After some targeted abusive behavior by my ex, I called the police to have her not come to my home anymore.

This is boundary I'm happy to put up, as 99% of the time the kids are exchanged to and from school. The only hiccup in this plan is that what makes the most sense for exchanging suitcases my kids like to bring back and forth as well as sports gear.

Our schedule is a 2-2-5-5 and the kids are adamant about not changing that to 7-7.

For now, my partner drops off these things to the ex's with her consent but I haven't found a good alternative for her picking up things from my house. I suggested a 3rd/neutral location, which my ex obviously hates, but does anyone in this situation have any other ideas?