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brushshstrokes/r/RedPillWomen18/06/23 01:15 AM
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I'd take it as a compliment. They probably wouldn't ask if they thought you looked old.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/23 07:15 PM
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Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/23 01:38 PM
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That's fine. You don't have to jump into things quicker than you're comfortable with. The point of Genuine Burning Desire is to prevent dead bedrooms/divorce, so as long as you hypothetically would want to commit to sleeping with him forever, that's good enough. It was certainly more than enough for marriages of the past.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/23 01:15 AM
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I take time to want to kiss or hold hands with someone regardless of their physical appearance and personality (some of these men are hot). If they're "hot," that means you're attracted to them, no?
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/23 10:32 PM
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Yeah maybe removing it is best then
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/23 02:42 PM
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Are the things you have depression and anxiety about specific? If so I would just deal with the specific issue one by one. EDITED TO ADD: I also wonder if you're blaming the IUD instead of dealing with the fact that you had a miscarriage. Having a miscarriage can cause all these symptoms too.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/23 02:34 PM
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What if you don't pass the bar?
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/23 07:19 PM
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It's a little bit like jumping into a swimming pool. You don't really know what it's like until you're in it.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/23 06:09 PM
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Fair enough. What are your concerns?
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/23 05:20 AM
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"The Rules Revisited: How to Date as a Virgin" http://www.therulesrevisited.com/2014/04/how-to-date-as-virgin.html?m=1
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/23 04:54 AM
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I left him. Thank you for the advice. I am in nun mode now and working on weight loss. He had other women he was seeing and I figured he wouldn't give that up for me.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/23 12:10 AM
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The men who only want virgins won't even date non-virgins. At worst you'll be rejected on a date.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/23 05:00 PM
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Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/23 11:05 PM
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I may be making an assumption here, but are you trying to change men to become more dominant?
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/23 12:03 AM
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Congratulations on the plates. How do you determine hot, average, or below average? Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/23 12:20 AM
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Congratulations on the plates. Out of curiosity, how do you determine hot, average, or below average? Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/23 12:19 AM
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Congratulations!
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/23 11:30 PM
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Well, of course. The point of the abuse is him trying to control you.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/23 07:05 PM
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My rule is my height and taller so it really bums me out when guys lie. Also, it's not like it's a hard ask, since I'm 5'4"
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/23 07:03 PM
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Lmao
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/23 07:01 PM
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Hey man you're doing your best lol
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/23 06:59 PM
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One thing that's underappreciated about OLD is that everybody lists their drug/drinking habits. Makes selection easier imo
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/23 06:58 PM
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For me a man is RP only if he's read the literature. Like you said, they're trad.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/23 06:49 PM
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F&F defended Rollo's dumb vasectomy take and being against "family creation." Seems pretty anti-family to me, even though you aren't technically right that they used to promote men settling down I their 40s and women in their 20s.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/23 06:21 PM
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You trad cons You know we aren't all trad cons, right? Although u/pearlsandstilettos did leave due to trad con saturation.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/23 06:14 PM
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I just don't see what the value of "wrecking" people is. That video style alone seems like it would continue a man's Anger Phase.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/23 06:12 PM
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But Myron's advice of working to become high value and only being traditional/chivalrous for women that are traditional is good advice because most women want a guy to be traditional without being traditional themselves which makes it a bad deal for men if we are willing to make money, hit the gym, and learn game for women that aren't willing to stop going to the club, dressing slutty, or be submissive. If you put enough effort into making money, hitting the gym, and learning game, you will find…
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/23 06:07 PM
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Michael Knowles and Matt Walsh aren't RP.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/23 05:52 PM
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Some people are bad texters. I myself will sometimes procrastinate on texting for no reason. It's probably nothing.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/23 08:54 PM
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Yes please
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/23 07:01 PM
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You know, that's a really good point. I think I did get together with him for bad reasons. I had recently become Redpilled when I read an article on the Rules Revisited that said that women don't end up married to men who are as attractive as former alpha lovers. So, I set out to get back with one of my former lovers. Then I miraculously found him again. I thought it would work out but I realized I made mistakes (sleeping with him the first time I saw him again with no BC, being fat, wearing no …
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/23 02:13 AM
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Please don't lose your virginity to him. Once that's gone you can't get it back.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/23 07:23 PM
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What makes you think that?
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/23 10:48 PM
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That's definitely a red flag, yeah
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/23 09:19 PM
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What can you do if you've had sex with many people? Is it just over now and there's nothing you can do about it?
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/23 02:49 AM
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What is the goal of these guided questions? How will I know that they've worked?
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/23 04:53 PM
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What if my answers are the bad ones? I don't want them to be but if they are I'm not sure how to change
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/23 07:56 PM
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Thank you. And thank you for your questions by the way, they are helping to consider the way forward. In the past I've let societal pressure dictate my romantic decisions and that's not a pattern I want to repeat moving forward. And, at the same time, I want to offer the most value I can.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/23 05:14 PM
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Skills to cultivate to be a good wife: check the side bar. It has all sorts of resources and guides.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/23 04:14 PM
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I went through years of celibacy after my wild days but then recently brok it and had sex with one guy. Should I wait an extra few years to put distance? I'm 25.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/23 03:26 PM
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How do I change for real reasons? Let's say I want to find a good man and get married before I hit the wall. How do I do that in a way that isn't disingenuous?
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/23 04:30 AM
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If you already had casual sex, is there a way to undo this damage?
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/23 04:57 PM
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You did! Thank you so much!
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/23 04:16 PM
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That's helpful, thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/23 03:41 AM
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How do I resensitize myself to love and loyalty? How do I avoid divorce and infidelity?
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/23 03:15 AM
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Maybe you could get a remote job or another job you could work part time from home at while you work as a stay at home mother.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/23 12:02 AM
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When you say professional/financial backing, what do you mean?
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/23 11:09 PM
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I envy you haha
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/23 06:18 PM
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I've never heard negging explained like this before. It sounds so fun! Now I wanna be negged lol
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/23 06:12 PM
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How so?
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 10:48 PM
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Realistically, more of your time and energy is going to go into the bipolar child.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/23 05:44 PM
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Confess that you lied and gracefully accept the consequences. Imo the lying about the body count part is really the issue here.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 09:04 PM
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If somebody allows you to control them it still makes the behavior controlling. His consent doesn't negate that.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 07:53 PM
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Yes. Tracking is abusive behavior
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 06:42 PM
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He won't. You're gonna cut him off.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 01:02 AM
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he made me almost go out and have casual sex I would regret later. Nobody "makes" us doing anything. We are each responsible for our own actions. Stop putting in so much energy into revenge. It's low value. Work on yourself if you want him to miss you.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 12:03 AM
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Yeah, pretty much.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 03:32 AM
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I did an online SMV calculator
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 03:19 AM
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If he's already agreed on exclusivity then he's your boyfriend! Maybe him being at work makes you feel needy. Do you have many friends outside the relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 08:49 PM
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Oh, duh! Yeah, those are much better examples.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 05:01 PM
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Anything related to hobbies you like. Hiking, knitting, etc. Stuff like that.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 02:22 AM
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You need to put yourself out there. Join clubs, go to bars, try OLD. Mr Right isn't going to form out of the ground like a golem.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 02:13 AM
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What if you're 25 and fat?
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 01:53 AM
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What do men say to you when they end things?
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 01:50 AM
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"Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough: Gottlieb, Lori: 9780451232168: Amazon.com: Books" https://www.amazon.com/Marry-Him-Case-Settling-Enough/dp/045123216X
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/23 08:57 PM
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You should make your own post
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/23 03:48 PM
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Come on, do better.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/23 03:32 PM
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If you're not happy in this situation you should change it or leave.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/23 03:25 PM
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If you really want him you should stop playing games, drop all the other men you are seeing and ask to be exclusive.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/23 03:19 PM
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Yes
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/23 03:12 PM
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Sexual Market Value/Relationship Market Value. It's explained on the wiki
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/23 03:06 PM
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Should I just continue doing the same stuff as with old guys? But then how do I get? And what about most, if not all men, who will see me as used up? What about long term risks to marriage?
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/23 01:51 PM
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That's what most of the book is about, yes, but the chapter on online dating is different. Like, sometimes people say they want to date a lawyer, but then they end up happy with an artist. It wasn't the job they were interested in, but the type of intellectual curiosity they had. So I would raise to OP, does she really want a guy who loves arts and humanities? Or a guy who is fun to go to museums with? Etc
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/23 12:49 PM
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I think you replied to the wrong person
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/23 02:32 AM
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I was recently reading a book called Marry Him: The Case For Mr. Good Enough by Lori Gottlieb. It has a chapter on online dating. One thing the chapter mentions is that people use OLD to look for disqualifiers that might not necessarily affect people's decision irl. For instance, a guy could be turned off by the fact you like jazz and orchestra, but if he was just striking a conversation at the bar he likely wouldn't care. Make sure you cast your net as wide as possible. Even relatively benign s…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/23 01:47 AM
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Yeah, he was nice. I guess I'll just move on though.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/23 01:43 AM
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What do you mean, be a nice person who has standards and boundaries? What does that mean in this context?
