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Sea_Bookkeeper_1533/r/RedPillWomen17/10/21 08:47 AM
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Sea_Bookkeeper_1533/r/RedPillWomen23/07/26 05:40 PM
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Sea_Bookkeeper_1533/r/RedPillWomen03/07/26 08:08 AM
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Sea_Bookkeeper_1533/r/RedPillWives23/08/21 06:49 AM
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Sea_Bookkeeper_1533/r/RedPillWomen05/12/21 10:37 AM
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Sea_Bookkeeper_1533/r/RedPillWomen03/10/21 05:38 AM
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Sea_Bookkeeper_1533/r/RedPillWomen28/06/26 08:47 AM
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Sea_Bookkeeper_1533/r/RedPillWomen11/11/21 08:37 AM
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Sea_Bookkeeper_1533/r/RedPillWomen17/01/22 10:27 AM
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Sea_Bookkeeper_1533/r/RedPillWives11/07/21 07:01 AM
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Sea_Bookkeeper_1533/r/RedPillWives25/07/21 09:17 AM
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Sea_Bookkeeper_1533/r/RedPillWomen20/01/22 09:14 AM
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I love how that worked out for you. 🫶
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/26 05:27 PM
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Thanks 🫶
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/26 05:23 PM
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Literally same though I have no idea what aphantasia is. Like I know a man is hot but I need to talk to him and see how his brain works before I can feel anything.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/26 05:22 PM
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I've only ever had burning desire for one man in my life and he was the worst person I've ever met. Also got severely alpha widowed from him. Maybe good advice for men but for women i dont think thats good advice.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/26 05:20 PM
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I have experienced that once and you're right that it leaves an imprint. However that kind of chemistry doesnt always lead to healthy relationships. Did you end up marrying him ?
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/26 05:17 PM
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Thanks. I always appreciate your input. Yes I get the yips, im an introvert who went from being painfully shy to learning to fake it till I make it but with attractive men I internally freak out. I do also think its a confidence thing and yes I assume they will cheat. I mean I've seen pics of us side to side and the difference is indeed very noticeable. I'd rather someone who can take care of me and isnt wanted by every single other woman who sees him. I dont do competition, I like peace of mind…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/26 02:20 PM
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Thanks I will do my best to practice that.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/26 02:16 PM
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They arent the same thing at all (for me). Someone could look like a model but he opens his mouth and ruins it for me.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/26 02:15 PM
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I do. Listening to them talk about work and how they've singlehandedly built their business up from nothing is so hot. I love a driven smart man.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/26 01:28 PM
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My personal opinion is they are faithful yes. They are happy to find someone attractive that actually likes them (I do) and dont always have game. Also im great in the bedroom which helps.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/26 08:06 PM
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Intelligence is very attractive to me. I want to learn something new. Watch him be a boss. I like a good sense of humor. Driven, responsible, handles things with ease. Sharp. Successful too yes.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/26 07:06 PM
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I've already had a child and dont mind if I dont have anymore. The looks of my children arent a major concern of mine though my child is beautiful.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/26 06:54 PM
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You look great and your outfits are so cute.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/26 05:45 AM
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You decide to use it for your benefit.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/26 09:24 AM
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Glad to hear that girl. Aunty approves. 😅
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/26 03:45 AM
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Dont expect someone to improve themselves for you. Men dont work like that. Find someone who is already decent without expecting them to change. Your standards are good but at your age a little hard to find..most 21 yos are idiots. The best way to vet at your age and indeed any age is 1) dont be a party girl 2) make him wait around 2 months for sex 3) make sure hes consistent with communication and dates (no ghosting and coming back) and 4) observe his friend group. You are who you associate wit…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/26 03:40 AM
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No, its not. Its very simple. Move on.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/26 07:06 AM
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Girl this is so bad I genuinely dont understand how you're on the RPW sub. First of all the age difference and his behaviour overall..you're having phone sex with a man youve never met and has not done anything for you or provided in any way. He disappeared for months and you let him back in. U need to move on asap
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/26 07:05 AM
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How old is he? Why are you still the gf after 4 years? Whats he like as a partner?
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/26 07:36 PM
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Our experiences differ greatly.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/26 09:10 AM
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This may be a controversial opinion but stop expecting men to have these qualities..most simply don't. Enjoy them for what they do offer instead.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/26 07:35 AM
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It does sound like hes lost interest. However you absolutely should not be asking him that. Just let the behaviour speak for itself. You had one date and you are already demanding he talk to u a lot etc. Thats quite unhealthy. You should be out living your life barely noticing his delays. Its giving anxious and clingy and if he was losing interest before u showed clinging, you made it way worse. You gotta be comfortable with dates not going anywhere especially after one date.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/26 03:57 AM
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Just breathe before u open your mouth. Practise being less reactive in general. Are you speaking as a reaction or have you thought about your response? High value people in general are slow to speak and very careful with their choice of words. Dont react, simply act thoughtfully.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/26 09:19 AM
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Yeah. Well im 34 and been on RPW for a long time, I'm vetting well and won't be with someone I need to control. I know what I want.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/26 05:21 AM
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Love this. That last part is so freaking true. Its still early days but he seems to be very competent and thats very attractive to me.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/26 08:46 PM
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Lol I am particularly skilled at those and he doesn't know it yet. I'm looking forward to him finding out. Thanks
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/26 06:41 PM
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I feel it also has to with the fact that men get comfortable even if mostly unhappy. They have a joint asset, joint bank accounts, food cooked for them, clothes washed home cleaned kids looked after. They will not leave comfort for the unknown.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/26 07:47 AM
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Yes. Men just get bored of the same woman. I used to get annoyed at that but its just how they are biologically wired. Work, routine kids etc doesnt help either.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/26 07:45 AM
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Fully agree. A man can be rich and provide nothing and a middle class man can work hard and make your life soft and comfortable.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/26 04:41 AM
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Because a provider is usually a gentleman by nature and is treating the woman like a lady. Courting properly. Mentioning sex too early will put any self respecting woman off him. A provider that likes you will not risk that.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/26 11:39 AM
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Look your best, feminine self at all times. Wear dresses, hair and nails done, make up done, and keep it classy. Nothing overdone. Other than that, vet fast and hard. A provider will have a good job and will want to court u properly. Dinner dates at nice restaurants. Flowers in the first few dates and even a small gift. He will worry about how you get to and from dates. Is he offering to pick u up/send u a car? A provider will not be pushy for sex and absolutely do not put out early, do not even…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/26 03:45 AM
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Yesss fully agree. I am also the independent type and I need my time. I have a small child so I wont be moving in with someone anytime soon.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/26 04:16 PM
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Thanks :)
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/26 04:13 PM
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Thanks this was encouraging:)
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/26 04:13 PM
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Thanks. Last time I posted here about my age and single mom status I was immediately reminded that im post wall like im not already aware lol so I figured id get it out of the way with. I am quite happy with how things are going :)
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/26 04:11 PM
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Yeah thats actually something im working on. I've been very aloof while dating others. Thanks 🥰😍
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/26 04:08 PM
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Thanks we did have the conversation about future vision and I do like his. I would like to give him something but idk what and I cant bake him anything as hes on a strict diet. I'll try think of something.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/26 04:07 PM
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Boring could be exactly what your brother needs. Give her a chance.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/24 11:59 AM
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Extended posing session 😜 like for pictures or just... posing all day? 😃 We need more info Mr Zaitzev!
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/24 11:57 AM
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And a life story! Like I'm here for the FOOD!!!!
/r/RedPillWives06/04/24 10:12 AM
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Absolutely agree. Love this post!
/r/RedPillWives23/12/23 07:10 PM
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He would rather not have you there at all..girl if that doesn't tell you everything you need to know then idk what to even say ...
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/23 05:03 PM
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Yup. Obeying is a wedding vow not a relationship vow lol.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/23 04:46 PM
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😂
/r/RedPillWives21/07/23 01:39 PM
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I think you need to pop on over to r/marriedredpill. u/hornsofapathy I think he's lost.
/r/RedPillWives21/07/23 10:55 AM
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She's asking for a book for her husband.
/r/RedPillWives06/07/23 07:37 PM
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Yes very much so.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/23 03:46 PM
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Can confirm. My husband is way better looking than me. I'm also a bookish brunette, complete with glasses and all 😂 (though I do prefer contacts). I've also gained quite a bit of weight due to pregnancy and instead of making me feel pressure to lose it ASAP, he can barely keep his hands off my new curves. 😂 Just for the record before everyone comes for me, I've already lost of most of the weight and was very skinny beforehand so now I'm just curvy / normal.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/23 07:27 AM
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Yes that's true!! I like that. It's definitely good to include specific things you're grateful for.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 09:57 AM
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Eek I'm a little late to the party here but damn I'm surprised you stuck around for as long as you have. You will be second best the entire time you're with him if you stay. You'll be like the 3rd wheel in your own marriage. Your SIL was trying to do you a solid and warn you. I'd listen between those lines if I were you. I'm sorry but no grown man should have his momma wash his clothes for him. That in itself is a massive red flag.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/23 04:20 PM
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I hate that "of course he knows" or "he should know". It's so wrong. We should be reminding each other regularly, if not daily.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/23 03:55 PM
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Equalitarian if it extends beyond gender. If we are just talking about gender, you are traditional.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 04:33 PM
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You don't.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 02:04 PM
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☠️😂
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 01:18 PM
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This isn't a cult. Listen to whatever music you like to listen to.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 12:46 PM
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Anna Bey teaches elegance on YT. She's a great place to start getting into that mood. She has a lot of free content so there's no need to pay for any courses etc.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/23 04:21 PM
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Girl your life is just starting. Just try to make better decisions from now on.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/23 03:25 PM
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Seconding over cooked. It's quite funny to play together and forces you to work as a team.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/23 10:04 AM
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That's true. However I think our attraction to men goes beyond physical appearance. What if he has some other amazing qualities? She'd literally never know.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/23 11:03 AM
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Do you generally not react if someone were to approach you? Do you send out flirty vibes at all? There's a great post around here by one of the endorsed contributors about how a great way to signal your interest is to drop your handkerchief like they did way back when.. obviously we don't walk around with handkerchiefs anymore but the point is the same...Try find that post. I think it was posted by the sundress EC (can't remember the exact name, so sorry if the EC reads this lol). Also I've noti…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/23 10:54 AM
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Well, I'm officially working part time and home in the afternoon so I can be with my baby. I could not be happier. I thought hubby would not be ok with it but it was actually his suggestion. Feeling very blessed lately.
/r/RedPillWives22/02/23 03:44 PM
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Same. Especially the part about thanking him and moving on. I had the same problem with my husband and he has definitely stopped telling me what to do in my realm but sometimes he will still do it. I found the best thing to do is just "hmm that's cool thanks I'll look into it" and just change the subject. There is no winning in that discussion at all and both parties will just end up annoyed. Just politely move the discussion on. Do not engage!!!
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/23 03:13 PM
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I honestly don't know either. I will also be doing purees, I don't like the BLW. I don't understand the weird hate either. My mum did puree and the idea of BLW horrified her lol.
/r/RedPillWives02/02/23 03:20 PM
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I'm struggling to be a good wife while trying to take care of a 4 month old and myself. Feeling very guilty about housework not always being done (place is always clean but also usually always messy, clean laundry in piles everywhere) and I'm going back to work on Monday. I find I don't have much to talk to hubby about besides our little one and I don't really give him much attention anymore. He hasn't complained but I know he feels it. In response to that he hasn't exactly been super affectiona…
/r/RedPillWives26/01/23 11:32 AM
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I agree. They are not the last two men on earth.
/r/RedPillWives20/01/23 07:57 AM
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...Maybe you're into men?
/r/RedPillWives10/12/22 01:01 PM
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This paints a very different picture. Are you married? Did you vet him properly? This isn't a problem of you being unable to trust, this seems more of a problem of him not being worthy of your trust to begin with. I feel like having a job should be a basic requirement and he's shown you he doesn't really care. Ask yourself if this is who you want to be tied to forever.
/r/RedPillWives23/09/22 12:04 PM
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We're having a baby in a week and it's hitting me that it's basically the end of an era. How do we keep the spark going! I'm worried that I'll either be stuck in mommy mode or he'll just see me as mommy from now on. I can't shake the fear of losing us. :(
/r/RedPillWives22/09/22 12:40 PM
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Great him with a smile when he gets home and at least offer him a drink and a snack if not a meal. Thank him for things that he goes even if it's small eg taking the trash out. Compliment him on his work ethic and for how well he takes care of his family. ❤️
/r/RedPillWives22/09/22 12:38 PM
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Does he stick to his word with the important things at least? Does he make decisions with the best interests of your family in mind? I would focus on the important, big picture matters.
/r/RedPillWives22/09/22 12:36 PM
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I guess I should work on my appearance. I am 35 weeks pregnant and honestly dgaf right now about how I look around the house. I feel huge and am permanently exhausted. I should probably do better with my appearance but every move tires me out.
/r/RedPillWives06/09/22 12:33 PM
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That sub is creepy...
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/22 12:14 PM
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It's 100% worth it IMO!
/r/RedPillWives27/08/22 01:40 PM
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Seriously, groceries are so expensive right now, it's ridiculous. We are spending more than we used to, for less!!
/r/RedPillWives26/08/22 04:02 PM
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Hubby came home after work, opened the door and before saying anything else he said "Oh yes!" Apparently he entered our apartment building and smelled something delicious being cooked and hoped it was coming from our apartment and it was, so he was very happy about that. 😅 What a lovely compliment from him today. 😍
/r/RedPillWives26/08/22 03:58 PM
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That's so nice to hear. I'm currently on mat leave and also loving it being a de facto housewife. I run the Roomba every day and dust every couple of days if that's what you mean.
/r/RedPillWives26/08/22 02:46 PM
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It's a strange place lately. Bad advice to strange situations.
/r/RedPillWives19/08/22 11:43 AM
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My challenge for the week will be to ensure that I make him lunch for work every day. I'm home from work for a few weeks and although my body is in a lot of pain due to pregnancy I should be able to manage.
/r/RedPillWives31/07/22 08:06 AM
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What's everyone watching on YT? I'm usually a fan of Jennifer Scott / Farmhouse on Boone / Thyme & Tenderness / Cynthia L / Mrs Midwest but I feel like I need something new?? Happy to get any suggestions....
/r/RedPillWives29/07/22 09:55 AM
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Nice, thanks! I look forward to following! :)
/r/RedPillWives28/07/22 08:11 PM
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That's a good idea! I imagine it's harder to ignore on the kitchen counters as well!! :)
/r/RedPillWives28/07/22 08:11 PM
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I'm so happy to see so many new weekly posts! I guess I'm a little late for this weeks challenge given its Thursday. Looking forward to the next one though! Is this sort of like an OYS over @ MRP?
/r/RedPillWives28/07/22 10:51 AM
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Its Saturday morning, I'm laying in bed feeling my baby kick, cuddling my cat, watching my hubby sleep. I wish I could capture this feeling forever. 💕
/r/RedPillWives16/07/22 08:19 AM
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I've started gardening :)
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/22 09:43 AM
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For real. We played ourselves. 😂👏
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/22 07:11 PM
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Thanks, I'm trying. 😅 I'm enjoying the pregnancy part just not having to work at the same time. 😂😅
/r/RedPillWives10/06/22 09:48 AM
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I'm almost 6 months pregnant and so damn ready for maternity leave already. I'm crawling there, little by little. Help.
/r/RedPillWives08/06/22 01:03 PM
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Are you testing the reactions you get? That's a great idea.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/22 03:51 PM
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Gosh the grocery store is an interesting place isn't it? 😂
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/22 11:26 AM
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Everyone is definitely not beautiful. 😂
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/22 08:01 PM
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Matching luggage 💞 how strangely romantic. 😂 I love it.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 02:52 PM
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Yes we must be. It's nice to know there's like minded women over there. :)
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/22 03:55 PM
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Bless you for posting this, I'm 19+3 and loving these comments.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/22 12:02 PM
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Because it sorta signifies that you don't respect yourself enough to create boundaries. You accept the bare minimum. So the bare minimum is what you will get. Don't expect people to treat you fairly in life, it doesn't work that way.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/22 05:12 PM
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That makes it so much worse. You're jumping through hoops for someone who is bottom of the barrel right now. Like no wonder he doesn't respect you. Did you watch Friends? You're being Mona right now, just accepting the absolute minimum and jumping through hoops for it, too. Have you considered he just may not be worthy of respect? Not every guy is worthy of respect and submission. Does the reason he's acting like this really matter? Let's give him the benefit of the doubt and say he's acting lik…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/22 03:56 PM
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You keep missing the bar? He's repeatedly telling you that he doesn't think you're good enough. What do you actually like about him / what does he like about you? I don't see anything positive here.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/22 01:39 PM
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Soooo men can just use this sub for like therapy now?
/r/RedPillWives18/05/22 12:47 PM
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That's a nice way of looking at it. :)
/r/RedPillWives09/05/22 03:48 PM
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Hahaha bizarro land. It certainly seems like it.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/22 11:06 AM
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So much this.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/22 10:38 AM
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Neither are men to be fair. I'm not sure all men would find wrinkled hands beautiful because they raised his children. It would be lovely if that were true but I don't think men work like that.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/22 08:09 AM
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It's a sign he's an alcoholic. If you want to know what changes to make to your appearance (not for this guy, please) then you can try the vindictarateme sub. The ladies there will help you.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/22 04:09 PM
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Amazing comment and so true.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/22 08:48 AM
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10000% this.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/22 08:38 AM
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Your question relates to fixing the marriage and I'm not suggesting you leave but I haven't really seen anything positive about this man. In what ways is he contributing to your life? You are providing as well as homemaking and he's doing what, exactly, apart from berating you?
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/22 02:11 PM
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Pregnancy hormones in the 1st trimester made me a bit of a monster. I would just be so snappy at hubby and always try to "win" literally any discussion, followed by sobbing & apologies. Its like anything I've read (Laura Doyle, FW) were briefly erased from my memory. 😂😅 It was very very rough. Luckily I am into my 2nd trimester and I'm not nearly as moody or emotional & I feel like myself again. Last night we even had a disagreement that would have enraged me a month ago. I just told him I respe…
/r/RedPillWives24/04/22 06:08 AM
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You're not asking to use it, you're just checking in with your spouse and actually considering their opinion. You don't have to always agree but at least don't make it sound like you could care less. Do you otherwise follow the traditions of your religion 100%? What about the ones that benefit him only?
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/22 05:46 PM
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You're married so its pooled money, no? Also it's one thing pouting your lips, batting your eyelids are saying "pleeeeease baby say you don't mind" and another thing saying "I'm gonna do what I want."
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/22 05:04 PM
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That sounds awful. How does the conversation lead to arguing? How are you presenting your problems? Are you getting angry / reacting etc or are you coming from a place of feminine vulnerability. Are you telling him what he needs to do, or are you telling him how you feel? Hint: crying works. Let him be your hero that protects you, don't try 2 nag him into submission.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/22 04:58 PM
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I'd be willing to bet he's annoyed that you want to spend the extra money rather than go with his suggestion. I think that's what annoyed him first, perhaps it triggered an insecurity in him that was then worsened by the rest of your comment. Perhaps he feels he can't provide you with the luxuries that you want. What are his finances like?
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/22 04:47 PM
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Same! I am expecting my first and am enjoying her videos even though I'm 5 years older than her. I don't see how anyone can watch, for example her latest video, and find something to hate. I find that very weird. Her new video was a delight to watch.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/22 05:23 AM
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I'm just finishing up my first trimester and work full time. I have days when I feel terrible and days when I'm ok. I just make sure I do as much as I reasonably can on the good days.
/r/RedPillWives08/04/22 04:03 AM
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It seems you've tried quite a few different methods to no avail. At this point I would stop focusing on him. Take care of yourself, be bubbly and cheerful and hopefully when he sees that you're still having a good time, he'll snap out of it. I think ignoring the sulky child might just work here.
/r/RedPillWives28/03/22 08:14 AM
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How is the YT video relevant in any way. Weird opener. You are all over the place.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/22 03:58 PM
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Most likely it's a result of getting older and more mature. I used to text a lot more when I was younger. Definitely don't have as much time now and I'd much prefer a busy man who's out growing his network and his wealth than a man sitting around texting anyway. Wouldn't you?
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/22 02:38 PM
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How old are you both?
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/22 02:22 PM
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I think you need a serious discussion with him. Is it possible you're just too nice and letting him away with a lot? I'm not suggesting you go rambo on him but like, what are you getting out of this? You pay your own share of the bills and you do more than he does around the house. So what's his role, exactly? In what way is he improving your life?
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/22 02:11 PM
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The only thing that really struck me here is that you split costs equally. Do you make equal amounts? You are putting in 50/50 financially and what, 80/20 around the house?
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/22 09:59 AM
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Well, my pregnancy hormones are turning me into quite the nut job but at least the pregnancy is going well? 🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/22 09:04 AM
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I definitely see what you mean, it sounds so calming.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/22 06:07 AM
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Thanks so much, I am over the moon. 💞💕
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/22 06:05 AM
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I'm beyond grateful for my healthy pregnancy. I'm 10 weeks. For some reason I had convinced myself it would take a long time to happen for me, if it ever did. It took no time at all and I'm so thankful every day all day. I feel so blessed to be receiving excellent health care during this journey, with a husband who is trying his best every day for our growing little family. I'm grateful that I live in a country where I'm safe and know my baby will be too. Our families are both so excited for us …
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/22 09:59 PM
3

