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| 6 | Alpha widowing and hypergamyI'd have to say AWs are simply overinvestment. Pretty sure I'd be an AW if Jon were, for whatever reason, to leave my life. But we made a mutual investment. BFF, likewise, would be an AW for her husband, but she would never have invested so much in someone who was not prepared to invest back. And many women in the past have had trouble remarrying after losing a great husband to war or the likes, even when they were still young. But the crucial common factor is that these men were an integral par… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/16 11:36 PM |
| 1 | It's Christmas time! A time to bring joy back to your over worked manYeah, when you pick the right gift for a guy, he might try and get it for himself anyway, or guess it, so you can't keep the surprise for long. We had another one a while back where Jon was about to stock up some nice wines and I sort of tried the whole "maybe wait until you get your presents..." and he spent the rest of the day grinning cause he'd found out a "secret". No winning! :P | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/16 08:43 PM |
| 12 | It's Christmas time! A time to bring joy back to your over worked manSTOCKINGS. Jon never got one as a kid, it just wasn't a done thing in his house. Now I make him one every year full of snacks and little useful items for him. Always one or two things he doesn't use, but getting better. Last year we had to take an item, a car usb charger, out of the stocking early because he was about to get one himself. :/ I think he will use everything this year. Been putting even more thought in than usual because neither of us can think of anything for a "big" present and we… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/16 06:00 PM |
| 2 | How to set boundaries and not be a pleaserHe's either using you for money or for entertainment. Stand up for yourself. You don't need to make it into a fight, but if he says things like "you don't want to pay for me?" then you either say "not for everything" or if you're comfortable, go silly "nope, never again..." (tone is important]. If he's just doing it because he finds it funny, but he legitimately likes you, he'll be fine paying for his own stuff at least. He might find some other way of pushing your buttons, but he doesn't want t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/16 05:47 AM |
| 11 | Reductress » How to Give Your Kids The Sex Talk Without Revealing Mommy Used to Be a HoeIn many ways, Reductress seems to be taking over The Onion in providing decent satire. | /r/RedPillWives | 12/12/16 05:38 AM |
| 1 | When I keep my eyes slightly wide-open all the time, people mess with me less... does this happen to anybody else?If you tense up all round, your face you will look like someone in panic. Most people will not mess with a scared animal, no matter how big or small. | /r/askTRP | 12/12/16 05:36 AM |
| 1 | Fetlife and Facebook -- How Women Can Hamster Between WebsitesIt's about social acceptability and being the most extremely acceptable person in either situation. Get all the attention, but only the positive attention. Jon knows a few people across both sites too. Facebook is where mommy and daddy can see her, Fetlife is where she plays up her kinkiness. A few leftist males follow the same pattern. None are, as far as we have seen, as tame as they pretend to be on FB or as kinky as they pretend to be on FL. For the younger generation, the trick is a hidden … | /r/TheRedPill | 11/12/16 01:10 PM |
| 1 | Holy shit, does it really take that many cold daytime approaches to get any success? This guy has 300:1 approach lay ratio.For many guys it seems that either before starting to have success with women, or after burning out from success, they go into a monk mode of sorts and focus on themselves more. The women start to become secondary, so the focus shifts off getting laid onto just enjoying everything as and when it happens, including sex, dates, and relationships. They seem more relaxed, though you'd have to ask a monk mode guy to find out if it's worthwhile or compatible with your interests. | /r/askTRP | 11/12/16 11:24 AM |
| 1 | Conversation turns dullWomen build rapport through familiarity, ie gossip, hence why exchanging mundane details is interesting to them. Most people lead boring lives, hence why familiarity = mundane details. | /r/askTRP | 11/12/16 11:17 AM |
| 1 | When I keep my eyes slightly wide-open all the time, people mess with me less... does this happen to anybody else?Our Alpha Extrovert friend has smallish eyes and gets a lot more space when he stares people down, if that's what you mean. But the wideness isn't as important as drawing attention to your eyes and not breaking eye contact. Jon has large eyes and doesn't need to open them any wider to intimidate in the same way. | /r/askTRP | 11/12/16 11:15 AM |
| 3 | [ADVICE] I feel like I have to be in charge of everything in our marriage and it's stressing me outhttps://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/4rhcma/laissezfaire_homemaking/ https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/5eqcnh/how_to_be_better_than_your_man/ | /r/RedPillWives | 11/12/16 10:37 AM |
| 3 | How Do You Define Cheating?Any physical sexual contact. With how both of us are, emotional intimacy with anyone else is at 0% probability, so we never worried about it. And playful flirting just seems to be something that happens when he gets flippant, and can even be directed at other men or driven to a point of absurdity, so I'm not threatened by it. As long as he's not having one of his "looking right through people and getting stuff done" days he will be distracted by other women, we both talk to people of the opposit… | /r/RedPillWives | 11/12/16 10:22 AM |
| 1 | Fiancé seems to want to go into "Cave". Should I withdraw too to give him space?Give him space, keep your own worries to yourself, and offer him things to help such as his favourite foods, to handle any necessary phone calls, or sex. He's not in the right state of mind to reciprocate what you are doing, nor to handle your worries right now. But he will still appreciate the odd nudge of your usual affection. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/16 10:13 AM |
| 1 | Are there any women here in a happy LTR who don't feel "dread"?I like the casual reminders that he's not with me by obligation but by choice, that what we are doing to improve ourselves and be more attractive works, and that I need to keep improving myself if I want to hold onto him. A little bit of "wow, he could have had her" or "he really has no intrinsic need for me" encourages me to do my best and make myself indispensable. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/16 10:09 AM |
| 1 | If you got pregnant and your boyfriend/husband wanted you to get an abortion, would you do it?Too many variables. If Jon wanted me to have an abortion, he would have a reason. It's his child too and that reason would need to be debated before we decided. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/16 10:05 AM |
| 3 | Sigma WifeA bit late, but recruited by u/VigilantRedRooster, so here I am. Possibly Sigma. Sounds a lot like Jon in some aspects. However definitely more introverted and/or lower empathy. Even Sigmas tend to hold one or two close friends who accept and tolerate their abrasiveness, even if they basically torment everyone else for the fun of it. They may see them once or twice a year, but there is a consistent tribal thing going off when they're together. That said, he may simply be cutting you off from his… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/16 10:02 AM |
| 1 | Laissez-Faire Homemaking.You need to sit down and work out a schedule for homemaking together. You have to work out how your day breaks down, what each of your priorities are, and reach agreement. Often the complaint is that you are focusing on things that do not help him, or he does not realize how much time you actually have to invest in these things. There's also the possibility that he wishes you made a bit of money or saved more, to take some pressure off him. No way of knowing without sitting down and going throug… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/16 09:48 AM |
| 1 | Angst Inside About the Future: Tell me about the joining of your SO's family and yoursI know what you mean, but also consider whether the money compensates the emotional and financial cost of the wedding. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/16 03:58 PM |
| 1 | How do I overcome this abuse trigger?It was kind of hard to mention. But I hope it helps. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/16 03:57 PM |
| 2 | How do I overcome this abuse trigger?I had an issue with saliva and mouths for the same reason. Wet lips, tongues, even swallowing sounds could make me feel very ill, or even scared. As you can imagine, it's not exactly practical to be scared of and repulsed by a mouth when we live in one of many societies where kissing is romantic. I worked on overcoming it with Jon via scaling: closed lip dry kisses, biting, all the way up to making out more comfortably. I still have a strong reaction when I reach my limits. But I'm sure if Jon w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/16 10:06 AM |
| 1 | Angst Inside About the Future: Tell me about the joining of your SO's family and yoursOur families are radically different and complete chaos, so we avoided almost all aspects of a wedding ceremony. Tell your man about these worries and consider having a quiet, traditional affair for the wedding: just you two and the witnesses, and have a large meal with everyone afterwards. You can keep the ceremony traditional whilst keeping it private, and perhaps get some photos done later for people like your grandparents to have if they want them. If people ask, say it's to save money ready… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/16 09:56 AM |
| 22 | "The right person" vs. " a man who's secure"From direct experience and observation: If anything, both are true. Stability: -A woman wants a man whose life has direction, who has end goals, whether it is an own business, a family goal, or a standard career path. -A woman wants a man who has options. He needs to be able to find work if he loses it, not too proud to seek a little help if he were completely destitute, but proud enough to do ANYTHING to prevent destitution. Even a millionaire could become homeless and penniless. His options ma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/16 09:48 AM |
| 14 | What are the base requirements for marriage?After almost six years together, three years living as husband and wife and over a year certifiably married: -NUMBER ONE and all else comes second: solid future goals which are compatible with or identical to mine, any incompatibility in terms of where we are headed means no durability. Number of kids, how to raise them, moving house, career goals, retirement, plastic surgery, investments, religion... Where there is a strong opinion, the other has to either agree or not care. -good looking, not … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/16 08:09 AM |
| 2 | How much texting is too much?Don't worry about keeping track of exchanges, maybe try and limit yourself to 2-3 texts an hour at the very most if he is unresponsive, don't use "pushy" texts to get him to respond to prior ones, and if you want him to reply more often text him curious things that get his brain ticking, not "people talk" like gossip, feelings, or plans that don't concern him. When Jon and I text back and forth it's usually about: -weights -news -philosophy -plans that involve him I don't really expect a respons… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/16 07:56 AM |
| 1 | How long will a man looking for a serious LTR wait to have sex?We were both basically still in Monk Mode for the first few months, as he had been for several years and I had been for one. Looking back on it, it was weird, but I'm glad for it. It was what we both needed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/16 07:47 AM |
| 1 | How to be better than your man.It's intentional, to hopefully grab the attention of women struggling with the idea of submission and complementarianism in the face of a world telling them "you're the better half". :p | /r/RedPillWives | 27/11/16 07:23 AM |
| 2 | What's your definition of a beta man?alphagameplan, the blog. Breaks the standard dichotomy down into actual sensical social strata. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/11/16 12:18 AM |
| 6 | Will girls who friend zone you help you find potential partners ?Caveat: however much I like to see my and Jon's male friends succeed romantically and sexually, I'm pretty sure most women, self included, are terrible at predicting/generating female attraction. Now, if a guy wants help getting a LTR to behave, then being able to harness female groupthink is probably a godsend. But the finding of the partner is going to be all you, no question. | /r/askTRP | 24/11/16 11:55 PM |
| 3 | What's your definition of a beta man?I follow the AGP spectrum, where the meaning is the whole role instead of just one aspect. Alpha: tribal leader. Sigma: independent outlier. Beta: second in command to Alpha. Delta: average man. Omega: dependent outlier. Gamma: omega with delusions of Alphahood. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/16 10:21 PM |
| 2 | I want to be supportive, but I feel so demoralized.It's fine. If you need any support or advice, we're all here to help you and your family through this. | /r/RedPillWives | 24/11/16 11:58 AM |
| 1 | Pushing accidental beta orbiter back into friendshipI have a feeling it will be emotionally tough on both of you. Stay strong and if you need to part ways, briefly or long-term, do it gracefully. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/16 11:57 AM |
| 12 | I want to be supportive, but I feel so demoralized.Work on tackling the problems most of the day, but set time aside as a family every night. I have been in similar situations with Jon and trying to soothe him during the day was pointless. Focus on getting things done during office hours, update him about what you have managed to get done at the end of the day, don't nag or repeat yourself about known problems. Then, when nothing more can be done for the day, talk to him about something lighthearted, make a simple, tasty dinner for the family an… | /r/RedPillWives | 23/11/16 07:00 PM |
| 1 | GratituesdayI am grateful for coffee, for keeping me going through this last week of work. I am grateful for a husband who is still willing to put the effort into sex when I'm not at my most appealing. I am grateful for getting free baby things in the post. | /r/RedPillWives | 23/11/16 12:40 PM |
| 4 | Pushing accidental beta orbiter back into friendshipBe straightforward with him. Tell him you think he's getting a bit too close, that it is no good for either of you, that you want to make sure he understands he has no chance at all and then ask if he wants to stay friends understanding all that or if he is getting too attached and needs to get some space between you. It may be blunt and a bit insensitive. But if he is one of those rare guys who actually enjoys female friendship he will appreciate the boundaries, as you're "freeing him" to find … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/11/16 12:35 PM |
| 1 | What do you find physically attractive in a man?Men that are prettiest to look at: Body fat not too low. Not fat, I just don't like seeing much vein on anyone. Nice hands: big with long fingers, neat nails, artist hands. Tall with wide shoulders. White (sue me). Scars, tats and other marks always add something. Even some pretty extreme ones work. Being from alternative communities, dyed hair, non-trendy hairstyles, makeup or piercings do not break a man's looks for me, as long as they are well thought-out. But personality ruins so many people… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/11/16 12:30 PM |
| 1 | The "Have Great Sex Every Day" Challenge!Butt is more fluid retention than shapely stuff. Bust is definitely a plus. But although some men don't mind or even like the bump, Jon is not "some men". | /r/RedPillWives | 22/11/16 08:53 PM |
| 2 | The "Have Great Sex Every Day" Challenge!Well, it's definitely not about the journey. :P | /r/RedPillWives | 22/11/16 08:52 PM |
| 4 | The "Have Great Sex Every Day" Challenge!Yeah, it's like some awful joke of nature. "I will make you smell infertile, look like a balloon, tired all the time, achey and uncomfortable, but also incredibly horny." | /r/RedPillWives | 22/11/16 08:48 PM |
| 5 | The "Have Great Sex Every Day" Challenge!In the longest term, I'd like to be more pro-active in testing for what he wants. His tastes and interests can change even over a day, so what will motivate him might be odd or hard to decipher, even for him, and I'd like to get better at finding out what he wants today. On the flip side, for the next couple of months I'd actually have to say: pressure him less. I know my libido is much higher than is normal and I'd got used to putting a bit of pressure on him, but it's not really fair. Especial… | /r/RedPillWives | 22/11/16 10:01 AM |
| 2 | Any young aspiring housewives on here, sick of being alienated?I take some comfort in the fact that the lives of traditional women living rurally, as well as historic advice for women, support the "do-everything-you-can-wife" lifestyle. But the fact it's recommended by our ancestors doesn't do much for building a community based around it! | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/16 09:39 AM |
| 5 | gifts for your manEven when Jon actively asks me not to get him a "proper" gift, like this year, I make him a Christmas stocking full of odds and ends and treats. Things like an agenda and calendar for the next year, his favourite chocolates, little bits and pieces for him to use at work... So if you're stuck on big presents, perhaps a little hamper of things he can use for his woodworking will help. A basket with some tool pieces, sandpaper, varnishes and paints... If you want to play it cautious, just get the e… | /r/RedPillWives | 22/11/16 09:37 AM |
| 3 | Any young aspiring housewives on here, sick of being alienated?I'm caught between two worlds in many ways. I love the traditional life... but I also believe that working from home and producing, as well as nurturing, is key to a woman's traditional role. I feel alienated from other young women and many other homemakers... but I'd also rather be alienated than welcomed by the majority of people I know. I have only a few close friends... but I'll talk to them and see them as rarely as other people see their acquaintances. It's weird. The rare time I meet some… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/16 05:53 PM |
| 2 | Ideal Male Characters in the Media?Ascending: Garrett (first fictional Sigma I noticed]: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xPLtD6N9WO0 Joker (conventional, the SS one is a bit soft]: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TYSNUL2hrQM Floki (spot-on Sigma crack]: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kQIN7Zp5QjQ I thought Yan Lazarrec from Le Farmacien de Garde was cute, but again a bit of a softie. I'm weird, but I'm OK with that. :p | /r/RedPillWives | 21/11/16 04:21 PM |
| 2 | How to tell how your SO really feels...He might just have shallow emotions. After almost six years, I've seen Jon as an emotional wreck over a few things before, I can tell when something is eating away at him on the inside, I can get him stupidly excited by knowing exactly what to say to him, do for him or give to him, but generally he isn't too bothered by anything. I think once some men break their 30s, provided their life is in order, they just cruise emotionally. You may still see him cry if something deeply hurts him, go into l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/16 04:05 PM |
| 3 | I'm getting lazy, please help with some adviceI get where you're coming from. I have cyclothymia (soft bipolar] leaning to BPII and an obsession with "doing everything". We had the same situation where at first my requirements were small: "look after Jon, make £50 a week, feed the hens, keep the house clean and tidy, do the shopping". Now I'm having to earn a full secondary income, we have a dog that needs caring for, a baby on the way and a few investments he wants me to at least take part in, on top of all the basics. It can drive you rou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/16 12:50 PM |
| 1 | Crabs in a barrel. I just realised I am the crab that pulls the other crabs from getting out. What is wong with me?You're either the top crab or the bottom crab: your situation actively changes when other people improve, as they either step on you on the way out, or they leave you way back in the dust. And you may be depressed. It's pretty misunderstood. Depression is effectively a hormone malfunction that causes lethargy, negative thinking, bad habits, etc. I'm what you would call "a person with shallow affect" in that I don't experience many emotions and they're almost never intense, but I've been severely… | /r/askTRP | 19/11/16 07:40 AM |
| 1 | How does a man's facial hair affect the way you perceive him?Seriously. It's one of these: https://i.ytimg.com/vi/_zgWnGZQUCQ/hqdefault.jpg Only he doesn't plait it. When he has contacts in and sunglasses to match... metalhead tribalist biker-girl heaven. Shame he has to have his hair short now, though, as a ponytail would have really topped it off. | /r/RedPillWives | 19/11/16 07:24 AM |
| 1 | How does a man's facial hair affect the way you perceive him?I like thick facial hair, but not all over. So Jon's "d-bag goatee" is pretty much perfect. I didn't use to mind him as much clean-shaven, but since stress levels have gone down and his face looks much younger I find it a little more boyish. Looking at older pictures where he was more run-down I still think it looks OK, so it's got to be the age factor. | /r/RedPillWives | 19/11/16 06:28 AM |
| 6 | Free Friday - What's on your holiday wishlist??Baby stuff, baby stuff, baby stuff. I haven't been able to think of anything for myself since long before my birthday. I got Jon some DMs for life for his birthday, though, so he says he's getting me some once my foot size has resettled. Other than that, I just want cute things and useful things for the baby. | /r/RedPillWives | 19/11/16 06:25 AM |
| 1 | User Shoutouts (:Aw, thanks! :D I'm glad you enjoy my work and I hope I continue to provide useful and thoughtful material well into the future. | /r/RedPillWives | 18/11/16 07:36 AM |
| 1 | What are your unpopular opinions?That's a mess up. It may not be their fault, or a nice thing to say, but biologically, nature does not favour it. | /r/RedPillWives | 14/11/16 10:23 PM |
| 1 | How do people who DGAF trully deal with all the shit people pull when thrown to their face?Let yourself be excluded. Eventually it whittles down to only the sort of person who doesn't pull that on you. You may have few people left, but they will all be reliable and useful and you will enjoy each other's company. | /r/askTRP | 13/11/16 09:44 PM |
| 1 | The (un)Official RPW Reading ListI have Rev. Leslie Tizard's "Guide to Marriage" and I would defo recommend it. Can't find a PDF or ebook and it has me considering scanning the pages and making my own to share around friends. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/16 09:16 PM |
| 6 | Conway shatters glass ceiling as first woman to run a successful presidential campaignAnd yet most feminists will ignore her because A: she's a woman actually succeeding and not blowing her own trumpet or giving lip service to feminism, and B: she did her work for someone they dislike. | /r/RedPillWives | 11/11/16 10:52 PM |
| 1 | are there any good ways of finding out if a girl is a SJW/feminist early in a conversation?"I find many people nowadays ask for way too much, like they feel they deserve something for nothing." If she starts going off about white men she's an SJW. If she starts going off about minority status and feminists, she's not. If she plays diplomat, she's feminine and likely not an SJW. | /r/askTRP | 09/11/16 04:40 PM |
| 3 | What's a polite way to say "I don't pay girls to spend time with me."If she's entitled she will be angry however nicely you put it, in my experience. It's the rejection of her authority that hurts, not the words. For future note: "I don't buy company, friendship or loyalty. I believe there are more important things than money, don't get me wrong, but I also want the people I socialize with to believe the same thing." Although it WILL push loads of women (and men] away from you, it will also give you more consistent quality in your interactions. Right now I'm in a… | /r/askTRP | 09/11/16 04:34 PM |
| 2 | GratituesdayI'm grateful to have someone to keep me calm and steady as my brain descends into wherever it's trying to go for these next few weeks. I'm grateful that I am healthy enough to have been able to continue lifting weights, working and generally getting on with life for this long, even if it must stop soon. I'm grateful to have the just right kind of support from Jon, friends, relatives and the state-run maternity systems, so I can relax about the weeks ahead and know I am cared for, provided for an… | /r/RedPillWives | 09/11/16 12:32 PM |
| 2 | Blue Pill is putting magic before accountability.A combination of understanding love languages and your partner's key interests and motivators can help there. Finding that moment of spontaneity that's intimate, personal and fits your lives means a million times what a cliché expensive gift does. For example: a man getting a girl her favourite flower, even if it's free daffodils, even once or twice a year, matters more than a £25 bouquet of roses every day. | /r/RedPillWives | 09/11/16 12:25 PM |
| 2 | The myth of unconditional loveSlim pickings and magic mentality mean most people don't think about partners beyond what someone else told them would be good. Hence the regurgitated/canned answers you get when people are asked what they look for in a husband or wife. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/16 12:20 PM |
| 4 | Blue Pill is putting magic before accountability.Just don't throw the baby out with the bathwater: spending time together is highly important, as is respecting and showing interest in each other's hobbies. As an example, I can never game. Due to coordination issues, my hands can't do different things at the same time without eating up all my focus. Jon enjoys playing video games from time to time. I'm happy to sit there with him or help him out with random riddles and mind games in them. On the flip side, I started out supporting him in his po… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/16 12:19 PM |
| 1 | Blue Pill is putting magic before accountability.Absolutely! I've met 2 men who openly believed in horoscopes, and that's across three/four countries and various internet circles. I suppose some forms of magic appeal more to specific demographics. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/16 12:13 PM |
| 2 | The myth of unconditional loveNot sharing what your conditions are is also troublesome. Jon and I know full well what the conditions are, what caveats there may be and what temporary conditions arise. For example I am now 33 weeks pregnant and although the tiredness has not yet wrecked me, I am too big to be as enticing as usual and too tired to pressure or encourage him. So we talked about it and reached an agreement that would keep us both satisfied until I'm back in physical shape and full of energy. The alternative? Sitt… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/16 11:42 AM |
| 1 | Is there really a way to escape pornography?It's based on the Pareto principle in a way. But whereas the Pareto principle outlines that essentially 80% of the profits or goods are held by 20% of the population, the 80/20 rule is a fitness guideline which outlines that 80% of your behaviour needs to be consistently positive to reap the rewards. So almost the opposite, really. If you eat well, exercise, work hard, have sex and stay safe 80% of the time, your 20% of junk food, rest days, gaming, porn and risk taking will help you enjoy life … | /r/askTRP | 31/10/16 01:28 PM |
| 1 | How being Self Employed saved my life.Yeah, I have a couple of options, but only through the bank I have banked with for half a decade (other decent banks would not touch me and microbanks are awkward] and the high APR sacres me a bit. I have a terrible memory and am unsure if I could trust myself to use the credit card and then remember to pay it off at the end of the month, even if I have the money to do so right there. The idea I could miss a payment and end up with fees sets off my risk aversion alarms. Jon has offered a bit of … | /r/TheRedPill | 31/10/16 01:19 PM |
| 3 | How being Self Employed saved my life.I guess it's different in the USA than the UK, what with credit cards being so dominant, but I'd like to add that your credit score can be appalling (mine is under 400] due to never having had loans or credit cards. To give an idea: I don't qualify for most credit cards and investment schemes or any loans, simply because I have never had debt. It's not good and I sort of regret being so cautious. | /r/TheRedPill | 28/10/16 01:50 PM |
| 2 | How being Self Employed saved my life.As someone who used to make a decent 1/3 of an income on fake reviews: they were definitely hiring someone to do them. Few people have the true know-how to cover their tracks like that, and it's easier to hire someone who knows how to handle it, or enlist a small army of professional reviewers across the globe, than to post your own. You'd be amazed how techologically inept most of the "tech generation" actually are. They can basically operate iPads and buy things, that's it. | /r/TheRedPill | 28/10/16 01:45 PM |
| 2 | Is there really a way to escape pornography?Jon and I treat it like junk food: -> put the good stuff first, 80/20 rule as a hard limit, ie: focus on actual sex -> allow it when inevitable or the best of a bad situation, 80/20 maintained -> allow it from time to time to enhance your life, 80/20 maintained -> when you allow it, focus only on what you genuinely enjoy, not cheap rubbish just because it's available -> rein back when it starts getting out of hand -> if possible, make it shared Just like with junk food, there's no reason to forb… | /r/askTRP | 21/10/16 03:09 PM |
| 3 | What issues would /r/TheRedPill take with your man?The big one is he's a sexually successful guy who basically opted out and finds girls hitting on him hilarious. Even before meeting me he had decided to sit back and either wait for a wife or be a hermit and enjoyed teasing girls who were attracted to him only to cut them off and watch them spiral. Cruel, but I never said he was a nice guy. I have a feeling the old guard don't care what a guy does with his penis, but some younger and less experienced RP men we've both spoken to don't seem to get… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/16 08:40 PM |
| 8 | Do you think that being a "crazy-girl" magnet is indicative of you having low SMV?Also some men love drama, for some reason. One of our friends is the Alpha of every circle he's in and in an open-to-girls bisexual relationship. He could have whoever he wants from his hang-around girls. Both he and his wife are crazy and he choses her first and foremost. They love winding each other up. He actually got frustrated with her when she became quiet and passive for a bit. It's baffling, but they seem genuinely happy with the crazy. | /r/askTRP | 13/10/16 09:41 PM |
| 1 | Non Traditional Friend About to Leave Her HusbandThat might not help as much as you think. Right now she isn't thinking rationally. And the only thing you can handle is showing her that her thinking is irrational. Try explaining to her that if someone in her situation were suddenly changing career, buying a new car and hanging out with teenagers, or moving countries, you would call it a midlife crisis. It's not so much about what she should or should not do at this stage, as much as it's about not making major, life-changing decisions before s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/16 11:02 PM |
| 2 | Non Traditional Friend About to Leave Her HusbandAs someone with cyclothymia, I'm seconding everyone who's saying to get her to put it off until the depression is over. When I'm depressed I can get tired of everything I enjoy and even resent Jon's efforts to make me happy because all they do is remind me of the things I used to enjoy and can't any more. But most of the time his presence and help is all that helps me keep it together when I'm on the way out, and I'm always so grateful for everything he did when I can look back on it. I work ver… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/16 11:48 AM |
| 2 | To the friend who rolled her eyes when I asked my husband's permissionFun fact. When we last went on holiday we literally lived with two friends, G&A. And whatever we were doing, we checked each other's schedules and ideas. G&A knew the area, I spoke the language and had some work with me, Jon and G have health concerns that needed considering and G was our only legal driver. You don't need to even be in a relationship to acknowledge that the people you share your life with, temporarily or permanently, might like or need to know the schedule! | /r/RedPillWives | 08/10/16 05:30 AM |
| 1 | Not Having Success with Coffee DatesRead up on a few conversation strategies to get the guy talking too. Something as simple as playing 20 questions might make the interaction a bit warmer. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/16 05:05 AM |
| 2 | Should I be willing to do pegging/prostate stimulation? [NSFW]This. Guys want what guys want. If we had to rate sex acts on a masculinity scale, we'd be here arguing pointlessly all day. Girl on top? Facesitting? Bondage? Choking? Whipping? CBT? I don't see where we would draw the line. Just work out what you're both comfortable with and enjoy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/16 04:48 PM |
| 1 | Not Having Success with Coffee Dateshttps://yourwifeisevolving.wordpress.com/2015/08/31/men-bond-over-experience-women-over-familiarity/ If your coffee date results are consistently different to your other date results: Step 1: Talk more. Step 2: Do something physical after, even if just "a walk to use up the caffeine". | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/16 04:43 PM |
| 4 | Being Virginal is a Hindrance?-> Virginity: not a problem. We all are at some point, if it stopped anything humans wouldn't be alive. -> Lack of receptiveness: can be a problem. It's one thing to not be ready for sex, it's another to not be ready to hold hands or smile back. -> Taking longer to get intimate: the opposite of a problem. Weeds out the men who are looking for something quick and lets you discover the hidden Betas. -> No sex drive: a problem. If it's not just about the guy, but you generally have few to no urges … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/10/16 06:22 PM |
| 1 | N-Count CriteriaLines are more awkward with non physical sexual behaviour. Maturity again factors in (kids sexting is very different to adults sexting, for example]. There would also be the personal distinctions. For instance if you view porn as an intimate sexual activity then non physical sexual behaviour with a real person would count as well, regardless of nudity, knowing them in person, etc. In theory non physical sex acts are essentially masturbation and thus not automatically a threat to intimacy or bond… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/10/16 06:11 PM |
| 7 | N-Count CriteriaI'd say heavy petting down doesn't count, when we get from nude interactions upwards it does. Anything where the goal is orgasm is definitely an N. Naive exploration versus actual sex, essentially. So a boy feeling up a girl's chest in high school or "show me yours I'll show you mine" wouldn't be an N, but as soon as there is naked or intimate skin-skin interaction or orgasm, it's a definite N. I would also add the caveat that things done whilst very young may carry less weight than if you did t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/10/16 10:57 PM |
| 1 | Simple QuestionsAlternative/extreme political forums. Neither actively seeking at the time. We hit off more as friends, but exchanging facebook profiles and phone numbers made us realize that we're kind of hot as well as good company for each other. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/10/16 10:50 PM |
| 2 | Would it be correct to assume redpill women prefer Arnold Schwarzenegger over Tom Cruise?Between them two... Arnie, but more based on achievement. Arnie = human founded in reality, great businessman, self-respecting, independently minded, talented at most things he tried. Not so into the delusional soft types who fall for religious lunacy. :p But I'm sure, scientology aside, the Tom Cruise type may appeal to some RPW too. That said, outside of that dichotomy Arnie falls short of my ideals, which were always fictional Sigma types: Zoro, Garret, the Joker, etc. There are many ways to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/10/16 07:40 PM |
| 1 | How is your day going?Kind of awesome here. Back to work after a holiday abroad and feeling so fortunate not to dread it! Got some vac packs to store random spare bedding, which is shutting up my nesting instincts. And looking forward to some quality time with Jon as it's changeover night. All in all, it's neat. :D | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/16 02:08 PM |
| 3 | Bait, Bid, and Bite - Everyday affections.Pretty much all communication out of nowhere. If you're already talking there is no bid, but every initiated interaction is potentially a bid. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/16 06:07 PM |
| 6 | Bait, Bid, and Bite - Everyday affections.YesAllCaterpillars CaterpillarLivesMatter lol I think those bids DO add up eventually, but you're right that there's no point getting hung up on each and every one. In reality, your "overall score" counts far, far more than the caterpillar. :p | /r/RedPillWives | 12/09/16 01:17 PM |
| 5 | Why he doesn't want to come home.The second part you mention is actually a psychological phenomenon I may write more about in the future. The essence is: we "bait" our partners with actions that are designed to captivate attention and words to draw their attention to things around us. If they "bite" and acknowledge the bait, however minorly or however personal or weird their reaction is, we feel acknowledged, wanted, respected and loved. If they ignore us and react passively or dismissively, we feel insecure. It's the ultimate … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/16 08:09 PM |
| 1 | Non-Mothers of RPW - Let's share our thoughts on parenting. Mother's of RPW, share your experience! Controversial Opinions Welcome.You make it sound so easy that now I'm worried our one will pick up some of the dog's signs. :/ :p I suppose if he learns he can direct the dog with signs as well as communicate with mommy and daddy he might be more eager to learn, though. | /r/RedPillWives | 11/09/16 07:54 PM |
| 1 | Why he doesn't want to come home.Laura Doyle is so spot on. :) | /r/RedPillWives | 11/09/16 07:52 PM |
| 1 | Why he doesn't want to come home.Yeah, we all attention-whore. True fact: I can be peopled-out, exhausted and just want to zone out to music. But if Jon is also quiet and has his "resting rage face" on, I panic, push aside exhaustion, and reach out a little, to make sure everything is well. And I probably pester too much when I want that reassurance. Something more to work on. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/16 07:51 PM |
| 1 | SAHM - side hustlesThe books from the site only sell a few here and there, probably because I don't promote. -shame- But most of what I have ghost written has been popular thanks to angry promotion by the "authors". I'd say, though, that if you're looking at it as fun and a bit of spare change, write what you love. But if you want solid monies, write harlequin romances and fanfiction, at least one book a weekend. The market is cruel. | /r/RedPillWives | 11/09/16 07:48 PM |
| 3 | Why he doesn't want to come home.Absolutely. It's not just about getting some space, or giving the same space you would want. Someone more extroverted could drain an introvert just by being in the room. But two pretty balanced people might get away with very little alone-time, as they both "shut down" at once and can be alone together with ease. Some people can't sleep alone. Some people sleep fitfully when they share a bed. It's all personal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/16 07:46 PM |
| 1 | Non-Mothers of RPW - Let's share our thoughts on parenting. Mother's of RPW, share your experience! Controversial Opinions Welcome.That's really helpful. And reassuring! :D One last question: you say you taught her to sign. Is there any advice on teaching signing to babies? | /r/RedPillWives | 10/09/16 09:11 PM |
| 2 | SAHM - side hustlesFrom a part-time worker on a full-time income, here's my posts on working from home: https://yourwifeisevolving.wordpress.com/category/work-from-home/ | /r/RedPillWives | 10/09/16 08:48 PM |
| 2 | Non-Mothers of RPW - Let's share our thoughts on parenting. Mother's of RPW, share your experience! Controversial Opinions Welcome.Good to know about the lack of comments! :) A few queries: -what is the milk-solids food ratio like? -how often do they feed once they're toddlers? -how do you handle that they are bigger, more mobile, and able to "reach" for what they want, even at bad times? -are there any adjustments that need to be made to the schedule or the places you go as they get bigger? | /r/RedPillWives | 10/09/16 12:14 PM |
| 2 | The great myth of male-female friendship.Since moving in together I've found it easier to focus on Jon's friends for socializing, as there are pre-existing social rules and they focus more on him than me, which helps a lot. I think I'm also more comfortable with Jon's company than other women's or men's company. He scratches the social itch, all attraction and sexual attention is appropriate, and we have a lot in common. Your second friend sounds a lot like a case of Westermarck Effect. Sometimes people who grow up closely together jus… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/16 03:24 PM |
| 2 | The great myth of male-female friendship.The core issue is: attraction happens. We can make sure no signals are sent in error, that any advances are nipped in the bud and that the attraction stays purely instinctive, but it can still happen. I have no doubt that, given a no-strings, no-risk option, most of my male friends from age thirteen onward would have had no issue "ruining" the friendship. Even my own relationship with Jon stemmed from an online friendship where, after exchanging social media and phone numbers, we both sort of "n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/16 02:41 PM |
| 2 | What does she mean when your LTR saysIt means she sees whatever attracted her to you as an unchangeable part of you. She sees you as consistent, and whatever changes she can see happening she can deal with. I could say I love Jon "unconditionally", even though certain things are essential. All it means is I am attracted to the integral parts of him: intellect, wit, drive, worldview, etc. If he turned into an obese, lazy, SJW white-knight with no hygiene overnight, then he would be gone. Whereas if he lost his job, his physical ailm… | /r/askTRP | 08/09/16 06:44 AM |
| 2 | Non-Mothers of RPW - Let's share our thoughts on parenting. Mother's of RPW, share your experience! Controversial Opinions Welcome.A few things that I've planned. -> Spending under £1000 on the ttc, pregnancy, preparations and first year of baby's life. So far so good. Thought it was ambitious, but so far I'm still under £400 and have almost everything I need, as well as a load of things I don't. Keeping fingers crossed! -> Writing a book on universal wisdoms for the child. Jon and I don't want to make the same mistake as our Boomer parents did and assume the world will not change for our kids. But we also need to hand down… | /r/RedPillWives | 08/09/16 05:41 AM |
| 9 | The great myth of male-female friendship.As one of those women who grew up eschewing female company: your guard is always up, at least a little bit, around male friends. There's more than one reason why tomboys wear baggy, masculine, or "man repelling" fashion, why even when we can wear makeup to a passable standard we generally don't, why we don't mind being accused of being lesbian or other forms of social shaming. The obvious reason is that we're more comfortable being slouchy, messy, and we really don't care what anyone but our nea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/16 05:07 AM |
| 1 | Can I be feminine ant into STEM and MMA?https://yourwifeisevolving.wordpress.com/2015/03/02/embrace-your-inner-tomboy-to-be-more-feminine/ Accepting my femininity does not mean stopping powerlifting, listening to metal, watching cartoons, doing the plumbing, studying, owning my own business, or eating steak like a wild cavewoman. It's just made me better able to dress up, nurture, cook and clean, and generally to communicate with feminine women and all kinds of men. Besides, I kind of like being able to pull of a dress sometimes, ya k… | /r/RedPillWives | 07/09/16 03:23 PM |
| 1 | Psychological Attraction1 and 4 were basically natural. 2 could be argued if you include plateaus: ie, wherever our relationship had to stop progressing, such as my brief stint at uni or the sex barrier. As far as 3 goes, we both seem keen to do anything for each other. As far as 5 goes, we're introverts, with some narcissistic and schizoid traits, and I'm still quite socially akward, so any non-intimidating eye contact counts as affectionate. :p | /r/RedPillWives | 07/09/16 03:18 PM |
| 3 | Ideally, how often do you want sex with your SO?Three times a day at least, but near constant intimate contact when we're together. The latter is fine, but the former is outside his (from my understandings] fairly typical male sex drive, so we have workarounds we've agreed on where we "help" each other or give the other a quiet room when we don't sync up. That actually works really well for us, as it doesn't leave him too pressured or me feeling unwanted. Talking and reaching agreements about these things is key. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/16 03:11 PM |
| 2 | What do women mean when they say they want "a man who's passionate?"Whenever I hear other women say that I think "extroverted", so I've never thought of myself as wanting someone "passionate". But then I heard other women describe my highly introverted husband as "passionate" in that he obsesses over things to a fault until they are just as he wants them. So maybe they just mean "attentive", or "energetic about the right things". | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/16 08:31 PM |
| 6 | Benefits of RP outside of your relationship?"Getting" other women was a big one. I used to be the wild tomboy who hated anything girly because to me it represented the preppy girls I grew up disliking. But RP has showed me that a lot of my own behaviours stem from the same root as the preppy, girly behaviours do, and also shown me the value of girlier girls and femininity. There's less confusion about femininity now, which means less anger towards it. I appreciate other women, in short. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/16 08:57 PM |
| 2 | Captain is obsessed with heavily tattooed women, not sure how to react when he sends me their photos.1: A little bit of jealousy doesn't hurt. Pouting and teasing him for the contrast between you and them, or getting a little clingy and possessive, as long as you don't give the impression you are truly upset, for some reason endears guys. Go figure. :p My favourite is if Jon spots a woman who turns his head, or is flirted with, I will hug him, kiss him and say "mine" to him. Always makes him smile, sometimes makes him laugh when it's particularly petty. Keeping it playful lets him know he is wa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/16 11:35 AM |
| 1 | First time posting in RPW and I gotta say, I'm surprised at the average age of the ladies hereJon and I read absolutely anything and everything, so he wound up on ROK a few times, as did I, and then some of the things he was sharing came from other manosphere sites so I checked them out. We were both tribally minded, traditional and not very bothered by political correctness to begin with, so incorporating the most solid elements of RP philosophy into "the database" made sense. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/16 11:24 AM |
| 3 | Sex, RPW, Your Man, and Youyou want him wondering every day of his life how it is he gets to come home to you. You want it to not make sense for him to wonder about what he's missing out on, because with you he is missing out on nothing. That HB9 walking down the street? Why would he be curious about her? Does she perform oral on him for no reason other than to please him like you do? Probably not - pass. The woman at the gym hitting on him, is he going to pause for 5 seconds about what she could offer him? No, because he… | /r/RedPillWives | 29/08/16 05:05 PM |
| 1 | Hobbies, Crafts, and Recipes Megathread:O I need to get my Halloween game back on. A friend wants to throw this elaborate party and I'm thinking some Japanese Oni would make nice and creepy decoration for this year's theme. | /r/RedPillWives | 29/08/16 04:49 PM |
| 2 | Hobbies, Crafts, and Recipes MegathreadFinished some projects for the baby recently. Among which: some appliqué reversible bibs, for cuteness, and a 0-6 Dr Who sleepsack for warm sleeping. Bibs side A: https://yourwifeisevolving.files.wordpress.com/2016/08/20151218_043759.jpg Bibs side B: https://yourwifeisevolving.files.wordpress.com/2016/08/20151218_043816.jpg Sleepsack: https://yourwifeisevolving.files.wordpress.com/2016/08/20151225_224529-e1472488733727.jpg Sleepsack fleece lining: https://yourwifeisevolving.files.wordpress.com/2… | /r/RedPillWives | 29/08/16 04:46 PM |
| 3 | Small reminders of your SOWhen we were long distance, he used to leave me a t-shirt of his to use as a night gown for the week. That was nice and it smelled of him and his house. Now I have a few necklaces he got me that I wear when I'm not doing too much work and can wear jewellery, and I sometimes still "steal" his t-shirts and mugs when he's not home. :p | /r/RedPillWives | 29/08/16 04:18 PM |
| 3 | Curious about becoming RPW after you've been with your guy for a whileSome love letters: http://susannaives.com/wordpress/2012/03/more-victorian-love-letters-and-the-basics-of-postage-stamp-flirtation/ http://victoriancontexts.pbworks.com/w/page/12407342/Examining%20Letters%20of%20Love%20and%20Courtship Some modern analyses: http://www.victoriaspast.com/Courtshipdance/courtshipdance.html Some slightly cruder or bolder ones, with an example of a response card: http://news.nationalgeographic.com/2016/01/160104-escort-cards-acquaintance-flirtation-victorian-america-d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/16 09:15 AM |
| 2 | Curious about becoming RPW after you've been with your guy for a whileCoyness is also a big part. Alphas are flattered by women who like them from the start. Sigmas like women who handle their own lives and know what they want. Extroverted higher Betas find forwardness refreshing. Introverted higher Betas find it motivating. But, however much I am pro-tomboy, I think there was a happy middle ground (between being openly interested and being modest] in the old art of coyness. Coyness was where you made it obvious you were interested in a guy through your actions, b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/16 04:25 PM |
| 1 | Cut Back Media: Cut Back Stress. 9 Steps To A Better Life.Might be a bit off mark because I don't need much human contact anyways, but for that "touching base with humanity" stuff, I sometimes go to a church-run craft group or volunteer at a charity shop. Positive energy, cups of tea, quiet work and productive socializing. Unsure how it would apply to the more extroverted, who need more regular interactions, though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/16 02:36 PM |
| 1 | Cut Back Media: Cut Back Stress. 9 Steps To A Better Life.You can also set up alerts and exceptions on leechblock, by the way! I have my husband's facebook message page added as an exception to the facebook blocks, so that if he needs to contact me and can't get through our awful phone signal, he can. And alerts let me know how much time I have left before I am rudely shoved off whatever site I am working on. I'm pretty sure my most essential work is done in that last minute! :p | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/16 06:07 PM |
| 1 | Cut Back Media: Cut Back Stress. 9 Steps To A Better Life.Well done for cutting out so much social media! And it definitely leaves life feeling more meaningful. Less stress, living more in the moment, calling or seeing people for updates, etc, makes a huge change to how we see the world. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/16 06:05 PM |
| 2 | Cut Back Media: Cut Back Stress. 9 Steps To A Better Life.You're doing great, but remember that there's nothing wrong with unwinding when you need to. Try out leechblock or something similar for Instagram. You will find it uses less of your day, but you still get the satisfaction from sharing images. Netflix is a better choice than standard TV schedules, but an easy way to avoid abusing it is to try and pick shows to watch in advance and to only watch them when doing something else. Most of my video viewing happens when I am sewing or ironing. It just … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/16 06:04 PM |
| 1 | Can We Both ‘Marry Up’?The softening of negative traits is another way that couples can benefit each other, well spotted! :D Sometimes having someone to help you stay calm, or pay attention, or focus, or get motivated, can be one of the biggest differences. | /r/RedPillWives | 23/08/16 06:00 PM |
| 2 | Can We Both ‘Marry Up’?Not too keen on the Marxist side, as that's pretty much in my distant past as "teenage mistakes" now. :p But I get what you're saying, and for that you need to build a community which wants to reach the same goals as you. For us, the social order we want is tribalism, so that is what we are doing: pairing, having children, being as self-sufficient as possible and keeping around friends who are also moving towards the same sort of life. This is even if they do not want the exact life we want. Cur… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/16 05:58 PM |
| 1 | Cut Back Media: Cut Back Stress. 9 Steps To A Better Life.This morning I had no US or UK political news in my feed. Just some updates from friends and random ads. It's not perfect, but it's an improvement from last year. Still not worth more than 10 minutes a day, though! And ads drive me insane. They're just getting more and more ridiculous, too. The companies know that people can tune ads out and are getting more desperate for attention. | /r/RedPillWives | 23/08/16 05:53 PM |
| 1 | Cut Back Media: Cut Back Stress. 9 Steps To A Better Life.I actually have different block lists on leechblock when it comes to social media: 1: Productivity limiters. Facebook and Twitter. I get a bit of time three times a day to check both in case of anything significant, to check for deals on local pages, etc. 2: Work but slow. Wordpress, reddit. A bit of time four times a day. They are good for blogging and blog social stuff, but not for paid work and they distract me. 3: Work focus. Anything I distract myself with when my paid work is difficult or … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/16 05:51 PM |
| 2 | Cut Back Media: Cut Back Stress. 9 Steps To A Better Life.I get the same thing with TV when I'm at other people's houses. But you've got to be a bit more careful when you live there. Also: having the TV on isn't the issue, it's getting lost in it. If they have the TV on and you have something productive you can do, or they are talking to you, then it's fine. But if it's just watching TV then you may want to leave the room. RescueTime sounds like an awesome addition to the site-blocking apps. That way I could see what I am actually doing when my compute… | /r/RedPillWives | 23/08/16 05:39 PM |
| 1 | Cut Back Media: Cut Back Stress. 9 Steps To A Better Life.I'm not sure Jon and I would have managed without mobiles at first, living a three hour drive away from each other. And we text pretty regularly too, sometimes as a replacement for other interactions. I think we just find it a non-tiring way of talking. TVs are easy to do without when they're just not there. Phones are very circumstantial and can become a part of life when you live as rurally as we do. Then again, not wanting a phone is fine, but there has to be some room to understand that one … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/16 05:35 PM |
| 5 | Can We Both ‘Marry Up’?That's because you're looking at it the wrong way round. It's not the sexual attraction that is the cornerstone of historic marriage and thus, of society until this stage. It was the product of sexual attraction. Raising children with a sense of identity and tribe, having as much paternal certainty as could be established, creating an inheritance and a legacy... that is what the most successful societies are built on. That is why marriage was the cornerstone: it created a situation where the sou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/16 10:10 PM |
| 1 | Can We Both ‘Marry Up’?Glad the post was helpful to you. :D I know it can be hard to straddle the boundaries between different things you believe and have found truth in. I'm very much of the mindset that the fence is the only place to truly be, after all, I agree with some of almost everything. IMHO, attaching yourself to an identity, be it feminism, RPW, religion, atheism, environmentalism, or whatever, just puts you in a defensive position. This is a simple summary of my stance on committing to ideologies: https://… | /r/RedPillWives | 22/08/16 04:59 PM |
| 1 | Can We Both ‘Marry Up’?Those are some good notes and references. Thank you for adding them. :D Might make a good post of its own. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/16 04:49 PM |
| 2 | Can We Both ‘Marry Up’?Yes, the points can be achieved in other ways. But how many people achieve them at all? It's too much for most people. It's a matter of committing to something or someone wholly, rather than only to yourself. Whether a partner or a friend, you both need to agree on a goal, on some sort of deadline, on a plan to get there and on each person's role. Not many people will be willing to invest so heavily in you. How many people do you have who are willing to look 2, 10, or 50 years ahead and say "Thi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/16 04:45 PM |
