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no
/r/askFDS29/03/22 10:22 AM
9

its just a preference is my favourite part!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 06:26 AM
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he is wide eyed in astonishment that she is getting a deodorant too. Like a toddler who just self-actualised or learnt something new. The absolute depravity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 05:29 AM
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I love the part about how she is the one going to be waking up everyday to a man who ultimately did the one thing she said she didn't want. This isn't talked enough in relationship advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 05:27 AM
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Second by the “dumped her for a younger woman”, women don’t bite that bait anymore. Her reply was perfect!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 06:13 AM
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He wanted to see how much you could “put up with”, he wanted to see how you would react. This is a sign to leave. He will lie about more and larger things
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 01:20 AM
23

Well said! And with that side note: no idea tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 11:44 PM
12

Bingo: the the hypothetical “what if” joke What if they didn’t know What if it was a guy What if bla bla bla Incredibly unfunny as they try get humour out of something that didn’t exist Or second bingo: I find a comment about the woman’s body under 10 seconds of scrolling the comments
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 09:34 PM
15

I love this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 09:28 PM
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Same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 09:28 PM
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No, it’s a common trope that men always assume something is male even when it’s not. If you listen closely you can pick it up everyday. For example: you might see a cat running after a mouse and a man will say “he is going so fast “ (terrible example ik). Here the article is talking about the baby and it literally says “she”, the men in the comments continue to say “he”. It follows the fact: that the default is always assumed male. I believe it was in the 12 rules of misogyny podcast episode. Ho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 09:26 PM
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Oh the classic: my parents and I go out for dinner and my sister stays home bc she is “sick”. We come back to find his car parked outside and they are watching a movie. He didn’t even make a formal introduction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 09:22 PM
7

Sounds so lovely 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 12:01 PM
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I can do relate! It’s really hard to discuss certain topics about going 50/50 or why you should always see men as threats first. It often leaves us in a frustrated silence. Also it’s difficult to see them do causal dating / fwb and posting about it. My older sister is seeing a LVM who literally first met us by sneaking into our house. Thankfully I spoke to my sister that she should not move in or go 50/50. He’s the type who doesn’t have concrete plans and says “I just will see where this goes”. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 11:56 AM
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Yuck what a creep! He sounds like he is still stuck in highschool… at 42 🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 11:49 AM
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Why did I read this as “Old” lol, thanks for the tip, I’ll share it with my gal pals that use tinder
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 07:28 AM
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I love this!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 05:32 AM
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🌚 I think you know what we would say
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 04:13 AM
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Thank you, I’ve let myself slip back into old habits and allowed some old lvm back into my life. I’m writing myself a physical list of why I should not engage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 12:23 AM
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Don’t be shy, drop his company and name, don’t be shy, i’ll leave a bad review
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 07:02 AM
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What a dream. This is what I aspire ti have
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 12:53 AM
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Exactly, I made that mistake thinking that it made me appear high value. No, I just gave the cheat codes on how to manipulate me. Not anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 02:29 PM
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I remember reading a theory that he is so self conscious about his looks and that he aged terribly, that he dates young woman so he can feel in his titanic prime. That ship sailed and sank
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 10:03 PM
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So if I don’t get her anything, holy what? He’s got so much money and might not even gift his wife a present for her birthday? The epitome of low value. I can’t believe i used to crush on this greasy guy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 10:01 PM
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Thanks for changing everything for me 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 09:59 PM
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So true! Also her accent and speech cadence is so gorgeous, she speaks with so much eloquence 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 09:55 PM
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Couldn’t be more true, one had the audacity to find my tumblr account and messege me on there months late wanting to be friends again. I blocked him so fast. Last night a mutual friend and I were talking and she was telling me how much an incel nice guy trope he has become. Boy I am glad I cut him off at the first sign of disrespect. He’s now blocked on everything. So glad I learnt earlier this year to never give my phone number out otherwise I would have had to block on that too. They always co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 08:18 AM
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This immediately reminds me of the titanic. Men never really put women and children first. They only did on the titanic because the captain threatened to shoot them if they didn’t. Men won’t hesitate to throw you under the bus to save themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 10:28 PM
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An example of a queen, that boyfriend was such a scrote and deserved it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 11:18 PM
9

