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| 2 | How to spot a bad egg, before it stinks?Thanks for this. I'll have to read up on that. I think you are right, I shouldn't overthink but I should spot the signs and learn to walk rather than stick it out, or post on here as there's a wealth of experience and knowledge that seems to be good. Sound advice :) Thanks! | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 11:05 AM |
| 1 | Why not giving a shit, gets you places.Okay sound advice, I've made a note. I do get a fair amount of returnees, eventually. So I must be doing something right initially, I guess it's just what comes later. | /r/seduction | 06/06/22 07:41 PM |
| 1 | Why not giving a shit, gets you places.Gosh, this sounds so easy but I make this mistake all the time. I always thought if a girl reaches out after many weeks, or months you don't act like a cretin. But then you just become the same person they left. I always thought one word or not acting with interest means you'll be a sure way to getting rid of her permanently, I guess I am wrong? Solid gold advice this. | /r/seduction | 05/06/22 11:12 PM |
| 2 | How to reply to texts like: “don’t know I’m looking for” and “I’ll know when I find it”They also don't know what they've lost till it's gone. This sort of stuff is common ground in a big city like London. I've had more one night stands or casual encounters than ever before. | /r/seduction | 05/06/22 10:52 PM |
| 1 | Why not giving a shit, gets you places.In simple terms? 😌 Because it's never straightforward, I know that. | /r/seduction | 05/06/22 07:40 PM |
| 1 | Why not giving a shit, gets you places.This is sound advice, and it makes a lot of sense. I became a bit more emotionally intelligent the last few years, but I think with COVID I lost a bit of my gains and keep falling foul of exactly how you describe it. So is it impossible to start again with returnees? I’ve had about 3 or 4 come back to me recently, where I think I made this mistake and some of them seemed great and I know I am responsible for some of these mistakes, but is it worth just cutting my losses and moving onto the next?… | /r/seduction | 05/06/22 07:38 PM |
| 4 | Why not giving a shit, gets you places.It seems like I give them too much attention at first then they blow me out. I need to finite the balance, because sometimes I probably push em away. But I realised actually dating is not a here and now thing doesn't have to be. Sometimes the one, finds her way back to you. Happened with my girlfriend at the time, but she kept doing it so I learned to never forgive. But is it right to do that to all flaky girls? It's all circumstantial right? | /r/seduction | 05/06/22 03:12 PM |
| 2 | Why not giving a shit, gets you places.That example makes perfect sense. I had to Google the word indifference and found this example. "Indifference is the key: If you are not shattered at all by her absense and you just left her a message to come back to him whenever she feels right. Then girls start to like you because you are able to resist her temptation and resisting a girl often makes her even more interested in you." What is it that makes her do this? I've had 3 people recently come back, but I had lost all interest sadly. How… | /r/seduction | 05/06/22 03:08 PM |
| 4 | Why not giving a shit, gets you places.So putting a woman on a pedestal, showing her you care then when she drops you, disappearing from her inbox attracts her back? 🙈🙈 | /r/seduction | 05/06/22 08:50 AM |
| -1 | Why do women think that it's totally normal and acceptable to completely ignore texts from a guy?no more mr nice guy It's a little bit more complicated than that, but sound advice. | /r/seduction | 03/06/22 11:21 PM |
| 1 | New to Game, how to text girls you got numbers from at the bar?I'd agree with not overthinking it. It's very simple and just goes with the flow. Zero reciprocation normally means for me to just move on. | /r/seduction | 28/05/22 07:01 PM |
| 1 | Cold feet?No reply all day to my response to her canceling. Something definitely has come up... | /r/seduction | 22/10/21 06:14 PM |
| 1 | Cold feet?It's all very strange, I haven't had a reply or a read message all day. I was showing a lot of interest, it's her that's pulled away. Personally, I don't want to arrange anything with her now, I want to leave that down to her. | /r/seduction | 22/10/21 06:13 PM |
| 1 | Ghosting, the right way about it?Everyone that ghosts me seems to do without hint or reason. They just never reply again mid-conversation and I have that emotional intelligence just to go, meh! I mean she could still message me by our date Friday, but she has to come up with a very good reason as to why 2, maybe 3 days no messages? It is a shit test, but I normally just don't pander to it because I have no time for that. | /r/seduction | 20/10/21 11:59 AM |
| 1 | At what point?Yep, I've been well and truly ghosted. | /r/seduction | 31/03/21 12:15 PM |
| 2 | We all know we can't make a girl attracted to us. So if the girl is attracted to us, what's the point in gaming her?Have you seen some of the talent coming through a bar these days? Then they speak... haha! | /r/seduction | 06/03/20 11:58 PM |
| 8 | We all know we can't make a girl attracted to us. So if the girl is attracted to us, what's the point in gaming her?Value also goes down quicker now with online dating. Fact. | /r/seduction | 06/03/20 10:25 PM |
| 2 | Sworn at and told I am childishThis is something I will use in the future. She obviously wasted my time and was a bit butt-hurt that I removed her from social media but then that's life and what you get for messing people around. A lot of online dating people do this, and I've heard of it from many friends that this is what happens sadly. | /r/seduction | 14/12/19 04:54 PM |
| 3 | Sworn at and told I am childishThat's a good wise way of looking at it actually. I am just disappointed as I was led to believe someone was interested but yet again, words are nothing and what they show speaks volumes. Especially when she made a big deal over being deleted on Instagram. It's just petulant, and as you say I am a man and removing someone because they push away my advances is only logical? But other than that, I did the right things right? | /r/seduction | 12/12/19 08:12 PM |
