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| 1 | Women always dump me. The first few dates/weeks go great, then it’s like my “game” vanishes. Tips?Lol I worry about that sometimes honestly. It’s one thing I’ve always been a little insecure about. I’ve had sex with different girls, but none for a very long period of time. So I feel like I could be lacking in the “fun” department when it comes to sex. Always doing the same thing, etc. but idk where to begin to improve. | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 08:52 PM |
| 1 | Women always dump me. The first few dates/weeks go great, then it’s like my “game” vanishes. Tips?All of my last 3 relationships we had sex within the first few dates and fairly regularly after that | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 08:45 PM |
| 1 | I'm always confident/sexual at first, then feel as if I become needy... tips?Thank you for the replies everyone! And reading my big ass wall of text. I need to start approaching again, and no matter what.. no matter how hot the girl is, how good she is in bed (if it gets to that point), how much we have in common, I HAVE to continue meeting women, instead of just closing my doors as soon as I meet someone that seems remotely interested. | /r/seduction | 02/10/18 02:19 PM |
| 2 | I'm always confident/sexual at first, then feel as if I become needy... tips?I think you hit the nail on the head there. I'm super confident/sexual at first, then once I've bedded them, I feel as if I've "won" them over, and kinda stop trying in a sense. I don't want to try too hard, but going into it with a frame of being extremely sexual/confident to just platonic with a little flirting/compliments here and there is probably not the best way to go about this. Earlier this summer after this girl ghosted me, I vowed to day game approach at least 1 girl a day. It went wel… | /r/seduction | 02/10/18 02:17 PM |
| 2 | I'm always confident/sexual at first, then feel as if I become needy... tips?I think really I just want to be able to have options while maintaining an actual friendship with these girls. I remember I had a coworker who got a text from some girl that said "Chinese food and sex?" which is pretty much what I'm going for; to have someone I could hit up for sex and to hang out, but nothing more than that. I haven't met enough women to even know what I would like in an actual girlfriend, so I feel that going with a more "casual" route is the better way to go about this. | /r/seduction | 02/10/18 02:13 PM |
| 2 | How do I hook up with this mature woman? [Long]Just game and flirt with her like you would anyone else. When I slept with my 30 year old hairdresser, I literally did nothing differently than what I've done with girls my age/younger. I thought it would be different but it was exactly the same; make sure to escalate. | /r/seduction | 14/04/18 07:29 AM |
| 16 | What is an appropriate response to a girl who seemed interested but then ignored a text asking for a date?I'd personally just let it be. I've met girls daygaming who seemed extremely receptive, and they'd end up just not replying after what I thought was a "solid" number close. Just keep approaching mayne. | /r/seduction | 23/11/17 03:17 PM |
| 1 | Do you use ANY 'canned stuff'?I mean, the only "canned" thing I really do is opening with "hey, you're cute" or something along those lines. I don't like doing routines and shit because it feels fake. After that, I proceed into having a normal conversation, obviously with some flirting. When I used to still night game, I'd make eye contact with girls, smile really big and make up some random name and act like I knew her "OMG alyssa, I haven't seen you in forever, how have you been?!". You can usually tell by how they react a… | /r/seduction | 23/11/17 02:25 AM |
| 1 | Need some advice on situation with girl I met on TinderYou must escalate next time you two get together if you want to have sex with her! If you're sitting close to her when you're watching netflix or whatever, as she leans on you, say her name, and once she looks at you, just tell her "you're so cute" or some shit like that, and go for a kiss. If she's not up for it, it's not the end of the world, it's only a learning experience. I met this girl on tinder in the summer. Convo started off strong, and got sexual pretty quick. We set up a date, and th… | /r/seduction | 23/11/17 02:21 AM |
| 3 | Met with chick, couldn't escalateIt's kind of tricky to escalate in a setting like that. Plus, the homework part makes it even more difficult. I would have recommended to tell her to come with you after to do something fun, like get coffee or something. Then come up with an excuse to either bounce to her or your place "lets go bake a cake" or something. Once you're in a private setting, it's much easier | /r/seduction | 22/11/17 08:10 PM |
