Handling Bare Minimum Responses

abdada · 2016-04-19T14:04:16+00:00

Why ask that question?

You're selling yourself, not buying her.

You're the rare product, the valuable one. She's buying your time.

leftajar · 2016-04-19T16:15:37+00:00

"Omg, no way! People do that here? I thought this was for finding bowling buddies!"

The deal is, you asked a dumb and obvious question, and she gave you a sarcastic response.

The good news is, she still engaged with you, so there IS something there. This is why I recommend mirroring her sarcasm with an added dose of humor. Your whole goal in the first 1-2 messages is just get here invested and maybe get a laugh out of her. Try it, if you like.

Nucka574 · 2016-04-19T14:39:44+00:00

"you must not be very sociable"

Thotwrecker · 2016-04-19T20:40:10+00:00

If you're getting this, you're either not Chaddy enough, or you ask beta male questions. Beta questions are those that are not offensive at all; they do not establish you as any kind of sexual prospect. "Hey! I saw you go to State U, what major are you?" is that kind of question.

If you are very Chaddy in your profile, you can say "hey what u doin tonight?" and get a decent response. But even then you're better off saying something that will pop out of her 100 messages / day.

Girls respond like this because they are girls; they don't have to put any effort in at all, and they know you still will.

So you don't want to ask open ended questions that require much thought. She's not going to say "well, I've developed a reputation as a slut in X circle so no guys will date me seriously, so I'm online to find a partner who'll cherish me and treat me right, while I still maintain access to the cool guys from X who will pipe me but not date me."

So you do what good salesmen do, you narrow the options. If you go to the Honda dealership, they may have 8 models x 4 trims = 32 potential items. They will only present maybe 2-3 to you and then have you choose between those, because they know you will not do anything if they are wasting your time with the CRZ and Fit when you're looking for something sporty, etc.

Use her profile to come up with something that really narrows down her possible responses. Let's say she has a photo of herself cooking and she lists cooking and foodie and wine as some of her interests. (So many thots think it's cool to be a foodie and have no shame about lubing ounces of artisanal cheeses down their gullets, but that's besides the point).

BETA: "You like cooking, huh? What kind of meal is your favorite to cook?"

First, he said something competely redundant (no shit she likes cooking, she said so) and asked a question that is very open ended. And her answering the question doesn't create any chemistry.

Better: "Would you cook something for me everynight if we were dating?"

It's a yes/no question that is stupid enough that she can answer something nonlogical and flirty back. But let's say she gives a shitty answer.

Her: "That wouldn't be fair."

She didn't say yes or no, she just kinda said nothing.

You: "No I guess not. I'll handle the booze, you handle the food. Let's try (wine / bar) place."

Plow. We're narrowing her responsive possibilities; she's going to have to say yes or no sooner or later.

But let's assume she's still being kinda textually retarded.

Her: "Um I don't really know you."

You: "I'm very transparent. I like straightforward girls. Are you straightforward?"

Her: "what does that mean"

Realistically she shouldn't have this many shit-tier answers, I'm just illustrating a point.

You: It means do u think I'm hot enough to grab drinks with tomorrow at 8.

Her: uh wow. OK why not.

You: Name & number?

Again, we are narrowing this down. Not "Can I get your name and number so I can call you?" - you laugh but I have legit seen my friends ask like that. Don't leave any wiggle room.

Her: X.

Each time you're getting closer and closer. Straight line to the meet; do not get far off track. She'll try to pull you off track by making you think you need to explain yourself or launch into a lifestory so she feels like she "knows" you. Don't fall for it. Think of a sine wave; she tries to ply you off your straight line in one direction, you go back to the X axis. She pulls you again, you go a little to indulge her, then pull her back to the X axis.

I want to get her used to saying Yes, then ask her to meet.

FrameWalker · 2016-04-19T15:02:34+00:00

I'd just go with a low investment plow-through approach:

"Me: What are you doing on here? Not meeting guys in X? Her: Trying to meet new people."

"Cool me too, drinks wed 7pm shittybar"

dumstick · 2016-04-19T19:58:06+00:00

"I can handle that, when do you wanna meet. I got time x and y"

PantsonFire1234 · 2016-04-19T21:47:04+00:00

Improve your questions and game. What you're playing is straight game and this can be only pulled off by someone she considers alpha or high value right off the bat.

I take it you're referring to tinder? Are you aware off the traffic a normal looking girl receives on that app? You're just her validation and you don't stand out at all.

Do some tests and the dynamic will become clear to you.

Make a fake female profile and watch the dams break and likes and matches pour through.
Make an authentic looking profile of a real high value alpha male. The perfect man type that every girl think she deserves regardless of her looks. Now talk to girls like you talk to them with your profile.

Observe the difference in answers. For fun dial the game back way towards Sperg level and see how low you can go before a girl skips you.

The online dating gap is huge. You'd be better of gaming in a bar.

a_nus · 2016-04-20T01:57:41+00:00

You're focusing on the wrong thing man. Instead of trying to figure out what to say to cold responses, work on not getting cold responses in the first place. i.e. work on your openers.

Honestly, "What are you doing on here? Not meeting guys in X?" is fucking boring. I wouldn't even reply to that if I were a girl. Entertain them.

Title	Handling Bare Minimum Responses
Author	BeyondDedication
Upvotes	17
Comments	27
Date	April 19, 2016 2:03 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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