I love your first paragraph. ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/22 09:48 PM
1

I knew you were at a law firm with your mention of an hourly rate. Also interesting to hear your boss is a female. Mine is male - cross your fingers for me please!! :)
/r/RedPillWives12/03/22 06:20 PM
38

It sounds to me more like an anxiety issue than a masculine energy issue.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/22 08:59 AM
1

That's my dream.😍 Currently in the early days of pregnancy myself wondering what my options are... I am seriously impressed with your boss and can only hope mine is half as gracious. 🤞
/r/RedPillWives12/03/22 07:12 AM
1

Wow that's a pretty cool story, thanks for sharing. I'm glad it all worked out for you. ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/22 07:03 AM
2

You're very welcome, glad you like. :)
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/22 03:00 PM
4

Lol! 😂 Enjoy your videos, you've got some good ones to catch up on! :)
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/22 02:23 PM
4

😂 They have very different content & audience to be fair.. But I agree, she is very much the queen. Have you seen the magical morning routine video she released recently? I definitely watched it multiple times. 😁☺️
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/22 01:56 PM
1

What a strange comment.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/22 11:12 AM
7

The Daily Connoisseur for me. 💕
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/22 06:16 AM
3

Nice, this gives me hope. So you didn't struggle getting back in the market? Mind if I ask how long you took off and if you generally have any tips? I'm pregnant and would love some time off (apart from the 4 months I'm entitled to) but I'm literally terrified I'll be forced to take a much lower salary than I'm currently making.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/22 06:10 AM
1

This is the content I come here for... 👏👏👏
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/22 09:16 AM
2

Sounds like FW for sure given the timeline.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/22 08:42 AM
2

Any woman that worked in an office setting (especially in a corporate environment) knows that's 100% true. I don't need a man to tell me that. 🤣
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/22 04:49 PM
1

I think that's great and not stupid at all. It's how we expand our knowledge and gain new perspectives on life. If we weren't curious we wouldnt get very far in life (my opinion of course.) Read what the endorsed contributors are saying. Personally I fully agree with them and it's been my experience too. I am 30, recently married and just found out I'm pregnant and I really don't think I would be in my current position if I hadn't discovered this sub many years ago. :) It has helped me in so man…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/22 01:29 PM
2

I wasnt referring to you specifically darling. Good for you for asking and researching. ❤️👍
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/22 01:16 PM
3

What a shit show this was. 😂🤣 Lesson learnt: Bitterness will surely cause you to smash straight into the wall.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/22 01:07 PM
2

So lovely. ❤️👌 You put a nice big smile on my face.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/22 12:52 PM
1

8 weeks for me. I'm also in the October bumpers group. Seems to be quite a few people worried and prepping in both subs which is starting to freak me out.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/22 09:01 PM
2

:) x
/r/RedPillWives28/02/22 08:20 PM
3

This was a nice reminder. What an awful week it's been.
/r/RedPillWives28/02/22 07:53 PM
2

Me too girl and I'm pregnant. It's all so scary. I didn't expect this in 2022, after two years of a pandemic. It's quite shocking.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/22 02:17 PM
2

Hi that sounds awesome could you link that??
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/22 02:11 PM
1

Phew glad I read the comments because this post stressed me out. 😅 I am 30, pregnant, and perfectly healthy.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/22 05:11 PM
1

I'm a little late to the party BUT I was a member of a pregnancy sub until recently. I posted a question relating to the fact that now that I'm pregnant, I feel differently about my pet and worried about hygiene etc. Basically worried for the sake of my unborn baby. I was heavily downvoted and bullied by women with one in particular mentioning that she volunteers at a cat shelter cleaning up cat poo. It's literally against medical advice (I am NOT a medical professional but this advice is fairly…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/22 01:34 PM
1