| 2 | First kiss attempt rejected, not sure what to make of it.I wouldn't worry about it much. Unless she texted you that night saying "let's just be friends" it's still on. A few years ago I met some girl when I was daygaming. She invited me to her house a few days later and she turned down a kiss. Maybe 2 or so dates later, she gives the puppy dog eyes and let's me kiss her, and one thing led to another. Not all girls are open to kissing right away. But then again, I'm sure it depends on the context. Like mentioned above, doing it in a humorous manner wor… | /r/seduction | 27/10/17 10:34 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Chubby chick requests date with me...Haha the hairy legs part made me laugh. I met this girl daygaming that said "I don't shave, I hope you don't mind" as we were making out at her place. Then she took her shirt off and had hairy armpits; a very foreign sight to see for me. | /r/seduction | 12/08/17 07:14 AM |
| 1 | FR: Kino makes a world of a difference...Its weird cause I usually hate being baked around a girl because it can make me overthink. But I've also realized its a much easier way to escalate a date to mine or her place since so many people do it haha. And I'm not too into drinking at all. | /r/seduction | 16/06/17 02:36 AM |
| 1 | Exactly 25 numbers in 3 months and every single one of them failed.I don't get dates with every number close I've done, but I've found that instadates help. And don't think about sex much. When you're talking to the girl, find something about her you like, or think is funny. Then you'll actually seem interested in her, and not just her vagina. | /r/seduction | 06/06/17 10:47 PM |
| 1 | FR: Kino makes a world of a difference...Yes exactly. And maintain eye contact while doing so. The sooner you do this in the interaction/date, the easier it is to continue it. If you hesitate, you'll get more and more nervous. | /r/seduction | 01/06/17 02:24 PM |
| 2 | Can't F****** approach. Feeling depressed.Just go out with the intention of opening 1 girl, as in, compliment, bla bla bla. Try to be consistent. If I tell myself "approach that girl" I start thinking too much, about what to say, if she'll be interested, etc. If I tell myself to just open her, and think about nothing else.. not only do I approach with more ease, I also end up feeling less nervous as the conversation goes on. | /r/seduction | 01/06/17 01:38 AM |
| 1 | Girls online won't even talk to me. Do I have hope approaching in person?I'm in the same boat. I've had some luck on tinder... but I've met girls just as cute, if not cuter in real life with more success. I just don't really use tinder much but every once in a blue moon, a cute girl will have mutual feelings. And I understand people talk about having an "interesting" profile, but I'd rather not put so much effort into trying to look interesting online... instead, just BEING interesting in person, whether it be day or night game. When you want to learn, make an effort… | /r/seduction | 01/06/17 12:56 AM |
| 1 | For all the successful DM divers - how do I DM a girl and what comes after that?Man that was 2 years ago, it hasn't happened since. I made an account on some dating website and worked on messaging girls for like 4 months. It was a shitty website, and no cute girls lived near me. I'd just message girls I thought were cute that "admired" me (that's how the website worked) and eventually when the rare opportunity came up, I went for it, and it worked, I used to feel the same way. Shit I STILL do. I have friends that use Tinder and get matches with hot ass girls all the time, a… | /r/seduction | 05/04/16 12:54 AM |
| 4 | For all the successful DM divers - how do I DM a girl and what comes after that?I haven't had too much luck with meeting girls that way, but times I have, we usually just exchange a few messages (girl randomly added me, so I made some comments about that, talked about mutual friends, etc), mention at some point that you think they're cute, then you give them your phone number. The last time it happened, here's exactly how it went. She added, me, I messaged her, I ask what ethnicity she is because she looks Filipino (I am as well), ask if she likes sushi, tell her to be my s… | /r/seduction | 04/04/16 07:10 PM |
