "bigger" and more important things? She thinks... all in all men are men and they’ll behave however they want to behave OK, but then... she said she doesn…
/r/RPChristians18/01/24 06:20 AM
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I'm working on one now. If I have enough time over the next several weeks, maybe I'll have it done.
/r/RPChristians07/08/23 07:39 PM
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Yeah, the original (from many years ago) was six 6's. 6' tall 6 pack abs Makes 6 figures or more a year 6"+ below the belt 6 months (or more) since his last relationship. A woman didn't want to be a "rebound" and make sure he had enough time to be over his last relationship. Has a car with a 600 horsepower engine. Which is silly (not having a car like that, but adding it just to make it six 6's instead of just 5). Many just shorten it, and focus on height, fitness and income.
/r/RPChristians22/10/22 08:24 PM
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I read your other replies, and man, that's tough to deal with. My heart goes out to you and I've prayed for you. But as u/Red-Curious has said, focus on now and improving yourself. As far as you and your wife, there is hope. Worse situations have been turned around. And not just for a little improvement, but dramatically so. But if she doesn't change, that's on her. You focus on God, His work and your own life. Keep moving forward.
/r/RPChristians11/09/22 01:11 AM
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As I wrote: depending on how you define it For instance, if one using affection as a synonym for sex, then yes, affection is commanded, if not, then no. Second, when you write: Biblical sex is the pinnacle --- the consummation --- of affection and romance, so if we're commanded to give the greater then we're commanded to give the lesser. Who gets to decide what the "lesser" is? What is included? You'll need to know in order to keep the commands. What if your wife says it's bringing her flowers? …
/r/RPChristians10/09/22 07:37 AM
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u/Red-Curious and u/Deep_Strength already made excellent points, so I'll simply highlight and essentially say what they did, albeit in a different way, as sometimes things "hit home" when presented differently, and perhaps add a new angle or two. When God's word is clear, don't confuse it or make it complex. It's clear what God (through Paul) meant concerning sex. Each spouse owes the other sex. But human nature being what it is, we like to "add" things and make it less simple. What if "this" is…
/r/RPChristians10/09/22 06:47 AM
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I really like this post. Every time I went to comment on it, though, some new thought or perspective would occur to me, and I'd put off replying. But perhaps that's why I like it so much. It applies to so many situations. It's a foundation level perspective that once accepted, opens up all kinds of possibilities and avenues for growth. It's not OK. And if that really hits home with us, in any area of our lives, there's only one decision to be made: We have to change. Into what God is accepting a…
/r/RPChristians30/07/22 08:24 AM
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OZ, good to hear from you brother! On the Overton Window, it starts with our own thinking, as this post focuses on, but I'll emphasize what's implied and you touch on, and that is moving that window for others. Once a man gets his mind right, I encourage those reading this to post to expand outward. Speak up at get-togethers with friends, post in other forums and platforms as well, push back against clown world at every opportunity and start winning. And winning starts with planting seeds in oth…
/r/RPChristians29/07/22 09:25 AM
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I need help Hmm. I’ve held on this long, but I’ve lost all reason why. It’s very likely my wife won’t have waited, so why should I? Because God says so. But you're not looking to God as your only reason why, you look to everything else as well, such as: Less and less people are waiting. and I’m the oldest in my family and I know at least one of my brothers has lost his. and I’ve experienced Christian women look down on me because of it. and Everything I’ve learned so far about female nature scre…
/r/RPChristians21/06/22 09:53 PM
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You're welcome. No worries on a late reply. I understand. It's been a good while, but yes, I think that is the YouTuber. Sounds very familiar, anyway. All the best to you!
/r/RPChristians16/03/22 01:10 AM
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Do you have any thoughts or advice on this? I don't want to make excuses to go for an easy wrong and I want to be in line with my relationship with Christ. Yes. I have a strong preference for increasing testosterone by means other than injections, but I don't have a problem with any man who does that. That said, what I mentioned in the post can help a lot. Brett over at Art of Manliness wrote an article back in 2013 on how he doubled his testosterone and I'm board with almost everything he wrote…
/r/RPChristians06/03/22 02:56 AM
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This is a good point. I think u/BeanieBabyScammer hit most of the high points. u/redpill-cool talked about things in his post as well. And most of our processed food that many partake are filled with things that may make it last longer on the shelves, but isn't good for overall health and testosterone levels. That, and our lifestyles as a whole are not conducive to health and higher T levels. Cell phone radiation is another that can affect your "boys" if you're on it a lot. There's a lot to navi…
/r/RPChristians06/03/22 02:34 AM
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Haha I hear you brother. Mine has been holding steady the last decade or so, after initially losing a bit. I do favor trying to boost T with workouts, nutrition, lifestyle changes, etc before someone goes the injection route, and I'll stay with the former, but whatever works for each man!
/r/RPChristians05/03/22 06:06 PM
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Hey OZ, I recommend ordering online. It's the fastest, easiest and most convenient. I've used WellnessFX.com (on the pricey side) and WalkInLab.com probably has the widest variety of tests (of any kind), but the best I've found for price is: DiscountedLabs.com They seem to cater to bodybuilders and fitness enthusiasts, offering tests most of these clients want. Here's a link to their testosterone options. In short, you order what you want online, a doctor on staff approves it / attaches his name…
/r/RPChristians05/03/22 06:34 AM
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I enjoyed reading this post. Great write up!
/r/RPChristians02/05/21 05:41 AM
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However, you're incorrect to interpret the "submit one to another" as meaning solely wife to husband, slave to master and child to parent. Verse 21 is a continuation of the exhortation of proper Christian living all the way from 4:1, wrapping up what it looks like to "walk in love" and "forbearing one another in love". The 3 groupings mentioned are inclusive, but not exhaustive, as you noted. The examples afterward are applications of that overarching premise. Right. I use/quote them as examples…
/r/RPChristians02/04/21 08:00 AM
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This is mainly about keeping private what someone has told you in confidence. Or vice-versa, trusting that someone will keep secret what you've discussed with them. Not that I agree with this, but how would you address people that say Christians shouldn't keep secrets? I'd want to know the context and I'd ask why they shouldn't keep something secret? My answer would depend on the context and their reasoning. I think it's clear from the verse in the post, though, that Christians should keep thing…
/r/RPChristians02/04/21 02:35 AM
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Sometimes when you talk about submission, someone may jump to an extreme example and say something like "Oh, you think a woman should stay and submit, even if she's being beaten in the face, etc" so I addressed that. Are we talking brawling with your wife (punches, kicks etc) or just giving her a slap. I was referencing extreme examples such as being punched, kicked, etc. As you know, there are some Christian couples who practice domestic discipline, although I'll note it's almost always with co…
/r/RPChristians31/03/21 09:38 PM
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Nice try, but you're off base. First, I'll give you one thing. The children to parents and servants to masters references are in the beginning of chapter 6. Although I'll note that the chapter divisions were added later, and aren't part of divine inspiration. What I wrote concerning Ephesians is in context. Let's continue. This is all well and good. There is nothing here about the relationship being a male-led and male-domineering type of relationship. The verses above paint a very loving relati…
/r/RPChristians31/03/21 06:34 AM
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Thanks. And yes, alas, many pastors do. They should hold the men and women accountable in every way God commands.
/r/RPChristians30/03/21 09:32 PM
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While initially I thought this was a bad decision, I think it's actually a good thing! I'm glad you think so. We hope it's helpful for the individual growth of men and women and the separate subs. I just think the way you rolled it out was a bit autocratic and could have been a little nicer/gentler to women whose feelings might be hurt by this announcement. I was asked to write this announcement, in part because I've written things in the past to help women, but also in part because I tend to be…
/r/RPChristians25/03/21 08:59 PM
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Yeah, that's not the argument here. You're right that men and women each have proclivities unique to our gender. Many people jump to one of two conclusions. The first assumes the worst, so I addressed that. From the post: All men have a nature, but that doesn’t mean we go out and fulfill every instinct of that nature. All women have a nature, but that doesn’t mean they go out and indulge in every aspect of theirs. So when we use terms like AMALT/NAMALT and AWALT/NAWALT, the best way to understan…
/r/RPChristians25/03/21 12:39 AM
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I understand. Just like we have separate men's and women's groups in churches, and they offer certain benefits you can't get in a unified group, we're doing that here. I get your point about the RPChristian family that includes both, but for now, I think the focus will be on these two. I for one, personally speaking would do cartwheels if there was an RPChrisitan dating/matchmaking sup simply cus I'm single. I cant help but say thats a phenomenal idea lol You're not the only one lol I've heard f…
/r/RPChristians23/03/21 08:54 PM
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there are certain discussions that would benefit from universal input. What discussions are you thinking of? We always take feedback and consider it. Can we have a coed subreddit as well? Does anyone want a RPChristian dating/matchmaking subreddit? I'm fairly certain you weren't referring to that, but when I read things like this, that's what pops in my mind at times. Tagging u/kinosp and u/trapper_bub since you replied to or referenced jayval's comment.
/r/RPChristians23/03/21 08:09 PM
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I’m unsure of why it makes sense for you to be mods on the women’s page but women cannot be involved here, even in a small capacity. Perhaps a joint page for both sexes, and then separate gender pages would be best? Women on here asked to have their own subreddit, but wanted it under the RPC umbrella, so we created one for them, and therefore, two mods from here are also mods over there. They could have created their own, of course, but they wanted to have it linked to us. That, and as u/Red-Cur…
/r/RPChristians23/03/21 06:07 PM
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u/NoFaithInThisSub Agreed with u/Red-Curious. There's no intention on removing anything that was up.
/r/RPChristians23/03/21 05:53 PM
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Yes, comments and posts from known female accounts will be deleted, along with a DM from a mod letting them know why, with a link to participate at RPCW. Repeated violations would bring permanent bans. I'll add this to the main post.
/r/RPChristians22/03/21 11:20 PM
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Then you were taught wrong in Sunday school, because Jesus didn't wash prostitute's feet. And as I pointed out in a previous reply to you, Jesus being welcoming and doing things for others doesn't mean he condoned their ways. One example: In John 8:11, when Jesus taught everyone a spiritual lesson that spared the life of a woman caught in adultery, he told her "She said, No man, Lord. And Jesus said unto her, Neither do I condemn thee: go, and sin no more." We are to turn away from sin and follo…
/r/RPChristians20/03/21 09:59 PM
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So I guess this means that God makes mistakes? God doesn't make mistakes, but you have with this reply. Guess who made lesbians - God did. Wrong. Left wing indoctrination to the contrary, being gay or lesbian is a lifestyle choice. They are not born that way. He made us all. When you judge what you consider to be “sinful lifestyles”, you are judging what God created. In your opinion, did God make pedophiles too? Using your logic, if you judge them, you're judging what God created. You are questi…
/r/RPChristians20/03/21 09:46 PM
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Thank you, brother! Great point about the Proverbs verse and the matrix of possibilities. I appreciate you adding that.
/r/RPChristians19/03/21 12:02 AM
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From the post: Attraction issues? Fat? Skinny? Start where you are and who cares if it’s going to take you “x” amount of months or years to be where you want and reap the rewards of being a lot more attractive? I'm pretty sure lifting helps with that ;) I just wrote it as a general category of improving attraction.
/r/RPChristians18/03/21 06:41 PM
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You're welcome, best of luck on your journey!
/r/RPChristians18/03/21 05:28 PM
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That works :)
/r/RPChristians18/03/21 05:03 AM
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I'm tall, muscular, well educated, and serious about my faith. I've dated and been on date with dozens of christian women, and been approached by dozens more. Half the time this is what you get: https://img.ifunny.co/images/eb0424a0f61c5dd99fcbe04a8da0d7556d98964b1616ad53c1bdbcc1e1745afb_1.jpg Hahaha. Sad, but true often enough. I would've discounted that somewhat, but not too long ago there was this woman who had very high standards for a man (especially when it came to money and how she wanted…
/r/RPChristians14/03/21 02:08 AM
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Haha, no. A lot of this are things we encourage men here to do and be. A Christian, have a solid frame, have a mission, work on being attractive, etc. These are very achievable, even expected here. Certainly encouraged, at a minimum. Others are direct commands from God. Be strong. Lead. Love. Forgive, etc. And some simply take practice and will develop more over the years as one gains more experience. Things like "wise and judicious" but if that sounds intimidating to some, just give it a differ…
/r/RPChristians13/03/21 05:10 PM
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When I read this, I can see why I am not equipped to be a God fearing man to a God fearing women for me to even sanctify. We can all improve in different areas, we may be strong in some and need to work on others. Start where you are. But the women are the same. They may read guidelines for them and have similar thoughts as you. Focus on God, be the best version of yourself and keep at it!
/r/RPChristians13/03/21 04:38 PM
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I appreciate the compliment, thank you! And yes, it's lengthy. I tend to get wordy.
/r/RPChristians13/03/21 04:35 PM
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You're welcome, and thank you for your reply! All the best in your search and God guide your efforts!
/r/RPChristians12/03/21 10:35 PM
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Yes, it's intended to help navigate the vetting process, and consider things there might be a tendency to overlook or discount to some degree. And some things (on both sides, for the potential husband or wife) are fixable or can be improved, so it's not an automatic pass or fail kinda deal. Thanks for your reply as well!
/r/RPChristians12/03/21 08:52 PM
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I liked both lists...though I wish the open, collaborative and curious approach you had towards sex in the husbands list below was applied to the wife list as well. Thanks, and yes, it applies to both. I wrote the earlier one about two years ago, and if I re-wrote it today it'd be included. Both potential spouses should be asking and answering each question to get the best handle they can on the views, desires and preferences of their potential mate, and sharing their own views. Or at least mand…
/r/RPChristians12/03/21 08:48 PM
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They do exist, they are despairing of finding men who love Jesus first. They do indeed! I wish they were far more common, but there are definitely some out there.
/r/RPChristians12/03/21 04:22 PM
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It also has A LOT more requirements than the one for men haha. It doesn't. They each have about 15 (depending on counting sub-sections in one or two of them) Did you see the "Part 1" in the title? Or if you clicked through, read through the article? I'm guessing no, as you'd find the one for men is longer and has as much, if not more. Also, while I addressed your requirement length comment, it's not about the number. We've talked about things like this here on the sub, where one person think if …
/r/RPChristians12/03/21 04:21 PM
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First, some of what is on that list is simple stuff. A Christian and serious about her faith, respectful, cheerful, etc. Those aren't high standards. Second, from the article: This is not a pass or fail, go or no go, keep dating or hard next on any of the individual items. And it’s not a “She’s got 5 red flags on this list, it’s time to kick this relationship to the curb.” You might end it for just one or keep dating her even if she’s missing 7 or more. Because some things are “fixable” and ther…
/r/RPChristians12/03/21 04:06 PM
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How to know if a woman is good marriage material.
/r/RPChristians17/02/21 01:55 AM
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is a Christian and wants to know more about the Bible because I’ve studied more than her. Have you taught her about the part where sex before marriage is a sin? She had one prior boyfriend and she had sex with him all the time apparently (something I definitely could have gone without hearing) however at some point she started to draw closer to God and repented of that behavior according to her. Now we do have sex and she has no problems getting all the way to that point sometimes being so bold …
/r/RPChristians14/01/21 12:09 AM
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You're welcome! I pray far better days are ahead for you!
/r/RPChristians12/01/21 10:58 PM
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It's important to keep in mind that the advice in this post (if followed, and if results are achieved) are for short-term purposes only, and not a "This is how you should do it and how things should be going forward" template for anyone. It's akin to a "save the patient" mentality, something that might be good for some men to buy you enough time to get things right, as u/Red-Curious has written. It's entirely possible there's a gap between how this post comes across and what you mean or how you …
/r/RPChristians12/01/21 08:43 PM
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I appreciate your calm response. Some people are easily offended. Although I don't want to derail this post with our side conversation here (I'd rather keep any comments focused on the substance of the post, even though we're the only ones here for now), I'll add these thoughts. Pastors get paid for their work. Evangelists and missionaries are paid through salaries, contributions, and more. Christian authors write books, articles, etc and are paid through various means. I don't have any issue wi…
/r/RPChristians09/01/21 04:35 AM
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Oh good gracious. You should know better, but I'll take the time to reply, for you and any others reading this who might have similar thoughts. Good advice but why do you need money/donos to send a written statement It's a value exchange. People may link to a social media account, blog or podcast to build subscribers, or put content behind a paywall, or any number of things to monetize or simply provide some exchange of value or worth in return for their content. That value may be monetary and i…
/r/RPChristians09/01/21 02:46 AM
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This article has things for you to consider. It takes a pro-dating older stance, but considers both sides.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/20 06:43 PM
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Oh I'm serious. Noted. I'm also making gains and all that testosterone pumping you know. Good! Keep up the progress. I stand by those statements Which is what is amusing to me. You seemed to get riled up over what you considered a "not nice" reply to the OP, when you've done the same or far "worse" (depending on one's perspective) in recent comments. I try to distinguish between attacking a person's ideas and beliefs and attacking the person themselves. A person is the image of god. In your repl…
/r/RPChristians12/12/20 09:26 AM
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Hey, it'll be helpful if you edit the post and add the section in that you want advice on, in case people don't see your comment here before replying.
/r/RPChristians12/12/20 07:33 AM
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I can't tell if this is serious or sarcasm lol I was going with the latter, because it's so over the top emotional, but now rethinking that. Just in case you're serious, it may be a case of projection. About my reply, you wrote "What a moralizing mean girls beta thing to say... completely shamed based. Disgusting." And to top it off, you added "smug moralizing know it alls" OK. Let's see if this fits your recent comment here I look around at all these pastors that are total pussboys and I want n…
/r/RPChristians12/12/20 07:20 AM
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I don't think you have any idea how you come across here or what you sound like. It's not a good look. I always planned to marry a Christian, but she is so hot that I’m considering I should change plans. So what else would you be willing to discard to get this girl? u/RedWall92 already quoted you opining about premarital sex. I'm wondering what else would go in the trash bin of your beliefs. No, you shouldn't ask this girl out. Your beliefs are shaky. Your worldview is lacking, if you even have …
/r/RPChristians10/12/20 06:52 PM
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This is a good question. You asked this of u/Red-Curious, but I'll share a verse or two that might shed more light on this. Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet [is] she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant. - Malachi 2:14 (bolding mine) Here we have God saying a wife is of thy covenant, so there had to be a covenant a man gave in taking her and establishing the relationship/marria…
/r/RPChristians09/12/20 10:49 PM
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Marriage: To be married in God's eyes, you need a marital covenant/vows spoken to each other and consummation of those vows. In biblical times, you also needed the father of the bride's permission. Witnesses were often around. With this said, I want to echo u/Red-Curious's comment about taking these vows seriously. Many people would have a "lesser" idea in their mind about this compared to an official marriage by the State. If you go this route, you need to know and understand it is every bit as…
/r/RPChristians09/12/20 07:14 AM
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Lol OK that caught me off guard. Too funny.
/r/RPChristians04/12/20 09:46 PM
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I think the one thing I am confused about in what you said is your reply to the list of her past relationships and "baggage". You said "what are you even considering this?" Does that mean that we cannot have forgiveness and show the grace the God shows to us for our past sin? When I wrote "Why are you even considering this?" it's because there are so many things that are red flags that point toward a horrible marriage, if you were to marry her. You get to decide your own standards and preference…
/r/RPChristians04/12/20 09:43 PM
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I'll be polite, but tough. We are both Christian and are constantly challenging each other In what ways? The post reads like challenging each other to sin more. and talking about how the Holy Spirit has played a role in our lives. How so? Are you listening to the Holy Spirit in other areas but not in your sex life? Neither of you sound very Christian, at least not very mature, committed Christians. She was married to a guy for two years right...they got divorced because of reasons that seemed to…
/r/RPChristians04/12/20 12:51 AM
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hypakouō is the word translated in Ephesians ("children, obey your parents") and yes, it most certainly means obedience. It has the additional meaning of "hearken" or "listen" to, but obedience is an essential part of that, as children are to hearken or pay attention to what is being said and then to act on that, as they are commanded. This is literally the definition of the word according to scholars, including obeying. Also in that same chapter in Ephesians, God tells wives to submit to their …
/r/RPChristians28/11/20 01:11 AM
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The right to bear is important, the will to bear is paramount. Agreed. If the American people are disarmed in their minds, it doesn't matter what a piece of paper says, or how many crates of ammo they have for their favorite safe queen. I often tell people the same in regard to fighting without weapons. It's the will to act that matters. Skill and strength play important roles, weapons matter and are force enhancers, but the will to act is vital and determines who wins. In non-weapon (unless you…
/r/RPChristians26/11/20 10:34 PM
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It's very easy to fall into apocalyptic thinking. I was guilty of that following election night. No false hope, here. You may already know this, but the election is far from over. Unbeknownst to many (mainly thanks to the media), but Trump still has a good chance to win this. Not guaranteed by any means, but a good chance. We'll see. And good on you for building up a fellow believer and offering hope!
/r/RPChristians26/11/20 07:38 PM
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It would be a really good time to start thinking about having mobile income and looking at other places in the world to move. Yes to mobile income, and no to actually moving outside the U.S. if one is already living here. First, unlike almost every other country in the world, we have the right to bear arms. That alone is extremely significant and a compelling reason to stay. With the sitting judges before Trump, and the new ones he's put in place, it's enough to safeguard our rights well past th…
/r/RPChristians26/11/20 07:21 PM
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I'm familiar with the passage and I've heard a sermon or two on it a long time ago, but never in comparison with Adam and Eve. I like your comparison and the breakdown on how each handled the situation. Thanks for posting! It also reminds me of the prophet Samuel's mother, Hannah, and how she conducted herself. Her husband, Elkanah, had two wives, Hannah being one, who was barren, and she sought the LORD and acted righteously, even when falsely accused of being drunk by Eli the priest, and also …
/r/RPChristians03/11/20 11:05 AM
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God tells us 1 Corinthians 7:29: "From now on, let those who have wives live as though they had none" Fulfill your marital obligations, obviously. Do your best to have a great marriage. But when the rubber meets the road, your duty is to God. How would you act if you weren't married? Live that way. It doesn't mean don't fulfill your duties to your wife. It does mean you wife doesn't dictate how to live your life. You follow God. She follows you or she doesn't. Doesn't matter. The good part is th…
/r/RPChristians29/10/20 12:23 AM
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The 2nd bj she gave me she swallowed and said with a smile on her face, "I only do that for guys I want to impress". Bingo! And why did she want to impress them? Because they made her feel a certain way. They may have been very dominant in various aspects of their lives or in their interactions with her. Maybe they were extremely driven in some area. Perhaps they had a IDGAF attitude and exhibited extreme confidence. All of this is attractive to women and can make her want to impress them or win…
/r/RPChristians29/10/20 12:03 AM
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question, why/how do you know all of these details about your wifes past specifically, sexual history? thats not really appropriate tbh. It's very appropriate. Anything that can impact one's future marriage, you should want to know about it and find out what you can. This includes one's sexual past, as it influences future behavior. Likelihood of divorce, addictive behaviors, depression, degree of marital happiness and more can all be impacted. Unless you mean inappropriate as far as how he foun…
/r/RPChristians28/10/20 06:52 PM
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Thanks, but this wasn't written for me. It's for anyone considering an age gap relationship who may not be entirely sure about the decision, to present some issues in a different light, and based on some in person and online chats with others. Go for it you don’t need our approval This was mentioned in the post. It's good to get the advice of others, but you don't need anyone's approval.
/r/RPChristians24/10/20 10:49 PM
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Look at Ex. 21:11 where even a slave wife could be granted divorce if her husband took another woman and diminished (not eliminated, but even so much as "diminished") her food, clothing and sexual rights. If even a slave wife (who had just about the fewest rights of any person in ancient Israel) could be granted divorce for sexual deprivation, now much more so the rest of us? Good point! Every time I've read that passage, it usually registered as "don't deny provision, conjugal rights, etc" in m…
/r/RPChristians19/10/20 11:46 PM
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if she wants to step out and go full sisterhood of the traveling snatch Hahaha. Some of the lines and analogies you come up with are entertaining for days. Churchians are out in force in this thread. Indeed they are. What still surprises me, although it shouldn't, is how little many of them are willing to consider opposing views and/or engage them with substantive arguments. It's usually heavy on emotionalism or a variation of "No, it can't be!" while re-stating their opinion without really cons…
/r/RPChristians19/10/20 11:41 PM
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A husband is to love his wife no matter what. No argument here. There are no conditions attached to God's command for husbands to love their wives, just as there are no conditions on wives respecting and submitting to their husbands. What does it mean to love your wife like Christ loves the Church? Get God's answers directly from scripture, and don't impute your own thoughts and feelings onto this. For example, Jesus said "If ye love me, keep my commandments." Real love will be rooted in one's a…
/r/RPChristians17/10/20 05:47 AM
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Haha. Well played, Chuck, well played.
/r/RPChristians12/09/20 08:43 PM
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He says he is in the title of the post. First sentence.
/r/RPChristians09/09/20 02:48 AM
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We have a previous side girl, who lives with her new loser bf (no job, they live in a condemned house, etc) that we could hypothetically move into our finished basement with her and her kid. I guess I’m looking for a biblical justification to this being okay. God doesn't condemn polygny, and tacitly seems to allow it, but scripture is clear God's ideal is one man with one woman, united in a covenant relationship/marriage. IF one pursued polygny, it is understood you are taking on a second wife o…
/r/RPChristians05/09/20 08:05 AM
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This comment makes me smile. While I don't recommend living together before marriage, I'm delighted it worked out for you. Christ Jesus Himself was watching over me. Amen.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 11:29 PM
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Succinct and on point!
/r/RPChristians22/08/20 08:17 AM
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Honestly, I would consider myself to be a catch. I am eager to one day fulfill my role as a Godly, submissive wife. I’m an excellent cook, I enjoy cleaning, I love children and have a lot of experience working with them, and I would consider myself to be fairly attractive. I don’t wear a ton of makeup, but I have waist length blonde hair, green eyes, am well proportioned, and given the amount of male attention I receive, I would deduce that I am an attractive woman. OK. This is the good part. We…
/r/RPChristians21/08/20 11:45 PM
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Brother, rule 2 of the sidebar: ALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious) Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP) Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, share your faith, memorize Scripture, etc. Giv…
/r/RPChristians17/08/20 04:58 AM
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When someone in the world today says "I'm a spiritual person," they mean something very different from when a Christian talks about "spiritual growth." Very true. There's a world of difference there. While different, I think the term "spiritual growth" falls into the same category as when one uses the term "godliness" in that people have a generally defined sense of what it means, but may differ on specific definitions. If used among Christians, they'll "get" you, generally speaking, and keep it…
/r/RPChristians15/08/20 05:40 AM
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First, your title starts out with a conclusion, and then you look for arguments to fit that conclusion. For example, you wrote: errs on the side of control of your wife We don't talk about control of a wife. That's a conclusion you reached. We are to submit to God, but even He doesn't control us. He could, but He let's us decide to reap the rewards of obedience or the consequences of rebellion in whether we submit to Him. Likewise, a husband doesn't control his wife. He can certainly influence h…
/r/RPChristians14/08/20 11:38 PM
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I appreciate the detailed response and clarifications. The first read-through seemed like your church was enforcing this to a greater degree than what you wrote in your follow up. And I still think there's significant grey area at your church (at least how it's coming across) between what one would calls rules and what another calls culture. For instance, if men and women in your church aren't intentionally rebelling against the culture, they're living their lives in accordance with the Bible, t…
/r/RPChristians10/08/20 07:47 PM
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So your church has extra-biblical "laws" or rules for dating and marriage on top of what the Bible teaches. What happens when someone breaks them? What happens if it's repeatedly? I'm unclear as to whether your church allows people to date outside your church and/or it's church plants? If a man strikes up a conversation with a woman while in a bookstore, grocery store, at the gun range, working out, etc and she's a Christian but isn't a member of your church, and they hit it off, have a lot in c…
/r/RPChristians10/08/20 06:35 PM
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Why do women need men? Because God made a woman to be a helper for the man. If she doesn't have a man, she can't fulfill the divine role God literally made her for. There will always be that longing within a woman to be alongside a man. "And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him." - Genesis 2:18 Also 1 Corinthians 11:9 "Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man." Women were made for men. By God. It's His de…
/r/RPChristians07/08/20 04:37 AM
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Yeah if that's the max on the upper end for most women, I could definitely live with that! ;) And a woman committed to fitness like that pays so many dividends in health and wellness and many aspects of a relationship. She's not going to let herself go. I use her as an example to prove the point that the upper limit of "bulky" for a natural chick is still not that masculine. True. And incorporating weights, even if they're not what some consider "heavy" for women, can be of benefit. For instance…
/r/RPChristians05/08/20 12:42 AM
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Men and women both achieve their best looking bodies by picking and putting down heavy weight. I'm quibbling a bit here, but I think a good bit of this is preferences. For example: A lady who really embraces this is Brittany Perille (check out the second picture to see the results). She's not that attractive to me. She's certainly not bad, and she's very fit (and I'd far prefer that look any day, over, say, an overweight woman) but hers is the type of body that somewhat* crosses over into mascul…
/r/RPChristians05/08/20 12:30 AM
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If I'm not mistaken, this is a copy/paste of the last time you wrote a similar post. Yes, it's the same. Instead of a stickied comment on a post where some comments weren't reflective of the community, I mentioned at the top of this one I was breaking it out again since the sub has added a good number of readers. As such, some of the endorsements need to be updated Let's add em in! I did remove one from last time, but we've got Levi, Dross, Ruiz, Steel and Alan from before. as a note of explanat…
/r/RPChristians04/08/20 06:00 PM
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I edited that section to make it clearer and took out "ideally." To emphasize what RC just said: Do create a new post. No redirects.
/r/RPChristians04/08/20 07:18 AM
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you seem refreshingly reasonable Why, thank you! You seem open to arguments, willing to learn and engage in friendly debate and discussion, and I applaud you for this. Let me back up and address your post. If a close female friend or relative of mine were single and experienced what you did in a relationship, I'd advise her to end the relationship and move on. While not everything is over the top bad, there certainly are red flags, immaturity and other issues not worth dealing or working with. I…
/r/RPChristians04/08/20 04:21 AM
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I’ve been to churches that have preached that if a women is beat by her husband then she wasn’t submissive enough or a good enough wife. I’ve heard sermons where it is taught that if your wife doesn’t obey you that gives you the right to beat her. As you know, you can find churches of every kind saying all kinds of things. You can also find churches that teach if a woman is in any kind of sin, then it's her husband's fault because he wasn't fulfilling his role and being good enough, as if a wife…
/r/RPChristians04/08/20 03:01 AM
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Separate, and fast and pray. Live apart, as needed, for however long to stay safe. I'm guessing you meant physically? If you meant abusing his authority and telling his wife to do "abc" actions that are anti-biblical, well common sense and scripture apply. Let God discipline a husband and if a wife is asked to do something very clearly against scripture, say, go sleep with another man, then obviously a wife is to obey God above her husband.
/r/RPChristians04/08/20 02:33 AM
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RPC maintains that because a marriage is the reflection of the relationship between Christ and the Church, the husband's "yes/no" is stronger than the wife's "yes/no" in the same way Jesus' "yes/no" is stronger than our own. This is inaccurate, to put it politely. Yes, marital relationships are to reflect the relationship between Christ and the church, but the latter point of your reply I quoted above is way off. Jesus's "yes/no" isn't "stronger" than ours, it's absolute. Period. There is no mut…
/r/RPChristians04/08/20 02:09 AM
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A post on this may be helpful to a lot of readers, if you're willing to write one up.
/r/RPChristians31/07/20 07:18 PM
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Stats: 23M I am grateful to be connected with one church of about 40 people who live in the Word. There are some young couples in their mid-late 20s which is good to have some people my age. But there is only one other single, a couple years younger than me, and unfortunately for me she's more beautiful than any of the single girls I have seen at church ever in the US. You're 23 and this girl is a couple of years younger than you, so 21 or thereabout? But then you write in a reply to u/UpTanks: …
/r/RPChristians28/07/20 04:50 PM
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I think we are very prone to seeing everything, including the word, through the lens of our current reality. But the word is truth, and is as true today as it was 500,000 years ago, and it will never pass away, after all things have passed away. This. There's a strong tendency to interpret God's Word through what we see, hear and experience, as opposed to looking at God's Word and saying this is how things should be. So wherever there's a disconnect, there's a degree of compulsion for one to wan…
/r/RPChristians27/07/20 03:58 AM
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It can be a reference to John 19:36, a prophetic fulfillment of Jesus in that not one of his bones shall be broken: For these things took place that the Scripture might be fulfilled: “Not one of his bones will be broken.” As you know, sometimes the Bible moves from speaking generally such as "afflictions of the righteous" to something more personal or specific, and this may be a prophetic reference to Jesus. If the thought is continued as to speaking generally, then the points you raised are goo…
/r/RPChristians26/07/20 10:55 PM
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Came here to point that out. u/DeChef2, we need an "h" in there. And great job, brother! Very good work. I'm glad you did this.
/r/RPChristians21/07/20 02:14 PM
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Recent posts or no? Best guess, how many weeks or months back do you remember seeing them?
/r/RPChristians17/07/20 07:28 PM
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Great post (no pun intended) Haha I see what you did there. And thanks brother!
/r/RPChristians15/07/20 07:22 PM
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You're welcome! I'm glad you found it helpful.
/r/RPChristians15/07/20 07:17 PM
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I relate to this post. I’ve hurt people by my actions and words from the past. Yes sir, we all have. It takes longer to rebuild a relationship than it takes to build it. 30 seconds can destroy something you’ve built for 30 years. True and true. After the damage is done, should we get a new post? This is a much longer answer. I generally agree with you, and will simply note that friendships, business partners/dealings, a current dating relationship, etc is in different category than, say, covenan…
/r/RPChristians15/07/20 07:16 PM
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Amen!
/r/RPChristians15/07/20 06:44 AM
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Right. The author of The Biblical Masculinity Blueprint is a friend of mine (well, I consider him a friend. We're fellow mods). I read your "nice guy" comment as applying to this post and didn't see where you got that, so I went back and re-read it to make sure it didn't. Thanks for clarifying.
/r/RPChristians14/07/20 04:54 PM
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With any luck she's a blank slate in those areas. You can lead her to the right views yourself. Exactly. A blank slate can be a blessing. He can impress upon her the views he wants.
/r/RPChristians14/07/20 08:16 AM
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Part of this is actually giving them an opportunity. Good point. I'm glad you mentioned this. For the longest time, I thought that by having no expectations over my wife I was making life easier for her. In reality, by having no expectations or commands for her to follow, she had no ability to do what God called her to do in our marriage: submit and follow. This was incredibly unsatisfying for her and infuriating for me when she was acting upset with me and couldn't explain why because it doesn'…
/r/RPChristians14/07/20 05:39 AM
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As a couple we are chaste, and total chastity being the goal. I don't understand this. It's kinda like saying "We're sexually pure. We're working towards becoming totally sexually pure," the latter part of the statement making the first untrue. Are you saying you abstain from intercourse, but do other sexual things like oral? If yes, that can be part of the problem why you're bf's porn issue isn't overcome yet. Instead of guessing, I'll ask, what things do you need to do or cut out that would ca…
/r/RPChristians14/07/20 03:42 AM
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Have my upvote for an excellent write up of a video. Well done, sir.
/r/RPChristians14/07/20 03:20 AM
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You're welcome, I'm glad you found it helpful or encouraging. God has asked me to get ready for marriage in this season God's many blessings on you and your future husband!
/r/RPChristians13/07/20 10:54 PM
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I'll gently push back on some of this. First, u/agoodcrayon could have worded things better, but his general statements aren't that far off the following: If/when you get married, you better smash him like your life depends on it and multiple times a day. To which you replied: Uh, no. Her life does NOT depend on her having sex with him multiple times a day. Yes, she is not to deny him, but nowhere in the Bible are wives commanded to screw their husbands many times a day. Ridiculous. It's not rid…
/r/RPChristians13/07/20 10:49 PM
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christian men operating their marriage relationship in "Mr. Nice Guy" mode as almost all your points could be used to reinforce that perspective. There isn't a single point that says or implies a man should be "Mr. Nice Guy." For example, responding to nagging by being nice is the wrong way to handle it. What post are you reading? Because that's nowhere in there. It does strongly imply that a nagging, shrewish wife makes it more difficult for a husband to fulfill his biblical role to love her. A…
/r/RPChristians13/07/20 06:49 PM
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Thanks, brother!
/r/RPChristians13/07/20 06:35 PM
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Yes sir, correct. And as you know, even before the fall, just in case some say submission was only established post fall in quoting that verse.