| 1 | Can We Both ‘Marry Up’?For more info on relationships as teamwork: https://yourwifeisevolving.wordpress.com/2015/03/30/marriage-as-a-team/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/16 10:59 AM |
| 1 | Can We Both ‘Marry Up’?But relationships, contrary to popular mantras, are not "all about love is love". They're about unity, bonds and purpose. We never used to be able to pick up and cast aside people based on the whimsy of feelings; rather, for almost all of human history we have selected people to form lasting ties with, to work towards a future together, with the understanding that unity and purpose serves every party to a relationship. The assumption of transience is a self-fulfilling prophecy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/16 10:54 AM |
| 1 | Red Pill is power. Here are some (amazing) benefits of taking TRP as a womanGlad to hear. :) Make sure to keep getting plenty of rest and eat well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/16 03:54 PM |
| 1 | Red Pill is power. Here are some (amazing) benefits of taking TRP as a womanI keep telling him this, but between being asocial and busy, he hasn't really got around to it. I even set him up a blog using a disqus moniker he used. But it's up to him in the end. Welcome back, and congrats on the new arrival. How are you holding up? | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/16 02:54 PM |
| 10 | Does the red pill attract shitty women?no woman is going to ghost you for escalating, if she does it's because you didn't achieve attraction and interest. A lot of guys seem to miss this. I was a complete virgin and wanted to wait it out a lot because reasons. So Jon lightly and constantly tested the waters and escalated as each step became available. He literally guided me through every first. This took months, I was that guarded. But I didn't resent him for wanting me. I still wanted to be around him, even after something made me n… | /r/askTRP | 20/08/16 06:26 AM |
| 2 | Does the red pill attract shitty women?Sigmas. The point is true, but I think OP is still in the stage of thinking there is only one way to be an Alpha. A casual look at Donald Trump, Marilyn Manson, Tim Burton and Ice T (to use a few examples you can easily find stories about], proves that not to be true. Thus, the extroverted, club-going, openly plate-spinning, bodybuilding, low-wealth-high-status frat-Alpha a lot of RP guys seem to aspire to may attract more plates than LTRs. But that doesn't mean the Alpha element is what is putt… | /r/askTRP | 20/08/16 06:17 AM |
| 2 | How to Become a Homemaker: Intro & Step 1Trust me, there's loads to write, loads more than you can imagine. Just sit down and think of a problem for your book to solve. Think of 10 solutions or steps to the solution. Those are your chapters. Divide them into an introduction, a development and a completion stage. Then write it out. Use your reddit and blog work to advertise your book. You can do it. ^ | /r/RedPillWives | 18/08/16 04:56 PM |
| 3 | Red Pill is power. Here are some (amazing) benefits of taking TRP as a womanJon's explanation for the male ratings and non-physical traits is "1-8+". Basically, there is no true 0 because at that point a girl doesn't register as female to a guy's brain. But there is also no 9 or 10, because guys idealize them both and they are subjective. The 8 is your subjective best, the 1 is your subjective worst, both are within parameter of what you want. Then we get the +. The + is basically an infinite number of extra points a woman can gain by being WOMAN+. If you are above aver… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/16 04:48 PM |
| 1 | Gift Boxes every monthJon and I hate spending money, so a lot of our gifts are nonphysical --although I DO make him a gift stocking for Christmas. Incorporating nonphysical gifts that he will enjoy into your box would be good: tickets to go somewhere, a flier from a local event, a recipe you are going to make for him, etc. And as you have already said: small useful things. Guys love getting something they wanted anyway, big or small. Jon likes it when he comes home and I've bought oatcakes, or got him something for t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/16 04:43 PM |
| 2 | How can I stay pleasant when I've had a sour life?As someone who comes from a background including: welfare fraud, alcoholic parent, long family history of bipolar spectrum including myself, poverty, suicide attempts, eating disorders, sexual abuse, etc, etc, etc: you just keep going. I came to realize a while back that you make your own happiness. Every person can only reflect on what they have lived, which used to make me a bit angry that someone who'd had an easy life might think not having dinner one night is the worst thing ever. But I've … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/16 04:36 PM |
| 2 | How to Become a Homemaker: Intro & Step 1Then publish it. :D Write what you know and love and get it nicely formatted. Blogger Hearthie recently did an awesome style book and I'm working on a long-term project called The Baby Budget Diaries, to be completed by December 2017. However soon or late you get it out, writing a book is awesome. | /r/RedPillWives | 18/08/16 03:44 PM |
| 2 | How to Become a Homemaker: Intro & Step 1FWIW, I did a book on the very basics of homemaking for those starting out. Sorry for hijacking a perfectly good free resource (you rock, SP!], but if anyone wants to support a RPW's writing and works and get a little step-by-step on homemaking, feel free to grab yourself a copy: https://www.amazon.com/ESSENTIAL-Beginner-Homemakers-Guide-ebook/dp/B01A1CQWS0 | /r/RedPillWives | 18/08/16 03:27 PM |
| 1 | Sometimes, I almost don't want it to workI wish I were an expert... that would mean understanding them. :P I can work with what I see and make sense of, but trust me when I say that everything I have read, divised and understood is the tip of the iceberg. Perhaps because they are so isolated from main society that, besides being Sigma, there is a lot of variability in their behaviour. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/16 08:45 PM |
| 2 | Sometimes, I almost don't want it to workCompliments falls into a level between affection and sex. Affection because, as you have correctly stated, they do not get many compliments so it really goes a long way. Sex because if you praise anything but his technical skills or intangible virtues, his mind may drift, at least briefly, to the facts that you desire him and that he needs to conquer you. "You look good in that shirt." "It always amazes me how strong you are." or "I feel so safe when you're here." can get even the 'simplest' man… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/16 08:42 PM |
| 2 | Sometimes, I almost don't want it to workIt's usually enabling his entertainment such as by setting up his favourite film, game or book ready for him; hosting events for him and his friends such as a dinner, or taking him places, giving him a break from being the one always planning and paying for everything. You don't need to do it a lot, but men don't always want to be the one clowning around and making great plans to impress you. Sometimes they just want to sit back and let someone else do the hard work. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/16 08:38 PM |
| 16 | Sometimes, I almost don't want it to workSometimes it catches me off guard how simple male relationship needs really are. They basically want: entertainment, sex, food, a little help and affection. And when they get it they're so damn happy. When I make Jon a tea without being asked, no matter how many times that day I have made a tea, he will always smile, or hug or stroke me, or say I'm "nice". That tiny thing can make him radiate joy. But the reality of the situation is a little more complex than just "men are simple". Just bear in … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/16 04:09 PM |
| 1 | Can Personality be Changed?To be honest, I think trying to work out what is permanent and what is not interferes with improvement. I used to be quite bland, asocial, uncomfortable and dependent. Although those are things that many would argue are inherent to a person and that I would always be awkward and shy, I started taking cues from anime characters to develop a richer, more likeable, more outgoing personality. It took little bits from characters I admired, like Nico Robin, Belldandy, or Lum. What started as a shell h… | /r/RedPillWives | 08/08/16 04:00 PM |
| 1 | My Captain is a Sigma and I can't keep upHe laughed when I asked him to do this. In his eyes this is not very cost-benefit, so he won't ever consider to read to me out loud. Only if I would be sick, than he would do anything! Did that, but could understand a bit of it. One thing was a 150 page analysis of the international law about the annexation of the krim and the other was a 300 page Bitcoin market analysis. First of all I need to get some basics. It does sound like you need to do a bit of reading of your own first. Reading to each… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/16 06:52 AM |
| 2 | Hobbies, Crafts, and Recipes MegathreadAww, thanks. ^ I guess obsessiveness does pay off... :P | /r/RedPillWives | 31/07/16 07:47 PM |
| 2 | Hobbies, Crafts, and Recipes MegathreadHe's more excited about the practical features: straps fitted to his shoulders and reinforced with thin metal/thick wire, ties to attach his coat or spare shoes, and a pocket for his favourite treats. But as long as he enjoys it, the exact bits he appreciates don't matter that much. :P | /r/RedPillWives | 31/07/16 07:15 PM |
| 3 | Hobbies, Crafts, and Recipes MegathreadI made myself this bag a while back: https://yourwifeisevolving.files.wordpress.com/2014/06/20140517_130756.jpg So now I made Jon one. Here is is just sitting there: https://yourwifeisevolving.files.wordpress.com/2016/07/20151122_040002.jpg?w=614&h=1024 https://yourwifeisevolving.files.wordpress.com/2016/07/20151122_040055.jpg?w=614&h=1024 Loaded and worn: https://yourwifeisevolving.files.wordpress.com/2016/07/20151122_040706.jpg https://yourwifeisevolving.files.wordpress.com/2016/07/20151122_04… | /r/RedPillWives | 31/07/16 02:30 PM |
| 8 | My Husband Ignores Me: an excellent post by Laura DoyleAlso, remember that some men need to recharge. We know Sigmas, autists and schizoid types may need to, but more common and less obvious are everyday introverts, men who use their brain a lot at work, extreme empaths, or men who are not the top dog in their current jobs. Many such men come home tired, not necessarily physically, but mentally, emotionally and socially. He's not ignoring you: he's just enjoying a little bit of headspace and will be back in the real world once he's recharged a bit. … | /r/RedPillWives | 31/07/16 02:16 PM |
| 1 | How to be kind without leading men on?True. But some men will persist after being kicked in the testes. Denial apparently hurts less than rejection. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/16 06:20 PM |
| 5 | Lunch ideas?I keep all my recipes here: https://yourwifeisevolving.wordpress.com/category/recipe-corner/ There is generally a way to get them tuppered up and ready for Jon at work, too. They're not hard to make portable. PS: He's a bit of a fussy eater, although less so than when we first met, and he needs a lot of food to keep his gains from the gym, so most of those should be adaptable to your guy. Plus, try out "meat in bread". It's like a pie in bread, or a bread full of stew, it's lovely. Just make dou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/16 03:39 PM |
| 1 | Let's take a fun quiz!My score adds up with what Jon's friends have said about me "you're not quite a girl, more just 'one of us'". I take it as a compliment because I really have no incentive to change. But, as a test, if I respond assuming they mean towards Jon rather than to everyone in general my feminine score skyrockets. Jon brings out the softness in me, but most people just get the harsh treatment. There's a girl in here somewhere. :P | /r/RedPillWives | 29/07/16 09:11 PM |
| 1 | Let's take a fun quiz!"You scored 75 out of 100 masculine points, 37.5 out of 100 feminine points, and 54.167 out of 100 androgynous (neutral) points." Card-carrying tomboy. :P | /r/RedPillWives | 29/07/16 09:05 PM |
| 1 | Name one thing you'd like to change about yourself to improve your relationship?Right now: I want to talk about something other than the pregnancy and babies. Jon needs slightly richer conversation and I need some life perspective. :P | /r/RedPillWives | 29/07/16 08:51 PM |
| 4 | Bombshell Aesthetics: The Most Attractive Female BodyGrowing up around skinny Mediterranean girls and not having had another partner, I used to feel so self conscious when Jon would feel my hip fat, pinch my thighs or rake his fingers over my belly to create folds. It felt like I was being critiqued. It was only when I actually asked him that I found out the reason: "I like it. Women need to be a little bit soft, but if I push the muscles are nice and strong underneath. Plus, your skin is smooth." With a greater knowledge about female health and a… | /r/RedPillWives | 29/07/16 08:49 PM |
| 6 | How to be kind without leading men on?I hit that issue with my work. One on one tuition, even if mostly online, is a hard field to handle boundaries in! My tips: 1: Dress nicely, and perhaps a little matronly. I wear anime-hippie clothes that keep me covered whilst making me feel girly and cool. I found blouses and fitted suit skirts are far too fetishized for work like that. 2: Be polite, smile, but don't be afraid to be a bit awkward, stubborn or sometimes even rude. Treat them like another woman. That little "bite" sometimes keep… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/16 08:19 PM |
| 2 | Instinct to start a familyI've had it from as soon as Jon and I discussed babies as a couple. That was four years before we started trying. I feel your pain. Ultimately, just work your life towards making it happen. Look out for the right man, or talk to your partner if you have one, tie up loose ends with education and work so that you aren't caught with a baby and nothing to fall back on once the child grows, spend time working with kids or caring for children of relatives. The wait is worthwhile. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/16 08:09 PM |
| 1 | Can we talk about prenups?I didn't care about marriage and would have happily signed a prenup. Jon refused to have children outside of marriage and figured if divorce were a concern he would not marry me. Ultimately they are the stronger force. Whether they are pro or con marriage, children, prenups or whatever, you either go along or you find someone else. A man who can be easily swayed is not a man worth sticking to anyway. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/16 08:06 PM |
| 2 | My Captain is a Sigma and I can't keep upWas invited in br u/VigilantRedRooster, but I'm a bit late to the party! I hit a similar snag with my Sigma husband recently. Usually we both read a lot and "regurgitate" information at each other. But since I got pregnant the one thing on my brain is "baby baby baby", so my reading has become very... single-topic. He, on the other hand, has kept reading broadly. I'd say he still reads the exact same stuff as before plus a bit about babies. And that's always intimidating. But there are ways arou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/16 07:52 PM |
| 3 | Sigma appreciation moment.Often Sigmas, like introverted tomboys, INTJs, INTPs, and basically any other rarer personality type, will have traits associated with behavioural disorders, or even high-functioning mental disorders. Drawing the line between the two is hard, as independent introverts tend to be completely uninhibited and will therefore act against social norms and expectations not because they have no choice (ie, aspergers] but because they have the options and prefer to be "weird". Then again, some Sigmas ARE … | /r/RedPillWives | 29/07/16 07:39 PM |
| 1 | I have a boyfriend but i'm bi-sexual. My eyes are starting to stray. I'm afraid of myself. Please help.Unpopularity-time for me, but I'd rather point this out than not. FWIW, one of the longest lasting and most stable relationships I know is a 14 year open relationship comprising a high-T bisexual woman and a high-T heterosexual man. They are basically a married couple, but both of them have sexual needs far beyond their emotional bonding. They have set boundaries, only indulge together or when the other approves it, and never get in emotional or financial relationships with the girls they see. A… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/16 08:40 PM |
| 1 | Shit-Testing Doesn't Always Happen to Your SOFrom this it sounds like there are two types of inter-male shit tests: the constructive teasing of the master and the plea for reassurance from the student. Not that any man is always master or always student, not even necessarily in the same relationship, but it sounds like there is a split. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/16 04:34 PM |
| 1 | CookingGetting good at cooking is more about taking individual things and getting really good at them. If you can master frying, roasting and boiling, get in control of four or five spices and become an expert at three recipes, you will eat healthier, better meals than the vast majority of people already. The more often you cook each recipe, the better of a cook you are. Each time you add a new recipe, you are "worse" for a bit. When you master it, you're better again. Just keep adding and building. PS… | /r/askTRP | 09/07/16 12:05 PM |
| 2 | Shit-Testing Doesn't Always Happen to Your SOWithin families, I've found that a lot of men shit test their brothers and fathers too. Got to witness a weird one with Jon and his brother. We ask a favour of an elderly relative, who accepts. Brother goes apeshit because he was not consulted first, despite not having to do anything at all and despite the fact he often asks similar things of the same relative. Then he demands that we not rearrange and continues to complain and attack Jon's explanation of the situation. In this time Jon has foun… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/16 11:09 AM |
| 1 | Why do guys post in RedPillWoman?If you think my Domestic Dictator post is just about not nagging, then I'm not sure how you reached that. It's an observation of female nature (women often focus so much on getting things "right" that we don't do what is best] where correction has potential to: -> reduce anxiety via elimination of an unnecessary stress source (perfectionism and fixation on details], for example "Sometimes things can wait, so prioritize, reschedule and calm down. There's always tomorrow." "Being the perfect cook … | /r/askTRP | 09/07/16 10:27 AM |
| 3 | How do you text like a RPW?Is it okay to tease when you text-flirt? -Yep, but try and keep to the banter teasing, and less off the sexual or emotional taunting. Men are very sensitive to women's interest or lack thereof, but not too sensitive about personal attributes and hardly sensitive at all about incidents or actions. How do you let a guy know you're into him without actually asking him out yourself? -I told Jon "I think I like you more than I should" via text. He responded "I like you just as much as I should". A bi… | /r/RedPillWives | 08/07/16 10:00 PM |
| 2 | Can I attract a man with SMV while dressing goth?You can attract a man with SMV dressed in tracksuits and trainers as long as they flatter your figure and you are pleasant, smart and nurturing towards him. That said, as FleetingWish said, you need to draw the line between alternative and offputting. Docs might not turn a guy off, but Marilyn Manson makeup just might... | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/16 09:51 PM |
| 1 | Why do guys post in RedPillWoman?I don't think it's an issue. However different the sexes are, we all have brains and can evaluate information critically if we choose to do so. Plus, bad advice can come from female biases as much as it can come from male lack of experience. At the end of the day it always boils down to trial and error anyways, so I'm glad for any strong contributions. | /r/askTRP | 08/07/16 09:45 PM |
| 1 | Why do guys post in RedPillWoman?Actually, a lot of it is about homemaking, supporting men in their pursuits, getting a hotter body, balancing money and housekeeping, requests for advice, how to vet men for long term relationship quality and field reports on un/successful dating and relationship strategies. Because that is what it takes to attract better men. Although I personally think all women could do with cultivating academic knowledge and handy skills too, there is no denying that what it takes to attract men is very diff… | /r/askTRP | 08/07/16 09:44 PM |
| 1 | Guy friends are for social and emotional support. Women are for fucking.Their body language and posture and facial expressions are weird. They talk about strange things and use unusual language to do so. Their vocal inflections are off. Sometimes, they say inappropriate things. They don’t emote when they should. Or they do emote, but not appropriately based on the interaction. Note: If you know a guy who acts weird, talks weird, discusses strange things, displays no empathy, makes socially inappropriate comments, doesn't emote, emotes sarcastically in response to ot… | /r/TheRedPill | 08/07/16 09:25 PM |
| 2 | Laissez-Faire Homemaking.A lot of them mellow out as the kids hit their teens or leave the nest, but a few unfortunate friends had nitpicking mothers right into adulthood. The sort who go round your house and just tut at everything and try and start cleaning. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/16 12:28 PM |
| 4 | Comfortable Friendship or a Steamy Sex Life-someone to spend extended periods of time with -someone to talk to about important and unimportant events -someone to watch anime and films with -someone to look on and comment and help as we game/do art -someone to do weights, go walking, do shopping and generally go places with It helps that we're both introverts and I retained all my tomboy hobbies, though. Cause we can both rave about options for the new bike, and even if I don't care for cars, I'll hear him out on them. And I would rather … | /r/RedPillWives | 07/07/16 01:57 PM |
| 2 | Laissez-Faire Homemaking.This was something I used to find amusing as a kid. The number of mothers who go around saying "I've got this, put that down, I'm doing this" and then say "nobody ever helps around here, you'll be sorry when I'm not around". | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/16 01:51 PM |
| 3 | Insulting a Man while Cultivating AdorationTHIS. A great way of learning some good ones is to listen in on male banter. From Jon: Around a day into getting to know each other: "Women can't be leaders, just think of the Egyptians, living in tetrahedrons and shit! Disgraceful!" When a mess was made in the kitchen: "You need discipline, the dog needs discipline, the oven needs discipline." About his diet that day: "Around half my body mass right now is already energy drinks, and the other half is a mix of cider, oatcakes and tea." About a g… | /r/RedPillWives | 07/07/16 05:43 AM |
| 3 | Little Question about Etiquette/boyfriend's preferences?There is an odd thing when it comes to men and food. Not all men are like this (I mean, Jon isn't and he's normally my first reference], but from talking to both women my age, current 30-something mothers and the older generation, it seems a lot of men are awkward about ordering food. Some older men have refused to go to the counter to place an order most of their lives! These men can be perfectly assertive in every other aspect of their lives, dominant captains in their relationship, and balk a… | /r/RedPillWives | 07/07/16 05:25 AM |
| 3 | Laissez-Faire Homemaking.I can sense from your comment that you're doing a great job with your home and are proud of it, which is awesome. But from what you're saying it also seems like perfectionism is bringing some negativity and stress into your day too. Make sure you give yourself time to relax and breathe, and remember that as long as the family is happy, you're doing a good job, whether you worked two hours or twenty that day! Home is their, and your, safe haven, so it needs to be welcoming and orderly, but also r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/16 05:20 AM |
| 1 | Laissez-Faire Homemaking.Good to hear. :) | /r/RedPillWives | 07/07/16 05:14 AM |
| 1 | Laissez-Faire Homemaking.That's a great perspective! I think you're right, in that if a homemaker didn't have control, stress or anger issues about the housework before, then Laissez-Faire might not quite be what they need! I have my own rules as well, and I can see how without them everything would be chaotic. But I also know that sometimes there isn't time for everything and try really hard not to let a suddenly busy day ruin my week. I think the schedule needs to come first, and the relaxation needs to come afterward… | /r/RedPillWives | 07/07/16 05:13 AM |
| 3 | Comfortable Friendship or a Steamy Sex LifeShort form: Jon's my closest friend and I'm one of his best friends. We still get up to everything in bed. 50 shades has nothing on us. So... disagree. | /r/RedPillWives | 07/07/16 05:05 AM |
| 2 | Laissez-Faire Homemaking.Sorry to hear about your struggles, but I'm glad your medication is helping and that you're getting more relaxed about perfection. I hope everything continues to improve for you. :) I have cyclothymia myself, so I know a bit about how a disorder can eat away at normal behaviour when it's unchecked! Stay strong. | /r/RedPillWives | 06/07/16 05:11 PM |
| 2 | Laissez-Faire Homemaking.Well said! The other thing to remember is that hard work isn't the same as important work. I got a little offended the other day when I asked Jon what he liked about my housekeeping. He said "You cook me good food for work, you make me oatcakes, you help with the weights and you look after the dog." At first I was offended. Cooking, especially things like oatcakes which are essentially sandwiches, takes no time at all. Helping with weights isn't time or energy intensive, and not really housework… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/16 05:08 PM |
| 1 | Laissez-Faire Homemaking.I guess it all comes down to being more organized and focused, and less emotional about the whole thing. Very much so! I know it can be hard, and nobody is perfect. The only reason I gave this so much thought is that I was on track to becoming a Domestic Dictator at the expense of my home, sanity and family, so I had to work against perfectionism. So I know how it feels to be overwhelmed and wonder if anything will work out. With schedules, I found that the day of the week thing really helps. Bu… | /r/RedPillWives | 06/07/16 04:46 PM |
| 2 | Laissez-Faire Homemaking.That is such a good expression! Adding it to the list. :D | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/16 04:38 PM |
| 1 | Laissez-Faire Homemaking.Realizing that my husband is so awesome about not caring if the house isn't up to my standards. In fact, I'm pretty grateful that he doesn't see mess at all. The things he cares about are happy kids and good food; everything else comes a pretty distant third. I think this is a big one. You may think nothing is right until it's just as you want it. But your family love you and your work even as you're wondering why you can't get XYZ juuust right. When you feel the frenzy is getting the better of … | /r/RedPillWives | 06/07/16 02:47 PM |
| 2 | Laissez-Faire Homemaking.There are a few things you could consider to start getting you on track to relaxing. 1: Check out the Fly Lady books. Her approach to tidying, starting at the kitchen sink and making sure you are proud of everything, no matter how small, is less stressful and more rewarding than the mad panic and anger that accompanies domestic dictatorship. 2: Ask yourself why your husband helps less. It may be that he has a lot of work on. It may be that he was put off by criticism or your anger in the past; e… | /r/RedPillWives | 06/07/16 02:41 PM |
| 1 | Laissez-Faire Homemaking.The worst part is, she probably felt she was helping, like she was working so hard to keep everything in order and in line, like everyone would be happy if the house was sorted just right, missing the big picture for the sake of domestic perfection. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/16 09:30 AM |
| 4 | Laissez-Faire Homemaking.Oops. Thanks for this. I can do LF, but only when I'm so burnt out that I stop caring. Ouch, that's not good! Burn out is the complete opposite of relaxation and happiness. What do you think could help you unwind when you're worked up? Where do you think you could start letting go of perfectionism? Often we need to make tiny steps to start and then move along when we're comfortable with the first bit. For example, my relaxation is writing, gardening, playing with the dog, sewing or sketching. An… | /r/RedPillWives | 06/07/16 08:42 AM |
| 3 | Laissez-Faire Homemaking.Yeah, it can be so easy to get caught up cleaning and tidying and just feel more and more stressed as though finishing the cleaning is the only thing that will relax us. When in reality sometimes we need to just let it go and do something else. Keeping creative and happy is very important and I think we all need to aim to make time for crafts and sports and time out with friends and family. | /r/RedPillWives | 06/07/16 08:36 AM |
| 6 | What are the best blogs/websites that give traditional dating advice to women?It's my philosophy that you need to cultivate yourself as an objet d'art in order to become an asset to the man (who will be] in your life. It's not just about being lovely, but also attractive, domestic, pleasant, educated, hard working, relaxed, unstubborn and fun. Thus, you will need a collection of blogs that not only offer dating advice, but that show you how to look after a home, help you understand what men go through every day, guide you on a path to fitness, health and beauty, and teach… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/16 07:33 AM |
| 3 | A Red Pill Framework for RPW Vetting MenAs someone who primarily deals with introverts in all of life, I think it's also worth noting the differences between introverts and extroverts. Both on the Alpha and Beta scales, an introvert may seem uninterested and detached whilst deeply caring for you, or he may seem quiet, warm and agreeable despite being narcissistic, cold and calculating. An apparent Beta may turn out to be a completely independent Sigma or an apparent Alpha may turn out to be insecure and needy. You need more exposure t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/16 07:23 AM |
| 2 | What are your unpopular opinions?I meet men who meet the standard criteria set for RP masculinity. Not necessarily RP, but definitely playing the game the same way: present characteristics first, suggest value, stay confident and aloof, etc. It just annoys me unless I know the value is actually there. Always seems more like a teenager trying to be edgy to me. | /r/RedPillWives | 06/07/16 07:06 AM |
| 2 | What do you wish someone told you before choosing your first job?You ultimately work for yourself wherever you work. It takes blood, sweat and tears to get anywhere on any career path, so start walking towards the place you want to be in 10 or 20 years. And if you'd rather be self employed, get into a niche or follow an odd path, start now, not later. Carpe diem, basically. Case studies: I dropped out of uni, left several projects behind and went straight into self-employment after realizing that a degree would not actually improve my chosen path. Jon wishes … | /r/askTRP | 30/06/16 10:31 PM |
| 3 | "I'd love to be a mom/dad."Jon: "There need to be more of me." No confusion there, I suppose. | /r/TheRedPill | 30/06/16 10:24 PM |
| 3 | What are your unpopular opinions?It was doing the rounds as a joke for a bit and I felt the post was pretty hostile so I added something lighter. :P Run a quick search, it was funny. | /r/RedPillWives | 30/06/16 08:33 PM |
| 13 | What are your unpopular opinions?A lot, because I don't actually ascribe to any particular ideology, so technically I'm a bit unpopular everywhere. :P Unpopular in the mainstream: -there are racial and ethnic differences beyond appearance, that underlie health, personality and even social trends -sex is an amazing thing and if you can't enjoy it, you're a messed up human -people tend to conform to stereotypes and there is no use denying it, most women are feminine, most children are childish, most cats are catty -we will never … | /r/RedPillWives | 30/06/16 08:28 PM |
| 1 | Cookers vs. CleanersViewed as two sets of personalities (not inherently completely linked to cooking or cleaning], it makes a little more sense. Some people want to nurture, others to protect. Nurturers will be more creative, softer, desperate to produce. Protectors will be more defensive, harsher, on the lookout for the good and the bad. That said, my cyclothymia throws me a lot between the two. One day/hour/minute I will be full of energy, happy with everyone and eager to feed and care for those around me. Anothe… | /r/RedPillWives | 30/06/16 08:08 PM |
| 1 | Monk Mode and RPW: a story of failure and rebound.They can be hard to detect as you need to see a lot of them to make sense of it, and by their very nature you may not see a lot of them. If a guy is not competing with the Alpha or directly placating him, he is probably a Sigma. If a guy doesn't beg for attention or women or money or help but seems to get everything he needs, he is probably a Sigma. If a guy turns down the advances of women or Betas with weariness or mockery rather than concern or feigned humility, he is probably a Sigma. | /r/RedPillWives | 30/06/16 07:47 PM |
| 1 | Monk Mode and RPW: a story of failure and rebound.In the end, your ability to analyse relationships, to introspect and your desire to not be a burden will pay off, trust me. All of them are great traits to have, especially in a world where so many people are not very aware of their surroundings and the path their lives are on. But you will need to focus on discovering your own values and nurturing and promoting them for now. And that includes improving social awareness! ^ It all comes together in the end. | /r/RedPillWives | 27/06/16 12:16 PM |
| 1 | Monk Mode and RPW: a story of failure and rebound.I never met Sigmas: -when I was trying to be cool and fit in -through friends and family -in public places I had only seen them from a distance or in fiction before, never actually met one. Then, I met one Sigma, Jon, on an online counterpolitical type forum. Although he is my pick, mysteriously when you're with a Sigma you meet many more Alphas and Sigmas suddenly. I know a few of each now. I think the non-competition for status allows them to migrate socially a lot more, but they can also affo… | /r/RedPillWives | 27/06/16 11:48 AM |
| 1 | Monk Mode and RPW: a story of failure and rebound.Yeah, even when we have masculine interests or ways of thinking, the girly motivations and focus spread always sneaks in. A huge part of lifting weights is looking good. A lot of hiking is foraging. The only reason I do plumbing and wood chopping is to save money. Seeing what motivates women made me feel a lot closer to other women. We go about it different ways, but our vanity, desire to hoard and domestic drives are still there. | /r/RedPillWives | 27/06/16 11:30 AM |
| 2 | Monk Mode and RPW: a story of failure and rebound.Yeah, it makes all the difference when you analyse your own responses. When every part of you is saying "ugh, why am I doing this again?", then it's hard to think of the relationship progressing. Doesn't matter if it's putting out the laundry or giving money or something crazy he wants in bed, if you have alarm bells going off, they won't go away any time soon. But if anything is fine as long as it's for him, and it stays that way, then there's something good there you're picking up on. | /r/RedPillWives | 25/06/16 05:41 AM |
| 1 | Just some food for thought: Men and women with strong math backrounds were given math tests, women performed equally to men before being told of a sex difference.Seconded on the averages. A woman with the same background and IQ as a guy, in the same field, will probably be the same. But near the very top and bottom of the curve that woman is rarer than that man. That said, women also get hit dizzy when we know men are watching. No idea why. I recall that studies have found women also perform worse physically when a man is watching, which holds out in my experience too. When Jon spots for me I'm fine, but if he stands right over me, guides me with his han… | /r/TheRedPill | 24/06/16 05:46 AM |
| 2 | Baby #1 officially on the way!TL;DR: Men can and often do possess both traditionally Alpha and Beta traits. The most interesting men are rarely clear cut. What most women want is a blend, a manicorn of sorts. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/16 10:42 PM |
| 5 | Baby #1 officially on the way!Why not both? The Alpha/Beta split is good for illustration purposes, but really a false dichotomy. Many Betas can develop Alpha traits without going all the way. Many Alphas possess desirable provider traits. Plus, after that you have variants, such as the fact that on the complete scale a "Beta" is like a lieutenant whereas the average is "Delta", or that introverted Alphas have their own category: "Sigma". Example: My husband is still sexy after over five years together (and almost three of c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/16 08:55 PM |
| 1 | How to be a great wife?Keep an eye out on Wowcher and similar sites, check out the Open University for video and online courses, and always begin with free YouTube tutorials. You might find you pick up enough through tutorials that you don't need to worry about a paid course. ^ | /r/askTRP | 19/06/16 07:35 PM |
| 1 | How to be a great wife?Always glad to help! | /r/askTRP | 18/06/16 09:51 PM |
| 3 | How to be a great wife?My husband gets joint pains from several past injuries and from weight lifting. Twists, aches, DOMS, the lot. Consider learning to give deep tissue, rehab and relaxation massages. Then give them in the nude. It's a nice experience for him if he's not in the mood. It's a necessary cool-down and a pretty sight for him if he is in the mood. | /r/askTRP | 18/06/16 08:06 PM |
| 2 | How to be a great wife?Try two subtler steps if he doesn't like turning you down: 1: Initiate passively. Dress up, adjust your clothes to show a little underwear or more figure, sit in his lap, grab his bum, anything that might get him in the mood without directly demanding sex. Dress is important and you've got it, but flirting and touching can be sensual without being demanding too! 2: Accept proactively. When he initiates, play along, put up (really obvious] mock resistance, toy with him, feel him up. Reciprocate a… | /r/askTRP | 18/06/16 08:01 PM |
| 3 | The Unpassable Shit-TestsStory time. Jon was not born rich, wrecked one knee in a bike accident as a teenager, developed arthritis in the other one due to the way he walked after the accident, got shoved through the university mill, got into work just as his field of choice imploded and avoided women for several years to improve himself, at points beginning to lose hope that he would ever finish improving and become a normal guy again. Now our savings almost beat 85% of other 18-35 year olds, he works out in the gym eve… | /r/TheRedPill | 18/06/16 07:53 PM |
| 3 | Baby #1 officially on the way!Different goals. Women seek long term stability, so the best result for us is a man who will marry (really or effectively], have kids with us and look after us. Non-attachment is a bad bet for women, attachment is a bad bet for men, we want to be a good bet. So we cultivate the traits which will make a decent man stay. :P | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/16 07:34 PM |
| 3 | If a woman is supposed to be submissive, are her needs less important?Submissiveness is more about putting the relationship first than your man. If your man isn't also putting the relationship before himself, it can cause trouble. Men from non-comittal Alpha players, to passive and cowardly Betas/Deltas, to abusive and insecure males across the spectrum are all putting themselves before the relationship and before the joint future. But that's why places like RPW exist: to help us find the balance between finding a man whose goals match ours and actually stepping b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/16 06:12 AM |
| 1 | Can I get some RPW advice on a delicate financial situation? I'm having trouble being a good first mate!Some insight into where the conflict of understanding comes from: https://yourwifeisevolving.wordpress.com/2016/04/04/men-are-risk-takers-women-are-risk-averse/ It's up to you to decide what you want and have that discussion with your fiance. But bear in mind it's his job to take risks, just as it's yours to play it safe, and you're both technically doing your jobs by having this conversation. You need to make sure he can take the risks he needs to in order to grow and build with you, but you al… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/16 05:53 AM |
| 3 | Handling hurt feelings?-End the conversation. Don't go quiet. Just say "Can we talk about this when I'm calmer?" -Show affection. Let him know with your actions that he is still loved and wanted. Show him that the argument doesn't change the relationship. Plus, physical contact and acts of kindness reinforce the positivity, rather than the negativity. -Realize that the source of hurt feelings is internal and your problem is external. Your feelings will get hurt again, even if you get your way. The problem will be gone… | /r/RedPillWives | 06/06/16 04:34 PM |
| 4 | What about those guys who are clueless?If you're into the introverted, quiet, nose-in-a-book type, they pretty much require you to make the first move. Either they can't tell or they can't be bothered. The easy way to tell them apart is that the genuinely clueless guy won't flirt back, whereas the guy who's prioritizing something else will flirt and play, but then when you're sure he's about to make a move, will open a book or go to the gym or change the topic. The former is a beta that doesn't know how to take charge. The latter jus… | /r/RedPillWives | 06/06/16 04:03 PM |
| 1 | Uplifting and girly animes.Sounds cool. Will give it a shot later. :D | /r/RedPillWives | 02/06/16 05:29 AM |
| 1 | Uplifting and girly animes.I haven't heard of those two at all! Looking into them now. Thank you. | /r/RedPillWives | 02/06/16 05:28 AM |
| 6 | Wedding Stories!Jon and I went for literally bare bones: a few relatives, a registry office, a night out of drinking and a meal together. We dressed up a bit and his brother snapped some pictures, but it was the most basic wedding it could be. And it was perfect. I would have hated to spend a few thousand on a single day and be surrounded by people who dislike each other and have the stress of planning an event like that. So it can literally be as simple as that, if that's what you want. The wedding's not the i… | /r/RedPillWives | 02/06/16 05:25 AM |
| 2 | Dealing with being kicked back for acting in an RPwives way.Jon's mother thought I was abusive and my family thought he was abusive. People are weird and set their standards to your life. Ignore them, or turn it back to them. "Why wouldn't I get him a hot drink? He's had a hard day, it would be cruel to act like he was still bright eyed and bushy tailed. It's the little acts of kindness that make this relationship work." | /r/RedPillWives | 30/05/16 03:56 PM |
| 3 | Uplifting and girly animes.I like anime because they tend to have a good wins/ positive undertones even when ridiculously terrible things happen to the characters. It reinforces that there are good honorable people. This. Even the gory action stuff is usually either "life is hard and unfair, but it's like that for everyone, so work hard" or "life is hard and unfair, but also beautiful and wonderful". It's somewhere between a reflection of reality and a break from it. I remember my sister and some of her friends loving Fru… | /r/RedPillWives | 28/05/16 11:18 AM |
| 1 | Uplifting and girly animes.Spice and Wolf I remember liking as a manga and then forgetting about it. Need to rewatch. And Sekirei sounds interesting too. | /r/RedPillWives | 28/05/16 11:15 AM |
| 2 | Uplifting and girly animes.Ghibli = yes! Never thought of them as in the girly category, but they're definitely light-hearted, fun and cute. Great suggestions. :D | /r/RedPillWives | 28/05/16 11:14 AM |
| 2 | Uplifting and girly animes.YW, have a good look through the comments for other recommendations as well. I remember a load of girls loving Chobits, OHSHC and Fruits Basket when I was younger. | /r/RedPillWives | 28/05/16 11:13 AM |
| 1 | Uplifting and girly animes.Black Lagoon is awesome! Sort of like a South-African action film in animated format. Currently rewatching Hellsing when writing and following Bungou Stray Dogs too. Can't be drawn from the violent stuff, but broadening horizons is a part of my "girly isn't bad" therapy. :P I remember seeing an ad for Chobits when I was around 12 and never looking any further into it. Maybe ought to get onto watching it. | /r/RedPillWives | 28/05/16 11:13 AM |
| 2 | How to be more organized WITHOUT being more crankyMarried, running 5 different work projects @20h/week, full time and largely sole housekeeper, growing our own food, dog and a cat. (PS: Bipolar, woo! So whatever I do I get the boom and bust cycle you describe, which sucks, but my schedule is actually designed to minimize the crash and make the most of the mania, so maybe it will help.] So I have a lot on my plate, but it may not be applicable to your situation. Anyways, my tricks for staying on schedule: 1: Make a list of tasks that need to be … | /r/RedPillWives | 27/05/16 03:05 PM |
| 1 | Tiny little post just to say...Congrats! :D | /r/RedPillWives | 27/05/16 11:27 AM |
| 1 | What is your favorite method of sipping sparkling water?With gin, a squeeze of lime and a massive slice of chocolate cake on the side. TTC has really upset my sparkling water habit. :( | /r/RedPillWives | 27/05/16 11:19 AM |
| 1 | What are your SOs quirks?-Whenever something is not doing exactly what he wants it to, he spends a while going round declaring it "needs a beating". In the last 24h, the rape/canola crop needs a beating, the cat needs a beating, the weather needs a beating, the dog needs a beating, I need a beating and his brother needs a beating. -His commitment modes are 0% or 100%. If he's not committed to something, be it an idea, a plan or whatever, he will drop it for anything. If he is, he will not let go until his mission is com… | /r/RedPillWives | 27/05/16 11:11 AM |
| 2 | Whittling the waist.I eat virtually no vegetable fats at all, so I take a balanced 3:6:9 blend to try and keep on top. Flax, walnut, that sort of things in the blend. Increasing 3 increased hip girth on its own, but the balanced mix doesn't change anything wherever I am. And sodium total doesn't need to be low. It's just wiser to not add it when you are eating foods with natural salts anyway. Seafood or offal have more than enough salt to make your diet "average" in sodium. | /r/RedPillWives | 26/05/16 04:24 PM |
| 1 | Whittling the waist.Great info on posture, thank you very much! | /r/RedPillWives | 26/05/16 11:02 AM |
| 1 | Whittling the waist.True on Omega 6! Though if you clean up your diet and supplement enough Omega 3, you end up needing it again. The balance is quite delicate. And salt is an odd one. I think the average human only benefits from around 1g of added salt a day, dependent on sodium in diet. We love the taste because in the wild we would have gone weeks without added salt and "topped up" in one go. So we want to eat salt like it's vanishing from the earth, even though it's in everything now. | /r/RedPillWives | 26/05/16 11:01 AM |
| 2 | How would you explain the psychopathic idealization phase from the red pill perspective?Women don't like being showered with the affections of a Beta, or at least we don't appreciate it, the same way men don't place as much value on bedding a Whore. It's not special, it's what everyone gets. What psychopaths, sociopaths and narcissists have is intensity. I grew up around them and am on the narcissistic spectrum myself and let me tell you, when they like you, you are the only person in the world they have ever liked. When they hate you, you are literally Satan. Thus, some can projec… | /r/TheRedPill | 19/05/16 09:59 PM |
| 1 | Attraction Basics: fix your postureAdditional one I didn't know until I started yoga: do the upward abdominal lock. Look it up. Essentially, those are the muscles that hold your stomach flat and your sides in, creating an hourglass in women and eliminating that weird "six pack that's trying to escape" in men. If you repeatedly exercise them, eventually they sit like that. Not all the way in because that would be weird, but the muscles are more active during the day and naturally hold everything in place. Looks loads better, no ne… | /r/TheRedPill | 19/05/16 09:46 PM |
| 10 | How many buff men do you see on a regular basis?But you're always the smallest one in the mirror. | /r/askTRP | 19/05/16 09:35 PM |
| 2 | Why is that TRP praises 5x5 training more than the 3x8 approach?5x5 is more of a fit-all. If you're starting, it will work. If you plateau on another plan, it will push you off. If you want size, high rep enough for some size. If you want strength, low rep enough for some power. Eventually you will develop both. If you want to lose fat it can be made tough and diet can be stripped back, if you want to gain mass the diet can be worked with. As you learn about your body, fix your goals and clean up your diet you may find yourself moving onto another routine. M… | /r/askTRP | 19/05/16 09:02 PM |
| 1 | Yes AWALT, but you still need to be able to recognize a high quality woman from a low quality one.Just remember that same girl who treats you like a king could still be an asshole to another guy just the same. I think this is often overlooked. We all have something we want more than anything else, something that's just right for us, something that makes us genuinely happy to the core, that makes work a pleasure. Working to please Jon is rewarding in and of itself, spending money on him makes me happy. The more I give him, the more I want to give. Literally anyone else and I resent spending m… | /r/TheRedPill | 19/05/16 08:55 PM |
| 2 | How to Handle a Depressed HusbandDepression is not always just emotional. Sometimes it is what is called endogenous depression: a depression caused by altered neurological pathways in the brain or hormonal imbalances. Endogenous depression is often present in some level for a person's whole life, but sometimes it just forms on its own for no reason, or from a trigger, and spirals out of the parameters of exogenous (environment-caused] depression. Perhaps the reason why he doesn't want to talk about his emotions, avoids therapy … | /r/RedPillWives | 18/05/16 08:57 PM |
| 1 | Ongoing Discussion - What comes first: Sex or a relationship?Well, waiting for someone who was interested in me on multiple levels and willing to wait it out resulted in a count of 1 Sigma, who is just my type of crazy, who is one of the only people who does not socially drain me (INTJ] and who I am now married to and trying for kids with. So it worked. It wasn't a deadline, so much as trusting my gut. We met online, then decided we got along great and liked each other's basic appearance, met up to ensure no catfishing, then dated for a bit until we estab… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/16 08:34 PM |
| 3 | Ongoing Discussion - What comes first: Sex or a relationship?HOWEVER, the longer you know someone the better you can see whether or not they are looking for what you can provide. There is no "perfect woman" you can be that will prevent you being seen as a sexual prospect, just the right woman for the right man at the right time for a relationship. But you're right that it's not about commitment, so much as it's about a certain level of security and understanding. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/16 07:16 PM |
| 1 | Co-worker with girlfriendExactly. Just be more professional and he will go elsewhere, as will the drama, heartbreak, tears, etc. If you fancy him, don't look for anyone openly just yet, as it might end up being a rebound of your own. Find a wholesome female friend to spend time with until he stops trying to encourage you to be more intimate and wait for it to pass. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/16 04:26 PM |
| 1 | What would a RPW do to feel empowered?Life is a chain. Unless you grow and harvest and mine and make everything from scratch: you are dependent on others for what you want and need. You use your time to provide resources of value, and swap that value for the resources they made in their time. The best way to make the most of your time on this planet is to do whatever gives the most value for the least time invested so that you can be happy and free to do as you please. Social capital is one of the most valuable resources as it is ba… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/16 12:21 PM |
| 1 | What would a RPW do to feel empowered?EVERYTHING. You can be a RPW and a housewife, a worker from home, a student of various disciplines, an artist, a DIYer, a mother, a researcher, etc, all "from home". If anything, trying to be and do as much as possible is as red pill as a woman can get, as we understand we need more than a female body to get and keep the top tier guys we love! So far I take great pride in: -keeping my house in amazing order and entertaining guests -going the extra mile to try and get my husband to say something … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/16 12:16 PM |
| 2 | Sigma appreciation moment.The archetypes is just something I put together to explain the different types of Sigma I have observed and the ways in which we are attracted to them. It is still a young idea and subject to scrutiny, but so far has passed the test with others who know Sigmas. https://yourwifeisevolving.wordpress.com/2016/03/14/being-one-of-the-others-part-ii-partnering/ There are sometimes crossovers, but generally fictional Sigmas tend to be more blended and real Sigmas seem to be more biased to one type, pro… | /r/RedPillWives | 14/05/16 06:44 AM |
| 2 | Staying home vs. Staying interestingYou don't need a job to stay in the loop. -learn the language and socialize with other mothers -read; read the news, read books, read magazines, keep up to date and sharp -use free time to plan things like going places together or as a family when kids arrive, you can save a lot of money and do some interesting things if you have the time to plan well -consider doing online work from home somewhere like fiverr for extra money -work out, talk to him about things, dress up every day, don't let you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/16 05:39 AM |
| 8 | Co-worker with girlfriendSome men look for "work wives" to confide in when away from home. If not you, he will find another woman to confide in. But at the end of the day, that sort of drama is not worth the minute prospect of a rebound relationship working. It isn't your responsibility to keep them together, but neither is it wise to take advantage of a weak situation. Keep conversation professional, turn down help when you don't need it and move on. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/16 05:35 AM |
| 3 | Sigma appreciation moment.It's weird how similar they are socially. You're pretty much describing Jon as well. I have seen enough examples of Sigmas to create my six archetypes, so I know there are variants and they are all individuals, but when you see the "running mechanisms", they are so close to each other. | /r/RedPillWives | 14/05/16 05:26 AM |
| 2 | Sigma appreciation moment.He definitely sounds like a solid Sigma. I've added a few more references. I think it isn't discussed much because Sigmas are rare, don't tend to interact much with social groupings like the Manosphere (Jon reads pretty much everything he finds, but generally won't comment], only a Sigma who genuinely enjoys a specific community will bother interacting, otherwise he's just watching the party from the corner, and most Alphas and wannabe Alphas are confused by them to begin with. I mean, how do yo… | /r/RedPillWives | 14/05/16 05:20 AM |
| 2 | Sigma appreciation moment.Adding a few more here and to the list. Including your one from earlier. :D http://www.sigmaprogram.com/2015/07/what-is-a-sigma-male-2/ http://theredpillroom.blogspot.co.uk/2013/04/girl-game-stalking-wild-sigma.html https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/2vzbeo/thoughts_on_sigma_males/ Also adding a few of my blog posts that cover Sigmas and why tomboys and more isolated girls might prefer them, or be preferred by them. I also have a suspicion that there is something deeper which attract… | /r/RedPillWives | 14/05/16 05:06 AM |
| 3 | Sigma appreciation moment.I try and distinguish between power and authority forced on someone and reluctantly accepted versus power and authority actively sought and nurtured. Contrasting two very similar roles and personalities, Michelangelo is an Alpha, whereas Leonardo da Vinci is a Sigma, for example. Michelangelo enjoyed socializing, sought success for its own sake, worked hard at everything he did and loved pleasing people. Leonardo was isolated, sought to create for fun, worked for himself alone and did not care w… | /r/RedPillWives | 13/05/16 03:37 PM |
| 2 | Sigma appreciation moment.I WOULD LOVE FOR A MOD TO DISSECT THIS A BIT FURTHER. My bf is literally doing this on a weekly basis haha! I find it adorable but it is like he almost expects me to freak out and cower or be disgusted and I just cannot find it in me, 90% of the time. Jon does this as well. It's all about the reaction. Sigmas often thrive off emotion and reactions and like pushing buttons, as they rarely experience blowback for it (and will walk away quietly if blowback begins]. He wants to see how far he can go… | /r/RedPillWives | 13/05/16 03:04 PM |
| 2 | Sigma appreciation moment.There is actually a wide range of Sigmas, due to the fact that when you aren't too bothered what people think of you, apparently you get into some weird stuff. I outlined the ones I have observed: 1 The starving artist. A rogue creative type: flighty, sensual, sensitive, stern, possibly bipolar, drug or alcohol issues are a genuine threat, many ideas that start and are never completed, his art consumes him entirely leaving limited affection and time for women, despite this he will pursue many. 2… | /r/RedPillWives | 13/05/16 02:53 PM |