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/23 12:47 AM
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I don't have to do that it was just an idea
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/23 10:11 PM
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Should I move on?
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/23 10:09 PM
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My BMI is in the slightly obese range. I don't really know how to cook and my mental health/job situation is kind of a mess. I am not very feminine although I do wear dresses. I barely wear or know how to do makeup and my hair perpetually looks greasy.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/23 10:05 PM
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We went on 3 dates. We have been broken up for a couple of months. I just told him I didn't like him or want to be with him anymore. No I didn't sleep around while I was dating multiple people. Ex does not know how much I dated around.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/23 10:03 PM
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Laughing at his jokes, listening to what he says, smiling a lot, etc. Read the RPW wiki/sidebar too, it has lots of examples of how you can act feminine around men
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/23 08:18 PM
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Focus on feminine manner over appearance
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/23 08:14 PM
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He wants a virgin, most men do. Even with a body count of 1 you'll still be very sought after so make sure you learn the signs so you don't get played next time
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/23 06:59 PM
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he admitted that he does this to myself and his mom because he knows we love him enough we won’t leave. He maintains that everyone gets angry, and I’m lucky he treats me better than most men would These are the warning signs of abusive attitudes and behaviors. Leave.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/23 02:19 PM
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That's awesome!
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/23 04:00 AM
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What does this mean?
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/23 02:44 AM
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Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/23 06:23 PM
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Yes I just wanted to hear again
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/23 05:34 AM
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What are the consequences of casual sex?
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/23 03:46 AM
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Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/23 05:13 AM
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Which feminine behaviors?
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/23 04:02 AM
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Agreed, but sundresses specifically might give off a trad vibe
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/23 12:55 AM
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How can you use it if you've already given it up before? You can only play the V-Card once.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/23 07:35 PM
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Hm ok.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/23 07:18 PM
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Well, maybe not sundresses then. But if OP looked less wholesome she might stop attracting military types. (Assuming that her wholesomeness is what's attracting them)
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/23 02:49 AM
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You're right, they like them but sundresses typically give off a more conservative aura so she might want to try dressing like shoe0nhead or something
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/23 02:32 AM
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Wow nice! Way to go!
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/23 09:09 PM
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Right now I have no job, live with my parents, etc Don't you need a job, your own place, to date and get married? What about raising kids?
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/23 07:33 PM
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Whoo! Way to go! How do you get the discipline and the willpower?
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/23 07:32 PM
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Ok, I will, thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/23 07:31 PM
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How do you "hit the gym extra hard/look like an absolute lunatic while doing it"?
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/23 04:04 AM
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Maybe nix the sundresses and wear something that liberal guys would go for. Maybe a goth girl/emo girl look idk
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/23 03:42 AM
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How do you dress/carry yourself? What type of vibes do you give off?
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/23 03:35 AM
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What are the value differences? Could you be more specific?
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/23 02:08 AM
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I want to feel like I have a self and an identity. I feel like I will be more authentic as a man. And it wouldn't hurt to be an attractive dude who hits the gym either. I don't hate my body. I feel uncomfortable with femininity and womanhood sometimes, but I also don't really want to go on testosterone either (I don't like the side effects) so I am struggling with what to do next. I want to implement RP in my life but not if I have to fake womanhood or femininity. Doing feminine things feels fak…
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/23 11:59 PM
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Then why doesn't he like you having one?
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/23 10:05 PM
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What kind of photos of yourself do you post on Instagram? Do you show off your body? Etc
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/23 09:53 PM
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That's good point. I don't put nearly as much effort into my appearance as I could. Thanks for the response!
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/23 06:34 PM
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Yeah I've been to therapy before and was able to get a letter pretty much right away. I'm lucky I didn't go through with it although I'm still not sure if that would be best for me
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/23 04:59 PM
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No, I'm just not sure which direction to go in. But yeah that's probably not something other people can answer.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/23 12:13 AM
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This. I remember fighting with my ex once because I tried to force him to eat some of my cooking.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 07:37 PM
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This is what I was I was gonna say
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 06:42 PM
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Go get a second opinion from a couple of plastic surgeons on what would benefit your face. You may think it's your eyes or nose when really it's something else throwing off your facial harmony. That said, people tend to regret plastic surgeries they got for others and not themselves. Make sure you're doing this for yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 06:20 PM
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Some of the men, not all.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 02:25 AM
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I think I saw somebody on here who was. However, I think most traditional religion is going to sound red-pilled due to gender roles.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 02:22 AM
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Fair enough.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 02:20 AM
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Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 02:17 AM
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if anything it’s anti trad. This isn't a trad sub though. Or at least it wasn't. IIRC, I think a mod left because this sub became too trad They can talk about how they hate damaged women and use these tactics & tests to keep a woman ... Yet employ the damage that causes women to become this way, yet furthering their narrative that all women are evil (which to them it means human and traumatized even with previously securely attached women). It's our responsibility to not damage ourselves. If we …
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 02:15 AM
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Wait, why shouldn't we date RPM? Wouldn't they be able to lead better in relationships? I imagine a man who mastered, say, MRP, (as close as anyone can) would make an ideal partner.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 02:10 AM
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Thank you for writing this. You just reminded me why I'm trying to change. It's like JFK: "Ask not what your country can do for you, ask what you can do for your country,"
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 02:04 AM
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How did you afford the facials?
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 01:23 AM
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How did you do it? And teaching sounds fun, I hadn't considered that!
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 01:10 AM
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I just want to have a solid middle class jib before I have kids, preferably before I turn 30.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/23 11:14 PM
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I wish it wasn't this way with religion and culture, but it is I respect that he needs to attend to his family and reasons being as to why he needs to comply with his family on who he is with It's his choice to be with you, not his parent's. He's the one who has to decide whether to stay with you or leave you. Not you. Him. He can pretend otherwise by "letting you pick" but it's still a decision. No decision is a decision.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/23 12:04 AM
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Out of curiosity, what were all your unreasonable demands?
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/23 11:43 PM
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They assume all men with SAHM/Ws will become abusive because they don't trust men with power. If they did, they wouldn't be feminists.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/23 11:39 PM
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If you want to attract a man with drive, you have to let yourself be driven. It sounds like you can't do this because you do so much not just for others, but in general. A masculine man who wants to guide and lead your life has no room to do so at this time. Remember, masculine energy is doing. Feminine energy is being. Men don't love you for what you do, or even what value you provide. They love you for who you are. D. shen and Renee Wade talk about this if you want to check them out
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/23 11:19 PM
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Do you lead with your moneymaking/career abilities? That may be why you're attracting losers. Start looking up femininity YouTubers like Dr. Michelle Daf. It sounds like you have everything going for you except you don't know how the attraction process works.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/23 09:15 PM
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Link?
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/23 06:10 PM
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Stop watching the Redpill men's content. It's not gonna do you any favors
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/23 07:02 AM
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You can do both at the same time although I would suggest being proactive in finding a guy.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/23 05:58 AM
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Probably something on my forehead, maybe other minor facial surgeries(lip filler.) After weight loss, breast aug and Scultpra/BBL.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/23 05:57 AM
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Nice! Thanks for the rec!
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/23 12:02 AM
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Oh yeah true
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/23 11:35 PM
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Wdym desired traits?
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/23 11:33 PM
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Need, maybe not. Want, yes.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/23 11:32 PM
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How do you feel it impacted you finding a man?
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/23 09:21 PM
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Could you convert?
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/23 09:15 PM
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Any woman can be an RPW. Some men will disqualify you, though.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/23 07:59 PM
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Maybe it's the symptom of a bigger issue? Is he using it as a coping mechanism?
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/23 01:03 AM
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Definitely a booty call. Sorry :(
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/23 07:39 PM
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Only start dating again when the thought of being with somebody new excites you and makes you feel happy.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/23 11:09 PM
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This.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/23 10:51 PM
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Thank you so much!
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/23 06:43 AM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/23 02:12 AM
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A real RPW reads & adheres to the sidebar, probably Thanks u/Jeanopolis
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/23 03:31 AM
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Ok. Then just focus on making yourself the kind of woman that he'd be an idiot to leave. (ie work on increasing SMV and RMV)
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/23 01:39 AM
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Huh. Ok. In any case, does he pit you against younger women and/or make you feel disposable in a bad way?
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/23 01:24 AM
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That sucks. I think that's something we all fear. Were you both allowed to see other people on the break?
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/23 01:13 AM
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You really only have two choices here. Break up, or get over it. Which one can you live with?
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/23 01:08 AM
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Are you used to dating guys who would do those things?
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/23 02:47 AM
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I heard about it from a book called "Why Does He Do That" by Lundy Bancroft. It uses "he" pronouns but it applies to women too.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/23 10:30 PM
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Have you tried a batterer intervention program? Even if you aren't physically abusive, it can help you unlearn verbally and psychologically abusive behavior. This way you can guarantee that you don't make the same mistakes in future relationships. If you're in the US, you can Google "[your state] + batterer intervention programs near you" and enter your zip code. I know it sounds scary, but you're doing the right thing. Kudos to you for taking responsibility to protect your future partner.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/23 04:23 PM
1

