Hopelessness

ThrowAwayAccount__0 · 2022-03-01T23:18:16+00:00

Why are you fighting? You're falling into the same trap you did in the marriage.

Stop being the victim. Just don't talk to her. Don't pick up the phone, handle everything through email.

You're putting yourself in bad situations; she lives far away: stop letting her get to you.

Go to the gym 2x a week. Cook your food, clean your apartment or house, and just focus on each day. Do your old hobbies. Play videogames a day or 2.

Go walk at a park. Go ride a bicycle. Get out of the house and sit in a coffee shop.

But don't interact with her. That's what you hired a lawyer for.

Go live your life; that's the scary part because you're completely alone, but that's the only way out. Go live your life.

JonathanApple · 2022-03-01T20:10:44+00:00

Expensive and stupid. Expect more of the same, sorry man. It sucks.

InWeGoNow · 2022-03-01T20:40:36+00:00

For myself, I asked work to flood me with as much work as possible. I didn't want an idle mind to drive me crazy. Hang in there. It's hard. It's real hard. Less is more with communication and dealing with the BS.

If at all possible, set some schedule and ground rules. If you can agree on something and get it in writing, you never have to talk about that one thing again. Easier if you can do it through a lawyer or mediator. Maybe email. Don't talk about feelings or what went wrong ever again with her. That part is in the past now and private to you. Your feelings are none of her business.

All much easier said than done. Good luck.

pegleg_legal · 2022-03-02T01:45:17+00:00

Dude, you're in the beginning of the process. If you burn out now, you're gonna get a really bad result.

Why are you fighting with her? Mute her notifications and ignore her. The marriage is not over if you're letting her control you like this.

Love-Pineapple-Pizza · 2022-03-01T17:45:46+00:00

Are you both living in the same house? Considering this sounds a bit toxic with all the fighting, you need to let your lawyer handle this and not engage unless you really have to (which you don't, hence the lawyer). Stop communicating directly and take on a hobby or anything that distracts you. Good luck.

Cranberry_Afraid · 2022-03-02T05:08:52+00:00

Just understand that it will be over soon...that is what I tell myself at least..

Title	Hopelessness
Author	Disastrous_Rush_2527
Upvotes	12
Comments	11
Date	March 1, 2022 5:42 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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