| 1 | Flaky?I see what you mean. She just seemed extremely interested, I was playing it cool and then boom. I've noticed when you don't play interested - they are all over it. When you show that interest, your as good as fucked. I think as you say, next time I get in that situation I'll play it cool and just try that line of tactic. It just seems very smart that every girl asks me what I want, and when they've got the answer it's normally the complete polar opposite. After my last bunch of posts about the g… | /r/seduction | 10/10/18 05:41 PM |
| 1 | Girls who show too much interest.Here's one to add onto this. Why do women who show much interest, loose interest without any apparent reason? | /r/seduction | 15/08/18 02:50 PM |
| 1 | Emotional intelligence and red-flagging.Can't explain how but we both met up today. We met as friends, and It was fine - she was a little bit flirty but I was very laid-back. I told her about my work situation and she actually told me I should have told her from the outset. That I was having a shit time but didn't want to talk about it. She said she knew something was wrong and she wished she trusted her gut instinct over me which she will do in the future. She thinks we aren't compatible because I lied so much and that I didn't deal … | /r/seduction | 20/06/18 04:07 PM |
| 1 | Emotional intelligence and red-flagging.I can honestly say I've learned a lot from this experience; because we only regret the chances we didn't take. Experiential learning is a powerful thing. This was going to end eventually, all her relationships do. But without digressing any further. Thank you for your help. Some good pointers going forward and I'll sort my career and life out now before coming back to the game. Maybe a year out and a chance to mature is in order. Recommend any books I can pick up? | /r/seduction | 16/06/18 10:15 AM |
| 1 | Emotional intelligence and red-flagging.11. There is hope in this situation though. I've learned that "I ought to consider the extremity of my emotional response to this person I barely knew." If I can work on this then this situation may never arise again. I guess you live and you learn. I'll be extremely guarded with females from now on and not let my feelings and emotions get the better of me. But you do realise I would have tried my best to see things through with her, for as long as emotionally possible. Online dating is over-hyp… | /r/seduction | 15/06/18 01:45 PM |
| 1 | Emotional intelligence and red-flagging.6. She's questioning why I am not back at work as I believed the process would be over now. So your back at work now? I was very shady in my response, because at this point I am not sleeping right and I am feeling the stress of all these meetings and waiting the outcome of the investigation and weather it'll go further or not. So when you say it's my behaviour; I agree there's an element of that but greatly an element of me having great stress an anxiety. This is literally a deep and dark moment… | /r/seduction | 15/06/18 01:44 PM |
| 1 | Emotional intelligence and red-flagging.I've got a lot to reply here too and I am just trawling through everything to give you the best possible information considering you seem to think that a lot of it is incorrect. When in fact a huge majority of it is correct. 1. Firstly, you need to go back through my previous replies. Like ALL of them. I had to strike-through a lot of them because increasing information about the overall situation, rendered a LOT of it incorrect. I genuinely think some of the stuff you said is not irrelevant. Wh… | /r/seduction | 15/06/18 01:43 PM |
| 1 | Emotional intelligence and red-flagging.1. I know there's an emphasis on me with this. But I think it's unfair to blame when I was giving 90% she was giving 10%. She clearly wasn't ready for a relationship. In fact she isn't ready for one at all and you've alluded to that previously. 2. You said it loud and clear before. This is where I first went wrong. In all your examples, you're fussing over texting. Misunderstandings over text, texting a lot and trying to hold conversations over text, etc. I don't see anything here about what the… | /r/seduction | 14/06/18 06:27 PM |
| 1 | Emotional intelligence and red-flagging.I've got a message from her. She has pretty much ended it and gave me closure in where she felt this went wrong; but honestly my intentions weren't to pressure her into a relationship. You really had her sussed out all along. It's just a shame I didn't listen from the outset and it's something I guess I shouldn't live with but learn from and be overly cautious going forward. She needs to fix herself and I need to fix myself. Here's her message: "Yeah nice to be with the family. Guessing from the… | /r/seduction | 14/06/18 01:24 PM |
| 1 | Emotional intelligence and red-flagging.1. It has literally took me 2 hours to realise what you've just typed out is the fundamental's to making a positive change and that change is actually good for me. Once again thanks for taking the time to reply and breed positivity. I feel like I need to go back a bit further. We have to go back to early-mid March, travelling the world for the last year and half; positivity was really key in my life. I was going through tough times with women and coming out of them pretty quickly and strongly; a… | /r/seduction | 13/06/18 11:42 AM |
| 1 | Emotional intelligence and red-flagging.1. I've learnt that and I'll never do that again, it's clear with time that our texts were getting smaller and smaller. But that was nothing wrong with our relationship as such but more that as trust was building - less things needed to be done or said. I just took it the wrong way and I am very sorry for how I acted. It's something I've now got to live with for the rest of my life and rue the missed opportunity. I've accepted that with a very very heavy heart. 2. It's definitely my priority as … | /r/seduction | 12/06/18 05:59 PM |
| 1 | Emotional intelligence and red-flagging.1. I think your right about this thing that I have to manage myself. This is like the lowest point of my life right now, and I bottled it all up assuming that I could live a normal life whilst the work thing resolves itself. I've told very minimal people who I feel less vulnerable with. I feel like with this girl I'd open myself up as extremely vulnerable and I wanted to come across as nothing like that at all. So I told her white lies about the whole work situation. But in fact it's none of her… | /r/seduction | 09/06/18 01:52 PM |