/r/RPChristians07/07/20 03:18 AM
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yeah just ban me, this sub is a joke Nah, I'd rather keep you around. We need better men and fighters in the cause for Christ. I joked with the mods I guess I was in a bit of a Clint Eastwood "Get off my lawn" mood and was harsh in that reply. They concurred. Stick around. Learn. Grow. As we all are. We don't mind criticism, but try and keep it respectful. If not, there may be friendly jabs and elbows thrown back and forth as men defend their positions (and the sarcasm and barbs increase) in the…
/r/RPChristians03/07/20 02:20 AM
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I'm tempted to perma-ban you for pure stupidity. First, it's a simple copy/paste from the sidebar and most people know we're not trying to fully define each of the categories, it's simply stating things that go along with them that gives a better "picture" of where they are in various aspects. 99% of people would have enough common sense to know this. For the other 1%, I even spell out the reason in the above reply, which is that giving us this info helps us help the individual who is posting, t…
/r/RPChristians02/07/20 09:59 PM
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Stats, brother. This is for any posts asking for advice. From the sidebar: ALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious) Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP) Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, sha…
/r/RPChristians02/07/20 01:13 AM
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Any time I can sneak superman in I will ;) Wise ;) And I say that as a Marvel fan, but hey, Superman is, well... Superman! I once thought about writing a post on superman as the epitome man who wears and balances both blue and red. Go for it! Teaching ideal traits in a cultural icon works.
/r/RPChristians02/07/20 01:04 AM
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we should all have equal positions in some mediocrity, like Kansas? Hey now, Superman was from Kansas! Well, raised there :) Not everyone can be from Florida or Ohio ;) Just a bit of lightheartedness to help ease any tensions in this thread. Good comment, btw!
/r/RPChristians01/07/20 07:19 PM
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the church is full of pearl clutching, door locking white women who use things like social media to say "Well, all lives matter." Or "all races are Gods race." But will show true concern when a black amazon delivery man drops a package off at their house. That type of ingrained racism Was Jesse Jackson racist when he essentially said and did the same thing? From Bob Herbert of the New York Times quoting Jesse Jackson: "There is nothing more painful to me at this stage in my life than to walk dow…
/r/RPChristians01/07/20 06:17 PM
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I'm copying a comment from u/Red-Curious because he brings up a very good point. By virtue of being your husband, you are to respect and reverence him. By you being his wife, he is to love you regardless of your actions. His comment: Here's where things get dicey. Sometimes we come up with our own ideas of what this looks like. You've quoted me before in my saying: "Husbands should love their wives the way Christ love the Church. The Bible says 'the Lord disciplines those he loves.' So, what are…
/r/RPChristians21/06/20 06:10 AM
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This reply is a very good example to drive home the point! Relatedly, when a woman says she's tired or she's unwilling or doesn't have time, that same woman will almost always rush to a good friend's house for some "emergency" to help or console in some way, will go back into work if her boss calls and says she's needed, will take care of her children and do for them as a need arises (unless she can put this off on her husband), despite the aforementioned tiredness, lack of time or desire. So by…
/r/RPChristians17/06/20 06:18 AM
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I wrote up a brief reply I'll copy here: the soteriological rubric is same between both men and women in our relationship with Christ, yet women as a physical gender are uniquely given the template for how spiritual reproduction ought to occur by virtue of the physical representation they express in human marriages. So the reason for the Holy Spirit inspiring Paul to include that verse/phrasing in regard to women is to point to spiritual reproduction? Honestly, it's as strong or stronger than an…
/r/RPChristians17/06/20 12:03 AM
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In his other post, I kept seeing phrases that reminded me of something a blue pill feminized psychologist would use. Both posts reference u/Deep_Strength and take an opposing view of what he's written. I'm wondering if this will keep up, or if he actually agrees with anything we write here. It'll also be interesting to see how the community responds.
/r/RPChristians13/06/20 05:41 PM
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All she said is she likes "realistic fiction" Didn't Rush Limbaugh write some children's historical fiction books? Rush Revere or something. It's not going to fall into "realistic fiction" though since it's like a time travel adventure back into history with a talking horse. Here's a compilation of children's fiction, with some titles and authors that haven't been mentioned here yet, and plenty that have. List 1 Little Pilgrim's Progress Meet the Glimmer Girls / FaithGirlz Adventure/fiction but …
/r/askRPC13/06/20 05:41 AM
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If you want personal advice, follow Rule 2 and provide your stats. If this is for general discussion, let us know and people will respond accordingly. What, exactly, are you wanting to reconcile? Yes, some women slept around before they came to Christ. You can tease out a ballpark figure even when they try to keep the real number secret and if that figure or range is beyond what you're willing to accept, move on and look for another. Some men insist on marrying a virgin. Others will accept a non…
/r/RPChristians12/06/20 11:42 PM
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It's good offense. You anticipate her replies and address them before she does.
/r/RPChristians12/06/20 11:22 PM
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Are you a Christian? If yes, how is your walk with God? (overall relationship, your obedience to Him, actions demonstrating your commitment and love for God, etc). Focus on God and His Word and follow Him above all things. Demonstrate it by your actions. Get yourself into the best physical shape you can, as fast as you can. (Safely, of course, don't do dumb things). It'll bring you a variety of benefits, including improving your marriage. This includes overall attraction, such as good grooming h…
/r/RPChristians12/06/20 06:09 AM
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"He's sexually abusive. He looks at me all the time, even when I don't want him to. Lol I know any one of these could be greatly expanded on with commentary, but man, what in the world... The things some women come up with.
/r/RPChristians04/06/20 04:36 PM
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he mentioned that I’m now free to sleep with whomever I wish, etc. I told him I don’t intend on rebounding or trying again in the future, and I basically repeatedly refused to go out of my way to try again or sleep with anyone else for a long time and I needed him to know. You needed him to know. This was important enough or weighed on you enough that you felt compelled to tell your ex this. OK. But then we get: I gave him and myself a few days to process what had happened, and a few days later.…
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/20 07:24 PM
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The dialog with the specialist was on point, well, probably as close as it gets with any current TV show/docudrama. We need a lot more actors, script writers, producers and more influencing culture.
/r/RPChristians30/05/20 09:17 AM
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Go read everything u/Deep_Strength wrote a second or third time. I'd bold and italicize every word just for emphasis. It hurts, brother, but this is also a blessing. Be very thankful this is happening now as opposed to after marrying her. If you need to get things off your chest, sit her down and tell her whatever you want (but be prepared for blowback, depending on what you say) and then move on. Or, move on without saying much, with a simple "I wish you well, but I've decided we're not a good …
/r/RPChristians30/05/20 09:06 AM
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I thought the same thing. Very big indicator right here, u/ChestHairAtWork Red flags waving all over when I read that.
/r/RPChristians30/05/20 08:58 AM
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Let her clearly know you like her. Ask her on a date. Specifically. Not a "we should hang out sometime" but a real, specific, time and place "Here's what we're doing" date. And let her decide. If she goes, great! Take her on a second date, and so on. If not, also great, because you'll know where you stand and can move on without overthinking this. Otherwise, you're going to be playing mind games and analyzing every little move or this or that. Ask. Watch her actions. Get clarity. Then move forwa…
/r/RPChristians28/05/20 11:09 PM
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I.... have a higher libido than he does...lol So sex is a non issue. I tell him all the time; if I’m cooking turn the stove to low and make it quick, if I’m sleeping feel free to wake me up with morning sex, if I’m in the shower feel free to join me, and I encourage him to initiate when he wants it. I also initiate a lot, even when he tells me he’s not interested. He appreciates that I try when he’s not interested because, obviously, we don’t have sex when he doesn’t want it but it still gives h…
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/20 05:50 PM
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He tells me all the time that I do so much for him and that he’s very happy and that he loves me. I just FEEL like he deserves a better wife. There's nothing wrong with this. It drives you to do better and/or to maintain all of the good things you're already doing for your husband. In part, it reminds me of the parable Jesus told, where two people owed debts, one owed a little and the other a lot. Both were forgiven their debts by the master. Jesus asked, which of these do you think will love th…
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/20 05:44 PM
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I hear the word most often in liberal and feminized churches and it's used to push a gushy almost romantic relationship Alas, this. I heard it often in conservative churches as well, and while they didn't quite push the "gushy, romantic relationship" stuff, they were still off base on things. It's a phrase, depending on how one defines it, that can give a wrong perspective. I've used the phrase myself, mostly as a catch-all to describe their overall walk with God, their obedience, prayer life, s…
/r/RPChristians26/05/20 02:50 AM
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I get your point, but I wouldn't get caught in up the "Where does the Bible say/call it [fill in the blank]" type of arguments. The Bible doesn't use the word trinity, but we know there is the Holy Trinity of God the Father, Jesus and the Holy Spirit from various passages. There are plenty of examples like this.
/r/RPChristians26/05/20 01:54 AM
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Bathsheba is not including in the genealogies of Jesus whereas other righteous women such as Tamar, Rahab, Ruth, etc. were included. When Solomon is mentioned, it mentions Uriah as the righteous one (Matthew 1 "David was the father of Solomon, whose mother had been Uriah’s wife,") Good point!
/r/RPChristians21/05/20 04:32 AM
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You’re right, you did leave me out ;) Haha. You're not forgotten. :) I'll be encouraging you and others to write up some good posts on the new site when it's up and running. Don't disappoint us. And thanks for the compliment!
/r/RPChristians20/05/20 11:27 PM
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Thanks, brother! I'll think about the sticky it option, and giving newcomers and others a chance to go over it before it gets buried as new posts come in. If you're gonna have the gall to call another member out, at least be here long enough to call them a dick and to be called a dick. Heh. Some people's time frame on here allow them to practice the former and avoid the latter. As I've said before, if you're engaging with others, almost everyone will take some shots. To quote a line from The Win…
/r/RPChristians20/05/20 11:19 PM
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I'm curious as to what kind of contentll be put on there. I'll be a mod and content creator over there to help out, but ideally, the vast majority of the posts and comments will be from RP and biblically-sound women. I'll be reaching out to u/sywonsmumu and u/AnnaAerials and others about being involved over there.
/r/RPChristians20/05/20 11:09 PM
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Brother, stop posting this. You have 4 posts up and I'm guessing you don't realize it, so you keep re-posting. I'm leaving one up and removing the others.
/r/RPChristians20/05/20 07:14 AM
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No worries, Dr. Suess was a pretty cool guy =) Lol that gave me a good laugh. Well played! ;) I think it's Seuss, but hey, I'm in no position to be a spelling or grammar Nazi after my rather large blunder(s). :O Just kidding, I agree strongly with your points, but I definitely had trouble reading this, I wasn't sure if you were talking about coachdad, OP, or the elder. Hopefully, it's easier to read now. Take care, brother!
/r/RPChristians19/05/20 06:21 PM
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Heh. That's on me. There's the OP, who quotes an elder in his church, and the church he attends. I should have simply used elder when referring to the gentleman he quotes, and "you" when referring to the OP. Edit: I cleaned it up a bit.
/r/RPChristians19/05/20 05:57 PM
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Your elder mentioned things that characterize Jesus as loving and compassionate and tender, etc. OK. Does he or others in the church ya'll attend also talk about the times when Jesus was "mean" (by some people's standards today) or harsh? Jesus called people liars. Jesus called people hypocrites. Jesus said they had asps under their tongues. Jesus said they were of their father the devil. Jesus physically beat people with a whip. Jesus said I came not to bring peace but a sword. I could go on. I…
/r/RPChristians19/05/20 05:01 PM
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Both of you being ballroom dance teachers explains a lot. And as you said, helps a lot as well in various ways. She's a great woman, and God has definitely blessed me through her. Wonderful, brother! May God continue to bless both of you as ya'll live for Him!
/r/RPChristians14/05/20 05:59 PM
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No, I figured some would read it that way, though. I probably could've been more clear, but the point was about how we apply scripture. If the part you reference is more confusing than clarifying, ignore it.
/r/RPChristians14/05/20 04:29 AM
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Can she hold a beat with her whole body? know that rhythm has a very high correlation to a sex positive outlook. Interesting, and uncommon take, as you noted. I've thought about this at times, but I mostly tended to associate it with promiscuity, and didn't view it (not often, anyway) with a chaste woman. I guess it depends a lot on the type of dancing. Club dancing and "grinding" is different than ballroom dancing is different than [fill in the blank] as far as the thoughts they may bring about…
/r/RPChristians14/05/20 03:28 AM
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He's right, but as you know, there's a big difference between "beating someone over the head with the Bible*" while holding to a position and someone holding that same position, yet teaching, acting on it and expressing it in an entirely different way. *Not saying that's what he's doing here, just making the point that how one acts on or carries out one of God's commands can play an important role. A somewhat decent example that makes a similar point: Jesus and the woman caught in adultery. Peop…
/r/RPChristians14/05/20 03:14 AM
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Brother, I love this and the influence it may have on others. Despite everything you've gone through, your heart wants to see this woman saved and walking with the Lord. Divorce aside, it's a good place to be where you can have peace and there's no abiding bitterness and unforgiveness towards her that eats at you. Give her to God to do as He will, while you make tough decisions and walk out your life and do the best you can for Him and may God bless you and keep you in all things. it would be ni…
/r/RPChristians09/05/20 05:55 PM
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Don't shoot your side of the canoe sometimes comes into play. We need to do our part and keep things afloat and get where we're going, while repairing what is needed.
/r/RPChristians09/05/20 05:39 PM
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Succinct!
/r/RPChristians09/05/20 08:36 AM
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Since God is the Creator and knows the mind, emotions and nature of men and women, anytime a couple ventures outside of His parameters for how He designed things to be and their function, they will experience trouble. With that said, we know God tells us in the New Testament that an unbelieving husband (who wouldn't have any respect for, or belief in, God) can be influenced and won over by the conduct of a believing wife. So even though a man doesn't respect God and isn't following this order, a…
/r/RPChristians09/05/20 07:55 AM
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What, no Thoreau? :-) Or Hawthorne :)
/r/RPChristians06/05/20 05:53 PM
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I understand. Perhaps you two can strongly consider a marriage without the State involved, for now. It is every bit as binding in God's eyes. If you two truly mean it, and you take your vows seriously (as serious as if you two were legally married), then make a marital covenant with one another / say marital vows to each other and consummate those vows with sex. Yes, you've had it before, but not after a covenant establishing a marriage. You can then lead your lives as you are now, except as a m…
/r/RPChristians30/04/20 07:14 PM
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And forgive my lack of understanding on all this, I am so young in my faith. I know through Christ I am forgiven, but that does not take away the pain of recognizing the sin. 2 Corinthians 7:10 tells us "For godly grief (or sorrow) produces a repentance that leads to salvation without regret, whereas worldly grief produces death." You may feel this way for a time, and it leads to deliverance, preservation, safety, salvation, not just to a one time salvation experience, but to ongoing sanctificat…
/r/RPChristians30/04/20 07:06 PM
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Is it okay to live with someone and be chaste? Why don't you marry now instead of waiting a couple of years? You're already doing (or were doing) everything a married couple does including living together. You currently have the finances to live as you are, so nothing would change in those respects except you'd be married instead of unmarried and living together. I am a nurse now, but I want to be a stay at home mom Good. Work toward that. and cultivate a beautiful traditional marriage with him.…
/r/RPChristians30/04/20 06:44 PM
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Not all men are meant to be super “manly” or “red pilled”. Some men are biologically or chemically less prone to be masculine and it’s not their fault, so what now? Force him to be a certain way that he’s just not compatible with? Will you elaborate on this? What specific examples do you have in mind for a man like this, compared to a man you'd consider "manly" or "red pilled?" Before I or anyone else comments further, it'd be good to know more about your thinking on this.
/r/RPChristians27/04/20 06:44 AM
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Read this reply by u/Deep_Strength titled How RP Christians Originated and the comment below it in that same thread by the founder u/Red-Curious agreeing and adding his thoughts. This is the how and why. Under "Welcome to Red Pill Christians" in bold letters on the sidebar, you get this: We are a subreddit that exists to provide a place for Christians to discuss problems, solutions and insights on relationships, sex, and biblical masculinity according to biblical principles. This is the what. Th…
/r/RPChristians27/04/20 04:07 AM
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We're discussing it, and whether to have a new sub for women as part of the RPChristian community. Of course, this doesn't keep you from starting a sub on your own, anytime you want. You did say, however, that you'd prefer it to be tied to an existing community. Thanks for the info and the links. We'd want to vet any woman who played a prominent role in a new sub tied to this one, so a close and consistent walk with God is of primary importance, and her actions being evident of that. I don't dou…
/r/RPChristians26/04/20 06:28 AM
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r/barefootandpregnant is where I’ve been lurking recently. It’s lovely Lol I don't know why this makes me laugh, but it does. I guess because whenever someone has been offended at something I said and they'd comment along the lines of "You just want women barefoot and in the kitchen!" and I'd reply: "You forgot pregnant!" ;) I don't know anything about the sub, but glad to hear you like it! It’s bizzare. There was a stark change, maybe at the start of the whole COVID issue? My time there goes wa…
/r/RPChristians26/04/20 04:51 AM
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Posts are made constantly about open marriages and hall passes. Sigh. I've seen those kinds of posts and comments in the past. One of the most glaring (and repeated) examples that keeps me from encouraging women to go there, is the encouragement of sex before marriage. What's "funny" is they'll say no sex before commitment, but some define commitment as 3 dates, or a couple of weeks or simply being exclusive, which technically could be right from the get-go. I wrote about not saying no to my hus…
/r/RPChristians26/04/20 04:09 AM
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Many people have soteriological differences, but as long as grace through faith is a part of that theology and not undermined by the rest, it makes it hard for me to say their particular model won't lead to salvation, even in its core teachings. That, of course, doesn't mean their other erroneous teachings are acceptable - it only means that they're not so off-base as to make them heretical, as some claim. Agreed and well said! This nicely sums up my view as well. while they do teach many wrong …
/r/RPChristians26/04/20 03:26 AM
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I encourage you to do it if you have the time. I've briefly discussed doing the same, as there is a need for this type of content. Reach out to different people and see if you can get them to help with content, so your not the only one posting and responsible for new threads getting started. It will mostly fall on you but if you have a handful of others to help, it goes a long way. It will be good to write up a dozen or more articles/posts, so when you launch you'll have a few you can put up imm…
/r/RPChristians25/04/20 09:29 PM
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We agree on what they are. Your mistake here is caring at all about what he has to say. No mistake, just laying down a marker as a mod and giving a fair warning. If the trolling or these type of responses continue, it'll be ban for her/him. I dealt with them extensively in graduate school, mostly women and low testosterone men. Same experience in my college days. I imagine graduate school is worse.
/r/RPChristians21/04/20 11:16 PM
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And that misogynistic “men be men” crap? You mean like when God said: Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. - 1 Corinthians 16:13 Or when King David instructs his son Solomon to: “I am about to go the way of all the earth. Be strong, and show yourself a man - 1 Kings 2:2 And all kinds of other "misogynistic" biblical verses that God inspired. And you’re a racist. It’s called Coronavirus 2019, or CoVid 19, or CV19. Viruses have been named after their place of origin for a…
/r/RPChristians19/04/20 07:40 PM
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This is a good list. Short list that could use more elaboration in the future (maybe I'll write up a full post)... When I saw u/caterpillar345 's comment in my inbox, I thought of writing up a post but I think you'd do a better job! Looking forward to it, brother!
/r/RPChristians19/04/20 04:28 AM
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Thank you, and yes, your examples certainly apply. Although with the kids, as you know you have to go by his words with the exceptions of seeing how he is with nieces and nephews and other people's kids, and whether his actions are indicators of wanting his own or signs he'd rather remain childless. marrying them won’t make anything better or solve any issues. Women fall into this trap a lot True, they rationalize a lot of things and marriage making existing issues better is often one of them. I…
/r/RPChristians18/04/20 07:15 PM
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Try r/RPChristians It's Red Pill Christians. It's mostly men, but an increasing number of women comment as well. You'll probably be right at home there.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/20 04:37 AM
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Set very clear goals and deadlines for yourself. If you leave it vague, it won't get done. Yes, this.
/r/RPChristians17/04/20 07:49 AM
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Hi, and welcome! So I was encouraged by u/Red-Curious after commenting on this post to go ahead and share what the Lord has convicted me of this quarantine. I don't want to "behave" like I'm set free and redeemed by Christ, I want to genuinely be set free from the deepest parts of my soul. I've been praying Psalm 51 over and over. This is one of the reasons I love this community. Someone writing something, sharing something, telling their story or teaching a truth and another taking that in and …
/r/RPChristians16/04/20 07:51 AM
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Haha, this post makes me wish I could be more convicted in this area! If it helps, forget the attraction part and focus on, say, having a lot more energy to run around and do everything you want without feeling so tired at the end of the day. Weight loss can help a lot with that. Or do it for health reasons. You have a lot to do, and bad health (preventing it) isn't going to hold you down from the accomplishments waiting in the weeks, months or years ahead! My one concession to femininity is wea…
/r/RPChristians16/04/20 07:06 AM
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I appreciate your thoughtful, polite reply. We agree on a lot. Hmm. I suppose this is a sensitive topic for me, as I'm 19 and recently left my church partly for their abhorrent teaching on sexual purity (though primarily how they communicate an incomplete gospel. I pray God leads you to a good church that rightly divides His Word. I don't need to tell you, but there's so so much wrong with how the women see sex, and I think the best thing they need to be doing is spending time in prayer and in G…
/r/RPChristians16/04/20 03:47 AM
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we just decided to do it ourselves. Go with what works! My husband has been waxing his balls too which is a treat Lol. Lol fun for ya'll. Also, yeah coconut oil is extremely occlusive causing clogged pores and break outs and women who use it are probably not informed about good skincare but misinformed through Pinterest etc Good info! I'll highlight this here again and help someone else see it.
/r/RPChristians15/04/20 06:49 PM
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Yeah some men care more about some items, while others don't matter as much to them. The list is to show there are physical things that can be improved, a woman isn't limited in how attractive she is, as some might believe. Learn to cook. Always a favorite of men :) Although I wanted to keep the list focused on the physical, to show what can be done to improve attractiveness. #10 does veer from that, though. Thanks for the comment!
/r/RPChristians15/04/20 06:42 PM
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You pay lip service to what the Bible says about modesty because this is r/RPChristians and not r/TheRedPill (also in rule 10) No, I stand on the full Word of God, regardless of whether it's RPChristians or anywhere else. If I'm in error, and I don't think I am, then I ask God to correct me, and that may be through a fellow brother or any means God uses. "Not slutty but still shows your figure" Basically, the difference between wearing a potato sack and wearing something very revealing. There is…
/r/RPChristians15/04/20 06:32 PM
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I've heard Fascinating Womanhood is a good book for women. Maybe others will comment as well and add their thoughts. Thanks for the info!
/r/RPChristians15/04/20 05:55 PM
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Do not put coconut oil on your face!!!! Extremely comeodomic. Good to know. I've read women who used it and liked it for general skincare, including on their face, but don't know for how long. I'll edit the post and include your info. Also, yall want to pay $75 for my monthly brazilian. Go for it. Lol or you can buy a $25 trimmer one time and keep it trimmed and well groomed. Or let it grow wild. Some men may like that. Or pay for whatever treatment you want. Or don't, if it's too much out of po…
/r/RPChristians15/04/20 05:33 PM
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But the word is not agreed upon enough to make a lot of logical points like you are for it to translate well to the rest of the world. I'll start here because it sums up the problem. And if the original post illuminates anything, it's that there is divisive opinion on that definition. I was just about to write: As evident in the comments in the original post lol I thought it was clear and most people would be on the same page with the meaning of godliness, at least the way most people use the te…
/r/RPChristians15/04/20 04:53 AM
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For many men, it depends on degree. If they see a sleeve or tatted up neck or a good sized one along her leg or torso when she's wearing shorts or sporting a bikini, then they'll likely immediately categorize her as a slut or engaging in various addictive behaviors, whether warranted or not. I wouldn't blame them, as there is a correlation between them. Also, what the tat is of may make a difference. Some cute "girly" thing on her wrist or ankle is different than a tramp stamp or some demonic lo…
/r/RPChristians15/04/20 12:20 AM
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No I'm not, and you have misunderstood my point. You've misunderstood mine. The post hinges on how one describes or defines godliness. When using a strict biblical definition as stated in a previous reply (such as piety or reverence toward God, although what is included in those definitions are argued over) or using a "Churchianity" definition, which is stripped of masculine attributes for a man, then godliness isn't sexually arousing. When using the word the way you have defined or characterize…
/r/RPChristians14/04/20 11:56 PM
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Godliness is sexy in that a woman that is reserved sexually, and follows her morals, is a great candidate for a wife. These are RMV traits. And yes, they help make for a good or better choice of a wife. They are desirable in that sense. But I'm using the word sexy as in arousing sexual desire. If a woman is obese and has an ugly face, but she is reserved sexually, follows her morals, and has many other good qualities, are you going to want her sexually when married? (if you were single and looki…
/r/RPChristians14/04/20 06:17 PM
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They go hand in hand. There's nothing misguided about either.
/r/RPChristians14/04/20 06:01 PM
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Excellent write up! Too often, men's actions are influenced by wrong perspectives. They think, "Well, this is how women are, so I'll do this..." And end up with disappointing results. As you know, it can be applied in a plethora of ways, from the spiritual to the practical, but I'm oft reminded of the verse "My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge." Thanks for the write up!
/r/RPChristians14/04/20 09:20 AM
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Solid post, brother. You need to cross-post more of your stuff here. Thanks, will do. The only thing I'll note, which has been alluded to in less clear terms by a couple people: what you really mean is "godliness" in the way churchianity defines the word. I edited the post, included your comment and added some thoughts. Thanks for the feedback! I'm going to put up a companion post to address one thing from the comments: the assumption that feminists push that men are more visual than women (and …
/r/RPChristians14/04/20 08:52 AM
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You're defining godliness as including masculine traits, which can be attraction triggers. As noted in the OP, I'm talking about one who pursues godliness (piety, holiness, etc as the original koine Greek word applies it) yet neglects physical appearance and thinks one makes up for the other. Also, as detailed in a previous reply, while your argument (and defining it the way you do) can apply to men, it isn't an exact match to women. A man who thinks he will just find a very good, godly woman wh…
/r/RPChristians14/04/20 12:26 AM
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Once that ring went on, she pulled the pin on the fat grenade and here I am dealing with the wreckage. This is so good I have to quote it again, even though u/ENTPunisher already did so lol Not what you're asking for, I guess but I needed to vent. It's all good, brother. On a serious note, I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I pray it gets better. Focus on your progress, lead by example and when she sees you getting more fit and attractive, and the corresponding attention from other women ev…
/r/RPChristians14/04/20 12:13 AM
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Thank you!
/r/RPChristians14/04/20 12:07 AM
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Just read this comment after replying to Runawaygrain. We're on the same page! :) God uses everyone, including the elites, rich and famous and anyone willing to give their lives to be used as a vessel for Him.
/r/RPChristians14/04/20 12:07 AM
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Jesus seems to prefer to recruit the kids that the world puts at the back of the bus. Think about the apostles. They were a motley crew of fishermen, tax collectors, and one was formerly determined to kill any Christians he could find. Thankfully, he uses all kinds and we all get to play a role! As you noted, a motley crew :) I will note that he can and sometimes does use the "models, reality TV stars, or royalty" types too. Paul was from the "elite" of his day, highly intelligent and educated. …
/r/RPChristians14/04/20 12:02 AM
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I've seen so many Christian men lean on their Godliness and piety to pull in a date, then get butthurt when the only ones who knock on their doors are girls with too much baggage or girls who are 3's or 4's (or at worse-not at all.) Yes. Some women take a "I can do what I want or let myself go" and then misapply the Christian forgiveness, don't judge me, piety stomps out any other preferences kinda lines, and many Christian men just go with it. Where did the Church go so wrong that the idea of "…
/r/RPChristians13/04/20 11:54 PM
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It depends on what you would say godliness is. The words translated in various scriptures mean: piously, godly, piety toward God: 2 Timothy 3:12; Titus 2:12; 1 Timothy 2:2 and others that translate it as "godly" or "godliness" God is powerful, God is strong, God is sovereign. Those are sexy characteristics. It's true that things like strength, confidence, dominance, etc are attraction triggers. My point is people neglect the physical, thinking godliness (as I've used the term in it's biblical ro…
/r/RPChristians13/04/20 06:27 PM
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And don't say, "With A-1 sauce" either! Haha. I'm sure she'd be delicious! Keep her alive, fat and happy, though! You can always put her in a Chik-Fil-A commercial.
/r/RPChristians11/04/20 06:57 AM
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Throw in some potatoes and I'm in. We may need to make a run on Willow's cows 😆 Invite us over and it'll be like that scene in Twister where they're all piled in there eating steak and eggs and all kinds of delicious food, and then back out to chase storms again.
/r/RPChristians10/04/20 09:40 PM
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RMV Checklist: How to know if a woman is good marriage material
/r/RPChristians09/04/20 01:14 AM
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You wrote: God bigger than Christ is a heresy and completely antichristian. please dont even identify as a Christian if you really believe that. I didn't say bigger than Christ. Please read more carefully and keep things in context. I'm directly referencing scripture, in 1 Corinthians 11:3 where it reads: But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God. That clearly lays out God's hierarchy. Christ IS God. He is …
/r/RPChristians04/04/20 05:24 PM
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I hear what you're saying, but take a closer look at the verse you quoted: God created man in his own image He created man in his own image. This is the word 'adamand while it is sometimes used to mean mankind, I think in this context it's referring to a male, Adam. Then we get: in the image of God created he him This is the word zakar and it means exclusively male, as an adjective describing a (male) human, or as a masculine noun. Again we see the phrase "in the image of God" associated with th…
/r/RPChristians01/04/20 07:04 PM
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But I'll have my virginal HB9 and there's nothing you can do to stop me Preach! Upvote for Sawyer Brown. The title/lyrics u/Coachdad8 quoted brings back memories. I haven't heard that song in ages. Good times!
/r/RPChristians30/03/20 11:34 PM
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I know, it was a playful comment. I hope you and Nyquil are doing well!
/r/askRPC20/03/20 10:04 AM
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There’s not too many feminine Christian bloggers out there either. We need more feminine Christian bloggers, podcasters, YouTubers and more. And a lot more masculine Christian men doing the same and in high profile positions in society, setting godly examples for others to emulate.
/r/askRPC18/03/20 11:42 PM
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If it's not a "hell yes!" It's a no. I'll repeat my call for having this as a banner across the site once a month. :)
/r/askRPC18/03/20 11:35 PM
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"Look at this crazy website I stumbled across!" Are you saying some of us are crazy? ;) Finally: do not marry if you have doubts. This.
/r/askRPC18/03/20 11:33 PM
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Locking this post before removing it. Two things: You need more than a headline/title. Otherwise, it'll be considered low value and removed. This is likely best discussed at r/askRPC, as politics and related issues are a better fit over there. Add some content, answer your own question and post it over at askRPC and maybe you can get a good discussion going.
/r/RPChristians18/03/20 10:50 PM
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Praise God! Wonderful news! As u/Sigma-Angel_of_Death stated, God is working in Roosh's life, Nickolas's and others. I used to read Heartiste, and before his ban, he would occasionally reference God, C.S. Lewis, and/or put thoughts and ideas out there that suggested he was moving in God's direction. It was rare, yet a noticeable change. I pray he's yet another that God saves and uses to influence others for His kingdom.
/r/RPChristians11/03/20 06:00 PM
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What about gender play? to which u/Dan_M7 asked you: Although admittedly wanting to wear a woman’s clothes seems strange to me, so I may not be the right guy for that particular question. Why bro? Is it some kink? Or do you feel feminine, and thus want to dress feminine? And you replied: More like I just think it is arousing. Nothing more. Let me share this scripture with you: "A woman shall not wear man's clothing, nor shall a man put on a woman's clothing; for whoever does these things is an a…
/r/RPChristians02/03/20 01:03 AM
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Chuck likes to call it ChristianDeadBedrooms haha Promote male headship in the home? Banned. Condemn sexual degeneracy? Banned. Condemn female pastors? Banned. I believe you, but I may make a quick reply over there about male headship / wives submitting just to experience it myself, if they ban me, that is.
/r/RPChristians02/03/20 12:10 AM
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She's already reasoning how to ration the sex they're not even having yet. He is wise to be concerned, especially since she gave herself so freely to others in the past.. This is exactly right, Chuck! She's letting him know her plans upfront, and he should heed them, and act accordingly. Which in this case, I'd recommend leaving. "Twice a week is probably ok and wants to know "how much I can control myself" and laying groundwork for the reasons why are likely indicators of a future dead bedroom.…
/r/RPChristians01/03/20 08:58 PM
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Her body was hot, but I wasn’t attracted to her face. Are we talking complexion? Overall shape/contour of her face? If the former, that's fixable. The latter not so much, unless one is considering surgery, which I don't recommend. Also, things like the right haircut and style that complements one's facial contours can help, especially for women. If she was willing to work on this, she may be worth pursuing. If not, or if it's more the way her face is shaped that is unappealing to you, you don't …
/r/askRPC25/02/20 06:39 AM
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Why are you confused? What, exactly, are you expecting from a genuine Christian girl? Just getting clear on what you're expectations are. I ask because you say it was easy to "pull" instagram models, but not even get a Christian girl to go on a date. By pulling I'm guessing you mean to get a number and go on a date vs you're having a hard time doing that with Christian girls. Some might use that phrase to mean more than dating and imply more intimate activities. I know you said you're not lookin…
/r/RPChristians23/02/20 06:27 AM
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What I received, was instant, multiple giant essays of info I wasn’t prepared for. And yet, she could have sent a quick reply when she had time. Something like "Sorry I didn't make it, there's crazy stuff going on and will explain everything when I have time if you're open to talking." That takes seconds. So, she can send you walls of texts, but not the above? Take note. I could tell first based on how lengthy the essay was about her family member, and the legitimate anger about me saying I didn…
/r/RPChristians20/02/20 07:23 PM
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This subreddit could have a name that doesn't include RP or Red Pill in the name, and the content here would be exactly the same (Sidebar content, mod posts/comments, endorsed contributors, etc). Because it is rooted and grounded in the Bible. Any areas where the Bible aligns or differs with RP praxeology, we have discussed that and lead men in a God honoring, biblical path forward that helps fix and restore relationships, and works to keep them on a successful path. Most people get hung up on t…
/r/RPChristians18/02/20 05:34 AM
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He's referencing a quote from the movie Fight Club, which was: "Welcome to Fight Club. The first rule of Fight Club is: you do not talk about Fight Club. The second rule of Fight Club is: you DO NOT talk about Fight Club! Third rule of Fight Club: if someone yells “stop!”, goes limp, or taps out, the fight is over. Fourth rule: only two guys to a fight. Fifth rule: one fight at a time, fellas. Sixth rule: the fights are bare knuckle. No shirt, no shoes, no weapons. Seventh rule: fights will go o…
/r/RPChristians18/02/20 05:08 AM
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Interesting you chose to use Abraham and Isaac as an example. It also shows the parents have an important role in choosing a spouse for their children Yes sir. Parents have an essential and important role. something our modern society has removed, likely to give women more freedom to choose exciting chads while young True. I've pondered this a little recently, and think some blend between arranged marriage and choosing one's own spouse might be best in today's society. Perhaps something like a f…
/r/RPChristians17/02/20 12:09 AM
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im friends with a bunch of girls in my fellowship and classes, but I don’t really do stuff with them outside of that. I feel like I need to work on this What are you wanting? not necessarily for the purpose of finding a partner So you don't want to date them, you just want to hang out with them? because it would be good for me How so? I'm not saying it wouldn't be, just wondering why you think so. But I don’t want to turn it into a thing where I hope someone starts developing feelings for me You…
/r/RPChristians16/02/20 06:11 AM
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It's alarming how people avoid the fact that beauty and confidence are the never changing main aspects of attraction in women and men, respectively. Exactly! There's no avoiding the elephants in the room of youth, beauty and fertility being very important drivers or influencers for men choosing a woman, and wealth, resources and confidence/courage etc being main drivers for women. I find it curious that getting a rejection in Christian circles seems to be such a big deal for people. It seems lik…
/r/RPChristians14/02/20 06:28 PM
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True. Which is why I said that in the post. One shouldn't wait around waiting for God to drop someone in their lap. On the flip side, just as we pray and ask God to intervene or help in other areas of life, so too we should invite Him to bless and guide our efforts in finding a spouse.
/r/RPChristians14/02/20 06:15 PM
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Deep Strength's blog Mine.
/r/RPChristians12/02/20 12:02 AM
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This is a thoughtful and wise response! I'm glad you posted this. It may rub some the wrong way, but the principles and practicality shared will help those who think this through.
/r/RPChristians11/02/20 08:45 PM
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Amen. Forgiveness is one of the most important—and sometimes one of the hardest—things to do in our walk with Christ.
/r/RPChristians27/01/20 11:29 PM
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Based on his comments in the comment section below the article, he has not decided whether to leave the existing content up or delete the entire site. For those who didn't see this in the comments at the link Chuck shared in this post, here is one exchange Chuck is referring to: @OKRickety commented: Dalrock, thanks for your efforts over the years. I do hope the blog remains publicly available, both for those who would benefit from the good stuff, and also as a historical record. And Dalrock res…
/r/RPChristians24/01/20 12:19 AM
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Thanks for this, Chuck! I used to visit daily but I haven't been there in a good while, so I would've missed this news. Man, I'm sad to see him go. He's an excellent writer and his thoughts and ideas have influenced a great many. Like DS, I wonder if anything other than simply "It's time" played a role. I wish him all the best and the Lord bless any new endeavors he puts his hand to.
/r/RPChristians24/01/20 12:08 AM
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Lol do it OZ. Unleash it. Release the Kraken! Haha. Kidding aside, it's very tempting to take on threads like this and write small treatises and set everything straight. To borrow a biblical phrase, "there is a great gulf betwixt us" and as you noted in an earlier reply, unless two are in agreement on foundational things, it's almost pointless to put forth opposing arguments.
