Men... do you personally like it when a woman in real life approaches you?

CaptDeadlift · 2018-06-14T16:47:40+00:00

Ofc we love it. The chances of a woman approaching us are quite slim even with high SMV( hell that might even intimidate them more).

VasiliyZaitzev · 2018-06-14T19:06:05+00:00

Does she pass the Boner Test or no?

Verdict:

Hotties: Come to Daddy.

Uggos: Hell^NO!

ThatKidinAfrica · 2018-06-14T17:02:13+00:00

A woman is that has the confidence to approach a man is sexy as hell. It shows that she's an alpha female.

cl3537 · 2018-06-14T18:38:05+00:00

I don't care if she approaches or vice versa it doesn't change her value to me.

But usually the ones who do approach are not hot so it doesn't interest me much.

The hotter ones will just 'accidentily' be in my vicinity so I approach them.

Wrath_of_Trump · 2018-06-14T21:08:41+00:00

Chasing women is so fucking tedious, if you're a woman, you will never understand. Don't even try. If there's no opportunities for a man to approach you and you're interested, just go and talk to them. They're not going to tell you they have a girlfriend, or give you a fake number, or best of all, tell you they're going to do something and then not do it. This is what women do to men 24 hours a day 7 days a week without consequence for wasting our time.

anal_coke · 2018-06-14T16:55:57+00:00

It feels great. Many women cannot handle being rejected (ie my friend thinks you're cute) so for them to risk it, means they're really attracted to you.

The__Tren__Train · 2018-06-14T18:44:05+00:00

if you are attractive, it will be received well.

for what it's worth, what may seem like an overt approach to you, probably looks like complete disinterest to a man.

in other words, girls are like "how did he not pick up on my approach??? I stood next to him for liekk… 2 seconds!"

be bold, and go for what you want.

[deleted] · 2018-06-14T20:46:17+00:00

Unless you're somekind of landwhale with a tomboy attitude, of course we love it. You're doing like 50% of the work.

youcantdenythat · 2018-06-14T19:42:46+00:00

I don't get all the approach anxiety people have.

Just go over to someone and say hi.

If a conversation develops, cool, go from there.

If someone isn't receptive to talking to you, "have a good one" and go talk to someone else.

edit: another one I've been using lately, chicks are always looking on their phone, I ask them "anything interesting on there?" usually starts a nice convo.

RPAlternate42 · 2018-06-14T18:45:56+00:00

Personal Anecdote:

Very recently a woman approached me at a bar on a Monday night. I was in there to get out of my house... and that's it. I was watching two people play pool. This woman approaches me. She is filipino and looked to be in her mid-40's, maybe late 40's... but as a filipino, so it's hard to tell. She mentioned she had a 25 year old son. She also mentioned a roommate, which means she has a son and is unmarried... divorced or never... unknown. I didn't pry.

I took the 25 year old son and assumed she was 6 - 13 years older than me which placed her at 44 - 51 years old. I believe she was probably a hot piece 20 years ago. She introduced herself, I gave her my name:

Her: "I never do this... I just figured, go talk to someone."

Me: "hmm... okay. Sounds good."

Her:... small talk

Me:... small talk back

Her: "I'm not trying to hit on you, or anything..."

Me: "Well shit..."

Her: giggling... "are you married?"

Me: "yup."

Her: "does your wife know you're here? Where's your ring?"

Me: "yup. In a drawer"

Her: more small talk

Me: more small talk

She finally gets her pool game started after the last game finished.

I left shortly thereafter.

She was far older than me, single, with a grown kid. She was probably a 7-8 in her 20's but is now a 5-6. If I had 2 or 3 more drinks in me she'd be a 6-7.

Now, I had no intention of going anywhere with her or having sex with her... but here is what went through my brain the moment she walked over to me:

noticed her standing and walking towards me from my peripheral
made eye contact. she paused for a fraction of a moment of a second, and then kept going.
I took a half second and made note of her height, posture, breasts, hips, waist, hand size, and facial features: 5'3", A cup, good hip-to-waist ratio, walked tall. Within 1 second I decided if she was bangable. Within 1.5 seconds I had what I would have to do to negotiate whether or not I could. For me, it was 2-3 more drinks.
she walked right into my personal bubble and extended her hand and gave her name. This is probably the best way to initiate a conversation for anyone. Her hand was soft and much smaller than mine.
Her nails weren't painted but were clean, trimmed, and her hands clean. Her dress was casual and comfortable and not of someone looking to hookup. She wore minimal makeup and had shoulder length hair with no apparent graying. Her face showed a woman in her late 30's.
As she talked and smiled, her face smiled with her eyes, her teeth were clean and straight. She grew up as a teenager in the early 90's and her parents had enough money to afford braces. She had no accent but you could tell she was some kind of asian descent.
I wasn't engaging her in too many questions except about where she worked. I did ask about her name, she mentioned she was Filipino, I mentioned my dad dated a half-Filipino woman once. I was doing my best to be personable and polite without being inviting.
she asked if I was married and I could tell she was now playing the personable-but-not-inviting game.

