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maxofreddit/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/17 06:57 PM
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maxofreddit/r/becomeaman21/02/16 10:21 PM
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maxofreddit/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/16 06:25 PM
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maxofreddit/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 06:51 PM
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maxofreddit/r/askMRP20/05/17 12:51 PM
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maxofreddit/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/17 02:59 PM
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maxofreddit/r/askMRP12/10/18 04:44 PM
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maxofreddit/r/askTRP06/09/16 09:52 PM
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maxofreddit/r/askMRP18/05/17 06:52 PM
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maxofreddit/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/16 06:59 PM
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maxofreddit/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 02:25 PM
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maxofreddit/r/askTRP04/09/16 07:57 PM
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maxofreddit/r/askMRP21/03/17 12:34 PM
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maxofreddit/r/askMRP07/12/16 10:12 PM
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maxofreddit/r/askMRP25/09/17 11:02 PM
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maxofreddit/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/16 06:25 PM
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maxofreddit/r/askMRP23/01/17 05:03 PM
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maxofreddit/r/askMRP07/09/17 12:00 AM
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Basic Questionmaxofreddit/r/askMRP18/05/16 10:24 PM
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maxofreddit/r/askTRP28/01/16 09:47 PM
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Maybe weird advice, but put the phones away. Seriously. Women are getting their dopamine filled by their phones ALL DAY, so at the end of the day, they're fried. Suggest/enforce a rule for the house and especially the both of you that there's no phones after 6pm, or whatever. Also NO phones in the bedroom, EVER. Wake up with a clock alarm, not the phone. Made a difference for us anyway. Second thought, especially if she's initiating (actions speak louder than words)... it could be that she has s…
/r/askMRP22/05/26 12:49 AM
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The thing about lifting vs everything else is that there are gyms everywhere, very often with extended hours, and they are a great deal for the monthly membership. All that = less excuses. Class times don't matter, you make it part of your schedule. Sure you can get a lot done with bodyweight stuff, but you can only go so heavy, often a bar/weights are simply more efficient. And there are few things that feel better than feeling strong.
/r/askMRP30/04/26 09:21 PM
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Telling, ain't it? I think I'm supposed to say "Game recognizes game" or something?
/r/TheRedPill23/09/25 04:24 AM
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This is gold. Satire at its finest. Well done.
/r/TheRedPill23/09/25 03:41 AM
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/u/Moist_Palpitation_33 This is a great answer. There are circles of men who sail/kite sail/restore cars/etc that are also high worth and will help you to personally grow. They'll often have insight into how markets and the like are moving as well, if you want to start jumping into the "investor" class. Also, with money being the one place I need to work on, I will strongly echo the being a great dad part. It's the most natural way to "give back" if you will. Your kids are still quite small, but…
/r/askMRP30/04/25 07:21 PM
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Yeah... there can be some really good stuff here, but sifting through it seems to be a little harder now-a-days. Still, I think it's good that guys are doing enough self-reflecting to try to make positive changes in their lives. But the point that some miss about this whole MRP is that she's on your team. You're not against each other, she's just a litmus test about where you are in your own journey and how on track you are. Yeah, there's plenty of times she's freaking out just because she's fre…
/r/askMRP27/03/25 09:48 PM
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Yeah, you kinda set yourself up on this one. Would you call/text a buddy if you were going to be late? Probably. If you've got everything dialed in, and you text "Going to grab a beer with Jim after work, should be less than an hour." Her response would be "Say hi for me!" or something else. Just ghosting her and telling her not to worry, yeah you're actually testing her. At least give the same courtesy you would others. If she's weird about that, then you can worry about shit/comfort tests.
/r/askMRP27/03/25 05:45 PM
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It's the first mate/captain thing. It's how they are. If you're man enough, most any woman will be whatever you want. Maybe OP doesn't see it, but this other woman is changing many things about herself to be with this "beta" guy. Many of us guys go to great lengths to change ourselves for the better, so there are parallel journeys there. Maybe she figured it's worth the trade.
/r/TheRedPill03/06/22 07:49 PM
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just go beat off every time she rejects me ... MRP's opinions on fapping is a whole different topic though... Maybe it’s because I’m a bit older now, but to be wonderfully harsh… Do you REALLY have nothing better to do than jerk off… like, seriously? You have nothing better you could do with that fucking energy? If you wanna look at it from a “be attractive” pov, then do you think ANYONE finds a rejected guy masturbating in a corner attractive? It works with ANYONE. A person focused and working …
/r/askMRP28/04/22 12:27 AM
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Go on as if you never wanted sex in the first place. Don't ignore her, simply go on about your day with no sexual pressure/thoughts at all. You're not punishing her, you're just going about your day, if she's a part of the normal part of that day, fine, if not, fine. Don't have some weird covert contract, but if she isn't going to be a part of your sex life, then you can find someone who will. (NOT to "show her who's boss" or some weird revenge plot, but simply because she doesn't want to be a p…
/r/askMRP27/04/22 11:25 PM
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Men don’t realize how perceptive women are with this shit. If you’re doing it for you, it’s a totally different vibe than if you’re doing to for her.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/22 09:23 PM
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/u/szymonsta had a great response. For me, funny enough, we were on our way up to their place in an elevator… I wasn’t sure when else we would be alone, so I just did it quickly. He gave some advice about family & finances being important, just general good advice that seemed appropriate. In retrospect I probably cornered him a little, but it’s 17 years later, and the wife jokes that I get along better with her parents than she does. I don’t remember the exact phrasing, but it was something alon…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/22 07:54 PM
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Seriously!
/r/askMRP02/03/22 01:23 AM
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A couple suggestions. For those of us at the start of the journey, it can be tricky to ride the line between STFU, over/under engagement, comfort/shit test, and just “normal” female BS/letting off steam. The first question you should answer is why are you getting angry? Is she right? Are you being a drunken captain? Do you lack focus? Is she mentally stable? Most people (men and women) will get out of the way of a man (or person in general) that is focused and headed in a certain direction . She…
/r/askMRP01/03/22 06:58 PM
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You may need to find some new friends, or you may be surprised when one or two of your current friends are happy to not drink as well and have someone they can still hang with. It’s sometimes surprises me ;)
/r/TheRedPill12/12/21 08:22 AM
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The social part is, indeed, one of the hardest parts to deal with as far as alcohol. If it helps, you can always explain it to people/frame it to them as “I’m doing a 30-day no drinking challenge.” This helps people to put you in the box of you doing a challenge for yourself, and not judging them. I’ve found it tends to help with the “C’mon, have a drink with us!” kind of thing. Also, once word gets around (the room, or your circle of friends) that you’re doing the challenge, if anyone gives you…
/r/TheRedPill11/12/21 09:32 PM
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I’ve managed 100 in less than 5 minutes, and 500 in about 47… forgot to accurately clock the 1000, but it was in the neighborhood of 2-2.5 hours. And sore in the weirdest places for almost a week!
/r/TheRedPill08/11/21 10:14 PM
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Ever do 1000 burpees? The worst/best body & mind beat down ever ;)
/r/TheRedPill07/11/21 06:09 AM
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Molecule of More sounds really interesting, will grab it for sure. Great post. In my 40’s and have much of this RP stuff relatively in line, but it’s always good to have new perspective. One of the things I like about your post is that for many/most/all of us, it really comes down to chemistry. Too much insulin? Get fat/adult onset diabetes. Control what you put in your face, control your weight. Too much dopamine? Zombie life. Control the things that cue dopamine, get better control of your lif…
/r/TheRedPill09/09/21 03:43 AM
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She’s growing a mean mustache and snores really bad. We share a bed but she always puts a pillow between us and says it helps support her back and sleep better. So what are your thoughts??? Jesus.... Did I just really read that? I don’t know whether to laugh or slap you both. She takes her cues from you. You’ve let yourself go, and so has she. She has no respect for you because you don’t have respect for you You’re not leading, she is. And don’t talk about it any more with her. Fucking act.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/21 06:32 PM
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Two things you need to do, both of equal importance. lift stop jerking off Both of these things will help you along the path of desiring your wife more. Good on you for having the family thing dialed in, I think a lot of guys here go Rambo mode and forget that's important. Just realize that she does want to FEEL from time to time. As in, feel like you're a man that wants and takes her. As in, feels your abs. As in, she doesn't know why, but she just needs to pull you into the bathroom and lock t…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/21 12:40 AM
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As a TL;DR edit/addendum to my comment... Brutally honest truth? If you were a higher value man, she’d be bragging that you two were together now and that she’s dumping her boyfriend just because there’s a chance with you. Let that sink in.
/r/askTRP17/06/21 02:43 PM
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At best, the "shut the fuck up" that's found on this sub is meant to be a call to examine your true motives about what you're doing. Many posts talk about what the wife wants/how she's reacting instead of what the poster wants. It's a shorthand way of saying, "You don't have your stuff figured out yet, so step back until you have a thought that's your own, that you can stand up and own." They are, quite literally, shit tests. If you can take some strangers on the internet giving you shit, then (…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/21 01:47 AM
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This is a legit answer. FWIW to the original OP I fucking hate this game of looking for how men are victims. It’s like watching a movie looking for things to be offended about. There are real fucking crazy women out there that use the system to fuck men out of being able to see their kids. Often, they are helped by other men to do this. It should change. But I’m not into walking around all day looking for the places where I’m a victim... I’m to busy getting shit done.
/r/TheRedPill06/05/21 08:46 PM
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Time for a change of mission. Well done by the way.
/r/askTRP21/04/21 03:33 AM
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Funny enough, most of that dead bedroom stuff happens when you stop working on yourself, and focus too much on the marriage.
/r/askTRP17/04/21 08:48 PM
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To add to this one, while it’s true that making a marriage last doesn’t always mean it will be happy, the inverse is usually true: having a happy, fulfilling, fruitful union usually means a lasting marriage
/r/askTRP17/04/21 08:47 PM
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Hey jackass... unless you want a baby.... YOU SHOULD USE FUCKING CONDOMS At least she’s taken some forethought.
/r/askTRP14/04/21 07:11 PM
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As someone who is 10 years ahead of you, money is a HUGE stress to take off the table. If you’re serious about retiring at 35, and you will, indeed, be very well financially set, than you will easily be 40 years AHEAD of 99% of the population. At that time, you can have your pick of women. IMO it will be VERY easy for you to find a girl in her mid-late 20’s (or many of them) who are not only hot as hell, but won’t have the typical drama of women in their early 20’s. If you’re really bent out of …
/r/askTRP09/04/21 11:43 PM
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Oral sex and vaginal sex aren’t the same in many people’s minds. Some women don’t consider it in their “count” and many men in LTR’s don’t consider it cheating. You have to figure out if it more important that she’s truthful with you, or that she’s better at lying. I’d rather have the former. If I were you, I’d take the opportunity to get the deed done in as many places as possible, outdoors, concerts, on the road, at least you’ll have some stories to tell. Also, if she’s that sexually “ravenous…
/r/askTRP06/04/21 08:10 PM
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Non-neediness doesn’t have to do with women. It has to do with being on point with the bigger mission of your life, whatever you’ve determined that to be. Being the best snowboarder, programmer, stock trader, dancer, whatever, means that you are headed someplace with purpose, and chances are, you don’t need sexual attention from women to get there. Non-neediness doesn’t come from a monologue in your head, it comes from having better shit to do, like lifting and moving your life forward.
/r/askTRP05/04/21 02:14 PM
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You sound like tons of fun. On the flip side, you could've thought. "A minor inconvenience is making this person laugh, that means that probably the little shit in life isn't going to bother her, and thanks to her sense of humor, she won't be a bunch of unnecessary drama, and won't get over worked up when kids fall and scrape their knee. If I'm being honest with myself, I actually need a little bit of that in my life, because I'm wound up so fucking tight that my sense of humor is gone. She'll b…
/r/askMRP29/03/21 09:20 PM
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When’s the last time you made your wife laugh?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/21 10:24 PM
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Good emphasis... Cover your dick.
/r/askTRP12/03/21 11:19 PM
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It's called a "covert contract." You made a deal/test without telling them. It's actually something that women do all the time. They DON'T do something to see if you'll notice and when you don't they get all butt-hurt, but you had no idea that you were being fucking "tested." It would be more honest, mature, and clear of you to say to your friends. "Hey, I'm doing a social media detox for the next month or so, but I want to be sure I stay connected to my closest friends. Let's set up a gaming/ba…
/r/askTRP11/03/21 04:45 AM
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This.
/r/askTRP09/03/21 04:12 PM
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Maybe if you had something more interesting to ask about, and got out of your political bubble you wouldn't need "cheat codes." What else are you into besides internet forums? Cars? Camping? Software? Fitness? SOMEthing? If you were interesting as a person, you wouldn't need bullet points. Get off the internet and DO SHIT. Talking about what you're doing, and how you got there, then brining interested in what the other person is doing with their lives and how they got there makes you an interest…
/r/askTRP09/03/21 04:08 PM
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via Mathew McConaughey... “I’d rather be a good man than a nice guy.”
/r/askTRP25/02/21 11:17 PM
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These are the ones I use, seems to still feel pretty damn good.
/r/askTRP30/12/20 08:49 PM
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Regardless of my age (mid 40’s now) I’ve always thought the 27-31 age range to be the most attractive. For me, 18-25 might be kinda fun, but the ladies aren’t fully present/in their bodies. Also, to counter a point you’re “18 year old looking up at you” comment above. To me, that’s like a kid being impressed with an obvious magic trick. Impressing an 18 year old is easy mode. If you want full hard/elite mode, check out the successful guys over at MRP, who are getting blow jobs from their wives w…
/r/askTRP26/12/20 08:49 PM
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I submit a person can find better examples of what it means to be a man than Trump
/r/askTRP21/12/20 06:39 PM
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Said it in a comment above, but often it's more about the lying than the other stuff your doing. Back to Jordan Peterson style, "Always tell the truth or at least don't lie." Edit for typos
/r/askTRP21/12/20 03:29 PM
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Surprisingly, it's not so much about the "RP" of things as it is lying/hiding it, or flaunting it. If you're up front, there are plenty of people who lived how they please, but are up front, honest, but NOT assholes about it. George Clooney (married now), or Leonardo DeCaprio come to mind. People don't like liars or people that brag. So, if you're a gentleman about it, I see no reason that any particular philosophy (like RP) would by itself disqualify you from office, or the public eye. Of cours…
/r/askTRP21/12/20 03:27 PM
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Got a supplement with that ashwaganda stuff... gave me headaches bad enough that I couldn’t sleep. So I hear ya ;)
/r/askTRP08/12/20 08:14 PM
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It's a woman... so yeah
/r/askTRP06/12/20 02:59 AM
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This one
/r/askTRP05/12/20 03:57 AM
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It’s less of a shit test and more of a “will-your-answer-keep-me-interested-and-keep-feeding-this-game-I-have-going-in-my-head-OR-will-you-give-me-an-obvious/true-answer-that-will-click-me-into-reality-so-that-this -fun-game-is-over? She’s trying to see if you’re clever, or if you can’t read subtle clues. She wants to keep playing the game, once you have a set, grounded answer, the fantasy is over and so is the game. So yeah.... maybe it is a shit test ;)
/r/askTRP05/12/20 03:56 AM
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I think “old fashioned”/classic Playboy, which is basically just natural and naked girls, not sexual acts, may skirt the edges a bit. That’s a personal opinion. I’d much rather my son look at that than anything he’s going to find on the internet.
/r/askTRP22/11/20 04:42 PM
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You may be a special case, but you should still cover your dick. Also, it could be that it seldom happens for you, as opposed to never. So don’t take risks.
/r/askTRP17/10/20 06:31 PM
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Are out of your mind? Where a condom. She can get pregnant from pre-cum, not just ejaculate. Unless you want babies, cover that shit up. https://www.parents.com/getting-pregnant/chances-of-getting-pregnant-from-precum/
/r/askTRP17/10/20 07:19 AM
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Quick story. Years ago a new guy got hired to replace someone at a job. We were a super tight group, constantly giving each other shit, no one took anything to seriously/personally and we worked as a great team. I started giving this new guy shit right off the bat, not any different than anyone else, I just jumped right in since he seemed to give off a cool vibe. Day two he takes me aside, and asks “Are you and me gonna have a problem? Cuz it seems like you’re leaning on me hard and saying shit,…
/r/askTRP13/10/20 07:58 PM
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Preach.
/r/askTRP11/10/20 06:48 PM
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There’s a difference between someone doing something “for you” vs doing it because it needs to get done. You could almost read your post as “I’ve managed to trick/manipulate this girl into doing everything for me, how do I make sure her mom doesn’t ruin it?” If you’re out there in the world busting your ass, and getting shot done, and you have no time for household stuff, and she picks up the slack, that’s one thing. If you’re sitting on the couch with a beer, gaming while she cleans the whole h…
/r/askTRP11/10/20 04:52 PM
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Burning Man has SO much fucking Playa dust EVERYwhere... it gets in all you camping gear and all your crevasses. In my experience (been 5x years go) there maybe plenty of flirting and such, but very little getting down, it’s just literally too dirty. That’s my experience anyway. PS Burning Man is awesome, and you should go, it’s not so much music festival as more of a “holy shit” festival.
/r/askTRP05/10/20 10:47 PM
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12 is a low number. You have to decide if you want to take on her baggage as well as whatever baggage you have. I’d tread carefully.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/20 01:07 AM
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Generally, don’t shit where you eat. You can use that an “excuse” if you’d like as well. “I don’t date people from work.” You just have to stick to it if suddenly a 10 gets hired. White lies are fine if it’s about saving face and you can establish a boundary line. But in the vast majority of cases you can find a way to tell the truth gently, so people aren’t under false pretenses, and they save face as well. In general, don’t lie.
/r/askTRP20/09/20 05:00 PM
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This one
/r/askMRP12/09/20 01:55 PM
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Ah... there's the faggot comment... thanks so much. When someone "takes a shit on me," I tend to grow roses and shove them right back up their ass. No kissing necessary.
/r/askMRP28/08/20 11:01 PM
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That’s just a huge covert contract. Perhaps. I was more thinking along the lines of, I'm going to go and have a nice time, regardless. If you're going, and the whole time you're dreading the whole thing, then fuck it, don't go. The covert contract is more along the lines of.. I have input/control over at least the drinks and the band, so I know I have a better chance of having a good time.
/r/askMRP28/08/20 10:59 PM
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You are, and were, completely in his/the families frame... and good job throwing a fit and walking out. How about this for an alternative, after getting picked up & hearing the drama he’s had (whether it’s his own doing or not), you listen and actually offer solutions and fucking HELP. Weddings are, indeed, a bitch to plan and execute, even if it’s all going well. Offer to take two things off his plate, the bar and deadline with the band... setting up the tables and checking with the caterer, da…
/r/askMRP28/08/20 03:39 PM
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You can have “slut sex” with the lady your currently with. This is why couples get costumes, do role play, bdsm, whatever. Or, have her pick the girls for you and have a threesome every so often. ;)
/r/askMRP29/07/20 04:21 PM
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While this could be a subject for an entire book, I think /u/W_O_M_B_A_T has it pretty close. ALL people are victims when they first show up, you are dependent on others for all of your needs, and have to literally scream and cry to get your needs met. A combination of good parenting, life experience, and opportunity to fail hopefully get us to the point where we realize that we have responsibility for our own lives. This process could get derailed for a litany of reasons, some legitimate like c…
/r/askTRP29/07/20 04:13 PM
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You can either let it eat you up, or use it as fuel to be better and realize how diligent you have to be to stay on purpose. If you choose the latter, then don’t tell her, it’s your “mistake,” not hers, you deal with it and grow from it, it’s not for her to hold your hand thru.
/r/askTRP21/07/20 11:04 PM
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It’s about saving face. It works both ways. She can also turn you down by saying she’s not into a movie night, instead of telling you she has a yeast infection or your junk stinks. Yes, it would be easier if we were all up front about everything, but that assumes that we are all mature adults capable of not taking things personally. Also, it’s more “fun” to “know what each other are REALLY thinking” than to just have it out there. It’s the difference between porn, and actually having a fun, erot…
/r/askTRP21/07/20 02:54 PM
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Let the girl put your penis in side her vagina. As in, you're both naked, about to fuck, you stop and let her grab your penis and put it inside her. Rub the head around her labia on clit for a bit, tease her with it until she does it herself. Less fun, sure, but it makes sure that you both know what's going to happen, especially on the first time. If she won't do it, then next. And always wear a condom. Always. Edit: And all those things mean no in your linked pic. If a girl isn't taking your cl…
/r/askTRP30/06/20 04:28 PM
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Say, “I couldn’t vote in the last election.” That’s the truth. If you want to further the discussion, you can say, “I’d love to vote for someone that I feel has real Leadership qualities, and knows how to take care of our people at home in our own country, as well as understanding how we play into the world at large.” Almost no one can disagree with that comment. If you’re dying to, you can ask, “Who would your perfect candidate be?” Then follow-up with questions, genuinely see where they get th…
/r/askTRP24/05/20 07:43 AM
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While generally talking about politics isn’t necessarily a good idea, if you can make the discussion more about asking questions then statements, you’ll have a better time. And for a possible unpopular opinion, if you did vote for a certain orange haired head of state, you should take a hard look at what you think a man should be. RP, while initially being a “bang as many chicks as I can” for many men, often evolves into true self-actualization. This is usually accomplished by taking extreme own…
/r/askTRP24/05/20 05:51 AM
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Wow. Assuming you’re not here for the usual “spin as many plates as possible”... The thing you are most worried about Ina life partner, is whether she slept with another guy. Not if you two can hold a conversation for the next 60 years, not if you have life goals that overlap, not if you agree on how family should run, not who’s inlaws house you’ll be at for the holidays, not if/how many kids you two want, not ANY OTHER LIFE DETAIL. You are obsessed with if she’s slept with another guy. Wow. Wor…
/r/askTRP16/05/20 06:16 PM
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to let his kid throwing a fit dictate what is going to happen in the house... Children are a great tool in situations like this, they learn much quicker then an adult women. I'll give you both of these. Also there is a more productive/easier path for some things than others. What I was bad at trying to communicate is that I see a lot of guys on here wondering why their drunk captain bulldozing leaves the family in chaos where there's a better way to do things. There's a way to lead where everyon…
/r/askMRP27/04/20 04:10 PM
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This is the most emotionally mature, and insightful answer.
/r/askTRP26/04/20 05:01 PM
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You should be able to run the house without her. That’s when you know you’re leading. Also, communication. If there 3 year old is freaking out about a bath, and you think it’s just not worth the effort, communicate that. “Honey, she’s throwing a fit about the bath, and I’m just not in the mood tonight, so we’re skipping it, I’ll bribe her for one tomorrow.” This verbally lets you (and your wife) know that a decision was made about bath time, and a solution has been reached. Instead of you not pu…
/r/askMRP25/04/20 01:48 AM
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exactly
/r/askTRP22/04/20 02:11 PM
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Check lean gains
/r/askTRP22/04/20 03:17 AM
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Everyone character assassinates and is assassinated. It's a normal part of social dynamics. I'll agree to this.
/r/askTRP17/04/20 03:56 AM
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I get the point of your story... (but) I honestly don't get why being accused of being gay is such a huge character assassination. Some of my most upstanding, no bullshit best buds are gay. It's not an insult. There are multiple ways you could've played it, ranging from laughing it off, to getting to know the girls that like to hang out with new gay friend and banging them, to fully letting the girls know that the reason you're not fucking them is because you like to date girls who are hot, but …
/r/askTRP16/04/20 02:59 PM
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Do what you’re good at and can make money at
/r/askTRP09/04/20 02:37 PM
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This one.
/r/askTRP31/03/20 05:51 AM
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I'm not sure actually... I usually reddit with my laptop.
/r/askTRP28/03/20 07:51 PM
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So to this subreddit on a proper browser (not your phone)... it’ll be on the right.
/r/askTRP27/03/20 01:30 PM
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The fact that she wants to go out again is a good sign, and believe it or not, some girls like a guy with a modicum of self control. That and she may be a little paranoid about the whole corona thing and not keen on trading germs with anyone. It’s one thing if you’ve got an STD and know it and behave responsibly, it’s another to be carrying it while not even knowing and putting others at risk because “I always make out with girls” or whatever. The rules have shifted a little due to people being …
/r/askTRP19/03/20 11:27 PM
4

Heard something similar from a reliable source about 36 hours ago, made a last trip to Costco, I’d say we have enough to hunker for a good month, maybe two. Thanks for relating the info, it’s hard to get reliable intel.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/20 09:55 PM
2

Astute observation
/r/askMRP06/03/20 11:03 PM
5

Honestly, she probably doesn’t want control, she wants to be heard and for you to listen and hear her. Even better, your ahead of the game so she has nothing to bitch about... and if she does bitch you can hold a mirror up and say “Really?” And you can both have a laugh. She’s bitching because haven’t been on your A game long enough for her to be convinced you can actually lead.
/r/askMRP06/03/20 08:14 PM
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It sounds like your lady likes a little drama, if you can captain properly, and get ahead of it, AND eventually get her laughing about her own craziness.... THEN you are actually her “rock/oak” or whatever. To push the metaphor, of an oak doesn’t bend a bit in the wind, then it’ll snap. It’s not about being a hardass ALL the time. You have to bob & weave every so often before you see an opening and land one that they can’t ignore.
/r/askMRP06/03/20 08:10 PM
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You use a hair dryer? Jesus Christ. Take me two cents for what you will... but if you had been captaining this whole time, one little thing like this wouldn’t be a big deal. It’s almost NEVER about the thing you’re “fighting” about and it’s more about true bigger picture. She needs fucking comfort, and to feel connected, and you’re not doing any of that. It’s not just about Ramboing and being SO alpha. If you were really leading your house, you would’ve headed this off before it came to this. I’…
/r/askMRP06/03/20 05:22 PM
1