/r/RPChristians15/01/20 04:09 AM
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Check out some of the older (pre-1960's) worship music. It's hard to beat the old hymns of the faith. "Just as I am" and "The Old Rugged Cross" and "Amazing Grace" and "Victory in Jesus" and hundreds more. Also read the Psalms and see how David expressed his love in prayer and song - This.
/r/RPChristians28/12/19 04:46 AM
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I thought OZ made up a line to make fun of songs like that, I didn't know it was actual thing. Ugh.
/r/RPChristians28/12/19 04:39 AM
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Excellent! I'm stealing this with attribution.
/r/askRPC19/12/19 07:29 AM
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Glad to read this and I hope other Christian women see this and are encouraged knowing they're not the only ones out there committed to sexual purity. For many women, it's easy to know it mentally but emotionally they may feel at times like they're the only ones with this kind of commitment. Question: What things have you noticed among your friends who are waiting that stand out to you, as far as any correlations between actions/traits/upbringing, etc and virginity/commitment to wait until marri…
/r/RPChristians08/12/19 06:16 AM
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I came here to say what OZ and Deep Strength already commented on in their replies. There is, as u/Red-Curious noted, an element of covenant when a man and woman intentionally agree/consent to be together sexually, but my personal view is that the covenant aspect is a more distinct thing, as u/OsmiumZulu outlined. As with many things, matters of the heart are essential. Some random thoughts to consider: Have the couple discussed this before, and with understanding agreed that when two become one…
/r/RPChristians05/12/19 12:28 AM
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You: Take her by the arm* and lead her away from others as you say "Hey, let me borrow you for a sec..." or "Walk with me, there's something I want to tell you." Or any number of sentences that are simple, honest, forthright and commanding. And when you two are away from the group, ask her to go somewhere with you on a given night, as u/TheChristianAlpha said in his reply. Say "I'm going to "abc" Friday night. Come with me." and watch her reply. Or a little more playful "You need to cancel any p…
/r/RPChristians01/12/19 11:25 PM
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How often do you want sex? How often does he want it? The advice given may vary, depending on whether you're worlds apart of if it's something closer. For example, if you wanted it twice a day, and he wants it once a week, that's a very big difference. The lower libido person needs to have sex 13 more times a week than what they ideally want. Or if he wants it twice a week and you want it 5 times a week, that's over twice as much but it's only three extra times each week. There's nothing wrong w…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/19 12:55 AM
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I always loved reading this. Glad to see and read it again. Thank you Chuck! George Washington is my favorite President. As Henry "Light Horse Harry" Lee said of Washington: "First in war, first in peace and first in the hearts of his countrymen." Happy Thanksgiving everyone! May the RPChristian family be blessed and rejoice in God's excellent greatness and be thankful to Him for all he is and does.
/r/RPChristians28/11/19 09:13 AM
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Sometimes it's the simple things that can make us stop and think and react better. This little analogy (linked in the OP) has stayed with me since I first heard it years ago. Maybe it'll help you.
/r/RedPillWives25/11/19 10:38 AM
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Oh goodness, I forgot about that. Thanks for clarifying! u/Praexology ignore my reply, as I was mistaken.
/r/RPChristians12/11/19 05:22 AM
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There is some contradiction, or at least some weird mixing between this and what you wrote in your book. Do you mean u/Deep_Strength's book? Because Red Curious' book isn't out yet. That may explain the discrepancy you see between what RC wrote and what you read in DS' book, if that's what you're referring to.
/r/RPChristians12/11/19 04:40 AM
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Yes, they're definitely on the left. You'll have to separate fact vs opinion with their stuff. That's true with many media sources, though.
/r/RPChristians09/11/19 06:31 PM
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Richard Baris is one of my main stops on Twitter. https://twitter.com/Peoples_Pundit And his site, Peoples Pundit Daily covers news, politics, business and markets. I'll announce a personal website soon that'll cover some cultural news, and occasionally political, but that'll be rare. You're better off going with sites like The Washington Times, or certain people on social media. Tim Pool leans liberal in his views, but does cover the facts well, when I've looked at his writings and videos. You …
/r/RPChristians09/11/19 09:28 AM
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Apparently wanting more than starfish is a bad thing now. I'm curious of the author's own sex-life. I get the impression that the entire article is a way for him to hamster/rationalize that his missionary/cowgirl framework is really the only proper Christian way to have a sex life in marriage. He says: "most is very violent, extremely degrading, and very ugly." To continue my habit in this post of making new replies, let me add this: Articles like this—and I'll include sermons from pulpits, semi…
/r/RPChristians05/11/19 01:06 AM
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Plus, there's the whole "What is porn?" question. "I know it when I see it" was the answer by a late Supreme Court justice. Nude Greek statues? Paintings that show partial nudity or exposure of genitals? What if two married people record themselves having sex and use it as instruction for other married couples to learn how to have better sex? (I'm not in favor of this, just asking questions to be considered). We have Christian books on sex describing what to do or various positions, and some hav…
/r/RPChristians05/11/19 12:25 AM
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What's funny (or not so much) is that the same people who push how porn is so bad (and I'm against porn use, ftr) and include it as part of their reasoning/justification for divorce in citing the "except for sexual immorality" clause, stay far away from including sexually denying your spouse as part of that as well. You'll hear things like "porn obviously has to do with sex, and it's wrong/immoral, therefore it's sexually immoral and grounds for divorce. Well, I'm pretty sure sex has to do with …
/r/RPChristians05/11/19 12:12 AM
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I know lol Love that guy.
/r/RPChristians05/11/19 12:00 AM
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But you are probably right that I am frustrated and maybe magnifying how upsetting the other issues are. Everything else is happy or at least workable without seeking random internet counsel except the intimacy. That's the pain point. So focus on that. And to get what you want there, lose the weight and get fit and toned. As a man, he'll likely respond to the increased attraction. Just start where you are and keep making progress. You mentioned testosterone in your post or replies, and said his …
/r/askRPC31/10/19 06:34 AM
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I'd love for your husband to post a reply here, so we can get his perspective.
/r/askRPC31/10/19 12:50 AM
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There is a lot here. Let's just dive in and pick one at a time. In a comment, you replied: We have a history/dynamic where "if I want it, I got it" and he never pushes back on anything at all. This reply was in relation to finances, but usually, if a man does this in an area of this significance, it likely shows up in many others. But obviously, it's not. Because if you want everything you state in the post, why aren't you getting it? This seems odd to me. He's willing to go along with whatever …
/r/askRPC30/10/19 11:58 PM
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If you knew she thought it was hot and she loved it, and she didn't have a hint of awkwardness or being uncomfortable, that it was most natural thing ever, would you still think or feel that you need to hide or address this? If not, then you're more worried about what she thinks rather than what's actually happening. You don't need to point it out or cover it up. You can do either, but it's mainly your attitude that matters and she'll follow your lead on how you handle it.
/r/RPChristians30/10/19 06:06 PM
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I'm quite afraid to start gaming her a bit more and showing more intention, since she got creeped out before. Girls don't get creeped out by men they're attracted to. There's just lots of signals going around that she's attracted to me but she's not making it explicit. I didn't read a single signal in your post that a girl wouldn't do to a beta orbiter. I guess I expressed my vulnerability wrongly Why are you expressing vulnerability at all with this girl? Maybe when you've been dating someone a…
/r/RPChristians29/10/19 11:12 PM
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I am new to this site Welcome! Look for posts and comments by mods or endorsed contributors, and you'll get a better understanding of our viewpoints and positions. Your comment and scripture quotes have been stated here many times before by the mods and others, and u/Deep_Strength often quotes and clarifies Ephesians for others in saying husbands are to love their wives in ways that lead them to sanctification. Always good to have friendly reminders for everyone. Again, welcome and join in as of…
/r/RPChristians28/10/19 07:39 PM
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STFU is a tool in the toolbox. Use it as often or as infrequent as you like. The same with other things such as AA (Agree and Amplify) or AM (Amused Mastery), etc. These are usually (but not always) employed in response to fitness tests, or to address negative situations or to defuse or handle various issues. Or sometimes, there's no issue or outburst to address. A man may simply not feel like talking. If not, don't. Of course, there's basic common sense and decency. If someone asks you somethin…
/r/RPChristians28/10/19 06:48 PM
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If anything, I'd suggest sex is the foundation of marriage. As is often said among those who aren't having it: "Without sex, we're really just roommates." ^ This. Marriage is fundamentally about sex. Almost everything a wife does can be done by the husband, friends, family or even complete strangers who you influence to follow you and support your mission. Except sex. (Keeping within biblical parameters, that is). One could add childbearing (obviously tied to sex) and some would say opposite sex…
/r/RPChristians28/10/19 08:16 AM
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Sure, no prob. Sounds like your becoming a sponge. Been there done that. I'm not sure who you intended to reply to here, whether the OP, another commenter or me. If me, I was giving a definition of STFU, not describing a personal situation. And in that definition, STFU for a man isn't losing his voice or being a sponge, it's simply deciding you don't need to answer or address something simply because someone else thinks you need to. Most men feel the need to DEER. Instead, you can let your actio…
/r/RPChristians26/10/19 03:08 AM
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STFU is Shut the F**k Up Instead of feeling like you should answer or address a question, comment or situation, just STFU. There's no law or unwritten rule that says one has to answer. Because usually, depending on one's answer (if you give one), it can lead to more arguments, etc. so it's recommended to practice STFU. If one thinks an answer is good and warranted, give one. If not, don't. STFU can apply to men and women. u/OGLeonLio and u/crisperrgk
/r/RPChristians25/10/19 11:21 PM
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Great stuff here. Give an outline or synopsis and add your thoughts. Or pick a section you found particularly insightful or helpful and detail it here. Otherwise, this is considered a low value post, even if it does link to content that is substantive and valuable. As an example, even when one of our mods such as u/Deep_Strength links to one of his articles in a post, he usually either quotes most of it so people don't have to make the jump or he details a section of it so that, even if someone …
/r/RPChristians24/10/19 11:18 PM
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I realize how critical it is for guys to be red pilled to know how to navigate the shark infested waters. Yes and amen! Vet, boundary enforce, whatever term or phrase one wants to use, but single men today need a full and complete knowledge of biblical and red pill concepts that they actively live out. Otherwise they are going to be eaten alive. It's like all those dating profiles that say, "I don't do hookups, so don't even bother." Haha I remember someone saying that every time he saw a woman …
/r/askRPC24/10/19 06:23 AM
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Agreed. As the late Charles Poliquin used to say, "To increase T, lower C." u/thesnowwhite19 In addition to checking his cortisol levels, take a second look at his testosterone numbers. You said: He’s had his testosterone and thyroid checked and he’s completely healthy. The thing is, lab ranges for testosterone go from about 300 to 1200 ng/dL (depending on the lab). A man could be, say, 350 ng/dL and his doctor will say he's "in range" and his T level is normal. Another man could be at 850 and a…
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 03:34 AM
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You're welcome! The Lord lead and bless you.
/r/RPChristians14/10/19 04:13 AM
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If this is a good church, why would you let a woman keep you from getting spiritually fed and nourished there as you worship with other believers? There are no "buts," you simply get your butt in the seat if they are doing their best to rightly divide the Word, if the Spirit of God is moving there, if they are actively discipling others, etc. As one man said, "if you find the perfect church, don't join! Because it won't be perfect anymore." :) This is between you and God, not you and a girl. Get…
/r/RPChristians14/10/19 03:11 AM
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It's sad that there are still Christians who do believe in evolution. Honest questions for you, since you hold to the evolutionary view: From whence did sin come and enter the human race? At what point or person? Were there ever any sinless humans, in your view? (Other than Christ).
/r/RPChristians30/09/19 02:55 AM
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Thank you for your reply and clarification on the question I asked. Are you a Christian? People tend to use that word differently and assign different meanings to it, but what I mean is: Did you realize you are a sinner (God says we all are), were in need of a Savior, and made the Lord Jesus Christ your Lord and Savior and have you committed your life to Him? I ask because what I'll share next ties in with that. Most Christians view the Bible as the Word of God. Divinely inspired, inerrant and i…
/r/RPChristians29/09/19 06:33 PM
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As per your post title, you believe the creation story is a myth? She had a special way of turning him into a cowering mess. He was weak and he knew she hated him for it. We don't know this. That's quite an artistic license you're taking here. And: God had flung open the gates of the Garden of Eden. "That's life," he told the young lovers, "deal with it!" This part reads like God is condoning or accepting of the aforementioned part about the man being weak and the woman turning him into a coweri…
/r/RPChristians29/09/19 07:35 AM
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If you write up a post, I'm guessing that would be included. And I've written about how things are weighted toward women, yet most blame men for their actions. Ignoring something doesn't mean opposing it. And sure, ftr, be more charitable to men.
/r/RPChristians27/09/19 04:53 PM
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She comes prepared. She knows you're looking to vet her. True. And a big part of my critical view of the article in question is that the above statement applies to boundary enforcement as well, even though it is presented as far superior to vetting. A woman can/will simply game a man and stay within his boundaries until he marries her. The same with vetting. The criticisms of vetting apply equally to boundary enforcement. The argument, as you know, is if she does that and changes her behavior af…
/r/RPChristians27/09/19 08:00 AM
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You come away with a suspicion that they've followed the advice in one of those "How to write a resume that gets noticed" pieces and dang, it worked! They can also follow the advice in one of those "How to have a great interview pieces and knock their socks off!" Many things are like that. You could even say that the job interview itself is part of the vetting process. I do like the analogy, though. And it's why one should never rely on just one thing, but take a look at several pieces of the pu…
/r/RPChristians26/09/19 06:20 PM
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Hey DS, I appreciate the write up! I'm writing up my own response to touch on a few more points that I think will be good for others to consider.
/r/RPChristians25/09/19 11:06 PM
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I think this is the post you're referencing. Yeah that's it. Do you know what religion they're following to do this? Indonesia strikes me as more Buddhist or Hindu than Christian. I didn't know, but the article does mention: Indonesia is the world’s most populous Muslim majority country and has substantial Christian, Hindu and Buddhist minorities, but has seen a recent trend towards deeper religious piety and conservative Islamic activism. And: leaders of all religions had been consulted on the …
/r/askRPC20/09/19 06:17 AM
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Way of the Superior Man
/r/RPChristians18/09/19 03:56 AM
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I'm reading it as the 30K is only 20% of the down payment, not 20% of the total price of the house. So he had only a fraction of the down payment needed for an average house in LA. She clarified in her follow up reply. Mean price of a house in LA is $750k. Down payment is $150k. Tag: u/g_e_m_anscombe
/r/RPChristians16/09/19 10:38 PM
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Ha! That's happened to me a time or two with different vehicles I had, and while the initial reaction was one of "My radio! What in the world..." Next thing you know, I'm spending that additional time in prayer, talking and listening to God as I drive. "You know this isn't funny, right Lord? It's good, I mean, but not funny" haha. Mine died on me and I can't help but feel God laughing about it. Yep. :) Good times. Tag: u/rocknrollchuck
/r/RPChristians12/09/19 02:25 AM
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I’m right for citing the Bible and what we’re supposed to follow. We (the mods, and many others) have been citing the Bible from the beginning of this sub, and stating that it is what we're supposed to follow. I dare you to cite a single example where one of us said something contradictory to Scripture. Since this sub is mostly men (although women are welcome), most of the content is geared toward men and what they need to do to fix or improve their situations, as opposed to a lot content admoni…
/r/RPChristians12/09/19 02:14 AM
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Stats, please: From the Rules of the Sub: ALL posts asking for help with relationship issues must include the following: Mission: Tell us what it is and why you need a woman's help accomplishing it (I'm being serious) Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc. Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP) Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, share your faith, memorize Scripture…
/r/RPChristians10/09/19 10:17 PM
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I’m totally fine because my body count is zero. And I’ve made out with multiple guys and had three boyfriends but we never had sex. That's not what you say here About six months ago, we went out and ended up hooking up after we got back to my place. Things haven’t really been normal since. Then last Thursday, he drunk texted and asked me why I had stopped talking to him the same after sex and said he had been hurt. Bolding mine. Or here I've had hook ups with friends in the past It's hard to giv…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/19 06:21 AM
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Hi GEM: Physical: I’m currently having a thyroid storm - where I develop symptoms of hyper and hypothyroidism simultaneously (so my feet are crazy cold and I’m extremely hungry but not gaining weight). I highly encourage you to go: StopTheThyroidMadness.com It has a wealth of real information (not theory) that will help you get back on track. I'd also like to see you try glandulars, such as grass fed beef thyroid, from Ancestral Supplements. It's a natural, whole food supplement, as opposed to A…
/r/RPChristians06/09/19 10:56 PM
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Hopefully I haven't disappointed ;) Not at all. :) I always enjoy our conversations. Not to speak for him, but I'd guess he's using "alpha" interchangeably with "leader" here. That makes a lot more sense, if it's being used more narrowly like that. His words came across differently to me. Again, the "more alpha" comment is in reference to the curse. Well he did say: I think Eve wanted a "better" Adam, better offspring. Interesting how trees played into that one I'm guessing he's referring to bef…
/r/RPChristians06/09/19 09:15 AM
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Eh... I think there's a lot of reading into the text things that may not be there. Mainly, it sounds like a conversation describing a woman today—life after and living in—a sinful world. But there was no sin before the fall, there was no internal "pull" for the man and woman to act in ways that would accurately describe the way men and women act today. Obviously, Adam sinned and there was always the potential for him to do so, but not having a sinful nature (before the fall) plays a very big rol…
/r/RPChristians05/09/19 11:48 PM
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I haven't read the book. On the whole, is it worth it? If yes, I may take a look.
/r/RPChristians26/08/19 09:55 PM
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Which matches up with your writing that a wife's growth/maturity/how they relate with the Lord should largely come through her husband. A wife’s growth/maturity/how she relates with the Lord should come through her relationship with God. This isn't my argument. u/Red-Curious made a comment awhile back that I found interesting and part of his earlier reply in this thread reminded me of it, so I encouraged him to write more on this. One, because I enjoy reading his work and his arguments, and seco…
/r/RPChristians23/08/19 04:54 AM
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I would have stayed through the difficult time if he were my husband If he were your husband, I'd encourage you to keep working and fighting for this relationship. But there's a reason he's not. After 4 years, if he wanted to be your husband, he would be. At this rate, it's always going to be something "legitimate" in his eyes that keeps it from happening. Be thankful he's not. It may hurt, but move on. You've used 4 years on this relationship, and that's time you won't get back. You don't want …
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/19 11:15 PM
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while still under his father's name, is meant to model the unique way God's people would relate with him through marriage to Christ... We bear God's name, but our relationship with the Father is through the Son, and not directly of our own accord. Which matches up with your writing that a wife's growth/maturity/how they relate with the Lord should largely come through her husband. I'm going from memory, so take the above generally and correct any errors. You'd have examples such as a believing w…
/r/RPChristians22/08/19 05:51 PM
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I might be picking this one up. If you do, let me know what you think of it. Also, ebook available? I'm usually a fan of hardcovers, but in recent years I've bought more digital books. All permanent change takes place by altering how a person perceives reality Yes. We may not know if all see the same color when looking at a red object, but we do know that as people of the Book, our objective is to see things as God sees them, as they truly are. Amen. It reminds me of the word confess, as one exa…
/r/RPChristians15/08/19 05:39 AM
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Oh my, has it ever changed over the decades! I'm confident to say we shall deliver it into the Trump 2020 win column against whatever socialist Democrat the opposing side puts up. How is your state looking in this regard? We must unite! :)
/r/RPChristians15/08/19 03:47 AM
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I'm thinking for one week out of the month, we should have this as a banner across this subreddit.
/r/RPChristians15/08/19 01:13 AM
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Ha, no good rebel? Ha, I wasn't thinking of that when I wrote it. Don’t tempt me to discuss my views on the war of northern aggression ;) I knew there was a reason I liked you! Good sir, you and your wife must come break bread with me as we enjoy a home cooked, southern meal.
/r/RPChristians15/08/19 01:04 AM
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Read a lot of the stuff /u/RedPillWonder has written geared toward women. Perhaps he'll chime in here too. Thanks for the shout out. Just commented. And OP, re-read Red Curious's comment above. It's very important and you've got to get this right.
/r/RPChristians15/08/19 12:25 AM
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Hello, I'm currently "dating" someone Why the quotes and what does this mean? The quotes make me wonder whether you just occasionally hang out with each other or if you're a couple. Are you exclusive with each other? How long have you been dating? I'm currently "dating" someone who isn't catholic but he doesn't find it odd or weird that I am, instead he really appreciates it. What is he, if anything? A Christian? What denomination? If yes, is he serious about his faith and does it show by his ac…
/r/RPChristians15/08/19 12:19 AM
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Baptists are all over the place, so who ever knows what they're thinking. Haha. As I was reading, I was about to write something like this. We have it all :) Looking for a particular kind of crazy? Come with me, sir, let me introduce you to a few people lol Before anyone gets too rangled up internally, please remember Ruiz did say he was speaking generally. Also as he noted, you've got some great Christ followers across denominations. We've got our own resident Calvinist, u/OsmiumZulu who is gen…
/r/RPChristians14/08/19 11:30 PM
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I love good stories, and I didn't know this one about Cliff Young. Thank you for sharing it.
/r/RPChristians13/08/19 05:59 PM
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It sounds like he came up with a book concept and just went searching through scripture to find things he thought lined up with that concept. There may be some good nuggets in there, but overall, based on this write up, I'd pass. Somebody would get more benefit reading u/Red-Curious 's posts on friendships and discipleship rather than buying the book, and I'd be wary as per u/OsmiumZulu's comment on Campolo.
/r/RPChristians12/08/19 11:25 PM
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That'd be my guess.
/r/RPChristians27/07/19 05:42 AM
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By all the measurements that I have for defining a Christian, I am not a Christian. Never was, according to the scriptures. For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride of life—is not from the Father but is from the world. 17And the world is passing away along with its desires, but whoever does the will of God abides forever. 18Children, it is the last hour, and as you have heard that antichrist is coming, so now many antichrists have come. Therefor…
/r/RPChristians27/07/19 05:39 AM
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His mission matters more to him than his people's perception of him. This should be front and center and etched into every man's heart. Along with personalizing it, "My mission matters more to me than other people's perception of me." Excellent write up, RC!
/r/RPChristians25/07/19 06:44 PM
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They should be. Some are. Many are not.
/r/RPChristians24/07/19 03:56 AM
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I endorse this. Great comment!
/r/RPChristians15/07/19 10:02 PM
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Context wise I am a 28-year-old virgin. Congrats! Here's some friendly encouragement to stay that way until you marry and not engage in any form of sexual activity until then. I'd say I have a healthy view of sex Good! Many women don't. We actually need a much more healthier view of sex taught in Christian circles. Most people just get a "don't do it til marriage" approach, but we need a very pro sex within God's parameters taught in Christian circles. (Waiting has been a struggle) You're not al…
/r/RPChristians15/07/19 05:53 AM
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Joseph was attractive in “form and appearance.” Form meaning his inner frame The word translated as "form" is "to'ar" and it doesn't refer to inner frame or overall character. Some usages include: outline, i.e. figure or appearance:— beautiful, × comely, countenance, fair, × favoured, form, × goodly, × resemble, visage. Scriptural examples include calling Rachel beautiful (to'ar) and well favored. In Deuteronomy, if a man saw a beautiful woman and physically desired her: And seest among the capt…
/r/RPChristians10/07/19 08:53 AM
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I'm actually extremely pregnant with our first at the moment. Congratulations! I've actually delved into the research about that, and the current falling birth rates in developed countries actually spell big problems down the road since almost all have fallen far below replacement levels... But that's a whole other conversation haha! Heh. True. Replacement levels are a very real issue. Part of my studies in school have been family dynamics and changes over time. Statistically, more women are opt…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/19 11:43 PM
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When your world flips you have no choice but to change your perspective. Very true. When putting up this post, I was thinking more along the lines of intentional/planning/trying for a child vs those who don't/didn't want to. You're right about the mindset shift and an entirely new perspective that develops when a woman ends up pregnant without expecting it.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/19 11:32 PM
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Nice breakdown of the various reasons that women consider in this decision. Personally, my dream is to be married - have a very close, devoted partnership and take on the world together, as it were - Work on (or keep being) the best version of you that you can. You'll find what you're looking for! but I have absolutely no desire to ever be pregnant or raise kids of my own; and I know it’s not really my place to dictate my callings, etc. but I hope to God I never do. In my experience, I find this…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/19 11:26 PM
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I wouldn’t want to bring a child into the world unless serious changes are made to protect the environment and combat global warming. It'd be interesting to know the breakdown between liberal and conservative women and their outlooks on the environment, worldview etc vs what percentage of each prefer to not have children. But I do still want to get married. 100%. No doubts about that. All the best in finding your right man!
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/19 11:17 PM
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I hope being a (future) foster mom works out for you!
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/19 11:13 PM
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Hey, I appreciate you sharing this! If you know, of the one who is unable, would she want kids if she could have them? I know women who are unable who wish they could, while others don't mind that they can't. The ones who can't don't want to have "x" condition obviously, but the aspect of not being able to have children isn't a weight on them.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/19 11:12 PM
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I'm sorry to hear about your illness. If you were perfectly healthy, would this change your mind about having kids or no?
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/19 11:08 PM
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I used to be vehemently against having children... Now it's my greatest dream This is something I was going to include in the post, how some women are decidedly against having children, but do change their mind at some point for various reasons, and ask about their perspective. Thanks for sharing!
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/19 11:06 PM
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Excellent write up! Hopefully I'll have time tomorrow to add a lot more thoughts.
/r/RPChristians13/06/19 09:04 AM
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Exactly right u/RPwisdom OP, you should go to them immediately (in person is way better, but an immediate text if you know their numbers to say what you told them before was a lie, and that you want to discuss it in person, apologize and clear the air). Own what you did u/AceBenedict23 "Gents, I straight up lied to you. Me and this girl didn't do anything sexual. If you believe anything happened between us then you're believing a lie. I slandered her name and I'm sorry. In our interactions, she …
/r/RPChristians02/06/19 03:35 AM
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Brother, I don't how easy or difficult these two things will be for you, but you need to immediately do them. Make God your first priority and spend a lot more time and effort getting and staying as close to Him as you possibly can. Leave this woman now. Be polite. Be friendly. Be courteous. Do all of this if you run into each other, but do NOT bring her into or keep her in your life. Listen: It is not your job to fix her. If you feel anything, pray for her. But go now and do not look back. You'…
/r/RPChristians31/05/19 09:59 PM
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If that happens, he better get a paternity test to make sure the kid is his. The lying is as much a deal breaker to me as all of the other stuff.
/r/RPChristians31/05/19 09:43 PM
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Our disagreement is minor and I certainly agree with the overall sentiment you shared.
/r/RPChristians31/05/19 09:25 PM
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Again, none of these verses describe any attribute of a wife. A portion of one that you quoted does. "Loving" and "graceful" are two descriptions of the man's wife in this verse, as she gives herself to her husband. Otherwise, good comment.
/r/RPChristians31/05/19 07:14 AM
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Rugby, kindly include a paragraph or two detailing the content of any video or article that you link to. Since your link in this case is to a "Ask Anything" it could simply be a snippet you found interesting and want to discuss here. We like to limit the low / no content posts as much as possible, especially any ones that might be used just to drive traffic to a site without offering much in the way of discussion here if one doesn't click through and watch the video. Thank you!
/r/RPChristians30/05/19 08:27 AM
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The Lord bless all your endeavors! I pray He uses you mightily. God knows we need a lot more good, strong, godly Christian men who are out making a difference in the world.
/r/RPChristians11/05/19 06:19 AM
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Nice quote.
/r/RPChristians10/05/19 06:51 AM
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I'm glad you've grown and the Lord has used this community to help you. May God lead and guide you and bless all that you put your hands to. Thanks for being a part of this sub!
/r/RPChristians09/05/19 03:36 AM
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Bobby, a lot of your writing reminds me of the old saying in detective work "You formed a conclusion from the very beginning, and the only evidence you see from then on is what supports your conclusion." And sometimes, you make things up out of whole cloth. Here's one example: on par with the ring leader Red Curioius who has every mod upvote all his posts I'm sincerely curious, why did you decide to make this up? Because I've been here from the beginning, and u/Red-Curious hasn't done anything o…
/r/RPChristians06/05/19 08:13 AM
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Your comment is dripping with bitterness, and I hope you heal from any past hurts. There's not a single point of yours that is accurate, save for the part about life can be painful, but we don't need to carry baggage from that. As to the rest, yes, I know real life women who have many, most and in some cases, all of the traits and attributes in this post. I also know many on the opposite end. These are real life women, your view to the contrary. As to the post for women on vetting men, I wish it…
/r/RPChristians05/05/19 04:46 AM
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I gotcha. I think it's better (in this case) to not take it that literally (I don't know if it's a true story or not) and instead see it as a simple example of using stories to help influence others to your point of view. Points noted, though.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/19 08:57 AM
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In another post here about the criteria for a potential wife, one thing was virgin is God's gold standard, and we should aim for nothing less. I wrote that post, and no, I did not say we should aim for nothing less. In fact, if you read the post, you'd know that I also said in that same section: Now, as we all know, none of us are perfect. We make mistakes. Sometimes big ones. Or many. And maybe she’s traveled the road from slut to saint and has sincerely repented of her past. You’re going to ne…
/r/RPChristians04/05/19 08:46 AM
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Storytelling? It's an effective communication tool that's been used by history's greatest leaders. Or were you referring to the specific story in this post?
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/19 08:31 AM
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I'm very thankful you shared this. And even more so that God did this for you.
/r/RPChristians16/04/19 05:53 AM
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With this is mind... Be genuinely honest and blunt with me. There is a little bit of this going on. I don’t personally think it is a relationship. In fact, I know it isn’t. But you call it a relationship even while acknowledging it's a friendship here: it’s still a stretch due to our relationship (technically friendship) And add this: that is still kind of a secret with both parents. What?! You need to hide a friendship from both parents? Of course not. The thing is, you do view this as a relati…
/r/RPChristians01/04/19 10:53 PM
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To who? If you're asking are we God's servants? Yes. That's one aspect of our relationship with Him. We're also friends, joint heirs, sons and daughters, the bride of Christ, "there is one that sticketh closer than a brother" and other aspects. Are you asking are we servants of, say, a wife or children? This is where some may get hung up on definitions, applications, etc. For example, if two men did the same or very similar things for their wives when their spouses's were sick, and one said he w…
/r/RPChristians01/04/19 10:06 PM
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I think this girl thinks you two are friends and you think ya'll are in a relationship. Also: “How can you tell if a girl is genuinely interested in you if you and her have never really ‘met’?” She meets you. Actually. IRL. Face to face. Again, I've said this before, but if a girl is into you, if you're her type, if there are things about you that lights her up like fireworks on the 4th of July, then she is going to do things that make it so she can see you, be around you, put herself in positio…
/r/RPChristians01/04/19 09:49 PM
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One of these days I'd like to do a write-up on President Coolidge. He was known as "Silent Cal." One of my favorite quotes of his: "I have noticed that nothing I have never said ever did me any harm." I love President Coolidge. And speaking of "Silent Cal," a story is told of two women who were at a gathering, which he also attended. One of the women walked up and informed him that she had just bet her friend that she could get the President to say more than two words. He replied: "You lose." :)
/r/RPChristians08/03/19 03:19 AM
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I endorse this reply!
/r/RPChristians05/03/19 05:48 AM
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it's difficult for me to put my thoughts on paper You write well, for someone who says it's difficult, it doesn't show. Thanks for sharing this FR. I have severe ADD (unmedicated) Have you looked into all natural supplements for treating this? They may give you benefits without the side effects (or at least to a lesser degree) than scripts. You'd have to research what might work best, try one at a time and see for yourself how they affect you and if they're worth it, but I'd definitely try them.…
/r/RPChristians05/03/19 05:47 AM
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Why does it matter if a secular voice happens to say the same or similar things as what's in the God's Word? Sometimes they may get things right, other times they don't. This list comes mostly straight from the bible (as I included scripture quotes and references with many). As to the others, which ones do you have a problem with being on this list in vetting for a good woman to marry?
/r/RPChristians04/03/19 11:35 PM
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Your sarcasm tags aside, the main point is that sometimes men benefit from others being "harsh" to them, to use u/WarriorJesus1915 's comment. And it doesn't have to be about something spiritual or gospel related. It can certainly be about the very things we talk about in this sub, which, although the gospel and one's walk with God is included, can also include how to improve their marriage and marital bed related issues, how to best attract a good spouse, etc. I hope we can all become more like…
/r/RPChristians04/03/19 11:30 PM
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Praise and glory to God, brother! This is excellent news and I'm thrilled for you and your wife! Thanks for sharing. I'm sure it will encourage many other men who might be in similar situations.
/r/RPChristians04/03/19 12:28 AM
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Some of you men are making me feel old. :) I can remember at the start of this sub (which wasn't that long ago) when we were tougher, pushed each other a lot more on the playing field and basically said to one another what amounts to "You big doofus, what doctrine is this you're spouting off about?!" And yes, for the more tenderhearted among us, that's me being over the top and no, we didn't literally say that. We did, however, kick up some dust while throwing a few friendly elbows amongst ourse…
/r/RPChristians04/03/19 12:08 AM
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Go see Dr. Craig Buhler of Advanced Muscle Integration Technique or A.M.I.T. http://amitmethod.com/ Or https://muscleactivation.com/ The latter (I think) is when one of the top people who was working with Dr. Buhler (or vice versa) and started his own company. Either way, they're both top people and license others, so there may be somebody in your state. It deals with proprioception, when one muscle takes over for another, which takes over for yet another. It's like layers of an onion. To preven…
/r/RPChristians02/03/19 05:31 AM
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Beyond the basic prerequisites, Christian, virgin, good character, etc. the two most crucial things for which to look are the following: 1. How submissive and respectful she is to her father. 2. How submissive and respectful her mother is to her husband. The first was inferred (but not outright stated) when I wrote that a woman's relationship with her dad is very important. That certainly includes respect and submissiveness to her father. And I should have included the latter, as it does play a …
/r/RPChristians28/02/19 04:33 AM
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Thanks man! And agreed on all points.
/r/RPChristians28/02/19 12:04 AM
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Working on it. Hopefully I'll have something up soon.
/r/RPChristians27/02/19 11:58 PM
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Preach :)
/r/RPChristians27/02/19 11:56 PM
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Transparency. Does she hide things from you? This. Many times over. I completely forgot to include it. Honesty/transparency should definitely be on there. Thank you! I think it’s important. Completely agree!
/r/RPChristians27/02/19 11:54 PM
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Thank you for this. You're welcome! Seems impossible ontop of impossible to find. It seems that way, but it's not. Some are basic. Asking for a generally cheerful woman isn't much. Or a respectful one. Or that a Christian woman act like, well... a Christian :) Many others are fixable or teachable if a woman wants to improve. I hear you, though. It can seem like, to quote an article "Men want debt free virgins with no tattoos" is easier said than done. It's not, though. Or at least not as difficu…
/r/RPChristians27/02/19 11:52 PM
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I replied here You're being a bit insincere with this response and you know better, especially about the virgin section. It clearly talks about non-virgins as well, and yes my dear, that obviously can include divorcées and women with children. And apparently the post is rubbing you the wrong way. A dedicated Christian woman wouldn't blink at many of these. Others are (or should be) common sense. While others are practical advice. Yet as Deep_Strength noted (and as I did in my linked reply to you…
/r/RPChristians27/02/19 11:44 PM
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What is the list of attributes that would make a great man to marry? I.e. your responsibilities. It's coming. Keep an eye out if you're inclined to read it. This list is kind of funny, it's like - ok, yeah, if you found a woman with all these traits she's good but would you really need to be told that? Funny enough, apparently yes. We've had plenty of posts with guys asking some variation of "I like this girl, but..." and then listing obvious red flags and wondering whether to continue dating he…
/r/RPChristians27/02/19 11:25 PM
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Thanks to u/Deep_Strength , u/Red-Curious and the other mods for their advice and input on this post. And to be clear, it doesn't mean they agree with everything I've written. I does mean I appreciate their advice and support. If anyone has extra things they think should be included, fire em off in the comments on what you'd look for in a potential wife.