| 1 | [Baby FR] "It takes a strong woman to be MY girlfriend"Awwww. :D <3 Jon tends to have a lot of such sort of arguments with other men, especially younger ones, and usually about money because apparently all his coworkers are perpetually broke. When younger married men say "Women are expensive, being married means having no money." he has to reply "No, giving in to dumb demands and living beyond your means means having no money." When younger single men then believe "Being married means two incomes and someone to save money for you." he has to reply "… | /r/RedPillWives | 13/05/16 11:49 AM |
| 1 | [Hamster, Hamster, Where's the Hamster?] The Things I Missed Out On Because I Got Married As A TeenagerMet my best (female, IRL] friend through my husband, who was friends with her and her husband at university. TBH, as a massive introvert I only socialized upon penalty of death, which meant a lot of female friendships weren't options when I was younger. Through the magic of shared friendships and natural Sigma social patterns, now I'm close with someone as crazy as I am and it's pretty cool. | /r/RedPillWives | 13/05/16 11:38 AM |
| 4 | I really just need some outside perspective, I think I'm too close to the problem to see it clearly.From the details you have offered, I suggest this: You are possibly shit-testing due to the bedroom situation and your own discomfort at it. For men, especially men without kinks or with low libidos, sex is almost like food: nourishment, which the bare essentials cover. However to you it clearly matters, or it wouldn't be point 2 on this list. I suspect that as you became less aggressive, you also lost your assertiveness (the balance is hard to find at first]. Many men lose some attraction or pa… | /r/RedPillWives | 04/05/16 05:02 PM |
| 2 | Relationship Dynamics When GrievingJust hang in there and be there for each other when everyone else is asleep or headed home. And feel free to be honest with him when something or someone annoys you and you need to vent, or to find a solution. Offer him a shoulder to cry on when he can't be strong much longer. Be there. You'll both need it. | /r/RedPillWives | 04/05/16 04:35 PM |
| 4 | Relationship Dynamics When GrievingVery sorry for your loss. We recently had an awkward experience regarding family deaths, and although I'm not sure how much it helps, this is how it looks now it's over. When Jon lost his mother he was very much the rock the rest of his family relied on. He is not a very emotionally expressive person, so many of the pressures regarding "cold formalities" fell to him, not really giving him time to grieve. I'm quite expressive, although I'm far less emotional and sensitive, which meant I was the s… | /r/RedPillWives | 04/05/16 12:36 PM |
| 2 | Repost - sex is important, k?I have a much higher sex drive than Jon, he is pretty average and I'm definitely into "dysfunctional hormones". I want it 6 to 24 times as often as he wants it. It literally eats away at my sanity if I don't sort myself out. We basically have an agreement where whatever happens, we have sex every 1-2 days and if either of us isn't in the mood we either help them another way or give them some quiet time to sort it out. It's quite normal for him to be done for the night and to let me do whatever I… | /r/RedPillWives | 30/04/16 11:19 PM |
| 2 | How was your first encounter with Red Pill theory/RP communities?Not exactly. More like I never developed it at all. I had always been a tomboy (high testosterone woman and overly analytical from early childhood] and found feminine girls... confusing. As in "Why do they care if they get muddy? Just SAY what you think about so and so. If makeup is so uncomfortable, then why are you wearing it? Why do you cry when I push you over?" I was probably pretty cold to them, in retrospect, so obviosly I was never part of their cliques, instead winding up with goths, to… | /r/RedPillWives | 30/04/16 07:49 PM |
| 2 | How was your first encounter with Red Pill theory/RP communities?1: Found it through now-husband Jon. We sort of just share random articles and some of the sites he shared were RP and generic manosphere sites. 2: Zero reaction at first. I always had a low esteem for humanity and later on it actually restored some of that. Seeing that there were people willing to acknowledge and handle their issues, that things like female sensitivity could be not only acknowledged, but handled like an adult, made me realize a lot of the hangups I had weren't with men or women… | /r/RedPillWives | 29/04/16 07:48 PM |
| 1 | 15 Simple-ish Ways to Improve Your Diet.There's a good chance you will benefit from the immunities and food tolerances of both sides, except maybe one or two tiny details that make no sense at all. Nature is funny like that. | /r/RedPillWives | 29/04/16 07:19 PM |
| 3 | 15 Simple-ish Ways to Improve Your Diet.There are three ways of checking. 1: Where did your grandparents and great grandparents come from, geographically speaking? 2: If it's simple to work out: what is your total ethnic makeup? 3: If you're more mixed or unsure: what is your phenotype (the ethnicity you look most like, pay special attention to height, torso width, bone shape, teeth, etc]? Whichever one is easier to work out. All will give you a bit of a handle on what your genes are doing with your digestive tract. Just remember that… | /r/RedPillWives | 28/04/16 11:27 PM |
| 5 | 15 Simple-ish Ways to Improve Your Diet.Thank you! Brostoff and Gamlin have the best book on food intolerances and the science behind them for beginners or people who may have missed a few of the facts along the way. And I think Paleo has a place, as DeVany was where I started, but the dogma that comes with any diet can be limiting and lead to stupidity, so always play cautious. | /r/RedPillWives | 28/04/16 11:20 PM |
| 2 | 15 Simple-ish Ways to Improve Your Diet.Proteins that have not been isolated from their original source. Although protein powders and highly processed proteins like burger patties are very bio-available, they are also not very satiating, which increases calories whilst decreasing fullness. Great for bodybuilders, not so great if you're not trying to gain mass fast. | /r/RedPillWives | 25/04/16 11:44 AM |
| 3 | 15 Simple-ish Ways to Improve Your Diet.Glad to hear so! Too many people think geographic location has nothing to do with your diet, but if you think about it, the same forces that give you more melanin to cope with sunlight or shorter fingers to prevent frostbite absolutely change your digestive tract as well. | /r/RedPillWives | 25/04/16 11:43 AM |
| 4 | 15 Simple-ish Ways to Improve Your Diet.Look out for: -acne and other skin problems, including greasy hair -bloating, discomfort and gassiness -acid reflux -generally depressed or hyper mood around 3-20 hours after -water retention, or jigglier fat than usual Try removing it again, for longer, reintroducing and seeing if the problem goes away when you remove the food and comes back when you reintroduce it. If so, it's an allergy or intolerance. | /r/RedPillWives | 23/04/16 05:17 PM |
| 2 | everyone is always talking about SMV, but what about SOCIAL market value? How do I build that?1: Whenever you socialize, get really involved. If you're gonna socialize once a month, stand out. Become "the guy who..." 2: People like people who they help. Because science. Get people to do things for you. Just little things: pick a paper up, grab your coffee, tell you the name of a place or person. Thank them, smile, gently let them know they are useful to you. 3: Don't overshare. It's easier to be "creepy" if you're largely quiet and then blurt something inappropriate. Stick to "mysterious… | /r/askTRP | 23/04/16 05:14 PM |
| 5 | Why in the world would I ever want to limit myself to a LTR?(Considering Briffaults law)As a man in the modern world, a LTR or marriage are not things you ought to set your heart on and actively seek out. They're more something that happens organically. Less a business venture and more a small stock investment. Whether you go the path of celibacy or PUA or even the traditional dating path, being eager or anxious to settle will probably mean you wind up with someone unsuitable. On the other hand, if you go down your own path open to the idea of a LTR and you meet a woman who you wan… | /r/askTRP | 23/04/16 05:05 PM |
| 2 | Comfortable vs. Passionate RelationshipsI think a lot of people have also lost the plot a little bit with excitement versus boredom. We're meant to do new and interesting things every now and again. And the modern world is pretty boring and tedious. But you don't need an unstable partner to have a bit of excitement. Going somewhere new, doing something crazy or just taking time off together can add some romance and excitement back into your life without necessarily going full psycho on each other. | /r/RedPillWives | 23/04/16 03:52 PM |
| 3 | All About RPWThanks for the mention. :] | /r/RedPillWives | 13/04/16 05:21 AM |
| 3 | Don't Let External Influences Poison Your Relationship's HarmonyThis has literally driven most of my family away from me. I tried reminding them that I was an artsy introvert long before Jon and that I have never been a big one for parties and clubs (houseparties are another matter], much preferring sitting around eating awesome foods and painting weird art. But apparently they could not remember any of that. Makes you realize who you're actually friends with and who is just there because they happen to share a few more genes or an environment with you. | /r/RedPillWives | 04/04/16 04:26 PM |
| 2 | On Preferences and Requirements in Dating.The list is partially from people I've known who kept literal lists, and partially from the sheer number of people who, even without writing a list, have an unnecessarily rigid idea of who they can and can't date. I once knew someone who ruled out anyone who had ever worked in fast food, because "high school loser ex". And that attitude is becoming more common, rather than less. | /r/RedPillWives | 04/04/16 04:14 PM |
| 3 | On Preferences and Requirements in Dating.Possibly because of that. From my observations, when you're open to possibilities, rather than hung up on what you "should" or "shouldn't" get, you're more likely to find someone perfect. Don't know what you need til you see it. | /r/RedPillWives | 04/04/16 04:12 PM |
| 2 | Mainstream feminism is the Munchhausen by proxy of ideologies."There's enough wrong going on in the world, our relationship is my rock so I'll just hang my hat on that then." That's pretty cute. :D | /r/RedPillWives | 04/04/16 04:11 PM |
| 2 | Pregnancy?Heard a sweet folk tale version of "eating for two" a while back. Can't remember from where. But the idea is that you add a little bit each week, starting with a single grain of rice a day and double it every week. The idea is that for the first three months you don't actually need any more calories, but from the fourth month your needs are increasing and by the end you actually need quite a bit more. w1: grain of rice, w2: 2 grains, w3: 4 grains, w4: 8 grains... Eventually it goes into tens and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/16 06:23 AM |
| 1 | I have finally hit one of my high end goals!Added below. :D | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/16 06:14 AM |
| 1 | I have finally hit one of my high end goals!Waist sculpting is a weird one. All the exercises that are recommended actually train and buid up your laterals and abs... which makes your waist strong, but thicker. I have actually gained 2" on my waist since I started powerlifting seriously, and that's when I'm at my leanest. OTOH, when I started out I lost around 6" on my waist (from my original weight loss size, so that means I did not lose a dress size or much weight, but the waist got thinner] doing this: 1: Adjusting diet to prevent casu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/16 06:11 AM |
| 1 | I have finally hit one of my high end goals!I am down two dress sizes since December 1st, and I am confident I will be down two more by my birthday at the end of May, which is my end goal. Well done! You're definitely on track. The last bit is always the hardest, though, so try and stay focused as you get nearer your goals and it slows down a little. Don't let it disappoint you and push through! Also, make sure you have a solid maintenance plan for when you're at goal. :D I feel like this is more of a bragging thread though. Yep. Needed t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/16 06:05 AM |
| 1 | I have finally hit one of my high end goals!Thank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/16 06:02 AM |
| 1 | I have finally hit one of my high end goals!Coffee scrubs sound awesome. Do you have a specific recipe you used? And all advice is good. :D | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/16 06:02 AM |
| 1 | I have finally hit one of my high end goals!Thank you. :D | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/16 06:01 AM |
| 1 | I have finally hit one of my high end goals!Thank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/16 06:01 AM |
| 3 | I have finally hit one of my high end goals!I like to mess my workout around a bit. Wednesday I dug up the garden ready for herbs and potatoes, Thursday I did yoga, dog running and lifting, Friday I did high rep work, today I will do more gardening and throw tyres around for the dog to chase. Sort of a semi primal thing. With diet, I actually started from three hard resets: Reset 1: Cut out most fats and sugars, a single treat a day permitted, mostly vegetables. This was when I lost a load of weight. Reset 2: Around four years ago. Went f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/16 06:00 AM |
| 1 | I have finally hit one of my high end goals!Thanks. :D | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/16 05:44 AM |
| 2 | How do you working women balance the longer parts of your self-care routines with your schedule?My care routine: makeup showering and shaving weights cardio mental care My work day: flexible work from home generally a morning shift and an afternoon shift very busy Tuesdays, Fridays and Sundays I manage this by sorting all my hygiene basics when I get up at half 4 or half 7 in the morning. Then I go through my day and try and get some cardio in with the dog during my lunch break. Just running round like crazy, or doing pullups, or stair sprints, anything. I will do weights with Jon when he … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/16 09:41 PM |
| 1 | Friendships with non-red pill womenBit late to the party, but hadn't logged on in AGES either, so... Anyways, here's my 2p: I have one in person, close female friend. She is married, poly, bisexual, very masculine and brash, a big drinker and horrified by the concept of parenthood. And I love her to bits. We have dinner parties, we talk about our husbands and acquaintances and families, we cook together, we swap books, we watch terrible films, we go shopping, we help each other and each other's husbands out whenever there is trou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/16 09:34 PM |
| 2 | Look like a girl, act like a lady, think like a man...Reg: All right... all right... but apart from better sanitation and medicine and education and irrigation and public health and roads and a freshwater system and baths and public order... what have the Romans done for us? Xerxes: Brought peace! Got to love Monty Python. | /r/TheRedPill | 12/08/15 05:38 PM |
| 1 | Solipsism compared to Nihilism (and the Stoics)The eternal dilemma of "better accounted for by". | /r/TheRedPill | 10/08/15 09:09 AM |
| 13 | Some parts of TRP still rub me the wrong wayLet me tell you a different side of the story. I have nothing against plate spinning. I do it because I'm a man with needs, and red pill women don't exactly have a neon sign above their head so I can approach and LTR one of them... I might stumble upon one by accident as I continue to meet new women, but there really isn't any other way, given your average woman nowadays.. I have to be ruthless in my pursuit to find what I'm looking for. Even then, she might just be putting on a show and be a re… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/15 11:05 AM |
| 1 | Mood Disorders & Gluten Sensitivity: Potential Barriers to Self-Improvement/MasteryRecommended further reading: Food Allergy and Intolerance by Brostoff and Gamlin. Many people experience gut imbalances from things such as dairy, sugar or certain grains which aren't enough to upset their total health, but are enough to cause hormonal shifts. B&G go into the different issues people can have and how to rehabilitate your body where applicable. A high-T diet (red meats, egg yolks, dark leafy greens, seafood, high magnesium foods, etc) helps too. | /r/TheRedPill | 31/07/15 07:52 AM |
| 1 | There is no such thing as a woman who doesn't require Red Pill strategies.Great comparison. I often find that, when you look, there are examples of human power dynamics on every scale, at least somewhere. The same relationship someone's cousin has with his crush can be observed in Communist China's admiration of the USSR, for example. | /r/TheRedPill | 30/07/15 07:54 PM |
| 5 | Have any of you ladies ran dread on your man?On affection: Some men aren't affectionate. Mine isn't amazingly affectionate. He enjoys hugs and we sit in silence on the sofa sometimes, but we don't spend much time cuddling or fawning, he doesn't shower me in gifts and praise and attention. He's just there and that's his way of showing love. Perhaps your man shows love and affection in a way you don't naturally appreciate as much? On sex: People have different sex drives. I want sex about 10x (literally) as often as my man. I have clearly ex… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/15 12:31 PM |
| 23 | Have any of you ladies ran dread on your man?I'd put it more simply than that: the female equivalent is to better yourself and adapt yourself to your man so you're the best thing he will ever have. There's no better/worse dread for a man than an attractive, feminine, smart woman who cares for him, supports him, treats his friends when they come round to see him, engages in his hobbies with him and makes herself a pleasure to be around. The thought of losing such a woman horrifies most men. It's how average men get honey-trapped into marria… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/07/15 01:03 PM |
| 2 | There is no such thing as a woman who doesn't require Red Pill strategies.Absolutely. It also provided a now forgotten benefit to women which essentially allowed feminism to blossom: guaranteed Alpha. In a society here the Alpha "grants" every man a wife, the Alpha still technically owns all of them. They are tribal property, not the property of any individual man. Much like the Hell's Angels concept of "property" tags on their women. It isn't, as some assume, a sexist controlling technique. It's guaranteed safety. Being a HA is a risk. By wearing the patch, the women… | /r/TheRedPill | 27/07/15 07:56 AM |
| 1 | There is no such thing as a woman who doesn't require Red Pill strategies.But marriage also allowed for more intricate societies where lesser men were rewarded for their hard toil. It permitted capitalism to flourish, which, in turn, connected and expanded societies, giving Alphas their harems back as Betas and Deltas still got a decent chance at marriage. It may be falling apart now, but it was amazing for civilization as a whole. | /r/TheRedPill | 26/07/15 08:23 PM |
| 1 | There is no such thing as a woman who doesn't require Red Pill strategies.Fair enough. My point was that Alpha vs Beta men doesn't matter when a tribe is dying. They're choosing the Alpha tribe, even if that means being forever chained to an asexual Omega man. Which is basically how marriage won over the world. Perhaps a concept for further development, though. | /r/TheRedPill | 26/07/15 04:37 PM |
| 17 | There is no such thing as a woman who doesn't require Red Pill strategies.It's less about supremacy and more about survival in this case. Imagine you have a skill that is shared by nobody in your tribe. However they value your ability and this gives you an edge. You will live quite well and comfortably. You may never become the Alpha leader, as other men are stronger, smarter and more variously skilled than you. But every Alpha likes you and favours you because you add something to the tribe. Then, another tribe invades. Larger, with stronger warriors and more bloodlu… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/07/15 08:33 AM |
| 5 | Lesbian pro basketball player divorce-raped by "wife""and/or has the most money is going to be treated as the "oppressor" and forced to pony up for the more feminine partner" In theory, this was the idea of child support and alimony. Leaving aside rights and wrongs and whether it is clear cut, the idea was that if someone agreed to have a child and then changed their mind, they were still financially liable for their past decision. Alimony I personally believe has no place in the modern world, but, again, the idea of it was that if someone was out… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/07/15 07:58 AM |
| 3 | Great looking outfits and style immediately increases SMV. I highly recommend "swagger jacking" a celeb or two you truly admire as a quick hack for an instant point or two in SMV.Anecdotal support for the argument. Jon generally dresses quite neat, not sharp, but shirts or collared t-shirts and polos over t-shirts, black work trousers rather than suits or jeans, smart shoes, wool coats, etc. If he chats to a random female in a casual setting (so a cashier, old coworker, someone we meet at a historic building) when we're out the focus is 100% on him. She will look him up and down, try and get to whatever side I'm not on (if I'm at his left then she will somehow navigate t… | /r/TheRedPill | 23/07/15 02:06 PM |
| 1 | Genuinely curious on what a woman's role is in a red pill relationshipThat's the thing. If a man thinks a woman is worthwhile or believes she supports him best by accepting his provisions and keeping the home in order, that's all well and good. And, as far as I have seen, that is the choice most men enjoy making in long term relationships. But to assume you're entitled to his money is to reverse the roles. The man decides what constitutes support and who deserves a cut of his life, money and time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/15 02:29 PM |
| 2 | What do you ladies wear at home?+1 for simple dresses What I do is I wear my slodgers for housekeeping and then swap into a dress and heels before he gets home. If there's time a splash of makeup, a piece of jewellery and a bit of perfume in the hair too. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/15 05:49 AM |
| 5 | Ladies, can you help me help my man?1: Food. Make sure it's made in advance, wholesome and easy to eat quickly. Easy to eat makes a big difference. 2: Sex. Make sure he gets it when he's in the mood. Men do better when they have sex fairly regularly, but his mood could be killed by stress, so when it hits, it will hit hard. 3: Space. When he's home and working, imagine there's a bubble around him. Even if you're in the room, be quiet and patient. 4: Errands and secretarial tasks. If he needs to make a few phone inquiries like "is … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/15 11:27 AM |
| 1 | Inspired by the female college roommates post, (european?) guys, BEWARE of the girls who live by themselves. Anyone have similar experience?Not here. Costs £20-30 for a single return trip from London halfway up the country. And that's for a 3-4 hour coach ride. Train trip is around £60 per return. And that's with your student discount card. | /r/TheRedPill | 10/07/15 07:58 PM |
| 1 | Inspired by the female college roommates post, (european?) guys, BEWARE of the girls who live by themselves. Anyone have similar experience?I'm not sure what it's like in your country, but traveling from south of London to Cardiff every day would have used my entire budget. | /r/TheRedPill | 10/07/15 03:22 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Armored myself with TRP and took the LTR plungeTry valerian root. Helps you sleep a bit deeper for the first few hours and get your REM. | /r/TheRedPill | 10/07/15 08:35 AM |
| 11 | Does anyone else have a husband that works night shifts?Jon works split shifts. 6-6. So this week has been all days, 6am until 6pm, which is great for me. I get up, have a cuddle, help him get ready, see him off, do some tutoring, some writing, fix the house and then he's home for the evening. But generally he works half days, half nights. Nights are 6pm until 6am, so he gets up around lunch time, I often still have housework and students to see whilst he gets up and dressed and we catch a meal together before he leaves, we can only text until 12 at … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/15 08:27 AM |
| 2 | Mainstream feminism is the Munchhausen by proxy of ideologies.Excellent observations. :) Do you blog at all? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/15 08:15 AM |
| 1 | Mainstream feminism is the Munchhausen by proxy of ideologies.Definitely. I prefer it when someone looks at the situation and tells me what their solution would be and leaves me to finish working it out. I need space to deal with most of my problems. Input is valuable and, when a solution is worked out, if anyone is kind enough to help me carry it out, that is also nice, but emotional support isn't required. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/15 04:36 AM |
| 1 | Natural Beauty/Health AdviceI love olive oil because it carries nicely. Coconut oil is apparently very healthful, but it takes longer to get to temperature and makes my breath smell odd (to me, at least). | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/15 05:43 AM |
| 1 | Female infidelity statisticsApparently there is an outer ring of muscles that gives the sphincter the pinched "star" look. That outer ring is weak and not an essential structure, so if you force against it too harshly it can give, resulting in a slight opening that is visible from the outside. The other layers of muscle are more solid so there isn't always leakage, but that first layer being absent is indicative that something has forced against you. | /r/TheRedPill | 06/07/15 05:42 PM |
| 1 | Female infidelity statisticsThis confuses me since I learned from the many nurses in my family: it is apparently way easier to tell someone who has had anal sex even once than to tell someone who has had vaginal sex numerous times. Even women who've had children can build up the pelvic floor so only a medical professional can tell anything's come out of there. The derriere is a one way system, once the external muscles have been snapped, there is no way of covering it up or repairing that isn't blindingly obvious. | /r/TheRedPill | 06/07/15 02:49 PM |
| 18 | What do you do when your captain keeps ranting about a problem that does not involve you in any way, leaving you powerless, unable to contribute?When Jon wants to bring something up that's troubling him I... 1: Listen and take note of everything that could be important. 2: Agree whenever he mentions something that is correct, reserve my criticisms or counterarguments until he's done. 3: Offer any potential solutions first and foremost. If there are no solutions, I will remind him that it's in the past now and we will try and avoid it. 4: Let him talk about it as though it were the first time. Make sure he's comfortable and do things to t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/15 11:54 AM |
| 1 | Natural Beauty/Health AdviceMy favourites: -Drink plenty of water for glowing skin. -Try cutting out dairy if you have acne, it can be a symptom of mild lactose intolerance! -If you have blackhead clusters, use a small applicator spatula to scrape over your skin before bed every night. Use a steam bath to open your pores a little too. This will help you get rid of the most visible part of the blackhead. [Edit: don't do during the day, as the slight redness from scraping lasts for hours.] -Every day exfoliate areas where sk… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/15 09:48 AM |
| 3 | Mainstream feminism is the Munchhausen by proxy of ideologies.So feminism needs to convince every woman that she is less, that she is inadequate, that she is worthless and that this is a problem fixable by feminism. I sometimes wonder whether, in fields like literary academics or history where men and women perform just as well when they apply themselves, some feminists are stopping preemptively in anticipation of the glass ceiling, scared of what it would mean if they didn't actually find it there to stop them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/15 04:45 AM |
| 4 | Mainstream feminism is the Munchhausen by proxy of ideologies.Sympathy doesn't actually help. Sympathy fixes emotions, but doesn't offer practical solutions. And the emotions are largely caused by complaining anyway. Even when emotions are the apparent problem, sympathy doesn't help. I spent my childhood having mood swings and my teens extremely depressed. When sympathetic people found me, it was to tell me that my harsh upbringing caused all of this. Turns out after a few years of investigating that I have an inherited condition that means most receptors … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/15 04:39 AM |
| 9 | Mainstream feminism is the Munchhausen by proxy of ideologies.Same in popular culture and throughout all of history. Some women leaned towards masculine fields. And they made their way into them. The Ballad of Mulan or Joan of Arc aren't just pretty stories, they may not be 100% factual, but they're illustrations of how far a woman is willing to go when she genuinely wants to join the men and play by their rules. Feminism is a veil for desirable victimhood, which is a veil for unhappiness and, as you said, mediocrity. It's like a coal miner suddenly gettin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/15 02:32 PM |
| 9 | Mainstream feminism is the Munchhausen by proxy of ideologies.Of course the world isn't just. The world just is. And you can live with cold, harsh reality, abide by what comes naturally to you and try and be happy, or you can make a big show about how bad your life is, which simultaneously makes it worse. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/15 01:03 PM |
| 11 | Mainstream feminism is the Munchhausen by proxy of ideologies.This. If I looked for excuses for my behaviour I could find excuses for any unreasonable behaviour. The problems in my childhood could give you a free pass to murder these days if you present your case well enough. But personal responsibility and an enjoyable life is better than victim mentality, impulsiveness and a desperate need to maintain an identity of victimhood. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/15 12:56 PM |
| 7 | RP truth hits main page, default sub, gets 2000+ upvotes, 4x gold. There's a catch.Look after the match for makeup. Waterproofing is actually bad against sweat and smears, as sweat contains oils, a natural makeup solvent. I've seen some girls come off the pitch without smears, therefore they can't be wearing makeup. 2 girls without makeup: http://si.wsj.net/public/resources/images/BN-JF035_ENGSOC_J_20150702070900.jpg Yeah, it's two pretty awful players from England mourning an own goal. But still: no makeup. Without makeup: http://cache1.asset-cache.net/gc/477588678-sohyun-cho… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/07/15 11:06 AM |
| 31 | "Yes but MY clients, actually LIKE women."Feminists are the only people who, regardless of their gender, consistently complain about women's choices. Woman chooses to ride the CC and find a beta to marry later? She's ruining women's good name, giving in to the patriarchy and letting men win by giving away sex and then settling with a "lesser" male. Woman chooses to marry young? She's living up to a patriarchal 1950s ideal rather than to her own nature. Woman chooses to have a career, dedicates herself properly and makes a path in life? … | /r/TheRedPill | 03/07/15 06:39 AM |
| 3 | [Advice] How can I improve myself with a mental illness?Some things that are helping me with cyclothymia: -omega 3 overdose (3 of the daily pills rather than 1) makes me feel more stable -if you have a mood disorder caffeine can calm you down when you're agitated, no idea why -some habits can be forced; I used to interrupt a lot but after forcing it away I only do it when I'm very anxious or excited, rather than half the time; if you have a big problem, try and force it away through repeating the better habit -Vitamin D helps with the weepiness and t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/15 10:44 AM |
| 2 | Women don't care about anything other than the attention of other women.As a side note: when do girls first pay attention to colour, makeup, accessories and fashion? Around 5-8 years old, which is the age when children first notice the world around them properly and become sociable. A 6 year old wears a crop top and a miniskirt completely oblivious of sexual context because other girls are doing it. If other girls don't do it, they won't. When do girls first start intentionally showing off figure and sexual assets? Around 10-13, when puberty hits and they start noti… | /r/TheRedPill | 28/06/15 09:11 AM |
| 3 | Women don't care about anything other than the attention of other women.The primary directive is to survive. The secondary one is to breed. If these things were not primarily for men, then they would not always be done in a way that attracts male glances and would not feature in pinups, porn and exotic dancers' outfits. Look at how genuine lesbians (the ones who have never shown interest in even one man) dress. These things are often if not always omitted. If it were for attracting and competing with females, lesbians would do it more, not less. | /r/TheRedPill | 28/06/15 09:06 AM |
| 0 | "Girls are gamers too!"Imagine if "girl otakus" were like "girl gamers". I know many otakus, male and female, and generally all are actually into several animes and mangas, usually a couple of mainstream ones and some personal choices though there are always the ones who avoid mainstream or the obsessive consumers of mainstream. Girls who watch one or two series do not tend to try and align with the community or take over spaces or get mangas and animes to change to better suit them. | /r/TheRedPill | 27/06/15 10:59 PM |
| 0 | "Girls are gamers too!"Imagine if "girl otakus" were like "girl gamers". I know many otakus, male and female, and generally all are actually into several animes and mangas, usually a couple of mainstream ones and some personal choices though there are always the ones who avoid mainstream or the obsessive consumers of mainstream. Girls who watch one or two series do not tend to try and align with the community or take over spaces or get mangas and animes to change to better suit them. | /r/TheRedPill | 27/06/15 10:59 PM |
| -1 | "Girls are gamers too!"Except there are girl gamers. The attention-seeking teenagers who picked up games because a guy was playing them in high school and never really play, but buy all the latest consoles and mess around with daft kids' games or multiplayers when there isn't another source of attention. They are a class in and of themselves. I'm actually dreading "women getting into anime" or "girl otakus". I hope OnePiece is long since finished when that day dawns because I've been waiting for the ending for around … | /r/TheRedPill | 27/06/15 08:30 PM |
| 2 | Women don't care about anything other than the attention of other women.Not entirely true either way. Things women do in terms of clothes to attract men: hemlines, cuts and necklines that show off legs, bum, bust; dangly and sparkly things around neckline and hemline; heels to drive hips back and make feet look small; red makeup, especially lipstick. Things women do in terms of clothes for other women: fashionable/trendy outfits, jewellery away from bust, unnaturally coloured lipstick or hair, patterns that don't just accentuate the figure, nail ornamentation, acces… | /r/TheRedPill | 27/06/15 04:35 PM |
| 5 | A simple question to ask a woman for those not fully convinced by TRP's truthWomen work differently than men. As weaker humans who spent most of our time in very small social circles until recently, tribal cohesiveness is important to us. Men bond over experiences. In fact, some trivia: the term "blood is thicker than water" refers to the blood spilled on the battlefield versus the water of the womb. Ie, the blood of your friend on your face and arms bonds you more strongly than nine months of shared fluid bonded you and your relatives. Women, however, don't go through s… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/06/15 06:50 PM |
| 6 | Genuinely curious on what a woman's role is in a red pill relationshipMen lead, women support. Doesn't matter whether supporting means having the main job as he retrains, getting a secondary job or staying home; cooking and cleaning, gardening or fixing the car; raising children or gaming all night with him, the important thing is to be actively supporting him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/15 05:09 PM |
| 13 | [FR] Fighter GirlsGirl advice, so no need to take it or at least with a grain of salt, but I absolutely love it when Jon and I are getting playful and start basically freestyle wrestling with the goal being "pin the other down". Sometimes he lets me win before literally throwing me off as I try to celebrate victory and sometimes he just completely immobilizes me. As long as it stays playful and is more grappling and no punches or kicks, it is quite exciting and generally results in sexual tension. Best of luck wi… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/06/15 05:06 PM |
| 1 | You have a sexual relationship with your smart phone and your computer and it's killing your desire to pursue women.Those Hue bulbs sound interesting. Although some old fashioned energy-inefficient bulbs in bedside lamps help too. Another note for better sleep: recently been reading about the issues that poor GABA reception can cause with deep sleep and it seems supplementation to improve GABA reception can help with all sorts of light sleep, from anxiety and depression to the lightness caused by drinking. | /r/TheRedPill | 26/06/15 04:06 PM |
| 5 | You have a sexual relationship with your smart phone and your computer and it's killing your desire to pursue women.There's a program called leechblocker that's really great for limiting time on timewasting sites. I find myself gravitating towards better reading content, better discussions and more efficient emailing when I know I will be blocked after five minutes. | /r/TheRedPill | 26/06/15 10:47 AM |
| 3 | You have a sexual relationship with your smart phone and your computer and it's killing your desire to pursue women.The old-fashioned concept of a study or office used to cover this. Even in the days of laptops many homes have a laptop for business only and all computers live in the study. Now we've merged phones and computers it's becoming a trouble for people. I guess the whole idea of merging was to increase consumption, though, wasn't it? For optimal sleep, have you installed f.lux on your phone and computer, by the way? Exposure to blue light less than two hours before sleep can sometimes affect your cir… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/06/15 10:45 AM |
| 1 | LTRs with Paper UnicornsSadly, a man who isolates his woman on behalf of both of their best interests is labeled an abuser. This. The trick is convincing a woman to convince everyone around her that she herself has decided to be isolated in service to the man who she submits to. As long as she purports her isolation as being her own idea, you're totally good. However this doesn't actually work. Thing is, those of us who are less likely to engage in those behaviours isolate ourselves anyway, because we don't want to ass… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/06/15 10:39 AM |
| 1 | Humans are Hard-Wired to Crave Sex with as Many Different Attractive People as We Can. Pair-Bonding was Dead before it Began.The 17 brothers was just for saying's sake, family was not relevant to the point. The point was that genelines are not people. It's like Evolutionary Eve all over again: we all descend from one mitochondrial type, that could have come from 40 separate women. Likewise, 1/17 genelines survived. You could have 30 children and die out in three generations. You could be Genghis Kahn and a war could eliminate your every descendant. That doesn't mean you didn't have sex or reproduce. The 1/17 is the co… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/06/15 11:26 AM |
| 1 | Humans are Hard-Wired to Crave Sex with as Many Different Attractive People as We Can. Pair-Bonding was Dead before it Began.1: I accept the study. I'm actually pointing out what the original researchers were saying, not the clickbait press release. 1/17 male genelines survived. That doesn't mean only 1/17 men bred and definitely doesn't mean 1/17 men had sex. For it to all be down to female selection and male mating, we would have to have 100% of men make it to adulthood and 100% of children survive. Genelines are a nuanced thing. 2: Bonobos didn't set up a society. They developed in an area of abundance. That's like… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/06/15 11:18 AM |
| 3 | Humans are Hard-Wired to Crave Sex with as Many Different Attractive People as We Can. Pair-Bonding was Dead before it Began.I haven't downvoted, but I think you're starting from a simplistic point. 1: Human genetics don't prove sexual behaviour, only survival of the descendants. If 1/17 male children die before maturity, then we get the same genetic structure we have today even under total monogamy. If 17/17 men freely have sex with 17/17 women and nobody dies, then we have the complete opposite under polygamy. It's a guideline for survivability of genes, not a book on human mating. 2: Bonobos are an interesting exam… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/06/15 05:52 AM |
| 2 | Humans are Hard-Wired to Crave Sex with as Many Different Attractive People as We Can. Pair-Bonding was Dead before it Began.Not to nitpick, but we can only prove that 1/17 male genelines survived. You can't account for pre-reproductive mortality, how many males bred and lost their geneline later or how much males' ridiculously higher mortality accounted for this to begin with. For example, if there are 17 brothers and 7 of them die before they have sex, 2 are monogamous and breed but all their children die, 2 are polygamous and breed successfully but all of their twenty children die, 1 is polygamous but sterile, 1 is… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/06/15 05:30 AM |
| 1 | The ideal Red Pill woman: both traditional and secular?If you're the one bringing them home, then that's probably the case. It also seems likely that foreign people acclimatize to the new order of things very quickly. But if she's not from a 3rd world slum, she's already there and happy to return to Mum and Dad, then she likely isn't after a visa or whatever Americans call it. | /r/TheRedPill | 25/06/15 04:31 AM |
| 1 | The ideal Red Pill woman: both traditional and secular?I'm not looking for an LTR with a girl who likes me because I'm American. She's as likely, if not moreso, to like you and adore you for your status as an American as for your status in your job, your income, etc. And your status as an American is a permanent trait. You could lose job position, fame, money and looks. But you will always be an American. Meeting a Korean woman and returning home with her could give you permanent status in both your relationships and your future employment. | /r/TheRedPill | 24/06/15 07:19 AM |
| 1 | How to stay in a good mood when my husband is in a bad one?My moods swing on their own, so I understand that feeling to a degree. At least on the "why am I anxious? what is happening?" level. I actually find that using caffeine to boost my mood or stabilize me and valerian root to bring down anxiety helps a lot. It's important to listen through and it's great you have a level of connection where you share his emotions, but you need to be in control of your own mental and emotional state, really. If this were happening spontaneously, you would be seizing… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/15 09:57 AM |
| 2 | [ArousalScience] Observations on Tinder through the eyes of an attractive female. 4 types of profile pictures that will end with you getting rejected.PS: Back to the first comments, I'd also argue that abundance is why a number of women react with hostility or disinterest to a man who presents his job without showing satisfaction in it. In a time of abundance, the men with the most resources and status don't need to work for either of them. Therefore, between a man who works and one who does not, all else being equal, a modern female will assume that the unemployed man is the better option. However, if a man presents his job as something that… | /r/TheRedPill | 17/06/15 09:52 PM |
| 1 | Producer vs Consumer MentalityThat is an awesome quote. Thank you. :) | /r/TheRedPill | 17/06/15 09:44 PM |
| 3 | [ArousalScience] Observations on Tinder through the eyes of an attractive female. 4 types of profile pictures that will end with you getting rejected.Note for the rest of the mini-essay: just think of it as this way, all animals have two and only two directives. 1: Survive at least halfway through the species average adulthood expectancy. 2: Reproduce as efficiently as possible in that time. For human males 1 is best met by working hard and keeping social and 2 is best met by impregnating as many females as possible as frequently as possible. For human females 1 is best met by attaching herself to a hardworking male and supporting him and 2 i… | /r/TheRedPill | 17/06/15 09:38 PM |
| 7 | [ArousalScience] Observations on Tinder through the eyes of an attractive female. 4 types of profile pictures that will end with you getting rejected.Humans are designed to reproduce and our bodies have no concept of abundance. Therefore, status remains the main indicator of resource potential to any woman, just as, even in the era of IVF, youth and beauty are the main indicator of fertility to any man. Curiously, it applies beyond a woman's own selection. It also applies to maximizing her son's options, finding her daughter a resource-rich man and steering other women away from her and her daughter's potential mates. For example, Jon swapped… | /r/TheRedPill | 17/06/15 12:07 PM |
| 13 | Producer vs Consumer MentalityHumans are designed to craft and create. It's what sets our brains apart from those of animals that don't use tools and it's what allowed a naked, slow, weak little ape with low figure births, high parental investment and high mortality to conquer the world. If a human does not create, they either lack this human intelligence or it is suppressed. Lacking human intelligence is often fairly evident and actually quite rare. No creativity is less common than no empathy, no mathematical ability or no… | /r/TheRedPill | 17/06/15 10:42 AM |
| 10 | [ArousalScience] Observations on Tinder through the eyes of an attractive female. 4 types of profile pictures that will end with you getting rejected.No-one wants to see you working hard and struggling. That's unattractive. Same thing of someone in a suit sitting typing away on a laptop.. That's not sexy at all. Not quite. Hard work can be sexy. Why else the appeal of uniformed enforcers, lumberjacks and farmhands in so many romance novels and common fantasies? The struggle has its appeal too: sweat, tension, concentration. Happy men are less sexy than brooding, angry or concentrating men. The thing that makes the difference is therefore in t… | /r/TheRedPill | 17/06/15 01:18 AM |
| 1 | What's your love language? What's your SO's? How does this affect the relationship?Jon prefers acts of service: massages, a thoughtful gift, a bit of help somewhere, some quiet time or anything else where the action shows I am thinking about him. I prefer verbal affirmation when I'm in a hyper mood or physical touch when I'm in a quiet mood. So I do something nice for him and he hugs me and thanks me and we're happy. We're both very introverted too, which may help when we reciprocate. Reciprocation does two things. Firstly it's a way of communicating what you like. I have a fe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/15 08:33 PM |
| 2 | There are no “nice guys” or “assholes”, there are just “boring” men and “interesting” menUnsure on sidebar material, but I have adjusted it slightly and scheduled it among my blog posts. And a loose understanding of how the world works is really in anyone's grasp. You just have to cast aside any hope that life is ultimately good and pleasant, that you only have to get everything right and we'll be back in Eden. In reality, life is complex, harsh and uncaring, beautiful in its own way, but not a lovely fairytale. It's actually a little sad that so many people are scared to see it tha… | /r/TheRedPill | 15/06/15 01:34 PM |
| 2 | There are no “nice guys” or “assholes”, there are just “boring” men and “interesting” menEdit: forgive the essay. I got carried away. But we have problem parents too. They won't fix their children. Dysgenic fertility is too high, overall reproduction is too low, parental involvement is overshadowed by the state. Want an idea of how it will fix itself? Look at Italy around 600 a.d., or anywhere in South or West Europe in 1400-1600 a.d.. You see, blue pill education is a reaction to the demise of a violent order. When Rome was falling in the 200-300s a.d., it left behind soldiers and … | /r/TheRedPill | 08/06/15 05:21 PM |
| 1 | 25 year old guy gets childlocked by postwall femaleYou make for worthwhile conversation also. And it makes sense that solo-role-play doesn't work for you: it probably wouldn't work for most men. Sexual arousal is around 60-80% in a woman's head and 20-40% in her physical experiences. Overstimulation can knock it so that it's 40% sensation, but the mindset is key for warmup. Arousal for men seems to be 50% purely visual, 40% touch and 5% for both mental and conversation. (Though obviously I can't be any more sure of that than of other women's sex… | /r/TheRedPill | 08/06/15 04:57 PM |
| 2 | There are no “nice guys” or “assholes”, there are just “boring” men and “interesting” menbut there's less hot guys and they will hook up with those women so they aren't missing anything by me passing them over. That I think is something a lot of red pillers miss. Just because a few thousand men raise their standards doesn't mean women are suddenly going to start taking better care of themselves, learning domestic skills and practicing some self-discipline. We need something on the scale of Japan's herbivore men to have an impact. And even then, Japanese women still wanted a husband … | /r/TheRedPill | 08/06/15 09:51 AM |
| 2 | 25 year old guy gets childlocked by postwall femaleSome women may genuinely find it feels different. Latex and skin have different textures. But lubrication masks a lot of the difference and most women easily engage in some imagination when it's convenient for them. Think of it as solitary role-play. Women often need a little time to warm up and can be easily distracted (great evolutionary measure to make us less vulnerable during sex, not so cool when there isn't a hungry panther or a rogue Alpha trying to hunt us down). Solo-role-play can get … | /r/TheRedPill | 08/06/15 09:45 AM |
| 2 | There are no “nice guys” or “assholes”, there are just “boring” men and “interesting” menI understand that. Hence specific examples. Just making noise about how great we have it would be pretty pointless, but maybe the examples could help someone to evaluate things some day. I genuinely wish every man could find someone who loves him deeply and tenderly and knows how to follow in a way that makes him feel confident leading. Even men I don't like or know. Even Justin Bieber or the most irritating SJWs from university. And I have a similar hope for all women: that they find someone wh… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/06/15 09:25 AM |
| 1 | 25 year old guy gets childlocked by postwall femaleSounds fun. I always seem to enjoy myself more when I am consciously aware I'm ovulating. | /r/TheRedPill | 07/06/15 09:11 AM |
| 1 | 25 year old guy gets childlocked by postwall femaleFair enough. I'm fine pretending until it's time for kids. I find my brain is more powerful than my body there. | /r/TheRedPill | 07/06/15 09:10 AM |
| 1 | There are no “nice guys” or “assholes”, there are just “boring” men and “interesting” menHow? He was the one who said he wanted to get me pregnant before he was 30. The plans were thrown off and we're just trying to fit it in sooner rather than later, seeing as before he's 30 isn't really viable under current circumstances. | /r/TheRedPill | 06/06/15 11:29 PM |
| 1 | There are no “nice guys” or “assholes”, there are just “boring” men and “interesting” menNah, when there have been arguments, he's straight forward about it. One that sticks in my mind was when I was staying with my sister and he told me I was acting strange every time I was around them, he hated it and was on the edge of leaving me if I didn't get my act together. It was years ago, but knowing I hurt him like that still makes me feel awful. And he keeps check of my moods because I have cyclothymia and often he detects my depression before it actually hits me. He'll tell me flat out… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/06/15 06:31 PM |
| 2 | There are no “nice guys” or “assholes”, there are just “boring” men and “interesting” menHow else would you define a relationship where there is no emotionally invested arguing, no shouting, no ultimatums, no aggression and no standoffs? Example day (today): He woke up around 1.30. I brought him tea and a morning pork pie and we watched the latest Assassination Classroom and fooled around. Afterwards talked about Karma Akabane and Koro-Sensei being the only solid characters and about how Nobuhiko Okamoto always ends up in the same roles. He went to sort some odd jobs at his mother's… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/06/15 05:58 PM |
| -1 | There are no “nice guys” or “assholes”, there are just “boring” men and “interesting” menImagine if you knew someone who had 100% the same opinion as you and likes you 100% of the time. That would be boring and creepy as fuck. It is completely unnatural for a human being to think 100% the same as another human being. There is no friction, no argument, no fights: this person is boring. “Assholes”, on the other hand, cause friction, argument, fights. They make things happen, socially, that girls are not used to. Girls are used to beta men who agree with everything they say because the… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/06/15 04:33 PM |
| 2 | Vegan wife contemplates leaving Beta HusbandZulu Africa in colonial times, Manchurian China 1000b.c., etc. Humans seem to regularly regress to tribal royalty. Tyranny is just too inviting for both the men who will sit at the top and the women who love them. | /r/TheRedPill | 06/06/15 09:23 AM |
| 1 | Vegan wife contemplates leaving Beta HusbandI think all humans have some amount of spiritual desire in us. A sort of natural wonder at everything that we want to explain. But I can't see how you could read a religious text and say "This is 100% of what I already believed in." Most of the time if you start out with a spiritual pull, you will have to change your fundamental "personal religion" beliefs to fit any religion. If you believe there is life on another planet, to become a Christian you would have to claim God created it or that oth… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/06/15 09:20 AM |
| 1 | Vegan wife contemplates leaving Beta HusbandYes, but there's a difference between the blind, passive follower who puts his leader before himself and the loose follower who understands his main role is leadership and that he needs to put leading and guidance before his irrational love of anything or anyone. If you regularly put your leader and simple safety before your own wellbeing and find happiness in that, you are a Delta or a woman. If you regularly put your followers and your wellbeing before your closest leader and find happiness in… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/06/15 09:15 AM |
| 0 | Women Are Crazy+1 I'll be changing my name on bank accounts and everything legal. It's a simple matter of sending everyone a copy of your civil certificate. Unfortunately, Jon's surname isn't the best name to have when you're a private tutor and I already have a business setup under my maiden name, so I am keeping it for business. Business names and private names are so completely separate I actually use a family name for my translation business, my maiden name for my tutoring work and I can still use Jon's su… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/06/15 11:47 PM |
| 5 | Field Report! Consistently being Present in the mornings.I'm so glad you've discovered the joys of morning routines! When Jon's on days he gets up around 4.30am to leave at 5.15. I make a point of prepping his bags the night before so if I have a bad night we can still cuddle until it's time for him to get up, get dressed and go. I prefer waking up with him, but sometimes I get anxious or paranoid at night and can't sleep or I get hit by lethargy and nothing short of ten hours cuts it. But shifts are shifts. On nights I wake him up around 1.30 or 2.30… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/15 09:08 PM |
| 2 | Vegan wife contemplates leaving Beta HusbandI know. Most of my family were vegan. I was raised a vegan. I talk to many vegans the rare times I'm on Facebook. They just slowly wither or adopt a vegan junk food diet and get fat on cake. There's something to be said for a plant-based diet, seeing as it's consistently the most powerful for longevity, health and recovery. But just because a plate that is 1/3 greens, 1/3 rice and 1/3 beef is healthy doesn't mean that it's healthier when you take away the beef. | /r/TheRedPill | 05/06/15 08:55 PM |
| 2 | Vegan wife contemplates leaving Beta HusbandI'm starting to wonder how many men are like this, though. Think about it this way: for society to function, men, the warriors and hunters, must lead and protect. Women must therefore follow and support. BUT only 1/10 men, at the very most, can be leaders, counsels, kingmakers, warlords and witchdoctors. 9/10 men, for society to function, must be followers. And a population of 90% healthy, unwilling followers under 10% slightly more powerful leaders is a weak population, continually fighting to … | /r/TheRedPill | 05/06/15 08:49 PM |
