Being traditionally feminine in a relationship is often risky. If you only work part time or don't work at all and rather do more homemaking, raising kids, and/or otherwise embodying feminine attributes like cultivating your appearance, that means you're not bringing home much of a paycheck, if any at all. While you're in a relationship with a man who provides for you, everything would probably be great, security-wise. However, what if the two of you break up? If you weren't working, you now have a sizeable gap in your resume. If you weren't working full-time, you likely don't have huge savings. Homemaking, child-rearing, and being pretty are all valuable things one can bring to a relationship, but they don't make money.

So what do you do to cover yourself in the event of a breakup without resorting to working full-time and pretty much being as self-reliant as you were when you were single? I don't perceive it's practical to work full-time and also do the majority of the homemaking, meal prep, childcare if you have kids, and maintaining your looks. Additionally, as far as I can tell embodying a significant amount of masculinity is unavoidable if you work full time and/or have to provide for yourself. I'm single right now and in school full time and it takes almost every ounce of energy I have.

Do you require certain things before fully embodying femininity with a man (i.e. homemaking, cooking, being the feminine energy of the house)? Things like marriage with no prenup, an engagement ring, your name on the deed/titles of assets, access to his bank account, and/or an allowance? Some may think that's asking too much, but there's no way I'm going to dial back my masculinity and self-providing without an insurance policy that I won't be left for dead if me and my future partner break up. And I would like to live more in my feminine; it's something I plan to indulge in more once I graduate.