/r/RPChristians27/02/19 11:52 AM
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I suspect we agree on more than you may realize, but I'll address some of your points. I will grant you points on that high n number women can be terrible in bed, but that is kind of the exception not the rule. I'd say it's not the exception nor the rule. As we already discussed, it depends on various factors, and saying high N women (and defining high is going to vary—sometimes wildly— from person to person) are either good or bad in bed can be way off depending on those factors. Control for th…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/19 07:35 AM
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I don't know a whole lotta guys that would ever marry a virgin. I do. And there are a lot. Especially Christians. And even some non-Christians in that mix who, while it may not be a strong preference for virginity, certainly wouldn't rule it out if she was a virgin but had the other qualities he was looking for. Likewise, many of these same men wouldn't rule out marrying her if a woman had a higher N count than they preferred, if she also had high a high RMV and SMV. Most of the studies that are…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/19 05:27 AM
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As others have alluded to, there's a difference between a man wanting to marry you and one who only cares about casual sex with you. For casual sex, most men don't care about your N count because they're just banging you. For marriage, you're going to find the numbers change significantly, and many men will care about N count. Not all, but the majority. Even in long term relationships (that do not lead to marriage) a man may not care about your N count because he's getting regular poon, he's got…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/19 03:12 AM
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If he makes the living, you make life worth living :-) Love this line! massage, herbalism... The list is endless. Yes, exactly. Things like this would add to the OP's value and fill her day if she does get to stay at home, hopefully with things she would enjoy. To add to the herbalism and massage, she could research alternative health / natural healing, etc or when cooking, look into the paleo or keto diets and others that could help both her and her future husband to live healthier, happier, mo…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/19 08:17 AM
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I’d love to be a stay-at-home wife What do you bring to the table? To obtain your ideal of staying at home and not having kids, a high value man may require a lot from you. Do you have youth and beauty? A great personality? Are you chaste? Or if you're sexually active, do you have a high sexual drive? Or if a virgin and unsure as to your libido, a willingness to make yourself sexually available when he wants it? (within reason). Are you submissive? Domestic skills? Cooking, cleaning, running err…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/19 11:24 PM
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Go here It's a post by this sub's founder, u/Red-Curious on prayer. It's on the sidebar. Edit: In quickly scanning your post, I completely missed your sentence saying you have already read the link I posted. I'll leave this comment up, though, in case newer people haven't.
/r/RPChristians23/02/19 04:39 AM
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Haha I knew I liked that fella
/r/RPChristians20/02/19 04:35 PM
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Thanks! I appreciate the compliments and encouragement. I'll write something up. I've been thinking of asking you to write up a post as well, on biblical love and it's practical applications. I considered doing it, but you've talked about this before and I think it would help a lot of men to know "OK, here's what this means, what I'm supposed to do and what it looks like in every day life." How it applies in various relationship aspects. List of categories, areas and applications of this command…
/r/RPChristians19/02/19 04:35 PM
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Man, it's so easy to just say stop but it really is what you need to do when it comes to not having sex before marriage. That's what I was talking about with creating perfect storms of temptation. You don't need something that strong to lead a man to give in (and you don't have to give in: 1 Corinthians 10:13) but don't do things that can help create a stronger temptation, such as sleeping in the same bed all cuddled up. Because it often just makes the sexual temptation stronger. Plus, as Chuck …
/r/RPChristians17/02/19 06:01 PM
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Hmm. I'd like to read that. Do you or u/lololasaurus have a link you can send me, Chuck?
/r/RPChristians17/02/19 04:44 PM
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Mac, I have a lot running through my head about this, but I'm going to try and take this in a different direction and see if I can bullet point a lot of it. Are you having sex with this girl in any form or fashion? If no, great! If yes, stop. You need to stop sleeping over. Not less. Completely. Even men with iron wills give in when perfect storms are created. Don't help create one. And there are other issues that Chuck alluded to on this topic, but this should suffice. You need to spend less ti…
/r/RPChristians17/02/19 07:10 AM
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The very short answer is end the relationship now and begin the process of getting over her. If you try and make this work and it doesn't work out long term, I want you to remember that those months and/or years you spent together are time you won't get back. So if you do break up, the best time is now. It looks like, despite all the problems you listed with her, you think this relationship is salvageable and want to save it because that's what your heart wants. Brother, to quote the LORD The he…
/r/RPChristians15/02/19 02:14 AM
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I stopped when he was going off on a diatribe on toe length (Yes, it's so so painfully irrelevant that he's analyzing the length of a woman's toes to calculate her SMV). 😑 What? lol I want to ask if you're kidding, but sadly, I know you're not. I watched a couple of minutes shortly after it was posted, and clicked away. I figured I'd wait to see if anyone would summarize the video. Thankfully, I didn't make it to anything about toe length. u/Deep_Strength I wholeheartedly agree with your comment…
/r/RPChristians30/01/19 05:33 AM
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What did I just watch lol I blame you, WG.
/r/RPChristians19/01/19 04:04 AM
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Actually, I think that commenter was saying he thought that action in general was dumb and wasn't specifically targeting FlyingBaratoplata, although I can understand you taking it that way since it was a reply to your comment and the context could suggest that. And like RedCurious said, you could handle it a lot better by, for example, using amused mastery. In any case, let's put an end to this. To shorten your username, FB, I don't expect you to just "take it" if someone dishes on you (and if s…
/r/RPChristians08/01/19 02:42 AM
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Thing is she has and she loves me Jesus said "If you love me, keep my commandments." You want to know if someone really loves you? Watch their actions. Her actions suggest the opposite of her liking or loving you, as u/Deep_Strength pointed out. The evidence is everywhere. I don’t know if bringing this up or telling her she likes him was my fault for this ending It's not your fault. At least not the part of you bringing it up being the reason for this ending. It's her and her outrageous actions …
/r/RPChristians05/01/19 07:09 PM
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If you really want to know instead of wait, then you have to push for a decision with your actions. u/Awayhethrows1961 Hearken to Chuck's words on this! I don't have the link handy, but u/OsmiumZulu told a story about his wife when they were dating. She was thinking/planning on going off to school somewhere for awhile and he said, "Well, if you go, I won't be here waiting for you when you get back." She stayed, and chose him over leaving. When a woman is interested in you, especially if she's ve…
/r/RPChristians05/01/19 02:34 AM
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The thing is, she has stated, on multiple occasions, she's waiting for God to reveal to her who she's suppose to be with and she won't even kiss anyone until that someone has been revealed. Just ask her what she means by this and how, specifically, will she know when he's been revealed. For example, is she waiting on thoughts and impressions upon the heart in a deep way, that she feels is from God? Is it a sign that will manifest, and if so, what? How will she know or recognize it? My guess is s…
/r/RPChristians04/01/19 11:37 PM
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Coming up on six years of marriage and I can honestly say I would easily chose to marry her again. I don't see this often enough from couples. You usually hear some variation of "I'd choose to remain single" or describing their marriage in a lackluster way. I want couples to get to the point where they would happily do it all over again. It's great you've got an awesome wife and have done what you need to as a man and a husband in your marriage to make and keep it great!
/r/RPChristians04/01/19 11:29 PM
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In person is always better. That said, text it if you want and add something along the lines of "We'll talk more about this in person." That way, you've "said" it, it's out there and when you see each other next, you two can discuss the finer points in person and cover any questions the other has.
/r/RPChristians04/01/19 11:20 PM
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The single greatest weapon wielded against the world has been godly parents raising godly kids. Amen! If this became the norm, we would see many of society's problems pass away and righteousness would prevail to a far greater degree.
/r/RPChristians04/01/19 10:57 PM
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This captures many of my views and is well said! In fact, it could stand as it's own post. Thanks for this contribution, DS.
/r/RPChristians03/01/19 02:30 AM
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https://redd.it/9bbnsi This was a post I put up awhile back that touches on some of the things you've brought up. Make sure you also see the comment section. I think you'll find a good amount of what you're looking for there. For example, u/Deep_Strength has links to an article he wrote that compiles divorce factors. Others include insight and advice from a variety of perspectives that I think you'll find helpful. last girl I was involved with was a christian girl with decently high n-count I'm …
/r/RPChristians02/01/19 04:59 AM
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And let's be honest here, some of the Old Testament can be a little difficult to get through the first few times. One time, I was sitting in the pews at a bible conference, and the preacher asked everyone to turn to the clean part of their bible. "The clean part?" people thought or whispered to one another. The preacher smiled and said "Yes, you know, the parts where all the pages still stick together because you never read them, there's no fingerprints, dog-ears, crumpled pages, etc." :D And he…
/r/RPChristians28/12/18 06:59 PM
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You're off on a number of bases here. First, to make sure everyone is on the same page, you'd have to define each of the terms you use, because people use different definitions and attach different meanings to some. For example, some view Chad as a sexual tyrannosaurus and not much else, optimizing everything in his life to achieve this goal. Others include him being the best version of himself. Some say both. Still others may give a different definition. On a larger point, some people argue the…
/r/RPChristians26/12/18 11:23 PM
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Well done, RC! Wish I could have heard that in person.
/r/RPChristians26/12/18 08:09 AM
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u/Deep_Strength is finishing up the final touches on one and should be out soon. u/Red-Curious, the creator of this sub, is also working on one. Some of the other mods may write one as well. For now, I expect the books from the two authors above will set the standard. That said, as you noted, while they are not books, the sidebar material and Deep Strength's own blog contain a ton of great information and is all many people need. I wouldn't worry about the medium (whether a book or a blog, a pod…
/r/RPChristians25/12/18 05:36 AM
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Probably a good place to start is to have separate groups for men and women. Yes. I do think there can be benefit to men and women grouped together and discussing this, but by and large, separate groups are definitely needed. There are simply some things that a loving (or even not so loving) spouse isn't going to want to say or share in a mixed group with her husband right there or a man with his wife beside him. Or if their spouses aren't there, having others in a mixed group hear personal deta…
/r/RPChristians21/12/18 06:13 AM
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Thankfully, I grew up in very conservative, traditional churches where they weren't shy about teaching and preaching the full Word of God. That certainly included sex and what God approves of and what He doesn't. They encouraged a healthy sexual perspective. They didn't run from talking about sex, but neither did they make it a main focus. It was covered more in private groups (I guess because of small children being present in the main Sunday service) but even in the private groups on Sundays o…
/r/RPChristians21/12/18 04:49 AM
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Am I taking it too far? Yes. Only because I see where this is going. If you keep getting very appreciative responses from her (in whatever form), you're going to keep doing things to receive those responses. Like a human version of Pavlov's dogs. Each of the items are fine on their own. It's the amount, the expectations (both from her in the future if she gets used to this as well as from you if you do it as covert contracts, whether knowingly or not), the overall picture it paints of you. For i…
/r/RPChristians20/12/18 06:05 AM
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Examples of the scripture like footnotes. I don't recall seeing any posts or comments that were so scripture heavy that they'd fit what some of the men said that you sent here. The only one I can think of is when u/rocknrollchuck shares the gospel here, he makes sure to include plenty of scripture.
/r/RPChristians15/12/18 08:42 PM
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the truth is that when I send some of my guys here to check out the posts, they can't stand it. Lol. They say there are too many scriptures everywhere and they get frustrated trying to read a post that to them just seems like a bunch of footnotes. They say it all looks like a bunch of footnotes. Links to these examples?
/r/RPChristians15/12/18 07:45 PM
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Welcome, brother! How did you find us?
/r/RPChristians13/12/18 11:15 PM
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I honestly don't know how I ever got along with him! I have no idea how you ever got along with him either, that rascal! ;) lol And yes, this very comment will likely have some spelling or grammatical error of its own. :O You know how that goes. My life is 1000x better with him as a part of it and I'd say we're really happy together. I love this! All the best to you two, and may we have a lot more happier, satisfying relationships where the cows outmaneuver the couples* haha *I remember you writ…
/r/RPChristians06/12/18 05:20 AM
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He accepted her resignation and promoted me to editor, and thus my career was launched. Five years later, I was running the PR department of what was then a $200-million-a-year operation ... I love feel good stories. Or at least ones that, while you had to go through tough times, ended up well. God knows there's plenty of everything else out there, so it's nice to hear ones like yours.
/r/RPChristians04/12/18 07:27 AM
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She likes you bro. She's always available. So make yourself slightly unavailable- get her hoping for your attention the way she's currently hoping for yours. I.e. choosing to chill with the homie instead of with her at church. She saw that and thought 'wow.' u/Awayhethrows1961 hearken to macmeeler's words, and note the the last part I quoted. Instead of tripping over yourself to get to her and have the chance to sit next to her, you were polite yet hung out with a friend. The best part? You prob…
/r/RPChristians04/12/18 07:06 AM
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if a woman will not have sex with her husband because she doesn't feel like it - yet her husband wants to (and she is a Christian) - this is clearly wrong. Agreed. The language is very clear. Yes, it is. I'm surprised at the people downvoting these comments As am I. And some comments that were much milder than mine are being downvoted. Which just goes to show how some people don't like or won't accept the clear meaning and application of this scripture. are you downvoting it because you think th…
/r/RPChristians03/12/18 05:43 AM
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It's interesting to note that the Bible would say that the huband has authority over his wife's body and they also say that you should not deprive each other except for mutual consent... Let that sink in for a moment. Can you imagine if on social media a husband said, "I have authority over your body " to his wife. He would be banned from social media, called a misogynist and hated by the mainstream media. Yep. And yet it is true nonetheless. We make far too many excuses or jump through too many…
/r/RPChristians02/12/18 07:14 PM
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We need a lot more info. Right off the bat, I'm concerned that ya'll have been together and year and a half, and you don't know the answers to a lot of what you've asking here. Unless you do already know, and you're here seeking validation for some belief you shouldn't hold or actions and attitudes you don't want to give up. But look, in the time frame you've been togther, you should have had very in depth conversations about all kinds of things, you've been able to see each other in all kinds o…
/r/RPChristians01/12/18 07:33 PM
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Anything you want. Keep it within the parameters of scripture, though. Go somewhere and get a bite to eat. Sit and talk over a milkshake. Or a smoothie. Or bubble tea or whatever. Go for a drive and talk because you enjoy driving (if you do enjoy that) or "jam out" and blare the radio and be goofy and cut up and have fun together. Catch a movie, then find a 24 hour joint where you two can grab a bite to eat and hang out and talk after the movie. Find a secluded spot and lay out under the stars i…
/r/RPChristians26/11/18 10:49 PM
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I feel compelled to comment about some of the posts I've seen in this group. Do you have links to posts? Comment links? So everyone reading your post can also read for themselves what, exactly, you are referring to. I see some people trying to tell young impressionable brothers that their role as a man is to dominate and control a woman. Maybe I missed it, but again, where? Marriage and relationships are about love and respect. And submission (from the wife to her husband) and many other things.…
/r/RPChristians25/11/18 08:39 PM
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I think it's good to ask, is there a reason why one can't naturally optimize their testosterone levels? Sure, it takes work and a longer time frame to get where you want, but worth it imo. That's the option I prefer and where I'd recommend a man start. Diet, exercise, whole food supplements (if needed) and lifestyle changes can help a lot and get most men into the top tier of T levels. If a man goes for gear, whether due to a medical issue or for speed/convenience to quickly ramp up their T leve…
/r/RPChristians21/11/18 06:45 PM
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You're welcome. You and u/kaylikayli are very gracious in your replies.
/r/RPChristians19/11/18 05:15 AM
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Is it a problem that I have never been in a relationship or kissed a girl? Only if you make it one. Do you remember that scene in in The Empire Strikes Back (many young people I've talked to have seen much older movies that have become part of American culture and reference) where Luke asks Yoda "What's in there?" and Yoda tells him "Only what you take with you." Don't bring this kind of mental baggage with you. It's normal and healthy to have questions, and yes, to ask them as you have, but don…
/r/RPChristians19/11/18 01:45 AM
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Wholeheartedly agree! I do think the manner of the conversation can be shameful and can also be used to shame people. You're right. It would have been far better to focus on the larger issue/point you were making and not argue semantics and/or "smaller" aspects which don't get at the heart of this issue. We're on the same page. And let me put this here for others reading: I first asked Joe (because there were two ways I was reading it) if he was encouraging something sinful and my doing so was w…
/r/RPChristians17/11/18 12:07 AM
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Joe's initial reply to another poster his subsequent exchange with me got this going, so let me say a couple of things upfront. First, I greatly appreciate what he is doing to help many men with this issue. Second, he and I agree (based on what I've read) on many things, including the need to discuss this openly. Third, I mostly agree with what he's shared in this post, although I'm going to reiterate some thoughts I previously shared, and that I have disagreements on, and others can consider ea…
/r/RPChristians16/11/18 11:14 PM
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I wasn't clear when I said his second point isn't true, that he was talking about me in that quoted reply. That is, he thought I was saying/implying to not talk about it, which isn't true. Although he was also making a larger point that you and I agree with. The church and many Christians put their heads in the sand and will rarely, if ever, talk about these aspects of life.
/r/RPChristians16/11/18 06:22 PM
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Good stuff and maybe more men will post any issues or questions they have along these lines. Your comments are very judgmental and your language is not helpful. For example: 1. Porn is bad 2. Stop talking about it 3. You're violating scripture This kind of language is the language of shame. Shame language will keep people in silence and secrecy. As long as people feel shame, they will not talk about being in their "shame-prison." And the truth is that the only way a person can get out of their s…
/r/RPChristians16/11/18 05:51 PM
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Thanks for clarifying. I appreciate that because I read your comment wrong. One of the ways I read it was "you lift, right?" and someone operating on the belief that someone should be lifting. And in talking about porn, I read it as "you watch girls with dildos, right?" read to me the same way, as if they should be doing it. The other way I read it was referencing his post, and saying along the lines of "you already do this, right" and then talking about how it relates to his wife. I wasn't sure…
/r/RPChristians16/11/18 05:16 PM
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You already watch Porn with girls and dildos, right? Am I reading this right, that you are assuming or encouraging men to watch porn? If yes, don't do that. Not here. I'm all for the full sexual expression of married couples as long as it doesn't violate scripture. Porn does that. And there's a wide array of sexual activities and expressions married couples can engage in—and plenty of fun to be had—without resorting to porn. Tagging u/Red-Curious , u/OsmiumZulu , u/Deep_Strength and u/RocknRollC…
/r/RPChristians16/11/18 08:30 AM
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I've read some women lose sensitivity (their own statements/words) when using vibrators. I'm not sure on the accuracy of the claim, what percentage, how often they used it, etc. but it is a concern that women might want to be wary of.
/r/RPChristians16/11/18 08:08 AM
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There was a book back in the 70's I think, The Total Woman, by Marabel Morgan (I'm guessing, I may be off on the title and/or author) And while I haven't read it, those that have say that she talked about how almost all things sexual are 90% mental with women. That women need to focus on getting their heads and hearts right, to have the right mindset and perspective on sex, and watch how things improve. If I'm remembering right, she goes into all things "wife" and discusses submission, headship,…
/r/RPChristians16/11/18 07:59 AM
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His dad was abusive and think that messed him up a bit... I've heard/read many times how some type of abuse by a parent often manifests in destructive/addictive/immoral behavior when in adulthood. Not everyone, obviously, but I hear it often enough. he... then cheated and left. At the time, were you meeting each other's sexual needs? I ask because in some of the stories I've read/heard, the relationship overall was doing OK to good, including in the bedroom, and yet still some erratic/immoral be…
/r/RPChristians13/11/18 12:01 AM
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That is an excellent article and I enjoyed reading it. Thanks for sharing it.
/r/RPChristians05/11/18 11:49 PM
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There is so much I want to say on this. Write a post on it. Or comment in even more detail. We welcome your input. Thanks for sharing what you did.
/r/RPChristians28/10/18 09:06 PM
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It's usually a combination of factors. I think it's the frame. Which is why I started with asking how he is/acts around one set of women who want him vs the ones he's more into. I suspect there's a difference. The rest are all things we've covered here and continue to. They all play a role to varying degrees, some more important than others. As /u/Red-Curious recently noted, we beat the "get a mission/purpose" horse to death around here, for good reason. it seems like you are playing their game.…
/r/RPChristians28/10/18 07:29 PM
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How are you acting around the girls begging you to come and be around them vs the ones you like? Examine your actions and mindset. See if anything sticks out and then correct the behavior. As far as the other girls acting crazy, two things: First, some/many are flaky. They act odd. They do dumb things. So just chalk it up to these girls being who they are and thank God you didn't get more involved with them. Second, we don't know your stats. If you are someone who is definitely their type, you'r…
/r/RPChristians27/10/18 11:25 PM
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This post and this comment about which RP concepts are biblical should help.
/r/RPChristians27/10/18 05:52 AM
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Heh. True. Did you ever move out of that liberal city/state?
/r/RPChristians26/10/18 11:04 PM
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Looks good! And I look forward to your mini review. Your post reminds me of one I've been planning to put up about red pill movie examples, although I'm thinking of more mainstream movies. Thanks for giving a heads up about this documentary!
/r/RPChristians26/10/18 09:25 PM
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I suspect we agree far more than you may realize, and are just arguing around each other. That said, your earlier statement came across in a way that I decided to push back on, since the bible does reference scientific facts, and scientific facts have something to do with science. The Bible has no science experiments nor does it describe any. Agreed. I never argued otherwise. It has almost nothing to do with science except to explain who created science and authored life. Bolding mine. There is …
/r/RPChristians26/10/18 02:56 AM
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I have to recall that discussions are rarely fruitful here and have trouble ending peacefully. If you took offense, none was intended. And there's been plenty of fruitful discussions, as evidenced by those who openly express thankfulness for the content and discussions. I have a doctorate in a hard science As do thousands of others who hold to the same views I shared. I can firmly say that the Bible doesn't reference science. This is silly. As I noted, while the Bible isn't a science textbook, w…
/r/RPChristians26/10/18 12:04 AM
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The account of Genesis I've never taken to be a literal account. You should. all it says it that God made male and female in the beginning (doesn't say HOW he made them) Although you were referencing the quoted passage from u/Xoramung , Genesis does give an account of how God made them. But let's consider your point about evolution. God says (through Paul) in the New Testament that sin entered the world through one man, Adam. If you accept evolution, who was Adam's father? Was his father sinless…
/r/RPChristians25/10/18 10:58 PM
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but I think when responding to a troll this is warranted. Yeah I removed it for trolling, but I have to say, u/cleanguy1 's exceptional and educational comment to u/dawoodmuslim is worth approving it. And funny! He delivered it with more than a dash or two of humor while taking the troll apart. Now, if only OP would take it to heart. RC, do you want the post back up on the main page?
/r/RPChristians23/10/18 04:22 AM
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I've never heard of this analogy, but like Chuck, I do like it! Where did you first hear or read about it? Links? Usually people who come up with things like this are great at stories, analogies and metaphors, and I enjoy reading ones that "fit" with the concept they're breaking down.
/r/RPChristians15/10/18 03:50 PM
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I wrote up a post about a woman's sexual past in considering her for marriage and we debated the pros and cons of marrying a non-virgin. I encourage you to take a look. Here's another one (written toward women) where you can see if she has some of those qualities. More importantly, OZ (one of our mods) wrote up an excellent piece detailing real life examples of what women say and do and how they think and feel toward their husbands, which can give you great insight into what you need to be and d…
/r/RPChristians15/10/18 07:05 AM
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Welcome, it's great to have you here! First, let me say thank you for sharing your stats and where you stand spiritually and in other areas. It's very helpful when giving advice and getting to know someone. Your example is a model for what other advice seekers should be doing if they want detailed, more helpful replies. I may chime back in with additional answers in other areas, but I'll focus in on the T levels real quick. As Charles Poliquin has said, "to increase T, decrease C" C stands for c…
/r/RPChristians09/10/18 04:20 AM
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I'm about as conservative as they come, with a hint of libertarianism thrown in. We've got all kinds here, and I'm glad you and u/lionmenden and others are a part of this place.
/r/RPChristians28/09/18 01:57 AM
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I'm surprised the_donald yet lives on. I'm sure it's in their sights. The left is "acting out" in increasingly outrageous ways, and you're on the money with this one: radical leftists censoring free speech and imposing their agenda under the guise of moral virtue. We're in a war and I intend to win it. I'm honored to have men like yourself alongside me, macmeeler!
/r/RPChristians28/09/18 01:52 AM
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Own Your Stuff or more commonly on RP, Own Your Sh*t! Take responsibility for your life and by extension, take action and get results. This includes everything, from your walk with God and spiritual life to lifting to finances to health and relationships, etc. It should be in the glossary that we posted, but after a very quick glance, I don't see it there. I thought for sure we put that in there.
/r/RPChristians26/09/18 10:04 PM
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Solomon's wives brought with them their pagan gods and Solomon's monotheistic worship of Jehovah was diluted. The result was war. True, and also ironic, because some of those were political marriages of convenience, to help ensure peace, access or create allies.
/r/RPChristians24/09/18 02:50 AM
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I don't support cheating and am critical of guys who take back a cheating GF or wife because I think she is worthless at that point. What are your reasons for thinking she is worthless at that point? I'm not disagreeing, I just know women have varying reasons for why a man shouldn't take back a cheating GF/wife and I'm curious to know yours.
/r/RPChristians23/09/18 11:51 PM
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God be with you and your wife and help you through this. I'm not in your shoes, so take this however you need or are inclined to, but until the day the divorce is final, don't give up hope. Maybe that day never comes. Pray for her and you. Keep on, if you're able. God can and does do the impossible. I pray he does with you and your wife, and you both become amazing examples of a truly Christian couple, with all of the benefits and blessings that confers, for the rest of your life.
/r/RPChristians22/09/18 05:14 AM
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I love your testimony, Chuck. I pray God uses it as a great blessing to many others. Honestly, I can't relate to this or others who share similar stories. I had the most amazing childhood and parents who set sterling examples of what a Christian couple should be. They were imperfect to be sure, but I am very thankful as I look back on everything they did and the example they set. One day I may write it all up and tell my story, or a small part of it.
/r/RPChristians22/09/18 05:08 AM
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The clear ONEitis is the biggest struggle I see here. Same. Ironically, if he was indifferent toward her she'd sense that and he'd have a better chance of being with her. it gives him some time to kill the blue... before starting a relationship and ruining it. If she really is a great girl, I'd rather he have a chance when he's ready Agreed. You hit this one out of the park. Thank you! I actually didn't look at your username and was getting super proud at whatever rando typed all this up, haha. …
/r/RPChristians22/09/18 04:58 AM
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Hey man, congratulations! I'm glad you got over some fears and approached and just talked to her. I bet you're stronger, more confident and more willing to approach a woman because of this. At least a little bit, and sometimes life and progress is made in those little steps. Small hinges swing very big doors. So don't hesitate next time. Approach. Open her. Talk. And confidence is key. Chicks love confidence. It's like crack to them. Now, I wanted to build you up (and I'm sincere about everythin…
/r/RPChristians22/09/18 03:52 AM
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OP, I encourage you to carefully consider /u/Red-Curious 's words here. I differ with RPW in that I don't think Jesus was referencing the fruit of the Spirit I was giving two separate and distinct ways OP can identify whether she is a Christian. What the Lord said and the separate passage that Paul penned under divine inspiration. A Christian will exhibit both and it gives OP more to consider in determining whether she truly knows Christ and has accepted him as her Lord and Savior. That said, wh…
/r/RPChristians21/09/18 04:11 AM
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You've gotten good advice here, and I'll simply add to the chorus of if attraction isn't there (or that low) then it's likely not going to work. That said, what would you rate yourself, if you were being a tough judge? Wanting someone who's at least a 7 when one is a 5 isn't going to help. Now, you may be a ten for all I know, but if you decide to end this relationship and put yourself back on the market, a high SMV is going to be a big factor in your favor.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 12:35 AM
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OK this clarifies things somewhat. how do I tell if shes sincere about her faith and that's her reason for waiting Jesus said "Ye shall know them by their fruit." Does she demonstrate actions that are consistent with being a Christian? Does she display the fruits of the Spirit? Compare what she says with what she does and see if they line up. Is she rooted and grounded in the Word? To be clear, I'm not talking about perfection or finding that one flaw and saying "Aha! I knew she wasn't a Christi…
/r/RPChristians20/09/18 10:45 PM
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how can I tell if shes hit the wall or if shes truly saving herself for marriage? I think you're confusing "the wall" with her sexual purity or lack thereof. What makes you think she's saving herself for marriage? And with comments she's made like: "I made some mistakes in college but I haven't since then" Then she's likely been around the block a time or two. You obviously know this, so why write: how can I tell... if shes truly saving herself for marriage? I don't get it. Do you think she trul…
/r/RPChristians20/09/18 09:45 PM
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If you've shared them before, can you copy and paste your stats? she was happy to see me Always a good sign! I found out she broke up with her boyfriend An even clearer sign for you. I feel guilty. Catholic guilt? I don't feel guilt about talking to another man's girlfriend since she's single again. Confusion? You've gotta stop this. Why are you referring to her as another man's girlfriend? She. is. not. If she's truly single, she's nobody's girlfriend. You're acting like she still belongs to an…
/r/RPChristians15/09/18 05:54 AM
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Teaching through music ;)
/r/RPChristians15/09/18 05:01 AM
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Hi and welcome! I'm sure you'll benefit a lot from the content shared here and we'll do everything we can to help you in your journey.
/r/RPChristians14/09/18 09:38 PM
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My view is nicely summed up in DS's experience and reply about honesty and clarity and being upfront about how one views the relationship. Admittedly, in my original reply, I went on the assumption that it was something more serious between the bf/gf, which is purely a guess. She could well have been planning to leave, or viewed their relationship as casual, etc. As far as advice and dating models, I think a lot depends on one's dating past, their maturity level, life experience, age and so many…
/r/RPChristians12/09/18 07:40 AM
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Thanks for replying! Yes, I figured but wanted to be sure, as our comments were in agreement and it crossed my mind that maybe you were asking Red about it. I think there were one or two others who mentioned the Golden Rule but I don't recall if it was before or after I commented. It's common courtesy and good manners, imo, in addition to being scriptural. But maybe it's me and my upbringing. I'm old fashioned in many ways. I'm also 46, so age may play a role. It just seems that so many of these…
/r/RPChristians11/09/18 10:53 PM
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After all, the main point of dating is to get to know what's out there and figure out what you like. To borrow your line, "That's a very feminist way to look at it though" is easily more applicable to the aforementioned statement than my own, especially when sex is included. It sounds exactly like something you'd read in a feminist mag, although they would definitely be including (or focusing on) the sexual aspect. Now, we're both against sex before marriage. I'm simply noting that statement com…
/r/RPChristians11/09/18 08:18 AM
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where do you get the notion that its unwise to hit on an unmarried woman i am interested in? You may have missed part of his comment here: it is at best unwise to hit on women in relationships even though they're not engaged or married. He specifically noted it's a woman in a relationship that you shouldn't hit on, and stated his reasons why. It's an opinion I share, for the same reasons. If a woman willingly jumps from one man to another in relationships, that is not a good sign if you have int…
/r/RPChristians11/09/18 01:29 AM
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Lying is a deal breaker for me. Being truthful ties in with so many other things, and to me it's a pillar that a great relationship is based on. That said, I'd look at the reasons why someone lies and whether it's an almost habitual thing. For instance, sometimes when put on the spot, someone will lie to "protect" the relationship out of fear of losing it or making it worse. It's not an excuse, but it does give insight as to where their head and heart is, or the "why" behind the lie. In this cas…
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/18 05:58 AM
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Hey, and welcome! I hope you continue to benefit from this sub as well as improve other's lives through any posts and good info you have to share.
/r/RPChristians01/09/18 10:56 PM
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Generally agree. The real unicorn is a well adjusted, sexually unhindered, Christian woman who knows she is hot but saved herself for marriage anyways. They exist, but we are talking about mythozoology here. This. The trick is to promote a Christian culture where virginity is valued, being a slut is shamed, and being a nymphomaniacal porn-star in the marriage bed is celebrated. And this!
/r/RPChristians31/08/18 05:13 PM
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Great write up! I love the style and it gives men a glimpse into what women are thinking and what they really want. It would probably shock men if they truly knew all of the things women share with each other.
/r/RPChristians31/08/18 03:36 PM
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Hey, I remember seeing that awhile back and had forgotten about it. Good post, thanks for the share!
/r/RPChristians31/08/18 06:12 AM
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Obsession with virginity in today’s landscape is ridiculous. What obsession? I don't see it. If you mean others on various RP subs, I haven't read them in a good while, so maybe there is. But in this thread and on other mansophere sites, the majority seem to fall into the category of prefer a virgin but in practice choose the best woman you can, even if her N count is higher than you'd like, assuming she has other qualities one is looking for. a man comes across a car that actually has fuel and …
/r/RPChristians31/08/18 05:59 AM
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having been where you have been I would like to offer you several different perspectives on this: Hopefully, these give you some things to think about. Oh, I wasn't seeking advice, just getting a discussion going and figured it would be a good topic to debate and see what other's opinion's are. Speaking of, I appreciate you sharing everything that you did! This comment stuck out to me: She can be a virgin, but she can also be a virgin and have a completely warped idea of what sex is, relegating …
/r/RPChristians30/08/18 11:04 PM
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If I'm fleeing the evil desires of my youth, should I also flee the evil desires of her youth as well? We should always flee/stay away from all evil desires, as you know. Yours, hers, anyone else's. But considering a woman's sexual past and how that would affect you (the plural you) and vetting her for marriage isn't an evil desire. A girl with maybe two or three partners, at least that she admits to, is going to have a lot less baggage than a girl who's partied through college and has a hundred…
/r/RPChristians30/08/18 10:48 PM
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I started to include a section on that, but decided against it. While evidence is scant in regards to the idea of telegony, experts in the field have said it could be possible in humans and/or have refused to rule it out, which gives me pause. I'd love for it to not be true. If it turns that it is, though, the thought that a man's children he sires could look like a past lover his wife previously had would be abhorrent to most men. Tagging: u/Jalakee since he got this ball rolling.
/r/RPChristians30/08/18 10:33 PM
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Virginity should be the gold standard. The risks go up from there. Agreed. As you and others have noted, virginity isn't the end all, be all of factors, but one's sexual past is important to consider and virginity should be the standard that individuals, as well as society at large, encourage people to live up to. And yes, the risks only move in one direction, and it's one more people should carefully consider.
/r/RPChristians30/08/18 10:20 PM
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Excellent reply! u/WonderfulandValuable think on and heed this advice.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/18 01:42 AM
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I started having visceral doubts about the relationship And and even having touch aversion... I'm increasingly finding myself not wanting to be touched even nonsexually. And I've come to realize that to fit him I need to actively suppress everything about myself to the point that it's not healthy or ultimately beneficial. And the dynamic between us feels broken You have visceral doubts. You increasingly don't want to be touched. You feel you need to actively suppress everything about yourself to…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/18 01:37 AM
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Now I have you to thank for putting that song in my head lol
/r/RPChristians20/08/18 09:40 PM
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Yes, you can certainly find some good comments. You can also find atrocious ones, such as this one from an endorsed contributor: There is no objectively right or wrong way to go about sex. People need to do what feels right for them, but they also need to be aware that any decision they make has potential risks and repurcussions. Want to have sex on the first date? Go ahead. But be aware that there are a lot of guys who will judge you negatively for it. Conversely, if you want to make him wait X…
/r/RPChristians15/08/18 05:25 AM
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How exactly does one count an ncount? To the vast majority of men, intercourse, oral and anal all count. So your N count would be 4. Now, some men make a distinction between oral and intercourse in that they may "weigh" one more heavily than another, so if a man is inclined to know about your sexual past, it may be good to break it down to one for intercourse, three for oral. Otherwise, if you say four, he's likely to think all were from intercourse (plus perhaps other sexual acts, especially if…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/18 05:34 PM
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Nice one-sided review. Jesus also said in Matthew: 34Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword. 35For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law. 36And a man's foes shall be they of his own household. 37He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. Strong, masculine …
/r/RPChristians13/08/18 06:36 AM
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I assume it's an acronym for something You're right. I joke with /u/Red-Curious that he's got to change that thing. It stands for: Faithful. Available Teachable
/r/RPChristians11/08/18 03:58 PM
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Haha go for it!
/r/RPChristians09/08/18 05:07 PM
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Is it vain to give positive feedback to a comment that encourages people to read my stuff? They say it's a sorry dog that won't wag its own tail :)
/r/RPChristians09/08/18 02:55 AM
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Love this reply! Good words, man. And GOD is moving this woman, and her family, out of your life right now. OP think on this (even) more and act appropriately. I've been in a similar situation where no matter what you do, or think is right, etc God moves things into or out of your way relationship wise, and the door just isn't open to be together. Pray more about it, fast as needed then make a decision and stick to it no matter what.
/r/RPChristians09/08/18 01:29 AM
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Thanks for writing this. I was going to write almost the same thing in my reply and I ended up going with a different angle. u/AceBenedict23 I second this advice by rocknrollchuck. That is, if you really want to know for sure, one way or another. That said, DO NOT string your current gf along. She deserves far better from you as far the inappropriate touching/flirting/etc with this other girl that u/Deep_Strength touched on (and from your posts, you've been doing this kind of stuff for awhile). …
/r/RPChristians09/08/18 01:26 AM
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Look, all we have is what you gave us last time plus this new post. Most commenters said how it sounds like you have a really good girlfriend who, by all accounts, has qualities that many are on here are looking for in a gf/future wife. But as Oz likes to say, if it's not a "hell yeah" then it's a no. If you truly feel "blah" or just average about your gf, do her a favor and end it and pursue this other woman since it seems that's what you want. Just be willing to pay the consequences or reap th…
/r/RPChristians08/08/18 04:46 PM
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To give greater context for replying, here's the OP's post from a few weeks ago. He gives more detail about the two women in his life.
/r/RPChristians08/08/18 03:40 PM
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So, the question's in the title: How do you reconcile TRP with Christian values? Or more generally, values of Abrahamic (Judaism, Christianity, Islam) faiths? Here's a link from the sidebar, "What's scriptural and what's not?" It's a comment from u/Red-Curious to someone asking the same/similar question.
