I live in Orange, California and my wife is destroying my life.

After a wonderful 15 year marriage, the stress of COVID caused some old trauma from her past to resurface. This happened before and kicked her into fight or flight mode.

This time, it’s detrimental!

I have walked on eggshells for 15 years trying not to “trigger” her. We never fought. We never argued. I was always super careful to keep everything balanced and calm.

Sadly, she tricked me into leaving for the day and when I got home she had MOVED!

Our apartment was half empty, money moved out of our joint accounts, security cameras ripped off the walls, broken glass on the floor, and my cat of 12 years was gone!

She left me a loving note but she said she wasn’t coming back. I STILL don’t know what triggered her.

About a week later I sent her a text stating “This was not how we were supposed to end” and she RUSHED to the police and told them she felt this was a “murder/suicide” death threat and that I had mentioned suicide in the past. They issued a TRO (Temporary Restraining Order) against me!!!

At the trial she made bizarre statements and lied through her teeth! She committed perjury multiple times. She rewrote history and turned me into an abusive, evil person! She claimed I yelled at her for years, alienated her from her friends, supported her through her Masters and Doctorate degrees just so I could live off her success, etc, etc, etc. She even said I once wanted to have non-consensual makeup sex! What?!

For the sex lie, I almost had to register as a sex offender!!!

The judge didn’t want to charge me, however, he didn’t want to cancel the TRO either. He offered her a compromise. He asked if she would be okay with just extending the TRO for one year and then it drops away. She agreed. I agreed. My lawyer agreed.

So, I was NOT found guilty or charged, however, the TRO is still in effect.

She then sent copies of the TRO to my landlord and others.

I went to court again to try to get financial assistance as I had no job due to COVID and she still had her six figure job.

I was DESTROYED by the female judge. She wouldn’t let me speak. She even told my lawyer she didn’t want to hear her. I was denied assistance because the judge said she wouldn’t make a person who suffered abuse pay her abuser. My lawyer was quick to point out that I wasn’t charged and the judge literally said, “Are you telling me that means he didn’t do it” and ruled against me.

Now, just the mere docket record of me being tried for “Domestic Violence” is visible in a Google search of my name! I’m being passed over for jobs!

Her lies are destroying me and I’m being treated as guilty with no findings!

This isn’t MY version of America!!! How can women in California just make accusations with no solid evidence and destroy men?! I’m now broke, jobless, and owe over $27K in legal fees (and counting) defending against the most expensive lie ever told!

Now she’s claiming she took NOTHING from our apartment but her laptop! She took HALF of what we owned and has a greater value of items than me! I was honest and provided a full inventory of what I had left. Her lawyer just returned MY inventory as ALL of what we owned together! My wife didn’t account for anything! Then her lawyer made fun of me, in writing, for being honest!

I am told I am not allowed to have the police enter her house to prove she has HALF of our belongings.

I’m so tired of this.