Can you talk to the landlord about this?
/r/askFDS27/10/21 10:48 PM
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Introducing… the strap on 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 04:31 AM
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It looks like he doesn’t even like you, and you don’t really like him. Best to leave and get your deserved treatment somewhere else darling
/r/askFDS20/10/21 12:01 AM
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Well the questionnaire will never be truthful because anyone can see right through them and know the answers you want to hear. Like many other comments said, you laid your cards out for everyone to see. Anyone could easily lie to you. It’s much better to be unfazed and ask general questions and let them do the talking, egg them on a little bit to actually get them to boast and lay their cards for you. The questionnaire is a bit amateurish and sets you up for manipulation. Ditch it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 10:07 PM
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Ah how nice!! Go you !! I’m also saving for a trip around Europe. If you don’t mind me asking, how much did you save for this trip?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 01:14 PM
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I love the podcast, every Thursday morning I listen to it on the train to class. I feel so inspired, refreshed and focused
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 12:27 AM
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Gee if he was looking for someone with balls to explain why, maybe he should go date men. Also yikes why are short men always so angry. I avoid any men under 5’6 because they still have the short angry man complex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 03:08 AM
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Have you considered if financial stability is a value you look for. Because if he can’t pay for dates imagine what else he is scraping on. This isn’t a charity. Also he said that his last girlfriends did alt paying. You aren’t his girlfriend and this is how he treating you already. Hmmm If you want a man who pays, find a man who pays. He already made his stance. No commutation is going to break that.
/r/askFDS07/09/21 06:51 AM
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Submitted my assignments on time and taking time out each morning to read by the lake at University. I have been perfecting my matcha green lattes. Yesterday was a huge day for me, I called the police on some male employees at a pub who were catcalling women as they walked passed trying to get them to purchase from their pub. It was causing a public discomfort and for the first time I ran after these young women making sure they were okay before getting the courage to call the police. I am glad …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 09:20 PM
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This is such a bad idea. If you only have been together for two months and now not going to see each other, it’s best to break it off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 11:38 AM
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This comment right here! The words let’s get You to dinner is such a redpill move of “let’s make this about you, that you don’t care about my issues bla bla bla”. Honestly he is saying he would rather fix his car up then go out for dinner to make sure you are relaxing. Such a. Dick. Move.
/r/askFDS05/09/21 11:35 AM
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Fuck it, you deserve better than this. Pls block him
/r/askFDS05/09/21 11:33 AM
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Fantastic read and resource! Abortions will continue to happen, it’s just a matter of will it be safe or dangerous. This is why we need safe practices. The abortion ban is not just about unwanted pregnancy it is about taking away women’s choice and women’s liberation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 04:11 AM
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But he wouldn’t follow through with plans. Isn’t that enough to ghost and walk away. You said it there
/r/askFDS03/09/21 08:30 AM
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Oh no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 01:16 AM
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Oh no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 04:27 AM
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100%, I have been clean of male friends for a few months now and I can tell you ITS LIFECHANGING. male friends bring nothing, they only take take and take
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 04:25 AM
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Art exhibitions are usually paid entry so it’s a great idea. I love to use art as a vetting strategy because it tells me if they are objective and short attention spanned or they are inquisitive and appreciate art. In the past I have also done orchestra concerts and dinner and a show date. Other ideas I can think of is iceskating, painting, wine and cheese tasting. Strawberry picking is another nice idea if done right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 01:33 AM
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No
/r/askFDS25/07/21 11:49 PM
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This week I finished my gym trial and I can proudly say I am signing up to the gym! My cat has become very sick which triggered some emotional eating however this weekend I managed by writing down my feelings instead of eating them. Additionally I went to a party, it was my first one this year and included old high school friends. After joining the FDS and progressed in my journey to becoming the young lady I want to be, I noticed and acted a lot different then I used to. Note I haven’t been to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 04:20 AM
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He has the dead eyes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 09:40 AM
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Never want to have kids of my own, I can’t stand to think what I will put my body through. Never want to be the god parent of anyone else’s kids. A toxic ex friend said that she will make me the godparent or her children with her lvm behind my back. Wtf Georgia we are 20 years old. Btw not friends with her anymore I do want to be a mentor when I am old and rich and help young women across the world though. But that’s when I am really old and wise
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 09:39 AM
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I agree! I so feel this when going out and we all have a silent competition of ‘who is full the quickest’. Food is food! Remember that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 09:08 AM
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Lolol sis RUN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 10:34 AM
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thank you for sharing this article and writing a detailed summary. It’s depressing to read all these accounts. I worry for the future and even now where I am the only woman in my university class. I wonder if there is any tips to avoid this, I remember reading HR is never on your side too. In Australia sexual misconduct and harassment is taken seriously most of the time. There is still a lot of silence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 10:22 AM
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whenever a man raises his voice, snaps, blurts out something mean. I leave, I calmly pack up my things, leave the situation, block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 10:02 AM
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Ah how do you save videos to download!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 09:37 AM
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As she should!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 09:37 AM
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This comment right here 🙏🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 09:37 AM
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Why didn’t you tell her a week ago when you deleted him? also if you decide you are texting her, it doesn’t need to be that long. Keep it short and direct: ‘hey your boyfriend is cheating on you’ and send the screenshot receipt. Then leave her be. Please don’t do the whole ‘it’s not my business I should of’, the closure is for her not you. Hope this helps
/r/askFDS20/07/21 09:35 AM
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Thank you, her book was a fantastic read, I look forward for to watching this documentary
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 12:57 AM
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Or what was that one the other week ‘my hubby is really smart, he’s into trading. He doesn’t have a job and drains my bank account for his portfolio but he is so smart and nice’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 12:33 AM
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I love this, this is brilliant
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 01:14 AM
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So true!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 07:44 AM
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That’s really weird and inappropriate, he is misusing his position of power to move to his advantage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 06:24 AM
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Please ring up the company and let them know or the situation. That’s so unprofessional and disrespectful. I am shocked everyday at the low value of men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 06:23 AM
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I hope she reported it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:13 AM
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I rarely game these days, I don’t have the same gratification from it. I figured I am looking at a screen playing pretend. I would rather be in real life doing real things I can be proud of. Sometimes i play some relaxing games time to time to get my mind off things but nothing too serious. In the process of selling my switch lite
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 03:48 AM
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Call my friends, watch some movies, work on hobbies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 04:32 AM
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Went to a Zumba class on Monday. It was so much fun to dance and excersise at the same time. I really like this gym where the classes are held at. The other women hold me accountable to workout with them. I have also been drinking more tea each day to improve my water intake. Additionally, I applied to some more jobs taking an extra step to ring up a few companies beforehand. FDS has also taught me to vet companies too. So far a few companies kept the location of the employment vague on their we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 04:29 AM
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Taught by men… what in the joe rogan podcast is this ? 🤡🌚
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 03:48 AM
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Fellow lady in training, I understand where you are coming from. The steps to HV womanhood includes recognising patterns in ourselves and correcting them. It includes weighting out the options and thinking introspective questions such as: “Is this the best investment?” and “How does this benefit me?”. I am proud of you for thinking about yourself and remembering the better version of yourself that you are striving to be and maintain. I went to the gym tonight and a man with a nice physique caugh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 10:39 AM
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Thank you so much for breaking this down!! I picked up on a few of these but had no clue about the other parts! Also unicorn is threesome reference?? Goodness that’s so gross but makes sense as he later mentions he is in a ‘open relationship’. I thought they say unicorn as in finding someone rare or they consider themselves special.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 09:30 AM
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I screamed out loud 3 times reading this. First at the whole unicorn talk ⛳️, bruh are you really that special?? . Secondly at the ‘in order to apply’, yikes the whole girlfriend application really makes it .seem like a job.. where is the payment details ⛳️ lastly, at the ‘I am in an open relationship’, does she know that? Oh my goodness ⛳️ run for the hills sisters 🚨🚨🚨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 09:27 AM
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When I discovered that my male friend is lvm, I gifted myself the Christmas present I was going to give (major pick me habit I know ). I then deleted his number, and put further and further distance between us until he was ghosted. I have never felt more free and relaxed. He doesn’t lift you up or benefit you, go
/r/askFDS10/07/21 04:50 AM
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We don’t chase men, we chase castles
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 02:20 AM
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Oh my.. I am putting two and two together. This is so true!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 06:51 AM
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It’s like he wants to cater to everyone, man has no personality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 04:29 AM
23