| 5 | Vegan wife contemplates leaving Beta HusbandIf marriage is TRP hardmode, then marriage to a religious convert must be akin to sudden death. You can't plan for that, just prepare, observe closely and hope it never happens. | /r/TheRedPill | 05/06/15 06:32 PM |
| 1 | "I am not marrying you like this! REJECTED"How our proposal went: Jon: "If this goes well, in three years I'll ask you to marry me." Me: "Sounds fair." * Jon: 1.5 years later "This is going very well, I'll ask you to marry me up (local mountain trail)." Me: "Can we just get a gold band to cover both events? I don't like to wear jewellery and diamonds are a scam." Jon: "Yeah." * A bit after the 2 year anniversary we climb the mountain trail. Jon hurts his knee so he proposes halfway up and hands me the ring. I wear it, we go home. I prete… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/06/15 06:24 PM |
| 11 | Vegan wife contemplates leaving Beta HusbandVeganism is religious tribalism. She is: A: Suffering due to her body not adjusting well to a vegan diet. B: Trying to claim a moral highground to someone who is wholly apathetic to her morality. C: Developing new friendships, habits and hobbies outside of her marriage, involving people who DO share her physical suffering and moral whining. In other words, she is part of a tribe and he is a stark contrast to "her people". She is choosing a dubious moral stance over her husband. And he is choosin… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/06/15 06:11 PM |
| 1 | I think I finally understand why my girlfriend still loves going to bars while my enthusiasm has wanedYou can exploit the freebies for yourself. Particularly thirsty men will buy a girl a drink or food or anything at all without her even asking, sometimes without knowing her. If you send her to get the drinks at the bar, she could come back with free drinks for you every time just for being a woman ordering a drink. | /r/TheRedPill | 05/06/15 01:26 PM |
| 1 | 25 year old guy gets childlocked by postwall femaleI meant more the women. I think men can't really pretend they aren't wearing one due to sensation difference, but for women it is easy to just pretend he's not wearing one. | /r/TheRedPill | 04/06/15 07:21 AM |
| 7 | Regular Recipe Thread?I would love a monthly recipe thread! It could be a lot of fun and some help if we're short of ideas or working with new ingredients. Especially if it could be stickied every month so the latest is easy to find. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/15 04:40 AM |
| 1 | 25 year old guy gets childlocked by postwall femaleOne can always pretend it's off if that's what you want. The human brain is very powerful, especially when sexually stimulated. No actual excuse for insisting on the real thing until both partners consent to parenthood affirmatively, enthusiastically and in a healthy state of mind. | /r/TheRedPill | 03/06/15 04:39 AM |
| 1 | 25 year old guy gets childlocked by postwall femaleSexual biology is sexy to self-aware animals? | /r/TheRedPill | 03/06/15 04:37 AM |
| 3 | 25 year old guy gets childlocked by postwall femaleBut that would involve not having sex until you want to have babies, just in case. Women can have sex and enjoy a fairly high contraceptive efficiency rate when they take the pill properly or use an IUD. And women know when they're on the pill or have an IUD, whereas a man can't know for sure that a woman he's with is on contraception at all, let alone using it properly when she is. Why should women be able to control when they have kids whilst still having sex, but men have to avoid sex entirel… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/06/15 04:36 AM |
| 19 | 25 year old guy gets childlocked by postwall femaleTo many women the most erotic act is insemination. Sex may just be fun to your mind/ego, but that's because the most fun is reproductive functionality. It's always a given for men, but people seem to assume women's bodies aren't aware of their reproductive function, that we don't actively want to breed. If that were the case we would have died out millenia ago. | /r/TheRedPill | 02/06/15 08:25 AM |
| 17 | 25 year old guy gets childlocked by postwall femaleIt started with women, modern men are just leveling the playing field. Men used to want 4-10 kids because paternity was more guaranteed without contraceptives (women would take fewer chances when they were not able to use bc or abort secretively) and a human life was the best investment you can make towards your future, so the more kids the better. If modern men could have guaranteed paternity on 80% of their kids, no chance of divorce, no child support payments and a guarantee that some of thei… | /r/TheRedPill | 02/06/15 08:21 AM |
| 23 | #GiveYourMoneyToWomen hashtag on Twitter exposes feminism's final form: "Give me cash or I'll call you a misogynist"A friend (using the term loosely) of ours has recently been #GivingMoneyToWomen in an effort to win back a woman who literally said "A holiday is my prize for being with you." And he still wants her back. Some Betas don't wake up even if they have access to other women and their oneitis is literally telling them they're a wallet. | /r/TheRedPill | 02/06/15 08:13 AM |
| 2 | Passing down the Pill: On Children and MarriageI would also guess that women who make their own "allowance" by working from home are less likely to break up the family over money than women who leave the home and than women who are complete dependents. Women who work outside: earn their own money, have something to gain from alimony, less family oriented. Women who are complete dependents: don't have any money, have a lot to gain from alimony, scared of destitution. A busy woman who sees her husband as her family as much as her kids are, who… | /r/TheRedPill | 30/05/15 01:39 PM |
| 1 | is it just me or women are kind of ignorant in regard of male sexuality?I'm unsure how much of it is hormonal, or at least environment, though. A lot of these mechanisms are engrained during various stages of development in the womb. Hence why I can have many high T traits (broader shoulders, body hair, high sex drive) whilst missing others (competitiveness, desire for multiple partners). All were set at a certain level by womb exposure to various hormones. These hormones varied during every stage of development, resulting in apparently inconsistent results. But if … | /r/TheRedPill | 29/05/15 01:51 PM |
| 1 | is it just me or women are kind of ignorant in regard of male sexuality?Yep, I'm straight. I also have a high sex drive (3-12 times a day if I had my own way). And I understand the biology behind it. I just can't understand it as an internal drive. It's like trying to make sense of gay women or bulimia. I know they're real and I know as much of what causes them as anyone knows, but it's too alien to me. | /r/TheRedPill | 29/05/15 07:52 AM |
| 1 | is it just me or women are kind of ignorant in regard of male sexuality?No worries. I'm pretty amoral anyway and after understanding the biology behind it, it doesn't really disturb me. I'd always figured humans were single-strategy monogamous animals, because that was the way society was wired and the way I seem to be wired, so it made sense and anything against it seemed repulsive because it seemed counter to biology. Knowing that humans employ hundreds of variable strategies from single-mate monogamy to continual renovation of partners to polygamy makes all inher… | /r/TheRedPill | 28/05/15 10:13 PM |
| 2 | Solipsism compared to Nihilism (and the Stoics)Solipsism is unawareness of anything outside your own existence. May be the result of nihilism or narcissism. Slightly incorrect. Nihilism is the acceptance that everything is meaningless, which includes you. Solipsism is the belief that you are deeply meaningful whilst everything else is meaningless. Narcissism is the belief that everything has meaning, but yours is more important. Person: "Let's go out and enjoy ourselves." Nihilist 1: "Why bother going out? Pleasure is only a distraction from… | /r/TheRedPill | 28/05/15 08:46 PM |
| 22 | No you can't marry an ugly girl and expect her to be faithful. AWALT. No exceptions, even for uggos.What do you mean? I totally exerted more self control when I was fat compared to now. Being fat is hard, dedicated work. /s | /r/TheRedPill | 28/05/15 08:32 PM |
| 2 | is it just me or women are kind of ignorant in regard of male sexuality?Women don't understand different sexual feelings at all. Even I don't understand how men are attracted to so many women, even though I accept it and understand the biology behind it. I even have a comparison point. I have a higher sex drive for a woman and they can't compute how you enjoy it. You know the Futurama episode with "death by snu snu"? It shocked me to find out, but that's basically what many women think daily sex is like. If you mention more than once daily, they chastise you for bei… | /r/TheRedPill | 28/05/15 06:59 PM |
| 2 | The Toilet SeatThe two main reasons women say it: 1: There is a large number of women who sit on a toilet without looking (somehow) and get hit with cold porcelain where cold porcelain doesn't feel comfortable. 2: Women parroting the above women as a joke or a test without realizing why the other women say it. I guess you could make a case that you moved it, so you put it back, or that it needs to be down more often than it needs to be up, but really, it isn't that hard to move a toilet seat. Just let it be, i… | /r/TheRedPill | 28/05/15 06:46 PM |
| 2 | Stop Swearing, Complaining or GossipingI hate it more when I can't avoid these people. At least a mile between me and everyone I don't like. :p I also try and not dislike people who are useful. Even if it means dehumanizing them a little, if someone is a horrible person but a great and reliable driver, thinking of them as "Jem, the good and reliable driver" rather than "Jem, who crashed her own sister's wedding" makes it easier to deal with them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/15 05:41 PM |
| 2 | Marriage is nothing but a fail-safe for a woman and provides no benefit for the manObjectively speaking, if you marry debt-free, are determined to save almost all your disposable income, avoid having a wedding and make sure to apply for every tax break you can get, in the first year you make back the civil ceremony money +100% or more. But many people marry with a load of debt, no savings and an awful credit rating either side, if not a spending habit and an expensive wedding, which defeats the financial pros completely. £400-10,000 is nothing if you spend £50,000 on a wedding… | /r/TheRedPill | 28/05/15 09:10 AM |
| 1 | Post-wall woman on AskWomen starts feeling the heat. Gets frustrated because the guys around her have options.Being around people whom you can be honest to and cutting yourself off from harmful influences is generally wiser than lying to your own detriment, that much I can agree with. | /r/TheRedPill | 26/05/15 11:35 PM |
| 1 | Post-wall woman on AskWomen starts feeling the heat. Gets frustrated because the guys around her have options.Hey, a general rule isn't going to always apply. In part I respect your efforts not to lie. In part, being honest myself, I find it hard to see the logic of absolute honesty. What is your reasoning for that principle? How does it help or hinder you? | /r/TheRedPill | 26/05/15 05:03 PM |
| 2 | Your SO's favourite meals?I bake bread for him so when he has sandwiches for breakfast it's nice bread with eggs, nuts and seeds and plenty of calories. Also make stews to keep in the fridge: 1 meat, 2-5 vegetables, home-made tomato, curry or white sauce. And a roast dinner makes an excellent Sunday lunch and leaves several days of leftovers for morning sandwiches, frittatas and small stews. You don't really need to overthink it. Just bake in bulk and cook meats that can be reused with various vegetables and in various f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/15 11:26 AM |
| 1 | Post-wall woman on AskWomen starts feeling the heat. Gets frustrated because the guys around her have options.I think many people observing are also rationalizing. The higher your empathy and cultural connections to a person, the more likely you will assume they also possess your intellect, your agency, your honesty. Hence why people from cross-cultural backgrounds and on the dark triad spectrum seem to spot these problems more. Chances are you have naturally (psychopathy spectrum) or artificially (traumatic childhood event creating distrust) lowered empathy or experienced culture shock in your childhoo… | /r/TheRedPill | 23/05/15 07:04 AM |
| 1 | Master in action: Gordon Ramsay Detonates HamstersI don't question it as much. I just think it's vastly misunderstood. Generally it's a one-off thing or ongoing from both sides in equal proportion. Some men will slap back in self defense or pin a woman down to intimidate her. Many "domestic abusers" are also being abused in retaliation (or are the retaliators) and not hitting the woman with 1/8th of the strength they have. In the more misguided cases, they probably feel like they're being quite tame. But when a woman is hit by a man's full forc… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/05/15 03:22 PM |
| 3 | Master in action: Gordon Ramsay Detonates HamstersI can understand the shock, to be honest. Putting it stupidly: pain hurts. And pain hurts even more when you can't properly prepare yourself for it. So many western girls just haven't experienced any blunt trauma pain, at least not with any intensity. On the other hand, cutting fingers down to the bone, deep menstrual pain and burns may hurt, in terms of intensity, as much as a middling punch. But I think every flavour of pain needs to be learned differently. | /r/TheRedPill | 22/05/15 02:41 PM |
| 2 | Master in action: Gordon Ramsay Detonates HamstersApparently very easily. As a teenager I didn't think much of it other than "wow" and "now I really want to punch all of you", but the more I think about it, the more surprising it is. I understand "rarely hit". I have "rarely" been hit in the face. Couple of times by a football, once by a basketball (which I will never forget), couple of semi-serious fights, lots of scrapping as a young kid (5-10 in rural places = you will gladiator-fight for fun), maybe a few I'm forgetting. But never? That jus… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/05/15 02:25 PM |
| 9 | Master in action: Gordon Ramsay Detonates HamstersThink of it this way: -When you were 5, how often did you hit girls your age? -When you were 10, how often did you hit girls your age? -When you were 15, how often did you hit girls your age? I was surprised to find out in my late teens that most girls have never been punched in the face. Not in their whole lives. Part of it is that adults and boys don't actually like the idea of hitting a female. Part of it is that girls fight like girls. Part of it is that society punishes you disproportionate… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/05/15 08:18 AM |
| 13 | Post-wall woman on AskWomen starts feeling the heat. Gets frustrated because the guys around her have options.People hate it when others get ahead of them. Every WK thinks he'd get into 1000 girls panties by next week if only they gave him a chance. Every lesser female, be she a plate, ageing or whatever, thinks she'll get commitment "when the time is right". When they see an Alpha getting with younger women, the WK thinks the man's "distracting" these women and the commitment-minded woman (CMW) thinks the plates are "distracting" the man. When they see a higher Beta, Alpha or Sigma couple, the WK think… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/05/15 06:02 AM |
| 1 | Post-wall woman on AskWomen starts feeling the heat. Gets frustrated because the guys around her have options.the guys from my past have all seemed...perfect? They come from nice families with similar backgrounds to mine, well educated, work in finance (this is just a weird coincidence- I don't only look for finance guys), and always come on to me pretty strong. I'm always the one saying to take things slow and then all of a sudden, it's over. "Perfect" --> physically well developed. Most likely muscular, tall, the works. "Nice families" --> most likely affluent. "Work in finance" --> Wealthy, glamorous… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/05/15 05:51 AM |
| 4 | I was asked to train a new female employee to do the promotion I got passed on.Jon found this out the hard way. His old job was awful. He was stuck dealing with the more difficult coworkers and was even told by upper management to "get (manager) to do her job", despite being beneath her and that she could get him fired over "pressuring" her. Once he left his old job was advertised as £7K more than he'd been on. The replacement quit shortly after the first few weeks. They then needed two people to replace him, both of them at the higher salary... They quit too. Apparently h… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/05/15 04:50 AM |
| 1 | The "Smart Guy" syndromeI feel I have a few traits in common with Grandiose/Vulnerable Narcissism That's where a lot of people make a mistake. I have a few traits in common with psychopathy. I meet many requirements for aspergers too. But self-diagnosis is weak and unreliable. One of the diagnostic methods for every mental and personality disorder is to use "that is not better accounted for by...". In other words, first you rule out the more common ailments, be they a physical problem or another mental disorder. With p… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/05/15 04:41 AM |
| 3 | The "Smart Guy" syndromeTrust me, to a narcissist: external validation is worthless. Comparison is valuable. But other people do not validate narcissists, they validate themselves. If you hate them it's because they're awesome. If you love them it's because they're awesome. If they live in a box separated from everyone else, it's because they're awesome. Other people are just incidental. Therefore, not a requirement. The narcissism comes from within. What you're describing is the modern phenomenon of entitled egoism an… | /r/TheRedPill | 20/05/15 02:48 PM |
| 5 | The "Smart Guy" syndromePeople use the terminology in two senses: "Narcissistic behaviour": a replacement for the word "egotism". An excessive focus on the self that can be driven internally or externally, based on self-love or self-hate. Clinical Narcissism: a personality disorder where a person is egoistic, loves themselves and views themselves as the only source of validation. An egoist can be someone who is insecure, seeking external validation and constantly self-centred. Most people are egoists in a way. A narcis… | /r/TheRedPill | 19/05/15 07:57 PM |
| 6 | New SAHW seeking inputI'm a SAHW due to a combination of reasons, one of them being cyclothymia, so in a way I understand your struggles and hopefully my tricks will be applicable to your condition as well. My tricks: -Keeping lists of work, even scheduling it. -A BORED? chart for when I need to fill empty spaces productively. -Working things out day by day, you never know what you'll be able to do. -Prioritizing things that need to be done by this evening or tomorrow. -Rewarding myself for completing something that … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/15 06:25 PM |
| 2 | What's your opinion of your friends' and peers' relationships?I'm not sure where our PDAs sit on the scale, probably a combination of light and grabby. Limpet-territory? :p So maybe for some people it's too much. But we've even had a cook at the back of chip shop glare daggers at me although all we did was order food, hold hands, talk as we waited for the food, pay and leave. I didn't see it so I'm not sure about it, but Jon commented on it on the drive home. I don't really mind seeing other couples enjoying each other's company, though, even if it's a bit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/15 05:38 PM |
| 7 | Virgin gf uncomfortable with sexIf she isn't about to have sex, she isn't about to have sex. It took me around a combined year of knowing Jon closely, being friends and later dating, to be ready for sex, even though after the first stages I was very attracted to him and was happy to let him know my attraction in other ways and keep him satisfied. He was happy to wait it out because he knew he had other options and he didn't particularly want them. (MGTOW before it was cool; he felt I added enough to his life without sex that i… | /r/TheRedPill | 19/05/15 11:04 AM |
| 6 | What's your opinion of your friends' and peers' relationships?Funny thing about playfulness/affection? How angry some people, especially women post-25 look when they see it. Jon's started noticing lately that when we're out and about, whether we're on a walk, getting a fast-food treat, visiting charity shops or at a preserved building, if I am generally happy or going through hypomania and am actively initiating PDAs and chatting happily, women around Jon's age (25-35), start looking at me as though I killed their puppy. Some men do too, and some people ou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/15 09:38 AM |
| 2 | What's your opinion of your friends' and peers' relationships?I just don't think of them as romantic relationships. Anything under a year is "meh, they'll probably break up". Anything where the end goal isn't a LTR is "meh, they'll break up". Anything where they are clearly incompatible is "meh, they aren't together anyway". Most relationships, especially for people our age (teens and 20s) and the average person in their early 30s, isn't a romantic relationship. A sexual relationship, a relationship of convenience or desperation, a lustful relationship or … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/15 09:33 AM |
| 7 | "Early men and women were equal, say scientists" -- The GuardianThe thing that surprises me is how many liberally-minded people will insist that "women gather, maybe fish, stay home, have babies and keep the men happy whilst men hunt, war and defend the areas" is egalitarian but "women provide secondary income, stay home, have babies and keep the men happy whilst men work full-time and are eligible for draft" is sexist and patriarchal. Liberals are more guilty of the "noble savage" rubbish peddled by Victorians then any modern human of any other ideological … | /r/TheRedPill | 18/05/15 05:06 PM |
| 3 | Fork Use 102: Building MuscleA lot of people, especially people of Northern heritages (Slavic, Scandinavian, Eskimo, Manchurian/Mongolians, etc) seem to naturally gravitate towards warrior diet eating patterns. The unfortunate part is that most people, when eating like this naturally, will overeat or undereat massively. After all, in this world there seem to be people who have small stomachs and people who could comfortably eat a cow and very few people who naturally sit in between. The fortunate part is that it's really ea… | /r/TheRedPill | 18/05/15 11:14 AM |
| 2 | Stop Swearing, Complaining or GossipingIt could do. The hardest part is stopping yourself saying things when they first pop into your head, though. You'd also need a way of reminding yourself why gossip is harmful, as, unlike mean comments and swearing, gossip, when read, doesn't really look that bad. Perhaps noting how it could have affected someone next to the comment? That way you can see all the harm you could have inflicted over the week. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/15 09:15 AM |
| 12 | Stop Swearing, Complaining or GossipingThere's another thing like this: the complaint diary. Every day, rather than say the bad things you wanted to, you write down any that are still with you at the end of the day. No making them sound nice or making excuses for yourself. Just mean things you still want to say. At the end of the week, you read through them and burn the pages. The intended results: 1: You say fewer or no mean things. 2: You forget most of the mean thoughts by the end of the day anyway. 3: You let go of the remaining … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/15 05:03 PM |
| -1 | Setting the record straight: Mad Max: Fury Road is humanist, not feministPart of it is that we've got used to "battle babes" that stand around in heels and corsets and are either useless or laughably overpowered. Because at some point in the 60s or 70s comic book writers decided that was the sort of heroine that appealed to nerds. The same nerds who preferred the old school heroines that were explicable, realistic or just entertainment pure and simple. The same nerds who could spot the inaccuracies a mile off. Then it somehow leaked into films. And part of it is that… | /r/TheRedPill | 16/05/15 04:53 PM |
| 5 | Setting the record straight: Mad Max: Fury Road is humanist, not feminist"Then he jacks her vehicle to add insult to injury. If this were a feminist movie Furiosia would have beat his ass and left him for dead. " Yup. That was what I was expecting from the moment the liberals started praising it as "feminist". I was thinking "here we go, superheroine Goddess and the Amazons use Mad Max as a tool to take over a post-apocalyptic world and restore the order the big bad patriarchy stole". But from your description, I'm going to watch it and see what I make of it. Yeah, i… | /r/TheRedPill | 16/05/15 04:19 PM |
| 4 | Setting the record straight: Mad Max: Fury Road is humanist, not feministFrom the above, it sounds more like "Boudica and a bunch of uselessly weak girls get rescued by Mad Max" than like "feels before reals". | /r/TheRedPill | 16/05/15 02:30 PM |
| 4 | I feel like killing myself. I don't know what to do... Need some help. Some red pill help...Name one pleasant trait she has that no other woman in the entire world has. Name her every flaw, every thing about her that hurts you, offends your sense of dignity, shakes your love of women. Name every characteristic that was nice, but imperfect. List 1 will be empty. List 2 will have around 5-10 points. List 3 will have almost every one of her pleasant traits and physical characteristics. And you want to kill yourself over losing something so common, so easily found, so easily improved on? T… | /r/TheRedPill | 16/05/15 05:13 AM |
| 2 | Why do mothers wanna keep you beta?The worst part is seeing guys in that situation trying to rationalize how their mothers are good deep down and acting rationally. When in reality they're scared their boomer husband/ex won't be supporting them much longer and that they and their more "expensive" children won't be supported. | /r/askTRP | 16/05/15 05:04 AM |
| 1 | Sublime experience I had in a bar, featuring some hot girls and a sucker.Drunk Scousers make a sort of drawling sound that could turn "hon" into "hen", though. | /r/TheRedPill | 15/05/15 02:32 PM |
| 5 | Why do mothers wanna keep you beta?Someone close to me is going through this right now and, being read in red pill philosophy, has his own theory which he's considering submitting/writing. My understanding so far: Most parents, especially boomers, view their children as a retirement plan. At least in this guy's case, he has a sibling that is not viewed as a retirement plan, whereas the assumption is that he will support his aging mother and his spendthrift sibling. This assumption comes from the fact he wanted to care for his mot… | /r/askTRP | 15/05/15 01:27 PM |
| 2 | Broken Women: A Lesson in Game and LifeThere is a scale to that spectrum. In order of severity. Sub clinical two: Dysthymia: mild downs followed by stable mood over short periods of time, sometimes diagnosed as minor depression, rarely spotted, often managed by the person with the disorder. Common behaviours: lethargy, existential depression, self-harm on occasion. Cyclothymia: mild downs followed by mild ups, then stable mood, over short periods of time, sometimes diagnosed as minor depression, rarely spotted, the person with the di… | /r/TheRedPill | 15/05/15 11:00 AM |
| 3 | Sublime experience I had in a bar, featuring some hot girls and a sucker.Scottish relatives of mine speak like that. But Brummies and Scouse do sometimes too. Bet's on Scotland, but without accent it's hard. | /r/TheRedPill | 15/05/15 09:49 AM |
| 9 | It's Official: Fellatio Is A " Benefit-Provisioning mate retention strategy" and " mate retention behavior" for women.Plot twist: jaw pain happens. It happened at the start too, when you still received oral. She just started to care about the pain because she stopped caring about you. Same development as with high heels, waxing, P90x, etc. A woman who genuinely finds it unbearably painful will not do it for the first four to six months. | /r/TheRedPill | 15/05/15 07:40 AM |
| 1 | How to inject some alpha energy into your relationship immediately.Yup. In the simplest terms, a man's ultimate sociosexual goal is to become so Alpha and wealthy that he can get any woman he wants, but a woman's ultimate sociosexual goal is to become so much of a unicorn that she can get the best man to commit to her. Of course, neither goal is realistic, but when you aim for 100% you might hit 90%, whereas aiming for 90% may just give you 70%. | /r/TheRedPill | 15/05/15 07:29 AM |
| 2 | Just curious, anyone else find themselves more judgmental about other females post red-pill?It's not intentional. It's just the way my mind works. I don't want to make everyone what I am, I just like becoming the best I can be and feel automatic disgust when I see people failing to do the same, almost like lifting your hand off a hot stove when it burns you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/15 07:54 PM |
| 3 | It's Official: Fellatio Is A " Benefit-Provisioning mate retention strategy" and " mate retention behavior" for women.No controls for fetishes. The results would probably have been the same anyway, but worth noting. Good find. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/05/15 04:01 PM |
| 2 | Just curious, anyone else find themselves more judgmental about other females post red-pill?I've always been a judgemental person, toward everyone including myself. TRP basically gave that side of my head more ammo. For example, when Jon comes home and tells me how his coworkers always have to see what I've given him for lunch, comment on how good it smells and sigh and say their wives would never do that, I feel slightly angry at the wives. Because some of them do apparently have enough time and a couple even spend all day at home, childless and unemployed, but can't manage to cook a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/15 03:55 PM |
| 5 | How to inject some alpha energy into your relationship immediately.Personal note: when Jon displays any of OPs mentioned behaviours, I assume he's in an awful mood and weigh the situation. If there's any chance I caused any of it, I give him space. If there's a clear source, I make sure he gets attention, tea and snacks and something to distract himself with, like a game or a film. In other words, my natural response to that level of withdrawal is to assume he is ill to a point where he is weakened. Not ill in body, but almost a sort of social/emotional illness… | /r/TheRedPill | 14/05/15 12:53 PM |
| 1 | "Dopamine"True enough. But if you're looking at environment, there are interferences at every stage and there isn't much way of knowing how many are reversible. Stage 1: Brain formation in the womb determined by genes. (Hello cyclothymia, dysthymia, bipolar II.) Stage 2: Brain formation altered by mother's hormonal profile and poor diet. Stage 3: Brain formation altered by early childhood diet, maternal neglect and/or mollycoddling. Stage 4: Brain formation altered by environmental stress (or lack thereof… | /r/TheRedPill | 09/05/15 07:33 PM |
| 1 | "Dopamine"Depression is more nuanced than most people assume. Depression = down. That's all. Symptoms of depression include: -lethargy -uncharacteristic slowness of thought and action -memory damage (though indulging the lethargy helps) -physical tics and twitches -joint pain (especially hands and fingers) -headaches and migraines -repetitive thought processes -easy distraction Etc, etc, etc. The "I am sad and tired" depression is obviously not present (or as present) in humans in our natural environment … | /r/TheRedPill | 08/05/15 05:17 PM |
| 3 | "Dopamine"Just bear in mind that whilst these disorders are induced in many people, they also have a biological basis. Someone with depression could have all they want and still start thinking about how life is futile and every pleasure is just time-wasting until your inevitable death, how every reward is a mere distraction and how the will to live is just your cells' evolutionary result, not your own desire... until they kill themselves. Nothing wrong in their lives, just intense nihilism caused by fault… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/05/15 08:37 PM |
| 2 | Field Report: "You're so smart" and AMALT.There's a lot of terminology mixups. In terms of male relevance to females there are only alpha and beta: men who get girls and men who don't. Possibly divided into alpha, beta and omega: men who get sex, men who get relationships and men who get neither. But in terms of social function there is a whole spectrum. Alpha: leader of the pack, extroverted, sex comes easy, can keep harems easily and often wants to if there are enough quality girls, betas and deltas look up to him, enjoys leadership. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/15 10:17 AM |
| 1 | Field Report: "You're so smart" and AMALT.Sounds a bit like the "intimidatingly hot" phenomenon. Some men are just intimated by the concept of rejection. But once in a blue moon even fairly decent men meet a woman who leaves them completely lost for words. Or: all men go beta when the girl is perceived to be two times his own value or more. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/15 09:59 AM |
| 1 | Shit testing during ovulationEveryone has things beyond their control that affect them. Something is out of my control, I inherited cyclothymia (spontaneously forming mild manic and depressive episodes not connected to events in my life or to my hormonal cycle) from my father's side of the family and it may be spiralling into bipolar type II (severe episodes of depression lasting weeks or months at a time, mild mania) and I have so far failed to find a medical treatment that does anything for me. I can spend one day just fi… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/05/15 09:01 PM |
| 0 | Shit testing during ovulationIt's not excuses, it's an explanation. Excuses would be if I was taking my core problems (latent hormonal imbalance + ovulatory hormonal imbalance) and using them to justify behaviours that are within my control. On the contrary, I am using my knowledge to better control my behaviours. The above was just an explanation of the internal processes that other females may not be able to offer, not an attempt at justifying anyone's behaviour. | /r/TheRedPill | 06/05/15 07:43 PM |
| 2 | Field Report: "You're so smart" and AMALT.You, sir, are either an evil mastermind or a saint. Yes, they would suffer, but by the end of such an experience how many beta hearts are shattered and how many minds awoken to reality? How many would be spared decades of agony and rejection, divorce rape and raising illegitimate children? On the other hand, how many dangerously unstable gammas will try and remove a girl's kidney? Despite what the press says, there aren't all that many of them, but what you described sounds like a numbers game t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/15 06:30 PM |
| 1 | Field Report: "You're so smart" and AMALT.That rings true to me. Although, of course, just as not all wo/men are "like that", almost everyone will assume they're average or above. Those who have low IQs will insist IQ is flawed, those with high IQs will use it as proof, those who succeed will use it as proof, those who fail will blame the system. Modesty is a hard perspective for humans to develop and I'm not sure complete modesty is possible. At least I'm not sure I have ever witnessed it and I'm pretty certain I am not modest and neit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/15 06:23 PM |
| 1 | Field Report: "You're so smart" and AMALT.So there's a vetting process to it, but the technique still sticks around beyond beta men? Interesting. Thanks for adding that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/15 04:53 PM |
| 2 | Field Report: "You're so smart" and AMALT.Makes sense. So they react to overall attitude, not to specific qualities? | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/15 04:51 PM |
| 3 | Field Report: "You're so smart" and AMALT.I get that. It's just that it starts when you're little, as adults picking you up a bit, then carries on into men flirting with women, and it's never challenged. I wonder whether it contributes to princess syndrome. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/15 04:50 PM |
| 0 | Shit testing during ovulationI didn't. In daily life I make sure to always apologize for inconveniences, adapt my behaviour for any physical failings and refuse to act on emotion alone. I hate being swept up by feelings or being unable to do what I set out to do. It isn't any different for ovulation: But, being clearer: I always apologize when I do wrong by someone I care for or need. I always make up for my flaws as anything short of perfection offends me, however unattainable perfection is. People I dislike and have no us… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/05/15 04:47 PM |
| 4 | Field Report: "You're so smart" and AMALT.I just found it interesting how many people probably would have said I was "smart" and "interesting" however dumb I acted. Flattery usually comes from self-interest on behalf of the flatterer. But it was weird to see how acting as unintelligent as I could, I was still receiving the same treatment. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/15 12:54 PM |
| 1 | Shit testing during ovulationWhy wouldn't I? In daily life I make sure to always apologize for inconveniences, adapt my behaviour for any physical failings and refuse to act on emotion alone. I hate being swept up by feelings or being unable to do what I set out to do. It isn't any different for ovulation: anything I am aware of I will work on, with or against. Even if I end up overcompensating, it's better than hurting Jon or losing work due to hormones. | /r/TheRedPill | 06/05/15 10:03 AM |
| 1 | While camping in a group, how would you react to one of the women taking charge of the work, such as gathering wood, leading hikes, launching the boat, dressing fish, etc?I understand it when it's to do with entertainment. Mini-captains are great for unloading the car and setting up tent, not much fun when you want to bbq or go scout the area. | /r/askTRP | 06/05/15 09:57 AM |
| 1 | How do YOU deal with this common situation?Highly variable. Professional setting: Just don't bring it up. You should be acting coldly and professionally enough to not get that attention. Bringing relationships up to some guys means "this is on her mind", which could lead to issues regardless of what he thinks you're thinking. Friendly setting: Bring it up when they start asking personal questions. They're bound to if they're interested. They won't ask personal questions if that's not on their mind. It's also easier to mention your partne… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/15 09:33 PM |
| 2 | While camping in a group, how would you react to one of the women taking charge of the work, such as gathering wood, leading hikes, launching the boat, dressing fish, etc?Surely it would depend on how well she does it? I've been on the same team as bossy folk and quiet folk, capable folk and useless folk. The bossiness never bothers me when the person is capable, but is repulsive when the person is useless. But quietness from a useless person is just as disgusting when they're supposed to be contributing. Uselessness in leadership or coworking is the main problem. | /r/askTRP | 05/05/15 09:26 PM |
| -1 | Shit testing during ovulationI've noticed some of those behaviours in myself too and can only stop them when I identify and work on them. The big ones: Interruption of everyone goes up (started noticing during the #NNN challenge when I tried not to interrupt people). I don't mean to, but my patience seems shorter, so when someone stops speaking I'm more likely to start talking immediately than wait 2 seconds for a follow-up sentence and when I want to say something I butt in immediately. I often check myself after the incid… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/05/15 08:51 PM |
| 1 | [Advice] How can a person with a mental illness get a LTR?It's viewed as "risk taking" and "branding yourself as 'other'" much like tattoos and numerous piercings are. The sort of woman who keeps her hair much shorter than a bob is more likely to be risk-taking, therefore promiscuous. This is then reinforced by the club scenes and Americanized culture, where the majority of girls with short hair are more promiscuous than their friends with longer hair. After a while, a guy concludes that short haired girls are not the safest bet for relationships, but … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/15 07:01 PM |
| 3 | [Advice] How can a person with a mental illness get a LTR?Women with mental illness get LTRs all the time. It isn't the main antagonist to your relationship goals. So try and work out what IS the antagonist. You have already identified a few: -Attractiveness. You have lost weight to compete better. You know your short hair is not appealing and, in some places, a marker of promiscuity, so try and grow it back out. -Environment. Many of the men around you aren't interested in commitment. But some will be. There are men everywhere who want to settle down … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/15 09:31 AM |
| 1 | #RingBySpring - college girls compete to see who get can their boyfriend to propose by springtimeI think a part of it is they probably feel sorry for her. The same way guys try and make a big deal of kids' birthdays (even if they're a niece, a friend's twins or a grandson), they know it matters a lot to her and think they're helping by getting excited and making it "special". A basic misunderstanding in how men and women work internally and as a couple. | /r/TheRedPill | 28/04/15 01:30 PM |
| 2 | Your Body Is A Physical Manifestation of your ValuesInsecurity has two faces. The intelligent/self-aware insecurity hides itself. The less intelligent/unaware insecurity flaunts whatever it has. The smart and self-aware people get that their flaws are ugly, to them and possibly to others, and hide the target. The dumb and unaware people feel their flaws are ugly, but never stop to consider that other people find them ugly and that these flaws are a target. | /r/TheRedPill | 27/04/15 10:04 PM |
| 0 | Sleeping in different beds.Jon currently works nights. That means he goes to bed around 6-7am and gets up around 2-3pm. As a tutor, I usually get up 8-9am (sometimes 7 for early bird lessons, but it's hardly the norm) and go to bed around 10-12pm. Neither of us can exactly adapt our work lives to suit when the other is home, working or asleep. Ways of softening the issue: When you go to bed, if he can, ask him to spend some time cuddled up with you in bed as you drift off. That pillow-talk and closeness can help you both.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/15 09:53 PM |
| 5 | #RingBySpring - college girls compete to see who get can their boyfriend to propose by springtimeI wonder how many women think they've "cornered" an Alpha and change their minds during the buildup to the wedding, just seeing how pandering he is to her? How many would be happier, deep down, if he just said "here's a ring, wear it, now you're mine"? | /r/TheRedPill | 27/04/15 09:35 PM |
| 5 | #RingBySpring - college girls compete to see who get can their boyfriend to propose by springtimeI'm finding that with Jon, he has some priorities besides paperwork that he wants: -he wants to keep an agreement he made with some friends and relatives that they would be involved -he wants to have a couple of meetups to basically "announce" and celebrate the union to people close to us -he wants to commemorate the marriage at various anniversaries with something a bit bigger -he wants the actual celebrations moved to March 9th, when we first went out and got engaged, to limit date confusion B… | /r/TheRedPill | 27/04/15 11:16 AM |
| 1 | The all purpose redpill attractiveness ThreadBody structure is also massively improved by posture. And posture is improved by power lifting, so your muscles hold your body in its natural shape. I appear mildly taller, my waist looks smaller and flatter and my legs look curvier and better for lifting. I haven't changed my genes, I've just given them what they need to succeed. | /r/TheRedPill | 25/04/15 10:10 AM |
| 1 | The all purpose redpill attractiveness ThreadActually, in almost all human societies that have hit average male height of 6'2", we see regression. The Masai are a notable exception. If taller were always better, then we wouldn't see humans sticking at average 6'2" or shrinking from it across the globe. Beyond a certain point, height is clearly perceived as ill-health. | /r/TheRedPill | 25/04/15 10:08 AM |
| 1 | The all purpose redpill attractiveness ThreadGreek golden ratio. Big legs may seem nice to those of us of the swole persuasion, but many prefer slightly small legs relative to overall mass. The greek ratio is the safest guess as to what is most attractive to most people. http://www.fitness.com/tools/greek_proportions/# http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-wpDe9Bb7vfA/TkCiGZgwkqI/AAAAAAAAAGM/pwPHdzJBtao/s1600/prop_var.gif | /r/TheRedPill | 25/04/15 10:05 AM |
| 21 | Settling down vs the Hoe Phase - Amber Rose claims women should be going through their hoe phase in their 30's.It's quite probably a reproductive emergency strategy. Most tribal women in their 30s are chasing after the latest litter of kids and burning out their energy. It's only in places where women are intentionally barren until 28-35 that the thirties see such a spike in appetite, simply because they have the energy. Maybe it's their body giving them one last shot at motherhood? | /r/TheRedPill | 24/04/15 06:50 PM |
| 1 | "The desire of the man is for the woman, but the desire of the woman is for the desire of the man."Actually, that's due to the GP phenomenon, not gender. General Practitioners are easy to come by anywhere you have tax-funded healthcare. Even in the UK where they are paid directly by the government (ps: and their education is government-subsidized, places controlled, etc), GPs salaries are moderate rather than high and are far lower than those of people with a similar education-time investment in another field. This is because we have just enough, leaning to an oversupply due to how readily pe… | /r/TheRedPill | 24/04/15 04:55 PM |
| 1 | "The desire of the man is for the woman, but the desire of the woman is for the desire of the man."A: That isn't a patriarchy. That is a simple cost analysis of risk, time invested in education and demand. Maths can be hard for many people. People who study maths to a higher level invest more time and energy and are also of a small elite which can actually study maths to that level, resulting in a shortage of supply for the demand. Some lines of work carry a certain risk. If you are risking your life or health, financial compensation and secondary perks are required, or nobody would do the jo… | /r/TheRedPill | 24/04/15 02:23 PM |
| 3 | "The desire of the man is for the woman, but the desire of the woman is for the desire of the man."I am on a lower total salary than my partner, despite my hourly earnings being higher. There is nobody and nothing forcing me to work fewer hours (except perhaps the odd seasonal lull in demand for tutors and translation services), it's a choice. I am better off not working full time and he is better off when I keep the home in order for him. We would have more total money if I worked full time, but life would be harder for both of us. It isn't the patriarchy, it's practicality and I think you'l… | /r/TheRedPill | 24/04/15 11:03 AM |
| 1 | Red Pill Comedy: "8 Qualities Every Alpha Female Should Look For In a Man"Confounding factors: dark triad. Many Alpha females I've seen and met seem to get very comfortable if they settle with a dt Alpha (male or female). My only guess is that, as high T, high competition, high sex drive people they love the challenge of a Machiavellian narcissist. | /r/TheRedPill | 24/04/15 06:43 AM |
| 1 | My friend just got out of the friendzone, WTF?Also, not all friends are in the friendzone. There is always a "maybe" category. Everyone you haven't met is in the "maybe" category. Most people you meet are divided into "friend", "non-significant" or "partner". But some people stay in the "maybe" category for a while. My fiancé was a "maybe" for a few months until I was certain I liked him. Friendzones (as in: the unsurpassable boundary that dictates your role in someone's life) aren't decided within 30 seconds, contrary to popular belief. | /r/TheRedPill | 24/04/15 06:35 AM |
| 2 | About being an abstract alpha (or why you don't need to fit the mould to be alpha)I have so far found several key qualities that Alphas seem to possess, regardless of definition: -Capable of leadership (with proof). -Attractive to women (with or without making an effort). -Liked by submissive men. -Dominant men sometimes like, sometimes dislike. -Practical and pragmatic (by nature or by force). -Highly skilled in three recognizable areas (for example one may be painting, working with cars and forestry, another may be pickup, writing and cooking). -Moderately skilled in severa… | /r/TheRedPill | 24/04/15 04:38 AM |
| 1 | Aspiring alphas, men shit-test too.So it's a game people with weak egos play to try and convince people around them that they're important, as a sort of protective measure against the bite of the herd? Makes sense, in a twisted sort of a way. Thank you. | /r/TheRedPill | 23/04/15 10:33 AM |
| 3 | About being an abstract alpha (or why you don't need to fit the mould to be alpha)In the arts scene, he could well count as an Alpha. Examples of dominant males in various social groups I have observed: Alpha 1: Stereotypical Chad T. type. Gypsy background, not very intellectual at the time, but some smarts so he may eventually break and do something with them, confident with girls, guys listened to him, always had "someone" for anything, from loans, to booze, to homework, to sex, to advice, to a ride. Group he was in command of: ESO years 3 and 4. Alpha 2: Very quiet, observ… | /r/TheRedPill | 23/04/15 10:17 AM |
| 2 | Aspiring alphas, men shit-test too.It's about status? Could you explain? That's made it even more confusing. | /r/TheRedPill | 22/04/15 01:54 PM |
| 16 | Aspiring alphas, men shit-test too.I'm recently discovering that this is why many women are so hard for me to interact with. I was socialized primarily by my father, older brothers, brother's friends and boys. Unsure how much of a nature-nurture divide it is, but the end result is that I enjoy talking with men and find talking with women difficult. At first I assumed this was just me being socially handicapped. (Low empathy, suspected of autism by many teachers, agoraphobia.) But I've started volunteering at a charity shop recent… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/04/15 12:00 PM |
| 3 | "The Lady's Dressing Room" [1732] and the Nature of Sympathetic Love (or, Seventeenth Century Pedestal Smashing)I remember it well too. You also need to understand the era for it to make sense (although it makes perfect sense in modern context). This was a time blossoming from the chivalry of the late renaissance (much like we're blossoming from the chivalry of the 50s), when working men still treated women as princesses, even though the social environment that required chivalry had long since died. It was also a time of extreme decadence, when women displayed wealth much like men did, peacocking and taki… | /r/TheRedPill | 16/04/15 09:56 PM |
| 7 | For Women does Sex = Love ?I would say we do want the balance of both. We just don't want the negatives of either. The "manicorn". Ideally, most women want a man who is a sexual, dominant, decisive, powerful, energetic leader as well as a caring, resource-rich, nurturing father. Theoretically, all traits can exist in one man. But, just as few sexy women develop housekeeping skills, charm or work ethic as they don't need it, few Alphas will develop Beta skills, as they don't need them. Plus, everyone has negative traits. E… | /r/TheRedPill | 16/04/15 07:50 PM |
| 4 | For Women does Sex = Love ?What you're talking about is often discussed as "balancing Alpha with Beta": the idea that you keep a woman around the longest by responding to shit tests with Alpha aloof, sarcastic, dominant displays and to comfort tests with Beta loving, nurturing, safety displays. [Edit for examples. 1: Woman asks why you never go out on dates any more. Tone angry, demanding, condescending. Respond Alpha: amplify, mock, ignore, sarcasm. 2: Woman asks same question. Tone scared, expression worried, almost cry… | /r/TheRedPill | 16/04/15 05:52 PM |
| 1 | Redpill truths mirrored in discussion on a female sub about lowering birth rates.I was meaning more on a purely physical level, I have been told by more than one guy that there are certain personality traits and behaviours they, personally, can't be aroused around on a physical level. As in, whatever part of the brain controls erections says "nope, not with this, even you have standards besides looks and here is the line". Again, with Jon, it's not that a high IQ is arousing on its own, it's just that once a girl has passed the threshold into "vapid" there's nothing she can … | /r/TheRedPill | 15/04/15 09:19 AM |
| 17 | Redpill truths mirrored in discussion on a female sub about lowering birth rates.On the flip side (and I only repeat what I've heard), but some men apparently consider certain traits "kryptonite to an erection". Specific example: current partner can't be aroused by a woman he knows to be vapid, regardless of her looks or whether she shuts up. The simple knowledge she's vapid viscerally disgusts him. Other men I know have mentioned similar ultimatums, such as certain tastes in music, being too glued to the phone or even accents, that they can't get over. So an ugly girl may n… | /r/TheRedPill | 14/04/15 08:56 PM |
| 3 | Married couple with 4 year old child have a poly relationship with a alpha 'bull'. Introduce him to child as 3rd parent. Aunt posts to /r/relationships about her being a little worried. Is torn apart, insulted, downvoted - its not of your business, you bigot."There are so many poly people on reddit - yet I've never met a single couple in real life that wasn't fat and poor, visiting questionable wank-holes (got drunk one night with friends and went to a locally known 'swingers club'...and thats what everyone inside was like, the girls we were with were immediately offered free drinks/anything they wanted because they were fairly attractive/in their 20s and not hillbillies... we left as soon as we realized there were guys giving eachother blowjobs in … | /r/TheRedPill | 14/04/15 08:11 PM |
| 0 | "Can you send me money for expenses every month?"Yup. Although, on the flip side: what does it matter why someone does something? I regularly volunteer, give food to homeless people and love caring for dogs. I volunteer because it gives me some social anchoring and skills and lets out some of my less manageable behaviours through tidying and decorating the shop. I give food to homeless people because it doesn't interfere with my day or income by that much and may help them through the sort of rough patch some of my family and even I have been … | /r/TheRedPill | 14/04/15 09:17 AM |
| 1 | "Be here now" and "Stop Over-analyzing" is Blue Pill Advice.There is so much control you can have over your mind if you're willing to accept it for what it is. Sort of gaming yourself. Accept what you are, work with it, master it, own it. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/04/15 09:07 AM |
| 1 | Is it a stupid idea to look for a unicorn?Agreed on the "luck" part. Somehow, a lot of women have lost the idea of mutual luck. Whenever I declare I feel lucky to be with him, females in my social circles just simmer and/or declare that he is the one who is lucky. Feminist entitlement has interfered with the way women see relationships, not just their own, but everyone's. Every man is not good enough for any woman he's with and when she disagrees, she's wrong, brainwashed or evil. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/04/15 09:04 AM |
| 1 | "Can you send me money for expenses every month?"Same holds true for all humans. We're opportunistic, scavenging animals that happen to be social with our environmental and genetic rivals. You love women, so you feel more threatened that we're also acting in our own best interests. It's like finding out your favourite childhood toy was laced with asbestos. Sure, now you know you can clean it out or replace it, but it hurts to take it away, it hurts to know that something you loved so much was killing you and it hurts to know that nobody around… | /r/TheRedPill | 13/04/15 09:22 PM |
| 4 | "Be here now" and "Stop Over-analyzing" is Blue Pill Advice.The whole point of that zen philosophy is wasted on most people. The idea isn't to just drift because you're an ant that doesn't see the big picture. The idea is to accept that sometimes things happen beyond your control, because you're an ant that doesn't see the big picture. The idea is to try and see more of the picture every day. The idea is to sit back and appreciate the beauty in life. The idea is not to fret over the past, other people or the limitless possible futures. The idea is to lim… | /r/TheRedPill | 13/04/15 03:07 PM |
| 12 | BPer discovers SO was an Ex-CC rider with triple figure numbers.....One of Jon's friends has a saying you might like: "Alcohol in a woman is like petrol in a diesel engine." | /r/TheRedPill | 13/04/15 01:52 PM |
| 11 | "Can you send me money for expenses every month?"That's the thing, "I want you no matter what, I don't care about the details in life I just want to be happy with my SO and what ever else happens is an additional bonus in life." sounds true, not because it's true or good, but because it's ambiguous. I'll use something Jon and I discussed as an example: if either of us were to get overweight for a non-medical reason, it would be over. We have both accepted that from the start. Why? Well, firstly it's unattractive. But we also understand that be… | /r/TheRedPill | 13/04/15 12:18 PM |