We are speaking volumes through our actions, but not really saying anything. Admittedly, scanned and read highlights... but this should be noted. Our behavior (action) reflects our beliefs, and therefore how we construct the world around us. Far more than our words do. Action is the proof of the theory. When you speak, you want your lady to think “Of course that’s what he thinks, look at how he acts.”
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/20 04:39 PM
2

Yes we do... especially if you have kids.
/r/askTRP27/02/20 01:08 AM
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A man is responsible for the location of his sperm at all times. All you guys who are like “I can fuck without one, since I’m so alpha.” Are gonna be the same ones posting about how it’s NO big deal to have herpes or whatever other STD-of-day. I don’t know, maybe being fucking responsible for your sexual health and the spreading of your DNA isn’t cool?
/r/askTRP24/02/20 04:45 AM
3

From the sounds, you're still young. Given some more life experience you may find, like some of us over on the MRP side, that women can, indeed, add value to your life. A good woman, at her best, will provide you with immediate, and often dramatic, feedback about the direction of your life. She will test your will and resolve. She'll also be a passionate physical partner. Ideas and life philosophies from our past are often laughable, though often, under further reflection, we see that there may …
/r/askTRP27/12/19 01:56 AM
1

Hmmm.... maybe I haven't given my diet enough credit for my sometimes flakey scalp... will look into.. thanks ;)
/r/askMRP17/12/19 05:28 PM
1

none of this will be very effective if you're not getting enough quality sleep. Been realizing this more and more lately
/r/askMRP17/12/19 05:27 PM
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If she's rolling her eyes, that's a start. You're still in her frame in a way if you stop because SHE doesn't think your funny. If you're happy and funny and everyone ELSE thinks so, eventually she'll realize that she's the one who's off and shift her thinking. My wife is rolling her eyes at me half the time, and half the time giving me a groan laugh... over time, it's fine that we each have our own sense of humor. Remember the 1000 ft rope thing. It may take her a while to start following, the …
/r/askMRP22/11/19 01:00 AM
2

The only problem here is that I have no desire to have sex with her. So what? It's a joke. It actually has less to do with the sex, and more to do with you having fun.
/r/askMRP20/11/19 04:45 PM
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WISNIFG is going to help with that feeling like a dick part. There's a way to communicate your needs/wants/way you want life to without "being a dick." Not to DEER, but as an idea, you're mantra should be something along the lines of.. "I'm wanting a life that more full of living, and I think you want the same thing. In order to do that, I'm making some changes. I want a happy, sexy, and fun life." I'm not saying you have to say this to HER, just have it running in your head. Also... do you have…
/r/askMRP19/11/19 04:18 PM
2

She needs help... like therapy... I feel bad for girls like this.
/r/askTRP21/04/19 05:37 PM
1

We're all working on something man! I battle fuck-around-itis constantly, I'm getting better, but it's always a conscious effort of me asking myself, "What else could you/should you being doing right now to move your life forward?" I've found that it's quite literally never over/never done, but something I have to work at constantly. Luckily, the results are concrete, and the proof is in the results I get from action. ;) Keep at it! ... with that said.. time to get off reddit !
/r/askMRP21/04/19 05:34 PM
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First off, good on you for having the desire to change, and the fortitude to try... as many have echoed, it doesn't happen overnight, and it may actually constantly be a thing that you have to focus on until it starts to happen a little more organically. Realize that this is what it's like for anything any of us do. When you first learned to ride a bike, it took all of your concentration until one day it didn't. Same thing with many things in life, including what you want to do. Believe it or no…
/r/askMRP21/04/19 05:16 PM
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IF you EVENTUALLY get her tits, do it AFTER you two are done having kids. Her boobs are gonna expand when she get pregnancy anyway, and then your essentially just “filling them back up.” That and your kids aren’t breastfeeding feeding over and implant (I don’t know if that’s technically an issue, but it seems like when boobs are used for their actual purpose of feeding kids, you’d want that as natural as possible.) Of course, at that point youre on hard mode, doing Married Rep Pill, so if you ar…
/r/askTRP11/04/19 02:54 PM
1

Same here, deep ones with a long stance and lots of weight and reps, as in sets of 10+ each leg with over 135lbs.
/r/askTRP11/04/19 01:37 PM
2

This. It’s his thing.
/r/askTRP11/04/19 01:36 PM
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Some of them think about their husbands, because they are indeed, their Alpha... head over to Married Red Pill for guys who can both be a great dad, and have a lady who’s crazy in the sac. Some guys here say marriage isn’t red pill, and that’s fine. Some of us see marriage as red pill on hard mode. You can’t just move on to the next lady, you gotta be on point all the time. When it’s all dialed in, and in her eyes you are THE alpha, a woman will beat vultures & wolves off your corpse because you…
/r/askTRP06/04/19 10:14 PM
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He embraces the idea that equal parts “Alpha” and “comfort” make for strong LTR... if you read “comfort” as “beta” then I can see your point. It’s worked wonders for me, so for n=1 of me, it’s been great.
/r/askMRP05/04/19 01:35 AM
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This. /u/RaHorus Any of those jazz guitarist, or any guitarist, spent many, many hours alone in a room practicing before they got to the point where they could wow both an audience, and pull ladies with ease. The fact that you have an introvert side that’ll make the practicing easier is a good thing. Being really, really good at something, anything, not only gives you life skills you can apply to anything you want to accomplish, but other people, especially men, with notice and put you higher up…
/r/askTRP03/04/19 04:54 PM
0

50 burpees, as fast as possible. It sucks, but it’s like taking a pill... I always feel better after.
/r/askTRP01/04/19 12:39 PM
13

A fit 50 year old woman who is DTF will rock your world... as long as she’s not crazy. You might even learn something. ;)
/r/askTRP18/03/19 01:11 PM
8

After my first long term “real adult girlfriend” and I broke it off, I literally had THOUSANDS of dollars more at the end of the month. I was blown away by how much I had been blowing away.
/r/askTRP15/03/19 08:13 PM
4

As a follow-up... are you any fun? Or are you just covertly (or overtly) making demands of the relationship/her without being an actual captain?
/r/askMRP11/03/19 02:19 AM
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Just throwing the thousand foot rope idea out there... But also echoing others... with no kids, what’s the value of staying?
/r/askMRP11/03/19 02:17 AM
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Jesus Christ, you just literally made me laugh out loud
/r/askTRP08/03/19 11:59 PM
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Just to add to this, some women may not want dessert, no matter how long you sit at the table. And to beat the metaphor to death, dessert should never be expected. That being said, if all is going in that direction, you can let her know that you’ve enjoyed dessert in the past, and would love to share one with with her. Some women, you may find during the meal that you are having a great time, but it just isn’t the kind of meal that needs a dessert. You have to see how the meal is going, and what…
/r/askTRP08/03/19 11:41 PM
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If you’re looking for tips on seducing the wife, you could also check out Married Man Sex Life guy Athol Kay. It helped me to balance comfort & dread. Amazon link to his book... “https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00DINECUU/“
/r/askMRP08/03/19 02:40 AM
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Agreed. I meant “fawning all over her” as shifting your mission too far towards her, instead of continuing to build your own life. What you focus on/spend energy on grows, so yes, if you want a really good LTR, then you do indeed have to dedicate time to that as well. You are correct, it is about balance, and it takes constant adjusting. It’s kinda that both/and thing as opposed to either/or.
/r/askTRP07/03/19 05:11 PM
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Speaking generally (there are exceptions to everything)... Woman want to be desired by a high value man. They also want that man to have better shit to do than to fawn all over her. Some people naturally take care of themselves first, while others naturally put others first. I suggest widening your social circle if all your meeting is “narcissists.” On the other side of that coin, have you properly cared for another person (friends, lovers, whatever)? Have you properly communicated your needs? D…
/r/askTRP01/03/19 04:03 PM
3

A 4 month old? Jesus Christ. Does your plate know? If she does, then that tells you quite a bit about your character, and your plate’s.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/19 09:57 PM
5

The one thing women hate more than anything is getting rejected. It fucks with their ENTIRE world view/social hierarchy & power structure. Giving you the benefit of the doubt that you are, indeed, the most attractive guy in your group, you’re raising the SMV of all the guys in your group. If your buddy is 3/10, he’s chilling with you, an 8/10, so that bumps him up to 4, or maybe even 5 in a girls mind. A girl won’t risk being rejected by you, but she’ll grab your friend because he’s a sure thing…
/r/askTRP11/02/19 06:26 PM
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Some good stuff here, mostly for asking what your priorities are. Another take. If you go ahead with her exploring, take the lead. If she feels like, “I guess I’m the Captain of the ship/sex now, what do I need him for?” then you run the risk of her thinking it’s all about her feelz as a gauge of which way is up for her. If you can take the helm, and be the leader/captain through the whole thing, without being an asshat, then you may just navigate your way into regular threesomes with this gal, …
/r/askMRP03/02/19 05:51 PM
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As far as social stuff goes, try to see it as a game... how much can I get his other person to talk? What can I learn from them? That way the ficus is off you and onto them ;)
/r/askTRP02/02/19 08:18 AM
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I think it has more to do with self control. Basically, if you can control THAT, then you probably have a pretty good base for controlling other parts of your life. If I remember right, he’s also big on ducking long enough to give a cervical orgasm, which, from what I understand, is even more intense, but it takes a while for the lady to get there. There’s some undertone there of “dependability” if I remember right as well. As in, can she depend on you to hold on long enough so she gets her joll…
/r/askMRP31/01/19 04:39 PM
1

At the risk of jumping in behind the ball, I think you're confusing "being nice" with "having boundaries." People who are nice, don't necessarily get taken advantage of, people without boundaries do. It IS true that usually conflict avoidant people tend to be also seen as "nice" since they are rarely the center of overeat conflict. "Nice" people tend to fall into the category of the typical people pleaser, meaning that they either literally don't know what they want in any given situation, or th…
/r/askTRP31/01/19 02:47 PM
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This. Assuming OP isn’t a half witted troll, he had someone who essentially had the boat navigating itself on autopilot and on course, and he’a decided to take the wheel. She sounds like a perfect first mate. “Hey honey, we’re gonna get a new car, wanna do some research?” She HAPPILY does all the right research, gets a great deal, and you come in at the last minute and force your manly authority and make a decision that gives you more work in bad weather. Well done. Who’s the child/irresponsible…
/r/askMRP28/01/19 04:48 AM
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Echoing /u/MrAgamemnon ... humans are SUPPOSED to move, not sit and study/work for hours and hours. It shouldn’t be seen as a “reliance” on fitness, it should be seen as you being aware and your body giving you feedback that you have to get movingly answer your question, I notice a difference after 3 days.
/r/askTRP11/01/19 10:53 PM
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Why would you... like honestly?
/r/askTRP07/01/19 11:30 PM
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This is solid right here.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/19 10:23 PM
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Without necessarily speaking from experience, it seems that ladies from the millennial generation are much more open to threesomes and other non “vanilla” sex. If I remember right (IF) it seems there are many MRP guys who have a lady who’s more than willing to help him pick up a lady on the side here and there. As a side note, while you met not see marriage being right for you, my comment was answering the OP’s question.
/r/askTRP04/01/19 05:42 PM
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Many years ago. I had a gal who would call me every so often to ask if I needed to "do any laundry" at her place, since she had her own washer/dryer in her place. Let's just say that I got more than one load done every time I went over.
/r/askTRP30/12/18 04:45 PM
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Looking forward to the report ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/18 08:53 PM
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I have a feeling many of these answers are from young, unmarried men. As a 40+ married man, who discovered RP after marriage, my relationship with my lady has gotten nothing but better. Marriage truly is RP in “hard mode.” You wanna level up your game? Be such a good catch that your lady is down for sex whenever & however you want. And if she isn’t, you know it’s because you’re off your game because there’s someone there that expects and gets turned on by your A Game... not just when you see her…
/r/askTRP29/12/18 08:35 PM
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This was the first book I read.. http://marriedmansexlife.com/take-the-red-pill/the-map/ I’m naturally quite (very) “beta” it’s taken much conscious, focused effort to make these changes “natural.” The results speak for themselves. It’s quite logical/mathematical that way... is what I’m doing working? If I do this other thing, does THAT work? As a heads up, your brain might be swimming with thoughts sometimes about how, “This doesn’t make sense/It’ll never work.” Just perform the actions, and ob…
/r/askMRP20/12/18 11:09 PM
1

This one
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/18 08:14 PM
4

Stop thinking about it as an “approach.” Start thinking about it as you just want to be friendly to EVERYONE. Strike up a conversation with anyone you come in contact with. A quick location-relevant compliment or comment gives you a chance to practice interacting with no pressure to “close.” Go for trying to get a chuckle out of people, or a smile. Don’t be fucking awkward about it. As an addendum: It’s NOT a you verses them thing. Hell, every woman WANTS to be seduced by someone clever and char…
/r/askTRP20/12/18 05:17 PM
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This needs more upvotes
/r/askTRP16/12/18 06:04 PM
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From someone who is in his forties and wishes he would have played his cards better in his 20’s. You have a family member (your dad) whom you say will leave you the family business. THIS IS GOLD. This will save you 10-15 YEARS of building your own business/career. Unless you already have a passion where you are in the top .5% of your field (as in, you are being scouted for a pro-football team, or your have Sony Music asking you for an album), taking over your family business is your best bet to …
/r/askTRP15/12/18 04:18 PM
3

At the risk of sounding a little new-age, try starting each day with a quick gratitude exercise. This helps me tremendously to get in a better brain space for the day. We all have something to be grateful for, the fact that your breathing, have eyes to read these bad ass comments, or even electricity are just some basics. It’s obnoxiously simplistic, but it really, really helps me. Also, I notice that the day after, as well as the second day after drinking alcohol, I find myself in a lull. So ch…
/r/askTRP10/12/18 08:36 PM
3

Ah, puberty...
/r/askTRP08/12/18 07:14 AM
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Eventually what you’ll realize is that you don’t need a comeback. If you’re in an argument, you’re playing her game. Men act, women talk. And for what it’s worth, the best comeback is one that makes her laugh, difusing the whole situation, while addressing the issue at hand with a solution(if need be). I’m not saying I always do it, but when I pull it off it’s magic.
/r/askMRP06/12/18 10:31 PM
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I can’t go a couple days without porn, a full month would be impossible This says it right here... you aren’t in control of your own actions. It’s how addicts frame things... you have work to do.
/r/askTRP28/11/18 11:08 PM
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If the phone is a huge deal, here's what I'm planning... This will be the first phone my kids get... the classic "https://www.nokia.com/phones/en_int/nokia-3310" it's $60, and I ca add it to my plan for $10/month. If they need to call or text, they can, but they're not going to rot their brains spending hours on the damn thing and snap-gramming or whatever it's going to be 3 weeks/months/years from now. I see it as a great compromise. Of course, my kids won't see it that way (at first), but that…
/r/askMRP28/11/18 01:46 AM
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You’re right. Everyone here gets action every night of the week from multiple plates/fwb. Actually, many of them don’t actually work, all they do is research the perfect moves to put on the ladies. Do your thing man, other people aren’t the gods you seem to think they are, it’s all in your head. Focus on your life goals and it’l come. And lift, always lift.
/r/askTRP21/11/18 02:27 PM
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This
/r/askMRP08/11/18 03:15 AM
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Careful... I t’s not about “enforcing a boundary” & controlling someone. YOU don’t smoke if that’s important to you. If absolutely necessary, you can let her know that you prefer to be with someone who doesn’t smoke either, then you let her make her decision.
/r/askMRP08/11/18 03:15 AM
1

Jesus Christ. Unless you literally want a baby, cover your dick. A man is responsible for the location of his sperm at all times.
/r/askTRP06/11/18 12:53 PM
2

"Am I hiring my admin or are you?" ... "Then I'm sure you can agree that I/we should hire the best candidate for the job, regardless of race. I want the job done well, and as far as I'm concerned the color of someone's skin, or what region their ancestors came rom on this planet has far less to do with their job qualifications than a litany of other metrics we can use. Of course, I'm willing to consider a person's hustle, drive, desire to grow, and trainability, which in some ways, may outway jo…
/r/askTRP31/10/18 05:57 AM
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Dude... you should be so busy living your mission, lifting, and generally slaying life that you’re not “ghosting” her on purpose, but you have a ton of OTHER SHIT you’re doing. It’s not about some formula that SHE wants, it’s about making yourself valuable to yourself, and hopefully to society as well. If you are of high value, and truly doing important, meaningful shit, then you can text her the second you leave apartment & make her hamster more than any perfect ratio of how many minute you spe…
/r/askTRP26/10/18 03:34 AM
1

I think we're there, or at least we're close. I'm quite sure that I've shown unshakable-ness in the face of any of her stuff for quite some time. It almost seemed like just her knowing that she can come to me without judgement is enough to put her at ease. She doesn't even really need to talk as much about it as I thought, she just needs to know that she can if she needs to. I guess a parallel to me would be that great feeling of having $50,000 in the savings account... I don't really NEED it th…
/r/askMRP16/10/18 02:30 AM
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good 'nuf. I was throwing it out there in case anyone had resources or had experienced anything similar. For all the lifting and smashing we do, I figured there most be at least a few of us that can offer a helping hand to our spouses when they've been through some shit in there past. But right after we help, it's back to lifting and smashing, for sure.
/r/askMRP15/10/18 03:52 AM
2

I've had that same thing happen with my wife...it's REALLY hard not to start up the "I told you so" shit, but I can think it all I want. ;)
/r/askMRP15/10/18 03:51 AM
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I think you're right. I get the impression that she feels really solid in our relationship since she knows that what she needs to go through won't affect me. She needs that rock to be able to go off and work on her shit, knowing that her touchstone will still be there when she gets back. I think it's more like, the stronger I am, the more she realizes that it's something SHE needs to work on for her own growth, not something that WE need to work on.
/r/askMRP15/10/18 03:49 AM
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>Now... does this negatively impact her behavior toward you? It doesn't seem to. It seems that the strong/more rock I am, the more she can dig deep and deal with her stuff, since the surface of the water is calm, if you will. I'd say the only way it affects her behavior towards me is if it happens to come up (like this movie, or the anniversary of the suicide), then she'll be in a funk (understandably). But I'm learning that she REALLY appreciates me being there and knowing that I can either let…
/r/askMRP15/10/18 03:47 AM
1

Thanks for this... leading up to this, it does seem like that my journey into the MRP of things has allowed her to open up more. I sear that even being more assertive during sex has allowed her to make more breakthroughs. She may not even be aware of it, but the more I take charge, the more she relaxes and can deal with the deeper shit. ​ Thanks for your response. I really think I'm headed the way you suggest.
/r/askMRP15/10/18 03:44 AM
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Don’t lie. Just don’t. Agree and amplify can work, while allowing you to keep frame. “What did she say? Did she leave out the part where we rented a limo and drove around the city standing on the roof naked wearing nothing but a cape blowing in the wind? The cape was on my penis, by the way.” If something doesn’t align with your vision of yourself enough that you have to lie about it, then you either have to change your vision of yourself/your goals, or check your actions and get on track.
/r/askTRP14/10/18 03:19 PM
1

Keto fucking works for weight loss. It’s NOT a performance approach to nutrition (as in you’re not going to win any 5K’s). But I know more than a few people personally who’ve dropped 40+ pounds using it. Wait... what’s up with those PSsss ... did you already figure this out?
/r/askMRP10/10/18 08:34 PM
1

For real... No joke /u/Kawhietly... if you need a recommendation, my wife got a perfect pair after 3 kids. ;)
/r/askMRP09/10/18 05:55 PM
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If it’s that important to you... “Hey honey, let’s head to the gym together,” then squat with her. Shit, offer her $1000 for every inch she puts on her ass. If legit her ass is her only “problem,” then captain your first mate to the best ass ever.
/r/askMRP08/10/18 10:40 PM
2

Dude... you have a wonderful opportunity to be a fucking ADULT. First off, the term is “she,” not “it.” There’s a person in there, regardless of how you feel about their place/gender in life. Second, from the sounds, she probably didn’t go out to try to “trick” a guy into kissing her, then drop the bomb to destroy his life. Someone who’s gone to that much trouble, who’s no doubt had hormone therapy, and from the sounds, perhaps even gone all the way to getting a breast augmentation, didn’t do al…
/r/askTRP03/10/18 05:29 AM
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Are you fun at all? Granted it sucks to be “competing” with social media, but if you were Brad Pitt, she’d put the phone down. So it’s either you’re boring as hell, or she’s got attention issues. The first one is up to you to fix, the second one is up to you to say next. As a side note, when i’m Out with a girl for dinner, I’ll take her phone, & put it on silent, face down on the table (I do the same with mine). They get the point. If not, the get three strikes, the third time they go for the ph…
/r/askTRP03/10/18 04:24 AM
1

Laundry mat. You’re welcome.
/r/askTRP03/10/18 12:14 AM
1

I'll sight this one "https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/26567196" That is the last study noted in this article that is very well sited.. "https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/animal-vs-plant-protein#section7" As a summary, most studies make a distinction between processed meat, fish and poultry, and "red meat." While it's generally agreed upon that processed meat is actually "bad" for you, there are many health benefits associated with different kinds of meat consumption ranging from eating fis…
/r/TheRedPill25/09/18 05:35 PM
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/u/jay_jay_man has a good call with the jiujitsu. Basically, the best way to build confidence is to get really good at something, usually something outside of career, though that’s not required. Pick up a hobby, anything really, and get really good at it. Once you feel like you’re in the top 10% of the general population in something, you’ll probably be more confidant. While doing something outward/physical is good (like martial arts or guitar), if that seems like to big a jump, start with somet…
/r/askTRP24/09/18 09:10 PM
2

I’ve cheated before. There it is. (You’ve shown her that you need to be watched.) Sounds like the dread is working, perhaps a dose of comfort, best served with humor, will do the trick.
/r/askMRP24/09/18 08:16 PM
1

So it's "I," then. Maybe if I'm feeling up to it after I get off my phone & in front of proper computer, I'll throw a couple sources your way. If not for you, at least for others who may peruse this thread.
/r/TheRedPill20/09/18 12:11 AM
1

If you're trolling, stop. I truly have better shit to do. If you're serious. Then I need to know where you're coming from and what your claims are so that I can refute/debate/address them in a timely manner. Assuming that we both take the definition of "healthy" as: being disease free as long as possible, having a resilient immune system & functioning body, being relatively strong and fast for my own particular genetics, and being able to turn heads. Which one or more of the following general ap…
/r/TheRedPill18/09/18 07:31 PM
3

Nowhere is RP more present than on the dance floor, whether that floor is in a venue or the kitchen. Well done.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 06:43 PM
2

little starch or eat a lot of it? all serious athletes eat a shitload of starch. Your Golden Rule, and by extension your post was about weight loss (suggesting body recomposition), not athletic performance. While it’s true that the two do overlap (though not always), losing weight was the focus of your post. Little starch, and especially no sugar, is in alignment with that goal. Eat meat not healthy. red pill yourself bro. You must be trolling. Good one. I’m not sure if you will be posting more …
/r/TheRedPill16/09/18 01:17 AM
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Learn to be more concise. “Eat meat & vegetables, nuts & seeds, some fruit, little starch and no sugar. Keep calories at levels to support exercise but not fat.” Also, calories are not all the same, food quality, timing, as well as quantity all have their place, and depending on goals, age, & sex, can all come into play.
/r/TheRedPill12/09/18 03:08 PM
2

My armchair advice? Still lift. I wouldn’t do 1 rep maxes or anything, but I suspect the taking time off lifting will have more of an effect on muscle atrophy than the not eating. Still doing minimal lifting would help to keep the muscle on. You could also just do amino acids for the time your not eating, giving yourself essentially no calories, but the building blood blocks to maintain muscle repair. If you’re really worried about it... go 3 days (72 hrs）first, then, a few months from now, go 4…
/r/askTRP09/09/18 02:42 PM
1

PS. Careful with “haters” Those are perceived if A- You’re not taking full responsibility for your life and are placing blame somewhere else, or (usually people are FAR too obsessed with themselves to spend energy hating you) B- you’re not being honest in your relationships, both male and femal. See NNMNG and the idea of “covert contracts.”
/r/askTRP08/09/18 07:35 PM
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It’s not so much about behavior as about mission. You can behave according to societal norms while in groups and the like, but if it’s clear that you have a destination in life, and are heading towards it, and prioritizing it, that’s where people will notice the leadership behavior.
/r/askTRP08/09/18 01:45 PM
3

Jesus Christ.. overthink it much? I was so busy in college that I didn’t even have tome to honk about this. Focus on making connections that will lead to work post-schooling. When you get a chance to hang, hang... but the reason your in school is to get you to the next level, focus.
/r/askTRP08/09/18 04:06 AM
1

No argument here ;)
/r/askMRP04/09/18 01:47 AM
3

I’ve flipped this on it’s head before. Me - “Honey, we need to talk.” Her - “Wha..? What about?” Me - “I’d rather wait until we have proper time and can focus.” If she pries, I give away nothing. Then when we finally sit and talk, it’ll go something like this. Me - “Last week, when you made cookies for the kids, there were no walnuts, and I REALLY like the walnuts in there.” Her - “Are you serious?” Me - “Yes. They make the cookie a little crunchier, and over all it’s a more enjoyable experience…
/r/askMRP03/09/18 10:20 PM
3

I would remain STFU about my journey, but be remain open/direct about my goals and desires. This right here, kids, this is it. You share with her where you’re going by actually going there. No by talking about it/rehashing your past. 90% of the time she doesn’t actually care why, she cares if it’s consistent, & if there’s a wobbl in your frame.
/r/askMRP29/08/18 05:01 PM
3

So... how do we parlay this into threesomes? Great post... This really solidified for me when I figured out that STFU was the best way to stay out of her frame (as well as AA).
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/18 05:14 PM
2

Assuming you’re not a troll, you sound like a shitty father, partner, and person. Are you responsible for anything in your life? I’ll be looking forward to seeing response to /u/helaughsinhidden
/r/askMRP13/08/18 03:12 PM
2