He's threatening to kill himself?
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/23 09:18 AM
2

I'd get my hair done like Adele's except with bangs
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/23 01:30 AM
-2

Maybe you could negotiate with him so that you can talk to coworkers?
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/23 09:25 PM
3

Just keep going! Know that you're doing the right thing.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/23 01:28 AM
2

"we shall just say they aren't like me." Burn!
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/23 08:43 PM
6

Op, you feel like you would have worked too hard?
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/23 01:45 AM
1

I thought it was honesty and self-awareness but you're right it does make me look very bad. Yeah, when he said he was interested in dating I shouldn't have taken that at face value. He was probably just saying that. I imagine he doesn't want anything else from me. I think I'm just going to move on tbh. Yeah...I wish I had a time machine. Unfortunately I'm stuck with this reality. Can't go back. Maybe I could get it to work, who knows. I think I will probably just move on though.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/23 10:03 PM
1

Cock carousel days
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/23 09:32 PM
1

Maybe cook him something nice? Don't take it personally if he doesn't want to eat it though.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/23 12:51 AM
2

10/10 troll post nice work
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/23 08:16 PM
11

Ok good. Have you heard of John Gottman? He coined the term "positive override." It's basically just assuming the best in your partner when conflicts arise. I'd look him into him more, he's a huge pioneer of relationship research.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 07:15 PM
15

Try to interpret the comments in a way that casts him in the best possible light, so that you assume positive intent and can forgive him. Maybe he said that because he's insecure and wants to game you? Maybe he's afraid of you leaving and says it because he has no other way of being vulnerable? Also, don't beat yourself up for being angry. You can feel angry AND not want to feel anger. In this case it's served its purpose helping to protect you. You can thank the anger and see where that goes. J…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 06:58 PM
1

Thank you! I will do that
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 04:11 AM
2

How has it worked out for you?
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 04:10 AM
2

So you stopped trying to find men that fit your dreams and started to accept the men you met for who they were?
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 03:56 AM
2

I also want to apologize for "lock down" and this whole post.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 03:40 AM
1

Yeah good for you lol
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 03:34 AM
4

That's true. Guess the only way forward is self-improvement!
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 03:33 AM
-1

Yeah, I figured as much. I also -- whoops -- met him again and had unprotected sex so I raised the goalposts even more than they were previously. It feels so douchey to have a "blank slate." I mean, why bother dating if it's just making men jump through hoops? I don't want to make them pay for fancy dinner dates if I don't deserve it.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 03:29 AM
2