‘Watching movies to see people you are attracted to’… what the heck, someone is very insecure and I doubt that he does that.. big big red flag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 04:27 AM
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Yes we do not praise normal behaviour
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 04:24 AM
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I Like that part about how women who are not conventionaly beautiful by societ’a harsh standards still put effort in looking after them selves. I don’t meet the beauty standards of today but I still look after myself, have a good skin care routine, put on flattering make up when I feel like it, dress in a style that suits me. Men on the other hand just loose themselves. It’s disgusting. And furthermore, due to excessive porn usage they have in their minds that they deserve a conventionaly beauty…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 04:20 AM
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Interested more in the places to meet hvm, I found it interesting when you spoke about meeting high value people at paid events, book tours and open lectures.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 10:11 AM
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This is terrifying. We need women only spaces
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 12:17 AM
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I can relate! I am trying to quit my retail job that is in a sketchy area with gross retail neighbours. What field are you aiming for? I’m trying legal administration
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:27 PM
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Leveling up my fitness, trying out a new gym for 10 days before deciding. I spend 20 dollars a week on random food and items and decided I should invest it towards myself. I am also levelling up my hobbies by practicing piano more. Lastly, levelling up my mindset by reading ‘Women Hating’ by Andrea Dworkin. This is my third radical feminist book this year. I am happy with how much I have been reading.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:24 PM
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100% I wish I could upvote this more
/r/askFDS06/07/21 01:19 PM
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It reminds me of the whole build-a-man scene. That they are not their best yet and still deserving of love (bluegh) and that you have to love them until they are at their best… they will leave you at their best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:17 PM
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The woman’s bible is a good read. It looks at specific pages in the bible and critiques and note them. It’s free online and a quick read
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 03:38 AM
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I agree, if that is the first thing they offer, that is what they think is acceptable as a date, that is what they think you deserve. Thats pretty much the end of the conversation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 12:18 AM
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Yes yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 06:42 AM
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Studying IT! this is a cool idea
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 06:34 AM
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A dating app is a great idea. Even an automation software on weeding out bad men. I’m currently studying app automation so something like this would be really cool to create
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 06:33 AM
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I mean there was already websites where men share nudes. I don’t understand why it isn’t bad to have a database of men to avoid. Even if it’s in a whisper format.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 06:31 AM
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Yes! I am so proud of you! Block and delete its as easy as that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 03:47 AM
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Oh goodness sake, being 30 is just the beginning. It’s sad to see that she feels that she needs to compensate for her lack of marriage or children. Stop keeping up with the Jones’s and jusr live for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 03:43 AM
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Congratulations! Smart lady to cover up the key print too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 08:06 AM
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I swear this is so true.. brad please stop talking about highschool, you are 24
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 08:50 PM
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Couldn’t agree more
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 12:11 PM
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Please don’t, I had male friends for years thinking we were just friends. A lot of them just want to use you or fuck you and your friends. Save yourself the trouble
/r/askFDS22/06/21 09:11 PM
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Emphasis on while
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 09:44 PM
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Hm I wouldn’t say any better than Australian men. There is still a large drinking and drug problem in New Zealand. They dress pretty nicely in the South Island only because it’s cold. But the behaviour is pretty similar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 09:43 PM
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This is so true, and the ultimate guys who want mummy bang maids (looking at you tradies who go after high school/college girls)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 09:41 PM
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Ahh it is my mission today to find one thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 09:40 PM
5