Nice
/r/askMRP13/08/18 03:11 PM
2

It’s only good if it, in turn, causes a change in action in the present.
/r/askTRP13/08/18 02:59 PM
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Wrap it every fucking time I REALLY have yet to understand how there are STILL guys ( like /u/stopflatteringme ) who follow this up with, “unless you’ve done A, B, C and you’re sure she’s on birth control and tested.” In my mid 20’s I had a scare where the girl I was dating thought that she might be pregnant until her period came 2 weeks late. That put enough scare in me to wrap it every fucking time from then on. “A man is responsible for the location of his sperm at all times.” Borrow someone’…
/r/askTRP09/08/18 01:56 AM
1

I’ve learned that my wife (and I, too) think that I should “just be that way” and she doesn’t want to be a part of their execution process, or want me to justify why I feel a certain way, or make a certain decision. It’s takes the mystery out, is what I gather. Good luck, and keep your mouth shut.
/r/askMRP07/08/18 03:38 AM
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/u/CoachDad9 has a great comment at the top. I’d say you need to work on your STFU. You talk to much, you’re giving her too many answers instead of her having the “fun” of figuring it out. “So that’s an ultimatum?” Roll over and go to sleep and/or fuck her silly. If she wants two guys, get out the sex toys until you know you’re good and ready (if ever) to go to a place you can never come back from. If you’re talking with her, as in using words, you’re in her frame. If you’re showing her through …
/r/askMRP06/08/18 06:40 PM
2

Your response to my comment is all about women. Your original post asked the questions essentially “Is this it? What’s the end goal?” You need to change your mind set. The end goal has very little to do with women, and much more to do with your positive affect on your community, and possibly the world. What you’ll find is that you will attract a different kind of woman, since their are far fewer who see the bigger picture. While, indeed, there is an element of AWALT with everything you’ve experi…
/r/askTRP05/08/18 01:29 PM
3

See Lebron James and his I Promise School. Or as Jordan Peterson puts it, do what’s best for you, your family, your immediate community, and, if possible, the world. In my opinion, you eventually have to “level up.” As in, well done, you’ve mastered the “self” level (way ahead of most guys from the sounds), time to take on more and open your sphere of influence and responsibility. In regards to the lady question, if you have a mission that’s bigger than yourself, you’ll have no problem finding a…
/r/askTRP05/08/18 02:13 AM
3

Insecure much?
/r/askMRP29/07/18 07:55 AM
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Use Agree and Amplify (AA) Example- Her: “You’re getting all fit, and i’m afraid you’ll find someone else.” You: “What? I’ve already found several... that’s a lie actually... they came to me, I didn’t have to find them at all.... so much lululemon ...” Then she’ll smack YOU and call you an asshole. Then you know you’ve passed. It’s either that or just STFU.
/r/askMRP07/07/18 01:57 AM
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This. Should be top comment.
/r/askMRP07/07/18 01:52 AM
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Solid
/r/askTRP03/07/18 04:01 PM
6

This. Basics... women love the way you make them feel. Not you.
/r/askTRP27/06/18 03:30 PM
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THIS. I have NO IDEA why any of you fuckers would leave both pregnancy & STD’s in someone else’s hands.
/r/askTRP27/06/18 03:17 PM
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It could be she got off and was just quiet about it... not every orgasm is a screaming one. Cigarette & sleep leads me to believe she had her fun & was done. No “failure” on your part. She probably wanted something she could count on.
/r/askTRP24/06/18 04:34 PM
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Well then... I guess your answer to “Why am I on the list?” Is “Because crazy.” Sometimes all the prep work and carefulness we men have to use these still doesn’t protect us from crazy. While you should still lawyer up, I suppose you can take comfort in the fact that if when’s crazy like you say, there’s a very good chance you’re not the only one that knows. Everyone around her knows she’s crazy too. Hopefully that comes out before you receive any damage from said list.
/r/askTRP24/06/18 08:51 AM
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Why would he be on a list a pack of immature stupid hens are sitting around making shit up I get your point... but even at a very small school there are hundreds of names NOT on the list. While it may be true that a good number of them are totally beta and present no “threat” there are likely a number of alphas that are also not on the list. Did this guy stick his dick in crazy? Did he ghost the treasurer of the biggest sorority? I have no idea, but it’s worth taking a second to examine his life…
/r/askTRP24/06/18 04:51 AM
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A lot of advice here, and you probably should contact a lawyer. Here’s my advice/questions for you. 1 - Why the FUCK would you be on this list? Even “Alpha Chads” know the value of their place in society and wouldn’t find themselves on such a list... what have you done to cause this? Is it honest mistakes of you being fucking autistic? Bringing PUA tactical school into the wrong setting? Been too aggressive with a girl? Made assumptions? Really ask yourself questions. This can’t all be because o…
/r/askTRP24/06/18 03:16 AM
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This is good... it's the only option you actually have control over. It also may take a while, but smothering her and wanting to be with her all the time will make the likelyhood that she's looking for a Chad show up.
/r/askTRP22/06/18 06:53 PM
2

I found that the more my wife saw things turning me on, the more “normal” they became. It isn’t even a matter of necessarily telling her outright, but I made it obvious when I was enjoying what she was doing. I.e. as she got more fun with dirty talk, I was sure to not hold back when I came. It didn’t take long before she was initiating that type of thing. There wasn’t any kind of discussion afterwards apart from me saying something along the lines of,”That was fucking FUN.” If she sees/feels/hea…
/r/askMRP22/06/18 01:53 AM
2

Cut out all sugar This does so much good for your health, and it’s one of the most simple (not nec easy) thing to do.
/r/askTRP22/06/18 12:19 AM
0

calories are the same on all foods Careful. While a calorie as a unit of energy (heat) is the same, protein, fat, & carbs are processed differently in the body. As in the way each is broken down & “burned/stored” is different. For some people this difference isn’t a big deal, fir others, it is. This difference seems to be governed by individual genetics & fitness “level.”.
/r/askTRP21/06/18 10:35 PM
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Jesus Christ. YES. If you are a positive & valuable man in this world, you won’t even have to “close.” It’ll happen on its own.
/r/TheRedPill20/06/18 11:57 PM
1

Don’t lie. Just don’t. Be clever & flip it on her or agree & amplify. I.e. “Don’t worry, honey, you’re my number one... for today.” (With a wink & smile) In an poking fun way, “oh yes, you’re thE ONLY one for me, do you want to see the grain of rice i’ve written our names on 600 times?” There are ways of not lying that allow you to keep frame. That doesn’t mean spill your guts.
/r/askTRP20/06/18 12:40 PM
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Buddy, losing weight has virtually nothing to do with “getting girls” and everything to do with being a fucking man. Change your fucking attitude about that first. Then stop eating sugar, and go to the gym every day for 30 Days, then come back for your next assignment. There is no reward from a woman patting you on the head and saying “Good job, you want to see my pussy?” The reward is you working on you. Question. What are you better at today than yesterday?
/r/askTRP19/06/18 07:50 PM
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She’s a wreck from hormones.. My my wife, it was a series of comfort tests & herfeeling confident that I was still leading and had her back. She’s also about to do the most physically taxing thing a body can do, so she no doubt has nerves. Basically, she’s about to crank a kid out, cut her some slack, and joke things off if appropriate, she knows she’s a hormonal wreck too.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/18 07:12 PM
1

It’s way better than nothing... if you actually fucking go. You should outgrow it in time, but just fucking start.
/r/askTRP19/06/18 03:47 AM
3

Holy shit dude. You are probably incredibly annoying and over-talkative on dates. It’s not a show, staring you. Whether you realize it or not, you’re displaying low value by trying to impress her & carry the whole date. If she is into you, she’ll be trying to impress YOU.
/r/askTRP16/06/18 12:10 AM
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This one. If it’s about her, then yes. If it’s that you have better shit to do, than no. Hint, set up your life so you have better shit to do.
/r/askTRP15/06/18 09:17 PM
3

For reals dude. You play this right, and you’ve got some wonderful, freaky, kinky all-the-other-guys-are-jealous, fun ahead of you. And, of course, pics or it didn’t happen. ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/18 08:52 PM
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I’m gonna go a little different than others here and say you have one-helluva bad-ass opportunity here. You just realized that your wife, who you ASSUMED was totally “vanilla” has only been so with you, and basically ONLY because you haven’t pushed the envelope. The positive thing here is, she’s totally game, and totally in. That’s fucking awesome for you. You don’t have to worry that any of the ideas that you have for your future kinky sex life are out of the question or will be met with the ty…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/18 08:34 PM
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Btw... if she’s going thru a divorce, there’s a very good chance she just wants to fuck. “I don’t want to complicate my life right now.” “What’s so complicated about taking your clothes off?” ... or... “Then let’s keep it simple: you, me, tequila, tomorrow.”
/r/askTRP14/06/18 04:45 AM
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“You need to find a nice girl your age.” “To join us? Nice.”
/r/askTRP14/06/18 04:39 AM
2

From the sounds... stay the course. You’re seeing it work... so let it work.
/r/askMRP10/06/18 06:20 PM
1

In a way, you’re trying to negotiate desire... it doesn’t work. If you want her to change behavior, you have to be the catalyst. She comes over & is on her phone, gently take it away and put it face down, then do something fun. She may, indeed, have a social media issue, or you just may be boring as hell.
/r/askTRP10/06/18 01:47 PM
1

Don’t. If you need to be reminded (from her POV).. she wants a man that just “gets it.” She wants the romantic image, she doesn’t want to know about the work it took, or the process. Knowing you work at it makes you just a man, and not a magical guy who’s different than everyone else... even if she resists the change, and even if you for some weird reason need to talk about things you’re learning in the book (again, acta non verba), then talk about them as your ideas/things you’ve been thinking …
/r/askMRP09/06/18 08:36 PM
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Boys raised by women instead of alpha males ... and/or guys who’s dad is naturally alpha, and have no grasp of how to teach these qualities... instead, thinking their son will just “get it” some day...
/r/askTRP08/06/18 10:36 PM
1

Challenge accepted Tho just to be clear, RL1, LR2, RL3, LR4...etc... yes?
/r/askMRP08/06/18 02:18 AM
1

/u/johneyapocalypse is on track Here’s mine. Do as many burpees (chest to ground with a jump) as possible in 5 minutes... when it’s 100, you’ll have abs.
/r/askMRP07/06/18 11:03 PM
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Nailed it. Also, careful on that last one. You’re doing it for you, not for the wife to get her ass up. The wife, through her actions, will let you know real quick what she thinks of you. If she starts to help out, you know you’re wearing your captain’s hat. If she still lays around, or heads out to brunch instead... you get the idea. * *the 1000 foot rope rule applies here too, so stay the course.
/r/askMRP03/06/18 10:27 PM
1

You’ve got a ton of great advice here, mine’s going to be mostly on the Dad part. She’s only one year old, so there’s not a lot of pressure, but my kids used to LOVE to be in the back pack while I mowed the lawn, rake, or did some other task where it was safe to have them attached to me. Even “housework” like making beds & doing dishes can be done with little ones. Yes, it does take longer, but where you can it really makes the kid realize that you are the one doing stuff & fun to be around. It …
/r/askMRP03/06/18 08:05 PM
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Age? I’m 40+, 365 DL, 275 SQ, 205 overhead press. Barely 6ft and 185. Also.. 100 burpees (chest to ground with jump) in less than 5:00, & a mile in less than 7:00. My advice, whatever you’re doing on MWF, do it in at least 3/4 the time it usually takes I.e. if it usually takes you an hour, make it fit into 45 min. And add HIIT on Tues & Thurs. You’ll figure out you’ve been wasting time. Also, consider Intermittent Fasting, or lower carb. Depending on your body type, you may see better results fo…
/r/askTRP01/06/18 11:45 PM
1

Fuck a 1rm. I think past the age of 30 most guys are just setting yourself up for injury with a 1rm. And pussy does not care what your 1rm is. This dude... so this. I’d rather do an extra set and make it up in volume than get fucked by a lift, now that I’m past forty, I’m good with repping 315 deadlifts for a few sets instead of trying to break 400.
/r/askMRP12/05/18 04:50 AM
1

Dude... you really sound like a guy that would benefit from Keto. In my experience, guys who are “big boned” do really well on Keto/low carb... at least until they get to a reasonable BF% (around 12 usually). And getting your BF down I suspect will have a positive effect on your T levels (not a dr, just own a gym). And for the big lifts, Keto shouldn’t affect them too much, since it’s about burning fat, and fat doesn’t lift ;)
/r/askMRP12/05/18 04:46 AM
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Your wife smokes? Are you shitting me? As a follow up to many of the other comments, if she doesn't care about herself, why should you? EDIT - Judging from the rest of the above comment, she doesn't seem like much of a catch. It's not up to you to change that. In the words of Steve Martin, it's you're job to "Be so good they can't ignore you." By they, in this case, we mean every woman within shouting distance, NOT your wife. Honestly, it REALLY sounds like you need to take the same STFU pill th…
/r/askMRP05/05/18 09:33 PM
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Jesus christ.. kinda when off the rails rambling here.... First off, I assume you realize that you're making a huge generalization. Second, I'm curious to the reason for the question. It seems that you want to confirm your own bias. Generally speaking, Jordan Peterson claims that political affiliation is as much tied to personality type as anything else. Also very broadly speaking, conservatives tend to hold the individual's responsibility to themselves and society in high regard, while liberals…
/r/askTRP05/05/18 06:55 PM
1

Sorry late to this reply ... Reddit Link 1 Reddit Link 2 Medium Link YouTube "Alpha as Fuck" Meditation Link/Story Unless you were looking for more of a how-to thing?
/r/askMRP03/05/18 09:05 PM
1

Your Jedi mind trick suggestion worked wonders. Fist bump dude... well done. That first exchange with the trick was no doubt the hardest, and now you have at least one tool to get you through those moments. Good on ya. Meditate, lift, and get enough sleep. Do whatever you gotta do to keep your chin up. Some days will be harder than others, but stick with it and it'll get better. Give us a Field Report when you think you've progressed, always good to get feedback. ;)
/r/askMRP26/04/18 12:19 AM
1

You don't need to let her know anything.... From the sounds, if she every breaks up with you, because of you, she'll be an alpha-widow. Chill dude... and high-five on the sink fucking... too many people are limited to thinking that the fun only happens in the bedroom. It's great to have her walking around and everything she sees is another place you fucked.
/r/askTRP26/04/18 12:14 AM
1

Use the anger to fuck her harder... Never mention it again, if you do, she’ll know you got in her head. Edit - Option 2 is ... “Well, my other girlfriend never complains.”
/r/askTRP23/04/18 09:01 PM
2

Interesting... Really given me something to think about with this one. The wife has started referring to herself as an introvert, who wants to stay in & watch Netflix instead of head out. I’m trying to see if I encouraged this (I feel like starting out with little funds led to more staying in) or if it’s always been this way. Much to reflect on... solid post.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 12:12 AM
1

One of the biggest take-aways for me is that a woman is most attracted to you when you A - Have all your shit together, and by extension B - Don't need a woman. It sounds like you've figured out that neediness isn't attractive, which is good. For those of us fighting the nice-guy tendencies, that can be a constant battle. The involuntary crying thing might require some Jedi mind tricks. Can you make the transfer of kids quicker (less time to get emotionally overwhelmed)? Can you make getting the…
/r/askMRP16/04/18 05:53 PM
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Here’s a different way to think about it. What if the best thing for your kids was to see you happy & thriving in life (with or without your ex). The biggest assumption you’re making (I, and many others have done/do the same) is that you can see the best path from where you are/have been. If you’re really honest with yourself (it ain’t easy) you’ll realize that whatever rules/thoughts you’ve living by got you here. If you want a different life, you at least have to be willing to entertain and at…
/r/askMRP14/04/18 11:40 PM
0

It may/may not be about opinion. From the looks, it’s up to you. Wear protection (you should be anyways) since you’ll be in contact with blood. For most women it’s more of an “ew” factor. Some women find it painful/very uncomfortable to have sex while on their period. If that’s the case, then like another poster said, blow jobs are on the menu.
/r/askTRP12/04/18 03:24 AM
1

hashtag "truth"
/r/askTRP11/04/18 03:46 PM
7

This... was gonna use the same dog example... it’s like watching Cesar Milan. Getting mad at the dog/women doesn’t really help, just be grateful that you now understand how the game/life works (even if a piece of you still feels like it should be different). /u/Unbreakability
/r/askTRP09/04/18 10:31 PM
1

And there's your answer ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/18 03:15 PM
2

One of the things that I realized about my wife, is that she has decision fatigue. Your lady, being quite successful, could suffer from the same. She'll feel the most swept away if you lead (make the decisions, take the captain's chair) in the relationship. I dont know your lady beyond what you've describe, but it could be she doesn't care so much about your professional life, as much as she wants to be able to relax and not think and go with the flow when she's around you. Basically... LEAD. Pl…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/18 02:00 AM
3

So... those Santa-Monica-lunch-time-naked-beach-runs I'm planning... overkill?
/r/TheRedPill26/03/18 06:23 PM
1

Can confirm... Did bulgarian split squats like a fiend for about a year, now have a butt that my wife can't take her hands off. Also, hip thrusts... which are best done while making unwavering eye contact with a stranger at the gym.
/r/TheRedPill26/03/18 06:14 PM
4

One of the best things I like about JP is that asks deep questions, and is okay not having an answer, or even leading to another question. A lot of his talks are hedged with phrases like “as far as I can tell,” or other phrases indicating his ideas are evolving. For me, he helped to re-focus my Christian upbringing into something less dogmatic & at the same time, deeper and more thoughtful. He acknowledges that a lot of life is painful, but that doesn’t mean you stop. I also like his basic tenan…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/18 06:42 PM
2

In that chapter about petting a cat, he is essentially saying to grasp moments of beauty when they present themselves. With all the shit we have to deal with in life, he posits that there is, indeed, value in stopping to smell the roses. Also, the first 2 or so pages of that chapter are an exercise in satire about how you can pet a dog too, and he didn’t want t offend anyone by putting just cats in the title...it’s a pretty funny diatribe
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/18 06:36 PM
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Jesus Christ... how old are you? you STARTED squatting at 410? I'm in my 40's and am happy to still be repping 225. I've only ever squatted 275 in my life. I'm built leaner, so I'll use that as an excuse. Ballooning quads sounds nice... Maybe I'll do the same thing with curls. ;) To save my ego, I've been on the CrossFit train for a while now, so I could probably beat you at burpees at least. :) Well done.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 04:58 PM
1

I got to use a jackhammer too... so manly...
/r/TheRedPill21/03/18 03:29 PM
3

I swear it makes you jacked... have fun!
/r/TheRedPill21/03/18 03:28 PM
1

Hah!... Yeah... dem gainz, bro! ;)
/r/TheRedPill21/03/18 03:25 PM
1

You do Skype stuff? I think we're too far apart to do person to person ;)
/r/askMRP15/03/18 06:08 PM
72

Busted up our partially cement/tiled back yard last year, and had to carry the demo debris in five-gallon buckets up 5 flights of stairs to the construction/yard dumpster. Picking away at it, about 3 weeks, 3 dumpsters and about 15 tons later, the job was done. I saw a buddy of mine & he asked, “Dude, what’s up with your shoulders?!” Picking up & carrying heavy shit... so simple & so effective. I now do 10 sets once a week for maintenance... good (awful) stuff. ;)
/r/TheRedPill15/03/18 03:19 PM
2

You’re wearing a fucking condom, right?
/r/askTRP15/03/18 03:07 PM
1

People ignore everyone, not just you. That is, unless you have something to offer, a compliment, a witty remark... WITHOUT wanting anything in return. From the sounds, there's a good deal of it that's just in your head. You'll get it, just keep at it.
/r/askTRP12/03/18 05:38 PM
1

Jesus Christ people... A man is responsible for the location of his sperm at all times. Put it on before you put it in.
/r/askTRP11/03/18 06:13 PM
4

Sister: this playroom for the kids looks awesome. Me: thanks Wife: all you did was XYZ and it took forever. She may need training, make it like you’re teaching a child. “Honey, if you can’t say anything nice, then don’t say anything at all.” My follow-up question to your situation would be to ask if she’s like this only with you (a lack of leadership issue), or if she’s generally negative with everyone (she just has a general bad attitude). Some people don’t even realize they’re constantly belit…
/r/askMRP11/03/18 05:30 PM
3

Dude... Don’t approach girls, approach PEOPLE. Like the dude behind you at the grocery store buying steak, “Hey man, I usually make mine with 1/2 worchestire sauce & half A-1, you gotta secret?” Girl at 7-11 counter, “Cute earings.” Just get comfortable noticing something that someone is wearing/doing/whatever and give a compliment of some kind. That can literally be it, just a, “Nice kicks! Are those Nike’s or Adidas? I’m a Nike guy myself.” Doing this on a regular basis WITHOUT ANY EXPECTATION…
/r/askTRP08/03/18 07:34 PM
1

I’m gonna piggy back on /u/trancedj and say that lifting cant hurt, as it will build your confidence generally. I mean, shit, if your 6’4”, half the fucking physical shit is done already. I’m gonna have what may at first seem like a weird suggestion, but if you live in a big enough city, take an improv acting class. I’ve found it’s the best way to practice the thought processes of witty interaction without any risk. Being able to start with an idea, and develop it into fun conversation that move…
/r/askTRP08/03/18 07:24 PM
2

“Youaretoonice.com” ? Nice touch ;) Do you offer sporadic sessions (to work out certain pressing events/issues), or do you focus on an ongoing weekly session? I realize there’s value to both, just wondering if you have a preference.
/r/askMRP08/03/18 06:47 PM
4

Maybe spend some more time trying to improve your own life (& by extension the lives of those around you), instead of bitching?
/r/askTRP07/03/18 01:31 PM
2