| 1 | How to game solo?Thanks man. I'm 22. It took me forever to get the hang of going out solo, but I find places with a dance floor are a lot easier for me. I can't imagine just sitting in an extremely crowded tight bar by myself. But with this club downtown I go to, I'll usually dance, and people start jokingly dancing around me, then SOMETIMES I'll have the balls to start gaming. When girls approach me it's not too difficult but it's kind of hard to get the ball rolling unless I'm dancing. Then I'll leave the danc… | /r/seduction | 04/04/16 04:36 AM |
| 1 | How to game solo?I'll have to look into that. I dance by myself all the time but I feel like I get carried away, and end up just dancing without doing anything else. I sometimes prefer day game because I feel like the process isn't as complicated (just approach girls you think are cute). Whereas with night game, things like "social status" are mentioned, where you talk to everyone around you, then when you approach, you don't look like some random dude that just came out of no where. I've been pretty shy growing… | /r/seduction | 04/04/16 04:33 AM |
| 1 | What's your style?I tend to be extremely sarcastic and exaggerate when I tease. This girl I met a few weekends ago had a really nice hat and I genuinely liked the way it looked on her. She told me about some Vegas trip she was on and that she convinced the bartender she's a magician. I started poking fun of her hat and asked her if she could pull a rabbit out of it haha. It also depends on the girl though. When it's a girl who's obviously extremely receptive and into me (girls that make the moves on you first), I… | /r/seduction | 26/03/16 06:12 PM |
| 3 | need your perspective: asking for a kiss verbally? (Please read)If you ever verbally bring up a kiss (which I don't do much), tell her to kiss you, not ask. And it has to be in a playful way. For example, some girl at the bar a few weekends ago said something that I jokingly acted upset about, and when she said some shit like "I'm sorry, do you forgive me?" I told her to kiss me and she did. When you put so much pressure onto kisses and think about it so much, it's terrifying. | /r/seduction | 26/03/16 05:52 PM |
| 0 | How do I get laid at 19?Day game/online dating. My goal was to lose my virginity before I turned 20, and I lost it like 3 days before just barely haha. Getting laid from day game is a little trickier though, that's only happened to me once. Online dating is the easiest though. It's easy in a sense that you can go straight to sex (for me at least, it's easier to bring up sexual topics online, then by the time I meet up with the girl, she's already down, but harder because it seems like the girls are more picky). | /r/seduction | 26/03/16 04:55 PM |
| 0 | How do I get laid at 19?Day game/online dating. My goal was to lose my virginity before I turned 20, and I lost it like 3 days before just barely haha. Getting laid from day game is a little trickier though, that's only happened to me once. Online dating is the easiest though. It's easy in a sense that you can go straight to sex (for me at least, it's easier to bring up sexual topics online, then by the time I meet up with the girl, she's already down, but harder because it seems like the girls are more picky). | /r/seduction | 26/03/16 04:55 PM |
| 0 | How do I get laid at 19?Day game/online dating. My goal was to lose my virginity before I turned 20, and I lost it like 3 days before just barely haha. Getting laid from day game is a little trickier though, that's only happened to me once. Online dating is the easiest though. It's easy in a sense that you can go straight to sex (for me at least, it's easier to bring up sexual topics online, then by the time I meet up with the girl, she's already down, but harder because it seems like the girls are more picky). | /r/seduction | 26/03/16 04:55 PM |
| 1 | How do I get laid at 19?Day game/online dating. My goal was to lose my virginity before I turned 20, and I lost it like 3 days before just barely haha. Getting laid from day game is a little trickier though, that's only happened to me once. Online dating is the easiest though. It's easy in a sense that you can go straight to sex (for me at least, it's easier to bring up sexual topics online, then by the time I meet up with the girl, she's already down, but harder because it seems like the girls are more picky). | /r/seduction | 26/03/16 04:55 PM |
| 1 | Didn't approach today, and I can't stop obsessively thinking about it. Tips? One of my biggest sticking points..Thank you for the support guys! I will keep the 3 second rule in mind from now on. | /r/seduction | 26/03/16 03:42 PM |
| 1 | Passing shit tests?Ok I will keep that in mind for next time. I tend to eject when I'm not 100% sure the girl is receptive, it's a bad habit D:. | /r/seduction | 19/04/15 05:57 AM |
