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| 43 | From another sub. So the girls are working all day while their useless boyfriends just hang there?What the | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/22 08:46 AM |
| 3 | How to tell a guy texting is boring and you’d *hint hint* (or very directly) like to move onto calling/facetiming/talking in person? Should you leave it up to them to progress? Texting is feeling like a chore but the conversations are good. Not into false intimacy anymore.Was on OLD, have told him my preference for calling/video calling and he is willing to go with my preference so we’ll see 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 09:32 AM |
| 4 | Rejected by 300 "hot girls", NVM cries about having to settle for "average" girls to get laidI want to scream | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 06:17 AM |
| 38 | How to tell a guy texting is boring and you’d *hint hint* (or very directly) like to move onto calling/facetiming/talking in person? Should you leave it up to them to progress? Texting is feeling like a chore but the conversations are good. Not into false intimacy anymore.Brilliant thank you! Its been two days today | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 11:21 PM |
| 7 | Scrote is trying to take his date to a storage unit to make her clean it!I CANNOT STOP LAUGHING | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 10:08 PM |
| 7 | Pornsick scrote can't be asked a normal question without turning it sexual...this was our first conversation 😒 Have I discovered a new vetting question??I want to be sick | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 11:03 PM |
| 25 | Brian Laundrie’s remains found…Honestly lets hope so he can rot in prison and not in his grave | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 10:05 AM |
| 93 | Brian Laundrie’s remains found…👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 I seriously hope the collective rage regarding Gabby’s death will be on the sorry excuse of mother and father, as you said. I hadn’t seen Gabby’s fathers insta and that is really sad. LVM - because lets be real only LVM call their wife that - paving the way for EXTREMELY negative value Brian? ☹️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 10:03 AM |
| 49 | Brian Laundrie’s remains found…STOPPPPP 😫 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 09:55 AM |
| 167 | Brian Laundrie’s remains found…Melonhead 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 09:15 AM |
| 75 | Brian Laundrie’s remains found…YEP 45 min after they did their first ever search with the authorities… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 09:14 AM |
| 16 | Women are interchangeable, movie editionYES!!! What is that saying? Women want a specific person and men want a type? My abusive ex couldn’t name things about me that he fell in love with unless they were centred around being positive to him e.g. “you’re so empathetic and kind” or just generic things like you said. Don’t know why I was ever expecting his unemotional ass to be able to verbalise why he loved ME AS AN INDIVIDUAL?? Lots of women are empathetic and kind dumbass! What about my quirks? Or passions? Nope! Just what I could do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 12:53 AM |
| 7 | Going through past messages with my girls and realizing something.So proud of you lovely!! Us women aren’t made to be subtle ⚡️ I hope you see and FEEL that glow within your new & improved self too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 10:58 AM |
| 63 | Can we talk about loneliness?Chiming in to say I too feel like that. Before the pandemic and up until the start of this year I was really struggling with health and now that I’m feeling better generally, I just want a group of women to share my life with… if only we weren’t being watched every minute of every day by destructive incels and scrotes who wish us dead, because being able to make friends from FDS would be magical | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 10:52 AM |
| 3 | What is redpilled?I would like to know too | /r/askFDS | 16/10/21 09:56 AM |
| 26 | Deactivating my social media accountsExactly, they won’t know unless they are obsessed with their follower count | /r/askFDS | 16/10/21 09:38 AM |
| 67 | Who here ACTUALLY enjoys giving blowjobs?I get that. Do you also have an aversion to PIV or is it just a mouth/saliva thing? Me, I have a slight distaste for sharing saliva up until a point 🤢 deep “french kissing” is a whirlwind of feelings, mostly confusion as to what is fun about it… mingled with slight disgust 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 11:40 AM |
| 116 | Who here ACTUALLY enjoys giving blowjobs?I agree. Celibate women will likely have desire to bring a partner pleasure from your actions in general YES but I personallyyy don’t have the urge specifically for my jaw to ache or the rest of my face to hurt from minute action & concentration lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 11:35 AM |
| 114 | Who here ACTUALLY enjoys giving blowjobs?Hearing that he purposefully - knowing you were uncomfortable/panicky - pushed you to a point where you VOMITED makes me want to first vomit FOR YOU because MAJOR SCROTE ALERT and second, beat him the hell up 👊🏻 catch these hands scrote | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 11:30 AM |
| 63 | I was shopping today and saw this. Looks like they now make a giant mug for desperate women to broadcast to the world how pathetic they are.Hang on a sec… I’m going to just go vomit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 10:01 PM |
| 1 | FDS is BACK!Yep. I don’t think I could take anymore new subreddit suggestions of stuff I DONT EVER WANT TO SEE. FDS ONLY THANK YOU | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 09:55 PM |
| 6 | I've asked this elsewhere, but I got no nuanced answers. What do I do when a close friend cheated on her boyfriend, who is also a good friend?Completely understandable! No one wants to see the worst in people they have loved for a long time, whether that’s a friend or a partner. Facts are that her cheating and lying about it will only hurt you while she keeps it a secret. Otherwise she would woman up and tell her boyfriend if she was that distraught and remorseful. She doesn’t care how it affects you, not being able to tell your close friend what she did. That’s not a friend, she is using you for emotional labour to console her but no… | /r/askFDS | 11/10/21 09:15 PM |
| 65 | I've asked this elsewhere, but I got no nuanced answers. What do I do when a close friend cheated on her boyfriend, who is also a good friend?Me personally, I would distance myself from that friend who cheated. It shows she can’t respect boundaries and who knows what other lines she will cross. Its not up to you in my eyes to tell the boyfriend, who is also you’re friend, but let her know firmly that unless there is complete, appropriate honesty and transparency between your three as friend group, it will never work. Because it won’t sadly. As you think, HER telling her bf she cheated is a must. Putting you in the position to keep it … | /r/askFDS | 10/10/21 04:30 AM |
| 12 | Remember the ex you wanted to marry? Let’s all laugh togetherLVX lovebombed me like a tsunami and the fool that I was believed it. He, a literal 20 year old in debt, said for me to pick a fucking CASTLE in my home country and he’d put it on his list of goals so one day he could buy me it 💀🏰 fucking hilarious. When I tried to tell him about my mental health problems in my past just so he had a full picture of what led up to that point, he kept sighing and eventually said “there are a 1000 things I could say but you don’t want to hear any of it” (because he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 10:13 PM |
| 1 | You don’t need to have experience to know he will suck in bedMost people do have some level of sexual desire for attractive people or most people don’t have sexual desire for attractive people? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 09:17 AM |
| 43 | You don’t need to have experience to know he will suck in bedTo be fair I don’t think you can tell her what she is. If katiekat identifies with demisexuality then let her because she knows herself better than you do. Demisexuality is more than just needing time to develop sexual trust, its a spectrum of not having sexual feelings for that person or any person AT ALL until you have a strong emotional connection with them. I’d say most people who aren’t porn sick still have sexual desires for people they don’t know personally... Sure, demisexuality is more … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 12:06 AM |
| 10 | I have to pass by my ex's house every single time I go to work. How can I soothe the anxiety or shift my mindset?That sucks, I feel for you. Its completely valid you feel stressed and soooo understandable. If I had to pass my narcissist ex’s house every day I would more than likely be a mess so while this advice is easy to give, trust me I understand how bloody difficult it will be to do!! But you are a strong woman and you got this 💞 I personally wouldn’t suggest you try to ignore his place when you pass it, because from my experience it would keep me dwelling on how much he still affects me and how much … | /r/askFDS | 24/09/21 11:58 AM |
| 11 | Feeling humiliated and objectified *trigger warning*I’m sending you so so much love gorgeous. I am extremely sorry he behaved that way. He is beyond vile. He belongs in the pits of hell for all eternity. Do not blame yourself for his behaviour EVER, okay? You don’t deserve to feel embarrassed or ashamed and as another commenter said, people who say “I told you so” are not your friends sadly (but also gladly because thats a shit friend if you ask me). You have people who care about & love you so much and others who would do anything to help you be… | /r/askFDS | 23/09/21 11:15 AM |
| 17 | Thoughts?Totally. Any self respecting and conscientious man would never. If that man was high value he would actually care about how HIS children - who are half him - would be raised and not sign a non-legally binding bit of paper at her request. The majority are probably going to be manipulative men who have a breeding fetish lets be honest. Goodluck sweaty you’ll need it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 12:44 PM |
| 21 | “She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes By The Sink”‘Very sorry boys’ made me laugh. Its these emojis right here 🥺👉🏻👈🏻 then 10 min later being psyched to keep abusing that woman for his gain and getting praise for seeing his wrongs but never actually acting on it... if that is a man being woke I don’t even want to be awake, I want to be 6 feet under 😑 Edit: I don’t know what I was thinking, 10 minutes of “boohoo poor me, forgive me my darling, I am but a common scrote” is actually very generous. Make that 2 min tops | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 12:32 PM |
| 6 | Thoughts on family therapy between an emotionally unavailable, LV father and adult daughtersUgh yeah he would likely become defensive since he isn’t that insightful and pull away emotionally even more so... I luckily don’t think he is narcissistic just emotionally unavailable, low effort father with no backbone when it comes to standing up for his daughters. I’m sure you won’t take offence but damnnn your father sounds like a royal manipulative douchebag . I know how much it sucks not having the father you sometimes wish you had 💞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 12:16 PM |
| 7 | Thoughts on family therapy between an emotionally unavailable, LV father and adult daughtersAgreed 110% 👏🏻 The thing is, they actually never even went to couples therapy after he accepted... my mother just left him which I think is the best thing she could have done at that point. A good choice! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 12:08 PM |
| 7 | Thoughts on family therapy between an emotionally unavailable, LV father and adult daughtersThats so lovely. Very very true. Thank you for you reply 💞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 11:29 AM |
| 30 | Thoughts on family therapy between an emotionally unavailable, LV father and adult daughtersThanks girl. I know the answer is NO WAY DON’T DO IT ABSOLUTELY NOT RUNNNN but you know how brains like to make you second guess yourself 🤦🏻♀️ I will try my hardest to live up to my name, don’t you worry 💪🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 10:12 AM |
| 14 | Thoughts on family therapy between an emotionally unavailable, LV father and adult daughtersI’m honestly not sure but I suspect he would do anything he could to keep his children in his life WITHOUT having to put in anymore effort or change. He is just one of those men who won’t change while they don’t HAVE to I’m really sorry about your father. You deserved better than what he was capable of giving you 💞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 10:04 AM |