Thank you! I will do that.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 02:57 AM
1

Yeah I probably shouldn't have used it
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 02:45 AM
3

That's true. I know I have to change so that I can be giving and "add value" as Rollo Tomassi says. That's a good point, Alpha males are more likely to get divorced or probably never even get married to begin with. Thanks for the advice! I'll try that.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 02:44 AM
2

That's very helpful. I'd say almost all of those apply to me. I can see why I would be rejected. Thanks
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 02:40 AM
0

I don't think I offer much in other areas either tbh. I can clean a little but that's it. Thanks for the book rec! I will try to lose weight. Thanks for the encouragement and the support!
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 02:21 AM
1

Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 02:17 AM
2

Ok, thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 01:59 AM
1

That's probably true
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 01:58 AM
1

No we're not dating
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 01:58 AM
1

RPers talk about how women get into their 30s then settle for a BB guy to whom they aren't sexually attracted. This creates problems in the relationship because she doesn't genuinely desire him. Therefore, if I get a guy now who I genuinely desire, that means the marriage will be better than the alternative. Idk if that makes sense at all. I am kind of hung up on the idea of having an alpha male because I'm afraid of divorce. I don't really offer much and I think you misread my OP, I'm overweigh…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 01:57 AM
1

Yeah probably I'm just worried I can't do better even when he's out of my reach already
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 01:43 AM
2

Are you being sarcastic? I can't tell
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 01:42 AM
1

Probably not honestly, to any of those things
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 01:15 AM
3

What might be be seeing in me that I don't want to see in myself?
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 01:08 AM
1

Thanks for explaining!
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 12:01 AM
1

Thanks! Boy I needed that haha
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/23 11:59 PM
1

Wdym, careful about the hypergamy?
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/23 10:57 PM
-1

Don't move in until you're married imo
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/23 12:36 AM
4

Thanks! Looking forward to your new posts!
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/23 05:34 AM
5

Also welcome! :)
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/23 05:18 AM
7

Could we get a breakdown of the mods beliefs systems?
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/23 12:31 AM
1

I hate them because I wish I was as desirable as the women they seek.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/23 11:01 PM
4

Sounds like a covert contract
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/23 10:57 PM
5

Nice Highlander reference lol
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/23 04:23 AM
2

Pretty much everyone has semi-ugly genes though. Should all of us not reproduce? Lmaoo
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/23 08:07 PM
4

My sister is doing a master's degree program that is only a year. Maybe you could find one that is shorter than average? That way you can finish sooner. Are you around HVM already? Will a Master's degree put you in proximity to one?
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/23 04:57 AM
2

Best of luck to you! Keep fighting!
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/23 03:07 AM
1

I've been there. My last relationship was the same, make-up/break-up cycle. It truly sucks and I feel for you.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 04:21 AM
19

Either break up with him or marry him, and apologize for the last time all of what you've put him through. Really really commit to your decision either way because living in limbo is really bad for you, the kids, and him.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 04:12 AM
5

What's your definition of a high value man? What's your definition of an average man?
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 03:55 AM
2

https://www.youtube.com/live/EptUvgylx3g?feature=share Hope this helps
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/23 09:46 PM
1

Exactly
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/23 08:25 PM
2

Agreed. He isn't angry but a lot of spinoff creators are. They misquote his writing for clicks, which is what I think OP got caught up in.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/23 06:06 PM
1

This is the theory post they're referencing: https://therationalmale.com/tag/women-love-opportunistically/ Men wish we loved like they do and get angry when we don't.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/23 04:30 PM
9

Nice bait troll
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/23 02:21 AM
1

I don't believe in holding people to expectations that I wouldn't want to enforce. Holding a "no porn" rule seems like it would backfire. He could feel nagged or trapped, leading him to use it more. This, among other possible actions he could take, could lead to a dead bedroom at best. It just doesn't seem like a worthwhile battle to pick. Yes, some men don't watch porn. Any temptation can be overcome. But is this really the hill to die on?
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/23 02:52 PM
1

You're right, not all men watch porn, but does treating every open porn browser as an act of infidelity make any sense? Especially given how frequently men masturbate and how often they use porn while doing so.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/23 03:22 AM
2

That's true, it definitely comes with sexual problems.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/23 03:09 AM
1

Not really related but all men stare at other women/watch porn, even guys with hot girlfriends
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/23 11:49 PM
7

That does sound like a tough place to be in
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/23 05:14 PM
12

Hire the nanny for more hours so you can have non-work time to yourself. Getting your husband to sacrifice his time alone is just going to put more strain on the marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/23 03:56 PM
2

Props to your dad for being such a good husband/father
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/23 06:29 PM
18

Are you able to pause in the moment and separate what you feel at first vs. what he actually said? Maybe if you gave yourself a second to pause before responding
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/23 12:06 AM
13

What about disagreements lead you to cry?
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/23 11:14 PM
1

I'm very late but congratulations!!
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/23 12:13 AM
5

Somebody has posted this post before
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/23 03:12 AM
6

I think Rollo Tomassi said that this dynamic could work as long as your husband has good game. Basically, don't pull the "but I make more money than you so I should have the last say" card in arguments. See him as your leader.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/23 03:43 AM
3

NTA, but you need to figure out how you're gonna cope with this, since it sounds like you plan on staying with this man for the rest of your (and his) life. Try to interpret the things he says in the best light possible. This is a relationship technique known as "positive override" from a famous relationship expert known as John Gottman. The idea is that if you can, even after your husband hurts you, still see him as a good person deep down, your relationship will survive.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/23 12:33 AM
1

Nothing. Nobody deserves anything, especially not something as risky and life-damaging to a man as a wedding proposal.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/23 01:37 AM
1

Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/23 01:28 AM
1

Where can I read Whisper's stuff?
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/23 06:00 PM
2

We'll miss you! I really appreciate all the work you've done, including the podcasts!
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/23 05:57 PM
1

I'm not shaming, just saying that there's no point disclosing the number. Either he rejects you (which he was going to anyway) or he has to live with that number for the rest of his life.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 03:05 AM
9

Him being hypercritical isn't valid because it's over something you can no longer change. You can't buy a time machine and go un-hook up with those guys. If that's what your boyfriend wants, he needs to break up with you and find a woman with a lower body count. Or, he can appreciate what a great girlfriend you are now and choose to stay. In the future, I'd advise against telling men your body count for this reason. It really only serves to make them anxious and unhappy, since there's not really…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/23 10:50 PM
1

Oh interesting. What makes you say that? (Not trying to argue, genuinely curious)
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/23 09:42 PM
5

Not a book, but Rollo Tomassi had a blog post called "an essay for women." that gives advice on how to raise your RMV
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/23 08:53 PM
2

Wondering the same thing
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/23 03:02 AM
8

