Been being stoic and getting shit-tested constantly

DirtyVegas69 · 2018-07-02T03:48:56+00:00

A true stoic wouldn't give a shit

oyoungpadawan · 2018-07-02T04:03:13+00:00

"Today I decided to try being as stoic as I could."

Ofcourse people you already know are going to give you shit when they see you do this...

abudun79 · 2018-07-02T04:05:11+00:00

Most people are pretty much annoying when they try to act stoic and no one wants to be around someone like that anyway. The younger you are, the more likely that has happened.

Personal note: You care a lot what others think of your appearance, so if you pretend be stoic all of a sudden, what do you expect people to do? Act as if you've always been like that?

2comment · 2018-07-02T04:30:41+00:00

While I think most misunderstand true stoicism (I see it as mostly internal frame, the most expressive people can be stoic af) as some type of robotic personality, if you want to change your outer personality, either be away from for a good while or make a measured change over time.

You can change overnight, but people will test you. Brains are pattern seeking machines, once you stop fitting the previous pattern, they are gonna bang on the hood like you're a defective car.

[deleted] · 2018-07-02T07:19:35+00:00

I feel like stoicism is more related to applying wisdom in your daily life choices that align with your values that will help you build a fulfilling life in the long term. On Google, stoicism is defined as showing no emotion despite pain however that's a very general casual definition for it imo. Read the sidebar of r/stoicism. I think you might have taken stoicism in the wrong way.

ZeroSixNiner · 2018-07-02T14:14:08+00:00

Are you being stoic according to the dictionary definition of it, or are you taking on a stoic attitude in accordance with the philosophy of classical Stoicism? There is a difference. Start with the basic concept of what is and isn't in your control. If you have no control over a situation or thing, why waste the energy concerning yourself with it? If it is something that is in your control and something you can improve on, instead of wasting time and energy on getting worked up about it, direct it towards how you can change the thing or situation to bring about your own peace of mind.

I've just recently started studying the philosophy, and one of the things I'm training myself to do is to examine every situation I'm in from a center of control perspective. It seems a bit overboard at first, because I'm applying it to even the most mundane things, e.g. "I am uncomfortable sitting in this position. Am I in control of how I am sitting? Yes. What can I do to change it and increase my comfort level?" The point of this exercise is to train my thought processes to examine things in this way when a situation arises suddenly when I don't have the time to break it down on purpose like that.

This is just a very small part of Stoicism, but I've found in most of the materials I've read, watched, and listen to about it, it's one of the fundamentals that are taught early on. It's the first thing Epictetus talks about in the Enchiridion, which you might want to look up.

GayLubeOil · 2018-07-02T15:00:04+00:00

Until you've read meditations and comprehend it don't claim to be stoic. And no you haven't

VikkBlack · 2018-07-02T20:12:32+00:00

You cant have a good stoic mindset if you one day decide you gonna be stoic. Time and experience.

Title	Been being stoic and getting shit-tested constantly
Author	resnine
Upvotes	6
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Date	July 2, 2018 3:42 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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