| 1 | 22 year old Gabbie Petito’s remains have been found after being missing for weeksFuck | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 01:39 AM |
| 3 | FDS approved fiction?Thats one of my favourite series!!! Have you read Throne of Glass series and also her new series A Court of Silver Flames 😏 you gotta | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 01:38 AM |
| 4 | FDS approved fiction?Outlander is without a doubt my favourite series ever!! I am up to book six but sort of lost all motivation to keep reading the rest of the series which I have on my shelf! Jamie is for the most part a HVM, except of course the SPANKING punishment for Claire in book one 🤦🏻♀️ Some people might excuse that since usually he is a dream boat but even 17 year old me was honestly disgusted | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 09:16 PM |
| 3 | FDS approved fiction?ACOTAR is one of my favourite series 🤭 “T the Tool” was definitely a LVM lol. If you haven’t read A Court of Silver Flames I highly recommend but be ready it was smut galore ahahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 09:12 PM |
| 2 | FDS approved fiction?Lmao yes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 08:24 AM |
| 6 | FDS approved fiction?I LOVED Six of Crows but can’t remember it well enough to give my opinion on it through FDS eyes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 08:22 AM |
| 54 | She made a PowerPoint about strippingPretty sure she means she didn’t watch the video and that was her self care act! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 12:45 AM |
| 2 | Women growing out their body hair IS an act of bravery in western society, insensitive fucktardYesss. What I forgot to mention was that this scrote also said in reply to how men were attracted to body hair until 100 years ago, that “sure we did a lot of things back in the day”, “doctors used to tell pregnant women who were constipated to smoke cigarettes” and “flight attendants used to be forced into retirement at the age of 32” 😑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 08:26 AM |
| 9 | Women growing out their body hair IS an act of bravery in western society, insensitive fucktardLet him. I am not fussed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 11:31 PM |
| 4 | Women growing out their body hair IS an act of bravery in western society, insensitive fucktard👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 11:29 PM |
| 18 | Women growing out their body hair IS an act of bravery in western society, insensitive fucktardEXACTLY? Safety, comfort and intimacy wHErE?!?! Hope men get the memo soon that it takes a lot more than a guy being ready for sex for most woman to want it 😑 I am not letting you anywhere near me until I can trust you fully | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 11:28 PM |
| 3 | I won't think about you. I swear so many artists are BRINGING IT 🎵🎵 Chuu- AnaiisAmazing recommendation!! Such a beautiful song | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 02:13 PM |
| 14 | This is some of the vitriol that our podcast hosts recieve. Be very careful when talking about FDS. These men live and walk among us.Sir ARE YOU OKAY!?! No?? That’s what I thought DAMN | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 12:48 PM |
| 23 | Why do males think it's okay to rank women?Damn… brutal. Although the blow of the boys rating would have shaken me to the core, the nastiness emanating for the girls who wanted you to be publicly bullied is BEYOND disgusting. Nothing is more scary to me still than nasty, “popular” teenage girls. I’m sure you’re stunning, if for nothing but your kind heart. I’m really sorry that happened to you 💞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 12:43 PM |
| 27 | I don't want any relationship after the argument I overheard from my bedroom windowMy mother does that 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 06:11 AM |
| 70 | Why do males think it's okay to rank women?Revolting! Objectifying and racist! Sorry that happened to you too 💞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 06:03 AM |
| 208 | Why do males think it's okay to rank women?I literally had two 14 year old boys rank me as I as was working my ass off, studying for my year 11 exam at school… I had my headphones on and they didn’t know I could hear. They rated me a fucking 4… that automatically enraged me and made them -infinity/10. Objectifying starts young. It ruins young girls perceptions of themselves and ENFORCES that they see themselves through the male gaze. As if we don’t need more objectification. I was 17 at the time, imagine a fucking 12 year old girl hearin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 02:27 AM |
| 1 | Dad is a LVM and LV father who defends his fiancé’s nasty behaviour: what do I do?Also my dads fiance doesn’t like that he still supports us somewhat financially. She has made it clear to us that she sees us as the antagonists as well as my Mum. My Dad won’t have told her how bad he was with us when my parents were together. Her view absolutely has to be distorted by his view | /r/askFDS | 06/09/21 04:21 AM |
| 1 | Dad is a LVM and LV father who defends his fiancé’s nasty behaviour: what do I do?What I forgot to mention is that I have been actively trying to build a relationship with him since my parents separated and he has disappointed me so much that now I am mentally drained and done. I try asking him out places. I ask him to ask me over if he is doing certain things we can bond over, even if its just cleaning the fucking chicken pen at his house. I have provided so many things I’d like to do with him (aka inviting myself over) but it never happens. I have tried talking to him about… | /r/askFDS | 06/09/21 04:18 AM |
| 5 | Friends discussing anti-abortion laws in a group setting -Do I still be friends with her?Just allow yourself to glide through the anger and try to take care of yourself. Your frustration with the situation is valid and actually a sign you respect yourself. You got this, I’m very proud of you 💞💞💞 | /r/askFDS | 06/09/21 02:38 AM |
| 18 | When men withhold feelings/emotions: do they have them or do they just not care?My ex was a MAJOR dismissive avoidant and did all those things. 6 months traumatised and taught me enough. Initially tried to use attachment style info I learned to “help” us but that was completely foolish because stupid fucktard liked the way he was. When I once asked him what he loved about me, he only named things that benefitted him 🤦🏻♀️ how I care for him, how I fit in with his goals etc etc. I think the thing that fucked me up on top of all that abusiveness is that the only intimacy he f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 12:34 PM |
| 11 | Friends discussing anti-abortion laws in a group setting -Do I still be friends with her?First off, I am so so sorry that happened to you. I can tell you are a strong person and you can get through this 💞 If it were me, I would take your friend’s apology at face value. From the way you wrote it, it sounds genuine and I’m sure she never meant to hurt you by bringing it up. If she did then obviously, bad bad friend. Now if she purposefully brought it up again then we have a major problem. I don’t think we can expect people to know exactly what we are thinking in regards to conversatio… | /r/askFDS | 05/09/21 12:03 PM |
| 11 | Is asking a lot of questions ever the correct approach? Or does it make you annoying?Agreed. Glad he’d blocked now lovely so you can move the heck on! | /r/askFDS | 05/09/21 11:45 AM |
| 2 | How do I handle my dadSorry you’re going through that lovely 💞 if only we could choose our parents like we do our friends! | /r/askFDS | 05/09/21 06:29 AM |
| 11 | Advice for dealing with ex reaching out finally blocking themNot weird at all. He cheated on you, the least he deserves is a permanent block! | /r/askFDS | 05/09/21 12:28 AM |
| 7 | Why should you never let a man know how much you love him?I think that when your ~undying~ love takes the form of letting things that bother you slide then you need to give them one chance to do better or leave. LVM will do the least they can to please you when they think they have already “got” you | /r/askFDS | 26/08/21 04:52 AM |
| 30 | I…am speechlessIt would be an act of service 👏🏻 I would applaud | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 04:47 AM |
| 39 | Do we really have to choose ?If a woman is overweight, it has nothing to do with if she is a high value woman or not! Start having high standards right now, right this second!!! Being healthy is the goal (only for your sake, no one else’s because you don’t owe them shit) but if you aren’t there in your journey yet it doesn’t mean you should lower your standards for anyone!!! If you have that mindset, once you get to a healthy weight, it will be easy to slip into thinking you have OTHER hurdles you “need” to pass before you … | /r/askFDS | 23/08/21 12:04 PM |
| 2 | Stop being defensive about your standards, sis👏🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 10:48 AM |
| 8 | Stop being defensive about your standards, sis👏🏻💅🏻 great guide | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 10:42 AM |
| 12 | Stop being defensive about your standards, sis“And when one woman finally bites and gives them a chance, that’s when they start thinking about whether she’s good enough for him to spend money on” 💀 truer words have never been spoken, I agree its completely bonkers. Its insulting to have to prove yourself on a date THEY ASKED YOU ON. I’m not there to convince you to like me man-boy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 10:38 AM |
| 6 | Need resources to show 22 year old friend that making porn on OnlyFans for money and “empowerment” isn’t a good idea...Thank you, that’s nice of you to say. It definitely wasn’t her boyfriends idea and I would be HIGHLY surprised if he got a cut of it. She mentioned briefly that he supports her but only because she has an interest, not because he does… he doesn’t seem like that type of person and I completely believe it wasn’t at all his idea to pimp her out thankfully. I get the impression it was solely her idea because she has grown out of teenage insecurities and wants to be seen as she is, which for the most… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 09:34 AM |
| 7 | Need resources to show 22 year old friend that making porn on OnlyFans for money and “empowerment” isn’t a good idea...Yes you’re also right. We are really really close, I consider her one of my “people”. It’s a tough decision, especially because I know that her mental health is up and down… I will pick the right time and bring it up gently | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 08:52 AM |
| 7 | Need resources to show 22 year old friend that making porn on OnlyFans for money and “empowerment” isn’t a good idea...Don’t worry I’m not losing sleep | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 06:14 AM |
| 51 | Was gaining a connection with this guy and learning to open up again, then he tells me he’s going on a roadtrip to see a girl.Definitely do not blame yourself. I know it can be hard but try to appreciate that he showed his true colours early rather than being hard on yourself for HIS ACTIONS. You being (maybe) emotionally unavailable has NOTHING to do with him sleeping around 😑 that’s on him and I know it sucks to hear but never expect men to stay faithful until there is real commitment, it will only lead to this situation over and over again. Sending hugs 💕 Edit: also him telling you he was hoping to have sex with ano… | /r/askFDS | 23/08/21 05:32 AM |
| 11 | Need resources to show 22 year old friend that making porn on OnlyFans for money and “empowerment” isn’t a good idea...Thank you!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 04:03 AM |
| 20 | Need resources to show 22 year old friend that making porn on OnlyFans for money and “empowerment” isn’t a good idea...😍 amazing, thank you so much | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 04:02 AM |
| 9 | “Build a man” 🤡🤡🤡This is incredibly sad | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 03:54 AM |
| 18 | Need resources to show 22 year old friend that making porn on OnlyFans for money and “empowerment” isn’t a good idea...Thank you for the advice, I will take it. If she is looking for my approval or my thoughts again I will let her know gently that I don’t agree but I won’t tell her out of the blue. I don’t want it to seem like an attack. Its hard to learn but it’s just not my place to share my opinion on things about her life when I’m not asked explicitly 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 02:24 AM |