| 1 | Emotional intelligence and red-flagging.Absolute bugger! I didn't read the direct qoutes before I submitted after I removed names/numbers to me and her. So some of what you said is out of context. Me': Is everything okay with you?) Her: Yeah, why’d you ask?) Me: Deleted Message Me': Just hoping we are good?) Me: Glad to hear!) 📷 When's other family coming? Her: We’re fine, how comes you deleted your message? They are coming in Saturday, just had a FaceTime with them which was nice) Me': I typed the wrong message into the wrong convo) … | /r/seduction | 08/06/18 02:17 PM |
| 1 | Emotional intelligence and red-flagging.1. I honestly inherently agree with you. It isn't constructive by all means, it's very confrontational. But I meant it with good reasons. I wanted to 'fix' something that probably wasn't broken, but in my mind she'd never stooped to this level of bluntness. Something wasn't right but you've probably alluded to it. 2. A lot of the short messages she was replying with, were EASILY explainable by the kinds of needy questions you were hitting her with. I felt like with each message I sent her, I was… | /r/seduction | 08/06/18 12:43 PM |
| 1 | Emotional intelligence and red-flagging.Well everything is out the window now! I got literally fed up with her responses so I called her out on it but it ended in absolute failure. https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/8pcvmc/what_a_disaster_but_oh_well/ Anyway all what you previously said now makes perfect sense and I've taken these rose-tinted glasses off and now look at it with the perspective that I can better myself from this. That I was trying to fix a burned girl with baggage and that was my problem. She can't be fixed, exce… | /r/seduction | 07/06/18 07:15 PM |
| 5 | Stop using Tinder/Dating appsRough estimates since 2010! I just had a brief look! OkCupid - Matches: 500 Total number of people contacted: 1500 Number of replies: 200 Numbers and snapchats received: 20 Numbers of dates: 10 (6 with one person) Number of hookups: 1 POF - Matches: 50 Total number of people contacted: 1000 Number of replies: 50 Numbers and snapchats received: 2 Numbers of dates: 0 Number of hookups: 0 Tinder - Matches: 500 Total number of people contacted: 500 Number of replies: 100 Numbers and snapchats receiv… | /r/seduction | 06/06/18 09:54 PM |
| 1 | Texting an enthusiastic girlI was talking to her whilst she was studying in London. She went home for Summer and acted like she loved me, my best friend and more so his sister gathered her behaviour was odd for someone that liked me. That if she did she’d also say it by that point. It was literally that intense. So pushing for admissions of feelings and pushing that whole subject, just comes off desperate and needy. I’ve done it again with current girl and that’s really a very bad move but it’s in my book of love now to ne… | /r/seduction | 06/06/18 07:17 AM |
| 1 | Texting an enthusiastic girlI feel like she's crashing here with a dude. I'm the back up plan if that goes wrong. | /r/seduction | 05/06/18 08:48 PM |
| 1 | Texting an enthusiastic girlThis is also relevant! You must think I attract these low-self esteem girls haha! https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/6y43oc/what_a_mess_an_absolute_mind_help/ | /r/seduction | 05/06/18 07:00 PM |
| 1 | Texting an enthusiastic girlThey've asked me to meet up when they come to the UK. Damn it! | /r/seduction | 05/06/18 06:57 PM |
| 1 | Texting an enthusiastic girlNah this a different girl! Who just won't leave me alone or take the hint that I am done with her now. https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/732ops/why_isnt_she_just_walking_away/ They've asked me to meet up when they come to the UK. But I am sure it's to see a guy who looks like a fuck boy. In which case I think she's staying with him and wants to stay at mine if he tries it. I am sure he will. | /r/seduction | 05/06/18 06:56 PM |
| 1 | Emotional intelligence and red-flagging.Yes! Did you reply to my above message by the way? I saw an inbox about it but can't see anything - maybe I am going crazy. As I re-edited it. I was well into a girl that goes to Berkeley. She's coming to London on 24th and I feel like it's a bad idea seeing her again :( She's like 9/10 for looks and that's very manipulative. | /r/seduction | 05/06/18 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Emotional intelligence and red-flagging.By the way! Where are you from? Your intellect is great! | /r/seduction | 05/06/18 11:46 AM |
| 1 | Emotional intelligence and red-flagging.I feel like being a good guy isn't always a great thing though. It comes with some negatives; it comes with its positives. You've pretty much explained 'me' in a nutshell, it's partly why I'm always in a pickle with a female. Something needs to change and feel that I need to be more positive about things. But you've been there, done that so no full well that it's just one of those traits we have. I do have low morale and low confidence. I'm positing about this situation on Reddit! I mean that sa… | /r/seduction | 04/06/18 07:34 PM |
| 1 | Emotional intelligence and red-flagging.I feel like a lot of the time I do lack confidence, and that’s simply of how shitty women are with me especially when I am just a genuine nice guy. I still feel like am trying to find myself and with each day I feel like I am building that confidence, with each and every knock. I guess that’s why I and this girl have worked out so well, because we both lack that confidence that everyone else has. I don’t know? It’s very hard this day and age to find someone and yeah maybe I’ve put my eggs in one… | /r/seduction | 04/06/18 11:07 AM |
| 1 | Emotional intelligence and red-flagging.Update on 8. - She dropped my a text at 4am in reply to conversation but a further text at 9:20am that she feels very tired as if she was ill. I suspect she will bail at 4pm - just a few hours before we are due to meet up. I am reading between the lines, but as soon as she does this. I will be walking away. | /r/seduction | 02/06/18 10:58 AM |
| 1 | Emotional intelligence and red-flagging.1. One of my colleagues said she only continues to see her boyfriend, despite him being a cunt because she's afraid that she'll not find someone else. I guess that's exactly what your talking about? I mean I wouldn't date someone simply because I felt that my job or career would prevent me seeing or finding another person in life. Especially when the relationship isn't what you hoped for. Is she dating me simply because she hasn't quite yet found that person, but then she knows she can project t… | /r/seduction | 01/06/18 10:26 PM |