Jesus Christ... I hear about people like you all the time.. is that work from home thing legit? What’s the basic biz you are in? How long you been at it?
/r/TheRedPill01/03/18 07:59 PM
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If you deserved better/more, you'd be getting it. You don't. My advice (in addition to the great stuff here you've gotten already), STFU and get to work. Every time you feel like talking, about anything, DON'T. PS. WTF are your bench, squat, and deadlift numbers? What's your mile time? Until you have at LEAST 5 reps of bodyweight bench, squat, and 1/5x deadlift as well as a 7 minute mile, don't you fucking dare bitch about her not being attracted to you, you're just unattractive. To anyone. Rega…
/r/askMRP01/03/18 01:01 AM
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Best answer... agree an amplify... into a threesome. “Yeah, she’s pretty cute... when did you wanna invite her over?”
/r/askMRP28/02/18 04:53 PM
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A lot of guys here are in the camp that you should dump her, maybe you should. Me, personally, would give shit right back to her. Agree & amplify... “No job to hurry off to?! I have a manicure at 10, the gym at 11:30, and then i’m going over the paper work for buying yet ANOTHER property on my way to taking over the tri-state area... this empire doesn’t build itSELF!” Many of the guys here see their woman as an adversary, while this may be true from time to time, sometimes, she may just be havin…
/r/askTRP28/02/18 04:16 AM
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Both true. It’s the difference in a woman feeling like a slut or feeling like YOUR slut. Once you get to having her at that level, it’s good times. ;)
/r/askMRP21/02/18 06:59 PM
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The example you gave of being busted using your phone so you dropped your co-boss in it for the same thing is kindergarten bullshit. This.
/r/askTRP20/02/18 09:57 PM
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‭ Know the most Alpha thing you can possibly do at your job? Crush it, make your bosses happy and thrilled and scared to lose you, and then move on to the next better job and do the same. This. Being a team player doesn’t mean you’re a push-over, or even that you can’t lead with confidence. It means you know how the game is played & not only sink a basket every chance you get, but you know when to pass when someone else has a better shot. OP - /u/IFindItStrange - Honestly, you sound young & a li…
/r/askTRP20/02/18 09:51 PM
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Jesus, I thought the same thing... it seems like I’ve read good stuff on that blog before, but I only made it through the first few paragraphs of what seemed like quite juvenile writing before I couldn’t take it any more.
/r/becomeaman19/02/18 08:51 PM
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This is where Jordan Peterson’s philosophy merges a bit with the Native American one of 7 generations. Jordan Peterson essentially says... +1 - if what you’re doing is good for you +1 - if what you’re doing is also good for your immediate family & friends +1 - if what your doing is also good for the larger local community +1 - if what you’re doing is also good for the extended, non local community (the country & world) +1 - if what you’re doing is also good for future generations Try to get all …
/r/becomeaman19/02/18 08:47 PM
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This is it, really. If you bring together well integrated men men from vastly different fields, say cooking, philosophy & boxing, they will all recognize & appreciate what each of the others brings to the table, even if it’s not their field. The cook is happy to prepare the meal with the help of the other two, while the boxer is in charge of the firewood and the philosopher gives the toast and keeps the conversation from getting stagnant. True masculinity is confident, yet willing to help, regar…
/r/becomeaman19/02/18 08:39 PM
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I’m not sure what the response here will be, but this article was actually very educational, and surprisingly honest & relatively unclouded. For guys that are still “beginner” level and are working on their “game” it could really provide useful insight. If your judging the woman who wrote this, then you’re kinda missing the rare gift she’s offering.
/r/becomeaman19/02/18 08:31 PM
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Slow... clap...
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/18 08:15 PM
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You'll get it. And don't confuse being serious with being focused. If you're focused on something, you can still have fun with it. Funny enough, it was my mother that taught me that there's humor in everything, even death, if the timing and the delivery is right. Basically, NONE of it is as big a deal as you think. As you progress, you'll see that things that used to eat at you for hours (like this) just roll off of you because they truly aren't a big deal.
/r/askMRP14/02/18 07:04 PM
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The proper response when someone says something ridiculous is to laugh. Sure, there’s moments where a man, perhaps, is being disrespected, but I’ve found that easily 80% if the time, when guys on here feel “disrespected” from their wife (or MIL) it’s because they have no fucking sense of humor. What if a guy friend said that to you? You’d laugh & say, “Well, Tuesday IS sushi day, where’s the sake?” Or something else to show that you got the joke. She’s just giving you shit, give it back to her. …
/r/askMRP13/02/18 08:21 PM
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In my day, this was called “playing hard to get.”
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 10:59 PM
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Get the New Kid By Friday book and apply it to both your kid, and your wife. When I first started my MRP journey, I actually made it a game for myself to be on top of stuff before my wife had a chance to get bitchy about it. Bedtime? When I got that first little feeling of, “He should go to bed,” i’d do it. I had to stop myself from thinking “we’re having fun, 10 more minutes will be fine” because that’s my default setting. But it stresses HER out because if SHE has the say something, that means…
/r/askMRP10/02/18 01:24 AM
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The best revenge you can have is not have any of her shit tests/tantrums affect you. She's literally like a teenager here. Yes, ignore. It's the long game. She's walking all over you. Just stop man. Just stop. Talk to her ONLY for informational purposes. There's no drama unless YOU let there be fucking drama.
/r/askMRP06/02/18 11:48 PM
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DON'T SAY ANYTHING... Start practicing STFU... it's more for your own benefit than for hers. It'll keep you from engaging in BS.
/r/askMRP06/02/18 11:46 PM
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Stop explaining and justifying yourself, This. saying this "'That's not right, I can have any trainer I want'" makes it sound like you're arguing with your mother. Everything /u/cholomite said is spot-on.
/r/askMRP06/02/18 11:44 PM
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lifestyle of clean diets, weightlifting programs, and fashion consciousness recommended here. First of all, have a little fucking pride & expect more of yourself. Aim a little higher. Jesus H Christ. Second, the first two on your list, eating right & lifting, are absolute requirement for health, longevity and being useful as a human being. There’s nothing sexy about losing your breath at the top of a flight of stairs. The third thing, fashion, you may have some leeway, as styles differ. Assuming…
/r/askMRP05/02/18 03:17 AM
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Someone please explain to me how this is supposed to help me “become a man.”
/r/becomeaman04/02/18 07:56 AM
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Jesus H Christ. Do people really believe there own “interpretations?” At best this is sad, at worst, it’s scary.
/r/becomeaman04/02/18 07:54 AM
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If her cycle is consistent, tracking is useful for planning vacations. This is very useful for us... nothing sucks worse than getting a hotel room, and a sitter for the weekend, only to have it “ruined” by shark week. I’m not saying it can’t still be fun, but it at least match expectations a little better.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/18 04:14 AM
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Read through most of the comments and there is some really good stuff here... allow me to throw in my $.02 Very first thing, get in the gym. There are no exceptions to this rule. If you want the "easy" route (edit - easy as in, you don't have to think about any programming, you show up and they teach and coach you was to do), and don't want to think about it, join a local CrossFit gym. Many people here favor lifting and focusing on strength, and if that's your thing, great. But CrossFit will tea…
/r/askMRP31/01/18 04:43 PM
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Thanks for the note... Part of the allure of Jiu Jitsu is I have there kids that I would love to have that experience. With the world how it is, it's good for both little sons and daughters to know how to handle themselves. I recently heard the best support for grappling being that if you're far enough away that you can kick them, you might as well run away. And good on you for breaking up a fight, even if the result turned out to be a crazy lady on one side and a choked out guy on the other.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/18 01:19 AM
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Fuck this is awesome
/r/askMRP29/01/18 06:40 PM
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This is the best advice
/r/askTRP29/01/18 06:38 PM
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If you don’t mind me asking, do you study a specific self defense (i.e. jiu jitsu) or are you just naturally a badass ? I’ve had brief exposure to self defense, but have recently been looking into getting into something more seriously for a year or two.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/18 04:05 AM
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Haven't read it yet, but thanks up front. All you young guys are "lucky" in a way... I'm late bloomer on many fronts, and constantly feel like I'm playing catch-up. I don't know if I just happened to miss all the shit going on around me as a kid, or if I'm just dumb & stubborn, but I'm still on the road, so at least here's that.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/17 06:51 PM
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Yes.
/r/askMRP27/09/17 12:21 AM
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Very rarely can go wrong with STFU...
/r/askMRP27/09/17 12:21 AM
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She's usually the same about it when I sit, as well. She was in the middle of a project when I started with the kids and I didn't want to interrupt her flow by interupting... of course, then she ends up interrupting mine... funny how that works. And the kids seem to always like their Dad time. With all the craziness that marriage can be, my Dad skills are generally porter solid and on point. Thanks.
/r/askMRP27/09/17 12:18 AM
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your irritation commanded your attention instead of you calmly commanding theirs. It is likely your failure express your will that your son sit and finish as a matter of principle that is the actual source of your anger afterwards. Good insight into the psychology of it here... thanks for this... it's really, really helpful. And yeah... I'll meditate on it. ;)
/r/askMRP27/09/17 12:16 AM
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good way o think about it... thanks
/r/askMRP27/09/17 12:14 AM
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It is simple, which is why it's crazy that I took time to actually Reddit about it, we all need a ten up from time to time. Accept your fault and correct her behavior. Win, win. This is going to be my new mantra
/r/askMRP27/09/17 12:14 AM
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Communicate vs talk... Nice.. actually got "into" this a little today with some painting to be done around the house... much better about it. Made a decision, then STFU'ed.
/r/askMRP27/09/17 12:12 AM
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I got from you and others there's a weird covert contract in there... noted. And nice on the name calling.... I haven't heard Maxi-pad since grade school! Ah... those were good times.
/r/askMRP26/09/17 02:40 AM
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The irony wasn't lost on me, trust me. And for the record, the 6 year old does sit for a whole 15 minutes with me from time to time.
/r/askMRP26/09/17 02:37 AM
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The Captain bears the responsibility, if not the moral imperative, to inform the FO of the nature and limits of the training. And this can't be done (as mentioned above) with a covert contract, which is kinda what I was doing... thanks.
/r/askMRP26/09/17 02:34 AM
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Haha... well put.
/r/askMRP26/09/17 02:34 AM
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(thumbs up)
/r/askMRP26/09/17 02:33 AM
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The best, most constructive advice here. Thanks for a thought out response. And yes, I'm still dealing with covert contract stuff that I put myself into from time to time... a LOT better than the past, but it still creeps in.
/r/askMRP26/09/17 02:33 AM
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Noted... thank you.
/r/askMRP26/09/17 02:32 AM
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truth here... didn't communicate up front... Noted. Thanks.
/r/askMRP26/09/17 02:31 AM
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That's really all I needed.. thanks.
/r/askMRP26/09/17 02:31 AM
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It shouldn't matter that she's watching you "get the ship underway." She doesn't care about you, stop caring about her. I mean, sure, she's a person, but she's not worth your time. Watch Jordan Peterson's Stuff on Compassion/Aggreeableness... it'll help open your eyes. Watch this one in particular at the 2 minute mark.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/17 03:43 PM
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Nice links... I've had Rogue stuff for over 8 years. It's quite literally bullet proof. The owner, Bill Henniger, takes amazing pride in what he and his company builds. Happy to help with equipment suggestions as well /u/470_2_700_nm ... but /u/bogeyd6 is steering you solid.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/17 03:35 PM
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Wow... brutal insight right here.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/17 03:29 PM
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It's true you shouldn't have to babysit adults, I'm just trying to set you up for when you say to your boss "You should fire Ms Entitled, she hasn't produced," you have a simple, clear set of past instructions that she agreed to that she didn't follow thru on. If your boss sees you and her as constantly going through the "he said, she said" routine, he's going to fire both of you. It's true that in a perfect world, you give someone a job, and they just fucking do it, no weird games. But the worl…
/r/askTRP23/09/17 11:08 PM
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Write all "the things" on the white board. If a thing is too big (redesign website) then break it into smaller "action" pieces (decide on 3 general design schemes/colors/templates to present to boss) For each item, have them help you determine a time estimation to complete each one, write it after the "thing." If anything takes more than 20 minutes, break it into smaller pieces. Ask "Who wants to do this" with each thing. Talk about how some things people want to do, some they have to do, everyo…
/r/askTRP23/09/17 07:29 PM
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Going for the purpose of keeping her happy because you're afraid she'll leave is what makes it beta. Going because you want to do good things for a girl who's good to you is alpha. It's this. It's mind set. Print that part out & put it on your mirror or whatever, it's the basis of your problem.
/r/askMRP16/09/17 03:10 PM
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Well then, the mystery is solved.
/r/askTRP14/09/17 11:00 PM
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It's not that you should strive to be uncomfortable... it's that when growth is occurring, it's usually accompanied by an uncomfortable feeling, or at the very least, unfamiliar. As most of us grow, we learn to like that feeling of being "in the weeds" and finding/working our way out of it. The accomplishment is wonderful, indeed, but it's like the sculptor. You go to his studio and see a wonderful finished statue that he carved from marble. The sculptor will stand there for a moment to admire i…
/r/askTRP14/09/17 10:58 PM
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If this isn't a troll, please share how you "afford to live in complete comfort and afford to do nothing." No joke, I could use a few pointers on that end.
/r/askTRP14/09/17 04:16 AM
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I'm the same age... Be patient and consistent, as well as safe... I don't need to tell you you're not 19 anymore, but you got to hit it hard to get your body to respond, but not so hard you hurt yourself, cuz it takes longer to recover... Hang in there
/r/askMRP10/09/17 06:42 AM
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This... Consistency beats everything. The only adendum, since "I want more mass" - make your weights heavy enough that you naturally hold your breath for each rep towards the end of each set. I've found if I'm not holding my breath, it ain't heavy enough, That's one of the good things about strong lifts and the like, they "make" you actually go heavy. Most guys here prefer lifting, but that 30+ min of cardio will get you a little buffer/leeway with your food, I'd say keep it. Just go heavy. PS -…
/r/askMRP10/09/17 04:29 AM
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Whoa.... get off reddit? What will I read when I'm on the throne?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/17 07:17 PM
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Jesus... that is some crazy, insightful, thought-provoking shit... Thanks for that link... now I gotta figure out how to apply it.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/17 03:55 PM
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Dammit... where were you last night? This would've been a good one!
/r/askMRP07/09/17 03:44 PM
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Better to be a pig than a pussy. This is kinda one of the first big axioms of RP, and it's finally taking hold. Not that I go out of my way to be a pig, but I don't come groveling to her if she's offended anymore.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 03:44 PM
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It was mostly the last one. After I got home, did the dinner thing and got the kids to bed, she says we need to "talk." I decide it's going to be bestsellers to STFU, and do this for the most part, except laughs few times when the situation she points out is kinda funny, like the cock comment. Even though we're having a "talk," I don't apologize, and try to keep it light. I did the minor section thing where at the end of it all, we snuggled on the couch for a while. In he middle of the day, I wa…
/r/askMRP07/09/17 03:43 PM
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solid
/r/askMRP07/09/17 01:43 AM
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nice point...
/r/askMRP07/09/17 01:43 AM
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It's the obvious conclusion, isn't it?
/r/askMRP07/09/17 12:44 AM
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Funny... I'm usually the king of innuendo... little too far this time.... thanks for the tip.. ... just the tip. Edit - something like "You've got a cute figure" would've been better. ;)
/r/askMRP07/09/17 12:17 AM
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How old are you? 21? 25? I got something easy for you, but I need to know what your doing already for workouts ... It's gonna make you sore
/r/askTRP05/09/17 05:39 PM
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Of?
/r/askTRP05/09/17 05:31 PM
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This
/r/askTRP05/09/17 06:44 AM
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Some guys here shit on it, but I've found CrossFit to be great for my goals... I'm both quite strong for my size & age (42yrs, 6', 180-185lbs), as well as pretty fast. I have a weird hip injury from high school that effects my lifts and speed, but I still get it done. I can deadlift 2x body weight (365lbs), but can still crank out 100 burpees on less than 5 minutes (4:54). My mile time is between 7-7:30, and just today I hit a back squat at 255 (my hip gives me shit if I got 275 or more). While …
/r/askTRP05/09/17 06:41 AM
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Also, recording yourself may help you realize that you have little ticks or ums or some other time filling vocalization that you don't even realize you're doing. I did it once and thought, "Do I really 'um' that much? Shit." Just like when my cousin saw himself on video at his kid's soccer game & thought, "Holy shit, I'm the fat guy." And used the net year to lose about 60lbs. It's just data, you being a data guy, some things will be obvious (like the um thing) while if you want to go deeper, yo…
/r/TheRedPill03/09/17 05:44 PM
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My follow up would be - Why do you want to know? While he may be one example of SOME things that TRP tries to teach/practice, there are many, many more robust examples. If you are looking for someone to emulate, you may want to decide who you want to be first (perhaps, at the very least, someone with a modicum of integrety), then find someone who aligns with that.
/r/askTRP28/08/17 04:39 AM
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My follow up would be - Why do you want to know? While he may be one example of SOME things that TRP tries to teach/practice, there are many, many more robust examples. If you are looking for someone to emulate, you may want to decide who you want to be first (perhaps, at the very least, someone with a modicum of integrety), then find someone who aligns with that.
/r/askTRP28/08/17 04:39 AM
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Women talk in absolutes, but their emotions are a reflection of how they feel right now. Remember this... It's key. This is why a woman can scream, "I hate you, you're an asshole!" And 5 minutes later be naked with you giving you the best sex you've had in months. Once again... You may love a woman, but a woman doesn't love you, she loves the way you make her feel (and that's a constantly moving target).
/r/askMRP19/08/17 03:04 PM
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I think the really tricky part here is if all other things are equal, is being diverse an asset? If two candidates are identical in ability and employee output, I may think it may be advantageous to have a person with a different background (not nec race/gender, though that seems to be what many consider "background"). That person may have ideas/solutions or insight into issues that a homogenous mix wouldn't. All else being the same, I could see this as an asset. I'm not saying I have studies to…
/r/TheRedPill06/08/17 04:06 PM
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I would take one of those 31-33 year olds for a night over a 22 year for a week any day. Something about that age where women just seem hotter to me. They can't just depend on their youth anymore, and actively putt more effort into their lives. You lucky bastard ;)
/r/askTRP04/08/17 09:24 PM
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Would you say this applies just as well to... "I was thinking of having a threesome"... ? (Only half joking)
/r/askMRP01/08/17 07:26 PM
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Wow... Someone talking sense? Flashing a nipple ring to a group of gay guys? Is that really a big deal to you? Is she flashing her tits to her coworkers? That's a little different. It has to do with context. Most every guy here, whether he admits it or not, wants his girl to be a "whore" only just for themselves & no one else. If it was my girl, I would've made it a joke all night "Anything else you wanna flash?" And had fun with it, then fucked her into submission. But hey, that's me.
/r/askTRP31/07/17 12:45 PM
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This. It's surprising to me how many of the posts in TRP mention this "she disrespects me" thing. I have never seen a woman do this with a man that respects himself & has busted his ass through life to have an appropriate gauge of his self-worth. Not, "respect me because DEER," which is how it seems many times, but rather, "I've got a list of shit to do, and it's important to me and how I want to grow as a man." EDIT - If you're doing your work, then you'll feel respected. If you're looking to h…
/r/askTRP14/07/17 02:58 PM
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It was actually thru some marriage coaching (therapy, whatever) that I realized that my wife wanted to be a sex toy, but was waiting for my lead. Most guys won't believe it, but chances are that "innocent mother of your children" has a lot more dirty thoughts than you give her credit for. She's just waiting on her husband.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/17 10:30 PM
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THIS... Some guys have it after their first kid, where now they view their wives as mothers and not the sex toy anymore. The surprising thing is that she is, indeed, becoming a wife and (from the sounds) a mom, but she still WANTS to be be a sex toy. Trust me. 95% of the new "kinky" shit we've done have been post children and once I figured out she wanted to be spanked from time to time. Things only got better from there. Check yourself. She wants to get fucked in more ways than you think she do…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/17 08:42 PM
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So many men need to read this.
/r/askMRP30/06/17 09:23 PM
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This is a perfect example of agree and amplify Possible answers Thinking for a REALLY long time, then, "347." "This year?" "More than you." "Sleeping? Like 4... oh wait... did you mean how many I've fucked?"
/r/askTRP28/06/17 03:02 PM
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She's trying to get a rise out of you. Some attention, even if it's negative. She can't BELIEVE that you haven't been chasing her, so now she's insulting you to try to get any kind of attention she can. The worst thing you can do to someone is ignore them
/r/askTRP27/06/17 08:46 PM
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but once you’re married, you have the added burden of owning your shit. Getting you shit handled. Keeping your wife comfortable that the shit is taken care of and that she doesn’t need to worry her pretty little head about the shit. This is what most of us mean by MRP being RP on "Hard Mode." Solid stuff. Well done.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/17 07:23 PM
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Sweet... Will check it out
/r/askTRP27/06/17 07:06 PM
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So... I'm going to clean my teeth with something that emphasizes the TOILET in toiletry? ;) Thanks for the rec!
/r/askTRP27/06/17 05:25 PM
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Use water flosser before brushing your teeth. It's easier than regular flossing and your dentist will love you for it. Which one do you use/recommend, I'm sick of flossing and a new gadget might be nice
/r/askTRP26/06/17 10:23 PM
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These helped me ;) Also, time of day seems to make a difference for me. Morning/daytime sex I seem to have better control than after the kids are in bed. I will also sometimes make sure she gets a big O in through my (or her) manual or oral style before I go in for my piece. Also, turns out the wife legitimate likes me to finish on her chest/boobage... So there's that. Also, about 2 shots of tequila seem to have a "lasting effect." I'll have to try the butt clenching too ;)
/r/askMRP16/06/17 07:15 AM
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Is that the one you're referring too? I feel a little out of the loop here... not that I necessarily have AMAZING advice, but it's always good to learn from others and offer opinions if something strikes a fancy or two, ya know?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/17 04:45 AM
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Did he delete his other post?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/17 03:40 AM
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Similar to gentlemen who are deeply trapped in BP practices, it's easier to see the world as the problem, instead of doing the often hard & relentless work of self improvement. Guys do a similar thing where they think if they're "nice" than girls will fawn over them. Turns out taking care of yourself & having some legitimate vanity about how you look in the mirror, as well as having a drive and direction in life will pull people (including ladies) toward you. It WAY easier to place blame others.…
/r/askTRP13/06/17 05:10 PM
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Truth here as well. You can do it without the Ivy League connection, but it sure as hell gives you a considerable headstart ;)
/r/TheRedPill12/06/17 12:42 AM
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to build a sucessuful life from scratch takes 10 years, more or less, Good god this. I wish this was drilled into me at a much younger age, instead of simply "follow your dreams." The great thing about this is it doesn't matter when you start. If you start at 4 years old, you're Beiber at 15. If you wait until your 30 to get your focus, you're not going to arrive until you're breaking 40. Sure, natural knack & talent play in, but that natural talent is more a factor to aid in continual & constan…
/r/TheRedPill11/06/17 05:37 PM
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I've heard from my wife that sometimes, even though I'm pushing all the right buttons, it takes a lot of effort on her part for those super-toe-curlers to happen. Because of kids, her cycle, or fucking life, sometimes she just can't relax enough for that to happen. Just imagine if you had to pull a true 1-rep deadlift today, then your wife wanted you to do it again tomorrow... You'd be all, "Shit, I can go heavy, but I don't think I can hit that again quite yet." For some ladies, it's that much …
/r/askMRP09/06/17 03:27 AM
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There are guys who would kill for their wife to take some initiative. This.
/r/askMRP07/06/17 05:07 PM
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Married men and fathers, look upon your wife & kid(s) as fuel, not an anchor Nothing makes me realize the passage of time, and how impermanent our trip through this life is than watching kids grow up. They force you to realize you don't have nearly as much time as you think. And family naps are gold. More often than not, once they're asleep, I can take a minute and let the feelz flow... love those little fuckers..so..damn..much.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 02:28 PM
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"hmmm yes I'll try going with you but I'm tired and not sure if it will be fun....." Translates to - "I find it hard to get myself psyched up to go out. It takes quite a bit of effort on my part. I'll go if you want, but it would be SO much easier for me if you, in a fun way that shows you really 'get' me, got me psyched to go out instead of me having to do it myself." If this is kinda the "one thing about her" and the rest is all sunshine & rainbows, then you need to decide how big of a deal th…
/r/askMRP06/06/17 04:07 AM
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I've had a similar experience, though initially, as my SMV rose, SHE was the one bringing the kink to the table, "You can put your hand on my neck if you want," & quite literally laying the back door option on the table herself. It's been fun. ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/17 03:39 PM
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Nice... I've done the same thing... she for sure has a "type" when it comes to ladies... more like the Katherine Moennig type.. a bit more boyish. We don't get many opportunities to cruise, but I try to keep her primed to be on the hunt when I can. ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/17 08:43 AM
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"hashtag"goals
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/17 08:27 AM
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marriage is also a contract in which each party has obligations This is HUGE covert, or not even covert, contract right here. Women can, and will, have "duty sex" but that's not what most of us men want. Back to RP basics, a woman doesn't love you, she loves the way you make her feel. What if you put all the effort you're putting into this new sex affair into your wife? Do you have a regular date night? Do you vacation together without the kids? Are you doing fun shit together at all? Through my…
/r/askMRP03/06/17 08:26 AM
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This as well. You need to get ahead of the ball. Like WAY ahead. NONE of this is going to come naturally, btw. It's going to be a daily battle to keep yourself on track. Don't look for motivation, just get it done.
/r/askMRP03/06/17 08:03 AM
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This is so fucking solid right here. I'd also add that from the sounds, you've done such a shitty job, that you really can't, at any time, show anger towards her. Own your shit...seriously. Be a leader, and be fun. Do the work, and let that speak for you.
/r/askMRP03/06/17 08:01 AM
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Sorry, I meant minding my own business in general, not in bed. As in I went about my long weekend not wondering wft she was doing or thinking. Just doing my own thing. In my OP, I was also referring to this attitude in general, as in not worrying as much about what she's doing/thinking throughout the day, and specifically because I've got better shit to do. Ya dig? EDIT - in the past, I would go around worried about what SHE would think, and always be covert contracting her for attention, now I …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/17 06:42 AM
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Like usual?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/17 06:35 AM
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I've already figured out it's about blood flow, not airflow. As in pressing on the sides on the neck, not the front. Seems to do the trick. ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/17 06:35 AM
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Bam! But my question about "making the most of it" was more along the lines of how to develop this kink into my lady finding me another lass for a threeway. ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/17 06:34 AM
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With that username, I MUST take this advice!!
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/17 08:22 PM
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It's kinda funny how every guy thinks he wants this innocent virgin when he gets married, then 10 years later when kids, life, & reality hit the fan, he's all, "Show me the slutty!"
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/17 08:21 PM
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Choking is like unlocking the cheat code to kink. For reals? Any other advice to make the most of it? We're away for a night next weekend at a wedding where we only know a few people. She's already said, "I just want to go the wedding, then go back to the hotel room and fuck." So... the timing is probably good for more fun. :) Talk to me chief!!
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/17 07:49 PM
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Yeah... and I love time alone with my kids, it's a super win/win. And thanks.. BTW your Creating Your Slut post is pretty much a monthly read for me. Good stuff. And every word is true.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/17 07:44 PM
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Ah yes... I think I had this same problem too. I now realize the tease is about that wonderful slap on the shoulder with the "you're an asshole" comment is just the right flavor. As much as AWALT, every one is a little different, once you find the groove, it's on.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/17 07:41 PM
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Well played sir. Tip #3 is one that I'm just recently getting a hold of... My wife, while super fun at a party, get's exhausted by being around too many people for too long. One of our best trips, I just happened to have the first half of our weekend planned as just us, with a massage for her, then we hit the town on the second night. I'm the type that likes a crowd, so reminding myself that her wanting time to herself, or me "all to herself" can be a good thing. I even planned a trip to Vegas f…
/r/askMRP26/05/17 08:17 PM
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A woman will do things like this because she either feels you're too busy and is helping, or she assumes you don't have it handled, so she handles it. Either one can be fixed (assuming you do, indeed, have it handled) with good communication. At this point, with this particular issue, perhaps something like: "Sorry, I should have told you this sooner, but I already made a reservation for your parents at the hotel." "But I told them they'd sleep here." "I know, I'll call them & let them know ther…
/r/askMRP25/05/17 04:13 PM
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Great podcast by Tim Ferris/Rhonda Patrick PhD on this. "https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-tim-ferriss-show/id863897795?mt=2&i=385081782" At about the 33:00 mark she talks heat stress/sauna and switches to cold stress at about the 46 min mark. Suffice to say. Icing directly after a workout blunts the "good inflammation" that helps build muscle. Waiting an hour post workout to ice seems to help with DOMS & not affect the acute inflammation that leads to muscle growth. But more studies are n…
/r/TheRedPill24/05/17 08:34 PM
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She's not afraid of conflict with you. Funny you should type that, because as of late I've noticed much less conflict between she & I. Between the OI & STFU, as well as stating my opinion on household stuff without being tied to it (stuff like, I like the bluish sofa cover over the rust-colored one, but you pick)... Has really gotten me a long way. Little things that used to be annoyances & slightly irritating conversations are now much smoother. True to your point, when I have strong frame & am…
/r/askMRP23/05/17 04:45 PM
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Thanks for this insight, for real. It does seem that since I've been emptying much more STFU she'll hamster around to the point I was trying to make without me even having to say anything. That night was weird on many levels, but showed that if your making progress & there's any perception of things derailing, she'll be all over it. That congruence thing, totally.
/r/askMRP23/05/17 04:38 PM
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Wow... I truly feel special. For the record, upon reflection. I owned my shit and we've moved on. /u/nonnimoose hit it pretty right on. Moving on with purpose.
/r/askMRP23/05/17 04:25 AM
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/u/Mattalec - I totally agree/see the point/appreciate this post. it's really good stuff. Thanks. I'm wondering if you have links/documentation of the mechanism this happens by, from an elementary bio-chemistry perspective. The reason being is what you're describing sounds a whole-helluva-lot like insulin's role in type 2 diabetes and how excess sugar consumption cues many of the disease's symptoms. It would be fun to see parallels in the two if they exist. Are there any that you're aware of? Th…
/r/TheRedPill23/05/17 01:22 AM
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If I did, it would have to be intentional, as in, "THIS IS WHAT YOU SOUND LIKE WHEN YOU YELL!" Not out of anger, but to make a point.
/r/askMRP20/05/17 10:37 PM
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Solid link... I was quite literally ahead of it all day, and I've found this philosophy of "staying ahead of it" one of the best daily tools to keep me moving and on my A game. I slipped a little last night. I'll admit it. But holy shit, we didn't need to blow up the whole car because the check engine light came on, you know?
/r/askMRP20/05/17 10:11 PM
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I reflect back to the Chris Rock stand up about "I'd never hit a woman, but I understand." There are times man.... there are times...
/r/askMRP20/05/17 10:08 PM
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We did a bit of this, just calm dad time. Not a full day, but a good piece of it. Thanks for the reply.
/r/askMRP20/05/17 09:58 PM
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Solid advice here. Thanks.
/r/askMRP20/05/17 09:56 PM
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It was one of those finished the bedtime routine, completely in bed, and the kid suddenly says she's hungry. I go into the we'll eat in the morning routine for a sec, and I was literally about to head to kitchen (due to the meltdown) for a yogurt or something when the wife came in full steam.
/r/askMRP20/05/17 09:55 PM
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Noted
/r/askMRP20/05/17 09:53 PM
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This really, REALLY speaks to what was probably going on. She's been considerable more stressed after returning to teaching this year. So much so that she's looking to bow out next year. I'm kinda for it. I also find myself really appreciating /u/mrpthrowa 's comment above/below. It probably truly is a big weird comfort test. And I find that, for my wife, she can only make so many decisions in a day. If she's been making them all day at work, even if they are relatively minor ones, she's got les…
/r/askMRP20/05/17 09:53 PM
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get your kid some food when they're clearly hungry Noted. But we were already in bed, and it was one of those last minute things where the kid, after brushing teeth and the whole bedtime routine, says she's hungry. Perhaps I pushed a little too much with the, "Honey, it's bed time now" routine. This is the piece that I'll own as my fault. Dumb, sure. But there's a difference between a minor meltdown happening, and me literally about to head to the kitchen to get a yogurt... and walking in and nu…
/r/askMRP20/05/17 09:44 PM
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I would ask her outright: "Do you think your behavior is appropriate?" "Do you feel your behavior is helping this situation?" As I said in another comment, I'm a slow processor, and I thought of this exact response this morning, 7-8 hours after the fact. It would have been great in the moment, but it will have to be after. Thanks.
/r/askMRP20/05/17 05:51 PM
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She's not afraid of conflict, at ALL. It's almost a point of pride. Part of the trick, for me, is that I'm a slow processor, and she's quick. This is the big reason I've found STFU to be such an effective tool for me. Where I wold've tried to engage, I now don't, and give myself time to think, and it always turns out better. Perhaps even this was a time I could've simply ignored her.
/r/askMRP20/05/17 05:50 PM
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with a name like /u/FistFullOfBitches I should probably heed your words. her go to emotion is anger... I'll bring it up to her therapist/counselor .. believe it or not, they actually specialize in that. Thanks for the insight, sometimes the gut is right, I'll try to be more in tune.
/r/askMRP20/05/17 05:47 PM
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I had a beer with the movie & dinner.
/r/askMRP20/05/17 02:17 PM
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Scream so Fucking loud and violently, that you shock her. This has come across my mind a few times, it just REALLY can't be in front of the kids, since I'm making a point to HER. And yes. Acknowledge the boundary comment... evidently this needs addressing. your daughters will be emotional traninwrecks from your wife. This is one of my biggest fears, that my kids will be walking around thinking they are responsible for how mom's acting to day. That's not only completely inappropriate, from the po…
/r/askMRP20/05/17 02:15 PM
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This would be a good idea. She resorts to yelling at times during the morning routine, or bedtime routine. Sure I raise my voice at times, but I do my best to do in that fun way of, "Brush your teeth now or I'm going to lick your face!" Don't engage in blaming or arguing the final points Thanks for this... a good reminder
/r/askMRP20/05/17 02:10 PM
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Yes.. I realize it wasn't about the kid. It was about her perceiving that I didn't have things handled (kid was having a meltdown, and she was trying to work in the office). The thing is that kid #2 was actually starting to calm down and we were on the tail end of the issue when the wife came in and blow the fucking thing up. And I honestly think the wife has some left over Dad stuff (he's very beta in a lot of ways), and doesn't think I have it handled, when I almost always do. Also, the wife w…
/r/askMRP20/05/17 02:08 PM
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It's as if the kids lived through years of abuse. This was my thought as well... though I think some of it is a reflection on us having a LOT of divorce happening around us right now (literal next door neighbors, and my sister), and she may be scared about that. But yeah, I think there needs to be a "no raising your voice" rule. The wife resorts to yelling, she's doing better lately, but it's still her default setting.
/r/askMRP20/05/17 01:33 PM
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I'm going to assume that in that 20 years of marriage, there has been at least ONE thing that happened that your wife doesn't know about. Whatever that thing is, it's not necessarily a deal breaker, but it could be if she got herself worked up enough. Call me too modern, but if you didn't have a ring on it at the time, then sure it sucked, but eh, you could've done the same thing. Do what you want, but I wouldn't toss out 20 years because of some weird issue from back then, unless you're looking…
/r/askMRP20/05/17 01:01 PM
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To be honest, people pay me to workout. I own a gym. A small CrossFit box. But I swear to god, it took forEVER for her to be able to allow me coach her... even though others pay top dollar for my coaching, she just couldn't hear it from me. This is also part of my frustration. I've moved on that if she doesn't want to do CrossFit, that's fine, I get that it's not for everyone. But just do SOMEthing. Part of it, is that I'm looking down the road to how I'm going to look and feel when I'm 60, 70 o…
/r/askMRP19/05/17 08:12 PM
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Kudos to you. I have to say, that at this point, by and large, I too, don't exactly "like" working out. I like to have already worked out. I like the feeling of soreness. I swear I even like the weakness in my muscles post workout, and how they start to feel better when I refuel. But the actual workout, shit no, I ain't looking forward to that, because I know it's gonna suck. But I've found that most of the things that are worth having in life have a "this sucks" barrier that a lot of people can…
/r/askMRP19/05/17 08:04 PM
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Either way, you're getting more jacked. At least there's that!! ;)
/r/askMRP19/05/17 02:53 PM
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I'm quite sure she knows all the benefits. I think that it's often just easier to be on Facebook than to get on the rower (yes, we have one at home). For her, it seems there is always something "more important" to do, or if not, she doesn't "feel like it" or is "too tired." The interesting thing, of course, is that no-one EVER feels worse after a workout, EVERYONE feels better. Some of it is even mindset, we were even talking once in the car, and she said what if I took a pill, and it made me ha…
/r/askMRP19/05/17 02:52 PM
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funny enough... we have three kids as well. I try to be the fun guy (as mentioned below), but sometimes, even when I being genuinely encouraging, she takes it the wrong way. on the one hand, whatever, on the other hand... Jesus Christ woman, we BOTH know you'll feel better (& look better) if you put in just 20 minutes a few times a week.
/r/askMRP19/05/17 02:45 PM
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That's the trick. I find it's funny sometimes that woman like to pigeon-hole themselves if it fits how they're feeling. ... find a way to make her want it? This is the challenge. Thought I think /u/rocknrollchuck put a great link down there about having a clear vision. I'm going to work on this more, if nothing else, it'll at least help me to get more clarity on the big issues of life (money, sex, time, work, kids, etc)
/r/askMRP19/05/17 02:40 PM
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This.... thanks for the reminder, and the really good link... It seems we had a better vision on this subject (and a few others now that I think about it) a while ago, and on some things we've been going with the flow a little too much. This is exactly what I needed, thanks.
/r/askMRP19/05/17 02:36 PM
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Not a bad idea.... I've tried in the past being as nonchalant as I can be about it. There's a set of stairs near us that I go do every Sunday, not hardcore, but just to get sweaty. Any time I casually invite her, there's HUGE resistance. I've even offered to pay for pilates or ballet class or whatever she's into. She seems to just see it all as judgement (which I suppose it is a bit). She went for a run a few weeks back and did squats before getting in the shower a bit ago. Do I pat her head and…
/r/askMRP18/05/17 07:38 PM
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Yeah... once the game is strong, other women want to play, and it only takes a little suggestion to get a woman primed. I was literally with all three of my kids a while ago, saw a lady, and figured, what the hell, I'll flirt a little. Within minutes, she was imploring me to meet her later for a drink... KNOWING I had a wife (who happened to not be present), and kids. (I didn't meet her, but she would've, no doubt) Catch and release. After which, as /u/addictedtoyourface suggests, fuck the shit …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/17 08:11 PM
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Haven't had a chance to read all the comments yet, so sorry if already suggested. But if you wanna "patch it up," do so with the step-dad. Take him out for a beer (if you and he can keep it together), and see if you can laugh about it. If it was me, I'd start with something along the lines of, "Hey, I know you like to set me up with people, you got any connections with Angelina Jolie (or whoever HIS favorite star is=common ground)?" Once you two are laughing, then feel free to through out an apo…
/r/askMRP11/05/17 10:17 PM
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You're right on track. Her hamster just made it to her mouth. Hold fast.
/r/askMRP11/05/17 03:37 AM
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This...so this. How many times have we heard, "He just gets me." As the reason a woman "falls" for someone. What they mean is; he doesn't need to be told, or hinted, about what to do, how to act, or how to treat me...he just knows. For me, that isn't something that happens automatically, it something that is a constant & conscious series of choices. It's becoming more second nature as I embrace this philosophy, but at this point it's still work. STFU has been key.
/r/askMRP09/05/17 04:18 PM
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Building on the rest of the comments, realize that, as a man, the times in your life where you feel complete, whole, and pain-free (both physically & mentally) will be fleeting. For most of us, there is at least constant nagging of dissatisfaction with our lives, or even a feeling of emptiness, that drives us to improve. It isn't that life gets easier, you have to get stronger. We all have demons, some days, they chill in the shadows and leave you alone, other days, they're in your face. That's …
/r/askTRP06/05/17 03:12 PM
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Angry much? The data & your point is solid... using "whore" a lot makes you sound way more Alpha
/r/TheRedPill02/05/17 01:11 AM
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Married Red Pill - I'd link to it for you, but the Reddit Bot doesn't like it.
/r/TheRedPill30/04/17 02:49 PM
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It's like TRP is the fucking kiddy pool and MRP is the deep end. Kinda "boys to men," isn't it? Haha!
/r/TheRedPill29/04/17 09:32 AM
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That nagging "stop being a fuckin pussy" in the back of your mind was right the whole time. Before all this MRP stuff, I remember a particular time that I "accidentally alpha-ed" my wife when we were at my parents place one summer. I don't remember all the details, I just remember my wife coming into the kitchen and complaining about something inconsequential with the kids that she wanted me to "fix." I just stared at her with the look of, "Are you serious?" At which point she just looked at the…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/17 03:40 PM
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Of course, the key is to separate manipulation (tears, nagging, yelling etc) from action (divorce, leaving, jumping on new cock). I will say a lot of guys are way too worried about the former, and way to unobservant to watch for the latter This....this is good shit right here.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/17 10:17 PM
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it's the reaction we get from those around us, including our wives I think this is truly MRP at it's best, and perhaps where David Deida's stuff truly applies. If you're on your A game all the time and the wife is responding accordingly, she'll be the first indicator that something is off. If she's used to being relaxed, knowing that her man is the rock (that metaphor is getting old, but it works), than she's a nice breeze and an easy sail. The second she sees you're not on the tiller, or aren't…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/17 10:16 PM
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A woman will forgive anything, but being a weak man. I find the parallel to this is a man who lies. I recently had a friend who I saw as an Alpha, as in big guy, ex college athlete, friendly, but still a DGAF attitude. Turns out he'd been lying about an affair for quite some time. His wife was WAY more pissed about the lying than the cheating. Through the MRP lense, I saw that he was way fucking beta in his relationship, like that weird scared of his wife thing. Agree, that it's not the cheating…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/17 10:04 PM
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I now hear "You're awful!" while my wife laughs numerous times a day. I totally never got it, I would have thought this was a bad thing. Now, it's been just long enough that it's quite literally music to my ears. ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/17 09:56 PM
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It doesn't change one damn thing about the MRP path This should be a mantra for 95% of the stuff people hear from their wives. Hell for a lot of things in life. Well said
/r/askMRP24/04/17 10:13 PM
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Agree with almost everything here. But as a side note... Get her hormones checked. Sometimes it's literally chemistry. My wife started taking a supplement at the recommendation of her chiropractor, and over the course of three days, went from always bitchy and tired, to hugging me when I returned home after a day of work. I was doing my MRP thing, but hadn't changed anything major over those 3 days. It was literally chemistry. That may or may not be the case for you. Judging from your story, you…
/r/askMRP21/04/17 07:22 PM
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Jesus...this is point on and boiled down to the essence. Nice.
/r/askMRP20/04/17 05:04 PM
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This. Her hamster is spinning so fast, she can't even get words out to talk to you. She thought she had you figured out, now she's been jostled out of her comfort. Hang in there. Just a side note, be aware of hormonal changes post partum/while breast feeding.... Sometimes it's easier to think of it in the very real sense that she's quite literally not in control of herself, it's the hormones. It wasn't until much after the fact that my wife realized that she had post-partum depression, and neede…
/r/askMRP20/04/17 02:35 PM
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We've had a strict "No Pets" rule in the house our whole marriage (12 years)...all these comments are causing me to reconsider... Glad you've had a friend so dear, and sorry that they had to leave...hang in there man. Have the feelz, your friend earned them.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/17 11:10 PM
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The easy thing about the food combining is you can start today. You don't have to change what you're eating overall, just when & with what else you eat.
/r/askMRP15/04/17 04:12 PM
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Get some digestive enzymes, a broad one that includes lipase and protease, two of the big ones for digesting fat and protein, respectively. Also, you can work with Food Combining, some people think it's a little pseudo-science type stuff, but I have a few personal friends who have seen major changes in their digestive symptoms by addressing the combinations of food they eat.
/r/askMRP15/04/17 06:55 AM
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This is good. ;)
/r/askMRP13/04/17 08:09 AM
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Saving for later...thanks in advance for you knowledge
/r/TheRedPill29/03/17 07:25 PM
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Like a lot of responses, I've found that either Agree & Amplify or STFU are the best responses to pretty much everything. Take this to heart.
/r/askMRP28/03/17 07:25 PM
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wow....that's crazy interesting, for real. This does seem to be exactly what happens on a subconscious level for ladies, they check their reality off of yours. If you agree, then their view of reality is right by default.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/17 07:15 PM
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This is great to hear, the book is literally on it's way to my mailbox. Also, the wife doesn't take her fitness as seriously as need be. I've enjoyed hearing Jocko on the podcast Tim Ferris does, and am looking forward to using his book to apply more aggressive changes to my own life.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/17 07:05 PM
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DO you think the roids may be adding to your problem? Don't they kinda make a person more agro?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/17 09:17 PM
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honestly, it's so great to hear about people, like yourself, taking their health & wellness into their own hands and figuring out what works...even better that you're sharing it. So many people lvoe to sit back and complain....virtual fist bump, brothah. (and always like links, don't currently have any issues, but you never know what the future may hold)
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/17 09:06 PM
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Here's my two cents...I think it both takes charge & respects the boundary. After she "shoots down" the other people (either at 3am, or when you wake up)... You - "See if you can reschedule the meeting for tomorrow, that'll give us a day to see how he's feeling. If he's still sick, I'll stay home till you get back. If there's no way you can reschedule, I can make today work if I have to, but it's short notice. So best scenario, push to tomorrow or later in the week & he's not sick so no need of …
/r/askMRP23/03/17 06:31 AM
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KB swings are some good shit. And doing 100 literally only takes a few minutes if you don't break it up. Drilling in that hip hinge is a huge benefit. Sounds like you're doing what Tim Ferris calls a "cat vomit" it's one of the few things that legitimately shrink your waist in a week.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/17 02:46 AM
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Hmmm...hadn't thought of it THAT way...
/r/askMRP22/03/17 04:52 AM
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Eventually, do a road trip with the kids on a long weekend, leave wife at home This is huge if you can pull it off...I did it (for 2 weeks one summer) and it literally changed our marriage.
/r/askMRP21/03/17 10:43 PM
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Sweet.
/r/askMRP21/03/17 10:28 PM
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shit that's funny
/r/askMRP21/03/17 02:45 PM
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"I've had too many dates with women seeing me as a meal ticket rather than as a human being" This is gold. Just be sure to not get into a pissing match after, as in she says, "I'm not! Blah, blah blah..." and then proceeds to list of why she isn't. Don't engage with any of it, STFU about the subject. In a way, you forcing her to prove with actions, showing that you're not going to engage her hamster. This is a solid "laying down the law" statement though, good advice/insight from /u/Auvergnat
/r/askTRP18/03/17 11:05 PM
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You laugh, but there's truth here ;)
/r/askTRP18/03/17 06:17 PM
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From the looks, she understands it, she just doesn't want to DO it. Honestly, my wife gave up all added/refined sugar, and basically lost 10 pounds and has kept it off for a year. She looks great, maybe not fitness model great, but she puts a dress on and can turn heads. She made up her own mind to do it after she (finally) noticed that after she'd have sugar at night (ice cream, or other "treats") she'd basically wake up with a what felt like a hangover. Wine does the same thing (thankfully teq…
/r/askMRP16/03/17 09:02 PM
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This... Did you fuck on Friday night? Was she expecting the D and didn't get it? You could flip this & say her shit was off for 2 full days (& she knew it) & you couldn't/wouldn't/aren't capable enough yet to lead her out of it. Yeah, she still threw a tantrum, and that's shitty, but would you be ok with a teen with attitude sulking around all weekend, or would you address it? It's like a leaky sink, it doesn't have to run your life, but you gotta go turn the faucet at some point. Edit - weird a…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/17 03:13 PM
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True this...always helps to stack the deck in your favor.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/17 06:03 PM
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yeah this one is tricky could be like /u/innominating said and she could read it as "He's trying to cheer me up," or "He wants me to share in the fun." Then again, if her hamster is worn out from the day, it could disarm her and get her back on track with a laugh. Just be aware of which you think she's in, you could be inadvertently "rewarding" her behavior... as in she'll start depending on you to come to her rescue instead of self regulating. This is one of those things where you know your wif…
/r/askMRP10/03/17 05:48 AM
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I'm gonna go back to my most valuable lesson to date, shut the fuck up. You get home and quickly surmise that shot has gone down, don't even go into the bedroom, just start taking care of business. She comes in and tries to intervene during homework? A quick glance (MAYbe) and continue the job at hand without a word. I've found the most elective tool for my wife to get back on track in these types of situations is to have her realize that I totally have this handled, without ANY help from her. L…
/r/askMRP10/03/17 12:15 AM
3