| 22 | Need resources to show 22 year old friend that making porn on OnlyFans for money and “empowerment” isn’t a good idea...Almost forgot, the even scarier thing is that her friend(22) is in a new relationship with a nearly 30 year old man who got that friend into doing porn with him 😣 separately and together | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 02:07 AM |
| 6 | Need resources to show 22 year old friend that making porn on OnlyFans for money and “empowerment” isn’t a good idea...Thank you!! Perfect. I will check it out | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 02:05 AM |
| 21 | Need resources to show 22 year old friend that making porn on OnlyFans for money and “empowerment” isn’t a good idea...She told me he would film it but I don’t know about participation… it’s just sad honestly. She is an amazing person being lead down an unhealthy path by LV ideas from friends | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 02:04 AM |
| 46 | Need resources to show 22 year old friend that making porn on OnlyFans for money and “empowerment” isn’t a good idea...Very true. How would you let someone you loved dearly know that you don’t agree with their choices/ should I even let her know I don’t agree?? When she told me the last few times about her idea to do it because she needs money and thinks it’s the height of feminism, I didn’t show any support but tried not to make it obvious that I was completely against it… steered the conversation away ahah | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 01:58 AM |
| 19 | Need resources to show 22 year old friend that making porn on OnlyFans for money and “empowerment” isn’t a good idea...She has a stable, long term boyfriend but the scary thing is that she already has depression… it’s SO inadvisable | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 01:54 AM |
| 37 | Need resources to show 22 year old friend that making porn on OnlyFans for money and “empowerment” isn’t a good idea...I completely agree that it isn’t my job to dictate what she does in her life or to “save her”. No way, nuh uh. If I was so tell her about my stance, it would be the first time and I wondered if any of you ladies had good, fact based articles that I could show her and just leave it be. I think great but naive female friends deserve to be shown ONCE a different side of the story from someone they trust who has their best interests at heart. I will support her as a person because she is my best fri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 01:47 AM |
| 4 | Targeted advice from FDS “older sisters” needed for “younger sisters” (adolescent and early 20’s) 👩👧Hmmm not what you want! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 12:04 PM |
| 3 | Targeted advice from FDS “older sisters” needed for “younger sisters” (adolescent and early 20’s) 👩👧I agree! As I just said in another reply I think there should be clearer rules about what should be posted where so posts and resources are easier to find. It is a tad higglety pigglety right now in my opinion | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 10:44 AM |
| 28 | Targeted advice from FDS “older sisters” needed for “younger sisters” (adolescent and early 20’s) 👩👧Thing is, as frustrating as it can be, lots of posts that should be on level up strat that aren’t really to do with dating are posted to FDS... there is about 150k more subs in FDS so its understandable that women who want to help others would want to put it out into a space with the most eyes but still, I get how you guys feel. I also think there should be clearer sister subreddit rules about what should be posted to what, so everything is easier to find but what can you do? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 10:40 AM |
| 67 | Targeted advice from FDS “older sisters” needed for “younger sisters” (adolescent and early 20’s) 👩👧Exactly! I am guessing the majority of FDS members are 25-35+ and while I know there is no rush to get where they are asap since there is usually a decade age difference, I think it is only natural to have a feeling of “oh wow I’ll never catch up!” or “that is so far ahead, I don’t know what to do NOW to prepare for that”... We need big sisters!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 06:12 AM |
| 20 | What's a 🚩red flag you encountered this week?It’s utterly revolting. Poor woman 😔 Hopefully he shows his true colours quickly, like he did with you, to other women so no one has to ever again put up with his degrading behaviour. Being a stay at home mother is the ultimate job with the most responsibility - it should never be taken lightly! Screw him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 06:43 AM |
| 61 | What's a 🚩red flag you encountered this week?Ugh that sounds like literally the last thing you need right now. Fucking men! Your husband sounds like he loves you very very much. So sorry 💞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 12:15 AM |
| 2 | Passion for the welfare of animals and people - need career ideas that have a good work-life balance and pay!At the clinic I witnessed quite a few horrible things and while it’s overwhelming, I think direct patient care is what makes me feel most fulfilled…. Now to figure out the rest ahahaha. Thank you for your reply lovely, you always have insightful comments 😄 | /r/askFDS | 08/08/21 12:00 AM |
| 8 | 🤡🤡🤡I’m sorry but if your man is going through “daily war” he doesn’t need games, he needs professional help 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 08:02 AM |
| 5 | He really thought he did somethingThat is... horrible yet hilarious 🤭 what a pair of idiots | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 05:05 AM |
| 3 | Date ideas that don't revolve around food but where he still pays something?👏🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 02:14 PM |
| 109 | What are our thoughts on dating depressed/anxious men?Nope. If a man needs therapy but either isn’t because he doesn’t think he needs it or he uses other people as this free therapy, both are huge red flags. How can the relationship be healthy when half of the equation doesn’t care enough for themselves to get their mental illness under control? It will only trauma bond you | /r/askFDS | 26/07/21 01:04 AM |
| 28 | If women can go through the discomfort of being pregnant for 9 months, then men can go through the “discomfort” of not getting sex for the first 3months+ of the relationship.Girl 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 11:33 PM |
| 16 | "Good Morning" small talk and other irksGirl, you made me laugh 👏🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 11:28 PM |
| 1 | How to let go of the guilt for being “too much”?I will look into Attached! I definitely always recommend Thais Gibson’s youtube channel. She has heaps of free videos on a whole range of attachment style questions. She is a co-founder of the Personal Development School, which I bought a subscription to for a month and have used offers of theirs for 1 weeks free access a few times over the past year. They have HEAPS of video courses that include worksheet booklets you can print out. I highly highly recommend the beautiful Thais 😄 | /r/askFDS | 18/07/21 07:40 AM |
| 2 | How to let go of the guilt for being “too much”?I have to say, its eerie how much my situation was like yours with your ex... I was honestly wondering did I write this post in my sleep and not know it lmao! I completely agree with other commenters and definitely think you should delve more into your attachment styles with your parents/guardians. It really helped me too to find out how (sadly) natural and comforting it was so find a guy who had the warmth emotional availability of a calloused heel, aka my ex. No wonder I turned out AP! Always … | /r/askFDS | 18/07/21 05:32 AM |
| 8 | Me and my long-time friend are too different nowI know it can be inviting to take the non-confrontational route and slowly cut contact off... I have done it before because I was scared to be independent. But lets be honest, no one likes being breadcrumbed whether in a friendship or a relationship. I think we have to step up and respect other peoples time as well as our own. Especially other women. If you don’t want any contact, let her know. If she asks to hang out again say that you have really appreciated her friendship over the past years … | /r/askFDS | 14/07/21 10:58 PM |
| 3 | This song is catchy as hell, but on a closer inspection, the lyrics seem to make it an lvm anthem (second pic) thoughts?Eeeeeek….. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 11:17 PM |
| 23 | FDS book rec: Untamed by Glennon Doyle.That first quote really resonated with me so thank you for sharing! I recently started to compliment myself at every turn, sometimes even saying “outrageous” complimentary things about myself and my character that most people would find conceited. Which my family jokes I am being ahah. But I honestly don’t give a shit how I am perceived when I say it because it has helped me tremendously to gain confidence that was never ever instilled in me my whole life 👑 When you start believing the positive … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 06:41 AM |
| 1 | How to get more comfortable being “mean” and letting others be responsible for themselves?Very glad you’re working on that! I would agree with u/seawitchbitch and say it is definitely a lot different than calling yourself a bitch in a good way. You don’t deserve that treatment. I used to be the exact same as you, a complete people pleaser - I was always thinking first about the effects of my choices on OTHERS not on ME. Which is totally backwards. Self first then others if you want to thrive. I too used to let the negative thoughts about myself slip in and not tell myself to stop it.… | /r/askFDS | 12/07/21 12:52 AM |
| 2 | How to get more comfortable being “mean” and letting others be responsible for themselves?Agreed. OP you need to decide if being what others want you to be is worth your sanity and happiness. It should be an easy HELL NO | /r/askFDS | 12/07/21 12:42 AM |
| 4 | Cats and HVMsGirl same! Its the ultimate heart melter 😩Though when I think about it, it really is bare minimum (to all women I hope) isn’t it ahahaha. Oh societal conditioning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 01:02 PM |
| 44 | Rejected a man due to his height - family are giving me second thoughts +gaslighting me!👏🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 12:54 PM |
| 6 | Becoming attracted to Green Flags/ HVMSimilar to what other commenters are saying, I always remind myself when I feel attraction for LV men that it’s the highs that I am remembering from my LV ex. The very low lows sometimes seem to fade in time, in comparison to the highs. The highs in unhealthy relationships are so intoxicating that a healthy (not as strong/overwhelming) high can seem boring to you. You aren’t getting the huge rush of hormones at one time but over a longer period of time in a healthy relationship. Women that have … | /r/askFDS | 07/07/21 08:49 AM |
| 1 | I am absolutely speechless. Tl;dr, if he can’t have sex with her after a surgery, she will not be allowed to use her cup/tampons. This is straight up abuse.Omg no. Scary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 08:38 AM |
| 21 | Men only know to console you through physical affectionPrecisely. My ex used to say in a sad voice “ you are always sad and not even having a boyfriend can fix it”... like dude I have diagnosed depression idiot!! From a traumatic childhood! You coming in here and expecting your mere presence to be magical is so stupid. And that’s not even getting into the fact that he made my depression 10x worse | /r/askFDS | 23/04/21 12:14 AM |
| 20 | Men only know to console you through physical affectionOmg that’s exactly my first thought too. It’s insulting to her | /r/askFDS | 23/04/21 12:08 AM |
| 1 | how to not be upset that no one wants meOf course! Go for it | /r/askFDS | 21/04/21 12:57 AM |
| 1 | I have no words. Don’t incentivise unwanted behaviour! You shouldn’t need to give more of yourself to get the bare minimum back? I AM SO ANGRY.Precisely. Even just ONE of those negative characteristics she listed and its time to seriously reevaluate if you are in a healthy relationship!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 09:00 AM |
| 2 | how to not be upset that no one wants meThat is verrry normal for your own fingers to not do anything for women. I’d look into silent vibrators if I were you and check reviews to see if it is actually silent ahaha. Try using the tap of a bath or removable shower head if thats an option. Its not completely silent but the Satisfier Pro 2, an air suction toy, is heaven sent. The lower levels (there are 12) are pretty much silent once on the body so theres that option! I think its really important you explore yourself and what feels good … | /r/askFDS | 20/04/21 08:58 AM |