| 53 | "Can you send me money for expenses every month?"We can and we do. The problem is that we don't love men the way men love us. Men love us for just existing because the very existence of eggs and a womb is reproductive gold. Eggs and a womb are valuable in their existence, regardless of what they're attached to. Hence the feminist obsession with men "loving women for their bodies and not for their acts!" Hence the threat posed to women's place in society by artificial wombs. Hence men's love for women despite any given woman being flawed. Women… | /r/TheRedPill | 13/04/15 07:52 AM |
| 15 | Is it a stupid idea to look for a unicorn?Another myth. I love dogs more than most people. But a dog loves you on condition of receiving your love, resources and security. If you ignore, fail to provide for and abuse a dog, its love for you fades. If you set it wild having neglected it, it won't come back. All animals act in their own best interests. It just so happens that dogs don't want your money, status or connections. A dog will stay by your side when you are broke, homeless and alone because it wants the love, security and food y… | /r/TheRedPill | 13/04/15 06:18 AM |
| 1 | Is it a stupid idea to look for a unicorn?Don't look for unicorns. Sure, there are some women who are exceptions. [Bragging] I am 100% loyal to my first and only guy, will support him even through periods of extreme weakness (even have coping strategies on the rare occasions he cries), am willing to give him every material possession of mine, consistently ranked a 7.5 in looks (that is, 7, 7.5 or 8 depending on the guy), want to be a housewife, hate drama and arguments (only had four as far as I recall), can work from home to help keep … | /r/TheRedPill | 13/04/15 06:09 AM |
| 2 | Fat fashion week in ParisAs someone who has been anorexic and still has messed up thoughts about weight: their blogs and activists sound almost exactly like pro-ana websites. "It's not bad to be [obese/anorexic]." "Look at all the benefits to being [obese/anorexic]!" "Everyone else is deluded and actually [under/over]weight, but we know better." "You're so pretty at [70/500lbs]!" "You should love your [curves/skinniness]!" "Don't [lose/gain] any weight, or you will stop being perfect!" "Come to us if anyone tells you yo… | /r/TheRedPill | 11/04/15 03:25 PM |
| 7 | [FR] "It would of been like seeing a man in a dress"BDSM submission does not equal relationship submission. Even purposefully submissive women can and do seek to lead or dominate sexually. | /r/TheRedPill | 11/04/15 11:44 AM |
| 1 | FR: AWALT, My LTR after surgery drops bombs.It used to be 3 until we broke 3 years. Everyone says the same thing, the number just keeps growing. | /r/TheRedPill | 11/04/15 08:55 AM |
| 2 | Ready for the marriage apocalypse?No. I have made my points and your main responses are flawed repetitions of what you already said. Meaning that this discussion has no end. I have seen those debate tactics a thousand times before and had this debate many times before. Your stance will not change when faced with new or better information, neither will you offer me any information I haven't seen or accounted for. Your beliefs are fundamentally flawed in the exact way so many other idealists' beliefs are flawed and they won't chan… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/15 06:24 PM |
| 1 | Ready for the marriage apocalypse?I don't have anything more to say to you. This is just willful ignorance based on idealism. Which is nice for you, but the grounds for a fruitless discussion. That said, you're hurting nobody, so have a nice day. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/15 06:12 PM |
| 1 | Girls with more guy-friends than girl-friends. What do you guys think?Women aren't as connected as they would seem. It's a social front, not a bond. Male relationships (between each other or with girls they don't see as viable sexual partners) are more solid, loyal and open to welcoming people into the circle. Male relationships do involve emotional connections, just something far more solid than female ones. I would rather sit back and amorally and flippantly discuss five or ten serious topics to death with my fiance and his best friend over dinner with no fear o… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/04/15 05:29 PM |
| 2 | Ready for the marriage apocalypse?"The modern capitalist system" is not "capitalism". And monopoly of resources must come before monopoly of power, otherwise, as we see literally anywhere with a dying monarchy. People overthrow weak tyrants. The power lies in the resources, hence how capitalist structures arise to begin with. If family A has food for all but family B can't feed their kids, family B profits from working for family A. Then family A rises cost of goats, resulting in family A still having surplus but family B living… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/15 05:25 PM |
| 2 | Ready for the marriage apocalypse?You clearly don't understand the concept of capitalism if you believe that. Simplest way of putting it, from Wikiped: "Capitalism is an economic system and a mode of production in which trade, industries, and the means of production are largely or entirely privately owned and operated for profit." In other words, capitalism isn't government. It isn't enforced (though it can be enforced, it doesn't have to be). It is a situation where the resources are controlled by members of the community (as o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/15 04:09 PM |
| 2 | Ready for the marriage apocalypse?It has happened. India, China and Rome were all under plutocratic, corrupted governments until they collapsed and capitalism 1.0 returned in the form of basic agricultural societies. Human behaviour is economic behaviour. When there is money and heritage, some families accumulate more money. When one family accumulates more money than others they use this money to buy labour and land to force their government on the other families. When they are in power they put measures in place to ensure they… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/15 03:20 PM |
| 1 | FR: AWALT, My LTR after surgery drops bombs.He is the shiny new toy. Everyone else is the same as the next person. Every single person I have ever met. I don't even talk to most of my family or any of my childhood friends any more now I don't live near them, just enough to keep appearances. I can already tell you fall short of my ideals for humankind, let alone for a partner. Everyone just falls short of perfection, either within a minute or a week of chatting and it disappoints me so much. Like cheap dolls, they try and stay presentable … | /r/TheRedPill | 10/04/15 02:52 PM |
| 1 | FR: AWALT, My LTR after surgery drops bombs.A bit flippant, but I get your point that it's been less time than your relationship. Emotional rationalizations aside and just looking at the facts: -he is the only person I can consider irreplaceable; parents, associates, students, coworkers, service providers are are replaceable -he is still first-day-exciting even after five years of knowing him, four intimately and one cohabiting -yet nobody else lasts a week as my friends, students or coworkers without me hating them; I need long breaks fr… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/04/15 02:10 PM |
| 4 | AWALT: Why I don't believe in gender equality"Equality" is just a fancy term for "let these specific groups have access to more resources than you because their outcomes aren't quite the same as yours". In a relationship someone should lead. Contrary to the above, not all relationships have leaders and that's why they fall apart so readily. They were never "together" to begin with, just individuals coexisting. Life works better when the man leads and the woman supports. Nurturing isn't a strong leadership position just as commanding isn't … | /r/TheRedPill | 10/04/15 12:01 PM |
| 3 | Why do women call me handsome instead of hot or cute?Handsome and cute are descriptions on an almost purely physical level. Handsome = good bone structure whilst rugged, square, bit rough, man smell, muscles. Cute = good bone structure whilst boyish, well-kept, fragranced, lean. Age difference more than anything. Hot can sometimes mean "sex appeal regardless of physical appearance" and sometimes "archetypical male model". I have no idea what people it will apply to, depends wholly on the woman saying it. Basically, they're saying you look nice, bu… | /r/askTRP | 10/04/15 10:00 AM |
| 1 | Ready for the marriage apocalypse?It's a feedback loop. Anarchy wouldn't fix plutocracy. Only a complete economic collapse would do that. And then you're reset onto capitalism 1.0 again until a new plutocracy grows. The banks, the government and businesses feed off each other. It's not a punishment, it's a country functioning as a corporation to keep the money stagnant. Plutocracy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/15 08:00 AM |
| 2 | Joint vs. Split Checking AccountsHow we're doing it: we each have an ISA and a basic account. Once we each have saved a minimum untouchable 3k into our basic accounts we're opening a shared account and anything above the minimum goes into that. That means we have the minimum as our emergency money, the shared money for food, bills and kid prep, our ISAs for savings with interest. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/15 07:53 AM |
| 4 | I'm having trouble accepting this.Where's the victory? What do you want? Do you want money? Fame? Career? Sex? Family? Property? Independence? To travel? To write? To retire early? To own your own business? If you want money, independence and to travel, then where does sex and partnership fit into that? If you want sex first and foremost, then how do you get it? Pick something to prioritize. That is the victory. The victory is getting what you want from life. | /r/TheRedPill | 10/04/15 06:40 AM |
| 1 | Red Pill Revelations From a New FatherReasons not to raise a baby in the urban West (if you don't want to/can't expatriate, then at least pick somewhere rural, cut off and more traditional): 1: Two jobs required. More often than not, to safeguard your child's future and make sure you have money to save you from emergencies, both parties need to work at least a little. 2: Western women are entitled. And in this sort of an environment, even a traditional woman may turn. 3: No support group for traditional women. If your wife doesn't t… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/04/15 06:29 AM |
| 1 | FR: AWALT, My LTR after surgery drops bombs.But if you find a woman who made it to 16-25 a voluntary virgin, then you're clearly looking at someone who has control over the feels.* Just because all women (apparently) feel the impulsiveness doesn't mean all women act on it. Admittedly, finding a woman who is a virgin, commitment minded, attractive and has impulse control is needle in a haystack territory. However my main point was, if you're looking for a virgin, looking for one in the same places you look for sex is setting yourself up fo… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/04/15 04:58 AM |
| 1 | FR: AWALT, My LTR after surgery drops bombs.Yup. Definitely considered friends for five months before the relationship, three before sex. Daily interactions the entire time. Anyone who wasn't happy to wait until I was comfortable, who I got bored of before I had a chance to feel comfortable or whose idiosyncrasies became annoying before I felt comfortable was therefore excluded. Leaving only the person who I can spend all day talking to for four years and still feel excited to welcome him home. Meaning partner count = 1 ongoing. | /r/TheRedPill | 10/04/15 04:54 AM |
| 6 | FR: AWALT, My LTR after surgery drops bombs.Places I never went to before finding my first and only partner: -bars -clubs -sports events -late night events -festivals -late night concerts Places I went before meeting my partner: -parks -daytime concerts -charity events -libraries -arts classes No woman who knows the value of her body, the emotional bonding of sex and the difference between the sort of environments that are conductive or nonconductive to meeting and socializing with long term partner prospects, marriage prospects, and thos… | /r/TheRedPill | 09/04/15 12:57 PM |
| 1 | "You're so bad!"I'd add to not let fear make you uncomfortable about it. Playfulness and touch are almost always good. Discard any thought that she will vanish in a cloud of sparkles if you touch her. Just reach in whenever the moment feels right and have fun. After all, certain aspects of our bodies are meant to catch your eye, and if you're already involved with a woman, she won't be mortified when you notice them. | /r/TheRedPill | 07/04/15 09:47 PM |
| 4 | Don't let anyone make you feel guilty for your taste/preferences in women.Why women get angry about your sexual preferences: it's personal. If a guy from our chosen mate pool (say, Indians), says he doesn't want to date women from the pool we belong to (Indians, Whites, Germans, whatever), it stings. If he says he greatly prefers women we don't resemble (race, body fat, colourations, socioeconomic background), it stings. It's basically the message "If you want me, you have to work harder to get me." Even if a woman isn't interested in that particular guy, it can get h… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/04/15 02:24 PM |
| 1 | Nietzsche on marriageBut you forget that value need only be perceived. Example: I have stuck with my partner through harsh times. Why? Combination of objective reasoning and abusing my own emotions. In the longest term picture, he is the very best. At that time, he was needing me and I was supporting him, not vice-versa. At that time, there may have been better options. But by shutting out external noise and focusing on the long term, treating him like a king and letting myself get overwhelmed by every small thing h… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/04/15 08:51 PM |
| 1 | I'm 99% Mother and 1% Wife - And It Has to Be That WaySomething I've noticed about men in awful jobs and women in awful jobs: the men, in my admittedly few years on this planet, never blame the women for cubicle hell. Regardless of whether she's working full time and taking the housework 100% on board or staying at home doing nothing at all, regardless of whether he's in a job that's just long or tiresome hours or in a job that is draining his soul, stressing him into hernias and driving him mad, he will never blame her for his pain. If anything, t… | /r/TheRedPill | 02/04/15 12:34 PM |
| 3 | Wives & Lovers – Wives Hate Sex1) Social issues. You know how when a friend has kids, even if their life as a parent is going well (no nagging, sleepless nights almost over, kids doing well), they are not really part of your life any more? Same goes for married vs unmarried women. It seems to be the rule that when one member of a circle marries, the circle splits into married and unmarried. They still talk and get along, but being the only single one is as troublesome in terms of social arrangements as being the only married … | /r/TheRedPill | 02/04/15 07:19 AM |
| 8 | Wives & Lovers – Wives Hate SexAlso, many women marry men they weren't attracted to to begin with. In today's world, there is very little acknowledgement of the declining value of female sexuality with age, besides a nudge to "get a career just in case". Therefore, most women will be unaware of this and keep going. Imagine you're a 7/10 woman. You can get pretty much any guy you want to sleep with you, at least once. Your lower SMV friends use lays to boost their egos and boast about it, so if they are getting a 6/10 or 7/10 … | /r/TheRedPill | 01/04/15 09:17 AM |
| 3 | There is no Team GirlI propose that some women do operate assuming there is a Team Girl and do try and actively work as a group against males because I keep getting invited to join in. Sisters who start to vilify their partners, friends and coworkers and invite you to join in, even if you don't know the man. A social group that grows bitter when you defend a man they want to attack, be he a wronged Beta or an Alpha who annoyed them. There is an underlying assumption some women make that you will side with them becau… | /r/TheRedPill | 29/03/15 11:30 AM |
| 1 | Imagine every woman you've been with - and every woman you'll ever be with - as obese. Then you'll find your match.Both were examples of fathers getting the minimum legal rights they're allowed in Wales. Married men are viewed as the rightful father. Unmarried men as a man going through adoption. The best case scenario is even better: when the woman isn't vindictive there is true split parenting, no child support or alimony payments, daily contact, split holidays and no pitting children against Dad. Which I have also seen. However both the women in my above example wanted the father out of the picture. The l… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/03/15 12:43 PM |
| 3 | LTR and marriage don't go togetherRe:3. It sort of can happen. Jon and I are theoretically separable. But we are each other's main source of conversation and comfort and the only person the other wholly trusts and likes, we have worked out our lives so that we support each other in a way which creates a quality of life neither would have on our own, and we want to create a bloodline legacy together involving children, grandchildren, great grandchildren, basically as many generations as we can witness and raise. We are the only p… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/03/15 09:59 PM |
| 2 | RP Truth Comes Full Circle....How to Keep Your Daughters Off The Cock CarouselThings to help Jon's and my children: -education in social patterns and memes: try and get them to understand why others act the way they do BEFORE they can see it and confirm it -combination of homeschooling and external activities: balance friends and socialization with good, non-liberal education -promote hardiness and self-sufficiency: people who are better or different are often outcasts -rephrase positive traits as "mature" and/or "masculine" and negative traits as "weak", "immature", "cow… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/03/15 09:48 PM |
| 1 | Imagine every woman you've been with - and every woman you'll ever be with - as obese. Then you'll find your match.I know. Family courts hate men, but they hate single fathers more. I love my brother and he's a great father. The fact he has invested so much in his child shows the love and, what's more, the natural parenting skills behind his actions. Family courts are messed up. And you're welcome. I know marriage is a raw deal for most men in the vast majority of cases. I just think it's necessary to point out when marriage has helped men in some way as well, to offer a full picture. Without children, my un… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/03/15 01:07 PM |
| 1 | Imagine every woman you've been with - and every woman you'll ever be with - as obese. Then you'll find your match.During the custody battle it was explained to my brother that even with DNA evidence, there wasn't enough proof he was "THE father", ie, the man who should take responsibility for the child. Had they been married there was a set of legal requirements she would have had to meet, such as affording him visitation (fathers get some custody rights in most cases), proper vetting of primary caregiver (even the most basic level of investigation would have shown she was an unfit parent, but as an unwed f… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/03/15 11:16 AM |
| 10 | New father, horrified by what our current mainstream American society wants my son to become.There's a difference between the patience that comes with maturity and domestic docility. Though girls can be very good at woodwork if you spark an interest in it, as calmness can be exploited wherever it comes from. | /r/TheRedPill | 24/03/15 08:42 PM |
| 1 | Imagine every woman you've been with - and every woman you'll ever be with - as obese. Then you'll find your match.Just two examples: My uncle: married, divorced. Sees his kids regularly, talks to them daily, pays child support, stable and financially safe without alimony (although there may have been a one-of settlement I'm unaware of), still working, fit and healthy, dating, happy though he'd prefer a little more time with the kids. My brother: a child with girlfriend. Girlfriend is an addict with a confirmed mental disorder. She still got the child at first. He had to fight to get child back. Now he is un… | /r/TheRedPill | 24/03/15 07:27 PM |
| 1 | Imagine every woman you've been with - and every woman you'll ever be with - as obese. Then you'll find your match.Valid point. Just don't completely disregard the non-quiet times if/when you consider marriage. | /r/TheRedPill | 24/03/15 07:22 PM |
| 2 | Getting "too comfortable" and losing mystery - do not do it!Something I love doing is offering nuggets of extra mystery. Things that wouldn't be a mystery, or don't have to be, but that fascinate and intrigue in a playful way. I can promise Jon a present or a surprise and he gets a bit het up trying to work it out. As long as it stays playful, the anticipation builds up like crazy, though. Example: I made him his first ever Christmas stocking. As I knew he would be impressed (Who doesn't love stockings?), I dropped random hints, but kept the "surprise" a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/15 02:24 PM |
| 1 | Women can sense they're getting close to the wall.Alcohol too. I'd say that looking at a girl's mother, unless the mother had alcohol/chronic stress problems herself, gives you an idea what the girl will look like at least five years before the mother. So healthy but not fitness freak mother at 45 = daughter by 40 unless the daughter abstains from modern party culture, keeps fit and looks after her skin. Same goes for older sisters, who at a year older can look five years younger than their little partygrrl sister or ten years older than their … | /r/TheRedPill | 23/03/15 01:39 PM |
| 1 | Imagine every woman you've been with - and every woman you'll ever be with - as obese. Then you'll find your match.If you plan on marrying someone, you should probably consider that you will either spend a lot of time with them or lose them. Most women will prefer the best man they can get, but if you're not home often enough, she isn't getting you any more. Someone else may be more available. Conversely, if you are home a lot and you don't gel just right, you will eventually clash which, unless you both love arguments, is also damaging to a relationship. You needn't rely on a woman for your every social and… | /r/TheRedPill | 23/03/15 01:10 PM |
| 7 | Imagine every woman you've been with - and every woman you'll ever be with - as obese. Then you'll find your match.I have plenty of examples from my own family as to why kids outside of marriage hurts fathers. Parental alienation, children left with addict mothers, continual social services involvement, careers ruined, etc. Having kids, for men, is more about checking where you stand with the law in your home and picking the safest path for yourself as a man and father. Sometimes it will be LTR, sometimes marriage is safer. | /r/TheRedPill | 23/03/15 01:04 PM |
| 3 | A powerful image that speaks for itselfIf others joke about nagging, interfering and controlling women, I generally don't butt in, because that would just prove their point. Actions speak louder than words there. If Jon jokes about it (usually evidenced by extreme exaggeration), I joke along with him because we both know it doesn't have to be true and isn't true in our case. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/15 05:55 AM |
| 2 | RPW, WHO ARE YOU and why are you anti-feminist? I want to find out what sort of women frequent this sub.I was one of those kids raised partly or wholly on welfare every year of my life, sometimes welfare we weren't even entitled to. Left the nest at age 16 and was still on welfare through a-levels, right onto student loans at age 18, finally free from government support at age 19 when I left uni, back onto support at age 20, free again and self-employed at age 21 and not budging from now onwards. Most kids from that background never actually completely break away from it. Partly due to lack of res… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/15 05:44 AM |
| 4 | RPW, WHO ARE YOU and why are you anti-feminist? I want to find out what sort of women frequent this sub.21, British, raised in Southern Europe, white, ex-welfare-brat, left uni to work for myself. Already wrote this once, so shortening. I grew up across a few SE countries. One of the places I lived had a serious problem with sexism. As in, a man known to have serious paranoia and be a supporter of radical fascism shot his wife in the head. She arrived home late, it was the last straw for him and rather than just beat her, he shot her at the door. Of course, this could happen anywhere, but the judg… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/15 07:22 PM |
| 1 | When we say girls should "just be natural" in their appearance it's the male equivalent of when girls say "just be yourself"If you can detect them! Humans are very awkward in that our genetic flaws are often a combination of heritage and epigenetics. The difference between someone with detached empathy and a psychopath? Upbringing and trauma. The difference between someone meticulous and an eating disorder? Environment and trauma. You can't really "fix" humans. The only people without any mental trouble are psychiatrists and people who've never been to a psychiatrist. | /r/TheRedPill | 02/03/15 06:34 AM |
| 1 | When we say girls should "just be natural" in their appearance it's the male equivalent of when girls say "just be yourself"The problem with underlying issues is that often they have underlying issues themselves. Personal example: I used to be fat and not really care for myself. Introspection revealed that, whilst it had its root in a previous eating disorder and depression, I could also overcome these issues and, you know, not be fat and lazy. Through hard work I addressed the underlying issue to my size: I dieted, got fit and made a point of overpowering my idleness. When the urges to be idle didn't really fade, th… | /r/TheRedPill | 24/02/15 01:35 PM |
| 3 | You don't deserve her.OK, I'm not off the internet fully because I work through it, but here's how I cut down on time wasting. 1: Install leechblocker or a similar program. Give yourself a few minutes at a lazy time of day (when you're home, not usually busy and haven't got much to do) for idle entertainment. Limit access to good information so you only read the best bits and don't get caught dawdling in the comment sections and clickbait. 2: Allocate a number of hours each day to going outside. Outside properly. Wal… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/02/15 12:19 PM |
| 1 | When we say girls should "just be natural" in their appearance it's the male equivalent of when girls say "just be yourself"But you can still be actively hiding your true motivations, desires or thoughts through game. Making it ingrained, to stick with the OPs theme, is like a previously fat girl losing a lot of weight. She looks good now, but there may still be issues under the surface. Not that either are bad or good. Both are a sort of varnish over the surface of "you", a way to protect you from the elements. But at no point does the ex-Beta completely become that which he emulates or the ex-fattie erase her fat p… | /r/TheRedPill | 09/02/15 12:55 PM |
| 2 | How do you respond to people saying you're too young for marriage?The utmost respect for your sister and cousins. It's becoming a rarity to see girls acting nobly and maturely like that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/15 12:46 PM |
| 3 | How do you respond to people saying you're too young for marriage?This comment does usually come from the sort of person who very visibly did spend or is spending their youth staying up all night, hopping from bed to bed and abusing drugs and alcohol. If they say it in a more general context I often ask them what I "should" be doing and remind them that, as an independent adult, I can get as drunk as I like, travel as much as I can afford, do as many drugs as I can find, stay up as late as I like and have as many partners as will have me. The fact that I prefe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/15 04:12 PM |
| 1 | Special SnowflakesInterestingly, there are some forms of AMALT that are socially acceptable to discuss. -All Men want sex regularly, possibly more regularly than any woman they will meet. -All Men seek variety in their sexual partners, even if this can be addressed with makeup and lingerie changes. -All Men will happily exchange some degree of financial investment or status leakage for sex. -All Men can be blinded or confused by lust. -All Men love from their genes and genitals first. Sure, there may be some AMAL… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/02/15 06:19 AM |
| 5 | When we say girls should "just be natural" in their appearance it's the male equivalent of when girls say "just be yourself"But there is also a "fake it til you make it" and a "pickup" side to Game, which allows for basically presenting yourself as more Alpha, more abundant or more commitment-minded than you actually are, in order to get sex, is there not? Don't forget: natural male Game is geared towards securing the most and best possible "vessels" for your genes, natural female Game is geared towards securing the best possible genes and most possible resources for your genes. Different biological end goals. | /r/TheRedPill | 05/02/15 06:07 AM |
| 9 | How do you respond to people saying you're too young for marriage?I'm marrying the only guy I've ever dated. Been with him since 17, wanted to marry him since I was 17 and a half, engaged since 19, am now 21, he's 8 years older. Everyone obviously needed to panic because I am "a child dating an adult", "wasting my youth", "settling too soon", etc. I just reply along the lines of "Well, if he wasn't pretty amazing I wouldn't have looked at him twice to begin with, wouldn't have wanted to marry him two years in and wouldn't still want it just as much four years … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/15 05:47 AM |
| 4 | Going after the kind of women that don't see you as their "type".Imagine two single girls are chatting at a cafe. One is seriously not into asian guys at all. One hasn't dated an asian guy before, but might be open to it. You approach. The first one will not want you, whatever you do. If you gained status or money, she may be the sort of girl to exploit you for it, but even then she will almost certainly try and get more value out of you than she puts in. The second might consider you. Maybe her friend will dissuade her or maybe her friend, not being into you… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/02/15 12:56 PM |
| 0 | Why women shit test.Unsure about other women, but I don't tip the cup to make sure it won't fall. I want the cup to fall and the glass to shatter. I want to do what others couldn't. Fortunately for Jon, that has in part contributed to no desire to test anything I genuinely respect, just in case I actually break it. I wouldn't try and break my own "unbreakable" computer and I won't try and break my "unbreakable" man. A quiet life for us. | /r/TheRedPill | 30/01/15 10:43 AM |
| 2 | Relationship roles: Father, Mother, LoverFurthermore, women today are so busy trying to be men that they're not very nurturing to anyone, including their children. That is the bigger factor. A woman with no desire or capacity to nurture won't do so for her own kids, let alone a man. On the other hand, women who cultivate nurturing often become closer to our partners when they become weak. Not necessarily trying to build a castle from scratch on a bed of sand, more seeing that the building has good foundations and the loadbearing wall s… | /r/TheRedPill | 29/01/15 09:34 AM |
| 5 | Reason #4,982 why you should never LTR a woman who rode the cock carousel.They did some tests on fake vaginas and penises. An uncut penis is highly efficient at removing sperm from around and behind the cervix. Female orgasms actually suck sperm up through the cervix. Women orgasm for wealthier, more confident men with broad shoulders. Therefore probably in our early homo-ape years, before hidden estrus and partner scarcity, if a woman was in estrus the man whose sperm got a head start was the one with the penis that dislodged the most previous sperm and who made her … | /r/TheRedPill | 27/01/15 09:56 AM |
| 2 | Narcissism: The Nuance Between Ego & ConfidenceSo you draw your strength from others, rather than yourself. It's a kind of dysfunctional narcissism. It's vain and it's needy. Rather than actually believe you are inherently superior, you only temporarily believe you are superior as long as others are feeding into the delusion you present to the world. I believe a lot of people are doing this shit, instead of self-investing and becoming so powerful that they feel/become superior, they instead try to hustle everyone around them with superficial… | /r/TheRedPill | 23/01/15 07:20 PM |
| 1 | Finally met the RP man of my dreams....and my parents hate him. Help :(Sounds like your parents main reasons are not something that matters to you. The only thing left to do is to look back at when they have been right or wrong about your other life choices. I my case it was clear cut: the relatives who had always been wrong about everything were against Jon for reasons that didn't matter to me and those who were right about most things liked him. In your case you may find your parents are generally right and have noticed something not quite right about the guy, or… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/15 05:13 PM |
| 2 | Anime recommendationsAh! My Goddess Ranma 1/2 Card Captor Sakura Spice and Wolf Not necessarily RP, but cool and with some female role models: Death Note One Piece Bobobo .Hack Elfen Lied Lupin III | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/15 09:15 AM |
| 1 | Depression and women in powerIt's even true for relative power. I've taken over earning for a short while and whilst so far supporting Jon hasn't changed my love for him (mind over matter and other zen stuff), my depression got worse almost instantly. As it's cyclothymia, the highs are higher and the lows are lower and (as I'm self employed and my income is moveable) I've somehow attached my entire self-worth onto how much money I bring in on any given week. £600+? Well done me, I'm great. £300? I'm worthless and don't dese… | /r/TheRedPill | 21/01/15 01:58 PM |
| 1 | Admirable quote from Michelle Duggar - Mom from the show "19 kids and counting" - on the topic of sex with her husband.I was more just lumping exaggeration together. The joke was that I doubt these Japanese girls are getting prettied up for the basement dwelling Omegas, whether the Omegas want them or not. What they're hoping is to find a "hidden" Alpha among the MGTOWs, as the main Alphas were taken ages back by nicer women or are being taken by younger women. They want the diamond in the rough and Japanese women will keep getting more feminine until an appreciable number of them have high-quality Beta or Alpha… | /r/TheRedPill | 21/01/15 09:01 AM |
| 1 | Admirable quote from Michelle Duggar - Mom from the show "19 kids and counting" - on the topic of sex with her husband.Think about Japan at the moment. Women started going careerist and westernized in a big way (must be something about the cultural environment, but when you add a drop of occidental poison to Japan, it spreads fast). Men became disgusted at the women they were expected to marry when half a generation ago their friends were marrying pleasant women. Large numbers of men retire from the market. A new culture of femininity, submission and pleasantness rises, to try and lure a 6-figure MGTOW Sigma bac… | /r/TheRedPill | 20/01/15 12:48 PM |
| 1 | Feminists seek wider acceptance of casual abortion to protect fragile feelings ("Take Back the Right Katha Pollitt's 'Pro: Reclaiming Abortion Rights'")[x-post to /r/TheCultureWar]A rebuttal is not a refutation. There is only such a thing as a "mistake" child because we have the means to abort relatively safely. We are still animals and sex is still for reproduction, even if we thwart or terminate it. Humans have always limited our populations better through atrocities than abortions. Rich people, college-educated people and pro athletes are more careful about contraception and have, per capita, fewer children than people on welfare, in slums or in 3rd world countries. Th… | /r/TheRedPill | 19/01/15 04:22 PM |
| -2 | Feminists seek wider acceptance of casual abortion to protect fragile feelings ("Take Back the Right Katha Pollitt's 'Pro: Reclaiming Abortion Rights'")[x-post to /r/TheCultureWar]Before abortion and contraception, there were no mistakes. We're animals, like any other. Yes, we're probably due a cull of some kind soon, but disease and war always manage to control us in a rational manner: the healthy and smart survive. Disease, at the very worst and most primitive, is randomized death. Abortion and postponing of childbearing, on the other hand, are abused more heavily by the intelligent, wealthy, powerful and athletic. It's nice in theory, but dysgenics in practice. | /r/TheRedPill | 16/01/15 09:01 PM |
| 1 | Feminists seek wider acceptance of casual abortion to protect fragile feelings ("Take Back the Right Katha Pollitt's 'Pro: Reclaiming Abortion Rights'")[x-post to /r/TheCultureWar]She raises a valid point about test-tube babies. Technically, it's still killing tiny humans same as an early miscarriage or abortion would be. Another reason to have babies whilst I'm still naturally fertile. Can't bear the thought of 5-10 of my offspring dying so I can have another one later in life. | /r/TheRedPill | 16/01/15 08:58 PM |
| 0 | Maxims for the young RPW.Anywhere over puberty and below standard marriage age for your area. Of course there are other factors at play, but I've seen as many Spanish 40-something housewives leave their husbands for their friend's husband as 20-something Oxford students do with their boyfriends, and as many high school teenagers sabotage each others work as seasoned teachers well past the age of pettiness. The funniest thing is it usually seems to come out of the blue to those involved, but when watching from the outski… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/15 08:50 PM |
| 3 | Study: Social Media decreases stress for women. Whaaaaat a shocker.I'm actually shocked that it alleviates stress. Because it also promotes dissatisfaction, depression, anxiety over appearance and social status, narcissism backlash (when the supply of validation falls short of expectations), etc. Considering how bad it can be for mental health as a whole, the fact that the cumulative effect of Facebook and the likes still results in lower stress is nothing short of a miracle. | /r/TheRedPill | 16/01/15 09:33 AM |
| 0 | Maxims for the young RPW.It's just based on my observations that women under a certain age seem to be both more likely to trust other women inherently and distrust men inherently (fear-mongering feminism to blame) and also more likely to sabotage and envy each other's success. With that noted, it's wiser to bear in mind that your friends are individuals with their own agency who may decide one day that they don't like you, want your man or are jealous of your income and that their being female is no reason to assume the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/15 09:27 AM |
| 1 | Maxims for the young RPW.True. I guess that as long as the first part of the message is sent home (some of these shows are portraying false or unrealistic things to make you feel good about yourself) from an early age, there wouldn't be much harm in it. I tend to get overly cautious with a lot of media. Anything that tumblr feminists drool over has me raising an eyebrow. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/15 09:07 AM |
| 1 | Maxims for the young RPW.I have edited the social media bit. I was not being at all clear there. Sorry. And avoiding TV is more for general people. Some, like you, cope a lot better with it than others and it seems more people are worse for it than better for it. Personally, I don't watch it because it's like I can feel my time slipping away and my mind rotting when I do. It just feels genuinely bad to be watching it, especially when I remember I have a procrastination issue. Common behaviour also worsens, though I'm no… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/15 11:08 AM |
| 1 | Maxims for the young RPW.It was another user (Iva's) point, so this is only my interpretation: When women want sex with a man, we normally feel some emotional and social "pull" towards him too. We'll rarely look at a man, talk to him, want to have his babies and NOT want any more to do with him. Meanwhile, plenty of men meet girls every day whom their bodies want to impregnate, but who the man, on a rational, personal, human level, doesn't particularly want to be involved with otherwise. Most men can want to have sex wi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/15 10:58 AM |
| 1 | Maxims for the young RPW.AMG and R1/2 were actually what I had in mind when writing that bit. To a lesser extent some of Eiichiro Oda's women are also inspirational. Definitely on close female friends. But too many women seem to fall for the "girl gang" mentality, where they start treating all women as their friends who have their best interests in heart and all men as evildoers looking to take advantage of them. Definitely blame modern feminism's fear-mongering for that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/15 10:44 AM |
| 2 | Maxims for the young RPW.I didn't mean never drink. Just drink in private settings (friend's houses, your own home, parents' house) and with other, trustworthy people around you. Drinking in clubs or even restaurants puts you at risk of overconsumption (after all, the place wants you to drink and pay for a bottle of wine, not a glass) and drinking without anyone familiar around can become unsafe. Adding hobbies. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/15 10:41 AM |
| 6 | Maxims for the young RPW.Attached: scales of how a woman's chances of divorcing after five years increases with her number of partners, her happiness with her marriage decreases and her chances of depression and instability increase. http://i.imgur.com/NtuZXGX.jpg https://xsplat.files.wordpress.com/2012/03/sex-partners-fidelity-first-marriage-graph.jpg | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/15 10:37 AM |
| 2 | Maxims for the young RPW.A lot of it is good, but I was always put off by how badly it often portrays men. The "bumbling idiot" or the "workaholic pervert" tropes made their way into Japan fairly quickly after it opened up to Western culture and I can't help but see them in most post-70s girl-targeted animes. Maybe I'm just focusing on the bad, but it just feels wrong when you see those tropes show up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/15 10:31 AM |
| 3 | Maxims for the young RPW.True. I meant more things like Facebook and Instagram (poor cultural influences) over internet in general, but you make a valid point. I wouldn't like to retract it, though, because most social media is an awful place to socialize, especially for young women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/15 07:30 PM |
| 1 | Maxims for the young RPW.Great! Adding to that point. :D Thanks. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/15 03:28 PM |
| 3 | Maxims for the young RPW.Added. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/15 01:46 PM |
| 4 | Whores & DaughtersOr you can just go with the truth. -Every man you have sex with reduces your ability to love a long-term partner. -Every man you have sex with openly reduces the quality of men you can marry. -You want to find a sweet-spot between sexy and reliable where you can LTR or marry, as long term relationships are better suited to women as a life strategy. -You want to cultivate feminine demeanour and avoid TV, social media and drama. -Every film aimed at women is designed to be feelgood or to sell you … | /r/TheRedPill | 13/01/15 10:09 AM |
| 1 | RPW and TRP: since you have the same world view, have you thought of dating each other? Making a dating site for yourselves?I didn't date. I chat with people online until I get bored of them and move on. Anyone I don't get bored of I keep talking to. Sometimes we exchange contact details. After several months of chatting and getting to know each other, Jon and I decided we liked each other enough to become a unit. We basically went from what you and I are doing now, to acquaintances, to friends, to deciding we had enough common interests and future goals that we may as well pair up. It's a very gradual process. After… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/15 05:10 PM |
| 1 | RPW and TRP: since you have the same world view, have you thought of dating each other? Making a dating site for yourselves?If we want marriage or ltrs, then we wouldn't be dating such a man to begin with. We'd find one who was ideal in all the same aspects but wanted marriage or a ltr. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/15 11:22 AM |
| 1 | RPW and TRP: since you have the same world view, have you thought of dating each other? Making a dating site for yourselves?It's not about how we think. RP can help a man to better satisfy his wife or to find more women to have sex with. RP can help a woman to better satisfy her husband or to get more dates. Their consent to your philosophy is not necessary. You could have dated RP people and never noticed, because it's a philosophy, not a set of prescribed actions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/15 11:20 AM |
| 1 | RPW and TRP: since you have the same world view, have you thought of dating each other? Making a dating site for yourselves?TRP: Human nature is x, based on y and z data. RP PUAs: We use TRP to bed girls. RP traditionalists: We use TRP to better understand gender dynamics in traditional relationships. You seem to think RP philosophy is some sort of lifestyle prescription. It's simply the realization that certain behaviours are ingrained in human social dynamics and that certain actions lead to certain consequences and using this to better your relationship, regardless of the end goal of said relationship. It's up to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/15 11:16 AM |
| 2 | Why women hate nice guys - from a womanOn the internet, nobody knows anyway. We don't really know if you're a man or a woman and nobody but me has any solid way of knowing whether I'm actually a woman and not a billionaire Nigerian prince unless they know me in person. | /r/TheRedPill | 10/01/15 11:04 AM |
| 2 | "Send me a Selfie... No, a sexy one.""It's not about not trusting you. It's about not wanting to share that with anyone but the men I stay in very long term relationships with." Same as anything sexual. If you wouldn't strip off for him after the first date, then why should you send him nudes? Because if you did that for every guy you went on a date or two with, then you may as well be sharing nudes on your Facebook/Instagram. If they can't understand that, then they're not interested in hanging around until you're comfortable gett… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/15 11:00 AM |
| 2 | The Hierarchy of MenHaha. Humility gets hard when you're on a high AND reading about how apparently perfect you are. :p Though at least I'm still aware that there are hotter, smarter, younger, more submissive women with every one of my positive attributes. And I'm finding it hard not to be insular at the moment. I'm naturally introverted and Jon keeps few friends who he sees intermittently, so other than work we manage to avoid people of our respective ages. But I've definitely seen the "common Homo Hembra Occident… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/15 10:52 AM |
| 1 | Women and EducationThe funny thing is, it's not all that much hard work. You just chat with students, teach them at a pace that suits them, get them interested and let them get on with being themselves, with the marginal discipline and rules they'd expect at home. Far less stressful than being a TA, anyway! | /r/TheRedPill | 09/01/15 06:48 PM |
| 2 | The Hierarchy of MenI am 21, British, raised in Spain. My generation is pretty damaged but those of us who aren't that way inclined seem to gravitate towards older, more grounded mentors and friends anyway. And yes, there was shyness, but inexperience can be worked around as long as desire is strong. Otherwise we'd be pandas. True on the unlikelihood of finding women similar to or better than me, but stating it's 100% impossible can have as bad an effect on the individual man as stating there's 45% of us. It's like… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/15 06:43 PM |
| 6 | The Hierarchy of MenIn regards to the prince charming: it's actually simpler to think of prince charming as an abstract concept and to think of your man as perfect. Too many women try and make their husbands into prince charming and end up scaring the high ranking beta providers, turning ltr-minded alphas into betas and generally annoying their husband. Because they got it into their head that "prince charming would get me a pony, so I must have a pony!" In reality, thinking of a man as prince charming is putting a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/15 02:12 PM |
| 2 | Women and EducationMany of my students are young boys whose teachers have given up on them. All it takes is a little freedom to run around my office whilst learning, to ask questions and to learn things they're interested in and suddenly they actually pay attention when verbs are brought up or when I assign them a book. All they want is for someone to listen to them, show them cool and interesting things and make the subject worth learning. And of course I give their parents the "kinesthetic learner" spiel so that… | /r/TheRedPill | 09/01/15 10:00 AM |
| 1 | Women and EducationOfsted and other "quality assuring" organizations and programs make it even worse. Thanks to Ofsted shcools either want to focus on getting all their A and B students to A* grade or getting every student to the C grade pass. Nobody really cares about teaching all their students as much as possible any more. As a private tutor, the main thing I'm seeing is students who have been categorized from day 1. Walk into the first year of their GCSEs, sit a test and are told they're going to get a C, B or… | /r/TheRedPill | 09/01/15 09:56 AM |
| 1 | How do you reconcile TRP with your wife (if you're married), or married life. Do you discuss TRP with her? Or do you incorporate the theories into your day to day life?As a counter: RP awareness has prepared us for the challenges we are about to face when I take over earning for a while. We know the problems most couples with breadwinning women have and why they have them. We also know that as a pretty submissive woman I am going to dislike being the main earner and as a very dominant and independent man he's going to dislike being unemployed. But this awareness means we're prepared to work through it and tide the storm. It'd be hard to give in to the typical … | /r/TheRedPill | 08/01/15 02:33 PM |
| 2 | Maneuvering through life without getting accused of anything?No surefire way. Vindictiveness, jealousy, fear and confusion are rife in the Western world and any sufferers are liable to call the police on you, tell your friends lies about you or send an email to your boss claiming you're a racist. I've been arrested (albeit not charged) over things I didn't do, just because other women decided I had annoyed them and needed to be "taught a lesson". People will try and screw you over no matter what. Sure, you can make yourself independent, work for yourself,… | /r/TheRedPill | 08/01/15 02:17 PM |
| 2 | How To Cure Depressionx1000 on the drinking. Even try and avoid drinking at all when the depression is in a bad point of the cycle (if it's endogenous) or until it's gone (if it's exogenous). Alcohol is both a depressant and a numbing agent. When you drink when depressed, you are making it worse, but not feeling it. As a consequence you are likely to continue drinking beyond your usual stopping point and learn to associate the alcohol with the numbness you crave when you're depressed. To put it flippantly, it's suici… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/01/15 11:02 AM |
| 1 | If you haven't already, get rid of sugar, Gentleman.Just don't swap it for aspartame. Jon cut aspartame back and his headaches went away. Started having more of it and they creep back in here and there. Stick to something natural if you need sweetened foods. | /r/TheRedPill | 06/01/15 12:53 PM |
| 1 | Getting What You Ask ForThanks for the links again. Farrell is good. Wise man. One of the main inspirations behind almost every good book on the Western decline. And there are always sources, you just have to meta-analyze. Same as with studies on status, gender dynamics, female sexuality and "badboy phenomenon". There are plenty of studies deemed PC that have the data you need. That's why fruitarians and scientologists exist. It's finding credible sources that completely disprove your theories that's the important part… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/01/15 09:01 AM |
| 2 | Getting What You Ask ForIt's sad that modern feminist are winning the PR battle to convince women that they are owed everything without reciprocity. I have a theory (albeit simple at the moment), on this. As feminists are devaluing female sexuality (our one leverage for provision over men) through liberating the sexual market and as the provision itself is devalued by a unisex, global, younger workforce, they fear that male provision may one day cease or may not be afforded to economically and politically powerful wome… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/01/15 06:46 PM |
| 0 | Silly Women disrupted our conversation.It's easy to understand the argument. a) Voting for a political party in a state of desperation isn't really the same as causing the war. The Soviet war tactics of "lose two guys to their every one, because we have the numbers" were not the Nazis' fault. Neither were the famines caused by the Allies' destruction of trade routes. The whole thing was actually triggered by Germany leaving the gold standard, as otherwise France and England would never have entered a preemptive pact with Poland, nor … | /r/TheRedPill | 02/01/15 07:21 PM |
| 1 | Getting What You Ask ForWow. Thanks for the analysis and the link. The burqa example is pretty much spot on. Probably why most females are so hostile to Game regardless of who it comes from and why females like myself, who are a little more comfortable with the concept, still react with hostility to Game when we think it's coming from a low value male. The fear of being tricked by Game is probably similar to a man's fear of a woman wearing a bodysuit in the burqa example. And the fear of being hounded by "uncalibrated"… | /r/TheRedPill | 02/01/15 06:57 PM |
| 4 | Biggest overt example of female behavior since swallowing the red pillA man in her place, at age 40, will not have the same results as she will at age 40. That is how it works differently. This girl is not being attacked. She is being used as a case study by one of our readers. | /r/TheRedPill | 02/01/15 12:16 PM |
| 2 | Is virginity the gold standard?As a completely random note, it's a shame that Betty Boop has retained her slapper girl symbolism, even though by modern standards she's very feminine and sweet. She's become the symbol of trendy teen rebellion and never got out of it, though I found her brilliant and still watch the old cartoons. Some things change, others not so much, I guess. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/15 09:17 AM |
| 1 | Getting What You Ask ForI think the issue is, you get just as many guys claiming to pick up every girl they look at as you get guys who are actually living the life and just reporting. As few women will ever experience such a situation (much of them being lesbians and very few being bisexual), it's hard for us to sort what type of a man someone is or to guess as to whether he's honest or engaged in the internet tradition of faking status/success to attract friends. The other issue with attraction, one I have managed to… | /r/TheRedPill | 02/01/15 09:05 AM |
| 1 | RPers in LTRs - What made you settle?You're welcome and take care. | /r/TheRedPill | 01/01/15 01:37 AM |
| 1 | Getting What You Ask ForThen we're really on the same page. Because by your argument every "calibrated" man I've met (besides the one I'm marrying) were the ones who tested the waters looking for sex, got no reaction and moved on. Meanwhile the "uncalibrated" ones were the ones who carried on pushing. Doesn't change the fact I wasn't receptive to their game, calibrated or uncalibrated. It just means a calibrated man knows when he doesn't stand a chance with what he has to offer and looks for greener pastures. Correct? | /r/TheRedPill | 01/01/15 01:37 AM |
| -2 | Getting What You Ask ForI've had all sorts of men try and seduce me across three countries since I was 13 (Slavic girls mature before Mediterranean girls, so I had an edge over the locals). The issue with seduction is it assumes the woman isn't on her guard against sexual advances. I have only ever experienced attraction towards one man and he was the one who made his intentions verbally clear ("I find you hot." "I will not wait until marriage." "I want to see your breasts by so many dates.") rather than making physica… | /r/TheRedPill | 31/12/14 06:26 PM |
| 1 | RPers in LTRs - What made you settle?Just be careful. It's all too easy to look at a four, ten or fifty year relationship and draw parallels between it and your two or three month relationship. Never invest too much or stop looking for red flags. Look out for yourself. After all, you'll never be in a position to read someone else's mind. | /r/TheRedPill | 31/12/14 05:52 PM |
| 1 | Aren't MOST women basic bitches, though?You're welcome. Sometimes its easy for even RP boys and girls to forget how differently wired we are! | /r/TheRedPill | 31/12/14 05:49 PM |
| 2 | RPers in LTRs - What made you settle?A quick summary of Jon's story: -He wasn't RP, more of a natural Alpha (Sigma/Introverted Alpha, if you want to be specific). Dated quite a lot when he was younger, lost his virginity young and still managed to have more women in well under a decade than most men do in their lives. -Became displeased with modern women. Withdrew from SMP. Decided he'd have a wife or not bother. -After a few years decided he'd probably be a hermit, seeing as no women who met his criteria appeared. -We met online a… | /r/TheRedPill | 30/12/14 03:20 PM |
