What is the best redpill advice you have ever received?

koyachki · 2021-09-05T09:45:47+00:00

Before RP, and specifically before RPW, I struggled a lot with understanding why the mix of Alpha and Beta traits was so intrinsic to finding “the right guy”.

I would meet men who were so attractive to me, but was deeply aware that marriage and babies weren’t on the table. I’d then delve into a sweet relationship with a sweet man, only to find he lacked drive or initiative. I oscillated between feeling powerless and feeling hypermasculine, and could never understand why I was so unhappy.

I committed to dating with purpose in a red-pilled manner last year, and found the absolute man of my dreams as a result. It took hard work, and still takes daily effort to shed my previously blue-pilled conditioning, but we’re 6 months in and I’ve never felt this way about anyone.

He makes important decisions, has goals & dreams & plans, but is so intent on creating a happy home together. He leads us with purpose, but specifically wants to provide for our future family. Giving him the respect and admiration he deserves has brought out the best in him, and in me - both our families think we’ve hit the jackpot.

Not only are we at the “right time & place” to flourish, but I know we’d be struggling a LOT if I had treated him the way I was used to treating men, or the way he was used to being treated.

So, to answer succinctly - the concept of searching for balance in a partner has been the best redpill advice I’ve ever received.

Artistic-Match-5051 · 2021-09-05T07:00:19+00:00

Women want a man with a future. Men want a woman without a past.

HappilyMrs · 2021-09-05T11:25:18+00:00

That is is okay be my feminine self and want traditional gender roles in my home. I am generally progressive and feel that people arent all happy with a traditional set up, so I've always had a big disconnect between what I instinctively want in my home versus the way things are done around me. I dont want to be a career woman, I certainly dont want to sleep with a new stranger every day, and I do like my husband providing for and protecting us.

SunshineSundress · 2021-09-05T07:51:19+00:00

A few things come to mind...

Obviously, there’s the most basic tenet of RP theory: men are the gatekeepers of commitment; women are the gatekeepers of sex.

Beyond that, here are my favorite RPW theory posts that are in my head right now:

Jenneapolis · 2021-09-05T16:27:30+00:00

The best advice is to not try to control them - accept their faults, don’t use ultimatums, don’t try to control the pace of the relationship, just make your desires clear without demanding anything, etc. It sounds very simple and intuitive but at 38, it’s changed my life honestly as I didn’t even realize I was doing this.

gradually_german · 2021-09-05T12:13:21+00:00

The best advice I've ever gotten ist not about getting a man but keeping him, what women want is sometimes difficult to tell, I can sometimes understand the confusion about "what women want" when it comes to relationships:

he should be tall but not in a weird way
he should not be fat but not be too skinny either
he has to look somewhat decent, manly features, but not too much when he looks like Bigfoot that's a no go
he should be clean and take care of himself but not check himself out in every mirror he passes
he has to be young, or at least close to my age but also he has to have his shit together
he has to make good money but not be obsessed over wealth
he has to be good with money, but not spend to much time on it, checking his crypto every day is a no go
he has to be funny but not silly, and he has to know when humour is appropriate and when not
he should be emotional, but not to emotional, crying is a no go
he should be good with kids, but not too good, that's creepy
he has to be desirable but not be interested in any other women what so ever
no porn for him, that's like cheating, I'm the only woman he's allowed to be attracted to
he needs to give me all his attention, but at the same time not be clingy
he is allowed to have hobbies, but no weird hobbies like video games, cars, sports and the like
no ex girlfriend who he is "still friend with" but definitely no incel either
no fuckboy, his past has to be dignified but he has to have enough experience too
he has to be very open to marriage and children, but no divorcees or fathers
if he has to pay child support or alimony, that's an absolute no go

the list goes on indefinitely...

You don't have to be a genius to see that there is no man on this planet who fits all those criteria, plus this a just the basics, the list of "no goes" is even longer, so is the list for the ideal partner. At the same time the criteria for man are a little more clear:

is she hot?

When is comes to relationships its very similar, the demands are very complicated for men, for women not so much, and that is where the best advice comes to play:

If you want to keep a man forever:

keep his stomach full and his balls empty

It doesn't matter who your man is, it doesn't matter what other problems you have in the relationship, it doesn't matter how much of a whiny, self obsessed, horrible, abusive, complaining nightmare you are. If you follow this one simple step he will never dump you, cheat on you or leave you. Sure, he might complain or fight with you depending how much of a bitch you are, but he will stay with you. Yet 99% of girls will not be able to do this, always keep that in mind.

TL;DR: Have dinner ready when he comes from work and fuck the shit out of him every day and you will keep him forever, no questions asked.

hordefeec · 2021-09-13T01:18:40+00:00

Both mgtow and modern feminists will not help you but the opposite.

Title	What is the best redpill advice you have ever received?
Author	REDKAS
Upvotes	46
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Date	September 5, 2021 6:34 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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