Anorgasmia is the inability to achieve orgasm, or loss of sexual desire/libido and/or sexual function.

I’m a 25 year old male and have never been able to achieve orgasm from any type of sex, which has slowly led me to completely avoid any sexual activity, and even caused me to avoid developing relationships for the last several years. I can ‘get it up’ but I can’t climax. I should mention I’m riddled with undiagnosed anxiety and depression, which the treatment for can have the ironic side effect of anorgasmia, so were I to treat the mental aspect, the physical problem may remain. And while this may just be a symptom of something greater, it has defined my sexuality as an adult. Every time I have sex I feel like a failure and more disconnected from humanity. Then I get waves of guilt. It’s rather unpleasant. The entire process is a spiraling problem.

I bring this up in Men's Right for a few reasons, because I don’t know if it’s actually appropriate here. Although I am sexually attracted to women, I am utterly and totally terrified of them. They hold the keys to sexual satisfaction and yet wield their sexuality as a weapon, consequence free. I feel as if I’m expected to fulfill their needs and yet when I can’t ‘finish” it isn’t as big a deal because it was simply my responsibility in the first place. Their sexual liberation has had the completely opposite effect on me, it would seem, although it seems bold to declare it that way.

It all somehow feels degrading and pathetic, like a problem I shouldn’t have, can’t work on, and one I can’t bring up with my friends because, evidently, they don’t seem to have any problems based on their lengthy and unsolicited sexual stories. They have their wives, girlfriends and flings and are baffled as to why I don’t seem interested in girls. It’s taken me days to work up the nerve to bring it up here.

The other reason is I wondered if anyone else was afflicted with this particular ailment and how they dealt with it.

As an aside, in the event of an actual discussion, I’m not circumcised, so it isn’t anything botched down there. All the plumbing should technically work fine.