| 8 | Aren't MOST women basic bitches, though?Try getting her interested in creating things. Many women shy away from exploration (martial arts, travel, hiking) and that makes them appear closed to hobbies. But then you get them writing poetry, painting, knitting or flower arranging and suddenly they're hooked. Most women aren't drawn to adventure and exploration, instead, we're drawn to creating and nest-making. You can even expand it. If she starts to enjoy cooking and painting, you can take her on a daytrip or out hiking and have her pre… | /r/TheRedPill | 30/12/14 03:02 PM |
| 7 | You all know that women don't know what they want, right? Turns out they don't even know what they're aroused by.There is more of a divide between physical and mental arousal in women. In men, physical arousal is preparing them to inseminate. Which means anything they want to inseminate can cause a reaction, whereas those things they don't want to inseminate will not. Therefore reported attraction and physical arousal will match up. In women, physical arousal is preparing them to be penetrated. Which means anything that implies they're about to be penetrated will cause physical arousal even if they don't w… | /r/TheRedPill | 30/12/14 02:56 PM |
| 6 | A woman pretends to be a man for 18 months and is shocked about what she finds out. Food for thoughts.I think part of her complaint about compassion was based on the fact that the self-help group was needed. If the hypermasculine, socially dried-up environment these men were in wasn't counterconductive to happiness, then they wouldn't need to go to self-help for anger and emotional management. They would have friends and family they could vent to and talk to, rather than anonymous strangers. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/14 10:01 AM |
| 1 | The Double Income No Kids TrapKeeping up with the Joneses is awful however you try and do it. The American obsession with ownership, credit, loans, etc will destroy its population for the benefit of its banks. EDIT: Imagine if the given couple had lived together, renting within their means to save money, arranged maybe one extra day off a week so they could take turns sorting the house and cooking (only because their incomes are equal, otherwise the lesser earner takes more days off or even works part time), worked out a sin… | /r/TheRedPill | 27/12/14 06:31 PM |
| 2 | How does drama happen?These were all observed. Hence the confusion. Our relationship is zero drama and having been in identical situations to those observed WITHOUT starting drama, we were wondering how it happens. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/14 06:24 PM |
| -1 | How does drama happen?Agreed on 3. She's family, so I've seen how bad she is. And 2 happens to everyone from time to time (on both sides), but how it becomes so hateful is confusing. It's like some people have a trip-switch that goes into anger-mode very quickly. The confusing part about self-centredness is that I know a couple of narcissists who manage better than your average person. They seem to have the realization that drama hurts them as well as their partner and stop it. It's your Joe and Joan Average who are … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/14 12:18 PM |
| 1 | How does drama happen?Same. It's just so hard to understand why it happens. Especially when identical, festive-based situations happen for us and for one of the couples we're visiting/who are visiting us and theirs somehow turns into a bloodbath. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/14 12:11 PM |
| 1 | How does drama happen?That's interesting about the woman defusing. Makes a lot of sense. Do you find you bring up past incidents in the heat of the moment out of anger (trying to put him in the wrong) or out of confusion (you feel it's relevant at the time you mention it)? | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/14 07:54 PM |
| 2 | Why does Hollywood continuously put out films with a "kick-ass" female protagonist?The big difference in films: 99% of the time, there is a more powerful man above the female lead, either financially, socially or physically. Think Xena and Mars or Hercules. Xena may be a butt-kicking, crazy warrior girl. But Mars was a literal God and Hercules was still more powerful than her. She was powerful by our standards, but only a slight exception in her world. Same for Black Widow in The Avengers. All these butt-kicking females have stronger male counters in their world, and the few t… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/12/14 05:43 PM |
| 14 | Why does Hollywood continuously put out films with a "kick-ass" female protagonist?Because it's a female power fantasy and a male secret fetish fantasy. Fantasies sell. If you can create a character design that one sex wants to be and the other sex wants to mate with, you have a protagonist or showy sidekick for another generic, "just add water" film. | /r/TheRedPill | 24/12/14 11:52 PM |
| 3 | Some tips on "faking" like you're rich to get laid. (Without having to actually lie)On clothes: never underestimate charity/thrift shops. Jon currently has a brand-new, heavy silk tie that retailed around £25 for £2. Also a hand-made, Singaporean, fitted, silk shirt for £5. Dinner jackets for £15, fur coats (some genuine) for £20, heavy gold rings for £30. For around £150, we could go to dinner looking like we're made of cash. You can find some real treasures. | /r/TheRedPill | 24/12/14 12:12 AM |
| 1 | Funny thing watching californication?FWIW, Jon reuses the odd line from shows he used to watch that I am now watching and noticing. I still find it funny when he says them. Regardless of where the content's from, spontaneity, timing and delivery can make all the difference. | /r/TheRedPill | 23/12/14 06:36 PM |
| 4 | Parents are influenced by modern society too much and are very disappointed. Here's why. Need input.My relatives were the same about Jon. Because I became a bit more withdrawn when I started seeing him, they automatically assumed control and ignored how introverted I was anyway, completely discounting that maybe I wanted to spend more time with someone I liked, and that this meant less time with others, so as to not become drained. Then they decided that traditionalism was bad. They were happy with it when it was just me, but assumed I'd find some feminist man "who respected me" and stop being… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/12/14 09:37 AM |
| 1 | Opinion on relationship situation pleaseWhilst you don't want to merge your lives our houses yet (or at all), seeing as you only live 10 minutes from each other, why don't you alternate taking your kids to each other's houses on days when you both have your kids? You'll both likely appreciate the extra help as you can split tasks for the day, the kids can play together or even have friends round (seeing as the distance from your home or his home to a friend's house isn't that different) and, whilst it isn't exactly intimate time toget… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/12/14 09:24 AM |
| 1 | Red Pill: New Evolutionary TheoryThe male brain's desire for variety is so easily overridden that most men who have a healthy sex drive (ie: want sex at least every other day and not much more than three times a day when they are getting it) can finish having sex with a woman, have her get into different coloured underwear and physically respond with the same intensity as if an entirely different, sexually receptive woman had walked into the room. Male fantasizing, desire and polygyny is hard to analyze when you bear that in mi… | /r/TheRedPill | 21/12/14 07:03 PM |
| 5 | Don't fall into her frame. Don't supplicate. A RP example.My point wasn't that LTR material girls should put out. My point was that if you want a girl as a housekeeper, she should show signs of being one, if you want her as a mother to your children, you should see progression towards that, if you want a second earner and helpmeet, you shouldn't sit around waiting for it to "just happen". Just as if what you want is sex, you shouldn't waste your time on one girl who takes 4 months when there are plenty of girls that would take 10 minutes, if you want a… | /r/TheRedPill | 21/12/14 06:42 PM |
| 7 | Argument with LTRDon't compare yourself with female friends, it's a totally different dynamic. Nothing good will come from it. Amen. When you compare yourself to female friends you are: 1: Comparing and likening yourself to a friend. 2: Comparing and likening yourself to a woman. 3: Assuming her relationship with her friend is and should be as important as her relationship with you. 4: Suggesting that her relationship with her friend is a positive that should be emulated. Just avoid it. Female relationships are … | /r/TheRedPill | 20/12/14 10:29 PM |
| 8 | Don't fall into her frame. Don't supplicate. A RP example.Probably also worth flipping: if you want something more than sex, then make sure you're getting the "something more", even if not the sex yet. Your time is just as valuable if you're trying to get a virgin housewife as if you're trying to get a ONS with some girl you met in a bar. If you see no escalation, no sign of interest in escalation and no sign things will improve, why are you spending three days a week dating her? | /r/TheRedPill | 20/12/14 10:20 PM |
| 0 | RPW Living Situations - FR & Open Forum?Absolutely spot on. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/14 08:22 PM |
| 1 | RPW Living Situations - FR & Open Forum?It's OK. :) It's as much practising the principles as it is knowing them. I'm sure the Women's Institute Library has a book on social etiquette and conversation, too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/14 11:20 AM |
| 2 | Confusion about game, plates, and yet looking for the young, sexually inexperienced, domestic girl who is pleasant to be around and maintains her physical appearance is what we're told we should do. Can someone help me sort this out?It's quite simple, really, so wikiped should cover it. r-selected animals choose to have many offspring and spread their genes as far and wide as possible, not fretting about the upbringing of their infants. Extreme example: Salmon. K-selected animals choose to have few offspring and invest heavily in the upbringing of their infants, not worrying about the number of offpsring or spread of genes. Extreme example: Elephants. Most animals rest somewhere inbetween, either having two set-patterns, or… | /r/askTRP | 20/12/14 11:11 AM |
| 0 | RPW Living Situations - FR & Open Forum?It is a sign of lazy housekeeping, especially if you leave things out when they have places or haven't found places for them yet. Try finding some stackable boxes and some wicker baskets in the local thrift shop. Put the things you don't really use in the boxes and the things that clutter a lot (laundry, old coursework, clean towels, arts and crafts materials, etc) in baskets. No decorating simply means you don't view it as a home. When I lived with my relative I had my Prussian flag and a singl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/14 10:58 AM |
| 1 | Confusion about game, plates, and yet looking for the young, sexually inexperienced, domestic girl who is pleasant to be around and maintains her physical appearance is what we're told we should do. Can someone help me sort this out?You know how men have the option to be Alpha Fux or Beta Bux and how, despite the fact an excellent man could be either, a man's best option is to try and be Alpha even in marriage (or Alpha Bux)? Women have a similar dichotomy that I call Many Sluts/One Wife (MS/OW). A woman could be one of Many Sluts who get lots of Alphas, have their fun, become a baby momma, but miss out on the commitment element and actual paternal investment of the biological father. The "Many" refers to the fact that pret… | /r/askTRP | 19/12/14 07:44 PM |
| 2 | RPW Living Situations - FR & Open Forum?I generally open conversation with light jokes about anything they're doing, or asking what they think of any current pop culture. People are bland, especially people like that. Make them at ease and get them talking about something they can actually talk about. After that you start picking up on more personal cues, such as what sort of characters they like, their opinion on various viral topics, etc. You can reach a point where you can offer thoughtful gifts for their birthday and Christmas, kn… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/14 06:38 PM |
| 3 | RPW Living Situations - FR & Open Forum?I've lived in far too many places and manners to decide whether a young woman is wholesome based on her environment. Over 25s maybe, but most young people I've known don't have a choice in terms of living space. However, poor housekeeping is almost always a sign of a nontraditional woman, or at least a woman who views her home as a resting place and not a home. You can get along with them, but you need to behave and speak differently. I have always been traditional, even though I wasn't aware of… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/14 11:22 AM |
| 8 | Real TRP for women.The long game: -Keep away from most people, use them only as needed, become as self-sufficient as possible. -Make yourself as high value as you can through learning housewife skills, keeping fit, not having sex freely and mate-seeking whilst young. -Before 25, marry a man who is authoritative, educated or skilled enough to support you and attractive. Be willing to accept him cheating on you as long as you're his only wife. Such men are rarely monogamous. -Have an obscene number of children by hi… | /r/TheRedPill | 18/12/14 03:57 PM |
| 2 | Going vegetarian?Fasting: -Men can fast as often and for as long as they like without lasting metabolic or hormonal damage (women end up with messed up hormones and spontaneous ketosis, but unless you're getting a girl on a diet, there's not much point going into that). Unless you fast for weeks on end and start getting anorexic (which would be stupid), in theory you can fast for a week every three months or a day every week. Whatever you feel comfortable doing, your body can probably deal with. -However, unless… | /r/askTRP | 18/12/14 12:24 PM |
| 2 | Going vegetarian?Essential readings: -Biochemical Individuality by Williams -The Complete Guide to Food Allergy and Intolerance by Brostoff and Gamlin -Primal Body, Primal Mind by Gedgaudas -The Vitamin Bible by Earl Mindell Useful data, but to take with a grain of salt: -The Metabolic Typing Diet by Wolcott and Fahey -The Paleo Diet by Loren Cordain -The Primal Blueprint by Mark Sisson -The Glucose Revolution by Leeds, Miller, Powell and Colagiuri Practical websites: -freetheanimal.com -rawfoodsos.com -perfecth… | /r/askTRP | 18/12/14 12:14 PM |
| 1 | I suck at talking to people other than my best friends :( help?Sounds good. Almost like a rehearsed answer, but rather than to a specific question, to a generic situation? | /r/TheRedPill | 18/12/14 09:09 AM |
| 2 | VICE article about female domination - If you have this fetish, you are fucked for lifeYeah. TRP in action again. It's amazing how it even affects fetish and alternative relationship dynamics. | /r/TheRedPill | 18/12/14 09:08 AM |
| 1 | Looking for good RPW blogsThanks for mentioning me! I feel honoured. :) But it's also worth noting that plenty of RPW bloggers still blog about femininity and relationships once TRP is internalized. I will try and compose a list of blogs that are, intentionally or unintentionally, useful to a RPW. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/14 09:05 AM |
| 6 | Going vegetarian?I was vegan until I was 6, vegetarian (no animals) until I was 8, Spanish diet from 8 to 13, anorexic at 13, obese by 15, standard diet from 15 to 18 (very low calorie, low meat, lost weight), Paleo diet from 18-20, currently wholefoods with restricted carbs from all sources. Read extensively on diet from age 16, when I crashed my weight down and started getting fit. My discoveries: -Vegan diets really don't work for many people. Most of my childhood ailments could be attributed to the vegan who… | /r/askTRP | 17/12/14 02:14 PM |
| 2 | VICE article about female domination - If you have this fetish, you are fucked for lifeAlso, most natural dommes are actually switches. So they enjoy the domination part, but sometimes want to be dominated also. It's why I find it funny when this girl I know (N, who isn't RP), rants about how scrawny submissive men are. Because apparently most male subs are emaciated creatures, when what most domme women, including N, actually want is a big guy who likes to be tied down, asphyxiated and whipped every Tuesday and who's happy to swap places when she's ovulating. In short, dommes exi… | /r/TheRedPill | 17/12/14 09:45 AM |
| 6 | LTR is Anti-Red Pill. Help?You can take a horse to water but you can't make it drink. Go to TRP, read up, improve yourself as a man, game her a little to nudge her towards feminine habits. Most women start acting like RPW when they're with a guy they particularly like anyway. Nurturing and nesting is our default setting for such men. Just be that man and don't bother if she calls herself a "feminist" between cooking you dinner and tidying the living room, or if she calls TRP "disgusting" as she gets into nice lingerie for… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/14 09:23 AM |
| 1 | I suck at talking to people other than my best friends :( help?Sounds clever. Any examples? | /r/TheRedPill | 17/12/14 09:18 AM |
| 1 | Discussion about naggingIMHO: The alternative is to first ask regarding your point. If you're playing navigator and you ask him "What are your plans if we end up on the highway?", chances are he'll have a plan. If he doesn't, make a suggestion, make it once, listen to his answer. If he finds merit, he will follow the suggestion, if he doesn't, he won't. If he doesn't follow your advice and it goes wrong, don't say "I told you so" or "if only you'd listened to me"! Do you really think he doesn't know that your advice mi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/14 11:38 AM |
| 14 | The beta feminist. Only slightly uglier than a female feminist (mini non-sexual FR)French term for it is "esprit du escalier", the spirit/wit of the staircase. Basically meaning the thing you should have said in the room, you only thought of when you were out and on the staircase. | /r/TheRedPill | 13/12/14 10:28 PM |
| 1 | Do we have any female equivalent to Chivalry? It would be nice to have a counter to this article: "21 Lost Gentleman Traditions That Still Apply Today"We've got a list underway at RPW. Only at 15 right now, but we'll hit 21 soon enough. | /r/TheRedPill | 13/12/14 07:20 PM |
| 5 | Do you guys want daughters? How would you raise a daughter nowdays?"they are fully aware of the wall and what consequences come with it," I've noticed this in Asian girls too and it seems to be down to one thing. They are surrounded by long marriages, relatives abroad who can't get divorced and friends and family who discourage unmarried sex. Therefore, the 40-yo spinster (be she celibate or carousel rider) stands out like a sore thumb: she's lonely, dependent on grueling work or relatives for support and with few to no options regarding men. They learn they do… | /r/TheRedPill | 13/12/14 07:05 PM |
| 5 | What are you getting your men for xmas?Give him a nice Christmas surprise. Don't buy anything, just look at how your Christmas day is scheduled and find some time in the morning to dress up nicely for him, make him his favourite breakfast, put on his favourite film and cuddle. Or time in the evening to make something nice for dinner, give him his favourite booze and snuggle on the sofa watching something together. Make him a Christmas pudding or a chocolate cake. Just do something nice for him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/14 02:39 PM |
| 3 | What are you getting your men for xmas?Making him a backpack for his security work. Also composing a stocking full of little things he likes as a surprise. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/14 02:36 PM |
| 3 | I suck at talking to people other than my best friends :( help?I'm a bit like that, or was when I was younger. Tips: 1: Most people have set conversational patterns. People watch, be the fly on the wall, be quiet in conversation. Learn these patterns, how to tell what a person is going to be like from their appearance, posture and early conversation. 2: Practise at home. Go through different conversations in your mind, think of all the possible responses, from small talk to if you're confronted about something controversial. 3: Try cool and collected first.… | /r/TheRedPill | 13/12/14 02:26 PM |
| 2 | LTR christmas giftsThe complicated way would be to consider the worth of what she's buying relative to her income and the worth she adds to your life relative to how much you spend on her above what she spends on you and average them for a gift budget. (Downside is that such a calculation would leave most men with a gift budget in minus figures. "Honey, based on how this year went, your Christmas present is an invoice for $59.20.") The simple way is to think of something she would like that isn't too specific (bei… | /r/askTRP | 12/12/14 07:37 PM |
| 1 | Advice on saving money.Will PM you the chapter on food, so it doesn't kill the comment box. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/14 06:40 PM |
| 1 | Kim K to spend the night with Saudi Prince for $1 millionValid point, but still, we are talking about the cradle of civilization, where they seem to have had kings and the likes since pre-agrarian times. | /r/TheRedPill | 12/12/14 06:38 PM |
| 4 | The penny dropped. No wonder actual prostitution is illegal in most places.I've always viewed it as AF/BB vs "Many Sluts"/"One Wife". So (bar manicorns) a man's options were being the dominant Alpha to compensate for a wilder, less stable, riskier lifestyle or being the hardworking Beta to compensate for less excitement and less raw sex appeal. Likewise, a woman could choose to be one of Many Sluts, bed herself some Alphas, produce more offspring in her youth, but end up provisionless at the end or be the One Wife, not guarantee herself as wide a variety of genes for h… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/12/14 02:36 PM |
| 0 | Can red pill men "fall in love"?You can't control your hormones any more than you can control hunger and sleep. Few people ever fully control a single one of their biological freight-trains, just angle it in the right direction and try and avoid it going runaway. | /r/TheRedPill | 12/12/14 02:25 PM |
| 7 | Kim K to spend the night with Saudi Prince for $1 millionYou ignore the selective breeding strategies employed by most Asian royalty. The descendants of men who employed such strategies seem to have as much a lust for power and international relations as for sex. A mere 100 years ago, impregnating someone of Kim's status (Western celebrity, adored by the people, cash cow, media attention) could lead to political bonds and increased power well worth $1M. Whether it's still just cultural or has become biological, the fact still stands that they are oper… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/12/14 02:23 PM |
| 0 | Advice on saving money.I'm writing an entire book on my money-saving experiences, so there's far too much to go through in a comment. Just pick something you want to save on (bills, food, car, etc) and I'll give you your options. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/14 08:57 AM |
| 2 | Dan Savage on LTRs and the idealized selfStandards were ridiculous. Specific ethnicity, age bracket, tastes, hands (fetish), political leanings, etc. Broken down, I worked out there are probably 700 men who meet all criteria and that's not accounting for whether they would like me if they met me. And I don't so much actively cut people out as I make no effort to contact them, speak to them or see them if they aren't really interesting to me. Most social relationships died a natural death once we no longer had to interact due to school,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/14 04:21 PM |
| 3 | Dan Savage on LTRs and the idealized selfThe other side of the high standards coin is acceptance (of the consequences, that is). I am very impatient and rather selfish, and as such get easily bored or annoyed by almost everyone, regardless of their relationship to me. Within a few hours of conversation most people are excluded from my social loop, within a few months there is almost nobody left from day 1. I intentionally keep in contact with one non-family person from my life before I was eighteen and a couple of relatives, everyone e… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/14 09:09 AM |
| 4 | A short report showing how expressing your desires without inhibition can work in a relationshipWhich is where the "NiceGuy Myth" falls apart. Based on this post and his responses, chances are OP IS a nice person. Just not the prescribed "NiceGuy", so the Beta's don't realize it. | /r/TheRedPill | 11/12/14 08:43 AM |
| 3 | Previous Sex Partners' Semen Can Influence Fly OffspringActually, tests have found some sexually active human females carry Y chromosomes as far away from the womb as in her own brain cells. (http://blogs.plos.org/dnascience/2012/10/25/male-dna-in-female-brains-revisited/) Usually put down to having a male child or an undetected miscarriage of one. However, considering the nature of RNA (which can be affected by a blood transfusion or a bout of hayfever http://www.nature.com/ng/journal/v43/n1/full/ng.724.html), and the nature of sperm (where a woman … | /r/TheRedPill | 10/12/14 05:57 PM |
| 1 | AskReddit Thread: "Men of Reddit, what do you wish your partner would do in bed that they currently don't?" - A window into lust-less relationshipsNot taking anything away from your point, but most of the replies show very passive behaviour. If a guy wants a girl to initiate more, then he isn't going to do that by just sitting back and quietly hoping. That's like a kid who hasn't noticed Santa isn't real, who doesn't ask for what they want and is hurt when they don't get it. On the other hand, nagging or begging for something defeats the whole point of initiation and kills the mood. A bit of dominance, teasing and a few hints could go a lo… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/12/14 09:42 AM |
| 1 | Please provide suggestions on how to improve r/marriedredpillThe problem is that mrp is for keeping a woman long term, preferably until one of you dies. As in, nuclear is not an option when someone can take your kids and half your assets for life. And making a woman sexually desire you isn't all there is to building a 20-100 year relationship. Comfort is also needed. | /r/TheRedPill | 10/12/14 09:30 AM |
| 1 | Sexually submissive to women; Will TRP be applicable and relevant to me?I can definitely agree that we need to be better at not jumping to conclusions for everything. I think there's a line between ignoring real mental illness and over-diagnosing, somehow now we seem to be on both sides of that line with all of the negatives and none of the positives. Good thing you were able to get the proper diagnosis before something very bad happened. In a way, I'm lucky to be a woman. Sad though it is, a man with my problems would have, through a combination of pride and medica… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/12/14 09:10 AM |
| – | #NoNothingNovember Voting ThreadAnother unofficial entry. For my #NNN, I made the decision to quit: 1, time-wasting sites: so as to save myself more time, be more productive and spend more time with Jon 2, interrupting people: so as to better my social interactions, and 3, getting wound up over everything: so as to stop some of the illness that has "haunted" me since I started working properly and so as to actually make good use of my spare time, rather than get caught in a cycle of procrastination and stress. I had some troub… | /r/TheRedPill | 09/12/14 10:33 AM |
| 2 | Post from r/science : Women with more male friends have more sex with their partners because of 'sperm rivalry'Also, women with a higher sex drive probably attract more men on a pheromonal level and have higher T. Pheromones = more Beta orbiters and more casual conversations with non-Beta men. High T and pheromonal attraction = partner is more frequently aroused by her and she is more likely to be horny. High T = more masculine behaviours, more likely to enjoy man-geared things, less likely to enjoy female chitchat and drama. So a woman who is pretty, high T and very fertile is: more likely to want frequ… | /r/TheRedPill | 08/12/14 04:34 PM |
| 1 | Sexually submissive to women; Will TRP be applicable and relevant to me?The problem with the mental disorder argument is that it's become easy to pathologize anything. Nervous tic? OCD. Questioning authority? ODD. Poor concentration and energy? ADHD. Memory loss? ADD. Low desire for social interactions? AS. Disturbed by obesity, sores, scars, etc? BDD by proxy. The DSMV has given us so many disorders that it's very easy to put any behaviour down to a mental problem that you need to medicate with blunt-sword pills. Far easier than looking at historical trauma, actual… | /r/TheRedPill | 08/12/14 11:33 AM |
| 1 | Dealing with rudeness/no respect for boundaries politely?Think "charming and concise". How would you talk to someone at your workplace? A difficult customer or manager? Talk that way. Keep courteous, but gently press for the conversation to go back to a more pleasant topic. Keep courteous, but explain that the date isn't working for you and you'd like to leave. Keep courteous, but tell him that you're not happy with physical contact at that level just yet. And state everything explicitly; if you're too ambiguous, subtle or quiet, a guy may assume you'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/14 08:43 PM |
| 3 | Well RPW, you've finally intrigued me, but I need to know how a transgender person fits or doesn't fit.We can't exactly help you with any issues you have regarding your trans* identity, but we're absolutely here for advice on how to be a feminine woman, how to manage relationships, how to keep house, how to manage a work-study-home balance, how to dress to attract the right sort of attention, etc. Ask as a woman and you'll be advised as one. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/14 08:31 PM |
| 2 | acting like boyfriend material before you have sex almost guarantees failureAs I said to BJH, it's amazing how much of a difference sexual experience (or lack thereof) makes in a woman's behaviour. Whilst I'd love to know the ins and outs of how hormones, brain chemistry, memory, etc creates that effect, the explanation makes much sense. It's quite shocking how a woman who would otherwise pass for her friend's twin (similar tastes, hobbies, life experiences, upbringing, etc), just from having had, say, five partners rather than one, responds to entirely different cues t… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/12/14 08:18 PM |
| 1 | acting like boyfriend material before you have sex almost guarantees failureIt's amazing how much a woman's sexual experience (or lack thereof) affects her choice of mate and perspective on intersexual relationships. Maybe it constitutes a "cultural" difference between the promiscuous and nonpromiscuous, where both prefer the natural Alpha traits (dominance, smell of testosterone, preselection), but each has a different "cultural" taste for Alpha? Akin to the difference between a Bodi woman's preference for the fattest man and an Aka woman's preference for a slimmer, al… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/12/14 08:09 PM |
| 15 | The "non negotiables". Or preventing a bachelor from becoming a pigI think a lot of single men could benefit from asking themselves "what would I LOVE to have a housewife to do for me?" and doing it. Learning to do it if you must. Laundry, ironing, dishes, solid home-cooked meals, baked goods, steam-baths in the shower, proper lather shaves, minimizing decorations, painting a room; literally anything you would like a woman to do/arrange for you housework-wise, do for yourself. Just because it's a bachelor pad doesn't mean you can't make it nice. If anything, it… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/12/14 06:52 PM |
| 1 | Is there an appropriate way to interact with a spouse who complains a lot?I have family like that and can't imagine being married to one, but here's how I deal with relatives: range it by minutes per subject. Around five minutes of complaining can be tolerated. After that I started bringing up solutions. After three solutions are rejected I change the topic to something pleasant we both find engaging. If they try and change it back, I return to the original topic. If they keep going on I leave them to it and find something else to do. It may be different for you, espe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/14 06:38 PM |
| 2 | Successful Men in LTRs: how did you meet your SO and keep her loyal?Exactly. Your whole personality may not change, but low inhibitions plus zero record of what you did five minutes ago is not a good way to spend a night. | /r/TheRedPill | 06/12/14 12:34 PM |
| 0 | Sexually submissive to women; Will TRP be applicable and relevant to me?Straw man: I never claimed ALL pedophiles are made. Not all pedophiles are sex offenders. Not all pedophiles start out with such preferences. Just as not all SSBBW lovers were born with the desire to have sex with a 5" lumpy stocking full of fat. I have provided the evidence. As you are claiming that I have not and strawmanning instead of actually countering my arguments and evidence, I must assume you are either being intentionally dishonest or you are not sane, therefore this conversation cann… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/12/14 12:32 PM |
| 1 | acting like boyfriend material before you have sex almost guarantees failureMy point was that my fiance did it almost all wrong, but I found it attractive when most women I know would have fit the bill and found it a turnoff. | /r/TheRedPill | 06/12/14 10:02 AM |
| 1 | Successful Men in LTRs: how did you meet your SO and keep her loyal?There is some truth to that. Apparently your brain can shut off memory after a certain level of blood alcohol, though some people hit it early and some never do. Only happened once to me. Was having a few drinks on an empty stomach with some friends and Jon. Woke up in bed and didn't remember anything after a certain point. Apparently, from the point where my memory gives out, I took a call from someone, chatted for an hour or so and was herded to bed to get some rest. Not remembering things is … | /r/TheRedPill | 05/12/14 08:38 PM |
| -4 | acting like boyfriend material before you have sex almost guarantees failureSome of these things (whilst I don't disagree with them), make me wonder why they didn't apply to me. Some things apply or don't apply for obvious reasons, but... We met and started out as online friends. Commonalities and rapport were 100% of our relationship for a very long time and most of what attracted me to him. He didn't do that, but he mentioned he was in science which I viewed as impressive (I'm not very good with numbers and never fully understood the hard sciences) and complementary t… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/12/14 08:25 PM |
| 0 | Sexually submissive to women; Will TRP be applicable and relevant to me?Again, you said there is no evidence, I have provided evidence, both anecdotal and research-based. Therefore it happens. That's like denying that clouds are water because they don't look like it and you can't see how they form. Unless you have contrary evidence, I think this ends here as I could no longer assume your integrity and sanity and without those assumptions there's no reason to debate. | /r/TheRedPill | 05/12/14 06:55 PM |
| 1 | At what sexual partner number would you deem a girl unfit for a LTR?More simply put: If a guy says "I want to date a girl a very long time", then your advice holds. But if a guy says "I want a relationship that is conductive to a family and a solid future", "I want a happy, three to ten year relationship with a low-drama woman who acts as my housewife and lover" or even "I want a stable marriage and children" (one of the three being what most men want out of a LTR), your advice to reach for the woman he most desires doesn't hold ground: he needs to reach for the… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/12/14 03:37 PM |
| 1 | At what sexual partner number would you deem a girl unfit for a LTR?Ideology is all well and good. But just because I'm confident I could win a fight with a couple of dogs doesn't mean I'm going to, especially not if I'm doing it for £200 there is an easier, more certain path to £900. Application to reality is important. And if the application of a LTR is towards an end goal, then pursuing the end goal rather than the woman is probably for the better. My main point was that LTRs are rarely for the relationship or the woman in and of themselves; therefore, by goi… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/12/14 03:30 PM |
| 0 | Sexually submissive to women; Will TRP be applicable and relevant to me?McGuire, R.J.; Carlisle, J.M.; Young, B.G. (1964). "Sexual deviations as conditioned behaviour: A hypothesis". Behaviour Research and Therapy 2: 185–90 http://profiles.nlm.nih.gov/ps/access/NNBCKV.pdf (page 26 for findings) http://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/19317611.2014.927048?journalCode=wijs20#.VIHNvMmmfh4 http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/25350847 http://gradworks.umi.com/35/07/3507036.html I'd say the increasing viewership (not production, but usage) of SSBBW porn also suggests th… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/12/14 03:26 PM |
| 1 | Who is a good example of a "sigma"It's fine. Better polite than sorry. :) | /r/askTRP | 04/12/14 02:21 PM |
| 1 | At what sexual partner number would you deem a girl unfit for a LTR?A: I'm a straight, taken female. No vested interest from any angle, just statistics and the pleasure I get from debates worth having. B: Low partner count is a valid measure. Correlation may not equal causation, but if you're trying for the closest you can get to permanent devotion, anything you can do is worth doing. Especially if you're putting your wealth, future happiness and family on the line. I never claimed it's going to be the only requirement, but if you plan on risking it all, it shou… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/12/14 02:19 PM |
| 3 | Feeding and watering your boyfriend?Make him 3-day pots of stew, potroast, etc and take them over to him. Cookie jars and the likes are good too. Also, when Jon and I were living apart I'd stock up on his favourite energy drink and take one or two with me when we went anywhere. Getting his favourite small junk-food treat takes almost no effort and it puts a smile on a guy's face. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/12/14 09:19 AM |
| 2 | Who is a good example of a "sigma"Fair enough. I guess Alpha is more easily seen from the outside than the inside, hence terms like Sigma and Gamma being less useful, as they're often co-opted. Still a good way of summarizing a guy's behaviour or general person: "He's not quite an Alpha, but he could be, more of a Sigma, really." Easier than going into how he can, does, will or won't use his leadership skills and sex appeal. | /r/askTRP | 04/12/14 09:17 AM |
| 1 | Who is a good example of a "sigma"Not really worth the infighting, no. But words are my living and one of the few "things" I love. Can get a bit obsessed about terms. My apologies. | /r/askTRP | 04/12/14 09:15 AM |
| 2 | The opposite of a red flag? What makes you think a woman is worth your time?Taking your time is wise, her friends, her family or herself will reveal anything you need to know eventually, albeit indirectly. Here's hoping she's a unicorn. Good luck and never forget your last sentence there. :) | /r/TheRedPill | 04/12/14 09:12 AM |
| 1 | Who is a good example of a "sigma"Well if it's down to pheromones and genetics, then I've only met one Alpha my entire life and he'd be almost a full-blown hermit if he could. | /r/askTRP | 04/12/14 09:11 AM |
| 1 | At what sexual partner number would you deem a girl unfit for a LTR?And if you're investing more than just your time into this person, if you're investing your money, your future earnings, your family, surely being left is a legitimate concern, as it can mess everything up? If you're looking for a LTR just for sex and companionship then a strong fear of being left is deep emotional vulnerability, which is more Beta than Alpha. But if you're looking for a LTR as a potential wife, lifepartner, "first mate" and mother to your children, then a strong fear of being l… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/12/14 09:08 AM |
| 1 | Sexually submissive to women; Will TRP be applicable and relevant to me?From what I have read and heard, people with tendencies to prefer younger, slimmer women (just post-pubescent, but infantile) can sometimes develop a taste for pubescent if not pre-pubescent girls. Going from slim 15 or 16 to 13 or even 11 is as easy as going from chubby to bbw, to ssbbw, or from a little anal to exclusively anal, to scat. Human sexuality moulds itself to its environment and seeks the most variety possible. That much is psychologically provable. | /r/TheRedPill | 04/12/14 09:05 AM |
| 1 | Sexually submissive to women; Will TRP be applicable and relevant to me?Considering the psychological evidence is in conflict with what you say, I'll have to disagree. | /r/TheRedPill | 04/12/14 08:55 AM |
| 1 | Who is a good example of a "sigma"What about a man who has his pick of women, who is approached by women and who abstains from them due to lack of interest (driven by personal moral code, past issues or a realization that they provided him with nothing), who is fully capable of being social and outgoing yet reserves this social nature for the select few (5-10 people) who have proven themselves to him, who doesn't obey orders from anyone, who builds his own rules based on evidence and who can easily guide weaker people when he mu… | /r/askTRP | 03/12/14 12:36 PM |
| 3 | What do you ladies usually wear to bed?When I'm feeling too cold or sex isn't an option: pajamas. Gets me in the mindset for sleeping. When we've been playing around all day: a sheer nightie (comfort and cute) or matching lingerie (will be off soon anyway). Normal night: nothing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/14 12:26 PM |
| 1 | At what sexual partner number would you deem a girl unfit for a LTR?Depends. I'm assuming you have no desired outcome for LTRs. No shared housing or assets, no marriage, no children, no meeting each other's families, etc? If that's the case then you don't need any standards at all, so why aim for a LTR in the first place, why not just date, see where it goes and cut it off when you're done? And if that sounds like an ideal LTR to you, then you're talking about something quite different to the guys who want virgins, who want an outcome to their LTRs. | /r/TheRedPill | 03/12/14 11:50 AM |
| 3 | Sexually submissive to women; Will TRP be applicable and relevant to me?I have spoken to a couple of men for whom teen porn awakened latent pedophilia, leading to illegal downloads. The desire eventually goes away if they stop using that sort of porn. Anything can become problematic if you have an inclination anyway. Just like most people can drink heavily for decades and never become alcoholics, but people with cyclothymia can drink lightly for a few months and develop an addiction. Therefore it is perfectly plausible that porn is worsening his tendencies or desire… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/12/14 11:42 AM |
| 1 | Women mentality regarding datingJon and I were discussing this last night regarding a feminist woman who complained when a guy she was dating went dutch without asking her: he bought his drink and left her to pay for her own tea. After much debate we reached this conclusion: when you date a modern woman, it isn't a job interview so much as an audition. And you've already been typecast. If an authoritative, sexually appealing, independent man had been on that date with her, the feminist hamster would have said "Wow! He's so sex… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/12/14 11:29 AM |
| 2 | The opposite of a red flag? What makes you think a woman is worth your time?Definitely. Women are very malleable around our mid teens to mid twenties. Men probably are too, as it's when your last brain growth spurt happens before your grey matter is mature. But with women, that is the time when in tribal societies we are pairing up. It makes sense that we would adapt to whatever environment we're in at the time. And through high school and uni we're being told we're part of a polygamous, wealth-abundant, low-stress society. People adjust to that life and when they walk … | /r/TheRedPill | 03/12/14 10:39 AM |
| 2 | The opposite of a red flag? What makes you think a woman is worth your time?Maybe so, but shy doesn't mean no experiences at all. An extremely shy girl could have easily done very stupid things in her teens, due to a weakness to peer-pressure. Tattoos, CC, kicked out of home, etc, are all possible with very shy girls. And a girl who's so shy as to remain largely single until 30, yet so smart as to have avoided peer pressure as well as attractive, fertile and suitable for a guy in such a way that she's more worthy of his time than anyone younger? That is going to be an e… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/12/14 10:30 AM |
| 3 | The opposite of a red flag? What makes you think a woman is worth your time?Probably an awful lot. Social pressures, heavy drinking, rites of passage, poor influences from older students, liberal teachers, freedom from parents... All but the most moralistic would be happy to indulge in the culture. | /r/TheRedPill | 03/12/14 10:26 AM |
| 5 | TRP Truths confirmed: 19 Year old Virgin describes her sexual fantasies (xpost /r/sex)Too timid to share thoughts, not too timid to desire. | /r/TheRedPill | 02/12/14 12:15 PM |
| 16 | The opposite of a red flag? What makes you think a woman is worth your time?We exist. We're just generally taken off the market from age 16 or 17. A single woman at 30 will not meet those criteria unless she's a recent widow. | /r/TheRedPill | 02/12/14 12:12 PM |
| 1 | In order to embrace femininity, do I have to embrace weakness?True, though as long as you keep out of shoujo or kiddie shows you're still more into masculine than feminine. I know I'm a bit of an exception in that I prefer the male-targeted characters anyway. Jet, Crocodile, Space Dandy, Zoro, etc. I like the odd Seinen too. Lupin III, Hellsing, NGE, Elfen Lied and Trigun are all pretty good. Need to read Vagabond, Akira and Vinland sometime soon, but I've got very into Avatar (yes, some shame), Junji Ito's works (look it up, he's amazing) and am working t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/14 11:49 AM |
| 1 | Its a catch 22 no women is worth getting married to, don't let yourself be convinced otherwiseI have seen otherwise, I would rather play it safe. Especially considering how the gov is so unwilling to allow a man to be a parent as to force a toddler into a home with an alcoholic neglectful mother and a disinterested boyfriend, send a teenage girl into a hostel with drug-users and troubled teens instead of find her family to live with and put another teenage girl who's gone through her mother's death to live with an abusive, senile grandmother rather than "risk" placing them with their fat… | /r/TheRedPill | 02/12/14 11:39 AM |
| 0 | Its a catch 22 no women is worth getting married to, don't let yourself be convinced otherwiseMarriage is for the children. In some states and countries the children are better off and safer under marriage. I would stay with Jon without marriage, but neither of us would have children outside of it, especially considering laws regarding next of kin. If I were to die, I'd hate for my children to wind up with my mother, for example, instead of Jon. | /r/TheRedPill | 01/12/14 04:39 PM |
| 1 | There's a Reason Why Women With Long Hair Cut It All Off After Their Wedding DayJon's male friends and I call each other "dude", just as they call each other. Less personal, friendly tone and likely serves as a casual reminder that around them I'm to all intents and purposes a man. | /r/TheRedPill | 01/12/14 04:34 PM |
| 4 | Question for RPW about PlayersMy personal line-in-the-sand in terms of sexual behaviour is current actions. I like a man who's used his years of sexual experience well and hopefully wisely: who got dates, had sex, but didn't get himself into too much trouble. I like a man who other women want. But mostly I like to have him 100% to myself. However I despise people I can manipulate, so he would have to commit off his own back. In short, I like a serial monogamist who's looking to settle down. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/14 09:44 AM |
| 1 | In order to embrace femininity, do I have to embrace weakness?The sort of stuff I watch isn't exactly feminine. OnePiece, Sayounara Zetsubou Sensei, Urusei Yatsura Lamu, Cowboy Bebop, GITS, BoBoBo, etc. Plus, it was always a guy thing wherever I went. A girl watched Fruits Basket, maybe some Naruto if she was constantly rooting for Sakura and that was it. So not necessarily manly, but definitely more masculine than feminine. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/14 09:39 AM |
| 1 | Question: How do you feel about "never say no?"You don't need to verbally ask for your partner to give a verbal "no". | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/14 09:36 AM |
| 16 | Question: How do you feel about "never say no?"Generally, if you can't think of a solid reason you'd say "no", you probably don't need to say it. If you can think of a solid reason, you don't say "no", you give your partner the reason. If he's in tune with how you work he'll probably suss that you aren't in the mood. If he isn't, then you would have to say "no". I think the only problem arises when people say "no", not because they are too tired, pained or busy, but because, for no serious reason, they just aren't particularly aroused at tha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/14 11:09 PM |
| 1 | How can I handle sexual rejection? (Do we view sex in the same way?)Maybe you are an anomaly, but most people suffer if they orgasm too frequently, even though they don't realize it, and your man is probably not an exception. I haven't gone without daily orgasms since I was too young to appropriately mention anywhere under any context. Discovered it and made use of it ever since. It lets me focus on things, calms my mind when stressed, distracted or nihilistic and around 20 minutes later gives me a surge of energy. My body's own cocktail of drugs. I may be an an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/14 11:03 PM |
| 1 | How can I handle sexual rejection? (Do we view sex in the same way?)I don't know the conditions that they studied orgasm to come to those conclusions, but there is a short period where you do feel great and relaxed post orgasm. It is usually gone within a few hours, in my experience. It is well documented that orgasm reduces androgen receptors in men for up to two weeks, meaning the testosterone doesn't change, but the ability to utilize it does. Semen retention has been well known throughout history as a way to increase a man's vigor. Race horses are kept virgi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/14 12:18 PM |
| 1 | SAHM's: Consider ditching your time-sucking activities.You're welcome. You can get an app for it, too: http://www.persistence-app.com/ It feels crazy at first, so be sure to go to "advanced" and not let yourself access the options when it's active, so you can't turn it off "just for a minute". :p | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/14 12:01 PM |
| 1 | SAHM's: Consider ditching your time-sucking activities.You can just use parental controls: http://www.imore.com/iphone-101-set-parental-controls-iphone Or use this free app: http://www.persistence-app.com/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/14 12:00 PM |
| 3 | SAHM's: Consider ditching your time-sucking activities.I'm a homemaker and a from-home worker and my biggest time-saver was downloading leechblocker (google it) onto firefox and blocking all "listicle" and funny image sites, along with every nonproductive blog or website, and adding a time-limit to productive websites I spend too much time on. Like magic, I'm getting choosy about my preferred websites, reading better content, spending more time working and advertising my work, keeping the house in good order, supporting Jon more and generally less s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/14 11:30 PM |
| 1 | How can I handle sexual rejection? (Do we view sex in the same way?)Weird. I know that oxytocin crashes after orgasm (hence why women get desperately cuddly with HSMV men post-sex and disinterested in LSMV men post-sex: their bodies are trying to rebalance the universe :p), but in my very limited experience and extensive readings, orgasms generally are associated with a reduction in the physical symptoms of stress, if not immediately, at least in the long term: more even, slower heartrate, steady breathing, deeper sleep, healthier appetite, etc. Even a better gu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/14 11:18 PM |
| 1 | Just trying to understand some RPW-stuffIt definitely happens. Mismatched libido is fairly common. But workarounds are, again, easier for women than for men. I have a much higher libido than my fiance and, seeing as his libido is perfectly normal, I see no cause for concern. We work with it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/14 10:59 AM |
| 1 | Just trying to understand some RPW-stuffRPM need to focus more on sex than RPW do. After all, if we ask, generally we'll get an enthusiastic "yes" (and need to take a long hard look at our appearance, demeanour and treatment of our partners if not), but if men ask they always risk rejection, even if they're asking their nymphomaniac partner of two years. For single men who want to have lots of sex with lots of women, sexual theory matters. For men in or seeking LTRs who don't want to be left sexless two months in, sexual theory matter… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/14 04:44 PM |
| 1 | Even the nicest and most innocent seeming girls have a history, don't trust anything they say.I pity Americans because the UK can be pretty depraved and I haven't this behaviour in more than 1/10 women outside of city areas. | /r/TheRedPill | 27/11/14 04:37 PM |
| 9 | In order to embrace femininity, do I have to embrace weakness?Seconded. I'm still very much the adult version of the tomboy I was as a child: lift weights, watch anime, drink solid drinks, climb trees, like wrestling, etc. But that doesn't mean I can't be feminine and vulnerable as well. Jon still wants to protect and guard me, he still instinctively walks on the road side of the pavement and sleeps at the door side of the bed to keep me safe, he still looks forward to coming home and finding me in a skirt or lingerie with a hot meal on the table. I'm defi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/14 12:34 PM |
| 1 | Want to be a dark triad? Try dating one!On the plus side, if you are DT (even if you don't know) and you date another DT, the relationship can be amazing. Two of the strongest, happiest, longest-lasted couples I know: Narcissist and Schizoid Narcissist. Sociopath and Psychopath. Just leave DT people to each other. | /r/TheRedPill | 26/11/14 10:59 AM |
| 1 | Girl refused to say 'please'!I used to call it P3 MS. Pre-peri-post Menstrual Syndrome. Other girls didn't take kindly to it, but it was funny to call them out on being c***s 24/365. | /r/TheRedPill | 25/11/14 01:18 PM |
| 1 | Can u meta-game the system and "pretend" to be beta-male as a "financial provider". Pretend to offer free rent and food at ur house, but dump her before she moves in, after u've already fucked her a few times etc. Thoughts?If you want to you could. But unless you're only going for 30-40 year old 7/10 and 8/10s who've crashed into the wall and got desperate, then you'd be screwing over the sort of woman who's actually accepting her biological role and trying to make good of it. And you'd likely sacrifice sexual options (to maintain the facade of monogamous commitment) and sex itself (by presenting yourself as a BetaBux), so you wouldn't really gain from it. Therefore, imho, that is a pretty bitter behaviour to embr… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/11/14 09:25 AM |
| 2 | How can I handle sexual rejection? (Do we view sex in the same way?)Same situation with Jon. I get stressed and need more sex to unwind, he gets stressed and isn't in the mood. We try and meet in the middle: force something if the stress is very prolonged so as to keep me appeased and help him destress (after all, orgasms help with stress), open masturbation for relief and we "help" each other with it. Neither of us misses out by much, both work even harder to help the other return to normal and both are happier for the arrangements. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/11/14 08:40 AM |
| 5 | How can I make someone believe that I'm a virgin? (NSFW)Most guys (especially ones with experience) will know when they take it. Your hymen doesn't entirely rip, you see, and the swelling above the urethra also partially blocks entry. A bit of the hymen tears, but generally it stretches, as does the entire entrance. And if it's never stretched to fit something penis-sized, then there will be further stretching and tearing over your first time. However, after your first time you're done: there's no way of definitively proving to a guy that he's your s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/14 10:15 AM |
| 1 | My theory on being in lovePretty sure most female crazy I've seen was due to excessive bonding. You could argue there's an additional reason they bond so strongly (narcissist in need of attention, histrionic who's finally found the drama she "deserves", BPD who switches between adoration and homicidal), but it's definitely the bonding that brings it out. Stalkers, baby scares, female murder-suicides (however rare), domestic violence... These women are all motivated by an intense desire to not lose that oxytocin high. | /r/TheRedPill | 24/11/14 10:11 AM |
| 1 | My theory on being in loveThey go hand in hand after a while. Oxytocin is the biggest cause of female crazies and beta oneitis. Attachment kills more than romance does. | /r/TheRedPill | 23/11/14 10:08 PM |
