How to understand the feeling of hopelessness and how to deal with it?

vcreativ · 2021-09-10T20:41:54+00:00

Hey man, great post, thanks for sharing.

What I'm trying to understand is what exactly that feeling is? I've never felt a pain like it before.

I'd say you're traumatised. Shook to the bone. And yes you should absolutely have that looked at by a professional. Don't worry about explaining it to a therapist. It's their responsibility to understand. Just get there.

I don't know that much about the "black pill", but it just sounds like nihilism in a "sexy" coat. The ideological content appears akin to that of a rotten corpse. It's good that you were strong enough to turn away. Some damage was undoubtedly done, but based on how openly you can talk about it here therapy should be quite effective.

You can't ignore this, though. You need to heal, it's like a broken bone, you'd never sit this out at home and have it grow together all wonky, so don't do it in this case either.

Please note you're not weak. These type of movements are designed to have this sort of impact. They play on any of your existing insecurities with intent, and pry them open to entrench themselves deep into your soul.

Pretty dark stuff. Aptly named one might say.

LadylikeElectricland · 2021-09-10T18:52:27+00:00

It is a myth that depression and anxiety are just when you feel sad and cry a lot. They come with many physical symptoms too: fatigue, chest pains, tired muscles etc. The stomach pain could be one of them (have it checked out, though, as this could be ulcers).

It's good that you are avoiding blackpill content, even if you relapse every once in a while (that's perfectly normal, just keep going). For now, forget about women; actively try to not think about them at all. Make sure you eat well, get some regular exercise and a lot of sleep. Fill your days with joyful, positive content. Film, music, books, take walks in nature, get a cat if you can. It is very easy to fall down this blackpill rabbit hole, but it is possible to get out of it. It just requires a lot of effort to make sure that you are healthy and your daily routine involves something that makes you feel good (physically and mentally). If it's possible, you should think about going into therapy too. Best of luck with everything!

RedPillDetox · 2021-09-11T16:26:10+00:00

Well, yeah, they gave you a lot of propaganda, now it's kinda hard to dismistify the trash they gave you without a lot of talk and a bit of fact checking. Hang around here a bit more and feel free to open threads with things you'd like to tackle, so you can get spefic help. You're in the right spot...

PlusFiveVorpalBunny · 2021-09-14T20:52:03+00:00

First and foremost, your experience is valid. Trauma is real, and it sucks. With that said, a perspective -

Do you really think that these people, who spend so much time tearing themselves and others down, are winning at life?

Do you really think that their strategies for handling their defeats are helping them, or you, reach a better place?

ABOVE ALL - do you see how those who are losing at life, and continue choosing to do so, have every incentive to drag you down with them?

They're weak, not strong. And you're better than that. How do I know? Because you're here. Keep going, and do the best you can.

bjorknbeanz · 2021-09-10T17:08:02+00:00

Can you tell me what "it's over" means to you, specifically?

Yesm3can · 2021-09-11T05:19:14+00:00

I can imagine it as a feeling of being lied to? Like for example, when one growing up being told that as long as one works really hard and stay focussed, financial prosperity is just about time. As long as you've done the works, it is just about getting one chance, one luck.

And then you found out that it is purely about birth lottery. That you were already losing as soon as you were born out of the wrong sets of biological parents. That this is it. The next many few decades of your life will just be...it.

You heard plenty of similar thoughts when you volunteered in vulnerable youth communities. I'd say professional therapist might be better to help to give the right tools to deal with these. But I think people who feel like this need to eventually find acceptance in their situation and another focus to distract themselves.

Alternatively, I am always supporting the rights of body, mind and soul autonomy for adults. I think there should be more honest talk about Dignitas or Exit International. Not all adults/of age people want to continue and wanting to leave on their own terms, but still puritanical government often makes it unnecessarily difficult.

Title	How to understand the feeling of hopelessness and how to deal with it?
Author	nf_throwaway_
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Date	September 10, 2021 4:46 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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