How do I stop pitying myself?

copious_cunnilingus · 2021-08-17T00:40:24+00:00

The dichotomy of control personally helped me with this. It takes a good mental workout at first, but truly asking yourself if it can be changed is a really good way to break up some of those default sad modes we can get caught in (more so if you have any history of depression and/or similar mental health issues). If you continue to work at it, then you'll start to notice yourself asking it for everything and being able to drop that nonsense off over time.

Self-pity is an annoying little gremlin in your brain that prevents you from being content/happy with your life and what you've been given in life. You can get surgeries and whatnot, but overall, it's not often worth it. Worry about the things you can control and can work on, like: crooked teeth, some acne, weight, muscle mass, clothing, hair style, etc. But overall, changing how you think about things does take time, so don't expect to master it right away. But, practice makes you better and better.

Edit: Fixed typo.

bexyrex · 2021-08-17T04:34:07+00:00

in acceptance and commitment therapy there is a concept that you are not your thoughts.

you posess thoughts. you are not thoughts. and if you posess them that means you have control over them. you need to name these thoughts. they're just irrational thoughts. where do they come from? who sold you these thoughts? what were their motives?

Naus1987 · 2021-08-17T07:08:10+00:00

You mentioned class. So you either have your youth to be in high school. Or you’re well off enough to be in college.

Sometimes comparing yourself to people around you can make you feel bad. But compared to most people — you’re in a pretty good spot.

Additional-Sport-836 · 2021-08-17T14:59:26+00:00

Sounds like depression

Title	How do I stop pitying myself?
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Date	August 16, 2021 11:58 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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