It always boils down to the fact that he's just not that into you hun, sorry. ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/22 09:21 AM
2

In the words of Joey Tribbiani, the line is a dot to you.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/22 07:05 PM
1

Thanks, it is! X
/r/RedPillWives15/02/22 07:02 PM
1

Thanks! :) hope you've been well. X
/r/RedPillWives15/02/22 07:02 PM
1

Men like to think they rock our world. They will always wonder if someone else rocked our world better than them. Its pure ego.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 10:08 AM
8

I recently found out I'm pregnant and I'm so excited for a new chapter in my life but also sooo nervous.
/r/RedPillWives13/02/22 09:38 AM
1

Mrs England. So far so good.
/r/RedPillWives13/02/22 06:46 AM
2

IMO it's either rich, spoiled girls or shy Plain Janes.
/r/RedPillWives09/02/22 05:40 PM
5

Hahahahaha. 😂👌
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/22 05:57 AM
6

I like you. IMO this is reaaaaaching so far, it's a joke. Like if the looks of random women are affecting you to that extent, you may need professional help.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/22 05:48 AM
1

Sorry to hear that. Take care!!
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/22 06:01 AM
3

Yes this! Gosh he sounds pretty great, OP!
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/22 05:49 AM
3

Therefore, your situation isn't the same. I will say it does sound like it worked out great for you but I would say you two are the exception, not the rule. I would be wary of advising young women to put their entire life on hold and serve someone else, without a ring or even an indication that one is coming. Not everyone will treat them as honorably as you treat yours.. You give most people an inch and they take a mile...
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/22 04:53 PM
1

Did she do this after you literally told her you didn't want her? Was she employed by your Co and receiving a salary or otherwise making money with you? Were you giving her money? Was she married to you / engaged / did you tell her it would lead to that? How old were both of you? What year was this?
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/22 04:42 PM
3

Gtfo with that. You mentioned a part time job so she can pay bills. How can she do that and be a full time homemaker? What you are looking for is a doormat, not a wife. 100% support and zero maintenance. 😂😂😂😂Best of luck with that.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/22 04:15 PM
7

Yes let's just throw any shred of dignity left, straight out the window. 🤢
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/22 02:27 PM
29

It sounds like a new version of "it's not you, it's me." I would leave it. He knows how to contact you, should he want to. If you reach out to him you're basically telling him you have very little self respect and dignity and he will remember that.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/22 09:49 AM
2

Wow. That's crazy. Thanks for sharing!
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/22 11:45 AM
6

Have you looked at Anna Bey's stuff on YT? Worth a look if you haven't. Also keep in mind cold approaching 4 women would be a bit more intimidating than approaching 2. It might work against you if there's more of you.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/22 06:07 PM
12

None of that was constructive darling, more like a deranged rant. You don't even know how to use the word "literally." I'm good, thanks, pass.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/22 03:41 PM
15

Aww did I make you angry?
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/22 03:29 PM
22

I never said it had to be monetary. Hence I used the word "what" and not "how much". There are women out there who will give him those things and split everything half way. Men that you barely know are not your ATM machine. Also if you're 3 years older than him, can we really say he's getting your "youth"?
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/22 03:16 PM
11

This is so sweet. :)
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/22 02:42 PM
15

Agreed!! If he's making substantially more and wants to hang out at 5* restaurants every week then thats a different discussion altogether. Assuming you're not in the above situation, I don't think it's horrible if every once in a while we pick up the tab? Say you know he had a bad week or he's tired or stressed or he got you a really nice gift or sthn.. I don't think there's anything wrong in the occasional treat. He's a person too, not just a man.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/22 02:02 PM
70

In that case hear him out, he hasn't even said anything about 50/50 yet. He might surprise you and mention something totally different. Don't get into the habit of assuming his intentions. Edited to add that I've just seen your post history.. Are you still dating a 20 year old? Guuuurl come on, does he even have an income? If you want someone to pay for your stuff, 20 year old are not the way to go unless he's a trust fund kid.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/22 01:57 PM
116

I think it's lovely for a man to pay in the beginning of a relationship. 6 months in though and I'd definitely be asking what he's getting in return? Do you occasionally pick up the tab for a couple of drinks / coffee / ice cream? Have you cooked or baked anything for him? He may not need 50/50 but 100/0 may be unfair to him. Are you putting in effort to contribute in other areas? You could technically dump him tomorrow so I can understand why he'd be hesitant to pay every tab always.... 50/50 c…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/22 01:49 PM
1

That's true. 😅
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/22 08:13 AM
3

Thanks, I thought so too. I'm not gonna feed you BS. I guess they disagree.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/22 03:49 PM
10

Does he know the other girl is taken? That would put me right off him.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/22 10:51 AM
7

Same. I lost too many female friends simply explaining that no, his phone didn't die, he's not going through tough times, hes just not that into you. Apparently I'm not supposed to point out the obvious truth. 🤔 If you ask me my opinion I will give it.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/22 07:05 AM
4

I have noticed this too, with myself. I always said I didn't want kids and always got a response along the lines of "one day you'll meet a guy and that will change." And it did!! :)
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/22 06:59 AM
11

I have the same issue albeit after 6 years lol. I agree that it's probably not your looks. He's probably just more familiar with you so it's not longer that exciting. That's natural. Could you maybe say something along the lines of "us ladies like to be reminded regularly that our man is into us"? It's possible he assumes you just "know" he's attracted to you but us ladies need some fresh reminders. :) He's probably just comfortable. Edited to add that I'm looking forward to other replies partic…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/22 04:54 PM
2

A home wrecker that doesn't want to work... Are you real?!?!
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/22 12:50 PM
2

Woman (33) should stop wrecking the home of married man (52). There, I fixed it.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/22 12:48 PM
7

There will always be someone hotter. I think Emily Rata is like the hottest person ever to exist but I am sure there are hotter women out there. He doesn't have to think I am the most attractive women to ever walk planet earth (if he did, he'd probably be blind / delusional, coz I'm not) he just needs to be 1) attracted to me and 2) unwilling to act on his attraction to others. Similarly, I know there are men more attractive than mine. Am I interested? Does it matter? Obviously not. I am happy i…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/22 04:19 PM
2

Can't beat a good list! 😂📃
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/22 01:07 PM
1

Great idea :)
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/22 01:07 PM
37

I don't get the point if you've already slept with him. Seems like you're just adding stress onto the relationship unnecessarily. I think the waiting for marriage ship has sailed...
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/22 01:05 PM
5

I don't think anyone is entitled to anything in this life. If you want something you go get it / make it happen. I do think when you get married there's an understanding that you will be having regular sex. But, as they say in RP spaces, attraction cannot be negotiated. So, if Beckys husband had gained a ton of weight, stopped grooming for her and trying to attract her, stopped doing nice things for her, stopped being as hygienic as he was when he met her, and sits around the house in tattered c…
/r/RedPillWives23/01/22 09:06 AM
1

That's so cute. :)
/r/RedPillWives22/01/22 09:49 AM
3

Lol I did a bit of a double take there.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/22 09:47 AM
10

I felt largely the same for most of my life. Till my now husband pointed out I was operating from a perspective of "what I didn't want" out of life. My baseline was "I don't want this, I don't want that," which led to a conversation similar to the famous "What do you want" scene out of the Notebook lol. I didn't even know. I just knew what I didn't want, which is not healthy. You're not setting yourself up for happiness with that mentality. Dont operate from a place of fear and negativity. You m…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/22 09:38 AM
18

Same. Mine was a SAHM and I spent the first few decades of my life avoiding that role at all costs. Till I realized there are other ways of doing it.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/22 09:29 AM
3

Oh honey you're 18. You will meet so many wonderful men throughout your life. If you're worried he doesn't want you, he probably doesn't. That's OK though, because OF COURSE you will find someone else. You are 18 for goodness sake. Work on being the best version of yourself and things tend to fall into place. Don't put a random guy before your own needs at your age.
/r/RedPillWives21/01/22 08:55 AM
21

Honestly if people are snarky, I would just do it right back. "What do i do all day? Anything my heart desires. Do you enjoy sitting in a cubicle for 8 hours a day?"
/r/RedPillWives21/01/22 08:13 AM
8

I mean, you handle it according to how you feel about it. Has he ever had a same sex experience? I ask because if not, then it may be harder to fight the temptation vs cheating with another woman. He's watched porn and likes big ones... I think that's a pretty huge (sorry!) thing for someone who has so far presented as straight, to admit... I would be very worried about him having an itch he's never scratched before. Also how you would feel if he's hanging out with his male friends alone, at nig…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/22 05:04 PM
1

Great idea! Thank you! He pulled out all the stops for my bday though 2 months before V-Day, so I don't want him to feel like he "has to" do the same for every holiday etc. I feel bad receiving sometimes.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/22 12:31 PM
3

That last part is extremely true IMO
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/22 04:44 PM
2

It's NEVER different hun. Listen to us older ladies lol.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/22 02:26 PM
1

Yes it's very true. We regularly sit together while he plays a video game and I read / watch terrible TV. It's nice. :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/22 02:11 PM
4

Word on the streets is that she's spamming random subs asking people what happened to her.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/22 05:22 PM
3

Yey, sounds fab, all the best. :) xo
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/22 03:58 PM
9

Love this. I would add financial investment, too.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/22 12:47 PM
7

I think church / older guys would be your best bet personally. Xx
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/22 11:02 AM
10

"these guys" are probably not her cup of tea either to be fair.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/22 11:01 AM
51

That's so sweet, I'm happy for you, but please keep in mind you're both still very young and things may change. Make sure you've got a back up and your own funds in case things go south. Always have a Plan B.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/22 07:26 AM
14

I remember your previous posts and while I don't like to advocate for divorce, I will say that I am extremely happy for you and hope you find happiness. ❤️ I was pretty horrified for you. I think given that you had always felt this way, it makes sense for you to stick to your principles. On the other hand I don't know to what extent guys will wait around. Maybe some of the men around here can chip in on that. Wishing you all the best. 💕
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/22 07:18 AM
21

So true.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/22 01:32 PM
31

My husband is the first man I dated long term that paid for more or less everything, especially in the start. I will say though that I started dating him at 24 and I was in a two year relationship before that, so I've been out of the market for almost 10 years between my husband and ex. Not sure what it's like out there now. The joke is on us though, we asked for this. Lol. Edited to add that I was such a feminist when I met him that when he tried to help me financially in the start, I took it h…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/22 08:08 AM
5

He might give you the TLC on the date. Essentially he's saying "pick anywhere you want" which sounds like a sweet deal to me.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/22 09:12 AM
11

I totally get that but a CEO of a start up may not have the time to plan dates if he's trying to get a whole business off the ground. This could also be an indication of what he'll be like in a relationship / marriage. Just depends on what kind of man you're looking for. It at least seems like he's going to try work around YOUR schedule, which is nice. I will say that most guys, once you settle in relationships, don't really do much date planning. It's kind of overrated anw. I'm sure there are m…
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/22 08:55 AM
18

Sounds like a busy man trying to be considerate to me.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/22 08:43 AM
7

His face when I do nice things is all the reward I need. Do something really sweet for him and see his response then come tell me it's not worth it. The point is to create and maintain a loving relationship and this is one of the ways you can do that. I would also suggest looking into the 5 love languages. It sound like acts of service may be high up for him. And just a kind reminder, there are women out there who will happily fix his lunch. He's often asked me "what would I do without you" and …
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/22 12:11 PM
1

👏👏👏
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/22 10:51 AM
1

I've had some more time to think about it.... If he says something that you don't like, or makes a decision you don't like... What is the worst that could happen? Is it actually serious, or are you just moaning and complaining for no real reason? A while ago I was finding myself just correcting him or contradicting him because I thought I knew better or assumed that he didn't know any better. He ended up proving me wrong most of the time and the rest of the time, it was so unimportant and pointl…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/22 04:52 PM
6

You're doing it with an expectation. Just do it. Read Laura Doyle, FW, all that. Praise him a lot. Get his chest puffed out daily. Works for me.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/22 02:05 PM
3

Oops, my bad. ❤️ You live and you learn though.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/22 01:25 PM
3

It's never too late!! :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/22 01:23 PM
25

You could just STFU and avoid arguments. You're waiting for him to become a whole other person which isn't gonna happen unless HE wants to. He IS the man, whether or not he's the poster boy for masculinity, so actually YOU'RE the one at fault for continuing to harp on. Wonderful things happened in my relationship when I learnt the true meaning of STFU.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/22 09:38 AM
1

Welcome. I'd love to hear how it goes, I definitely related to your comment!
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/22 08:13 AM
2

