Gentlemen, what are some difficulties YOU’VE had during COVID?

Martijngamer · 2021-12-31T11:36:31+00:00

I see all these articles about women’s difficulties

We all knew that the joke we've told for years "end of the world, women most affected" was not actually a joke.

CollapseObserver · 2021-12-31T18:52:13+00:00

Depression, loneliness, weight gain, increased alcohol consumption.

And a general loss of hope with society getting ever-more divided while being politically homeless, not being part of either tribe, a leftist on many issues, but gender critical and 'unwoke' (still believing the color-blindness my generation aimed for was doing far more good than the left-wing identity politics of today)

Algiz56 · 2021-12-31T14:40:56+00:00

Nothing specific really. Aside from risk of contamination, death and such. Same as everybody.

No_Seaworthiness9625 · 2021-12-31T15:47:10+00:00

I had so many painful bodily pains, sometimes i honestly feel i have covid

BaddyRio · 2022-01-01T09:20:19+00:00

I struggle with social anxiety so lockdowns and isolations have just caused me to go back into my shell. Having social anxiety as a man sucks when you’re expected to be confident and assertive all the time. I hate it.

DeadLikeYou · 2022-01-03T00:04:04+00:00

I had struggled through college to find a balance of classes, online usage, and meeting people throughout college. I had gotten good grades, but my stress management of living at home while going to college ate up the rest of my time. My parents did NOT make it easy to live at home, and I was relying on them to pay my tuition, so I practically had no option for dorm living.

So, I was hoping that by the time I graduated college, I would be able to move out, and go to bars and events, and meet people without the stress associated with living at home or going to college or how I managed my stress would go down as I wouldnt need to worry about the constant but subtle conflict my parents would spark with me.

I graduated in May of 2020. So, bad start. But a really good job opportunity came up, and I accepted it. I moved to a really small town in the middle of nowhere, where the nearest major city is an hour to an hour and a half away. The only noteworthy gathering areas here are bars.

And so, for the past year or two, I have been spending my time shut in my apartment, avoiding covid, and having no contact with anybody for weeks at a time. It is especially tough here because its a small town, meaning nobody believes covid is a big deal, and thus doesnt wear masks. The vaccination rate of my county is at only 50%, today. And I cannot remember the last time I saw a woman that wasnt a relative.

So in every way except socially, I have been having a great time during covid. I have a promising career, i have been saving tons of money, and I found a new place that really matches my style.

But socially? I havent made a single friend here, as its really hard to trust anyone around here when no stranger wears a mask indoors. And romantically? I am dying inside. Theres the trust issue, good luck finding someone attractive when you think they dont care if you live or die. That would be if I could even find a date. I cant. Bars are a no-go, good luck getting good pics during covid, and I dont have a network of friends to lean on.

The worst part is that I feel like I cant complain. By all metrics, I am doing excellent. But I still feel like the same garbage I was in college. And if I complain, my two friends dont want to spend the little contact I have with them listening to the rough patch I am going through every time (and I dont blame them), and my sister would shut me down every time (lucky her, finding someone only a year before this hit)

Blauwpetje · 2022-01-02T16:08:47+00:00

Don't start me talking. My life was on the brink of even being any fun to begin with, but since march '20 my loneliness and feelings of unrealness have sometimes overwhelmed me. Lately, hypersexual feelings are added to that, apparently filling in a void that's left by lack of enough social interaction but sometimes driving me mad and making me look for kinky stories on the internet. I'm not against all lockdowns and all for vaccines, but I think a lot more could and should have been done to keep society together. Instead of 'minimalising contacts', the powers that be should have gone for 'optimalising contacts': giving opportunities to as many contacts as possible that mean a minimum of risks. The alternative is clearly that lots of desperate people are organising illegal parties and I can't even really blame them.

The comparison may sound strange, but to me lockdowns and #MeToo have the same assumption: distance and isolation are the default option instead of a disaster, closeness and touch are dangerous instead of human needs. The last few weeks the excess mortality in the Netherlands outnumbers about thrice the COVID deaths. I think this must be because isolation destroys our immune system. I admit there are no easy answers. But I must also say that we live in a strange society that thinks keeping people apart from each other is an easy answer.

34T_y3r_v3ggi3s · 2022-01-04T00:12:32+00:00

Just the same as always- perpetual virginity and then having to hear ad nosium from other communities on Reddit and Facebook that its all my fault that its like this. Never is it because there were women in my life who flatout destroyed my confidence by the way they manipulated me and led me on. No one will ever admit that some women are just completely vapid androphobic bigots who like seeing the superficial stranglehold women hold on the dating and sexual market- brought on by feminism.

I'm also unemployed because I just haven't found a job that pays well enogh or makes me not want to put a bullet in my head. So yea for that too.

TheManBehindTheBoard · 2022-01-04T05:31:45+00:00

I never thought it was possible to be lonely for such an extended period of time. But here we are. Wikipedia tells me the spanish flu lasted just over 2 years; hopefully the same is true of COVID. Even if my brain doubts it (we're saddled with this bloody disease for years to come) my heart wants it to be so. I've made efforts and changes in the interim, but what can you do when meetups are constantly being cancelled because of the latest wave? I suppose the generations that went through the major wars of the 20th century felt similarly. The only thing to do is to keep punching with what you have when you can; appreciate what fortune you may have and seize upon every opportunity that presents itself. We have a responsibility to ourselves, each other, our families, and our community to consolidate our strength.

Title	Gentlemen, what are some difficulties YOU’VE had during COVID?
Author	amkmaker1754
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Date	December 31, 2021 12:20 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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