Both!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 09:39 PM
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Exactly, he needs a therapist not a girlfriend and lord forbid both 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 11:37 AM
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Currently on holidays in New Zealand, relaxing and having no man to worry about texting. It’s nice having solitude. At night time, I am spending time with my family and reflecting on self growth 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 11:36 AM
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😬he wants a mum
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 03:23 AM
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Looks like the paint is chipping off and the rot is starting show. Leave lovely. Remember the frog cooks better in cold water slowly heated to a boil
/r/askFDS21/06/21 02:31 AM
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Beautifully written. It’s quite often the men with inherited wealth or their parents are wealthy who don’t do anything with their lives. It’s fantastic that they have money, but always check : is it their money or the family money? Are they wealthy or is it just his parents? What is his aspirations, is he lazy and going to rely on mummy and daddy ? Bonus points if he has a weird issue with people going to college or university saying the money statement‘it’s just a piece of paper’ Another thing,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 05:22 AM
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Love this, another thing. Have boundaries on the phone, have certain topics you won’t discuss on the phone so you can protect yourself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 05:18 AM
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I agree, it reminds me of those alpha Instagram pages of the pizza in a high hotel room with the woman barely clothed in the background. This post is disgusting, I hope she divorced him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 08:39 AM
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That’s so true, immediately in he has a makeover and acts completely different. I found the scene in the plaza when they are both trying to kiss passionately, they are fighting for power. It looks really awkward when they both grab (like actually grab) each other’s hair and necks. He eventually gave in
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 08:37 AM
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Oh no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 08:32 AM
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Oh the baby voice that goes with the sound🤢 this lady is speaking facts!😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:27 AM
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No joke!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 01:29 AM
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I also enjoyed this film. I found the details on the camera shot choices really helped deliver the “alternative world”. In particular paying attention to this oppersite male gaze we see in cinema. Men were always sexualised in their shots, the camera either panning up their body, or the center focus on their legs, buttocks, chest. This alternative world made we realise how sexualised we are in everything. I laughed a lot but strangely.. I really liked the matriarchal way. I don’t know whether th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 01:23 AM
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Oh my word I thought I was the only one? Isn’t it so weird! What is with that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 05:11 AM
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Every talent show ever. ‘Hi my name is X and I’m a mother to a,b,c’.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 05:38 AM
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Thank you for this recommendation, watching it tonight!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 08:50 AM
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Yes I am not sure why that is. I know I get random subs in my feed from being on it once or twice. Maybe it’s the algorithm picking up. Definitely something to look into.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 09:41 AM
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Ah okay different topic. I agree with you, we should be able to do and dress how we want regardless. I might add that it’s important to be aware of the make gaze and make active choice to not partake. For example, sometimes I catch myself off guard in the library catering the the male gaze actively by trying to look like that cute study student, by asking myself am I actively catering, I can pause and stop and question who am I doing this for? Myself or men. If it’s for men, I stop. I hope that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 09:39 AM
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Isn’t dominatrix still catering to the male gaze, men are still getting the benefit from it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 09:05 AM
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Men abusing women never stopped, they just took it to the bedroom
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 06:06 AM
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Yes, I am so proud of you! Name and shame !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 06:05 AM
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Praying for you queen!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 06:01 AM
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Lmaooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 01:12 AM
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Lololol so true, once a man gets the tiniest hint that he has a 1% of Viking blood he’s off to tattoo parlour getting the vahala on his arms and growing out his beard but ohhhh noooo how dare a woman be a queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 11:15 PM
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Can’t see this in Australia, is there a second link?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:56 AM
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I agree with not having male friends. After time I realised I was being used as an emotional placeholder for a girlfriend or as an option or a therapist. After drifting away and ghosting, my female friendships flourished and my mental health got a lot better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 06:05 AM
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Posting a little update: The experience was too strange for me, and I am not in a position to take up any extra activities atm. So I won’t join. Everyone here made great points which helped me make this decision. I planned out some tech boot camps over the break that I’ll be doing instead. Even if it was something, I had a strange feeling about it.
/r/askFDS02/06/21 10:17 PM
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I asked if the was a website. He said he has a link to send me and then proceeded to ask for my social media..
/r/askFDS02/06/21 10:04 PM
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You make a really good point… I didn’t even think of that. Like why would I need to join this discord chat for it, maybe I’ll send him an email. Exactly with your other point, discord is mostly for socialising, my uni has a few group chats but I left discord for similar reasons. Students shouldn’t really be socialising with tutors in dm chats (at least while in a tutor/student position), hence why I passed on my email instead of Facebook which he insisted… you make a good point. I should have a …
/r/askFDS02/06/21 01:05 PM
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This a beautiful comment oh my goodness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 11:21 AM
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Preachhh! Especially the potential part. So many college men will be like ‘yeah I am studying pre med, law, business bla bla bla’ and young women will fall in love because these college men will be making ‘bank’ in the future. Even my friends mum worked two jobs in college to support her boyfriend now husband while he studied. And what if he does become that doctor or lawyer or business man, and what if he decides he wants to leave. It’s a waste, and you have wasted your time and money and maybe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 11:13 AM
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That’s right, my email is my real one along with linked in. Most of my social media accounts are just fun usernames. Androgynous is a good word, a lot better than what I used. Good idea on the emails, he said I can contact him via the app but that just feels unprofessional to me. I am glad I am not the only one. I guess I don’t want to be taken advantage of or put in a uncomfortable position . I’ve heard too many horror stories , I’m just here to learn and get my degree Thank you for your reply
/r/askFDS02/06/21 11:01 AM
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Missing one, proposing on your birthday ☠️💀. I saw on Facebook last year that a friend celebrated her 21st birthday party. Cue boyfriend proposing to her during the speeches… it’s all captured on camera🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 10:37 AM
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So true, I saw that one too. It’s like they can’t let women have one moment to themselves. They have to attach them selves to it. cue man screaming ‘that’s my girlfriend’ to the woman on the soccer field , similarly how we are proud of our dogs at dog shows. They can’t let us shine without attaching themselves to it. Lol remember the post about the guy upset at his wife because she didn’t want to put his last name under her doctor title
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 10:34 AM
6

