LTR asking for demotion?

MrGoodStuff05 · 2016-04-15T16:10:25+00:00

Sorry, but this is not the type of girl you LTR. She just doesn't have the qualities you're looking for, and trying to force a LTR dynamic on someone who just wants a FWB will blow up in your face. I tried that once because I like LTRs too, but the girl only wanted to be FWB. After convincing her and a few months down the road, she just started complaining that I forced her into the relationship.

I say downgrade to FWB and find another girl that actually wants that LTR dynamic. Once you do find her, she will probably not want to lose you, and tell you to start a LTR. But don't do it, because she's just doing it to keep you.

SkorchZang · 2016-04-15T17:09:52+00:00

It would be unreasonable. Your best bet is to happily agree and let her go.

Paradoxically that's about the only way to actually keep a woman.

She's suggest FWB, so you can keep on doing all your LTR stuff that you described enjoying. The thing is, she's being very nice to you, but you have no choice about the thing whatsoever. This girl wants to fuck some other guy or she is already fucking him. Simple as that, in this situation you go "that's a great idea, I was thinking the same thing myself...", or you completely emasculate yourself by trying to force her to stay somehow. Fight that temptation to turn into a clinging drama queen, with everything you've got.

Let her go, have no illusions. Think of yourself as a shop that sells priceless commitment. This girl just returned her purchase, and she's being very reasonable about it too. Welp, there go the prices in your shop, they just increased again.

For more literary courage, look up "HumanSockPuppet’s Guide to Managing Your Bitches" on TRP.

neo9960 · 2016-04-15T20:58:53+00:00

Dude just keep the sex if you want but don't look at it as anything else. She is being REALLY nice about this. You get the sex and don't have any responsibility. It's a sweet deal but somehow I worry that you're going to mess this up.

MeatCurtainRod · 2016-04-15T16:09:28+00:00

6 months is a little early to be thinking of doing married life things with a gf. A lot of people get cold feet at the notion this early in the game. Most times, 6 months is all it takes for the 'crush spark' feeling to go away, so if there is no foundation in staying together, someone will leave. She most likely is a branchswinger and found someone more provider than you.

stonepimpletilists · 2016-04-15T16:41:45+00:00

Testing the waters.

Take note, take heed

nastynickdr · 2016-04-15T18:40:39+00:00

Good chance you are already her FWB and she is fucking other dudes. If not fucking other dudes, she is thinking of it. She just wants to feel like she is not a slut for doing it.

JimFury · 2016-04-15T18:50:42+00:00

This chick wants to fuck other dudes, or is already banging other dudes. Demote or hard next.

Edit: actually after re reading it, hard next. You're too deep to properly handle a demotion

Stories_of_Red · 2016-04-15T19:15:25+00:00

Oh, look, a branch swing in process. And if her maneuver fails, expect her to say she wants to resume the LTR.

Nod, smile, and end all investment in her. She is already with other guys, or is about to be. You are the beta backup.

FrameWalker · 2016-04-15T18:57:12+00:00

Please don't underestimate how much all girls get off on lying

Title	LTR asking for demotion?
Author	and_what_not
Upvotes	10
Comments	9
Date	April 15, 2016 3:56 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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