Update: I asked him to help me , but how do I flirt , what do I say, what do I do

pearlsandstilettos · 2021-10-20T23:00:11+00:00

OP, this looks like you are seeking validation. I'm going to leave it up but if this turns into everyone comforting you instead of giving actionable advice then it comes down.

RPW- actionable advice, no platitudes

PhaedrusHunt · 2021-10-20T21:37:22+00:00

Honey you need to change your self talk before anything. I doubt you're the wretched person you wrote up here.

softrevolution_ · 2021-10-20T22:43:17+00:00

You can't flirt from a place of insecurity. Tell us four things you LIKE about yourself.

xmissbdub · 2021-10-20T21:46:01+00:00

You’re being wayyy to hard on yourself! Focus on your attributes! Dress up! Dressing up is so fun! He wouldn’t have agreed to meet you if you “smile like a pig”. Own it. Smile and have fun! Regardless it’ll be a learning experience and you’ll get some great take aways from the interaction! :) You are what you think!

CountTheBees · 2021-10-21T03:28:00+00:00

Whenever your hamster starts up like that, shoot it. Filter your thoughts this way: it doesn't matter if it's true, it matters if it's helpful.

I'm so boring and ugly

Not helpful.

flaws

Not helpful.

what do I wear

Helpful. The date-iest date clothes you have that are comfy and not out of place.

when do I ask him to be my BF?

Never. He'll ask you.

How do I appear charming?

Being giggly, smiling a lot and being open with your feelings will come across as very charming. Even average girls are cute like this.

what do we talk about?

Classes, family, shows, hobbies, anything you can think of really. Babbling is ok. Ask him about himself.

_player_0 · 2021-10-21T07:40:22+00:00

Your descriptions of yourself are quite sad. You view yourself in a very, very negative light. If you are looking to couple up with such a mindset, and you struggle to accept yourself, will that not make it difficult for your partner to accept you as well? Relationships have a way of magnifying baggage.

I urge you to consider if you are in a good space for a relationship at all.

Praexology · 2021-10-20T23:18:33+00:00

Talk and be interested about him, his thoughts ideas and opinions?

Same way you make connections with clientelle. Show interest in their life.

I don't wanna a flirt , (don't wanna look slutty or creepy)

You don't get to have your cake and to eat it as well.

Either you save your ego and risk the opportunity, or risk your ego for the opportunity.

Title	Update: I asked him to help me , but how do I flirt , what do I say, what do I do
Author	19000israa
Upvotes	0
Comments	11
Date	October 20, 2021 9:22 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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