Vet Rigorously Not Just For Present You but Especially For Future You

whiskey_and_oreos · 2021-12-30T23:46:54+00:00

This exact line of thinking is what led me to researching and meeting with estate planners recently to set up a living will and revocable trust. I wanted as much control as possible over my assets. Since I'm divorced with no kids, my estranged parents would get 100% of my assets if I didn't do anything. I had always thought estate planning and trusts were for the super wealthy but I was wrong. I really only have my 401k and life insurance through work at this point (totalling well under $1m) and the firm I went with was lovely and nonjudgmental and understood my situation without question. I can also make any changes I'd like in the future as my financial and family situation changes.

I'd really recommend everyone look into this even if you have good family relationships because people can turn nasty when money is involved. My will and trust covers the obvious things like beneficiaries and charities and who gets specific items but also everything I hadn't thought about like naming a caretaker for my pets (with money set aside for their care) to who has access to my medical info if I'm incapacitated and (content warning) how long I'm willing to be on life support so no one else has to make that decision.

It was a weird conversation and it's hard to think about (especially when you're young and healthy) but I feel so much peace of mind having all of that legally covered

randomgirl34861 · 2021-12-31T06:18:29+00:00

If you want children, you’re vetting rigorously for them as well as your future self. Can he admit that he’s wrong and apologize to a child? Does he care about meeting their higher level needs and not just then basic ones like food and shelter? Does he make them feel like a burden, or does he express to them that he is delighted they are part of his life?

bookworm1896 · 2021-12-31T06:12:11+00:00

This is such an important comment!

If you get seriously ill, you are dependent on help of your partner and family! My mom got cancer two years ago. And next to the effect of the illness, there were tons of other problems. Fights with her insurance, pension, you name it. After her first treatments all she could do was sleep. My father managed everything for her, especially a nasty fight with the insurance company.

By the way I am sorry for your loss and hope you are doing fine.

JesusisKingisLord · 2021-12-31T18:03:00+00:00

I’m really grateful my parents made this a normal conversation in our household. It’s so important to plan for!

Title	Vet Rigorously Not Just For Present You but Especially For Future You
Author	hyperjinxx
Upvotes	275
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Date	December 30, 2021 10:57 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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