I could STFU, which is mostly what I did, but it seems strange to not say anything at all. This dude. I have only learned the magic of STFU recently. If you would've simply gone about your night, and not made any effort in her direction, you would've been in smoother waters. Back to thinking of her like child, she already knows she's doing a shitty job & is overwhelmed. You pointing it out puts her on the defensive. Women behave better when you don't need them. She's kinda gotta earn it ALL from…
/r/askMRP04/03/17 12:00 AM
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This one...if you're doing your part, she's looking forward to it, and enough (it seems like) that sometimes the schedule gets rushed. Many don't agree with scheduling the sex, but for some ladies, it can actually be something that quiets the hamster. And of course, if it ain't broke, don't fix it. Meaning really ask yourself what you want, regardless of what we think.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/17 03:33 PM
4

The amount of work, dedication, & focus required of both these performers is something every man should make note of. These guys didn't get to where they are by accident, there are several thousand hours of purposeful work that both of the men I your example have behind them. Using a man's metric, even if it isn't "your thing," logic dictates respect has been earned by the mastery they possess. Using the female metric, they have their pick of the pussy. So if RP=Wet Panties, I'd wager they're to…
/r/askTRP18/02/17 09:22 AM
1

This.
/r/askMRP13/02/17 06:54 PM
4

Yeah, also what /u/sh0ckley said ... You're letting what she's going through dictate how your life is running. Women can simultaneously be pissed at the world & DTF. The less you get pulled into her frame, the better. Just this morning, the wife was in a weird mood, I amplified until she was literally yelling that I'm an asshole. Not more than two minutes later she's laughing and showing me pics from an excursion with the kids from yesterday. They're weird birds, dude.
/r/askMRP12/02/17 04:48 PM
6

You can try to flip the whole thing in its head. "Why are you giving a guy, who to you, is an obvious moron, this much of your time?" Then sit back, STFU & let her let off steam for a while, then pick one thing, she says at some point, and give her ONE instance of, "Huh, I never thought of it that way." Then STFU again. You've given her nothing. But she's sees you listening. She gets tingles from your action, not conversation. Let her do the talking. You embrace the "Acta non Verba" mentality. Y…
/r/askMRP12/02/17 04:16 PM
1

Do Tabata squats with 95 lbs as a back squat workout some time...if you make it past 96 reps (12 each round), add weight. This, I swear, had me putting on size. Careful, though, it can be a LOT on our lower back ;) And prepare yourself to be fuck all sore.
/r/TheRedPill11/02/17 11:03 PM
1

I've occasionally followed with something like, "Thanks SO much for your opinion, I was just WAITING to see what you thought." Or some other sarcastic thing that makes it completely evident that you didn't ask for her opinion, nor do you value it on this topic. The sarcasm makes a joke out of it, & will usually get an affectionate "You're an asshole," from her.
/r/TheRedPill10/02/17 09:43 PM
1

What workouts are you doing that you grew a fuckin inch?!?!?
/r/TheRedPill10/02/17 06:37 PM
1

While true, when I was at my lightest, my wife was pregnant & putting on weight, she looked at me one day and said, "You know, A girl usually wants her husband to weigh more than her." I took the note, and it's been heavy lifting & CrossFit since. Now I'm not jacked/cut, but I usually look like I'm about 2 months away from an MMA weigh-in (as in a little thicker, but fucking strong for my size). Abs are important, but it is fucking nice to pick up your lady without grunting. ;)
/r/TheRedPill10/02/17 06:33 PM
1

Yeah...I've found that if I want to keep the weight on, there are no such things as "light days." I also found that Bulgarian split squats & doing weighted Tabata squats put some mass on my legs. I finally had that victorious feeling of my legs rubbing together...sweet friction ;)
/r/TheRedPill10/02/17 06:28 PM
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6'1" and 145???!!! Holy shit dude...I thought I was a hard gainer...I've gone from 155 to 185-190 over the past 6-7 yrs...6' tall. I swear the first 15 pounds was in my legs, since I had been neglecting my squat for years. Well done fighting for those 60lbs.
/r/TheRedPill10/02/17 01:53 AM
1

See my comment above/below, but specifically about making it her idea. Also finding someone else who's had success, even if it's "some guy on the internet's wife" can sometimes help. I also tend to A&A this kind of thing playfully. "I don't want to get you excited, but this guy says his wife wanted to fuck like rabbits after taking it...I know we already fuck like donkeys, so I'm not sure what kind of an animal we'd turn into.." But this does fall under that "Don't tell me what to do" umbrella t…
/r/askMRP08/02/17 06:20 AM
1

This is that tricky thing out of "How to Win Friends and Influence People" where you plant seeds to make it seem like her idea. She was going through a bit of stress at the time, and I really wanted to do our yearly trip. If I remember right, it was something along the lines of, "Honey, you seem really over whelmed lately, and I realized that since we started having kids, you've literally been either pregnant or breast feeding for the past six years. Shit. That must be hard. I think a little dow…
/r/askMRP08/02/17 06:12 AM
2

PS. Don't know how old she is, but get her hormone levels checked. My wife starting taking a supplement from her Chiro when she complained to feeling drained and the like, she was just past 40 at the time. It's called MinChex. Three days after taking it. HUGE change. As in, suddenly I wasn't an asshole. Sometimes, it's literally fucking chemistry. Something to consider, at least.
/r/askMRP07/02/17 10:38 PM
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TOTALLY correct...COMPLETELY right... Yes...sorry, I got caught up a bit in the OP's post, and was responding out of an him vs her mentality... will edit Thanks for reminding/calling out...that, indeed, needs correcting.
/r/askMRP07/02/17 10:22 PM
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agree with /u/Scurvemuch here... taking the kids on a vacation by yourself does a few things, the primary and overarching thing is - EDIT - you get to spend quality time with your kids (without her around to have an opinion or judge...end of edit) - it also shows you don't need her (dread). And having you out of the picture for an extended period of time shows her that with all of the kids and you gone, she can't blame you for any of her perceived "problems & issues" that women's hamsters give t…
/r/askMRP07/02/17 09:48 PM
2

accurate ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/17 06:29 PM
6

not a business guru Maybe not, but if you dug yourself out of a 30K hole in two months, I'd at least wanna check out what kinda shovel you used.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/17 04:49 PM
1

Dude...well played....mind if I PM you for a few pointers? I'm pretty on track, generally, with the rest of the MRP stuff...the financial side is where I'm lagging.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/17 04:02 PM
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PCOS and Endometriosis My wife hasn't been affected by these, or at least as far as I know. She's just not "herself" and as we talked a bit about it last night during date night, she's worried that this is starting to be her new "normal." As in, crabby, bitchy, and not fun. More than anything, it seems like she turns from normal to weirdly pissed off super quickly. Or at least it seems quicker than a regular/regulated person would be. EDIT - of course, any info you have...more than happy to take…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/17 12:49 PM
1