Like the others said, it depends how we define that. I out earn my husband but he comes with some family wealth that I don't, he's masculine and attractive, and my absolute favourite person in the world. He helps with chores, knows to pick up flowers once in a blue moon, and is looking forward to being a dad. I can't ask for better. ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/22 06:02 AM
2

Yes. Men are visual.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/22 05:21 AM
2

Perhaps something along the lines of "babe you do sooo much for me and our household, I want you to sit back and let me handle things in the home. I may not be as" trained" as you but I'm determined to learn and need the space to do so, as well as your PATIENCE if/when I make a mistake on our journey. " Best of luck :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/22 04:47 PM
4

The bank. JK.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/22 03:41 PM
3

I agree with this. It used to take me forever to clean, because I let it get messy. I can do the whole flat in 2 hours now because my dishes are done, my laundry isn't crazy and I vacuum every 2nd day. Granted its only a two bedroom flat but it's quite spacious.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/22 01:00 PM
3

Same, I had a lovely Saturday at home with Anna Karenina and my home tasks. It was bliss. 😍💐🏡
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/22 12:58 PM
1

Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/22 12:05 PM
3

We had this issue at the start of the relationship and I was honest about it. Tell him you think it's good that he's so ontop of everything but you like to also help and feel like you're contributing. Find ways to learn new skills and develop your existing ones. In RP language can he get out of his feminine so that you can be in yours?
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/22 12:03 PM
2

We're not used to rejection, at all, so it's very confusing when it does happen.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/22 03:34 PM
3

How often does everyone clean their oven, and how do you clean it ie what products?
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/22 08:13 AM
2

Eek. No judgement on your job, a bag is a bag, but I think you are signing yourself up for a Danielle & Garrick situation from Seeking Sister Wife. That was painful to WATCH, never mind live. I can't imagine being in that position. What if the girl(s) he chooses is/are legit WAY hotter than you?
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/22 02:40 PM
1

Just in time for the weekend 🎉🎊 Cup of tea and an audiobook tonight sounds perfect.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/22 02:26 PM
3

🤣
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/22 09:22 AM
5

Hahaha. I am def a plain Jane and this was hilarious and true.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/22 08:27 AM
1

Maybe start a todo list and only have one thing at a time, then add another and so on. Rather than having a todo list with 20 different things for one day which would definitely be overwhelming.
/r/RedPillWives07/01/22 08:20 AM
6

🤣
/r/RedPillWives07/01/22 08:13 AM
2

I love this. Great suggestions.
/r/RedPillWives07/01/22 08:12 AM
1

Wuthering Heights
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/22 07:06 AM
1

Thank you. ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/22 07:04 AM
2

No advice to give but I'm married and still feel this way. I am likely ageing like milk while hubby ages like wine and I have to constantly think about my looks and feminity multiple times a day while he can just... exist. Its hard.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/22 02:46 PM
5

What the fuck.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/22 11:03 AM
14

Is this a joke🤔
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/22 06:07 AM
1

Wow I've literally been thinking about giving this book another go. I tried to read it years ago but it's just so huge.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/22 07:59 AM
9

My husband and I have an in joke where if he's stressing me out / not doing his share of the Chores, I remind him he's effectively giving his own wife wrinkles. :) that seems to work for me.
/r/RedPillWives31/12/21 02:11 PM
7

Yup. Its definitely better than giving out for free in the name of liberation/empowerment. I'm good thanks. 🤣
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/21 07:10 AM
5

Fully agree. There's a saying in these parts "no commitment no sex" but I like to switch it up to "no investment no sex."
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/21 06:49 AM
2

I would say those ladies won their guys over with their RMV, not SMV. If you're wondering about increasing your SMV you can look into looksmaxxing etc. For RMV, If you go to the search bar and type girl game I think you will find some interesting posts.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/21 06:23 AM
5

This right here. I'm not sure how being the bread winner and also having babies would work and I would be very worried for her if I was her older sister / mum. I can't help but feel she'd be tying herself to a liability since she may end up taking care of HIM, both financially and otherwise, since he's quite a bit older. Idk OP, he'd have to be petty fucking amazing. Is he willing to be a stay at home dad?
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/21 07:10 AM
-2

Her question wasn't about feelz. Also I would never be in that situation.
/r/RedPillWives27/12/21 06:45 AM
-2

I mean it's not your kid so letting him lead on parenting his own kid should be a no-brainer.
/r/RedPillWives26/12/21 07:28 AM
18

😂 Maybe Reddit was trying to tell me something. X
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/21 09:33 AM
10

Honestly I don't even remember why that's my username, pretty sure it was generated by Reddit. No, I am not a bookkeeper. 🤣
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/21 09:29 AM
3

Thanks, there still seems to be an awful lot of juggling. 😢 I can do the minimalist life but I wonder if any kids I may have would agree, you know?
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/21 08:25 AM
6

Thanks, I think so too but I think for me that would mean changing industry altogether, eek. Are you working part time and also raising children?
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/21 08:24 AM
11

What about you gives men the impression that you will settle for plate status?
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/21 11:50 AM
2

Thanks, that's a good point. I've noticed that this reaction of mine is mostly a winter thing so I've been keeping the heat on at a higher temperature. I'm not so willing to get busy if I'm already cold while fully dressed. 😂❄️
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/21 08:11 AM
1

Try to look at your period of unemployment as a blessing. You can use that time to develop skills you couldn't spend time on before. Now is the time to do all the things! My period of unemployment lasted 4 months in 2020 and it was amazing. I bought myself my first apron and turned into a little Stepford Wife for a while. 😅😍
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/21 07:51 AM
1

Have my morning coffee in my favourite mug on the balcony, with my cat. Do hair & make up (I got new pallets & that motivates me to do make up daily). Spent time with my husband. Eat some good food. I'm a big foodie despite my petite frame so a bite of something delicious puts me in a great mood. Do something nice for someone else.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/21 07:47 AM
2

All the best. You'll have a whole new pool of men to select from soon, don't sweat it. ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/21 05:03 PM
1

We're going through it too. Try to anticipate his needs and silently cater for him. He's deep in his man cave right now. Just knowing you're there but not having to "worry" about you if that makes sense. Be his sympathetic soft place. ♥️ All the best.
/r/RedPillWives23/12/21 04:56 PM
2

You could be honest and say "listen, id definitely be up for like a real date but hanging out at urs isn't a date. :) " No arguments, no moaning, just facts, presented sweetly. And see what he says. Sorry if I'm harsh but 30 year old men KNOW what we expect. Steve Harvey has some good stuff on this, check it out.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/21 04:48 PM
4

His "reason" is irrelevant and likely made up. Don't fall for BS girl. He knew his situation and fucked it.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/21 04:44 PM
3

Why bother at all? A man knows what a first date with someone he respects SHOULD look like. All he did was invite you round. He's literally telling you he doesn't think you're worth a real date. How old are you two? I genuinely would not bother. No investment no tits.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/21 04:35 PM
3

First date at his? Ew. That's like the lowest effort possible. Neeeeext.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/21 04:32 PM
11

I definitely don't think this was irrational and I commend your husband for keeping you both safe. Don't forget to thank him for making the difficult decision and most importantly, for sticking to it after the pushback. :)
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/21 04:27 PM
1

Ugh i can't wait to get off work and read all the comments to this. 😍😁❤️ I cleaned my flat from top to bottom yesterday and I'm feeling very Martha Stewart. 😁😍🌟
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/21 07:44 AM
7

"Breaking up just to be back together within a day sent the message that you would put up with anything." Very true. What you allow is what will continue. Also like I stopped doing that after HS. If you're out, you're out for a reason.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/21 06:33 PM
18

I think the answer to this is very simple and RP. Men are naturally the hunters. If he's not hunting you, then that should tell you everything you need to know.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/21 06:13 PM
2

I can't get through that wall of text. I personally wouldn't date a younger man. We already age faster as it is, I don't think it's a smart move for a woman to make.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/21 07:28 AM
9

Jack off to your insta bitches 😂😂😂
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/21 03:36 PM
13

I don't think this is necessarily a RPW problem. IMO this is the Cool Girl problem referred to in Gone Girl. She's trying to act like she's "one of the guys" and it doesn't bother her, when clearly it does. I agree with everything else you said though. 👍
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/21 03:33 PM
1

I must say, I really like your comments. I've watched enough JP to know that if I'm ever blessed with a son, he will not be coddled all his life. I want to raise a man, not a man child. You and your husband seem to have it figured out. :)
/r/RedPillWives14/12/21 08:42 AM
3

Have you pointed out the benefits of being married? When the pandemic hit and my now husband realised (ahem) that if anything happened to one of us, we're not married so we probably couldn't visit each other in hospital / emergency situations or if the worst happened, I'd just be on my own... That's when he kinda realised that it's probably beneficial to us and my safety and security, if we were married. Especially if we have children. Does he want a wife or a baby momma? 🤔
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/21 07:22 AM
1

You know nothing about her.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/21 07:16 AM
1

To be fair my guy said the same thing but still put a ring on it. I don't necessarily blame men for being scared of getting married with some of the horror movies we hear lately. But I think it's very important that he said he's willing to do it if you want to do it. I don't think this is necessarily a deal breaker. I think it's very possible that he will come around. In this instance though I would be VERY careful about giving husband benefits. I would give little snippets of what life would be…
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/21 07:11 AM
1

Aww 💕 that's lovely.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/21 06:13 AM
4

Useless?! How does he figure that lol?
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/21 05:55 AM
3

Amen!!!
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/21 05:54 AM
7

Welcome. The way I look at it, we don't give them the world. They give us the world and we make it pretty for them. Fill it with love, good food and babies. :) So I wouldn't worry too much. As long as you remember and make a fuss over him, I think you'll be fine.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/21 03:22 PM
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A high end bottle of whisky, fancy glasses, a home cooked meal and baked goods? If he in any way knows your financial situation I would say he will be MORE than happy. Get yourself some cute lingerie and call it a night.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/21 03:14 PM
8

I wholeheartedly disagree with nagging for household chores. I get annoyed from time to time as well but 99% of the time I chose to ignore it. Do I want a clean house, or a happy relationship? I feel as women we often have to chose, and I know which I would prefer. OK so he forgets to pick up his clothes - I find my man's socks outside sometimes, don't ask, idk, and I'm not sure he knows either half the time. 😂🤣😅 We joke about it though, it's just fucking socks. Does he have NO other redeeming q…
/r/RedPillWives13/12/21 02:29 PM
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Anyone would be insecure and jealous if they're with you. How could he not be based on what you've just typed? You don't think he picks up ur shitty vibes? You're not all that, relax. Edited hours later to point out that this shit is how guys find TRP/mgtow and all that. Like, the audacity girl. Hoping he finds someone sweet to love him.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/21 06:58 AM
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Being married would and should repel other men. That's kind of the whole point. Please don't marry him if this is how you feel. He deserves someone who thinks highly of him and you clearly don't.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/21 05:02 AM
0

You mad?
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/21 03:44 PM
1

Not at all.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/21 08:47 AM
1

I don't know that there's like a secret way to swallowing it. It is what it is. You can either swallow it and adapt or spend your time moaning about how hard it is. Which wil you choose?
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/21 08:17 AM
5

Lol I love that you've included Kim & Kanye. 😂😂😂
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/21 06:52 AM
1

Wow that's so interesting! I assume you're in Japan? Super cool. Well done on winning 🥇👌👏
/r/RedPillWives11/12/21 07:08 AM
11

I am thankful that its Saturday and I can do whatever my heart desires. I'm thankful that I am healthy, everyone around me is healthy. Im thankful that my mum and sis that I haven't seen since August (my wedding) will be flying in soon for the holidays. I can't wait to visit my parents house and both my parents and all my siblings will be there, just like the good old days. ❤️💕
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/21 06:29 AM
1

Yes I love that idea.
/r/RedPillWives09/12/21 05:39 PM
2

If you're doing a gift card I'd do it for some pampering for her. Sometimes picking up the phone and genuinely asking if/how you can help really means the world.
/r/RedPillWives09/12/21 03:36 PM
3

You don't.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/21 12:23 PM
7

There's literally a whole chapter in FW about girlishness, so no surprise there regarding the last part of your post. Can I get an invite to your next blanket fort, I'm 30 but gosh that sounds delightful. 🤣 I had a very similar discussion with my man a few times in the last years and I also was doing work + Netflix. Somehow (really, I don't know how, I used to be so lazy) my main hobby is homemaking now apart from taking care of my appearance. I've got my planners, and I'm always looking for way…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/21 12:17 PM
1