| 1 | Emotional intelligence and red-flagging.1. I didn't think about it like this at all, and I've pretty much gave you all the information and you've sussed out what is a reasonable and conclusive explanation to her behaviour. So there's no way of getting her out of this imagination? It's probably UN-fixable. 2. It's not healthy, but I've sat back and let life take it's course. Obviously I take ownership and control of my fate, and it's not like this is written in the stars and it's all hunky dory. I know my self worth and when to end thi… | /r/seduction | 01/06/18 12:08 PM |
| 1 | Emotional intelligence and red-flagging.1. I proper questioned her on this, because if you aren't sure on what someones saying you have to question them in person? She didn't think of it at that moment. She only thought of it overnight she says, does that sound too familiar? I accused her of a cop-out and she got very defensive and told me her story. It then took her about 2 days to work out in fact, she wants to continue dating me and that she's actually an idiot for just assuming. The proof in the pudding was when I said - I haven't… | /r/seduction | 31/05/18 04:55 PM |
| 1 | Emotional intelligence and red-flagging.1) She said we wouldn't work out long-term because of the misunderstanding that I didn't want kids till I was 35. Previous guy was career focused, and I mentioned my intentions with my future. But I am sure there's more to this than meets the eye. Her exact words: She took it at face value, she should have asked, but from experience people just tell her what she wants to hear rather than whatever the truth is. So she pays attention to peoples views when mentioned in passing. I think she's been b… | /r/seduction | 31/05/18 01:33 PM |
| 1 | Emotional intelligence and red-flagging.It is unrealistic to expect such long paragraph messages all the time, and expecting them can lead to letdown that makes one needy or off balance for no reason. That's partly my problem. I've spoken to her the last two days as I decided I've probably over-analysed this a bit to much. In fact it's probably best I just let it be and take what she says at face value as it makes some literal sense. From our conversation - she seems to have realised that her persistent shit testing half ass'd texts a… | /r/seduction | 30/05/18 12:12 PM |
| 1 | Emotional intelligence and red-flagging.Lot of metaphorical language here. But if you're saying you are getting a lot of red flags and not much of anything good, then of course you walk. Thanks for the response. In terms of red-flags and why I've decided on the no contact rule. I've known the current girl 5 weeks. Week 1-3 was Dates 1-3. No problem with any of them at all and she would send me huge paragraph messages which would get a similar response in between each date before and after. ** Was this my mistake? Be honest**! The only… | /r/seduction | 28/05/18 10:26 AM |
| 1 | Emotional intelligence and red-flagging.Do you do this by yourself or with other people. Going to a bar/club that's fairly busy to PUA is great fun and interestingly very good experience. | /r/seduction | 28/05/18 09:42 AM |
| 1 | Emotional intelligence and red-flagging.And for you younger guys, it will make more sense to get the social media stuff, and just advertise to the chick through your account. I cannot agree with this more. In fact number is the best bet, and I hate it when the millennial's I meet in bars/clubs say add me on Snapchat, Instagram and what not to boost there ego. I know it's an ego boost, as they unfollow and have no real interest. | /r/seduction | 28/05/18 09:41 AM |
| 1 | Emotional intelligence and red-flagging.Absence makes the heart grow fonder. If she's interested in me, she'll contact first. | /r/seduction | 28/05/18 09:37 AM |
| 2 | Emotional intelligence and red-flagging.This same girl ended it after date 3 over a pure misunderstanding about my future wishes. I sent her a long message and well thought out. It took her two days to realise and think about things, she contacted me to let me know her thoughts. I replied later that day asking if she wanted to go ahead with date 4. She did but took her a day to respond. Date 4 and Date 5 happened last week. In between those dates she's been playing hard to get and now she's doing it again. I've walked - will it get a … | /r/seduction | 27/05/18 09:52 PM |
| 3 | Emotional intelligence and red-flagging.Was reading what you are saying and what everyone was saying. I see your trade and that makes sense. I've kept a memory, if it serves me right of the emotional intelligence of never initiating contact to a girl ever again if she shit tests me or stops replying. Current girl (That I would settle with) - she stopped replying to me over a misunderstanding (See previous post about kids/marriage), she contacted me again 2 days later wanting to see me again. That's** a 100% success rate of emotional i… | /r/seduction | 27/05/18 09:46 PM |
| 1 | Emotional intelligence and red-flagging.Really not sure who gave you a negative for that post. But it normally works, it might not work in this case for me but it's a good shot right? | /r/seduction | 27/05/18 08:40 PM |
| 1 | Escalating with date when I am definitely competing with other guysLet me tell you a tale. In some ways it's interesting to know that other guys go through this same process during seduction/dating or whatever you call it. That not matter how hard you try to seduce a woman sometimes you just have to grow a bit and then move forward. Utilising it as a learning curve. I've already learnt some lessons and that's I know how to be calm on a date and proactively entice a girl so much that she stays for 12 hours in my company. That's an achievement in itself and weath… | /r/seduction | 23/05/18 08:46 PM |
| 1 | Escalating with date when I am definitely competing with other guysAnd literally as I typed that message @TalulaRouge she's sent a very long message to me. Shit test or what? | /r/seduction | 23/05/18 08:41 PM |
| 1 | Escalating with date when I am definitely competing with other guysTalking of sex. She gave me two hints last week, and I am guessing I need to get her to come around mine for date 6 or meet 6? Like all our dates last 7-12 hours long. She should be comfortable to agree to coming to mine for Pizza and then seeing how things go? | /r/seduction | 23/05/18 08:19 PM |
