I am at the point with my father that I don’t want a relationship with him anymore since he is causing me a lot of unneeded stress and has for my whole life. As we know communication doesn’t work with LV or NV people so its no surprise it hasn’t helped in my case.

Looking for thoughts or similar experiences you lovely ladies have had with LV fathers and what the outcome of family therapy was for you.

I definitely do not see the point in going when a major step up in his behaviour would be the bare minimum... FDS has given me confidence to say I’m not into having a relationship thats just bare minimum anymore and I don’t see the point in putting more of myself into someone who is stuck in their ways but my sister is still hoping for a miracle and considering family therapy if he would agree to it. Its just sad. I’m emotionally checked out as much as I can for self preservation.

Mother just explained that he never accepted her pleas to go to couples therapy until she was about to leave him which is totally fucked up! (Edit: even then, they didn’t end up going, she just left him) Shows how much that relationship meant to him since he only decided to be proactive when it truly affected him. Aka not having a wife and his kids live with him anymore. I don’t want to repeat my mothers mistake by putting up with his behaviour anymore. Thoughts and similar experiences appreciated!