100%, I went to a coffee date and then to target afterwards last year because he wanted to pick up a few things🤡🤡 where was my clown make up, thank goodness not anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 10:23 AM
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Saved this one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 02:46 AM
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Congratulations! But I think you should get a new lock and key, like the other commenter said, men can 3D print them and there are analytic tools to see from a photo of a key. Keep safe!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 02:09 PM
14

Weird, after class a guy chatted me up and within a minute he asked about my accent and where I was from, I have lived in Australia for 10 years... he’s from the states. Note: I am Dutch but it gets really thick around people I don’t know, but no one really asks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 01:28 PM
1

Hahjahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 01:24 PM
8

This is horrifying, only 18 years, the punishment must be more. My heart out to the family. Why do men do this? Why are they so sick and selfish to think that we only live to exist for them. Cases like this makes me very mad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 01:09 PM
5

Lolll
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 11:32 AM
2

His beard looks like an old shraggery dog, I can smell the coffee breath from here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 11:30 AM
1

Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 11:29 AM
4

So true. It didn’t spark to me that they phrase ‘she’s better at it’ . It’s starting to make sense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 11:28 AM
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I did it, I faded and ghosted all my male friends. I feel so much for filled and find myself relaxed, focused and less stressed for some reason. I read more, spending more time with my family, being vunerable with my friends, my days are lighter. I remembered how many hobbies I have and I am becoming more confident in class. It’s a strange experience! Of course I couldn’t have done this with out joining FDS, which I am so grateful for. I tolerated men as friends for so long but not a day more. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 01:16 AM
2

My eyes start to roll when I get called man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 10:55 AM
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I’ll rather cry in a Lamborghini than lower my standards
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 08:24 AM
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I love posts like this! We are so conditioned to be humble about our achievements and quietly go unnoticed. No we should be proud and acknowledge them with those who support us. I am proud of my music skills. Four years ago my abusive narcissistic ex told me I can’t compose “real music” because I use my brain. Lol. But recently I just traveled to Sydney to hear my composition live by an orchestra and I just designed music for 4 theatre productions and a video game. Pretty sure this is a real mus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:33 AM
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This is so true. On my current crusade to leave all my lvm friendships... I just blocked a guy who literally said “I feel punished for my honesty” after I asked him if he was drunk on the phone with me . He said yes. I said I don’t talk to drunk men on the phone and hung up. He sent me a few texts outlining that I am mean bla bla bla how dare I have boundaries.He is ghosted now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 07:24 AM
4

Kinda sus
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 02:02 AM
7

Oh I didn’t even think of this, gross!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 06:23 AM
4

Break up?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 06:23 AM
14

Congratulations!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 09:13 AM
14

I felt this, I need to stop making excuses. No more being a pain at lunch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 03:28 AM
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Other updates: I thought I would put this in a seperate post. I am realising that levelling up as a women is not linear. There will be up and downs in our growth, but it's important that we keep pursuing. One of my best choices I have made is to put my social media profiles on private, delete them off my phone and blocking them in my browser. This includes, instagram, discord, Pinterest, Facebook, and yes even reddit. The reason behind this is to encourage active engagement with the media I cons…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 03:32 AM
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I am finding distancing from male friends hard. These male friends are in my network book for business and work aswell (I have learned a good lesson on not becoming friends with men you also work with) and burning a bridge might have repercussions. Any advice on distancing yourself far enough? Thank you in advance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 03:21 AM
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You hv got to be kiddin me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 08:48 AM
3

Definitely this one. Any man or woman who uses it casually is a no in my books. Even it’s JuST CUlTurE or SlAnG. It’s disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 06:56 AM
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Probably with crusts off and in little dinosaur shapes too 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 06:52 AM
8

Mood, in the countries I have visited, and living in Australia. Australian men are so low effort and gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 06:51 AM
8

So true and also the information in FDS help us protect ourselves from men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 06:32 AM
1

Lmaoooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 11:13 PM
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Oh of course, you are right in the fact there are many more may ways that are feminine. My opinion is not fact, cottagecore just happens to be the first thing that comes to my mind, I acknowledge there are many other types too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 01:47 AM
1

You make a good point, could you explain what you mean by fem lesbians who don’t dress in a feminine way?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 01:04 AM
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My style is still switching around. I am now experimenting with different cuts and lengths on clothes. I love dark academia fashion as I enjoy a uniform when I study and work. I feel confident with long straight leg pants, turtlenecks and a long tailored coat. Of course with my silver watch that my dad gifted me for Christmas and earrings made by my friends. but on the weekends with my girlfriends it’s all hair scarfs, long loose pastel clothes and long hair. It’s all very comfortable as I spend…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 01:22 PM
22

I love this. Start dressing for the feminine gaze!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 12:56 PM
36

Oh dear, is she actually romanticising the bad parts of her relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 12:54 PM
93

If a man every laid his dirty hand near my face I would smack it away in a moment. It’s taken a year to get skin this clear, I won’t risk it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 12:53 PM
38

I saw this too, this has to be a joke
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 11:05 AM
12

Be safe ! And I agree with the comments, you need to have a conversation with your daughters
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 09:58 AM
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Thank you, I agree with you! Building up courage to completely cut off is hard, hopefully my fade into nothingness makes it easier to click that delete. I have noticed how much more peace my life has with less men in it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 09:32 PM
15

I love this mantra!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 02:41 PM
41

