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I completely agree with you. I know that I shouldn't want a boyfriend or male attention this bad but I just get in these moods where I see everyone else getting significant others, whether they are male or female, and also having their other things together in life as well. Its kind of like when I am hungry and want to eat a specific thing but I only want to eat that specific thing and I am not satisfied until I get it. When I first started looking at FDS in January I was so inspired for about a…
/r/askFDS09/06/21 02:34 PM
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By male friends I guess I mean guys in my friend group who are males, I wouldn't exactly consider them "friends". I do have some female "friends" as well but I almost feel like everyone in my life is just something between an acquaintance and friend. I do want to make more female friends though but I guess I don't exactly know how I will do that over the summer since the majority of my social interaction is from school. I'm also trying to figure out how I can meet friends through hobbies. I like…
/r/askFDS14/05/21 03:14 PM
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I always find it comforting to hear that I am not the only one who is struggling at this age, especially from other black women. I'm still learning to love myself and hoping that affirmations and positive self talk will help. My self esteem has suffered for all of my adolescence and all of young adult hood up to this point. I'm really hoping to start taking control of how I view myself and hopefully on the way a nice boy starts to appreciate me as much as I will myself. Or perhaps even some nice…
/r/askFDS13/05/21 10:42 PM
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That makes so much sense. I’ll try finding new hobbies where I can hopefully meet some guys. Thanks for the comment.
/r/askFDS13/05/21 07:34 PM
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That sounds pretty good! I’ll definitely make this another priority in my mental health and in my therapy sessions. Thank you so much!
/r/askFDS13/05/21 05:24 PM
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I've never thought about it honestly. I don't know if its an ocd thing cause I don't think there are many things that I have obsessed about like this but I will be sure to mention the possibility of this with my new therapist. Thanks for the insight.
/r/askFDS13/05/21 05:00 PM
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I feel like its easier to say that I should be grateful that men don't like me when you have already gotten attention from men. I want to feel the same way that you do but I think that I am not able to because I have not had a bad experience with a man yet. I want to get that experience with a guy so that I can judge for myself and hopefully that will stop me from obsessing over male attention.
/r/askFDS13/05/21 04:51 PM
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Not with my past therapist. I told her about that and honestly now that I think of it haven't spoken about it much about it but I will definitely make that something I discuss with my new therapist.
/r/askFDS13/05/21 04:28 PM
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I've been seeing a therapist for about a year but then I realized that I was not making much progress with her so I will be meeting with a new one tomorrow. I'm hoping that she will be a better fit for me.
/r/askFDS13/05/21 04:17 PM
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Not much family support cause my family is not very affectionate and I do not have any relationship with my extended family. At the moment I am not exactly sure what I wanna be, I just know that I wanna make a lot of money. I am currently having appointments with my career counselor on campus to figure out what I wanna do but its super stressful cause I'm a junior about to be a senior next year. I have almost no experience with men at all. My father left and I have no brothers so this led to me …
/r/askFDS13/05/21 04:00 PM
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I already do most of that stuff besides taking myself on dates and getting flowers cause I live in a small home and have nothing to do with flowers. I “treat myself” but thats honestly cause no one else is gonna buy anything for me besides my mother. I have a therapist (recently switched and will be seeing a new on tmrw), I like dancing, playing ukulele and roller skating, I already transferred to this school. When I said racist I meant that the guys at this school probably just don’t like black…
/r/askFDS13/05/21 03:11 PM
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How can I stop? I’ve been trying to focus on other things but this is just something that I really want.
/r/askFDS13/05/21 02:31 PM
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I know that I have to be the one to validate myself, but honestly it would nice to have this affirmed by someone else once in a while. I've been trying to work on friendships with women but I am literally not good at any type of relationship. Not with friends, not with my family, and my relationships with men are literally nonexistent. I want to know that if I choose to date that I can have any man literally fall to their knees in front of me. I'm not dating now out of choice, I'm not dating cau…
/r/askFDS13/05/21 02:17 PM
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I am currently on a black dance team on campus and have recently joined another cultural organization as secretary for the next school year. I think it may be racism at this school since the majority of the study body is white. What doesn't make sense is why I didn't get any attention when I got home. They always say that men will fuck anything. If thats the case then why have I gotten zero attention from men. I work at an escape room back home where I interact with tons of people on a day to da…
/r/askFDS13/05/21 02:09 PM
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Do you mind if I dm you to ask a couple questions?
/r/askFDS20/04/21 06:27 PM
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How can I meet my emotional need? I feel like this would be hard because I do not know how to do this and also do not have anyone around to help me.
/r/askFDS19/04/21 11:21 PM
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I don't have a pet. I live in a small place with my family back home so there is no room for pets. Also I'm not much of an animal person either. I have never though of depression as an option because I still go to work, love eating, go to dance practice, and get all of my assignments done on time. I am currently talking to my therapist pretty often (once a week) but I have considered perhaps seeing another one instead. Also a vibrator isn't an option for me either cause Im in a small place back …
/r/askFDS19/04/21 11:13 PM
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Thank you for all of the resources. The worksheets look pretty appealing so I'll start working through those and hopefully they can change my way of thinking. I am currently in therapy and have been seeing my therapist for a year and I haven't been seeing many results. Hopefully these resources can help me. Thanks again for your comment.
