What do you think of what I can best describe as "muscle shaming" from my Mom and Sister

NeedAThrowaway2Day · 2016-05-21T03:29:00+00:00

Sounds like they're not capable of being happy for you and your successes.

It probably isn't limited to getting fit.

ronsoness · 2016-05-21T03:30:41+00:00

People who perceive you as low smv will always try to put you back in your place when you try to raise it even family sadly.Its a way of shit testing also, they might be seeing youre improving from the outside and are testing to see if it matches your inside. Thats why sometimes its easier to get a new social circle but you cant get a new family. You could move out (dont know your age) or simply do whatever the fuck you want to do.

Is your mother and sister fat? if this is the case youre probably making them feel lazy and shitty from your improvements.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2016-05-21T05:57:40+00:00

Both of them have stated that they "aren't attracted to muscular men"

"Luckily, I'm not trying to sleep with either one of you."

"no girls like men that are too big".

"Thanks for your advice."

My mom said that lifting weights is "shallow" and "vain" and that I'm only doing it for the aesthetics.

"Yeah, so?"

or

"ok"

Don't bother arguing with them. Just say "Ok" and keep on rolling along. Using "Ok" acknowledges them, but doesn't give them an angle. If they keep going, you can always move to "You've given me your opinion, thanks."

LLL3peat · 2016-05-21T04:19:32+00:00

This almost always happens. I honestly think that they feel ashamed of their sex. They know that they're going to lose their beta boy once you see first hand how vapid women truly are. You'll have bitches begging to suck you off just for having abs. You'll stop trying so hard, you'll stop doing favors for everyone. You'll be able to say no, to leave people. To be in control.

Edit: I mean that this is subconscious. It's their instincts.

To bitches outside the family it's sexy as hell and like catnip for them (cuntnip?) But to women in the family not only is it useless but it's dangerous. You'll get all your physical, mental, emotional support anywhere you go. You have no need/dependence on them and are more likely to abandon them. High quality women will go out of their way to give you awesome woman service. The more testosterone you have the more you can focus on yourself and not get baited into dumb shit you don't want to do.

On some level this makes them face their own vapid empty nature, exposes it to the light for you to clearly see, but just as important, they also lose a slave/meat shield... or have to put in significantly more effort to keep you around and incentives to get you to do guy tasks for them.

Edit: got downvoted by either a chick, a butthurt beta or someone who doesn't realize that women in your family benefit from you being around. There's a reason women will stay married to someone they can't stand and are disgusted by. The benefits of having a male around still stand.

Spread_The_Red · 2016-05-21T03:59:00+00:00

Never expect people to be happy for you when you start doing better than them. Most people are shitty and will try to make you feel bad for improving yourself i order to make themselves feel better.

Fuck them.

Get swole, look good, do it for you and if it helps do it because they said you can't.

ponkyol · 2016-05-21T09:20:42+00:00

/r/swoleacceptance

thats_abingo · 2016-05-21T11:18:39+00:00

I would almost bet money that OPs mom and sister are overweight.

[deleted] · 2016-05-21T04:19:30+00:00

I've been in a similar situation, my step dad mentioned how the protein powder I eat would turn me into a gorilla. I replied with "yeah, but it'll also turn me into a gorilla".

Misery loves company, and people can get jealous you're doing better than them, but rather than improving themselves, they try to lessen you and your efforts.

dregofsociety · 2016-05-21T04:29:22+00:00

Tell them that you ain't trying to fuck them so their opinion is void.

exit_sandman · 2016-05-21T14:06:14+00:00

What do you think of what I can best describe as "muscle shaming" from my Mom and Sister

I think you should ignore them. Unless you're using roids and/or lifting a dozen hours a week, there's no way in hell you're getting too buff to get dates.

LLL3peat · 2016-05-21T15:04:14+00:00

My mom said that lifting weights is "shallow" and "vain" and that I'm only doing it for the aesthetics.

Ask them what they use make-up for. Also tell them you are not trying to attract them and that there is plenty of girls that like muscle.

Above all, dont care what they think, do your thing. Neither of them have any idea of what is involved in being a man.

watcher45 · 2016-05-21T07:31:27+00:00

Dont worry about their opinions, your not trying to bang them.

[deleted] · 2016-05-21T08:55:54+00:00

They are jelous of your increased looks and are trying to shame you to bring you down to their lower level. No you can't convince them otherwise. Just keep lifting brah

[deleted] · 2016-05-21T11:52:17+00:00

Since I got home from college, my Mom and Sister have made several comments about my muscle gain, none of them positive. Both of them have stated that they "aren't attracted to muscular men"

Your Mum and your Sister are telling you what they are attracted to? That's fucking weird.

Wincest that shit.

SlothOnRoids · 2016-05-21T14:52:02+00:00

Don't worry about the comments, they are likely insecure about their own physiques. Ever since I've gotten really muscular I've gained just as many haters as admirers.

Mudpielol · 2016-05-21T14:56:41+00:00

haters gonna hate. Keep at it man.

___Jamie___ · 2016-05-21T15:26:21+00:00

They are agents of Broki. Pray to Brodin for strength in 5 sets of 5.

Late30sMasculist · 2016-05-21T15:51:40+00:00

There's an idea that people who lift and are muscular fit into the "meathead jock" stereotype: dumb, aggressive, vain, arrogant.

So they probably assume that you are trying to adopt or emulate that stereotypical personality style because you are lifting.

Obviously, anyone who has joined a gym knows that the stereotype is BS, but people will see what they want to see.

FakeGuru · 2016-05-21T18:18:04+00:00

They aren't your friends.
They don't want the best for you.

TheRedStoic · 2016-05-21T22:14:13+00:00

Simply chuckle.

Don't answer, don't validate them. Remember, even family women, will crab barrel you back because success reminds others of failure. My mom's RP as fuck so she actually pushed me into fitness whilst I was young, so can't comment on that.

But I do know people.

They're upset because you're not fitting their mold for you, and you're actually improving in a way they know they could but choose not to. Every woman, most people even, intrinsically know high standards for self raises standards for others.

I understand you're surprised, but you'll be fine. Just keep doing, and don't let it affect you. If you can't happily laugh it off, the most you should do is easy "ok".

Edit. Vasily got it. Always a step ahead of me

PantsonFire1234 · 2016-05-22T19:49:16+00:00

They don't want to see you in a sexual light. You've been their nice cuddly beta all these years and now your mom has to accept her son has a dick.

I remember when I first started lifting at the age of 18. Most of my friends bickered and whined about it, my family started shaming. Some felt threatened, some couldn't accept me growing up.

Nowadays everyone just knows me like this, most of my friends work out to. Allot of them are red pill aware. Ignore them and keep doing what your doing- you're winning.

Title	What do you think of what I can best describe as "muscle shaming" from my Mom and Sister
Author	Yurt7
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Date	May 21, 2016 3:23 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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