And get your calcium intake. Your bone density is at maximum at 19-24 and will impact your bones in old age. Osteoporosis is coming for you, broccoli over boys
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 02:40 PM
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I dated in my teens and it was the worst. Please don’t do it. There is so much trauma linked to teen relationships. My first ex was physically and emotionally abusive. And my second whilst kind, passed away recently from cancer. Both left me with a lot a trauma, stress and fears. If I could go back I would have never done it and spent more time practicing piano or with my girl friends. Save yourself the trauma and focus on your girl friends and making memories. I turned 20 last week and have mad…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 02:35 PM
22

Oh my gosh bahahahhaa
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 02:14 PM
3

Is this true? This is horrifying. Men are so sick in the head to infiltrate women’s only spaces and yet gatekeep the fuck out of anywhere else
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 04:27 AM
2

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 07:54 AM
23

Yes this is a red flag, he is becoming lazy already. It’s important that we get home safe and him not asking you to text him when you get home is a clear indication he doesn’t really care or is lazy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 04:52 AM
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That’s some clown shii 🤡 hahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 03:28 AM
11

And the fact that a lot of these low value men get their girlfriends as gifts are banana taffy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:56 AM
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I want a girlfriend with out them being my girlfriend
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:46 AM
11

Looks delicious! I hope you can do this often to remind to love yourself first 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 06:55 AM
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100% 🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 01:42 PM
240

It’s so true. We are hated for everything we do. so might as well just do it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 01:00 PM
15

Your ring and your nails are beautiful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 07:08 AM
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FACTS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 07:14 AM
8

Yes, in Japan there are women only carriages. We need this in Australia too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 04:56 AM
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I believe it comes from this notion that “everyone deserves to be loved” or “you’ll find someone one day”. Do you see the words: deserve, find. Deserving is when you earn something. However it has been mistaken to men when they were children as “you will be tolerated for who you are and you don’t have to do anything”. “You’ll find someone one day” is wrong and it should be “you will love someone one day”. Finding someone looking and desperation without working on themselves. Boys have been drill…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 12:01 AM
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I think it is. It’s better she finds out now instead of years later. Make sure you have some reciepts. It’s going to be hard but it’s for her best 💗💗 I hope you update soon
/r/askFDS02/04/21 08:41 AM
10

Lolllll
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 12:59 AM
14

This is actually so cringey and funny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 12:59 AM
13

I think if you go on the tiktok and search “don’t be polite to men..” and you should find a thread!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 12:48 AM
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I am loving these reactions. We don’t not have to be polite if we feel uncomfortable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 02:19 PM
6

Keep your voice as monotone and don’t bring up personal life. Also don’t take on extra responsibilities that is is not within your position or task description. For example, don’t offer to bring coffee or be asked to bring coffee. don’t offer to take notes to be asked to take notes during meetings. We are so drilled to be helpful or do extra tasks. Don’t, once they see this, you will be seen below them. Either say a firm “no I can’t “ or if you are bold something along the lines of “I don’t reca…
/r/askFDS31/03/21 02:08 PM
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My ex used to send me videos all the time from him...it all makes sense now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 01:45 PM
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I am so glad you asserted your boundaries. It’s really hard especially when you have started to invest into the relationship. It will only get easier from there on. For notes, what were some of the thing’s he said that sounded like he watched porn? This would be helpful for other women and myself to notice some warning signs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 08:41 AM
6

Oh my this is disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 01:12 PM
16

To cringe back at our pickme selves means that we are self aware and acceptance is the first step to overcoming it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 01:11 PM
1

Oh dear that sounds like a chore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 01:10 PM
6

I agree
/r/askFDS13/03/21 07:16 AM
6

Could someone kindly explain “maintenance sex” or link an resource ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 07:12 AM
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Several other restrictions are still being considered in the legislature, including one approved by the senate a day earlier that would require a woman having an abortion to first be shown an ultrasound. —- They know what they are doing. Trying to traumatise women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 09:20 AM
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I agree with wanting to reclaim this word but I don’t think it makes sense. The word was used to silence us. To suppress us. We never wanted to be the bitch. The woman who’s bossy, mean, has an altitude, dominating, aggressive. But why is this familiar. It’s exactly what a man is. They used this term because they are scared that we are just like them, even better. Imagine when a man is called a bitch. it means submissive, weak. No man ever wanted to be called a bitch, a woman. I understand why w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 10:05 PM
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That’s a good point about enforcing the mindset
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 03:48 PM
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Even women who call each other “bitches” or “hey bitches” gives me a bad feeling. It doesn’t feel nice from whoever. And my goodness, is a man ever called me that, I would have left the door so fast
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 02:35 PM
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Ooo saving this comment 🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 02:33 PM
13

This hits hard, I’m thinking about my past male friends and how they all fit into these descriptions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 03:25 AM
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This is so true. Everytime we try to discuss about the problems of generalised men, they shift it to “women murder too” , “women abuse too”. Sigh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 03:23 AM
12

Saving my money for a car!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 03:22 AM
25

I agree with the meaning in your comment. Yes the team is honestly very much a soul sister and an alter ego. Maybe we could say something else instead of spirit animal, it has indigenous roots and using it causally is most likely offensive to First Nation people 💗 unless of course you belong to one of the indigenous groups where this concept belongs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 03:20 AM
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I love the fds Twitter team 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 11:52 PM
22

Disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 12:01 AM
0

Oh my goodness, what’s the material ✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 07:45 AM
8

This is the part of FDS I love. You have to become a HVW. You have to glow up too. If you breath, you are not automatically a queen. Queens take time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 11:06 AM
18