Hmm interesting. I suppose they do hate "talks" dont they 🤣
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/21 07:57 AM
2

Every time I doubt my husband, he proves me wrong. Yet for some reason I still do it every now and then, mostly when I'm stressed about other things. Is it a shit test? Idk. I am so happy to have him in my life & need to stop doing that.
/r/RedPillWives09/12/21 07:34 AM
2

How are the exams going? What are you studying? I remember getting so stressed during finals I could barely sleep. 😅
/r/RedPillWives09/12/21 07:07 AM
1

"Men don't like telling other grownups what to do, especially their wives. Almost like if he does, the woman wins in some way?" Interesting comment, care to elaborate?
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 04:30 PM
5

I had really bad mood swings on BC. Like, terrible. When I mentioned it to my gyno she acted like it was all in my head, too. Hope you get it fixed. I've never looked back since ditching it.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 04:26 PM
1

Awww congrats on the little one. Hope you have a fantastic first Xmas together, how exciting :) I will definitely keep an eye out for a couple nice pieces :)
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 03:17 PM
4

I mean, I can ask you why you couldn't figure out that people don't like the light switched flicked on as they're asleep, without him having to specifically tell you. It's kinda obvious, no? Not only is he barely able to get decent sleep in his own home but now he's in trouble because the way he expressed it wasn't your preferred way?
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 06:13 AM
2

That's a great idea. I'm scared I'm gonna end up with a load of crappy decorations as I'm on a budget. Maybe buying a few nicer ones per year is the way to go! Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/21 08:17 AM
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I struggled being second priority to video games for a long time until someone on Reddit pointed out that I can try offer something better for him to do. Not saying you're not doing that already but it's definitely something to consider. What's the alternative? Maybe offer to have some drinks and play a board game with him? Bonus points if it's naughty? 😂😜😁
/r/RedPillWives07/12/21 07:28 AM
1

Yum that sounds delish ill try it tonight after work!
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/21 06:11 AM
4

I'm definitely interested in the soup recipes! Your kitchen sounds super organised and cozy. 💕
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/21 04:57 PM
4

Does anyone here decorate for the holidays, despite not having any children? I love decorations but I feel like it's mostly for kids and would be a bit of a waste of money.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/21 04:54 PM
1

No problem at all, you've certainly helped me many times. :) I am happy to hear that at least you've got some reassurance it's not you though, if that makes sense. I'm glad to hear you guys had a nice week :) xox
/r/RedPillWives06/12/21 04:33 PM
3

Hmm. What if instead of trying to find a solution yourself, you said something along the lines of "I loved seeing you so relaxed and really present with me and the kids. We all had so much fun and I feel like it did wonders for us as a couple too . Is there something that we can do together as a team OR that I can personally do, that will help you be that relaxed more often?" with a big smile and batting your eyelids a bit? :) Kind of like bringing him your problem rather than the solution but y…
/r/RedPillWives06/12/21 04:26 PM
3

Maybe try doing the deep cleaning during one day of the week (say Friday) so he comes home and doesn't have to do that? Could you move one of your days from the weekend to during the week, so you have one day on the weekend that you can be together with the kids? Xox
/r/RedPillWives06/12/21 02:38 PM
3

💕❤️ Such a lovely comment and so so true. Its been a roller-coaster!
/r/RedPillWives06/12/21 02:34 PM
3

Bless those sweet husbands and their subtle hints... 💕
/r/RedPillWives06/12/21 02:29 PM
4

I pour some drops of essential oils in a small pot of water and let that simmer away.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/21 05:30 AM
12

I realised my opinion is genuinely irrelevant. None of that material is for me to understand or judge. I am not their target audience and frankly my dear, they don't give a shit. So I mind my business.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/21 12:34 PM
0

I don't disagree hence I used the word "always."
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/21 12:14 PM
1

Yey that looks great actually, thanks! Both Xmas and my 30th are this month and I'm totally surprised at what I want. A homemaking "manual" type thing, an Emma Bridgewater mug (with the pink hearts 💕) and some pearls. I think my age is showing. 🤔😂😜 Edited to add that I've just realised it's 800 pages and safe to say, I'm already obsessed 😊👍
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/21 11:45 AM
1

Thanks, read that, don't think it's got much homemaking information though.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/21 11:12 AM
1

Love your username. :)
/r/RedPillWives05/12/21 10:23 AM
1

Damn, I love a good Dyson. I've got a Roomba but Dyson is just... Yeah...
/r/RedPillWives05/12/21 10:23 AM
3

Best of luck in your finals!!
/r/RedPillWives05/12/21 10:22 AM
2

Hmm I like that, il give it a shot, thanks. 😘👍😊
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/21 09:50 AM
4

So what's your solution?
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/21 11:15 AM
4

I would still love some additional info as to what is so kinky. Are we talking like gross things like a foot or scat fetish? BDSM? Role playing? Would anything be illegal? It sounds like you're very incompatible tbh. You say you've discussed it but have you told him that it basically goes one out of two ways and neither of those are fun for you? Maybe you can come to a compromise that one time it's fairly vanilla and romantic and the next time it's a bit kinkier? That way you're both satisfied, …
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/21 10:00 AM
13

Men don't always want romantic sex though. That's for women. A 23 year old man wants to fuck.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/21 09:54 AM
5

I've got a question but it may not be so simple. I enjoy sex but I hate when the initiation is "wanna fuck" or anything along those lines. Please help. I've explained it to him in nice sweet ways but he will keep doing it. "I'm horny." "I want sex." It basically shuts down and locks itself up when I hear that. Anyone else? Any tips? It feels like I'm providing a service rather than having sex with my husband when he says that.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/21 08:32 AM
1

Ugh I'm trying my hardest with mine but he just gets uncomfortable. Any specific video you recommend?
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/21 08:16 AM
2

I'm surprised that nobody pointed out that the friends you have at 18 aren't gonna be around forever. Pretty soon everyone is gonna be off doing their own thing.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/21 08:08 AM
1

I see - I suppose there's light and dark in all of us. Sorry to hear about what you've gone through, I've seen you around here but had no idea. Regarding your question. The things you mention are interests and preferences, not your Life Purpose. Very big difference.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/21 02:46 PM
4

Hey girl, I totally, 100000% feel you. I don't have much to add because it's fucking depressing but feel free to DM me.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/21 05:30 PM
22

Pointing and laughing? You should try to understand that if you're literally raised a feminist (which arguably a large portion of the west is raised on similar values to feminism even if they don't call it as such) then that's literally all you know. The whole entire world is telling you that Path A is the correct path. You buckle down in school and ace all your exams, get into a good uni, work your ass off some more, graduate and work hard yet again. Only for biology to come knocking. These wom…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/21 04:48 PM
1

This!! Sounds like I'm not too far off either. What's borax though and why do we need it for laundry? Isn't it quite toxic?
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/21 06:03 AM
2

Yey!! Cant wait.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/21 05:47 AM
9

I'm confused, has he ignored you for a week straight?
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/21 12:29 PM
1

🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 09:43 AM
1

I'm going to assume that you're familiar with and have read the surrendered wife. I've also been thinking of getting the proper care and feeding of husbands but I've stopped myself so far due to the ridiculous title (it sounds like we're caring for a pet.) What about listening instead of reading? I like to put Daily Connoisseur in the background even if it's a random video I don't care about simply because she speaks so calmly, her background music is so relaxing and she's quite a lady in genera…
/r/RedPillWives29/11/21 08:28 AM
4

Wow, can I just say that I am impressed that he actually went to therapy and was able to take responsibility? Good for both of you.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/21 08:16 AM
1

Same. I would think twice about cutting people out. I was very strict with that and now at 30, I barely have anyone in my life that I'm not married or related to.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/21 08:05 AM
1

Can you name some of your favourites? I'm binging on old movies lately. :)
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/21 08:00 AM
2

This reminds me of a quote I love "the castle is not more important than the king that resides therein." or something along those lines.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/21 01:49 PM
3

Welcome. Sure but having children surely takes lots of your time too, it's basically a 24/7 job, no? Don't be ashamed to just say "I can't."
/r/RedPillWives24/11/21 06:50 AM
2

Honestly I think he saw the difference in my mood. The place was spotless but I was so tired all the time and he saw that I wasn't well. Then I stopped trying to be so ontop of it and he caught me singing and dancing randomly and commented that I look happy again. That's when it clicked for me. I work full time too so it's just not possible for me to be ontop of everything 24/7 and be relaxed and happy at the same time.
/r/RedPillWives24/11/21 05:53 AM
2

Yes apparently so!! :)
/r/RedPillWives23/11/21 01:56 PM
6

Yes I much prefer doing the grocery shopping myself too! My husband and I have an inside joke that putting pasta on the list and sending him to the store, leads to an infinite supply of pasta. 😂 Putting any kind of tomato product on the list will mean I get a different tomato product. 😂 🤷‍♀️ Division of labour according to our strengths is definitely the way to go.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/21 01:02 PM
14

This is actually something I've been wondering myself, especially with regards to cooking and grocery shopping. Hubby will often make suggestions or give his opinion on these two matters but it's something he genuinely knows less than me about. While I'm happy to take his lead, I feel like I'd like him to let me lead in those departments and follow my lead when I say we will do it this way or we need that product. He's a very smart man, don't get me wrong, but if you don't know the difference be…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/21 12:27 PM
3

I don't see an issue with it. Sometimes we'll see someone, regardless of gender, who's stands out, and we might comment on them. I doubt it means he's going to throw me out for this random woman on the street. I am secure with what I offer and I don't feel that acknowledging that so and so is super hot takes away from what I bring to the table. She could be a raging bitch in real life. 🤷‍♀️
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/21 10:08 AM
2

I stopped trying to run the household as immaculately as possible and.. It's strengthened my relationship? Who would have thought. 🤔😁
/r/RedPillWives22/11/21 05:38 PM
0

Exactly... This sub has some weird ideas about money lol.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/21 05:36 PM
1

The news really does a number on me too. Ignorance is indeed bliss. 💕 Thank you for some lovely ideas.
/r/RedPillWives18/11/21 11:17 AM
1

What's bullet journaling? Sounds fun. I'm a sucker for nice stationary. :)
/r/RedPillWives18/11/21 11:14 AM
2

I agree with this. Perhaps he is feeling burnt out with comforting you while he also going through it himself. He probably just wants mutual comfort, like we're a team and we will come out of this together.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/21 10:53 AM
2

I could have written this myself. Honestly I think this is one time you're allowed to nag. It's a very serious matter and if he wants to lead and for you to be submissive... He actually needs to lead and he dominant. I think every now and then calling them out on their BS in healthy. You're not there to pat him on the back and tell him he's awesome 24/7, you're not his mother.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/21 06:22 AM
1

That's a great question and the answer is literally nothing right now... Can you give me examples of something that fills you?
/r/RedPillWives17/11/21 01:40 PM
2

I literally have the exact same problem...
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/21 01:39 PM
2

No i haven't but we've taken the test. What does it mention, if you don't mind sharing? :)
/r/RedPillWives15/11/21 05:56 PM
4

I do apologise straight away because literally it comes out of my mouth and I'm shocked at my own behaviour immediately. What gets me the most of your comment is that I'm degrading his own opinion of himself. I can LITERALLY see it happening when I do that. How horrible, he deserves so much better. 😥 Thank you so much for your help, you have no idea how much I needed this today and this week in general. You're a sweetie. ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/21 03:44 PM
2

Hey, I'm really struggling hard right now with that. I say the thing and then I realise fuck, why did I say that? How do you make yourself so "present" that you catch yourself before you say the thing? 😥
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/21 03:29 PM
2

Thank you for your comment, which is absolutely right. I'm struggling to see the positive right now.
/r/RedPillWives15/11/21 07:33 AM
2

I'm starting to struggle to see the point in my self improvement. I have proven to myself that I can be domestic, and rock it, too. I can take extra care of myself. Of my husband. Of my home. I can have an extremely happy husband, if I come home from work and also work in the kitchen. I felt great, realising that I can work full time and be Martha freaking Stewart in the evenings and weekends. Why though?! What happens when you do all that and your husband doesn't wanna lift a finger to improve …
/r/RedPillWives14/11/21 09:02 AM
3

Intimissimi is great.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/21 08:29 AM
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I'm sure he's great but you listed literal job titles for the things you do.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/21 04:02 PM
4

You carve that time out yourself and set boundaries. Learn to say "nope, can't."
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/21 03:39 PM
2

It's more than enough honey we are not work horses or super women.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/21 03:23 PM
1

He may have got a bit bored, I don't think guys are as willing to talk about shopping as we are. 😅 Keep it short and sweet.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/21 03:21 PM
1

