Given that both men and women complain a lot about hardships of dating, I think that writing some sort of guide on it would be broadly appreciated.

Some key points:

  • Get women on board. No heteresexual dating thing can work without the support of women. (notice I didn't say they need to be feminist women)
  • Describe reality but prescribe solutions. Don't try to hide or deny unpleasant realities.
  • Be inclusive. Remember that disabled, neurodiverse, GNC, kinky, bissexual, transgender and assexual and intersex people exist.
  • Be "emotional". Include descriptions of people's feelings towards gendered situations, e.g. include short texts from women telling how they feel when they recieve sexual "compliments" from strangers as many men have a hard time imagining it and also include short texts from men telling how hard it is to never recieve physical conpliments as it is something many women never experience.
  • Be "mechanical" in the prescriptions. Try to always include flowcharts or algorithms (e.g. scoring cards) for how to handle things even if they seem obvious. E.g. Is it rape?, Is the other person uncomfortable?, Is it appropriate for me to aks the other person out?.
  • Use consistent language. For example, use the expressions morally sexual harassment and criminally sexual harassment instead of just sexual harassment and it may not be ovious for the reader which one you are referring to.
  • Remember edge cases. For example, Is it rape for a 18yo to have sex with a 12yo who lied about being 15yo?, How to have sex with a cis men who lost his penis?, How to ask sex to stop when the other pwrson is deaf?
  • Create some symbol for people to "advertise" themselves as followers of that handbook, so other people can have a better idea of how to interact with them. (e.g. if a men sees that a women is wearing said symbol, he can look at the handbook flowcharts to see if it is acceptable for him to approach her or not)
  • Make it freely accessible. (even if the book is paid, at least make it easy to pirate)
  • Make it a living document but with clear version numbers. (More like textbooks with yearly editions than Wikipedia with continuous edits)
  • Give it a decent but unassuming name, something like The Equalitarian Dating Handbook instead of The Alpha Male Dating Strategy: How to Fuck Everyday.

What do you think?

I wish I could write such a book but I'm too inexperienced in relationships to have any authority on the subject. The best I can do is the boring work of typesetting, organizing the structure, etc.