We all hear about women who have been sexually assaulted or raped. But we never hear about men’s stories. So, men of r/mensrights, have you ever been sexually assaulted or raped? Feel free to write about the aftermath and if you got justice!

UnfurtletDawn · 2022-03-04T18:03:01+00:00

I think the question was on r/askmen And how people reacted

But hey I can share some of my stories.

In middle school a group or my female classmates picked me up and forcefully tried to take me to the bathroom. My male classmates saw it and there was a bit of a fight and in the middle of it our teacher started to walk up the stairs and saw a bunch of boys and girls fighting and me being carried away by a group of girls.

I think they would just put me to the ground once we would be on the girls bathroom like haha you have been to girls bathrooms but it was really weird.

On summer camp that I was several times when I was 14 one girl that was olde than us (she was nearly adult) was for whole week telling me that from 14 you can fuck from 15 you have to. In our country age of consent is 15.

It was really weird that she was telling me that all the time but I didn't though much of it. We often at night went to girls round and girls to our room to play some games. We were mostly 13-14 so nothing was really happening. Kiss was basically like a huge thing at the time.

Then when we were to leave to go to our room the older girl said that she would go with us. (On the camp there were way more girls than boys in that year)

Again didn't though much of that but once I laid down she sit on top of me and started touching me took my shirt of. I am extremely ticklish so I tried my hardest to not make noise because then we would get in trouble. Basically flex the whole body and didn't moved at all.

She tried to take my bottoms too but I hold them with my arms so she couldn't take them down and eventually gave up on taking them down.

The whole time she was saying that she is hungry. I had no idea so that I offered her some cookies that I had in my bag from home but she said not hungry like that.

Well this went on for what felt like eternity but might be like an hour in reality.

In the end nothing happened but it was weird.

Then in last year in middle school we went on school trip and also to play paintball.

When we played paintball our headteacher accidentally shot me in the crotch (it didn't hurt we had thick clothes)

Like okay it happens but she was doing weird comments like: "we need to take pictures of injuries" and stared at me.

Okay weird humor got it. Making jokes is basically our culture nothing extremely weird. But she was doing them way too much.

Then later in the day we played knock off version of volleyball with classmates for several hours because it was fun. Basically we changed rules a bit to make it more fun.

Well our headteacher got a little drunk and went to play with us. She was on opposite team and when I was close to the net she tried to pull down my pants. Thankfully I had a belt so nothing happened but I jumped back and everyone gave her a weird look.

The next day she apologized to me cause it is really inappropriate. Like hey drunk people do stupid stuff and I really think she meant it only as a humor but it was still a bit weird.

Regenreun · 2022-03-04T17:16:18+00:00

Was very young, don’t wanna talk about it.

manbro7 · 2022-03-04T19:42:13+00:00

Childhood: Pedo mom, years of various molestation.

Adult: Near weekly sexual assault/harassment type of stuff from girls in buses. I just rolled with them because what the hell, I was a college dude. Would've been some severe sexual assault if I ever did those though.

We just: Don't ask for help. Don't want to start a drama. Prefer to just move on with our life. Often don't seek revenge. Often don't even realize it was rape or sexual assault. Or we know we will get laughed at, while a woman would get so much attention and support.

My incident ratio is probably 20+ female to 1 male. We're just invisible victims.

Throwawaydangit82 · 2022-03-04T18:00:42+00:00

The age of 5, 5 teens from the neighbourhood tied me to a tree and basically had their way with me and my dad saved me after an other kid saw and ran to my house and told em what was going on.

from the age of 8 to 12 i was groomed and raped by my babysitter and her friends, they called me their special boyfriend it went on for years and up wards of 10 female teens through out in my basement her basement and other peoples houses.

From 2000 until 2016 i was a bouncer/security guard and body guard, Drunk women of all ages got entitled and id get kissed, groped even sometimes shoved into washrooms and tried to get into my pants, This would happen infront of cops and i would get laughed at mocked or insulted or be told im lucky... yea no...