| 1 | Escalating with date when I am definitely competing with other guysI fully agree with you, but as someone on here the other day said; she's showing you her worst and you are passing the test. Look at previous post where she wanted kids and marriage and date 4 got prematurely cancelled, it still happened because I past her test? I guess she's giving me a shit test right now? I guess she's looking to see if I can handle her when she's in a mood or not? It's like she's ignoring my questions about how her foot is and how she's doing, and how she slept. That's her s… | /r/seduction | 23/05/18 08:18 PM |
| 2 | Escalating with date when I am definitely competing with other guysThanks for the reply again! I'd say the chocolates were a bit risky. Someone with trust issues might interpret this as "bribing", since it's a highly personal (emotional and sexual) commodity (the wine not that much, since it can be shared), but that's in the past. Did she enjoy it? Yeah I thought that too, but then It was her birthday last week and we wasn't on talking terms so to speak so I had to give her them now. She took them and presumably threw them away or ate them. Whatever she did, I … | /r/seduction | 22/05/18 07:24 PM |
| 1 | Escalating with date when I am definitely competing with other guysIt's really not about fault. It says something significant about the type of person she is. It may not be her fault -- but it's also not yours. She's sending you a message about the tone of this relationship. Think of it this way -- what if your employer started saying that he doesn't know if he can pay you on Friday because the three employees before you were really bad at their jobs. Would you stay? It's not a welcoming environment for romance. No it's not a welcoming environment but I still t… | /r/seduction | 22/05/18 12:24 PM |
| 1 | Escalating with date when I am definitely competing with other guysIt sounded like that to me as well, and since she agreed to a fourth date, it's safe to say you nailed this test. Yeah that's true. She's agreed to date five which was quite nice, and I am looking forward to it. I am taking her to a comedy show after some dinner, as she paid for my dinner yesterday (I bought her Chocolates before hand and then a bottle of wine to share in a pub). I took her to a nice restaurant, but she decided to pay as I've paid for lots of stuff before. But I think that's a g… | /r/seduction | 22/05/18 12:13 PM |
| 1 | Escalating with date when I am definitely competing with other guysIf all this seems like a lot of work -- find a different lady. Because her hangups are going to require work, and if you're also interested in an LTR, this is just the beginning of her hangups. You're only 3 dates in and she's projecting the Men Of Butthurts Past onto you. If she can't get past that, it will always be you, her, and all these other guys in bed with you. Good luck! That's a very thought out and long message. So I appreciate it, as I had to read several times to get the hang of wha… | /r/seduction | 19/05/18 10:48 AM |
| 2 | Escalating with date when I am definitely competing with other guysThere is something I didnt understand yet. Did you or did you not fucked her ?....... This hasn't happened yet. My plan was to take her away for the weekend or the night, but I don't think we are yet quite at that stage. Although I got a little bit of a hint that she wanted too at some point. But this is serious escalation and I am not sure she's keen on that yet. It's not just me - it's with all guys in general. I'm always looking for the love of my life, I have to meet and make connection with… | /r/seduction | 19/05/18 10:32 AM |
| 1 | Escalating with date when I am definitely competing with other guysBut this is the online dating world. If you meet someone online, you've got to know that there's about 20 other guys she's talking too. I was doing well till something I said made her change her game plan. That's good advice. I think to protect my dignity I'll see if she meet's Monday to gauge how serious she is about me. If she doesn't, I'll just tell her I am ending this 'friendship' - 'relationship' because it's what I want and you said you wanted and you're playing games. | /r/seduction | 19/05/18 10:02 AM |
| 1 | Escalating with date when I am definitely competing with other guysWording. Did she say "I don't trust you" or "I don't trust on what you say"? If she meant "trust in guys in general", that doesn't sound like a bad sign, really. If she's comfortable around you, that's a big plus. I had to look back through our messages, we communicate multiple times per day so there's a lot of content there. She says "From experience people just tell me what they think I want to hear when directly asked, rather than whatever the truth is so I pay attention to peoples views in p… | /r/seduction | 19/05/18 10:00 AM |
| 1 | Escalating with date when I am definitely competing with other guysShe said that once she's sleeping with someone. She doesn't sleep with other guys. I don't know what an invitation is with a 'complicated' girl. She is attractive, and I am pushing but I am guessing she see's something else in me. The more pressed I seem? | /r/seduction | 19/05/18 09:42 AM |
| 0 | Escalating with date when I am definitely competing with other guysWhy would you say that? | /r/seduction | 19/05/18 09:38 AM |
| 1 | Escalating with date when I am definitely competing with other guysThis is entirely what I want to do though. Understand what is going on, before proceeding. If it's not worth it - then I end it? Like you said - I've got two options right? But when do I do this so she ends it with any other potential guys? | /r/seduction | 18/05/18 08:01 PM |
| 3 | Escalating with date when I am definitely competing with other guysJust out of curiosity... how old are you guys? I am 25, she's 28. She seems to be okay with this, besides her profile was set to 25-34. As for my two cents, there are a lot of mentally broken girls out there man, you shouldn't get too attached. As long as you're giving your all, showing interest and trying to make it work, you're probably good enough for someone. I know, it feels bad to work this hard to see it all fall apart, but sometimes it isn't your fault. She doesn't trust guys. She says m… | /r/seduction | 18/05/18 07:58 PM |
| 1 | Escalating with date when I am definitely competing with other guysWell what other date do you suggest I do? We haven't seen each-other since she wanted to cool things off. A straight invite to my place? | /r/seduction | 18/05/18 06:14 PM |
