Hi ladies, my fiancé and I are going to attempt to stop having sex before we get married in July (so far away!)We started a few months ago and feel convicted because of our faith. I however, struggle with abandonment wounds and fear that removing sex will only hurt us. As of recently, I had a bit of a breakdown, I cried and revealed fears I have in the relationship. It did not look pretty, in fact I have a lot of shame about how I opened up. He ended up feeling super discouraged by the things I said. I think I’ve used sex as a “blanket” of security and it obviously does not work. His work life is very stressful right now, finances aren’t doing well, so he’s stressed and a bit distant which only aggravates my anxious attachment more… Our relationship is usually amazing, I am so blessed and proud to be with him…He cherishes me and I respect him. Its lovely but as of recently..my insecurities and old wounds are eating me alive. Encouragement and advice please. Has anyone had to step back from having sex? Which other fun physical things can we do together?