| 9 | how to not be upset that no one wants meAlso I forgot to say I am really sorry you’re feeling like this because I know how hard it is. It is very admirable to be able to make a vulnerable post like this. That’s strength. And it’s definitely not just us. The majority of voices we hear talking about having sex are the people with nothing to brag about. They are likely in a bad situationship with a guy who will find the next best thing soon. Nothing to be jealous of, trust me. A couple things I wanted to add: I know you feel lonely and c… | /r/askFDS | 19/04/21 02:57 AM |
| 19 | how to not be upset that no one wants meReal talk here. I was in a very similar situation a year ago when I was 20. I was a virgin, never had my first kiss, never held hands for more than 5 seconds... I was deep down desperate to feel desired and loved for who I was. I wanted to be adored and cherished because I knew I was a bomb ass bitch. Found a guy who seemed perfect at the start but he love bombed, manipulated and gaslight me to the high heavens and let me tell you, this desire you feel to be seen as a grown woman/desirable is no… | /r/askFDS | 19/04/21 02:33 AM |
| 5 | I have no words. Don’t incentivise unwanted behaviour! You shouldn’t need to give more of yourself to get the bare minimum back? I AM SO ANGRY.I had a hard time deciphering her hardly legible signature but Felice Dunas 🤡👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 11:13 PM |
| 5 | I have no words. Don’t incentivise unwanted behaviour! You shouldn’t need to give more of yourself to get the bare minimum back? I AM SO ANGRY.You killed me 💀💀💀 that’s hilarious | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 11:06 PM |
| 68 | I have no words. Don’t incentivise unwanted behaviour! You shouldn’t need to give more of yourself to get the bare minimum back? I AM SO ANGRY.She says that the end of the article that if the women isn’t “feeling it” ‘and hasn’t been for some time, this is no reason to give up on sex. All she needs is to be WARMED RIGHT BACK UP’ WE AREN’T OVENS BITCH GO SPEW YOUR IDIOTIC PICKME ADVICE AT A WALL BECAUSE IT IS TO THE DETRIMENT OF EVERY FEMALE AND IN THE FAVOUR OF EVERY MAN | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 03:50 PM |
| 15 | I have no words. Don’t incentivise unwanted behaviour! You shouldn’t need to give more of yourself to get the bare minimum back? I AM SO ANGRY.Precisely. It is backwards and likely traumatising advice | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 03:10 PM |
| 22 | I have no words. Don’t incentivise unwanted behaviour! You shouldn’t need to give more of yourself to get the bare minimum back? I AM SO ANGRY.Exactly! I could expect that from a random woman who didn’t know better but not a woman who writes about “healthy” relationships as a career... she is DELUDED | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 03:09 PM |
| 24 | I have no words. Don’t incentivise unwanted behaviour! You shouldn’t need to give more of yourself to get the bare minimum back? I AM SO ANGRY.I know!! This is a WOMAN writing this 😤🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 02:52 PM |
| 6 | Just found out my manipulative, abusive ex still follows me on Spotify and apparently there is no way to block him or make him unfollow me.That is definitely an option! Starting anew does have its own appeal... I will have a think on it | /r/askFDS | 18/04/21 01:39 AM |
| 6 | Just found out my manipulative, abusive ex still follows me on Spotify and apparently there is no way to block him or make him unfollow me.Thank you so much!!! I will look into it | /r/askFDS | 18/04/21 01:38 AM |
| 5 | Just found out my manipulative, abusive ex still follows me on Spotify and apparently there is no way to block him or make him unfollow me.I could and will set them all to private once I figure out what to do but the fact that he... 🤢 that he is still following 🤢 me makes me want to explode in disgust and sadness. ADD A BLOCK OPTION SPOTIFY LIKE FUCKING HELL | /r/askFDS | 18/04/21 01:36 AM |
| 6 | Just found out my manipulative, abusive ex still follows me on Spotify and apparently there is no way to block him or make him unfollow me.Thank you so much!!! I will have a think on it and come back if I have any questions if thats okay ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ | /r/askFDS | 18/04/21 01:35 AM |
| 3 | Just found out my manipulative, abusive ex still follows me on Spotify and apparently there is no way to block him or make him unfollow me.Bless!!! I will look it up | /r/askFDS | 18/04/21 01:33 AM |
| 3 | Just found out my manipulative, abusive ex still follows me on Spotify and apparently there is no way to block him or make him unfollow me.Great suggestion! Thank you | /r/askFDS | 18/04/21 01:33 AM |
| 4 | Just found out my manipulative, abusive ex still follows me on Spotify and apparently there is no way to block him or make him unfollow me.That is a good suggestion but unfortunately I’m always changing my mind and they are always evolving... I would be soooo annoyed I couldn’t edit them. But I would definitely leave the account open to see which songs and stuff are on which playlist while remaking them before I deleted it | /r/askFDS | 18/04/21 01:33 AM |
| 5 | Just found out my manipulative, abusive ex still follows me on Spotify and apparently there is no way to block him or make him unfollow me.Yeah you are right! I am one of those organisational weirdos that would actually enjoy remaking it ahahah | /r/askFDS | 18/04/21 01:31 AM |
| 3 | Just found out my manipulative, abusive ex still follows me on Spotify and apparently there is no way to block him or make him unfollow me.Thanks for your kind words 🥰 thats a great suggestion, I will have a think on it | /r/askFDS | 18/04/21 01:29 AM |
| 3 | Just found out my manipulative, abusive ex still follows me on Spotify and apparently there is no way to block him or make him unfollow me.Don’t worry, it will NEVER happen again. No. No mam. This shiz is sacred now | /r/askFDS | 18/04/21 01:28 AM |
| 17 | Just found out my manipulative, abusive ex still follows me on Spotify and apparently there is no way to block him or make him unfollow me.Lmao that was my first thought so I changed my playlist with all my f you songs to... never mind I don’t want weirdo lurkers knowing my playlist name, that shit is creepy also | /r/askFDS | 17/04/21 03:08 PM |
| 9 | Thought You All Would Enjoy This, I Know I Sure Did!Preach. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 12:26 PM |
| 6 | Unhappy that my LVX took my virginity because it feels like he won and I won't get that sense of caring guidance again I wish my final partner would have. How do I stop feeling this way?Dump him back. It doesn’t sound like you have fully done that yet. It doesn’t matter that he said it first, you just have to mean it more. I say you should write out all the shitty things he did on a piece of paper. Spill all your feelings onto it and BURN IT. Or rip it up, cut it into slivers. Drown it until the paper disintegrates or better yet, put it in the toilet and shit on it. Do your worst girl. Make it a point to reject him. Feel all that anger and sadness. But know deep down that you d… | /r/askFDS | 31/03/21 12:20 PM |
| 6 | Unhappy that my LVX took my virginity because it feels like he won and I won't get that sense of caring guidance again I wish my final partner would have. How do I stop feeling this way?👑 | /r/askFDS | 31/03/21 12:11 PM |
| 4 | Sexual coercion is SEXUAL ASSAULT. Not all sexual assaults are violent and it often happens in relationshipsI think it could potentially really help, I know talking to mine has and continues to be integral in my healing 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 10:17 PM |
| 3 | Sexual coercion is SEXUAL ASSAULT. Not all sexual assaults are violent and it often happens in relationshipsI don’t want to pry so you don’t need to go into detail if you don’t want to but have you tried talking to a professional about it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 10:06 PM |
| 5 | Sexual coercion is SEXUAL ASSAULT. Not all sexual assaults are violent and it often happens in relationshipsI’m so sorry. My relationship was short too, only 5 months of COVID time where we lived an hour away from each other. We have to remember, violence is not what makes it assault, its your partner’s potential response to you saying/about to say no | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 10:02 PM |
| 4 | Sexual coercion is SEXUAL ASSAULT. Not all sexual assaults are violent and it often happens in relationshipsIts not talked about enough at all so I thought I’d share because what you described pretty much happened to me too. I’m so sorry. How you felt inside at the time matters and try not to second guess your feelings. They are valid 💖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 09:57 PM |
| 4 | Sexual coercion is SEXUAL ASSAULT. Not all sexual assaults are violent and it often happens in relationshipsOh fuck. Thats so fucked up my god!!! I’m so glad you’re out of that situation now 😳 I’m so sorry that happened to you gorgeous | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 09:54 PM |
| 6 | Sexual coercion is SEXUAL ASSAULT. Not all sexual assaults are violent and it often happens in relationshipsI’m so sorry that happened lovely. I want to wring his neck 😤 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 09:51 PM |
| 7 | Sexual coercion is SEXUAL ASSAULT. Not all sexual assaults are violent and it often happens in relationshipsWhat. The. Fuck. ?!?!?!? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 09:47 PM |
| 4 | Sexual coercion is SEXUAL ASSAULT. Not all sexual assaults are violent and it often happens in relationshipsIf you remember any of the tips, please write them out! 😄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 09:46 PM |
| 6 | Sexual coercion is SEXUAL ASSAULT. Not all sexual assaults are violent and it often happens in relationshipsYes exactly. Despite how uncomfortable and emotionally manipulated I was into doing sexual stuff, I still sadly question myself whether I’m exaggerating or making it up after the fact. People who have experienced this have to try and not shame ourselves and our feelings are more than valid | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 09:45 PM |
| 4 | Sexual coercion is SEXUAL ASSAULT. Not all sexual assaults are violent and it often happens in relationshipsDamn. Thats so terrible, I’m so sorry. I’m so glad you finally blocked him, he sounds like an unempathetic POS. Also there is a special place in hell for your Dad’s girlfriend 🥰 anyone who starves animals is the lowest of the low | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 09:41 PM |
| 68 | Sexual coercion is SEXUAL ASSAULT. Not all sexual assaults are violent and it often happens in relationshipsOhh lovely woman, I’m so sorry that happened 😓 That’s beyond words...Just revolting. He is revolting. I hope you’re getting the help you deserve because sexual assault of any kind is no joke. I felt the same when my ex sexually coerced me. I only felt guilt and shame that I couldn’t be what he wanted. Rooting for your happiness 💖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 12:16 PM |
| 118 | Men talk for weeks..no dateI know the temptation to move them along quicker than they are going or plant ideas but FDS advises against teaching a man how to date you. There could be a myriad of reasons why these men aren’t asking you but its not up to you to speculate or plant the thought into their mind. They are grown men. If they don’t have the initiative to even ask you out, that doesn’t bode well for their character. You want someone with enough confidence to know what they want and the drive to go after it! | /r/askFDS | 29/03/21 11:18 AM |
| 15 | Sexual coercion is SEXUAL ASSAULT. Not all sexual assaults are violent and it often happens in relationshipsOh god. I felt the exact same way 🥺 I hope you are doing better now and keeping your head up. Its disgraceful that sexual coercion isn’t talked about in school like it should be because boys grow into men thinking its perfectly okay | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 11:11 AM |
| 57 | Sexual coercion is SEXUAL ASSAULT. Not all sexual assaults are violent and it often happens in relationshipsThat is revolting. What outdated laws!!! The world need to do some serious catching up because thats not right 😤 have they ever heard of threatening to hurt you if you scream or threatening your family/career/living quarters etc if you fight back, like what the fuck? Empathy is truly a rare trait in politics | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 11:08 AM |