| 1 | Escalating with date when I am definitely competing with other guysYou're already fucked. Why do you think I posted that in here rather than on the 'dating' board. This isn't about dating, it's about seduction now. Anyway I'll try read through this and break it down as best as I can, as I want to understand. In my opinion, you fucked your chances of being her boyfriend by actively trying to be her boyfriend. Yes that was a huge mistake. Such a rookie mistake that I used to make and I've made it again. I think this is why I got a further two dates from her as I … | /r/seduction | 18/05/18 05:56 PM |
| 2 | Dating, what next? How not to ball it up!Elaborate =) | /r/seduction | 07/05/18 08:49 AM |
| 1 | Weird or is she playing it cool?Yep! | /r/seduction | 20/04/18 07:02 PM |
| 1 | Weird or is she playing it cool?Don't worry I am already focusing on it. She was in the area at the time and has moved here permanently. She's fit... | /r/seduction | 20/04/18 07:02 PM |
| 1 | Weird or is she playing it cool?I've not asked actually. I just try conversate with her but she never opens the message or responds. A lot of women do this and it bugs me, and they go "I was busy" It's bollocks. | /r/seduction | 20/04/18 07:01 PM |
| 1 | Weird or is she playing it cool?Not sure if I am interested in that sort of crap anymore. It's probably why she's acting up as I've not chased her. This is the 3rd girl in a year that I've decided not to chase and they give me satisfaction requests. Playing a game makes wonders. | /r/seduction | 20/04/18 07:00 PM |
| 1 | Weird or is she playing it cool?Whilst it's the norm. Why do they do it? | /r/seduction | 20/04/18 06:59 PM |
| 1 | Weird or is she playing it cool?I got back to swiping already, don't you worry :) Why do girls do this attention seeking shit? | /r/seduction | 20/04/18 06:59 PM |
| 1 | Where did I go wrong, if at all?I can't help her with that surely? | /r/seduction | 06/03/18 01:05 AM |
| 1 | Where did I go wrong, if at all?The OP is fucked anyways because he's become the texting buddy. And your whole comment is just a very elaborate and convoluted expansion on my original advice: "You're too available. Talk to other women." Yeah - it seems that way. But how do you know for sure? 20 days on from our session and she's still putting in 100% effort to what she was doing 19 days ago. Again, what else can I do? | /r/seduction | 06/03/18 01:04 AM |
| 1 | Where did I go wrong, if at all?Yeah that's a big flaw I guess where I messed up, but I was being conservative hoping that would land me a second session. Maybe that is where I go wrong is that I am too conservative. I guess she could always say no? Worth asking my next encounter for round 2 rather than a measly dinner date. Any knowledge how to get this back on track? | /r/seduction | 06/03/18 01:03 AM |
| 1 | Where did I go wrong, if at all?But only 27 miles. | /r/seduction | 06/03/18 01:02 AM |
| 1 | Where did I go wrong, if at all?Lol! Different departments, across the country. | /r/seduction | 06/03/18 01:01 AM |
| 1 | Where did I go wrong, if at all?Good advice. I am flirty and so is she, but not like full on flirty? | /r/seduction | 06/03/18 01:01 AM |
| 1 | Where did I go wrong, if at all?I was honest with her? That doesn't make sense - she knew what my intentions was because she instantly wanted me to know that she's not looking for anything right now. But that's not stopping me from talking to her right? I agree with the comments on here as well. You were too available and you didn't go for what you wanted, you should have put your intentions on the table so to speak, either by trying to escalate or verbally. By texting her too much and not establishing boundaries you messed up… | /r/seduction | 06/03/18 01:00 AM |
| 1 | Where did I go wrong, if at all?What info do you need? | /r/seduction | 06/03/18 12:52 AM |
| 1 | Where did I go wrong, if at all?I am cool with it. Because I have options, that a failed relationship such as this and like my previous encounters that didn't end successfully - I move on. Was this a success then? My friend says "we both got what we wanted". Be friends and leave it at that. | /r/seduction | 06/03/18 12:51 AM |
| 1 | Where did I go wrong, if at all?I mean, what do you want exactly? Do you want a girlfriend or a fuck buddy? That's a good question. In general or with this girl; because I want to pick wisely. I don't want baggage and sleeping with them you can sometimes find out a lot more as to if you want to continue or not. Does that sound bad, or is that the male way? Because the way I'm reading it is she wants to keep hanging out but wants to be clear it won't lead to anything right now. So I would still hang with her, flirt, escalate an… | /r/seduction | 06/03/18 12:50 AM |
| 1 | Where did I go wrong, if at all?Mistake #1. Yappity-Yap-Yap. Too much contact. Fair point, but how do you impose I keep her interest. By playing the game? Mistake #2. A dinner date is too much of an investment in time early on. A simple drink or two is far more effective and standard. Fair point, I won't make the mistake of dinner early on. My friend you MUST learn to understand context. Look at the world around you. Look at what happened on your first night with this woman. She fucked you. Yeah and that was something I didn't… | /r/seduction | 06/03/18 12:44 AM |
| 1 | Where did I go wrong, if at all?How does that make sense when I've slept with her already? Isn't it for guys who want to get laid? | /r/seduction | 02/03/18 07:21 PM |
| 1 | Where did I go wrong, if at all?But how does it go to sleeping with her to this? You'd think next step is meet up, she's not wanting too? But wants to talk still. Clearly - as since I've received the usual long messages. I agree somewhat, because as soon as I short replied her. She noticed straight away and said sorry. But anyway, I speak to her twice a day, maybe a bit more. How does playing the game of low supply make my value go up? I mean she ignored me for 48 hours last week. I had zero intention of replying - she got bac… | /r/seduction | 02/03/18 07:21 PM |
| 1 | Where did I go wrong, if at all?Doesn't make sense? I chat a few times to her per day. | /r/seduction | 02/03/18 06:35 PM |
| 1 | Why isn't she just walking away?She got back in contact again. She just can't let go honestly. She was like I should come see her, so I said she should come see me and stay with me. Rather than me spend money flying to her. Conversation went on a bit and she said how she's a weird person and can't explain it. Like really? Then she was like "Good night my friend" - so I said "Cheers mate" | /r/seduction | 12/10/17 09:46 PM |