Interesting!
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/21 12:46 PM
0

Are you on her payroll? Chill.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/21 12:45 PM
9

Well damn!
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/21 02:54 PM
1

Amazing!
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/21 04:31 PM
12

Great question! We see eye to eye on a lot of things plus we both have our separate things we handle so our compromises aren't really painful etc. One thing I can say was a compromise is that I wanted a dog and he wanted no pets at all, so we got a cat because it's less of a hassle than a dog but still a pet that I can cuddle. 😂😻
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/21 04:29 PM
2

I like to think of happiness as something you go looking for. Go to your favourite park and feed the ducks, go for a hike, go volunteer at a dog shelter.. Let yourself feel your emotions while you're there. :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/21 05:53 AM
3

I tried to start the strong curves thing but the obsession with the butt is a bit off putting.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/21 11:12 AM
2

Funny you should say that, I went to a class a few months back and the instructor acted like my being there was an inconvenience because I was the only beginner. Safe to say I never went back!
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/21 10:16 AM
3

Nice! I don't have much of a foundation to start with. 😅
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/21 08:10 AM
2

Thank you for your comment, that's very encouraging!
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/21 08:08 AM
3

Wow that's great thanks for sharing. How long did it take for you to see results?
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/21 08:06 AM
1

I love the bralet idea! Cute AND practical! 💕🤣
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/21 09:10 AM
1

I used to struggle with anxiety and because my now husband didn't really understand it, he would say something similar like "take control of it" when really, once you're in that headspace, there is no "control." It's gone lol. The anxiety is in control and you're just trying to come out the other side of it in one piece. I sat him down and explained its like saying to someone who's got food poisoning, for example, to take control. It just doesn't work that way and no amount of "encouraging words…
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/21 09:01 AM
6

This is what worked for me under similar circumstances: "I love that you refer to it as ours but the fact of the matter is that its not really mine and as much as I'd love to feel at home, it's legally not mine and if you passed away tomorrow I'd essentially be on my own. Also how can I feel free to invest my own funds in this property when I have no protection at all." -" if something were to happen to me and I was hospitalised you wouldn't even be able to visit me especially with covid restric…
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/21 01:33 PM
3

None taken at all. Nope, he's the one that goes on and on about saving.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/21 04:17 PM
6

You're so sweet but unfortunately I don't think the issue is my femininity or my submission, these both come naturally to me and always have, I just didn't know what it was exactly lol.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/21 04:16 PM
3

Right?! So why not just do it himself then?! 😭 Thank you so much. ❤️ I really appreciate your response.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/21 03:22 PM
3

Thank you SO much for this. I will definitely check out the Frugal Mom this evening. You know, we can indeed reinforce good behaviour with our feminity, but lack of leadership kills my femininity. I can't do both. I can either be the woman or the man, and he can choose which one he prefers.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/21 03:10 PM
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You are absolutely right. Edited to add that I'm usually the first to bring up the importance of self care, stress really takes it out of me though.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/21 11:51 AM
5

Thanks, I know I'm being resentful and am trying to not be.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/21 11:44 AM
1

Thanks. ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/21 11:41 AM
4

Yes my vagueness isn't being received very well, but you never know who hangs out here so I don't want to dox myself etc, that's the only reason I've not shared that. Thanks, you did help. ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/21 11:40 AM
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He helps with cleaning, I will give him that.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/21 10:40 AM
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Thanks but I work full time, handle all cooking, meal planning, shopping, and contribute to bills and do all deep cleaning all while trying to look my most feminine. I cannot and will not handle anything else, end of, I can literally feel the wrinkles this is giving me.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/21 10:11 AM
2

Nice mix :) Mine is similar (European/Mediterranean). Very cool, thanks for that, I'll be returning to your comment next time I make rice! :)
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/21 08:19 AM
1

Thanks, the cool wife that cooks good food sounds great :) :)
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/21 07:50 AM
1

🤔
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/21 07:10 AM
3

A story as old as time. 😅
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/21 07:05 AM
4

Wow. I felt your pain reading that. 😢 I am so sorry. 💓 I will say a prayer for you. 💕
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/21 07:03 AM
1

Aww that's so sweet. :) My guy must have been raised in a similar way because he's never said no or made a negative comment. 😅 It definitely makes it easier!
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/21 06:39 AM
2

Thank you for taking the time to write all this! I've never seen anyone add butter to rice before?! Is that a US thing? I'm intrigued! 😂
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/21 06:36 AM
1

😢 It's literally one of my favourite ways to contribute so it really bugs me. Thanks, I definitely agree a break is needed.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/21 06:32 AM
3

Edible but just...not quite right! 😂 Thanks, that's a good way to look at it and gave me a laugh :)
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/21 06:29 AM
6

Thanks but I literally managed to screw up bangers & mash yesterday and I can usually do that with my eyes closed. 😂🙈 I think a rest is needed. X
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/21 12:39 PM
1

Me too!
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/21 06:20 AM
3

I absolutely love this. I also gave wife privileges and became a wife, likely because of that. I think it comes down to the usual "what do you bring to the table" - if you're not willing to show that, you probably won't get an invite to the table? 😅
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/21 12:08 PM
2

Could we have this as a regular, recurring thread?
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/21 10:05 AM
1

🤗
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/21 06:48 AM
2

I'm sure you do it for other things too. I wrote a similar post, many years ago, on another forum. I feel you 100%, believe me, been there. But if you really feel so strongly about it, book a consultation. Look around for good Drs and start getting prices etc. I know plenty women who got them and they're delighted with them. There's no shame in the game. Just make sure if you go down the plastic surgery road, you're doing it from a positive mental space if that makes sense. ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/21 06:43 AM
2

Then stop talking to yourself like that. It doesn't fix anything and it just puts you in an awful space, mentally. You're basically bullying yourself, do you realise that? It's one thing to think "I could probably fix this area" and it's a total other thing to rip yourself to shreds, like you have in your post. Start saving up for a boob job if you want but you have to stop this negative self talk NOW. If you start to show signs of ageing, are you going to call yourself an awful leathery hag? I …
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/21 06:31 AM
2

Would you talk to a friend of yours about her body the way you speak to yourself about yours?
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/21 06:16 AM
1

Noone told me either girl. I was encouraged to never get married, if I could avoid it, and just work. I still get angry when I think about it. Can I ask whether your sisters are RP aware? Have you tried to talk to them? Im the eldest and I've tried to make certain comments, especially about either looks or mens nature (positive comments only) but its met with literal disgust. I would love to help but it's not very well received. Edited to add that we're roughly the same age as well and came acro…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/21 05:33 AM
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I think it's important to remember that even the author was not the Ideal Woman or anything like that. It's theory. It's an abstract ideal. Implement what you want, cherry pick to make it fit your life, but don't think it's like a manual or anything.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/21 05:10 AM
7

Ouch
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/21 05:05 AM
1

Let's not get ahead of ourselves with the fine wine now. 😅🍷😘
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/21 09:53 AM
2

We aspire for better than just "sticking" with someone though. That usually happens due to sunk cost fallacy or a sense of obligation. We want passion and ingoing attraction.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/21 09:30 AM
2

That last sentence. 👌Once you really internalise that, things start falling into place, don't they?
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/21 08:43 AM
2

Ah that's not so bad then, covid has definitely lead to some weight gain across the board. What changes are they promising that don't last? Are they in charge of the cooking / shopping / food supply?
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/21 04:10 PM
2

🤣
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/21 03:35 PM
7

I mean this in the nicest way possible but it seems to me that you have some issues around food. It also sounds like it's not necessarily your fault (ie if that's all you've known, it becomes your "normal") but I do think that addressing your feelings around food would need to be the first step. Until that happens everything else is a band aid solution. Edited to add that you should try to avoid statements like "I am weak." No you're not! That is just negative self talk keeping you down and an e…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/21 03:22 PM
5

Most of our personality is shaped from a very young age, this isn't news. Most people don't just "change" unless they themselves want to. He would first have to admit he's got a problem, and desire to change. I find the whole "put on a dress and act girly and he'll be so masculine" to be BP horseshit and insulting to men. Do we think they're THAT simple headed?
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/21 06:15 AM
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I did not suggest leaving him. Look for his positive traits and focus on those. Is being a single mother a better option, whether for you or your kid?
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/21 11:25 AM
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You can't. This is who he is. Any attempt to change him will lead to resentment from both sides.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/21 10:11 AM
2

😂🤣 So many lols. You're the one posting how men are creeps.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/21 05:11 AM
2

Neither are insults hun.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/21 04:57 AM
1

Amen. I was slightly confused at the comments, I thought I'd wandered into a different sub.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/21 05:18 AM
5

OP, do you like this woman? It sounds like you do but you're worried about her red flags. People, like life and everything in it, are not so black and white. Most people and things fall somewhere in the gray category.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/21 04:07 PM
1

Ugh I'd trade the video games for a baby ANY day. 😍 Congratulations!!
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/21 04:35 AM
4

Start with simple recipes ie not many ingredients, no weird fancy techniques, no weird fancy gadgets. Give urself ample time for each recipe ie don't rush. Prepare all your ingredients and measure them out in advance. Make it a hobby, so instead of watching an episode of a series one night, watch a few YT videos on a dish you'd like to make. Buy a cookbook and devote 1 hour a week minimum just flicking through it, reading and noting interesting parts. If something goes wrong don't freak out, sta…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/21 04:30 AM
3

Well damn! 😍 I'm jealous. Will be trying this very soon, thanks for the tip :) xo
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/21 04:11 PM
10

That's very sweet of you to just pop by with kind words. :) Honestly, this community has helped me so much. I don't think I'd be as "wonderful" if it wasn't for the amazing posts and comments here.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/21 04:11 PM
6

Yup. I'm not ashamed to admit that both sides make some excellent points.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/21 02:13 PM
3

Hot oil?! I like that - feel free to send me a link, hook a sis up. 😅
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/21 01:16 PM
8

That's true but I would argue vetting goes both ways! :)
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/21 11:35 AM
3

Exactly!!
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/21 10:35 AM
4

Not in my house! 😅
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/21 08:20 AM
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Well, personally I like to be his soft place. I like to be home, looking cute and available for him, preparing delicious food for him, taking chores out of his lap (he works a physical job) and being a cheerful, smiley presence .
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/21 03:57 PM
1

Indeed.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/21 03:55 PM
1

It's true. We have this vague idea of what we think we want.. Then we get it, and realise that, nope, this isn't it. That's why I wholeheartedly support the manosphere saying that men should just focus on their mission and if the woman wants to tag along, we will.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/21 03:00 PM
2

😂 Short and sweet.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/21 07:45 AM
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No duty sex here, after a long day of physical work, he looks and smells delicious. 😋😁👌
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/21 09:02 AM
3

I agree. As we get older, as well, it's harder to look youthful and girly. Getting into good, feminine habits from a young age will help OP later on.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/21 09:43 AM
3

I think it's a spectrum, personally. It all depends on whether you're happy where you are right now. I suspect, though, that if you were, you wouldn't have posted this.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/21 08:02 AM
3

Great Post! This story reminds me of a story that I think I read in FW about a woman's angry husband being likened to a tiger. I love that story when I read it, check it out if you haven't already. :)
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/21 04:56 AM
3

Consider, though, that the men who are consuming that content, may need to hear it, for whatever reason. We cannot claim to know what men need / want / think better than them. By all accounts if the men consuming that content were tough and able to navigate the dating world, they wouldn't need to consume that content. Perhaps they get distracted by beauty and shiny women (hi Jen) and get their heart broken, because they go through life putting women on a pedestal. I don't think it's bad that the…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/21 02:49 PM
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You are very welcome! That's true that I would (and am, daily) still nice and civil to the delivery boys. But we are the nice and civil gender, are we not? 😉😘
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/21 11:06 AM
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Basically what you're saying is the pill is stuck. I don't like the word ugly. Any woman, unless disfigured etc, that looks after her appearance and looks polished, (IMO) does not look ugly. There are so many things you can do to improve your looks. I find that the guys tend to have more of an issue with women who don't take care of themselves / look like they just crawled out of bed / let themselves go by gaining lots of weight. This look often goes hand in hand with lack of confidence / anxiet…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/21 10:50 AM
4

Little reptile brain? 😅
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/21 09:02 AM
1

Yes I think this is basically the solution. Even if he suggests a morning / noon activity, I'm going to hope for the best but prepare for the worst. 🤣
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/21 06:40 AM
1

I just wanted to post an update and mention that we had an amazing talk and in trying to solve this issue, we ended up solving an additional issue in the relationship. We are recently married so I told him I don't want to have these arguments since they drive a wedge between us and since its not exactly an important issue, I will accept and trust his leadership more often. I've been showered in affection since then. ❤️😊
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/21 06:28 AM
1