Got out of the business cause i couldnt take the sexual assault daily anymore, moved away and met someone 2018 told her we would only be friends, I was woken up by a bj but i couldnt do anything as i lived with family and i was in the guest room next to their kids until my room was being finished in the basement. I kept pushing her off but she got on top and i had to almost choke her to get off and i made her leave or i was gonna wake up the whole house.

I lived a life of being raped.

Guess what no one cares, even the therapist and psychiatrist ive been assigned too i would be told man up men cant be raped.

Long live Canadian law.

not gonna lie being sexually assaulted and forced to penetrate at the age of 37 fucking sucked and felt helpless.

Frosty-Gate-8094 · 2022-03-04T18:24:52+00:00

I was sexually assaulted by a junior colleague during a office party.
She basically kissed me from behind my back on the dance-floor.

(You will find details in my comment history somewhere).

Ironically, two of her friends (girls) actually whisked her away and later apologised from her behalf. Guys (including my boss) either didn't notice it. Or choose to ignore it anyways.

TextDependent6779 · 2022-03-04T17:23:31+00:00

there's probably a better subreddit for this where you could get more stories.

[deleted] · 2022-03-04T21:06:38+00:00

My first ever experience was when I was in middle school. I was waiting in the corridor for sports until 3 high school girls walked past me and stopped to awkwardly touch me before continuing wherever they were going.

Back in 2018, I had to stay at a psychiatry for a few months (it’s a long story). One of the girls had the audacity to awkwardly cuddle me like a plushie for no reason other than my ethnicity. I happen to be a Korean dude living in Europe where K-Pop is a big thing and some of the girls there happened to be K-Pop fans (and this one was the worst). She was straight up fetishizing and objectifying me because of my ethnicity.

There was also this other instance (also at the psychiatry) where two of the girls (including the one from earlier) started jabbing at my dick after suspecting I had a boner. All I could do was get their hands off me and it went on for around a minute until they finally stopped.

Unfortunately I never got justice for any of these instances and probably never will as I can’t identify any of the perpetrators and they were from years ago. I couldn’t even report them at the time everything happened because it was during the worst phase of my life when I had tons of social anxiety.

Not to mention that thanks to all these feminist lies, I was brainwashed into thinking sexual assault and rape can only be done to women by men and it literally wasn’t until early last year that I found out the truth which was also when I realized just how much sexual harassment I’ve been through without even realizing it. Yes besides the physical experiences I mentioned, I’ve been through way more verbal and digital sexual harassment.

costyksimpatic · 2022-03-04T20:10:40+00:00

I was raped. I was only about 9 and I can’t remember all the things that happened then. Or my mind protects me from remembering all of it.

OutlandishnessNew845 · 2022-03-04T17:45:01+00:00

r/mengetrapedtoo

oafsalot · 2022-03-05T00:08:30+00:00

Sadly it happened a lot when i was a kid and once when I was an adult. Women are fucking awful creatures because they're as capable of harming as men and yet live in complete denial of their responsibility not to harm others.

GrinningPizza · 2022-03-04T23:54:56+00:00

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OccultRitualCooking · 2022-03-05T15:34:00+00:00

I remember when this was asked of men on AskReddit and there were 40,000 replies.

I was but I don't wanna talk about it right now.

PQKN051502 · 2022-03-06T03:25:40+00:00

I was molested by a middle age woman when I was around 8 or 9.