/r/RPChristians04/08/18 03:22 PM
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Can you give me the definition of game. People use it differently and interchangeably in some cases with other words. Generally, it's used in reference to hitting on and picking up women, flirting, and how you come across. You may the term/line "drop some game on her" and the meaning often includes playful banter, witty ripostes and comebacks, especially in relation to a woman's "testing" a man. More broadly, it can mean the general appeal or overall approach of a man, including body language an…
/r/RPChristians03/08/18 06:36 AM
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OK. To avoid piggybacking on your replies to others, I'll add a few more thoughts that tie in with this topic and some of your comments. You mention a biblical marriage. It's true that if a man doesn't do these things we talk about, if his SMV drops, etc that his wife still owes him love, sex, respect, etc. Her obligations to God and to a biblical marriage aren't negated because he isn't super Chad or if he's let himself go. Likewise, if a wife goes from near perfect to plump, if she's nagging a…
/r/RPChristians02/08/18 11:19 PM
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Like the male version of "letting yourself go." Except it spills over into other areas (for both parties) beyond the physical. Just as gf/wife can go from sweet to shrewish, from easy to please to demanding, from fit and toned to flabby and saggy, from making you a priority and holding you in high regard, to putting you down and disrespecting you. Likewise the bf/husband can from dominant to doormat (in putting her on a pedestal), from gaming her and having fun to being boring and predictable, a…
/r/RPChristians02/08/18 03:44 PM
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has become very jaded because of the red pill Become very optimistic because of the Bible. If reading and "absorbing" a lot of the stuff you've read in the red pill and elsewhere is making you jaded, then fill your mind with far better things, the best of these being God's Word because it's on an entirely different level.* After all, "for of the abundance of the heart, his mouth speaketh." (Luke 6:45) God says what you fill yourself up with is what's going to come out of you. In this case, what …
/r/RPChristians02/08/18 03:12 PM
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Oz already covered what I was going to say, but I'll add my own thoughts here. A few rules: Don't lie. If she asks, tell her. If you feel you need to talk about it with someone, share it with your accountability partner. Note: Make sure this person keeps private conversations locked down. You don't need to share with your GF every time you mess up. If something is a sin, confess it to God, repent and move forward in righteousness. You can be open and honest and transparent with your girlfriend w…
/r/RPChristians01/08/18 10:15 PM
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You're welcome and I pray God leads and blesses and helps you during this difficult time and on into much happier days ahead!
/r/RPChristians31/07/18 03:36 PM
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Agreed, and thank you! It's always great to meet a like-minded brother.
/r/RPChristians31/07/18 03:32 PM
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Thanks for adding this! Agree wholeheartedly. Authority and leadership, when employed within biblical boundaries, are better for the wife than all the freedom that feminism has to offer. This is golden!
/r/RPChristians31/07/18 05:44 AM
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1. Know who she is in Christ. That means (in part), you're royalty, a daughter of the Most High God. It's hard to feel like a slave when you're a close family member of the most powerful Being in the universe who loves you dearly. 2. Know and embrace her assigned role by God and what she was designed for by the Creator. She is to be a help meet for her husband. And "for the man was not made for the woman, but the woman for the man." The two together are a team and on a mission. It's hard to feel…
/r/RPChristians31/07/18 03:52 AM
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I also think that disobedient and unsubmissive wives are sinning since they are disobeying God's command for them. They are, you're right. This should be preached from the pulpit with great power and authority! Along with every other command, promise, precept and more. Preach the full Word of God. The problem is in the vast majority of churches, the pastor's life and family isn't always where it needs to be, he's more likely to have studied just enough to deliver a decent sermon, than he is to h…
/r/RPChristians30/07/18 10:53 PM
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Actually, I was implying in my previous comment that political revolution is the only way to restore patriarchy. A good post or two on that in this sub would be beneficial if you want to write that up. Although other subs such as men's rights movement might be more appropriate since we try to keep the content and focus here on the intersection between Christian faith and sexual strategy, I'd like for the men here to have a better understanding of the broader picture if they don't already.
/r/RPChristians30/07/18 03:42 PM
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Is it possible to restart in Christ with all of our past transgressions? Yes! It's always possible to be who and what God wants you to be in Christ. Start where you are and go from there. Is it possible to realign our relationship? Possible? Yes. Likely? No. Almost any one of the the red flags you mentioned could be a deal breaker. A lot of them combined? It's very unlikely this relationship works out in a God-honoring way, short of a true salvation experience that changes her from head to toe, …
/r/RPChristians29/07/18 11:54 PM
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Then why didn't any of you agree with the OP? Because they disagree with his premise, to some degree? asking men to jump into the meatgrinder that is modern marriage Actually, I've cautioned the opposite at times and tagged or mentioned you since you're known for pointing out the legal dangers in marriage 2.0 If a man can't contain his sexual drive, then I've encourage marriage over sinfulness but they certainly need to go into it with their eyes wide open. In regard to this, one thing I'm open …
/r/RPChristians29/07/18 10:57 PM
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Thank you for the detailed reply. It would have saved you and I a lot of commenting if you had shared certain sections of this from the beginning. what you described in your first comment...is not biblical "headship", or authority, or whatever we wanna call it. This has been explained to you multiple times now, but you keep conflating these two things. My comment that you quoted was about leadership in general and not specifically about headship/biblical authority. It was simply a comment about …
/r/RPChristians29/07/18 07:06 PM
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OK. Thank you for providing more detail. If it helps to know, we ask/encourage it because as commenters reply and give advice, then more is shared by the OP in the comments, and oftentimes it leads to a "well if I had known that I would've commented differently, etc. and it helps to know more at the beginning. Now, in no particular order of importance, some advice: I feel very lonely right now. I wouldn't run from it because being alone (and especially spending alone time or a quiet time with Go…
/r/RPChristians29/07/18 07:37 AM
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First, and obviously, breakups can be hard. I'm sorry about you being heartbroken. It's tough, but you'll get through it. Maybe sooner and easier than you realize. Now, we usually make men give their stats and other info when asking for advice, and I'll make no exception for you as a woman. So, it helps to have a lot more info about you and your situation. Your height and weight? Your overall attractiveness? Thin/toned/fat/chubby? How is your relationship with the Lord? What books/blogs/podcasts…
/r/RPChristians29/07/18 05:56 AM
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I encourage this, and I think you can see some good changes from it. Certainly worth a try. I like that you're directing/commanding her, that you're tying in using a strength or passion of hers (writing) that may help boost things in the bedroom and she has to be an active participant. I hope it works out for you! Provide a field report if it does.
/r/RPChristians26/07/18 10:43 PM
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What changed? Me. This. It's amazing how much can be accomplished when one focuses on positive change. From fitness to finances, from godliness to game, one's attitude and actions can bring about dramatic change in others in how they respond to you. It's obviously not a panacea for all people and circumstances, but I do think people tend to overlook how often it can help bring about the change they want. Start with you. Do what you can. Leave the rest to God. It took time. This is where it gets …
/r/RPChristians26/07/18 10:35 PM
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My reply to your other comment that should cover all of this, but as I said at the end of that one, ask or comment more if you think I left something out. I will add this. You and I both agree (I think?) that the Duluth model and other laws and policies should be scrapped or re-written to reflect common sense. Men have no authority over their wives in 2018 I asked this yet again in the other reply, but you hold the position that men should be able to physically hurt, punish or beat their wives (…
/r/RPChristians26/07/18 09:17 PM
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I answered your questions on a separate comment No, you haven't. Maybe I'm not phrasing it right. We'll get to that at the end of this reply. Yes, patriarchy is the only answer. You keep giving a very generic response to a very specific question, which has been asked multiple times. "Patriarchy" as in a society where husbands actually have authority over their families We probably agree more on this than what you realize. What I've been trying to do is to get you to get very practical and specif…
/r/RPChristians26/07/18 06:49 PM
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Lol do you intentionally ignore the main point of what others write? Saying "patriarchy" is your answer? If you want people more involved in changing laws, great! You'd have a lot of people onboard. Some of us are trying in various ways. Want preachers to preach the Word and call out sin, certainly including God's command for a wife to submit to her husband? Pretty much everyone would be in agreement, and some of us do what we can to help influence church leaders. /u/Red-Curious has often mentio…
/r/RPChristians26/07/18 06:08 AM
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Whit, no one is changing the topic, except for you when you completely disregarded answering my on-topic question directed at you. Perhaps you can't answer it. Or won't. I don't know. You have a habit of doing this at times in your replies, ignoring what people are clearly saying, even after they write more and clarify. So let me go line by line with your reply so you can't run off and say I didn't answer it. OP was talking about authority, or rather the lackof. Please read more carefully. I add…
/r/RPChristians26/07/18 05:49 AM
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Lol I like the sarcasm. I'd like it more if I didn't think it was coming from a hard place within you. Now, all that aside, I tagged you in a reply because I think it'll address some of your comments/concerns. I like how you just turned authority into "leadership". I think you're conflating my point about leadership in general and how it's viewed with God's commands to a husband in the Bible. Yeah, cos the Bible ordered husbands not to have authority but rather to be "leaders". See my comment ab…
/r/RPChristians26/07/18 03:07 AM
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What you have outlined here is conditional submission. Wrong. It's the opposite. I'm encouraging men (single or married) to be the best they can, pursue their mission, focus on what they want and do what is right, to live a life for the Lord in every way. If a woman comes along (for a single man) who is attracted to this, great! He's not doing it for her. His actions are not conditioned or calibrated depending upon what she does. It's what we talk about as OI or outcome independence. I know you …
/r/RPChristians26/07/18 02:48 AM
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Leadership doesn't require the means to enforce it. It can have that aspect, but let me ask you a question: If you have someone with the means to enforce any action, and they make you perform that action, is it accurate for them to say they were leading because they made you do said action? What if they did the same to 1,000 more? 1 million? Most people would say no, it's not leadership. They're just exercising power, which can be an aspect of leadership but it's not what most people think of it…
/r/RPChristians24/07/18 06:12 PM
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On any given issue, find the source of the anger. If you can do something about it, engage it and make a positive change. If you can't, then focus your efforts on something unrelated, yet productive. On the first point, I'll remind you that: “(For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;)” Lastly, avoid the media sources that feed this anger. In your case, social media and other outlets that promote this stuff.
/r/RPChristians18/07/18 04:04 AM
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I think the depth of it has prevented me from doing it. I can certainly understand this. If someone wants to type it out for me and I tell them over the phone I'd PayPal them money for their time. Maybe someone will take you up on your offer.
/r/RPChristians13/07/18 10:12 PM
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I encourage you to write it up.
/r/RPChristians13/07/18 10:11 PM
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Happy to read it when get the post up! You may be surprised how many benefit from your testimony.
/r/RPChristians13/07/18 10:10 PM
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More blessings on you, brother! The LORD bless you and keep you, and cause His face to shine upon you.
/r/RPChristians28/06/18 05:46 PM
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Go to the source, the Bible, God's Holy Word, and read, think on and meditate on what the LORD says about this topic. Why? Because of it's power to divide "between soul and spirit, between the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart." And realize that as you're reading, know that these are God's thoughts and God's heart and what God wants for you. While He used man to pen the words and to compile them into what we know now as the Bible, these are God's word…
/r/RPChristians26/06/18 03:57 PM
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God didn't create Adams or Eve "perfect" Yes, He did. Adam and Eve having free will doesn't negate that. I suspect, though, you and I are using different definitions of "perfect" in this context. You seem to think perfect means incapable of sinning. God created Lucifer perfect and yet he was capable of rebellion against God, and did so. Thou wast perfect in thy ways from the day that thou wast created, till iniquity was found in thee. So perfect in the context that we're discussing (as far as Ad…
/r/RPChristians16/06/18 05:52 PM
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I have this theory Abandon it. (Scroll down to see my other comment) that God created women with hypergamy Wrong. God created woman perfect. It was sin that lead to men and women's natures now. Unless you want to argue that the pronouncement of a curse was really a blessing that leads women to God. Good luck with that :) to get guys to choose Him over poon. God's way to get guys to choose Him and poon. Within marriage, of course, and only with your spouse. Maybe I'm just reaching You're reaching…
/r/RPChristians11/06/18 10:52 PM
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Hypergamy keeps her looking for God. No. Hypergamy is sin*. See the various verses dealing with contentment. Hypergamy is definitely not being content with what you have. Hebrews 13:5 Let your conversation (lifestyle) be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have And sin doesn't keep her looking for God. If anything, it leads you away, clouds your judgement and impairs your ability to draw closer to God. You need to abandon this theory, stat. *Generally speaking. Nothing wr…
/r/RPChristians11/06/18 10:43 PM
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Thank you for your kind words. I appreciate it. a lot I could say in reply I know :) you've gone a long way in helping me understand this viewpoint, if not actually persuading me a bit. Thanks for that :) Many of your posts and comments do the same for me. And you're welcome. Happy to help.
/r/RPChristians13/05/18 04:53 PM
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My response may not be the best, as I'm not sure how clear my head is due to the passing of a family member I love more than life itself, but here are a few random thoughts: "Marriage is honorable in all." - Hebrews 13:4 The word honorable is timios, which is defined as esteemed, most precious, held in honor, especially dear. And it's this way "in all." The word all being "pas," which is, well, all :) Each, every, all, the whole, everything. God tells us in this passage how dear, precious and ho…
/r/RPChristians11/05/18 03:31 AM
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something that's really hard to figure out from the secular RP subs who will say DNGAF then ridicule you and attempt to get you to GAF about their opinions. Heh. True.
/r/RPChristians03/04/18 06:28 AM
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Thank you, but "young lady" was many years ago. No you're still a young lady :) I have a habit of saying that, whether a lady is 8 or 80. I'm forty-eight and have been married for 29.5 years. I got married in my teens. Sounds like my older sister. But she's just barely older than you. Are you happily married? I'm somewhat reluctant to ask, but you strike me as someone who has a very happy marital relationship, and they seem so rare these days, and I love to hear of ones who do. My parents do, an…
/r/RPChristians24/03/18 04:40 PM
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the most important factor is often the quality of instruction available. Yes, this is a big factor. BJJ seems to be the RP gold standard BJJ is a a great art and I'd recommend it, though I've never trained exclusively in that. With ground arts (emphasis on it, anyway, they teach all kinds of strikes and other aspects that are effective if a fight never goes to the ground as well) there's a lot of overlap in techniques. So if you went with a different art, you can still learn a lot of ground figh…
/r/RPChristians24/03/18 07:26 AM
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I like this reply. It's refreshingly candid, honest and forthright. I'm not redpill. My username notwithstanding, I wouldn't normally classify myself as that either. I'm a man who believes the Bible, and where aspects of RP line up with it, great, and where it doesn't, I'm opposed. This has been true from the beginning. I never really had an eye-opening, now I see everything in a whole new light, angry phrase and "RP is truth!" type experience. Likely because of my biblical upbringing, examples …
/r/RPChristians24/03/18 06:49 AM
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The solution on the RP boards is mostly TRT, and I don't want to go that route (and don't need to right now either). There is very little here about natural T solutions, Yeah I wouldn't want to go that route either. I have a strong preference for boosting and maintaining T naturally and I think most men can get there by diet, exercise and lifestyle changes with some supps added in as needed. I'm sure you know as much as me if you've followed Ali. He's written as much as anyone else I've read and…
/r/RPChristians24/03/18 06:08 AM
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Any particular one that you'd like to get into or leaning toward?
/r/RPChristians24/03/18 05:22 AM
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Every one I've practiced in just taught the techniques and that was it. If someone tried to introduce chants, mysticism, etc I'd simply leave. It's the art/techniques, the friendships and camaraderie, the competition and more that I enjoy. Anything else and I'd just find a new art to practice in and avoid anything that I was opposed to.
/r/RPChristians24/03/18 05:21 AM
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Thank you for sharing your thoughts. You write so well and seem to have a solid grounding in scripture that I wish you'd start a Christian/biblical version of red pill women. There are many women who would benefit. I can understand the difficulty of what you speak of and why you remove the comments, but be encouraged that I'm sure they're helping others, for however brief a time they're up. When I comment I am commenting my personal views. How I reply on these forums is how I would reply in real…
/r/RPChristians24/03/18 05:09 AM
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So, I'm not sure how you can utilize that to say her desire for her husband is "not bad" when the implication of the parallel is clearly the opposite. This.
/r/RPChristians23/03/18 10:22 PM
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I know. I'd like for her to leave them up so others can benefit who maybe read a post later than the amount of time the comments are left up. That, and if there's no quoted section, one doesn't know the context of another's reply. /u/Uncommon_Sense_123 why do you delete your comments?
/r/RPChristians23/03/18 10:18 PM
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if you are in a Bible based Christian marriage the submission of the woman is not contingent upon her husband's alphaness. He could be wheelchair bound on disability benefits and he is still the head of his wife. This is absolutely right and bears repeating. I'll note it's the same with the command for a husband to love his wife, whether she is worthy of his love or not. Neither of these come with conditions, where one gets to opt out or ignore God's instructions depending on the other's actions…
/r/RPChristians23/03/18 02:19 AM
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For this reason the Lord calls blessed those who are opposed to worldly possessions The phrase "poor in spirit" does not equate to being opposed to worldy possessions. Daniel was called blessed and he had material wealth. Ditto Abraham. You can look at other wealthy figures, Isaac, Jacob, Job, Joseph of Arimathea and on and on. Having worldly possessions does not preclude one from being poor in spirit. Just make sure you have your priorities right and that God is always first in your life.
/r/RPChristians22/03/18 10:55 PM
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I love the Adam and Eve story. As do I. And as to the rest of your comment, I'll only say... you should write more. It's beautifully written and scripturally sound.
/r/RPChristians22/03/18 06:49 PM
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Maybe that is why there wasn't a minI sermon since there were not many guests and none of the pageantry. Maybe so. Seems like a lot of pastors nowadays never pass up the opportunity to get in a good sermon—or not so good—and love to offer up feminist spiel in the midst of it.
/r/RPChristians22/03/18 05:58 PM
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OK gentleman, gather 'round for a quick story and a bit of humor. Everyone knows the story of Adam and Eve that the OP references, right? So God was having a conversation with Adam and tells him, "I'm going to make you a woman. She's going to be stunningly gorgeous, she's going to wait on you hand and foot, she's going to give you all the love and affection you want and need..." I mean, God's just rattling this stuff off and all these benefits. And Adam's like "Wow! What will that cost me?" God …
/r/RPChristians22/03/18 05:51 PM
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Yeah I'm Southern Baptist and every almost every wedding I've attended, whether for fellow members or Protestants in general were as you described. On occasion, some would add in something along the lines of what the OP has written.
/r/RPChristians22/03/18 05:38 PM
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Adding in a different passage to sum this up: "Thus saith the LORD, Let not the wise man boast of his wisdom, neither let the mighty man boast of his might, let not the rich man boast of his riches: "But let him who boasts boast in this, that he understandeth and knoweth me, that I am the LORD which exercise lovingkindness, judgment, and righteousness, in the earth: for in these things I delight, saith the LORD." - Jeremiah 9:23-24 Also, I would elevate faith over humility (if one wants a hierar…
/r/RPChristians22/03/18 05:07 PM
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I've recently been looking for natural ways to boost my T Hey Chuck, check out: 52 Ways to Increase Testosterone Levels Naturally https://www.anabolicmen.com/how-to-increase-testosterone-levels-naturally/ The entire site is an excellent resource I think you'll love. And while they started offering supplements awhile back, I don't think you need anything they offer. Also, another great article titled: Testosterone Week: How I Doubled My Testosterone Levels Naturally and You Can Too https://www.ar…
/r/RPChristians22/03/18 07:00 AM
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God is happy if ur happy You might want to change this to something along the lines of God is happy if you're doing what is right in His eyes. Moreso if you're happily doing what is pleasing to Him. Its also why gay and other sexuality are kinda sin. That's like being kinda pregnant. Just as a woman either is or isn't pregnant, something either is or isn't sin. There's no in between. I haven't recognized you posting here before (unless I missed it), so welcome! I hope you enjoy your time here. A…
/r/RPChristians21/03/18 10:11 PM
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What are your favourites? It's like a 50 way tie for first :) And it's a rather eclectic list from different genres. Die Hard would have to be on there. Casablanca. I like Marvel movies, with Winter Soldier, Iron Man 1 and Guardians of the Galaxy topping that list. Empire Strikes Back and Raiders of the Lost Ark should both be on there. I can enjoy almost anything, from Titanic to Training Day. I don’t feel I’ve seen enough films to consider myself a buff. I probably don't either. It's why I sai…
/r/RPChristians21/03/18 07:00 PM
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/u/redpillwonder see I told you it will come to this It's the same as it was, as I noted in a reply (and RC did as well) in the post you linked. There's nothing different that would be done now that wouldn't have been done before /u/Red-Curious made this new post. Your comment suggests a sea change has occurred when it has not. The only "new" thing is RPChristians made a stand-alone post clearly stating the position on this topic. RC had already addressed it in comments to others (both his perso…
/r/RPChristians21/03/18 06:36 PM
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How did you develop your story telling abilities? Any advice on top of what is already in the post? Read a lot. From a wide variety of sources. You'll have a much deeper pool from which to draw from and create compelling stories. Comparison and contrast is a good technique. It can make one thing more "defined" and stand out in much greater quality than the other. A quick story: My friends and I used to drive around a popular lake where people would walk along the sidewalk there. We would joke ab…
/r/RPChristians21/03/18 06:17 AM
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Don't we all. :)
/r/RPChristians21/03/18 05:53 AM
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Thanks for this post :) Sure! I'll tell you for sure that this helps in marriage as well. Yeah I've seen it help a lot with couples. It's one of the main reasons I wanted to write this post. But if I can connect something to a personal life story, she absorbs it. In my last relationship, I remember a time or two where I talked and explained and did everything under the sun to get a point across but when I summed it up in a quick story it's like a bright light illuminated everything and all was p…
/r/RPChristians21/03/18 05:53 AM
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who wouldn't want to have super powers like Win Hof? True. But Win Hof wears Chuck Norris underoos, so there's always room for improvement for him ;) In fact, our own Chuck probably still has his Invasion USA poster on his wall, right next to his Guns N Roses banner. it has almost become a meme... that by taking cold showers you will become some sort of mighty spartan warrior king Don't crush my dreams, bro. it's important to look at contradictory data. Yeah the PaleoLeap article throws a little…
/r/RPChristians20/03/18 10:15 PM
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Ray Cronise did some interesting experiments with cold therapy that Tim Ferriss wrote about in his book, The 4 Hour Body (definite recommend). And Win Hof is well known for his cold therapy and breathing methods. A few articles and podcasts/videos if anyone is interested: http://undergroundhealthreporter.com/cold-water-therapy-losing-weight/ Dr. Rhonda Patrick speaks with Ray Cronise on Cold Thermogenesis, Intermittent Fasting, Weight Loss & Healthspan https://youtu.be/uNzZod_d18A https://paleol…
/r/RPChristians20/03/18 09:33 PM
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Amen brother!
/r/RPChristians20/03/18 09:18 PM
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If she really wants to be with you, she will find a way. One of the things I've learned (on both sides of this equation) and should be etched in stone somewhere prominently is how true that statement is. A woman will always find a way to be with you if she really wants to. Whether that's cancelling plans with family and friends to go on a date with you or uprooting and moving to be where you are, and everything in between, they will find a way if they're really into you.
/r/RPChristians20/03/18 06:55 PM
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What about yourself? Here's a little bit of info: I enjoy being outdoors, walking and hiking and taking in God's handiwork. I'm a bit of a movie buff. Love movies. Almost all kinds. I love getting together with friends for sports, game night, sitting around a campfire. You can include alternative health in my list of interests. I also have an interest in politics. (Another RP given?) Yeah I have a passion for politics. It's been that way for a long while with me. An RP given? It wouldn't surpris…
/r/RPChristians20/03/18 04:03 PM
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Yeah I thought I'd get to quickly read an article or two, but after clicking around the site (or at least a few links on the page he linked) it's all audio. I didn't have the time, so maybe someone who has listened can write up the bullet points of his message.
/r/RPChristians20/03/18 03:31 PM
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Gentleman, what do you men enjoy doing with your spare time? (Besides your wives haha for you married guys) Hiking, woodworking, exercise (which is likely a given, being RP and all), travel... what are some of your favorite activities? From cigar afficionado to sports fanatics, I'm curious what we have here amongst us men. And the handful or two of ladies among us. Favorite sports teams? College? Pro?
/r/RPChristians20/03/18 03:50 AM
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The combination of being in a group, practicing a fun sport (sparring), and the deeper meaning (instills character and discipline) really do it for me All the above plus at the beginning there was probably a "cool" factor that got me into it, not to mention wanting skills to put someone down if you had to. Although on the last part, the will to act is one of the biggest factors, imo.
/r/RPChristians20/03/18 03:44 AM
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Hey, cool! I'm surprised I never got into boxing. It's something I think I'd enjoy. I wish there'd been a gym near where I lived. Or maybe there was one within driving distance but never looked into it.
/r/RPChristians20/03/18 03:37 AM
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Does anyone here train in martial arts? If yes, which one? What do you like best about it? I've thought about getting back into it and considering which one. I've done Shotokan karate as young kid, Combat Hapkido in my twenties and a few other things like TFT (Target Focus Training) seminars, etc. I'm looking at what's available to train in around here. There's Russian Systema about 45+ minutes away. Krav Maga and a couple of others. Anything anyone is considering? Or currently training in?
/r/RPChristians20/03/18 01:43 AM
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Yeah, why not. Let's see where it goes.
/r/RPChristians20/03/18 01:31 AM
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This sub will say: marry! God says marry. That is, if you can't contain your sexual drive and to avoid sexual immorality. Marriage 2.0 is never worth it anyway Find a woman who believes in Marriage 1.0 and is committed to it. Rare, but worth looking for (or at least staying open to) if one finds or comes across a unicorn. Me: don't! What do you recommend for him? Other than avoid marriage. Self pleasure? This often involves porn, which can have it's own problems for a man. Even without porn, usi…
/r/RPChristians14/03/18 01:03 AM
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(Part 2 - continued from above in my reply to /u/Red-Curious ) If one accepts that, they have to be home (at least part of the time) to do that, and they actually have to be doing something productive there. It's the same in Timothy if one takes a principles/intent perspective, where young women/widows are instructed to "marry, bear children guide the house. That phrase "guide the house" or "manage the house" is oikodespoteō, a word Dr. Bruce Wilkinson that /u/RocknRollChuck first mentioned focu…
/r/RPChristians12/03/18 08:49 AM
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Late reply here on my part, so let me jump right in. I think the main thing you're missing is I'm looking at it as the way humans talk and communicate, while you're using what I'll call "filters" to look at scripture through, say, hyper-literalism, applicational literalism, authorial intent, etc. to try and understand and interpret the Bible. It's why I'm not a fan of any of them, as I think each has problems, depending on how one defines and applies them, as /u/OsmiumZulu noted in a reply to me…
/r/RPChristians12/03/18 08:37 AM
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I'm going to watch Biblical Portrait of Marriage by Bruce Wilkinson ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pYssXez-qdg ) which is crystal clear and biblical, if you ask me. It is. I really enjoyed when I watched it, but it was a very long time ago, and if get extra time I may go through it again, as I enjoy listening/watching great teachers, and he was certainly one of my favorites.
/r/RPChristians08/03/18 04:57 PM
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Hey, thanks! I did a couple quick searches on their site and didn't find anything. The publication date for The Heart that Makes A Home is 2011. I watched it well before then, so I'm guessing that's when they changed it over to DVDs. owns the VHS cassette Lol yeah that's what I watched it on many a moon ago. :) When I was doing the search and got to thinking about cassettes, I'm like, "Oh, man. It wasn't that long ago was it?!" when we had those around. I came of age in the 80's. Best decade eve…
/r/RPChristians08/03/18 04:25 PM
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I did a search, and apparently it isn't offered anymore by WalkThru (the company that used to sell it). I do wonder if someone(s) on their team felt it was too "red pill" in some respects. Mind you, this was developed/offered in 1999 (I think) and I went through it sometime shortly after that, long before RP even existed. I'm just using that terminology to describe what some might think of it. It's been a long time since I heard it, but going from memory, he rightly divided the Word, and present…
/r/RPChristians08/03/18 04:29 AM
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Thank you very much You're welcome. I have covered all these topics with her in length and we were on the same page of all the issues, Good to hear! I hope her actions have matched her words. except for the topic of sex. This is one of the big ones. Make sure you're both on the same page as far God saying in Corinthians that each of you have full sexual rights to the other's body and don't deny one another. We are due to watch a series on that and do the complimentary booklet. Hmm. With all the …
/r/RPChristians08/03/18 04:15 AM
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actions are certainly superior to verbal communication and are our primary mode of honest communication. Hear, hear!
/r/RPChristians06/03/18 06:08 PM
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Edit: There seems to be the misconception that i haven't discussed with her everything that is important. I did so thoroughly over a period of 10 months. OK. Then why did you write/ask: would you try to respect me in a marriage, would you recognize me as your head in a marriage What purpose does this serve? Just to make sure one last time? Do you think by asking these it makes her think about you and marriage so therefore, it leads to a greater likelihood of her saying yes? You don't have to ans…
/r/RPChristians06/03/18 06:06 PM
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Agree wholeheartedly, brother! One needs to be upfront, clear and set definitive boundaries. It's great to hear that aspect of your marriage is excellent and I pray every other one is getting there, if not already!
/r/RPChristians06/03/18 05:58 PM
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Nah, bro. Yes, bro. :) I think your misreading some things in my reply, or maybe just putting more emphasis on things we already agree on. But he shouldn't be getting this information from what she says. He should be looking at how she behaves. See my reply to Chuck (which I assume the OP reads all the comments in a thread, since he's seeking advice), where I said: More than anything, pay attention to their consistent actions and not only words. That said, of course conversation is a part of it.…
/r/RPChristians06/03/18 05:53 PM
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Rather than ask her how she feeeeelzzzzz about those things, I would tell her what I expect. I would tell her after she said how she feelz or thinks, because she may just parrot your response and tell you what you want to hear. I'd want to know her true feelings, as much as possible. This is just one option. I think /u/Red-Curious said his wife did something similar to this on some issues. They can do this either way, but it can be good getting their thoughts on things before they know your posi…
/r/RPChristians06/03/18 05:15 PM
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My first idea was to ask her several marriage related questions (e. g. would you try to respect me in a marriage, would you recognize me as your head in a marriage ) If you don't already know the answers to these questions, do not get married. And I don't mean a "Well I asked one time and she answered the right way." You should have talked about these things in depth. Likely on multiple occasions. Moreover, not just these questions, but many marriage related topics and questions. To be clear, I …
/r/RPChristians06/03/18 04:21 PM
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/u/JadedChristian13 work on adopting Whitified's response here. Part of being RP is having thick skin and not caring if other's approve of your choices. Your one driving thought should be what God thinks on any given subject, and embracing His position.
/r/RPChristians05/03/18 05:30 PM
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/u/RedPillWonder tsk-tsk, not cool you would support something like this so fast A few thoughts: This, to me, seems so basic that I'm a little surprised people are asking about it. "This" being God's view on non-marital sex. But people do keep asking about it, which happened again just yesterday and many more who read and lurk but don't comment. In addition to people asking in general, one commenter awhile back asked what was this sub's official position on this topic. /u/Red-Curious said he/thi…
/r/RPChristians05/03/18 05:21 PM
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That’s not really repentance then, is it? No, it's not.
/r/RPChristians04/03/18 07:59 PM
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This nicely sums up my thoughts. btw, gentlemen: /u/g_e_m_anscombe is a woman. I mention it because /u/Whitified mistakenly called her a him. Let's honor the lady.
/r/RPChristians04/03/18 07:50 PM
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I think this sub needs to nail this down and make a stance After pondering this a bit, I'd support this. This issue keeps coming up. Mainly for this reason. if one of its goals is to make disciples. I think an official stance on this is beneficial even if that weren't one of the goals. If it's done, I'd recommend writing two posts. The first being a simple, clear and authoritative post detailing the position with some reasons why. And fairly short in length. Then a link in that first post to a m…
/r/RPChristians04/03/18 05:02 PM
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Look into... ‘sexual immortality’ I imagine many people want to achieve this. :) Kidding aside, I'm sure you mean sexual immorality. And yes, premarital sex is immoral, according to scripture. A part of me hopes we don't have to do this here, but this has been argued and put to rest over at Dalrock on more than one occasion, with one post bumping up against 1,000 comments. Seemingly every verse, every angle, every word analyzed in the Hebrew or koine Greek. If they missed arguing over something,…
/r/RPChristians04/03/18 07:49 AM
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I think you made the right decision in sending your resignation. You have to protect yourself and your family. In the future, pray about where God would have you to serve and let Him open doors for you and your wife. It may be the same role in a different environment or something completely new.
/r/RPChristians04/03/18 06:35 AM
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Men are to be strong leaders in the relationship, not effeminate pushovers who cater to their wife’s every whim. Of course! You do know I was mocking the content (that I'm guessing) is in the podcast?
/r/RPChristians04/03/18 06:25 AM
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I'll join in before I step out for evening. Although like /u/Whitified , I can't bear listening to an hour of this stuff. Some predictions: You should always love your wife the way she wants you to love her! Never show tough love, explicitly do what the Bible says (unless it's what we say the bible says) or come across in any way that might seem harsh, authoritative or make her feel uncomfortable. If your wife is in sin, you need to look at what you're doing wrong, as obviously the only reason s…
/r/RPChristians03/03/18 12:20 AM
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I am hoping that you are doing yoga in addition to real workouts because it makes you feel cute and special Hopefully it's because he sees something cute and special. And asks her out.
/r/RPChristians02/03/18 11:45 PM
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This. Many times over. I think some men have had such bad or even average "wives" (I don't think some women are even worthy of the title) that they can't fathom what a genuine, loving woman who is committed to them and their marriage is like.
/r/RPChristians02/03/18 11:35 PM
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I think you have two problems: 1. You're going to have to man-up as /u/TheGlassStone and others have suggested. What would you do if you were on your own and didn't have a wife? Then do that. Go to a doctor. Get some supplements. Whatever works for you. Take charge of your own life. The fact that you do have a wife shouldn't change this. 2. You want a woman who, as I mentioned in a reply to /u/Uncommon_Sense_123 , shows some basic care and concern out of genuine love. Many women look after and c…
/r/RPChristians02/03/18 06:35 PM
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This is the kind of wife many men are looking for. Not for a wife to treat them like a baby, but to simply do some common sense things out of genuine love and care.
/r/RPChristians02/03/18 06:16 PM
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Well, he wasn't born in Kansas, but certainly raised there ;) Oops. Yeah, that's what I meant. I was thinking of the line from the movie after he destroyed the drone and was talking to the general, who expressed concern about him. And Superman's reply was "I'm from Kansas, general. You don't get much more American than that." or something to that effect. Yeah I think Marvel has done a far better job with their movies than DC. As far as the comics, I grew up reading Marvel and very little DC, so …
/r/RPChristians02/03/18 05:52 PM
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I'm a bit of a super hero junkie myself, although Superman is the true American hero ;) Forget what I said about unity, it's on now lol Be prepared to throw down, RC. ;) Haha. Yeah it's hard to argue against Supes. As he noted, he was born in Kansas. And you don't get much more American than that. I'm more of a Marvel fan, but I enjoy a great super hero movie no matter the character or company.
/r/RPChristians02/03/18 08:20 AM
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Oh, I know. I love movies, grew up on Star Wars and just taking the opportunity to continue the more lighthearted moment, as you got it rolling. I can enjoy when we disagree and yet still talk about it. Same. I always enjoy reading you and Oz and others, agree or disagree. Sometimes I'll ask questions or argue the other side even when it's not my position and I already agree with ya'll. I like to learn, see what, if anything, I've missed, the whole "iron sharpens iron" thing and so on. I don't k…
/r/RPChristians02/03/18 07:27 AM
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I broke up with her Then she wanted to be friends But then which I couldn't do and also nor did she want to So she wanted to be friends, but then she didn't want to, because somewhere in the middle of those two sentences you told her you couldn't...? Which led to you told her I needed time to "heal" Probably because "nor did she want to" I hope I clarified the situation well enough. Uh... Ask me if you need more info. That might be unhelpful. I might regret this, but: What exactly did you/do you…
/r/RPChristians02/03/18 07:03 AM
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Haha. Now you're just trying to win me over to your side of the argument by quoting Yoda ;) Well, writing like him, anyway. And btw, as a friendly reminder to everyone, Empire Strikes Back is by far the best of the series and Han shot first in A New Hope. :)
/r/RPChristians02/03/18 05:54 AM
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I get the impression that he and a few other people here believe that a man MUST assign the role of housework to the wife or he is in sin. No. This is not my view. Alternatively, if her husband instructs her away from housework and she listens, they may assume she is in sin for listening to her husband and abandoning her allegedly God-given duties in the home. Nor this. I would guess both your views and mine on this topic are, in your words: more nuanced than I made it sound To try and cover eve…
/r/RPChristians02/03/18 05:14 AM
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Oh man, that obvious? :/ I remember you writing something about being in the UK, or either a good guess. and here I thought living 6 months in CA is enough to make me fit in... You made it 6 months in that liberal, feminist dominated place? Get this man an award ;)
/r/RPChristians01/03/18 11:06 PM
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Thanks, I will check those out! Great! I think you'll love them. My first introduction to Bruce's material was in 2001 when my mom gave me the book Secrets of the Grapevine Oh, I forgot about that. Thanks for the reminder! I first heard about him when someone had a video series on teaching others that he made. It was very good and I remember thinking, man, I want to hear this man teach on other things. I ended up getting the two series I mentioned and greatly enjoyed them. He truly goes "line up…
/r/RPChristians01/03/18 07:51 PM
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my belief that the wife's primary responsibility is to her husband Absolutely! We agree on this. To be clear, I think the main area of disagreement Actually, I think our disagreement on this issue is minor and we're "arguing around the edges." I should have made that more apparent in my reply. Also, it's always good (as a reminder for me :) to keep in mind other readers and human nature. Sometimes, someone may take a disagreement on a specific point and make a sweeping conclusion that one disagr…
/r/RPChristians01/03/18 07:41 PM
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I am currently doing this video series, "A Biblical Portrait of Marriage" by Bruce H. Wilkinson I bought this and shared it with my Sunday school group about 10-15 years ago and it is an excellent series! I must say that I have so far found it to be one of the most Biblical series on marriage I've ever participated in. You're right! Bruce also did "Leading and Loving" as well as "A Heart that Makes A Home." The former about the roles and responsibilities of a husband and the latter about the wif…
/r/RPChristians01/03/18 06:43 PM
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It is ;)
/r/RPChristians21/02/18 02:26 AM
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Great comment! Especially this: You can't know what a lie looks like unless you compare it to the truth. The truth is the standard, not what people think. The Word is the truth. Jesus is the Way, the Truth and the Life (John 14:6). Jesus said "You will know the truth, and the truth will set you free." (John 8:32) How will you know the truth? By knowing God's Word.