That sounds like a horror movie honestly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 05:29 AM
11

That’s a good point about “it makes boyfriend more important than he is”. A boyfriend is just a boyfriend until he becomes a fiancé.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:34 AM
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what an insightful comment, you make a good point about it being neutral term fo dating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:31 AM
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👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:32 AM
8

Hmm what about my significant other? Would this imply a relationship?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:30 AM
69

This is a good comment. I haven’t thought about this, thank you for bringing this up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:18 AM
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Oh you too, trying to study and drank an latte a little too late today... I can feel the repercussions coming. On that note, same here. “Best friend”, no that’s your boyfriend. Don’t get me started on “my other half”, lady are you Frankenstein about to get sewed together? Because that’s the only other half that makes sense. He isn’t your other half, you need some therapy and some new hobbies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:15 AM
17

One word. No
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 11:43 PM
33

Same here it was so well timed 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 04:41 AM
2

This , this is it 💗👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 01:01 AM
1

I go to sleep each night not being stressed over some male
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 01:00 AM
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It’s hard, but you got to remember to respect yourself. After 1.5 decades he should at least know how to talk to you and well at least know that you won’t do those sort of things, that it’s inappropriate to ask you that. I’ve had potential male suitors know after one week what’s inappropriate to ask me and they don’t ask again. It’s disrespectful that he asked you that. Take it with a grain of salt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 07:44 AM
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I feel that, I found out today my malefriend has been cheating on his girlfriend. Different situation of course. Even after the time spent with them and seeing the good in them. You got to think, if you became friends with this person yesterday, would you accept this. time to say goodbye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 07:35 AM
21

Ah yes women giving birth = men going to war. Basically the same thing. RiGhT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 11:25 PM
54

This is actually so gross, to have a growing woman try and look like a child. Fucking disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 04:42 AM
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He sounds like a pedofiel with a porn addiction
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 03:27 AM
5

Yes!! Celebrate 🎉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 08:39 AM
2

It certainly will be at the end of this year. I plan to have 120 roses in my room. They have a faint scent when they are dried. The colours go to a beautiful mute colour with beige undertones. My favourite aesthetics are fairycore and cottage core so hanging dried herbs and flowers makes me happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 01:17 AM
19

Honestly I just saw at least 3 men walk into the groceries and leave with cards and bouquets 4pm in the afternoon. Oh my dear divorce
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:41 AM
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Meat markets is the perfect term for online dating sites/app. Will be saying that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 02:48 AM
72

If he is really a good guy, why does he make you feel not good
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 02:47 AM
2

Lillies are absolutely so beautiful! I shall make a habit of posting when I get flowers.💗 I like to do flower drying so they last even longer and hang them around my room
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 11:09 PM
11

Just watched Bridget Jones Diary, definitely abuse of power in the workplace
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 02:03 PM
2

Ah thank you, roses, lavender and tulips are my favourites!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 09:07 AM
2

Oh my goodness this sounds absolutely lovely and you 100% deserve it. Hope you are having a wonderful day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 09:07 AM
2

Same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:58 AM
2

Holy this is goals! Do you do lifting at the gym or home weights
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:57 AM
34

Same here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 04:14 AM
11

Honestly I stay away from men practitioners, doctors and therapists. I do not trust them at all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 03:58 AM
49

That’s so gross, like they are so incompetent that they need a whole another person to make them look and live a good lifestyle. My disappointment is through the roof
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 03:56 AM
18

Ah why is this so true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 03:54 AM
57

My goodness same here, and unfortunately women in these situations love languages are “making time” or something along the bare minimum. It’s quite sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 03:46 AM
8

A floral sunshine, I really like that description 💛 P.S amazing bio
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 03:36 AM
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Yeah it reads like a “Mother’s Day card” thank you for all the things you do for me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 03:23 AM
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His love language is probably “aCts oF SerVicE” too 🌚
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 03:22 AM
25

This is just sad, relationships are not equal at all. That poor poor women is being taken advantage of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 03:22 AM
36

BAHAHHAHA
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 01:29 PM
21

Me too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:16 AM
27

Lolololol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:15 AM
10

I just bought myself a promise ring and intend on getting a manicure and flowers this 14th before I work
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 09:32 AM
27

Galentines as in valentines for the gals? That’s so sweet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 09:31 AM
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Not married with kids but other young ladies my age (19) dating literal manchilds make me so sad. They drive them around, pay for their things and lunchs. We are still students why are you acting like their mums. You aren’t being a wifey, you are still a student studying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 09:30 AM
52

Sounds like manchild if you ask me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 01:47 AM
52

Like don’t actually fuck them, just insult them with your own happiness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 05:03 AM
11

Oh my goodness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 05:56 AM
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Yikes when he writes “I’m a femist...but”. No you are not Also why do they think their genes is so precious. Unless you are the king or lord of a country and taking your name means I now have a different title and own land, I don’t want it. Taking a husbands name dates back to when women were considered legit property. It’s a label on who you belong to or owned by. No thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 02:35 AM
1

That’s awful, I’m sorry to hear that you went through that. Glad you have blocked them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 07:34 AM
2

Completely
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 07:33 AM
13

Have you found it hard to avoid practitioners who are men? I too am trying to avoid men (it’s a lot harder than what it seems) I am in the midst of finding a new therapist and my doctor who is a woman gave me a list and there is only one therapist who is a woman but costs three times as much as the therapists who are men. Time to do some self research
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 12:02 AM
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This is a great point of insight. Thank you for commenting this. I hope they did realise that some of their jokes can be quite hurtful. They are fun to talk too but it isn’t an excuse for their mean behaviour. I wish i could save this comment but screenshots work for now! thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 11:39 PM
10