| 37 | Sexual coercion is SEXUAL ASSAULT. Not all sexual assaults are violent and it often happens in relationshipsYep 🤢 I’m so sorry you dealt with that. I personally would dread bed time because I knew he’d want to be sexual. And when I said no, he withdrew emotionally which devastated me because all my life I had been codependent. At first it was my mother, then it transferred to him 70% ish. It sucks big time to be coerced and it is much more common than most people think. Just because most guys pressure girls does not make it okay or “just part of growing up” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 11:04 AM |
| 30 | Sexual coercion is SEXUAL ASSAULT. Not all sexual assaults are violent and it often happens in relationshipsYessss | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 08:04 AM |
| 62 | Sexual coercion is SEXUAL ASSAULT. Not all sexual assaults are violent and it often happens in relationshipsIts truly disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 07:49 AM |
| 13 | "If he wanted to, he would", but why doesn't he want me?Agree wholeheartedly! He may SEEM happy but people who are so set in their maladaptive ways are never ACTUALLY happy. He isn’t healthy emotionally and he will keep repeating the cycle until he has no other choice but to grow. That could take his whole life and you don’t want to be helping him when you could move on and help yourself. It will be a fake front and its to get under your skin lovely | /r/askFDS | 29/03/21 04:30 AM |
| 35 | "If he wanted to, he would", but why doesn't he want me?I think just getting to the point where you realise most men are too proud to regret how they treated you because it is so ingrained in them from a young age to be selfish while women are selfless. He will NEVER apologise exactly how you wish he would because ultimately he doesn’t care to know how he hurt you!!! He doesn’t care to know what doesn’t instantly benefit him. If you had a compliment to give him, sure he’d want to know. But not how he hurt you because that makes child-like LVM feel ba… | /r/askFDS | 29/03/21 03:55 AM |
| 9 | How to recover from having an emotionally abusive father?Hey lovely. Have you distanced yourself or cut your father out of your life? | /r/askFDS | 29/03/21 03:43 AM |
| 10 | How to cope if a HVM has a mental breakdown?Exactly. No matter how devastating what happened is, your partner wouldn’t cut you out completely if they valued you. It just tells me that he wasn’t that serious about the relationship otherwise he would have exhausted the list of resources like counselling or talking to friends before he gave up on what you had. He sounds like he doesn’t have a good support system and it used to just shutting down 🚩As everyone is saying, you don’t want a man who shuts you out every time something bad happens a… | /r/askFDS | 29/03/21 01:38 AM |
| 3 | Apparently women are ruining good men. What in the pick me is this?Lmao suck up much | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 10:51 AM |
| 31 | Women can do anythingOne day, I want to be her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 08:44 AM |
| 3 | Emilie Autumn "Thank God I'm Pretty", I love how sarcasm just oozes from the song, the gutteral tones dripping with visceral disgust she uses when she sings "Thank God". I used to love this song at 17, and still do now, if it's not your cup of tea just check out the lyrics please ♥She is a BOSS ASS BITCH | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 02:29 AM |
| 3 | Painful sex with my ex who didn’t care I was crying and wanted to go to sleep (LONG, may be triggering)Thank you lovely 💖💖💖 you too | /r/askFDS | 16/03/21 11:23 PM |
| 1 | How to stop protecting male feelings?I am literally exactly the same as you! Issues with my parents growing up had shaped me into a highly codependent (now) adult to my mother, which switched over to my ex. It sucks and I feel your pain deeply. It is just something we have to figure out for ourselves, by ourselves, because you really don’t know what you’re made of until you can see that you are all you need. Sending you love 💖 | /r/askFDS | 15/03/21 10:27 AM |
| 27 | How to stop protecting male feelings?What it comes down to is: If I keep letting this man treat me disrespectfully, what does that say about how much I respect myself? Why do I value his feelings over mine when he hurt ME? Both of these indicate unhealed emotional trauma that you should investigate ASAP. You need to search deep down within yourself for these answers and tell yourself every second of every day you deserve more than what he gave you. Because even if you love him, like I did when I broke up with my ex 5 months ago, lo… | /r/askFDS | 15/03/21 08:47 AM |
| 58 | Vibrator recommendations?Okay this isn’t actually a vibrator but an air pressure/clit suction toy, the Satisfier Pro 2. Girlllll, it is a dream!!! I highly recommend 😂 | /r/askFDS | 15/03/21 01:00 AM |
| 1 | When he suggests getting coffee...Have a look at this post. There are a a couple response options if you think he is ignorant but as she says in the post, we as strong women shouldn’t ever be teaching grown men 🤦🏻♀️ https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/iwv1tz/responses_to_walkcoffeebar_dates/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf | /r/askFDS | 14/03/21 05:09 AM |
| 5 | Had a comment removed from a different sub because telling someone to wait longer than 2 dates to have sex is apparently “dehumanizing” to men?The fuck | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 03:17 AM |
| 30 | Baroness Jones 🙌🙌🙌Lmao yeah I think she made her point very clear and concise dude, don’t take credit for her intelligence | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 03:13 AM |
| 19 | Baroness Jones 🙌🙌🙌👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 03:12 AM |
| 2 | My bf says that he is a HVM and that women act like babies and need careI know its a rhetorical question but I believe it comes down to, at least for my ex, that he was so dismissive avoidant that he only had room in his head for his needs and wants aka no room for anyone elses feelings. Shown outwardly as complete selfishness and no sign of empathy | /r/askFDS | 14/03/21 02:24 AM |
| 13 | 🔥🔥The Female Dating Strategy podcast teaser is now live on Spotify! Check it out! 🔥🔥I AM SMILING SO HARD. I HAVE BEEN YEARNING FOR THIS 🔥 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 12:22 AM |
| 9 | My bf says that he is a HVM and that women act like babies and need careUm ew. How unempathetic could he get?!? Reminds me of my ex. I would hurt myself and he’d be like “its just a cut, you’ll be fine”. No affection or sympathy, nothing. Its like these men have no room in their heads for anything but how THEY feel | /r/askFDS | 12/03/21 06:38 AM |
| 23 | SIGN UP BIG BALL BOY 🏀🏀 don’t be afraid ☺️ beauty is PAINYes or the silicone in the other squishy ball... If they had their ballsacks rupturing or scar tissue build up or have a drainage tube in their balls I donut think they’d be so quick to say implants are a QUICK and EASY solution | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 02:29 AM |
| 6 | Apparently I need to lower my body standards of men now 🥴Lmao its like he is saying “I am the end all be all here 💁🏻♂️ She is me but the downgraded version with feelings and emotions gag ” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 09:59 PM |
| 38 | 5 lies about FDS in Vice's latest hit pieceI am so SO happy for you after reading about your story, it sounds like you are doing so much better than you ever could have thought 💖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 04:18 AM |
| 55 | 5 lies about FDS in Vice's latest hit pieceShe contacted me out of nowhere too and I was like eeeek no way sis. I am not talking to you when I have no idea who you are or what you represent 🗑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 02:51 AM |
| 0 | Do you want children? Poll.Sorry lovely. I tried to create a more inclusive poll but for some reason it was locked after about 15 min and have been trying to get in contact with mods | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 07:27 AM |
| 6 | Do you want children poll. More options in comments!Option: have and don’t want more | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 11:50 PM |
| 4 | Do you want children poll. More options in comments!Option: pets are more than enough | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 11:50 PM |
| 3 | Do you want children poll. More options in comments!Option: Being an aunty/family member to children is perfect | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 11:49 PM |
| 24 | Do you want children? Poll.How could I miss adoption omg!! I can’t add another option now sadly. Alright upvote this comment above for ADOPT | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 04:11 AM |
| 12 | Reminder to myself and others: Just focus on yourself honey.Beautifully written! I am 21 and very much agree now. All this pressure to have a partner, have sex when you probably don’t feel ready (just to keep a man 🤢) and live together before true commitment/marriage is so overwhelming at times that I forget I am HARDLY an adult. And still very dependant. You calling me a kid was a nice wake up call to be selfish and focus on myself just like a kid does lmao ♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 12:23 AM |
| 2 | “Your body is more than a vehicle for desire” YES QUEEN. Breasts👏🏻don’t👏🏻exist👏🏻for👏🏻grown👏🏻men👏🏻. End of.Let us know how it goes!! You got this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 12:54 AM |
| 5 | “Your body is more than a vehicle for desire” YES QUEEN. Breasts👏🏻don’t👏🏻exist👏🏻for👏🏻grown👏🏻men👏🏻. End of.SAME 😢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 01:27 AM |
| 16 | “Your body is more than a vehicle for desire” YES QUEEN. Breasts👏🏻don’t👏🏻exist👏🏻for👏🏻grown👏🏻men👏🏻. End of.I completely agree. Fathers should be the ones to teach them not to stare. Men don’t appreciate being told what to do from a woman (boo hoo) so it has to start with a HVM keeping his son in check. Men are always looking for other mens approval above woman’s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 11:50 PM |
| 7 | “Your body is more than a vehicle for desire” YES QUEEN. Breasts👏🏻don’t👏🏻exist👏🏻for👏🏻grown👏🏻men👏🏻. End of.Me too!! I love her energy and confidence. I want to emulate her attitude, it is FEIRCE | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 11:45 PM |
| 15 | “Your body is more than a vehicle for desire” YES QUEEN. Breasts👏🏻don’t👏🏻exist👏🏻for👏🏻grown👏🏻men👏🏻. End of.Completely valid. Whatever makes you feel the best is what you should do 💖 its not up to women to stop dressing sexy so they don’t get pervs attention. It is up to the pervs to learn some manners and get therapy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 11:43 PM |
| 3 | “Your body is more than a vehicle for desire” YES QUEEN. Breasts👏🏻don’t👏🏻exist👏🏻for👏🏻grown👏🏻men👏🏻. End of.Hell yeah!!! 🕺🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 11:37 PM |
| 3 | “Your body is more than a vehicle for desire” YES QUEEN. Breasts👏🏻don’t👏🏻exist👏🏻for👏🏻grown👏🏻men👏🏻. End of.I haven’t worn a wire bra for about 4 years and it sucks because they are not cute but my boobs and back thank me for it immensely! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 11:36 PM |
| 42 | “Your body is more than a vehicle for desire” YES QUEEN. Breasts👏🏻don’t👏🏻exist👏🏻for👏🏻grown👏🏻men👏🏻. End of.I wish I had smaller boobs because I would dieee for cute bralettes with spaghetti straps and not chunky ones... but alas... Also I love the attitude, let those boobs hang free | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 12:09 PM |
| 42 | “Your body is more than a vehicle for desire” YES QUEEN. Breasts👏🏻don’t👏🏻exist👏🏻for👏🏻grown👏🏻men👏🏻. End of.Its not even their beauty to oggle at anyway, its yours to admire yourself... Women should be able to decide who sees their figures and who sees a hoodie with sweatpants - who ever let these men think its all about what they want is REPULSIVE!! They should be grateful to even SEE YOU in a hoodie girl | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 12:06 PM |
| 16 | Guy records a disturbing, upsetting conversation between him and his exasperated mother after she finds a tiger plushie he modified with a fleshlight. He refuses to go on family trip unless he can bring it with him.Could you translate some of the worst bits that you thought the translation in the video didn’t do justice? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 08:12 AM |
| 13 | Guy records a disturbing, upsetting conversation between him and his exasperated mother after she finds a tiger plushie he modified with a fleshlight. He refuses to go on family trip unless he can bring it with him.Yes, anything that they can own that will keep them company but doesn’t have the ability to talk back or means to leave them. Poor animals. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 08:10 AM |