Any specifics there? More happy? More horny? More logical? Any side effects to be aware of?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/17 12:07 AM
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Tracking the her cycle was one of the first things I did way back when I started with Athol Kay's MMSL. It only takes a couple months to figure out when she's more receptive. This, of course, doesn't fix your own shit, but it sure as hell takes a little of the mystery out of the batshit craziness that some of us experience. Funny enough, over time, she found out that I was tracking her cycle, at first she was a little irked until I shut it down with a playful & smirky, "Why do you think I plan t…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/17 06:38 PM
2

Gentlemen don't get drunk, they have 1-3 & chill. Solid... I do this myself, but this turn of phrase is great....I'm gonna teach my son this. ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/17 06:30 PM
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Doesn't matter had sex? ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/17 05:06 AM
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Advice... While it takes a little behind the back type planning, it may set you up for a real life test, on your terms. Find out when & where their next "meeting" is. Plan A - This works if this is a regular place that you would go for takeout type lunch. Call in a to go order for said place. Go pick it up when she is there with guy. "Happen" to see them. Be polite, introduce yourself, make fast small talk, and then be on your way (you're busy after all). She now knows that you know. And the oth…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/17 09:38 PM
1

Nod to another guy from the CrossFit crowd...we aren't ALL crazy cult people :)
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 04:05 PM
1

Back seller financing? Guess I'm headed to Google...you have good resources for a noob?
/r/askTRP24/01/17 11:04 PM
1

I guess I need to reread this one ... It's been too long & I feel like I've fallen back into old habits ;(
/r/askTRP24/01/17 11:03 PM
1

Not a "young guy," but have plenty of time left (in my early 40's with 3 kids) ... honestly readying through your other posts, makes me want to rethink investing in real estate. In Southern Cali, perhaps I can make a few buck and put myself in a position where even if I'm not making killing, at least I'm not fucking stressed about cash. Have you done posts about your process, should I look through your history, or is it the basic, "Bought some places and rent them out to good, high quality tenan…
/r/askMRP24/01/17 03:07 AM
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This is about as good as it gets here, and makes sense...I can see now that once the new habits take over, it'll still be work, but it'll be more automatic, and won't take as much mental work to get things moving. It's also good to know that people like Toy Robbins and Tim Ferris start their day with either a few or a litany of tasks/habits to put them in the zone to be on point all day, even for guys on top of their game, it doesn't happen without daily purposeful action. You have to flip that …
/r/askMRP24/01/17 03:00 AM
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I'm with you...it's way better, if possible, to get things done on your own, it helps to own your shit...I just hate that sometimes it's the lack of money that actually makes the fucking decision, as opposed to me. It's one thing to have all your ducks in a row and then go minimal, it's another to go fix the garbage disposal, and realize that even though you can install it yourself, that $100 for a new one may put you in the hole this month. It's a constant battle. I know it's not ALL about the …
/r/askMRP23/01/17 06:52 PM
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Don't delete this post because it's unfair to others to respond to you only to have you remove it. Noted...will leave it up. I think the biggest challenge I have is on the monetary side...2015 was a great year, 2016 - a challenge, 2017 is looking really good already, so more focus on that piece ($) & I feel like things will get smoother for me. I know that a guys worth shouldn't be tied completely to money, but it sure as shit make it easier to get things done.
/r/askMRP23/01/17 06:29 PM
1

Nice reference...I'll try on that attitude for a while. ;)
/r/askMRP23/01/17 06:27 PM
1

Noted....also just took my burpee medicine...those tend to get my shit straight for me
/r/askMRP23/01/17 06:26 PM
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This is tricky...I wonder about leveling with her. I now it's not a common play in the RP circles, but ask her to think for herself. As in, is there ANYone else that voted for Trump that she's friends with? My wife had a similar reaction to the election, and we went back to my parents place for the holidays. They both voted for Trump. We had a perfect Christmas, literally. She realized that people can still be kind and wonderful, and have differing opinions on some subjects. She's allowing the m…
/r/askMRP23/01/17 05:15 PM
1

Really good advice here already, I'll add mine, take it or leave it. Echoing the others, start small...like so small that it's almost nothing to do it...examples. take a multivitamin do 10 push-ups write one sentence about your day. read the first sentence of each paragraph of your studies, or the underlined part of your notes. You want to make these things so small that to do them takes almost no effort. Once you've got the habit going for a couple weeks, move onto the next thing. As far as a b…
/r/becomeaman18/01/17 03:27 AM
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Self Authoring Suite First I've heard of this...looks really solid and even if it provides a modicum of understanding, it's worth the sale they're having right now...thanks for the suggestion!
/r/becomeaman18/01/17 03:21 AM
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Well played. I too both appreciate that it's in the little things that sometimes feel like the biggest victories, and it hasn't truly been until the past year or so that I consider being called an asshole by my wife as a sort of victory. It lets me know that I'm on track.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/17 12:54 AM
2

Ah...good to know...yet intriguing she can change from man to man...I guess that's what a lot of this is for, to be the one she's gonna be HD with before she even shows up.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/17 04:45 AM
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For sure will grab these... In the mean time, is there talk of shifting women from on type to another...i.e. LD to HD, or (from this books perspective) are these things kind of "set" & they give tools of how to deal with them?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/17 11:21 PM
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Jesus Christ that was funny...it's like the ravings of a crazy pms-ing girlfriend after too much wine
/r/becomeaman03/01/17 11:01 PM
2

Fist bump dude... this is common sense". It really fucking wasn't. That's my big thing....some people this just comes naturally, others of us have to consciously work at shit (until, hopefully it becomes habit). If you've got a natural gift for gab, then all the small talk stuff is "Duh" to you, while others have to consciously think about how to keep the conversation going in a friendly way. Some of us need a LOT of help with many aspects of our life to figure out why the shit we're doing isn't…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/16 10:52 PM
1

Would LOVE to hear your experience with AJATT... I've been SO close to doing his Chinese program (silver spoon) a couple times, but it's been just enough out of financial reach, that I never pulled the trigger... Was it worth it? Edit speling
/r/TheRedPill17/12/16 09:45 PM
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This... or because she was a bitch earlier and hurt your feelings. This is the little piece that I always needs to catch myself on. I still have some of that tit-for-tat mentality where if she's being total ignoring and bitchy, then later wants to play, I kinda feel like I'm reading her in a way. I get that there's the "doesn't matter had sex" attitude, but I'm trying to figure out if sometimes she's using sex in order to maintain some kind of weird control over the situation, i.e. "He can't res…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/16 09:25 PM
2

Well played... I caught myself the other night doing a mini DEER and caught myself in the middle and did my best to STFU...not a huge deal since it was a small thing, but realized that I could've handled it better, always learning. Question for the crew, Do any of you ever just NOT do the sex thing, even if she's in the mood for it. I know that Athol's position is essentially to never refuse sex from the wife (with, I think, the implication, that too many of those will lead her to look elsewhere…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/16 05:17 PM
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Noted...thanks
/r/askMRP09/12/16 10:46 PM
1

A heartfelt thank you, my good man. I feel like you've spoken to where I've been falling short. I'm expecting a little too much of everyone, essentially that they can figure out their own systems and make it work. The wife (claims to) LOVE having a system in place for everything, yet can't seem to follow her own routines. And, of course, when things go off routine, things get crazy. She started a new job this year, and I think it's taking way more of a toll than she or I anticipated. I'd much ra…
/r/askMRP08/12/16 10:25 PM
1

Right...thanks.
/r/askMRP08/12/16 07:56 PM
1

i cleaned up some, since I was literally crunching on the shit in the kitchen, when I ran home for lunch (she wasn't home yet) she did the rest.
/r/askMRP08/12/16 07:52 PM
1

Agreed.
/r/askMRP08/12/16 07:51 PM
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"We both know that this "sky is falling" BS has to come to an end ASAP. Let's talk about what goes on and what can be done to alleviate the stress. It isn't good for our kids, it isn't good for you, and it isn't good for our relationship. Are you willing to do what it takes to get things back on track?" Thanks, this is a super helpful perspective and suggestion. And it frames into my leadership well. Honestly, I think part of it is her (& my sometimes) damn phone. At night when we could be doing…
/r/askMRP08/12/16 07:51 PM
1

She's generally good about this, yesterday was a fluke, but holy shit...what a fluke.
/r/askMRP08/12/16 07:43 PM
1

There's me not giving a fuck about her, but still giving a fuck about the experience the kids are having. Her, I can do, and would say that because of slip ups & old habits, and 80% there...it's when her actions affect the kids that I feel I may be off. My frame is stronger by the day. I suspect that some of this fit-type behavior is her subconsciously realizing that she's losing control.
/r/askMRP08/12/16 07:42 PM
2

Hmm...this is the thing where basically, treat her like a child...I'm seeing that more and more.
/r/askMRP08/12/16 07:40 PM
1

I feel like I did this a good bit last night after I got home (around 7). I made sure the kids finished up their dinner, sat with each on to practice piano, then took them all down stairs for the bedtime routine. Basically took care of everything, like I wanted to, to have a smooth evening. As I almost drifted off snuggling, I heard the shower. So I went into the bathroom to put down the bathroom mat we had just washed. I see her in there, and as I'm brushing my teeth I see that she keeps wiping…
/r/askMRP08/12/16 07:39 PM
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Later last night, she described it as having plates spinning (funny enough), and she's got so many going that if just one little thing falters, then the whole thing goes down. It seems like she's getting more anxious/ high strung as the years go on. EDIT - to clarify - This looks like you told us your wife is in open rebellion and literally breaking shit in the kitchen because you went to get a christmas tree? I went to get a Xmas tree the night before, but then the following morning, things wer…
/r/askMRP08/12/16 07:32 PM
0

Yeah...none of it became my problem, for a change...which is a step forward for me.
/r/askMRP08/12/16 07:30 PM
2

Better dad prep the night before. Noted. This kinda follows along the path of "act like your (a) single (dad). The less you need her, the less you need her. She's probably a little spoiled too, since I did all the kids prep on Monday & Tuesday, cuz I was up early & wanted to.
/r/askMRP08/12/16 02:22 AM
1

I have to work on my fog a bit more...the amplify comes a little easier for me. The crazy shit for me is that she could easily reach in the drawer and get a different water bottle, sure, it's not the $12 she bought that's fuckin eco-whatever, but it'll get the job done. Instead, that fucking hamster comes out in a full rage. Things that could just be solved within 27 seconds just fire her off the rails... and it's ALL in her HEAD. Thanks for the reply, good to remember that I'm not special or un…
/r/askMRP08/12/16 02:20 AM
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This is the best relationship advice, ever. For both sides. Just....yes.
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 08:30 PM
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For the record, most of the best sex I've ever had has bed with women in the 30-33 range...give me one of those over a 22 yr old drama queen any day. To each their own, you can have the younger ones (and I'll concur on your point on childbearing at a younger age, you're one the money there), but I'll take that 30 yr old that actually knows her body's& how to actually walk in heels any day ;)
/r/TheRedPill21/11/16 11:20 PM
1

In that case, yes birth control can affect mood...my wife was on one that made her a raging mad-woman...quite horny, but a crazy person. So, from experience, yeah birth control can effect a lady in different ways, and different pills can have different effects.
/r/askTRP20/11/16 06:09 AM
0

A man is responsible for the location of his sperm at all times...where a fucking condom.
/r/askTRP20/11/16 04:13 AM
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Being a great dad and connected with your kids is the one of the best ways to get your wife to relax. I know so many couples who's wife wouldn't DARE leave the kids with the husband for the weekend. Not only is it unmanly, it's kinda shameful. I actually took all three of my kids to visit my parents one summer for THREE WEEKS. Yeah, I left my wife at home alone for that time, but she wasn't going to be fun anyway, and I wanted to go, so I went. I maybe talked to her twice during the three weeks,…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/16 01:31 PM
1

noted
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/16 03:08 AM
1

I get sex a bit more than you, but this seems like a good example, I may have a few others here...if your open to a bit of a comment thread. I find the pess I'm a pussy, the more pussy she'll give me, so I suppose the two are related. I'm up early on a Saturday, so I'm down if you are for a little back and forth. quick note, have lately been employing the magic of STFU with tact. I think I may use the fucking example, since it's the reason many men find MRP. I know that it may seem a little tedi…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/16 02:48 PM
1

No..shit
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/16 01:32 PM
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Shit this is good...a really good complement to the STFU practice...as in when you do talk, talk with a command of your own words. Will definitely be employing this. Mucho thanks EDIT(s) - thoughts on the word "want"? It seems to be used in the WISNIFG context quite a bit. Example - We aren't fucking enough. vs I want to fuck you more. Would love clarity on this. (To me, the former makes a statement that implies the listener will provide a solution, the latter is a request that you are looking f…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/16 05:41 AM
1

Yeah, that's what it was...it's funny still, though, that STFU works for that too, the difference is in the finish...a kiss & a hug vs walking away. Thanks for the kudos, don't wanna get too cocky (yet), but I may finally be getting the fucking hang of this.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/16 03:54 AM
1

Haha...too bad the wings only last for a day..if that...always more work to do ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/16 03:52 AM
1

I've been at it long enough that I got my stupidness out... Haven't been injured in more than 4 years. Something to be said for experience
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 10:01 PM
1

Hahaha!!! Amen, dude...Amen.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 05:21 PM
2

I don't recall any...I just know that the more on point with everything I am, the more she's relaxed, and everything runs smoother. Thanks for the heads up though, I'll be sure to keep it in mind from now on when I'm STFU-ing Edit - spelling
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 03:32 PM
2

Nice comparison. And thanks for your blog, man. It's solid stuff. I find myself heading back over there from time to time. Also has me on a strength/size focus now with my workouts, even though I still CrossFit on the side ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 03:30 PM
2

It's still crazy to me that it seems to respond MOST favorably when I'm being what blue pill me would've considered "mean."
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 10:35 PM
1

none of all the convoluted bullshit pragmatic situations created via fear of loss or rocking of the boat too much painted you into situations of what you thought was pleasing her. ... or ME either... That's the biggest part, neither of us get what we need. Thanks for the kudos, like most things, I'm finding mastering the basics to be more powerful then any of the weird convoluted stuff I tried in the past. And yes, I can see how the next natural step from STFU is IDGAF, one blends right into the…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/16 03:33 AM
2

It also kinda forces you to acta non verba...if your not sitting around talking, you might as well be taking care of shit, ya know?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/16 02:27 AM
1

Yeah, I can see the STFU branching out into other areas, it's actually becoming a little more relaxing as I realize more and more that I don't have to talk nearly as much as I think.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/16 02:26 AM
1

Tricky....if it's the first one...it's gold. ;)
/r/askTRP30/10/16 11:08 PM
-1

I think you got this backwards...it reads to me like it's two gals (his wife, and a brothel girl he'll get to pick) and him... Maybe she's a little bi?
/r/askTRP30/10/16 04:35 AM
2

I feel you...I've noticed that she's starting to take that approach with the kids more often now. For example - I tend to get the kids moving (like off to school) through fun instead of yelling. She's still got that default setting of yell first, but I see her at least try to throw in a joke, or a little fun more often. Funny enough, when I first met my mother-in-law, she actually said out loud to me, with the wife present, "Wow, you're the only one I've seen that knows how to handle her." Over …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 07:23 PM
2

Would like to know this as well...it seems that often my wife is the one who's stirring the pot (as opposed to the kids), almost like it's her default setting.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 06:36 PM
1

The problem lies when they guide you, take control, and become the only reason you act or think. This right here...man I'm so realizing this lately, emotions are fuel, and perhaps decide which way your going to steer the ship, but they are useless for making decisions in the moment. Your actions should be measured. Energized by emotion but not guided nor clouded by them. Solid post.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 06:33 PM
1

It's taken me my whole adult life to realize this...to think of how long I was held hostage by fear of how I'd make a woman feel is infuriating ... At least I know moving forward
/r/askTRP25/10/16 04:49 AM
0

I get the point of your post, and I, infant, agree with quite a bit of it, but I'm going to challenge your perspective on it. All of this traditional religion could also be seen as "pre-alpha-conditioning." Meaning that women are taught that they are submit to their husbands regardless of whether they have earned it (for lack of a better term). This could be why, as /u/hydrogenesis mentioned that even though the women are sort of pre-selected to be submitting to their husbands, some still cheat,…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/16 10:48 PM
1

Turk.. solid stuff man... In my 40s an just discovered this stuff a couple years ago... glad to see you found it too. Sometimes it seems like our ladies have been wanting the alpha so much but they don't even know it, and when we shift things up and start to give it to them (heh, heh) the response is immediate, and sometimes, rather incredible. I know that's how it's been at our house. I'm pretty much on track with most of this, save the $$ side. I'm self employed on 2 fronts, but have had chall…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 07:11 PM
1

Nice... Still getting the WISNIFG stuff online...I feel like I need more practice. It actually amazed me that you can acknowledge how some extra is feeling and then NOT fix it/do anything about it. Actually just doing the STFU was a nice big step... Thanks for the input !
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/16 10:20 PM
2

This...this is all great stuff right here... I have a very good friend who is a lesbian, we talk about what she needs to do to keep her lady happy (she's between ladies currently), and you're exactly right in that they get caught up in the "I don't care, what do You wanna do?" Loop and it drives them both crazy. I dig hanging out with my lesbian friends from time to time. I friendly flirt with them, knowing it won't go anywhere, I just see it as a sort of game practice with complete outcome inde…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/16 09:31 PM
1

1 - The shit tests will never, ever stop...they may over time become less frequent, but it never stops. 2 - Get far enough ahead of the shit you're doing at home that you can literally just ignore her, or at most give her an amused chuckle when she gives you something to do. This doesn't sound crazy hard, since you're already doing pretty much fucking everything, but it's referencing the fact that you don't NEED her. You can take care of the house and get everything done just fine on your own (w…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/16 09:17 PM
1

What are your numbers? As in 1 rep bench, dead, & squat...& what is your body weight? I got a buddy who's about 6' at 225, who did 3 sets of 10 back squats at 365 last week...he doesn't juice, unless you count beer. In my opinion, You gotta get some volume under big weight for big gains.
/r/askTRP10/10/16 07:52 AM
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No....but I would've spent my time in the gym much differently. At 21 you have the natural testosterone that guys pay for decades later. Eat big, lift big, and your young hormone raged body will naturally do the rest
/r/askTRP09/10/16 11:28 PM
1

echo /u/BluepillProfessor ... both in comment and in noting /r/redpillnonmonogamy. 1 - You could be having crazy, holy-shit sex with your wife and home, and then all these IOI's would be like, "Yeah, I fuckin' got it," instead of, "I need to go get that." 2 - RE /r/redpillnonmonogamy... you never know, your wife could be thinking the same damn thing, and if you actually had a conversation, without losing frame, you could be having a threesome every month.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/16 10:44 PM
1

You're young, which is great. Are you fit? In my experience (I'm a little "seasoned" and have been married over a decade), men want women who are busy and happy. If you are those two things, I want to be around you. As far as the hetero-flexible thing...any guy who has a problem with this is a fucking idiot, and not alpha enough to handle you.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/16 09:39 PM
5

You will never, ever, be sorry you know how to dance. This is by far one of my own best qualities, I know how to lead a woman on the dance floor. For ladies, it's like watching a man chop wood. Solid advice.
/r/becomeaman09/10/16 05:47 PM
1

Don't just handle it, get ahead of it. This changed my fucking life. And as a direct result, more fucking.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/16 10:16 AM
1

Thanks for the clarification...I also like the comment parallel to this somewhere in this thread "the grass is greenest where you water it."
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/16 03:10 PM
1

Your need for validation ended it. Sorry...maybe it's still early and my brain isn't turned all the way on, but I'd love for you to expound in this. I've had this very scenario happen in the past, I can see the whispers of it happening again here and there. I'm trying to be conscious about what bullshit it brings up (weird neediness, not watering the lawn at home, so to speak) but if you have some more specific insight it would be much appreciated. Is it that he validated his own feelings/shit/l…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/16 03:32 PM
1

Haha!! I've seen smaller bottle six-packs before, but that would be awesome to show with 6 X 750ml bottles! ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/16 10:09 PM
1

I think I saw some at BevMo the other day...not sure if they all carry the same stock. They'll probably have some other good Belgian, Leffe is pretty damn good too.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/16 10:06 PM
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sorry will repost to askMRP
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/16 02:55 PM
1

Just my $.02. Get ahead of it. Buy a 6 pack of nice beer or some other show-up-at-the-party-alcohol. And just as your leaving, say, "I bought a six pack of Chimay(insert beer) for the party tomorrow night, it's in the fridge, don't forget to bring it." This calls her on her bluff before she even makes it, puts you in "control" by giving her an assignment, and also let's her know that YOU know that she's going, and you're on point. Also, you took care of the "don't show empty handed" thing. Then,…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/16 02:52 PM
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This shit is good for all of us...well handled...it gives a little "what if" mental rehearsal if it ever happened to one of us. Of course, we all have great comebacks here, because we have a second to ponder, mine would'be been something slong the lines of, "Should we stop and get condoms?"
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/16 06:43 PM
1

Do the Work and/or the original piece that Do the Work pulled from, The War of Art, both by Steven Pressfield...buy one or both, NOW.
/r/becomeaman24/09/16 07:18 AM
0

This...
/r/askTRP15/09/16 11:32 PM
1

Dude...that fuckin comic...that's good shit right there
/r/TheRedPill14/09/16 03:20 AM
1

Great to hear. Here's to hoping that you give it to her (an yourself) good.
/r/askTRP09/09/16 02:44 PM
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The other option to the question, " Are you mad"... "I was, but then I realized you not worth it." Then STFU & drive away. A little passive aggressive, but fuck it, you're never going to see her again.
/r/askTRP08/09/16 08:08 PM
1

Solid
/r/askTRP08/09/16 08:05 PM
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You've had 'good sex.' She wants to get FUCKED. I've made other comments. but this is the vid that I eventually got my wife to "find" that gave me some pointers. (I had some fuckin work to do to become more dominant...it's on like fuckin' donkey kong now) VERY NSFW LINK 1 There was another one (can't find it, sorry) where the girl got interviewed after, and was saying how she loved the fact that she lost all sensation of the the outside world. The aggressive sex actually calmed her down (read sh…
/r/askTRP08/09/16 06:34 PM
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She is. Now it's up to you to decide if she's going to be YOUR whore, or someone else's. Most want to be a whore, they just want to be a whore for YOU.
/r/askTRP08/09/16 03:18 PM
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You need to see your wife pussy get torn up by YOU....she wants a torn up pussy, and she wants you to "just know" how to do it. You need to not talk to her...you're done talking. start FUCKING.
/r/askTRP08/09/16 03:17 PM
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Haven't had a chance to go through all the replies yet, but I'll just relate my story (parallel to yours) A while my my wife essentially said, "It's ok if you grab me hard & push on my neck." Now I'm not a rough guy, and at the time is was quite "beta," but I figured she wanted it so I started playing aroud with it. She fuckin LOVED it. A few years later, she brings up back door action. I assumed it was totally off limits, and simply had never brought it up. Turns out she comes HARD that way, an…
/r/askTRP08/09/16 03:12 PM
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Thanks for the reply from experience. I shoot you off a PM. ;) EDIT - Unless, of course you'd like to share with everyone ;)
/r/askTRP07/09/16 09:00 PM
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I hear you. Funny enough, I consider myself an idea guy - good with bigger concepts, but can sometimes get bogged down in details. My goal in reading the sidebar is just as you said, to go deep, and see how it applies to me & my situation. Essentially, truly understanding what's been written. I was just wondering if there was any legitimacy, or if anyone had experience in increasing their speed. There's just so much out there.
/r/askTRP07/09/16 08:59 PM
1

But, there's so much good music out there I've yet to discover. For real. It seems like I'll be on an audiobook/podcast kick for a month or so, then I hear some new music, and people ask, "You haven't heard this yet?!" Ugh. First world problems I guess.
/r/askTRP07/09/16 08:56 PM
1

I'll check out Librivox. And it's not about cutting corners, some books I need/want to read deep (for lack of a better term), others I may want to blaze through to review or such search for new concepts.
/r/askTRP07/09/16 08:54 PM
1

Hahaha! ...I get that, I want to read fast AND relatively deep. Just seeing if anyone else has done so
/r/askTRP06/09/16 10:06 PM
1

You guys are getting me fuckin' pumped....seriously
/r/askTRP05/09/16 12:01 AM
1

I'm in services...fitness to be more precise. Thinking, yes, may be time to raise prices, and I can play the "past clients get x discount if they sign up before {date}". Tricky, but may work.
/r/askTRP04/09/16 10:14 PM
1

Edit/follow-up - I have an issue with undercutting prices, I feel like it sells myself short. Thoughts on undercutting him on purpose, just for fuck-you sake?
/r/askTRP04/09/16 08:06 PM
1

Fuck...that's some righteous shit right there.
/r/askTRP04/09/16 08:04 PM
2

You come to fix your sex life, you end up fixing your masculinity. This...this is exactly what happened/what IS happening for me. Well put.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/16 08:03 PM
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;)
/r/becomeaman04/09/16 07:39 PM
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It isn't with the goal of taking down the feminine imperative as much as it is helping other dudes experience how good your life and marriage can be. This is key, once you get it. It's about building a better life, not an adversary in your wife. The adversary is yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/16 11:15 PM
1

I get it dude...trust me...hang in there & stay focused. You got this.
/r/askTRP29/08/16 05:01 AM
4