| 1 | Fat Women shit-testing skinny women ?Your actions generally have somewhat of a bearing on your weight. And it isn't hard. I went from obese at UK size 16 to size 10-12 in three months. Still have almost no appetite signal and can eat past the point of pain, which is several kilos of food because my stomach still hasn't shrunk by much and may never shrink down. It really is as simple as cutting out junk, eating less and getting half an hour of activity in every day. Everyone I've known who has done that has lost weight. Everyone who… | /r/askTRP | 22/11/14 09:25 PM |
| 2 | Fat Women shit-testing skinny women ?-unhealthy through their own choice -has spent decades not reversing it or making it worse -bitter and unhappy about it -unable to overwhelm simple biological urges, more akin to a simpler animal than a human with their head on straight -so sensitive to others' opinions that these massively impact mental wellbeing And you're saying that these people deserve respect? Additional respect not due to those who have never gone that far or who have climbed out of the bucket? | /r/askTRP | 22/11/14 07:53 PM |
| 1 | CryingAre you a crier? I have endogenous depression. When I get too stressed or have a hormonal shift I will cry either in response to a trigger (sudden problem, fear, sad book) or just spontaneously. I'm coping a lot better since I've worked on stress-diffusion as part of my #NoNothingNovember. How does your SO react to you crying? It seems to still distress him, though he understands it's more about my physical state than my emotional one. So he gets that I'm not sad but it still distresses him to k… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/14 03:32 PM |
| 1 | AWALT: Conversation with sweet elderly granny type gets real depressing, real quickYes, and it's the reason you can feel excited, light-headed, warm, sick, thrilled etc when you're spending time with someone you're bonded to. It can completely overwhelm you, especially when you're just starting to bond to someone. | /r/TheRedPill | 21/11/14 12:14 PM |
| 6 | AWALT: Conversation with sweet elderly granny type gets real depressing, real quick1-her reason for staying with this guy had nothing to do with him personally or the relationship or any of that quaint shit. Outside of Disney, conditional love IS for the people and the relationship. I personally adore my fiance and he's the only man I want. But if he were to get obese, start drinking heavily or pick up smoking and decide he doesn't want kids, then he would be gone. Why? Because no matter how much I love him, if he changes in a way that goes against everything he ever stood for… | /r/TheRedPill | 20/11/14 01:15 PM |
| 1 | Women react to being photoshopped into cover models - and then complain againNope. And it doesn't really do much for muscle training either, despite the propaganda. More akin to a jog than calisthenics. | /r/TheRedPill | 20/11/14 01:04 PM |
| 2 | Women react to being photoshopped into cover models - and then complain againWhat a guy means with "I'm not a skinny guy.": "My hip-bones are 20" apart and I squat 600lbs. Even at 8% body-fat I won't look exactly thin." What a girl means with "I'm not a skinny girl": "I like cake, and I probably could be thinner, but my hip-bones are 14" apart and I do Zumba, so why bother losing any fat?" | /r/TheRedPill | 20/11/14 11:19 AM |
| 1 | Women react to being photoshopped into cover models - and then complain againHamstering aside, it's amazing how much women can change with makeup on. I can change my facial features into 4 distinct "faces" just with eyeliner, mascara, lipstick, lipliner, concealer and dark concealer. I definitely don't look like myself when made-up. Like a cousin, or a sister, maybe. | /r/TheRedPill | 20/11/14 11:16 AM |
| 5 | My theory on being in loveNo such thing as unconditional love. But conditional love ranges in intensity from affection, to lust, to infatuation, to complete adoration and in openness from Disney to admission. My assumption is that the closer a couple is to both adoration and complete understanding of the conditions of their love, the longer it will last. Disney adoration is fast to rise and easy to collapse. Honest conditional infatuation has more stability by comparison. Honest conditional adoration is what most 15+y co… | /r/TheRedPill | 20/11/14 11:04 AM |
| 4 | AWALT: Conversation with sweet elderly granny type gets real depressing, real quickHumans are simple creatures at heart. Food, shelter, entertainment, reproduction and we're good. | /r/TheRedPill | 20/11/14 10:57 AM |
| 1 | AWALT: Conversation with sweet elderly granny type gets real depressing, real quickDo you really think she never, ever met another hotter, kinder man who didn't smoke, drink or gamble? I can think of a number of her generation off the top of my head and they're the ones still kicking who I personally know. When a woman marries a guy she's obsessed over, she becomes insular and after a while the husband-goggles grow. Dual effect, 1: she views other men through the lens of her husband and 2: she doesn't know as many men. This was efficient in the days of good media, when she'd m… | /r/TheRedPill | 20/11/14 10:55 AM |
| 5 | Injured husband-Don't fuss him too openly. Going on and on about it and not accepting his answers of "I'm fine" can get frustrating very quick. Ask maybe once every six or so hours if his state doesn't change or every time he seems to have gotten worse. If he looks better then just treat him as normal, so he feels like your image of him hasn't worsened whilst he was at his worst. -Physical shows of concern can be better than verbal ones. When someone is in pain being talked at can be annoying. Get him his favo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/14 03:45 PM |
| 2 | Will there ever be a girl that I can truly share my uncertainties or lack of confidence with? Without consequence?Jon used to have a slight limp from a knee injury. A girl left him over it. Part of me wants to punch her in the face, but part of me wants to thank her for not having him live with her rubbish any longer than he had to. Nobody deserves that. | /r/TheRedPill | 19/11/14 10:42 AM |
| 1 | Will there ever be a girl that I can truly share my uncertainties or lack of confidence with? Without consequence?Possibly. Jon and I have completely open, honest discourse about everything and regularly share our fears, insecurities and suffering with each other, generally so as to find a solution. Just today we've worked through something that's been eating him up. So the relationship you seem to want EXISTS. But if you live assuming that there is such a woman, then you'll develop an ideal. Ideals can be projected onto real people. If you project an ideal onto every woman you date, she'll look like she's … | /r/TheRedPill | 19/11/14 10:34 AM |
| 4 | Men need many sexual partners... why?Like AFBB, men have a sexual dichotomy that only in modern times they can indulge (albeit not as easily or as freely as women). They want Many Sluts and One Wife. In the past, slutty women got their AF but not their BB and most married women got their BB and not their AF. It was also the case that Alphas were less rewarded financially (making them slightly worse supporters) and Betas weren't quite as unmasculine (making them slightly better lovers). Likewise, the sluts were less slutty and more … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/14 06:09 PM |
| 0 | What to text LTR?Texting in my relationship: -Practical. "Busy, call later." "Changed the lesson to 8." -Shows of affection. Always reciprocated. More frequent when we've been away a long time or when either is having a bad day. Texting in general: -Never use or accept text lingo. It undermines everything. If someone texts you in "txt spk", then assume what they're saying is unimportant. -Dismiss or ignore cries for attention, ridiculous responses or petty sarcasm. -Answer most things as simply as possible. -Add… | /r/askTRP | 18/11/14 01:38 PM |
| 2 | Does anyone else here hate Sex and the City?I just found it to be very tedious "go-grrrl" nonsense and that the people exalting it were always too ready to highlight the worst characters and behaviours. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/14 05:09 PM |
| 1 | What Changed Your Mind?In Viking societies there were some women who fought alongside the men. Likewise among the Mongolian and Manchurian tribes and in the early Byzantine armies. The fact they weren't many doesn't change that they existed. My point is that such women always end up in a fighting role anyway, even if they have to dress as a bloke to avoid getting raped or honour-killed. Likewise, most women would rather not and, if given the full freedom, would choose a feminine life path. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/14 05:04 PM |
| 1 | What Changed Your Mind?I'd guess the hate is justified. But it gets misplaced. Just because Nazis hate the Jews at the top (of which there IS a disproportionate amount), doesn't mean all Jews deserve the same hate. Just because Communists hate the Capitalists at the top doesn't mean capitalism is that terrible. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/14 05:01 PM |
| 2 | Does anyone else here hate Sex and the City?Never seen it. Saw "Mean Girls" only a few months ago because I never had. Hated it and impulse-blocked every blog I followed that made Mean Girl references. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/14 08:18 AM |
| 1 | What Changed Your Mind?I actually changed my mind before this. I was a Marxist Feminist at first because the Marxist perspective made sense (still does), so I assumed their solution would also work. Then an Anarchist Feminist because I realized Marxism was only applicable to primary sector workers and didn't allow for travel, services, etc, and would result in the world becoming more primitive bar the cities; however democracy didn't hold a solution as the people will always choose what is most immediately pleasing to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/14 08:12 AM |
| 1 | Honest Question: Why did you choose this lifestyle?Amen. Your corporation doesn't care if they cast you out with a rubbish reference, no other employment prospects and no savings. They can get another drone to replace you. Your partner needs you to be your very best. And besides, if both of you have separate incomes and qualifications, that's an insurance policy, not a sacrifice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/14 07:05 PM |
| 4 | Honest Question: Why did you choose this lifestyle?1: It comes naturally. There's no doubt, my body and mind are one about this. The only actual obstacle are the few bitter and judgmental people who pass through my life and they have no influence on me besides running commentary. Biologically, low-stress with the odd spike, caring for people, staying home or around friends and engaging in sexual play with Jon all appeal to the raw tribal human inside me. And that human knows what it's doing. If I trust it to know how to feed me, exercise me, cho… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/14 08:12 PM |
| 3 | Hi RPW, long time lurker, first time poster(long), field report about the effects of my behavior changes since finding the RPW.I'm so happy for you both! :D Well done, you're an inspiration. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/14 01:42 PM |
| 1 | "8 Ways You Know You Don't Have to Look Anymore: She's The One"IMHO, creating such a huge dichotomy between Alpha and Beta is throwing the baby out with the bathwater. In terms of which a man is, he will definitely fall into one side or another. But neither is an absolute; you can have nuances of the opposite side in each. In other words, a man like the OP is clearly a Beta. But a man who is independent, a success with women, self-motivated, won't yield to anyone and who still looks forward to seeing his wife and thinks about her wellbeing primarily or equa… | /r/TheRedPill | 14/11/14 05:05 PM |
| 2 | FitFriday, FatFriday III.Yeah. I find water is fine and doesn't bloat me much, but water + carbs is a killer combination. Add some healthy fibre and well, I can look a bit pregnant. Pre-breakfast workouts and I look fab. Everyone's always shocked by how I look pre- and post- meals. XD And thank you. Last effort with hormone alteration left me anemic, hopefully this one will even me out. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/14 12:21 PM |
| -5 | "8 Ways You Know You Don't Have to Look Anymore: She's The One"As a female: all that holds true for me and the relationship is close to 4 years in and I still get as dizzy as day one when he hugs or kisses me, am practically bouncing with excitement when he gets home from work and would do absolutely anything to make him happy. For a male? Not sure. A lot of those things would likely be indicative of attachment (missing someone once they step out the door), which is good for an LTR (hard luck maintaining an LTR with someone you aren't attached to), but prob… | /r/TheRedPill | 14/11/14 10:16 AM |
| -1 | Never Take the CouchNever had the couch argument, but for humour here's Jon's takedown on how well it would work out for me: Me: "You're sleeping on the couch tonight." Him: stoic "No." Me: "I'm sleeping on the couch tonight." Him: with fury as hot as 1000 Suns "No!" And we sleep in the same bed again. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/11/14 10:09 AM |
| 1 | How to revel in strict monogamy, (and still be experienced enough to get girls I want)Have a hard time being smooth? AWALT. Doesn't matter what you want a woman for: there's game for that. Read more theory. Practice pickup even if you don't take the girls to bed at the end. And focus on yourself first and foremost, because poor confidence and desperation is genuinely girl-icide. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/11/14 09:16 AM |
| 2 | Fuck MarriageTrue, I guess evasion is the only way out. At least until the decline hits other parts. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/11/14 09:10 AM |
| 1 | Self confessed "strong women" queue up to be spanked, slapped, and cummed on in r/sex confirming yet another red pill truth AWALTI was addressing largely the first line in your quote, basically saying that the logic doesn't only apply to females, as that line says. And there are plenty of dominant and switch females. The problem is that highly powerful men who want to sub need a dominant, discreet, mature female who won't ever let that side of their relationship be seen in his workplace, by his friends or by his family. Finding a woman to boss you around, beat you and humiliate you isn't hard. It's finding one who'll keep… | /r/TheRedPill | 13/11/14 03:48 PM |
| 1 | I see many around here want a 20th century wife, but is that really that good for us?Door 3 either isn't there (It could be behind either door 1 or door 2 or it couldn't exist at all.) or it's just living in the moment and accepting a shoddy old-age. I haven't really seen other options that you can take, that are down to your own decisions and could still lead to success. I genuinely feel sorry for men in today's society. | /r/TheRedPill | 13/11/14 03:45 PM |
| 1 | How to revel in strict monogamy, (and still be experienced enough to get girls I want)Someone I know, when he was much younger, apparently held strictly monogamous relationships one after the other. Racked up more numbers than most of his "player" friends. On the other hand you could argue it's playing bait-and-switch with the girls, which is why it works, but if you're speaking amorally, then serial monogamy could easily build up your N and your experience. | /r/TheRedPill | 13/11/14 12:15 PM |
| 1 | I see many around here want a 20th century wife, but is that really that good for us?As posted elsewhere: "Option 1: Marry. 50% divorce risk for the first 10 years. Only 15% happiness chance until death do you part. Dual incomes are needed because the feminist influx of female workers has devalued your work to half its prior value and then some. Have 1 or 2 children that will bleed you dry in terms of education, care and general luxuries they demand. They will probably follow the state school plan, hate you and go on to be jobless and angry, penniless and unable to support you h… | /r/TheRedPill | 13/11/14 12:11 PM |
| 1 | Self confessed "strong women" queue up to be spanked, slapped, and cummed on in r/sex confirming yet another red pill truth AWALT"None of these women ever bother explaining why their "logic" only applies to females. Or, if it's really about "taking a break" rather than about being female, why highly successful men can't find a female partner who will boss them around." You clearly haven't spent enough time around members of the BDSM community. Plenty of very powerful men are into extreme humiliation the descriptions of which I would not like to repeat here. Yes, women do prefer to be the submissive ones. But there is trut… | /r/TheRedPill | 13/11/14 12:06 PM |
| 2 | The pill, histocompatibility complex genes, and sexual satisfaction/attractionThe issue is that the Alpha and Beta paths used to be the same: mess around a bit in your younger years, do well at work, find a decent women, marry and have kids, find a nice house in an area you like. Now they are split, so most Alphas and most Betas follow a distinct, mutually-exclusive path and both are more likely to have an unsavoury outcome: Most Betas work hard to make a reasonable living, throw themselves into finding a woman to marry, have children and rely on by luck finding the right… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/14 11:53 AM |
| 1 | The pill, histocompatibility complex genes, and sexual satisfaction/attractionThat is the most brilliant summary of Manicorns ever. "Darling, will you be my Calendar Madonna-Whore?" | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/14 11:47 AM |
| 1 | Fuck MarriageThe scariest thing? Option 1: Marry. 50% divorce risk for the first 10 years. Only 15% happiness chance until death do you part. Dual incomes are needed because the feminist influx of female workers has devalued your work to half its prior value and then some. Have 1 or 2 children that will bleed you dry in terms of education, care and general luxuries they demand. They will probably follow the state school plan, hate you and go on to be jobless and angry, penniless and unable to support you hav… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/11/14 10:45 AM |
| 1 | Hunting the UnicornIt's more about what you'd rather do and where your energy comes from. As an introvert, I get exhausted when I interact with people, need to spend most of my time alone and deeply despise and resent almost everyone I interact with in person. To boot, I don't even understand half of what I do in social situations, I just know whether something works or does not work with different people and different places. Yet I know it works to my advantage to be friendly, open, charming and to hone my social… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/11/14 10:21 AM |
| 3 | Using Feminism to your Advantage"Economic Advantage Modern women have jobs and an income of their own. They are no longer practically useless like women of the past. They don't need men to support them financially (even though they still like that). As a man, this means you don't have to carry two humans any more. You don't have to chauffeur them around, buy them drinks, or pay for dates. Smart men are no longer risking their finances on women who might not put out. We also get to keep our assets when women leave or swing bran… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/11/14 10:12 AM |
| 10 | The pill, histocompatibility complex genes, and sexual satisfaction/attractionWhich is why we want a Manicorn (best of Alpha, best of Beta) and possibly why period pains feel so much more awful than they (according to what is actually biologically happening) should. We want a guy who sees us crying about our period and cuddles us, but who responds to our horniness when ovulating with raw masculine desire and to our general ups and downs in-between by holding frame and being friendly. Who gets us pregnant when we're most fertile, feeds us up when we're pregnant and guides … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/14 10:01 AM |
| 2 | How do women in a LTR relationships view this?leads almost all women to questioning why there are no more 'gina tingles FTFY. I don't think any woman this side of the fertile years (bar asexuals) would sit back and accept a complete lack of desire for her man. Some women will act on their concerns by hiding them and soldiering on, some women will act on their concerns by finding a new guy, and some women by trying to become more feminine and shit-testing him a little more so as to push him back into a male role. But almost all women will be… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/11/14 09:54 AM |
| 4 | BI summary of results about a long term study on what made marriages workI'm going to go out on a limb here and guess this is more important for the female than the male. It is in all likelihood the result of the male constantly failing shit tests. Interaction bids are actually not an obscure topic. They work on this basis: 1: Partner1 speaks about something they're interested in. Partner2 responds by acknowledging their statement and either expanding, continuing or encouraging them to continue. This shows similar interests and allows for further interactions or esca… | /r/TheRedPill | 11/11/14 02:15 PM |
| 2 | How do women in a LTR relationships view this?Worshipping usually comes with submission, so we don't particularly like it. Boasting about Betaness seems to imply that's the case. However, before we throw the baby out with the bathwater, if it's just overwhelming attention with dominance and frame to match, it could work very well. We women want a manicorn: the best of Alpha with the best of Beta. If a guy is all over us and submissive to us, it's a turn-off sex-wise. If a guy is completely detached from us and dominant over us, it's a turn-… | /r/TheRedPill | 11/11/14 10:21 AM |
| 29 | Marriage is not optional in our society for high-powered leadership careers. Marry a good woman with a good prenup.The things the wives of successful men usually have in common: -people charmers -younger than their man -want a couple of children, no more -well-educated (but often not career-minded) -move into and out of the spotlight as needed -care deeply about their husband's success -care little about his personal life Just a reminder that the standards for a good wife that most men hold, most societies also hold. | /r/TheRedPill | 11/11/14 10:13 AM |
| 2 | How A Man and A Woman Became Billionaires in 2 Different WaysExcept in the UK and most of Europe, where apparently the poorer spouse can just refuse to acknowledge the prenup and hire a lawyer who refuses to acknowledge it which makes it generally void in the eyes of the court. | /r/TheRedPill | 11/11/14 10:08 AM |
| 3 | Quick housework tips1: Put everything away as you go along. Get the bed changed? Old sheets straight into the washing-machine. Machine full? Put it on. Cooked breakfast? Wash up. Emptied your bag? Put everything back. 2: Decide on one day a week where you dedicate two hours to hoovering, mopping and dusting. 3: Make food in bulk and keep in the fridge to reduce washing-up and cooking time. My trick in uni was to cook a pot of veg, a pan of meat and then just add seasoning when it came to heating and serving, so it … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/14 09:59 AM |
| 14 | Going to a guy's house tomorrow to watch anime - need advice.-boobs, legs or bum: pick one and decide whether you're going for tight or short/low-cut; all of the above is not an option, in fact, none of the above with cute makeup and hair may be better if that works with your style -don't go anywhere near his room, even close the door for him if you walk by it -keep the lights on -keep your feet on the floor and your knees together when you're on the sofa -don't drink or do drugs, you want to be in a clear state of mind -don't kiss until near the very end… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/14 09:43 AM |
| 3 | Is it alright to get help for depression?Yes. It's necessary. Depression isn't something to be ashamed of or to hide forever. It's not a little cut you can laugh away. It's like a deep wound that needs actual treatment in order to fully recover and support to prevent it from opening again. It is as much self-help to seek assistance with depression as lifting weights or reading books are. I'm not saying you need to open up and discuss it with everyone you know, but a skilled therapist, neurologist or endocrinologist could help you find … | /r/TheRedPill | 10/11/14 02:41 PM |
| 3 | Co-inventor of the birth control pill now predicts having sex will become obsolete for purposes of procreationReasons why it's unlikely to bear out: -Many people without the money for IVF still want babies. -Most people who have IVF babies have one or two, whereas the people who have less money and self-restraint often have 4+. -Many women and couples who get accidentally pregnant will still keep the baby. -The Pill massively impacts a woman's fertility. The longer she takes it, the more it affects her. Some women experience continual bleeding or severe damage within the first two months of taking it. T… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/11/14 01:51 PM |
| 1 | Do you earn more than your SO?I'm self-employed. Some weeks I earn more, some less. We generally don't care as long as the money's coming in. It DOES help that neither of us is careerist, into office drama or really discusses our work much at home or with friends other than the run-down on anything noteworthy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/14 08:03 PM |
| 1 | Thanks for helping me be better with people.You don't say, please tell me more about how special you are. Not speshul. Just lucky enough that didn't need TRP for my only sexual relationship. A disclaimer of sorts. You don't wan't to isolate yourself, you just want to manage other peoples negativity. Sometimes I wondered. The stress of being around people you find confusing or annoying always seemed like too much. Now it's easier to talk to people and associate with them without worrying about their reactions being outside my expectations.… | /r/ThankTRP | 09/11/14 07:54 PM |
| 2 | Why do females have such a hard time admitting that looks matter?Because we know that our looks are 90% of our sex appeal and at least 55% of our total relationship appeal. Because so many women start to notice themselves fade a lot earlier than men notice us start to (even in my early 20s I can see the microscopic hairlines of expression marks that weren't there at 16) and it's scary. Because so many women have nothing to offer but sex (and cheap sex at that), so they are dreading the day when their sex becomes worthless. In short, because if beauty is all y… | /r/askTRP | 07/11/14 08:46 PM |
| 3 | My Relationship Doesn't Seem To Be What I Thought It Was.I'm not so sure. Just because it isn't textbook dread or good dread doesn't mean he can't be using it because it worked in the past. Not all Alphas are RP textbook Alphas and with a huge number of women, that sort of subtle admission would almost guarantee him excellent treatment. And it's, to a degree, even working now. And most guys struggle with staying monogamous in LTRs, especially the thoughts regarding other women. The fact he's admitting it aside, his situation isn't too unusual besides … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/14 07:10 PM |
| 3 | Hatin' on the housewivesIndeed, misery does love company. What strikes me about a lot of these girls is that they must be doubting their choices. When anyone does something they're 100% confident in, they don't have second thoughts or feel threatened or disappointed by their friends choosing another path. I'm pretty certain neither of us hold anything against those (rare) women who actually enjoy the CC or those (more common) women who like university and the career world. Yet some of these girls can't help but get ang… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/14 08:48 AM |
| 5 | My Relationship Doesn't Seem To Be What I Thought It Was.He's using a bit of dread on you. All guys will fantasize about other girls. Many women will fantasize about other guys, men are just more visual so they're more likely to fantasize about that cute 18-yo they saw in the supermarket than about a hot actress. All guys will see a particularly impressive bum, pair of legs or breasts and have a second look. All guys will feel their breath hitch when a girl who, subjectively to them, is a 10/10 walks by. The fact he's admitted it in that manner signal… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/14 08:36 AM |
| 4 | Hatin' on the housewivesI get all sorts. The most recent is actually two relatives, both young, single females on the CC, saying how much [penis] I'm missing out on, how I'm deluding myself if I think Jon loves me or wants to marry me (we're engaged), how I'll hate my life as a housewife in another year or so (exactly the same nonsense they've been spouting since the day we moved in over a year ago, funny how it's always a year from now) and that if having kids would interfere with a career (it would, that's why I'm pu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/11/14 03:02 PM |
| 2 | A girl I used to hook up with posted this list to Facebook with her boyfriend tagged in it.This is my favourite: Five. I promise to continue doing the things I did to win your heart, well after you’re mine. Because he definitely won her heart by being a pushover, pandering to her every mood swing, making her feel like she's his only option, giving in to drama and feeding her junk until she's fat. | /r/TheRedPill | 06/11/14 02:29 PM |
| 2 | The latest "How To..." Starting a small eBay shop.True. Also, when people know exactly what they're looking for, it's easier to condense a description into a 6 word title, because the customers will know what it is. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/14 07:03 PM |
| 1 | The real cost of dating.This is actually (probably inadvertently) a pretty good "wife test" on a financial level. Gas: Does she use you as a personal ferry? Can she drive herself? Does she reimburse your costs? Does she agree to time/money saving trips or insist on going wherever she wants to? Does she agree to walk/bike short distances? Food: Does she insist on meals out? Does she have expensive taste? Does she ever pick up or split the bill? Does she ever eat at your place? Does she ever cook for you? Cell: Does she … | /r/TheRedPill | 05/11/14 01:34 PM |
| 2 | Marriage and children as AlphaI can't speak for men in terms of what sort of a challenge they might like. That is far more internal, primitive and less logical than wife-selection-criteria, so it's beyond me bar far-fetched hypotheses. However, I'd suggest that you're maybe viewing it as too much of a dichotomy. Men can have plates and seek a marriageable partner at once. Date a girl for a few weeks, if she's not interesting she becomes a plate, if she is she becomes a girlfriend. These things develop organically. There's no… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/11/14 12:38 PM |
| 1 | What's your line to see if she has a boyfriend?If a guy I'm talking to casually (friend of a friend, met at wherever we are, sometime students as I correct homework, etc) mentions his ex or something that's slightly sexual I will casually fit in that I'm engaged whilst painting my fiance in a positive light - a trick I learned here that works wonders. It's very easy to bring up a partner when the person you're talking to has already said "my ex", "I love your dress", "what are you doing later?", etc. If the guy continues along the same vein … | /r/TheRedPill | 05/11/14 10:01 AM |
| 5 | Like clockwork, Jezebel is defending Lena Dunham...Incest too, between women is viewed as acceptable by some feminists. Then again, these are often the same people who support "political lesbianism", where straight women are told they should abstain from men because feminism. So sanity and biology don't really come into it. | /r/TheRedPill | 05/11/14 09:39 AM |
| 6 | Marriage and children as AlphaIf it were an option, most RP men would take it. Who wouldn't want to come home (from work or time out with your friends) to a good, attractive young wife, a hot dinner, a massage, a few hours reading, watching a film or gaming with the rugrats playing in a corner and older kids showing you their latest crafts, school awards or ideas before you hit the weights, start writing or go to your workshop or study whilst your wife puts the children to bed, followed by a couple of hours in the boudoir? T… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/11/14 09:06 AM |
| 1 | The latest "How To..." Starting a small eBay shop.-Find something you are familiar enough with. My choice was something I had no experience with at all and the research can be overwhelming. -Work out your postage costs and selling fees (usually around 10% is a safe bet for fees). Add them onto the cost of buying the item. -Decide whether you want to get £1 for every £1 you spend, £2 for every £1 you spend, £3 for every £2 you spend or whatever. I use £3 for every £2, or a 150% increase. That means if I buy a product at £5, sell it at £20, post … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/14 08:51 AM |
| 2 | The latest "How To..." Starting a small eBay shop.I found it interesting that the descriptions mean very little to most of my customers. I can use the "sell one like this" option, add whether it's new, with or without box, half-used, opened, etc and it will still sell as well as with a description. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/14 08:42 AM |
| 1 | TwoX Gold. Girl can get dick but no commitment, wonders if she's alone.Sure, use whatever you want. Feel free to include my /u/ if you think you need to. I'm not fussed either way. | /r/TheRedPill | 05/11/14 08:40 AM |
| 1 | Collected Thoughts on the Street Harassment Video.Ouch. Can't imagine being a Swedish woman. :( | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/14 08:38 AM |
| 3 | The latest "How To..." Starting a small eBay shop.Etsy is better for home-made goods, costume jewellery, bundles of stuff, etc. eBay is better for well-known brands (of anything!), books and antique items. What are you thinking of selling? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/14 08:37 AM |
| 1 | TwoX Gold. Girl can get dick but no commitment, wonders if she's alone.Huh. To each their own I guess. I find it odd to think of my body as anything other than a vessel, a machine or an animal. It isn't me, it's the box I live in and the tool I use to explore the world. | /r/TheRedPill | 04/11/14 08:17 PM |
| -2 | 8 Things Women Need to Stop Doing aka I think my subconscious impulses can be controlled...I get the feeling the author is a woman more like myself: a sideline observer who doesn't actually understand where most of these behaviours come from in other women and can't help but notice them. She doesn't do a lot (or any) of these things, so she assumes other women just aren't trying hard enough. | /r/TheRedPill | 04/11/14 12:42 PM |
| 1 | TwoX Gold. Girl can get dick but no commitment, wonders if she's alone.On the contrary. I view the body as a tool to be used to your own ends. It can do pretty much anything you ask it to: lose or gain weight, carry you for mile after mile day after day through all sorts of environments, lift 100+kg, repress its own hunger and thirst, stay awake and alert through around a week to a few months of stressful sleeplessness, hold onto physical memories for swift attacks and easy crafting, stand and move on through illness and pain... It's your personal beast of burden. | /r/TheRedPill | 04/11/14 07:54 AM |
| 1 | TwoX Gold. Girl can get dick but no commitment, wonders if she's alone.1: For the sake of any of this making sense, yes you would have to accept that I was a virgin until I met my fiance. If you can't, then why continue the debate further? All such debates involve an assumption of sanity and an assumption of integrity. If you cannot assume both, then we cannot debate. 2: No. In my personal case I had no desire for sex with anyone until several months into my relationship with him. But that experience is unusual and therefore not really pertinent to the argument, wh… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/11/14 10:59 PM |
| 1 | TwoX Gold. Girl can get dick but no commitment, wonders if she's alone.It's more that a lot of aspects of your body can be altered by putting the right pressures on them. Eat less: lose weight and metabolism lowers. Drink on and off: liver function upregulated (hence why some alcoholics have almost normal livers and messed up pancreas and brains). Your body works in its own best interests. Likewise, if a man's access to sex is poor his body upregulates and wants more (likely to generate greater pressure to encourage more sex), however when a woman gets less sex eve… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/11/14 09:38 PM |
| 5 | TwoX Gold. Girl can get dick but no commitment, wonders if she's alone.My 2c as a woman who held out until she knew she'd marry the guy she was dating (and yes, we're engaged now): -Virginity means stronger pair-bonding. If you're looking at an LTR it's less essential, but if you're looking at marriage, you have a 80-50% success rate for women with no previous partners (80% for virgin brides, 50% for non-virgin brides). If we assume some "non-virgin brides marrying 1st partner" may be lying or have done other things on the side, chances are the success rate of the … | /r/TheRedPill | 03/11/14 08:50 AM |
| 4 | TwoX Gold. Girl can get dick but no commitment, wonders if she's alone.Yup. TRP: This is the way the world is. This is how most women are. You are more than a woman's toy or wallet. Unless you have solid reason to, don't commit. Work hard on improving yourself, find what you truly want in life and reach for it. RPW: This is the way the world is. These are the types of men there are. This is how you need to be to attract each type. This is why LTRs are better for women's long term happiness. This is how to locate a man who is ready to commit. This is how to keep him… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/11/14 08:31 AM |
| 8 | TwoX Gold. Girl can get dick but no commitment, wonders if she's alone.Is it just me or are about 1/3 of the commenters basically recommending f***ing your way through every guy you meet at college until you land one who commits after the sex? And then they all wonder why their relationships don't work out. | /r/TheRedPill | 03/11/14 08:27 AM |
| 5 | In the West, even extremely low SMV women can find a boyfriend with zero effortDepends on what the woman wants. Few women want sex the way men do, even those of us with very high sex drives don't want it under the same circumstances as men. Most women want a LTR with a high quality man. And to get that we need to improve ourselves. In perspective, envying a low SMV woman's ability to get no-strings sex with low value men who disappear in short order would be like a woman envying a Beta Bux's ability to maintain a LTR with a cheating, sulking, obese woman just by throwing c… | /r/TheRedPill | 02/11/14 06:57 PM |
| 1 | #NoNothingNovember - a Manosphere.com and TheRedPill sponsored challenge...My first post: https://yourwifeisevolving.wordpress.com/2014/11/01/nonothingnovember/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/14 03:08 PM |
| 3 | Collected Thoughts on the Street Harassment Video." it's a culture of 'I can say what I want' which then leads to 'I can touch her when I want' in other situations" That's just a slippery slope fallacy. "I tend to get on with men more than women and I know they wouldn't dream of behaving in this way" That's a bit like the "I'm not racist because I have a Black friend, but..." argument. Besides that, I completely understand your point. I just don't fully agree. My point is that across 8 years, 10 towns, villages and cities and having walked all … | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/14 10:05 PM |
| 1 | Fit Friday, Fat Friday.And to you. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/14 08:20 PM |
| 4 | Collected Thoughts on the Street Harassment Video."I have a huge issue with going out and being grabbed against my will by strangers who haven't spoken one word to me" Yet that isn't a cold approach. That's genuine harassment which, generally and in most places, is rare. If a man actually touches you, shouts something lewd or threatens you; if he follows you down the street like that one man in the video, then that's harassment. But in my experience it is not common and not something you can "fix" by attacking men the way the creators and suppo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/14 08:19 PM |
| 1 | So frustrated over petty shit testsI know female advice isn't often welcome on such matters, but I think here I may be able to help. Women do this to each other all the time. She is acting like a spoilt child to get you acting like a spoilt child to get an emotional rise out of you, after which she will turn hypocrite and complain how immature you are. The only response to such petty shit tests is to dismiss. Do it through a joke, or through stoicism, or even tell her directly that it doesn't matter. As long as you're dismissive … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/10/14 07:59 PM |
| 1 | Fit Friday, Fat Friday.I understand that completely. Sometimes, after a day of working or dealing with... less intellectually stimulating people, I fall into a pattern of speaking like the audience is a child or an idiot. Which is not well received by those who aren't. :p | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/14 07:47 PM |
| 4 | Collected Thoughts on the Street Harassment Video.I'm so glad for you. Life is much better when you can make sense of and work against your irrational fears. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/14 06:04 PM |
| 1 | Fit Friday, Fat Friday."That's not even a good way to think. Consistency is key." Agreed, but the idea isn't to be bad again next week and then balance it. The idea is to look at where you went wrong and work hard to avoid it or correct the damage in the following week. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/14 05:38 PM |
| 2 | Fit Friday, Fat Friday.The weirdest part is how eating too many carbs can make me as carb-hungry as eating too few. The only evidence as to which it was is the inflammation and water retention the next day. Or the DOMS, if I play it safe and eat too few. And yeah, keto is awful. Sometimes needed, but days 3-7 will always kill. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/14 12:23 PM |
| 2 | Fit Friday, Fat Friday."I make myself salads for lunch, usually with tuna, salmon or chicken. BORING." Try mixing 1/2tbsp olive oil, 1/4tbsp lemon juice, 1/2tbsp vinegar, 1/2tsp salt and 1tsp paprika (sweet or hot). Just increase lemon or vinegar for a more liquid/higher volume of dressing. Delicious, all natural and very low kcal. Goes with everything too! "I DONT! That's why I love powerlifting. I can eat the food I want in moderation. Thank you muscles and higher metabolism." I hate having zero natural appetite con… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/14 11:11 AM |
| 2 | Winter is comingGood options: -faux (or real) fur -leather with microfiber padding -compressed felt or tweed And make it thigh-high or halfway down the thigh with tight buttoning or a sash at the waist, to encompass and show off your figure. Sports jackets, mackintoshes or leather jackets are all good, warm options. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/14 10:08 AM |
| 1 | Essay on how we use "coded" language and how it interferes with our daily lives.Thank you. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/14 07:52 PM |
| 4 | Collected Thoughts on the Street Harassment Video.Or, indeed, any men but Middle-class Feminist Betas (and that should be an acronym: MCFB). What sort of a single man doesn't see a pretty woman he fancies his chances with and at least try his luck? On the other hand, these are women who think holding a door open and smiling is sexist. So who knows what's going on in their heads. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/14 02:48 PM |
| 1 | "Real love is a choice ". Can people post what they think about the articleWhen you break it down, all he's really saying is that when you become pair-bonded to someone you can weather the stresses of life with them, rather than by turning against them. Which is true, but you need to find someone you can bond to and who can bond to you for more than 9-24 months in the first place. Not that it's impossible, but for many it doesn't work as they lose the bond and the excitement after a year or so, or simply become disinterested, or start to bond to someone else. But if yo… | /r/TheRedPill | 30/10/14 02:31 PM |
| 2 | Collected Thoughts on the Street Harassment Video.we going to become a society where the woman has to approach the man To a degree and for a certain generation, we already are. Men approaching younger women or wanting relationships with a female friend or acquaintance increasingly wait for the girl to make the first move, even when the men themselves are far from BP. The fear of a harassment lawsuit or being accused of being a pedo is too much for some guys. Everything needs to be done carefully, treading eggshells, nonverbal right up until the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/14 12:22 PM |
| 1 | I would like some points against feminism that are commonly referred to on TRP.Check out Justice 4 Men and Boys or A Voice For Men if you want some good stats, examples and arguments against feminists' general monopoly on the gender debate. Plus, these two articles on my blog have shut up almost every feminist (male or female) I've debated online: http://yourwifeisevolving.wordpress.com/2014/07/21/every-ism-means-nothing-in-the-big-picture/ http://yourwifeisevolving.wordpress.com/2014/10/21/no-privilege/ | /r/TheRedPill | 30/10/14 11:36 AM |
| 5 | Collected Thoughts on the Street Harassment Video.I can understand compression, but would also like to see the full 10h released. On the other hand, how many would watch through it? I'd say the guy following was the only one definitely harassing. Walking close by her, in sight, silently, looking over. Nobody could do that and not realize that it could be intimidating, especially for a woman on her own. On the other hand, had she actively turned him away or been wearing earphones rather than just ignoring, would he have still felt the need to in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/14 11:27 AM |
| 1 | How would you feel about a girl who actually took the self-improvement route physically?I find this mentality odd. Personal example: I used to be obese. I had an eating disorder beforehand and realized the only way to fight it, in my case, was to ditch the scales and mirror and stop living almost exclusively off coffee. Two years later: obese. Once I realized what I'd done to myself, I dropped it in 3 months. Now, a few years later, I've kept it off, been lifting and the difference is staggering. But the character flaws that led to both an eating disorder and obesity are still ther… | /r/askTRP | 30/10/14 11:04 AM |
| 1 | how should i talk to my girlfriend? like a friend?Depends what you want. Gaming her gives you more chance of sexual success and a lasting relationship, but can be tiring if you need it active 24/7 to keep her. Talking with her the way you enjoy talking to her about things you like means less effort and that if she's LTR material and suited to you she will remain interested, but gives you a very high chance of her disappearing once the lust wears off. Pick what you want from her and take a chance. | /r/askTRP | 30/10/14 10:51 AM |
| 1 | Just heard: "The man is the head of the family and the woman is the neck"But the head tells the neck where to turn and when the neck doesn't obey the head it usually gets the shins knocked into a table. I think of it more like Skyrim, where you need to turn one thumbstick to direct the character and the other to angle their head so they can see and get ready for what to do next. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/14 09:41 AM |
| 3 | #NoNothingNovember - a Manosphere.com and TheRedPill sponsored challenge...Yes, if we chose the same goals and things to abstain from as the guys, then we'd be able to claim perfection fairly prematurely! | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/14 09:33 AM |
| 3 | #NoNothingNovember - a Manosphere.com and TheRedPill sponsored challenge...I just came to check if we're on it too. :) Pleased we are. Provisionally my three are: 1: No more time-wasting websites. Which includes some reddit subs (/r/funny) and not others (/r/RedPillWomen). Need to focus on work (got tutoring, translation, essay writing and online tuition now), writing (blog, books) and the home a lot more now that I have more of it. 2: (This one's embarrassing to admit, because I can come across as so polite when I'm talking through text!) No more interrupting and spea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/14 09:20 AM |
| 3 | "10 Wife Duties to Avoid With Boyfriends" - Agree or disagree?It's more a matter of how long and how well you know him than anything else. Start slow. Don't sleep with him on the first date; once you can see he's looking for an LTR, then sex becomes an option. When you're first at his house be polite and wait or ask for permission to move to any room or touch anything; once you know your boundaries in his house, feel free to tidy, clean and cook for him. When you first cook for him, cook things you know he enjoys; once you've nailed his favourite meals, tr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/14 11:56 AM |
| 1 | RP Basics - How do women rate you?-tall -big hands (fetish territory, but it's high on the biological urges list) -good natural scent -white -commanding voice -authoritative, takes over whenever I stumble (whether I know I have or not) -good in bed -a lot of base physical contact (hugging, kissing, even just shoulder touching when sat together) -talks with me about interesting things without infantilizing me, pandering to me or going quiet All noted from the things about my fiance that most make me want sex. Very high libido, so… | /r/TheRedPill | 28/10/14 05:36 PM |
| 5 | Woman drops boyfriend because he lives frugally. Later finds out that he's a heir to a fortune based on oil. (X-post from TRP)It's possible, but after a certain point there just isn't enough cash. And, to be honest, were I single, a man who was perfectly matched to me yet unable or unwilling to support the 4-8 children I want wouldn't be an option. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/14 02:19 PM |
| 1 | Woman drops boyfriend because he lives frugally. Later finds out that he's a heir to a fortune based on oil. (X-post from TRP)Agreed. She was definitely in the wrong, no matter how BP he is. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/14 02:14 PM |
| 1 | Remember Susan Walsh? (Hooking up Smart) I just found her website!Ah. I've only seen some of her good ones, then. :( | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/14 01:34 PM |
| 2 | Remember Susan Walsh? (Hooking up Smart) I just found her website!Duly noted. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/14 12:37 PM |
| 2 | RP Basics - How do women rate you?Depends on what we're looking for. If you're what we're looking for: 8-10/10. If you're not: 0/10. If you're genetically or financially very blessed: 5-8/10. If you're almost what we want, but not exactly, then always a 7 or an 8. Two girls as an example. Girl 1 wants a provider, three kids, a religious man who's conservative and attractive. A man who meets those exact overt criteria, also hits the covert and biological criteria (likeminded, dominant, physically fit, etc) will be a 10. A man who… | /r/TheRedPill | 28/10/14 11:24 AM |
| 2 | Do girls tell their friends all the intimate details?Not all of us, but being a fly on the wall in most all-female environments reveals that the vastest majority definitely do. Not necessarily every tiny detail, but definitely an overview. Maybe they'll share details when pressured by their "besties". They probably also lie about it. A lot. Considering some of the sex acts they describe are almost impossible and very unlikely to be pleasant for either party, I'd say a good 1/20 of women definitely lie about the sex. They have no shame or respect l… | /r/TheRedPill | 28/10/14 10:53 AM |
| 20 | I caught my girlfriend of 2 years cheating on me, so I converted her into a plate, am I fucking up?Nah, you don't get film journalism/studies in the current climate. He needs to write about how TDK is an awful, sexist piece of trash and Fox should have been a woman and Dent should have been transgender and Batman should have got less screentime and been gay with Alfred. | /r/TheRedPill | 28/10/14 10:47 AM |
| 1 | "Over 75% of women prefer FLAB to abs" says sex therapistIf it had been "women prefer fourpacks with a bit of fat over sixpacks" I might have bought it. The Russian powerlifter look has always been popular in certain demographics. | /r/TheRedPill | 28/10/14 10:42 AM |
| 21 | Woman drops boyfriend because he lives frugally. Later finds out that he's a heir to a fortune based on oil. (X-post from TRP)1: Claims she is totally not a golddigger. Means she isn't looking for a millionaire. 2: Dumps a guy for either not having money or not spending money. But money doesn't matter to her. As long as you have enough. 3: Finds out he has a lot of money. Regrets dumping him. Is angry he didn't use his money to win her over like a good Beta provider. 4: Is still totally not a golddigger, but wants him back now she knows he has enough money. 5: Is confused as to why he doesn't want a woman who appears w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/14 10:37 AM |
| 5 | How does a RPW tell her SO that he has hurt or upset her without hurting or upsetting him?Don't dig for an apology. I know you want one, and I understand, but maybe he feels he did nothing wrong, or he feels the harm done isn't worth an apology? And sometimes his apology won't feel "sincere enough" or "serious enough" for the offence and you'll remain angry anyway. Expecting an apology is a bit like holding hopes for that special Christmas present as a kid. Instead, tell him how you feel. In cases where you want to tell him after the event has passed: Wait until you're both calm and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/14 10:22 AM |
| 1 | Remember Susan Walsh? (Hooking up Smart) I just found her website!Thanks for sharing. :) Maybe this should be sidebarred? | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/14 10:13 AM |
| 3 | Outspoken female British celeb calls out fat women for being lazy and blaming others by saying "you can't be happy and fat". Twitter feminists explode. In response, she sets out to gain 50 lbs on purpose and then lose it all.That was kind of my point. We've got so used to seeing fat people that just being thin makes someone appear very attractive. Biologically we are designed to seek more in a partner's appearance than "Is s/he fat or not?" Yet obesity is so prevalent that it becomes a deciding factor in how attractive someone is, making someone who is still beneath potential, who may look ill or mediocre, appear gorgeous. Think of the reaction a lot of USA and UK men have when they visit Spain or the Ukraine. It's … | /r/TheRedPill | 25/10/14 05:30 PM |
| 1 | What do women on here think of short guys?At 5'5" you're still taller than a large number of women and not much shorter than the slightly tall ones. Add to that the fact that your total SMV and MMV can easily balance out any issue most women have with your height and it shouldn't be a problem. Plus: abundance mentality. How many girls didn't mind your height (regardless of whether they liked you or not) compared to those who thought of it as a deciding factor? Reality always beats theory and, in the real world, you don't seem to be havi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/14 11:31 AM |
| 1 | Fit Friday. Fat Friday.Well done on your results and on keeping your diet in check. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/14 10:46 PM |
| 1 | "There's nothing sexier than a nice Beta Male."Whenever a woman talks about wanting a Beta, swap every reference to the man to "Manicorn". It's quite clear that what they're actually saying they want is either a powerful, independent Beta or a gentle, paternal Alpha. And rarely is it an actual man. 99.999% of the time, this sort of essay/article comes from a woman describing a theoretical man. Because most of the men in their lives are either "too Alpha" or "too Beta" for them. Because the Manicorn is a pretty specific thing and if he isn't … | /r/TheRedPill | 24/10/14 08:12 PM |
| 9 | Outspoken female British celeb calls out fat women for being lazy and blaming others by saying "you can't be happy and fat". Twitter feminists explode. In response, she sets out to gain 50 lbs on purpose and then lose it all."since they don't have to actually gain muscle to "look good"" I'd say this is just part of the "all women are beautiful no matter what" nonsense. As someone who has lost a significant amount of weight: it doesn't automatically make you look good. I bounced back into a human shape fairly quickly (losing weight when young helps), and even then it just made my body average (disregarding good bone structure, as that's not really what we're on about). Now, lifting weights to build the muscles helped… | /r/TheRedPill | 24/10/14 07:45 PM |
| 2 | Girls with more guy-friends than girl-friends. What do you guys think?On being "butch": Women who spend time around men often acquire masculine habits and interests. Moreso if they were raised as a girl among boys. Biological expressions of gender will remain, but habits, behaviours and interests are cultural. In some cultures men wear paint, in some women do. Modern society at least accepts androgyny. Therefore we are most definitely masculinized in our interests and behaviours and some of that remains even when we consciously feminize ourselves. Can also cause "… | /r/TheRedPill | 23/10/14 05:38 PM |
| 1 | How do I get over this decision?Yes. If it's an isolated incident where he bit off more than he can chew, then we all do that. But if it's in a greater context of impulsive decisions and petty dominance displays (rather than leadership displays), then it needs to be thought over. It's a matter of the marriage, not of the pet. Either way, it's best to assume the dog is going. And I say that as someone who generally loves dogs and already feels sorry for their one. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/14 03:02 PM |