| 1 | Why isn't she just walking away?How did you work that one out? It's pretty good that you did. Even the pretty girls lack self esteem? How would I lead her in the right direction. She's giving me one worded messages and never tells me how she's doing or how she feels. Again is that a low self-esteem thing? | /r/seduction | 01/10/17 06:42 PM |
| 1 | Why isn't she just walking away?I've learnt a lot over the last few years, but what NunoHimself posted is exactly the truth. I probably attract these type of girls because I had this low-self esteem myself. Now I am more confident and even though I didn't use anybody along the way I still attract them. I can now see them, and I'll probably pull out a lot earlier than I did with this girl. I don't need her, she needs me. Clearly as I was to never contact her again; she contacted me once via Instagram (ignored) and again via Fac… | /r/seduction | 01/10/17 06:37 PM |
| 1 | Why isn't she just walking away?Could you explain it via here in short? | /r/seduction | 01/10/17 06:33 PM |
| 1 | Why isn't she just walking away?So why's she still coming back for more? | /r/seduction | 01/10/17 06:33 PM |
| 1 | Why isn't she just walking away?I've learnt over the last few years. 20-24years of age that never do this. It'll just go around in a vicious circle. | /r/seduction | 01/10/17 06:32 PM |
| 1 | Why isn't she just walking away?I just think that this girl is totally stupid in how she's gone about things. She told me that she wanted to talk and meet up more, but she's done the complete opposite and hardly snaps or texts me anymore. In fact I've received a few messages from her in the last month vs 10 per day and 10 snaps per day. It can't be all down to me, she made it clear what she wanted out of this and then stopped any contact. I am not going to chase a girl with her guard firmly up. It needs to be her chasing me, a… | /r/seduction | 01/10/17 06:32 PM |
| 1 | Why isn't she just walking away?Well I launched my interstellar galactic ship and fucked right off. | /r/seduction | 01/10/17 06:11 PM |
| 1 | Why isn't she just walking away?Zero plans in contacting her. Would you do the same? | /r/seduction | 01/10/17 06:11 PM |
| 1 | Why isn't she just walking away?She's across Europe at the moment. So I haven't seen her face to face since end of July. We had plans end of August, but out of both of our control it never happened. | /r/seduction | 01/10/17 06:10 PM |
| 1 | Why isn't she just walking away?You can't surely help someone like that, your right? My friend told me people never change. Honestly you can't just change something like that? | /r/seduction | 01/10/17 06:10 PM |
| 1 | Why isn't she just walking away?Well she's definitely a millennial and a huge socialite. I've not contacted her at all since I told her "Glad to hear" that she was "wonderful." She's giving me shitty one worded responses, I stop talking - then an hour later, she likes my picture on Instagram. I think she draws the attention from loads of guys, and I probably wasn't the only one - in fact I am sure all of the guys are over her, and she will draw into the wrong one. By the way the warning signs. She did 1. (a lot). She never tes… | /r/seduction | 01/10/17 06:09 PM |
| 1 | Why isn't she just walking away?By not talking to her more? I've not contacted her in 3 days. | /r/seduction | 29/09/17 03:57 PM |
| 1 | Why isn't she just walking away?I am never chasing her ever again. My friend (girl) said if she comes to visit you, she's romantically attached to you and she said sleep with her. Till then, do nothing. So I was doing this activity we did together, and has a video on youtube. She saw me doing it again and said "Oh my gosh - I wish I was there right now". Strange that? | /r/seduction | 29/09/17 03:52 PM |
| 2 | Why isn't she just walking away?I didn't even think this was a thing. I thought it was a myth, and that you should never play games. But exactly, she backs away. Now she's messaging me? Never doing that again, and I only want to screw her good if she keeps chasing me. I will make this so so hard for her, because I am protecting myself. Let me guess that common textbook shit basically says that her response to me replying to her, is that I am now expected to chase her - but she will get mentally confused that I am not going too… | /r/seduction | 29/09/17 03:50 PM |
| 1 | Why isn't she just walking away?You reckon she'll end up loving me now? | /r/seduction | 29/09/17 03:48 PM |
| 1 | Why isn't she just walking away?I've just read that, and pretty much what it says - she's done 90% of that. Being extremely nice to you straight into being extremely nasty to you. It was like being in hell! But here's some more info. She practically friendzoned me then confused matters by saying she loves spending time with me and wants to hang out and talk more, that she really wants to visit me more and me to visit her. She went silent and stopped replying, so I walked away and forgot her existence (Very well) Now she's chas… | /r/seduction | 29/09/17 03:46 PM |
| 1 | Why isn't she just walking away?Didn't like me, now likes me? huh? | /r/seduction | 28/09/17 08:17 PM |
| 1 | Sneaky suspicion she liked me, but now it's pretty much clear that I was oblivious to it.It's not is it? She's just being a little funny with me. I also shared the video of our activity she was asking for, she removed the tag on her wall. Which is highly interesting and yet no comment from her or her friend about the video. Since then she's sent a Snapchat, and within 2 minutes of me uploading a picture of myself she liked it on Instagram. 2 minutes!! I like her a lot, but I like myself enough not to get hurt. I will see what sort of response I get from her the next few days. I just… | /r/seduction | 23/08/17 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Sneaky suspicion she liked me, but now it's pretty much clear that I was oblivious to it.Well the vibe I am getting whilst trying to arrange meeting up next week is not as good. This is the thing, she knows I like her from what I am saying to her. She's saying "I don't know how much time I'm going to have to be away from my program." "I think I will have some time off though!! " "I'm gonna try the best I can" then later "Yaaay can't wait" She's playing super hard to get and this won't be easy. I just don't get why she's playing this game, and I asked her if she missed me; she wouldn… | /r/seduction | 22/08/17 12:30 PM |