/r/RPChristians17/02/18 06:16 PM
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my Pastor believes the same thing that this is the true role of men... Find a new pastor.
/r/RPChristians16/02/18 05:48 AM
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If you good fellows don't mind, I think I'll join in the conversation. Good points Red, I'd like to argue the other side, though. Back then all of those things were necessary to ensure that the word of God was not reviled. I'm always leery of cultural arguments, as they are easily used to alter an interpretation of scripture, among other reasons. They're also a favorite of complementarians (and I know you're not one). It's about looking at the purpose for what was being included in the first pla…
/r/RPChristians16/02/18 03:58 AM
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My wife had serious psychological hangups about sex due to butt tons of negative conditioning growing up. I've heard you and others say this before, but good gracious is it a reminder how we need a "wife training" (before they're married!) blog, podcast, subreddit, etc to teach God's perspective on the wonders, joys and pleasures of sex and make sure all the "trash" never (or very little of it) gets in their heads and hearts. As well as real headship/submission and many other things. Thank God t…
/r/RPChristians06/02/18 07:05 AM
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He's trolling the OP back in his reply.
/r/RPChristians04/02/18 05:15 PM
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Heh. Sarcasm and, to quote an old line from Rush, illustrating absurdity by being absurd.
/r/RPChristians04/02/18 05:14 PM
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You really think marrying a 'Christian' prevents the OP's situation? Where did I say this? I think you and I know each other better than this based on our comments in this sub. I talked about his bad decisions. I listed them. This was one of them. I never said it would have prevented his situation. What's more, since you put the word 'Christian' in quote in your reply, I definitely don't think marrying a 'Christian' woman would have prevented this situation. We agree, though, that many who call …
/r/RPChristians04/02/18 04:58 PM
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Exactly right! Please be a troll. A part of me thinks this is, and I wasted my time in a longer reply. We'll see.
/r/RPChristians04/02/18 06:59 AM
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What in the world am I reading...?! OK. First, comfort. Or at least try. I'm sorry you have to go through this. /u/Red-Curious is right, there aren't words. Not that I can come up with. I'll share some thoughts though. I pray God helps you through this. And that God gives you strength for this situation, as well as wisdom and knowledge to know exactly what to do, and the courage and boldness to follow though. Listen to me: It's easy to beat yourself up over this and drown in your sorrows. But do…
/r/RPChristians04/02/18 06:51 AM
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/u/Red-Curious already wrote a post on this: https://redd.it/7nq6zv
/r/RPChristians01/02/18 01:08 AM
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I agree with the heart behind a lot of what you're saying, with a few exceptions. Same in regard to yours. Good catch. I have been misremembering that for years! Thanks! I went back and checked to make sure I was remembering correctly. Oooh ... and you were doing so good. Ruh roh lol That word "find" is matsa... of its 455 uses, only once is it ever translated as "seek." Virtually every other context implies "happening to come across." The vast majority (359 times) it is translated as "find." To…
/r/RPChristians31/01/18 06:47 AM
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For a little levity: The Sadducees, who say there is no resurrection, which made them sad, d'ya see? Haha. I heard that many years ago from a preacher (I don't recall which one), and figured I'd share it.
/r/RPChristians31/01/18 04:53 AM
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First, we'd need to define soulmate. As you know, depending on how one defines it, may change the replies and the reasons why for their positions. In my case, I was using it generally as the opposite of "well, almost anyone will do" if they fit certain criteria, etc. or perhaps in the sense most people think of it, along the lines of "God has someone just for me" and there's only one person who is right, yada yada yada. You and I agree that people should dismiss the Disney style soulmate. I did …
/r/RPChristians31/01/18 04:17 AM
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even Jesus says no such thing as a soul mate. Uh, this is a bit of a stretch. Jesus simply said how things will be in the resurrection, when queried about an example of OT law, and didn't (directly) address the idea of soul mates on earth. If you're saying, well, the woman had seven different husbands, so that refutes the idea of soul mates, remember the under OT law, the brothers were required to take her as their wife, so it's not like she or they would be promoting the idea of "this person is…
/r/RPChristians31/01/18 01:57 AM
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I am so thankful for this sub. You guys are saving and transforming lives. Thankfulness and encouragement are always welcome. Great to hear you and others are benefiting!
/r/RPChristians30/01/18 11:49 PM
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your real reason for wanting to stay... is to preserve all of the time and affection you have invested into the relationship ... to spare yourself the emotional impact of the breakup. This! The OP fits this verse: "For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also." He has invested so much in the relationship, he has built up his "treasure" in her of time, effort, emotions, maybe money, everything and because of this immense treasure, this is where his heart is. Even the mere thought of …
/r/RPChristians30/01/18 05:30 AM
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we don't talk about faith as much as I'd like to. Bro, if you'd like to talk about something, you bring it up and talk about it with her, as often as you'd like. She'll respond however she chooses, but you do you. Lead the relationship. I don't even know for certain what her beliefs are because we don't talk about it. You've been together 2 years If you love God and your faith is important to you and you're considering marrying this woman, then good gracious you'd definitely be talking about it.…
/r/RPChristians30/01/18 12:02 AM
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I thought about writing a "polite" version of your reply, but even your comment could be considered very toned down for what you could have said to this guy. I hope he heeds your words.
/r/RPChristians29/01/18 11:03 PM
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some varieties of Southern Baptist are very prude, known for things like prohibiting high schoolers from going to prom because people dance at prom and dancing leads to sex, which is generally viewed as taboo. Speaking as one, let me tell an old joke: Do you know why Baptists don't have sex standing up? Because it might lead to dancing! [Bows] Thank you. I'll be here all night. To be fair, not all Southern Baptists are like this. That's a relief :) Many of us have a good grasp on things. Actuall…
/r/RPChristians25/01/18 07:16 AM
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Does anyone here have a personal relationship with God? I think my proclivities are clear when it comes to the great importance of the Word, enjoying substantive arguments, giving in depth replies to honest questions, etc. But let's keep this simple: If someone has "passed from death unto life," if they have "become a new creature (creation) in Christ," if they have had a salvation experience as the Bible describes, wouldn't they know God exists? Of course they would! Without needing to hear arg…
/r/RPChristians09/01/18 07:18 PM
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it was the "a root" v. "the root" Yeah. I realized that after I wrote my reply. Thanks for the clarification, and agreed. I just want to highlight that I said "idolization" of women. Oh, no lol I was being lighthearted, not serious. Because of what you said about BPP and it reminded me of some of his strong statements about women or when he's written some rant about them, and I was being facetious in saying what I did. "BPP thinking women are the root of all evil? Nah. Who would've thunk it?" ;)…
/r/RPChristians08/01/18 04:40 PM
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money is "a root to all kinds of evil," not "the root of all evil." Big difference. I was giving a direct quote of the KJV and trying to leave out any extra commentary than what I already mentioned. I write a lot as it is ;) Second, no matter the version, you often have things that even when quoting directly, misses something in translation, such as "Ask and ye shall receive" carries the idea of "keep on asking" or a continual process until you receive, not just ask once that someone might get o…
/r/RPChristians07/01/18 06:34 AM
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'The Church' is a concept that is larger than just a building, or a random group of people. Of course—to both of your statements. I was simply re-directing his focus from himself to God in my reply.
/r/RPChristians07/01/18 06:14 AM
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Nothing wrong with a good rant. It's good to get it off your chest. Now, a few things: It's not about you. It's not about getting to play your drums a certain way, or getting to play them at all, or having this or that. It's about the LORD. You go to worship Him. Let that be your focus. You hit the nail on the head with this: Add to the feeling that churches appear "feminized," Although I wouldn't say "appear" because I think they are feminized. Almost all of them. Maybe you can find one here an…
/r/RPChristians06/01/18 11:43 PM
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That was /u/Red-Curious 's line that I quoted, not mine, but I largely agree with it. But the virgins? Virginity being rare as it is, I wasn't really thinking about that when addressing Red's comment. Thinking on it for just a moment, I don't think virginity would be the biggest factor in determining whether a woman is willing to date an older man. I'm sure it plays a role, but how big of one? I don't know. I imagine it's a lot of contributing factors, beliefs, etc. determining whether a younger…
/r/RPChristians06/01/18 04:41 AM
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Round 2: I probably read this wrong or skimmed the post too fast. Are you looking for Captain on Reddit or looking for advice on your search elsewhere? Both, but mainly the first part. I have dating profiles on a couple of sites, and I would love tips on how to improve those. You guys have been a lot of help on that already. But mainly I was asking if anyone knew an RP guy of the type who is looking to get married who might be interested in my description. Ah, I gotcha. At first, I thought you w…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/18 07:02 PM
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At the time I first read this, I chuckled and thought, "Crazy stuff they believed back then." I had no idea this notion had ever been applied to humans! Haha I had a similar thought when I first heard of it. But now I'm not so sure... an ag school textbook from the 19th century that (quite authoritatively) advises horsemen to be careful in selecting the stallion that is to be put to a maiden mare, as his quality (or lack thereof) will affect all of her subsequent offspring. Some of the doctors/s…
/r/RPChristians05/01/18 04:52 AM
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Date younger. This. I've read about men who think they can't get a younger woman. But if you're fit, have a little game and have your life together for the most part, its very doable. If you're 40, you can still get away with dating girls in their mid-20s. Yes. As you know, it tends to be all over the map. You always have some women who don't want to date older men, while others like older men, and some considerably older. More men should realize this and if they'd like to date and find a younge…
/r/RPChristians04/01/18 11:43 PM
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The girl you're talking to that was with a guy when she knew he was in a relationship is enough to disqualify her right there. Next her. On the importance of virginity: It's important. It plays a role in the happiness and success of a marriage. Before I get further into that, let me say that you can find non-virgin women that will make good wives. There's plenty of examples of that in life. There's also plenty of examples on the opposite side, with studies to bolster the importance of marrying a…
/r/RPChristians04/01/18 11:36 PM
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I will decline to sidebar this without further evidence Just ftr, I didn't ask, nor do I think this should be on the sidebar. phenotypical changes occur between couples who share protracted sexual activity Yep. the theory at the time was that this was simply due to lifestyle habits. That theory may be wrong. Or, at least, there may be other factors involved. Is it possible that there's a genotypical effect in addition to the phenotypical one? Sure. Dr. Crean, the lead researcher on the study sai…
/r/RPChristians04/01/18 07:25 PM
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This is important to keep in mind, especially current vs past flaws. People grow, change, repent. I think a reasonable set of must haves/dealbreakers serves one well for initial (and continued) dating, the rest just see how compatible you are as you continue spending time together. btw, I remember you from RPW (when I used to read/comment there about a year ago) glad to have you here, and welcome!
/r/RPChristians04/01/18 05:13 PM
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It's sickening, if true. And I imagine it horrifies feminists and "good" girls alike (who maybe had one or two sexual partners in a committed LTR before marriage). The women who've had 5? 16? 30 plus sexual partners? A massive "ugh" factor. Again, IF true. It would be so helpful to have studies done on a variety of mammals (there won't be human trials for obvious reasons) but feminists, elitists and power brokers would move hell to keep that from happening. Here's an article on the study from Me…
/r/RPChristians04/01/18 03:15 AM
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Premarital sex is sex (not "instantly married") and immoral according to God-breathed scripture. It does, however, create a powerful bond between a man and a woman that has lasting effects. And while I'm a little reluctant to bring this up, I do wonder if one of the reasons God is so adamant about women being virgins before marriage (if they were found not to be, the penalty was death) is if the idea of telegony is true? It would fit with scripture, although scripture doesn't need this idea to b…
/r/RPChristians04/01/18 12:13 AM
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My view (the correct one, gentleman, follow along) ;) is: Marriage = covenant (including father's permission/blessing/rights) plus sex. If you want to add a separate category for the woman's father giving his approval and passing his "rights" to her to her husband, all good. As God states, if a father doesn't approve, then there's no marriage so sex alone can't do it. And if a woman's father did approve and (just to use a crazy example) there was never any sex, then the marriage wasn't consummat…
/r/RPChristians03/01/18 11:56 PM
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We talk a lot about 'mission' here. I think every 'woke' Christian should only have 1 mission: revolution. To change peoples' minds, and/or to reform the bluepill Church and the State. We need an intense and sustained effort to effect these changes, that's for sure. Strict monogamy and no PMS has served Christendom very well for near 2 millenia, before feminism and secularism destroyed everything. Fathers were respected, families were intact, daughters were actually virgins till married. Sons gr…
/r/RPChristians03/01/18 11:45 PM
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Just taking a good look at the fonging* that is taking place here. Because, well "It's like a bad accident, you just have to look" - A good friend of mine. And having taken a look, well done sir. *From the movie A Knight's Tale.
/r/RPChristians03/01/18 11:28 PM
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in my view this abundance mentality that includes flirting as long as a firm line is drawn is a major temptation And an affair never starts in with the act but is preceded by flirtation. It's like saying "I'm going to leave the door open (because it gives me "abc" benefit) but I'm not walking through it." If one doesn't plan to walk through it, don't open it. A man can develop unshakable confidence in himself and know that if his wife or girlfriend was no longer in his life, then he could go out…
/r/RPChristians03/01/18 08:06 PM
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You know, most people don't wake up one fine morning and decide, "Hey, I think I'll have an affair today!" Rather, it happens incrementally and often starts with these kinds of chance encounters. We agree on this. People need to do more to protect their relationships and I don't think many of them realize how simple flirting (or allowing others to flirt with you even if it's not reciprocated at the time) can turn into something more and it's "got" them before they realize it. It doesn't mean one…
/r/RPChristians03/01/18 07:49 PM
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Oh the holding me back part was referring to pre-marital sex. You want sex. This is good! Use this to improve in every one of the areas /u/OsmiumZulu listed and attract and marry the woman you're looking for, then bang like rabbits. It may be this woman you've mentioned, it may not. Even if it is, improve until her jaw drops and she's in awe of you and you may find her jaw dropping more frequently as she's looking up at you from her knees. After marriage, of course.
/r/RPChristians03/01/18 06:22 AM
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Is it any wonder why girls aren’t lifting their skirts for you begging you to take them to the altar? Lol ah, if nothing else, you are very, very quotable! :) I pray God gives you far more time to write.
/r/RPChristians03/01/18 06:15 AM
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Some questions (and comments) to consider: I trust you (sort of), Reddit... Market Me! I probably read this wrong or skimmed the post too fast. Are you looking for Captain on Reddit or looking for advice on your search elsewhere? I am 30 years old, recently left an awesome, successful 8-year long career and returned to school Is your marriage and home going to be a priority over any career? Many men who align with your religious beliefs want a woman who's priority is the marriage and home (to qu…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/18 12:20 AM
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Get rid of RP as a sexual strategy (I'm referring to spinning plates, not attraction in general) and look at it as a way of seeing life for what it truly is and how God designed it. The problem is that spinning plates seems to be the only way that is recommended for curing oneitis. First, let me take two "definitions" of "oneitis," and we'll make one "good" and one "bad" for this example. If you're in a relationship and you're happy and content with your girlfriend/wife and she's treating you gr…
/r/RPChristians02/01/18 07:32 PM
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This is something I’ve struggled with. As the head of the household and the spiritual leader, am I responsible for the sins of my family? No. To repeat what /u/Whitified wrote: It's one thing to cause your family to sin, or not stopping a sinful situation. It's another thing if your family just decides to sin anyway.
/r/RPChristians02/01/18 07:12 PM
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To add to /u/OsmiumZulu 's slight critique, here are a couple of passages that raise a bit of a red flag for me: Adam had not exercised godly leadership by protecting his wife from this sin. And All of these things lead us to conclude that Adam held an extra measure of responsibility as the leader and head of his family. And under a God-given system of male headship, we would expect the husband to be called to account for the moral actions of his family, which is exactly what we find in Genesis …
/r/RPChristians30/12/17 05:52 PM
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Merry Christmas everyone!
/r/RPChristians25/12/17 06:31 AM
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Yep. Btw, what did you do with Red? :) He usually posts longer comments than me, and those are the ones that are "broken up" in two or three parts haha. Hope you're doing well brother!
/r/RPChristians21/12/17 07:47 PM
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I used to use a saying: "Let's Scripturize this." I like it :) Great references! Thanks! I think I'll just follow you and Osmium around and take notes. You pathetic rascals! ;) Ya'll have the best thoughts.
/r/RPChristians21/12/17 06:42 PM
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thank you for your detailed and insightful reply. You're welcome. Even if AWALT isn't strictly true, do you think it's a "useful assumption" to make regardless? It's a useful assumption to make about female nature in general. But I wouldn't start out assuming the worst about any woman. Some women are a poster child for the worst and most extreme aspects of AWALT. Others you may see it expressed occasionally, but it seems to be kept in check. Think of it like our sinful nature. It's definitely th…
/r/RPChristians21/12/17 06:32 PM
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All women are like that (AWALT). There are no exceptions. Wrong! Here's one exception: My mom. She dated and said yes to marrying my dad when he had nothing. Didn't even graduate high school. But he's a smart man and he worked hard. One of the places he worked was for a very small company that wasn't doing all that well and he ended up borrowing enough money to buy the business when the owner decided to sell. My dad built it up from almost nothing and became a multi millionaire. All rainbows and…
/r/RPChristians21/12/17 06:19 AM
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You're welcome. All the best to you, brother!
/r/RPChristians20/12/17 06:25 PM
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Pray. Seriously. Pray. And get very quiet and listen to what God impresses upon your heart and mind about what to do. Take what you receive and make sure it matches up with scripture. If it's from the Lord, obviously it will match up perfectly. Spend more time with friends. Being around other people whom you love and care for, who you enjoy their company and can laugh, cut up with, hang out, etc can help a lot. Spend time with the "good" ones who lift your spirits generally. Stay away from the o…
/r/RPChristians18/12/17 08:35 AM
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He needs to be in the upper 1/3 of the lab reference range for testosterone. Labs will have slightly different ranges on the lower and higher, but I've used Quest Diagnostics and theirs is (I'm rounding up a bit) 300 to 1300 ng/dL for total testosterone. You also want to get his free T checked. For lab reference ranges, there's a huge difference in the way a man will look and feel if he's in the upper range vs the lower. More strength, energy and sex drive. Easier fat loss and muscle building. A…
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/17 11:54 PM
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Let's get God's thoughts: Consider the end of the book of Job. After having almost everything taken from him, Job has everything restored to him. Twice over. He also has seven sons and three daughters (his previous children were killed). And God says this about his daughters.... "And in all the land there were no women so beautiful as Job’s daughters." God values physical beauty enough to brag on Job's daughters. They were gorgeous! And not just in their hometown, but in all the land. Now that's…
/r/RPChristians16/12/17 11:39 PM
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Yes, physical beauty matters. The degree of importance varies from man to man, but do not exclude it in your considerations of a wife. As OP noted in a reply: I don’t expect perfection, but I do expect effort. This. Many times over. It's caring enough about yourself and your spouse to maintain your appearance as best you can. If you love your spouse, you should be motivated to do so, as it brings benefits and happiness for both of you, among other reasons.
/r/RPChristians16/12/17 11:12 PM
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I don't believe in cloning, but I think someone has cloned me and posting under the username /u/OsmiumZulu But this good fellow seems to be smarter, writes better and has wisdom. I won't mention his oft expressed humor and wit. We should ban him forthwith!
/r/RPChristians16/12/17 10:44 PM
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Hey, have a great vacation!
/r/RPChristians25/11/17 03:55 PM
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Because as you know, words and phrases take on certain meanings which people immediately identify with a certain definition. "Be yourself," is a phrase most people think about and respond the way /u/Red-Curious did. I get what you're saying, and in the context of your explanation, makes perfect sense. But that's the thing, without you adding that extra part explaining your use of the phrase, most people will naturally think differently than the way you intended because that phrase has taken on a…
/r/RPChristians25/11/17 04:20 AM
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you married me, you owe me sex! She does owe you sex. As you do her (no pun intended). As Christians, married to one another, the only reasons you two shouldn't be enjoying sex on the regular with each other is abstaining for prayer and fasting. Then getting back to it! It's sadly WAY too common in the church nowadays with ultra beta mindsets How is this (assuming we're talking about the same thing, and I think we are) even remotely a beta mindset, much less "ultra?" Is God beta for commanding t…
/r/RPChristians25/11/17 04:02 AM
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So, after consulting with one of my sisters, she suggested I read the Rational Male, and in my search of it, I stumbled upon The Red Pill, and I read quite a bit of it. But there was one problem, where was Christianity?! So I searched and found Red Pill Christians, and it's much better than the worldly The Red Pill subreddit. This is why I'm thankful this sub exists. I PM'd /u/Red-Curious early on to help encourage him in this endeavor, and I imagine many others have as well. Single and married …
/r/RPChristians13/11/17 01:35 AM
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Excellent post! I'll edit this comment and add more thoughts later.
/r/RPChristians03/11/17 06:23 AM
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Turns out I have far less time than I'd like to have to dedicate to writing. You gotta find more time. This is good stuff! the pixel vixens Lol. I'm going to steal that phrase. And yes, as you implied, men should avoid them. Just because a girl is a Christian doesn’t mean her vagina works differently. Lol. The way you write cracks me up at times. So how do you find these magical unicorns (hot Christian women who want sex for their own pleasure’s sake)? That is a subject for a future post I'm ver…
/r/RPChristians02/11/17 06:04 PM
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Thank you for the link to that poem, I enjoyed reading it.
/r/RPChristians02/11/17 05:29 PM
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With everything you've shared about your relationship, I'm inclined to agree with your assessment. But as with many things in life, and especially with women, it's almost always a combination of things. Her wanting to identify and be involved with, and supporting your mission could very well be what was motivating her AND she could have some degree (or lack thereof) of attraction issues. I'd guess the former and that you're on target with this. About the latter, I'd say that your growth is givin…
/r/RPChristians02/11/17 05:27 PM
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if their husband is Achilles or something If that pic you linked is any indication, I'm pretty sure that man had a mission in that moment. ;) Hector should've matched or surpassed that intensity.
/r/RPChristians02/11/17 05:15 PM
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Agreed on all of your thoughts. Thanks for sharing!
/r/RPChristians22/10/17 02:50 PM
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Thanks for the clarification. It's what I thought you were getting at, but wasn't sure as I read through your comment. Yes, I've seen many of the same, and it's wonderful when people experience that in their lives. I've also seen those who still struggle and wrestle physical consequences of past actions, and some who were healed. On the age thing, just noting that whatever percentage are true Christians, the percentage drops even lower when considering only women. I just threw out 50/50 as a "fi…
/r/RPChristians21/10/17 06:23 PM
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The percentage of truly Christian is definitely small - again, somewhere just shy of 20%. So, I'll give you that. But I think you misunderstood the second point No, I got it. I was simply noting that whatever the percentage of true believers (sub 20%?) then the percentage of those who are F.A.T. is going to be even less. Unless you think that all believers are F.A.T., which I take it that you don't. Plus, if one guesses that believers are split about 50/50 men to women, then we're looking at a s…
/r/RPChristians21/10/17 06:03 AM
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if you can't find a godly woman to bride and bed, raise one up. For men looking to find a good woman to date and marry, I agree this is a good strategy if you can't find one who is already marriage material. But then... figure out if the kitchen has the equipment to cook that meal in the first place This is a big part of what I was getting at. Many don't have what is needed to work with. My heart goes out to men who can't seem to find one to work with. They're out there, but are a smaller percen…
/r/RPChristians20/10/17 10:47 PM
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There are thousands looking for a good man. But how many of those are marriage material women? I'd say there's a fairly low percentage of christian women who are, and the ones who aren't need a lot of discipleship and spiritual maturity to become that way. Your point is noted, though, one can still find some good women worth marrying in church. I'm sure /u/OsmiumZulu will have good thoughts on this in his upcoming posts.
/r/RPChristians20/10/17 05:29 AM
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It may be that she doesn't know Jesus Christ as her personal Lord and Savior. "They went out from us, but they were not of us" John says. - 1 John 2:19. Many "Christians" attending and serving in church are not real, repentant, new creatures in Christ. Her actions suggest she may not be. For fuller context on the aforementioned verse: For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. 17And the world pa…
/r/RPChristians11/10/17 05:56 PM
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Keep looking for nannies/babysitters. Try a third, a fourth or a fifth, if necessary. Let each one have a couple of days and choose the best one to babysit full time. Just because the first two weren't any good, doesn't mean the next one will be the same. You have a nanny cam, so that is good. Maybe hire a housekeeper as well who will be there part of the time and while it's not her job, it's another set of eyes around the house to make sure your kids aren't being neglected. It also takes some o…
/r/RPChristians05/10/17 05:21 AM
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People have offered good comments and covered most of the bases, so let me offer a different take. It could be something going on inside his body that is the source of a low libido. I'd take a "look under the hood" and get some blood tests and see what is going on. Maybe he has low testosterone. That could certainly account for it. Is he under a lot of stress? Cortisol shoots up during stress and higher cortisol often means lower T. Especially if it's been prolonged periods of stress. Lack of mi…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/17 09:49 PM
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Amazing story! Thanks for sharing. As you know, it's also the kind of experience that, when reflected on, helps carry you through any challenging times in a relationship as well as making the "mountain top" experiences that much sweeter. Knowing and living the fact that God Himself was at work bringing you two together through things like this is a great blessing and I imagine strengthens your relationship in ways that may be difficult to put into words at times.
/r/RPChristians04/10/17 03:20 AM
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Abstaining only from intercourse, right? So oral is an option for a married couple during this time, which would help lessen any sexual frustration, or does one refrain from all sexual activity during the wife's fertile cycle?
/r/RPChristians03/10/17 05:09 PM
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God writes love stories like no one else and if he can pluck 2 people out of solo queue and bring them into a holy marriage, then he can change hearts. I can't tell you how much I love this! During the Consecration, something in me broke and the Holy Spirit took over. From that moment, beholding the hidden Body of Christ lying on the altar, I fell in love with Jon (my husband), and with Christ. And this even more. Reading testimonies of how the Holy Spirit transforms lives moves me greatly. So w…
/r/RPChristians03/10/17 04:56 PM
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I don't seem to be a particularly popular person on this thread or another one...but I rather be thoughtful, detailed, and thorough than everyone's best friend. :) I haven't been around in awhile, but from what I remember and from your recent ones, I like your comments. Keep up the great work! Someday people will figure out that down voting a comment does not make it any less true. Hope springs eternal.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 10:22 PM
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This is well done. I wish a lot more women would take these words to heart and diligently apply them in their lives. Enjoyed the quote from Katherina in Taming of the Shrew. Nice touch. :) All the best to you and your family!
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 09:47 PM
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change that behavior, but do it in response to internal motivation ... not simply to get a cookie from Momma. Good advice. My man does many nice things for me every day, but it's just how he rolls Something tells me he's getting many cookies from Momma lol ;-) Ya'll seem to have a great relationship and I wish you two all the best! Now if ya'll can only figure out how to outmaneuver that one cow... :O
/r/RPChristians17/09/17 01:15 AM
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How old are you? And when did you start having sex? Just wondering how many years it took you to hit that number.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/17 09:18 PM
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I was thinking along these lines. If the girl was ugly in his opinion and there was no attraction, would he still help her out? Or hasn't he helped other female friends out without any expectation of a reward or feeling entitled that they should treat him a certain way? He may have, and he should treat this woman the same way. And if he wouldn't, he has issues it would be helpful to consider and work on.
/r/RPChristians06/08/17 04:47 PM
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I know this will get blasted Maybe not. showing curves is not IMO modesty I'm sure people's definitions (or applications of it) will vary on this one, with some overlap. Question: Based on how you think Christian women should dress publicly, would you as a wife/when you become one (or would you encourage/advise married female friends if they asked) to dress more seductively in the privacy of their home with their husbands? Whether that's sexy lingerie at times, or simply short shorts and a cute …
/r/RPChristians06/08/17 04:38 PM
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True. What is obvious to many people though, still isn't to others, such as the man described in the post. Then again, maybe he knew and simply refused to accept it and pushed on regardless.
/r/RPChristians06/08/17 04:58 AM
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I gotcha. Good points. I would add that a woman can still be modest while doing more to outwardly present the attractiveness she has though. I think there's a happy medium between dressing trashy and looking plain jane. Thoughts and opinions will greatly vary, but I'd say a nice dress that highlights a woman's feminine curves or shows a slim figure but without looking like her boobs are about to make a jail break lol would help. And keeping her hair made up a lot of the time is good, rather than…
/r/RPChristians05/08/17 09:43 PM
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because until Christians, men and women, stop chasing after the illusion of beauty or handsomeness I get your point and generally agree, especially if it's to the exclusion or overlooking of qualities and traits that make for a great relationship. That said, men are very visual creatures. We're attracted to female beauty, obviously. To stop chasing after attractiveness (I'm specifically speaking of a single man looking for a girlfriend/future wife) is to deny a part of who he is. Of course, it's…
/r/RPChristians05/08/17 06:43 PM
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She turned him down and said that she "just wasn't ready for a relationship yet" And yet we all know that if the right guy (in her mind) came along during that same time, she'd likely jump at the chance for a relationship.
/r/RPChristians05/08/17 06:13 PM
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Don't be silly. We'll be keeping each other forever. :)
/r/RPChristians04/08/17 11:16 PM
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For those who don't see/read the edited part of the original post. I mentioned in there I'd post this in the comments as well: OK. It seems some have taken this the wrong way, so let's see if I can help clear up a few things: Some people got the impression I wrote this to find a reason to divorce, I'm up to no good, I have some nefarious purpose and my heart is dark lol etc. Lions and tigers and bears, oh my! And yes, I'm playfully exaggerating a bit with the above statement. Not much, though I'…
/r/RPChristians04/08/17 06:07 AM
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LOL My first impression of the OP was that... someone is trying to find a technicality to divorce his wife and look for another.... or he has one in the wings waiting to slide into the vacancy. I'm the OP. I'm single, never married. That may change soon, though. We'll see :) So there's certainly none of this nonsense like the below comment: Someone who actually starts that "she lies about her N count.... I think I need a divorce (to glorify god of course)" is up to no good, down deep in his hear…
/r/RPChristians04/08/17 05:36 AM
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Sorry about that ... I've always been that way : You and me both, brother lol Completely agreed! But you have to remember why the lying is a problem. In the Ananias and Sapphira example you gave, they follow the same parallel I gave above - they said, "I'm willing to give this much to God, but there's a part that I'm keeping for myself that I don't want God to have." If they had just told the apostles, "Hey, here's part of the money from the church," there's no problem because they weren't under…
/r/RPChristians03/08/17 06:29 PM
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CONCLUSION: The point is not to increase the exception to relax the standard The point* is not to increase or decrease the exception. It's to find out what is and is not included. We don't want to stretch it out to mean almost anything nor water it down. *I was (mostly) treating this as an academic exercise, and much of your commentary centers on a man's motives. But one's motives doesn't change whether the scripture in question does or does not include this action. If you want to use "she lied …
/r/RPChristians03/08/17 06:04 PM
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You really have to work on the wordiness :) Yes, I know, definitely me too ;) Here's the deal ... as soon as people start asking questions like this, a huge red flag goes up for me. I think you're reading way too much into the post title, or maybe it's your background and experience with others in this. Perhaps I should have phrased it differently. I figured we'd just discuss it the way we did with /u/BluePillProfessor 's post. Speaking of, where was this similar response in that thread? I think…
/r/RPChristians03/08/17 05:30 AM
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This kind of obsession over unimportant minutia is what ruins marriages. We agree here. As a pastor of mine used to say "Make the main things the main things." Where we may disagree (or where you may misunderstand my intention) is a person asking, bringing up, or defining the interpretation of a scripture, as with this one, doesn't constitute obsession. There are many, many things in scripture that aren't part of what my denomination calls "the fundamentals of the faith" or the big things that o…
/r/RPChristians03/08/17 05:01 AM
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I just typed out a reply to a comment, but it was deleted, so I'll just include it here: What's next In my view, there is no "what's next?" or slippery slope argument here. An act either is or is not included in the word porneia when talking about divorce. Lying/deceiving about sexual partner count may not be included. In fact, I'd like for it not to be, as I favor limiting the reasons for divorce. divorcing because wife intentionally burned the dinner? That could at one time be done. Yep and I …
/r/RPChristians03/08/17 03:55 AM
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No, good sir, that would be mine. ;) The Best!
/r/RPChristians21/07/17 04:06 PM
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Bad things sometimes happen to good people. Yes. Job being a glaring example, as you know. And the Psalms are full of examples of the righteous going through tough times and wondering why the wicked prosper at times. I see a lot of (IMO) bad theology that isn't actually rooted in Scripture. Agreed. And it can lead to one questioning their faith or, at times, keeping one from it because some commonly held belief has "taken hold" in society or a group and they see what happens in real life and it …
/r/RPChristians21/07/17 03:41 PM
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But marrying someone with known character flaws is just asking for trouble. Yes, very much agreed.
/r/RPChristians21/07/17 02:45 PM
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you guys write a lot. Working on that :) It's "dangerous" sometimes to ask me a question or invite me into a chat lol a man with a Harpy for a wife absolutely needs to give time to change. Yes, agreed. As the Lord is long-suffering toward us, so too husbands should be with their wives. That said, the quicker the husband changes* for the better—and the deeper those changes—the quicker the wife will change. *Within reason. A 24 hour "night and day" or "who are you?!" type change might give a wife …
/r/RPChristians21/07/17 06:16 AM
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It is not about who is the "better" leader. It is about the roles God has assigned to us. He didn't make women helpless baby machines or slaves to their husbands. He did not leave them without a voice and with no power. He gave them power that BALANCED and blended with the power of men to create a good society. This. Many times over.
/r/RPChristians21/07/17 05:48 AM
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I think I partially addressed this in a previous comment about the son (and the "wife" for that matter) not being put in a position until they are ready. That said, in this analogy as it pertains to marriage, he's not being "made" her boss, she's the one choosing him to be her boss or "working for the company." It doesn't say much about the employee if she chose poorly. Both sides should vet carefully and thoroughly. But you're probably not going to be very enthusiastic about the situation, amir…
/r/RPChristians21/07/17 05:42 AM
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Nowhere does the Bible say that if you just trust your husband and let him lead, he'll succeed. Nope -- he may fail miserably! It does say if He follows God and His laws and His principles, he'll succeed. A future wife should find a man who has set his heart on doing this and is proven by his consistent actions. That said, if one is looking for perfection in doing this or anything else, they'll likely to be disappointed. But you can find men who are committed to doing it the right way, and if mi…
/r/RPChristians21/07/17 05:32 AM
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Oh, I don't doubt it for some women. That's why the boss should stay the boss :) Or why the boss' son should develop the skills, attitude, experience, etc before being made boss over another. The same goes for a potential wife who's not ready. To use a similar analogy, it's like you're given a new employee you have no choice but to lean on for important tasks, and they're nowhere near ready for the position, which makes you have to take on more of their work, responsibility, etc and it slows thi…
/r/RPChristians20/07/17 02:29 PM
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I wholeheartedly endorse this post!
/r/RPChristians19/07/17 09:34 PM
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OK. I didn't see that. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/17 06:09 PM
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Lol OK I gotcha. :) I built up a lot of muscle from working out daily and am pretty happy with my current weight. Great!
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/17 06:09 PM
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I topped out at 5'5.5" and 170 pounds. And I lost about 90 pounds over a year and a half. Kara, did you get down to 80 lbs?! So 5'5.5 and about 80 lbs. Wow, that is... thin. And I say that as someone who finds a slender or petite figure on a woman attractive. Well, athletic and toned works too with feminine curves, but still, I'm just wondering how healthy it is? It obviously works for you, and it's great to hear about the weight loss success, keeping it off and all the many benefits of it for y…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/17 05:04 PM
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This is gold, sir. Promote this man!