| 55 | Lmao so basically I have to pay for both of us or you will LITERALLY run away, potentially get caught and sent to jail for committing a crime (theft)? ‘I got a feeling’ I would prefer to do almost anything, including cleaning my cat’s litter, rather than go on a date with you...thieving POSFor sure. I can’t be bothered with OLD anymore | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 12:27 PM |
| 7 | “What you fear, you will want to destroy”Absolutely beautiful. I love this man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 10:58 PM |
| 6 | Snide remarks against women & young girls are never isolated incidents and WILL progress into Degradation easily. Removal of Autonomy and Explicit Violence isn’t a far leap from there... Be careful.100% agree | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 04:53 AM |
| 23 | I can receive a notification, see a part of the comment, and not even a MINUTE later:BLESS YOUR HEART ♥️ what a mighty fine banhammer it is too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 04:52 AM |
| 64 | If he walks faster than you in public, DUMP HIMLmao my ex used to walk beside me while we were in the dating phase and as soon as I committed to him (bad bad BAD decision), I noticed he would start walking ahead of me. We went to get snacks from the supermarket one time and he was walking full speed. What made it worse for me was that I have anxiety, especially around a lot of people and HE KNEW THAT. He didn’t walk beside me, he didn’t check in on me, he didn’t hold my hand to make sure I felt safe... he got mad at me for crying and asking … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 04:51 AM |
| 6 | Snide remarks against women & young girls are never isolated incidents and WILL progress into Degradation easily. Removal of Autonomy and Explicit Violence isn’t a far leap from there... Be careful.🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 04:13 AM |
| 24 | I can receive a notification, see a part of the comment, and not even a MINUTE later:😂 girl | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 04:11 AM |
| 6 | Snide remarks against women & young girls are never isolated incidents and WILL progress into Degradation easily. Removal of Autonomy and Explicit Violence isn’t a far leap from there... Be careful.Oh lord is it three days?? I had no idea it was that fast. Shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 04:03 AM |
| 45 | I can receive a notification, see a part of the comment, and not even a MINUTE later:A m-mm-mALE?!?!? 😳🥰 oh my god we are so lucky to be honoured with their negative attention and abuse 🥰🥰🥰 /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 04:01 AM |
| 65 | I can receive a notification, see a part of the comment, and not even a MINUTE later:I am so thankful for all the work the mods do ♥️ You guys are the real heroes. Why can’t women who have been hurt just have ONE place on the whole internet where they are not called liars, ugly, unworthy, fat, stupid, dishwashers, fleshlights, crazy, melodramatic whores etc etc and all around gaslit? 🤔 just one??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 03:58 AM |
| 14 | Men on the MoonArkansas??? EXPLAIN | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 11:17 PM |
| 4 | I found a new turn off for me: men not knowing the female anatomy down there (2:35). You have the internet, look up an educational diagram or read a book for christ’s sake!From what we saw he definitely has the most potential! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 11:05 PM |
| 15 | I found a new turn off for me: men not knowing the female anatomy down there (2:35). You have the internet, look up an educational diagram or read a book for christ’s sake!Big penis meant to go in wet hole right?? Is that the anus or urethra? 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 07:29 AM |
| 17 | I found a new turn off for me: men not knowing the female anatomy down there (2:35). You have the internet, look up an educational diagram or read a book for christ’s sake!Oh lord, very true. I was happy that he felt bad but what more can he do now than to say sorry and “I was an ass, my bad”... He could have (and probably did) fucked up a girl’s sexual confidence and autonomy and now he feels bad 🥺 oh boo hoo GOOD PEOPLE DONT DO IT IN THE FIRST PLACE YOU LITERAL SCUM. Men like him who pressure women into having sex deserve to be castrated and sent into space | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 06:43 AM |
| 27 | I found a new turn off for me: men not knowing the female anatomy down there (2:35). You have the internet, look up an educational diagram or read a book for christ’s sake!That woman is better off with a rabbit vibe 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 04:47 AM |
| 36 | Stills from a scene in the 1998 music video for Pearl Jam’s “Do the Evolution”. Disturbingly prophetic.What the ... actual fuck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 02:30 AM |
| 45 | I found a new turn off for me: men not knowing the female anatomy down there (2:35). You have the internet, look up an educational diagram or read a book for christ’s sake!I want to vomit 🤢 I feel pure rage | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 01:48 AM |
| 28 | I found a new turn off for me: men not knowing the female anatomy down there (2:35). You have the internet, look up an educational diagram or read a book for christ’s sake!DANG STRAIGHT | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 01:35 AM |
| 38 | I found a new turn off for me: men not knowing the female anatomy down there (2:35). You have the internet, look up an educational diagram or read a book for christ’s sake!No, it is not just called the vagina and no, it is not one whole “thing”. If you don’t care to concern yourself with knowing AT MINIMUM, the correct terminology and placement of female parts, you are never getting the privilege of being near enough to see✨mine✨ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 01:24 AM |
| 4 | saw this in a book and thought it was fitting. not sure what flair but i thought it’d be a good little reminder not to fuck with the goblins ✨SUBLIME | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 12:29 AM |
| 244 | I don't have a good title this is just hilariousOr nasty toilet paper bits stuck in their ass hair because they won’t clean their dirty butthole in the shower 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 12:29 AM |
| 57 | As soon as i saw this , i thought about this group ! ✨Aw he was tricked 🥺 he needs a hug 💀💀💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 11:14 PM |
| 14 | Man "pwns" woman who asks what men have to offer by showing her his neckbeard nest and "brown cuddling pillow" LMAOOAHAHAHAHA IM LAUGHING SO HARD THIS IS TRAGIC | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 11:11 PM |
| 5 | Attachment Theory?I (21) am a huge lover of Attachment Theory and really devoted my me-time to it before I found FDS about 4 months ago. I watched tons of Thais Gibson on youtube and did a heap of her paid courses. It helped me get out of a relationship with my toxic ex (21m). He was a huge DA (maybe FA but a relationship triggered his deactivation) and I was mostly anxious preoccupied and a third ish secure. I would say that with all the work I have done, most of it hard, I have been able to become sooo much mor… | /r/askFDS | 24/02/21 08:25 AM |
| 5 | Women, be aware of what LVM calls "Kino".Lol stop I’ll cry! I love you too 🥺 you are such a sweet, caring person | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 08:14 AM |
| 11 | Women, be aware of what LVM calls "Kino".Thank you lovely ♥️ I actually don’t get it a lot and have had to carry myself through this process pretty much alone, except for FDS of course (including caring people like you). It really has been a HUGE guiding light into creating a safe place for myself within myself and finding self respect | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 06:50 AM |
| 39 | Women, be aware of what LVM calls "Kino".This is so triggering for me personally and I (21) am glad you posted it. It really brings home the fact that my first relationship (my most recent) was with a man baby (21) who did this shit. He tried to kiss me on the second date, the third date, the fourth date and the fifth. Each time I had to reject him as he was literally so close to my mouth. I hadn’t kissed before and I would feel so awkward saying “not yet” or “maybe next date” because I felt a straight “no” would be too harsh and bitch… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 02:50 AM |
| 3 | Beauty and the Beast rantSure, but he was incredibly abusive before and him being “nice” now doesn’t negate all the horrible stuff he has done. Even though he turned a new leaf and became friendly, it should still act as a MASSIVE warning to Belle that he is CAPABLE of being abusive and she should still run for the hills! Men who are abusive once, can and probably will be abusive again. If there is going to be a change in behaviour, it never is that quick | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 12:52 AM |
| 6 | Beauty and the Beast rantGag 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 11:55 PM |
| 3 | Is this a red flag?Yeah he has no idea about boundaries and he obviously doesn’t respect her if he is asking. A man who respects you would never ask you such private and vulnerable questions unless their is longterm trust and commitment | /r/askFDS | 23/02/21 04:04 AM |
| 1 | Needing help on not going back to ex and impending divorceIt is COMPLETELY disrespectful to yourself that you are even considering it. You need to truly, deep down, want more for yourself than that toxicity. You deserve a healthy, happy life and you can’t have that with him. Ever. Relationships with codependency are precisely like drugs and I know first hand. I know its hard but you need to wait it out. At 3 months it is easier than 2, at 4 months hopefully the feelings of needing a toxic love hit will be less consuming and around 5 you will be okay. T… | /r/askFDS | 22/02/21 10:33 AM |
| 2 | Feeling pathetic - help greatly appreciated👏🏻 | /r/askFDS | 22/02/21 10:14 AM |
| 129 | Cut my date short at the first sign of disrespectLmao this cracked me up. That was my hardest relationship fault. So basically, dating is not a creative writing exercise so NEVER fill in the blanks with excuses or a romantic twist on unhealthy behaviours👸🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 10:08 AM |
| 10 | No trousers.ahaHAHAHAHHAHAHA LMAO, the fuck.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 06:07 AM |
| 9 | How to ingest media like a normal, healthy woman and drop my pickemeisha habits. Or, in other words, how to stop comparing and competing with other women.The part about acknowledging and changing being different is very true but as long as you hold yourself accountable when you think the cruel or insecure thoughts then you are making a lot of progress. Acknowledgement is the hardest part and you did that! My advice is consciously replace that mean thought about other women with a genuinely nice one. What do you like about her appearance (eg beautiful hair, she looks after her body, her sense of style)? Did you admire how she handled a situation? … | /r/askFDS | 22/02/21 06:03 AM |
| 2 | Gaslighting 🚨 Never, ever, EVER allow a man to weasel his way so deep into your psyche that these sentences seem like reasonable responses. They are MANIPULATIVE through and throughDepression is extremely hard, I know first hand. And your situation sounds a lot like mine did with my ex. No accountability for wrongdoings or drive to make me feel special. I’m so sorry you had that experience with that POS. Just know that you thinking you are an unhappy person is the depression talking and not you and a lively, intelligent, beautiful woman. When I have belittling thoughts about myself or someone else says it, of course it hurts and seems true in the moment but you are so much… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 10:46 PM |
| 6 | Gaslighting 🚨 Never, ever, EVER allow a man to weasel his way so deep into your psyche that these sentences seem like reasonable responses. They are MANIPULATIVE through and throughBeautifully said | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 11:37 AM |
| 7 | Gaslighting 🚨 Never, ever, EVER allow a man to weasel his way so deep into your psyche that these sentences seem like reasonable responses. They are MANIPULATIVE through and throughYeah its different for every situation and obviously if you say some of this stuff it doesn’t mean YOU are the gaslighter. Only if someone has a pattern of saying this stuff in a manipulative/abusive way which it definitely doesn’t sound like you did. I’m sorry you went through that ☹️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 10:05 AM |
