My first LTR/marriage was a petite, intelligent HB8 blonde. Now that I am single again, I cant even get ugly chubby girls on tinder, what gives?

KettleLogic · 2016-06-21T04:57:23+00:00

Tinder gives women a huge surplus the girls who will swipe you and who will date you will often be below what you could pull in the wild. Remember they have people several points above them swiping them because they swipe everyone. They have multiple people talking to them when you are talking to them. They have the power there. Imagine trying to pull a girl while 3 other guys stood next to her trying to hit on her? That's what tinder is.

When I was using it I would open with asking to meet in person, and then return to being playful. This weeded out the girls purely there for ego by giving it to them so they can turn me down. If they tried to pull the get to know you crap you just insist knowing someone on the internet isn't knowing them.

IMO there are two type of girls on tinder girls there for attention and those there to fuck. You want to weed out the former quickly.

So screen caps of the kind of conversations you are having will also help tell if you aren't writing in full aspergers mode.

leftajar · 2016-06-21T04:29:20+00:00

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beginner_ · 2016-06-21T05:27:48+00:00

Tinder in US means you need to be huge and muscular to get girls at all even chubby, ugly ones. So in you current situation, there is not much to be gained from tinder just frustration.

Then again, look at statistics about weight of women in America. A majority of them even in ages 20-30 are now fat. So that means over 50% of all women are off the SMP for you and many other guys. So we already have like 90% of men fighting for 50% of all women. So even the not so great, slightly chubby ones get a god complex. (With chubby I don't mean fat).

SlothOnRoids · 2016-06-21T06:22:28+00:00

You're probably not as good looking as you think bro..just being honest. You need to make yourself interesting, start doing different shit that you can create permanent memories from. Travel, climb a summit, go hiking, learn to hunt, volunteer at a fire department.

Now that you're divorced you need to create yourself from scratch, get in the gym, hire a personal trainer, change up your diet, get a new haircut, change up your wardrobe. There's so many things you can do to be an even more attractive version of yourself, lose the weakness, women can sense weak men from a mile away.

dr_warlock · 2016-06-21T17:46:48+00:00

The dating game has changed drastically over the past few years due to cellphones and social media. Women are receiving obsurd amounts of validation just for existing. Their brains are being blasted with dopamine every day. Women's expectations and entitlement has sky-rocketed. Beta males have set the standard so high that the juice is often not worth the squeeze.

AFPJ · 2016-06-21T04:37:51+00:00

get quite a few matches on Tinder

rarely, but sometime do live approach

This is your problem. Turn off Tinder and learn to meet people face to face.

As long as you keep at it, your results will skyrocket before you know it.

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2016-06-23T04:45:37+00:00

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kellykebab · 2016-06-21T04:32:00+00:00

What caused the divorce?

FakeGuru · 2016-06-21T10:58:29+00:00

The situation is as follows:

You are too scared to approach women and have not developed a social life where you meet them.

Instead, you are wasting your time on things that evidently do not work for you.

From what you have said, you seem to have gone through a difficult situation.

Your main priority must be to sort yourself out.

2016-06-21T06:18:14+00:00

Never ask friends to arrange dates for you. You now know the results, but, you do not know that it is ALWAYS-ALWAYS with the fat/ugly ones.

Have you studied PUA? If you get Tinder messages, you can't be too dorky looking, so, it must be inn your performance.

leftajar · 2016-06-21T06:19:17+00:00

If you're unable to get another girl at the caliber of your ex-wife, it could mean that you let your alpha-ness slide during the marriage.

Did that happen?

2016-06-21T12:10:59+00:00

Do you game IRL? Tinder is good if you are top in looks. If you are not, in most places it sucks.

JourneymanTRP · 2016-06-21T12:16:15+00:00

I rarely, but sometime do live approach women and it always ends with the I have a boyfriend. Its getting really demoralizing.

This is your issue. You need to make more cold approaches. There shouldn't be anything demoralizing about the standard polite female decline, either. Even decently attractive dudes get declines more often than not.

Internet dating is a shit show and weeding through the swath of entitled bitches is exhausting.

flatox · 2016-06-21T13:48:56+00:00

Okay, so you have the visuals nailed down if you are matching with girls on tinder, because tinder is a fucking desert if you are not good looking as a male.

I get quite a few matches on Tinder, some girls even message me first. But the moment I mention meeting up for a drink, etc they stop responding. I get told I am creepy, or an asshole, or a player.

Okay two things: Clearly you should have gone through some kind of analysis now based on your former interactions that you have to find another way to communicate with these women. Based on the next point, i assume you're coming off as quite the beta.

Secondly, "I get told I am creepy, or an asshole, or a player.".. Lad, have you forgotten what a shit test is? Agree and amplify, this is like rule #1 of communication with women.

I rarely, but sometime do live approach women and it always ends with the I have a boyfriend. Its getting really demoralizing.

Shit test, regardless of whether it is true or not. Just answer with something witty like "Hold on now, we only just met and you're already telling me about your problems?" or something similar.

So in conclusion, you appear alpha, you behave very beta. At least based on the information you have given us.

2016-06-21T16:43:59+00:00

Tinder has become the fat girl seeking validation play ground. I swip right on everything cause I am a guy and can't afford to be picky on the app and all I get are fat woman too.

You are up against the top 20% of that 20% which is rock hard dudes with abs and naturally good looking. You just can't compete with naturally good looking on dating apps.

PantsonFire1234 · 2016-06-22T01:52:57+00:00

Dude you are way to skinny, get above 185 at the least. See if they match you with fat/ugly girls then. Also Tinder is cancer for men, can't get a good thing there. Women are either on the hunt for Cad, fishing validation or you end up with a crazy.

Also important things to know are.

1) Are you bald/receding hairline? 2) Okay looking doesn't tell enough, have you seen Mystery? He's fucking ugly and claimed to be okay looking. 3) How are your social contacts, do you hold status, how many guys do you have in your friendgroup/party/wolfpack? 4) How long have you been lurking on TRP 5) Ever been natural red pill? 6) You're ex wife, she crazy?

2016-06-26T16:02:01+00:00

The game's changed with online dating. When were you last single before your ltr? Online it's just a number's game.

Title	My first LTR/marriage was a petite, intelligent HB8 blonde. Now that I am single again, I cant even get ugly chubby girls on tinder, what gives?
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Date	June 21, 2016 3:49 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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