I first want to start by saying that many men will not agree with this post as I'm sure they can list personal instances where it was not their fault; Hear me out.

What do I mean when I say it is our fault? And for any Black Phillip Show listeners (do not listen if you haven't already as it will reinforce Red Pill ideologies) you will already know where I am going with this.

I mean for the bad behaviors that women (in general) do and get away with, we as men allow/allowed it to happen.

She nags all the time - you allowed her to do it

She cheated - you either was not giving her what she want and needed or she was a scumbag and you ignored the red flags

She lies all of the time - You stayed with her anyways

She makes fun of men she is not interested in - neither men or women shamed her for doing so

She took me for everything in court - You did not get prenup and you married her when not fully knowing if she was your lifelong partner or not

The list goes on and on. And I am not framing this post in a way that says women are evil and men are perfect. As a matter of fact I am making this post to show men these days are far from perfect and we are the reason for these issues we face with women.

But I believe that red pill is so popular with men due to the fact that they do not know the root causes for why women can act they way they do at times. Do we as men really think a woman would act certain ways if we did not allow her to do it? I believe the issue we face gentlemen is we are so desperate for sex that we allow bad behavior just to get it. WE ARE SCARED OF TAKING A LOSS.

Try to picture a man being chased and given attention everyday for your whole life since puberty from females (we are assuming they live the life of an attractive woman). If you had so many options at your disposal without having to work for it and they put up with any behavior you gave them just so they could sleep with you, would you not believe that you can act certain ways towards women and not have to worry about it since there will be another option coming soon?

The other side of this equation is where does the anger actually come from? Is it really because the woman has done you so wrong, or is it that you know deep down you were not doing everything possible to be her best option and her leaving you confirmed that?

When i was being mistreated by the mother of my child when I was still with her and I finally left, at first I thought it was all of her fault (stupid thinking) I thought that she was a slut, attention seeker, scumbag, etc. and to some degree she is (not all women are like this but women are not perfect little angels either), but then I realized that I was unhappy with myself. I realized that I was not doing everything I was supposed to do to not only make me happy, but also to be the best version of myself. Was overweight, horrible charisma, was emotionally unavailable, always put my needs before hers, etc. So in essence, can I really be mad at her for that, or do I need to recognize that it was my fault for tolerating her behavior and not doing the things that made me happy and let me be the best version of myself because I was soft and let her and other people dictate how I should live my life.

We as men need to take the power back and what I mean by that is we need to start taking back the power of ACCOUNTABILITY. Others will only treat you the way you allow them to treat you. Are you doing everything you can do be the best version of yourself or are you like the majority of men who like to blame others and not look within themselves to see where the issues really are?

I will end with this, when you start working to become the best version of you, however you define that, you won't care about rejection, you won't take it personal if someone leaves you and you damn sure will not be unhappy with yourself.

Let me know your thoughts on this or if something is needing to be clarified. Also, I am open to criticisms and disagreements in a HEALTHY manner. If insults or personal attacks about this post appear, they will not be responded to.