if 'connection' and 'similar interests' were key we wouldn't have men complaining about getting 'friendzoned' all the time.

I used to be a happy-go-lucky kid with a lot of girl friends, they loved me around, but whenever I'd try to make a move on them it got shut down asap. The girls who could talk to me for hours in the matinee about the latest Margaret Atwood novel film adaptation were capable of doing night stands with 'hawt' jerks they otherwise rarely spoke to and had nothing in common with, but were magnetizing in a fetishistic sense (broad shoulders, nice jaw, sporty, a handsome face).

What separated a completely 'platonic' arrangement from a potentially romantic one was dependent on physical features that could arouse sexual desire in her.