... I put a ton of work in the gym and I deserve to be considered. Echo /u/TheRedStoic here. This is a "covert contract" as mentioned in NNMNG. You're doing one thing to get another. It's the same argument we'll see someone post on /r/deadbedrooms about doing everything "right" for their wife, but not getting any sex. It sounds like you're lifting so that all the ladies will get out their little notepads & turn to the page for criteria on "Getting in my Pants" then go down the list and saying "O…
/r/askTRP28/08/16 02:39 PM
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Upvote. Especially for acknowledging the fact that your wife isn't (necessarily) your fucking adversary. A ship runs a lot smoother with a first mate, even if that first mate has to test the captain's chops every so often.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/16 08:47 PM
2

Yes...yes it is. Forever I assumed that doing what I thought other people wanted would make them & me happier. Turns out focusing on your own shit is what makes other people want to be around you, & naturally attracts others, including women, to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/16 02:20 PM
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Truth here. Just noticed this today. Been focused on myself & being more consistently on my A-Game personally & professionally. Haven't even really been thinking about sex or wife except to be cordial. I start noticing that there's a lot more "Love yous" from her as well as lady initiated kino. While it's nice and all, I could give a shit, cuz I have shit to do. Women want a fucking leader, once you own your shit and get your life in order, your world (& by extension her legs) naturally open up.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/16 02:33 AM
1

noted
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/16 03:07 PM
1

Am currently in the middle of When I Say No I Feel Guilty...already have Rational Male on my book shelf, i'll start it next. I see her kind of like that person on the team who's constantly pointing out faults...she's not exactly support or helpful in the traditional sense... she's kinda like the one looking for cracks in the dam, or depending on the day, actively trying to make holes. Then again, I had great sex again this morning, after an "alpha" day yesterday, so my guard may be down a little…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/16 08:16 PM
1

Honestly, we just use the stuff from Costco, since we use it for cooking & other stuff besides lube. We keep a little stash in a glass jar in another cupboard so we don't cross pollinate. But you can go super organic if you want, since it's kinda internal/external use. And you're not using much, so just get a little to start, a full jar will last a long time, even if you're horndogs. ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/16 05:41 PM
1

get ready for your life to change ;) just be sure that if you're using condoms, you're not doing latex, the oil messes with them. It's good for the non-latex ones (which we use anyway)...
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/16 04:02 PM
1

That's....um a LOT of plates
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/16 03:45 PM
1

made HUGE improvements through the wiki and Sidebar. Crazy how much each helps, but in a different way. Just cause I've read the shit, doesn't mean I have it fucking mastered yet. Close? Sure. Better than a year ago? Fuck yes. But it's never done.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/16 03:44 PM
1

we use coconut oil...that shit is magic
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/16 03:15 PM
1

It's this dude...I'm going to update above....
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/16 03:14 PM
1

apologies for not just saying fuck...I honestly never use the work "nookie' with her, it's usually sex or fuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/16 03:13 PM
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Dude...this is solid shit...for some reason, really, really made sense to look at it this way. Echo /u/prometheus_winced ... Coffee's for Closers
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/16 02:43 PM
2

For real? I would suspect you're in the minority...for most guys, young & old, the less attention your dick gets, the more he stands at attention.
/r/askTRP06/06/16 03:41 AM
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Find her clit, then trace each letter of the alphabet over it, when you find a letter that gets a reaction, try it a couple times, then move on...you'll find what letters work best, as she gets closer to climax, hit the letters you know with more consistency, when she says don't stop...don't.
/r/askTRP05/06/16 08:22 PM
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If you think having complete control of a girl, & having her squirm & shudder through the magic of your tongue is submissive, well, you've got some technique work to do at the very least. & stop jerkin it
/r/askTRP05/06/16 07:26 PM
1

Nice ;) I also like the response to "...about is sex" With over-the-top sarcastic drama..."Holy moly, the kids are out of the house for a night, and you go right the sex?!? I'm not a machine, you know! It's always about the sex with you. I thought we'd scrub down the bathrooms, or clean out the garage." That shit makes mine role her eyes & chuckle ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/16 09:03 PM
1

You're welcome :)
/r/askTRP22/05/16 08:19 AM
1

It's a little tricky, but basically, if you want abs...you don't want sugar
/r/askTRP21/05/16 10:59 PM
3

Nice! What's the membership fee? A flask of blood & your first born?
/r/askTRP21/05/16 03:55 PM
1

For actual nutritional data, I find myself returning to Self's page ... "http://nutritiondata.self.com" To geek out, "http://www.bodyrecomposition.com" And for current exercise/fitness/athletic & supplement/nutritional research, Alan Aragon's monthly-ish newsletter (paid subscription) will provide plenty of current geek-out-able material. "http://alanaragon.com/" Careful though, there's a shit-ton you can dial in without having to go crazy deep...lift heavy, don't be stupid with what you're eati…
/r/askTRP21/05/16 03:37 PM
2

a gotcha man, now that I think about it, I've been told "I hate you," and minutes later been told, "I love you." You're right, a woman's truth is in the moment, and that shit can change on a dime.
/r/askMRP20/05/16 06:04 AM
2

ah...having options, but trust...this seems like a delicate balance...and why the work is never done.
/r/askMRP20/05/16 06:02 AM
1

ah...so it's almost more about other, higher value women flirting with ME (or at least the impression that they're interested), that is the bringer of dread. My flirting has a little less to do with it, it about the ladies' ranking each other. Of course, I assume it doesn't hurt that us as guys are open to the flirting, and don't shut it down, that is, without being as ass hat. Thanks for the clarification, it totally helps.
/r/askMRP20/05/16 06:01 AM
1

well...I guess that settles that..
/r/askMRP20/05/16 05:58 AM
1

Luckily, I'm a little flirty, so I think my religious upbringing has been whittled away. I just wonder where the "trust" vs "dread" lines cross, you kinda don't want her to trust you, one the one hand, yet you want her looking to earn your trust on the other. For some reason it reminds me of the story I once read about proving that your wife has a hamster, even if you think she doesn't. Leave the house for work, or headed someplace where both you and she know that you're headed OUT. Then send a …
/r/askMRP19/05/16 09:19 PM
1

good for my side, then, and yes...forgot about the feelz.
/r/askMRP19/05/16 09:13 PM
3

this is a cold slap in the face with a fish
/r/askMRP19/05/16 09:13 PM
1

Understood... it has it's place, but there's always the door.
/r/askMRP19/05/16 09:12 PM
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This is pretty much the answer I suspected/was looking for. It's what you do, not what you say, actions, not words. Doesn't mean you should say dumb shit though. ;) Not bad for a downvote magnet
/r/askMRP19/05/16 04:04 AM
1

I was trying to ask about integrity, as in, having made a promise, but I guess as others said above, I kind of already broke that, so integrity is out the window. Then again, I get the impression that integrity for a man is something more personal to himself, and alignment with what is true for him as opposed to something that society puts upon him. There's still a little bible-thumper left in me that thinks in absolutes from time to time. Having my own truth/drive/moral compass as opposed to so…
/r/askMRP19/05/16 01:04 AM
11

"chicks dig buying purses, chicks don't dig owning purses." Good god this is so true...
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/16 12:37 AM
1

Should this be a worry as far as "becomeaman" is concerned...as in not keeping your word? Or are words just empty for women...do they naturally know to watch the actions, not words?
/r/askMRP19/05/16 12:23 AM
1

I'll take this prescription...we're headed o the desert this weekend anyway :)
/r/askMRP19/05/16 12:21 AM
1

Interesting...it's kind of already in there...not bad
/r/askMRP19/05/16 12:21 AM
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I've done 108 days before, No fap, no sex. Back when I was in my late 20's. Was also actively doing a meditation practice at the same time. If you can harness the extra energy, you can get a shit ton done. Be sure you have something to actively focus on doing instead of just NOT doing penis stuff. About 3 weeks into my stuff, and all the way through, I felt like I could lift cars. Oh, sure, ladies noticed too, you're just fuckin' cranked up. Those of you who can't make it past a week don't know …
/r/askTRP18/05/16 10:29 PM
1

A walk or hike in the park is a better date This...you can be active without going to the gym. Gym time should be your time anyway.
/r/askTRP10/05/16 09:54 PM
7

I surprised my wife one day when I suggested in a group conversation that at the end of the day she has "decision fatigue." The ladies may not readily admit to wanting us to make all the calls, but they'll agree that they're tired & worn out at the end of the day. When I used the term, she looked at me with surprise & said essentially, "Yes, that's exactly what it is!" For me, it's no big deal to look into the cupboard, see what we have, & make dinner. For her, it's an entire ordeal. If, however…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/16 09:23 PM
5

Good stuff on here, but realize something, at 17, 18, 19, and up to about 22-23 years of age, you have a hormonal profile going that bodybuilders fucking PAY for. If you get in the gym, aren't a fucking pussy, and pick up heavy shit on a regular basis (read - squat, deadlift, & bench), you can lose weight just cuz you're literally primed to do so. The routine almost doesn't matter, at that young age, just go heavy enough to make your legs/arms/whatever get shakey, then do another set. Don't be s…
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 02:53 AM
1

Interesting...granted I kinda grew up pre-internet, but I've never actually jerked it to porn, watched it? Sure. Get bonerville from it? Yeah. But never jerked it while watching, just felt weird. Not saying I've never fantasized with the big mister in my hand, just never with porn. I'm so alpha & didn't even know it. ;)
/r/askTRP01/05/16 05:04 PM
1

Dude...this is so good...it acknowledges & deflects, and doesn't let you get sucked in. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/16 07:16 PM
1

Ah...that's why it doesn't feel right. And yes the changes I'm making are, but once again, I'm assuming there's no need to mention specifics, since then it about getting her to notice. A good response would be more along the lines of, "Actually, turns out I'm making changes to our sex life starting today, you better get ready, baby!" or, "I've got a few things in mind." ..or something along those lines? That seems to show ownership but also in a way a little not giving a shit. Once again, any he…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/16 06:47 AM
1

I started tracking her cycle about a year ago after reading Athol Kay's stuff. The immediate effect was changing our date nights to coincide with the most opportune time. This alone allowed major progress to be made. It REALLY makes a difference (for us anyway), as in, the minute she starts her period, I'm suddenly not an asshole anymore and I haven't changed a thing. I mean, I almost have compassion for her, getting horny like guys do is one thing, but being a total slave to your hormones must …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/16 09:40 PM
3

Seriously, Get No More Mr. Nice Guy. It's not really about techniques (like in Sex God Method) unless she's willing to actually have sex with you. That shit woke me the fuck up. As in the world doesn't work the way you think. Get it, read it, then read it again taking notes.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/16 02:07 PM
1

I'm realizing more and more the power of letting her stew on her own. Learning how to harness the hamster grants one great power.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/16 01:49 PM
1

Ha!! Note taken... Time to get back to minimum of 2 plates when squatting.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/16 01:47 PM
1

NOOB FOLLOW-UP start taking her to social events where all the women are way hotter and fit than she is. On the ride home, when she says either, "Those girls were _____(superfit, crazy, had big glutes), I think that's too much." I should just keep quiet, yes? Alternatively, "You seemed pretty flirty with some of those ladies. Do you like that look?, because I don't, I like a dancer's body." -- My intuition says, "I like anyone's body where I can tell they work hard and take pride in how they loo…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/16 03:21 AM
1

Responded below, but felt I should here as well. Noted, time for a strength cycle. I've got some volume planned for this week anyway, I'll up the ante. I got through my 3 sets of 20 at 185lbs without puking, so I can push it this week. I'm down with supersets, it's kinda what CrossFit is anyway, and the faster I can be in & out of the gym, and still push-it, the more time for other stuff. One of my favorites is back squats supersetted with L-pull-ups on the back squat bar when it's racked. Being…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/16 03:14 AM
1

thanks again, just to clarify, you guys think I should be repping 350? Are there a lot of 40+ yr old guys that do this who are 6'/185lbs? (If that's the case, I've got some work and eating to do) I'll look back at the BPP comments, if I'm asking the same fucking question, then I obviously haven't made any fucking changes. Shit. And yes, I could do better about finding playful ways to constantly escalate. I do find that she responds to it. It's almost a habit for me now, but still have little sli…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/16 03:05 AM
2

Haha...I hear this is Alec Baldwin's voice. Noted.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/16 01:27 AM
2

Once she is not the most attractive in a group her hamster will do all the work for you. Dude..solid stuff right there. We need to get out a bit more anyway, it'll be good to find a sexier crowd to be around. We're in LA, so Hollywood should provide plenty of 10's to be around. ;) As far as the lifting, I can deadlift 2x+ bodyweight, but squatting is another story, between long legs, a hip tweak in highschool and now that I'm in my 40's, that double-bw back squat amy not happen. (The hip tweak m…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/16 01:23 AM
1

I should've been more forthright, I actually own a CrossFit gym. She has total access. I'm even cool if she doesn't do CrossFit...do pilates, yoga, ANYTHING to get sweaty and stronger. If I can crack the code, I will share, for sure. EDIT - Re: Dishes - amplifying/funny business (as others have mentioned) seems to fall in with my nature a little better, thanks for your note.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/16 12:35 AM
1

I'm realizing this more and more. If it comes up again, I assume it should just be, "I'm not," and stop talking, go do something? Seriously, it helps me to think things out a bit beforehand, it's when I'm going off the cuff that I seem to come out of situations with that twinge of, "that wasn't honest." This seems very weird/ackward to try to agree/amplify, or joke away. A sarcastic, "Yeah, TOTally satisfied," seems just like stirring the pot for no reason. Any assistance/exmaple would be awesom…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/16 12:30 AM
1

I think I can pull of a little T-800 from time to time...
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/16 12:26 AM
1

I'm generally a happy guy too, enough so that when we got some marriage coaching a while back, there was an issue that "everything is funny/a joke." I get that sometimes shit just ain't funny, but way more often than not, it is, indeed funny. I'm pretty good at keeping it light, since it's in my nature, but I can get derailed sometimes. Now that I think about it, I think it has a lot to do with her cycle. Shit. That means I'm still affected by her and need to do more work to be ok with me. Nice …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/16 12:25 AM
1

I'm all for stealing ;) Edit - as long as it's from the best
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/16 08:08 PM
1

Nice stuff here, will use Terminator at strategic times now...good ammo there.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/16 08:01 PM
1

I do have to remember that keeping it fun & playful is up to me, not her. Some days are easier to keep this way, others are not...progress is being made on having better control over all the days.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/16 08:01 PM
2

Everything is a chance to escalate, if you do it right. Well said, keeping this in mind will really help.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/16 07:59 PM
2

This...thanks both of you...I've been at this for only a short time & every so often just need little reminders from the RP crew here on things that I know aren't quite right, but don't have the longevity/experience to just naturally know what to do. I know it's off, that's why I needed a little nudge/reminder.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/16 07:58 PM
1

Dude...that breathing properly actually got a lol from me... I'm gonna use that little ditty a lot for my mental translations, thanx
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/16 07:54 PM
1

You see they weigh first, come to a conclusion and then rationalize. This...this...this... good god I wish I learned this sooner... Just...the most accurate ever
/r/TheRedPill27/04/16 03:14 PM
1

THANKyou for that link...I tend to "over-intellectualize" with my wife...this post fuckin spoke to me.
/r/askTRP25/04/16 09:24 PM
1

The tricky thing for me is the follow-up question..."What ELSE is she 'into' that she's either not telling you, or won't admit to?" The part about leading with confidence and she will follow, and even enjoys following, especially with sexy stuff was a crazy truth for me. For so long, I was under the impression that it was all about the girl, to the point where I would ask after sex, "How was that?" not realizing that it was a weird validation thing. Here's to the things that we think are perry, …
/r/becomeaman14/04/16 09:54 PM
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This The saying "tell the smart ones they're pretty and the pretty ones they're smart" works stupidly well most of the time as long as you don't overdo it. Does the girl have a great rack? Complement her smile. Is her ass a magestic mound of roundness? Ask her if she compliments on her eyes, act surprised when she says she doesn't. This is magic, boys.
/r/TheRedPill14/04/16 03:23 AM
1

The book Sex at Dawn has a chapter dedicated to this & saying pretty much the above. It's a great read.
/r/askTRP08/04/16 11:02 PM
2

That's funny shit right there....and solid advice....I find agree and amplify works very very well almost all the time... ..especially on my mother in law ;)
/r/askTRP08/04/16 05:17 PM
1

Sleep cycles work incredibly well for me, the site sleepyti.me was great for this to start, there are phone apps that do similar stuff, waking you when you're at the end of a cycle. I'm actually way better off with 6 hours of sleep than 7 or 8. Also, some really solid stuff out there (no links handy) about the hours before midnite being "better" than after, even if sleep duration is the same. If I'm in bed by 9-9:30, I can wake up at around 4 & feel energized all day, with no need for a nap...th…
/r/askTRP30/03/16 06:04 PM
6

Wrap...your...shit. Seriously. A man is responsible for the location of his sperm at all times.
/r/askTRP28/03/16 09:45 PM
1

That vid of the Australian kid is crazy...on the one hand, you could say he's totally being a punk kid, on the other, he doesn't give an inch. Great stuff. Side question, I'm seeing that generally, apologies are a no go if trying to maintain frame. I've got a bit of a habit of apologizing, though it's getting better. Any examples when, "I'm sorry," is both called for & Alpha?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/16 12:36 PM
3

"A lot of other women get so emotional and I can't even. I think the calm, direct communication style we share is a big part of why we've been together so long." Dude...this is a great reminder. You are in charge of setting up the relationship, and not just when things are in crisis mode. I've noticed that when I'm consciously (& constantly) priming the relationship, things tend to run a shit-ton better.
/r/askTRP25/03/16 08:13 PM
2

This was the best thing about taking all 3 kids with me for a Dad-cation one summer. It was awesome. I got to have dad time with the kids, call all the shots, & pretty much proved to the wife that while she's fun to have around, I can totally do this solo too. Sex has been better ever since too ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/16 06:08 PM
1

1 - I just realized having a translator in my ear like this would make my life a shit-ton easier 2 - One of my biggest challenges is the "I told you so" thing. Even though I think I'm being playful, I see more and more that I'm seeking her validation, just like you said. I (& she, funny enough) want it so I DON'T need her validation/good job/pat on the head. It's never over. But what fun would that be, right?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/16 02:31 PM
3

I'm so fuckin glad that MRP exists...you guys are fuckin gold.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/16 02:08 AM
1

There's a lot of really great stuff here, but I'm going to throw in this one thing.. Get her off the IUD & birth control & wear condoms instead. My wife was a lunatic for a week of each month on the pill. Once I called that quits & covered my dick instead. Things got markedly better on their own. A woman's chemistry is already fuckin jacked, so don't fuck with it. Yeah, for some people it sucks to wear a condom, but if there is more & better sex with it, and you can actually stand to live with h…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/16 01:14 AM
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Up....vote
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/16 07:05 PM
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I'm about to drop knowledge from the old guard...observe. Women's truth happens in the moment, while men's truth tends to be more consistent/long lasting. In the middle of an argument, I woman will say "I hate you." She will completely mean it, and it will be true for her in that moment. That doesn't mean that an hour later she isn't going to be yelling your name as you pull her hair & give her the high hard one. For a woman, her feelings are her truth, even though they change moment to moment, …
/r/askTRP17/03/16 06:28 PM
2

It's actually gold to be able to see it so clearly :)
/r/askTRP17/03/16 05:04 PM
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She...is drama...wow. It is kinda fun to actually see her hamster wheel craning out of control.
/r/askTRP17/03/16 02:18 PM
1

I need your friends #, sounds like a good mentor ;)
/r/TheRedPill15/03/16 10:01 PM
1

This....with kids showing up, it's easy to hand over control of one thing, then another, and before you know it, you're not seen as the leader anymore. Some of this is necessary (she's got the boobs for breastfeeding, after all), but after some time, in order to stay happily married, you've kind of gotta treat your wife like a girlfriend again, and not the mom with all the power. :)
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/16 08:11 PM
1

Dude...."sex is not a favor." That was the turning point for me...I now don't want favor or "reward" sex either. Before I was happy to get anything I could, now I know that I'd rather have none, then that shitty feeling afterwards, that now I "owe" her. Abundance attitude helps, even for the MRP crowd.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/16 06:51 PM
1

Seriously, if I could get her to do the exercise part....what's the magic formula for this? Teach me...you wet paper bag you.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/16 06:48 PM
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I gotta say, I've done this same sort of thing in with my wife before we got hitched (I did it with a practice that was actually 180 days, yeah, I'm THAT guy), and ME making the call that we're not having sex for a period of time seemed to immediately shift the focus/power and make the lady hornier or a little bit her thinking/acting like, "oh yeah?" they are so used to having the call on how & when the sex happens, that when you turn it on it's head, especially for spiritual reasons, it throws …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/16 05:18 AM
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Sounds like the same book, same page, just different bullet point ;)
/r/TheRedPill10/03/16 05:54 AM
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No matter how good she looks in or out of a bikini, somebody, somewhere is putting up with her bullshit. Not sure where I heard it, but it sure rings true ;)
/r/TheRedPill09/03/16 10:23 PM
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You know what helps me? I take a pause before I respond. If I just start talking, then I tend to react & not make the point that I want to make, or lose frame. If I just take a moment & dont fuckin talk, then I start to see all the bullshit & shit tests happening. That pause helps you to establish you own frame & not get drawn into the hamster wheel. Seriously, next time, just pause, and let there be silence for a second or two, it totally helps ;)
/r/askTRP09/03/16 04:33 AM
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I may be a bit more cautious than other guys here, but if she turns, kinda backs into you a little, and looks/glances over her shoulder at you while she does it, that's a solid invitation. If she turns her back and does NOT glance/look back at you, she's boxing you out...prolly move on. Edit - wording
/r/askTRP06/03/16 02:18 AM
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This guy is solid... Matt Stefanina - Dancing at the Club 1 Dancing at the Club 2 This one from Tweet Boogie is solid as well, even though it's about approaching the ladies. Specifically, what she says at about the 2:30 mark. If she knows she's going to look good dancing with you, she'l stick with you. At the very least she doesn't want to look worse ;) The trick that I've found with ladies on the dance floor, is that you gotta kinda feel them out and see how they dance, then find a way to compl…
/r/askTRP06/03/16 02:16 AM
1

who doesn't love fuckin' ice cream? well not literally fucking ice cream...
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/16 10:48 PM
1

every little bit helps :)
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/16 10:47 PM
1

We've had a great couple of years of vacations like this, the first one was me wanting to take the kids for 3 weeks in the summer to my parents place on a lake, she didn't want to go. I was all, "that's fine, we're still going." It was the best triple 2 reasons, 1 - I didn't have her looking over my shoulder every second, and got to spend lots of Dad time with the kids & 2- she got 3 weeks by herself... She actually got to switch of mom mode & get her own shit straightened out, no kids, no distr…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/16 06:59 PM
1

I heard there were burritos?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/16 06:53 PM
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Been married for 10 years, but just getting a hold of this RP stuff, here's my $02. No attention is fine, for "punishment," if you will. (I feel weird calling it that, but it's pretty accurate). But if you're constantly punishing her, then like anyone, she's going to give up. I did the same thing for a while with my wife, then I saw a lot of the comments here and read Athol Kay's stuff, and I realized that I wasn't doing much to "prime her pump" throughout the day. I started incorporating in my …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/16 03:06 PM
1

solid stuff here /u/bogeyd6, and those posts by /u/strategos_autokrator have some really really solid stuff as well. The one about leading a wife that doesn't let you hit home for me. I have this weird pint system in my head, where sometimes, I'll actually postpone a job around the house I want to do, and wait until she's around, just so she'll actually see what the fuck I'm doing. Not for recognition per se, but if she actively sees me doing shit, that hamster wheel sure the fuck slows down. It…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/16 02:51 PM
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For me, it doesn't make her wet, per se, but it gets her relaxed. Relaxed is much easier to work toward tingles at the end of the day than the usual stressed-out-with-the-kids-all-day-mama. So yeah, the stuff of lasting relationships. :)
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 08:39 PM
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This is solid right here. Taking care of the kids can be a totally alpha thing to do, as in, I want to take my kids out to the movies, so I do it. But in her mind, can be seen as "good beta," as in, he was so great that he gave me two hours to myself whout the kids around. Dumb example, but I love going to the movies, and love bringing the kids now that they're old enough. I get to go out and have fun, I get to make the call about where and when, and she brags to all her friends that I'm such a …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 07:51 PM
1

Seriously. I remember being in the middle of a couples therapy session with the wife, when she admitted to being crazy, and was just so matter of fact about it. I was fucking stunned. Like, deer in the headlights, WTF? stunned. Now that I've learned that me controlling myself gives her fuel to control herself, it makes more sense, as well as makes it easier to not give into shit tests. I still fuck 'em up every so often, but it's night and day from a few years ago.
/r/askTRP23/02/16 06:58 PM
1

I like bite sized lessons, even if it was a pun...headed to Amazon. ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 06:51 PM
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This...totally this...I've had conversations with women & even my wife, who have openly admitted that they're crazy & WANT us to call them on their shit & are very puzzled when we don't. As in, "can't you see I'm being crazy? Stop me before I crash this relationship!" They also acknowledged that even if they KNOW they're crazy in the moment, they're pretty much powerless to stop it. Hence the need for a man to help them keep their shit straight.
/r/askTRP23/02/16 07:04 AM
1

Did you do the burpees yet?
/r/becomeaman23/02/16 06:25 AM
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So much good stuff here, but here's what I've done in the past. Option 1 - answer her preemptively with a nonsensical answer. "...lets talk later." "the answer is 42." This does a couple things; it playfully lets her know that whatever it is, it isn't a big deal and your not stressed about it, and not giving it any thought. It also shows her that if she's being ridiculous, two can play, and you'll win. If it gets a laugh even better. Option 2 - give an answer that could mean something, but it wa…
/r/askTRP23/02/16 04:04 AM
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I thought it was pretty solid myself.
/r/becomeaman22/02/16 03:04 PM
1

Thanks for this! Always want to honor the creators.
/r/becomeaman22/02/16 03:00 PM
1