I'm sorry to hear about your wife.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/23 12:28 AM
0

We're all going to age so there's no use worrying about it. Yes men always want younger hotter tighter but we won't always be and we have to accept that.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/23 12:18 AM
3

I "stay attracted" to men by.... ... realizing my attraction to men isn't a choice, and is my responsibility ... recognizing that, in spite of misogyny, I still want and need healthy relationships with men ... unlearning my own misandrist/victimhood attitudes Also, like another commenter says, I try to remind myself of all the men in my life who don't deserve hatred. My family, friends, acquaintances, even famous people come to mind. Thinking about them individually often helps me focus on their…
/r/RedPillWives03/01/23 06:19 AM
1

I think you replied to the wrong comment
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/23 11:38 PM
8

Same!
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/23 02:42 AM
7

I don't think it counts as picking and choosing unless it's from a religious doctrine.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/23 02:33 AM
2

Wdym, pick and choose?
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/23 01:30 AM
5

What medspa treatments? What orthodontics? How did you pay for all of this? Did you have to do any other types of work too? Like did you become better at homemaking, or get therapy, etc?
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/22 08:34 PM
4

What work did you have to do on yourself to change, especially if you were healthy and fit?
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/22 07:59 PM
3

You're not alone! I have way more to lose than you (50, maybe 60) but we're in this together!
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/22 05:47 AM
3

You may have to put your desires on the backburner for a while and accept that he's going to be cranky and distant for a while. Otherwise you run the risk of nagging and adding to his stress. Maybe schedule more vacations?
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/22 10:19 PM
1

Knitting?
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/22 07:16 PM
8

Not nagging
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/22 03:38 PM
4

Ask him!
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/22 05:32 AM
1

You were funny. I actually lol'd
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/22 08:46 PM
1

Sorry. You're right, I was one-upping.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/22 08:39 PM
3

Alpha widowhood is a mindset, so it's fixable. Even if you somehow did Alpha Widow her it's not a death sentence.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/22 06:55 PM
2

You can't get alpha widowed in high school? I swear I was alpha widowed by a guy in middle school.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/22 06:54 PM
2

Man, I remember my first breakup. It felt like I had died. You're not alone. Don't date anyone until you've grieved. It sounds like you might be an Alpha Widow from your ex. Work through that before finding someone new. Do you want "a Christian man" because that's your faith or because you're trying to fill the hole in your heart that's ex-shaped? The Wall is over a decade away. While it's good you're aware there's a bigger danger here. The bigger danger is that you will waste years/n-Counts/kid…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/22 01:11 AM
2

My guess is that he broke up with her because she was too intense, didn't have enough of her own hobbies, friends or interests, and he was too young and not ready for marriage himself
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/22 12:45 AM
12

The Wall is more about fertility. Ie 30 year olds tend to get passed over due to less childbearing years ahead of them, not necessarily lack of beauty
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 11:37 PM
3

There's a scene where Sosuke takes Ponyo on a boat ride and my first thoughts were: "oh, this is like Captain/First Mate"!
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/22 05:25 AM
8

This is kind of weird, but Ponyo
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/22 04:46 AM
2

Thank you for suggesting this!
/r/RedPillWives10/12/22 02:30 AM
9

Chameleon is a high body count and/or feminist woman who seeks to camouflage herself as a good girl so that she can take advantage of men.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/22 02:28 AM
1

Home Comforts by Cheryl Mendelson is a good homemaking book
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/22 02:08 AM
2

Your husband sounds like he's depressed and all your advances might be making him feel guilty. Just do the stuff that's necessary for a while and let him be by himself.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/22 02:54 PM
1

I screenshotted all of this. What a great post!
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/22 02:31 PM
1

Housekeeping isn't all or nothing -- a little bit goes a long way, and there's stuff you can prioritize and stuff you can leave out
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/22 02:44 AM
2

Cut your losses. This sucks but rip off the band-aid. Stop talking to him and block/unfriend him on everything.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/22 02:31 AM
0

Yes, a lot of HVM are former or current sexpats. Not great but true. I acknowledge your hurt and imagine this is very sad for you right now. (Genuinely, I know I come off as a robot over text.)
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/22 01:54 AM
1

You want to marry a HVM. You want to stay married to a HVM. If so, you must accept that these are the kinds of things HVM have done in their pasts. Similar to how all men watch porn. No women like it, but we understand that it's more likely that our men do this to satisfy their male nature rather than anything nefarious. Engaging with prostitutes, while scummy and even beta, still falls under the general category of "men doing stupid things because they like sex" He probably wasn't thinking abou…
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/22 01:24 AM
-2

Some people suck at apologizing. It may not be one of his strong suits. Just let him know it bothers you and notice him when he does well.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/22 11:45 AM
2

Ok, work on that. In the future, if you feel really upset like this, try working with with a therapist. She can coach you on what to say to him so that you don't end up pushing him away. Lots of people have this problem. You're going to be ok.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/22 11:40 AM
1

Resentment is the right anger directed at the wrong target. In other words, rather than trying to stop feeling resentful, recognize your resentment as an important cue to figure out what's bothering you. The, fix that.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/22 03:49 AM
1

Tfw you realize so much of depression is the little details that have been crumbling around you
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/22 03:44 AM
2

I knew of a woman who gave birth, put that baby in a front-sling and went traveling over Europe. I as a a baby was taken to England and France. Lots of people travel with infants.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/22 03:43 AM
3

This may seem counter-productive, but try to give your husband space. Let him have time to himself. Men really need their space in order to breathe. Try to find ways of soothing yourself. Do you have anxious-attachment style?
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/22 03:26 AM
1

This.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/22 09:16 PM
0

You have to make the choice between career and husband. Is the fact that you're applying to Pathology School a sign that you're hesitant about him? Remember, women break rules for Alphas.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/22 09:16 PM
2

You're such a good wife. Blessings
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/22 01:36 PM
0

I did a hormonal IUD and it was great. Trouble is I think my period is shorter now. Definitely beats being pregnant though
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/22 01:34 PM
2

A little neatening goes a long way!
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/22 05:31 PM
2

I wouldn't clean but I would neaten a little bit. Then go out with friends
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/22 05:17 PM
2

LOL
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/22 02:19 PM
7

How will any of you sleep?
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/22 11:20 PM
1

High heeled fleece lined boots
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/22 07:13 PM
5

In general getting back with exes isn't a good idea
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/22 12:30 AM
1

Thanks! Also I watched the interview of you on the channel and you looked pretty!
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/22 01:53 AM
-1

Good point
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/22 12:01 AM
1

Who were the original creators? And do they have their own posts?
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/22 11:10 PM
10

Don't break a confidence. This is a private aspect of your boyfriend's life. If he found out you shared it on the internet he will be really hurt. Please delete this. It's understandable to be worried, I get it, but don't share secrets
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/22 11:08 PM
1

