Tell LTR about ssri?

shady_nasty_mf · 2018-07-08T05:20:08+00:00

First thing, Wellbutrin is an NDRI not and ssri.

I find that girls with a medical background tend to be a lot more understanding when it comes to medications. Nurses, doctors, first aid workers, even medical volunteers. As long as they have that background, medications like these don't make them think twice.

Another group of girls that tend to be cool with mental medications in general are experimental drug users. I don't mean chicks who just smoke weed nor the crackhead on the sidewalk. I mean girls that experiment with psycho-active substances like mushrooms, LSD, molly, etc.

Some woman are so horrible it ruins your perspective of other ones. Tomassi says there are good ones and there are bad ones. One of the bad ones, was so bad I don’t know how far off the good ones are.

He's right. These girls can be anyone really but they tend to be the shallow girls who make a list of qualifications a man must have before they even think of fucking him. I'm talking about the bitches who announce to everyone that their man NEEDS to be 6'2", drive a fancy car, with a high paying career, degree, and an 8" dick. They also tend to treat people who they think is below them like shit, (waiters, janitors, laundry workers, etc). If you see any of these attributes you know automatically she's a pump and dump for you.

aaaGreg · 2018-07-08T04:41:49+00:00

Never, ever show weakness. Keep that shit with you to the grave. If anyone finds out, deny it and gaslight.

Your value lies in your strength. Never allow that to be compromised.

adirp · 2018-07-08T07:03:31+00:00

Keep it to yourself. I also thought I needed to share this sort of personal stuff. It's just ammo in case of a breakup.

he's abusive he even takes meds and is in therapy

Yeah, I've been there. Keep it to yourself. Get rid of this need to share - do so with your guy friends.

Whisper · 2018-07-08T05:45:07+00:00

Do I keep this secret with me forever?

Yes.

SirKolbath · 2018-07-08T04:46:23+00:00

First off, my condolences on your loss. I hope that every day you continue to improve and feel a little bit better.

As for keeping this a secret, I'm not sure that this is something you can keep secret from a long term relationship. This isn't like hiding the fact that I still have a Super Friends pillowcase or that I have seen every episode of The X-Files and would love to cover Gillian Anderson in marmalade. This is fucking serious. Probably the best thing you can do is seriously examine the girl you are with and ask yourself if she is adding to or subtracting from your mental health. If she is helping you be more stable and focused then this may be something you can share with her. If she's not, you should probably reevaluate your reasons for being with her in the first place and definitely should keep this a secret.

Again, though, you have my condolences. Best wishes to you and your family.

matrixtospartanatLV · 2018-07-08T12:27:29+00:00

My condolences. I’ve buried 3, immediate family members in the last 5 years. I really do empathize with your loss.

As a med user, you need to be vigilant about one thing. Are THEY on psych meds, and are you likely to give them a pass as a result?

I ignored that red flag, wasted 12 years of my life, lost $800,000, and buried a son because of it.

Women handle shit differently than men, which is to say, generally, not much to, not at all.

DayGameChirality · 2018-07-08T08:25:06+00:00

In my opinion I'd hold it implied. That is, don't tell her explicitly because it's not a big deal, and if confronted just tell her the truth coz it's not a big deal. But it matters a lot how you play it. If you look insecure when confronted, stumble words, hesitate, body language anxious etc. obviously it IS a big deal. If you just tell her like if it were the weather she is likely not to take it as a big deal.

I'm not a fan of lying, because eventually you're either faced with having to tell the truth or creating new lies to keep up the original one. Eventually truth gets out and you get a lot of drama and unhappiness.

If I don't want to talk about something, I will dodge the question, refuse to answer or answer in a non-serious manner. I won't lie though. Dodging question implies it's not her bussiness for whatever reason.

chachaChad · 2018-07-08T14:09:44+00:00

Depends if you want to live your life hiding who you are. Before you get married, you damn well better show her exactly who you are and insist she do the same. This is not the time for games.

BTW, don't get married.

beginner_ · 2018-07-08T07:45:33+00:00

Ultimately it's up to you. Can you live with the lie or not? And you obviously are aware of possible consequences in both cases. Telling and not telling and it coming out 5-10 years into an LTR potentially with kids (what would you do, yeah probably end it). Pros and cons in both cases.

The important part if you tell is how you tell it. Breaking down crying? Yeah, it will be over. If you tell it just be stated as a mere fact and then not really be talked about it anymore again.

JayTeeDC · 2018-07-08T08:23:35+00:00

How well does Wellbutrin work for you? Just curious. & Take it to the grave unless you're getting married or something and know she's a keeper. You'll know if she is if/when you don't have to ponder this question anymore.

hiddenpersona · 2018-07-08T08:44:31+00:00

Just put your medicine in a vitamin box and keep taking it regularly. Don’t tell anyone about your coping mechanisms, medications and shit like that.

OfficerWade · 2018-07-08T09:46:38+00:00

Depends on the context of the conversation. I wouldn’t make an address out of it but you don’t have to lie about it.

bwazap · 2018-07-08T10:38:20+00:00

Sorry for your loss. I would not recommend revealing such a weakness yet because it seems to be affecting your core. It would be like looking at a mighty tree with a rotten core - you know it is going to fall sooner or later. A woman would not feel safe. However, I do know of women who stuck by their men when they fell - but only because he did not give up and kept moving forward. Life is unpredictable and harsh, so the most important thing is to be able to get up again. Do you feel you are getting somewhere with your treatment? If not, are you looking for something else? You are able to get through this - people have lost parents, siblings, children etc, and have managed to carry on.

Morphs_ · 2018-07-08T12:59:19+00:00

For other people like me who have no idea what this thread is about: Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors are a class of drugs that are typically used as antidepressants in the treatment of major depressive disorder and anxiety disorders.

MattyAnon · 2018-07-08T13:36:45+00:00

t I feel like serious relationships with people contemplating marriage should be aware of medication and psychological issues.

DO NOT FUCKING MARRY

When is it appropriate to share that information? It usually takes me a year to tell people. I told my last girlfriend after 6 months and she left me but she was an alpha widow.

This is what women do. She wants to be supported, not to support you. Don't tell them, don't commit to them either (both will destroy you).

Some woman are so horrible it ruins your perspective of other ones

AWALT.

Do I keep this secret with me forever?

Yes, you've nothing to gain from sharing.

MrAgamemnon · 2018-07-08T10:11:26+00:00

take Wellbutrin once a day to give me energy

I'm not a big fan of lying about these kinds of things, but if you don't want to admit depression... If you get caught with it, there's a simple cover for Welburtin - you're using it to quit smoking. Because vaping is for douchebags.

Title	Tell LTR about ssri?
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Date	July 8, 2018 4:34 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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DO NOT FUCKING MARRY