edit: I mean for Family formation

I think this is a good reference:

https://ideapod.com/my-partner-is-codependent/

My question is, is it easily achievable to have her be low maintenance? (points 1, 2, 3, 8, 9,12,13,)

In other words, would she accept "no" for an answer instead of attempting to manipulate?

or is it just good for a temporary ride?