OutlandishnessNew845 · 2022-05-30T12:06:54+00:00

Its so hard, its a pain, after everything, to see your abuser living good life. My story- its a woman, she work at a day care , she is volunteer for few organisations, and for that she lately got a thanks on the paper for it, people are calling her amazing person, that everyone should be so lucky who knows her or meets her... Yea.. This breaks me, because what she did to me its unforgivable.. She raped me, then i sayed NO many times. She covered my mouth so i be quiet, telling me its ok. She was my moms friend, her husband left her on The streets because she cheated on him many times, so my mom invited her to live with us till she finds new home. After she moved in, everything started after few fckng days, she came in my room late at night, and woke me up sucking my D*(sorry for language) , i was in chock, i was in fear... i tried to push her, told her no ovwr and over again, but she dont listen.. she told me to shut up because ill woke everyone up, so I just froze... Froze and did nothing... I dont know how or why did I get erection, i didnt want that, i wasnt sexually aroused, but my body, lower part told otherwise.. After shes done, she told me thanks, and that tomorrow she will wait for me in her room, because now we will be fwb. I dont know why i didnt run(I was a scared sad kid/teen, with divorsed parents, who doesnt give a f about me) i tried to tell it to mom, she told me its normal, im a man, i want sex and its my fault, i was almost 18(a lot of told me its normal, because i was almost adult, and later I was, so its 2 adults having fun time for them.that woman was 30~. And it doesnt matter how old you are, rape is a rape) Im now 22, and its hurting me still, man dont want sex all The time as many can say, and the stereotypes about us makes me mad.. Like were not humans, were animals..., i cant even have sex after that, i have a gf, and we are making love maybe once in a month, because i cant, a lot of triggers bothering me, im scared for flashbacks, wasnt able to get a erection for half a year. Some friends, at that time, who i tried to talk to, told me im lucky, im like a real motherfucker, because that woman had a kid, so she for them are milf. So the point is, im not lucky, it was gross for me, its still making me sick, and it always will, i have a big trauma with triggers, like those words(milf, motherfucker, even mom) are triggering me everytime i hear them.. And.. I cut off my "friends" and my mom. I change the country I live, and I fight everyday, its manageble, but u work hard every fckng day to survive.. So, stay strong warriors, we are together ❤️ and all The perpetrators, die in hell. I hope one day people will know how awful peace of shits ure.

Huffers1010 · 2022-03-04T18:50:10+00:00

Many things have happened to me which, if they had happened to a woman, could be called sexual assault. Usually just playful buttock-pinching, unwanted hugs, pecks on the cheek. It is expected that I desire and enjoy this from women. I don't, and that sort of unwanted touching, and the vast double standards associated with it, is a key reason I'm here.

I should be clear. Those things are not, mainly, in any realistic sense, sexual assault, in the context in which they were intended. I think there is room for a category of wrongdoing between "unwanted touching" and "rape" and currently many justice systems don't have that. But by that measure, neither are they sexual assault when they happen to women.

NewAccount294939499 · 2022-03-05T02:50:06+00:00

I mean we do pretty often in this sub though…..

WoodenPreference260 · 2022-03-06T23:02:19+00:00

Yes. What some women call "light rape". It was a previous girlfriend. We were kissing one night and she mentions some guy that I knew she had a crush on. Well the mood was killed for me and I just told her that I wasn't in the mood and turned over. She told me that it "wasn't fair" to just kiss and not want to have sex. I just told her again I wasn't in the mood and then she started touching my penis. I told her to stop because I wasn't feeling it and she just said no and that "obviously you want to or you wouldn't be hard" so then she gets on top and starts riding me. I'm a strong guy. I could have stopped her. I didn't want to hurt her though. I'm really gentle. Anyways, however long later she gets off and was pissed I didn't orgasm. It wasn't a violent experience and honestly it was more annoying than anything else. By definition it was rape. I said I didn't want to have sex and she decided that it didn't matter to her. As far as trauma though, it was the type of situation where I don't really have trauma from it. Like I said I was mostly just annoyed and shocked. It also was a really confusing situation, and it took me a long time to realize that what had happened was by definition, rape. We were also teens at the time. Funny how growing up there were posters everywhere about girls protecting themselves from rape, molestation, etc. Then they end up being the ones doing it. Not all women though of course. But there are some that believe nothing they do is wrong.

rocksnstyx · 2022-03-07T23:44:44+00:00

I was young...One incident involved my sisters, and another with my pedophile grandpa. I never told anyone about it, I didnt think my parents wouldn't believe me. Still living with the emotional baggage from it all.