This is a great comment. I am writing this down especially the line “you don’t have to laugh along with things that hurt you”!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 11:28 PM
5

💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 11:27 PM
10

Putting myself out and doing my hobbies is something I struggle with due to my depression. So being made of fun online, I knew will only feed my illness. So I took myself out of the situation to protect my self. It was a boundary and they crossed it. So I am allowed to do what ever I need to do (safely of course) to bring myself back to a place of safety and comfort. I did felt more sad about being perceived as “sensitive” or “extreme” or a “crybaby who can’t take a joke”. I also felt upset for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 11:26 PM
28

Thank you, FDS is a life a changer even in non dating situations. I am glad to hear you have people online who are safe and considerate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 11:10 PM
15

Thank you for bringing up “performative feminity” Its a complicated and deep rooted issue of the like between looking well for ourselves and other. I find myself personally questioning whether I want to look like this particular style because I like it or whether other people would like it. Would love to hear more on what you have to say!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 12:16 PM
28

You are kidding
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 06:58 AM
2

My goodness, that’s awful to hear. I hope he gets the message
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 05:23 AM
50

It so does
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 09:12 PM
41

It’s because men are lazy and think “woman will teach me”. I have a bunch of hobbies from sewing to playing the guitar and singing and the number times I get “I’ve always wanted to learn guitar, you should teach me something”. During the start of the pandemic, I got “you should teach me to sew a mask”. Fuck no you couch sticking slug, I’m not a wiki-how, teach yourself. Men feel entitled to women’s time and women. That’s it. Men feel entitled to women. They can’t think that we won’t bend backwar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 09:11 PM
5

Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 05:39 AM
7

Bahahahhaa
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 05:39 AM
36

Same here, similarly the hussle/grind culture is so toxic. I burn out late last year from having no breaks, always working and grinding on projects when I get home. Society hates it when women are not constantly working for other people or relaxing and enjoying time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 03:28 AM
8

What is a mgtow?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 02:40 AM
9

Men can’t do anything for me that I can do better myself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 02:38 AM
4

Hahha I love it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 02:38 AM
16

I agree, discussing the content helps reinforce it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 02:36 AM
18

Energy for 2021
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 10:50 PM
2

Oh dear
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 07:56 AM
86

I feel like this whole empowerment isn’t real. It’s the feeling of having power. They don’t really have power if it’s still catering for men and serving them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 07:56 AM
7

Fucking the oxygen supply, no thanks. This is so sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 03:56 AM
8

Thank you for writing and posting this, I saved this for some deep thinking later tonight. I liked the part about how men will most likely see us as a fantasy version “woman” rather than a person who is a woman. I don’t know if that makes sense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 03:48 AM
80

After the birth of their second child he AGreEd she ShoUlD moVe iN? oh my word I am stunned at the dumbness and low value
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 03:37 AM
7

Spend some time with your friends 💗I’ve spent. Three valentines single and I spend them either with friends getting mani pedis or having some home cooked meals together. Don’t forget it’s about any love, self love, friendship love or if you have it, romantic love
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 11:17 PM
13

This is hilarious, the grossness of guys in their 20’s is too real
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 11:10 PM
5

Same here, I don’t understand why there are phases in relationships... shouldn’t the love and passion continue like forever?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 07:36 AM
8

Yes to delaying attentions. I am turning 20 this year and going into a new field of study at university. After joining FDS late last year, I have fallen in love with the principals of this subreddit to protect myself and my future. In 2021 I plan for more pleasures, entertainment and friendships that have nothing to do with men. To create more music and sew more creations. I hope to find more women who game so that I can form new friendships and have a better experience gaming. I plan to study h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 07:28 AM
1

What a beautiful ring and a beautiful reminder
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 05:20 AM
6

If men are visual creatures (I dislike the use of creature, it unhumansises someone), maybe they should look in a mirror and start there 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 12:04 AM
26

😬 yes, “females” and “men”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:24 AM
2

Commenting again to say wow what a great idea to post these around your space! hope they inspire you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 07:13 AM
8

This was so thorough and well thought out. I’m not 21, I am turning 20 but this was really reassuring and inspiring. Thank you for writing this reply
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 10:12 AM
20

A few thoughts. What a pervert scum. Look at him. Living with her with no job, not working, gambling, with children and no marriage!! That poor woman, groomed as a child and then having children with him. She is working why he isn’t. Choosing to provide for him and the children fiancially while he manages the finance and is on the lease?! That doesn’t sit well at all Also, who goes with their husband to a strip club for his birthday... it doesn’t sit right Obviously he hid the eviction notice be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 07:36 AM
8

😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 06:48 AM
4

What does DTMFA mean?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 05:42 AM
3

Looks absolutely beautiful, well done
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 12:02 PM
127

A decade?? A decade? And she’s supporting their lifestyle, he is using her!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 12:27 AM
4

So true, I sleep well without the dust
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 12:00 PM
5

Thank you for sharing , I love hearing this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 02:02 AM
9

See you at the nunnery sister 💗🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 02:01 AM
8

Congrats!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 11:25 AM
13

I deal so sorry for the sisters who want to fix people. You can’t fix him. It’s not your job
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 10:40 PM
5

I hope she divorced him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 10:32 PM
1

BAHAHHAHA
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 02:38 AM
1

The fact that she was 19 and became a live-in-girlfriend for 14 years is concerning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 04:13 AM
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