| 1 | Passing shit tests?Thank you! The "amplify" thing is kind of what I do already, so I guess I'm doing good so far! | /r/seduction | 19/04/15 05:57 AM |
| 1 | Difficulty Gaming In Front Of OthersWell think about it from a different perspective. If you were to see a guy hitting on a girl, whether he was succeeding or not, you probably wouldn't care right? In all honestly, you probably wouldn't even be able to tell what's going on unless you're standing RIGHT next to them during the interaction. Point is, it's unlikely that people around you even know what you're doing, and even if they do, it doesn't matter anyway. | /r/seduction | 05/05/14 05:44 AM |
| 1 | I have too delicate of an ego to approach girls unless I'm hammered. How do I get OVER it?You have to force yourself to do it sober. Once you do it once, even if it's fucking terrible, you'll feel better. You have to keep doing it over and over, and soon enough, you'll develop somewhat of a social callous and you won't care anymore. I remember when I first started approaching, if I got rejected, I would feel like someone punched me in the throat and would want to go home haha. Now, it doesn't even really mean much anymore. Yeah, I don't approach as much as I'd like, but when I get "r… | /r/seduction | 05/05/14 05:38 AM |
| 2 | [FR] From OKCupid to My Place - Mixed Signals, or Did I Just Blow it?You should have just went for the kiss faster. If a girl from the internet is down to meet up with you right then and there, AND lets you pick her up and go to your place, she's into you. Always assume attraction unless you get an obvious "rejection". This one girl I met on Facebook ended up coming over after flaking on our "dates" like 4 times, and we started making out right when we got to my house. We never even really had a convo until after the "deed" was done heh. | /r/seduction | 05/05/14 05:31 AM |
| 1 | Drunk girls? ErmI got it at Pacsun. It's a tie dye shirt with a cat on it haha. | /r/seduction | 04/05/14 08:47 PM |
| 3 | Bring a girl to your place after first date when both of you drove?I was thinking of telling her the same exact thing. Most likely I'll tell her to just park at my place, then I'll bring her inside to show her that my dogs wear diapers, have a laugh, then we'll head on out. | /r/seduction | 01/04/14 09:21 PM |
| 1 | 20 y.o. male, going on my first date ever. Nervous as all hell. How should I go about this?As cliche as it sounds, be yourself. Don't try too hard, but don't not say anything either. She showed interest in you by adding you, so surely she will actively be making efforts to keep convos going on the date, so it should be a piece of cake. Good luck dude! I went on my first date ever in June and it wasn't so bad. | /r/seduction | 30/08/13 06:06 AM |
| 1 | How to not care what others think during approach?Ok, think about it like this... When you're out doing something, whether it be running errands, hanging out with friends, etc.. do you really notice anything anyone else is doing? Probably not, unless they're directly interacting with you, or doing something outrageous like screaming or something. So like everyone said, everyone else is busy living their lives, they probably won't give a shit. Also, once you've done a decent amount of approaches, you'll realize that during the interaction, you d… | /r/seduction | 30/08/13 05:57 AM |
| 1 | Daygame: Approaching a two set or more, your balls will be testedGet comfortable with the situation first. My second ever approach (done a total of 42) was a set, and I got a number from one of them, but that's only cause the other had a boyfriend. But still, to this day, I've yet to get a number close from a set. I'm still not too good at approaching sets, but I'm not as terrified of it as I was before. BUT I still do have those questions you have... "which do I flirt with" "who's number do I ask for" etc. The next time you day game, try just going for every… | /r/seduction | 16/06/13 05:24 AM |
| 1 | The greatest trick I know for beating Approach AnxietyThis really does help, a lot. I never really thought it would make much of a difference, but oh boy, did it. I sarged solo for the first time ever last week (I usually go out with friends. even though they don't approach, I always thought it'd be easier with them around just in case I get rejected). Literally, after the first set I saw, I waited a bit longer than I should have, and felt nervous as shit. Next cute girl I saw, I turned around right after she walked by, and opened. I literally had … | /r/seduction | 16/06/13 05:06 AM |
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