| 20 | Gaslighting 🚨 Never, ever, EVER allow a man to weasel his way so deep into your psyche that these sentences seem like reasonable responses. They are MANIPULATIVE through and throughOh I hated when my LVX would say “why do you have to bring this up, we were having a good time”. Like boy you hurt me and unless you want it to fester for longer than it needs to, lets discuss this now to see if it could be resolved (it couldn’t, ever) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 07:16 AM |
| 10 | Gaslighting 🚨 Never, ever, EVER allow a man to weasel his way so deep into your psyche that these sentences seem like reasonable responses. They are MANIPULATIVE through and throughEXACTLY | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 07:14 AM |
| 31 | Gaslighting 🚨 Never, ever, EVER allow a man to weasel his way so deep into your psyche that these sentences seem like reasonable responses. They are MANIPULATIVE through and throughYou know your specific situation better than anyone else and these graphics are just meant as a general guide of things to look out for 😄Obviously your situation is different and I’m really sorry to hear you went through that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 03:55 AM |
| 10 | Gaslighting 🚨 Never, ever, EVER allow a man to weasel his way so deep into your psyche that these sentences seem like reasonable responses. They are MANIPULATIVE through and throughCorrection: I mean reasonable responses to something they did or said that distressed you. Just become someone doesn’t think something is important doesn’t mean it can’t be important to YOU | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 02:23 AM |
| 35 | Why am i only attracted to men who don't want me?Precisely right. We subconsciously are drawn to what feels familiar and safe, even if that means a mean and unsafe man | /r/askFDS | 19/02/21 11:40 PM |
| 3 | Should I be disappointed for not receiving anything on Valentine's Day?Happy birthday girl!!! If he doesn’t spoil you, I swear to god you better spoil yourself 💖 | /r/askFDS | 19/02/21 01:20 PM |
| 5 | Should I be disappointed for not receiving anything on Valentine's Day?If a man shows one inkling of interest or passion towards something then women have no problem remembering. If a woman shows the same, cave man is like “oh no I’m so oblivious, you have to spell it out to me on a flashing neon sign 😢”. Are they attentive to the minute details of their video games??? Yes. Are they attentive to the tiny scratch or ding on their car? Yes. Men aren’t born oblivious - its a choice that they make with people they don’t highly value. Most would rather put their energy … | /r/askFDS | 19/02/21 01:16 PM |
| 5 | Should I be disappointed for not receiving anything on Valentine's Day?Lmao I laughed at being both the girlfriend AND the boyfriend... guess us ladies gotta think for two when we have a partner, then think for three when we have children 😒 what a beautiful, stress free life LVM expect us to lead 🥰🥰🥰 | /r/askFDS | 19/02/21 01:02 PM |
| 8 | .Thanks lovely! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 07:52 AM |
| 20 | .I would buy the heck out of this shirt | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 07:47 AM |
| 39 | When a guy talks about male depravity, it's "funny and relatable". When a woman talks about male depravity, she is seen as paranoid and hateful for "generalizing men"This is fucking disgusting. I am incredibly mad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 07:43 AM |
| 38 | Men who don't ask questions (99.9%)Wow what a douchebag. Way to make a young girl feel special! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 01:11 PM |
| 13 | What happened to first dates?😂 damn straight | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 12:02 AM |
| 4 | The dudes who send unsolicited d pics make no senseLMAO 😈 I imagine an elephant but the trunk is just a below average 7cm dong. It also has dong legs, dong tail and saggy ballsack ears. How glorious!! 🥰 so basically just an elephant torso but all parts with any considerable length, unlike what our poor victim possesses, is replaced by nubs that you can hardly see! Stupendous | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 10:21 AM |
| 11 | The dudes who send unsolicited d pics make no senseOr “why doesn’t your pinky have a fingernail? 🧐” how odd | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 10:10 AM |
| 2 | Realizing that I’m lean towards having an avoidant attachment style after being hurt so bad by past relationships....how should I attempt to date if I’m too scared of being hurt?Exactly!!! I completely agree | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 01:04 AM |
| 8 | Realizing that I’m lean towards having an avoidant attachment style after being hurt so bad by past relationships....how should I attempt to date if I’m too scared of being hurt?Also being avoidant comes with not only avoiding awful people but the good ones too. That ain’t good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 10:28 AM |
| 10 | Realizing that I’m lean towards having an avoidant attachment style after being hurt so bad by past relationships....how should I attempt to date if I’m too scared of being hurt?I definitely wouldn’t say fortunately, from all that I have learned about attachment styles. Anyone with any insecure attachment style will have a lot of trauma to work through. Being avoidant isn’t the goal, just like being anxious or fearful isn’t either. You can be secure and be guarded and independent in a healthy way but being avoidant isn’t a good thing or something to be idealised. I was half anxious and half secure and I get quite a bit more anxious in my romantic relationships. I had an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 10:17 AM |
| 2 | Simple reminders I wrote to steel my courage. Hopefully these could be helpful for any lovely ladies who feel less than hopeful. You are the hope you are searching for.Thank you so much!! I’m blushing ahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 05:06 AM |
| 3 | Simple reminders I wrote to steel my courage. Hopefully these could be helpful for any lovely ladies who feel less than hopeful. You are the hope you are searching for.Aw thank you!! It makes me happy you felt connected to their message. And I really appreciate you taking the time to translate them too, that means a lot to me 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 11:06 PM |
| 4 | Hot Take: There is no 'way' to meet a High Value ManGreat suggestion. I actually do have two dogs (one of them is my bff little sidekick), 2 budgies, three cats and a sister. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 10:40 PM |
| 4 | Teen Vogue promoting porn propaganda, rape culture and grooming under the guise of "education"/guidance. The depravity is unending...WHAT THE FUCK!!!!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 01:46 PM |
| 76 | Hot Take: There is no 'way' to meet a High Value ManLol sad. Most days I (21) am more than willing to spend my life alone and know deep down in my soul that I don’t need anyone but me. Other days, I feel sad that I may never experience the amazing parts of romantic relationships... truthfully, I am naturally a hopeless romantic - definitely to a fault I’m learning. My first and last relationship with my ex was shit and I would never go back to him or anyone like him. So, how do you wonderful ladies give that same intimacy to yourself that you cou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 12:53 PM |
| 61 | How do we slow down our own sexual impulses?Lmao to “post-clam clarity”!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 08:07 AM |
| 12 | *MBTI TYPES IS NOT AN EXCUSE FOR LOW VALUE BEHAVIOR* Has anyone else noticed an influx of men who label themselves “INTJ” absolutely shitty, and leave you with a funny feeling?Yes! You are so right about the difference in appeal to women than men. I have only ever used it to understand, not brag or manipulate | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 08:00 AM |
| 4 | The Post-Breakup Revenge Glo Up: Opinions?What a beautiful response! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 09:06 AM |
| 3 | FDS energy this morningBitchhhhhh 🔥🔥🔥 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 01:47 PM |
| 1 | A thank you & a questionI would like to know too! | /r/askFDS | 18/01/21 12:39 AM |
| 34 | I realize now I’m with a LVM. What do I do?Yes, I agree. Go to people you can trust and let him know you are ending it with him as late as you can before leaving. So he has no chance of manipulating you into staying with him. If he wants to level himself up, he can do it alone | /r/askFDS | 17/01/21 09:56 AM |
| 20 | Scared I’m making the wrong decision in letting a guy go. So scared I’ll regret leaving and end up alone. Looking for advice.Oh gosh girl. I can imagine this must be really eating at you but my answer is let him the fuck go. He treated you like shit and 6 months of being great is NOTHING compared to 4 years of relationship hell. As FDS says: reward consistency (6 months is a tiny blip in time and NOT grounds in my eyes to trust him again) with your own presence/energy BUT only if you see him as a potential romantic match. You said it yourself, you see him only as a friend. Someone like that will need way more self imp… | /r/askFDS | 17/01/21 07:52 AM |
| 2 | I was feeling so free after finally deciding that I should leave my boyfriend, and now I'm just crying and crying.How do you mean he didn’t date you? | /r/askFDS | 16/01/21 11:28 AM |
| 19 | "He cheated on me and then cried about how life is hard" men: "wow you're abusive for not letting him speak about his feelings, thats why ur single".This made me actually laugh out loud | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 09:07 AM |
| 5 | I got me a divorce kitty 😆 Man better treat me better and love me as much as this little guy does to get me to spend time with him 😁 Burmese/Siamese snuggle monkey 💕SIAMESE ARE THE BEST | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 02:35 PM |
| 2 | My personal checklist of must have qualities and dealbreakers. One red flag and he is out. Thought I’d share for anyone who needs inspiration to make their own 😄 excuse the messy handwritingPrecisely!! A lot of partners will be “good enough” but you’ll always be wondering who you could meet if you just left your comfort zone | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 02:34 PM |
| 2 | My personal checklist of must have qualities and dealbreakers. One red flag and he is out. Thought I’d share for anyone who needs inspiration to make their own 😄 excuse the messy handwritingIt statistically CAN’T just be females who have all these qualities, I swear to god!! There has to be amazing men out there with all of these qualities who probably wonder the exact same thing about women. And if they no one has all these necessary qualities to make a relationship healthy, we have ourselves 🥂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 11:58 AM |
| 1 | My personal checklist of must have qualities and dealbreakers. One red flag and he is out. Thought I’d share for anyone who needs inspiration to make their own 😄 excuse the messy handwritingYay!! Go you!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 11:51 AM |
| 3 | My personal checklist of must have qualities and dealbreakers. One red flag and he is out. Thought I’d share for anyone who needs inspiration to make their own 😄 excuse the messy handwritingIf you are having trouble making a list of qualities your dream man would have, I recommend starting by listing all your OWN good qualities and going from there. I know some people have a hard time identifying what is beautiful about themselves but naming all your good traits is extremely empowering. It is a huge act of self love to acknowledge your inner beauty | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 09:06 AM |
| 1 | My personal checklist of must have qualities and dealbreakers. One red flag and he is out. Thought I’d share for anyone who needs inspiration to make their own 😄 excuse the messy handwritingDefinitely, having a massive ego is uh... not good 😂to say the least! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 09:03 AM |
| 2 | My personal checklist of must have qualities and dealbreakers. One red flag and he is out. Thought I’d share for anyone who needs inspiration to make their own 😄 excuse the messy handwritingUgh that sounds like it will be beautiful. You have inspired me and I will make an updated list tonight 🤩 pretty lists are my kink | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 09:01 AM |
| 2 | My personal checklist of must have qualities and dealbreakers. One red flag and he is out. Thought I’d share for anyone who needs inspiration to make their own 😄 excuse the messy handwritingYou got this girl ⭐️ we are all here to support each other | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 08:59 AM |
| 2 | My personal checklist of must have qualities and dealbreakers. One red flag and he is out. Thought I’d share for anyone who needs inspiration to make their own 😄 excuse the messy handwritingYou’re very welcome!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 08:57 AM |