/r/askFDS19/04/21 11:08 PM
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How can I actually do all of that? I want to find new interesting hobbies and excel at them and not be upset that people for some reason do not want to be in a relationship with me. How can I do that?
/r/askFDS19/04/21 10:48 PM
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I'm starting to think this may just be my cycle as well since I just ended my period yesterday. The only issue is this feeling will probably linger with me for the week as well which sucks. I just hate waking up a virgin that has never had any attention from men or even women.
/r/askFDS19/04/21 10:42 PM
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I've thought about getting a vibrator or something but whenever I try to masturbate I just feel awkward and not in the mood. It feels weird for me to even think of it now. Thanks for your comment.
/r/askFDS19/04/21 10:38 PM
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Thanks for the comment. Its nice to know that I'm not the only 20y/o virgin that has ever lived. Hopefully I'm able to find a way to cope whenever I feel like this.
/r/askFDS19/04/21 02:42 AM
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The only childhood trauma I really have are issues with my mother. I have talked to my therapist about it often. I don't have the right people with me cause I'm not close with my family and have no friends. I've thought about finding a different therapist but I don't know where to start to find the right one for me or how I would know whether a therapist is right or wrong for me.
/r/askFDS19/04/21 02:07 AM
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I will be honest the no friends thing is probably my own fault. People have always been so mean to me throughout high school and even now in college and I have found that if I treat people like they are no special then they will not even want to talk to me. I could stop doing that but when I get friendly people get mean again and I honestly really hate it. I just wish I had at least one good person in my life to talk to. I have also been in therapy for over a year now and I talk to her about my …
/r/askFDS19/04/21 01:57 AM
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I'm not exactly looking for a LTR at the moment and honestly I would be ecstatic if I was even able to get a fling. I figured that trying to keep myself busy would help distract me, but the issue is that keeping busy isn't helping cause when I get upset about something that is the only thing I can think about. I recently transferred to a new school in spring 2020 just before the pandemic but I was able to get onto a dance team and I am currently running for secretary of another organization as w…
/r/askFDS19/04/21 01:41 AM
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Okay, I see how this can help me. What if the comparisons are about relationships? For example “she has boyfriend and I don’t” or “she has a good friend group and I don’t” or “she has a great relationship with her parents and I don’t”
/r/askFDS06/04/21 08:30 PM
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I don't know if I have any triggers. Probably when I see that I am having a hard time with something and I see someone else get it with ease. I've been comparing myself to others since I was like 5 years old in kindergarden. The teachers would always tell me mother that I wanted to do what the other kids were doing. I mostly compare myself to people in real life cause I know social media is editing and angles and mostly fake. I've tried journaling but not super often, I maybe do it once in a whi…
/r/askFDS06/04/21 08:16 PM
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I’ve focusing on myself, and my grades and money and all of that. FDS has taught me that if I focus on myself others will be attracted. But that hasn’t happened yet, with guys or girls. I also don’t wanna think about being 60 and a virgin, I would honestly off myself if that was the case.
/r/askFDS06/04/21 10:58 AM
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Honestly I find it hard to believe that I haven't made much progress either. I think perhaps the intrusive thoughts thing. Could you perhaps reword the first question in a simpler way?
/r/askFDS05/04/21 05:05 PM
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Yes, very often actually
/r/askFDS05/04/21 04:59 PM
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I've always know that comparison had been my downfall. I want to know how to stop it for good. I've been in therapy for over a year now and still feel like I don't know how to not compare myself, especially on my dance team where they are constantly telling me "look at yourself in comparison to everyone else". I'm open to hearing how I can stop comparing myself in dance and also just in general. Thank you for your comment.
/r/askFDS05/04/21 02:46 PM
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I’ve thought about being on the spectrum but kinda dismissed the thought cause I feel like I couldn’t handle finding out that I am possibly autistic. I have an appointment with my therapist tmrw though so I’ll ask her and see what she thinks and hopefully she can point me in the right direction. Thanks for your help.
/r/askFDS20/02/21 05:10 PM
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Yes but Im not good at keeping in touch with people. My companions right now are my suitemates but I dont like to put labels on relationships too early. Also I just really hate seeing everyone else getting hit on and I literally have no one even looking in my direction in the least bit. I know I shouldn’t look for validation in others and “validate myself” but its just really hard.
/r/askFDS20/02/21 04:44 PM
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Thanks, my therapist has also told me im pretty confusing. I wanna not be a virgin but at the same time im very scared and insecure. And I also want more men to be seem interested in me publicly which I think will help with my self esteem. I’ll keep trying my luck with tinder and hopefully I can find a nice guy
/r/seduction05/01/21 02:42 AM
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I am very shy and a bit scared of meeting people from the internet
/r/seduction05/01/21 01:52 AM
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I am an avid user of tinder and bumble
/r/seduction05/01/21 01:45 AM
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But I don’t wanna have to make the first move all the time
/r/seduction05/01/21 01:21 AM
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Not often
/r/seduction05/01/21 01:20 AM
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