Thank you - I just might.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/21 05:27 AM
2

You are not wrong, but he is meeting all other responsibilities, with flying colours, so I don't think it's that bad. Idk. 🤔 He's been my rock for 6 years. Maybe I need to be his right now.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/21 10:38 AM
1

Thank you but if I were to suggest that, it sounds like I'm telling him he's not good enough or there's something wrong with him. I'm not sure he should hear that right now? Idk. He is atheist, I was raised atheist but have felt a calling the past 6 months since my Catholic nan passed away. Haven't done anything about it though since it's just so foreign to me.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/21 09:59 AM
2

Thanks, it means a lot. ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/21 06:00 AM
2

That sounds great, thank you. ❤️👍👌
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/21 05:47 AM
4

😢 Yesterday after I posted this and the first few comments came in, we had a little (light hearted) chat and he told he he's got a whole month of stress ahead starting from today (Monday). I remember this time of year, last year, he was indeed extremely stressed and tired. How can I be the best wife for him during this crazy month thats coming? (I had no idea it was coming up otherwise I would have been more aware.)
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/21 05:09 AM
2

I just know that I want to be with him. I also know I enjoy day trips. Maybe those two don't need to go together.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/21 04:51 AM
1

You may be onto something here..
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/21 04:25 AM
2

Hey, thank you for your comment, you are absolutely right. I've got some making up to do and generally feel quite awful about my behaviour.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/21 04:25 AM
2

Like I've mentioned above, it was his plan and honesty, it wasn't that early. I don't think noon is that early!
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/21 04:24 AM
1

He planned this date, over a week prior.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/21 04:22 AM
3

Hey! This particular plan was his idea. So should I avoid making plans with other people, wait around for him to wake up, and then end up with no plans for the day?
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/21 04:22 AM
3

This particular plan was his idea.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/21 04:21 AM
3

Thank you for this. I read it so many times, you described it very well. I pride myself on not being a nag but this is one subject I definitely nag an awful lot about, without even realising. This comment describes a dynamic I don't want, and yet have created myself. 😢 Any ideas on turning it around?
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/21 04:21 AM
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Well, depends what you mean by that. Has he been diagnosed with it? No. Does it probably have it? Yes, but if so, it's something he's struggled with for over a decade and does not feel like a stranger will help, and totally disagrees with medicine for mental health issues. He thinks he can fix it himself but does nothing to actually fix it. I will point this out, he agrees, & continues to do nothing.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/21 09:32 AM
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He will not consider therapy and meds are out of the question.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/21 07:46 AM
1

Thank you. Hoping to get some good answers since this is (embarrassing as it is to admit) one of our biggest issues.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/21 07:09 AM
3

Oops I had no idea, I will edit it. Thanks for calling me out like that, you're so right. Also it's edited, hope that's better.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/21 06:09 AM
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Thanks for your comment but I'm not sure that's the issue, personally. We agreed on this plan weeks ago and we were both excited, he loves to go to the mountains as much as I do. It's just getting him out of bed that's the problem, since he was up gaming till like 3am.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/21 06:05 AM
0

Wow, something similar happened to me. Honestly though, he's an ex and how so is she, who cares, keep it moving.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/21 05:36 AM
7

Are you kidding me, I literally watched this episode last night. 😂😂😂
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/21 05:35 AM
3

What a great post. I'm 30 in 2 months. 😳😁
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/21 08:24 AM
3

Something tells me you have neither.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/21 08:19 AM
1

Yes this is 100% true. I have noticed this also applies when I make no effort with my appearance on a given day VS when I do. The difference in how people treat me is crazy. That's the biggest motivation to do hair and make up daily!
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/21 03:25 PM
2

Thanks but I can't take credit for that, pretty sure it was autogenerated by Reddit.
/r/RedPillWives29/09/21 08:49 AM
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I read about half and honestly, he's just broke. It wouldn't surprise me if there are no investments at all. This is a massive, massive red flag and you need to gtfo. He reminds me of an ex of mine who was always working on some kind of project and never had any money, strangely. He also referred to the place he lived and the car he used, as the car he uses in this country and the place he stays in this country, but as it turns out, he was always in this country, sooo he just drove a matchbox an…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/21 01:40 PM
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Last night, before bed, he randomly thanked me and I asked him what for. His answer floored me: "because I came home from work yesterday in a horrible mood, was rude to you but u were so nice to me and you got me out of my funk." Mission accomplished. ❤️💖 It made me feel like his home, his soft place, his sanctuary.
/r/RedPillWives28/09/21 12:09 PM
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Oh i felt that one ❤️ I'm dying to stay home and bake too lol. X
/r/RedPillWives25/09/21 05:45 AM
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Don't most women need to work, nowadays?
/r/RedPillWives21/09/21 11:28 AM
3

What she said! Sometimes if I'm stressed or grumpy after work I take the long way home, put the radio on, etc... Sometimes I'll come home change and go for a walk... Other times I'll hit up yoga... Even just having a shower when I get in the door helps. I'll change into something cute, stick my apron on and head into the kitchen, listen to a podcast... Usually after that I am myself and can interact with him without sounding strict etc. Xo
/r/RedPillWives21/09/21 05:32 AM
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I love this. I think your point highlights what I was thinking. I don't think the OP will understand until he learns to appreciate the small things, things of real value. It's that day-to-day partnership. ❤️ Knowing you've got a solid home to go to, with someone who is actively nurturing it, taking care of it.
/r/RedPillWives18/09/21 06:37 AM
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As a member of the itty bitty committee, this was nice to read. :)
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/21 07:42 AM
5

Hey, fellow flat girl here. 🤣 I exaggerate my curves through high waisted skirts / linen trousers ie high waisted but not tight, otherwise they would flatten my butt. A hint of cleavage helps (as does a good push up bra!) and I find small (but not kitten!) heels help. Also if I am blessed with babies, I will be getting a boob job after breast feeding...
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/21 06:11 AM
2

That's a good idea, thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/21 01:50 PM
2

Aww that's sweet. I wish I liked gaming even a little bit so we could compromise like you :) I heavily poke fun at him for it as well. He does it to me about the terrible TV I watch (he's right but I can't look away haha) but I think I maaaay have overdone it lately, so I'm looking to make some amends / changes. :) Thanks for sharing. It seems the overwhelming answer is to ask more questions.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/21 01:48 PM
5

I love that! Thanks for the reminder. :) We used to hit up comic con pre-covid, and that was actually so much fun. I'll keep an eye out for things. ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/21 11:18 AM
2

I'm so happy to hear that. 😘😊 It's OK to be a little selfish.
/r/RedPillWives15/09/21 11:14 AM
5

Yes it IS inauthentic, exactly. Thank you so much. ❤️😘 I have work to do. X
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/21 09:46 AM
6

Thank you, you are right. Do you involve yourself in his interests? I feel like maybe I should offer to play a video game, watch a movie/documentary that aligns with his interests? Do you try look into the topics so that you can properly talk about it? I just feel like I'm so clueless about his interests that I don't/can't offer much in a conversation about it, you know? Edit to say that I've played games and done other things but I feel like I should be doing more of it? Like be a cheerleader f…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/21 09:41 AM
2

Yes that's what I meant, thank you. Honestly I do all that. I still feel like it's not enough though ...
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/21 09:14 AM
2

Wow. Thank you for this post. ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/21 08:21 AM
2

Hey girl. There's a massive YT/IG movement focused on growing your femininity. How old are you? Id say if you're younger than 25 check out Mrs Midwest (do some research on her though and take her with a pinch of salt) otherwise the Daily Connoisseur is freaking amazing. I put on one of her videos and I instantly feel like a domestic goddess from a fairytale, idk why. Her latest one was pure domestic bliss. ❤️😂 Karine Alourde has some very interesting videos where she analyses very feminine women…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/21 07:33 AM
2

Hey OP, how are you doing? You've been on my mind since last weeks posts. I hope you are OK. 😘❤️
/r/RedPillWives15/09/21 07:00 AM
2

The five FS! How have I not heard this before? I love it. ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/21 05:53 AM
3

I think now is a good idea to shift the focus onto urself entirely. Go get ur hair and nails done, go put on your sexiest outfit and strut ur stuff. I feel like you need to give less, and receive more. Maybe revisit that chapter in the reading material? This is just a reminder that you are worthy of pretty things and some pampering....
/r/RedPillWives12/09/21 08:46 AM
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Good morning 🌞☕ I'm good today, the weekend allows me to feel more like a homemaker than Mon-Fri. By Sunday morning I feel super relaxed and in my element. While hubby sleeps in a bit, I've already given myself a quick pedicure, put on a load of laundry, cleaned up after our cat. He should be waking up any minute now (it's 10am here) so I'm just about to hop in the shower. After that, I've got to do some dishes and give the bathtub a quick scrub and then I will get ready for the day. We will hea…
/r/RedPillWives12/09/21 06:59 AM
5

How did you get banned if I may ask? I posted a comment there once and it was deleted but I never got banned or anything like that..,
/r/RedPillWives10/09/21 10:05 AM
2

Great point.
/r/RedPillWives10/09/21 06:46 AM
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No, I found TRP first and then the FDS. I don't entirely disagree with FDS, they got some decent points to make but I can't get over how they talk about men...every guy can't be a scrote :/ the rage came from TRP, I guess my feminist upbringing lead me to believe my fella should just love me even if Im sat around looking like a banshee.. It went like "You mean to tell me I have to look pretty for you 24/7 and be cute and flirty and you don't have to do anything?" but I quickly got over it and no…
/r/RedPillWives10/09/21 04:41 AM
3

Same!
/r/RedPillWives06/09/21 06:13 AM
3

That sub is scary...
/r/RedPillWives06/09/21 05:43 AM
2

Gosh I am happy to hear about your brother, I can only imagine what you're all feeling! ❤️
/r/RedPillWives06/09/21 04:35 AM
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Wow, I am so sorry to hear that. He said some very hurtful things to you. I hope you get the outcome you desire. Do u have friends or family to lean on? Sending you Internet hugs. Make sure you are looking after yourself. Xox
/r/RedPillWives06/09/21 04:18 AM
1

Spot on!
/r/RedPillWives05/09/21 03:20 PM
0

I'm guessing you don't get the point of this sub at all so kindly go back to urs :)
/r/RedPillWives05/09/21 03:20 PM
2

🤗
/r/RedPillWives05/09/21 02:52 PM
1

We get it, you have a penis.
/r/RedPillWives05/09/21 02:35 PM
1

Actually it's her I'm shaming, not him. He's looking out for his own interests, which is fair enough but she is not looking out for hers. I agree with being in great shape, but if her genes are just not skinny genes then nobody wins here if he's got "preferences" like you say. He doesn't get what he wants, and she knows that. Fun times.
/r/RedPillWives05/09/21 02:28 PM
2

And one of those boxes is weight? Say you get in better shape, get married, and gain weight back? What happens then? Is he going to divorce you?! I'm worried for you OP, your decision making skills seem to be lacking, work on those first...
/r/RedPillWives05/09/21 02:00 PM
5

So many red flags....
/r/RedPillWives05/09/21 01:35 PM
4

Ofc it was a mutual decision, he's getting a free nanny/maid that he gets to sleep with. Has he given you a time line for getting married? I have fingers and toes crossed for you but you are taking a massive gamble here. If he drags this on for years and dumps you instead of marrying you, you've essentially worked for free and simultaneously have a gap in your CV.
/r/RedPillWives05/09/21 12:08 PM
2

There's plenty of material to get you started.. Nobody is going to just give you the answer to that, we all figured it out, you can too. :) otherwise, welcome 😘
/r/RedPillWives05/09/21 06:46 AM
4

Those are great questions there. Hoping the OP did not just quit her job for a bf...
/r/RedPillWives05/09/21 06:45 AM
2

Yes!! I have an issue with the word deserve, too. "I deserve better." But do you actually? Are you sure?!!
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/21 05:54 AM
1