/r/RPChristians19/07/17 05:53 AM
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you're assuming that women know what will make them happy. No. You may be reading too much into my comment, or more likely, me writing stream of consciousness and not being exact in my wording. Since you raised questions of "Is it the wife withholding sex?" verses actions the man could take in regard to that topic, I was just talking generally about how the same principle can be looked at when examining other actions that are required of a husband and wife toward each other. Which is, what level…
/r/RPChristians19/07/17 05:37 AM
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The questions abound from here. Oh yes. Great points. Which leads to similar questions back and forth, about the husband and the wife, such as "Can the woman be more lovable?" Since the husband is commanded to love the wife, she could sure make it a lot easier. And likewise, if the husband wants more sex, instead of scenarios like you presented, he could be doing things like you and /u/BluePillProfessor and many other RP men suggest and actively do things that very often WILL GET HIM more sex fr…
/r/RPChristians19/07/17 04:40 AM
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Haha ;) Love the humorous sarcasm. If brevity is the soul of wit, I (often??!) find myself sorely lacking... sheesh, think about the weaker brothers once in awhile! /s Ha! :) The funny sarcasm aside, it's always great having one of the stronger ones around, keep the great comments coming as you have time! Personally, I'm waiting for the figurative handwriting on the wall as people get bored of reading my walls of text or run me out of town on rails from this sub. :0
/r/RPChristians19/07/17 04:25 AM
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I'd contend Solomon is more likely referring to the fact that good men and women are rare, but at least among the men there was one. There's no "far easier to find a good man" context for that. But I do see what you're saying. Hmm. Admittedly, I haven't studied this passage or topic in depth, and more importantly, prayed over it enough, so take what I've written with as many grains of salt as needed. Still, I'd say textual analysis suggest my point is likely the correct one. I'll happily concede…
/r/RPChristians19/07/17 03:48 AM
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The question I was asking wasn't a present-context "why," it was a "God could have designed women to be the leaders, or for shared leadership instead" kind of "why." I gotcha. When you wrote: How would you respond to the woman who argues I "read" the questions that followed as coming from a woman's perspective who didn't like the system God set up and asked those questions critically, and I thought some women had asked those questions of you irl as well. That said, as far as the "why didn't God …
/r/RPChristians19/07/17 03:16 AM
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Good to know. Thanks for adding more of your thoughts on this. We're in agreement, especially on your main point, with maybe some minor disagreements when one "stretches out" the definition of what porneia includes. As you noted, from the text, the strongest points are definitely adultery and withholding sex. Maybe more. But those aforementioned two should be clear to anyone giving the Bible an honest reading. And for that matter, it ought to put the fear of God into any wife violating Scripture…
/r/RPChristians19/07/17 02:48 AM
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Adding more thoughts, so my original comment isn't massively long on it's own. It's just two massively long posts ;) Thus from the beginning it is clear the divorce exception given by the Lord is much broader than we have been told. Generally, I agree. I am simply arguing with a strong hand, I believe, that a “sex denying harpy” could eventually fall into the category of “unfaithful” spouse. I'd place a little more emphasis on could for most men, but again, I agree. I'd say an honest evaluation …
/r/RPChristians19/07/17 12:35 AM
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This reminds me of the Hillel vs. Shammai debate. Here's a passage from a write up of biblical divorce comments and questions. The divorce debate in Jewish circles in Jesus' day pitted the followers of Hillel against those of his rival, Shammai. Hillel took a more liberal view, permitting divorce in a variety of circumstances (even if the wife spoiled a meal!); Shammai, only in the case of adultery. Here's a good summary behind it: Both these schools permitted divorce, but for different reasons;…
/r/RPChristians19/07/17 12:08 AM
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I addressed some of this when quoting Scripture and in part of the post/comment about why women ask the questions they do. "Shall the thing formed say to him that formed it, Why hast thou made me thus?" - Romans 9:20 And Surely your turning of things upside down shall be esteemed as the potter's clay: for shall the work say of him that made it, He made me not? or shall the thing framed say of him that framed it, He had no understanding?" - Isaiah 29:16 Some translations say of the latter part of…
/r/RPChristians18/07/17 11:26 PM
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God's plan really works on every level. Yes. If one starts with the fact that God created us, and therefore knows every intimate detail, from the simple to the complex, of how the male and female psyche and entire beings work, what they need and require, what hurts or harms, or protects and prospers each, it's obvious (or should be) that what God says works every time. Would to God that every man and woman knew and followed this to a T. God's plan really works on every level. Because it's worth …
/r/RPChristians18/07/17 10:37 PM
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To re-framing the question a little: "How does it benefit a woman to follow God's original and intended pre-fall design for her as a wife?" The answer becomes pretty obvious: It actually works. The title/question wasn't mine. I simply copied/pasted it from the original thread for clarity and simplicity, since I was referencing the original OP's work and tagged him in my comment. Agreed that it can be phrased much better.
/r/RPChristians18/07/17 10:25 PM
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one conversation should tell you what you need to know about her commitment to Christ, and whether there is hope of growth. But I would not consider attempting to date a woman that doesn't have her head on straight in this area. This. OP, for a single Christian man, the one thing you focus on is determining a potential spouse's commitment to the Lord Jesus Christ. If it's real, abiding and has depth, you'll find many of the other aspects you want in a relationship are stronger and go more smooth…
/r/RPChristians18/07/17 02:42 PM
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It did not take her too long before she told me she was dating a Muslim man My guess? She was screwing him. She also is saving herself for marriage. I'd love for that to be true. I hope I'm wrong about what I wrote above. But a woman who is a Christian who doesn't even follow the very basic "don't be unequally yoked" command* in the Bible isn't likely to follow others ones, say... flee fornication. Especially because some women view muslim men as dominant and that's a turn on for them. Once the …
/r/RPChristians18/07/17 02:33 PM
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Embrace the boner Lol. Willow, you're killing me. ;) You and Nyquil are quite a pair! You two need to be sent out on a stand up comedy routine :) /u/mista_resista to be clear (and I'm 99 and 44/100ths percent sure you know this, but my sense of humor ranges from normal to weird, so I'll add this), I am NOT saying go out and have premarital sex, or implying that through humor. Don't do that. I am saying, get clear about who you are and what you want. Let that shine through. Internalize biblical a…
/r/RPChristians18/07/17 02:10 PM
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Should we be pressing for a return to terminology and a cultural stigma that restores a father's role with his children and affirms more traditional (perhaps biblical) roles between husbands and wives? Yes. Is it possible that Christian women hang onto the "SAHM" title as their last bastion of authority, since the Bible tells them they shouldn't try to control or rule over their husbands? I'd say it's something non-Christian women do as well. While radical feminists and others hate the idea of S…
/r/RPChristians17/07/17 05:30 PM
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Parenting by the Book, by John Rosemond. She said that he spends some time explaining how many marital problems and parenting issues arose a few decades ago (70s-80s) when language and emphasis shifted from women being "home-makers" or "housewives" to "stay at home mothers." He says the implication is that the wife's primary responsibility to the kids and her responsibilities around the home (if any) are secondary. As a result, the role of the father in children's lives has been minimized and be…
/r/RPChristians17/07/17 05:00 PM
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I don't think any person should pursue a degree if they can't pay for it upfront or as they go, or if they don't have a scholarship. As you say, the debt is too much, and most jobs/careers from certain degrees don't pay anywhere near enough to pay back the loan within reasonable time frames, and it adds a huge burden to the family. I should have mentioned this in my comment. If it's an option (meaning she/her family has the money or a scholarship, etc), I was mainly talking about this as a way t…
/r/RPChristians17/07/17 04:58 PM
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However, the reference to oral sex in the Song is unmistakable: Yes. And both ways, she to him and he to her. As well as detailing in poetic language her climax/orgasm. It's a beautiful description of emotional and physical love that mirrors the spiritual.
/r/RPChristians17/07/17 03:47 PM
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As do we Baptists.
/r/RPChristians17/07/17 03:39 PM
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except to the extent that TRP promotes spinning plates, premarital sex, and a pump and dump mentality, which I do believe are firmly opposed by scripture This. Spinning plates, premarital sex and adultery violate Scripture. TRP promotes the former and sometimes the latter if things aren't working out with one's wife. Unless one wants to "take on" each plate as an additional wife or have them stay within your care as some type of concubine for your entire life, these ideas are not Scriptural.
/r/RPChristians17/07/17 03:27 PM
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Every time I read the end of your flair it makes me laugh :) I know what it stands for, yet every time I see it, I think, wait, there's a word cut off or something and then it hits me and I chuckle. Happy girl :D Happy for you!
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/17 10:44 PM
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An education is no longer a good stand by because so many people are now getting degrees. The market is flooded with college degreed people who are having a hard time getting that first job, much less a woman with a sixteen year old degree and an employment gap over ten years. Yes, true. Especially in regard to education/degrees. And while I did include that, I was thinking much more broadly of any sellable skill or item she can make. She could privately teach or tutor, she could sell "widgets" …
/r/RPChristians16/07/17 06:08 PM
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Everything TRP/MRP seeks to understand was identified in the Bible first. Yes. Another hearty yes! In My Book Where do I meet the hot blonde on your book cover? :) And is she a godly, gorgeous virgin with a great personality? ;) Kidding aside, all the best of success with your book!
/r/RPChristians16/07/17 04:47 PM
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I'll add this here: Young women can and should pursue a money making skill, obtain a degree, and prepare and work towards realizing financial blessings and independence for herself (and her future family) while she looks for the right man for her (and who is looking for her). The Proverbs 31 woman sold what she made. Before Rachel married, she was tending her father's sheep. In fact, that's how she met her husband Jacob. Good thing the girl was working :) as that's how she met her man. Even if a…
/r/RPChristians16/07/17 04:57 AM
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to make sure when you find "the one", you will be "sexual compatible". One of the greatest lies/deceptions of our time. And one which has greatly diminished future happiness and/or caused untold damage to many women who bought or buy into it.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 04:21 AM
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Thank you for this u/Red-Curious I wasn't aware of the Hebrew words raya, ahava and dod, or the Greek work koinonia. I enjoy word studies and this was enlightening. You gentlemen are examples of the proverb "iron sharpeneth iron." Thank you!
/r/RPChristians14/07/17 04:02 AM
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I believe it goes both ways, as you noted. Depending on the individual, as well as other factors, one may see the emphasis and expression lean more to one than the other at times. For example, say you have a very godly woman who has a close walk with the Lord. She is newly married. While she loves and trusts her husband, that trust is still growing and forming as they share their lives. As u/rocknrollchuck has noted, the correlation between her submission to God will greatly influence her submis…
/r/RPChristians14/07/17 03:45 AM
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Thank you for writing this. I wish many, many women here would heed your words and be moved enough to protect what they have and/or take care to not increase their N count any further. It seems more women than I thought (from reading their own posts) often mistake or misread real commitment, and a lot of them are simply riding the "carousel" slowly. Even if one started sexual activity at 18 (which is the minority today, as most start sooner), and "only" had 1 or two sexual partners per year, and…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/17 09:33 PM
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Yes, agreed.
/r/RPChristians13/07/17 05:28 PM
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It is important that men realize that they must be fit - of sufficient masculine quality, desirability, sexual market value (SMV) - for a woman to willingly and happily submit to him - to be ruled over. It makes it far easier for a woman to submit, but not absolutely essential. Because if this logic held, there'd never be a single case of a woman that submitted to her husband who wasn't fit or had high SMV, and we know that's not the case because one can find examples to the contrary. We can arg…
/r/RPChristians13/07/17 04:40 AM
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It would be very interesting to see God's finest example of a man and a woman, and how they physically look. I'd guess golden mean proportions in every way for both of them. Also, I'd love to see/know the length of Eve's hair and her locks. Eye color. Height of both of them. Etc. Or, for that matter, strength and testosterone levels of Adam and all sorts of things like that.
/r/RPChristians13/07/17 04:32 AM
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Hey u/Red-Curious please be careful saying the first video is great, because it implies that a woman's desire for her husband is a result of sin, whereas the Bible teaches headship and authority of a husband over his wife before that happened, and confirms it in the New Testament. [Below is a copy/paste of mine from a previous reply on this topic] Here's a decent video explaining this. It's a little "slow" and boring, but he explains that particular verse well. I don't agree with every thing he …
/r/RPChristians13/07/17 04:27 AM
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I've thought on this before (when I was considering an acting career) and there's no easy answer. At least not for me. I've considered it from different angles, and I'd ask different questions to try and get to the heart of the matter. Sure, it could be entirely about trust. And that's on each of you. It's entirely possible you have a great guy, is trustworthy and you just need to work on you. And I kept thinking about the "Well, it's just a job. And this is part of it" reply you hear from other…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 04:50 AM
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I'm turning into a bitch You misspelled "choosing to be"
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/17 01:14 AM
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Wow. That's crazy about the first relationship you had. That's why I encouraged the OP to vet so carefully and to be very careful and patient. Because what seems OK and good or even great early on can be a disaster not soon after. With first relationships, I'd recommend going slow and as much as possible, guarding your emotions so you don't get too wrapped up until you've vetted more fully and are on a very solid foundation as far as knowing who you're with.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/17 03:54 AM
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Thank you for the compliment! And you're very blessed to have a wife like that! I'll check out the new sub and maybe post when I can. As for OP, I do hope she takes the advice to heart. It's the same advice I'd give if I had a daughter.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/17 03:50 AM
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Focus on your appearance. That's the first thing a man will see before he ever gets to know you and your personality (instead of hearing about you from family, friends, co-workers, etc.) Lose weight, if needed. Improve your complexion and have it looking amazing! Maybe try all natural skin care products for this. Let your hair grow out, take special care of it, and keep it "made up" much of the time when you're out. (Nothing wrong with hair up, in a bun, ponytails, etc. at times). Yes, shorter h…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/17 05:28 PM
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You cannot. A man is a leader or he is not. I want to generally agree simply because that's what would be observed most of the time, but it's certainly not set in stone. Men can learn to be leaders and it can, over time, become a natural part of their personality and who they are. But it often takes hard times for men to wake up. Yes. Hard times and challenges is certainly one way. Overall, this general principle about change applies to women as well. We wouldn't say women don't change. They're …
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/17 04:42 PM
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Lol well that may be a first. As far as commenting in the way you describe, I'm sure I could do it, as I often do here, it's just a conscious effort to tone it way down. And yeah, I always try and offer genuinely good advice that helps the OP from the RPW perspective, even when it doesn't always "fit" my own view. Most people seem to like it. Admittedly, I am disappointed about the direction this sub has taken in recent weeks/months. We'll see where it goes. You have a great weekend!
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/17 03:32 AM
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The one with "wives" at the end? I've linked it a couple of times when referencing it and for some reason the link gets deleted/removed, so I guess there's some rule about posting it? Is there some tension between the two? To answer your question, I've browsed and read there some but never posted. It looks like it's almost all women, although the last couple of times I've visited, I saw comments from one man. How welcoming are they to men posting there? just curious if you know about it as I don…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/17 02:05 AM
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This. there's daily shock here lol Lol yep. I continue to be surprised with each passing week how many of the comments from a wide variety of females (both new and been around awhile) often promote the opposite of what you read on the sidebar. And I'm not talking RP but RPW strategy. I get that one walks a line between "policing" every comment and adhering strictly to RPW praxeology verses letting anyone promote or encourage whatever they feel is good for relationships, but wow, this place is so…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/17 01:45 AM
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The effects of an N count are largely in the eyes of the person who feels an N count is a bad thing. If that person doesn't view the N count that way, then there aren't any actual consequences (scientifically proven ones) of having sex. Wrong. A huge consequence is the likelihood of much higher divorce rates. So a guy is taking a very big risk in marrying a woman with a high N count. And please spare the "but it's correlation, not causation" comments because it doesn't matter what the cause is I…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/17 09:19 PM
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OK I gotcha. All of this is much easier to deal with if you know there is continual progress toward your goal. Especially is there is a specific date that you know, at the very latest, you'll be out of there and back where ya'll want to be financially. I know he's looking for better work at higher pay, which will speed things up considerably, but at the current rate, how long does your Captain say it's going to take? And since you don't care for a lot of things going on around the house, a part …
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/17 04:19 PM
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After he experienced what you described, I'm guessing having his old job back would be better than his current situation in his mind. But maybe he's happier where he is (at the moment) than going back, and he doesn't share your view/perspective. I don't know. Obviously, he's working on improving things.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/17 03:13 PM
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His old boss is actually acting as a reference for him in his new job search If so, why not try the simplest route? Which is to ask for his old job back. He can be honest and forthright and tell his old boss: I messed up, and as you know. I'm looking for work. If the position I previously held isn't filled, and if you're willing to bring me back on, you'll gain an employee who works harder, smarter and produces even more results for you than I did before. Because I understand things better now t…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/17 03:08 PM
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If you're doing it over text/phone, it likely won't be long before you're doing it in person. Wait on sex.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/17 03:47 AM
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You are a shining example of a woman that so many men are looking for! And your boyfriend is incredibly blessed to have you in his life. You've also given him a beautiful gift that will last a lifetime. A lot of men may wonder what happens if they were to lose it all... No finances or hope for a future? ...will she leave? Health challenges that are so serious that can use up years and often at great personal sacrifice of time, stress and personal turmoil (even challenging her own personal health…
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/17 05:35 AM
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He was a successful, alpha male type who was never over the Vegas life and had always longed to have a family with a loving wifeanother woman to sleep with and/or fulfill aspects of his personality disorder. I was the responsible, nurturing, RPW type that 'shocked' him when he learned I wasn't already married (his words). Sometimes it's the good/wholesome innocent types that some men like to find, domineer and abuse. We had gone on many dates and had already been committed to each other when we …
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/17 12:44 AM
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I just hope I can find the right person in time bc I want to give my best years to the right guy, not spend them searching for him :/. This.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/17 12:07 AM
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I feel like a woman's SMV is the same for life, and just starts to decline at 23 years old. No on the first part. Your weight, skin/complexion and hair are all within your control, to a significant degree and help determine SMV, especially your weight. Your diet, exercise routine, sleep quality, supplements, natural skin care products, etc can all play a big role in shaping each of the above factors. Even posture and the way you carry yourself can be influential and increase attractiveness.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/17 04:17 PM
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My own post history is honestly mostly brainfarts while I'm twiddling my thumbs waiting in transit. I don't even want to look at it myself, so I don't blame you :p Haha. You seem like you have a great sense of humor! It's always great to be around someone like that. You have a great week! And if we ever disagree about something on here, just think on it more, you'll come around ;) Kidding aside, you have a good one!
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 09:49 PM
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Lol not good or bad. Your age, flair, child free and happy etc all matched up and some (but not all) of your recent comments reminded me of her. It made me curious, since that account is deleted. I've only been posting here about a year or less (reading for a year or two more) and I just got used to certain commenters who used to post all the time. My post history is pretty obvious, I'd think? You'd think, if only someone would check that before replying :) like I didn't do.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 06:38 PM
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Are you the same woman who used to post as /u/deadandsushi ?
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 05:58 PM
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You gotta stop, man lol You've been on a roll. Alas, someone has removed the OP's bacon post. Another terrorist, no doubt lol I hope the man isn't bacon deprived for long.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/17 07:39 PM
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Upvote for encouragement and for rhyming! You and your husband have a wonderful week!
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/17 07:26 PM
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feel like i have a picky man child bitch that cant properly digest fucking soy. Could be there are man child bitches because they ARE eating soy. I dont fuck men that cant eat what amounts to baby digestible quality food. Maybe because they tanked their testosterone by eating soy. Is there anything more pathetic than a picky eater man? A woman who doesn't make bacon? he is happy that i feed him all kinds of snacks. Sometimes its cookies I feel like you're going to let him out of a cage. Trust me…
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/17 10:26 PM
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May the bacon be with you!
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/17 05:37 PM
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There is wisdom here! To paraphrase Ben Franklin, we men have to hang together, or else we shall surely hang separately! Do not cross our bacon boundaries.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/17 05:29 PM
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cooking it on my grill special just for him. This is a good woman. Just the way he likes it... An even better woman! With extra bacon on the side. She's an angel! My bf is like super horney afterward The power of bacon! and wont stop smacking my ass Bacon super powers! smacking my ass while im cooking. Manly encouragement for more bacon. However I dont have to cook him bacon at all. You lost me. I do it because I love him and like making him happy. I'm back! This is a good woman. And with what s…
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/17 05:22 PM
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If only I had more upvotes! Tip of the hat to you, sir.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/17 05:09 PM
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Co-ed or same sex sports leagues in your city/town Church groups/activities/bible study groups, etc. You don't need to be a Christian to attend, they always welcome new people and want to get to know them. Political groups/meet ups/volunteering Volunteering at pet shelters or any organization that wants volunteers. Bookstores/book clubs. A lot of people go there to browse and/or hang out. It's easy enough to strike up a conversation. Athletic activities/competitions like spartan races/mudders/et…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/17 08:35 PM
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I see the post is deleted. Did you do that or the moderators? You should have left it up, if it was you. Many women may not know about the idea of telegony. As one of the scientists said, it could be true in humans. Either way, some women may want to know about it.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/17 02:36 PM
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Many sites reported on this (and all likely citing the original study). I may grab and post links later. The conclusion: Can you completely rule out that humans are the same way? No. Can you rule it in? No. At this point, we simply don't know. Obviously, there won't be any human trials, so we're left with rats, flies, etc to test on. I haven't seen or heard of any studies with anything other than fruit flies, but testing on mammals would be the next step and repeated studies to confirm or deny. …
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/17 05:17 AM
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It's difficult to overstate the power and effect of a great wife on her husband's success. And the misery and struggle of a husband with a bad wife.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/17 04:02 PM
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I'm very sorry to hear that. My condolences.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/17 02:12 AM
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This is a terrific description and one I'd encourage to be added to the sidebar in helping define the degree, extent or expression of hypergamy and AWALT. Some may argue that it's stronger, but I think that comes into play when there's a SMV/RMV gap as you said. Thanks for sharing!
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 10:02 PM
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Thank you for sharing this!
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 09:52 PM
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"common denominator" is pretty much the correlation Yes, I just used different phrasing. I thought it was clear but sticking with the same word would've helped, I'm sure. And yeah, I got her point. She was clear. I was making a larger one that despite the cause, strong correlations are enough to change decisions or alter behavior for many people, and often for good reasons.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 09:51 PM
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Great! Where've you been lately? I haven't seen you post as much, I may have missed em or been in different posts.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 09:33 PM
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Remember that correlation is not the same as causation Yes, of course. But when many people use that line, it's a little bit of a red herring. For example, people like to use it when discussing the higher N count correlates with far higher divorce rates. And they say "but it's not the cause!" Maybe the cause is childhood trauma that lead to certain actions. Maybe it's a medical condition and meds they're taking. Maybe it's this or that. But if a common denominator keeps showing up, do many peopl…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 06:40 PM
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How much time is the couple spending together each week? If a couple can and does see each other 2-3 times a week or more, even if it's just an hour to meet up and share a meal, a few hours here, half a day there, etc., then I'd say engaged within a year is certainly reasonable. And a year or less after that to be married. The thing is, how much are they communicating? Every conversation doesn't have to be this way, but are they having deep discussions about their beliefs, life goals, relationsh…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 02:56 PM
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I would advise against living together before marriage, for the same reasons as the man in your post (and probably a few more). Many years ago, studies showed couples were far more likely to be divorced if they had lived together before marriage. I haven't seen any new studies on that in recent years, so don't know if that holds. My guess is yes. Also, from a comment I made previously on this topic: Once a woman moves in, the guy gets everything he wants and would have in a marriage, minus the l…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 02:31 PM
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I'll echo everything you've said here! Especially this: The public commitment aspect is an important one. For me, that's the difference between a green-card wedding for legal purposes only, and a legal representation of a sacred commitment between a husband and a wife.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 12:18 AM
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You're welcome. I sincerely want God's greatest blessings for you and your future family! You're right, it's hard to "read" things online, you can't hear the tone or inflection in a voice, see body language and facial expressions and all of that. Plus I can be sarcastic. Ignore it ;) As you know, you can have very good men be Alpha and they don't need nor do act like sharks. Some can, and do. I just didn't picture any alpha guy orbiting like a beta, so I used the shark analogy because I felt it …
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 12:14 AM
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Good on you!
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/17 11:55 PM
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I'm thinking more along the lines of the degree of AWALT. For example, seeing RP comments along the lines of "no matter how Alpha a man is, or a woman's surroundings or influences, etc, she's still going to cheat because her nature overrules those things." They feel this impulse is so powerful, it tends to override deterrents to it, whether personal or outside influences. Of course people get to choose. But this is what got me thinking, is do these guys believe that if a woman chooses to be fait…
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/17 11:48 PM
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I've been in two serious relationships since then, and NEVER thought of cheating, or even flirting with anyone else while in a relationship. Love this. I tend to not notice other guys at all when in relationships, even if we're in a rough patch. I wouldn't want to divide my attention between people. And this. if I was attracted to guys with girlfriends, I'd immediately back off interactions with them. The thought of even assisting someone with infidelity is not something that I want to do. Excel…
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/17 11:33 PM
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Hey teaandtalk! Keep being the gold standard. Good to hear you're lucky to have him. From your comments, your husband is very lucky as well!
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/17 11:23 PM
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Congratulations on a great relationship! Mentally I've been "off the market" for nearly a decade. This. Thank you for this. A woman friend of mine who never actively looked for ways to blur the line or even think about cheating, but unfortunately she was open to things that would "just happen." In her case, it wasn't anything physical, but I warned her what would happen and she'd say no, there's nothing like that but sure enough, she ended up developing feelings and attraction for the guy, and e…
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/17 11:18 PM
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and despite the fact that we had a lot of problems and he essentially became crippled, was far below me in academic/career accomplishments, nor was affectionate, I never once wanted to cheat on him. This speaks to a sterling character! We need more women like you. I never would go out dancing because I didn't want to dance with another guy but I had some friends going who also had boyfriends. So I went, expecting to just dance with each other, but soon enough they were grinding up on any cute gu…
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/17 09:53 PM
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True! Your comment reminds of a quote I read while flipping through a men's magazine many years ago. In this case, they were asking guys about cheating and one man replied: "Why trade the kingdom for a fistful of gold?" When a man or woman has a truly great spouse, you've got something worth keeping and fighting for.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/17 09:47 PM
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Thank you for the detailed and wonderful response! Your reply (to a significant degree) mirrors my own thinking about good women. That there are women like you who would not cheat and have good, clear and powerful reasons for not doing so. Yet in tough times or rough patches, some have looked around to see if there's something better but never considered it seriously. And perhaps others draw a stricter line even at flirting. I really feel like if I cheated then that stains my character for futur…
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/17 09:43 PM
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Thank you for the comment! Your reply very nicely sums up SMV/RMV while dating, the changes that can occur, and how a woman can be exceedingly faithful and committed when serious about her vows. I have never considered cheating in 10 years of marriage. For a couple reasons: 1. I take my vows very seriously. 2. My husband is not a push over. If I cheated, we would be done (the same as if he cheated). 3. I am a Christian and believe cheating would go against all of my values. This! Many times over…
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/17 06:41 PM
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The Beginner's Guide to Ending Arguments
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/17 04:41 PM
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Good luck with finals! I thought my comment was serious yet playful with dashes of sarcasm to make a point, but OK. It was and is well-intentioned. The keep your legs closed comment was to keep you from making a mistake with this guy, and not suggestive of anything you have or haven't done in the past. Congrats on staying virtuous, as your recent comment implies. I highly encourage that. To answer your question, alphas don't orbit. They may circle like sharks before devouring their prey. But the…
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/17 06:01 AM
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First, don't lead either of these guys on. Started dating this quality Alpha guy for the last month but didn't say yes to being his girlfriend because I thought it was too fast but I see it happening. So you're dating a guy for a month. He's Alpha, according to you. You see yourself as his girlfriend in the future. All seems OK and then... There's this other guy that has always asked to hang out And he wants to study with you but his intentions were to ask me out. Mm hmm. Do tell... The way he a…
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/17 10:17 PM
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Thank you! You're very gracious. I enjoy reading your comments on RPW as well. I'm sure you're helping a lot of people. Keep posting!
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/17 04:02 AM
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I would love to see more of all those things you mentioned Good to know. If enough people upvote your comment or mine to show interest, I'll work on some and compel others to do the same. I'm sure we can get a steady stream of them appearing on a consistent basis.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 02:24 PM
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So you want more posts distilling the hard truths of hypergamy, cock carousel, hitting the wall and AWALT, and warning women on the consequences thereof? (and not just on the sidebar) While steering them toward truths that will protect, empower and help prosper their relationships? Ideas like captain/first mate dynamic, embracing femininity, what really attracts and keeps a man, etc.? And, more posts on strengthening LTR's/marriages as opposed to the "whiny" posts. Does this sum up what you want…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 01:55 PM
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For most of our marriage I have been the main breadwinner and have saved adequately to provide most of the lifestyle that we have now... He was very supportive, and it felt really nice to be taken care of financially for a while... It was a hard transition for me to be so reliant on him financially, but it also ended up making me feel closer to him and more feminine. Now its all come crashing down. So I think many of my feelings of respect for him and femininity in our marriage were tied to this…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 03:35 AM
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Thanks man! I consider that quite a compliment coming from you. If I may return one, your comments remind me of a quote a college professor once shared with our class. He was speaking on the Greek philosopher Plato, and the person he quoted said (going from memory) "Plato has written every thing there is to be said about political philosophy. Every one else is just a footnote." With no intention of sounding "over the top," your comments in RPW remind me of that quote. Every time I read an OP's p…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 03:25 AM
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This is so good. I love you. Thank you! Love you too. :) And there can be many nasty manifestations of your disapproval of his actions, that could be bottled up and explode anytime, if you don't fix the problem from its root. I agree and I think she focused in on the root in her reply below, which is great she's found something specific to work on. They'll both grow and get through this and be stronger for it.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 03:08 AM
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OK. This is serious, obviously, but I do think you're making much more of this than what you should. First things first, and likely what you want to hear: Your husband did something dumb and irresponsible. He put your family in a worse situation financially. He set the family back months (maybe years?) from where you would have been financially in regards to savings. It sucks. Bad. And then he compounded the problem by lying about it and attempting to cover it up for a time. This, in turn, dimin…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/17 11:31 PM
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You're welcome. I wish you all the best!
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/17 05:16 PM
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but i don't know if he can learn to be alpha since i view it more as something you either are born with and have or don't. Turn this around: "I don't know if she can learn to be more feminine since I view it more as something you either are born with and have or don't." Do you believe women can be more feminine, that they can learn and grow into and develop traits that are promoted on the side bar? If yes, why do you hold a different standard for men? It's true some men and women come naturally …
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/17 02:37 PM
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I'm trying to find just one of your points to highlight and compliment, but it's like a 5 way tie for first! They're all excellent. Well done! I hope many other women take them to heart and apply them daily.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/17 12:14 AM
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To add to this, fill in the blank not just with their name, but with a specific action, accomplishment or trait they have, followed by a physical gesture such as an admiring look, a tight hug, or a take of the arm that you cling to, letting him know your respect for him compels you to want to stand and be by his side. Don't be surprised if his chest bows out more afterward. ;-)
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/17 12:07 AM
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Hear, hear! Women need to internalize this and express it in consistent actions with their man and they'd reap a far more bountiful harvest of rewards!
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/17 12:02 AM
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If his business was earning a good or great income and if you knew he'd have plenty of time to help raise and be around your future children, would you be just as eager about it as he is? If yes, share with him your enthusiasm about having children together and let him know you can't wait (at least on an emotional level) but that you want him to be able to spend plenty of time with the children, be on more solid financial footing, etc. With him knowing you're as enthusiastic as he is, it may hel…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/17 11:46 PM
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I wanted to wait until marriage) but with the stipulation that the wedding happens within a year of the proposal. Once you move in, he gets everything he wants and would have in a marriage, minus the legality of the relationship marriage confers. If anything, it can easily lead to him delaying marriage even longer because he basically has 'marriage' in all but name only. I am already uncomfortable with the compromise I am going to do when it comes time for engagement Then don't do it. Let him kn…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/17 02:00 AM
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You have absolutely NO clue about what kind of hoops I had to jump trough to be in the position I am right now in life. No clue. The damage is there, for sure, but at least I'm trying to understand and fix it :) This attitude will help carry you far in life. Never give up and keep improving, keep moving forward. Time and momentum are powerful allies.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/17 01:40 AM
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Agreed. Just sharing a post I remembered from this subreddit that I felt tied in. And not implying most guys are deceptive. She assumed that getting serious and exclusive means LTR as in the forever version of long term. He never had that in mind. He had a more casual idea of LTR This. On the same/similar point, it constantly surprises me how many women (even on RPW) mistake something else for what they consider real commitment (LTR potentially leading to marriage) when it's not obviously not th…
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 05:09 AM
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I feel like I spent four months devaluing myself to future men. ...if my number is now one higher? Am I worth less because of my past relationship? Worth less? A little, yes. Worthless? No! About the former, you'll find it varies from man to man. It's not either 100% or 0%. Many men who have options will put a higher premium on a woman having a very low N-count if they're considering an LTR and marriage. And each "notch" diminishes a woman in their eyes a little or a lot, depending on other fact…
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/17 05:00 PM
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what signs I should look for that tell me the relationship is going well and going towards marriage. He makes time to spend with you. He is exclusive with you. He talks about his future with you and makes plans for it. He opens up more and confides in you, he reveals more emotional details about his life. To some degree, anyway. He demonstrates that he trusts you. He takes you to see his family. He talks positively about you to his friends and family. He's comfortable around you. Doing everythin…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/17 05:15 AM
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Yes, you're right. I have a family member who served and has wrestled with PTSD, though thankfully not to a dramatic degree. I wish you all the best!
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/17 04:55 AM
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For those who were in an abusive relationship, been abandoned, or otherwise been through gut-wrenching experiences, my heart goes out to them. But when it's a spouse leaving for a flimsy excuse (or none at all), that's where my ire lies. I hear and read of more and more women (plenty who write articles promoting such stuff, such as Cheryl Strayed) simply leaving because they're unhappy or some other such nonsense. This kind of stuff can and often does dramatically hurt their children. Some who n…
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/17 03:16 AM
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Hmm. If you have the money, I highly recommend BrainStateTech.com (I have no affiliation with them whatsoever) The founder has worked with a lot of service members with PTSD with very good results. I believe he's also received funding for studies he's conducted on those with PTSD, and has empirical data proving his technology works. There's a device for home use as well. If possible, I'd take a trip out to the Arizona HQ for an intensive, and get the home unit as well. It might be something you …
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/17 12:14 AM
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The problem is not single mothers A large part of the problem is, especially single mothers by choice. Women file about 70% of divorces, and 80% of that number is no fault. The latter meaning that these women didn't leave abusive relationships, etc, she was just unhaaaaaapy. though inevitably there are more difficulties facing single parents Yes, though inevitably there are even more difficulties facing children of single parents. Don't blame her marital status for her selfish parenting Also don…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/17 11:57 PM
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No problem. Have a great weekend!