Exactly lol
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/22 06:52 PM
2

Switch the genders. Would her behavior be acceptable if she was a man, and her boyfriend was a woman?
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/22 03:29 PM
2

I disagree. I think that lying about your relationship status is disrespectful. It's disrespectful because it implies that otherwise, men will turn into serial killers. Most won't.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/22 02:36 PM
3

A simple "I'm not interested, but thanks." is fine. I've been hit on by guys like this and they have all been friendly and good natured. I rejected them pretty much outright and they took it well. Just be direct and polite.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/22 02:30 PM
2

I guess it depends on you. Would you be happy with a guy who wasn't fit? Tall? etc. If you're flexible in your preferences then it's worth a shot. After that, if you still feel nothing, break it off.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/22 03:28 PM
18

Good for you!
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/22 01:14 AM
0

Ohh I misread your initial statement. Nevermind.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/22 01:09 AM
1

"the totalitarianism we have planned for you." To what are you referring?
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/22 10:30 PM
-2

Feminism gives women choices, yes. But is it about choice? Imagine if antiracist activists said the same -- that anti-racism was whatever a black person chose to do. What if, then, a black person chose to become a slave for a white person. That wouldn't be anti-racist, even if the black person chose it. Anti-racism isn't about personal choice, why should feminism be?
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/22 08:50 PM
0

They probably frame it as a minor anger issue because you tell them it's an anger issue instead of what it really is. Therapists in general aren't very good for abusiveness because they tend to take your side. Read "Why Does He Do That?" By Lundy Bancroft and get into a batterer intervention program in your area
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/22 11:17 PM
18

I would advise against divorce, especially with a toddler. Your toddler's development will be disrupted by a divorce. If your husband were abusive, then absolutely, divorce. But just because your husband isn't talking to you/fucking you enough? That's lame. Have you told him any of this?
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/22 11:08 PM
1

That's a good point. We do live in a culture now where we expect to be applauded for obesity because we're women. It's good you're aware of that. And, you care about your partner's attraction to you, and take responsibility for that. You sound like a great girlfriend. I think when you said "I don't want my ego inflated" it reminded me of low self esteem women in my life who specifically pick men who tear down their appearances, not to help them to lose weight but to control them. I made a mistak…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/22 08:06 PM
2

I struggle with that too.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/22 02:45 AM
11

"I don't want such relationship. I don't need a guy who inflate my ego without critical thinking." "He only a few times complimented a few things, but that's pretty rare." If you think a dude complimenting you is "inflating your ego without critical thinking," no wonder you picked a boyfriend who rarely compliments you. You wouldn't have trusted his judgment otherwise. Now that you've lost weight and feel like you've earned the right to be complimented, you wonder why he doesn't compliment you m…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/22 01:40 AM
1

Marriage counseling?
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/22 01:31 AM
1

What are some things people who want to get married can do to lower the risks inherent in marriage? For example, are there certain countries that have laws against child support and alimony?
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/22 10:52 PM
12

If you seriously want kids you have to vamoose
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/22 11:33 PM
4

Ok, maybe you're right. She might be better off being positive and just focusing on kids stuff. Eventually it will probably subside as he mellows out. Maybe she could do extra nice things for him here and there.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/22 11:37 PM
6

You're right he isn't. It's one thing to be upset about wokeism it's another to not be able to let that anger go especially when situations call for calmness
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/22 09:21 PM
-7

Give him an ultimatum. "You married me, which means you trust me. You trust that I will stay faithful, stay married and loving to you. If you don't trust that, then this relationship can't continue." Your husband needs to come to terms with the fact that he is married, and either accept the risks that are part of being married or get divorced. Rollo Tomassi, and other manosphere creators, are married. Maybe your husband would feel more assured watching their example. Other countries also have di…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/22 07:32 PM
1

Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/22 07:16 PM
72

That is so sweet! You are a great wife!
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/22 07:10 PM
11

There's a YouTube channel called Charisma on Command
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/22 01:56 PM
2

Men absolutely love virgins and would kill to have one. It definitely doesn't make you less attractive, in fact it makes you more attractive. Stop judging yourself sexually as if you're a man. Men love a woman with no experience. In fact oyu should aim to keep your virginity as long as possible, ideally until marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/22 05:13 PM
9

For me, it's more like... why give my daughter the right to do something that would hurt her? If she has the right to choose she'll be more likely to waste her SMV in casual relationships with horrible men. Abortion being illegal forces her to make better decisions. The "emergency" you mentioned is very, very uncommon and not the actual motivator behind most abortions. Also it kills people
/r/RedPillWives04/08/22 04:56 PM
2

What makes some of the concepts not RPW compatible?
/r/RedPillWives04/08/22 03:53 AM
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Remember, men don't actually know what they want. When they say "no makeup", they mean no visible/contouring makeup. They don't actually want no makeup -- that's unappealing. When your boyfriend says wear jeans, skater skirts, and t shirts, he's not saying No Feminine. He's saying that he wants you to be feminine, he just doesn't want you to stand out. Just like men want us to wear makeup, they just don't want us to stand out. Normally I would agree with everybody else here except he called you …
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/22 01:30 PM
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Growing up, his mom groomed him. He probably expects this of you, too Or, he doesn't have a sense of imagination about his own wardrobe. Idk how you could confront him about this in a feminine way?
/r/RedPillWives31/07/22 09:21 PM
1

Nice! Good luck/discipline to you!
/r/RedPillWives30/07/22 01:08 PM
2

What's getting in the way of the laundry?
/r/RedPillWives30/07/22 05:03 AM
2

It's tough letting go. Ugh closure... Wish we could all get it. Sigh...
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/22 04:59 AM
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I am not friends with any of my exes and imo I think it's easier that way. That way, you can move on. If you keep talking to him you will waste your prime years trying to hold onto a relationship that's already dead instead of finding your actual husband.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/22 01:11 PM
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"The Rules Revisited: The Analogy Between Confidence and Beauty" http://www.therulesrevisited.com/2012/04/analogy-between-confidence-and-beauty.html?m=1 This article explains it well.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/22 04:34 AM
1

It seems like you have a lot of good insight! Sometimes we get envious of our partners for whatever reason. It happens. Your net worth is not your personal worth.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/22 04:12 AM
1

I don't know that there is a line. It's more like a somewhat-overlapping circle. Some assholes and bullies happen to also be confident and dominant. We are attracted to confidence and dominance and so sometimes end up being attracted to assholes and bullies.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/22 04:06 AM
1

Yeah he probably didn't mean it like that but of course it hurt you
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/22 10:29 PM
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Is he watching Red Pill marriage content? He may be trying to game you. The whole "I want to sleep with other people" is a line married redpillers teach themselves to establish sexual dominance. He wants you to be attracted to him sexually most likely. Obviously it backfired.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/22 05:23 AM
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An RP perspective on this is that he's saying this to promote Dread. Dread is the process of instilling danger/fear in a woman to inspire sexual arousal. He is probably doing this to game you because he wants to marry you. That's if and ONLY if he's RP aware. If he's not RP aware you should consider it a red flag. Address it with him.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/22 05:20 AM
0