After our interaction, I took inventory of myself: a woman in her 40's approached me and within a minute had asked if I was married. Once I said I was married her energy dropped off. This means, to me, that she was looking to get banged, that she thought she was suitable enough for a guy that was almost a generation younger than her (I'll be 38 in August). I decided that since she was older, she had little to lose, so she is more inclined to approach (since, by her age, very few are approaching her.) Since I can get women of this age who was likely a 7-8 in her youth, to approach me, and I can get a girls, who are currently 7-8 and half her age to play the eye-fuck game across the room with me, then I am probably well desired among most women who who are in the 7-8 range without using much game. Less game needed for 5s and 6s, and more needed for 8s and 9s.

After the encounter I decided I was still doing well for myself in the SMV, chalked the approach, that night, into the win column, and went about my night.

More on the subject:

Yes. It tells us that we are attractive and desirable enough for her to want to get closer. More specifically, that we are attractive and desirable enough for her to break so far out of her typical comfort zone and approach me.

But, like with women, it depends on who is approaching, but with a caveat:

When an undesirable man approaches a woman and talks to her and she doesn't like it, she doesn't "count it." When an undesirable woman approaches a man, he still counts it as a woman approaching him, but uses her "hotness" number as a gauge for how desirable her is.

Example: If a 9/10 approaches us and starts conversations, we see that as basically I am so hot this hottie HAD to come over and talk to me. If a 5/10 walks up and does the same, we know we have to do more work until the 6/10 comes up.

With women, they are more likely to assume they are on the top of the game, opr above most guys who approach her (feminine entitlement) so when a 9/10 man approaches them, they see it as I knew it... I am hot. and when a 5/10 man does the same, the say, "eww, he's gross" instead of, I think I need to improve myself a bit more. This is because *every guy from all rankings will give it a shot with her; with men, only a few women break the approach barrier.

Women who break the approach barrier are usually older, less than or equal to a 6, alone, and/or have other red flags yet to be seen... still, we accept the approach because, in most cases, we can work with it either way. If you are younger, a 7 or above, and are with other girl friends, we are ecstatic at your approach. The red flags we will see about later.

Of course there are men who think like this and women who think they should be trying harder... but I think, in both cases, they are on the extremes of the bell curve...

And, BTW, a 9/10 man != a 9/10 woman: different scale, different meanings.

es1426 · 2018-06-14T17:01:56+00:00

I like it but it depends on the guy I imagine.

cenie · 2018-06-14T19:29:30+00:00

Like others have mentioned it depends on the woman, but in general it makes my life easier. So yeah, approach away.

cptgoatsack · 2018-06-14T20:39:45+00:00

Yes if she's are attractive. Makes things a hell of a lot easier.

mcs007 · 2018-06-14T22:16:21+00:00

Honestly man, most of my lays have been initiated by the women. My friends will attest that my game isn't that great, but being tall and above average attraction gets me waaayyy further than I reasonably deserve. When a girl approaches me it usually isn't hard to tell if she's into you, and yes at least 100% of me like it.

NextForever · 2018-06-14T22:31:45+00:00

Really depends on the atmosphere and if I find them attractive.

But sure, why not?

growinglats · 2018-06-14T23:56:43+00:00

A woman recently approached me saying “you’re really handsome, let’s go back to your place”. Instant turn off. I like to pursue.

Girl was like a creepy beta, wouldn’t leave me alone and spilled her beer on me. She was cute, but she came on way too strong. Not interested.

SuperCrazy07 · 2018-06-15T01:27:45+00:00

I like it as long as its somewhat subtle. Start a conversation and touch the muscles and smile. Don't get all desperate.

[deleted] · 2018-06-15T02:52:53+00:00

no. if she's hot i'll sleep with her but if she approaches me and then sleeps with me on the first night i know what kind of dregs i'm dealing with and don't call her again

[deleted] · 2018-06-15T09:23:28+00:00

We love it but, this is not a sub for women to ask questions to men. You could do that on purplepilldebate

F10F6 · 2018-06-15T11:11:36+00:00

In general? Yeah. Hell yeah. It validates that we're attractive men. But only approach men who you believe regularly get pussy.

Don't approach unattractive guys. I know you'd never approach unattractive guys, but guys like me will reject you no matter what you do because we think we're getting a cruel prank played on us since we never get approached in real life.

Morphs_ · 2018-06-15T11:52:20+00:00

If she's nice, yeah.

But in this day and age it would probably make me extremely suspicious, like "what wrong with her that she needs to approach guys?".

mcr00sterdota · 2018-06-15T12:49:13+00:00

Only if she's attractive.

Enfplol · 2018-06-14T16:55:00+00:00

I've always seen it as a red flag.

TopTRP · 2018-06-14T18:23:05+00:00

Like or dislike aren't really great terms to describe it.

I know what it's like to go out of your comfort zone and approach, so I give props to any girl who's able to do that.

Most of the time I'll even verbalize it to her and turn it into a tease.

"Yo it took some courage to come over here and talk to me. That's your thing huh, just goin and chattin up random dudes at the (club/gym/mall/whatever) ?"

If I'm interested in banging her out, then the whole concept of a girl approaching is fine.

But it's definitely a warning signal as far as her being LTR worthy.

Girls who are the kind to approach guys are more likely to have taken a lot of dick, not be submissive, etc.

Title	Men... do you personally like it when a woman in real life approaches you?
Author	Enfplol
Upvotes	17
Comments	40
Date	June 14, 2018 4:44 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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