The are, in a general sense, "good" for your eyes, but they won't improve your eyesight
/r/askTRP22/02/16 04:38 AM
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https://vimeo.com/30332220
/r/askTRP22/02/16 02:54 AM
1

Alright. I need you to see this as a school assignment, like you're going to get a grade on it, or if you don't give a shit about school, then see it as your first "man-up" challenge. Find/make something heavy to move around. A old backpack/duffel bag full of sand/dirt. Tires. Cinder blocks. Rocks. Old gallon milk jugs filled with sand. Logs. Wagons. A wood pile. Stumps. I don't care. Get creative. Report back. Once I know what we're working with, we can plan accordingly. In the meantime, time y…
/r/askTRP22/02/16 01:34 AM
1

rocks, old tires, anything that's heavy or if not, than heavy-ish. You need to move some weight.
/r/askTRP21/02/16 10:20 PM
1

alright...how's the lifting going? is the weather tolerable where you are? Can you get outside to pick up some heavy shit?
/r/askTRP21/02/16 09:39 PM
1

Sweet...will check it
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/16 04:44 AM
1

Interesting stuff here. I've known more than one CrossFit gym that changed over and now aren't affiliated "CrossFit" gyms, though that is, basically, what they do. They try to create their own identity, I've tossed this idea around quite a bit. I'm on the edge of doing the same.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/16 09:44 PM
1

I've found the same, very few of the Groupon people stick. I'm working towards being more up front with the value that I'm offering. DOing a breakdown for them and all.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/16 09:43 PM
1

I've been in it since 2007...I know we all should make decisions based on current data, but I've got quite a bit of skin in the game, and from what I've been told from others, my coaching skills are A+ solid...just need to differentiate myself, I think.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/16 09:41 PM
1

The dumbbells maybe you'll use...is there just one of them, or do you have a pair? Do you have any $$ to spend on stuff? We can do body weight for a while, but we're gonna need some stuff sooner or later. ;)
/r/askTRP19/02/16 04:51 AM
1

You've kinda got 2 options 1 - dial the fuckin' food in 2 - run about 20 minutes, in the morning, fasted, 3 or more days a week. The first just gets it all sorted, the second will put you in enough of a deficit that if you're a little off on the diet side, it won't fuck with your results. However, the running is INSURANCE for the diet, not a permission slip to do whatever the fuck you want when you drive by a burger joint. The other way to do IF is to not eat for a 24 hours period. Say you eat a…
/r/askTRP19/02/16 04:20 AM
1

any particulars you find insightful?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/16 04:07 AM
1

This is good right here...we've been trying to find exactly that, what makes us different from the others. Funny enough from the /r/marriedpill perspective, it may be that we focus on moms. And it's a little of all the things you mentioned... deficiency in the type of business, or you're not taking in enough new clients to deal with normal churn, or your not doing a good job of cultivating loyalty to your business. Getting clients in the door has been good through discounters like Groupon, but s…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/16 04:07 AM
1

Just Googled the PHAT thing. It looks OK, and the basic odea behind it is sound for those of you/us that want to try to get big and strong at the same time (as opposed to focusing on one or the other). The only (slight) problem I have with (some) bodybuilding routines is that they are sometimes lacking in compound movements. In that PHAT program, I only see a couple sets of squats and deadlifts with a lot more focus on individual body parts. There's nothing wrong with that perse, but especially …
/r/askTRP19/02/16 04:02 AM
1

Kind of like these - whcih are kettlebells... ...or these which are more like sandbags. Edit - formatted links backwards...
/r/askTRP19/02/16 03:45 AM
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I'm happy to help in any way I can...we can do it here, or you can send me a PM. If you put in the work, I'll give you guidance, I can show/tell you what to do, but I can't do it for you...ya dig? There's a lot you can do with your body weight... What kind of weights do you have? Dumbbells? Kettlebells? A barbell? Talk to me Edit - Post this somewhere. LINK This one too LINK
/r/askTRP19/02/16 03:34 AM
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Jesus Christ, your 16? Holy shit man. Look, you're timing is good, the question is whether your teenage brain/angst can stick with it. Fuckin' focus, put your head down and do he work, you will be rewarded MOUNTAINS later for effort at this young age. Go buy a notebook where you track all your workouts and lifts. Don't NOT do this! If you start tracking and writing your stuff now, you'll have a great habit, and access to mounds of data as you get older. I'm going to assume you have access to a g…
/r/askTRP18/02/16 11:57 PM
1

Age & height? Are the goals to just drop weight? And what's your current workout plan? ...answer me these and I'll let you in on the bullet proof coffee train.
/r/askTRP18/02/16 10:47 PM
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assuming your lifting heavy shit as well (working out like you mean it, not just checking the box), shift your macros so you favor protein and fat. Be relatively low carb, depending on your weight, you want to be below 150-200 g of carbs a day. Mind you this is NOT a performance approach, you're not going to have a helluva lot of gas. For your average guy working out, you should be fine, but if your into endurance sports, or even serious body building, you'll feel gassed pretty quickly. That's o…
/r/askTRP18/02/16 09:29 PM
2

It's good stuff...I've found best case scenario is working out around 3-4, fasted, then eating for the next 6-7 hours, so basically an 18/6 kind of split. And if I workout in the morning, I still try to push the first meal to noon, putting more in the 16/8 range. I rarely eat before noon. For morning workouts, I'll do BCAAs, but that's it. I'm not a bodybuilder, but I have solid strength numbers, and am not afraid to take my shirt off at the beach. IF can be really fun to tweak depending on your…
/r/askTRP18/02/16 07:28 PM
1

Solid
/r/becomeaman18/02/16 07:22 PM
1

How old are you? If you're young (27-ish or less) there might be some volume stuff you can get away with due to high natural testosterone...if you're 30+ it's a little more tricky. Either way, for big gains, recovery/sleep is HUGE.
/r/askTRP17/02/16 10:39 PM
2

Well....you know..always wear protection.
/r/askTRP17/02/16 10:11 PM
2

With LINKS?!?! THIS guy knows how to Reddit! Thanks, dude!!
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/16 09:48 PM
1

Acknowledging that depression is a real, horrible issue for some people, I've found that there are few things that a heavy 5 x 5 back squat and/or 100 burpees won't cure. ;)
/r/becomeaman17/02/16 04:50 PM
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There isn't inherently in the CrossFit affiliate system... I thought that we were friends and "cool," so didn't draw up an agreement when he started training (I know, I know) If we learn from our mistakes, lesson fuckin' learned, you know?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 09:31 PM
1

between that and Steven Pressfield's Do the Work...one's idea, the other is action.... both solid motivators. :)
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 09:16 PM
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"tell her to shove over and hand you the coconut oil" direct quote from the wife. Seriously, if your girl has a healthy sex drive, and checks porn from time to time, don't make her feel weird about it. If you end up making her /r/marriedredpill, ten years from now, you'll be SO fuckin' glad she's sexually healthly. Celebrate that shit, dude, find out what turns her on, and find a way to make it yours.
/r/askTRP16/02/16 07:41 PM
1

I was gonna reply to you, but decided to ignore you instead...wait...shit...
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 06:18 PM
1

People with great garage gyms really are a sweet way to go, you can keep your current job, and not risk huge business expenses, have a solid group to workout with, and with donations, pick-up equipment when you need without digging too far into your own pocket. Not bad, seriously. I've moved locations 3 times, each time was almost like a restart. Then had that trainer leave and take clients with him, like starting again. I've hung in there, but there's a difference between surviving and thriving…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 06:16 PM
1

Like Seth Godin a LOT, read almost all of his stuff..there's a lot on this list that I haven't though...thanks for the new Amazon list :)
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 06:13 PM
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great to hear...I need to research and/or focus more on my core group of followers, and do MORE of what I'm doing to draw them.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 06:12 PM
1

Needed this so much...fistbump!
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 06:08 PM
1

I might actually have Demarco's Book in pdf...will check and review.. It's that 1st one that I think I'm having trouble with...it does seem dumb to offer the same thing that everyone else is offering, then race for price down to the bottom...but then I have fear of losing the business I already do have if I start to raise prices. Like I said above/below, none of this is second nature to me...it's been a decent learning curve of sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 03:48 PM
1

back when they first started, yes..perhaps I should go review.. Many of them I tried to the letter, and seemed to work in an on/off kind of way. I'll head back over there today and see what's new that I haven't seen yet. Thanks for the reminder
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 03:45 PM
1

I hear ya...just like a lot of this stuff, easy to read, sometimes challenging to implement without falling on your face a few times.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 03:42 PM
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Honestly, I run a CrossFit. Had a trainer leave and open 400 years away, had another guy open 800 yards away, it's tricky in SoCal. Just looking for advice from people that may have been in similar situations (competitors closely in their market) and how they broke through. "natural Beta" refers to the fact that very little of this Alpha stuff comes "easy" for me. Yes, better habits are in place now, but some things that may seem obvious from that Alpha perspective, often I just don't see. Wasn'…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 03:38 PM
1

Thanks for the ideas...had the business for a few years now, just can't seem to break through into "real" money, only had one year so far that was anything even close to 6 figures, and that wasn't that close. ;(
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 03:34 PM
1

Thanks...will grab both of these
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 03:28 PM
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I'm gonna say that the income thing makes me feel hella alpha. My income tracks up and down from time to time & when there's money in the back, I find it MUCH easier to have that Alpha feeling, when it's tight, then I'm generally more uptight, and little things that usually wouldn't affect my frame end up bothering me way more than they should. So I'd say that a certain amount of money makes it easier for you to maintain frame and not be bothered by shit, since that stressor isn't a huge impact …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 02:15 PM
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I wish I could upvote this, like 500 times. Don't tell her ANYTHING that you're doing...just fucking do it. BE. If you talk about it at ALL, it starts her hamsters moving in the wrong direction. How is having a discussion going to help you man up? You want her to give you permission, or support or something? Just man the fuck up. This is ALL out of brotherly love, dude...I overtalk WAY too much, and it's the times when I shut up and DO that she's all over me and the passion is there, NOT the tal…
/r/askTRP12/02/16 12:38 AM
1

even if it's not elite pussy That's some funny shit right there
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/16 06:11 AM
1

Here it is...be patient...the pay off at the end is wonderful ;)
/r/becomeaman05/02/16 04:05 AM
1

solid...this will be a good exercise for me, to be self aware enough to not put myself in those positions of failure, however minute they may seem. thanks for the input
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/16 04:01 AM
1

FINE....so much for "whining more" ;) Was thinking the same thing myself...action time!
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/16 04:00 AM
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As a guy who basically started his sex life with a single mom...I would echo this. If she's literally a booty-call, that's one thing....anything else, and really ask yourself if it's worth it.
/r/askTRP04/02/16 10:51 PM
1

well...it works with sex? ;)
/r/askTRP04/02/16 10:44 PM
1

BOOK...MARKED!!
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/16 09:56 PM
1

Well...obviously I'm right and there's something wrong with you. ;)
/r/askTRP04/02/16 09:41 PM
1

Funny enough the #5, the income stuff, just started working with a biz coach this past week, should help to push me in the right direction and learn from someone else's mistakes. I'll tag /u/TrainingTheBrain here to see if he'll weight in... She's less and less, I find that if I pitch in because I want the house fuckin clean, it for sure puts out a different vibe then the "why isn't SHE doing this" vibe. Also, I think, to her, there's always something ELSE on the list, like, if everything was in…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/16 09:40 PM
1

Ohh...stretch routine before sounds like a great idea...I've taken a few super stretch/relax yoga classes before, and I ALWAYS fall asleep at the end.
/r/askTRP04/02/16 09:29 PM
1

Shit guys...am I missing out on a whole katana thread or something? I got distracted but the glow-stick-rave-shower up there... I have a foam minecraft sword...does that get me in the club?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/16 07:57 PM
1

Bahaha!! You're welcome.
/r/askTRP04/02/16 07:54 PM
1

fuckin RAVE SHOWER?!?! it's fuckin ON!
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/16 07:54 PM
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Truth here too :) Edit - that's why it can be so tricky...snuggle with little ones that will grow up too soon, or boobs? Decide with my Dadhood, or my Manhood? ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/16 07:53 PM
1

alright response #5 - we kind of go in waves where we're a little in survival mode, then we'll have a day where we actually make some progress on the house/cleaning/maintenance, whatever. For me, it's just work that needs to get done and I hold no emotional attachment to, for her, things like the laundry is a mountain of emotion where she does it all, then it site on the bed, folded because she can't finish the final step. response #1 - I'm working on that, I'm in that weird place where I'm maki…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/16 07:52 PM
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I'm with you here, dude... There are nights when I do exactly what you say, where I'm good on the game, and am throwing things out there that shows that I've got things handled (like paying bills), but am planning time for us too (a movie). Just some nights get away from a little, and I open my eyes in bed with the kids and it's 1am. Then I think "Shit." It happens JUST enough that it's annoying to me, so I suspect it is to her as well, though she is pretty understanding about it on the surface.…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/16 07:47 PM
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1 - I have a rather physical job, being a personal trainer/gym owner, but sometimes my energy is a little low, maybe I should look at my own nutrition a little bit. And, many times, it'll be the 3rd 13-14 hour day in a row that'll get me. 2 - note taken 3 - Some nights I'm good, other nights I'd fall asleep standing up, no joke. 4 - If she could make her own schedule she wouldn't get up till 10 everyday, and would go to sleep at 2am. Though I've seen her do other patterns, she claims this works …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/16 07:42 PM
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Wow...this could lead somewhere if you're willing to stick with me for a few back and forths... She sees after-the-kids-go-to-bed-time as HER time, when she doesn't have them trying to crawl all over her, and she can finally "get something done" She also does see it as US time too, when she wants to stay up with me and watch a movie, or (getting more popular since I'm upping my game, ahem) Netflix & Chill, as we're calling it these days. The workout thing is starting to build into more of a habi…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/16 07:36 PM
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But, you asked the question and I stand by my answer. Good nuf
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/16 07:31 PM
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Humor.... Option #1: "As long as you're down with chocolate-covered-worlds-of-warcraft-rugby-sex we should be good." (of course, you must bring a bottle of chocolate sauce on your first date) Option #2: "I'm PROlevel on Wii Tennis, you better practice up, honey." Option #3: "I'll bring the Netflix if you bring the Chill." Option #4: "Your mom wasn't" (this might be too far, but it sure made my shit laugh just now)
/r/askTRP04/02/16 07:29 PM
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Days like yesterday I start work at 6am, and don't finish until after 7pm, so some days are just long. So there's nothing there to "fix" except me being stupid and saying I'm going to do something on a night when I'm likely to drift off. Fixing it here, would be not making promises if there's a doubt I can't keep them. If your wife was falling asleep like this, how long would it take before you were in here complaining about her not giving you attention? Honestly, my wife is kind of a night owl,…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/16 07:22 PM
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I sometimes turn this on it's head too, though, in that, you never know what tomorrow will bring, so snuggle those little ones while you have the chance. It's not ALL we're doing, but the wife and I have FINALLY got our date night back on the calendar and committed to, so that seems to be helping on the spending time front as well. :)
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/16 07:20 PM
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Are you a white guy in Taiwan? Because this stacks the deck, depending on how you see it, either drastically in your favor, or not. In your favor as you'll be rated a 9/10 even if you would be a 6/7/8 here in the states. Not in your favor in that pretty much every gal you meet will be seeking an LTR, like HARD. Also, Taiwan is strangely matriarchal in that there are "Lady Bosses" (I forget the chinese term), that run a lot of businesses, and the ladies there can get quite aggressive, and even mo…
/r/askTRP04/02/16 07:15 PM
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An ice cold shower, like to where you're shivering a little, and really get it on the back of your neck does 2 things for me, makes me sleep like I took a tranquilizer seems to up my old man hormones (testosterone) after a few days You dry off and are cold, then get right under the covers and kinda shiver for a minute, then, as you warm up, you just drift off, and OUT!
/r/askTRP04/02/16 07:04 PM
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Ha! Well played sir ... Thanks for the clarification ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/16 01:48 AM
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Haha!!! honest effort albeit confused Pretty much my life ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/16 06:30 PM
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I have a feeling I'm going to come back to some of the stuff you've written, maybe even shoot off a PM if need be. I'm totally naturally beta, so all this stuff REALLY takes conscious effort for me...I'm doing MUCH better for sure, and the relationship shows, but I have slips ups/challenges from time to time that it's great to get perspective on. sorry for short reply, actually have to get some work done ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/16 05:05 PM
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As a follow-up, is that I'm respondible for my own behavior, and if she's following my lead, her behavior too?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/16 04:51 PM
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Ah...ok...I think I'm with you now, that loop is a part of what I've been working on....for a long time I thought I had to make her change instead of lead by example...weird "for instance" - I wanted to have the been made, for me, so I started making it first thing. A couple weeks later, she's doing it..without having to be coerced or asked. Sometimes, I just don't have the patience for the change that I want to see. You know? I feel like it's taking too long. On a side note, since you're hardco…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/16 04:47 PM
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I have a totally dumb, beginner, noob follow-up question. Are there times when you deny sex? Generally, if she's down, so am I. It's been very, very rare that I've denied sex. Is this a tool in the arsenal? I thought I remember from Atoll's book that generally, if she's good to go for sexy time, then jump in, since that's kind of the point. Are sex & "training" tied together in that way, or are they kinda separate?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/16 04:20 PM
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Um...not sure about this one... It was a comment on how, in pretty much any relationship I've ever heard of, it's really, really hard to take advice from the other person. Generally speaking (maybe not in red pill land), husbands & wives find it really difficult to take advice from each other. Being stuck in that loop means that I'm trying to get the fuck out of it, and it's a work in progress, some days are better than other. So...umm....maybe I'm still new to this or the terminology, but not r…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/16 04:18 PM
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That's the tricky part...if her choice leads to her being not the best her that she could be... Ah well, if we could only control other people's behavior...time to man up the A game, and see what I can stir up on my own. :)
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/16 04:05 AM
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And he never once proselethized (fuck you spelling), not once. Another reason he ranks so high in my book.
/r/becomeaman02/02/16 10:25 PM
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Awesome sauce dude! This has been the trick for a LONG time for me. We're a little stuck in the "don't tell me what to do" loop that a lot of couples get into, where you can't take advice from your spouse. It took a LOONG time for her to realize that I'm a pretty damn good coach, and that I was treating her the same if not a little better than the rest of my clients (as opposed to singling her out and/or "picking on her") She's getting back into it, but it ain't an "us" thing yet. We've JUST got…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 10:17 PM
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That speech is the SHIT. He finishes, and their all just, "I think you just got your funding." That guy had a quiet power that few could deny, talk about alpha on a whole nother level...seriously....bad...ass
/r/becomeaman02/02/16 10:04 PM
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Heh...for not being very descriptive, you hit is pretty much right on. It's exactly that future part that I'm concerned with. If she was in the gym pushing it hard a few, or even a couple days a week, I probably wouldn't think much about how she looks, and perhaps I'm using how she looks as a sideways we of being a little worried about her work ethic in this arena. As of this point, I don't see her ...putting enough stress on her body to keep her bones dense, her joints and muscle flexible, and …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 06:58 PM
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It's a little weird, it seems like the more I ignore her the nicer she is, so maybe along those lines. This whole alpha thing, for me, should really be called the "A-Game." In that, it's really easy for me to fall back into beta territory and not be on point. Bringing my A Game to every moment takes more effort than I anticipate, and while the habit is growing it's still constant effort. I just want her to be happier in general. With her body, with the house, with everything in general. The A-Ga…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 06:50 PM
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The CrossFit thing was just a nod that my fitness game is on point. Also, that access to fitness is very, very available. Part of it for me is that the days that she DOES workout, she's happier, nicer, and hornier. Yet she doesn't nec make time for it (fitness/dance class, whatevs). I guess we have different priorities on it. Honestly, I kind of go back and forth on it. Some days I'm really good and grateful that I have a cute, sexy wife who doesn't have to really work that hard for it, then oth…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 06:45 PM
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but it only works if she gives a shit about what you want I think that's part of it. She likes her body a "certain way" and that's kind of it. Do I address this with mild dread? Thanks for the short list, btw :)
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 06:15 PM
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The thing is, a lot of them don't even consciously know they're doing it. They're constantly shit testing, but it's just what they do, like we turn our heads when a 10/10 walks by. It's just in our/their blood. It's fuckin crazy.
/r/TheRedPill02/02/16 09:14 AM
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No prob dude...its literally what I do for a living, if you want more pointers, or even want to send a vid, so I can help check form happy to do so... Edit - it helps to have the box juuust at the point that the form breaks down, that way you're pushing yourself, but not so much as to enforce bad habits by taking on too much. At 23, you've got time, learn to do it right, and you'll never have to stop because of injury ;)
/r/askTRP02/02/16 08:31 AM
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Law of Inertia...Newton's First Law. Though he was referring to the motion (or lack thereof) of physical bodies, it totally applies to fitness, or anything else. :)
/r/becomeaman02/02/16 08:03 AM
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echoing /u/BrunoOh Just get in there and do something. Honestly, while there are better programs, and worse ones, ANYTHING is better than not going. Just get your ass in there, then you'll have more motivation to do the research, and you'll have some context. You don't need a site to tell you to squat, bench, & curl until you start to get shaky. Just get in there, and make it a habit, you're going to constantly be tweaking things anyway :)
/r/becomeaman02/02/16 08:01 AM
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Start with touching her if she says something funny. I've found that touching the arm, right as I start laughing provides a "sharing" of the laugh without being creepy....just $.02. ;)
/r/askTRP02/02/16 07:56 AM
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I like this...basically to turn it a little on it's head... Get busy doing awesome shit, and you'll find you don't text as much. Nice.
/r/askTRP02/02/16 07:25 AM
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How old are you? If you're young (less than 30), you will be pleasantly surprised at the power of naturally surging testosterone...those weights will go up. As far as bar on your back squats being difficult, I'll echo /u/ManliestDwarf , check your form. you should back squat in this order after getting the weight out of the rack, and taking a proper stance.... 1 - hips slightly back to make you lean forward a little, and put the weight toward the heel 2 - push/drive your knees OUT as your hips d…
/r/askTRP02/02/16 07:08 AM
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Please forgive /u/rpswinger, but I am very interested in this part.. It took me about 6 months into our relationship to get her to be comfortable with the idea. She went from a very innocent girl who was just one year out of a 15 year relationship (her hubby had an affair and dumped her via text message)... to banging me on the third date... to doing whatever I wanted in bed.. dirty talk.. talk about fantasies... her at first saying she didn't like my fantasy of a threesome... me not caring one …
/r/TheRedPill02/02/16 06:32 AM
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Pressfield's companion book to The War of Art is "Do the Work." A great compact book to have in the shitter for quick reminders, I've given a copy to at least a dozen people. Great list, btw ;) PS. You could add: Starting Strength by Mark Rippetoe Becoming a Supple Leopard by Kelly Starett anything by [Dan John](www.danjohn.net) The Body Building Encyclopedia by Arnold Swartzeneggar (this one is just for old school awesomeness) Those are just off the top of my head, but a good fitness section on…
/r/becomeaman29/01/16 08:30 AM
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Yoga can be both abstract, or very literal, depending on the class & teacher. In a "good" yoga practice, it's almost like you're using the discomfort of the poses (positions? postures?) to help you focus. You're so focused on trying to get things to open & release, that you're not thinking about the rest of the horse shit that's an average day. It takes you out of your life, but into your body. There are some classes that can get a little too flowery/chakra-ee for me, but I've always left feelin…
/r/becomeaman29/01/16 07:59 AM
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what's the action though...just say good night and go to bed, or explain it to her? I'm serious here, that's where I have part of the issue.
/r/askTRP28/01/16 10:35 PM
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Your username makes me want to up my alpha immediately... Also, I've realized recently that often "putting her in her place" means doing absolutely NOTHING and going about my day as if I don't care, because that's what an alpha mother-fucker would do.
/r/askTRP28/01/16 10:28 PM
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This is both brutal and brilliant... ;)
/r/askTRP28/01/16 08:47 PM
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I admit that I'm probably guilty of overtalking instead of just being my alpha-self, and letting her figure it out. I can see that by NOT voicing stuff it adds mystery, drama (from her perspective), and shows confidence. I'm naturally totally beta, so this journey has been very conscious, constent work, it totally doesn't come natural. Her attitude seems to really be affected by her cycle as well...honestly, sometimes I feel sorry for them. ;)
/r/askTRP26/01/16 11:11 PM
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I've started doing this in small ways, playfully saying things to the effect of, "If you don't want to go on date night, that's cool, I can find someone else." I'll try the silent treatment first, and see if I need to up that dread a little more in the process.
/r/askTRP26/01/16 09:09 PM
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Silence can be the best communication ever. I do find that the more I'm silent and "distant" the nicer she is to me. Funny how that works. :) It's not even a LOT about her body, I mean she's honestly in the 8.5 -9 category, especially for the 40+ crowd. It's as much about the fact that she's a nicer frikkin' person, less stressed, and feels sexier when she works out. But she (for SOME reason) doesn't see making that time everyday (even 10 minutes) a priority. I'm kind of talking around the point…
/r/askTRP26/01/16 09:07 PM
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I'm literally the fittest 40 year old I know. Just did 100 burpees yesterday in 4:47. Also did thrusters yesterday & worked up to 195lbs for a double. I wondering how much more example I can get?!?!!!!!! Maybe I should refresh the "Dread game" .. it's mentioned more than once here.
/r/askTRP26/01/16 06:49 PM
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This is pretty good, though maybe a little tricky, since all the people that train are coached by me, and it could be read by her (the wife) as a client/coach breach of professionalism. Though I can also see that I could admire the work & body change of the ladies that I work with, "So and so is REALLY looking great these days, she's working hard and getting hotter!" .. stuff like that could work...hmmm... /u/whodat6922 - It's funny, through pics on Instagram, I like a bit of fitness junk in the…
/r/askTRP26/01/16 06:45 PM
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