That sounds frustrating. I'm sorry he did that to you.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/22 08:28 PM
5

Could you give an example?
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/22 07:08 PM
6

"I do accept you as you are, and I know you don't choose who you are. You snore, and as your wife it is my job to accept you as you are. I just want to express how frustrating it is for me to hear you snoring at night. This isn't because I judge you, far from it. The sound is just so loud it makes it hard for me to sleep. I get really cranky when I lose my sleep. I love you and I want to share the same room with you. While you can't control your snoring, I would really appreciate if you could tr…
/r/RedPillWives25/07/22 07:03 PM
1

Maybe look for other churches in your area with a higher number of younger people?
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/22 04:02 PM
1

That sucks. It makes sense you would feel that way. Parents especially tend to blame themselves for their kids' suffering. You did the best you could with what you had. Plus the world is better off with your kids in it. You did a good thing.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/22 07:49 PM
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Phrase them as wants, not needs. Then if you see progress, like him applying for jobs, reward him. If you don't see progress, either break up or accept that this won't change.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/22 08:47 PM
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There will always be things to sort out. Get started now, you don't have a lot of time left.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/22 06:34 PM
1

Yeah you need to leave as soon as you (safely) can
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/22 07:09 PM
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You aren't overreacting. However, you need to get out. No soulmate is abusive. EDIT: I've felt this way in relationships too. You can feel like someone is your soulmate and acknowledge that they are abusing you. It's OK to feel both ways at the same time.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/22 06:23 PM
9

Why are you still in contact with your ex if you have a fiance?
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/22 06:14 PM
5

Are you counting calories correctly? Do you look at the labels on your food? Maybe you need to buy a food scale if you don't have one already.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/22 01:58 AM
1

I like reading Evan Marc Katz's blog. Has anybody else read him?
/r/RedPillWives16/07/22 10:27 PM
2

That is so awesome! I love your fashion ethic.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/22 08:32 PM
1

Talk to him about it. Tell him what you've told us.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/22 12:54 AM
2

Maybe so! Anyway good luck cleaning better
/r/RedPillWives11/07/22 09:22 PM
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I read a book called Home Comforts where if you have kids you have collection bins where you put stray toys, newspapers and the like to be filed and sorted away later.
/r/RedPillWives11/07/22 07:24 PM
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Glad I could be helpful!
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/22 02:53 AM
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http://www.therulesrevisited.com/p/list-of-all-posts.html This site has great advice on how to attract men. See if the posts on here resonate with you -- I know I figured out some stuff I was doing wrong on here.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/22 02:42 AM
2

You miss 100% of the shots you don't take
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/22 10:19 PM
3

Awesome!!! Good for you!!
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/22 08:43 PM
1

Ok well that sounds tough, hope it gets better
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/22 03:38 PM
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There are men who stay faithful to their wives as they age. It's in the emotional bind, the way you treat him and the value you add to his life
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/22 08:59 PM
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Maybe if you started by being ok with having the feeling, idk. It's ok to have ups and downs with your partner.
/r/RedPillWives07/07/22 08:54 PM
1

I'm getting a job in dental hygiene. You can work part time and make upwards of 50k with only an associate's degree.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/22 08:51 PM
1

The grass is not greener. When you have casual sex it is emotionally empty. Remember that men will judge you for losing your virginity. It is not something you can get back.It will wreck the chances of you having a happy marriage if you lose it. As for advice... I myself have recently quit masturbating on top of quitting premarital sex. Obviously masturbate if you need to. This is just my preference. What I do is avoid horny triggers. For example I don't drink alcohol. Alcohol reliably will make…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/22 11:58 AM
2

Praying for you!
/r/RedPillWives07/07/22 01:37 AM
1

Don't feel guilty or ashamed! This is normal. Get comfortable with yourself otherwise it won't be fun anymore
/r/RedPillWives06/07/22 04:22 PM
1

Well, maybe individual counseling may help. They can help you work on your response which will in turn help change the dynamic
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/22 03:39 PM
2

Maybe seek marital counseling?
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/22 07:32 PM
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If I found a behavior that I couldn't live with, I would break up with them. But.... you're gonna marry a man with annoying habits. All men have them. All women have them too. Putting up with your spouse's annoying habits is part of being married. Just be sure these are habits you can live with.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/22 05:28 AM
2

Well, it is your job to fix it. You are responsible for your emotional problems.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/22 05:25 AM
1

That makes it worse. Not only are you misandrist to other men you're misandrist to yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/22 05:24 AM
2

Also, I think you posted in the wrong subreddit on accident.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/22 12:51 AM
1

It's ok to be a feminine gay man. Sure, there are gay guys who aren't into feminine gay men. But that just means those men aren't right for you. I think hating men is an unhealthy mindset for anyone to be with. But especially for men. When you hate men you are hating yourself. It's understandable to be ashamed and angry when men reject you but there are healthy and unhealthy ways of dealing with that and this is unhealthy.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/22 12:51 AM
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Just bring it up and be open to negotiate. If he's the right man for you he'll be accepting of it. Maybe offer to pack your own meals/bring meal replacement bars if he can't finagle it on his own. Definitely give him the chance to impress you first thought, men are good at that.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/22 09:47 PM
1

Does he know how much this means to you? I mean, you've expressed your desire, but have you said in words just how much this means to you? Please seek marital counseling. I don't really think people on the internet are qualified to advise you on this
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/22 09:45 PM
3

That makes sense. Or like replacing "I can't" with "this frustrates me"
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/22 07:30 PM
9

He can't read your mind. If you are having trouble doing something but ultimately want to do it you need to say that and ask for help when necessary.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/22 03:15 PM
2

Yeah, she sounds cute! Maybe mind the swearing a bit more but she sounds really fun
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/22 02:58 PM
2

Good for you! I think you're doing the right thing
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/22 03:23 AM
2

Renee Wade and D.Shen, Dr. Michelle Daf, Classically Abby, Cynthia L, The Feminine Fancy, Mrs. Midwest, Amy Young
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/22 03:32 PM
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Well said. I completely agree.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/22 04:10 AM
1

That's the dream!! Way to go
/r/RedPillWives30/06/22 07:51 PM
1

Wow. Crazy cat lady and a husband lol
/r/RedPillWives30/06/22 07:48 PM
1

Ask your husband if he wants advice but don't force it on it. He probably feels emasculated, like when women comment on men's driving. While it's not great to keep the baby crying, trust that your husband will figure out how to console your baby on his own. It may be a slow learning curve but it's better than nagging. Also, your husband likely wants a chance to feel competent at this on his own. Give him that opportunity.
/r/RedPillWives30/06/22 07:47 PM
1