| 1 | Sneaky suspicion she liked me, but now it's pretty much clear that I was oblivious to it.First date - Activity, but friend came as I told her to bring her. Second meet was Coffee at the airport (20 mins planned became 2 hours). So this 3rd meeting will be good chance to find out? | /r/seduction | 20/08/17 11:47 PM |
| 1 | Sneaky suspicion she liked me, but now it's pretty much clear that I was oblivious to it.Yeah I feel that slightly, but it keeps coming back in powerful shots. I agree with the next step. That next step is asking her to be mine right? Or you have a better idea? | /r/seduction | 20/08/17 11:46 PM |
| 2 | Sneaky suspicion she liked me, but now it's pretty much clear that I was oblivious to it.Firstly thank you for the reply, I've only just managed to respond properly. We've both sort of decided we'll plan it nearer to the time. She's back 29th August from home, maybe end of this coming week with her, unless she beats me to it. I sort of get what you mean, I am not really a pro at these sort of things - hence why I am posting on Reddit. Not that I am over-analysing it so hard; okay maybe a little but I've actually never had a girl so hot talk to me for something like 2 whole months no… | /r/seduction | 20/08/17 11:46 PM |
| 1 | Is she really into me?I'm not sure she's that kind of girl for sexual tone but she seems to be up for banter when talking about love, missing eachother and talking about me and her in general. I.e. When I said 'Welcome to my life' she said "What part?" - again I am sure she wants to be apart of my life, but in what capacity? She seems pretty shy so she said she'd let me know about going for drinks. She never did, instead she bombarded me with compliments on that day/date I suggested. So I arranged the coffee before s… | /r/seduction | 03/08/17 10:01 AM |
| 1 | Is she really into me?Well that worked. Got a Snapchat from her after no talking for a day. She opened my reply straight away but then replied a minute or two later. Then we had a fairly decent conversation. But yes, I think with my job not being on my phone all day it's making her think! It's definately a clearer. | /r/seduction | 03/08/17 09:55 AM |
| 1 | Is she really into me?Would it be best when she comes back? She's away for a month! Text/Snapchat is so impersonal to tell someone how you feel? | /r/seduction | 01/08/17 06:17 PM |
| 1 | Is she really into me?I've been doing it a little bit. Although since she got home, she's been awfully odd the first two days. Very blunt with messages up and until yesterday when she sent me a blunt ass message. I ignored her, because I thought maybe she's got wet feet and wants me to back off. 6 hours later, she sent me a snapchat. I replied, she ignored. She sent me another some hours later, I didn't open as was busy. Then two more came and then she had a proper conversation with me. It's a little clear that she h… | /r/seduction | 01/08/17 06:17 PM |
| 1 | Is she really into me?Point taken. She always views my Snapchat stories! But can't that drive her crazy? She's been a little off today but I'm sure that's jetlag and being home. Maybe she misses me? She's still messaging me but was rather blunt this morning and I said to myself if I send her a message and she doesn't reply under no circumstances do I text again. As you say, not to be clingy. I work with just girls. Is that a hugely bad and costly mistake or does that drive her to want me more or any girl.for that fac… | /r/seduction | 30/07/17 07:58 PM |
| 1 | Is she really into me?I agree with what you are saying. We have 4 weeks and two continents between us. That's why I've asked for help as I am clearly stupid to realise she is interested. | /r/seduction | 30/07/17 07:53 PM |
| 1 | Is she really into me?For us to keep meeting up? | /r/seduction | 29/07/17 08:09 PM |
| 1 | Is she really into me?I think she knows. I've sorta hinted at it, and she's gave it back to me and kept going with conversations and meeting up. Playing it cool? | /r/seduction | 29/07/17 08:09 PM |
| 0 | Is she really into me?Explain? | /r/seduction | 29/07/17 08:08 PM |
| 1 | Is she really into me?You did reverse psychology right? haha! Explain? | /r/seduction | 29/07/17 08:08 PM |
| 1 | Girl from work who I almost got together withIn that order? Why do you say? :D | /r/seduction | 29/03/17 09:09 PM |
| 1 | Girl from work.She just messaged me this evening. Asking if I'm working Wednesday. This is after liking one of my instagram pictures. She must have saw some snapchats with other girls and finally cracked? | /r/seduction | 06/11/16 01:52 AM |
| 1 | Girl from work.It sounds like its a bit excessive how flakey she is being. I would mention it next time you see her but the key is to show her that you really dont give a shit that shes flaking. I think I get what you mean, so by not messaging her or calling her is showing that I am bothered? Please clarify? My natural instinct says to drop all communication with her until she contacts me. I believe that's the right thing to do, as she's taken the piss in a lot of respects. Since you actually did go out I woul… | /r/seduction | 02/11/16 06:25 PM |
| 1 | Meeting up with her?Because what happened wasn't normal, embarrassing but from the people I've spoke to it's not normal. Not many people have heard of what happened. Anyway she lied to me about going to the doctors, and heavily relied on my test results which came back clean, although apparently it's still quite hard to catch STDs just like that - so if her symptoms are STD related I think I have to consider myself very lucky. She's assumed because I am fine, that she's fine. That was a bad move, and even worse is … | /r/seduction | 29/02/16 08:53 PM |
| 1 | Meeting up with her?Good guess, although I am not a doctor but what happened was rather disconcerting. I mentioned it to them, and they did say hopefully it's nothing too serious and that she should get checked out. I highly advised that this was the best course of action, if she's done this or not is simply down to her; it's not my problem and most people wouldn't care. It sadly was a one-night stand, and I wish it wasn't. I think that explains why she hasn't blocked me yet, because to be fair I did nothing wrong … | /r/seduction | 04/02/16 01:26 PM |
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