So my kids go to counseling, and dr. Appointments I have my three kids most of the time. My STBX has had some issues, BP2, narc, psychopathic issues etc.. And besides the divorce, put alot of stress directly on the kids, and still does my older two don't want to be around her much.

She's been slowly doing "better"? and wants to essentially be at every dr. appointment / counseling session. And just to put a tidbit in I've had the psychologist and one of the counselors tell me she isn't to show up to an appointment alone with the kids without me there. (As they don't trust her with the kids, among other things I'm guessing) And truthfully the kids usually clam up around her as she routinely will "correct" them. Ie if something happened, one way, that doesn't look good for her. Or she just wasn't listening to them, she will then argue with them that they are wrong (even when they are right), has told them their stupid or dumb. And essentially anything negative towards her, is argued away as the child (and or me) being dumb and not remembering correctly.

So now I sit where my ex wants/expects and sees herself as entitled to every appointment with the kids (and mind you she only has them every other weekend, and 2 weeks on the summer. I have them most of the time.

I don't want to be anywhere near her if I can help it. (And as a side note she uses every and any excuse to show up at the house and other times when it's not her time) I kick her out. And yes she wants me to not finalize the divorce.. UGh I just want this crap done, and she's dragging it out.