Yes surreal is exactly how it feels :)
/r/RedPillWives04/09/21 04:53 AM
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Consider that if anyone in these parts were perfect... They wouldnt be on Reddit. 😉😘 Welcome.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/21 01:05 PM
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Congrats! I also got married two weeks ago. 👰🎉🎊
/r/RedPillWives03/09/21 12:36 PM
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Thank you, Internet stranger for your lovely words 🤣😘 I also think this is a question for men but it doesn't seem like there's a place for RPW to speak to the men of TRP? In any case, I loved your suggestions and thank you for taking the time to comment. Also, crummy troll.😂😂😂😂
/r/RedPillWives29/08/21 09:00 AM
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Have you apologised sincerely for your previous behaviour? I think it's great that you have made so many changes (and you made a lot, from the sound of it) and you would think he would appreciate them. So the only thing I can think of is your general attitude towards him. I think maybe one evening dress up cute for him, cook him dinner in an apron and hand him a glass of wine or whatever he drinks. Be smiley, flirty and touchy. Be in a great mood. Tell him that your discussions lately have made …
/r/RedPillWives29/08/21 06:50 AM
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I love that video. ❤️ I definitely provide the occasional challenge hehe :)
/r/RedPillWives25/08/21 07:42 AM
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Great point, thank you. 😊❤️
/r/RedPillWives23/08/21 01:39 PM
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Eh definitely do not financially invest in his future. If anyone is financially investing, it should be him. I don't think this could end well, tbh. Look up the Betty & Dan Broderick story. Never, ever, ever!!!
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/21 06:23 AM
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He said if I signed them up then I was responsible for getting them there. Similarly, he signed up for all this when he became a parent.
/r/RedPillWives17/08/21 04:17 PM
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:) I'm so happy to read this. That's lovely. ❤️ Happy for you.
/r/RedPillWives16/08/21 04:51 PM
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Add work clothes, takeaway she may order at work, including coffee, takeaway from working long days and not having the energy to cook, work events, chipping in for colleagues gifts etc etc... There are a lot of added expenses.
/r/RedPillWives16/08/21 04:48 PM
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I love all the comments here and will agree. You are actually doing both roles here, not him. I would draw a line and say don't ever mention it again because 1) I work AND do the cooking cleaning and literally everything around the house and parenting and 2) you work and do nothing in the house. So either I quit my job and do everything, or you do not talk to me like that. The end. Or maybe stop doing anything that is not absolutely necessary for your family and let it all accumulate for a coupl…
/r/RedPillWives16/08/21 04:41 PM
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But has he done that though 🤔
/r/RedPillWives14/08/21 07:32 AM
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So weird.. I love being European, life is too damn short to have to do mental gymnastics just to buy a damn bra.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/21 07:06 AM
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Wow... No hate but the US is a weird place... There are political bras? confused in European
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/21 06:47 AM
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I can't wait to do this! Getting married next week and HOPING 🤞🤞🤞 to start trying very soon after :) :)I love that you have a specific day to discuss issues💕😍
/r/RedPillWives14/08/21 06:36 AM
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Try being super cute about it... "but I miss you baaaabe". I would use girlishness rather than demanding he allocates more time to you. Maybe ask whether Saturday nights could be urs?
/r/RedPillWives14/08/21 06:32 AM
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Oh shit, BRB, off to try this. Also, how do you know. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 02:34 PM
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Huh
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/21 10:52 AM
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❤️❤️❤️ That's ever so sweet.
/r/RedPillWives06/08/21 05:08 AM
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And I agree with you! If cheating made men low value to women, there wouldn't be so many mistresses and women happy to date married men. Wealthy married men ofc, nobody is trying to date the married tesco worker they see every day. Also wondering if you're a like minded female or male given that you got my SATC reference. 😅
/r/RedPillWives05/08/21 07:27 AM
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I don't understand why this was down voted. Are we genuinely saying we think men's urges vanish once they're married? I get that we don't WANT yall to cheat, and you probably shouldn't.. But I mean... Come on now.
/r/RedPillWives04/08/21 04:01 PM
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In that situation he'd be out like a light anw...
/r/RedPillWives04/08/21 03:50 PM
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Really surprised to see so many woman saying men who cheat aren't HV. I think we are making the mistake of judging them by the standards for women. Was Mr Big from Sex & the City not technically HV? I'm not suggesting an Aiden-Big debate here but by all accounts, Big was extremely HV. Who defines what is HV anyway? Someone may consider Aiden to be much more HV than Big but I think Carrie would beg to differ. Also, what if the man in question was like, Arab Prince level rich where he could easily…
/r/RedPillWives04/08/21 03:49 PM
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Imagine if he hadnt got you out of that situation though, would you be worse or better off than you are currently?
/r/RedPillWives04/08/21 03:43 PM
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Long story short, we met through friends. He was the handsome mysterious type & I always wanted to set him up with my female friends. Not once did he ever take me up on my offer, despite the fact that I always made sure I introduced him to attractive women that other men would be happy to chat to etc. Aw well, I got him for myself in the end 🤣
/r/RedPillWives02/08/21 08:49 AM
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So true. 😢
/r/RedPillWives02/08/21 08:45 AM
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If you know this sub, then you know that nobody is arguing that wives shouldnt "take care of things" . But we are all personally responsible for our actions and their consequences. Are you unable to control yourself?
/r/RedPillWives02/08/21 08:03 AM
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Eh, I can't claim to know what men want, more than they do. Each to their own.
/r/RedPillWives02/08/21 05:17 AM
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Yeah don't defy Whisper, even when he's legit being crazy, what could go wrong?!?! I was shocked to see that turn of events but happy to leave when it happened. The advice he's giving young women is terrible half the time and dangerous the other half.
/r/RedPillWives01/08/21 06:19 AM
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Hiii, another woman that left that group... That mod your talking about is dangerous!!!
/r/RedPillWives31/07/21 11:35 AM
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33f with a 20m?! Oh honey no. 🙄😘
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/21 06:00 AM
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Same, I just do my brows, liner and mascara.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/21 05:54 AM
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Same!! So much of the RP material is from a Christian perspective.
/r/RedPillWives24/07/21 03:17 PM
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Hey girl, are you me? Lol x
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/21 07:11 AM
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Yup, none here either and I'm 30 this year. Long working hours & shyness don't help with making friends. If anyone is in Europe, particularly around the Mediterranean side of it, feel free to msg me :) :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/21 06:58 AM
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I'm getting married in a month and I'm in the same boat 😅
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/21 06:53 AM
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I guess we'll never know 🤣
/r/RedPillWives20/07/21 04:37 AM
1

That's great! I definitely hope if we are blessed with babies, we will have that dynamic. He's a bit iffy about Dr's. 😅
/r/RedPillWives18/07/21 08:59 AM
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Anything concerning my personal health since we don't always see eye to eye on those matters. I assume this will be an issue if and when we have kids though. I'll be damned if my kids get sick and I don't take them to a Dr though, just saying.
/r/RedPillWives18/07/21 08:12 AM
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Today I'm thinking about how I'm being offered more money at work and all I can think about is that if I were to get pregnant, that would mean a higher maternity leave pay. The baby fever is real. 😂
/r/RedPillWives18/07/21 07:58 AM
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Hi! I will admit to having seen those phrases in one of your comments over at MRP, so it's great to have your input, thank you! :) Can I ask what that means to you, in terms of things that are expected of a woman?
/r/RedPillWives18/07/21 07:44 AM
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I love this, thanks! One of my grandmothers is like that too. ❤️
/r/RedPillWives18/07/21 07:42 AM
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Totally agree. While I may not be on board with the way feminism is portrayed today, I'm not about to give up any fundamental rights that other women literally died to give me.
/r/RedPillWives17/07/21 05:17 AM
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Just a random thought but, there's a single mom in our building whos ex was abusive (we heard a lot of it) and she's got two kids. Her and her kids are lovely. About a month ago I get home from work and shortly after that I get a call from my fiance asking me to bring his tools downstairs because when he pulled up to park, he saw the neighbour try to fix her kids bike. So he stood there for the next 30 minutes, after work, before even getting in the door of his place, to help this woman and her …
/r/RedPillWives17/07/21 05:14 AM
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29, engaged to 33 year old, together 6 years, to be married next month, working FT, no kids(yet). Household: Last week, this was my biggest achievement and I was so happy. This week it's the exact opposite. I've barely cooked and barely did anything else either apart from laundry and my fiance had to step in. 😢 I have not yet figured out how to come home stressed and in a bad mood from work and be all domestic and find it genuinely concerning that people do this AND take care of their kids. How.…
/r/RedPillWives17/07/21 04:27 AM
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I love this. I feel this. I hope you're doing OK. Be kind to yourself, too. ❤️😘
/r/RedPillWives16/07/21 03:24 PM
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At this point in my life (30) if I was single, looks would not even be on my radar. As long as he's not like, repulsive, then as long as he's got a decent job and we click, he doesn't have to tick anyone else's boxes. I'm the one next to him in bed, so if he's good enough for me, hes certainly good enough for the people in my life, otherwise too bad... Given that I'm not single though, I've somehow managed to find a conventionally gorgeous man and while it keeps me on my toes, it can also be pre…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/21 02:47 PM
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Same! Like the actor that plays Thor.. I just don't see it. He's like a poster boy or something 😅
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/21 02:43 PM
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:) thank you, great suggestions.
/r/RedPillWives11/07/21 10:54 AM
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Yeah I'm with you on this one. It sounds genuinely gross and I think any normal non-gross person would ask about it lol.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/21 06:23 AM
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Thank you, I try. We live in a fairly conservative country and I always think to myself that he could probably find someone who works and also cooks and cleans without a bother to her. I know those women are out there. I would just hate for him to think he's getting the short end of the stick, as opposed to what he could find out there, if he went looking. Does that make sense?! He's been so good to me from the start of the relationship, I want to make sure it's reciprocated. Hes provided when I…
/r/RedPillWives11/07/21 06:02 AM
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You got this! 💪 It's been a tough year or two for sure!
/r/RedPillWives10/07/21 12:49 PM
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Reading LD again. I find I need to read it at least once a year otherwise I revert back to my usual ways.
/r/RedPillWives10/07/21 07:33 AM
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Hey, I've seen you on this space for a while and your comments are noticeably different lately. I hope you are OK. Don't forget to self care. We can't pour from an empty glass. ❤️
/r/RedPillWives10/07/21 07:13 AM
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This is my first OYS so bear with me. I'm 29,engaged to an almost 33 year old, getting married end of August, we've lived together for over 3 years, been together for almost 6. Home: Somehow, this has been my biggest improvement lately. I meal plan on Sunday morning and have fully stuck to it this week, which was great. I made fiance his lunches for work with leftovers, and made sure all his clothes were ironed. I did all of this without much stress and rushing, which is what I used to do. Even …
/r/RedPillWives10/07/21 07:11 AM
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I don't get why gagging is attractive to them. 🙄 Especially in a LTR. Like... Why? 🤔
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/21 02:46 PM
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Icky face hahaha I can't
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/21 02:38 PM
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Something to be endured hahaha... My mum called it ten minutes of nothing once. 😂😂😂
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/21 02:26 PM
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It doesn't work, they think you're "judging". No worries then, go be a plate. 🤔🍽️
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/21 02:23 PM
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Yep, been there. I lost my friends when I ditched my LVM ex and started dressing up / wore full face of make up. They actually started to giggle behind my back and gossip about me, saying that I thought I was better than then etc...Bear in mind I was going through a break up and I needed them more than ever. To bigger and better things ladies!! 🥂🍻
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/21 02:21 PM
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Aw that's sweet of you! On the bright side, you know you have a guy that isn't trying to chain you to a sink haha :) It sounds like you guys are definitely getting somewhere - wish you all the best. Xo
/r/RedPillWives06/07/21 03:37 PM
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One additional comment regarding ASKING him what he wants to eat for breakfast etc. I understand that you want him to have a say and prepare something he likes BUT this shifts the responsibility back onto him. Just ask him: this or that for today? He gets to chose one and that's it. Or don't even give him a choice. Ask "is this OK for today?".
/r/RedPillWives06/07/21 03:32 PM
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It's scary how much I could have written this myself! That's exactly what they want - consistency.
/r/RedPillWives06/07/21 03:15 PM
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It seems we are with very similar men. He will mention how he wishes I did xyz more, but if I actually try do it, he feels bad and I hear some version of "you worked all day it's time to relax". After muuuch consideration and confusion, I've come to the conclusion that he naturally wants me to do these things, but his BP conditioning of society does genuinely make him feel bad. So I think it's a bit of an internal struggle sometimes. Like, naturally he will want his woman to do certain things wh…
/r/RedPillWives06/07/21 03:14 PM
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Yeah. If OP takes one piece of advice from this thread, let it be this book.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/21 09:53 AM
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Yikes, I don't blame you! No plates here, Sir! 😉 Xo
/r/RedPillWives12/06/21 12:13 PM
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Just a kind reminder that you may need to reread some of the suggested reading. Forgive yourself and keep trying. Being down on yourself like this is serving noone. You CAN do it!
/r/RedPillWives12/06/21 11:54 AM
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Sadly as women we need to protect our own time. Opportunists will always try!
/r/RedPillWives12/06/21 11:51 AM
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