4 is not that bad. That's still a low body count, and you should carry yourself as such. Imo don't feel pressured by anyone to give up sex. Do it when you think it is right.
/r/RedPillWives30/06/22 07:42 PM
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One drawback to living together before marriage is that it makes it much harder to break things off. I would suggest you give him the full wife experience. But, rather than living with him, find an apartment close by where you can stay instead. This can also be a place where you have space in case you get into arguments.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/22 02:51 PM
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I don't see why liking his new girlfriend's page requires that you talk to him at all. I doubt anyone will even notice, tbh
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/22 02:33 PM
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If you were married it would be one thing. But don't do this for a guy who hasn't committed yet.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/22 12:14 AM
5

I would normally agree with you except this guy requires compromises that would sabotage her future happiness. So even if she has red flags of her own (don't we all?) it's better to find a a new guy than to stick with one who is emotionally unstable and wants a future she doesn't
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/22 06:25 PM
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The ink hasn't dried on this guy's divorce papers. He's suuper into you after only 1 date? Red flag. No man should have an "us" mentality that early on. Not only does he sound emotionally unstable, he's incompatible. He wants to leave Hawaii and you don't? It's understand to feel like you have less options with health problems, bipolar, post wall, etc. But .. all being post wall means is that you have to gracefully accept that your dating pool is smaller. Also, that you are less likely to attrac…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/22 05:00 PM
5

Do you watch femininity YouTubers?
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/22 03:01 PM
8

Ok, well. The next time you feel unwanted/uncared for, figure out why. If it's something he's doing, tell him. Don't kiss or flirt with other people.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/22 04:37 AM
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If you want to improve yourself, do it for you. Even if you do improve, he may not take you back. Honestly your behaviors are abusive. You need to own up to them, not for him, but for yourself. You sound like you're going to therapy as a ploy to win him back. Take responsibility for yourself and your behavior.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/22 03:36 AM
1

I am happy for you!
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/22 10:03 PM
1

I struggle with this too. I am also bisexual and gender fluid. Around women my masculine desire to protect them kicks up. You're not alone.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/22 09:56 PM
1

Men can't make you feel worthy. Only you can make yourself feel worthy. Find ways of raising your self worth that don't involve trying to get external validation. Never sleep with a man unless he has told you he is your boyfriend. The fact that you sleep with men so easily makes them value you less. Also, men will not commit to a woman unless she makes them feel needed Develop your RMV so that men will want to commit You may want to get therapy.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/22 07:38 PM
2

A man who gets aggressive is not the man for you. Keep giving out. It's your job, after all. You have no reason to be ashamed. Giving it out will help sort the wheat from the chaff.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/22 07:28 PM
4

Go for it! I'm happy for you.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/22 02:41 AM
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If you're already being intimate (read: having sex) with him and are just worried about what others will say, travel. I'm a little worried about the "want to feel trapped or rushed" bit. Are you sure he wants to marry you? Don't travel if he's just going to have sex with you without marrying you.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/22 02:13 AM
2

It's so tough. We all want to be desirable and when we don't fit it hurts.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/22 02:06 AM
1

Sorry to hear about your ex
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/22 07:09 PM
1

Type as in, they look like they are underage?
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/22 06:10 AM
2

I'd be worried about pedophilia if they were lolita-style anime girls or if they were under 18.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/22 06:08 AM
2

Consider that the feed might have just popped up and he may not have picked the ages on purpose
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/22 06:00 AM
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You know, I've seen tall women with short men and it works. The masculine/feminine polarity is still there, just inverse. You're comparing yourself to a feminine ideal. Not every feminine women is short and slender.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/22 02:34 AM
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I know it's the summertime, so your partner's daughter is out of school. Maybe send her to a friend's/babysitter's and have intimacy during the day? Not like a quickie, but a full on honeymoon-like spa day. This will be good for him and for you. Also, maybe seek marital counseling and/or individual counseling if you feel like you're taking on his problems.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/22 11:49 PM
2

Thanks for sharing! It's nice showing appreciation for homemaking. I'd love to learn
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/22 02:24 PM
1

That's admirable. Maybe just express it in a feminine way?
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/22 02:22 PM
2

I think maybe you see kindness as fake because you use bluntness as your main method of honesty. There are other ways of being honest without being fake nice. Femininity can get a bad rap of being a pushover but you can be honest and feminine without lying about how you feel. Also, a lot of those women are just as judge as you. You only see the outside, not the inside.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/22 04:29 PM
1

It's possible, but unlikely.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/22 04:13 PM
1

He probably wants you to take his money because he is masculine and wants to provide for you. Findom is more like sex work, yeah.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/22 06:11 PM
2

You can, and if you want kids, you should. You have a smaller dating pool, sure, but you owe it to yourself and your future children to find a man as soon as possible. Only after you have healed, of course.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/22 04:46 PM
3

He told you he's not ready to commit. Believe him.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/22 04:39 PM
2

Mark Manson has a couple of good articles about mindset. "How One Man Lost 266 pounds" and "If Self-Discipline Feels Difficult, You're Doing it Wrong." Bottom line: weight loss is supposed to be fun and sustainable. The name of the game is how to reduce your daily calorie intake overall while loving your life.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/22 03:58 PM
1

Maybe they envy you?
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 07:21 PM
1

"Abusive" or not, he's not respecting your boundaries. That's a dealbreaker. Here is a book about how to deal with angry and controlling men: https://books.google.com/books/about/Why_Does_He_Do_That.html?id=xEZIpu3SVvcC
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/22 12:43 AM
7

Blaire White's boyfriend is masculine, isn't he? And she's conservative. As long as you look and act feminine and keep trying to increase your attractiveness you'll eventually find a man who clicks with you. You might also find a conservative man who isn't Redpilled exactly but shares your values.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/22 05:47 PM
5

Yeah, it's so interesting to learn about men and about how much sex matters to them. I'd extend that to all personal issues. Really don't share anything private, especially conflicts. Better to work it out directly with your spouse.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/22 05:33 PM
1

No problem!
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/22 07:00 PM
0

Carry a water bottle. Carry snacks. It's rude to expect men to blow a lot of cash on you.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/22 05:47 PM
2

Making things about you. Trying to show sympathy instead of empathy. Crying to show you are a good person instead of responding in an empathetic way. Trying to be a savior, or prove that you are. Making an issue bigger than it has to be. Trying to solve or fix instead of just listening. Men may be more direct with the way they verbally express things but you should always, always validate first. Don't tone-police.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/22 05:14 PM
1

That is so sweet! You're a lucky woman
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/22 05:42 PM
1

It will make a huge difference. I lost 20 lbs and started getting approached by men. Also, learn how to dress well. A well-cut dress can hide your flaws and boost your assets.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/22 03:10 AM
1

Set boundaries on how long you're willing to spend in the kitchen. That way you aren't spending a super long amount of time.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/22 03:05 AM
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Stop online dating. Online dating is for hookups. If you're looking for a relationship find a way to date in person.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/22 03:02 AM
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