Hello all. I'll try to keep this as brief as possible. LTR has been generally nice and easy-going but lately she's been acting up incrementally to the point where I have no where else to turn to but here.

We both graduated college together a few months back and recently she started work. The hours are long and the work stressful, and as a result we no longer have much time to spend together. Even if we do, she is constantly complaining of how tired and stressed out she is. In addition, her temper has taken a turn for the worse and when she isn't angry, she's distant. In the past, she has always been generally nice and easy-going. If we had any sort of problems she'd be the one to try and solve things out amicably. But now she is constantly on edge, and getting increasingly prideful and stubborn. And when I call her out on it, she immediately gets defensive and shuts down even further.

Another issue is the sex that we've been having. She had her first UTI a few months back and the experience scared her. Recently she complained of having the same symptoms, ie. constant need to pee, shivers, nausea etc. and now says that we should consider not having sex. I didn't press for details as to whether that meant until the symptoms subside or if it is for good. Is this considered withholding sex and if not, how should I proceed?