Child abuse from the bench

ENTP · 2012-09-12T20:52:37+00:00

“That night, I was trying to study for my annual check ride the next morning—a vitally important yearly test. We had spent Saturday and most of Sunday celebrating Tina’s birthday. Because it was her birthday, our video camera was lying on the table, so I filmed her. I filmed a raging Borderline abusing her family. She did not know I had come into the adjacent dark room because she was so wasted.”

“My son fled to a neighbor’s house for help, telling the neighbor, “Mom is going to kill us.” My son was 11 when this happened. He ran down a pitch-dark gravel road in flip-flops over 2 miles for help.”

“When it appeared that my wife might physically harm our daughter, I stepped in and set the camera on a table. It filmed me calmly asking my daughter to go outside so she wouldn’t have to suffer anymore of her mother’s verbal tirade. I knew Tina would then shift her rage to a new target, me, and she did. When she tried to incite me into an altercation, I knew I had to leave. I retrieved the camera, grabbed a bag of clothes and walked out the door with her cursing and screaming at me all the way.”

“I thought I had turned the camera off, but luckily I had not. I knew my son had fled. I also knew my daughter was outside, but not where (I have 100 acres). I got in my truck, backed out and stopped at the barn to see if the children were there. Our daughter came running and jumped in the truck.”

“We started down the driveway and as we did, we felt a tremendous crash on the back of my SUV and heard a scream. I stopped immediately and got out. As I walked to the back of the vehicle, I saw Tina on the ground screaming and yelling like a demon. She had attempted to jump on the back of a moving SUV and fell flat on her face.”

“I asked her if she was okay and discovered very quickly that was a bad move. She came after me. I ran back to the truck, jumped in and locked the doors. She then proceeded to dismantle the side mirror from the truck and attempted to break the windows, cutting her hand in the process. There was blood everywhere.”

“She screamed for my daughter to unlock the door, but she refused to do so. I still did not know where my son was, so I was scared to leave the property and did not want to move with Tina hanging on to the truck. Because we didn’t have cell phone coverage where I had stopped, I left our daughter in the truck, stepped out and ran to a reception area to call the police. They arrived on the scene at the same time as my son and the neighbor. Tina then went after all of them.”

“As she was being arrested, she screamed that I had abused her. She told the officers to look at what I had done to her. I showed the police the video and Tina was charged with domestic assault and taken to jail. Once on bail, she filed a protective order against me for assault, detaining her and the children and that she was in fear for her life. She filed an ex parte motion that the children were in immediate danger and needed to be removed from me.”

“The Judge granted the motion and Tina came to court with pictures of her injuries and claims of abuse. I came with the video from that night, the testimony of our children to the court appointed CPS worker, the police and the neighbor witness. I was given sole custody of my children on her motion to remove them from me. No reprimand for her false allegations was given. If I had not had the presence of mind to film the events that occurred that night, I would have lost my kids, my job and everything.”

“I called HOPE, a Domestic Violence center in Harrison County, and asked for help. I was told Tina had already reported a claim and that they could not speak with me. Within a week, there was a letter from HOPE stating that my ex was a victim of a dominating, controlling husband. She had never mentioned that she was the one arrested for Domestic Assault and they never bothered to verify what she told them with the court or the CPS worker. I knew right then I was in for a long haul.”

“Guardians and child counselors were appointed. Therapeutic visitation was arranged. At the very first meeting, Tina attacked the children in front of the Guardian and the counselor while in session. My children hid and the Guardian escorted my ex out and filed an immediate NO CONTACT order. I was relieved. I thought finally, “That should be enough.” Oh, was I wrong.”

Our system is sick. Heartwrenching.I'm holding back tears right now. Why is this shit allowed to happen? Why are women given so much fucking leniency? Why are men and children forced to go through this sickening shit?

edit:

Awarded Ms. Kirk the Lt. Col.’s retirement, half of the marital assets, no responsibility for child support, $45,000 in spousal support already paid in the last three years and $12,000 more over the next three years regardless of remarriage. All marital debt, about $400,000, was given to Ms. Kirk, again with two college degrees, and who worked for all but five years of the marriage, was imputed at minimum wage for calculations that leave the Lt. Col. with over $1,000 a month in support payments to her for what will soon be 50% custody. This does not include the $800 a month in child support he was ordered to pay.

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This is AFTER he had originally been awarded full custody. The new judge reversed everything. EVEN THOUGH SHE SAW THE FUCKING VIDEO

avoiceformen · 2012-09-12T21:40:22+00:00

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AnthonyZarat · 2012-09-12T21:05:18+00:00

I can’t find any words. I am filled with sorrow for this man, and filled with indignation at the corrupt public officials who have destroyed him and his children.

chavelah · 2012-09-12T20:13:44+00:00

Awesome. I love this approach. I hope letter-writing campaigns and print editorials in the judge's hometown newspaper are to follow1

nwz123 · 2012-09-12T21:06:35+00:00

when you suck away all the join and gain of getting married (see: benefit), it's a wonder why anyone does it at all.

Hach8 · 2012-09-12T21:21:37+00:00

A bone chilling tale.

It's really, really, really surprising that a judge would reverse another judges order in the way she did. In my experience, judges see that as highly disrespectful and will only do so on significant new evidence. I believe there may even be some rule against that, seeing as the second judge was not an appellate judge. Though this may only apply to federal.

It would be great to have access to the public case documents, also...

rottingchrist · 2012-09-13T10:14:00+00:00

This is what feminist justice is like.

FadedBlaze · 2012-09-13T03:11:18+00:00

For some reason I believe I'm going to end up in the exact same spot as this guy. His story sounds very familiar to mine, his definately more extreme, but i cannot escape the false allegations no matter how many times I successfully defend myself, no matter how many CPS recommendations I receive, no matter how much proof I have. The judges always seem to side with my children's mother. I cannot describe how much I feel for this man.

malesRhuman · 2012-09-13T22:24:42+00:00

Attacking and persecuting the victim who videotaped or photographed conduct that is abusive is not unique to this judge. There are many other judges who have done the same, even in cases in which a previous judge made orders that allowed and encouraged the video recordings and photography that captured the abuser acting improperly.

Title	Child abuse from the bench
Author	avoiceformen
Upvotes	36
Comments	23
Date	September 12, 2012 7:17 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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