| 6 | Girls with more guy-friends than girl-friends. What do you guys think?I have always kept very few friends due to being socially awkward and moving house a lot (lived in more houses than years growing up). Females form cliques easily, males do not. Until going to an all-girls school, most of my friends were male simply because they'd put up with "the weirdo new kid/girl/woman" and didn't care that I wouldn't wear make-up or exchange clothes. When going to the all-girls school I soon found a number of other girls with similar experiences. Don't know about outside of… | /r/TheRedPill | 23/10/14 10:30 AM |
| 1 | How do I get over this decision?Sometimes there are hiccoughs. Generally there will be things you agree and disagree about, this just happened to be a big one that caught you by surprise. Look at the big picture. How much do pets matter to your future? Is there any way you could have the enjoyment of being around a dog without having to own one yourself? Is this just one isolated problem, or have you had similar thoughts about other problems lately? If it's just this one thing, I'm sure you can find a workaround. My angle is t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/14 08:51 AM |
| 1 | Currently in a LTR. All going well but thinking about ending it.Telling her is the right thing to do. Good luck. | /r/askTRP | 22/10/14 04:21 PM |
| 1 | Are all women liars?All people lie. Everyone thinks their lies are OK. To not call them "lies" is also a lie. It's just how you lie, who you lie to, in what context and who finds out that makes the difference. If you're just referring to lying about relationships: women lie about relationships when there's something to lie about and someone to lie to. Otherwise we obviously can't. | /r/askTRP | 22/10/14 01:51 PM |
| 2 | Currently in a LTR. All going well but thinking about ending it.She's a woman. Most women want children and a family some day. In fact, biologically her body is best designed to produce children now and her fertility will start dropping soon, hence why it's on her mind so much. Her body is telling her head to get its act together and get pregnant. If that's not your goal, she'd be better off knowing because her options are currently running out, whereas yours are opening. [Staying with her and leaving her around 30-35 when she ups the ante for childbearing i… | /r/askTRP | 22/10/14 09:17 AM |
| 2 | Some interesting stats at from my university's Mental Health Awareness pamphletMen are less likely to report mental and emotional problems. Also less likely to realize what they are, as men don't have the emotional ups and downs of women to compare them to. A man with anxiety is more likely to think he's stressed and tired. A man with depression is more likely to think he's bored and stressed. A woman will more likely notice she is sadder, angrier or more afraid than before and to then seek help because she has something recent to compare it to. Plus, the mental health ind… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/10/14 08:49 AM |
| 3 | Slut shaming BY WOMEN makes sense. Here's why.But the maid takes money away and uses her spare time to her own benefit, a good woman uses her spare time to earn or save money for her man. | /r/TheRedPill | 22/10/14 08:41 AM |
| 8 | Why women won't admit they like muscle?Another issue with the "bodybuilder" image is that a lot of them run on-and-off steroid cycles, that results in being lean, vascular and with rounded muscles at competition time, when most photos are taken. Such an appearance isn't natural to humans and, as such, can trigger the "disease disgust" response, designed to make humans stay away from people who are possibly very ill. | /r/TheRedPill | 22/10/14 08:34 AM |
| 1 | Why women won't admit they like muscle?Why they say it? Anecdote: Last time I told other women/girls I liked a built man, the immediate response was "Doesn't it scare you?" Apparently men are strong enough as-is (even if he's so thin his elbow is the widest part of his arm) and they would be afraid of dating a man that big because he might hurt them. The concept of not dating someone with a violent temper, mood swings or a history of battery seems to elude them. The concept that, unless a guy is on PCP or actually trying to kill you,… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/10/14 08:30 AM |
| 2 | Fit Friday.Excellent! Also, try looking up "Tai Chi for small spaces". It's Tai Chi you can do in an office or a small bedroom, which could be good for "topping up" your workouts whenever you have a little time and feel up to it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/14 07:53 AM |
| 3 | On Preferences and Requirements in Dating.I'd say that for STRs, the "income" is different. From observation, simply being non-annoying, easy and having a body with hips and/or breasts enough to attract attention can make a girl worth a few of a guy's drinks and a night. Now where on Earth could a girl like that exchange her tolerableness, easiness and figure for a marriage? She's got one market value for sex and another for marriage and a woman who is very high at one end will definitely not be high at the other. You can't be a Madonna… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/14 07:51 AM |
| 1 | On Preferences and Requirements in Dating.Yup. We rarely do the maths when coming up with our "requirements". Plus, not every guy over 6'2" is some supermodel Adonis with an amazing income and a load of similar interests. It's not so much high standards as delusion. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/14 07:48 AM |
| 3 | On Preferences and Requirements in Dating.Yup. Hence the Susan comment on him not being what she wanted, or possibly being gay or uninterested. Just because men like Julie wants exist doesn't mean Julie would actually be satisfied with them, or that they would want her anyway. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/14 08:40 PM |
| 3 | On Preferences and Requirements in Dating.Yep. And then we look at the cottage and think "This is mine. This is brilliant." :D | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/14 08:39 PM |
| 5 | On Preferences and Requirements in Dating."what makes you think YOU meet the requirements on HIS list?" This x1000. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/14 08:37 PM |
| 3 | On Preferences and Requirements in Dating.That's why I left Julie's age more or less open. Not a child, but not at breaking point. Julie is just the female process of assuming a man has to be x, y and z to be suitable for her. She's a mindset. Any woman can be Julie if she hasn't got her head on right. In fact, most women are nowadays, as we're told we're little princesses from day 1. Young Julies may recover if it's nipped in the bud by reason (Susan's role). Older Julies not so much. Chances of an older Julie recovering only increase … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/14 07:17 PM |
| 2 | On Preferences and Requirements in Dating.Absolutely. It takes a degree of conscious effort to accept that not everything is "yes" or "no". | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/14 04:27 PM |
| 1 | Why do women lie the way they do? Even when they know they are caught they still keep it up before eventually giving in?My assumptions as someone who is actually equally in the dark: 1: They have something to hide. Around 1/5 to 1/4 of the time. Easy to spot from avoiding the conversation, turning it around, awkward body language, etc. 2: They want attention. Most of the rest of the time. Easy to spot from bringing stuff up out of the blue, trying to push your buttons and sulking or crying if you don't react. 3: They genuinely aren't sure of the truth and are running with whatever they think fits. Rare, but happe… | /r/askTRP | 21/10/14 04:23 PM |
| 3 | One of the best RP Theories "women who are less promiscuous traditionally make better partners" Fuck me TOO trueA bit of data on that: -"can't do anything about the involuntary ones getting weaker" A technicality: like any muscle, they are strengthened through activity. Getting them to tense basically boils down to a number of non-penetrative orgasms a day, so they flex and push against each other, tightening the vaginal walls. This is probably also why vaginas can "adapt" to a specific partner, as the muscles learn to tense around something However few women enjoy masturbating 2+ times a day on top of se… | /r/TheRedPill | 21/10/14 04:06 PM |
| 2 | On Preferences and Requirements in Dating.Not sure about her yet. Would flesh it out if I get around to writing it out properly. Backstory for her and her friend, a reason why she gave up on short term dating or ONSs, her problems with her dates and her analysis in retrospect, perhaps Dave being one of the guys she saw once and rejected... Then progress onto their relationship, overcoming typical female lies and dating patterns (for example she admits she lied about number or type of past relationships), starting a family... Until I fin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/14 03:27 PM |
| 1 | On Preferences and Requirements in Dating.And even then... | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/14 02:55 PM |
| 6 | On Preferences and Requirements in Dating.I think we, like Julie, just add disqualifiers for every guy we date, see or hear about that we don't like. "That plumber smelt funny. No more plumbers." "I guess I don't like Italian food any more. No Italian food in the house." The longer a woman is single, the longer the list. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/14 11:51 AM |
| 8 | On Preferences and Requirements in Dating.PS: I've just become sooooooo tempted to turn this into a RPW romance novella. "Julie's List." Sure it would sell if I keep quiet about the RP-ness. :p | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/14 11:05 AM |
| 5 | On Preferences and Requirements in Dating.Brilliantly put! I do think a lot of modern women are Julies looking for a 2M home on a 50k income. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/14 11:00 AM |
| 1 | Women are not shallow and don't care about looks? My experience says otherwiseJon had a similar experience. He grew his hair out over university. When his hair was short or when he bundled it into a hat he'd get girls approaching him, chatting to him, obviously interested. When his hair was long and not hidden he would be largely avoided. Even some men would treat him differently. At the gym it went from exchanging jokes and advice to many people not talking to him. After that experience he kept it long as a sort of f*** you to society. | /r/TheRedPill | 21/10/14 10:04 AM |
| 2 | Do you ladies ever try to ease your girlfriends into RPW behaviour?Tell her straight that she's relying entirely on luck, that people go to those places to get laid and that men who are out looking for sex aren't out looking for a wife, neither would they marry someone who spread her legs for them within an hour of knowing them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/14 07:15 AM |
| 1 | Fit Friday.Don't be too worried about yoga and joints. Most instructors are very accommodating of injuries and disabilities and if you warn them beforehand that, for example, your knee mobility isn't very good, you can work out at the front of the class and they will give you tips for certain poses and warn you away from ones that may hurt you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/14 07:14 AM |
| 2 | I hate women sleeping over.Women instinctively want to be under the protection of their man and to make a home for him to live in. In 99.99999% of women's heads (even those who sleep around a lot or keep 3 or 4 boyfriends at a time) there's someone we want to settle with and build a home around. Some of us understand this and know how to go about it. Others move into a random guy's house a day after meeting him, start making breakfast and dusting and get distressed when he explains she was a ONS. | /r/askTRP | 20/10/14 08:45 AM |
| 2 | RP with virginsFirst of all work out whether she is happy to lose her virginity to a guy she might never see again, whether she's waiting for an LTR or whether she's waiting for marriage. Obviously, asking her directly probably won't work, but holding out or pressing a girl who's waiting it out will be a waste of your time. Also make sure she isn't from a very conservative family where she may feel guilty or angry at a later date even if she had been the one pressuring you. Then, provided what she wants and wh… | /r/askTRP | 20/10/14 08:26 AM |
| 2 | Are Christian women better than non-religious women?Most modern Christianity has been affected by mainstream feminism, meaning Christian women often justify their own immorality by criticizing men as worse. Elspeth (Christian female/womanosphere blogger) had something on it, if you want a little insight into how such women rationalize their behaviour. http://lovingintheruins.wordpress.com/2014/10/16/why-focus-on-feminine-proclivities/ I'd say that outside the stricter sects such as the Amish or the Mormons, Christian women are not much better or … | /r/askTRP | 20/10/14 08:19 AM |
| 4 | Why women want their man to be "sensitive"Two types of women want "sensitive" men above all and both mean something different by it. Manipulative women want a pliable, feminine man to balance their own more masculine and domineering behaviour and to bully into BB or toyboy territory. Highly empathic women want a highly empathic man because they don't like being the only one with severe mood-swings and who cries when the other one is sad. No other type of woman I've seen seems to actually want it, even if she claims she does. | /r/TheRedPill | 20/10/14 08:08 AM |
| 1 | How to be amicable with a man without giving the wrong impression?Maybe so. I know someone who's setting up his own work a way out and I already refer non-traveling students to him. | /r/askTRP | 19/10/14 11:10 AM |
| 1 | How to be amicable with a man without giving the wrong impression?From the other side: it feels weird to do that sort of stuff to anyone but my fiance, and that in a joking manner. I don't understand women who do it. | /r/askTRP | 19/10/14 10:06 AM |
| 1 | How to be amicable with a man without giving the wrong impression?"If you weren't you'd DGAF about "coming across as cold."" I rely partially on creating a comfortable and safe environment for my students. This worked well whilst they were mostly GCSE and A-level, but apparently is too friendly for men. I don't want to lose students or receive poor reviews as I need to make a living. The fact it has happened a few times with men of varying age implies it's something wrong with my demeanour. | /r/askTRP | 19/10/14 10:03 AM |
| 3 | serious question: Do any of you have any theories as to why Feminists and Progressives can't condition modern women to prefer blue pillers?Because modern feminism says you should never not do what you want to, even if your immediate thought is undesirable or the momentary gratification ruins your life. See a man you like? Take him to bed instantly. Bored with a friend? Ignore her and spread rumours about her until she's out of your social life. Pregnant? Just abort the baby before it ruins your life. On a bridge? Jump off, it's the ground's fault if you're hurt, after all. How can you get a group of people to live only for their mo… | /r/TheRedPill | 18/10/14 07:02 PM |
| 1 | How to be amicable with a man without giving the wrong impression?"caution instead to use the phrase "My fiance..." this simple two word phrase is like a two hour conversation trying to explain yourself. " Thank you, especially for the suggestions. :) "do I have to explain what chewing on the end of a pen is going to make a man think of." Not at all. No chewing anything at all. Will bear that in mind and stick to blue or grey suits with light green and yellow tops when tutoring men. Thank you very much for your advice. | /r/askTRP | 18/10/14 06:46 PM |
| 0 | How to be amicable with a man without giving the wrong impression?"you either must be the most attractive woman in the world and guys cannot help falling in love with your helen of troy beauty or you are giving indicators." Well, I think I'm reasonably attractive, but unless everyone in town is pretty, uhm, homely, I'd say it's the latter. "make casual mention of committed relationship" How would be the best way of dropping this casually? I work from home (tutoring area is a designated classroom and office), so would something positive or neutral that reinforc… | /r/askTRP | 18/10/14 06:21 PM |
| 1 | How to be amicable with a man without giving the wrong impression?I do. It's actually a wedding ring because jewellery makes me uncomfortable. | /r/askTRP | 18/10/14 06:00 PM |
| 2 | How to be amicable with a man without giving the wrong impression?Once it's obvious? Yes. But I'm looking at prevention, as once it's obvious it could have gone too far for the dynamic to return to a professional one. | /r/askTRP | 18/10/14 05:55 PM |
| 2 | How to be amicable with a man without giving the wrong impression?That's what I do once the situation has already occurred, but someone being attracted to me to begin with can be bad for business. I was just wondering if it was at all possible to make it abundantly clear early on whilst still keeping the pleasant tutor-student relationship that almost guarantees returns. | /r/askTRP | 18/10/14 05:54 PM |
| 2 | How to be amicable with a man without giving the wrong impression?"Tell him the only reason you are here is to teach math to someone for money." Generally this is only appropriate after I have enough reason to suspect he's actually interested. If I were to bring it up before it's clear (regardless of whether or not he actually was interested), it becomes unprofessional. Either of which makes further work awkward or nonexistent. "I think this is obvious, but a man who is attracted will "invent" signs that you are interested in him too." But I do understand this… | /r/askTRP | 18/10/14 04:30 PM |
| 1 | How to be amicable with a man without giving the wrong impression?Physical contact is an important barrier, but laughter I hadn't considered. Thank you. | /r/askTRP | 18/10/14 02:07 PM |
| 2 | Fit Friday.One of my favourites for core sounds really easy but works really well. Lie on your back with hands by your side and feet together. Raise feet 6 inches off the ground. Hold it. For core-strength begginers they suggest putting your hands on your stomach or stretching your arms out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/14 11:37 AM |
| 2 | Fit Friday.Will find some time to write one down for when the Fat Friday post goes up. :D | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/14 11:33 AM |
| 2 | Fit Friday.Congrats on the baby! :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/14 11:32 AM |
| 1 | Fit Friday.That may be very helpful. Will up the dosage of Vitamin D and see how I fare. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/14 11:32 AM |
| 3 | Fit Friday.Fit Friday: workouts and diet stuff. Fat Friday: loads of awesome recipes? Sounds close to that joke about girly mags. 33% diets, 33% love yourself, 34% chocolate cake recipes. :D | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/14 08:11 PM |
| 1 | My observation: Do good looking guys really have an easy time getting good looking girls?Better chances than any man who lacks the other traits, but up against a Whiter-looking man it seems to vary by area. | /r/TheRedPill | 17/10/14 06:21 PM |
| 2 | Explaining The RPW SubWell done. :) Something I think people miss is that many men grow up thinking of themselves in terms of what they possess (money, women, time, a good job, education, friends) rather than who they are (interests, hobbies, personality, career, social ties, goals). This can result in men becoming dissatisfied with their lives and their lot, placing too much value on money, individual people and certificates and too little value on their own development. Therefore men, to better themselves need to p… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/14 04:29 PM |
| 1 | My observation: Do good looking guys really have an easy time getting good looking girls?Personal observations: The male category that needs to put the least effort into dating is: tall, lean to jacked, symmetrical and White or White-looking biracial. So that holds true against yours. Masculine features like a strong jaw, large hands, facial hair and a low forehead seem to be common in that category also. The reason they tend to take home a larger number of girls and the reason these girls vary from what the PUA community calls a 3 to a 7? These girls approach them. I've seen it tim… | /r/TheRedPill | 17/10/14 09:10 AM |
| 0 | Has anyone in history tried to raise a woman to develop agency? (100% raise her like a man)Some African and N. American tribes had classes of men that were raised to be female (some even being physically trained to breastfeed). If that's of any interest to you I'll dig up the names. Unaware of any similar cases where women are raised as men, I assume because to do so the women would have to be raised by men, as boys, which is nigh-impossible due to the gender dynamics that develop once the girls hit puberty. Tomboyish lesbians with many brothers and pretty much zero female friends and… | /r/askTRP | 16/10/14 11:12 AM |
| 0 | Would you rather your sister / female family member be with an RP or BP characteristic man?All things being equal, RP beats BP in terms of happiness. Two examples: -Guy is unpleasant, narcissistic, wants a LTR or even marriage, keeps many male friends and a couple of hobbies. If he's BP that means he doesn't know how to maintain a LTR, doesn't understand why he may want to cheat (and is therefore less able to resist or use it), is more likely to be pushed around by his friends and to become a turnoff to his wife. If he's RP then he knows how to maintain frame and game his wife, is awa… | /r/askTRP | 16/10/14 11:04 AM |
| 1 | Telling a man I've just started dating - and am interested in! - that I don't want to have sex too early. How can I do this without it coming off badly?Be open. "I like you, and I would like to have sex with you if I see this as going on for a few years, but I need to be sure that this relationship is long term before I have sex with you. I'm telling you this now, before either of us try anything, so that you know that I do like you and why I am rejecting sex." | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/14 09:40 AM |
| 2 | Are men without social skills considered low value to you, ladies?Not personally. I'm an insular person, so either of us keeping an extended social circle or getting along with strangers is less important than keeping a couple of useful and like-minded people around. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/14 09:34 AM |
| 1 | Women see all relationships as power relationshipsTrue, being a female, male power dynamics are often hard to understand at their core. But I have had more male friend circles my whole life (introvert that gets distressed by indirectness and had no interest in popular culture, so no other option; and yes, I know that apart from when I was not a sexual target, a few probably liked me more than as a friend), and Georges are rare, but they seem to be the only type of person who can control group dynamics without losing that closeness the rest of t… | /r/TheRedPill | 16/10/14 09:30 AM |
| 1 | My 18yo brother has revealed himself to be a beta. Should I leave him be or try to help him?Humans are social animals. Alpha and Beta are social roles. Both you can be educated out of or into. Unsure how, but plenty of RP men appear to have transitioned from Beta to Alpha. Logic dictates you should be able to help someone else do so also. | /r/askTRP | 15/10/14 10:50 AM |
| 1 | Former kindergarten teacher makes 6 figures by twerking on vine (6 second videos)If there's money to be made for such a small effort, it's hard to blame her. We live in a world where she probably did that for free in nightclubs every night anyways, so she's doing little different except now she's paid and doesn't even have to see the men who are buying her performance. | /r/TheRedPill | 15/10/14 10:40 AM |
| 2 | Women see all relationships as power relationshipsGood post except I (and many other readers, apparently) agree that Jeff is more of a narcissist and an inconvenience than a powerful person. As I see it, Jeff wants to assert power and assumes others will follow, yet displays no traits that are an incentive to follow. Jeff walks to another bar without his mates, they go to a different bar and they're the bad guys for neither following nor being where he left them. Ultimately, Jeff winds up with nobody to exert power over. Now picture George. He … | /r/TheRedPill | 15/10/14 10:32 AM |
| 4 | Cleaning his house?True, but sometimes a man's space is untidy or dirty due to lack of time. When Jon and I still lived apart, I would sometimes visit him whilst he was working. After he'd left in the morning I'd make the bed, put out the laundry, wash any cups or plates we used that night, sort my belongings back into my bag, put his shoes neatly by the door, throw any rubbish away and put anything that was on the floor onto a table or shelf. There's a line between reorganizing and whipping out the dettol, and ju… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/14 09:33 AM |
| 9 | If you wont have sex, how does a guy know you aren't asexual or have a low libido (both extremely unattractive in a life partner)?Ways of letting him know you aren't asexual: -telling him why you won't (no sex before marriage, saving yourself for LTRs, no sex before the third date, bad past experience, cautious virgin, etc) -flirting and sharing your ideas and fantasies -not shying away from crude jokes, even if you won't make them yourself -open masturbation policy (even if you won't have sex, agreeing that masturbating in the other's company isn't wrong) No way of telling the libido part. Everyone's libidos move around t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/14 09:22 AM |
| 3 | If you wont have sex, how does a guy know you aren't asexual or have a low libido (both extremely unattractive in a life partner)?A flirt is an appetizer, a tease is a snack. One promises a main meal, the other is not as fulfilling, a supplement, with nothing to follow. It may take a day, a week, six months or two years for you to have sex, depending on both your sexual histories, faiths and end goals for the relationship. But flirting is a way of letting him know it's going to happen whereas teasing is using "sex sells" to persuade a guy to do things for you in hope. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/14 09:16 AM |
| 2 | Depressed CaptainThere are two types of depression: -Exogenous depression is the one most people are familiar with. It comes from a traumatic event and often passes on its own and can be treated with certain medications and therapy. -Endogenous depression is becoming more common, but most people don't know about it. It surfaces on its own, can last a lifetime and therapy is generally useless, as are many medications. Depending on which one he's struggling with, the help you can provide is different. Sometimes th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/14 12:39 PM |
| 1 | I don't feel attraction or have the urge to have sex/masturbate. I feel there is something wrong.Truth be told it is probably this but I have a very hard time seeing myself as "depressed". That's often the case. Male mental and emotional problems are heavily stigmatized and people don't really understand endogenous depression. You should look at yourself honestly and ask what's best for you, not what sounds better or is easier to explain to your friends or family. And that does sound like endogenous depression. A lot of my family has it (the men as much as the women) and oftentimes there is… | /r/askTRP | 14/10/14 10:44 AM |
| 2 | I don't feel attraction or have the urge to have sex/masturbate. I feel there is something wrong.I second everyone who suggested an actual T check. If T is fine, have a look at your life. Is there anything stressful? How busy are you? If you're not busy, then ask yourself if you've lost interest in anything else. If you're generally listless and bored with everything, it could be depression. (Endogenous depression doesn't mean you're sad, it's an internal state, so don't dismiss it just because you think you aren't "sad enough". Same with the stress.) If you're feeling great, enjoying life,… | /r/askTRP | 14/10/14 09:08 AM |
| 1 | Anyone ever find there just not attracted to their gf anymore?Wife goggles only really activate when the woman is 10-15 years younger. Disclaimer: NAGALT. Sometimes there are no wife goggles, sometimes they work in the woman's favour despite her being older. | /r/askTRP | 14/10/14 08:50 AM |
| 1 | The guy you marry is just your friend! Huh!?Ah, OK then. There are only regional and national variants (like Paris Banlieue, Quebec, or Cote d'Ivoire), but I just speak standard, uni/college French, so unlike with Spanish any local slang or regional variability is still hard for me. I'm more likely to understand written Portuguese than regional French terms. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/10/14 07:30 AM |
| 1 | The guy you marry is just your friend! Huh!?Ah, what's your original language? If it's European French or any variety of Spanish and you want to carry on the conversation (though I think it's died a natural death), I can carry on/elucidate in either language. | /r/TheRedPill | 13/10/14 06:50 PM |
| 1 | The guy you marry is just your friend! Huh!?"The worst part is the "justs". She's rationalizing the loss of either an Alpha or someone who was genuinely highly compatible with her. Fine. Especially when someone close to you dies, I guess it's OK to rationalize a little so as to cope with the burden. But she seems to think she's doing partners and husbands a favour by telling them they're "just" a friend. Consider the difference in the implication: "My husband is my friend. He is the father of my children. He is not the sort of man you go … | /r/TheRedPill | 13/10/14 06:34 PM |
| 1 | The guy you marry is just your friend! Huh!?Yup. It's hard not to imagine it coming from a middle-aged woman whose young IVF children and "career" are too energy-intensive for her aging body, sighing over someone who never would have stayed whilst putting on a facade for the neighbours. "You're not my soulmate, not someone I passionately love, just someone I drink coffee with, a platonic friend, and that's... perfect? Be glad, you won me in the end. That should make you happy. Look, we have children! Aren't you grateful?" | /r/TheRedPill | 13/10/14 06:16 PM |
| 0 | Wife Is Resistant...First of all, lay down the law. If you don't want the rigmarole of a sudden divorce and paternal rights battles, then maybe take a month or so to yourself, rent a motel room or move in with a friend, to show her how good she has it. If she just becomes bitter that you left (in other words: completely misses the point), then you've got someone almost completely incorrigible. It's your decision then whether you put up with it and return to Betadom or whether you leave and find yourself something b… | /r/TheRedPill | 13/10/14 12:06 PM |
| 2 | As a woman, is it bad to have some male personality traits?Yeah, pretty much. Some exceptions, some matriarchs or bossy people that look like den mothers, but generally a good guideline for women who take charge successfully. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/14 11:12 AM |
| 1 | The guy you marry is just your friend! Huh!?I wouldn't call the above a bad marriage. The one who uses "justs" is clearly reminiscing about someone or something else, but take away the "justs" and she could easily be talking about a pleasant scenario. | /r/TheRedPill | 13/10/14 08:56 AM |
| 1 | As a woman, is it bad to have some male personality traits?OK then. A den-mother refers to a woman (often an older woman, but sometimes a maturely minded one) who keeps herself calm and collected and acts in the best interests of the group. Often she commands the respect of others without trying and she enjoys that respect and returns it so as to maintain a healthy group dynamic. She will guide people and inform them, where they are less educated or skilled she puts her foot down and where they are more skilled than her she will explain her intent and y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/14 08:54 AM |
| 1 | How do people react to your happiness in marriage?I think the "fights" issue is an odd one. Jon and I consider we've had maybe four or five fights in our relationship, seeing as at no other point was the relationship itself in need of "remodeling". However many people would think we "fight" all the time, as we often debate, play Devil's Advocate and have minor disagreements. In other words, what we consider part and parcel of living with another human being (having a disagreement, discussing, reaching consensus, moving on), they consider a life… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/14 08:50 AM |
| 1 | The guy you marry is just your friend! Huh!?N=1 (as I can't speak for the inner workings of other women), so to be taken with a grain of salt, but I found the man I wanted to marry as a 17yo virgin, and that's not because I wasn't approached, but because I had my mind set on a very specific sort of person and until him nobody else met the requirements. 21 now and we're in the countryside planning for a child and a smallholding. So from personal experience, at least one woman in this world wants a happy family life away from the ruckus and… | /r/TheRedPill | 13/10/14 08:47 AM |
| 2 | The guy you marry is just your friend! Huh!?The "safe choice" is what some women want. K-selection and all. | /r/TheRedPill | 12/10/14 07:21 PM |
| 11 | The guy you marry is just your friend! Huh!?The worst part is the "justs". She's rationalizing the loss of either an Alpha or someone who was genuinely highly compatible with her. Fine. Especially when someone close to you dies, I guess it's OK to rationalize a little so as to cope with the burden. But she seems to think she's doing partners and husbands a favour by telling them they're "just" a friend. Consider the difference in the implication: "My husband is my friend. He is the father of my children. He is not the sort of man you go t… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/10/14 03:39 PM |
| 3 | On "Manipulation" in TRP.You hit the nail on the head. Although, if it helps. I think there's one main thing anyone with even a little bit of fear about TRP is missing. We forget that humans are social, learning animals. A man who reads a lot about stocks and shares is still rich, even if he needed the books. His wealth is no less valid and if he can pass on (through genes or education) those traits that made him successful, it doesn't matter what those traits are. Likewise, women and men who learn TRP to better ourselv… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/14 03:20 PM |
| 6 | On "Manipulation" in TRP.Agreed there. The only people who benefit from direct, constant verbal affirmation of every action are: people with absolutely no empathy and low intellect (who can't observe or even rationalize what the other person is doing) and people who are incredibly insecure about every aspect of their lives and paranoid about everyone (who need to be continually assured of how loved and respected they are and have everyone's motives explained to them). For absolutely anyone else, continual verbal communi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/14 03:11 PM |
| 1 | On "Manipulation" in TRP.It's OK. I've spent so much time talking to Jon that I throw biology words around like I'm actually properly educated in it!v :p They are terms that refer to mating strategies adopted by animals. Some species are K-selected, which means they focus on the rearing of their infants. Lower fertility, high survival rate, loads of parental investment. Some are r-selected, which means they focus on producing a higher number of infants. Very high fertility, lower survival rate, lower parental investment… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/14 03:07 PM |
| 1 | How do people react to your happiness in marriage?Even if he's only a year older, he may still be viewed as marriageable by many older women. Glad you've also found someone happy to marry and look at having kids at a younger age. It's not that either way is terrible if you actually want it, but nowadays it can be so hard to find someone to settle down with when you're young! | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/14 03:00 PM |
| 1 | As a woman, is it bad to have some male personality traits?I can try and help, but not guaranteed as I don't know everything. What more would you like to know? | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/14 02:57 PM |
| 1 | Why do girls say they have BF's?If it's a date: I don't know. If you just opened her (especially outside a club setting): she either doesn't want sex or has been around a little and wants to have a break to feel like less of a slut. The former likely won't have sex, the latter probably will and with relative ease. Also possible she actually has a boyfriend, but wouldn't explain why you get it most of the time. | /r/askTRP | 11/10/14 06:12 PM |
| 4 | On "Manipulation" in TRP.I think another part of it is that many more feminist Blue Pill men see women's success through "niceness" as an illustration of women's inherent moral superiority, not as an illustration of different mating tactics. They assume, therefore, that a "nice" man's failure is down to personal issues, not the women he tries to attract and that, by that logic, Alpha men must be tricking these women into thinking they're "nice". The entire logic loop is based on: "Everybody wants a nice person and every… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/14 05:56 PM |
| 6 | Women are at fault for the so-called burden to be beautiful. Not the "Patriarchy".The issue a lot of Western women have is that their beauty isn't their primary sociosexual currency: it's their only one. They don't feel like they should promise loyalty, chastity and respect. They lack a feminine disposition. They have little to no practical skills. When you call them unattractive, you're saying they're destined for failure, to "settle for less", because your desire to have sex with them is averaged across other men's desire to have sex with them and that male desire is the on… | /r/TheRedPill | 11/10/14 05:17 PM |
| 3 | How do people react to your happiness in marriage?People whose options are running out (the older women and men your own age) sometimes view someone with options as "hogging resources" and become confused or angry at it. In their eyes when a woman marries young to an older man, she's taking two marriageable/mate-able items off the market: herself and her partner. People tend to view me as "older" or "wise for your years", so I don't tend to get hassle. Though they sometimes sound/look confused when I am "settling" before "having fun", yet happy… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/14 04:52 PM |
| 1 | Serious question from a third party male"the old school dynamic of monogamy and kind of the 50's housewife style of life." That's because that old-school relationship is what we want. You just think it's more wholesome because we live in a world where simple pleasures are viewed as inherently innocent and infantile and cute, whereas the desire for wealth, power and sex is viewed as inherently corrupt and depraved and immoral. In reality, women's biological imperatives are: -sustenance -safety -reproduction -sustenance and safety for t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/14 04:27 PM |
| 1 | Making you wait for sexThen with the second one there's a chance you either showed beta traits or showed "success" traits. Would be interesting to see you keep a log of when girls do that and what consistent patterns you see. | /r/TheRedPill | 11/10/14 04:17 PM |
| 1 | Woman makes world aware of her priorities.Yeah it just seems... odd. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/14 01:27 PM |
| 1 | Making you wait for sexSometimes all it takes for you to "scream beta bux" is for you to have the bux, sadly. Think of how many wealthy Alphas get girls throwing themselves at them and then trying to tie them down before they've got so much as a kiss. They want the status and the money. They want the Alpha. They want commitment. They want the manicorn. The only thing to do if you don't want a family or a gold-digger is to walk away from them or to outright say what you want and that it's "my way or the highway", as it… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/10/14 11:39 AM |
| 2 | What makes a man high value?I think one issue a lot of women have is we biologically want the "trio": looks, money and masculine demeanour. Yet we also have sociological and psychological requirements and often these can go unchecked and hold us back, especially if having a partner is a priority of ours. Because I'm a bit too self-centred and very fussy, my first criterion was "Be like me." Not as in demeanour or ambition, but I wanted someone who shared (or at least understood) my hobbies, sociopolitical outlook, career p… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/14 07:03 AM |
| 1 | What are some other subs that you ladies follow?TRP askTRP DIY docuentaries Fitness Writing Prompts traditionalism Trying For a Baby Parenting Frugal | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/14 06:56 AM |
| 2 | Woman makes world aware of her priorities.It's just weird, right? Glad I'm not the only one who's confused. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/14 06:35 AM |
| 1 | Woman makes world aware of her priorities.Lunchables-for-dinner kids aren't happy healthy kids. :( The worst part is a lot of these parents assume the kids get a "good wholesome hot meal" at lunch, which can make them very easygoing about dinner choices. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/14 08:18 PM |
| 1 | Woman makes world aware of her priorities.I think her point was meant to be "Not everyone has the time and means to feed their children with tasty fresh food, complex carbs and protein every breakfast." Instead it came across as "My kids eat bread for breakfast, but it's OK because I made it myself and that gives me time to get myself fruit. I feel tempted to pretend they have fruit too, but really they don't." PS: The breakfasts in the article she links to are gorgeous though. A serving of fish, rice and veg isn't a bad breakfast at al… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/14 08:15 PM |
| 1 | Any ideas for doing something really out of the ordinary for your SO?Absolutely. Sometimes when your life is full of "business" clutter the best thing in the world is having someone free up some time for you, or take a little off your shoulders. A physical gift can hardly be appreciated or used when you're cleaning the car or doing the dishes, after all. :) With how sheltered and princessed a lot of Western women are, it can take a while to notice that presents, whilst nice, aren't really a man's priority. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/14 08:09 PM |
| 2 | Woman makes world aware of her priorities.Agreed. I know that being a mother isn't going to be all glamour and dress-up games, but I definitely hope that when I'm making breakfast I consider my children first and the family health as a close second. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/14 08:03 PM |
| 2 | Woman makes world aware of her priorities.Not so much about the food as that I just find her priorities weird. As she said, she could have given the kids some fruit, and getting children to eat fruit and vegetables is important. Bread gives you energy, but micronutrients are also vital for mental and hormonal health, focus and growth. It concerns me that she was there eating prepared fruit and that most days she hands the kids bread or cake and thinks "good enough". | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/14 08:02 PM |
| 2 | The number of partners before she's no longer considered LTR material.Common problems: -social anxiety -endogenous depression -extreme phobias Often medicated for one, though for some meds just don't work. | /r/TheRedPill | 09/10/14 09:14 AM |
| 2 | As a woman, is it bad to have some male personality traits?1: I'm like that. It usually shows up in non-empaths or people with low or controlled empathy. I view it as positive because it allows me to behave calmly in most scenarios. Plus, I don't really know anything else, so trying to fake greater emotional depth would be exhausting. Some men find it frustrating or boring, some like it. 2: To most men, demeanor means more than hobbies. If he's into country and cycling, you're unlikely to find him get angry about metal and weights. Plus, plenty of men l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/14 08:21 AM |
| 2 | Any ideas for doing something really out of the ordinary for your SO?Have you considered, then, that maybe he's so kind to you because he feels lucky to have you? Jon swaps from stoic to empathic a little randomly. Sometimes the smallest thing elicits an emotion and sometimes he recovers quickly from what should be a traumatizing event. But I know that whether he gets overly excited about something or just kisses me and thanks me, he appreciates it equally. And if I try and outdo myself to elicit an emotional response he can stay calm and just does more nice thin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/14 08:12 AM |
| 2 | Any ideas for doing something really out of the ordinary for your SO?What is his favourite room in the house? Make a basket, or get a cheap piece of furniture to do up so he can use it better. For example, I sewed an under-the-table hammock for Jon to keep his favourite games and controller in when he's not using them, so if he wants to sit down and play on the Xbox for a while he can without digging through his games pile or untangling wires, but he can leave them out for anywhere from an hour to a week without cluttering up the TV cabinet. What is something he'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/14 08:00 AM |
| 2 | Showing Her Appreciation LTRWhatever she appreciates. The little things are often the best. For example, Jon gets me daffodils in Spring because he knows they're my favourite flower. Or he finds me workout gear or books. That sort of stuff warms the heart. Maybe a nice date somewhere she'd enjoy going and a thoughtful little gift? It lets you be kind and loving without going too sappy or overboard. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/14 04:10 PM |
| 2 | I enjoy spending time with a girl who keeps resisting my advancesAs long as your needs are satisfied and you feel your investment (time, energy, money) is worth the reward (enjoyable time together, making out), then carry on. It's your decision. The only possible issue I can see is oneitis developing for a girl who may never see you sexually. | /r/askTRP | 08/10/14 09:21 AM |
| 2 | Does TheRedPill promote objectifying women?TRP seems to say that if a woman presents herself as an object she shouldn't be shocked to be treated as one. Which I guess meets many feminists' idea of objectification. | /r/askTRP | 08/10/14 09:16 AM |
| 1 | Talking my brother out of getting married?If it's religious pressure, then suggest that they have a small, cheap ceremony and a religious event (in other words, married before God, but not before the state) and consider "formalizing" it when they don't have a young child. Really push the point of how much more important the child and God are than the state-issued certificate. It should pull on her heart/hamster as well, especially if she's quite traditional. | /r/TheRedPill | 08/10/14 09:05 AM |
| 2 | How people manage to sustain their marriages past 15 years?From my readings: -in the few human tribes where marriages and divorces exist side by side with polygamy and plates, yet everything is unstigmatized, anywhere from 15-60% of partnerships become lifelong -around 25% of the human population has the potential for monogamy -seeing as for a member of that 25%, finding a partner who is also from the 25% would be 1/8, that should yield a marriage success rate of 10-15% -currently there are 13-15% happy, long-term, monogamous marriages -women with lower… | /r/askTRP | 08/10/14 08:35 AM |
| 1 | FWB has a much higher sex drive, how to turn down sex?Make yourself busy, encourage her to keep busy, hope she gets tired out a little. If her sex drive doesn't go down, just tell her to take care of herself or "assist" her in other ways. High libido women can sometimes make the mistake of thinking "he did it once, so he can do it again" or "I hit the jackpot here" and not realizing the guy doesn't actually have a libido to match ours. We basically need to be told where everything stands. Source: very high libido woman with normal libido partner. | /r/askTRP | 08/10/14 08:25 AM |
| 1 | Television shows with homemaking characters?The Darling Buds of May has been my inspiration for a family ever since I was little. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/14 08:14 AM |
| 5 | I'm a severely mentally ill and low libido. Can I get a red pill man? Where do I fit in the red pill?I second (third, fourth?) everyone else here. You are your main priority. There are two lies you need to shed off before mate-hunting. The first is a Blue Pill lie: "I need a man who accepts me for what I am, and a perfect man will do so." The better the man, the higher the price. You need to work on yourself as a person and as a woman to attract the best man possible. The second is a societal lie: "I have a mental illness, so I can't do anything." There are always ways of making your own life e… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/14 08:08 AM |
| 1 | Boyfriend's low libido early in a relationship and lack of time being spent togetherTrust me, it's just as depressing from the guy's perspective. All they want in bed is to enjoy sex and make us happy. And society tells them they've failed for not having the libido of a young teenager on steroids who's just discovered porn. It was a bit of a let down to discover that multiple times a day is exceptional for most men and that generally once every other day is normal, though. The best we can do is deal with the hand fortune gave us and be grateful for what we have. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/14 08:05 AM |
| 1 | Boyfriend's low libido early in a relationship and lack of time being spent togetherDidn't know that. Interesting to ponder if he'd consider trying it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/14 06:33 PM |
| 1 | Boyfriend's low libido early in a relationship and lack of time being spent togetherWhat, in his sleep? I'm sure there has to be something in the Geneva Convention about that. Also, if it's directed at my specific situation: he has a normal libido. Once every other day, sometimes every day. If anything I'm the one with a problem. Considering men only fully regenerate sperm every 12 hours and that we need to work, what I want is a biological and logistical impossibility. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/14 06:24 PM |
| 1 | Making you wait for sexExcept most women don't see sex as a relationship. Some of us view sex, fidelity and our wombs as the most expensive relationship currencies we have. We offer the rest of the relationship and wait and see whether he's interested in us as mothers to his future children and housewives for his ideal home. If not, why devalue our currency with a man we can't realistically settle with? | /r/TheRedPill | 07/10/14 06:17 PM |
| 0 | Making you wait for sexFrom the perspective of a woman who made guys wait: For some of us it's just a filtering process. I wanted someone who would stay with me. I knew the men who wouldn't stay would not be happy to wait as long as I wanted to. Some were honest about intentions, so we cut it off. Some were dishonest, so they waited until they realized they weren't getting any in the first five dates, after which they disappeared. The final result was favourable for the honest guys and myself, not so much for the guys… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/10/14 05:25 PM |
| 7 | Need your advice - plate wants to have sex w/o condomsSuggest textured condoms. If she further insists: walk. Women only want condomless sex when we think it will "lock a guy down" or when we want a baby. In fact, consider walking anyway as she may start pricking condoms if a baby is her goal. | /r/TheRedPill | 07/10/14 05:13 PM |
| 1 | He's driving me nuts, I'm probably driving him nuts. Halp!Don't ignore the clinginess. It means he desperately wants you to love him which is good (however unlikely it is to get you ready for sexytimes) because many people after years of marriage lose that love and that need. Start talking to him about what you're doing at the gym. Calm his concerns. If your PT is a woman, say so. If your PT is a man, make a few passing comments about how you think the PT might be gay. Offer him healthier foods "to try" and find something he likes. You could even sugge… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/14 04:51 PM |
| 1 | Found on FF. 25 things you should avoid ever thinking, let alone saying.Ah, OK. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/14 04:00 PM |
| 1 | Boyfriend's low libido early in a relationship and lack of time being spent togetherHello from a fellow "higher sex drive than him" sister. First a disclaimer: Some people have higher or lower sex-drives. This is natural. There are things you can tweak, but generally it will hover toward high or low no matter what you do. Imagine it as a scale of 0-10 where it can be boosted or decreased by two points but not flipped. What you can do to cope with urges: -cuddle and snuggle more, the oxytocin that forms during gentle contact is relieving and helps you keep physically bonded -hav… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/14 03:55 PM |
| 1 | Looking for anecdotes and tips for first time housewives.Thank you. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/14 03:26 PM |
| 1 | Looking for anecdotes and tips for first time housewives.Thank you. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/14 03:25 PM |
| 1 | Looking for anecdotes and tips for first time housewives.Thank you very much. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/14 03:24 PM |
| 1 | Looking for anecdotes and tips for first time housewives.Excellent. Thank you. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/14 03:24 PM |
| 1 | [x-post] from /r/thegirlsurvivalguide Claiming this article is vile. After taking TRP, I could say most of these sound like valid questionable behaviors that anyone in a relationship should be concerned about.Some of the criticisms are daft. Things they have ignored: -Not being intimate with your partner /does/ leave a "vacancy" for intimacy. -Being more intimate with anyone else /does/ delegate your partner to being a friend. -Being close and friendly with someone in private /can/ lead them on or create a bond. But they seem to think that when you enter a partnership Disney-mode is activated and all of a sudden attraction can't lessen, nobody else can become attractive and nothing will end anything.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/14 02:50 PM |
| 1 | Cooking plain white Rice - How to add flavour?I have a few herb bushes and my favourites are sage and curry leaf. Add a leaf of sage and a few sprigs of curry leaf; a bit of coriander and lemon; chilli powder and thyme to your rice for the flavours to steam in. You can also make mixers if you have more time. Use tomato and olive oil as a base and add caramelized onion, bacon bits, herbs, spices, minced veg or whatever, pan-boil it until it smells rich and transfer into a mason jar in the fridge. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/14 02:30 PM |
| 3 | Girl game question: the paradox of withholding sex until exclusivityI held out pretty much forever, so my n=1 is that it worked and helped me get the exact man I was looking for. However, the curious part is the Alphaness. From a male perspective, few seem certain of what he is. He's been called anywhere from an extreme Alpha (as he is able to get women to approach him and could bed a reasonable number if he liked) to an extreme Beta (as he wanted a monogamous marriage and was prepared to wait months to have sex with the woman he wanted to marry). In my eyes he'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/14 02:25 PM |
| 1 | Good evening Red Pill Women. I have a simple question. How did you know know he is the one?There was sexual attraction. It didn't disappear after a few dates. There was interest in him as a person. It didn't disappear after a few months. He passed the test at that point and is still passing with flying colours today, over four years after first meeting him and three and a half years after starting dating. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/14 08:08 PM |
| 2 | Sunday Secrets made me sad todayYou misinterpret her, but not in the way she'd claim you're misinterpreting her. What she really means is "I find him unattractive and those statements just make me feel self-conscious, like I'm forced to have sex and bored." Now, she may find him unattractive because she "settled" after years of messing around. Or because the relationship's gone a bit stale. Or because he started doing something she doesn't like. Or even just because he says those things at really inopportune times. But any way… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/14 08:05 PM |
| 4 | What is the standard for a successful women?Success is far more personal than some would believe. It's kind of like a second RedPill to take. First one: society has lied to you, being a rich, single 40-something woman doesn't make you a success in terms of partnerships. Second one: RP has lied to you (kinda), following what someone else tells you to do or working hard to be sexually appealing doesn't make you a personal success. The way RP helps is it hangs your biological imperatives out in the open (OK, so that sounded a bit dirty) and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/14 07:44 PM |
| 2 | WE HIT 7500 SUBSCRIBERS!! Lurkers and Newbies--Come Out and Say HI!Pleased to meet you. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/10/14 04:41 PM |
| 2 | WE HIT 7500 SUBSCRIBERS!! Lurkers and Newbies--Come Out and Say HI!Hey there! Long time no see! | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/10/14 04:41 PM |
| 3 | WE HIT 7500 SUBSCRIBERS!! Lurkers and Newbies--Come Out and Say HI!Hey, had a number of viewers referred to my blog from here, so decided to check it out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/10/14 04:28 PM |
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