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/17 09:09 PM
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No worries :) I actually wasn't trying to goad you into a discussion. I took your comment about about one's personal faith equaling mythologies as a quick jab when one wasn't needed ("I'm an atheist, so it doesn't play a role in my life" could have sufficed, but you added the other) so I just threw out a quick reply. Kind of like an OP asking how one's thoughts on global warming plays a role in their other political beliefs and then someone addressing a climate skeptic as a "science denier." I t…
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/17 05:18 PM
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I'm completely unfettered by mythologies playing a role in my life Which is why I'm a Christian and have something real.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/17 04:03 AM
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For those who don't know, it's a part of Scripture, specifically Proverbs 31: 10-31. Beautiful passage, whether one is Christian or not. 10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. 11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. 12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. 13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands. 14 She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 09:27 PM
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And I think, if you asked these men whether they believe Christ for their sins, etc., they would answer in the affirmative -- sincerely. Doesn't matter what they say. "Ye shall know them by their fruits," or by their actions in other words. An orange tree produces oranges, etc. A real Christian acts like it. It won't be fake, or just words. And certainly not some of the situations you've describe or that I and many others could talk about as well. Will they act perfectly all the time? Of course …
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 09:19 PM
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My partner's family is full of fine, upstanding Christian men who abused, cheated on and deserted their wives. They were not Christian men, then. Not very likely, anyway. The same for your other examples in previous comments. To quote a passage, "they went out from us, because they never were of us." A LOT of people will say they are Christian, some will follow the outward trappings of religion, and it "looks like" they are one to many people, but they simply are not. If you find people acting l…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 03:26 PM
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Then leave. Sounds like a lot of things adding up that you don't like, don't deal well with or are destructive to the relationship and it's only a matter of time, anyway. because I am afraid to talk to him because he is very explosive. This sounds like the real problem right here. Either his temper and inability to control it, and your (or his, or both) lack of communication.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/17 11:39 PM
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Math: Depression + don't count on falling in love = unnecessary trouble. Can it work? It can. Will it? Doubtful. If you insist on staying in this relationship, give it a hard deadline. Say six months at most. If things aren't significantly better by then (his depression, his actions demonstrating commitment, etc) then leave. And don't look back. Leave.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/17 05:03 AM
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When a man waves a red flag in front of your face... heed it.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/17 04:54 AM
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Continue to vet carefully and move forward at your pace. It sounds like you have something good. Keep it.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/17 04:50 AM
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Wait until marriage. Communicate a lot (about everything) but especially about his/your sexual desires, preferences, frequency, etc. This will rule in/out a lot. Even without experience, a person's thoughts and opinions can let you know a lot about them and vice-versa. And don't buy the "well you have experience something before you truly know" argument. How many married people saying that would risk their marriage for a "well we haven't tried an open marriage, so let's sleep around and to know …
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/17 04:36 AM
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The Red Pill doesn't champion chastity until marriage It doesn't discourage it, either. And I think you meant RPW and not RP. If you did mean Red Pill, then you're right. They wouldn't champion it. but in favor of keeping sexual partners to a minimum. And A good vetting process is key to low numbers. This and this. The general consensus around here on this topic might be described as no sex before commitment, vet very carefully and keep your sexual partner count low.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/17 09:59 PM
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I am not sure being a virgin would raise your RMV Yes, it does. Even RPW moderators have said the same in other posts, and most people would agree they're among the most familiar with the RPW perspective. I think not being sexually active until you are married actually lowers your RMV. Wrong. It raises it. But I'm just stating the general RPW perspective. As you noted, individuals and groups in various countries may have differing views. You'll find the same even within the same country on this …
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/17 09:49 PM
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The general view is that a chaste, virgin woman has a much higher RMV (Relationship Market Value) compared to a woman who isn't chaste. If a woman chooses to have sex while dating, RPW recommends waiting until you gain commitment from the man before doing so.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/17 03:11 PM
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"The more people you love, the weaker you are'' -Cersei Lannister. Then you (or them) are doing it incorrectly. It's cynical, but it's true. Wrong. The more people you love (and who love you in return) make you better, stronger, can keep you from falling, help you get up when you do fall, and are are a wellspring of inspiration, encouragement and support. I'm shit scared to invest but I try hard despite it. The fear hurts. The fear of over-investing and getting hurt. Probably irrational. You can…
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/17 06:20 AM
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I second this.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 04:17 PM
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For the first 3-4 months we were together, he reserved the right to sleep with other women. This is the whole problem right here. You chose to start dating/stay with a guy who told you up front he is like this. Everything else followed from this. Leave. Now. Give yourself time to heal over this and then go find yourself a man. If you don't, you'll likely waste six months, a year or even two or three down the road and find the same thing happening again. And you won't get those years back.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 04:16 PM
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All the girls should be ranked by n-count... Lol. Thanks for the laugh! Maybe we can include the correlated divorce probability alongside that number ;-) Thanks for the feedback! (and the joking)
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 02:53 PM
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This. Read it over a few times and let it sink in. And I was going to write a separate comment for the rest but I'll just post it here. You have control over a great many things. You can choose to lose weight and go about doing it. Even with no money. You can walk daily or run sprints outside or any number of bodyweight exercises. You decide what you put in your body for food. Even with no skills, you can determine your success in life by hard work. Find a job, even if you start at the bottom, a…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 12:06 AM
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Noted and agreed. A quick counter-argument though: The same can be said of politically conservative dating sites, and there are one or two out there, and they have some overlapping/shared beliefs and opinions, yet people post profiles and use them. I get what you're saying, though, and people need to be careful using their name and pictures while posting anything on the internet (dating related or otherwise) and consider all the benefits and consequences.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/17 11:52 PM
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just naturally dominant men. Or as I refer to us, normal. Haha. Yes. I commented awhile back on a post about alpha and beta and said "But I'm traditional. We used to just be called men."
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/17 11:03 PM
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Most RPW don't want RP aware men, just naturally dominant men. Yeah I should have clarified, the site (if it were created) would be for more serious LTRs/marriage minded, so more RPW. The Red Pill reference was used more generally, and not specifically for RP'ers who just want to spin plates. There's a reason it hasn't been done, and shouldn't be done. Your reasons? I can think of some to agree with you. Just curious. With sites like: Atlasphere (for Ayn Rand fans), 420Dating (a larger group, I'…
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/17 11:00 PM
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I'm sure you meant your reply to the OP, but instead hit reply to my comment above.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 10:30 PM
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Are you submissive and do you want the RPW Captain/First Mate traditional gender roles in your relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 03:42 PM
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Are you submissive? Do you want to (and are going to) follow your man's leadership? Or if he makes a decision are you going to say things like "I'm just stating the facts" as you declare him wrong or "No, you see..." and point out where he's incorrect, and "But that's not how it is, because...." or similar responses. Now, those aren't your words, but that's how a lot of your responses come across. Which I think is exactly what your missing. How you come across. It's possible you are completely d…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 03:18 PM
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Other than making them wait a long time for sex, because they will still play along for however long it takes. If this is true, make them wait until engagement or marriage, and voila, you have what you want.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 02:59 PM
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Proportion matters. Even for guys who like large breasts or a big butt, it's a turn off if a woman is, say, 5'2 with a 38DD chest and looks like she's about to topple over. Or a thinner woman with the exception of what looks like two Volkswagon beatles stuffed in her jeans. It just looks "off" and unattractive to many men. Men like proportion. Usually something as close as possible to the golden mean. So having an unusually large bust or butt for your overall size/body frame may not be helping o…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 02:27 PM
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I don’t know if it’s me or him. It's him. that I’m somehow simply not enough You're not. I don't know if I just made a mistake or if I dodged a bullet. You dodged a bullet. but I just can't shake this feeling. Don't shake it, embrace it.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 10:44 PM
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The grass is always greener on the other side It's also greener by the septic tank.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/17 11:53 PM
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He can't handle money, he looks to others to bail him out, he breaks boundaries by using your credit card for things other than what was agreed on... And not long ago, you posted he was hanging out with people that made you wonder about his motives in a particular situation. Some friend of a friend that was a homewrecker and he commented on her Instagram and that he didn't even post pics or comment about you but he did for her. Or something along those lines. This is a slow motion train wreck. T…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/17 05:11 PM
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This.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/17 04:53 PM
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I'd say give it a shot, and vet carefully. Speaking as an older guy, no I don't think the only thing an older guy wants is sex from a younger woman, any more than I think the same about men your age. You'll find some guys want only sex, and some are looking for commitment, regardless of age. That said, don't have sex until commitment. Simply start talking to him more and you'll likely find the anxiety goes away on it's own. You'll get more comfortable around him and your natural personality will…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/17 05:44 PM
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I used it as a fill in for whatever it is one is experiencing that they feel they can't make it much longer without. In OP's case, it's sex with a guy (or guys, over time) and increasing her N count. I was applying the principle generally, though, so just used "abc" to represent almost anything one is dealing with.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/17 04:38 PM
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He sounds like someone who has read TRP or something similar and is trying to act alpha, and his actions expressing that are coming across as all kinds of messed up.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/17 04:28 PM
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I guess what I want is to experiment in order to figure out what I want. By the time you figure out what you want, you'll be carrying around a lot of consequences. And there's no going back and undoing it. That's why RPW recommends vet carefully and get commitment.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/17 10:08 PM
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I'm open to anything. The biblical solution: Get married. "It is better to marry than to burn with passion." Which means devoting tons of time, energy and efforts to finding a guy that's right for you. Make it priority #1 if you go this route. Try herbs that lower female libido. Mediate on the risks and consequences of racking up a higher N count. Let them sink in deeply. You'll find internalizing this (and this applies to almost anything) effects thoughts, feelings, and actions. Focus on the re…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/17 05:23 PM
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First, your relationship is good and I think it's best to err on the side of protecting it and doing your best to make it work. I'm sure everything will work out for ya'll. That said, you can say something along the lines of "If you think it's appropriate, I'd love to meet your parents when I come visit." and get his reaction. Because if in his mind, it has to be you and no one else, I'd think (even with his culture) he'd take you to meet them. As you noted, it has to be serious before you meet …
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/17 07:41 PM
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This. Don't make a decision of this importance based on "think so's" or "I'm pretty sure" etc. As much as possible, KNOW. You two sound like you have a good relationship, and sitting down and talking about everything at length (again and again, if necessary, to be sure) is always encouraged.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/17 07:24 PM
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First, great post! Thank you, Sadie. Mr. Dunham is a greater beta. I've... received strange reactions from men and women in the sub. One man even private messaged me to tell me I shouldn't be bad mouthing my husband! And So I understand the confusion when women come here and they think they want an alpha I've been seeing this a lot here. Women (and some men) who post here and use the terms generally as: Alpha = good or best and complimentary and Beta = "bad" or lesser or a put down. But then you…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/17 06:33 PM
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People have thyroid... disorders that cause them to be obese. Well stop eating thyroid! Rush Hour 3 reference.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/17 12:54 AM
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Ah, Nittany. I'm ambivalent about this. It's likely much ado about nothing. You may be reading way too much into this and causing yourself unneeded stress. Trust your man, but keep your eyes open about this girl and watch her actions. You seem to have a good relationship. Don't let this woman (intentionally or unintentionally) ruin your relationship or diminish it even a little. Focus on you and him. Not her. That said, there's a part of me that raises an eyebrow at this. As I was reading your p…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/17 05:00 PM
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Eh, I don't know on this one. I'd give it a solid +/-2. Maybe even three. You're right about some women thinking a very pretty face makes up for a bad body, and for many men, there's no getting over/getting past a very obese woman but with a pretty face. A great body does outweigh everything else appearance wise. But on the flip side, what if you had a woman with a near perfect body, let's go ahead and give her a ten body wise, but she has an ugly face. Not disfigured or scarred, just ugly. Woul…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/17 12:14 AM
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many more regarding a good wife, and that of a wicked wife. It's not that we as men cannot be alone, it's not that we can't be successful and survive and progress in our life alone, HOWEVER it is not the ideal way it is supposed to be.A good woman adds immense and irreplaceable value to an already good man's life. It's striking that God (if one believes in divine inspiration of scripture) makes note of a bad wife/woman with verses like: "It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a conte…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/17 11:27 PM
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I was raised that sharing a house is for marriage. Same. I know others who weren't raised that way but still hold or came to adopt that belief. I'm 27 and never have lived with a boyfriend. This is a plus. You get to share a "first" (at least for you, idk about him) that can act like an emotional or mental anchor when you do marry and live together with someone for the first time. It may be that if someone has lived with an SO and the relationship ended, or it's happened a handful of times over …
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/17 10:58 PM
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I find myself just as you said telling myself "there is no reason to get married, I don't want kids, I only want a wife. However in today's society there are no women whom want to be a WIFE more than a mother or just want provision and comfort post wall. Marriage is for kids nowadays, not to build an intimate relationship, and enjoy a higher quality of life with another person." I hold the same position. I'm open to kids, but lean against it. More like a 60/40 or 70/30 split against. I don't how…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/17 07:39 PM
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Yes, but there are ways to go about learning about each other's living habits before marriage And Also, I just strongly believe that a couple who is committed and willing to work through problems should be able to solve most living habit problems. Agree wholeheartedly! I wish more women believed the way you do. The man gets all the benefits of a wife, without a greater commitment that marriage entails. It works out for some, but how many women end up looking back on a failed relationship after "…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/17 07:15 PM
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Random thoughts and suggestions for you: Lose weight (if needed) and work with what you have to develop the kind of body he is attracted to. And not just your body, but your overall look. Dress in ways he loves, whether when going on or lounging around the house. Grow your hair out (or keep it short, if he finds that more attractive). Look up QueenBee's post "Hair so shiny it will blind a bitch" (every time I read that title it cracks me up lol). Improve your skin, your complexion, etc. Hyaluron…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/16 05:35 PM
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This. I've used Bragg's Apple Cider Vinegar with 'the mother' and it's truly impressive how many different things it helps with. Plus, it's cheap.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/16 05:08 PM
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I'd add that the post title could be better. When I first clicked on it, I wasn't sure if I was going to read about misconceptions in a specific relationship, and someone asking for advice in their situation or something else. I don't always catch the "Discussions" or "Theory" or "Advice" categories that's listed to the left of posts, and the headline/title is what I often focus on. "Red Pill Theory Misconceptions" or "Misconceptions about Red Pill Theory" might work better. Or adding "common" o…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 07:12 PM
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Agreed. A couple more thoughts, though: Testosterone, however, can account for many of these traits or characteristics showing up to a much greater degree. Or, at least in the mish-mash of things you mentioned, I'd be surprised if levels of it (high or low) wasn't identified as one of the driving factors for a good portion of the "mores" and "lesses." That said, you can have someone in the top 10% in regard to T levels but have had experiences or issues with many of the things you listed, and en…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 07:00 PM
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subordinating yourself to a higher power is inherently beta. Wrong. And it must be news to hear how some of those mighty warriors throughout history who conquered lands, killed numerous people, bedded untold women and built civilizations were SO beta! /s All because some of them believed in and honored God or gods, and subordinated themselves to a higher power. Because they believe delusions. Wrong again. Religious people just hold different views than you do. And your antipathy to people of fai…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 06:40 PM
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Don't be silly. Of course they're high value, assuming they have positive traits RPW lists in the sidebar, and which are desired by the partners they want to attract. I'm guessing you're simply going by your personal opinion, though, and not necessarily RPW theory. In which case, congrats on offending a huge portion of your fellow women in this little RedPill subreddit "family." And, of course, being wrong.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 06:14 PM
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many men today are more or less maladjusted spoiled children. Alas, often true.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 05:52 PM
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Men who have higher levels of sexual desire and drive tend to be more, men who have lower levels of desire and drive tend to be less. The vast majority of your "more" list can be attributed to higher testosterone levels in a man. Which, in turn, boosts sexual drive. And the others (caring, helping hand, affectionate, etc.) can be seen in great degrees in men with both high and low sexual drives. Maybe it's testosterone that's the main driver (with sexual drive being an expression of higher T lev…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 04:22 PM
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Nicely done, Sadie!
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 04:04 PM
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Thanks for the clarification.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 02:02 AM
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I agree. It really is just the wording, less the message that either staying off or getting off the CC will benefit you in the long term. I couldn't agree with that concept more. This. "A word fitly spoken" to use a biblical phrase, can achieve amazing results. And, obviously, different people respond differently to various approaches. Sometimes a gentle word, sometimes a tougher tone works better.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 12:52 AM
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Exactly which part of what I wrote is "extremely negative" to you? You may be confusing my posts with that of another. You partially reference my comment above, then seem to talk about another, which leaves me unsure as to who you're addressing? "Well, then, I guess it's too late for me" isn't helping anyone improve. Again, I'm not sure where you're getting this. As you noted, I briefly talked about "Start where you are..." And I laid out how talking about such things (even if they are repeated …
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 12:41 AM
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If you (plural you) understand the impact that a high N-count can have on proper bonding, you'd be more able to work on overcoming it by consciously bonding and chasing away all thoughts that may destroy bonding. This is extremely hard personal work. It's doable but it's very difficult. It's a lot easier to refrain from riding the cc. If a woman already rode the cc, by all means, she should work on her bonding skills. If there's life, there's hope. This.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/16 07:20 PM
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Telling this woman not to have sex with this guy is good advice, but telling women with a higher number that they're "damaged goods" does nothing to help them improve themselves It helps women by encouraging them not to run up their N count beyond what it already is, because the numbers/consequences only move in one direction. It warms women of the consequences of a higher number of partners and protects them from additional "damage," whether in the form of greater likelihood of depression, divo…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/16 04:52 PM
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Virginity won't stack the odds in your favor. And A virgin both mentally and physically is an option you are taking a huge risk on. And By opting for a virgin, you are more like playing russian roulette than stacking the odds in your favor. It's remarkable how often the opposite of what you sometimes assert is true. At least according to studies based on real people and real lives. As well as my own experiences, and those of family, friends and acquaintances. Are there exceptions you can find on…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/16 12:24 AM
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Actually, you were replying to Rommel if you scan back up above, and either of your comments and subsequent replies are easily read as being general comments, and not exclusively to OP Mine simply followed in the same vein. You have a good weekend!
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/16 12:06 AM
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like her credit score. Interesting you brought this up. Imagine if a man was thinking of marrying a woman and she'd have access to some (or all) of his money, and her past was riddled with financial disasters. She was a big spender when she had money. Her credit was in the toilet. There was a bankruptcy or lien in her credit file. He finds out that it wasn't a one time thing, but a dozen instances of financial mismanagement at various times in her life. Do you think he would want to know this be…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/16 04:49 PM
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But does it really matter? Yes. It shows up in (much) higher divorce rates. In depression. In being alpha widowed and more. It's not like she's lying about something that could affect you later Like divorce? See above. It most definitely affects a man's marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/16 04:32 PM
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Hi! Here's a quick example in the Bible that encourages virginity til marriage. And I'll try and somehow tie it in with your original post that started this thread. First, the easy one. "Flee fornication." Which is translated sometimes as "sexual immorality." But people immediately say, yes, but fornication doesn't necessarily mean intercourse! Sexual immorality can be adultery, sex with animals, in-laws (no laughing at those last two together ;) So how do we know premarital sex is included in t…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/16 07:51 AM
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The Bible does not say anything about sex before marriage. Yes it does. I've done the research as well. I don't want derail this thread, so I'll try and quickly reply to glitterchild below if you want one example.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/16 07:36 AM
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A quick follow up, which might deserve a lengthier front page post, if approved. While we've all got our positions and deeply held beliefs, we're here to help people. It seems like some here hold the position that if you don't share their view, you're crazy, primitive, a virgin, live in your parent's basement, insecure, unsuccessful, a total beta, from another planet or anything else they can think of. I get that some of this is visceral, there's deep emotions, especially if you've got past hurt…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/16 07:21 AM
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I don't have the links handy, but there's evidence to support your position, that virgins are more well adjusted, more emotionally stable, less prone to addictive behaviors, etc. than those who have had high numbers of sexual partners. If anything, what he asserted is the opposite. I won't suggest these women are crazy, to use the same word, but there is correlation that negative traits and behaviors are more associated with women who've been with a higher number of sexual partners.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/16 06:52 AM
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Oh, the past matters. Definitely. To op, don't beat yourself up about it...just learn and change. But don't fight the past, you can't change it. It's only value is to learn lessons and make change for the present and future. This bears repeating. My aforementioned comment deals with what OP was saying some people's views of fairness. If she were the same girl, and giving it to some she dated and not others, then yeah, they can cry unfairness all they want. But with her decisions, her new actions…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/16 12:05 AM
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There was no intention of insult. You made a "knock" on guys commenting/advice in a way that made me chuckle (I've read the phrase before, but it's still funny to me). And yeah, I realize, it can go both ways, don't let women tell guys how to catch them, etc. So I threw out a quick comeback. More geared as a general comment (not intended to you personally), where a woman can be presented with a mountain of evidence that points one way, and she'll find a way to explain it away or rationalize it t…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/16 10:58 PM
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Lol nah, it's not even almost. It's likely you've got people (atheists, religious, anything) who simply can't stand to hear some opposing viewpoint and they go downvote crazy. We disagree on some things, but I appreciate your views. You're one of the better commenters here.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/16 08:20 PM
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OP, never let a fish tell you how to catch a fish. LOL And never let facts get in the way of a woman's hamstering LOL
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/16 07:56 PM
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That should've read solid RPW advice, which obviously has different strategies, and which consequently obviates most of your argument. Sexual strategy is amoral. This is a red herring. It's not about being amoral, it's about the consequences of someone's actions. You know this. Lastly, the hypothetical convo was about being candid and owning up to your actions. Yeah I did "x". You worried about me acting like "z" now? Here's my thoughts on it, however someone wants to describe them. In other wor…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/16 07:50 PM
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You lie and you take that n-count to the grave with you. Don't do this. If a guy doesn't ask, don't tell. But if he asks directly and specifically, tell the truth. A mature man will weigh whether all of your other (hopefully great!) traits outweigh what he thinks are the negatives of a high N count. Think about this: IF it matters a lot to a guy and you lie to his face, do you want him lying to you about things that very important to you? Two people are going to build a relationship together by …
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/16 05:56 PM
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I'd think if this subject were of such universal importance to men, someone somewhere would have brought it up before now! People have used different terms to describe the same or similar things for eons. A coarse phrase, "whores don't make good housewives" has been around a good long while, and it captures similar sentiments as saying the odds of high N-count woman staying in a good, happy marriage that lasts isn't that good. It can happen and one can beat the odds. But will it for most people?…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/16 05:29 PM
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Don't ask questions that you probably wont like the answers to. We agree on this. And obviously, it can apply to many other areas. Ask away if you like, but be prepared for any answer anywhere on the map.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/16 05:15 PM
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Going by data is primitive? It's not virginity per se, it's men concerned about what a high(er) number of sexual partners does to their future marriage. The data is either right or it's wrong. If there was absolutely zero negative consequences from a woman having a higher number of partners, then it's likely a higher percentage of men wouldn't care. Some still would. But most just want to stack the odds in their favor for a marriage that lasts and is as happy and fulfilling as possible.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/16 04:56 PM
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Always? I'm religious and I don't downvote. You can certainly find those who do, I'm sure. You can also find people making "absolute" statements that they normally criticize religious people for. Go figure ;-)
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/16 04:50 PM
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Men that are hung up on virginity are either insecure or virgins themselves. Based on what? This comes across as a defensive/emotional reply because you don't like the position some men take. Have you never met a man who was confident and not a virgin and still made arguments in favor of women either staying virgins or extending the commitment period and ensuring it's there before giving it up? Or take men out of the equation. What do you consider women who hold the same position, even ones who …
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/16 04:45 PM
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Just noting for emphasis, and agreeing with the value placed on a virgin and/or a very low N count woman in the Relationship Marketplace. I'd recommend playing that V-card very wisely! ;-) I heartily agree!
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/16 04:22 PM
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Practice makes perfect. Yes and virgins can practice daily with their husbands, once they marry. A wise man appreciates that kind of skill. Even wiser men who want a happier and lasting marriage appreciate a woman who keeps herself for only him.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/16 12:57 AM
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Look for the (much smaller) pool of available men who don't care about N-count. Or ones that don't believe or know about the data. Deeply, DEEPLY internalize RP material and live by it as naturally as breathing. While N-count matters to a lot of guys, so does being a highly feminine woman, attractiveness, household skills (cooking, etc), sexual availability when in an LTR/marriage, a very pleasant and cheerful personality and so on. These can make up for a lot. Many guys may still avoid a woman …
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/16 12:50 AM
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They aren't really too worried about her N-count They're worried about the consequences and impact of her N-count in their life, including a greater likelihood of divorce, etc., as the-capitan has pointed out. So yes, N-count matters. Now, if you believe or want to argue that there are zero negative effects of a high N-count, and if you were proven right, then you're argument holds more water. But a lot of the reaction is highly emotional because, if you go by available data, women realize their…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/16 12:31 AM
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A 22yo virgin is rare and valuable in the Relationship Marketplace. Indeed!
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/16 07:29 PM
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Guys just wanna know how many times you've been fucked. That's an even tougher standard. Far more so. If a woman has had just two partners and both LTRs of somewhere between two to four years each, then depending on how often they had sex, you're talking thousands of times. I'm not disagreeing that some guys want to know. Just noting that if you're going by overall number of times a woman has had sex, well then... even with exceedingly low N counts (or even an N count of one) that number could b…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/16 07:24 PM
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You made mistakes before in life, don't repeat them. But don't give up because of them either. I second this. The problem is I'm seeing a lot of guys saying it's not fair to give it up to some guys and then make other ones wait. If you were the same person this may be true. But you're not. You've made decisions and changes for the better and you act differently now. Therefore, the way you respond toward a guy you date now will obviously be different than ones you dated before. It's consistent wi…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/16 01:47 AM
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Here's an article on it: http://loydwalker.com/adding-up-your-n-count-how-one-should-count-their-number-of-sexual-partners/ Many guys won't consider it quite as "important" or on the same level as intercourse when making decisions about a woman, but many/most probably would count it as part of her N count. My guess is they would want to know, though. If you say two, any guys you date are going to automatically think it was intercourse. If you say both times were oral, it may make a significant d…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/16 01:15 AM
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Keep working, brother! This thing is a mess and at least RP is doing it's part to help set some relationships straight.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/16 11:22 PM
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I can understand the arguments for each Where do you come down on this?
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/16 08:34 PM
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I'm sure parents will come up with good exceptions, but as a general rule, I'd err on the side of saying no, don't do it. The sex life will suffer.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/16 08:31 PM
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That's tough to hear. I don't know a lot about celiac but if I remember correctly, it's treatable. Low sex drive can spring from so many things. Things like cortisol levels spiking and staying elevated from very high stress and over long periods (which causes male testosterone levels to plummet). You've got people with adrenal issues, severe micronutrient deficiencies, stomach problems and I was baffled to see one with brain fMRIs and SPECT scans that showed a literal jagged and misshaped brain …
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/16 01:50 AM
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It's not just texting, she mentioned he doesn't talk about things/share as much with her as before and time spent together is lessened. instead of spending the whole weekend with me, he will start it later or end it earlier than usual My guess is he isn't as interested as before, and these are signs of that increasing disinterest. It's what I've done before. At a much younger age than he is now, but still, as I was reading, it brought it to mind. My recommendation (despite what I'd guess this is…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/16 11:28 PM
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I vote Passerby. Because I think the mods get tired of me emailing and asking for approval because I start a new thread every day :-) The auto reply thing keeps telling me I haven't been here long enough.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/16 08:37 PM
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Is she significantly younger than you?
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/16 07:05 PM
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I think going more than 2 days without connecting wouldn't be so good. This. I think whatever a couple's ideal frequency or preference, having a set time where they make it a priority to have sex and not go beyond that point is beneficial. With friends and couples I've talked to, it's way too easy to let time go by, where a day or two turns into a week, a week into more... And so on. They know about it, recognize it's a problem and say they'll get to it, but often never do and more time elapses.…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/16 07:01 PM
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It is heartbreaking. I had a partner put on SSRI's and that was pretty much the end of the interaction. No more sex Having done work for clients in the medical field, this is FAR more common than many may realize. In the bedroom and out. Look, I'm for whatever works, whether that's prescriptions and modern treatments, or 10,000 year old natural remedies, but I will tell you that the side effects of certain prescriptions cause havoc in all kinds of ways as far as personal health and negative symp…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/16 06:50 PM
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This. It's my belief that a healthy male in his twenties or thirties (and maybe 40's) with no serious health issues or challenges, would desire sex daily. That's assuming a healthy diet, fairly active lifestyle and at least moderate (or intense) exercise. A lot of men are sedentary today. They work office jobs (nothing wrong with that) but aren't active much outside the office. Stress is a testosterone killer. Combined with other life issues, it's like they get caught in a spiral (some of their …
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/16 04:08 AM
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I had a friend whose wife hadn't slept with him in TWO YEARS. Literally. She was surprised to find out that he was having an affair. Just like many countries where a couple has to consummate the marriage, and thereby completes the union of the marriage (or at times has one annulled if it hasn't been consummated), I believe that a serious lack of sex or no sex has effectively ended a marriage. Many years ago, I read of a culture (I want to say Jewish, but maybe that's not it) that they held the b…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/16 04:00 AM
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Heh.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/16 03:34 AM
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I guess I’d like to have a relationship like the one my parents had. Great sex every day. And on demand, apparently. Absolutely yes! If you're even remotely hot and have feminine qualities that are wonderfully displayed daily, you can't be single. I'm guessing guys camped out on your doorstep and lined up around the block like the Macy's Christmas Day Parade lol Have you ever... turned him down?" ('Cause that's a common theme on MRP. The fact that some women use sex as a weapon sometimes, or tur…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/16 02:34 AM
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If I could get some once a day I'd be living the dream! May it be that way soon! Man, that more women were like you, married several years, three kids under 5 and want it once a day with their husband. I am interested in the health issues that are keeping things down as far as libido. If it's not too personal, what are his health issues? I think we can (here on this board) identify the commonalities of couples who want it to be more, but don't do to health issues of a spouse/partner and crowd-so…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/16 02:10 AM
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It helps a lot to speak up, and give voice to others who silently agree but are afraid to say anything. In person helps a lot. But if not in person, do a lot of what you're doing here. Write. Post on social media, including beyond Reddit. Email articles (you can say you thought they were "interesting" even if you don't outright endorse them, and they can plant seeds in people's minds. We're going to win this going away. It does take time and effort, though. And yeah, I know you know all of this.…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/16 01:55 AM
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Hmm. What led to these issues occurring, if you know? Well, I no more wrote that and realize the underlying issues can be far more personal and need to be kept private. I was thinking more along the lines of general stuff that affect a lot of couples. I pray for you two as well. God help the good days to return very soon. And to last!
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/16 12:59 AM
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A healthy sex life is really important to a relationship, and I never realized just how much until it was absent. Very true! It makes all the other relationship aspects better and vice-versa. I pray your husband heals fast and you two are back doing frequently wonderful things in the bedroom again soon!
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/16 12:46 AM
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These responses are encouraging. Indeed!
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/16 12:43 AM
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Yeah she was an incredible woman. Whip smart. Lawyer. Mother. Housewife. Held very traditional views. Awesome! More like her, please God.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/16 12:40 AM
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I get you. At your age (and his) I do find it odd, though, that he only gets it twice a week when it's available to him far more. After all, as you noted, it can be a "Baby, how about you lay down and relax and let me take care of you" type reply from you and he should be all over that. But the effects of stress and other issues are overwhelming at times. Ya'll will get it worked out.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/16 12:21 AM
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I love Phyllis Schlafly. She pretty much single handedly defeated the Women's Rights Amendment, a Orwellian sounding but horrible piece of legislation that would have changed our Constitution for the worse. I was sad to see her go. She led a full and wonderful life, though. May she rest in peace.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/16 12:03 AM
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Amen! If only you were slightly older, hot stuff! ;-) Keep up the good work you're doing here.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/16 11:58 PM
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First, thanks for the detailed reply. You make good points, clearly argued. We'll have to agree to disagree on a few of them, because otherwise we'd likely have to separate some statements/points out and argue each one to conclusion before moving on, as others are based on previous ones. You veer into philosophy as well, in addition to the real life examples you gave. And also like you, I like to base my arguments on experience and reality. You cited a couple examples on this board. Yet another …
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/16 11:55 PM
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This is an excellent point. I imagine the difference in sexual frequency with their SO's between SAHM/SAHW's and those who work outside the home is dramatic. Controlled for factors such as age, number of children if any, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/16 11:01 PM
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I hear this more and more from friends. We can be at a restaurant or out somewhere and someone may make a playful comment (in response to a lightly negative thing they said, maybe about work etc) and they'll be like "You'll be alright, go give your man a night he won't forget when he gets in and you'll be better" and the woman will reply "I wish." and add a comment about how she wants it more often. Unless work, kids and other things make it very hard to find time, I'd say the desire for sex in …
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/16 10:30 PM
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I've heard women say that their sex drive was the same after pregnancy and others who said it plummeted. I'm curious what you think are the main factors that influence this? A (wild) guess is that the better their health was before pregnancy made it much easier to deal with any stresses and to heal/recover afterward. The mental, emotional, hormonal effects that take place and whether a mother can get back to pre-pregnancy status/levels plays a role. Obviously, doctors check a lot of things, but …
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/16 10:18 PM
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Hahaha "nonsensical fantasies not based in reality" this has got to be pure hyperbole, or maybe it was intentional and just off-base. First, there is a very sharp distinction between something that is rare and zero (or nonsensical fantasies, if you prefer), which I'm sure you know. To be clear (and fair) are you saying there is zero, as in not a single high SMV man in the entire world (or, in the United States, if you want to narrow it down) who has a low N count? Not one? [And let's stipulate t…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/16 09:55 PM
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Why did you say yes when he asked to marry you if you weren't sure? Or did these feelings happen sometime after the fact? Still, it seems deceptive to me. Does he have any clue as to you really feel? Some random thoughts: Yes, there are relationships where the couples are deeply in love and passionate. And it lasts. This doesn't mean perfect. They may fight/argue at times, have challenges, etc but yes, they deeply love each other and that love is abiding. Maybe not many couples, but there are ce…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/16 06:28 PM
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Religion included, which is likely the biggest reason a high SMV man would wait if he chooses to, makes it realistic. Some men want to avoid the drama/disease/"trap" pregnancies, etc. and this adds another element in deciding to wait. Which leads to... Men masturbate. Many do, anyway. And this allows them to avoid the dangers in point number two. A lack of sex or no sex, very much unlike hunger, will not kill you. No food kills. Literally. Shotgun dead. After a period of time, of course. (I'd lo…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/16 04:35 PM
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Good advice! Great would be following it.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/16 04:06 PM
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You've made good points. The life experience (more so) and cultural references (less so, imo) certainly play a role and should be weighed. Others may place far more emphasis on those. Overall, I'd say they matter far less than the "pillars" or foundational things that have much deeper and more lasting impact. Personality, chemistry, character traits, shared relationship ideals and life beliefs. Your last two points are worth noting. It is challenging to meet people with a larger age difference. …
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/16 03:17 AM
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Yes. There's no guarantee, but I don't see why he wouldn't unless you give him a reason not to. As Mentathiel said below, you can add being embarrassed, because it's true. Simple rule. Don't say or do anything that isn't true, and it'll come across as sincere and authentic, and that's very believable.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/16 02:43 AM
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It doesn't sound weird. Makes sense. It's great things have worked very well for you, here's to a lifetime of that! If you look young for your age, I can only imagine what you looked like when you were 18. Ha! I bet people did stare, especially when you two kissed or showed any kind of affection in public.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/16 12:51 AM
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Haha You two are a handful. I'll take you both or either I'll dress you two up in ancient female warrior garb and have you compete in a series of challenges. SpectralCadence vs QueenBee. The winner is mine and made part of the kingdom. If it's close, I claim you both.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/16 11:21 PM
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I think it can be a very good thing, it's just rare. Especially with men in their 30's or 40's. Most high SMV guys do have higher n counts, and often considerably so as you go up in age. That said, and with the right conditions and reasons (why a man is waiting, how you two are as a couple, other situations, etc) it may even be preferable. As to your other point, yeah, inexperienced and passionate and eager to learn can work lol The "problems" if you want to call them that, is someone wants to k…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/16 10:19 PM
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I know one family member who it worked very well for as well. Like you, at the beginning, it was all the talk, and stares, and just a general weirdness of it for those who couldn't understand it. The age difference was much larger, though. How old were you and your spouse when you married?
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/16 09:58 PM
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It should read high SMV guy. Good catch.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/16 09:47 PM
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Ah, my ladies! Ha ha :D
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/16 09:34 PM
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Play it cool and tell the truth. "Looks like you got a unintended bonus there!" and explain what happened. It'll put your heart and mind at ease because you explained yourself and help potentially protect your rep with him (if he thought they might be for someone else) and if he didn't, you two may get a good laugh out of it. Don't overdo it. Protest too much and it may come across like over the top efforts to convince him and that'll make him wonder why you're acting like that and if you have s…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/16 08:44 PM
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True. I'll clarify. The people I've seen/heard frown or comment negatively on an older man dating a younger woman have been women, especially women who have hit the Wall. Not all, but mostly. Men have mostly expressed admiration to varying degrees in these cases.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/16 08:29 PM
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Yeah, a large age gap can weird out family and friends, and sometimes, it seems like a psychological "thing" where, say you have 32 year old dating a 21 year old, and people may raise eyebrows and what have you at that. But that eleven year age difference, if it were, say, between a 48 year old and a 37 year old who were dating, that same person may not be weirded-out at all by that. Some people just have a "what's right in my mind kinda take on it, and if it doesn't "fit" in their mental model,…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/16 08:13 PM
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Well, with that formula, there goes my planned conquest of Passerby, Alpha Raised and others, and I shall now have to take SpectralCadence or QueenBee to wife. All kidding aside (and yes, I am joking, to be clear. We can all use a little more levity on these boards), I've heard the formula before and it does seem to work pretty well in many cases. Thanks for the friendly reminder! If true more often than not, it suggests single women may want to take a closer look at dating men significantly old…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/16 07:56 PM
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True. If a man has the pick of the litter (the best of choicest of a group), to use an old idiom, and he chooses you, that speaks incredibly highly of you. That, and as you noted, self control and discipline is appealing to many women. There's something to be said for a man waiting to have sex because he wants only you, the right woman for him who he's been searching for and now pursuing when he finds you... and the woman who he'll ravish daily (and nightly) and make up for "lost" time when you …
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/16 03:08 PM
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In another thread somewhere, someone mentioned The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Laura Schlesinger. It's a good one.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/16 02:45 PM
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Intimate Issues by Lorraine Pintus and Linda Dillow. Stormie Omartion has some good books. I forget the titles. Also, there's a video series Leading and Loving (what guys need to be an do and how to do it) and The Heart that Makes A Home (what women need to be and do and how to do it) by Bruce Wilkerson and his wife, although he teaches most of it. Both are from/grounded in a biblical perspective but line up well with RP and the roles and responsibilities of a husband and wife.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/16 01:33 AM
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I second this. Good advice.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/16 05:30 PM
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Let him bring it up and then use that as an opportunity to discuss it. If he ever does, then ask "What can I do to help?" If he comments on something she did, then instead of saying something along the lines of "I can't believe that mom creature of a woman did such and such to you!" say something like "Yes, I noticed that. How does that make you feel? What can we do to help in these type situations?" Other points: Get outside. Instead of staying in, can you two go for a nice walk? Sit on the por…
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/16 05:00 PM
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