Had another event with a girl named Tanya, Lied to me about being on birth control and gave me a sabotaged condom by her own admission. She was ovulating and ended up pregnant...I know it doesnt fit the classical definition of rape, but there was lack of consent in the conception of my son.

Latter-Battle8468 · 2022-03-17T01:06:02+00:00

my ex husband was repeatedly shown porn by his dads new girlfriend and he never felt it was wrong but fuuuuck if someone did that to my son I would lose it. (Posted with permission)

dynamicgrain167 · 2022-05-08T09:56:29+00:00

So I dunno how Reddit really works or anything so if ppl can track me on this account.. idk that would suck.

I a 18 year old was touched? I don’t know what you would really call it. When I was around 5 or 6 we lived way out in the middle of nowhere. Just forests for miles. We had very few neighbors and most of them were nice. Most. I remember talking to this one neighbor, Conner. He was around 16 or 18 at the time. Dude kinda looked like Jeffery dahlmer , blond and had glasses. I was at his house for like a sleep over? I don’t really remember. Maybe it was at my house. I think it was now that I’m putting my mind to it. I think he was my baby sitter. Anyways it’s late, around 11 and I guess my parents were away. Just me and him. Bad idea. I remember him telling me we were going to play a game where we compare sizes. He whips it out and so do I. I had a chalkboard and chalk in my room, we had out lined our penis’s. He kinda grabbed mine or whatever but nothing major. I don’t really know who told who. I can’t remember if I told my parents or if he confessed but either way I remember seeing cop lights.

Still kinda bothers me and I kinda feel grimy a lot of the time. Like my skin is dirty. Worst part of all this is my parents still don’t think I know or remember. I don’t know if they blame them self’s or what but I don’t wana rip of the scar ya know? Reddit is the last place I would go for this kinda think but I dunno.

I think it’s also added to the fact that I’m questioning some sexual stuff about me. Not like pedophile stuff or anything like that but just dudes and girls in general. I hope that piece of shit rots. Conner, if I ever track you down expect a visit. I hope that no matter where you go you will be constantly looking behind your back, I hope that you will always be second-guessing who people are hoping that it isn’t me or one of my friends, I hope this keeps you up at night it makes it hard for you to sleep, I hope this eats away at you and karups your mind, I hope you feel suicidal because of this. And if you don’t feel like that you are even worse than I thought you were.

IlikeProgramming8 · 2022-08-19T18:37:36+00:00

It happened when I was 12, this is the first time talking about it. Well, I still feel guilty and have other thoughts, but at the start, I was in denial wondering if that really just happened so I did not really care. Though after I started to feel incredibly guilty and still do. TO me it's not a matter of if I want to tell, I just don't even feel like it's worth sharing. I do not want to go into detail about what my classmate did to me. They did it to me quite a few times. Now about justice and more. They did this to multiple boys in my class I counted about three of them. Uhm, my friend figured out about this during that year and was pretty pissed off, to say the least. My school said if something like this happened they would protect victims. My best friend told my teacher, and she didn't believe it and she did not care for that matter.

Somehow, two of my female classmates figured it out and just started laughing.

I have to say, I feel horrible as the person who did that to me was one of my friends.

He is doing okay in school, and goes to my school right now. I try to always avoid him

But I had this happen to me and I didn't tell, and that feels selfish. Am I in the wrong here?? This is a year after it happened and I was thinking was it my fault? What did I do that made me deserve this? Why? I don't know who I can trust anymore..It doesn't make me feel any better that my classmates always say "Who would let themselves get raped or sexually assaulted, I would fight back" I just listen and wonder why did this happen... And a lot of times I just think of ending my life here to make it easy. I wish I could forget all the guilt I have. My mind feels cloudy, I just want to go back to when I didn't feel this.

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