| 1 | My personal checklist of must have qualities and dealbreakers. One red flag and he is out. Thought I’d share for anyone who needs inspiration to make their own 😄 excuse the messy handwritingI know some cats and dogs take a while to get used to new partners and eventually like them but I completely agree that some animals get “vibes” that shouldn’t be ignored. If they are rough or frustrated with my pets being ANIMALS, that is a huge red flag. That will eventually fester and become toxic | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 08:57 AM |
| 5 | My personal checklist of must have qualities and dealbreakers. One red flag and he is out. Thought I’d share for anyone who needs inspiration to make their own 😄 excuse the messy handwritingI know 😭 I meant to write incompatible, I swear. If someone has compatible religious and political beliefs that is definitely a GREEN flag 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 08:54 AM |
| 1 | My personal checklist of must have qualities and dealbreakers. One red flag and he is out. Thought I’d share for anyone who needs inspiration to make their own 😄 excuse the messy handwritingDefinitely!! That is a must for me too. I will add it right now 😄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 08:52 AM |
| 2 | My personal checklist of must have qualities and dealbreakers. One red flag and he is out. Thought I’d share for anyone who needs inspiration to make their own 😄 excuse the messy handwritingI completely agree. A healthy way to feel in control! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 08:52 AM |
| 2 | My personal checklist of must have qualities and dealbreakers. One red flag and he is out. Thought I’d share for anyone who needs inspiration to make their own 😄 excuse the messy handwritingThank you very much! I appreciate the compliment ☺️ normally its quite a bit more uniform and with less mistakes (lmao) but I was rushing to get it all down when I wrote this ahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 08:17 AM |
| 4 | My personal checklist of must have qualities and dealbreakers. One red flag and he is out. Thought I’d share for anyone who needs inspiration to make their own 😄 excuse the messy handwritingLmao yes, my bad. It was a rushed list 😂incompatible religious and political views is a red flag not compatible 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 04:53 AM |
| 3 | My personal checklist of must have qualities and dealbreakers. One red flag and he is out. Thought I’d share for anyone who needs inspiration to make their own 😄 excuse the messy handwritingHeres to treating ourselves as our dearest lover 🥂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 03:37 AM |
| 5 | Quote of the day: "I'd rather adjust my life to your absence than my boundaries to your disrespect"!HELL TO THE YES | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 01:16 AM |
| 5 | My personal checklist of must have qualities and dealbreakers. One red flag and he is out. Thought I’d share for anyone who needs inspiration to make their own 😄 excuse the messy handwritingDefinitely make your own or add to mine! Making this list was a great and healthy way to gain control when I felt momentarily hopeless in dating | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 01:07 AM |
| 16 | My personal checklist of must have qualities and dealbreakers. One red flag and he is out. Thought I’d share for anyone who needs inspiration to make their own 😄 excuse the messy handwritingEXACTLY!!! perfectly said. When the loneliness starts creeping in and you question whether you are asking for too much, I always remember that. That is when you gotta love yourself extra hard | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 01:03 AM |
| 3 | My personal checklist of must have qualities and dealbreakers. One red flag and he is out. Thought I’d share for anyone who needs inspiration to make their own 😄 excuse the messy handwritingThank you! I am very much a list person | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 12:58 AM |
| 5 | My personal checklist of must have qualities and dealbreakers. One red flag and he is out. Thought I’d share for anyone who needs inspiration to make their own 😄 excuse the messy handwritingThank you girl! I’m so happy for you. I sincerely hope for you that he is all green flags. If not though, you know what to do... you have yourself always and thats all that matters | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 12:58 AM |
| 24 | My personal checklist of must have qualities and dealbreakers. One red flag and he is out. Thought I’d share for anyone who needs inspiration to make their own 😄 excuse the messy handwritingThank you! Speaking of “good and fair”, I just got a notification for a comment that someone who probably hasn’t had a flair given to them yet had posted (it was deleted) and they said something along the lines of “bitch you’ll be waiting eons for a guy like this”. I just thought to myself, I WILL WAIT AS LONG AS IT TAKES ASSHOLE 🤷🏻♀️ and if I don’t find him, I have ME and that counts for everything. My view is that some problems can be solved without therapy (e.g. household skills are easily l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 05:45 PM |
| 34 | I love how pressed men are about this sub🔥 yesssssssss | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 05:28 PM |
| 33 | My personal checklist of must have qualities and dealbreakers. One red flag and he is out. Thought I’d share for anyone who needs inspiration to make their own 😄 excuse the messy handwritingGood thinking!! I have a question: is this porn usage before you are committed to one another, during the relationship or both? I’m assuming both ahah | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 05:21 PM |
| 7 | My personal checklist of must have qualities and dealbreakers. One red flag and he is out. Thought I’d share for anyone who needs inspiration to make their own 😄 excuse the messy handwritingThank you!! You too 😄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 05:19 PM |
| 26 | My personal checklist of must have qualities and dealbreakers. One red flag and he is out. Thought I’d share for anyone who needs inspiration to make their own 😄 excuse the messy handwritingAMAZING!! All of them were really great suggestions and I will add literally all of them. The part about oral sex caught me off guard for some reason... guess I never would have thought of it by myself. Then I thought of the possibility of never enjoying it again and I was like HELL NO!!! NUH UH | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 05:18 PM |
| 12 | My personal checklist of must have qualities and dealbreakers. One red flag and he is out. Thought I’d share for anyone who needs inspiration to make their own 😄 excuse the messy handwritingThank you! Its one thing to write down all that you want in a life partner but its another to actually call yourself out every time you look at it 😂Keeps me accountable | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 05:15 PM |
| 60 | My personal checklist of must have qualities and dealbreakers. One red flag and he is out. Thought I’d share for anyone who needs inspiration to make their own 😄 excuse the messy handwritingAlso... 1. Commitment needed after 2 months of consistent dates and texting every other day 2. No kissing until 2.5-3 months 3. Meet parents and friends before 2 months passes since agreeing to being in a committed relationship, if practical 4. No intimacy beyond hand holding, kissing and cuddling until he proves he is trustworthy through consistency, around 4-5 months I (21) would like your thoughts on how I can improve or anything you think I forgot, but definitely should add 😄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 04:13 PM |
| 2 | I know checklists are passé but I keep them and update red flags.Nothing wrong with being picky! I certainly am!! My list is long af too and I see that as a sign that I know myself enough to know what I want. What I deserve. It is soooo much more respectful to yourself to be incredibly, overly picky about dealbreakers and “must have” qualities, than to have few or none at all | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 03:54 PM |
| 41 | Hot Tip: If you have to consult Google to see if his behavior is okay, it's time to dump him, sis.Shit, I might just have to screenshot this post AND your comment 🔥love it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 03:31 PM |
| 3 | What are your deadlines/time limits when dating?Its still a work in progress but you’re welcome ☺️ In my last relationship (also happens to be my first) I realised I gave myself physically to a guy who didn’t EVER prove he was worthy of physical or emotional intimacy from me. So I now set a hard boundary to counteract my deep-rooted desire for emotional intimacy through any means possible... Which basically only meant through sex with my ex - he was pretty much emotionally illiterate and VERY toxic. Codependency is a bitch to work through. | /r/askFDS | 03/01/21 03:16 PM |
| 6 | What are your deadlines/time limits when dating?I am a newbie too but these are mine so far: 1. Commitment after 2 months of consistent dating every week and talking (at least checking in) every other day 2. No kissing until 2.5-3months 3. Introduce me to parents and friend within 2 months of commitment if practical 4. No intimacy beyond kissing, hand holding and cuddling until I feel they are trustworthy around 4-5 months. | /r/askFDS | 03/01/21 04:29 AM |
| 9 | Dear ladies who love too much: You MUST protect yourselvesThank you so much for sharing this. I will show my mother who just got out of a very abusive relationship at the beginning of the year. Here’s to levelling up!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 12:01 AM |
| 7 | Advice needed: Guy with no boundaries.Update: told him we aren’t compatible and I’m proud of myself!! | /r/askFDS | 29/12/20 09:36 AM |
| 7 | Advice needed: Guy with no boundaries.Thank you for your perspective!! Very very true ahahahah | /r/askFDS | 29/12/20 07:25 AM |
| 5 | Advice needed: Guy with no boundaries.Thank you so much for your reply!!! It helped me realise quite a few things. Bless | /r/askFDS | 29/12/20 07:23 AM |
| 14 | Men Don’t Romance. I Don’t Fuck.What a fucking idiot | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 09:48 AM |
| 15 | Men Don’t Romance. I Don’t Fuck.EXACTLY!!! I want to be romanced and spoilt not because he feels like he has to do it to keep me, but because he wants to make me feel adored !!!!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 09:47 AM |
| 3 | Example of a generic LVM text that my ex sent me while I was begging for him to love me the way I deserve. Now I look back at it, laugh and wonder how I ever saw potential in a walking RED FLAG 🚩Totally, and I was one of those people who put up with it for months more because I thought “I hate that answer but awww its so sweet, he cares/loves me enough to be honest with me 🥺we have a chance” bullshit. I cringe now. If he isn’t who you want at the start of the relationship, there is a HUGE chance he won’t be 6 months down the line | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 05:27 AM |
| 2 | Example of a generic LVM text that my ex sent me while I was begging for him to love me the way I deserve. Now I look back at it, laugh and wonder how I ever saw potential in a walking RED FLAG 🚩😂For all the tears I cried for him, he literally makes me sick now. I AIN’T SORRY | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 05:18 AM |
| 56 | Sis knows the 🚩sOh my god the last one hit hard. Ex was always about “equality” & “fairness” and it NEVER felt like he was trying to court or impress me. He never brought his best self to the table while I was a complete sucker and courted HIM - NEVER THE FUCK AGAIN. Even doing little, meaningful things to make someone feel special ain’t that fucking hard bro | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 05:57 AM |
| 4 | sEx pOsiTiVe dating coach who is in polyamorous relationship with NVM discovers that he's not attracted to her during pregnancy (but don't worry, he's pro-fetishization of pregnant women!)And he not only said “NO” but laughed like he didn’t think of her AT ALL when he was telling her that. Like she was getting hurt for nothing. I found this video so disgusting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 10:08 AM |
| 103 | Patterns don’t lie!Exactly, and maybe I wouldn’t bring up “old shit” if it had been acknowledged, apologised for and had it not happened again!!! Its like some guys just see what they did right and forget all the times they were a bad partner... good partner my ass | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 09:32 AM |
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